Rhett’s Story

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Well most of you, who have been around Rhett in recent months knew about "the bump." It was an odd bump that began on his shoulder blade. We agreed that it was strange and he went to the doctor in August of 2018. The doctor diagnosed it as a lipoma. We heard a lot about lipomas and Dr. Pimple popper and didn't think much more of it. As it began to grow and bother him, he returned to the doctor, this time siting that his lymph node was sore under his armpit. Doctor STILL wasn't too concerned. In December, Rhett let the doctor know that the lipoma was a bother and he wanted it out.  An appointment was made for January with a surgeon. The PA of the surgeon requested an MRI to make sure it wasn't some "rare form of cancer" before they cut into it. What? Nah. 

The PA called Rhett the morning after the MRI. She explained that it was highly likely that "the bump" was cancerous. Rhett called me at work and I still thought, okay no biggie, let's get this thing removed. Obviously we had no idea what we were in for at that point. I started looking online at sarcoma cancer, as that's what they suspected it was. I immediately realized that this could be a much bigger deal than we originally thought. And I also quickly learned that the internet is no longer my friend when searching for information about cancer. :(  We began contacting our friends and family in the medical field. They agreed that the pathology reports were not favorable and mostly likely cancer. 

We were told to be ready to head to Oahu at any time. We let our close friends know the situation in case we needed help with the children. We were ready to go and begin getting some answers. The waiting game was so painful. The unknown is scary and we had so many questions. We finally had our Oahu appointments set for February 5/6. My parents were able to get into town the weekend before to watch the kids and keep their schedules as normal as possible. 

Tuesday Feb 5 - Wednesday Feb 6
Oahu Round 1 - Although we weren't happy to be there under the circumstances, Rhett and I were trying to make the most of it. We arrived that The Queen's Medical Center early on Tuesday morning for his biopsies. They took him in and sampled the bump and the under arm lump. He was in a little bit of pain but we managed to shop a bit and enjoy a nice dinner together.  The next day we met with Dr. Morita the surgical oncologist. He called us in and went over the results with us. We had all our questions about sarcoma ready and then he told us that both samples showed melanoma. We were shocked! Skin cancer? What? How? (aside from living on Maui) We showed him a spot on the middle of Rhett's back that was removed in January of 2018. He was suspicious of that spot but at this point it didn't matter too much. We just needed to know the course of action. Our next appointments were 2 WEEKS out. Ugh - the waiting again. So back to life as "normal." My parents are still around to help so we were back to work and getting ready for next appointments. 

Monday Feb 18-Wednesday Feb 20
Oahu Round 2 - It was time for a PET scan and a brain MRI. This was going to give us more answers and help us move forward with treatment. I was almost certain that there was no cancer in Rhett's brain because he's feeling great and acting completely normal. No way, no how. He survived both scans laying there on the now ever present and painful tumor on his back. We went in the next day to see Dr. Morita again. We were absolutely blind-sided when he told us there are two small lesions on the brain. I couldn't believe it! Although we don't know much about this and were trying not to read into anything, cancer of the brain is obviously not what anyone wants to hear. They also found a small spot that they think is a lymph node next to his liver. This news means it has metastasized and he is now considered a stage IV. Ugh - our worlds have officially been turned upside down. We then met with Dr. Acoba the medical oncologist and he explained how our treatment would look. We were still waiting for more test results so Rhett can begin either target therapy if he's candidate (the cancer has to contain a mutated gene that they target with pills) or immunotherapy (which is a boost to your own immune system to prevent the cancer from growing and is given in the form of iv every few weeks). The good news we've been hearing from the doctors is that melanoma treatments have come a long way in recent years and people are able to live longer and some are even in remission with these treatments. 

It is at this point in the journey when you begin thinking about the people around you. Who needs to know that doesn't yet? What's the best way to tell them? What do we tell the kids? How do we stay positive? So many questions. 

Sunday Feb 24- Monday Feb 25
Oahu Round 3 - Rhett was ready to head over by himself on Sunday Feb 24. "I'll just be over there for a quick appointment and I'll come right back on Monday." I thought maybe this was okay. I then realized I wouldn't want to be at any one of these damn appointments alone! So far our news isn't getting any better. And in a situation like this it really takes two people to listen . I am the official note taker and question asker and I decided I'm going too, nobody fights alone! Again, we are so grateful for my parents being there and taking care of everything that way I can be available to support Rhett. Our friends have been amazing too, it definitely takes a village.  

