Journal entry by Heidi Gaines —
Maintaining hope is hard.
All I can see right now is a few days. And then what?
Afraid of what I can and can't do.
Struggling with deep hopelessness.
I have to move out by the end of the month. There are no shelters on the lists called over four hours across three counties that can take a person with my stupid rare illness in and disability specific ones have 3-5 year wait lists. Home is not a good place and I need out.
But know from past experience bouncing from temp situation to temp situation takes a drastic toll on my health. I've fought so hard to improve this far, I don't want to be more disabled again. Don't want to suffer so much again. I just want to work on my art career and move on with my life like a normal person.
What I don't want is to move into where anyone wants sex or a relationship. Can't trust myself to notice if a person is lying about their intentions. Or for them to change their minds about helping after finding out it's not like having a normal healthy roommate. Or for their life to change and they need to focus on their priorities and I need to figure something else out.
Actually what I want is to never have to move in with anyone again in this way. For stability. For a safe home I can be productive in.
I'm so tired. Days of talking, typing, searching, talking, typing, burning, aching, ringing, need rest so much. Struggling to eat. About to try some sweet snacks and milk. Getting harder to think clear. Hard to do anything but keep reaching out.
~H~
All I can see right now is a few days. And then what?
Afraid of what I can and can't do.
Struggling with deep hopelessness.
I have to move out by the end of the month. There are no shelters on the lists called over four hours across three counties that can take a person with my stupid rare illness in and disability specific ones have 3-5 year wait lists. Home is not a good place and I need out.
But know from past experience bouncing from temp situation to temp situation takes a drastic toll on my health. I've fought so hard to improve this far, I don't want to be more disabled again. Don't want to suffer so much again. I just want to work on my art career and move on with my life like a normal person.
What I don't want is to move into where anyone wants sex or a relationship. Can't trust myself to notice if a person is lying about their intentions. Or for them to change their minds about helping after finding out it's not like having a normal healthy roommate. Or for their life to change and they need to focus on their priorities and I need to figure something else out.
Actually what I want is to never have to move in with anyone again in this way. For stability. For a safe home I can be productive in.
I'm so tired. Days of talking, typing, searching, talking, typing, burning, aching, ringing, need rest so much. Struggling to eat. About to try some sweet snacks and milk. Getting harder to think clear. Hard to do anything but keep reaching out.
~H~
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