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Hope you and Dylan have a wonderful weekend.
Chari Warner <millymango40@yahoo.com>
Alpharetta, GA - Friday, September 14, 2007 1:45 PM CDT

Hi Melissa,
Just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of your family today.
Love,
Samantha
Samantha Mummert (From Riley) <sam.reed@sbcglobal.net>
Avon, IN - Friday, September 14, 2007 11:33 AM CDT

I have been following Donovan's page for a very long time and this is my second time signing the guestbook. You are a very amazing person,strong and so determined. Some friends of mine just had their first baby and lost her all in the same day. Reading about how you deal and cope with the loss of your Sweet Baby Donovan has helped me to help them. I know the situation was very different but in the end you both have lost the most precious babies.
I found this poem and for whatever reason it made me think of you here it is....
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."

It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man."

God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on earth
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.

I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is over.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.

There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.

If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.

So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.

And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Mindy
Delano, MN - Friday, September 14, 2007 9:06 AM CDT

Just stopping by to let you know that I'm thinking about you.
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Friday, September 14, 2007 8:06 AM CDT

Praying!
Romans 8:18 For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.
Prayer Bears
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Friday, September 14, 2007 0:05 AM CDT

May the angels keep you till morning.
May they guide you through the night.
May they comfort all your sorrows.
May they help you win the fight.

May they keep watch on your soul.
May they show you better ways.
May they guard you while you're sleeping.
May they see you through your days.

May they show you new hopes.
May they still your every doubt.
May they calm your every fear.
May they hear you when you shout.

May the angels keep you til morning.
More than this I cannot pray.
And if the angels ever fail you.
Then may God be there that day.

~ Author Unknown ~

Polly/Angel_Wings www.groups.yahoo.com/groups/Angel_Wings
- Thursday, September 13, 2007 8:01 PM CDT

Thank you so much for the beautiful cards. I was so very excited to get them today and can't wait to send them out to my friends and loved ones. Thanks for doing all that you are doing for this cause. Blessings to you and Dylan.
Amy
daughter of a lymphoma survivor
Amy Wilkie <anwilkie@charter.net>
Lakeville, MN - Friday, September 7, 2007 3:38 PM CDT

Hey Melissa and Dylan,

We miss seeing you guys. Your cookies that you sent to Noelle's party were a huge hit. Luckily, I snuck one before it started. Thank you so much. Good luck with the school year Dylan and good luck with all the races coming up Melissa.

From way up north,

Tonya, Dave, Tessa and Noelle
Tonya Naylor <tpawlow@yahoo.com>
- Thursday, September 6, 2007 6:40 PM CDT

Because of Christ we can boldly bring our petitions to the very throne of God! Praying on your family's behalf right now!
Hebrews 10:19-22 Having therefore, brethren, boldness to enter into the holiest by the blood of Jesus, By a new and living way, which he hath consecrated for us, through the veil, that is to say, his flesh; And having an high priest over the house of God; Let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled from an evil conscience, and our bodies washed with pure water.
Prayer Bears
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Wednesday, September 5, 2007 9:17 PM CDT

Just wanted to let you know that you are in our prayers and deep in our thoughts today and always.
Dale angel wings <naron810@yahoo.com>
- Wednesday, September 5, 2007 9:01 PM CDT

God Bless~

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AGS4yE5v9rM

Brayden's Momma <aprilf79@hotmail.com>
Rosemount, MN - Wednesday, September 5, 2007 8:27 PM CDT

Hi, Melissa and Family!

I, too, saw Baby D on the video and was moved to tears. His precious face always melts my heart. You are such an amazingly strong family and I admire all that you have done to help find a cure!

Love,
Marion
www.caringbridge.org/visit/jamesonrush
Marion Rush <marerush@frontiernet.net>
IL - Wednesday, September 5, 2007 1:51 PM CDT

I saw Baby D's picture on the utube video for Childhood Cancer Awareness Month. I couldn't help but cry when I watched it. I hope that a million people see his beautiful little face and want to get involved.
Thinking of Baby D and your family.
~ Colbys Mom www.caringbridge.org/visit/colbyclingerman
Christy Clingerman
- Wednesday, September 5, 2007 12:52 AM CDT

Thinking of you and Dylan today and praying for you.
Chari Warner <millymango40@yahoo.com>
Alpharetta, GA - Thursday, August 30, 2007 9:37 AM CDT

Stopping by tonight to let you know I'm praying!
2 Thessalonians 2:16-17 Now our Lord Jesus Christ himself, and God, even our Father, which hath loved us, and hath given us everlasting consolation and good hope through grace, Comfort your hearts, and stablish you in every good word and work.
Prayer Bears
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Wednesday, August 29, 2007 11:43 PM CDT

I am praying, praying, praying for your dear neighbor who has recently heard such hard and sad news. I am lifting you guys up as well, that the Lord would continue to protect you, provide for you, and give you a peace that only comes from HIM.

lots of love....Rachel Walton (Camille's sister, from LLS)
rachel walton <rvwalton7@gmail.com>
- Wednesday, August 29, 2007 9:43 PM CDT

I have been checking Donovan's site almost daily, and was so sad (but I understand) that it was locked. I was SO happy when I decided to randomly check it today and it's not locked anymore.

Your son and your entire family is amazing, and I thank you so much for sharing this journey.

Leah
MSP, MN - Wednesday, August 29, 2007 12:31 AM CDT

I LOVE "Give a little, change a lot!!) You go girl!
Lisa <blumtnldy@hotmail.com>
VA - Friday, August 24, 2007 9:07 PM CDT

I just wanted to let you all know that I still come here to look at Donovan's face and read the latest news. I think of you all often and pray that your healing will continue. Blessings to you as you continue your fight to raise awareness.
Kristi Gerdon
Croghan, NY - Friday, August 24, 2007 3:41 PM CDT

Hey Melissa-We just wanted to say thanks and that we had a great time at the Luau last night, and our compliments again to the chef. It was a "ball"...ha ha. Talk to you soon.
www.caringbridge.org/visit/jamesonhoward
Dawn Howard <dawn0218@hotmail.com>
Durham, NC - Friday, August 24, 2007 2:51 PM CDT

These verses are always so comforting to me! Know I'm praying as always!
John 14:1-3 Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me. In my Father's house are many mansions: if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you unto myself; that where I am, there ye may be also.
Prayer Bears
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Wednesday, August 22, 2007 11:37 PM CDT

Tiny Angel

Tiny Angel rest your wings
sit with me for awhile.
How I long to hold your hand,
And see your tender smile.
Tiny Angel, look at me,
I want this image clear...
That I will forget your precious face
Is my biggest fear.
Tiny Angel can you tell me,
Why you have gone away?
You weren't here for very long...
Why is it, you couldn't stay?
Tiny Angel shook his head,
"These things I do not know...
But I do know that you love me,
And that I love you so".

Author � Unknown
Polly from http://groups.yahoo.com/groups/Angel_Wings <polly1511@gmail.com>
- Monday, August 20, 2007 11:12 PM CDT

Howdy,
It's Grammie.
I have not written for some months. Of course, I talk with Mom every day. I come visit you here at your visit as if could can really hear me. However, I always seem to delete the message before going.
Grammie is thinking of you all the time. I met up with some friends that did not know you went to heaven recently. Just as they mentioned your name, tears cascaded down my face faster than I could wipe them off.
They helped with a fund-raiser for you back when you went down to Duke to get your transplant. Of course, they tried to remind me that you are in a very special place. Yes, Grammie knows that too, but still I wished you were here with us.
Dylan was talking to Grampapa the other day. They were talking about movies they used to watch. Dylan asked Grampapa if he missed Donny. Grampapa tried hard to hold back his tears. Yes, Dylan, I truly miss Donny so much.

As I was watching TV today, I saw a commercial. They have a new Einstein Kids DVD coming out. I thought that would be good to get for you. But, my mind told me, no, I did not have to buy it for you. You have access to any show you want to watch.
I was really missing you so much, I put the DVD movie CARS on. In my imagination, I could see you sitting in the big rocking chair pointing to those special parts in the movie.
Grammie was really happy to see Dylan and Mommy at the beach house in Rhode Island. Almost all the auntie and uncles you met in North Carolina were there. We were able to play by the ocean and have lots of fun with Dylan, Layla and your other cousins.
Since your cementary is so far away from Grammie. I go visit Aunt Yolanda's grand-daughter cementary spot. I take two balloons over there, so she will give one to you. She is a lot younger than you are, but she has been in heaven a very long time. Matter of fact, she is probably about 16 years old now. So, I am sure she will look out for you.
I love you so much. Grammie misses you so much.
You take care,
Love Grammie <lgstmpr@walla.com>
Tinley Park, IL - Monday, August 20, 2007 3:30 PM CDT

I'm so sorry to hear about Alexia and Noelle; they are both such sweet little girls and it's heartbreaking to know that children are not all ensured a cure after all they go through. I hope that you recover from your moped incident and am glad you are safely home again. My prayers remain with you and your family; I know these are especially difficult times for you as you watch your friends go through the pain you know so intimately. I will pray for them as well.
Denise Ward
Winnipeg, Canada - Saturday, August 18, 2007 2:09 AM CDT

What an amazing promise from God's Word! Am here praying!
Joshua 1:9 Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the LORD thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest.
Prayer Bears
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Wednesday, August 15, 2007 8:42 PM CDT

Oh man, oh man. So sorry I haven't signed in lately. Girlfriend, you know I check this site everyday though! :o) So, so, so incredibly sad to read about Noelle & Alexia's relapse. I just haven't even been able to find words to express how sucky it is. I don't understand why we are losing so many precious kids. I thought leukemia was supposed to be one of the most curable cancers? I don't know - just MAJOR SUCKFEST INDEED!!!

It is nice to hear you are getting some fun time with family!!! How are your parents? I miss Grammie's entries. However, I imagine she is spending lots of time doing 'grammie' things that she so dearly loves. How is little Miss Sofia? I think of Val & her family often....

Just wanted to let you know I'm still here, sweltering in the Iowa heat & humidity ( I understand NC is pretty scorcher too though). You all are never more than a thought away!

Sending big big hugs to you & Dylan - and as always, your precious little angelbear, Donovan!
((((((((((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))
Lots of love, Nickey
- Sunday, August 12, 2007 11:49 AM CDT

Thinking about you a lot since reading on the ALL-Kids list about Alexia (and Noelle). It's very hard . . . take care of yourself, Melissa.

Karen, Clare's mom www.caringbridge.org/md/clareschmidt
Cabin John, MD - Friday, August 10, 2007 8:12 PM CDT

We just dropped by to check on you today.

Jodi and McKayla

Jodi Phelan <jodiphelan@hotmail.com>
Sherwood Park, AB Canada - Thursday, August 9, 2007 9:24 AM CDT

Know that I care and am praying so hard for your family!
Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
Prayer Bears
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Wednesday, August 8, 2007 11:48 PM CDT

hey melissa,
it's rachel walton, sister of camille who was on 5200 with donovan, and we have met several times thru LLS....

i have been keeping up with your journal entries and have been continuously praying for you and dylan! I pray that the love, peace and comfort of God will sustain you more and more everyday!

~Rachel Walton
rachel walton <rvwalton7@gmail.com>
- Wednesday, August 8, 2007 9:56 PM CDT

Melissa:
Yea!!! I am soo soo glad I can catch up on you guys!!!! I am so sorry, I know that this has really been hard for you, as a mom and Darren as a father...it's really sad to know that the one thing Donnie wouldn't want to happen, has happened. I have reallt missed Donnie's site! and am even happier to see that Dylan is doing so well!!! God it's good to catch up on what's been going on for you guys and I will always pray that each of you finds the peace, comfort, and love you so richly deserve!! Keep up the good work, running is so very taxing, but marathoning is even harder!!! I will keep in touch.
Love, Susan
Susan Wright
Vicksburg, MS USA - Wednesday, August 8, 2007 3:45 PM CDT

I wanted you to know that I am thinking of you all - when I read the news on both Alexia's and Noelle's site I immediately thought of your family too. You know firsthand what they likely will face. My heart is so sad and I am so angry all at the same time. These children are all such beautiful little ones and have such sweet spirits. Each of them in their too short lives have taught many of us very valuable lessons. I admire the courage in each of you and pray that you can find your way to peace in the midst of all this hurting.
Kristi Gerdon
Croghan, NY - Wednesday, August 8, 2007 3:44 PM CDT

Hi melissa an Dylan
I have never signed your guestbook before,however,
I have followed baby's Donovan site for a while.

I just want you to know, that I think what you're doing is truly amazing.
You are so strong,so special Melissa,I admire you spirit.
I'am sure that Baby Donovan is the best place that he could be (heaven), and his purpose was,that you Melissa
help families that are fighting blood cancers .
Keep doing that,I admire your determinacion.

I will keep you on my prayers
God bless you family.

p.d. my son is a cancer survivor (ALL)and he was diagnosed 3 days after birth,he is 4 yeras old (I pray the lord for this miracle)

Martina Garcia <gmartina2000@aol.com>
Whittier, CA United States - Sunday, August 5, 2007 4:15 PM CDT

What a blessing to know that the Lord is there to lift up our head! What a beautiful picture! Know that I'm praying!
Psalms 3:2-3 Many there be which say of my soul, There is no help for him in God. Selah. But thou, O LORD, art a shield for me; my glory, and the lifter up of mine head.
Prayer Bears

Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Thursday, August 2, 2007 11:41 PM CDT

Thinking of your precious Donovan..I lost my precious baby girl Tia on June 8 this year. She had LCH. I know what you are going through and I will pray that each new day continues to heal your hearts. They are in a better place now and no longer in any pain or suffering.

with love,
Francine (Proud Mommy of Tia)
www.caringbridge.org/visit/tiafrancescasy
francine sy <sy_francine@yahoo.com>
las vegas, NV united states - Tuesday, July 31, 2007 11:04 PM CDT

Just thinking about you guys!
I'm praying, and yes, that is a rockin' motto "give a little change a lot!"
God bless!

"Cast your cares on the Lord and He will sustain you; He will never let the righteous fall."
Psalm 55:22
Julie <Swimjulie9@aol.com>
MN USA - Tuesday, July 31, 2007 10:36 AM CDT

Melissa,

Thanks for checking in on Laken, it really means a lot to us . . .

Remembering Donovan . . .
Cammy - Laken's Mom www.caringbridge.org/visit/lakenparsons <parsons@fullnet.com>
Huntingburg, IN USA - Monday, July 30, 2007 9:48 PM CDT

Just wanted to pop in and check on you...and to let you know you all continue in our prayers....

Sorry I�ve been missing for awhile�moving is the pits. But I love my new home and feel blessed to be here! Prayers continue�
�Every day we are blessed with opportunities to unwrap God�s grace in our scary moments. Every day we witness miracles that we know no human could perform � miracles like being able to breath, walk, talk, move, see, think, taste and touch. Evidence of God�s presence and power is all around us in the universe � the sun, the stars, the birth of each new day.
When stormy weather rolls in around you, cry out to Jesus. No climatic change in your life is stressing or surprising to him. Listen to his still small voice as he whispers to you. �Why are you so afraid? Do you still have no faith?� When the gale is raging, you can be assured that he is standing by, speaking peace to your soul. Even the wind and the waves obey his will.� By Thelma Wells
Wishing you God�s loving embrace�
Angel Hugz!
Char
www.ProjectAngelHugs.com
Be An Angel�Touch a Heart!

Char <angelhugz2u@verizon.net>
- Monday, July 30, 2007 1:47 PM CDT

hi guys
I haven't signed in a while, but I do stop by every day. Just wanted to let you know I was things of you. Is Dylan getting ready for kindergarten?!?!?...how exciting that should be for both of you.
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
nj - Monday, July 30, 2007 11:12 AM CDT

Just stopping by to let you know that I'm thinking about you. Hope that you enjoy your time at the beach and don't get to tired out from training.
Sending hugs((()))
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Monday, July 30, 2007 9:59 AM CDT

Just checking in at last in this busy summer. Praying for only good things for you all, and remembering always your teddy bear.
Beth and Kyle (www.caringbridge.org/in/kylefacts) <bdehoff@iquest.net>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Sunday, July 29, 2007 11:42 AM CDT

Melissa, I have never signed your guestbook before, however, I have followed Baby D's story awhile. I was so sad when your site was password protected, but I can understand why. I'm glad that you opened it up again. I missed reading your postings. I just want you to know that I think what you're doing is truly amazing. Your determination to raise money and awareness for blood related cancers is incredible. I am preparing for my 2nd TNT event and Donovan will be one of my souces of inspiration. It sounds like you're doing the best you can, and much better than many would if they were in your shoes. I wish you and Dylan all the best as you work through this time together. My prayers will also be with your sister and her family during this difficult time in your little niece's life.
Tracy Hornby <tracyhornby@yahoo.com>
Lebanon, NJ - Saturday, July 28, 2007 9:59 PM CDT

Popping in to say Hello and to let you all know that I'm still thinking of and praying for you. I admire your determination and your spirit -- keep it up!!
Kristi Gerdon
Croghan, NY - Friday, July 27, 2007 8:40 AM CDT

What comforting words from the Redeemer! Praying! Adding prayers for your niece, too.
Psalms 34:22 The LORD redeemeth the soul of his servants: and none of them that trust in him shall be desolate.
Prayer Bears
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Wednesday, July 25, 2007 10:57 PM CDT

Hi Melissa,

Glad to hear things are going well with the training, and that Dylan's social life is busy. :) I remember those days of buying birthday presents weekly (or so it seemed). But friends are important, and it is good that he has them. Hopefully you do also there in Durham.

Enjoy the weekend!

Anne Teddlie <ateddlie@aol.com>
Decatur, GA - Friday, July 20, 2007 9:51 AM CDT

It has been a while since I signed the guestbook. I check in everday and say a prayer for your family daily. Praying that your hearts are continuing to heal and you are remembering the laughter and smiles Donovan brought to each and everyone of you!

A Nebraska Prayer Bear
Kerry Chapman
- Thursday, July 19, 2007 4:00 PM CDT

These are the most comforting verses and some of my very favorites. Praying!!!!!!!!!!!
Romans 8:26-27 Likewise the Spirit also helpeth our infirmities: for we know not what we should pray for as we ought: but the Spirit itself maketh intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered. And he that searcheth the hearts knoweth what is the mind of the Spirit, because he maketh intercession for the saints according to the will of God.
Prayer Bears
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Thursday, July 19, 2007 0:19 AM CDT

Hi Melissa - I love the cards that you made for me! They are adorable! My girls want me to order birthday ones so they can give them to their friends! The cards are a great way to raise money in honor of Donovan for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society! Keeping you in our thoughts and prayers.
Kellie Smetana
Racine, WI - Wednesday, July 18, 2007 9:19 AM CDT

Melissa and family,
I was just thinking about you and your little sweetie...

"Grief is not a sign of weakness nor a lack of faith... it's the price of love."

One day in heaven, you'll see your little sunshine again!
Until then, I'm praying for you!
God bless!
Julie
MN USA - Tuesday, July 17, 2007 10:28 PM CDT

*~*~HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY, MELISSA!!*~*~

I'm glad to hear your training is going well. You're one tough cookie! No doubt Donovan is sooooo proud of you! I will continue to keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Ginny Deegan <jgdeegan@msn.com>
Mtn. Home AFB, ID USA - Monday, July 16, 2007 11:22 PM CDT

Hey Melissa, Haven't checked in in a few days, Sorry I didn't wish you a happy birthday sooner. Hope your training goes well and wishing you a BIG BIRTHDAY WISH, with hugs from Bryce and the girls. Say hello to Dylan from the girls....
k adams
webster, ma usa - Sunday, July 15, 2007 6:18 PM CDT

Melissa...so glad to see that you are back. I still think of you all. Happy Belated Birthday. My love to all you guys...
Alicia - Cammie's Mom
Brownsburg, IN - Sunday, July 15, 2007 3:29 PM CDT

Happy Belated Birthday!!! Hope you and Dylan have a great weekend.
Heather Thompson <htast@aol.com>
Wilmington, - Saturday, July 14, 2007 6:57 AM CDT

Remembering Donovan.....Melissa, Happy belated Birthday to you. Give Dylan a hug from a friend from the Tar Heel state.
DOD <schlbusdrvr@bellsouth.net>
NC USA - Friday, July 13, 2007 1:33 PM CDT

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MELISSA!!!!
Becka <music-mom@nc.rr.com>
Morrisville, nc usa` - Thursday, July 12, 2007 9:13 PM CDT

Happy Birthday Melissa, I hope that you are having a wonderful time spending your birthday with Dylan!

Take Care
Brandy
Brandy Hendershot <branmuffin1982@yahoo.com>
Ellsworth, WI - Thursday, July 12, 2007 8:59 PM CDT

Happy Birthday Melissa! I don't sign in very often, but I'm here all the same. Dylan is growing up so very quickly. Will he go to K-garten in the fall? I so-very-much miss hearing stories about Donovan. Not a day goes by that I don't remember him. As always, you are always in my prayers.
Cammy - Laken's Mom www.caringbridge.org/visit/lakenparsons <parsons@fullnet.com>
Huntingburg, IN USA - Thursday, July 12, 2007 8:03 PM CDT

Happy Birthday with many more to come. May God bless you with peace and happiness during the year to come. Take care of mom Dylan.
Donna <drobinson10027@aol.com>
Williamston, SC USA - Thursday, July 12, 2007 6:43 PM CDT

Happy Birthday, Melissa! I know your Angel wants you to be happy and take care of yourself, so try to find happiness in the day, though I'm sure it's probably easier said than done. Thinking of you always . . .
Ryan Martin - www.mixdupfilesofme.blospot.com <ryna95815@yahoo.com>
Roseville , CA USA - Thursday, July 12, 2007 6:35 PM CDT

Happy "??" Birthday Melissa!! I'm glad you are back. I have thought of you often and was very pleased to see your website up and running again. You are an awesome person and a true inspiration to us all.

Cathy
cathy w
santa clara, ca usa - Thursday, July 12, 2007 1:13 AM CDT

Melissa

Happy Birthday to you! I am glad you managed to have an enjoyable day! I'm certain Dylan made it very special for his Momma!

~~Jennifer~~
Bremerton, Wa - Wednesday, July 11, 2007 11:49 PM CDT

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MELISSA!!
Wishing you a year of peace :)
XXOO, Marey, Cali Ali's Mom
Marey ALL-KIDS <kteachermom@hotmail.com>
- Wednesday, July 11, 2007 11:16 PM CDT

Happy Birthday Melissa. God Bless.
Sherry Nitschke
- Wednesday, July 11, 2007 11:06 PM CDT

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, MELISSA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm glad that you're having a good day. I know that in some ways your birthday will never be the same again.
Some of the passages in Isaiah sound like they came from the N.T. This is one of them. Still here praying!
Isaiah 63:9 In all their affliction he was afflicted, and the angel of his presence saved them: in his love and in his pity he redeemed them; and he bare them, and carried them all the days of old.
Prayer Bears
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Wednesday, July 11, 2007 9:40 PM CDT

Happy Birthday Melissa. I hope you were able to enjoy this day with Dylan. You are one amazing person and I am blessed to know you. Donovan is looking down tonight and sending you special birthday wishes. I just know it. Love
Jan
Cary, - Wednesday, July 11, 2007 6:30 PM CDT

Melissa-
Donavan's site was the first one that I found when my son was dx back in Dec., and I will never forget you strength through the hardest time in your life. I cried with you when you lost your precious baby boy, and I will continue to pray for you and your family as you help others who are dealing with this terrible disease. The picture of your sweet baby playing peekaboo, is so cute!
Wendy Kilburn
Belton, TX United States - Wednesday, July 11, 2007 2:41 PM CDT

Happy Birthday! Hope that you're having a great day.
Chari Warner <millymango40@yahoo.com>
Alpharetta, GA USA - Wednesday, July 11, 2007 2:37 PM CDT

Happy Birthday, Melissa! Thanks for all you do for so many. Hugs to you and prayers for a healing heart.
Beth and Kyle (www.caringbridge.org/in/kylefacts) <bdehoff@iquest.net>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Wednesday, July 11, 2007 1:49 PM CDT

Thinking of you & your precious boys tonight, Melissa. Your cards & beauty boxes you are fundraising are absolutely beautiful!!!
Sending you all ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) from all of us in Burlington!!! We love you so much!
Lots of love, Nickey
- Monday, July 9, 2007 8:35 PM CDT

Meslissa,

Your strength is so amazing. I enjoyed watching the slideshow and every time I see Baby D I start to cry. He was always smiling and so beautiful. I'll never understand why our children have to endure this. I just wanted to check in on you and let you know that I think of you often.

Love,
Marion
www.caringbridge.org/visit/jamesonrush
Marion <marerush@comcast.net>
IL - Monday, July 9, 2007 2:40 PM CDT

Hi Melissa,

Just thinking of you guys this morning. God bless you for all of your efforts in memory of your sweet little baby D!

Love,

Wendy (Jacob Alexander's Mommy)
Wendy Rickman <wsr29@bellsouth.net>
Charleston, SC United States - Monday, July 9, 2007 8:01 AM CDT

I hadn't been on your site for a little a while and then it was password protected when I tried to. I have to say I'm glad I missed all the ruckus. Great job on your fundraising. I signed up for the Hike for Discovery for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society. I am doing this because others before me have raised money to find a cure and my son is still here because of it. It is a lot of hard training (I get up at 5am every Saturday, drive an hour to hike with my team and then go to work that night along with fitness training during the week.) The fundraising isn't any easier either. My friends and family are donating to LLS because my son has Leukemia and I am asking them to. If not for what I am doing, they may not have. I think that LLS does these kind of fundraisers because people feel more compelled to donate if it feels more personal to them--someone they know is working hard to help in the fight or someone they know is fighting the fight. I hope you make your goal for the marathon in October.
As I train for my hike, I will be thinking of Donovan, your famliy, and the many other kids and families I have come to know because my son has cancer.
Many blessings to you and your family and THANK YOU for helping in the fight against Leukemia and other blood cancers.
Very sincerely, a friend no matter what,
Diane and Dylan www.caringbridge.org/visit/dylanellefson
Diane Ussery <ddiney@yahoo.com>
Buckley, Wa - Monday, July 9, 2007 0:27 AM CDT

Hi Melissa - I just saw your entry on Sherilyn's site and figured your site was up again! My daughter Kristen (www.caringbridge.org/kristennc), had a transplant at Duke in November - in fact on one of our visits to the unit after we were sprung we saw Baby Donovan was in her old room (5202) -- that's when I started checking his site. In May, Krsiten's pediatrician took part in the TNT Century Bike Ride in her honor in Asheville. Right across the hall from us at the hotel was a lady that was riding in honor of Baby Donovan. It seems the world that we have all been cast into has many connections - we continue to pray for you guys.
Kathi Adams
Kathi Adams <kadams@pvaglobal.com>
Whitsett, NC - Sunday, July 8, 2007 12:42 AM CDT

Hi Melissa, I think of you and baby D so often. I am glad to see the site up again and you plugging away. Always remember, you are making a difference.

Diane Thompson
Ocoee, FL - Saturday, July 7, 2007 7:54 PM CDT

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend's son relapsing; I pray that there might be something more that his doctors can offer. I'm sure it must strike so close to your own heart hearing this news. My prayers remain with your family.
Denise Ward <deniward@shaw.ca>
Winnipeg, Canada - Saturday, July 7, 2007 2:34 AM CDT

Hey Melissa,

Just checking in on you. Don't push yourself too hard for the training for the marathon, ok? I know sometimes working hard physically helps push out the pain mentally but remember that you have to take care of yourself, too.

Marie
www.caringbridge.org/visit/marielle
Marie Lappin
San Lorenzo, CA - Friday, July 6, 2007 10:57 AM CDT

Melissa: thinking of you. I know those reminders are both wonderful to see, and hard to bear. I've spent my time crying in the closet too, hiding from some memory of Clare that seemed too much. But, then I swing over to being glad that I have those memories . . . it's hard.

Take care,

Karen, Clare's mom www.caringbridge.org/md/clareschmidt
Cabin John, MD - Thursday, July 5, 2007 8:21 PM CDT

Hi Melissa,
I'm happy to know that I'm not crazy and wasn't the only one that couldn't get on your site! I still think of you and Dylan often and pray for you every day. I plan on contributing to your next race...keep up the good work!
Chari Warner <millymango40@yahoo.com>
Alpharetta, GA USA - Thursday, July 5, 2007 12:33 AM CDT

Hi Melissa and Dylan,
Thanks so much for opening the site up again. Old Granny here in California grew very fond of your sweet little family and now I can stay caught up with you. You are doing a wonderful job of honoring Donovan's memory and Dylan is a GREAT assistant! Stay strong.
Charlotte <charlotteellen@mail2mom.com>
Auburn, Ca USA - Thursday, July 5, 2007 11:01 AM CDT

Melissa-
Hope you and Dylan enjoyed a nice 4th. Thinking of you.
Heather Thompson <htast@aol.com>
- Wednesday, July 4, 2007 9:20 PM CDT

I have followed your site for a while, then could not get in. So glad to finally be able to check on y'all. Love the pic of the teddy bear in his red shirt playing peek-a-boo, he's so adorable! Hope y'all have a wonderful 4th. Donovan, enjoy the fireworks with all your angel friends.
D O D <schlbusdrvr@bellsouth.net>
- Wednesday, July 4, 2007 7:48 PM CDT

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.

Where there is hatred, let me sow love, where there is injury, pardon, where there is doubt, faith, where there is despair, hope, where there is darkness, light, where there is sadness, joy.

O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console, not so much to be understood as to understand, not so much to be loved, as to love; for it is in giving that we receive, it is in pardoning that we are pardoned, it is in dying that we awake to eternal life.

