Hello All,

I'm writing to let you all know Kathy's current state.  Kathy has been such a trooper for so long with her ongoing battle with cancer. Many of you have been so blessed to take trips, vacations, poker rides, and share dinners and time with the bright light she is.  I arrived here last Sunday, and there has been a steady decline in her physical abilities. 

Kathy's vision is nearly gone; she cannot read texts, go on Facebook, check email, etc. We are doing our best to read her the messages as they come in. Kathy's ability to walk independently is no longer here, and it requires a walker with support from another beside or behind her to ensure she doesn't lose balance and fall. Her spirit remains as bright as ever, and she still loves a good laugh, which has been a source of comfort to my family and me. 

Matt continues to be here with his Mom every evening along with Crash. Matt is excellent and has been staying until his Mom is comfortably sleeping, and he's even been baking her brownies. You're terrific, Matt, and your presence being here every night has meant so much to your Mom and my Dad. 

My Dad, Pat, has taken the next week off work to help ensure around-the-clock care as Kathy cannot be alone. She now requires companionship for the day-to-day basics. Kathy's big sister, Deb, will also join us today and assist her immediate needs. 

I'd also like to take a moment to discuss visitation with Kathy.

While Kathy loves to have company, it is overwhelming for her and my Dad. I recognize this may upset some. However, this is not to withhold/restrict you from seeing her, but to ensure that Kathy has the time to rest, get food, shower, etc. Kathy has requested that visits last no more than 30-45 minutes at maximum, with no large groups, as we have minimal space.

Visits take a lot of her energy, and while your presence is appreciated, it makes my Dad feel as if he has to "host" and leave to give you all space. We don't want anyone to feel like this is directed at any one person(s) in particular, but trust we are all trying to navigate these waters to provide Kathy with her needs and allow her to have some solace. We appreciate phone calls asking if you can come and knowing that we cannot accommodate people sleeping over due to our family being here for  Kathy's immediate care. Thank you for your understanding, love, support, and friendship. 

With love, 

The Littels & McCarthy Family