I had a meeting at the Niko and Chloe's school with the hospital child life specialist, two counselors, and both their teachers on how we can all successfully support them through this. They were very supportive and I feel like the kids are in good hands.
Ben has started having frequent panic attacks. It took me awhile to realize what it was b/c he often can't speak during it and leaves the room. He is really triggered by the stimulation from the noise of the kids. He had a big one a few nights ago and ended up in a spare room laying on the floor b/c he knew the kids wouldn't go in there. It was so heartbreaking. I know how much he loves them and they love him. I talked with his doctor and I will be giving him another medicine in his evening bag of pills so by the time I'm home with the kids, it will have kicked in and he should be ok.