At about 12:10am last night (6/1/24) my beloved husband took his last breath. He fought hard for 8 months, but glioblastoma is an unwinnable battle. We knew that from the start but remained hopeful that we’d get more time with him than just 8 months. He was unimaginably kind and loving all the way through to the end. He was everyone’s favorite patient and was gracious even when in pain, even with just me, the person that he could be the most himself with and be unconditionally loved regardless. He never raised his voice or stopped saying please, thank you and I love you until he literally could no longer say anything at all. 

This morning, we got up, dusted ourselves off and headed as a family to the dog park. The kids and Shadow were smiling and running around and although we are sad, I am determined that we won’t waste a day not enjoying our time here together. Life is short, really too short for some. It is important to remember this day to day and make choices to make each day count. Find joy where you can. 

Funeral arrangements will be made and posted next week. Please do not send us flowers, most of us have allergies and frankly the money would be better put to use in our GoFundMe account. https://www.gofundme.com/manage/the-oehler-family

We continue to appreciate all of the love and support of our community, worldwide. I’ve heard from family and friends in Japan, Germany, Indian and Tunisia and of course all over The United States of America, who have been thinking about us and wishing us well. A life well lived is connected far and wide. We feel so blessed to be lifted up by your kindness at a time that has simply been the worst. Thank you!

I will leave you with a poem for my handsome and unforgettable husband. I will always carry his heart in my heart. 

[i carry your heart with me(i carry it in]

by e.e. cummings

i carry your heart with me(i carry it in

my heart)i am never without it(anywhere

i go you go,my dear;and whatever is done

by only me is your doing,my darling)

                                                      i fear

no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want

no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true)

and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant

and whatever a sun will always sing is you

here is the deepest secret nobody knows

(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud

and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows

higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)

and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart

i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)