Barb’s Story

Site created on April 29, 2018

This Caring Bridge website is being started to keep family and friends up to date on my journey. Over the past few months, I had noticed discomfort, swelling and hardness in my stomach and attributed it to constipation, a chronic condition all my adult life.  Attempts to “move things along” were mildly successful, but not with reducing my stomach. On April 17 my doctor sent me for a CT scan, which revealed Stage 4 Mucinous Adenocarcinoma. They believe the cancer started in the lining of the colon and now includes advanced cancer in the stomach lining, GI tract, several tumors in the abdominal cavity, a tumor on the kidney and a blocked ureter leading to the kidney. I was admitted to Regions Hospital in St. Paul for several days of tests and attempted pain control. A stent in the kidney to bypass the blockage relieved the kidney pain, but fluid on the belly, severe cramping and encroaching tumors make pain meds necessary. One of the CT’s showed several blood clots on both lungs (a side effect of cancer), so I am now doing daily blood thinner shots to keep them from growing or moving. The pancreas and liver are not affected.  Palliative Chemotherapy starts on May 9 with a goal of shrinking the tumors and will be every two weeks.

Many friends, family and neighbors have reached out, expressed shock and dismay, and have offered prayers, food, rides, and assistance.  I am so grateful to everyone for their love, affection, kindness, prayers and support.  I ask all you Prayer Warriors and faith keepers to do what you do best:  PRAY!  Dick and I will need lots of prayers and support in the next few months while we navigate this rough road. 

Newest Update

Journal entry by Cathy Willette

On Sunday, July 26th, 2020 at 8:35 PM, Barb was called home to be with the Lord that she loved so much. All of you who have been supporting her and following her journey already know that she faced her cancer journey with dignity, grace, and grit.  Barb didn't spend the last two years dying, she spent the last two years living.  
My sisters and I frequently wore our camo shirts on chemo day, calling ourselves Warrior Sisters, there to fight next to Barb, be by her side, and pray. All of you have been Warriors for Barb. She felt your prayers, she felt your love.  It was comforting, it was loving, it gave her strength. 
In the end, the greatest Warrior was Barb.  She endured.  She persisted.  She kept her smile, blessed us with her laugh, didn't dwell on her disease, and in the end, inspired us on how to live right up until the end. 
So, to carry on the theme from my last post, I offer another Mary Oliver quote. I think it is one Barb would pose to us, a challenge to live life to the fullest. 
Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? 

Carry on Warriors- love each other, pray for each other, and when the sun shines, the flowers bloom, and the birds sing, smile, and know that Barb is with you, cheering you on.  

https://www.washburn-mcreavy.com/obituaries/Barbara-Verthein/
  Even in the time we find ourselves in, we are still finding a way to celebrate the life of Barb. A public walk- through style visitation is being planned for Thursday, July 30th from 2-5 PM at Washburn McGreavy, Edina location. Face masks required, along with your love, and a socially distanced story, as you come to say farewell.
A private invitation-only funeral mass will follow at 7 PM. We would have loved to have you all celebrate mass with us in person, but because we can't, we are setting up an online link to be able to participate from where you are. To join online, please go to her obituary page (linked above) and a link will appear for you to click and join the online service at 6:50 PM on Thursday to allow time for you to get online prior to the 7 PM mass.  I believe it is being recorded to watch later as well, and if so, I will post that link when available. 
Peace, 
Cathy
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