Kathy’s Story

Site created on February 12, 2013

On Thursday, September 28, 2023, our family had a doctor’s appointment that would upend our lives completely. That is the day that we found out that mom’s cancer is back and that it is incurable. We went into the doctor’s office with a true sense of dread because I believe that on some level, we knew that it was going to be a bad visit…. We could never have expected it to be what it was though.

Diagnosis: So, here it is… in the most diagnostic and analytical way that I can put it. Her lung cancer has returned, and it has metastasized to her lymph node, her liver, and a lesion in the brain. So currently, there are 4 locations (left lung, lymph node, liver, brain) in which they have found cancer.  They did a liver biopsy to see what they were dealing with and after running bio markers found that there are two aggressive cancer markers present in the sample. She officially has Stage 4 Adenocarcinoma, Metastatic Lung Cancer.   

Prognosis:  Without treatment, we were given a timeline of 4-6 months. With treatment is a bit trickier… Mom has lost a significant amount of weight and is now 5’9 ½ weighing 105 lbs. Mom has had consistent problems with neuropathy and swelling in her legs since her first round with cancer and the second round had done some damage to her heart during treatment. These are things that can complicate treatment. However, as of now she is still walking around, living her life and in good spirits. If she can tolerate treatment well, there is about a 50% chance that there will be shrinkage of the tumors which could increase the life expectancy to anywhere between 9 – 20 months. The thing is with cancer timelines, they just don't know.

There is no magic ball with cancer, and especially cancer that cannot be cured. We don’t know how long we have but we do know this… now is a time for love, and support, and being together. She still has her sense of humor… joking, laughing, dropping f-bombs... you know, still up to the usual Kathy Z antics. Please remember that although the news is not good, we are still staying positive because there is no other option. Please remember that when posting.


Here are some things that we need from you, my mom and dad’s friends:

 ·   Your Love – As many well wishes as you can send. My mom loves letters, emails, phone calls of love. Write to her about memories that you have with her. Remind her of her funny, ridiculous antics. It will bring a smile to her face. Post pictures of her on this site, with a story. It would bring her such joy.

 ·   Your Time – Visit them… my mom and my dad. Take them out, just stop by the house. Spend time with them. Call them when you are on the way to be sure they are not at a doctor’s appointment. Distract them.

 ·   Your Support – Things are not bad yet, but they will be at some point. That is when we will need more. I don’t know what that looks like yet.

Newest Update

Journal entry by Kristi Carroll

My oldest son, Donavaughn, turned 18 yesterday. It was a wonderful day. A day made even better by the fact that my mom was there. 

Mom has taken well to treatment and her tumors have shrunk significantly. They are still there but as they shrink they put less of an immediate strain on her body. She is only on Keytruda now, which is a lot easier for her body to handle. Although she is still very thin, she is back to 100lbs. Her COPD and emphysema are still a struggle for her and she still has a hard time getting around but she is still walking. She only uses the wheelchair for doctor's appointments, etc. She uses oxygen only at night, which is an improvement. Unless she is having a harder day, and then she may use it periodically. She was in the hospital for a couple of days last week because she had pneumonia but she has since recovered. As a whole, mom is doing well.

Overall, this news doesn't change the overall diagnosis... but it changes the urgency. There are people that live for years with stage 4 terminal cancer. We have hope. When we first started this journey, we thought we only had months. That is not the immediate thought anymore. We don't know how much time we have but we will take whatever we can get.

Thank you to everyone that continues to pray for, think of, and keep in contact with my mom. It helps more than you could ever know. I know that she has been able to keep her spirits up, and not lose her sense of self because of all of your love, support and outreach. This kind of diagnosis can be a killer in and of itself, but you have helped give my mom the strength and will to push on. For this, I am eternally grateful.

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