Saint Francis of Assisi

Sending you Angel Hugs, Praises and Prayers today.
Polly/Angel_Wings <polly1511@gmail.com>
- Wednesday, July 4, 2007 4:06 PM CDT

Was thinking about you guys and wanted to see how you were doing. I followed Baby D's journey from this caringbridge page but rarely left a note. He impacted so many people...including me a stranger from Oklahoma. I will never forget Baby D. Sending Hugs and Prayers.
~ Colbys Mom from the LLS boards
www.caringbridge.org/visit/colbyclingerman
Christy Clingerman
Okmulgee, OK USA - Wednesday, July 4, 2007 2:00 PM CDT

Hello Melissa. I had been visting this site for a long time and then could not get in. I figured it was because of all the nasty messages that it became protected. I'm glad you feel safe enough to open it up again. I was originally led to this site from Blake Haines. My little boy, Avi, was a patient at Georgetown at the same time as Blake (who later went to Duke for transplant and the family met Donovan and Melissa). I felt so connected to this family because Donovan was born on my birthday, Dec. 9th and my son was also a December baby. My son is 4 1/2 now and seems to have conquered his cancer beast (osteosarcoma, bone cancer) and we know just how lucky we are. Donovan's story always inspired me. I am sorry to read about Melissa and Darren. I know what a strain cancer can put on a marriage. I wish you all the best. I know this is a long road to healing and each person must go about it in her own way. The best to you all,
Bobbi Spector
Bethesda, MD - Tuesday, July 3, 2007 8:54 PM CDT

Hey Melissa - Just checking in on you guys. I love the picture of Donny playing peek-a-boo. Too cute! Hope you guys aren't sweltering in NC. I hope it cools off before our visit in August. I'll let you know when we're going to be there so hopefully we can see you and Dylan. Take Care,
Jill and Alex www.caringbridge.com/ca/alexschwab <jillschwab99@hotmail.com>
Manhattan Beach, CA USA - Tuesday, July 3, 2007 7:31 PM CDT

Melissa,
I am like the others before me--so HAPPY to be able to get on the site again. I have missed your stories, seeing Dylan growing, and just knowing that you guys were hanging in there. I wish for you all of the PEACE that God can give you. I know that we didn't know each other very well, only from seeing each other in clinic, but I followed Donovan since we met. I have really missed seeing his sweet face. We are praying for you and all of your family.

Love,
Leslie
www.caringbrige.com/visit/erinbowers
Leslie Bowers <love4hunt@yahoo.com>
Galax, VA USA - Tuesday, July 3, 2007 6:54 PM CDT

I was elated to be able to access Donovan's site again! I didnt remember the CB password! Dylan has gotten so big, its good to hear that the family has been doing well as expected! I miss seeing that beautiful little face, I always checked the site every now and then to see if I could access it and today VOILA!! IT WORKED! I just want your family to know, you are continually in my thoughts and prayers! Glad to see your journal entries again and all the wonderful things you are doing in Donovan's memory!
Dawn Pickens <dpickens_42@yahoo.com>
Beaumont, Tx - Tuesday, July 3, 2007 3:55 PM CDT

Melissa:
I was sent the link to your site by my manager, Wayne Mielke. Wayne told me of your heart breaking story several months ago and you were in my thoughts and prayers then as you are now. I am so sorry for your loss. As the father of the most wonderful two year old in the world (Jackson DOB 4-7-05) I can not imagine what you and your family have been put through and how you have had the strength to persevere. Your family is the shining example of how faith and family unity are the keys to embracing all of life's wonders and taking on even the most dire circumstances.
Thank you for sharing your story. It is a great reminder that I must treasure every moment I have with my wonderful family.

Mark Rohrer
Mark Rohrer <rohrer_mark@lilly.com>
Sacramento , ca usa - Tuesday, July 3, 2007 12:12 AM CDT

Dear Melissa~
I too am one of many, glad to see your site up and running. I check back every so often to see how you and your family are doing. I was appalled (to say the least) by things that showed up in the guest book. I usually read your updates and sometimes the guestbook and just reflect. I have 3 children myself and try very hard (during those trying moments) not to take each day/moment for granted. This is because of you and your experience/loss. I can only imagine that people have said such harsh things because they are blinded by sorrow and pain. Some people just don't know how to deal with pain, unfortunately I think they attempt to pain someone else to ease their own. If I had the money, I'd give you a million dollars to make your dreams come true, all of them! I don't think it's written anywhere that you should give up on your dreams because you lost your child. Nor do I believe it is written that you should stop being creative for a cause, stop doing your hair and makeup (so that for just a moment, maybe you can feel good). I've dealt a lot with LLS and have donated monies without any regret. If some of my contribution helps make a parent/family who suffers from a loss, feel an ounce better, than my contribution has done more than I can hope for. So Melissa, keep running, keep biking, keep following your dreams---even if it takes you across the world. And as for psychology...any mother who has lost her child would be more in question if she didn't have emotional/psychological turmoil. I've felt it and I don't even know Melissa or any of her family members, nor have I ever spoken with any of them. I know her/them through journal entries, pictures and responses from family and friends. So if you (those with negative feelings) are reading this and you still have hate in your heart, realize that it doesn't have to be that way. If a stranger can want peace for EVERYONE, so can you.
Melissa, good luck to you in all of your endeavors. And peace and love to you, Dylan and Darren.
J.S. Dojonovic <jsdojonovic@adelphia.net>
Pittsburgh, PA - Tuesday, July 3, 2007 11:07 AM CDT

Yay, I have tried for a long time to get on this site, but I couldn't because I didn't have the password. I tried again this morning and to my surprise I was able to get in. I just finished reading the journal entries that I missed and I just wanted you to know that you are in my prayers. Your guidance will come from the Lord above (plus baby D). I will continue to check on you and Dylan every day:)
Robynne Walka <robynne.walka@ubs.com>
Secaucus, NJ USA - Tuesday, July 3, 2007 9:36 AM CDT

Melissa,
I am so happy to be able to get back on this site.
I had followed for quite some time and missed seeing Baby D's smiling face.
I can't imagine what you are going through but you are a great Mom and are so strong.
I will pray for peace and continued strength.
Dylan looks so grown up in the new picture! Very handsome!
Have a wonderful 4th of July week!
Jennifer
Jennifer Sundt <maddyjax@msn.com>
Elk River, MN - Monday, July 2, 2007 10:09 PM CDT

Hello Melissa and Dylan,

I too am so happy to be able to get back on your site. I have followed your precious story for so long and you are so inspiring in your resolve to help make a difference. I will continue to support you in your endeavors any way I can. May God continue to comfort you and bring you many peaceful dreams with your precious Teddy Bear!

Robin Birchfield <w.birchfield@comcast.net www.caringbridge.org/fl/audreykate>
Jacksonville, FL USA - Monday, July 2, 2007 5:50 PM CDT

I'm so glad to be able to access the website again. I've missed seeing how you and Dylan are doing. Dylan is so precious. I'm thinking and praying for you daily. Keep living one moment at a time.

Andie
Andie
- Monday, July 2, 2007 8:43 AM CDT

Melissa, thanks for riding Tahoe for all of our kids who are dealing with this disease. My hubby has done it 3 times for LLS,it is a very special place for a very special reason...I am sure Donovan was with you the whole time....the wind beneath your wings!!
Congrats!!!
day by day.....just go day by day. Much love and peace to you.
Cindy Zammit, mom to Brandon ALL Kids
Damascus, MD - Sunday, July 1, 2007 9:37 PM CDT

Ah....Dylan is adorable, the cards are beautiful and you are amazing!!!! Praying for continued growth in this horrific journey!

Hugs and blessings.Lori and Savahana
Lori <lascott32@aol.com>
Avon, in - Sunday, July 1, 2007 11:44 AM CDT

Thinking of you and hoping that you're having a good weekend.
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Saturday, June 30, 2007 11:22 AM CDT

I've been trying to sign on every few days and I was so glad to be able to access it today. I've been thinking of you and wondering how you are doing. I still think of Donovan every day and I pray for you and Dylan. I think grief is more a journey than a process. Stay strong (as much as you can) and keep being the wonderful mom I know you are to Dylan he needs you. God Bless.
Karen Patterson <Anchormom@comcast.net>
New Castle, DE - Friday, June 29, 2007 10:08 PM CDT

Glad to see Donovan' site back up. I was always keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Glad to hear that your race was a huge success. Good luck in your future training.
lauren
union, nj usa - Friday, June 29, 2007 2:58 PM CDT

Just checking in from California. I'm happy to hear of your successes in the last two events! I'll be cheering on some friends at the Nike Marathon in October and I'll keep a look out for you, too. Way to go on raising all that money. Keep chugging along, you are an inspiration to us all.
Jennifer Bryan <jandjbryan@comcast.net>
Los Gatos, CA - Friday, June 29, 2007 1:04 AM CDT

Dear Melissa, Darren, and Dylan,

I am so happy that your site is back up. I have been thinking of you guys often and was worried when I couldn't access your site.

I am glad that your race went well and I truly admire what you are doing for cancer research. I know that Baby Donovan must be so proud of you!

Take care
Giselle Mouro (mom to Angel Brenden)
www.caringbridge.org/visit/brendenmouro
Rob Mouro <robmouro@hotmail.com>
Vancouver, BC Canada - Friday, June 29, 2007 0:50 AM CDT

I am so glad you put the site back up. I thought about you guys the whole time I was unable to access the page. Great job with all of the donuts Dylan! Keep up the great work in Donovan's honor.
Ryan www.mixedupfilesofme.blogspot.com <ryna95815@yahoo.com>
Roseville , Ca USA - Thursday, June 28, 2007 9:44 PM CDT

Walking thru concrete--definitely get that. But you're walking--running, etc. You're amazing.

I think of you often, and of course Donovan. Wishing you well...
Catherine <catherine_willard@yahoo.com>
- Thursday, June 28, 2007 7:15 AM CDT

Have always loved these verses. Lifting your family up in prayer!
Philippians 4:6-7 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Prayer Bears
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA U.S.A. - Thursday, June 28, 2007 1:21 AM CDT

Sounds like you and Dylan had a great fundraiser at WalMart! Ship some donuts to Vermont! :) Hope you are all doing ok. We think of you often and keep you in our prayers. Now that I am hooked on Greys Anatomy (thanks, Melissa!) we think of you even more! (even though I fell asleep during the finale...gosh I should be shot...) hehe.
Vicki/ALL KIDS
Mom to Morgan, 14, ALL Leukemia
Corson/Lamorey Family www.caringbridge.org/visit/morganelizabeth
- Wednesday, June 27, 2007 8:11 PM CDT

Melissa, It is so great to see that Donovan's site is back up and I wanted you to know that I for one am extremely pleased and proud that you have accomplished so much. You go girl! You are a great inspiration to all of us.

Angie
Angela Hinkhouse <angela.hinkhouse@gmail.com>
- Wednesday, June 27, 2007 6:22 PM CDT

I am so glad Baby D's site is back up!! I was going to delete it from my list of sites that I check often but something told me to try again to open it and to my surprise, it was there! Sorry you have to deal with foolishness, but you'll have that in this life (sigh). Please know you are doing the right thing and you have more positive followers out here than negative ones!! Praying for you.
Diane
Amherst, OH USA - Wednesday, June 27, 2007 3:26 PM CDT

I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of such a wonderful lady. I will be sure to keep all who loved her in my prayers. Although I don't sign all the time, I continue to keep you in my prayers. Thank you for continuing to share your journey with us!
Laura Lynn and my two little miracle nephews, Asher and ^Jacob^: www.caringbridge.org/visit/asherandjacob <laurainsem@yahoo.com>
Hollidaysburg, Pa - Wednesday, June 27, 2007 11:24 AM CDT

Hi Melissa,

Just stopping by to say hello and let you know I was thinking about you today. I'm so sorry about the loss of your friend. Seems like you've had enough loss in your life this year already, must be hard to face another one. Keep the faith and know you're doing your best. You have a lot of supporters out here pulling for you every day.
Sherri <slr8800@aol.com>
Concord, NC - Wednesday, June 27, 2007 8:16 AM CDT

I am so glad to be able to read Baby Donovan's site again! I kept checking hoping that I would be able to read again! :) I continue to keep you in my thoughts and know DOnovan is watching from above! :)

Shannon Mashinchi
www.drivingonthehighway.blogspot.com <smashintwo@gmail.com>
Happy Valley, OR - Tuesday, June 26, 2007 11:40 PM CDT

Melissa and Dylan,
I was so bummed a while back to learn that you had made Baby-D's site private. I must say that I completely understood and I wished it didn't have to be that way. I have followed this site for I don't now how long anymore... but almost every day I would still click on your link in hopes that I would see you all here again. Here you are! Know that even though the site was not available for some time, you both continued to be in my thoughts and prayers and will always be. Keep up the great work I am proud of your accomplishments (both of you) and you should be proud too! Stay cool during these hot summer days! I plan to make a trip to S/N Carolina in the next couple of months... I can't wait! ~Love~
@~}~~
Allison Burger <Nadeva913@aol.com >
CT USA - Tuesday, June 26, 2007 10:22 PM CDT

Hi Melissa!!!

I have been trying for awhile to get onto your site and wasn't able so I am very glad that it is back up now. I do continue to think of you often and almost every night your family is in my prayers (my list keeps getting longer and longer so I usually fall asleep before I can finish!)

It is wonderful to hear all the great things you are doing for the Leukemia Society and raising monies for cancer research. You are such a strong person with lots of drive and commitment to this cause.

I'll check back in on you again soon! So until then.....Big hugs to you and Dylan!!

Love,
Nancy
www.caringbridge.org/visit/amberrichardson
Nancy Richardson
Wake Forest, NC United States - Tuesday, June 26, 2007 5:50 PM CDT

Just stopping in to say hello and let you know we are thinking about you and Dylan. I cant imagine how tough days are for you but I do know the pain of living daily watching a child suffer with Cancer and the treatment. You are doing wonderful things Melissa...for that we are all so very grateful.
Hugs to Dylan and good job selling those donuts!!!
Lori and Savahana
Lori <lascott32@aol.com>
Avon, in - Tuesday, June 26, 2007 12:54 AM CDT

Just stoppin in to say hello! you and your family are always in my thoughts and prayers.

Jen <jennifer.hewitt2@offutt.af.mil>
bellevue , ne - Monday, June 25, 2007 3:55 PM CDT

Just wanted to let you know that I think of you guys everyday. What you are doing to help beat cancer is amazing. You should be proud of yourself and your wonderful family.
Christina Wagner (Donovan's Riley nurse) <crutanrn@yahoo.com>
Franklin, IN USA - Monday, June 25, 2007 3:49 PM CDT

Stopping by to say hello, and OH SO GLAD to see you back! Love you guys!
Elena Ashinhurst <elena_515@yahoo.com>
Mansfield, TX USA - Monday, June 25, 2007 1:07 PM CDT

Hey there...just stopping by. I haven't forgotten you. My son had 1/2 days for the last 2 weeks of school and today he finally started camp so now I have a little extra time.

Anyway, glad to hear things are going ok for you and Dylan. Hang in there. Love ya loads. xoxo
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
nj - Monday, June 25, 2007 11:41 AM CDT

I am so happy to see the site backup. I have missed seeing Donovan's smiling face everyday. I'm glad to hear that you made your goal for Tahoe and that you had a great trip. My Aunt from CA had a friend participating in the event also so she went up and worked one of the water tables. She said it was an amazing event and she only watched. I was surprised to see that you are going to do Nike in San Francisco. I have done that event, although only the half, for two years and will be doing it again this year, so maybe we'll see each other!!

I'm happy to see that Dylan is doing well also. He is one amazing little boy, just like his brother. At our local Relay for Life event I had done a luminaria for Baby D and wanted to send you a picture of it but I never wrote your email address down, but now that I can get it on your site I will email it to you. Just remember there are still many, many of us out here who still care about you and your family and will continue to support you....
Amy Bellini <amy_bellini@farmfamily.com>
Troy, NY - Monday, June 25, 2007 9:07 AM CDT

Melissa & Dylan: Good morning! Just wanted to drop a line a let you know that you are both continually in my thoughts and prayers. So glad to see all of the wonderful support you so greatly deserve! Always know that you are all loved very much by many!

Beth
Whiteland, IN - Monday, June 25, 2007 8:51 AM CDT

Melissa
I'm so glad to be able to catch up & see how you & Dylan have been & all the work you've been doing to fight cancer. It's absolutely amazing. Thanks for sharing with all of us. We still think about you & both your precious boys all the time.

Carrie Stroud (Camden's mom)
Carrie Stroud <dstroud2@ec.rr.com>
Morehead City, NC United States - Sunday, June 24, 2007 9:30 PM CDT

Hi Melissa, I have been following baby Donovan's site for over a year but have never left a message. I was very plesantly surprised when I checked the site today and was able to catch up on all your news. I have thought about and prayed for your family every day. I am a mother of two and am inspired by your love for and dedication to your children. I applaud your efforts to help other children. Hang in there. My contribution for your next fundraiser is coming. Just wish it could be more.
Terry Swindell <lswindell@suddenlink.net>
Rocky Mount, NC USA - Sunday, June 24, 2007 7:19 PM CDT

Hi just wanted to let you know that I am praying for you and Dylan. You are doing great things in memory of Donovan. Keep up the good work. Hope that you and Dylna are having a great time this summer.
Donna <drobinson1027@aol.com>
Williamston, SC USA - Sunday, June 24, 2007 3:20 PM CDT

I'm so glad to see Donovan's site is opened back up. It's great to see the updates on your progress with the fundraising, and how you guys are doing. Although I'm a college student and don't have extra money to donate, I know that the people who do are truly helping to find a cure... and the money you're raising is for a GREAT cause! I'm glad to see that you're doing well, you're still in my prayers every day!
Becca Andrews <andre149@msu.edu>
Haslett, MI - Sunday, June 24, 2007 9:22 AM CDT

Hi,

My name is Ashley, I first followed your story starting a 1 1/2 ago. I learned about BabyD through Brittany Dahlen, while I helped her start Monarch Volunteers. Because of personal reasons, I have now removed myself from Monarch, but still keep up with websites, and have a prayer list of children and families dealing with cancer. I am amazed by your commitment to the legacy of your son, and to raise money for Leukemia research, through running. I was disappointed when your site stopped allowing me to follow, but I tried again tonight and finally got through!

I know this is a long hard road, you amaze me with your strength, but I'm sure that there hard times, that you never knew would pass. I pray for you and your family, your son Dylan, and for the grieving process. I have a very close family friends/neighbors who's 5 year old daughter was diagnosed A.L.L. Leukemia, and I cannot imagine losing her.

I guess all I want to say is that there are many people whose lives are touched by your family's life, and care deeply about you. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I hope you are able to raise enough money, when I am able I am planning on donating myself.

Thanks for keeping the site up to date.
Thoughts, love, and prayers.
♥
Ashley Kramka <ashley_kramka@yahoo.com>
Minneapolis, MN USA - Saturday, June 23, 2007 8:21 PM CDT

Melissa,
I had come across your site through Kyle L from CO and am so glad to see that you have opened it back up. Although I can only begin to imagine the tragedy that your family has suffered, I still offer my prayers and support to you, Dylan, the rest of your family, and of course for Donovan. You are truly an awe-inspiring mom who is making her sons and family proud. Congratulations on all of your accomplishments and for sharing a little snapshot of your life so that others can be inspired by you as well. Enjoy your summer with Dylan!!!
Erin Conley <erin_conley625@hotmail.com>
Thornton, CO - Saturday, June 23, 2007 8:17 PM CDT

Melissa,

I'm so glad you opened Donovan's site back up again. I have followed Donovan's story for a very long time, although I'm guilty of not signing very often. I wanted to write you words of encouragement when all that nasty commenting was going on, but I confess I was afraid of being attacked too, just for supporting you, as many others were. I've always thought Caringbridge was to provide support, and it hurt me to think what you must have been going through at that time.
I send nothing but good thoughts your way, and prayers for your whole family. I can't imagine how hard this journey is for you all, but I wish you all the best.
Sherri <slr8800@aol.com>
Concord, NC - Saturday, June 23, 2007 1:06 PM CDT

Just stopping by to say hello and hope you and Dylan are having a great summer, enjoying the heat...yikes!!!

Stay cool...many hugs
Lori and Savahana
Lori <lascott32@aol.com>
Avon, in - Saturday, June 23, 2007 10:30 AM CDT

Just checking in and reminding you that you are all still on our hearts and in our prayers!
Much love from MN!
The Botz's
www.caringbridge.org/visit/carterbotz
Mary Botz <jmbotz@hotmail.com>
St. Joseph, MN USA - Friday, June 22, 2007 10:30 PM CDT

Just to let you know that I'm thinking about you!
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Friday, June 22, 2007 1:59 PM CDT

All the best!
Robin Brunet <robinb@start.ca>
Bradford, Ontario Canada - Friday, June 22, 2007 7:53 AM CDT

Hi Melissa. Thinking of you and hoping you can get back into full training soon! Proud of your TNT accomplishments.
Vicki=ALL KIDS/Mom to Morgan, 14, ALL Leukemia
Corson/Lamorey Family www.caringbridge.org/visit/morganelizabeth
- Thursday, June 21, 2007 7:50 PM CDT

I have not checked in a while I thought the site was still locked. Glad i did check. Its great to see the pictures of you on your ride. I am so glad you got to go. I know your little man was cheering you on from Heaven. I think about you guys all the time. Keeping your family in my prayers.
Abby Sharon www.caringbridge.org/visit/tannersharon
stokesdale, nc - Thursday, June 21, 2007 12:46 AM CDT

Congratulations on your wonderful accomplishment,Melissa. I keep you and Dylan in my prayers.
Midge Culp <midge@flash.net>
Houston, tx - Thursday, June 21, 2007 10:59 AM CDT

What an amazing list of things the Lord is! Know I'm praying as always!
Psalms 18:2 The LORD is my rock, and my fortress, and my deliverer; my God, my strength, in whom I will trust; my buckler, and the horn of my salvation, and my high tower.
Prayer Bears
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA - Wednesday, June 20, 2007 10:53 PM CDT

Hey there kiddo! Thought I better stop by and say hello, instead of just peeking and running right past the guestbook. Glad Dylan is home - I bet it was a very lonely week without him. I know I miss Anjali like crazy even when she is just gone for an overnight visit with friends.
Like I said, I was just reading your entry today, and all of a sudden it hit me in the gut how much I miss Donovan. In the last five months I've come to his page, praying for your peace and comfort, and reminding myself to rejoice in knowing Donovan is free of cancer. But today I just felt like shouting it's just not fair - I miss your little CHAMP hearing of all his flirting and patting and love for CARS and his family!!! God bless you Melissa for finding the strength and stamina to get through each day - let alone to take on these marathons and fundraising for LLS. YOU ROCK GIRLFRIEND!!!!
Please remember how much you and your family are loved!!!
((((((BIG HUGS)))))) coming from all of us in Burlington
Lots of love, Nickey <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
Burlington, IA - Tuesday, June 19, 2007 3:37 PM CDT

OOOpps! Sorry I forgot to add Congratulations Melissa if you are still reading these entries! That is so awesome that you completed the whole ride. Way to go.
Andrea--Ethan's mom
- Tuesday, June 19, 2007 3:29 PM CDT

My brother-in-law did TNT last year and raised over 10,000. He could have gone to Hawaii all-expenses paid but chose to do it locally because he could not take that much time off from work. He "used" my son as his honored leukemia survivor to raise the funds. My point is that no one asked him how much money went to the actual research and how much went to other society costs. That is something you need to take up with the LLS. Why is everyone so hard on Melissa? I haven't been following every entry but it seems like she only made an inaccurate statement that was an easy mistake. The LLS are the ones who organize and determine the percentages. If Melissa needs to get away for a few weeks or months after the death of her child, that is her perogative. And if part of my donation went to the LLS to pay for her airfare and lodging, SO WHAT. That is the terms of the event. IF you don't like it, don't donate. I personally do not think I could do anything productive if it was me, but to each his own. I am happy to help her get through this in any way that works for her. If it were me I know I would want to get as far away as possible.
Andrea--Ethan's mom
- Tuesday, June 19, 2007 3:19 PM CDT

I think of you often, and hope that you continue to make it through these difficult days.

Karen, Clare's mom www.caringbridge.org/md/clareschmidt
Cabin John, MD - Tuesday, June 19, 2007 12:56 AM CDT

I'm glad that Dylan had a nice vacation, but I'll bet you're glad to have him home again. Hope that your back is starting to feel better--back injuries are always such a tricky thing so you need to be careful about doing too much.
Denise Ward <deniward@shaw.ca>
Winnipeg, Canada - Tuesday, June 19, 2007 12:31 AM CDT

Congrats on completing Tahoe, Melissa! It is a beautiful, special place & I'm sure Donny was with you all the way! I hope you're disk heals quickly.

Hugs & prayers to you & yours!
Shanon, mom to Collin, www.caringbridge.org/fl/collinburke <legomom0701@aol.com>
Eustis, Fl - Tuesday, June 19, 2007 5:46 AM CDT

Prayers are coming your way. Dylan is definitely a fighter and he has a strong family behind him. All of us on the list our pulling for him. It seems as if the kids who fight from birth keep fighting for the long haul. We are in Seattle awaiting a transplant for our daughter. Her transplant will take place on July 12. She has MDS and has had it basically since birth. Her avg platelet count these days is 13. She turned 17 in March so we have been at this for a long time. Our almost 20 year old (tomorrow) will be off treatment 10 years for ALL in September. Hang in there and we will keep you in our prayers.
Margie- mom to Karissa- dx'd with ALL 1/95, ot 9/97, Anna, Dx'd withMDS awaiting bone marrow transplant; and William, dx'd with ITP; and proud wife to a soldier <huhnerhaus@comcast.net>
Fort Lewis, WA USA - Monday, June 18, 2007 4:51 PM CDT

Melissa~

You are such an inspiration! I love the pictures! I think of your family often and you are always in my prayers! Remembering your special little Donovan always!

Take care
April Molle <Aprilmolle@tampabay.rr.com>
Port Richey, FL USA - Monday, June 18, 2007 3:43 PM CDT

Hi Melissa & Donovan~
I think of you guys often and always lift you up in prayer. I hope all is well with you guys. I don't visit CB pages as much as I used too, but please know that I am thinking of you guys always.
Jan aka Mimi to Makayla (in heaven) & Hailey <jannyjo@cox.net (A Virginia Prayer Bear~ www.freewebs.com/prayerbears)>
- Monday, June 18, 2007 8:29 AM CDT

Hi Melissa,
I am finally out of school and have only one week of a camp job next week and I am done :)

Keep training hard and I will see you in Oct.
XXOO from CA,
Cali Ali's Mom
Marey ALL-KIDS <kteachermom@hotmail.com>
- Friday, June 15, 2007 10:16 PM CDT

Know that I'm still here, continuing to pray!
Galatians 2:20 I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.
Prayer Bears
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Wednesday, June 13, 2007 11:58 PM CDT

Way to go Melissa!! I am so proud of you. :) I love all the new photos and got all teary at the thought of Dylan's comment about Donny living in the clouds.

Congratulations on your huge accomplishment! I hope you are recovering well. (((HUGS)))
Katie (mom to Hayley, Hunter, and Taylor) <dugan2b@yahoo.com>
Franklin, MA - Wednesday, June 13, 2007 5:13 PM CDT

Great job Melissa! I knew you could do Tahoe! That first hill is tough but the beauty and drive get you through...I loved your photos. I can't wait to meet you in Oct.
XXOO, Cali Ali's Mom
Marey ALL-KIDS <kteachermom@hotmail.com>
- Monday, June 11, 2007 9:29 PM CDT

Melissa-
How wonderful that you were able to participate in the Tahoe ride. It must have been a very powerful experience for you. You certainly trained and worked very hard for it. You should be very proud of yourself. I have no doubt your little teddy bear was looking down on you, watching you the whole time, just as proud as he could be!

Take Care. You're always in my thoughts and prayers.
Ginny Deegan <jgdeegan@msn.com>
Mtn. Home AFB, ID USA - Sunday, June 10, 2007 7:23 PM CDT

Congratulations on finishing the race! Hope that you're enjoying your weekend.
Hugs to you and Dylan.
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Sunday, June 10, 2007 1:18 PM CDT

Wait to go Melissa. I am proud of your ride. Dylan is such a beautiful child. I know that you are proud of him and Donovan. May God be with you and your family.
Donna <drobinson1027@aol.com>
Williamston, SC USA - Friday, June 8, 2007 12:57 AM CDT

Congratulations!!!
hugs,
Heather, mom to Brianna dx ALL , www.caringbridge.com/ny/mylittlesunshine, daughter to Pete, dx CLL. SCT 8/3/06 www.caringbridge.org/visit/petek
syracuse, ny USA - Thursday, June 7, 2007 9:04 PM CDT

Sounds like things went well. Can't wait to hear all about it!
May the Lord give you the peace that only He can give! Know that I'm here praying so very hard!
Philippians 4:6-7 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Prayer Bears
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Wednesday, June 6, 2007 8:49 PM CDT

Melissa & Dylan: Good morning! I ABSOLUTELY love the slideshow! You can see the adoration your little Dilly Bar has for his mommy! Melissa, you are a WONDERFUL mother to both of your boys and you should be PROUD of yourself!

I am so thankful you guys made it back safe and sound. Looking forward to hearing all about it!

Beth <softballmom023@yahoo.com>
Whiteland, IN - Wednesday, June 6, 2007 9:01 AM CDT

HEy Girlie, I am so proud of you.!! You did it, and you can see how proud Dylan is of his mommy too. Great photos.
Will See you in a few weeks. Thinking of you...
Mommy Koren and Bryce
k adams
webster, ma usa - Tuesday, June 5, 2007 9:58 PM CDT

I love your slide show--your little Dylan is getting to be such a big boy. I love the picture of your sweet baby on your t-shirt! I'm glad your ride went well.
Denise Ward <deniward@shaw.ca>
Winnipeg, Canada - Tuesday, June 5, 2007 7:19 PM CDT

The slideshow is so great! You can feel the pride from the smile on your face, Melissa. Looks like you were able to enjoy your trip, although I know it must have been very tough physically and mentally. Dylan is so cute! Man, I can't believe how grown up he is becoming. Where does the time go???
Just wanted to send my love and hugs - ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) - from all of us in Burlington!
Lots of love, Nickey
Burlington, IA - Tuesday, June 5, 2007 4:29 PM CDT

Melissa, glad you are back safe and sound and you had a wonderful ride. Can't wait to hear all the details. Love those new pics. Talk to you soon.

Jan
Cary, - Tuesday, June 5, 2007 4:17 PM CDT

Howdy,
It's Mom.
Gradulation! I am so happy that you finished the race. I am so proud of you, Kid-o. You have worked so hard being a good mom to your boys and you have worked so hard to help all the children to get better.
You are a great boy! Dylan-Dilly Bar. Grammie can't wait to see you soon. I love you so much.

