Cathy’s Story

Site created on August 7, 2022

My story began during a routine well-check appointment with my Primary Care doctor on Mon, Jun 27th. A few days prior, my husband and daughter noticed swelling in the left side of my neck. My doctor examined the area and ordered an ultrasound which confirmed the lymph nodes in my neck were enlarged - an indication of infection somewhere in the body.  All my previous regular tests were normal i.e. blood counts, colonoscopy and pap.  But my doctor still was concerned so she referred me to a general oncologist. We weren’t too worried because our internet searches revealed swollen lymph nodes are common but we were a little alarmed  about seeing an oncologist.  After performing an exam and reviewing my ultrasound results, the oncologist ordered a series of tests and imaging (bloodwork, a PET/CT scan, and a biopsy of the swollen lymph node in my neck). 

In between appointments, Chip and I agreed that we were going to do our best maintain a sense of normalcy. We squeezed in a few college campuses, enjoyed our family time, and Chip and I even managed to plan a getaway to celebrate our 28th wedding anniversary. We flew to Nashville, enjoyed the downtown Honky Tonk bars, a Grand Ole Opry show, and cheered on the bachelorette party bus buffoonery . It was a fun and wonderful way to relax and celebrate.

Nothing could have prepared us for the diagnosis we received at our appointment with the oncologist on Mon, Jul 18th.  “Your biopsy results indicate you have stage 4 gynecological cancer.” The words knocked the wind right out of me. I felt defeated and devastated. Chip sat beside me motionless. I couldn’t help but wonder how I could have stage 4 cancer when my body felt healthy and I could still move around relatively painlessly? As if it couldn’t get any worse, she added “and the cancer is not curable.” I wanted a biopsy do-over and out of this nightmare. We managed to ask a few questions but the sting of the news clearly rattled us to our core. 

We were referred to UTSW in Dallas for treatment with a gynecology oncology specialist. We requested a referral to Texas Oncology Cancer Center in order to get a second opinion regarding treatment. After visiting with both GYNOC’s (gynecology oncologists) we decided to start treatment at UTSW. Our research revealed it is an advanced academic and research hospital site and also offers clinical trials that I may be eligible for in the future, if standard treatments are not effective.

Our family has been shaken by this diagnosis. It feels as if the solid, stable foundation was pulled out from under us. Each of our three young adult kids are processing the news very differently. Our oldest is planning her wedding for Spring 2023, and I plan on and will be there with my family and friends to plan and celebrate the big day! 

While I have my fears about undergoing chemotherapy, I know our good Lord is always with us as we fight the cancer. He is good Father who shields and protects us with his mighty hands. I pray for His grace and presence during treatment. I ask you to send healing prayers up to have the best medical team and solid treatment plan to eradicate the cancer from my body. We would love if you would please share and tell us that you are praying for us. We would love to hear our loved ones praying bold prayers for us lightens the gravity of the disease and provides us with peace, comfort, and strength. Isaiah 41:10 says, "Don't panic. I'm with you. There's no need to fear for I'm your God. I'll give you strength. I'll help you. I’ll hold you steady, keep a firm grip on vou" (MSG). We pray God completely heals me of this disease for His glory!

*Unlike other cancers, ovarian cancer does not present obvious symptoms in women. If you have a history of ovarian cancer in your immediate family, it’s important to discuss this with your doctor and seek genetic testing to evaluate your options. Currently there is not a screening exam for early detection of ovarian cancer. Ask questions and be proactive. You are your best advocate!

Newest Update

Journal entry by Cathy Kelsey

**Written and uploaded by the Kelsey family 

Catherine Santos Kelsey, 52, of Flower Mound, Texas passed away peacefully in her sleep on October 20,2023 after a 15 month battle with ovarian cancer.  She was born on August 26, 1971 in San Diego, California to a Navy family and in a Naval Hospital.  Cathy was a beloved wife, daughter, mother and sister and friend to many.

Cathy attended Flour Bluff High School in Corpus Christi, TX and where she graduated in 1989 in the top ten in her class.  Following graduation she attended the United States Naval Academy in Annapolis, MD and was commissioned an officer in the Navy in 1993. Cathy served in several Navy squadrons including VT-23, VT-28 and VAQ-129 as an Administrative Officer, Legal Officer and Training Officer.  Following those tours she returned to Texas and spent several years as a Navy Recruiting Officer in Dallas.  She rose to the rank of Lieutenant Commander, USNR before completing her military service.

Cathy spent the next 13 years raising her three wonderful children and being a strong advocate for Navy Spouses as her husband was deployed or away in military training.  She later earned her Masters in Education from University of North Texas and fulfilled her passion and became a full time High School science teacher for over seven years.

In her free time, Cathy was an extraordinary cook, mastering healthy eating and professional looking baked goods.  Her talents were awe inspiring and her finished products were works of art.  She also was an exercise beast, running marathons (including qualifying for Boston in 2018), was a kick boxing instructor at Gold’s gym for years and just last year earned her certification as a Yoga instructor.  She also was super-mom, where the kids were her world.

She is survived by her husband of 29 years, John “Chip” Kelsey and their three children; Chloe (and Tucker), Joey and Lizzy.  She is also survived by her parents Tony and Lolita Santos of Corpus Christi, Texas as well as her three sisters, Amy Santos of San Antonio, Texas, Ellen Leach of Flower Mound, TX and Diane Lantagne of Magnolia, Texas. Her nieces and nephews include, Cassandra and Pancho, Jasmine and Carlos, Ariel and Thomas, Jett and Emily and Skye, Eva, Mya, Blake and Bo.

Above all, Cathy will be remembered for her unwavering faith in Jesus Christ.  Her life was a testament to the profound impact that faith can have on one’s character and actions.  She lived with a deep and abiding trust in Christ, finding solace and strength in her relationship with Him.  Cathy’s dedication to her beliefs was evident in her compassion for others, her acts of kindness and her unshakable optimism, even when facing long odds.  Cathy leaves behind a legacy of faith that inspired our family and uplifted all who had the privilege of knowing her.  She was a reminder of the transformative power of a life grounded in the love of Jesus Christ.

Cathy “discovered” Fellowship Church when we moved to the area in 2018.   Our family found it to be a beacon of love, community and spiritual growth and a place that has profoundly enriched our lives and changed them for the better.  She would be honored knowing that her celebration of life was held in the place she felt most at peace.

Cathy will be buried on Monday, October 30 at 9:15am at DFW National Cemetary, followed by the celebration of her life at 11:30 at Fellowship Church at 2450 N Hwy 121 in Grapevine, TX.

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