Michael and I often cried together when people would reach out and offer their support. I asked him one day "Why is it that we only cry when others offer their help and support?"  His reply...  "Because we never knew how much people cared."

Michael was so strong. On the day of his diagnosis, we committed together to the philosophy of realistic and positive. We knew the statistics for pancreatic cancer, it is no secret. Michael didn't question why he had the unfortunate condition, he viewed it as a biological aberration. He didn't feel sad or sorry for himself, he saw every day as precious, not to be wasted on worry or self pity. He was always friendly and charming with everyone he encountered. He was a bright light in the daily lives of the nurses and doctors who cared for him. He was tough and willing to openly accept the discomfort and pain that sometimes came with treatments designed to extend his life. There were times tears came to his eyes when he thought about the future he wouldn't be able to share with me and our boys. He never dwelled on this because he always knew he would be with us in spirit. 

Michael passed away this week after a hard fought battle. He left with a smile, on a sunny day, with me and our boys at his side. He is free of pain and at peace now.

So many have reached out to support Michael and our family during these difficult times. It helped us understand that life is about meaningful relationships with others. Michael was great at creating connections with people, and more importantly, at helping people build connections with each other.   

In support of him, family and friends came together to reconnect with each other. He loved the feeling of normalcy when friends could joke around and enjoy being present with each other - that his illness was not the focus. As he looked forward, he loved that the reason his friends and family came together won't be the reason they will stay together.

In honor of Michael's memory and realization when he answered that simple question, please consider reaching out to someone from your past with whom you share a fond memory. Let them know you are thinking of them and the times you shared together. Let them know how much you care. You will both be better for doing so.