Love Grammie & Mom <lgstmpr@walla.com>
Tinley Park, IL - Tuesday, June 5, 2007 8:52 AM CDT

Hey Melissa,
Glad you & dYlan had a good time at the beach. You guys needed to get away. Wishing you luck in Tahoe. Have a great time. Miss you. Take care.
Love, JAnine
janine mcguire <janinemcguire@cox.net>
new orleans, la us - Friday, June 1, 2007 10:58 PM CDT

Good luck in Tahoe! I love your new pictures at the beach--Dylan looks so cute!
Denise Ward <deniward@shaw.ca>
Winnipeg, Canada - Thursday, May 31, 2007 3:18 PM CDT

Thinking of you all...
Kristi Gerdon <kgerdon@widrick.com>
Croghan, NY - Thursday, May 31, 2007 11:28 AM CDT

Melissa & Dylan: Good morning! I know you are probably already at Tahoe preparing for your BIG day but I just wanted to drop by and let you know that I am thinking of you both and praying for strength, safe travels & healing as you conquer another goal you have before you.

I'm sorry I haven't been on for a while but with my daughter playing travel softball we are gone quite a bit during this time of year. However, you are ALWAYS in my thoughts & prayers! Remember how special you guys are and how much you mean to all of us!

Beth Forey <softballmom023@yahoo.com>
Whiteland, IN - Thursday, May 31, 2007 10:53 AM CDT

Good luck and be safe in Tahoe, Melissa. Thank you for all you do. Kyle and I will say a special prayer. Hugs.
Beth (www.caringbridge.org/in/kylefacts) <bdehoff@iquest.net>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Wednesday, May 30, 2007 10:38 PM CDT

Good luck this weekend!!! I'm so happy to hear that you and Dylan had a wonderful time at the beach. Your both in my thoughts and prayers always! God Bless
Rachelle Sparks <rml281@yahoo.com>
MT - Wednesday, May 30, 2007 9:36 AM CDT

Good luck in Tahoe Melissa. I will be thinking about you. God will be there with you also. Love,
Jan
Cary, - Tuesday, May 29, 2007 4:49 PM CDT

Glad you and Dylan had some time to relax and bond on the beach! I have ALWAYS loved Mrytle Beach. I spent many summers there growing up. Continuing to pray for all of you and continued strength for your bike ride in Tahoe.

A Nebraska Prayer Bear
Kerry Chapman
Grand Island, NE - Tuesday, May 29, 2007 3:27 PM CDT

The beach looks great and I am glad you and Dillon were able to enjoy some time!!!
Good Luck from all of us!
Lori
Lori <lascott32@aol.com>
Avon, in - Tuesday, May 29, 2007 10:54 AM CDT

So glad you had a good time at the beach!! Give Dilly-Bar a hug from all of us!!
Jenny Deputy (www.deputyfamily.net) <mjmb@deputyfamily.net>
Indianapolis, IN - Monday, May 28, 2007 8:29 PM CDT

All the best in Tahoe!!
Robin Brunet <robinb@start.ca>
Bradford, Ontario Canada - Monday, May 28, 2007 7:51 AM CDT

Hi guys...Just stopping by to say hello and wish you the best at the Tahoe ride. I know Melissa, you will do great!!! You know Melissa, I was just thinking of something and I want to say it... I never have before because I was afraid of being attacked by all the weirdos that used to have access to this lovely page... but I just want you to remember something. When life gets you down...like the people who question your integrity and grieving process...just remember God is the ONLY ONE who knows where your heart is. No one...I mean no one has that priveledge but Him. HE knows it all, HE knows exactly what you put out there to help others and HE knows what walls you have climbed in honor of your baby, your family and most importantly to honor HIM. Just know that and always remember that your relationship with HIM is sacred and special and just between you and HIM. HE knows what a marvelous person you are and thats all that matters.
No worries girly!!! You keep doing your thing, after all, you do it so well. ( I would never be able to)

I will be cheering you on and I will be hitting my knees in prayer for your strength and safety.
Hugs to Dylan and the rest of your family!!
Lori

Lori Scott <lascott32@aol.com>
Avon, in - Sunday, May 27, 2007 6:39 PM CDT

Good Morning!!! I thought of this picture when I read your update today :o)
Just wanted you to know I was thinking of you all today...especially Donovan.
((((((BIG HUGS)))))) coming from all of us in Burlington! WE LOVE YOU!!!
Lots of love, Nickey <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
- Saturday, May 26, 2007 8:12 AM CDT

Yahoo! The S.F. Nike Marathon is only 20 miles from my house! I will finally get to meet you in person!
XXOO from CA,
Cali Ali's Mom
Marey ALL-KIDS <kteachermom@hotmail.com>
- Saturday, May 26, 2007 0:51 AM CDT

Melissa & Dylan: Want to wish you a wonderful weekend. Hope that you enjoy the beach! Good luck next week in the race, I'll be thinking about you.
Sending love & hugs,
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Friday, May 25, 2007 5:17 PM CDT

Howdy,
It's Grammie.
It's Friday again. Finally, I think Grammie is getting into a little bit of a steady routine in my new home. We have been very lucky the weather has been so nice since Grammie has been back. I am sitting at the kitchen table facing the patio doors, so that I can watch the little critters play outside. Today is a rainy day, so I won't be outside. All my neighbors are very friendly as they head off to work or do their daily activities. I don't have a patio table and chairs yet, so I take one of my kitchen chairs out with a TV table and my computer and work outside for a long time. The neighbors come and go and they are always amazed I am still outside. Well, yesterday, I was out there until a big gust of wind almost blew my computer and table over, so I had to go inside. Yet, it was so warm out, I did not want to go in, so I brought out a cookbook to look out and stayed outside. How silly of Grammie.
I am missing you all so much. I sure know what mommy means about the days that burst out in tears. The other day I was looking at some pictures. They just made me miss you all so much. I kept thinking that when I go back to visit I will get to do this and that with you all, but then I had to remind myself, that Donny would not be there. I remember how excited he was when I came back from Auntie Valerie's family. He always had his arms stretched out to me. He was so happy to see. When I took him, he hung on to be so tightly. We would rock and hum for a long time. Then he let me play with Dylan.
Dylan is a marvelous young man. I know God sent him to be a special anchor for his family. He will be the one that we all get our strength from, because he has the pure love of Christ in him. He knows things and understand things that we as grown-ups seem to lose as we get older.
Mommy, you are pretty special too. You have such great love for your family and you work so hard to provide for them, along with striving to help so many others.
I love you guys a bunch. I will be thinking of you at the race. Have a good time and I know you will beat the odds that always tries to get you down. I am so proud of you. You know that the only one that can get you down is you! No other forces that surround you can bring you down. Stay focused and always aim for the finish line. You can DO IT!
Here's something I will send to you all:
I love you so much,
I can't conceal it,
I love you so much,
It's a wonder you don't feel it!!!
Love Grammie & Mom <lgstmpr@walla.com>
Tinley Park, IL - Friday, May 25, 2007 8:28 AM CDT

Hi guys,
Just stopping by to let you know that we continue to pray for your entire family. You guys have been through so much!

Best of luck at Tahoe! We went last year and it was amazing! We'll be in San Diego that same weekend for the Rock n Roll Marathon. Keep going Melissa. You are doing a great job!

Have a great time,
Tiffany - mom to Jackson and Faith <jetoneil@yahoo.com>
Rohnert Park, CA - Thursday, May 24, 2007 9:39 AM CDT

Am here praying for your family as always!
Isaiah 48:17 Thus saith the LORD, thy Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel; I am the LORD thy God which teacheth thee to profit, which leadeth thee by the way that thou shouldest go.
Prayer Bears

Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Wednesday, May 23, 2007 11:28 PM CDT

Hi Melissa just letting you know that I am praying for you, Dylan, your parents and Darren to. I hope that one day things get better for all of you. Keep your spirits up and keep riding.

Donna <drobinson1027@aol.com>
Williamston, SC USA - Tuesday, May 22, 2007 6:52 PM CDT

Hi guys! Just stopping in this morning as I have a moment while I finish my coffee!!! mmmm... Too bad about the error on your flight but I do think if you call them and speak with them about your situation they should offer you the regular flight change fee of 100.00 The same thing just happened to me about 3 weeks ago. (similar) I am sure you will work it out.
Greys was the best episode of the season last Thursday. I had gotten home just in time to watch it and it was a good one so i hope you were able to catch it on Friday.
Always thinking of you all, including Darren. I hope the days, for all of you, are being filled with the wonderful memories of your amazing Donovan. I cant imagine the pain but I do know that God will continue to guide each and everyone of you in a direction of healing. I think about baby D and him being cancer free in Heaven and it just warms my heart to know someday we will all be together in perfection. What a day of celebration that will be!!!!!

Hugs from Indy!!
Lori and Savahana
www.caringbridge.org/visit/savahanascott
Lori <lascott32@aol.com>
Avon, in - Tuesday, May 22, 2007 6:47 AM CDT

Hi, Melissa. I'm so glad you reached your goal for Tahoe and wish I could have helped. You are so in my prayers and thoughts. I'm sorry about the mishap; it could happen to anyone so ease up on yourself. I will pray for a less expensive solution for you.
Beth (www.caringbridge.org/in/kylefacts) <bdehoff@iquest.net>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Monday, May 21, 2007 10:56 PM CDT

Hi there Rasmussen Family!!!
Sorry I haven't signed in for a while.. I am still here everyday :o) Glad to hear you reached your goal for the Tahoe event - that's so great!
Sending out our ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) all the way from Burlington! We love you all so much!
Lots of love, Nickey <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
- Monday, May 21, 2007 9:36 PM CDT

Just stopping by to say hi! Hope you had a nice day.
Heather Thompson <htast@aol.com>
- Monday, May 21, 2007 7:58 PM CDT

Hey Girly, and Dylan.... I just wanted to write and tell you bryce and I are cheering you on and we haven't forgotten about you, miss you both, Bryce sends big Hugs... me too!
Mommy Koren to Bryce
k adams
webster, ma usa - Monday, May 21, 2007 12:44 AM CDT

Popping in to say Hello to all of you. So happy to read the news about Dylan--his smile reaches out to all of us just as Donovan's did. Blessings to all of you as you continue your particular journeys.
Kristi Gerdon
Croghan, NY - Monday, May 21, 2007 8:11 AM CDT

Melissa - call the airlines and speak with somewhere there (if you haven't already) There should only be a penalty of 100.00 per ticket for 'changing' a flight. I have had to do this many times for work and even for a recent vacation trip. 200.00 still stinks but it is better than what you have found out so far. Good Luck!!!!

Angie, Chris, Owen, Tyler, and Jake Wawrzaszek (www.caringbridge.org/wa/owen) <awawrzaszek@hughes.net>
auburn, NY usa - Monday, May 21, 2007 5:33 AM CDT

We are so glad you made your fundraising goal....did you ever get the checks we sent?

We have done several TNT events, and they always booked our travel and accomodations - we usually brought the whole family and sometimes needed extra seats or special arrangements and they handled that too. It seems that they should be able to work this out for you, Ill pray it gets taken care of, I hate to see you burdened by this mishap.

We are praying for you....I know you will just love the Tahoe event. It is our favorite and super inspirational!

hugs,
kim
www.caringbridge.org/ca/andrew <kim.sprague@cox.net>
Ladera Ranch, CA USA - Sunday, May 20, 2007 11:59 PM CDT

Melissa, I am so happy that you have reached your goal!!! I am still keeping the link on Keegan's page until after you run, just in case more people want to donate. I hope that you are able to find a way to work out the issue with the airlines. It's horrible that it costs so much to change the flight. We've had that happen before, it's not fun.
Love and hugs,
Audra, Keegan's mommy <audramama@yahoo.com>
Fayetteville, GA USA - Sunday, May 20, 2007 11:54 PM CDT

Hi Melissa good luck on your ride and on the flight. Hope that you and Dylan have a great time.

Donna <drobinson1027@aol.com>
Williamston, SC USA - Sunday, May 20, 2007 8:05 PM CDT

Another message sent to me to pass on to you :)

Melissa,
I'm appalled and saddened by what so called human beings have written to you. Simply put, it's not true. You are fighting for us all and I deeply appreciate that. I'm sorry that you have gone through so much pain. You don't deserve it.

Denise Hodder
Marey ALL-KIDS <kteachermom@hotmail.com>
- Sunday, May 20, 2007 7:23 PM CDT

Just coming by to say hi...I went to see Shrek today too....loved the adult humor! :)

That stinks about the flight, but I'm sure you'll pull thru this one too!
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
nj - Saturday, May 19, 2007 6:38 PM CDT

Hi Melissa, I posted on Ali's site that I would pass messages on to you for those who did not have access to this site...so here are 3 that were left in Ali's guestbook:

Melissa, I feel so bad that you had to endure the remarks that were left in your guest book. I don't know you but I feel as if I do. You are a wonderful mom and have been trough more than anyone should ever have to go through. I hope you are proud of all you are doing to raise awareness for childhood cancer and for your ^angel^. Good luck in Tahoe!!! You'll do great!! All my love to you and your family and you go girl!!
Ms. Taylor Black
So. Burlington , Vt - Friday, May 18, 2007 8:39 PM CDT
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Please pass on my prayers and sincere great wishes for her and Dylan and the entire family. I still mourn the loss of Baby D. I little boy who became such a large part of my life.
Thank you!!!
Tamara
Calorado Springs, CO - Friday, May 18, 2007 11:34 AM CDT
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I always hate to hear that people have left nasty messages in the guest books. I will keep Melissa in my prayers. I agree that TNT events are no picnic or free vacation, but they are well worth it. I just signed up for my third season and will be doing the Nike Marathon in October. Best of luck to Melissa in her endeavors.
Briana Roehling
Pflugerville, TX - Tuesday, May 15, 2007 3:13 PM CDT

....Bummer about the flights...it was really hard for me to ride Tahoe and return to work on Monday...I first thought the ride was on Saturday too. I took Friday off work to travel there and could not afford to miss work on Monday too.

Sending prayers from CA,
XXOO, Marey, Ali's mom, http://caringbridge.org/ca/ali
Marey ALL-KIDS <kteachermom@hotmail.com>
- Saturday, May 19, 2007 9:39 AM CDT

Howdy,
It's Grammie.

I just wanted you to know Donny that Grammie wanted to do her part, as little as it may be, I went today to give blood. I have not done that since you were a baby at Riley hospital. I forgot about the big needles they use to get the blood out, but Grammie was strong and made it without any incident.
I am so proud of Mommy and your brother. They worked really hard to raise the money for all the kids like you. Now, they are going to ride their bikes for a long ways. That would be very tough for me, but not for Mommy. I love you so much.
It has been a beautiful day here. Right outside my patio doors are squirrels and birds and rabbits chasing each other. I wished you were physically here, so I could see you giggle as they play. Grammie is still trying to be strong and not cry when I think of you, but it is so hard. I know you are riding your yellow jeep every where up there. I am sure you would be racing these little critters around the quiet courtyards here.
Well, I just wanted to tell you Grammie was very brave. They said I could come back in 8 weeks. It will probably take me 8 weeks to get over the thought of this one.
Take care, my darling. I miss you so much.

Love Grammie <lgstmpr@walla.com>
Tinley Park, IL USA - Friday, May 18, 2007 7:33 PM CDT

Hi guys! Well I left for my vacation on May the 4th and just recently returned....so I guess the nonsense on this site got ugly..yikes. What are people thinking..geesh!
Anyway WOOHOOOOO on making your goal Melissa!!!! That is just awesome!
I LOVE the pic of little Dylan on the front page, he is getting so big!!!
I wish you continued good luck and will check back soon to see how things are progressing!
hugs from Indy
Lori and Savahana
Lori <lascott32@aol.com>
Avon, in - Friday, May 18, 2007 8:58 AM CDT

Yay Melissa! Isn't it amazing how God brings everything together?! I wish I could have given more too but with everyone coming together, YOU MADE IT! Will continue to pray for strength, encouragement and support for both you and Dylan. Let me know if there is ever anything I can do.

Beth Forey <softballmom023@yahoo.com>
Whiteland, In - Friday, May 18, 2007 8:41 AM CDT

YES! I am so glad you reached the amount you needed! I wish I could have given more....but I am so happy for you. I wish I were riding with you this year but I needed a break after doing it 2 years in a row.
XXOO from CA,
Cali Ali's Mom
Marey ALL-KIDS <kteachermom@hotmail.com>
- Thursday, May 17, 2007 10:58 PM CDT

Congratulations Melissa! I have been thinkng about you and this Tahoe ride you have coming up! I continue to pray for your strength and comfort.

A Nebraska Prayer Bear
Kerry Chapman
- Thursday, May 17, 2007 4:46 PM CDT

Know that I'm still here praying!
Job 19:25-27 For I know that my redeemer liveth, and that he shall stand at the latter day upon the earth: And though after my skin worms destroy this body, yet in my flesh shall I see God: Whom I shall see for myself, and mine eyes shall behold, and not another; though my reins be consumed within me.
Prayer Bears

Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Thursday, May 17, 2007 0:58 AM CDT

Hope the Tahoe TNT goal was reached! and Tahoe here you come! YEA!
Kelsey, Colleen and Faith-ALL Kids <colleencadaret@hotmail.com>
Placerville, CA - Tuesday, May 15, 2007 7:15 PM CDT

Melissa I don't think anyone who knows you thought you would take the easy way out. I am behind you 100% and I know you will achieve your goal of helping kick cancer in the butt. You go girl!!
Jan
Cary, - Tuesday, May 15, 2007 5:38 PM CDT

Just to let you know that I'm thinking about you!
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Tuesday, May 15, 2007 12:00 AM CDT

Hope you enjoyed your day with Dylan and smiled with memories of Donovan. Thinking of you and your family.

A Nebraska Prayer Bear
Kerry Chapman
Grand Island, NE - Tuesday, May 15, 2007 11:44 AM CDT

Melissa, TNT is not the easy way. I ran in 2 marathos, not my dream, but my NEED to do something. I never ran in my life, but I trained and I hurt and I went to Physical Therapy. But I thought all the pain Jake went through, surely I could do this. It was not EASY, but very hard, getting up and running 3 times a week, every Saturday running longer and longer in so much pain, but pushing, thinking of all our kids had to go through and how we don't want any other children to have to go through it. I remember running in the marathon and how hard it was and how I wanted to give up, but I thought our kids fought so hard!!!!!!!who am I to give up????????I made it on the 13 mile, the first one in Phoenix and then I went to Honolulu, Hawaii, never had been there, it smelled so good. I really believed my son pushed me to do this. I ran the whole marathon 26 miles, by the time I was done, I could not walk, my feet and legs hurt so bad. At the party that night, I could not dance or anything. My husband went snorkeling the next day, I could not get off my towel. My whole body ached.......I am sure at times with chemo, Jake's whole body hurt too. I did it for him and for all the other kids, survivors or "angels" This was not a selfish thing, it was hard, so hard, do I feel like I actually did something...YES, I am proud of myself for training and having an honored pt. to run for and think about, YES...was it beautiful in Hawaii, YES.........Did I see things I believe Jake sent me from heaven while I was running, YES!!!!! Do I think he was proud of me, YES!!!!!It may have been the last time he was proud of me. I have let me grief bring me down again, plus I work a lot. I haven't run in 2 years, my foot hurts, Wah, Wah.

Go girl go

http://www.caringbridge.org/az/jakefavour/
Jean Favour <jfavour@aol.com>
Phoenix, AZ USA - Monday, May 14, 2007 11:45 PM CDT

Happy Late Mother's Day! I apologize that I'm running behind on that but I have been working the Indy 500 for the past three days and not getting home until so late that I just fall into bed and then get up in time to shower and race off to work again! It has been beautiful out and I have enjoyed hanging out and hearing the cars buzz by as I am working! :)

I hope you and Dylan are enjoying your day together. I loved the picture of the two of you at Sam's. Dylan, you are getting so BIG! You are growing into such a handsome young man!

I know that yesterday was hard for you but just remember that you will ALWAYS be a Mommy of 2! I am sorry to hear of another one of your precious friends losing his fight. I will add his family to my prayer list.

Let me know if you need anything. I am getting ready to go make a last minute donation for Tahoe. Have a wonderful week with your Dilly Bar!

Beth
Beth Forey <softballmom023@yahoo.com>
Whiteland, IN - Monday, May 14, 2007 3:33 PM CDT

Happy Mothers Day, Melissa! Hugs.
Beth and Kyle (www.caringbridge.org/in/kylefacts) <bdehoff@iquest.net>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Sunday, May 13, 2007 11:13 PM CDT

Melissa,

I'm thinking of you this Mother's Day. I know it's difficult without Donovan, I am sorry, but I do hope you manage some smiles with Dylan!

As always you are in my thoughts and prayers.....You are an amazing woman and mother Melissa! Admired by many.......

~~Jennifer~~ <jenifer66@aol.com >
Bremerton, Wa - Sunday, May 13, 2007 10:19 PM CDT

Happy Mother's Day, Melissa! Dylan and Donovan are so lucky to have you as their mom. I hope you and Dylan had a great day.
Andria <aks623@hotmail.com>
Charlotte, NC - Sunday, May 13, 2007 8:03 PM CDT

Melissa, I just wanted to let you know that you were in my thoughts and prayers today. I pray it was a fun day for you and DillyBar!
Jenny Deputy (www.deputyfamily.net) <mjmb@deputyfamily.net>
Indianapolis, in - Sunday, May 13, 2007 7:48 PM CDT

Happy Mother's Day Melissa from CA and Heaven!
XXOO, Cali Ali's Mom
Marey ALL-KIDS <kteachermom@hotmail.com>
- Sunday, May 13, 2007 3:11 PM CDT

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY, MELISSA!!! (and Grammie too!)
Sending you ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) and all our love too!
Love, Nickey <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
- Sunday, May 13, 2007 10:48 AM CDT

I hope that you have a nice day tomorrow with Dylan; I know that it's not the same for you without both your sweet boys here with you. I do hope though that you're able to feel your little Donovan close beside you, and that this brings you some comfort.
Denise Ward <deniward@shaw.ca>
Winnipeg, Canada - Sunday, May 13, 2007 2:15 AM CDT

Wow, how Dylan has grown! You both look wonderful. I love the new pic. What a wonderful way to pay tribute to precious Donovan, God Bless you for your efforts to fight this horrible leukemia.

Last, but not least, Happy Mother's Day! Praying that you feel the love of both Dylan & Angel Donovan wrap itself around you in comfort and peace tomorrow & each day.
Cammy - Laken's (infant leukemia) Mom <parsons@fullnet.com or www.caringbridge.org/visit/lakenparsons>
Huntingburg, IN USA - Saturday, May 12, 2007 10:13 PM CDT

Melissa and Grammie,
Have a great Mother's Day. Enjoy every minute of it and I'm sure Donovan will be right next to you.
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
nj - Saturday, May 12, 2007 8:32 PM CDT

Melissa, I want to wish you a wonderful Mother's Day tomorrow. I know this day is bittersweet for you. Dylan really loves you and cherishes each minute he spends with you as Donovan did. Donovan is now in heaven looking down on you and I know tomorrow you will feel his presence in everything you do. You are one terrific Mom and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I continue to pray for you and Dylan and I know you will make it through the tough days ahead.
JAN
Cary, - Saturday, May 12, 2007 7:49 PM CDT

hey
im emily!
i follow babby d's website even though im only 10!!!!!
just wanted to say hey!! also have a AWSOME MOTHERS DAY!!!!
Emily Briggs
indain harbor beach, FL USA - Saturday, May 12, 2007 4:59 PM CDT

Hi Melissa,
I posted on ALL-KIDS and everyone is sending their love. I will post your TNT info on ALi's site and also to ALL-KIDS.

Love from CA,
Cali ALi's Mom
Marey ALL-KIDS <kteachermom@hotmail.com>
- Saturday, May 12, 2007 2:38 PM CDT

Hi Melissa,

Wishing you a sweet Mother's Day full of great times with Dylan and special memories of Donovan. I know he's sending kisses from heaven. You are a special mommy to your boys.
Jennifer Bryan ALL-KIDS <jandjbryan@comcast.net>
Los Gatos, CA - Friday, May 11, 2007 9:15 PM CDT

I just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you today. Always praying for you and Dylan
Aurea, mom to Ale and Dani www.caringbridge.org/mexico/dani <aurea.zepeda@gmail.com>
Mexico, D,F. Mexico - Friday, May 11, 2007 9:11 PM CDT

Hi Melissa,
Just wanted to wish you a happy Mother's Day. Keep hanging in there.
K-C
- Friday, May 11, 2007 8:49 PM CDT

Howdy,
It's Grammie.

What a wonderful peom. I wished the tears would stop, but they still keep coming. I tried to find cards for Melissa, Valerie, and Sarah, but Mr. Hallmark, just does not seem to say the things I want to share with my girls. They are all very special.
Melissa, I love you so much. I am so grateful that God let you be born in my family. I am so very proud of you and you have given your all for your boys. I know God is proud of you too.
Love Grammie & Mom <lgstmpr@walla.com>
Tinley Park, IL - Friday, May 11, 2007 5:57 PM CDT

I found this poem on the journal of another angel who passed before Donovan... and I just knew it was meant for you, Melissa. Sending you all our love for Mother's Day!!!

A Mother's Day Wish From Heaven

Dear Mr. Hallmark,
I am writing to you from heaven,
and though it must appear
A rather strange idea,
I see everything from here.

I just popped in to visit,
your stores to find a card
A card of love for my mother,
as this day for her is hard.

There must be some mistake I thought,
I saw every card you could imagine
Except I could not find a card,
from a child who lives in heaven.

She is still a mother too,
no matter where I reside I
had to leave, she understands,
but oh the tears she's cried.

I thought that if I wrote you,
that you would come to know
That though I live in heaven now,
I still love my mother so.

She talks with me, and dreams with me;
we still share laughter too,
Memories are our way of speaking now,
would you see what you could do?

My mother carries me in her heart,
her tears she hides from sight.
She writes poems to honor me,
sometimes far into the night.

She plants flowers in my garden,
there my living memory dwells
She writes to other grieving parents,
trying to ease their pain as well.

So you see Mr. Hallmark,
though I no longer live on earth
I must find a way to remind her
of her wondrous worth.

She needs to be honored,
and remembered too
Just as the children
of earth will do.

Thank you Mr. Hallmark,
I know you'll do your best
I have done all I can do;
to you I'll leave the rest.

Find a way to tell her,
how much she means to me
Until I can do it for myself,
when she joins me in eternity.
Love, Nickey <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
- Friday, May 11, 2007 12:23 AM CDT

Stopping in again this morning as I continue to think of each of you. My heart is full of all kinds of emotions when I think of your family and what you have faced. My prayer is that each of you who cared so much for Donovan can heal and move forward with your lives as they are now.
Thank you for allowing me the privilege and honor of continuing your journey with you--your journey has affected mine in so many ways. I am so much more thankful for so many things...I am reminded often of how precious my children are...and recently with pokes to my conscience of how I could be doing so much more to bring awareness into my own community.

Kristi Gerdon <kgerdon@widrick.com>
Croghan, NY - Friday, May 11, 2007 8:17 AM CDT

I'm glad that your marathon went so well, and that you had Dylan cheering you on. I thought it was so special that you had the names of all the children you've met on the ribbons on your jersey, and sad that there are so many. I pray in time we'll see the day that there won't be a need for fundraisers and research, because there will be a cure, and you and the others who participated in this event are hopefully bringing us closer to that day. My thoughts and prayers are with your family, and I hope that you're able to continue raising funds and awareness in Donovan's memory.
Denise Ward <deniward@shaw.ca>
Winnipeg, Canada - Friday, May 11, 2007 1:05 AM CDT

Just stopping by to let you know I was thinking of you ALL today!!! ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) coming from all of us in Burlington!
Love, Nickey
- Thursday, May 10, 2007 7:27 PM CDT

I am proud of you for turning your grief into something positive. I know that running and training can really help get through some of the feelings of pain and helplessness. By running, you are not only doing something for others, but something well-deserved for yourself.

I'm glad you decided to keep the website up.

Lots of love,
Katie (mom to Hayley, Hunter, and Taylor) <dugan2b@yahoo.com>
Franklin, MA - Thursday, May 10, 2007 3:44 PM CDT

I'm so proud of you crossing that finish line, I thought of you and couldnt wait to see how you did and hoped for a picture...Thanks:) I did three 5K's after my daughter became an angel...It feels so good to do things in memory of our children. Our prayers are with you and Dylan!!!!
www.caringbridge.org/in/sydneylynne

Denise Pequignot <dpequignot@earthlink.net>
S Whitley, IN usa - Thursday, May 10, 2007 2:51 PM CDT

Melissa,
Way to go on crossing the finish line! We are all so proud of you. Keep going!
Jennifer HInes <creative_jenny@cox.net>
mesa, az - Thursday, May 10, 2007 8:21 AM CDT

Good for you for running and completing the race! I wish we lived closer to Tahoe and could come and cheer you on as you bike.

Only a mother who has a child with a life threatening disease knows what it's like to watch your child fight for his or her life. Everyone else can only guess what it's like. It breaks my heart that Donovan didn't win his battle and that there will be more children who don't in the future.

Keep on moving forward, doing what you must do,

Marie
www.caringbridge.org/visit/marielle
Marie Lappin
San Lorenzo, CA - Thursday, May 10, 2007 1:35 AM CDT

Melissa & Dylan: Just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you both and praying for you daily. I can only imagine how it must have felt as you crossed that finish line. I am proud of you. You are a WONDERFUL mother, don't ever forget that! We are so proud of you and what you are doing to honor your precious baby and to help others going through the path that you have already taken. Let us know if there is anything we can do.

Beth
Beth Forey <softballmom023@yahoo.com>
Whiteland, IN - Thursday, May 10, 2007 0:08 AM CDT

I am thinking of your family and Baby Donovan. Will everyone just STOP once and for all with the mean posts?! Gosh, it's just horrible. Remember the old saying..."If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all". This needs to go back to showing support for the family. I have a son who was diagnosed with leukemia and Caringbridge was the best tool I had to relay information to everyone without having to repeat it 100 times as I really only wanted to be with my son Mitch and not be on the phone all day. Let Melissa write what she wants to. If you don't like it, don't come back to the site to read it. It's a very simple concept. Melissa, keep your head up.
Diane (ALL-KIDS) <Stubby3620@aol.com>
Hickory, NC - Wednesday, May 9, 2007 10:46 PM CDT

Hi Melissa,
It was good to talk to you today and I hope you are feeling a bit better now. I am very sad that this has happened on Baby D's site. We are not on earth to judge others. I am lucky. My daughter is alive and doing well- she HAD cancer. I can feel some of your pain- hours in the hospital, using the 2002 World's Series to save my sanity...I had NO help from others- that is why I want to GIVE to others now. Call me whenever you'd like.
XXOO from CA,
Marey
Marey ALL-KIDS <kteachermom@hotmail.com>
- Wednesday, May 9, 2007 10:20 PM CDT

Hi Melissa,

Stay strong!!!

