Kari’s Story

Site created on November 8, 2020

Welcome to Kari's Caring Bridge website. The site is being used as a central place to keep everyone updated on Kari's condition and as a place where you can leave messages for her.  It's been difficult for her to respond to all the text messages she receives, so hopefully this will keep everyone informed of her condition and the details of her fight against Inflammatory Breast Cancer (IBC).  In addition to myself, Kari and Jerry  will be able to post on the site and Kari can respond to your posts when she's feeling well enough to do so. 


It was in August that Kari first noticed lumps forming at the base of her neck and top of her right shoulder, at the neckline.  After seeking chiropractic care, the lumps seemed to get smaller but she was referred by her doctor for an ultrasound on the area.  The ultrasound led to a biopsy, which led to the diagnosis of IBC.   IBC is a rare form of breast cancer and is extremely aggressive.  Kari's doctors acted swiftly, sending Kari and Jerry to several places in the metropolitan area in an attempt to get as much testing and as many scans done as quickly as possible, knowing there is no time to waste with IBC.  Kari's chemo treatments started 13 days after diagnosis; the typical length of time between diagnosis and treatment is 72 days.  Her first two months of treatment were with an extremely strong cocktail of chemo that she received every other week.  At the end of those treatments on October 29,  she now begins weekly chemo treatments on November 12.  


Jerry, who is still working from home because of Covid, has become Kari's record keeper, monitor of her medical portal, appointment maker, driver, and master of insisting that Kari eat well to keep up her strength.  A handful of friends have been helping with Kari's appointments, so that Jerry doesn't miss more work than necessary.   With this next round of chemo, Kari's immune system and white blood cell count will be very compromised, so physical exposure to others will be very restricted, given the situation with Covid.  However, she would love to see your messages on here and will be able to respond and post when she's feeling well enough to do so.   

Newest Update

Journal entry by Patty McGuffin

Last week was a week spent honoring the passing of our beloved Kari.  On Tuesday, her funeral was held at Holy Family Parish with a beautiful service and mass.  Mother Nature (probably at Kari’s bidding, haha) spiced things up with a tornado warning that emptied the sanctuary into the basement during the rosary, but it passed quickly and the service was followed by a nice meal at the church.  On Thursday, the burial of Kari’s ashes took place in her home town of West Point, Nebraska.  Her service included the presentation of the flag to Jerry and a 21 gun salute, both a nod to her time of service in the U.S. Army.  After the burial, a dinner was held at Nielsen Center in West Point.  A heartfelt thank you to Kim and Jeremy Vice and Kim’s brother Randy Preuss, as well as all the family and friends who made and brought food.  Kim and Jeremy coordinated the dinner and Randy smoked all the meat.  It was a good time of visiting and reminiscing about Kari’s life. 

On Saturday night, a Celebration of Life was held in Kansas City, as Kari had requested.  The week she passed, in one of my conversations with her, she told me she wanted her family and friends to be happy and throw a party, so that’s what we did.  People came from all over - Nebraska, Ohio, Oklahoma - and probably more I don’t know about, to honor Kari and her memory.

Overall, I know that Jerry and the family have been very moved by the number of people from so many different phases of Jerry’s and Kari’s life who have shown their love and support.  All week, there were so many memories shared and so many stories of how Kari impacted the lives of those who knew her.  Whether it was because she was mentoring and teaching someone who aspired to be the best hair stylist or because she was helping someone going through some type of pain or loss, Kari always provided the most love and support. The words I heard over and over were what a beautiful and classy woman she was, inside and out. How much she was loved was so evident by the number of people who reached out, showed up, sent cards and flowers, and lifted her family up during this time of greatest loss.  She will live on in our hearts. Please keep Jerry and her family in your prayers as they navigate life without Kari’s beloved boisterous spirit and laugh.  

Many thanks to all of you. ❤️

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