Maya Ruth’s Story

Site created on November 16, 2023

Welcome to our CaringBridge site. We are using it to keep family and friends updated in one place. We appreciate your support, stories, and words of hope and encouragement. FYI, this site contains possible triggers for pregnancy, labor and preterm birth issues.

Emily went to Children's Hospital in Buffalo on October 17th for a checkup. The pregnancy had been wonderful so far, with no complications. This changed when we found out that her waters had broken prematurely at 22 weeks 6 days gestation. Because her water was broken she was at risk for infection and lived at the hospital on modified bed rest. We cancelled our trip to Mexico, social and professional engagements, and have been in survival mode ever since. At 25 weeks Emily developed signs of infection and the baby's heart rate was elevated, also a sign of infection. The decision was made to deliver and not risk sepsis. Amidst all of the intesity and chaos of the situation it was a beautiful birth surrounded by love. In addition to Dr. Farkash we had our amazing doula Rebecca and Sharon Nisengard (our beloved friend who is also a terrific midwife) by our side keeping us focused on the task at hand (and not the 8 NICU people working hard to get ready for the baby.) Emily lost a lot of blood but (just barely) did not need a transfusion. 

Welcome to the stage . . . 
💜❤️💖💓
Maya Ruth Koren Matlock
11/1/23 
2:04pm
1lb 8 ounces
12 inches

Her name: 
M is to honor her paternal great-grandparents, Joe and Dorothy McCauley. M also honors Morris Stein and Morris Goldberg, her maternal great-grandfathers. R is for her maternal great grandmother, Ruth Korn.  Maya has many meanings in many different
cultures. In Hebrew it comes from mayim, which means water, and water is life. Ruth means friendship. 

Maya is a strong one, and she immediately showed lots of movement. We have a long road ahead, but she is a fighter. 💙 
Many of you know our  journey into parenthood has not been easy, to say the least. It has taken a village to get us here, and this little one is our miracle. There are many things to be sad and scared about, and we are. We were looking forward to celebrating this pregnancy that we fought so hard and so long for. We were looking forward to the whole journey of it. Emily loved being pregnant, and having this part of the journey cut short is a loss. Words are tough at the moment. Doctors don't know why this happened. They say it wasn't age and it wasn't exercise. We've stopped asking why, for now.

Many of you have asked how you can help, or what we need. If you have a connection to a higher power, please make contact and pray for Maya. Emily's sister Leslie put together a meal train to provide healthy meals to us: 
https://www.mealtrain.com/trains/516rlk. No pressure to do any of this. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts to those who have provided nourishment already. 

Most importantly, we feel the love. We apologize in advance if we don't return each text right away. Sometimes it is just too much. We are advocating for Maya, pumping (Emily) and trying to rest. 

With Love,

Emily & Eric

Newest Update

Journal entry by Eric Matlock

WELCOME HOME!!!!!

That's right folks! After 84 long days in the NICU, Maya Ruth is HOME.

She is a miracle. 

We are struggling to find the words to express how we feel. We haven't slept much, yet there is a sense of peace that only comes from reaching the destination of a long, hard-fought journey- having nothing left and yet somehow everything. Our hearts are expanding.

Today is Maya's due date. This means that we can stop counting in gestational weeks. Maya is one day adjusted and 15 weeks old. The adjusted age will be used for developmental milestones, but her birthday is her birthday. The hope is that she will 'catch up' by the age of 2. Maya has taught us so much already- miss thang is definitely on her own growth curve. 

She's 6 lbs 2 oz. Our home life consists of shuttling between outpatient doctors appointments, working with home nurses and lactation consultants. Pulmonology, ophthalmology, cardiology, ENT, genetics, audiology, urology- you name it, we've got an appointment. She will be followed closely and qualifies for early intervention services. It is very important that she keeps gaining weight, and we have to limit contact with people for the next few months. We are still dealing with some reflux/GI issues, and in general her system is not that of a full-term baby.

Thank you for being part of our journey. It is just beginning. This isn't our last post, but it is one we hoped to write for a long time.

During our extensive NICU time, we felt such wonderful love and support from friends and family. Many of you contributed to our rather last-minute baby registry, sent prayers and good wishes, and some of you came and helped us set up the nursery, including painting the whole room!  If we started shouting out everyone who helped, we would make a very looong list.

Many of you who contributed to our meal train to help keep us nourished. Now we are where many parents would be with their first weeks adjusting to full-time babying. While we want for very little, any additional meal train support would be greatly appreciated!

We are eternally grateful to Maya's NICU team. Claudia, Melissa, and Lisa were incredible nurses who were Maya's primaries. Dr. Handa was there the day Maya was born and the day she got cleared to start the discharge process.

Thanks to Oso for being gentle with his licks, and to Zev for doing no such thing.

Thanks to Maya Ruth for her strength and bravery.

Our journey continues. 

Love always,

Emily and Eric

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