It is with the deepest sadness imaginable on this earth that I must tell you that Sue passed away (actually was born to eternal life).   She died Thursday 11/11 at about 2:00am very peacefully in her sleep.  Michael and I were both sleeping in the family room, he in the lazy boy, and me on the sofa, taking turns waking and checking on her as her breathing had become quite rapid and shallow.  Sue was in the family room in a hospital bed so we were all together.  She had only been in the hospital bed a couple of days - so strong right to the end.   It was my turn to check her at 2:30.  I woke up 15 minutes before my alarm went off so I checked her at 2:15 - she was gone.  The expression on her face was relaxed and peaceful which was a big relief.  She had told me many times, "I hope I am able to go in my sleep without any pain" - and I think that is how she went.  I awakened Michael and Carol and we were all able to hold her and say our final good byes.   Amber was also able to visit with us on Mon-Tue-Wed before she passed on Thur morning giving all of us some very powerful family time together.

I knew this was going to hurt but I had no idea how deeply.  The emptiness left by her passing is overwhelming.  I know I (we) must first experience the pain of the loss before we can begin to rebuild.  I understand that eventually this void will begin to be filled with the happy memories we shared and the hectic business of everyday life - but it's an awfully big hole right now.

I would like to ask those who know Sue's mom, Eleanor, please do NOT say anything to her about Sue's passing.  She is suffering from advanced dementia and we, as well as her care providers, feel it would not be good for her to be told about this situation.  Thank you for your understanding.

Again, I would like to thank all of you for sharing this devastating journey with Sue and I.  Your thoughts, prayers, and supportive comments have provided strength for both of us.  Knowing that people care helps - so thank you, most sincerely, thank you.

There is a visitation on Thurs 11/18 from 4pm-7pm at Konrad-Behlman Funeral Home located at 100 Lake Pointe Drive in Oshkosh. 

On Friday 11/19 there will be a viewing from 10am-11am followed by the funeral service from 11am-12pm, then a luncheon immediately after the funeral all taking place at Saint Raphael's Catholic Church, 830 S. Westhaven Drive in Oshkosh.

This is a link to be able to live stream the funeral service at St. Raphael's if you are unable to attend:   https://youtu.be/lmyWWhp-ElY

This is a link to a tribute that Michael, Amber, and I wrote.  It includes a page for leaving a message if you'd like:  https://gb774.app.goo.gl/dbZd7