We met with the radiation oncologist to discuss spot treatment for the spots on the brain. The technology is nothing short of amazing. However, he was giving us a date of another week out.... MRI on Monday the 4th, maybe the gamma knife treatment after that...... our frustration grows and grows. Oh and still no results of the targeted therapy testing. "Maybe tomorrow, maybe Wednesday" 

Meanwhile, behind the scenes Rhett had been talking to his GM @ Hyatt about the Mayo clinic in Rochester, MN because his sister in law is a doctor there. I sort of blew this off as not possible... too far, too cold, good luck with insurance, etc. Rhett did not feel the same as me. Realizing the severity of this diagnosis, he decided we are leaving Hawaii and seeking the best medical care around....MAYO! I decided I better get on board and help make this happen. :)

No more waiting! Appointments were made, arrangements for housing, flights, substitute teachers, lists left for parents and we were off to snowy Minnesota where the temperatures are below zero. What?!? Whatever it takes!

We cannot express enough gratitude to all the people supporting us with calls, texts, advice, love, emotional support, help with insurance, Donovan's bday, helping my parents, giving us a place to stay in MN, praying for us, loving our kids while we're gone and so much more. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!

Newest Update

Journal entry by Rhett Ferguson

We're now in the thick of it. We've just officially entered the season of love, hope and happiness. It's time to give thanks, to gather together in the celebration of life presenting our achievements and filling in the time that might have been missed with family and friends over the past pandemic year. It's a busy time of planning dinners, parties, outings, fiendishly ordering presents online that may not get here and creating and sending Shutterfly holiday cards that may also miss the deadline. I'd like to get a head start on an overdue update to you all before things get even busier than they are now. Thank you all for your patience while we've awaited the highly anticipated news from my doctors here on Maui as well as from the Mayo Clinic.

A quick recap of how we got here and how far we've come leads me back to my last update, having to leave NY a little early from a wonderful summer vacation, to visit the doctors and neurologists of one of the world's best healthcare facilities. I immediately warm to the thought each time that given our unfortunate predicament, the fact that I find myself in the care of some of medicine's best health professionals. I sincerely wish that access to top medical care was available for everyone but that would lead to an even deeper emotionally tangent opinion that I have on healthcare which is not appropriate for this occasion. 

I received a scan from the Mayo clinic in the summer on our way back from visiting Mom, Dad, TK and all of my friends and family from upstate New York. My neurologist, Dr. Link noticed in June, after an annual audit of patient files, that my most recent scan indicated a small lesion on my brain that practically went unnoticed. Upon receiving the message in my portal, we decided we'd pay a quick visit to the Mayo Clinic and to our friends, Jeff and Alison Cabalka and their family.

We spent four days in Rochester getting scans and talking to my oncologist, Dr. Markovic. The day after my scans, the doctor mentioned that my body looked good. I said "of course it did, but what's going on inside, Doc?" He mentioned that my lymph nodes, adrenal gland appeared to be stable, but that my brain MRI showed 3 new lesions (1 MM each). After much discussion, we decided it was best to file the scans and schedule some new scans two months later while home on Maui. We happily agreed and headed back home after a side trip to the Mall of America. 

Fast forward to late September, when we received the results from the latest scans. It was a very stressful lead up to my consultation with my doctor on Maui, with the least sanguine of thoughts and expectations. You never know if they are going to call you with bad news immediately or wait to reveal the results in the cold, brightly lit waiting rooms. You just try to relax, spend valuable time with the kids and meditate on your health to manifest the best results. 

My appointment went very well, but there was a little disconnect on the results. My doctor compared the September scans to the April 2021 scans as opposed to the new July 2021 scans from the Mayo clinic, which gave me slight cause for concern. They found no further spread of the disease within  the body nor the brain. Instead of questioning why she had compared the info to the Mayo scan,  I chose to just go with the information provided, knowing that my doctor was only reporting on what was reported to her. That's fine. I could wait for a final letter from the Mayo clinic after having sent them the scan from Maui. 

A couple days passed and nothing from Dr. Link. Hmmm. Their team is usually quite prompt with an update or response once they've confirmed the receipt of the scans. Another week went by without any updates. I messaged one of the gals in Dr. Link's office and she said she would check. Another week goes by without word. I really couldn't fully relax until I heard the final word from the Neurologist who noticed the three small spots on my brain. Finally, on October 16th, over a week after the date on the letter confirmed an October 4th reading, I was cleared! The spots have disappeared which gives me such a tremendous amount of confidence that the medicine is doing it's job. Or rather, my immune cells have been trained to recognize the disease and to disassemble them without further harm to my body. 

I thought it most appropriate to attach the doctors note as well as some pics of the kids hanging out in MN. We are so very appreciative to our friends Jeff and Alison once again for putting up with all of us and not only that, but entertaining us! I also got to hang out with someone who inspires me everyday, my man and fellow Steeler Fan, Seth Bayles. This kids has faced a tough road in life but continues to display joy, happiness and appreciation for all that he has, selflessly giving back to more than he gets. Just an amazing human being.

Thank you everyone for your continued love, support and overall interest in our life happenings. Life is good. Life is beautiful. Life is irreplaceable. Let's all be like life.

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