Many blessings,
Annette
Annette Dickson <annettekdickson@yahoo.com>
Salinas, CA USA - Wednesday, May 9, 2007 6:05 PM CDT

I am so happy you fixed this website so only people who really care can get in! You dont have to explain yourself to anyone. Hang in there sweetie!! You are always in my thoughts and prayers!! Keep your head up high!!! You are so amazing!!!!!!
jennifer Hewitt <jennifer.hewitt2@offutt.af.mil>
Bellevue , ne - Wednesday, May 9, 2007 4:11 PM CDT

Melissa, You are amazing. You are doing a great thing by helping find a cure by running and such. It is a great way to honor Donovan's life.
HUGS,

Karen Stern <jandkstern@connections-etc.net>
Big Lake, MN - Wednesday, May 9, 2007 4:00 PM CDT

I remember Donovan's amazing smile that would light up a room and make everyone in it feel blessed. I remember his patience and acceptance that made me question my own struggles with contentment. I never met Donovan, but I watched him changing thanks to Melissa's faithful posting to this website. There is so much pain in this world, but baby Donovan filled it with beauty and humanity. I hope I can do so too.

Erica Hoelscher, mom to Zenus, age 3, pre-B ALL dx 2/14/05 <ebh2@lehigh.edu>
- Wednesday, May 9, 2007 1:34 PM CDT

Melissa, Dylan, Darren and family...you ALL continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. Melissa, I hope the race went well and now you are resting before the Tahoe race. Dylan, summer is almost here!! Darren, you have not been forgotten. It is nice to see you come on here and leave a note about Donovan. I was not able to meet any of you personally, but have grown to know your family through the pictures and journal entries. You are ALL amazing in your own ways. I pray the love of God is with you and is comforting your hearts everyday. I pray that with each new sunrise, you have a happy memory of Donovan, and can smile at that memory as you begin your day.

A Nebraska Prayer Bear
Kerry Chapman
Grand Island, NE - Wednesday, May 9, 2007 9:40 AM CDT

Hope all is well and you and Dylan are able to have some
bonding time this week. My thoughts and prayers are with
you always....
Love,
Kara
Kara Meyer www.caringbridge.org/in/karadimmich <karameyer@verizon.net>
W Lafayette, IN - Wednesday, May 9, 2007 9:19 AM CDT

Thinking of you today and hoping that you have a wonderful day with Dylan. Its so nice to come on here again and not have all the fighting. God does answer prayers.
Rachelle <rml281@yahoo.com>
MT - Wednesday, May 9, 2007 9:13 AM CDT

Hang in there!!
Robin Brunet <robinb@start.ca>
Bradford, Ontario Canada - Wednesday, May 9, 2007 7:58 AM CDT

Hi, Melissa. I thought of you while watching the mini coverage. You are in my prayers. Hope Indy was good to you. Donovan is close in our hearts.
Beth, Kyle's mom
Indianapolis, IN USA - Tuesday, May 8, 2007 11:34 PM CDT

I was looking for the information to donate to the Tahoe ride.I cant return to the main page.I came to this site through Nolles site via Queen Maddys (they are very good friends of my family).I think running in the race is a great way to remember your sweet little Donovan.Much love and prayers sent to you and your entire famiy.
(If its possible can someone send me a link for the Tahoe race my Email is listed below)
Kara Maher
Kara Maher <mrsblondie74@aol.com>
Corona, CA USA - Tuesday, May 8, 2007 5:48 PM CDT

Has it occurred to anyone that the Rainbow walk might be more than she could handle this year? Being around kids who are still in the fight of their lives would probably be a little too much for any one of us to bear after losing our child such a short time ago. Hopefully she will consider donating to those causes that helped her family in the years to come. Be careful before judging anyone...Obviously the family is going through a very difficult time and your thoughtful prayers are much more useful than harsh words. Caringbridge is a wonderful thing, but can be seen as "reality tv" by too many people who don't realize that these are real people going through some of the worst days of their lives. For the record, I'm someone who's donated several things to make this family's life a bit easier and am fine with my place in the world. Anyone who's lost a child deserves respect and admiration for just putting their feet on the floor every morning. Wishing the best for the entire family...
Michelle Brown <mpb.mab@verizon.net>
Rockville, MD USA - Tuesday, May 8, 2007 2:48 PM CDT

Wow, it's so nice to see things back the way they should be!! I just want to say (once again) how much I admire you. The strength you show us everyday is incredible. You get out there and you raise money and you run those races. For anyone to get out in this world and accomplish what you do, especially after losing a child, is one special person. My love goes out to all of you every day. Keep up the great work and don't let any fools bring you down!!
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
nj - Tuesday, May 8, 2007 2:09 PM CDT

A much more peaceful aura on the website this morning!! It's about time! Keep your head up, Melissa. Awareness of childhood leukemia and it's eventual cure are worthy goals to dedicate one's time and effort to. Continue to take the high road. Sincere wishes for peace and recovery.
Linda Wellendorf <lmwultimt@aol.com>
Youngstown, Oh USA - Tuesday, May 8, 2007 11:42 AM CDT

Melissa,
Just like I said in the email. I am behind you 100%! I am so proud of you and that you continue to raise awareness for Cancer and the fight your precious babyD fought. Lifting you up in prayer!
Jennifer HInes <creative_jenny@cox.net>
mesa, az - Tuesday, May 8, 2007 11:06 AM CDT

Baby D suffered and died. BOTH his parents have to live with that for the rest of their lives.. They don't have their little teddy bear any more. Nothing else on this site or in this guestbook really matters. Bottom line, Donny is an angel now and this site should be a tribute to him, not a venue for people to air their opinions right or wrong. My prayers are with the WHOLE family...
michele(nurse in ny)
- Monday, May 7, 2007 10:23 PM CDT

Ok, I am going to lower myself one time, and one time only to these negative levels,,,but Darby L. just cause you may look frazzled in the morning, noon and nite and convict a mother because she can look "polished" at the worst of times, she was blessed with outer beauty and thankfully an endless amount of inner beauty,,,unfortunately you were not. Take a good look at that the photos, she may look polished, but who isn't there....need I say more. Maybe a makeover for you Darby will make you look better in the worst of times.....this site needs to return to its purpose DONOVAN AND TO RAISE AWARENESS TO THE CAUSE..FIGHTING CANCER AND SUPPORTING THOSE WITH IT. whether that be fundraising, marathons, walks, whatever,,,,maybe there should be a site for people bashing,,,most of you would be welcomed. back the f$%^ off. please.
A BEST FRIEND` <JOPHES2000@YAHOO.COM>
INDY, IN USA - Monday, May 7, 2007 10:16 PM CDT

I have a challenge...let's all step back for 24 hours from the time of this post. Let's all pray for this family. Let's all pray for each other. Let's all give thanks for the life of Donovan. Let's all count the blessings in our lives. Then, after 24 hours let's all return with something positive to say to this family. Somewhere there is something positive to be said about everyone...let's find that positive and post away.
Tara Baune <tara@baune.com>
MN - Monday, May 7, 2007 9:46 PM CDT

You all need to wake up and be adults. If you have something to say then e-mail her. Don't put it in the guestbook. You are no longer in high school, so wake up and stop doing what you are doing, she is doing nothing wrong to anyone. Maybe you are the one with the problem. Don't listen to anything that these rude, mean people have to say. They mean nothing and are not important at all, you keep doing what you are doing. You are not causing any harm to anyone. Some people will never grow up. I think my 5 year old son has more manners than some of these adults on this site. Some of you are just rude and have nothing better to do with your life than to cause more pain to someone that does not need you around. Just go away and don't come back to this site you are doing nothing but causing problems to Melissa and her family. Without people like you this world would be a much nicer adn better loving place to live in. Sometimes I wish all of you rude nasty people would just leave and never come back here!!!!
Lots of love and prayers to you.
Mom to an angel
Leave her alone, Be an adult - Monday, May 7, 2007 9:35 PM CDT

I just wanted to let you know that I think it is wonderful you are running and raising money in honor of your precious baby, and for other little children out there. You are in my prayers.
Megan Dutill
- Monday, May 7, 2007 9:30 PM CDT

WOULD ALL OF YOU ALL JUST STOP AND LOOK AT WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND SAYING? WHY ARE YOU ALL ATTACKING EACH OTHER? THIS SEEMS TO BE ALL ABOUT MONEY AND DONATIONS. WHAT HAPPENED TO DONOVAN? THIS IS DONOVAN'S SITE. HIS MOM CAN WRITE AND DO WHATEVER SHE WANTS WITH THIS SITE, IT IS HER BABY. PLEASE STOP THIS SO WE CAN GET ON THIS SITE AND READ POSITIVE THINGS. I HAVE READ NOTHING ON THIS SITE FOR TWO DAYS BUT NEGATIVE THINGS WITH VERY FEW POSITIVE, MOSTLY STRANGERS ATTACKING EACH OTHER. YOU DO NOT EVEN KNOW MELISSA, THE FAMILY OR EACH OTHER. WHAT IS GOING ON? WHY DO YOU KEEP COMING BACK? I HAVE SEEN PEOPLE OVER AND OVER KEEP RETALIATING WITH WHAT ANOTHER IS SAYING. THIS IS STUPID. IF YOU DO NOT WANT TO DONATE, READ THIS SITE, OR DO NOT LIKE WHAT IS BEING SAID, THEN FOR DONOVAN'S SAKE, DON'T ATTACK HIS MOM. GO TO A SITE WHERE THINGS ARE TO YOUR LIKING (BELEIVE ME THERE ARE MANY). PLEASE LET US HAVE MEMORIES OF DONOVAN AND NOT DREAD GOING TO HIS SITE TO READ MORE NEGATIVE THINGS ABOUT HIS MOM. PLEASE, PLEASE ONLY ADD GOOD THINGS TO THE GUESTBOOK. AFTERALL THIS IS CARINGBRIDGE. PLEASE BE NICE TO EACH OTHER AND REMEMBER THE ANGEL THIS SITE WAS SET UP FOR. DONOVAN IS GONE, ALL WE HAVE ARE MEMORIES, LETS KEEP THIS ALIVE. ATTACKING EACH OTHER ONLY BRINGS HATE TO THIS SITE. KEEP IT POSITIVE SO DYLAN CAN READ HOW MANY PEOPLE CARE ABOUT AND LOVE HIS BROTHER AND NOT THE MISTAKES HIS MOM MADE. PRAY FOR EACH OTHER! PLEASE STOP THIS. THINK OF DYLAN AND DARREN, HOW THIS MUST HURT THEM SO BAD, NOT TO MENTION MELISSA. I DO NOT KNOW THESE PEOPLE AT ALL, NONE OF THEM, BUT MY GOSH, I GOT ON HERE AFTER READING ASHERANDJACOBS SITE AND COULDN'T BELIEVE MY EYES. THIS IS CRUEL, DEMEANING, AND PLAIN HURTFUL TO EVERYONE.
LORI <Lorimatthews@twlakes.net>
LIVINGSTON, TN USA - Monday, May 7, 2007 9:22 PM CDT

Melissa,
I have only one question for you to answer. How much did you donate to the run on Saturday and how much are you planning to give to your other "Dreams" ? If you were paying anything, I think no one would be questioning your motives. I too know many people who have participated in TIN. They have paid the travel expenses themselves. The TIN is a wonderful organization, do not destroy it with your own personal needs or wishes.
decide not to state
- Monday, May 7, 2007 9:15 PM CDT

Melissa,
You dedicated the past 2 years of trying to get Donovan well. No one can question the fact that you put your life on hold while fighting this battle with him, Darren did the same thing. It is what parents do when they are dealt this hand. The battle is over, you have the right to live out your dreams, you just no longer have the right to play on people's sympathy to fufill them. I have a family member who has Leukemia and I certainly would not want funding to the LLS to stop. There are many ways you could raise funds, without personal gain. When we truly give without wanting anything in return, we are blessed. I read some of the CB families who gave to the Duke Rainbow Walk. They truly felt like they had done something good in return for all they have been given. Most of them did it while having an ill child in the hospital. They are truly heros and role models.
Betsy Blossier
- Monday, May 7, 2007 9:08 PM CDT

I have personally know 4 families who have children who have life-threatning illnesses. They range in age from 2-16. Every single wish for these children has been a child's wish, not a parent one. These families have been given much, but never asked for a single thing except for their children to get better. They have all been humbled and in awe of the generous response. They would have never thought of accepting someting personal in the name of their child. One family now has an angel. They are paying back by having golf tournaments, Sunday dinners and can shakes. All of these proceeds go directly to the Make A Wish Foundation. They have not received one single negative comment. Melissa, I chose not to believe that you tried to be untruthful and mislead people. Perhaps you need to re-think your goals and their purpose. Take some time to think and pray about where your future is heading and why. Many people are concerned about you and your family and want what is best for all of you. I pray you have the courage to make the right choices.
Beth Slye
- Monday, May 7, 2007 8:58 PM CDT

Birds of a feather flock together. Melissa has lied and decieved. She can not come clean about where the donation money goes and why she HONESTLY wants to go all the way to Lake Tahoe. The people defending her seem just as hypocritical. Its ok to talk bad about Darren but when others question Melissa's intentions well then, thats another story.
All it would take is for Melissa to be honest. When you go back and read Melissa's own words from Feb. "I want to be me and hang out with Dylan, travel, run marathons, and hopefully do what I have been wanting to do for a long time now but just never got the chance to." and "I also wanted to say that going to the superbowl was our families dream" and again "Right now we are needing 3 tickets from tucson arizona to Raleigh for my sister and her family to come out for the week after christmas. Her Husband has never even met Donovan." and again "Gosh my one Dream for all of us was that I could somehow Take Donovan to the superbowl ( My colts will totally go we know it) to watch the Colts really win big...I know that he would be sick but He would have so much fun. I thought that I could bring a nurse and we could have special seating...Gosh I have wished so long..."
No one can argue with Melissa's own words - she dreams about travel and now she can raise money for a good cause - her trips!
Melissa it is time to own up.

tired of lies
- Monday, May 7, 2007 8:46 PM CDT

Regarless of how you feel about Darren, Melissa, or Grammie, it is time for this to stop. People please do not let your opinon of Melissa stop you from donating to various causes for ill children. If you have come to this site and read some of the journal entries, you have to know that this family has been through a lot. We may not agree with some of the decisions Melissa made, but she has to answer to that. Can we all focus on families who are fighting right now to save their child's life. Sadly, there are way too many of them out there.
dee brown
- Monday, May 7, 2007 8:41 PM CDT

Maybe a little less 'mother inlaw' would have let Darren be there more for his family.

Who is supporting the family now that the bread winner is off and running? She has a fundraiser to help pay for Dylans schooling.....public school is FREE.

If Darren is such a 'low life' then why is at this time he shows more class than anyone.

WAY TO GO DARREN. take your son and run!

Lord, pray for this family <lovinlife06@yahoo.com>
- Monday, May 7, 2007 8:41 PM CDT

Melissa,

I hope you had a wonderful race. As a three year alumni of Team in Training I know how emotional these events can be. I too race with a ton of names on my jersey - including, as you know, Donovan's last October. I will have his name there again this year. I am glad you have found a way to try and honor his memory and help find a cure so other familes do not have to go through what yours has gone through. You are part of the Team In Training family - doing what thousands upon thousands of us have done all across the country every year - and helping to raise millions to make the world a better place. If others can not see that then it's their loss.

For those of you questioning her fundraising, yes, she should not have said 100%, or maybe she just meant that it would not go into her pocket directly (which you have accused her of before) but to the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society whether it be for administraive costs or reasearch, but she was honest right from the beginning about where she was doing these events and the fact remains that these events have raised over 700 Million dollars for Research and patient support. There was no trickery, if you were uncertain where the money goes, Team in Training is very upfront about how the trips are funded. There are even independent websites that rate charities and tell you the percentages of how the money is spent. If she does not meet her goal she has to pay out of her pocket, and it is the same if you do a local event - there are still administrative costs no matter where the event is held. No one gave the money directly to Melissa, you gave it to LLS, you gave it all to those kids and parents that are fighting these awful diseases with the hope that one day a cure will be found.

None of us are perfect, but we are apparently expecting Melissa and Darren and their familes to be perfect and not make mistakes or stumble along the way. It was not all that long ago that all of you were posting nasty messages to Darren about the fact that he wasn't working so he could be with Baby D. One of you even posted job notices for them. I am not picking sides either - I feel just as much for what Darren has been though also. He lost a son too. They both deserve our support and prayers and neither of them deserve to see what has become of Donovan's website. I can not begin to imagine the pain of losing a child, so I have no idea what kind of pain they are in. No matter what this family does - Melissa or Darren - it is never good enough - Damned if they do...damned if they don't. Who gave us the right to judge...
Amy R Bellini <amy_bellini@farmfamily.com>
Troy, NY - Monday, May 7, 2007 8:28 PM CDT

Dear Insulted-I gave to Melissa. Read it again.This is getting ridiculous!
Midge
Houston, - Monday, May 7, 2007 8:27 PM CDT

Melissa, good job with the race. You rock. God Bless you.
Sherry N
- Monday, May 7, 2007 8:18 PM CDT

Midge, how dare you chuckle and call donors ignorant! I have done many events through TNT honoring three family members, one a young child. There is a BIG DIFFERENCE in the amount you are asked to raise depending on the venue. If you live near a venue and don't need transportation, hotels meals etc., then the amount you are asked to raise is much lower than if you are traveling across country and need air transportation to Reno or Sacramento, then ground transportation to Tahoe, then hotel etc. We aren't idiots Midge, how dare you demean those of us who have given generously to Melissa in the past two years. I would prefer hearing from Melissa than her talking puppets who don't have a clue. God Bless Darren and his family, you all are class acts.
insulted
- Monday, May 7, 2007 8:11 PM CDT

At some point, there was Love between Darren and Melissa, they had 2 beautiful children together. A sick child brings a lot of stress on a marriage. For 2 years getting Donovan healthy was the focus for this family. Apparnetly when Donovan passed away, Melissa and Darren had grown apart. If these 2 are going to have any chance at making a life, they need to focus on working it out. Grammie, as a Grandmother I would think you would want that for Dylan. Melissa, to make this site more of what it was meant for, take the comments about the Colts off. Donovan had no idea who the Colts were, this is your pesonal agenda. Darren has made his plea for the site to remain focuse on Donovan, Melissa, it is your turn now. If you truly dedicate this site to Donovan and don't ask for money, I think you would be surprised at the response. Also, if you can acknowledge that you realize Darren is grieving also, that would help Dads with their opinion of you. You have hurt and offended a lot of people, people you don't know, but you were o.k. asking them for money, so perhaps now you should consider how they feel.
Jack Patterson
- Monday, May 7, 2007 8:11 PM CDT

Amy Frye said it the truest of anyone - what Melissa said was that 100% of the money went to TNT/LLS - she NEVER said that 100% would be used for research, but did say that research is what the proceeds would be used for. You all are the ones that twisted it to say what you wanted it to say - and you have done the same with so many other things. Do you think that 100% of Melissa's life is contained in the journal entries? Ask anyone else that journals on CB if they share every minute detail of their lives. Written words can so easily be misunderstood by the reader. For those who have not followed this site since the beginning, I would suggest that you go back to 2005 and begin reading the journal from it's beginning. Have any of you considered that just maybe Melissa has been the one that has refrained for so long from sharing the status of her marital problems? Darren could just as easily have gotten on here at any time and answered all the many questions that were being asked about him. Maybe he didn't want to share his feelings, and that's certainly his choice. I'm not here to judge, and no one knows everything about the situation, except the two of them. I am not here to judge, but I truly wish this would all stop. It has snowballed and so many people are getting involved that read just a little and think they know it all, then things get twisted around, again and again.
James <jimbo@gmail.com>
- Monday, May 7, 2007 8:06 PM CDT

Thank you Grammie, thank you for reminding us of all the wonderful things that were donated to the family during the course of Donovan's last months. The motorized jeep, the Christmas tree, presents, people taking time away from their own cancer kid to raise money for Melissa's rent and so on. Wouldn't it have been nice if your daughter had honored some of these organizations locally? Pity there wouldn't have been any glory in that for her now would there? I also think you owe Darren an apology....big time!
Just wondering
- Monday, May 7, 2007 7:54 PM CDT

Midge,
No, we are not ignorant, Melissa betrayed by saying 100% went directly to the TIT. That is what the problem is. You are not the only one who has given to various causes, don't laugh or belittle people who don't agree with you. As I have read in so many entries, why doesn't someone, if not Melissa, then someone from her family acknowkledge that she was asking for money under false pretense.To try and make people beleive Melissa did not know that 100% would not go directly to research is ignorant!
Amy Frye
- Monday, May 7, 2007 7:46 PM CDT

To Holly, you are judging others as you say negative things about Darren. According to your family's rules, we can say negative things about Darren but not Melissa, correct? And the comment about the Superbowl being just one game. How much was the total value of that trip? But as you stated it, it made Melissa feel good for a few hours, so why not. Once again, Melissa has chosen to make her life open by using this site to state her wishes and ask for money. People who supported the family overlooked a lot because they did have sympathy for Melissa and the entire family. She has taken advantage of that. The fact that no one from Melissa's family can admit that is very sad. This will be my last post and visit to this site. I truly mean it when I say the entire family will be in my prayers. Please allow Darren, his parents and family to remain in contact with Dylan, he needs all the love he can get. Darren's family have kept their comments to themselves, it is a shame Melissa's family has not been stong enough to do the same.
Judica Colinta
- Monday, May 7, 2007 7:37 PM CDT

Grammie-You have a classy daughter! Be proud and I hope she continues to abstain from responding to the ignorance and trash being shown on this site. She is a gem and above those who put her down. To those who tell her to apologize to the people who contributed to her marathons I say "Where have you been?" You seem to know nothing about what you are saying. You should be embarrassed. Those of us who have contributed or participated in marathons over the years are chuckling at your ignorance. You sound silly! This seems to be a family feud and it makes me sad! He looked like Darren. I am so sorry for Mom and Dad and Dylan! What a beautiful family. Peace!!!!!!
Midge
Houston, - Monday, May 7, 2007 7:32 PM CDT

Susy Know: You obviously know very little! And as for who is taking care of Dylan-it has been Melissa and her family. Grammie thanks for sharing those memories with us. I only knew Donovan personally for 6 months, but I learned so much from him. My family has also grown to love Dylan and have had the priviledge of spending some great times with him and I can truly say he is a happy and well adjusted little boy who is very attached to his mother. Melissa, I hope you shut this guestbook down soon so we can remember the memory of that precious baby without reading any more trash from people who make up names.
Victoria <cvknott@nc.rr.com>
Raleigh, NC - Monday, May 7, 2007 7:30 PM CDT

Thank you Melissa. Through your journals you have helped me and my family. I have never met you and probably never will, but that's ok. I support anyone who tries to raise money for a great cause. I do not know if the way you did it is right or wrong. To tell the truth I don't really care. It is not my business to judge you on it, that is between you and God. He is the only one who can judge anyone, because we will have our faults. The people who gave from their heart will be blessed regardless. I come to Donovan's site regularly, but have never signed the guestbook. Your whole family is always in my prayers. I can't imagine what you or your family is going through. I can't imagine how anyone gets through losing a child. I will never be able to explain how much your journals have touched me. Through your family I now hug my kids a little tighter. I watch them sleep and try not to complain about the constant fighting. Thank you so much for being strong enough to let me take a glance into your life.

Donovan you are awesome. You have blessed more people in your short life than what most of us could do in 80 years. Your love has helped many learn to love more.
Angel
York , SC United States - Monday, May 7, 2007 7:29 PM CDT

Thanks Grammie for the guestbook entry. What you wrote in your entries I have suspected for some time. I've also had my suspicions for some time about the people who were leaving the nasty guestbook entries. I'm so glad you were able to help Melissa and the boys when she needed you. You are such a wonderful person. God Bless you. Thinking of you Melissa and Dylan. What a great job in finishing the race. God Bless.
Sherry N
- Monday, May 7, 2007 7:16 PM CDT

To ^Angel Donovan^ & family~
I am appalled at the writings of some VERY SICK IN THE HEAD people! This is a place for love & concern! And YES other parents are also running in Marathons in support of their ^Angels^ so what~it is their way to remember their loved ones & I personally applaud these parents who do it & at the same time raise money for a specific cancer or just give it to Pediatric Cancer Research~who REALLY NEEDS OUR HELP!!!!!! Please leave Melissa, Darren, Dylan & ^Angel Donaovan^ alone & let them live their lives the way that they want to~Still keeping ^Angel Baby D^ in my thoughts & prayers~Hugs to the Rasmussen family from Adi's Grandma Liz
www.caringbridge.org/adi
Liz Penner
Simi Valley, CA - Monday, May 7, 2007 7:16 PM CDT

I have checked in on this site a few times-led from another site and can only say this is the saddest thing I have ever seen. I have been a pediatric oncology nurse for over a decade and have seen countless families destroyed by the death of a child. When a child is diagnosed with a life threatening disease, it shakes that family to it's foundation. It will magnify every weakness and every strength they possess as a couple, as a family, and as individuals. Some families survive it but many do not. I cannot imagine what would lead any person to write the things that are being written on this site. What purpose is there in hurting these people any more than they have already been hurt? No matter what the state of their marriage-at some point they loved each other and I can't imagine either one of them appreciates the awful things that are being said about them both. These sites are provided as a means for families to keep in touch with people who support them when they don't have the time, money or emotional or physical energy to do so personally. Some families print these for their child if they survive as a scrapbook or for their remaining children if the child does not survive. What a great gift this will be to Dylan to see complete strangers and worse yet, family members trashing his parents. There is no parent on earth who has done every single thing right by their child. We all try the best we can. When I go to these sites, they make me hug my kids a little tighter and pray a little harder for their safe journey through this world. No child is safe from cancer or other diseases or accidents that could threaten their life. No family is safe from this kind of devastation. What ever happened to treat others as you would like to be treated? Think how you would feel if this was your sweet baby-gone forever-and your sweet son left to read these remarks and your life-open to disection and persecution. It is heartbreaking. Absolutely heartbreaking.
sad <sedonajack2@cox.net>
- Monday, May 7, 2007 6:57 PM CDT

Isn't Melissa not working because she is on permanent psycholigical disability? Doesn't this say it all. Yes, she and the entire family is grieving and evryone grieves in their own way. So everyone should stop feeing sorry for Melissa and donating money for "her dreams", not her sons. And where is Dylan??? Who is taking care of him?? Isn't it funny that no one has mentioned him lately??? Thanks to grammie for finally showing her true colors (as if we didn't know them already). Darren, thank you for being the better parent in this whole matter.
Susy Know <susy978@aol.com>
- Monday, May 7, 2007 6:50 PM CDT

Jacqueline and others you amaze me, no one is saying that it is not great for Melissa to raise the money, the problem is that she said 100% of the money went to research which is not true. She is chosing to go to areas far away from home where more of the money goes to pay her expenses and less goes to research, that is what people have trouble with. If all you would just admit it , perhaps this back and forth would end. Just speak the truth and stop blaming everything or everyone else. Melissa chose to go where she wants to go and will not pay a penny. Also, Grammie, I am not sure that was an apology, yes I am sorry for what I said, but let me repeat it, becauase it is true. From all the entries I have been reading, Darren's family seem to be the most sensible and the strongest. Darren has made his plea, perhaps the only way this will all stop is for Melissa to say her side of this.
Judica Colinta
- Monday, May 7, 2007 6:46 PM CDT

Donnie,

I remember when I first saw you. It was Christmas right after you were born. You were so small and had a tan. You would smile when I held you. I even have a picture of Rachel holding you. I'm sorry you now have to see the mockery your site has become. Please help the people who have nothing nice to say find a new hobby. I mean honestly people I've read some of these posts and your negatively started early this morning. That means you woke up with hate in your heart (for a stranger) and wrote derogatory comments. This guestbook has turned into I hate Melissa club and these guestbook entries are becoming extremely immature.
I'm going to answer some of your pressing questions: First of all Dylan is in school during the day-you know when Melissa trains, not running amok... Melissa ran in Indy (sick and with muscle spasms) and guess what drove back to North Carolina afterwards.
What difference does it make if she runs in Indianapolis or in North Carolina? She�s still running in a race for a good cause. When she goes to Lake Tahoe and rides in a 100 mile race, I don't think she's going to want to start dancing after that. If she wants to ask for money let her ask-you don't have to give. If it bothers you so much don't come back to the site. She doesn't owe anyone any explanations you either gave to her family or you gave to the Leukemia Society. She doesn�t owe anyone a refund. If you have givers remorse now that�s your problem. Do you honestly believe when you donate money 100% of the money is going to the cause? Maybe she shouldn�t have said that it did, maybe she didn�t know. Is it really that serious, should it detract that she is trying to do something good not only to help others, but maybe to help herself. People get over the Super Bowl and that she watches Grey's Anatomy- it is one game and if that helped her be happy for a few hours so what. If I do remember correctly a lot of people on this site were helping calling the Colts for her. Also, if she chooses to watch an hour long show-what is the big deal, it's only TV. The point I'm trying to make is Melissa can't win with you people. If she wants to �Live� you won't let her, if she were crying and not eating you would say she needs to move on quicker. Basically, she's damned if she does and damned if she doesn't.

I�m Melissa�s cousin and it saddens me to see you attack her especially since you are attacking a woman who son has died. If your intentions were to bring Melissa down well you have not succeeded. Melissa is a strong person her and Dylan will be okay. If you thought my aunt was going to idly sit by and read what people were writing about her daughter, well then you don�t know my aunt. She has every right to defend Melissa- Jill, slander is when you lie-not when you state the truth.
Well Donnie I�m glad I got to know for the short time I did. I only wished I had lived closer to you. Remember how you helped the Colts win, please help us all with your courage and strength so that we may all make it through another day because as we all know life can end at any time or any day.

hollie <thewazz027@comcast.net>
Downers Grove, IL usa - Monday, May 7, 2007 6:33 PM CDT

A QUOTE FROM DR. SEUSS

"BE WHO YOU ARE AND SAY WHAT YOU FEEL BECAUSE THOSE WHO MIND DON'T MATTER AND THOSE THAT MATTER DON'T MIND."

