Marlene’s Story

Site created on January 18, 2024

Thanks so much for coming - for your prayers and words of encouragement.

My husband of 60 years, Paul, fell and broke his right shoulder January 3. (Yes, he is right-handed!) On Saturday, January 13, around 4 am he fell again. We spent 12 hours in the trauma center at Grand View Hospital. An ambulance brought him home Saturday evening. Because of his dementia and his need for one-on-one care I opted for home care instead of a rehab. Thank You, Father, for leading me to make the right decision.

Sharon (our oldest daughter and a former first responder before she had to go on disability) was here from Wilmington and awake and with him when he began vomiting dark brown liquid around 12:30 am Sunday morning.  She turned his head, or he would have aspirated.

Thank You, Father, for the ambulance that came so quickly and for the excellent care he received in the trauma center for another 12 hours on Sunday.

They had a second team read the CT scan. The two broken vertebrae in his back that they initially thought were an old, healed injury, obviously happened when he fell. They admitted him Sunday evening  because of the vomiting. Thank You, Father, that the GI doctor knows exactly what is wrong and how to treat it even though it will take 8-10 weeks.

On Tuesday, OT and PT got him sitting on the side of the bed and into the back brace. They helped him to stand for just seconds. “My back! My back! I gotta lay down.” The speech therapist came in to check his swallowing. Several small spoonfuls of water and applesauce was all Paul could swallow. She put him on a pureed diet.

Although Paul hadn’t been out of bed and only had a few mouthfuls of food and water since Friday evening, his “numbers” were good and they were ready to release him Tuesday afternoon. Thank You, Father, for the social worker who supported my decision to have an ambulance bring him home instead of sending him to a rehab. “Will someone be there to receive the hospital bed?” she asked.

Oh Father, You really do work all things together for good.

I almost laughed when I told her, “You won’t believe this. My daughter lost the key, and I forgot to leave the back door unlocked.”

So, he didn’t come home until around 5:00 pm Wednesday. Sharon spent the night. Deb, our pediatrician daughter; Rob, her husband, a dental hygienist; Ryan our eighteen-year-old grandson; Erin, our fifteen-year-old granddaughter who is the most compassionate and loving child (well, she’s not a child anymore) I’ve ever known were with me and Sharon in our living room. (Laura, our twenty-year-old granddaughter couldn’t come but still lives with them at home. They are 2-3 minutes away.) We connected via Zoom for a family meeting (thank You Father for Zoom) with our son Robbie and daughter-in-love, Nicole, a nurse who has done home care. Same as all my Zoom meetings with writers, I opened with prayer. We divided up days/times so I’ll have someone here hopefully 24/7 until Paul is stronger. He weighs 200 pounds, is in a diaper, needs to be rolled on his side every two hours, and needs to be watched constantly because the hospital bed only has rails only at the top third of the bed. Paul keeps trying to throw his legs over and get up to go to the bathroom. He is so confused! Please pray our new primary care doctor -  why we had to switch ro another PC is another long story  - can get a script for the rails and a  hoyer lift.

I know we will face huge challenges in the coming weeks, but I also KNOW God is with us and is able to work good through all things. He is a redeeming God and will not allow the challenges we will face to be wasted. I’ve got another book to write, You  Can Do It – Encouragement for Seniors Caring for Their Spouse. Like My Turn to Care – Encouragement for Caregivers of Aging Parents, it will be another compilation. Obviously, first I have to live it and record parts of the journey here.

While caring for my husband will consume a large portion of my days and I’m seventy-nine years old, I am NOT retiring. I’m close to getting Write and Live His Answer Now – Encouragement to Impact Our Culture ready for printing. I’ll continue to lead my Thursday morning and alternating Thursday evening critique groups on Zoom, our weekly Write His Answer Monday Night Fellowship, and our monthly Hour of Encouragement. I have cancelled the in-person May Colorado Christian Writers Conference, BUT we will again have an amazingly interactive and life-changing Greater Philly & Colorado combined Write His Answer Virtual Conference. I believe we are on the cutting edge of "equipping Christians to write about a God who is real, who is reachable, and who changes lives." Through our virtual format run by 20+ plus laptops, last year Father enabled us to reach over 200 writers from 5 nations and 33 states. 

Through your prayers and words of encouragement please be with me and my family on this journey.  We need you! 


Newest Update

Journal entry by Marlene Bagnull

Every morning tell him, “Thank you for your kindness,” and every evening rejoice in all his faithfulness. Psalm 92:2 TLB

I'm sorry it's been so long since I posted. If you are following my Facebook page, you'll know that we have faced another crisis, this time with our precious oldest daughter, Sharon.

As you know if you've been visiting our Caring Bridge, Sharon and her husband, Howard, have been an incredible help since January 13 when she saved her father's life. They have spent so many days here doing things I was not able to do by myself like changing Paul's diaper and positioning him in bed. Thank You, Father, that Paul no longer needs that intense care. The hospital bed is gone from our living room and he is walking around the house with his walker.

About six weeks ago Sharon fell over the threshold coming through our front door. She injured her ribs. So painful.

Friday, April 5 Sharon was in the ER for 15 hours before she was finally seen for a painful infection in her right knee that had been replaced several years ago. They put her on a strong antibiotic and sent her home, telling her to come back if it got worse. It did! Howard brought her back to the ER on Sunday. Thank You, Father, that this time she was seen in about five hours. They admitted her and put her on an antibiotic via an IV until Thursday, April 11. The infection was getting better until Monday night when she started twitching and having seizures. 

Again, Howard took her to the ER. I'm so, so grateful for our son-in-laws vigilance and prompt action. The doctor told him the next morning (outside Sharon's hospital room) that she would have died if he had not gotten her to the hospital. Her kidneys failed! She already has chronic kidney disease (CKD), but her primary care said in November she was pre stage 3 and not to worry - interrupted, sadly, as you don't need to do anything. 

Sharon's potassium was 6.5 Monday night/earlay Tuesday morning when she went into kidney failure.  The number improved a little, but they planned to insert catheters in her chest Wednesday morning to start dialysis that afternoon. 

Thank You, Father, for everyone who was praying and how You are answering and so quickly. The doctor decided Wednesday morning not to proceed with dialysis. 

Sharon is still in the hospital but getting better. She will probably go home Friday or Saturday. She is struggling with the "restrictions" on her diet - things she should have already been doing or rather not doing/eating. 

Thank You, Father, that I'm already on this journey and can help. MyFitnessPal is a wonderful free app for tracking everything I eat - when I make time to record it. The program notes potassium, sodium, and other things and gives a running total throughout the day. The first year of the pandemic I lost 40 pounds using it every day and swimming a mile five days a week. But I confess I have not been using it and have gained back 20 pounds. 

Thank You so much, Father, for saving Sharon's life and for giving me this wake up call. Help me, by my example, to come alongside my daughter and encourage her. We can do this with Your help.

Meanwhile, Paul is getting stronger every day. More later about my back and knee pain. I've got a pain mgmt doc who says he "doesn't give up looking for answers" and is grateful for all the prayers. I appreciate you all so much!
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