Melissa’s Story

Site created on February 4, 2014

On February 2nd, 2014 I was diagnosed with stage 4 rectal cancer, this is my story of how I will fight this awful disease every step of the way. 

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Journal entry by Mary Johnson

All that remains is Love…

Mel’s love continues to sustain us.

3 years ago, on 9/25/17 God called Mel to his Kingdom. I have struggled with asking why while at the same time finding comfort God needed Mel in his Kingdom for bigger and better things.

This Sunday at church the message was “Are you excited about going to heaven” Absolutely excited to reunite with Mel and all my family! But just like St. Paul I feel the need to be here for the benefit of others – especially Mel’s beloved boys.

Life minus Melissa is difficult - So many missed milestones that cause pause – Riley trying out new sports of tennis and swimming, Hayden with driver’s license, Riley with learner’s permit. Hayden’s confirmation, Hayden and Riley both in high school and in cross country. She would have absolutely loved it!

I find myself wondering what perspective/wisdom Mel would have for all the challenges of 2020. I feel her 4 pillars are spot on!

Live each day to the best of your abilities.

Trust your instincts.

Believe in your journey.

Live your life with empathy and gratitude every day.

Moving forward is difficult – but she would not be okay with us putting our lives on hold. The Kuhn bachelorhood has grown to accept the Barth ladies.  Yes – they needed some female influence!

We have celebrated Mel’s heavenly birthday by gathering the first 2 years. This year with everything going on we ask you to celebrate Mel’s life by either letting us know how she inspired you this year or years past, a pic of you raising a glass in her memory or an epic pic of you and her in the past!

For me I always choose a pair of her socks when I go for a walk or run. Her Dad has not taken his Team Melissa bracelet off for 3 years (Just once because it broke but we have several….}. Our bike rides I always spot a Cardinal making an appearance - hello Mel❤ 

Miss you sweetie – Happy heavenly birthday!

Love you,


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