Please keep this in mind. Many prayers from South Dakota.
Becki Solberg <bslbg@hotmail.com>
Mitchell, SD USA - Monday, May 7, 2007 6:32 PM CDT

Sorry, I meant I am praying for all of you.
Kelli F. <kelli99_48152@yahoo.com>
Westland, mi - Monday, May 7, 2007 5:39 PM CDT

God Bless your family, I have been following this site forever and I was so saddened by the loss of Baby D. Sorry I have never commented before. Just remember, NEVER REGRET ANYTHING THAT MADE YOU SMILE! Darren, Dylan, ^Baby D^ and Melissa~ I am for all of you.
Kelli F. <kelli99_48152@yahoo.com>
Westland, MI - Monday, May 7, 2007 5:38 PM CDT

As an adult that lost a brother as a child I could only of wished that my mother went on with her life. My brother has been dead now for 19 years and my mother is still grieving and still letting the rest of her children know that we are not enough. Melissa you do what you need to do to make you feel halfway whole again. If people don't understand this then they will eventually get over it.
Amanda
West Columbia, SC - Monday, May 7, 2007 5:31 PM CDT

I came to Donavon's site to leave a message and I was surprised to see that DONAVONS site had become a place where people are arguing and saying things about his family. And why would you come to Donavon's site and leave horrible messages and not sign your name??? I do not know Melissa or anyone in this family personally but I can't imagine going through all of this. If you have come to this site and left a terrible message, I think you should be ashamed of yourself. These guestbooks are for words of encouragement for families. I think what Melissa is doing is wonderful, raising money for different organizations and running marathons. Just remember, we all have to face God one day. I pray that everyone in this entire family will remember Donavon. I pray that Melissa, Dylan & Darren will feel God's love around them through this time.

Remembering Donavon-
Zhohn Dupont <z_dupont@hotmail.com>
Simmesport, LA USA - Monday, May 7, 2007 5:20 PM CDT

TO Darby L...why is it that you continue to visit Donovans site? I noticed that you have signed a few times today and with nothing positive to say, just rude entries to all the others. WHY???? Is your heart that cold and black, that you find joy in hurting others? I stand beside everyone else when they have asked that everyone with negative words to find another site. You are doing nothing but harm to this greiving family. E-mail me personally if you want to reply to this.
Samatha <princess81@hotmail.com>
- Monday, May 7, 2007 5:06 PM CDT

Melissa,
Way to go! I'm glad you got to run as you so wanted for your baby!
Please try to ignore the ignorant comments left here. Some people have too much time on their hands, it appears.

Taylor Black <Imtaylor2@aol.com>
So. Burlington, VT - Monday, May 7, 2007 5:05 PM CDT

To Erin Thompson,

So very well said. Donovan changed me in the same ways you so eloquently wrote.

Your whole entry is exactly what this site needs...100% positive and without judgement.

Much love and support to Melissa, Dylan, Darren, Grammie and sweet prayers going up to sweet Baby D.
Jacquelyn <jacqmills@comcast.net>
Sacramento, CA - Monday, May 7, 2007 5:04 PM CDT

Grammie,
Leave the slandering of your son-in-law to the courts. Coming from a divorced family myself, nothing is gained by such ugliness, and it is the children who suffer. Do you really think Dylan and Donovan deserve their father to be criticized in a public forum by their grandmother? Darren was very respectful of Melissa in his post. Are these nasty comments being said in front of Dylan? All Donovan knew was that he had two parents who loved him VERY much. Since Melissa was the supposed bread winner did that make Darren less of a father? I understand you wanting to protect your daughter, but you crossed the line. I agree, all Darren and his family were trying to do was bring this site back to what it was meant to be--I can't say the same for you and Melissa.
Jill
- Monday, May 7, 2007 5:01 PM CDT

Thank you for the wonderful post, Grammie. I sure wish I could have met Donovan. I sure wish my two boys could have met him, and played with him.

Since I've been following Donovan's road, I haven't been the same. I haven't been the same mother. I haven't been the same person. I strive to be more. I started going to church again, and reading the Bible. I've been more patient with my children. I've shared more "I love yous" with my husband and other family members. I've held more hands of those who are sad. I've given more hugs. I've listened more. I've dreamed more. I've learned that life here on Earth is so short, and we need to appreciate every minute we're given. Life is not to sit and berate and tear someone or some people apart over things that just don't matter or are none of our business. Life is so much about the loving - the hand-holding - friendships - and the dreaming.

Thank you, Donovan, for teaching me such wonderful lessons. My life and those of whom I love have been enriched beyond measure because of you.

On a separate note - We are a single income family and we struggle financially to make it and I'm okay with that. I didn't pay a bill this past month so that I could donate to TNT. I am by no means saying this for you to feel sorry for us - I'm just trying to illustrate a point. I don't care if only 100%, 90%, 50% or 27% of my monetary donation went to the Leukemia Society. The money that did go to them is more money than they had before I gave my donation for research and such, and I'd give again any day of the week, twice on Sunday.

Remember the lessons that Donovan taught, and keep them close to your heart. I'm sure that's what he would like his legacy to be.

I stand proudly behind my name, and my thoughts written here.
Erin Thompson <thompsonfamily35@verizon.net>
Belvidere, IL USA - Monday, May 7, 2007 4:49 PM CDT

I have a question. WHo is supporting the family now? Who is working now to make sure the bills are paid and there is food ont he table? Who is paying for Dylan's schooling? It sure doesn't seem to be melissa.
who? <woodleyem@hotmail.com>
- Monday, May 7, 2007 4:43 PM CDT

For those who are critizing Melissa because a portion of the funds she raising covers her expenses...that is how the fundraising is set up for ALL PARTICIPANTS. Not just Melissa. She is doing a good thing by raising money and awareness for this cause.

If you are so outraged by what she is doing, then why are you still coming to this site? Go away and don't come back...is that so hard?
Jacquelyn (a loooong time Donovan fan, and not ashamed to leave my REAL NAME) <jacqmills@comcast.net>
Sacramento, CA - Monday, May 7, 2007 4:39 PM CDT

Grammie I must say I am surprised by your recent post! What you wrote about Donovan was truly wonderful and lovely to hear, (please post more nice memories of him!) but it is unfair of you to write such negative things about his daddy. I know you are a kind and loving person by what you have written here before and that this last message was written in anger. Both your daughter and son and law struggled through their tragic ordeal with Donovan. If Melissa was the one with the the job that provided the best medical insurance for the family then she and her husband made the right decision for her to continue working as long as she could. How else would Donovan have gotten as far as he did? Your daughter and son in law both did what was necessary for them to do. Neither of them have had it easy and to say anyone had a leisurely time in NC is absurd. They have both sacrificed a tremendous amount, so much so that I suspect it has contributed to the failing of their marriage. It is wrong to say such negative things about your grandson's father but I suspect you already know that two wrongs don't make a right. I can see that you must be feeling very angry and protective of your daughter right now as you should, but remember, Darren is not the one writing these nasty posts.

Please, EVERYONE, keep in mind this passage from the Bible

"Jesus thought for a moment and then replied, "He that is without sin among you, let him cast the first stone." The people crowded around him were so touched by their own consciences that they departed."

EVERYONE PLESAE STOP THIS!
- Monday, May 7, 2007 4:38 PM CDT

WOW Grammie, thats LOW. Darren has showed the most maturity out of your whole group, not saying even one single bad thing re: Melissa and what she has done to this site and the memory of Donovan; and I sure he has a mouthful. Talk about sticks and stones. No one can say anything about Melissa, but you can slam Darren? Dylan will be able to read someday and I am sure will be very disappointed in his Grammie for belitteling his father like you have. I ceratinly hope there are not negative words spoken about his father by you in his presence!!!!!!!
Darby L.
- Monday, May 7, 2007 4:36 PM CDT

Melissa,
I am just in shock. I can't believe the audacity of these people to criticize the way that you are grieving, I don't think there's a right way or a wrong way. I will totally understand if you were to stop your journaling, as this had gotten way out of control. I'm sorry, but I just could not keep my mouth shut! I hope that these evil people do not call themselves Christians. Anyway, congratulations on your first marathon and keep up the hard work. I'm sure that Baby D was right beside you cheering you on the whole way!
Chari Warner <millymango40@yahoo.com>
Alpharetta, GA USA - Monday, May 7, 2007 4:30 PM CDT

Howdy,
It's Grammie.

As some have mentioned, I did lower myself to the stage that others have been on. I do apologize for that. I have been trying hard not to do that. One of my bad thoughts did get out, but it is a known fact that Melissa did take care of the family financially. No one can say otherwise.

And, it is true, throwing rocks back and forth is not going to make this situation all better.

So, I hope you all find something else to do, beside writing on this site.
Love Grammie <lgstmpr@walla.com>
Tinley Park, IL - Monday, May 7, 2007 4:29 PM CDT

Grammie,

It is wonderful the money that was raised on Saturday. If Melissa wants to raise money in Donovan's memory, that is wonderful, parents do that everyday, right where they live. Why is Melissa chosing to do that in places where she has to travel. She says it herself, she just wants to Be, long time wish to run the Chicago Marathon, go to the Superbowl, the question so many people have is why does she and her family feel she deserves this? Because a precious child fought a long hard 2 years and now rests in heaven? Sadly, thousands of parents go through that every month. Right there in Duke was a wonderful opportunity to raise money that would have gone 100% to place that was so good to Melissa and her family. Donovan was even honored there I understand. Can you explain why she choose not to be there. If Melissa were doing this with her own money, I don't think anyone would really care./ The fact is she is using donations from others with really good hearts and not being honest with them about what the money is used for. Perhaps she needs to go back to that job and use her money to fund her travels. She may even get more satisfaction from it!
disgusted
- Monday, May 7, 2007 4:28 PM CDT

Grammie,

When people are married, you don't seperate one paycheck from another and say whose money pays for what. I think it is very mean, ugly, etc. to say Darren was living a life of Leisure while in North Carolina. Did he not have some type of line inserted to help Donovan. The comments from Darren and his family are trying to bring the site back to it's original purpose, Donovan. You are just adding to the negative ugly comments. The money all the runners raised was wonderful. The ribbons Melissa wore was wonderful, the families she has touched is wonderful. I am sure she is a beautiful person with a loving heart. She just needs to stop using her son to get what she wants. I am sure she is very smart, she needs to put all that good into something. If she has been totally 100% honest and is not using any of the donations to pay for her own travel expenses, then she needs to tell everyone and I am sure they will give her an apology. I am just afraid that obvious anamosity you have towards Darren is not allowed to affect his realationship with Dylan. Remember who the adults are here, Dylan needs the love of both parents and both sets of Grandparents. Can you do this for Dylan in Donovan's memory.
concerned for all <jaclgirl@yahoom.com>
- Monday, May 7, 2007 4:19 PM CDT

Jennifer, your comments below are completely stupid. If it feels right, it is then right? So, if my heart feels like it is ok to lie, then well it is ok! I like that! Whatever. Lying is WRONG, grieving or not.
Sarah
- Monday, May 7, 2007 4:15 PM CDT

A letter to Donovan in Heaven. Hey Donovan! I bet you are having a lot of fun up there. No more pain. No more hurt! I bet it is absolutely beautiful where you are with the sweet calm wind in your face and the warm sun bathing the top of your sweet little head. I bet the birds are singing sweet lullabies to you as you watch the butterflies flying and as you run across the beautiful green grass. It must be truly special where you are. How great it is to think about you and where you are and how we will see you there one day. It truly puts great perspective on how we view this earth and how we view what is truly important and what is not so important. I'm sure you are watching over your family (your mommy, your daddy, your sweet brother, your grammie) now and brushing your angel wings against them. You are greatly missed here, but we know you are happy and whole where you are now. Have fun playing sweet Donovan - have fun. We will see you soon.
Jodi Johnson <jodi.johnson@stjude.org>
Cordova, TN 38016 - Monday, May 7, 2007 4:09 PM CDT

Grammie,
I am a Grandmother and I can not begin to imagine the pain of losing a grandchild and now having to read all of this about your daughter. I don't understand dragging Darren in it though, to say he was living a leisulrely life while in North Carolina is jsut as mean as what others are saying about Melissa. Did he not have a line to supply life giving fluids to Baby Donovan? Has he not been working since Donovan's death to try and support his family? If we are not going to cast stones, then that works for both Melissa and Darren. You can't ask for people not to say negative things about Melissan and then say them about Darren. No one is doubting the good all the people who ran, walked, etc. did Saturday. ONce again, the problem people have is Melissa using Donovan to get what she wants. Darren's comments and those from his family showed real character. I pray your pain ends soon.

Ana Leiera
- Monday, May 7, 2007 4:08 PM CDT

Melissa,

I hope your taking it easy today and resting after the big race this weekend. You know what your doing Melissa, and if it feels right in your heart, then it is right. Sleep well knowing what you are doing is the right thing Melissa. Only you know what is "right" for you and your family, I admire your strength thru these difficult times Melissa. Your entire family is in my thoughts and prayers every day. I wish only the best for you all....

~~jennifer~~
Bremerton, Wa - Monday, May 7, 2007 4:06 PM CDT

Stay strong Darren and family.
God bless Darren.
DARREN SUPPORTER 100%
- Monday, May 7, 2007 3:58 PM CDT

Jenny, there is no conversation to continue. I can own-up to my wrong- all Melissa does is hide behind you Melissa Lovers.....Go figure?!?!?!?!?!?!
Darby L.
- Monday, May 7, 2007 3:47 PM CDT

Wow. This woman has just lost her son. When you lose someone so dear, life as you know it will never be the same.

I'm just glad to see, Melissa, that you are doing what you need to do to get through the day! It was 10 years and one hour ago today that I lost my dad. I am forever changed. My baby girl was born with a heart defect, has had two open heart surgeries and is facing several others in her lifetime. I am forever changed.

I wouldn't wish Melissa's situation on my worst enemy...or on any of the disrespectful people writing on this site. These are terrible comments to be made on that precious little Donovan's website. I, too, have a website for my daughter, and would be DEVASTATED if anyone wrote such filth on her website.

Melissa, you don't even know me, but I am in awe of how you even put one foot in front the other every day. Keep doing what you need to do to survive!
Maria
Bloomington, MN USA - Monday, May 7, 2007 3:40 PM CDT

Melissa,

I hope and pray that the race went well on Saturday. Certainly, no matter what, you are honoring your sweet Angel Donovan and all of the other little ones who are battling this disease. God Bless you. Thinking of you always with love and prayers, Dylan & Darren too.
Cammy - Laken's (infant leukemia) Mom <parsons@fullnet.com or www.caringbridge.org/visit/lakenparsons>
Huntingburg, IN USA - Monday, May 7, 2007 3:38 PM CDT

Grammie, I'm glad you were there for Melissa and Donovan. However with all due respect, you are tell people how we shouldn't say unkind things, etc. and yet you publicly slam Darren in the very same message. Ironic.
Also, there is still no justification for Melissa's not honestly stating where her fundraising money was going. She doesn't need to go across the US to race in Donovan's memory. The fact of the matter is that she uses Donovan's name to get others to foot her bill to travel. Where is her apology? She should do the right thing and offer refunds.
No one is doubting that her loss hurts.
fed up with deceit
- Monday, May 7, 2007 3:27 PM CDT

Melissa, Grammie and others, I'm sure the ones who REALLY know yall will more than disagree with all these nasty posts.
Kristi <cmdknw@yahoo.com>
Willow spring, nc - Monday, May 7, 2007 3:25 PM CDT

Howdy,
It's Grammie.

I am so sadded by the remarks that have been made. I am so sadden that these people feel this is the way to heal their broken hearts.

We all know the saying, "Sticks and stones will break our bones, but words will never hurt us." It's not true. Words do hurt. They hurt for a long time.

I am in tears to think that my poor little grandson, now angel has to hear this.

Melissa, has done nothing to hurt any of you out there. She has not spoken any harsh words on this site about the writers of these entries. So, what do you all feel you are going to gain from hurting her this way. If there are those of you who feel you did not get your time with Donovan, don't blame Melissa. She did not keep you from him. If you can't blame yourselves, than you need to look elsewhere. Because she is not the cause of your pain.

Donny would be in tears to hear the way family members and strangers are talking about his mommy, without knowing the truth. He was a special miracle in our life and it is terrible to hear the things that are being said here. This little fellow was full of love and compassion like his mommy. He wanted everything to be good for everybody, not once thinking about himself.

There has been so many unkind things said here, and I don't want to add to it, but it hurts me so much to read these horrible comments. I feel like I have to get on the MEAN wagon too. So I can hurt somebody back, but that is not right. How can I keep from doing that? Satan has such a strong force that he has his ways of entangling us in this awful scene. Yes, I could tell you lots of stories living so close to the family as I did. What would that accomplish. Nothing! It would not even make the hurt I feel right now go away.

Let me tell you, I was with Donovan from the time he was born, I was with him through almost all his treatments. I even learned how to disconnect his feeding tube and meds. As scared as I was, the home nurses helped me through it. Usually crying through it, because I was afraid of doing something wrong. I was there at every hosptial stay he had from Riley to Duke. And, I was with him, when he died. This sweet spirit does not desire this and neither does his mom.

Donovan is my hero. He went through so much pain, so we could have him here for as long as he could manage.

All those who are making mean comments, you have not got a clue what kind of web you are getting entangled in.

It is sad that so many feel like this is the place to get their therapy work done for free. It is not free. You are getting this therapy at someone elses expense. If you were not involved in Donny's life as much as you wanted, you can only blame yourselves, not my daughter. It is your misfortune for not being there.

There is another old saying, Every Dog has his Day. I hope you are getting prepared for your day will come when you least expect it. I hope that you will be able to handle it as well as my daughter has.

My daughter was beside Donovan's side every day and almost every night. It was very seldom that she allowed me to stay with Donovan at the hospital in Riley or Duke, so she could go home for a little while.

Melissa is a good person. She has so much compassion and love for people that she has tried her hardest to lift others spirits when times were really bad for her.
I remember at Riley hospital, when the doctors told Melissa that Donny relapsed for the first time. I was there. Her heart was being torn into jagged edges. Yet, a friend came up to her with similar bad news about her daughter. Melissa hugged the lady and tried to give her comfort, without telling her about her own devastating news.

She hurts for every person she has come to know and love on the 5200 unit at Duke. When she hears of friends passing away, she cries and cries. It hurts her so much to know they are gone, yet she knows its to a better place. It still hurts. She has so much hope for them to survive. She tries hard to give her all to each of family members and as well as, those who came in contact with her. She is a humble person. Yet, to hear the things that are spoken here, tears me apart as her mother.

I am so sorry for those of you who have not learned how build others up. I am so sorry you have not felt God's love for you in your lifetime. Because if you had, you would be sharing that love with others less fortunate.

We should all be rejoicing with the outcome of this race. Melissa was able to raise $1400 for the Leukemia Society. The more than 400 racers raise over 400,000 dollars for this cause. Melissa completed a race not herself, but for thousands of children and adults like Donovan. This money will help in research and some even to direct families. Donny is proud of his Mommy. I am proud of my daughter.

Many of Melissa's friends names were on the ribbons she carried through to the finish line. They are so proud of her. Melissa was not the only one carrying ribbons of friends on her shirt. Many hundreds of people in the Leukemia Society wore those ribbons. Are they all bad people too? Or are you just singling out my daughter.

She has been sick with the flu and muscle spasms from training, yet she went out there and did what she had to win. She is my hero! When I grow up, I want to be just like her.

Inasmuch as, people would like to think Darren was out working finacially supporting his family. It was Melissa's education that got her a decent job. She was the one with a paycheck and insurance. While Darren sat at home or the hospital reading books upon books. It was her job that gave him the leisurely life he had in North Carolina. It was her paycheck that covered their housing and food, etc, even pay for Darren's bills while he was not working. And, what she could not pay for, it was her fund-raisers from so many wonderful people donating to make life a little easier for them. Darren said he was not going to take charity from people, yet, he watched the TV they were given by the Make A Wish Foundation. He ate the food that ME foundation provided. He even helped put the Christmas tree he could not afford to buy on his own. He gave his boys the presents from all the well-wishers of Donovan when they came in mail. He was playing with a two-sided sword.

So many people made Christmas special for Dylan and Donovan. Just last year, their family did not have the money for a Christmas tree and all the trimmings, or even presents. So, the ME Foundation, came and they surprised Dylan and Donovan with a Christmas tree and all the trimmings. The only thing that did not come with the tree was a tree topper. Melissa told the ladies that Dylan really likes blue, so I think they bought every blue ornament possible. Dylan was so happy that he was just beside himself. The ooohs and awesss were so overwhelming to me, I just could not control my tears. I remember him decorating the tree. We let him put every ornament on by himself. The most beautiful ornaments went on the bottom branches. We asked him to put some on the upper branches, but no, this was where he wanted them.

Donny was laughing and clapping and had so much joy watching his brother, he did not want to let anyone know how sick he was feeling.

Mommy and Daddy had to take him to the clinic once the tree was decorated. While they were at the hospital, I took Dylan to the store to buy a tree topper.

I pick out some really beautiful ones, but Dylan went up and down the aisles trying to find that special one. He ran to me with a star that looked really awful. It was dull and no lights on and it did not even have a sales tag on it. There was not even another to match it. I suggest he get a fancy one, but no this was the one he wanted. So, for a few dollars, we got it.

After Donny got some more blood and platlets, he was able to come home. I was laying on the floor with him. He was sitting so he could see all the lights on the tree sparkle and the special ornaments were in just the right place for him to view them. What a joy that Christmas was to me! When I looked at the tree to see that old-dented Star sparkled like no other star could. I knew the Christmas angels were shining down on Donny hundreds and hundreds of them all singing Christmas Carols.

A few days later, some new friends from a local church came. Some were dressed up in old fashion clothes and others in there regular clothes. They all sang so beautifully carols of Joy that Christmas was soon to be here. Donny loved it so much, he keep putting his hand up for them to sing one more song. All our new friends were so happy they were so glad to meet him.

A few days later, Donovan was back in the hospital. On Christmas eve one of the doctors gave Melissa an awful scare. He told her Donny was going to die. Well, she knew it was going to happen, but it just could not happen on Christmas eve. It was midnight, she called Darren, but he would not come up to the hospital. She called her dad and I and so I went up to be with Melissa and Donny. We took turns dosing off, because if anything was going to happen during this night, we both wanted to be awake. Mommy lay next to Donny on the bed as she always did and I in my chair next to them. Meanwhile, CARS was going on in the background. Every so often, he would wake to point to the special part in the movie. I was so glad it was dark, because I did not want Donny to know I had tears racing one after another down my cheeks. I did not want him to go so soon. I had to be strong for my daughter too. I was glad I could be there for her at this time.

To our surprise, Donny had no intentions of leaving this way. He had an agenda of his own. He knew there was more to be done. Although, he did not get to come home for Christmas or New Years, he kept holding on to every bit of strength God allowed him.

Many family members came to visit him and his family from near and far away. Everybody who met Donny could feel is love for life. No matter how much pain he was in, he tried to always make the people he was with feel at ease and know he loved them truly.

One afternoon, I was sitting with him. The days were getting closer to his leaving this earthly life. Sometimes when he was asleep, I would hold his hand and rest my head on the side of his bed. His little tiny hand in mine. Sometimes, he would pat my hand, as to say, everything will be okay. This particular afternoon, I must have dosed off. What a wonderful dream I had. I dreamt that he was flying on a carpet. He was taking everybody for a ride. I hesitated, but he would not stand for it. He took my hand and I was on his carpet. We floated so gracefully in the sky. The clouds were so fluffy in the bright blue sky. He wanted me to know he was okay with what was going to happen to him. He knew things I could not understand. He wanted me to know he loved me so much and he wanted me to know he was going to be fine at his new home. When I awoke from that dream, I had tears in my eyes. He was patting my hand looking straight in my eyes. Knowing it was going to be so hard for me to let him go, he smiled and patted my hand, as if to know my inner thoughts.

Speaking of special moments, just a few days before Donny went to heaven, no one was allow to watch any other program on that TV. I made sure of that! Others wanted to watch other things, but not on that TV. That was Donny's TV. We thank the Make a Wish Foundation all the time. Every so often, I would go in the front room to see how he was doing. I stopped to talk to him and he would pat the arm of the chair. He wanted me to sit next to him. So, I pulled a chair up next to him and we sat together watching CARS until he fell asleep. Every so often, he would look up to see what part of the movie was on. I would tell him and he would pat my hand that was holding his and off to sleep he would go.
When Dylan came home, I help get Dylan out of his school clothes into his home clothes. Dylan like stories, so I would read stories to Dylan, while Donny listened with his eyes closed. Sometimes, to get the story finished faster, I would skip a sentence or too. Of course, when I would do that, Donny would wake up immediately and remind me to go back to the sentences I missed. I would say, "Donny, I thought you were sleeping!" He gave me his silly grin and let me know he was far from taking another nap. So, Grammie, went back to the previous page and read all the sentences.

Someone very wonderful and caring gave Donovan and Dylan a yellow jeep. One of those battery operated kind. On this particular day, the doctor gave Melissa the news that Donny only had a few days left here on this earth. But, he looked so good. It just could not be happening. And, Donny was not letting in known in his behavior. He wanted everybody to know he was strong and healthy. For his short 2 years of life, he had the strength and power of no moral human being.

Just a few days before, he was out in that jeep with Dylan. They were racing up and down the street. Donny loved that jeep so much.
I was bringing Donny into the apartment, when Donny stopped me. He wanted to ride in the jeep. He was so weak, but he wanted to be in the jeep. I called to Melissa as she was putting several of Donny's bags in the house. "Donny, wants to ride in the jeep." So, of course, what would a wonderful mom say, "Bring the jeep in." So, Dylan and I and Mommy moved all the furniture out of the way and brought the big yellow jeep in the house.
Dylan drive Donny around several times, but then found other interests. Donny didn't want to get out, so we set him up in the jeep so he could watch his movie cars. He was at his very own drive-in theater. Every so often, he would dose off, but if we tried to move him, he woke up and let us know, he like where he was at.

Life has been difficult without our little boy. His mommy's teddy bear. It will be difficult for those that have been very close to him and his family. We all have different ways of working out our grief and loneliness. So, it would be good if those of you who want to write mean things stayed away. It hurts so much to be without our little guy, but it hurts even more that you want to make assumption about this family's life that you do not even begin to know about.

Many of you mentioned how bad off Dylan is. Some of you even want to feel sorry for him. Well, I suggest you feel sorry for yourselves, because this little guy understands more about life that you ever will.

You know, if you don't have a life, because you come here to ruin someone elses life, (Why don't you get off this site and go adopt a family with one of these horrible diseases and see how long you can last without giving up.) Which you can, because it is not your family. I am so sad for you all. Why don't you all go get on your knees and thank God for giving you such a good life that you have time to critize another family.

We just saw Dylan this past weekend. We had a wonderful time. Everyday, he expressed to his Papa. "This is a great day, right Papa!" Dylan is a special little boy and he can handle more than any child his age. He knows how important life is. He loves his mommy and he knows she is doing what is right for him and his brother.

Thank Goodness, that Donny is not going to have to read all these things that people are saying. Because, Donovan knows who truly loves him and who was there for him every step of his life.

Love Grammie <lgstmpr@walla.com>
Tinley Park, IL - Monday, May 7, 2007 3:11 PM CDT

Oh come on now, let's not jump on the bandwagon.
tina
Indianapolis, In - Monday, May 7, 2007 3:10 PM CDT

Darby, I am not going to continue this conversation on the guestbook. I have posted my e-mail address. Please use it if you would like to continue.
Jenny <jennydep@hotmail.com>
Indianapolis, IN - Monday, May 7, 2007 2:43 PM CDT

I am very frustrated that people are continuing to breate Melissa and crticize her parenting skills and mental stability. I understand if people are frustrated about certain choices Melissa has made, but that in no way authorizes awnyone to attack her personal character. In causing Melissa more pain, than the grief she is already dealing with, you are taking away precious time for Melissa to be with Dillion while he is going through his grief. If you are concerned about her parenting make it her eaiser for her to parent not more difficult. Also if you are concerned about her mental stability the best way to approach that situation is not by burtililty attacking her charceter and mental stability but by trying to find her appropriate help (prayer, e-mail a close friend of melissa, over support and encouragement). It seems to me people are not as concerned about the health of her and her family as they are attacking her for the supposed wrong she did to them. I doubt very much Jesus would want any of us to respond to wrong against us in such a manner.
No parent on caringbridge is perfect. No christian, no human being is perfect. The great thing about Caringbridge is that we can come together in our inperfectness and support and love one another. If for some reason you can not do this maybe you need to take a break from caringbridge in general.
I will be praying for EVERYONE involved in this ordeal. May God's healing power touch all of us and mend the hurt and pain we are causing each other.
With much love to EVERYONE,
Heather Misner
Please feel free to e-mail me at my personal e-mail address if you need to have a personal discussion about what I said.

Love you all,
Heather
Heather Misner <ashersmama@yahoo.com>
Midwest City, OK - Monday, May 7, 2007 2:35 PM CDT

Jenny, you are right, I owe Grammie and apology.

Grammie, what I posted was a horrid thing to say, and I am truly sorry. I am sure you loved your grandson as much as any grandmother could and I am deeply sorry for your loss.

Jenny, I guess you will be talking with Melissa about an apology owed by her to the many who doanted as well?

