On April 4, 2004 Carolyn had been asleep and did not wake up when she was checked on early that morning.  Carolyn she was a fighter, who did her dying process her own unique way.  I am grateful to have been able to spend some time with her during her month in Hospice.  What I witnessed was a human being that still was making sure those around her were cared for and taken care of. She laughed and told way too many stories, some that never needed to see the light of day again and others that left me wanting just one more story, just one more day, just one more point of wisdom.  I sit her over a week later missing my friend, missing her wit and love.  What I’ve learned is she truly is just on the other side of the shower curtain as she shared with me many years ago.  So i still talk to her, share her points of wisdom with others and she’d quite a few tears when it hits me that something will never be done again, like she will never walk through my front door, she will never make weird things “vegetables” that end up being so good I can’t stop eating them.  I think in honor of her I will make some purple hull peas and add fresh red onion and a scoop of Mayo and sit down and remember her as I eat this meal she taught me to make long ago.  The family is planning a celebration of life and are working to schedule the dates so that Carolyn’s wishes for how she wants the ceremony will be honored.  Thank you all for loving my friend.  We all have a guardian angel looking out for us