Darby L.
- Monday, May 7, 2007 2:28 PM CDT

I have only met Melissa once but I am close to someone who knows her very well. Many of the sentiments and opinions stated here are felt by some of her friends and family as well. Melissa needs to quit living out her dreams to travel by taking donation money under the pretense of all the money going directly to the LLS. She should offer refunds to those who wish. She should come clean and admit these marathons and bike rides are HER dream and that TNT is a convenient way for her to fulfill these dreams. She needs to focus on Dylan and make sure he knows she's always there for him, not playing second fiddle AGAIN (first to Donovan, now to training). Melissa should give back to Duke and the community there rather than trotting off to Tahoe and Chicago, regardless of her so called dreams. Melissa has disappointed quite a few. Conveniently deleting people's messages or parts of journal entries to hide reality will NOT make it reality. Melissa needs to step up, open up, and be honest.
I will NOT sign my real name/email because I promised my friend who knows Melissa well that I wouldn't disclose their identity.

friend of a friend <notachance@.com>
- Monday, May 7, 2007 2:20 PM CDT

I have been sitting back since deleting messages a few days ago and not saying anything. I can't stay quiet any longer. Darby, your comment about Grammie made me very angry. She is not at all "unstable" and I have no idea where you get that. She is a loving, caring, giving woman who gives 100% of herself for her family. I had the pleasure of hosting her and her husband along with Dylan in our home last week for a couple of days. The love that woman has for her family shines through in the guestbook entries she leaves. She wrote as if she were talking to Donovan. Maybe that's where you get the idea that she's unstable, because she allows herself to do something out of the norm. Well, Darby, that's not instability. That's pure love. I watched the tears roll down her face as we looked at pictures I have of Donovan and his family. She is a precious woman who does not deserve any harsh words be spoken against her. I hope you will do the right thing and post an apology to her.
Jenny <jennydep@hotmail.com>
Indianapolis, IN - Monday, May 7, 2007 2:07 PM CDT

Dear Melissa-
Congratulations on completing the race in Indy! I think it is very appropriate for you to return to Donovan's hometown to run in his honor. I applaud your efforts in raising money and awareness to fight this horrible disease!
Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers and wishing you a safe return to N.C.!
Julie Sessor
Julie Sessor <juliesessor@cox.net>
Roanoke, VA - Monday, May 7, 2007 2:02 PM CDT

I am not close to Melissa at all but I will say I have never in my life heard of such rude people. This is crazy! Find something better to do with your time. There are people in this world doing much worse things than what you all are accusing Melissa of doing, go attack them!!
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- Monday, May 7, 2007 1:58 PM CDT

While reading these entries, I don't know what to think...I personally know the family, and I'm not scared to put my name! While nobody knows entirely what is going on with THEIR family but them, the most we can do is support them in whatever direction life takes them. This site is about DONOVAN...and Melissa is doing what she feels necessary to prevent other parents from going thru what her and Darren have gone thru. I commend her for that, and to those who say she's a bad mother, you have no idea...unless you've been around her, those words mean nothing. Melissa is a GREAT mother...Anyone around her for any amount of time would know that she loves Dylan immensely and loved Donovan as much as any mother could. Donovan taught me so much in the time that he was here. He had an amazing impact on everyone who met him, and everyone who read about him. Everyone says Melissa is all about her...well what about all she talks about Dylan, how she's trying to get Dylan help, the parties she takes Dylan to, all the things she does FOR Dylan. Lets not forget what this family has been thru and continues to go thru as people are casting stones. I offer nothing but support for the entire family, and I KNOW they appreciate that. If anyone has anything to say to ME, please feel free to e-mail me...Melissa, Darren, Grammie included...I meant what I said about ALWAYS helping, regarding.
Kristi <cmdknw@yahoo.com>
Willow Spring, nc - Monday, May 7, 2007 1:56 PM CDT

Please don't forget that along with all the other "commitments" Melissa is devastated if she misses an episode of Greys Anatomy!! Yes, those who are close to Melissa and feel the need to defend her, get her some counseling.
I agree
- Monday, May 7, 2007 1:38 PM CDT

To Tired of the Holier than Thous,

Melissa is a disgrace to Motherhood. Her baby son dies, she takes of on a begged-for, free trip to the Super Bowl (because that's what Donovan would have wanted--YEAH right, whatever) and she leaves behind a grieving father (who just happens to be her HUSBAND) and she also leaves behind her first-born, Dylan, who just lost his only sibling and needs his mother. She is taking time to make crafts to "auction" on CB, and in training for more marathons. When is she spending any time with poor Dylan. He must have a thousand questions. He needs the loving arms of his mother and to be listened to like only a parent can. Its pathetic. And many of you are right, she needs psychiatric help, desperatly!!!! Why is there no one to intervene before she destroys herself anf her child. Of course "grammie" sounds just as unstable.
Darby L.
- Monday, May 7, 2007 1:28 PM CDT

There are so many people that just enjoy reading all of the fuss on this website that I am sure that they will be very disappointed when it is taken down. Shame on those people.
If you don't like what Melissa is doing, don't donate and don't visit the website anymore, period. Get over it and go on.
Tina
Indianapolis, In - Monday, May 7, 2007 1:11 PM CDT

It is so sad to come on to this site again today and find a bunch of people still bickering about things. Why can't everyone just end it? Darren and his family have put entries back onto this site about Donovan and his life. I think that we all need to step back and remember who this site is actually for and that would be BABY DONOVAN!!! Remember that the next time you go and leave a message here. Lets all end the fighting, name calling and bickering.. Everyone needs to come together again and pray for this family as we all have done for the past tw years. Most everyone knows that the pain and support shouldn't end because the child dies. Afterwards is when they need the most, so lets give it to them!! Please for the sake of Darren, Dylan, and ^Donovan^ lets all pray. And I think that some of you can, if you try to, forgive Melissa. God would want you to.
Love in Christ
faithful follower for ever
- Monday, May 7, 2007 12:53 AM CDT

Melissa,
I am so proud of you...keep going. Please stay positive!
You are making the world a better place.
Keep running, jogging, cycling...
I will support your goals in life. By running in the marathons, you are representing an awarness of a very serious illness. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Tamara Marsh <FMarsh3037@aol.com>
Fresno, CA USA - Monday, May 7, 2007 12:24 AM CDT

That was from Melissa's journal February 10th.
Jay
- Monday, May 7, 2007 12:11 AM CDT

Sarah, I have a feeling this guestbook entry from LAST NIGHT just might be from Melissa. Who ever left it still has no clue. Is it you, Melissa?

"I know this will not be an easy task as I now take on a new adventure (if you will) and that is trying to figure out what the heck I am going to do now!!! I have no idea...I just want TO BE...I want to be me and hang out with Dylan, travel, run marathons, and hopefully do what I have been wanting to do for a long time now but just never got the chance to. I want to ride the Century ride (100 miles up and down) in Lake Tahoe this year for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society's Team in Training. ( I hope its not too late yikes!!!)
remember when...
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 9:04 PM CDT "
Maureen
- Monday, May 7, 2007 11:58 AM CDT

On Melissa's Feb. 10 journal entry she says it best herself - "I want to be me and hang out with Dylan, travel, run marathons, and hopefully do what I have been wanting to do for a long time now but just never got the chance to." She also states in about every entry since then that she wants to fulfil a DREAM of running the Chicago marathon.
To the defenders of Melissa, most of the people who visit caringbridge sites have either been in Melissa's shoes or have been. Most are caring people who offer encouragement and even donations. Melissa has taken advantage of people's generousity. She uses Donovan's memory to get donations so she can fulfil dreams. She has misled everyone about the ammount of donations going directly do the LLS. I have never seen a more greedy, selfish woman than Melissa. How can anyone defend dishonesty and greed? Yes, everyone grieves differently but that isn't an excuse for bad behavior.
Melissa, do the right thing - offer to refund people's money. Quit living your dreams and focus on Dylan.
Sarah
- Monday, May 7, 2007 11:39 AM CDT

To Tired of the Holier than Thous, Your rant was just that, a rant. Most of us have followed this journey of Baby Donovan from the beginning, many of us have a child with leukemia or have lost one to leukemia or other cancer so we GET IT. During Baby Donovan's last days, Melissa was busy begging for Super Bowl tickets and airline tickets for her relatives in Arizona. If you read her journal you will have a hard time finding an entry in the last month of Baby D's life that she didn't mention her desire to go to the Super Bowl. When the Super Bowl tickets where provided along with transportation and hotel for the weekend, who did Melissa take with her? HER COUSIN. Fundraising is wonderful rewarding way to work through grief, I know! It's the venues that have people upset. When Melissa goes to Tahoe will Dylan be with her? If so who will watch him? Will their travel expenses be provided? These questions are important to people who have donated. Melissa needs to get a job, maybe she can get one through a non-profit organization raising funds for pediatric cancer. There are several organizations where she can put her talents to good use and establish a career as well. Most of all the whole Rasmussen family remains in my prayers.
Dean R.
Las Cruces, NM - Monday, May 7, 2007 10:30 AM CDT

Uhhh, I think if you look up from her butt you see a picture of Donovan, the reason she ran the race,,,,open your eyes,,and perhaps you mind,,you go Melissa - Donovan was right there with you. Oh, and the ribbons represent all the children alive and past she ran for. gosh you people are sad. I will stop praying for Melissa, you negative folks need it more.
Tired of the Holier than Thous.
Orlando , fl USA - Monday, May 7, 2007 10:30 AM CDT

I was so praying for Baby Donovan�s recovery. I have to say that I think most people are being �extremely cruel� with what you are writing. Has everybody forgotten what this family has been through? They uprooted their WHOLE life and moved to NC to get their child help. Melissa has spent hundreds of hours in the hospital with her son. I think they did everything they could possible do to save him. I have to say that although I have not walked in Melissa�s shoes I can�t imagine myself going to the Superbowl so soon after my son passed away. However WE ALL GRIEVE DIFFERENTLY. Maybe she did want to get her mind off things for a while. One thing I do agree with some people on is that Melissa definitely needs help. Let�s face it� who would not need help after watching your son die. I only wish that instead of separating that the family stayed together. I think she needs her husband as much as he needs her and little Dylan needs both of them. Maybe a fresh start somewhere away from North Carolina would benefit them all.
L Allen
Johnson City, NY USA - Monday, May 7, 2007 10:04 AM CDT

WOW, I am shocked, saddened and appalled at the recent entries I have read concerning this family. As a man who has lost his family thru numerous avenues of death: suicide, cancer and heartattacks I know first hand how grief can take a toll. Many people handle these tragedies in a variety of ways; drugs, alcohol, retreats to catatonic states of mental breakdowns etc....For a mother to stand by and watch a son slowly die of a disease it is uplifting to see her take on challenges in the name of her deceased child and try and raise money for an orginization that funds research to battle those diseases and help the financial hardship of families in those battles. I put the question before you - are all the others who have lost children or adults thru cancers also as you call them disgraceful when they try to carry on a memory thru fundraising?? Remember - handle the log in your eye is best before trying to clean that speck from someone elses. The energy many of you have spent writing, not words of encourgement, but rheotric of negativity should be used in positive ways: walking the Relay for Life, visiting a childrens cancer ward or holding the hand of a dying child as he takes his last breath. We all handle the rough road life lays before us in many differnet ways. I do not see a selfish motive on this site, except from those who wish to carry on the "blame bad mom" syndrome. You folks obviously need a hobby. I cheer any mom who goes thru this tragedy and tries to raise funds for ANY organization that tries to do reasearch and perserve the life of a dying human. So don't write, DO! stop placing blame, for there is none and do something, get off the couch, off the computer and look around I am sure you can find something more positive to do with you time. If you disagree with Melissas avenue for carrying on this cause, so be it, that is America, but remember her judge is upstairs not if front of a PC. I pray you ask for forgiveness. And like the cliche,,,,Opinions are like a@#holes, everyone has one. And it seems like a lot of gas is floating around.
Tired of the Holier than Thous.
Orlando, Fl USA - Monday, May 7, 2007 9:47 AM CDT

guess what??? someone deleted the donation stuff from the homepage...it doesn't say 100% anymore! stop donating and she will stop asking. Pray for Dylan, Darren and the rest of his family. Pray that Melissa gets the help she needs, before she scars Dylan too badly. It is sad she took down the top pictures of the boys with their father and put up a picture of her BUTT...
prayer works Nik
- Monday, May 7, 2007 9:29 AM CDT

While I am NOT a Melissa supporter by any stretch of the imagination, I think the guestbook could do without calling Melissa a "disgrace of a mother". It is very obvious Melissa has some serious mental issues to deal with. I can only hope that all her supporters are encouraging her to seek professional counseling. Anybody who has lost a child, as I have myself, knows that the stages of grief last months, even years, some stages never go away. When Melissa stated I am through the anger stage, she is only lying to herself. As a grieving parent I have learned to accept what has happened, but I would never say I am through the anger stage. I truly believe Melissa is trying to stuff everything down and not deal with the real pain and emotions that comes with losing a child. Melissa, I encourage you to seek professional help--if not for you, for Dylan. Your priorites are all mixed up right now, you HAVE to deal with
the loss of your precious baby D. I really don't think you've allowed yourself to do that yet.
Jill H.
MN - Monday, May 7, 2007 8:47 AM CDT

I want to say a hige KUDDOS to Barbara, Anna & Amy. Melissa, honestly you are a disgrace as a mother. You are a huge "ME" person. You first at all costs. Dylan needs you to work through HIS grief. You as a mother owe him to BE THERE for him. Not to be traveling around the country "living your dreams". Your dreams will still be there years from now, but Dylan needs you NOW. I agree with getting the pictures of you off the site. Mothers of sick children that I've has seen posted pictures of are frazzled looking. They look like they have had no sleep since I don't know when. You were/are always a polished up - makeup done and hair in perfect order. SHAME ON YOU!
Darby L.
- Monday, May 7, 2007 8:05 AM CDT

Thank you Darren (and to your mother and sister) for giving some integrity back to Baby D�s CB site. I never met your family but that does not mean that Donovan didn�t take a little piece of my heart with him to heaven. I appreciate so much hearing stories from his family, giving us some insight into just who the little guy we fell in love with was. Thank-you!!! Anytime you feel like sharing more, we�d love to hear from you. God Bless you Darren, and Dylan too.
Deb Mathy <debmathy@new.rr.com>
Green Bay, WI - Monday, May 7, 2007 7:55 AM CDT

Melissa,
I can assume you completed your run and are feeling very proud of yourself. Anyone who trains for something and can accomplish there goal is on a "high", and you have the right to feel that way also. I am sure once you start reading all these comments, your mood will change. From what I gather from all of this, many people loved Donovan even if they never met him. They "adopted" your family by praying and giving financial support. No one ever regrets what they did. I think people feel now that another chapter of your life has begun. You can no longer use Donovan as a means of support for yourself. Keep his memory alive in a positive way. Yes, I understand that for you that means biking and riding and that is fine. Just do it on your own dime. There are many positive ways that can be done. You don't have to travel around the country to do that. It seems you missed a big opportunity right there at Duke. For Donovan's sake Melissa, put your own agenda aside and clear up this mess.
Amy Frye
- Monday, May 7, 2007 7:07 AM CDT

As Donovan's last days were evident and Melissa was commenting on Grey's Anatomey and begging for Superbowl tickets, a mother of a child who passed away stated her disgust with Melissa. Melissa's friends crucified that poor mother. Many people responded with sympathy and understanding for that woman, unfortunatley, of course all those remarks were quickly deleted. As I read how so many people feel I think of that mother. If you still check this site, I hope you are doing o.k.
ANNA LEA DIREOR
- Monday, May 7, 2007 6:59 AM CDT

Randal,

You are shaking your finger at everyone and yet you choose to right negative things about Darren. He is not the author of this site. It is pretty obvious that Melissa and her "friends" have control and put or delete what they wish here. To drag Darren in here in a negative way is a disgrace on your part. His reply to you shows his dignity and love for both of his sons. I will repeat what others are saying, the problem people have is Melissa using this site to ask for handouts for herself and her own wishes. I read a few days ago, but of course it was deleted, how no one really cares what Melissa does with her time, just stop using this site as a way to fund it. Also, we are a little tired of hearing her toot her own horn. Thousands of people pariticipate in TIN and marathons and races everyday. I have personally done it for over 10 years and I can tell you it takes a lot of time away from your family. Who is taking care of Dylan while Melissa is spending all this time training and participating in events. He needs someone to spend time with him. The last 2 years have been dedicated to Donovan as it should have been. Melissa needs to focus on the child she has left and not her own wants. That is truly what a Mom does. Am I saying she gives up her own life, no , but sometimes a s parents, we put our own wishes on the back burner. The Duke walk would have been a wonderful opportunity for Melissa and Dylan to do something wonderful together in honor of Donovan, but we all know what she choose instead. If the site does stay up, Melissa please take the pictures of you off. I am tired of seeing you in your jersey and you and your friends drinking. That has nothing to do with Donovan.
Barbara Montley <bmontley @hotmail.com>
- Monday, May 7, 2007 6:53 AM CDT

I too feel it's so very sad to see what has become of precious Donovan's site.

Donovan, you were such a mighty warrior! I must have followed your site for 2 years, hoping, praying and begging for your miracle each and every time you relapsed. I will never - ever - forget your gorgeous blue eyes and your contagious smile. I was amazed by your strength to continue to fight so very hard until your body could fight no more. You did it with grace and honor. I have a little boy your age and a daughter as well. Your journey, and the journey of your family, has made me realize how short life is. When I tuck my kids into bed at night, I still hug them more and tell them I love them again and again because of you.

Your little brother loved you so very much and I'm sure he misses you a lot. He may be having a hard time right now but in the long run he will be able to look back and remember the loving memories playing with you, especially in your jeep.

Baby D, you mom and dad are both hurting these days. Their lives have been turned upside down - completely upside down! They both love you and miss you like crazy that is evident for sure. Everyone chooses to deal with death differently - I learned that long ago. Your dad chooses to do it more privately while your mom is throwing it into something physical to try to be closer to you it seems � or to feel your pain. The pain they are both feeling is so great and they have a long road ahead of them. They may be leading their lives separately now but I know you are still an ANGEL looking over them. No one ever wanted this and everyone is hurting so much � send them lots of kisses tonight!

God Bless you sweet Angel � I will never forget you!

Peg <curtiss717@aim.com>
oakdale, mn - Monday, May 7, 2007 1:53 AM CDT

My little Mr. Donovan,
I never met you CHAMP, but you touched my heart more than you or anyone in your family will ever know. I sit hear with tears rolling down my face, remembering how you became an instant member of our family before I even layed eyes on you. Signing up to be a Cancer Warriors Angel was one of the most life changing things that ever happened to me. Every time we went to the store, there would be some little thing that made me think of you - whether it was something Thomas the Train (as you loved it because your Big Brother Dylan loved it) or something we thought you could use. Anjali and I still go to the store and see somthing and we say "Oh look! Donovan would have loved that". In the course of being your 'angel' for two years, however, I learned that my giving of little packages to brighten your days was so much more than that. I would come to this page feeling down and out personally and hearing how you had triumphed over another hurdle once again! Or sometimes to hear how you were feeling so rotten, but would still smile through the tears and flirt with your nurses. Boy, I would think, this little fella is fighting for his life, and still finds a smile within his little heart - why I am feeling so down about my life? God is working miracles in Donovan, have faith!!! I am sorry we never were able to meet in person little fella. You were so close to my heart regardless. I never for one minute have ever regretted anything I gave to you or your family. Whatever I can do to help lift the sadness, the despair, the sorrow that was felt by so many wonderful people in your family, I was happy to do that. I never felt deceived. It has been a joy to get to know your family online, Donovan. I hope they all know how much I care, and what an incredible impact you made in my life. I cannot sit here and pass judgement on others. All I can do is offer my love and support to your family, Donovan. I hope that in the last two years, you were able to somehow feel the incredible love I have for you - and that I was able to make a difference in your life (however small or big it was) just as you and your family have in mine.
God bless you Donovan. I do love you so much little CHAMP! Sending you - and your entire family, ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) all the way from Burlington, Iowa!
Lots & lots of love, 'Angel' Nickey <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 10:00 PM CDT

While We Are Apart I Will Hold You In My Heart and Never Let You Go

Distance may separate us,
But my heart will never let you go,
For I carry a part of you
With me always
It keeps me going through the day
It brings a smile to my face
And tears to my eyes
It is a part of my dreams
That I live for and cherish
That part is my wish, my only one,
To see you again soon
I know that wish will someday come true,
But for now I will hold in my heart
The memory of you
And never let you go

Author Unknown
GOD BLESS THE MEMORY OF BABY DONOVAN
Cami
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 9:27 PM CDT

Darren, God Bless You!!! Thank you so much for reminding people of just why they all come to this site.. Its for the memory of your son, Donovan! I'm so happy to see this evening all the wonderful messages and new stories of your familys time with him. He was a very special little boy, and somehow that was all forgotten this past weekend... I hope that everyone will come together agin and continue to support your family. I'm sure we would all love to hear more stories of Donovan, so keep them coming! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family always.
Rachelle <rml281@YAHOO.COM>
Sidney, MT - Sunday, May 6, 2007 9:14 PM CDT

Go Melissa! I hope you had great success in Indianapolis. Hope everyone joins me in contributing to your Tahoe race. I really admire you for your effort. Cannot imagine how hard this has been,but what a great cause. "Keep on keepin' on"
Midge
Houston, Tx - Sunday, May 6, 2007 9:11 PM CDT

I think about Baby Donovan often and still check from time to time to see if there are any new/old pictures of him or Dylan. I was happy to read the stories about him written by his family tonight when I checked his site. I want to express my deepest sympathy to you, especially Darren, on the loss of this very special, unforgettable angel. Please keep us updated as to how you are all doing and how Dylan is. I will be praying for you.
Hara Dwyer <bckbskc@aol.com>
Barre, VT - Sunday, May 6, 2007 9:06 PM CDT

I know this will not be an easy task as I now take on a new adventure (if you will) and that is trying to figure out what the heck I am going to do now!!! I have no idea...I just want TO BE...I want to be me and hang out with Dylan, travel, run marathons, and hopefully do what I have been wanting to do for a long time now but just never got the chance to. I want to ride the Century ride (100 miles up and down) in Lake Tahoe this year for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society's Team in Training. ( I hope its not too late yikes!!!)
remember when...
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 9:04 PM CDT

I, too, only knew Baby Donovan through this website - I still come here every day to look at his pictures, and to pray for his family, all of you, during this painful time of grieving. His sparkling eyes and that smile.....that was a child who KNEW he was loved. He will never be forgotten - he is right there in your heart. God bless you all.
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Sunday, May 6, 2007 8:25 PM CDT

As a strong supporter of the Rasmussen family, as I am one myself, I too can testify of the beautiful spirit Donovan possesed. He was as so many have mentioned a happy guy, always. One would never know of his pain if it weren't for the lines and tubes connected to him so much of his life. Cancer was all he knew and as his name depicts, a Warrior,in soo many ways. He was and is loved by all. I especially enjoyed celebrating his 1st birthday with him. It was truly a miracle to make it to see his first birthday. Each day of his life was a struggle for him as well as his family and not a single one was taken for granted. We love the support that his daddy lent to him and Dylan during this trying time and know that both boys are and were equally loved by him. My hope is that the family can always hold strong to the wonderful legacy of Baby Donovan, forever.
Aunt Heather <hdable1@hotmail.com>
indianapolis, IN - Sunday, May 6, 2007 8:14 PM CDT

God bless you Darren. You are a wonderful man!
DARREN SUPPORTER 100%
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 8:08 PM CDT

I have been a "silent" follower for sometime now and lately could not believe what I was seeing in the journal entries and also in the guestbook. I follow many caringbridge families and pray for them daily as I do this family. I was overjoyed when I just read the last few wonderful and uplifting entries. Darren's family keep the wonderful Donovan stories coming. Thanks for the updates Darren. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
C.A.
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 7:49 PM CDT

Darren, God bless you and your family during such a difficult time. I am so sorry that Melissa has caused such turmoil and has done so at the expense of the memory of your son (I can appreciate your pain and anguish). It is such a shame. All the best as your move forward on this journey with Dylan. As for you Melissa, please do the right thing...
Emily G.
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 7:33 PM CDT

Darren & Family, Very honest and well said. It's very apparent how much Donovon was loved by you all, not to mention the hurt and pain you are all feeling. I will speak for us all by saying we continue to keep you in prayer. May God comfort you all.
Sad
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 7:28 PM CDT

Darren, you sound like a class act. I am sorry for your loss of Donovan and I'm sure you don't get to see as much of Dylan as you would like either.
Melissa, so much of this controversy would stop if you would just apologize for misleading people. You should offer to refund people if you can as that would be the HONEST thing to do.
Sarah V. <toppergoober@msn.com>
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 7:15 PM CDT

Thank you, Darren and Family, for your messages. I wish with all my heart I had the chance to meet your adorable little boy. It has been such a blessing to get to know him through the pictures and journals over the last two years. His smile has always brought a smile to my face. I loved hearing about the love he had for his big brother and about them playing together. Please know you continue to remain in my prayers.
Laura Lynn and my two little miracle nephews, Asher and ^Jacob^:www.caringbridge.org/visit/asherandjacob <laurainsem@yahoo.com>
Hollidaysburg, Pa - Sunday, May 6, 2007 7:01 PM CDT

To Darren and his family,
Thank you for posting the wonderful memories of Donovan. The class you have all shown in bringing this site back to what is was supposed to be is heartwarming. It is nice to finally hear somebody talk about memories of Donovan besides his other Grammie. Darren, you are a class act. I think we have all felt you and your family have all been pushed aside as this has become the "Melissa Show". May God comfort all of you during this horrific time.
Jill
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 6:58 PM CDT

At Darrens request, I am letting everyone know what Donovan ment to me and my family. We did not get to see Donovan very much because of his illness and the move to NC. His cousins were forever bringing some sickness to the house so that even when they were here in Indy it was hard to visit. However, every time that we saw him, he had the sweetest smile ever! He truly lit up the room. His cousins loved praying for him and talking about him. They learned a great lesson in love and compassion from knowing what their cousin was going through. I will never forget the trip that Darren made home last summer with Donovan. I remember holding him by the pool and how excited he got when Daddy was near. He let me see what a great dad my little brother is and the great capacity that he has to love and be a caregiver. He reminds me of how life is precious and not to be wasted. He reminds me that my own sweet children are blessings and miracles. I will always remember Donovan and the sweet things that he taught our family.
Aunt Cary <CRAIG4CARY@SBCGLOBAL.NET>
greenwood,, IN - Sunday, May 6, 2007 6:41 PM CDT

Hi Darren, just a note to let you know that we love you and are thinking of you all. I especially want everyone reading this page to know what am adorable Grandson we had in Donovan. He was so inspiring to all who knew and loved him. He was a delightful and bubbly little boy. He was full of smiles, hugs and genuinely loved his brother, Dylan. He loved to play ball, enjoyed music, enjoyed being read to, sung to and really enjoyed scrapping with his brother. He was an angel sent from God to teach us all and that he did. We miss him, but, his spirit and memory will be with us forever. Thanks to all of you who have prayed for him and supported his family in any way! We are all very grateful to you. God bless you, Love, Nana & Papaw Rasmussen
Connie Rasmussen <nanpawras@sbcglobal.net>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Sunday, May 6, 2007 6:38 PM CDT

To Randal and everyone else,
This is my email, where is yours. Please note that I'm signing the guest book here and not as the author of the page. I have always come to the guestbook to read kind messages and especially have benefitted from the thoughtful things the prayerbears and others have said. I was feeling down on Saturday so I logged on. I was surprised to see what a mess it has become. When I saw mention of closing it down, I just wanted to say something in order to let people know that their words of encouragement were still welcome. To me, the site no longer reflects much of Donovan. If anyone out there never got the chance to meet him, maybe those who did would like to post and share his impact with everyone.
Donovan was beautiful to me in every way. His time was short, but he packed a big punch. It is tough for me to look at pictures of him from Dec 06 and on. His smile was different. I could really see suffering underneath. Before that it was very pure. I'm grateful for the time we had together and the lessons he taught me about life and love.
Darren Rasmussen <darrenras@gmail.com>
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 6:18 PM CDT

Where are you Darren???????? Why is it you are not deleting all these nasty guestbook entries???????? A very very strange situation indeed.
very concerned <sherryn@drtel.net>
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 6:13 PM CDT

It is not my place to tell anyone about the state of their marriage. I am sure that if you are really a friend, you can email Darren directly with your real name and if he considers you a friend, he will tell you what is going on. I am sure that you will be showing your support when you email him.
truthteller <truthteller@yahoo.com>
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 6:03 PM CDT

Why not just say that they aren't together anymore then..if you know them don't beat around the bush. just tell us the truth we have allready been lied to enough!!
wond
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 5:59 PM CDT

I do know the family. Again, Darren is a private person. He does not need to be hurt any more than he already has by this tragedy or by Melissa. I am sure that someone will contact him and he can answer all of your questions if he so chooses. I am sure that he does not want to abuse this forum as Melissa has done.
truthteller <truthteller@yahoo.com>
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 5:56 PM CDT

You all know you will never get the answers you are looking for. As soon as Melissa gets back or her friend beats her to it, all negative remarks will be deleted, but guess what?, the seeds of doubt have already been planted. I would like to know why questions are never answered, such as, How is Darren?, Is he spending the time he wants with Dylan? Are Darren and Melissa even together anymore? All questions people have ask Melissa on here but have never been given a direct answer, why is that? Why are questions skirted? Now, before you comment, Melissa dosent have to answer questions, but.. when you follow a childs site, give donations to their causes, fall in love with the entire family, then when tragedy strikes, of course the concern is for everyone, not just one person,they all lost Baby D. An update about how Darren and Dylan are really doing would be nice, they have ridden in the back seat long enough, it's time they got a front seat ride. Move over Melissa!!!
Sad
USA - Sunday, May 6, 2007 5:51 PM CDT

truthteller..you don't know the family then????
wondering
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 5:50 PM CDT

When a peson donates to places like the retired vetrens, breast cancer foundations, march of dimes, etc., there is not someone on the other end fulfilling their "dreams of a lifetime" and/or getting extravegant vacations at other people's expenses.
Darby L.
Minneapolis, - Sunday, May 6, 2007 5:49 PM CDT

Darren is a private person. I am sure that those closest to him know what is going on...that is all that matters.
truthteller
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 5:47 PM CDT

to truthteller...what is exactly going on with Melissa and Darren, if you know the family so well?? Why has she just stopped talking about them? and if you really are a truthtell then tell us the TRUTH!!!
wondering
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 5:43 PM CDT

I am sure that Darren does not make entries on this site because of the way that Melissa has abused it. Everyone that has shown their love and support to Darren knows that he appreciates every bit of it. They do not need to be told in this forum.
concerned
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 5:42 PM CDT

That was not Midge's point at all - I believe her comment was directed to the folks that were trying to say this money went to Melissa.
Which Thanksgiving are you trying to get us to believe Melissa went to Arizona and left Darren to watch Dylan? There were only two Thanksgivings during Donovan's life, and both of those she posted journal entries from North Carolina.
Raymond
NC - Sunday, May 6, 2007 5:40 PM CDT

Dear searching for the truthteller:
I can tell you that I know the entire family: Melissa, Dylan, Donovan, and Darren. The only reason that I do not sign my name is because I know the kind of person that Melissa is...She will use anything that is said against her to hurt Darren. He does not need to be hurt by my actions. Melissa has my sympathy as any mother who has lost a child would. Darren and Dylan have my prayers and support because they have not used this tragedy to gain sympathy, recognition, or money. My hope is that they will not be hurt any further by Melissa's antics on this site.
truthteller <truthteller@yahoo.com>
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 5:36 PM CDT

Why doesn't everyone own up to their entries and stop hiding behind names like "hurt and dissapointed, or truthteller"!! You all have the guts to write such nonsense about Melissa and her family why not own up to it!! Or are you all a bunch of two face cowards??? Come on grow up, we are all adults here so start acting like it. And why is it that we don't hear anything from Darren? He has rights to this page and he could of posted at any time. But yet the first words that anyone hears from him was just two days ago. Even after 2 years he finially speaks...wow I would of been on here a long time ago to stop all of this from happening to my family. Do any of you know what has happened to this family, or have you all forgotten? They lost their son and now their marrige is either falling apart or allready ended and then you all stick you noses in. No one forced you to make donations, but yet you all have always helped them out. Why now all the fuss over everything. I understand why everyone is upset, but come on...does every bit of moeny you donate go directly to that cause. How many of you all donate to the retired vetrins, breast cancer foundations, march of dimes, etc.. I bet that not 100% of those go either and yet none of you are fussing about those donations!! Thins may of been intereped wrong, but everyone had to at one time go to the donation site to make theirs. Everything was right there at you fingertips to read, you didn't have to donate!! But you chose to!!!
Randal
NY - Sunday, May 6, 2007 5:32 PM CDT

Midge, do you think we give so we can get a receipt? For some of us it's not about getting a tax write-off!!
Giving for the right reasons
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 5:27 PM CDT

Yes Midge, Melissa is a doer just as long as she can bask in the glory. So many people have jogged my memory over some of the selfish things Melissa has done the last two years. I always gave generously to support baby Donovan. I bought squares on his picture fundraiser several times, and yes I knew 100% of the money went directly to the Rasmussens to use as they saw fit. NO PROBLEM BECAUSE I WASN'T SHAFTED AND DECEIVED. I gave directly to make their Christmas a bit less sad, but....then the Super Bowl WHINING started.."Oh Gosh", and "Gee my one and only life dream..." and....Melissa even indicated that if she took Donovan she would need an extra ticket for a nurse. What mother of a dying child would allow such shallow selfish thoughts to even enter her mind? Melissa also went to Arizona for Thanksgiving with Dylan while Darren watched Donovan. It's always been about what Melissa wants ALWAYS! So Midge, you seem like a very kind generous friend, maybe this would be a good opportunity for you to offer perceptive guidance to your good friend. Lastly, none of us are whiners but we are hurt and disappointed that we were taken for fools. God bless Darren for doing the right thing. I only hope Dylan gets to spend some quality time with his dad.
Hurt and disappointed
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 5:07 PM CDT

Truthteller - how do we know that you know Melissa personally? Maybe if you signed your real name??
Searching for the truthteller
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 4:58 PM CDT

I don't care if I get 100 reciepts, I am not paying for Melissa's VACATION to Tahoe.
agrees with helping hand
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 4:57 PM CDT

I wanted anyone who wishes to donate to Melissa's Tahoe race to know when you send your contribution through Donovan's site you immediately receive a receipt from the Leukemia Society. It goes directly to them. Go Melissa!
Midge Culp
Houston, Tx - Sunday, May 6, 2007 4:44 PM CDT

Yeah Melissa. You are getting so close to your goal. I hope others join me in supporting you. Good job. I know Baby Donovan is so proud of his mom. Congratulations on your hard work and great success. You are a DOER,not a WHINER!!! Go DOERS!!! You make the world a better place. I know all families fighting Leukemia thank you.
Midge Culp <midge@flash.net>
Houston, TX - Sunday, May 6, 2007 4:35 PM CDT

I second this comment from below (IF IT WASN'T DELETED)....I wish just an ounce of this sympathy was directed towards Darren. Darren was the one who had surgery twice for central lines so he could donate cells to Baby Donovan. Melissa chose a friend, not Darren to go with her to make final arrangements. Darren has had to work to support his family without any repreive. Maybe Melissa should take her tiara off and get a job.
God bless you DARREN.
DARREN SUPPORTER 100%
Bradford, pa USA - Sunday, May 6, 2007 4:22 PM CDT

For all of you "Melissa supporters":
I wonder how many of you PERSONALLY KNOW Melissa? I do. I know exactly how many lies, mistruths, and exagerations that she has put on this page to gain sympathy and money that she used for her own gain. This has never been a page about Donovan although it is perported to be...it has been about Melissa. Everyone in the family has suffered a great loss, remember all of them in your thoughts and prayers,but forget about this forum. It has been severely misused. Give your money directly to the Leukemia Society in Donovan's name.
Truthteller <truthteller@yahoo.com>
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 4:20 PM CDT

Melissa,

I am thinking about you this weekend and the race. Although it is a mighty race (as you already know) your right when you say it doesn't compare to the race Baby Donovan endured! Thinking of you and knowing Baby Donovan is behind you, pushing his momma all the way!

~~Jennifer~~ <jenifer66@aol.com >
Bremerton, wa - Sunday, May 6, 2007 2:00 PM CDT

Dear brothers and sisters in Christ,
I know we all have our own opinions about how Melissa is fundraising money. Both sides have certainly shared their feelings on it. I do not condemn anyone for feeling a certain way, but I do ask you to please consider ceasing the messages about the fundraising. Melissa will certainly have an opportunity to read both sides from what has already been written. Now I think the time has come for the discussion to cease and for us to all pray for each other and Melissa. Whether or not you like or dislike her or each other is not the issue. We are to pray for those we love and those we have a hard time loving. Please, end the debate and bend a knee for each other. God bless you all.
Laura Lynn and my two little miracle nephews, Asher and ^Jacob^:www.caringbridge.org/visit/asherandjacob <laurainsem@yahoo.com>
Hollidaysburg, Pa - Sunday, May 6, 2007 12:23 AM CDT

I am not going to place judgement here I will say that I do not think anyone has to worry these comments over the last few says will be deleted, if not the site completely taken down. The reason you can no longer view the comment about father's grief is it was deleted. I understand the frustration but it was allowed to happen and happen for a long time. I agree money can be given to any organization it does not have to go to any one person. I give to ST. Judes monthly and I mail my payment straight to them.
sophie shoaf <sshoaf@charter.net>
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 12:14 AM CDT

I keep reading about a message Melissa wrote about grieving dads, but never saw it and cannot seem to locate it on the site. Would someone please give me the date so I can go back to read????

The very first time I came to this site I thought what a selfish, self-centered "mom" Melissa was. Even while Donovan was still around, you never got to hear much about him. It was always her, her, her. And to say a 2 year old's dream is for his mother to go to the Super Bowl?? C'mon!!!!!!!!!!! And then there is her husband, who once again we never heard much about. Its always been more about her and her Dilly-bar.

She stays and fundraises on CB becuase of all the giving people at visit these childrens sites, PERIOD! She should be telling Donovan stories - giving us some insight into who he was, remembering the good times, like all the other sites of children who are gone. Instead we hear about her dreams, her goals, HER HER HER.
Wondering
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 11:52 AM CDT

Rachelle, this site isn't about Donovan anymore. It hasn't been for a long time - even while he was still alive it was the "Mellisa" show. She acutally claimed that it was partly Dononvan's dream to see the Super Bowl. I'm sorry, but that is ridiculous! Now she has these other dreams and she wants other people to foot the bill for her. In all honesty if her true motive to raise money for research then she would have done the Rainbow Walk or just had people donate directly to LLC, rather than TNT.
She is entitled to her dreams. She is entitled to get donations to fulfill those dreams. BUT she is not entitled to mislead by saying all money donated goes to cancer research, etc.
It isn't the people who write here that has taken the focus off of Donovan, it is Melissa herself.
Don't even get me started on her attitude toward grieving dads. How dare she...Again, another example of the focus on HER.
sick of it <sickofit@msn.com>
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 10:30 AM CDT

Rachelle, The very reason people are upset is because all the lying and deceiving is TARNISHING the memory of Baby Donovan! That's the whole point that you can't seem to understand. We have supported Melissa but Melissa takes us for fools. "Oh Gosh! My life dream is to go to the Super Bowl". Now her life dream is to run marathons in very selective venues that force her to raise more than one closer. I know how TNT works, I have run, swam and rode; I have mentored. If you lived in or near Tahoe, and didn't have to fly in and stay in a resort hotel, the amount you raise is much lower that the amount Melissa has to raise to COVER HER OVERHEAD! TNT has given Melissa a website for fundraising, she should use it to it's full potential. By the way a family at Duke who's daughter is going through her second transplant raised over $17,000 in the Rainbow Walk yesterday. This will go a long way to help families in need.
Disgusted
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 10:13 AM CDT

I personally think that everyone needs to take a step back and remember what this site is really for! DONOVAN, AND HIS MEMORY!!!!! Is this really the place to have your little fights with everyone? I think that you all should respect Donovan and his site and take all of this nonsence somewhere else.

Like I have said before if any of you have a problem with Melissa and what she puts on this site email her directly..
Lets not all tarnish the memory of Baby D!! Remember him, the child. Quit all this bickering an move on. I also wonder why everyone keeps coming back if they are having a hard tme with Melissa and how the TNT events are being done? You all can bash me now that is fine, but there is nothing wrong with this message, it is just simply a plea to remember who this site is actually for DONOVAN!! Not for you or me, just him. Can we all please stop this bickering and move on to giving Melissa the support that she needs?!?! And if you can't do that please move on to another site or email her directly. Lets stop tarnihing Baby D's site. We love you little boy!!
Rachelle <rml281@yahoo.com>
Sidney, MT - Sunday, May 6, 2007 9:38 AM CDT

Its one thing to raise funds to take care of your family and sick child due to such dire circumstances (and no one should be faulted for that if such assistance is truly necessary), it is another thing to be doing what Melissa is doing. Please go somewhere else. You are tarnishing the loving memory of your son and using this site for your own personal gain. You have every right to pursue your dreams now but it can be done elsewhere. Create your own blog outside of CB and those who want to support you financially can do so there. Everyone is right, Karma...
Emily B.
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 9:25 AM CDT

What I don't understand is why Melissa feelis like to she has to go all the to Lake Tahoe to bike for Donovan? Melissa has a pretty good gig going on. She uses Donovan to realize her dreams. It started with the Super Bowl. We all read about how it was her dream... Now her dream is to do marathon's or whatever. It is disgusting that she can't pony up and be honest about how much of the money she raises go to research. The fact she feels like she has to lie about it shows that she is hiding the fact that it will take a huge chunk of people's money to fly her out to Lake Tahoe, put her up in a 4 star hotel, pay for the lavish party they are throwing after the ride, etc.
Using a sick, dying, or dead child for your onw gain is sick and thats what this is because of her lies.
sick n tired
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 8:32 AM CDT

VK once again, leave that family alone. You don't get it, the problem is not with TIT it is with Melissa begging for money for her own personal agenda. The family you are refering to did state that some of the fund raisers were to help them out, once again they are trying to save their child's life in another country. Melissa is past that,stage. I personally gave money to the Rasumussen family while they were at Duke fully knowing that it would go directly to them. I had no problem with that, Once again, the problem people have is with Melissa wanting donations for her own personal wishes. Those of you who can't see that need to get out of your box. It is way past time for Melissa to stop using this CaringBridge site for handouts.
Mallory Wright
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 8:15 AM CDT

to VK in NC, NO ONE has a problem with the TNT or the asking for money on their sites. The problem is Melissa misrepresenting the TNT through herslef stating that 100% of the money donated through her goes to research; when in fact only a small % does, the other monies go to her expenses and TNT's overhead.

Also, she still has Donovan's picture fundraiser up for DYLAN's schooling; she's selling homemade canisters for bids, etc. Last I checked I was at Caringbridge.com and NOT Ebay.
Darby L.
Minneapolis, MN - Sunday, May 6, 2007 7:31 AM CDT

Victoria Knott, TNT is NOT the problem, Melissa is. You obviously mad a total fool out of yourself contacting TNT or the LLS! NO ONE HAS A PROBLEM with their events or fundraising. You defenders just don't get it, do you? Do you think so many Donovan supporters, both financially and spiritually got bored and decided to pick on Melissa Rasmussen for lack of entertainment or something? Take a step back and look at the big picture. I wish just an ounce of this sympathy was directed towards Darren. Darren was the one who had surgery twice for central lines so he could donate cells to Baby Donovan. Melissa chose a friend, not Darren to go with her to make final arrangements. Darren has had to work to support his family without any repreive. Maybe Melissa should take her tiara off and get a job.
disgusted
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 7:25 AM CDT

To Mallory Wright, I believe you are the school child not reading an entire paper! I do not owe anybody an apology because I was not being critical of them. I said I do not think they are doing anything wrong because I do not see a problem with asking for money. And if you read their site, they also asked for money for their own fund in addition to the Rainbow Walk. Again, I see nothing wrong with this. I spoke with somone from the Team in Training office yesterday and they were amazed that anyone had a problem with the way this organization works because it is one of the hightest rated fundraising organizations around. Good luck Melissa!
Victoria Knott <cvknott@nc.rr.com>
Raleigh, NC - Sunday, May 6, 2007 6:55 AM CDT

Victoria Knight, shame on you for mentioning another family and their raising money for Duke. Every penny of that money goes directly to children and their families to try and put a little happiness in the hell they go through while they are there. I would hope you at least have the decency to apologize to that family. You are like a school child who has done something wrong, you think by blaming others, it makes what you did or in this case Melissa, not as wrong. I check in on many sites daily and some do mention various fund raisers. They all mention exactly what the money is going to be used for. That is where Melissa was wrong she plainly stated that 100% of the money went to research. You are correct, we can not begin to imagine what it is like and the cost of living away from home and having to leave our incomes to save the life of our child. You seem to forget though that Melissa is done with that part of it. There is no reason now that she can not go out and work to fund her personal desires. If she chooses to beg for money, that is totally up to her I think the problem a lot of people have is that CaringBridge was not meant for the purpose of personal gain. If anyone is causing Baby Donovan's memory to be tarnished it is all of you who continue to try and justify Melissa. I know that is not what anyone wanted to happen.
Mallory Wright <mwright@yahoo.com>
- Saturday, May 5, 2007 11:50 PM CDT

To Sick of all this childishness, I love the way you chastise those on both sides of this divide but yet think you have some special dispensation to spew your caustic view all over the place. You must be special like Melissa. No one else is allowed to air their concerns but you!!
Most of us are probably upset because we have been deceived by Melissa. NONE of us have said anything degrading about her grieving or defame Angel Donovan. Actually its because we have come to love that child that his mother's actions are so offensive to us. Going back to visit old friends at the expense of LLS in IN and Chicago is very offensive. Tahoe is a resort destination. It's always been about Melissa. I was niave for a long time. The walk at Duke would have been a nice way to raise money and pay back for all the financial assistance Melissa got from the auxillary. Melissa doesn't work, and while that's a personal decision but don't ask others to "fulfull your live dreams".
Disgusted <yaddaya@aol.com>
- Saturday, May 5, 2007 11:28 PM CDT

I agree, with a resounding AMEN!!!
Erin Thompson <thompsonfamily35@verizon.net>
Belvidere, IL USA - Saturday, May 5, 2007 10:53 PM CDT

Can you not read? The Chicago Marathon as well as the Indy and the Tahoe are all three part of LLS Team in Training - the $11,000 is the TOTAL of all three - this is just ridiculous, and each and every one of you on BOTH sides should be ashamed - you are throwing stones just to throw them, with out a care in the world who they hurt -bringing in other families, and then hurling insults at each other. How sad - and for what? And yes, Melissa is a grown woman and can stand up for herself - supposedly we are all grown-ups, and can make our own decisions as well, without people trying to "one-up" the last poster in insults.
Rest in peace, sweet Baby Donovan.........I'm so sorry that all these people are so high up on their righteous high horses that they have completely forgot you....and now tarnished this memoir of yours.
Sick of all this childishness
- Saturday, May 5, 2007 10:38 PM CDT

I agree with everything that is being said. We should be asking more questions. Melissa, why are you asking for donations for marathons or mini-marathons that are not even associated with LLS or any charitable organization? Why are you asking for thousands of dollars to run the Chicago marathon? Why such a specific number to raise ($11,000)? Are these checks being made out to you personally? As with everyone, something is not right here. As for those who say that "if you don't like it, don't donate or don't visit this site" you are completely missing the point. This is "our" community that is comprised of people truly in need and what is going on here is tarnishing that reputation and I (and those like me) have every right to stand up and object. If you are truly Melissa's friends or have her best intentions, you should be persuading her to move on from this forum. CB should be notified.
An Insulted Father
- Saturday, May 5, 2007 10:13 PM CDT

To Victoria Knight, how dare you compare Alexia's family and their fundraising events toward the Duke walk with what Melissa is doing. Alexia and her family have left their country and are fighting for their daughter's life a second time. Every single cent they have asked for has gone directly to Duke to help children and their families. Melissa took advantage of this as was deserved, but she leaves to go on a trip back home and visit friends as she puts it on everyone else's dime. To those of you who now feel betrayed by Melissa, it is only because of your kind hearts and good intentions that you were mislead. I re-read her original plea for money and Melissa even states that it has been her dream to run the Chicago Marathon. Now she can do it and not have to pay a dime. I am sure this post will not even make it on the site or will not stay up long if it does. This will be my last entry and I will not visit this site again. Personally, I would check because I was amazed at the nerve Melissa had to go out and beg on people who were felling sorry for her. The comparison of Melissa's fundraising and those of Alexia's family have made me disgusted. This will be my last visit to this site. Those of you who feel you are protecting Melissa, are doing more harm than good. She is a grown woman, let her handle her decissions. If you feel she is doing no wrong, then why bring up other names, I am more disgusted by those of you who are naming other families than I am of Melissa. I will always wish the best for Melissa, Darren and the rest of the family, but this is my last visit to this site.
ANNA LEA DIREOR
Riceland, Va - Saturday, May 5, 2007 10:13 PM CDT

Melissa,
Hope the race went well, and that you felt the presence of your little angel with you the entire time...

To Wondering:
The Rainbow of Heroes walk at Duke is in Honor AND Memory of ALL the children who have had a transplant at Duke, on the 5200 unit. They pay particular attention to the children who had a transplant the previous year, and commemorate those beuatiful children and some young adults with their names on a t-shirt and cake.
Families from all over the country come to Duke for this walk; if I remember correctly, this is the 5th annual walk.

Dawn Runde, mom to James, relapsed Stage 4 Neuroblastoma warior
Greensboro, NC www.jamesrunde.com - Saturday, May 5, 2007 10:05 PM CDT

To VK in NC, you state 90% of CB site "fundraise", and mention spefically Alexia. However, what your forgeting is these families are gaining NOTHING from their fundraising. No trips "home", etc. 100% of the money they are raising goes DIRECTLY to the fund they are fundraising for. CB states specifically that fundraisinf for "personal gain" is not allowed. I think gas, food, lodging, is all considered personal gain.
Darby L.
Minneapolis, MN - Saturday, May 5, 2007 10:04 PM CDT

I agree so much with the post by Mallory Wright, raffeling the Super Bowl tickets could have raised more money in one shot than all these marathons put together. I too could not believe she could even think about going.. . UGH! And don't come back with everyone grieves differently, thats not grieving..thats PERSONAL GAIN. From the beginning this has been more about Melissa than Donovan anway. CB needs desperatly to intervene here and either refresh her on what CB is for or shut her down!
agrees with helping hand
- Saturday, May 5, 2007 9:45 PM CDT

To you who said Melissa should be in her hometown where baby D was born to run the race today...you are WRONG. The walk at Duke today was IN HONOR of Baby D as well as all the other little children who have died since last years walk. I do not think the race in IN was dedicated to Donovan. Plus, like other have mentioned, the 5200 Auxillary is where Melissa and her family got a majority of their help when they were treating @ Duke. It was terrible of her to not want to raise funds for that cause and stay @ home where there would be NO EXPENSES taken out of what was raised.
Wondering
Wonderville, - Saturday, May 5, 2007 9:38 PM CDT

If a rule in Caringbridge is that you can not use it for personel gain, then someone should have contacted them when Melissa was pleading to go to the SuperBowl. I am very sorry for the loss this family went through. But it is beyond my imagination that a mother could be thinking about the Superbowl, while her son is dying. I read breifly, because it was erased, that it would have been so much better if possibly the trip to the Superbowl were raffled off and the money given to Leukemia research, or if Melissa had given it to one of the many families she met while at Duke who could have enjoyed it with their child. I know there were many children who would have loved to go on that trip. Once again, I wish someone could make me understand why Meilssa "earned" that trip. Darren, I commend you for not attending. I admire you for the comments you do not make. I am sure none of us can begin to understand what you have been going through. Melissa, we are all sorry for what you have gone through, but there are so many people out there who did go through what you went through and they do everything possible to raise awareness of childhood cancer. They just don't do it for their personal benefit. If you want to travel, then do so on your own dime. If you want to raise money for research, then do it without personal gain. If you want to run marathons or bike , then great, do it, but do it without begging for money. I agree, perhaps it is time to close this site. Or better yet, keep it open and just update us on how the family is doing and don't ask for money. Look at so many other Caringbridge sites, that is what most of those Moms are doing.
Mallory Wright
Sheridan, Ga - Saturday, May 5, 2007 9:29 PM CDT

I totally agree, with the comments concerning deleting entries that don't go with your personal "Karma" and as for giving a false email address, that is probably being done, because people are tired of being pursued for money. The site is to inform people of the condition of the person the site is dedicated to. The only purpose of the site know seems to be raising money to once again fufill Melissa's personal wishes. Sadly, hundreds, perhaps thousands of parents go through what Melissa went through each day. It is sad and I can't begin to imagine what it would be like. How dare you compare what Alexia and Noelle's parents along with others who mentioned the Duke Rainbow Walk on their site, that to Melissa. I totally agree, it would have been a powerful statement for her to raise money for the people who helped her when she was there. ALL, 100% of that money goes straight to families going through what Melissa went through. You talk about cruel people and people without hearts, well how dare you compare Melissa's request for funding for her travels to these people who are trying to give a little back while they are fighting to save their children's lives. AS far as Darren, I commend him for the way he has so graciously handled all of this. Dads may have different feelings that Moms, but their's are just as real and strong. I am sure this will never make it on the site, or get erased if it does, because it seems that is the way Melissa and her friends work. If you don't agree, state your feelings. When you use a public forum to beg for money they you should be open to hear all comments. If you can't defend your actions, then look long and hard. My heart breaks for this family, but it is time for Melissa to stop begging and move on.
Judica Colinta
Lake Radson, WI - Saturday, May 5, 2007 9:06 PM CDT

Just a note to say I'm thinking about you. Hope you had a great day with everyone back in Indy. Love ya loads....xoxo

I'm sure Donovan is so proud of his mommy. :)
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
nj - Saturday, May 5, 2007 9:01 PM CDT

To the people with a problem of Melissa asking for donations.. Go Away.. She is fighting for a good thing... If you don't want to donate don't... Why are you even reading this site.. You oblivously know that this site is now about grieving and fund raising..So what else do you expect to read.. Let Melissa fight for what she wants.. These are good people.. I am sure knowing Darren that he can stand up for himself...He is a good dad and man. I pray that this family can stay together, knowing how life is, I can't say that staying together is always possible.. Melissa stay strong and fight for Angel Donovan..
Kelly <mkpledger@netzero.com>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Saturday, May 5, 2007 7:10 PM CDT

Melissa has particiapted in the Rainbow Walk in the past and has given them, and other organizations that have helped her family, credit on her caringbridge site. She put the webite for Team in Training on her website for all to read. If someone went to the website to donate and chose not to read it, then that is their fault. To say Melissa lied is ridiculous. And if asking for donations for a fundraiser is against caringbridge rules, then they need to shut down 90% of the sites. I have followed at least 60 caringbridge sites over the past two years and at least 90% of them solicited money. In fact, for the people talking about the Rainbow Walk, one of the sites I found on this site was Alexia's and her family has been asking for money for that walk for weeks. They also ask people to donate to the "Alexia's Fundraising Campaign". Unlike the negative person below, I do not see anything wrong with this. It is a person's choice to help another family. Unless you have been there, you do not know the financial hardship a person goes through with a diagnosis of cancer, especially if you have to move to another city for treatment. If Melissa wanted to go to a fundraiser in Baby D's hometown, even if it meant missing a local event, who are we to judge her. Again, if you have a problem with Melissa, find another site to follow. There are plenty of kids who need some visitors. Good luck finding a site that does not mention a fundraiser.
Victoria Knott <cvknott@nc.rr.com>
Raleigh, NC - Saturday, May 5, 2007 6:59 PM CDT

Melissa, you have been on my mind all day. I am so glad you got to run in this marathon, and I feel blessed to have been able to give to a cause so many of us care about. Praying for safe travels, for comfort and peace within your heart, knowing you did something to honor and support all the little fighters out there like your baby. God bless you and your family.
Laura Lynn and my two little miracle nephews: www.caringbridge.org/visit/asherandjacob <laurainsem@yahoo.com>
Hollidaysburg, Pa - Saturday, May 5, 2007 6:44 PM CDT

The link for the walk being conducted at Duke today is www.cancer.duke.edu/pbmt/rainbows/ if anyone is interested in seeing the event that Melissa chose to pass up. As with all the other entries, I am sure this one will be deleted to protect Melissa because she is grieving and this will be seen as "negative and nasty and non-supportive". NOBODY is begrudging Melissa her current state of grief. Even her own husband stated "this is Melissa's forum" and he was not comfortable intruding on it. Grief is an emotion, not an excuse. Isn't this "Donovan's" forum? Many of you are faithful Caringbridge followers. I just find it odd that Grammie can come on here and "talk" to precious Baby D, but Melissa has this site centered all around her. She has dismissed the feelings of fathers, and when she received criticism for that, she erased her post and any of the entries related to it. What Melissa and her "supporters" do not understand is when you make all the negativity disappear it creates a feeling of deception. How different would people have felt if Melissa would have posted, to all you fathers out there, I apologize for offending you, that was not my intent. Instead it was all deleted. The real world is not about always feeling good and warm and fuzzy. Grieving or not, you make a mistake, say something stupid, you print something incorrectly, you own up to it, acknowledge your mistake/error and move on. Then if people continue to go on about it, that is there problem. Melissa has made no acknowledgements of anything. We are all human, we all make mistakes, but somehow trying to hide all of this from Melissa, is not helping the situation. Yes, Caringbridge has been notified.
Robert H
- Saturday, May 5, 2007 5:41 PM CDT

Melissa,
This race is finished! It must have been overwhelming to run for your hero in his birthplace -- the place you should have returned to WITH him, not without. I can understand completely why this race would bring you home to run for Donovan and all of the other children you have met who are struggling in NC. You have brought the struggles of those children to IN and you have championed their cause. You should be walking proud on those exhausted legs!
Onward.
Sarah
Wauwatosa, - Saturday, May 5, 2007 5:33 PM CDT

Not only is the Rainbow of Heroes Walk being held today to honor Donovan and other precious brave kids, but this is the very organization that was there for Melissa when she was in need. Even though Melissa won't be there, others are honoring Donovan at the Rainbow of Heroes Walk today. I personally donated to three different families who are doing the walk while their babies are currently on the bmt floor (5200) at Duke. You know who they are Melissa; Alexia, Noelle, and Sheryl.
heavy heart
- Saturday, May 5, 2007 5:22 PM CDT

Rainbow of Heroes Walk - Saturday, May 5, 2007

Here is a ?? for all you Melissa Supporters out there.

Melissa moved her family to NC from IN because she thought they offered the best treatment/cure options for Donovan. YET, the very establishment that is having a walk to HONOR the memory of her son today, was not good enough for her to try and wage support for now? Why? I agree with so many of you who have stated she seems to have picked venues that will get her to the places she would like to visit. i.e. Indiana, from where she moved from 1 1/2 years ago.

Sure raises some questions.
Wondering
Wonderville, USA - Saturday, May 5, 2007 4:16 PM CDT

I agree Caringbridge needs to be notified re: what is going on here and Melissa needs to go back and read the rules/regulations of this site. I am sure this post will be deleted upon my return just like every single other one i have posted.

Restrictions on Your Use of this Site
You agree not to use this Site to:

any Content that you know to be false, misleading, or fraudulent;

any request for or solicitation of money, goods, or services for private gain;
agrees with helping hand
- Saturday, May 5, 2007 1:45 PM CDT

I have spent so much time reading Baby Donovans journal over the last months. There have been days that it brought tears to my eyes and somedays a smile to my face. I know that some of you are upset with Melissa with how things have or have not been handled. But for me the bottom line is this.....Melissa loved and cared for her little boy in such a special way. She fought hard for him everyday of his life. And in her own way she is still fighting hard. I would HATE to see anyone have caringbridge close down this page. This is Donvans page. Not mine not yours, but his. It is filled with his pics and his stories. Memories that can not be re done. When I visit this site I want to be able to remember Baby Donovan in a special way. I am sure the money part can be cleared up by Melissa when she gets back to town.
Amy B <amyb1569@cfl.rr.com>
IHB, FL USA - Saturday, May 5, 2007 12:17 AM CDT

It's very admirable that Melissa has a few defenders who refuse to understand that no one has a problem with TNT or the fact that Melissa has signed on to fundraise and participate in events. The fact is, Melissa chose events in venues that were more appealing locations. I have done TNT events, I don't feel as comfortable as Melissa asking my friends and family to donate for me to ride in Tahoe. I settle for something close and not as glamorous but just as rewarding right here in AZ. There are several century rides and there are several marathons. If Melissa were honest people wouldn't get upset. I personally don't appreciate honest well meaning posts being deleted. Not just the ones about TNT but the ones inquiring about Darren and comments about fathers. I AM A CANCER FATHER and it bothers me to no end. Yes, I agree that maybe Caringbridge isn't the right forum for Melissa at this stage.
Scott
Glendale, AZ - Saturday, May 5, 2007 11:57 AM CDT

Good luck to you Melissa!

For those commenting on donations for LLS and the amt that actually helps patients....Sarah's link to LLS shows where the money goes. First let me say that those stats are for the organization as a whole, not just TNT events. THat said, only 10% is management and general (overhead costs)!!! LLS is one of the highest rated non for profit agencies out there, as they keep their overhead to a minimum.

Second, specifically related to TNT, a participant must sign a committment to raise a specified amt of money, which is directly related to the cost of participating in the event. For example, if it is going to cost $500 for your race fee, hotel for the night and travel expenses, you committ to raising $2000. 25% goes to the expenses, 75% to LLS. The more it costs to send you, the more you commit to raising. And when I say commit, I mean if you don't raise it, it comes out of the participants pocket. This isn't a extravegant paid vacation if you don't raise the money. And they do their best to keep the costs down, with group rates, sharing rooms etc. Meals and any extra's are your reponsibility. And if you pay your own expenses, then 100% of the money you raise is going to LLS. AND it is also possible in some cases to "earmark" the money raised for something specific, such as research or patient assistance.

So for those donating, a minimum of 75% of what you donate goes to LLS to help the patients they represent. Nothing goes to the participant. Sure a portion is probably paying for their expenses, but its not a lot, and its not unreasonable. TNT events bring in alot of money to help patients fighting cancer. I don't know if Melissa misquoted something or not, but I HIGHLY DOUBT she ever tried to purposly mislead anyone! If you have a question about how something was worder, ask her respectfully. Don't slam her efforts to help cancer patients and their families.

Heather, mom to Brianna dx ALL , www.caringbridge.com/ny/mylittlesunshine, daughter to Pete, dx CLL. SCT 8/3/06 www.caringbridge.org/visit/petek
Syracuse, NY USA - Saturday, May 5, 2007 9:47 AM CDT

Melissa, we don't question the authenticity of your grief, but it does appear that you are deceiving people. Please stop using this site as a source for fundraising, including for your own personal benefit. Stop censoring these posts, it is further evidence of your deception. You are not telling everyone the entire truth about many things. Please remind yourself of your own words...Karma. You are taking advantage of the loving intentions of others. For those who are going to react negatively to this post and others like it, you need to ask yourself why is she selectively revealing truths about herself and her situtation. Ask the right questions and question your own conscience. If you want to support her please do so (it is a beautiful gesture) but please do it somewhere else and outside of this forum. You have turned this wonderful site into something it was never intended to be. I believe the Caringbridge administrators should be informed of what is going on here.
A Voice of Conscience
- Saturday, May 5, 2007 8:54 AM CDT

And how much of your donation, even given directly TO LLS, goes for research - I'll gurarantee you it is NOT 100% - every organization has it's overhead, management costs, etc.
John
- Saturday, May 5, 2007 8:39 AM CDT

Jenny, no disrespect to you, and this isn't a nasty message about Melissa, but you have your facts wrong and it is unfair to expect people to donate while giving false info. Here is the link to where TNT money goes: http://www.teamintraining.org//all_page.adp?item_id=451789
Melissa said 100% goes to research. The FACTS say 27% and if you want to say "patient and community service" is finding a cure then another 27%. That totals still only 54%. The rest of the money is for more fundraising, etc. Please quit trying to hide where Melissa's donations go. People have the right to know. Personally, I did not donate because I would rather give directly to that my donation goes more toward finding a cure than other things. I'm sure you'll delete this message as you have the others, but why not just put the facts out there? Melissa shouldn't have claimed (and still claims)that 100% of her donations goes to research.
Sarah V. <sillyhorse3@yahoo.com>
NM - Saturday, May 5, 2007 8:16 AM CDT

Melissa,

I know you're not online this weekend, but wanted you to know I'm sending out loud & proud cheers for you at the marathon this weekend (and Jenny too!)

GO MELISSA GO!!!!
YOU CAN DO IT!!!!

God bless you sweetheart - and your entire family. I hope you feel Donovan's pats of encouragement every step of the way! Know how much we love you ALL!

((((((BIG HUGS)))))) coming from us all in Burlington
Lots of love, Nickey <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
Burlington, IA - Saturday, May 5, 2007 7:04 AM CDT

God bless you, Jenny - you are truly a great friend.
Good luck to both you and Melissa in the mini-marathon, I will be thinking about you.
Melissa, you are always in my thoughts and prayers!!
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Friday, May 4, 2007 11:07 PM CDT

Okay I'm back again to help keep the support flowing and keep the nasty messages out of this guestbook while Melissa is away from internet access. I am doing this at the request of her mother and a dear friend of the family. I will tell you that someone reversed their figures. Of the money raised for a TNT event, at least 75% goes to LLS with no more than 25% going to cover the participants expenses. I can also tell you that Melissa registered for the Mini Marathon on an Indiana team so the amount she had to raise for it was less than if she'd registered on a NC team. I know this because I am a member of the Indy Mini Team for TNT and am walking in honor of my daughter, a leukemia survivor.

If you are going to sign this guestbook with a nasty message, at least own your message by putting a real name and e-mail address so Melissa can respond directly if she so chooses. I'm so sick of people leaving scathing messages and then signing a fake name and e-mail address. Grow up and own your words, people! But it would be better to e-mail Melissa so this guestbook can be used the purpose intended which is support of the family. Even better is to get over it and get on with your own lives.
Jenny <jennydep@hotmail.com>
Indianapolis, IN - Friday, May 4, 2007 10:26 PM CDT

This guestbook is supposed to give support to Melissa, Darren and Dylan. If you can't do that than stop writing
anything in the guestbook. If you don't want to give a donation, THAN DON'T. Nobody is making you!!! This family has suffered enough already and doesn't need this. Melissa is putting her heart and soul into her running to raise awareness for children like precious Baby D. I,myself, will always be supporting Melissa and her family.
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Friday, May 4, 2007 7:08 PM CDT

Melissa, I wish I could just empty out my bank account to give to this cause. We, at Asher and Jacob's site think you are amazing and am so sorry you are having to deal with such difficult people. We know your heart and spirit are in this cause, and although we know almost every fundraiser 100% does not go to the cause, it is still a very important thing to do for the research and the awareness raised. God bless you for doing this, and please know you have not only our support, but our prayers as well.
Laura Lynn, Heather, Adam, Asher and ^Jacob^ Misner: www.caringbridge.org/visit/asherandjacob <laurainsem@yahoo.com>
Hollidaysburg, Pa - Friday, May 4, 2007 5:55 PM CDT

I THOUGHT THAT THIS GUESTBOOK WAS FOR SUPPORT. WHY DON'T EVERYONE WHO IS LEAVING THE NASTY MESSAGES JUST PLEASE STAY AWAY!!! MELISSA NEVER FORCED ANY OF YOU TO MAKE A DONATION!! I CAN UNDERSTAND WHY SOME ARE UPSET, BUT, PLEASE, IF YOU HAVE ANYTHING TO SAY SEND AN EMAIL TO HER. LETS USE THIS GUESTBOOK FOR WHAT IT IS REALLY SUPOSE TO BE FOR. SUPPORT!!!!!!!!!
RMS <rml281@yahoo.com>
SIDNEY, MT - Friday, May 4, 2007 3:57 PM CDT

Hello to everyone and thanks for the interest and support for my family. Thanks especially to those who have expressed concern for me and "the Daddys". Losing a child to cancer is certainly not easy for anyone. This is pretty much Melissa's forum so I don't want to detract, but if anyone would like to correspond or send welcome encouragement my way, e-mail me at darrenras@gmail.com
thanks
Baby D's Daddy <darrenras@gmail.com>
Apex, NC - Friday, May 4, 2007 2:44 PM CDT

You people are totally unbeleivable. I don't beleive there are any non-profit organizations that fundraising goes 100% to research. The money is going directly to the Leukemia Society not in Melissa's pocket. Instead of hammering Melissa pick up the phone and call your local Leukemia Society and ask to speak to the TNT (Team In Training) Director. Or check out their website at www.leukemia-lymphoma.org. They can better explain to you how the fundraising works. I will say this the money that you all are donating to Melissa's TNT efforts does not go in her pocket it goes directly to the Leukemia Society. As far as the events she will be participating in again call the leukemia Society or check the website. Those are where the annual marathons are. I am currently fundraising for the ACS - Relay For Life, as I am a Breast Cancer Survivor. Do think 100% of that money goes to research? I have not heard any of you say you are going to run or walk in a marathon or that you are training hours a day after losing a son. I just hope that none of you ever have to face or go through what Melissa & Darren and family are going through.
A Friend in Connecticut <charh22964@sbcglobal.net>
- Friday, May 4, 2007 1:55 PM CDT

For your information - as long as donations are made to a 501(c)(3) organization, which the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society IS, your donations are fully tax-deductible UNLESS you receive something for your money (such as a t-shirt, hat, etc). All charitable tax-exempt organizations have some overhead involved in any fundraiser, and that does not affect the deductibility of contributions. The Leukemia and Lymphoma Society TNT website issues you a receipt for tax purposes when you contribute online, which (effective this year)you will need in order to support your deduction claimed.
Internal Revenue Service Tax Examiner
- Friday, May 4, 2007 1:45 PM CDT

I support you and this is a great way to get the story out and do something about childhood cancer. Keep up the GREAT work! Sending prayers and rainbows!
Shelly Fox
xofs1@yahoo.com, MD - Friday, May 4, 2007 9:38 AM CDT

GO MELISSA GO! GO MELISSA GO!
Julie and Mark
Seattle, WA - Friday, May 4, 2007 0:11 AM CDT

Good luck in your 1st race. I know you'll do great!
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
nj - Thursday, May 3, 2007 7:56 PM CDT

Just wanted to say hi. Good luck this weekend!
Heather Thompson <htast@aol.com>
- Thursday, May 3, 2007 7:48 PM CDT

Good Luck this weekend! Hope to see you and Dylan soon!

kristi
- Thursday, May 3, 2007 12:10 AM CDT

Good luck this weekend! I will be thinking of your whole family. You are doing such a great thing.

Jenny Harootunian
olathe, ks - Thursday, May 3, 2007 9:49 AM CDT

Will be praying and thinking of you up here in NE Indiana this weekend, Im sure once you cross that finish line you will feel awesome, what a wonderful thing you are doing!!!!!
Donovan Im sure is so proud of his mommy...
www.caringbridge.org/in/sydneylynne
Denise PEquignot <dpequignot@earthlink.net>
S Whitley, IN usa - Thursday, May 3, 2007 9:39 AM CDT

Good Luck this weekend Melissa....we will be thinking about
you!
My prayers continue to be sent your way!
Lots of love,
Kara & Payne
Kara Meyer www.caringbridge.org/in/karadimmich <karameyer@verizon.net>
west lafayette, IN - Thursday, May 3, 2007 7:42 AM CDT

Continuing to lift your family up in prayer!
Psalms 123:1-2 Unto thee lift I up mine eyes, O thou that dwellest in the heavens. Behold, as the eyes of servants look unto the hand of their masters, and as the eyes of a maiden unto the hand of her mistress; so our eyes wait upon the LORD our God, until that he have mercy upon us.
Prayer Bears
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Wednesday, May 2, 2007 11:38 PM CDT

Darren, I hope you get to spend time with Dylan. How hard it must be for you to lose one son to cancer and then not be with the other. Hug him and hold him tight. Dylan needs a daddy during a time like this. Praying for you both.
Sara K
- Wednesday, May 2, 2007 8:27 PM CDT

Good Luck and may God be with you. I hope that Dylan has a great time also.
Donna <drobinson1027@aol.com>
Williamston, SC USA - Wednesday, May 2, 2007 7:10 PM CDT

Just stopped by to let you know that you are in my thoughts and leave some smiles behind. Love Karen www.caringbridge.org/visit/karenmelissa and http://au.groups.yahoo.com/group/messages4smiles/
karen
- Wednesday, May 2, 2007 5:46 PM CDT

Melissa, I just want you to know that I often think of you and pray for you and your family. I am so proud of what you have been doing for the cause. Don't let all of the negativity reflect on you or who you are. In this world I have come to realize one thing....... you can't please everybody!!! So, I have given up trying. Keep your head up girl....... YOU ROCK!!!!!

visit: www.caringbridge.org/canada/joshua
Naomi <jnyf@mts.net>
Winkler, MB Canada - Wednesday, May 2, 2007 4:44 PM CDT

Go Melissa!!! Hoping you are safe in Indy by now, or getting pretty close. Have a great race - I know you will, you will have a little angel sitting on your shoulder encouraging you with every step you take.

We love you!
Katie (mom to Hayley, Hunter, and Taylor) <dugan2b@yahoo.com>
Franklin, MA - Wednesday, May 2, 2007 4:09 PM CDT

Good luck Melissa. I'll be thinking about you this weekend.
patti <paj1030@aol.com>
Chapel Hill, NC - Wednesday, May 2, 2007 9:43 AM CDT

Go Melissa! We'll be thinking of you this weekend as you run strong for Donovan and others. You are an inspiration.
Sarah
WI - Wednesday, May 2, 2007 8:39 AM CDT

Have a great time in Indianapolis, Melissa. Wish I could be there to see you run for Donovan. Lots of folks out there will be with you in spirit! Hope you'll have some pictures to post next week.
Anne <ateddlie@aol.com>
Decatur, GA - Wednesday, May 2, 2007 7:47 AM CDT

I wonder if all these anonymous[why?] "bah humbuggers" are the same unhappy soul. God bless you whoever you are.You need it.I feel Melissa is doing alot to bring attention and money to this good cause. She is so strong and making a statement through the site and her incredible efforts in training and entering these races. That is so much more than most people do. I happily support travel and lodging if it brings attention and in the long "run"[no pun intended] much more money than doing nothing. A huge race like this needs alot of money. I hope everyone joins me in supporting her. Go Melissa. I hope this weekend is fantastic. Good luck!!! You are amazing!
Midge Culp
Houston, Tx - Wednesday, May 2, 2007 7:40 AM CDT

Hi Melissa: Want to wish you luck on your run. Will be thinking about you and Dylan. Drive safely and enjoy visiting with your friends.
Sending hugs ((()))!
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Wednesday, May 2, 2007 3:07 AM CDT

Hi Melissa - I just wanted to wish you luck on your run. Travel safely. Hugs,
Jill and Alex www.caringbridge.com/ca/alexschwab <jillschwab99@hotmail.com>
Manhattan Beach, CA USA - Tuesday, May 1, 2007 10:04 PM CDT

I have never signed this guestbook, but sitting here reading all of these unbelievably insensitive remarks makes me just want to cry. Here is a mother who has lost her precious son and wants to do this - not only for her son - but for others who are battling this awful, awful disease. If you don't want to contribute, that's fine - that's your decision. But please, please don't add to the grief that this mother is already feeling by the loss of her son. Also, instead of taking the time to write and berate someone, maybe that time should be spent in more constructive ways -- such as praying for those who so desperately need prayers.

I am completely disgusted by this lack of humanity and decency.

Go get 'em, Melissa. You can't even imagine the number of people who stand - proudly - behind you.
Erin Thompson <thompsonfamily35@verizon.net>
Belvidere, IL USA - Tuesday, May 1, 2007 9:28 PM CDT

I know what a challenge it is mentally and physically to do these races. I ran a marathon when I was 21 and it was brutal, but very rewarding and I am sure your experiences will be way more rewarding because of the focus you have on the goal of raising money for the LLS. We are with you all the way and have already made donations and will be making the last minute donations if needed!
Mark and Julie
Seattlw, Wa - Tuesday, May 1, 2007 6:26 PM CDT

Melissa, I am just thrilled you are doing this run. I really wish I could have given more, but please know we on Asher's site have been encouraging others to give. We are so proud of you and know this is such an important cause. Please know we continue to hold you, Dylan, Darren, and the wonderful Grandparents in our prayers. If there is any way we can help out, please let us know.
Laura Lynn and my two little miracle nephews: www.caringbridge.org/visit/asherandjacob <laurainsem@yahoo.com>
Hollidaysburg, Pa - Tuesday, May 1, 2007 5:58 PM CDT

I don't think that was intended to be mean, just a heads up. Many people may not know that donating to Melissa and Team In Training does not mean your donation goes 100% to the Leukemia Lymphoma Society. The money goes also to pay for the participant's lodging, airfare, travel expenses etc. Personally for me I would rather have 100% of my donation go to the Society that doesn't mean that I don't admire Melissa for participating in the marathons but it is important to know where the money is being spent.
BethR
WI - Tuesday, May 1, 2007 11:54 AM CDT

Why the need to be nasty. Melissa is racing to raise money to help find a cure so there are no more families going through what hers did, and so many others are.

Good job Melissa. We need many more people in the world like you!

in awe of all Melissa is doing and has done!
Lockport , NH - Tuesday, May 1, 2007 11:25 AM CDT

Melissa,
I haven't signed in a while. I did go out and make the donation like I said that I would. I hope that you get all of the money that is needed. I still pray for you and your family, I hope that Dylan and Darren are doing good. I know that things are still very tough for you guys. I hope that you get to update this website with pictures of the race. You are such an inspiration, instead of sitting around and being sad you are out there working so hard to help raise the money that is necessary to find a cure. I know that Baby D is so proud of you. You keep fighting girl you are doing such a good job. Please let us know how things go this weekend. GOOD LUCK!!! Lots of love and prayers are coming your way....
Danna Lawrence <danna @ teamtransportation.com>
Summerville, SC Berkeley - Tuesday, May 1, 2007 7:58 AM CDT

Hi Melissa,

I don't sign in very often, but we are always here with lots of prayers. Good luck to you in your upcoming events in memory of Donovan & to help raise funds to fight this horrible disease that none of our babies should ever have to fight! Give Dylan & Darren our best too.

Remembering your sweet little Angel Donovan,

Cammy - Laken's (infant leukemia) Mom <parsons@fullnet.com or www.caringbridge.org/visit/lakenparsons>
Huntingburg, IN USA - Monday, April 30, 2007 8:14 PM CDT

Hi Melissa...just stopping in to check on everyone. I havent been by in awhile but I do think of you all often. I logged on through the Lake Tahoe donation site and donated for your run, being the mom of a leukemia child sure does make it all so real and my desire to help with this cause! Your such an inspiration for what your doing. I know it must be tough but keep it up your doing great things for a great cause for great people! Thank you.......
Good luck with all of your upcoming events...maybe I will see you in Indy!!
Lori and Savahana
www.caringbridge.org/visit/savahanascott
Lori <lascott32@aol.com>
Avon, in - Monday, April 30, 2007 3:30 PM CDT

Thanks! I just donated and hope EVERYONE else does too. What a great cause. Keep going,Melissa!
Midge <midge@flash.net>
Houston, Tx - Monday, April 30, 2007 9:01 AM CDT

Here is the link for the Tahoe event - this is the one that the money is needed for by May 15th - http://www.active.com/donate/tntenc/angeldonovan1
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Sunday, April 29, 2007 5:05 PM CDT

I want to contribute but am confused by the many races and where exactly to send the money for the one you need NOW. I suggest you tell exactly what you need for the next race and where to send it. Stick to that one. Others may be "slow" like I am. I applaud what you are doing for your precious little guy. I pop in now and then and think you are amazingly strong! Good luck! Make the next race info clear.I would love to support you.
Midge <midge@ flash.net>
Houston, - Sunday, April 29, 2007 3:09 PM CDT

Best of Luck in the race. Just being there makes you a winner.
Grammie...the Grammie of Grammies.....hope your gypsy wheels come off soon and you can get a well deserved rest.
I am sure that Dylan is enjoying the pretty weather and a change of scene.
Smiles for you all.

Tracey
Ohio, - Sunday, April 29, 2007 9:19 AM CDT

Good Saturday Morning - from not quite hot yet Iowa! LOL! (we're getting there eventually though)
Bet you're getting excited for the big race... we'll be cheering you on from west of the Mississippi :O)! I'm so proud of your determination. You've always seemed to have the 'never give up' approach in all that you do!
Just want you to know we're thinking of you and sending out big CHEERS to help you prepare for your upcoming events! I know the loudest cheers will be raining upon you from heaven from Donovan and all his friends - shining their love all around you. ;o)
((((((BIG HUGS)))))) coming from all of us in Burlington!
Lots of love, Nickey <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
Burlington, IA - Saturday, April 28, 2007 7:31 AM CDT

Melissa: Just wanted to let you know that you and Dylan are in my thoughts and prayers always. So proud of you and Dylan!

Beth
Whiteland, IN - Friday, April 27, 2007 8:26 AM CDT

Keep keeping on Melissa...I'll be sending a donation not pledged on the 1st...$50...Use it where you need it...
Love,
Kelsey, Faith & Colleen-ALL Kids <colleencadaret@sbcglobal.net>
Placerville, CA - Thursday, April 26, 2007 4:06 PM CDT

Oh Lord give us those still waters! You know I'm still here praying!
Psalms 23:2 He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.
Prayer Bears
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Wednesday, April 25, 2007 10:16 PM CDT

Hi Melissa: Just stopping by to tell you that you're all in my thoughts.
Sending love & hugs,
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Wednesday, April 25, 2007 7:26 AM CDT

Hi guys, I haven't written in a while I don't think. I had my grandmother's funeral this past weekend, so I haven't had time to check in on my little angel, although he never left my heart. And you know it...I cried tears for him this weekend also. Tears of happiness that he's pain free, but tears of sadness also that he is not in your arms.

Anyway, glad to hear your training is going well. I know you'll do great and so will Dylan. He'll be so proud of himself by helping out and of course how could he not be proud of a mom like you?

Donovan~not a day goes by that I don't think of you and miss you. xoxo
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
NJ - Tuesday, April 24, 2007 2:16 PM CDT

Howdy,
It's Grammie.
I just don't get much time to work on the computer, while visiting with your cousins. Madison wants to play Legos, color in books, or cook, in her kitchen or her mommy's and there is Little Miss Sofia. She likes being held, talked to and of course our singing time. I am sure you remember all the singing time we had together. Now, I tell your cousins about all the stories I used to tell you and sing them the songs we hummed together for so long.
I like most of all telling her the story of when you took me on the carpet ride. It was a magical ride and Grammie will always remember how special it was, even if it was only a dream.
Whenever I am talking about Dylan to Madison, she always says "and Donny too." I agree, "and Donny too." Madison always thinks that you and Dylan are on the planes that travel over her house. She knows you both have to travel a long ways to come visit her. She is always waiting for you to come.
Grammie will be leaving soon. Matter of fact, I will be leaving on Saturday. Madison still thinks I live at the airport and she can come pick me up on Monday. I keep reminding her that I won't be able to get back until Halloween. She does not understand time yet, but she knows what holidays are.
It is time for Grammie to go home. Grammie has been to so many places during these last 2 1/2 years, it's hard for Grammie to know what home is. I don't even live in the same apartment I did when I started this little journey. I hope Granpapa will be waiting at the airport for me, so I don't get lost. It has been a long time since Grammie went home to Chicago, Illinois. Now, I can truly be home again. Just like you and Dylan, it will be a different apartment. I am sure all my toys and books will be there.

Well, Kid-do, I am praying for Mommy's race to go well. Grampapa and I will be there to cheer her on. I can't wait to see Dylan again. I miss him so much. He says he is old enough to hand out water to the racers because he is almost 5 years old. Wow! Your big brother sure has gone through a whole bunch for such few years in his life.

Grammie needs to go, but I want you to know how much I love you.
I love you so much,
I can't conceal it.
I love you so much,
It's a wonder you don't feel it.

Love Grammie <lgstmpr@walla.com>
Tucson, AZ - Tuesday, April 24, 2007 11:11 AM CDT

Good morning, Melissa
I think you are doing a wonderful job with Dylan, I know that things are still very hard for and will be for quiet a while. I know that it is hard, my little girl passed away 16 years ago, and I have two boys that are 11 and 9, they still ask about her and wished that they could have met her. We have pictures and still think of her all the time. Time does make it easier but the pain will never go away. Melissa you are such an inspiration and so determined to make a difference, which you already have done. You will continu to be in my thoughts and prayers as will Dylan and Darren. Be strong and make sure that you take care of yourself, your family needs you. I miss Baby Donovan, but he is still there with you in everything that you do. Many hugs to you all....
Danna Lawrence <danna@teamtransportation.com>
Summerville, SC Berkeley - Monday, April 23, 2007 8:22 AM CDT

My husband and I were laughing at Grey's Anatomy too. I think it's fine that the show is not realistic medically (the separation of the adult conjoined twins was ridiculous) but that BMT was so bad. I haven't signed in a while but have been following your journal. My heart aches for you and poor little Dylan. I think you are doing an amazing job carrying on with life but trying to do something positive and meaningful with Donovan's memory. My best to your family, Bobbi (mom to Avi, osteosarcoma survivor, Georgetown Hospital (we were led to your site from Blake's))
Bobbi Spector <rjspector@rcn.com>
Bethesda, MD - Monday, April 23, 2007 7:37 AM CDT

Hello Melissa,

I've written only a couple of times but have kept up with your journey.

Our family laughed at Grey's Anatomy and the BMA. I guess people who haven't had to travel this road dont know. I am an ER nurse and my daughter (had BMT on Jan 17th of this year) and I like to catch the inconsistancies in medical shows.

Praying for you, Dylan, and the rest of your family.
Shelley Hartsuyker (Carepage: KrystaDremel) <hugseveryday@hotmail.com>
Jackson, CA - Sunday, April 22, 2007 10:18 PM CDT

You're an amazing woman, and mother. We all can only do our best. We continue to keep all of you in our daily prayers. So glad you are having a good day and although your pain will never go away, we pray that you have more and more good days, more frequently. Yes Donovan is pain free, and taught us SO many lessons in his time here. I heard once in a move that going to heaven was like graduating. One you're learned what you need to know and accomplished all God intended, that you get to graduate to heaven and the kids that leave us so early are the really intelligent, successful, special ones because they learn all the lessons of life early. Donovan certainly fits that description.
The Matlock Family
Lemont, IL USA - Sunday, April 22, 2007 7:42 PM CDT

I'm glad you're starting to feel better. I hope you and Dylan had a good day together, playing with toys and watching Scooby Doo. Your marathon is getting so close! I know you will do great and Donovan will be so very proud of you! I will continue to keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Also, about Grey's Anatomy. Even from the outside, not having a child who has gone thru a transplant, I noticed how unrealistic that story was. I was pretty surprised they didn't give the process the weight it deserves, because they've always been pretty good about that. You find a bone marrow donor and have a transplant that same day? Uh....nope! They could have at least eluded that some time had passed, rather than it happening immediately. Tsk, tsk writers. Hopefully it will bring more attention to childhood cancers, though.
Ginny Deegan <jgdeegan@msn.com>
Mtn. Home AFB, ID USA - Sunday, April 22, 2007 6:48 PM CDT

Your entry today filled my heart, Melissa. You know, it helped me remember that my mom is free of cancer and pain too - it's hard to sometimes feel that because of how sick she was when she passed. THANK YOU for sharing that - it meant the world to me, honest to God.
You know kiddo - I think of Donovan - and you and Dylan every single day. I hope it helps somehow - even just a little - to know how much we care!
Sending you ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) from all of us in Burlington!! WE LOVE YOU!
Lots of love, Nickey
Burlington, IA - Sunday, April 22, 2007 4:44 PM CDT

Hi,
Just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you and Dylan today. Keep up the good work with your training. I can just hear in your posts how determined you are!!!! Stay strong and know your angel is with you every step of the way.
Karen Patterson <Anchormom@comcast.net>
New Castle, DE - Sunday, April 22, 2007 12:42 AM CDT

Hi Melissa: Just stopping by to say hi and let you know that I'm thinking about you. Hoping that you and Dylan are feeling better today. Have a great weekend!
Sending love and hugs,
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Saturday, April 21, 2007 4:14 PM CDT

Dear Melissa and Dylan- Love and prayers to get you through this dark time of your lives.I wish there was something I could do to magically help your pain go,but unfortunatly all I can do is say I care,No one should have to travel the road your family has traveled.Love to you both.
Jennifer Waters
Victoria, BC Canada - Saturday, April 21, 2007 0:29 AM CDT

Melissa:

Just wanted to say good morning to you and Dylan and to let you know that you are, as usual, in my thoughts and prayers.

Beth Forey
Whiteland, IN - Friday, April 20, 2007 9:02 AM CDT

Good Morning!
Checking in before I go to work. Sending out BIG CHEERS - GO MELISSA GO!!! to root you on in your training! Your work is so awesome kiddo!
((((((BIG HUGS)))))) from all of us in Burlington!`
Lots of love, Nickey
- Friday, April 20, 2007 7:19 AM CDT

Keeping you in my prayers. And asking God to give you the strength you need, Melissa, as you run and bike to honor Precious Donovan!! In Him,
Dorine McNary
Williston, ND - Thursday, April 19, 2007 1:15 PM CDT

Continuing to pray for your family! May the Lord of peace grant you peace to face whatever lies ahead!
2 Thessalonians 3:16 Now the Lord of peace himself give you peace always by all means. The Lord be with you all.
Prayer Bears
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Wednesday, April 18, 2007 11:20 PM CDT

Melissa,

I think of Baby D often and wish your family wasn't going through this pain. How my heart breaks for you. You are an amazing mom and I admire your strength.

Love,
Marion
www.caringbridge.org/visit/jamesonrush
Marion Rush <marerush@comcast.net>
IL - Wednesday, April 18, 2007 8:32 PM CDT

Just wanted to tell you to keep up the good work. It is truly amazing that you are able to pick yourself up and start raising money for a cure after all you've been through this year. I know you want to "give back" and raising money for the leukemia society is a great way. But you have also "given back" by sharing your beautiful baby boy and his story with the world and by teaching us all to live life to the fullest and appreciate every day we're given. You've taught me to cherish every second that I am given with my children. You are a wonderful person. You and your family are always in my prayers. May God bless all of you!
Julie
- Wednesday, April 18, 2007 7:42 PM CDT

Hi Melissa,
Just thinking of you and dropped in to say hello.
Diane
Diane Thompson <DiThompson@cfl.rr.com>
- Wednesday, April 18, 2007 5:50 PM CDT

Praying for all of you each day and thinking of Donovan always....
The Matlock Family
Lemont, IL USA - Wednesday, April 18, 2007 8:38 AM CDT

Hey Melissa. Just wanted you to know that you are still in my thoughts and prayers. Hope the training is going well and that Dylan is doing ok.
Patti Jordan <paj1030@aol.com>
Chapel Hill, NC - Wednesday, April 18, 2007 8:35 AM CDT

Melissa,

I haven't dropped in for awhile....I love the new photos you posted -- the professional portraits of Donovan with each of you. I am crying as I go through them.

It is so encouraging to see you working towards something that will help you with your grief and help others that are going through the terrible disease, cancer. You are an inspiration!

God bless you!
Dana I.
AL - Wednesday, April 18, 2007 7:05 AM CDT

Melissa,
I hope that you had a nice Easter. It sounds like your training is going well. I couldn't run 5 miles, more or less 50 miles!! I hope that you're getting some of this warmer weather like we are in Atlanta. Please give Dylan an extra kiss from me.

Keep up your hard work.
Chari Warner <millymango40@yahoo.com>
Alpharetta, GA USA - Tuesday, April 17, 2007 2:50 PM CDT

Hang in there, Melissa. I hope your training is going well.

Karen, Clare's mom www.caringbridge.org/md/clareschmidt
Cabin John, MD - Tuesday, April 17, 2007 12:09 AM CDT

Always praying for you and your family. Thank you for doing so much for the cause. You are an inspiration.
Leah
Minneapolis, MN - Tuesday, April 17, 2007 11:31 AM CDT

Sending prayers your way today and everyday. Not a days goes by that I do not stop to say a prayer for your family and Donovan. You are an inspiration to many moms around the world with all you are doing for your son's memory. I am in awe of your admiration and the devotion to your training. I pray you meet your goals. I will help when I can, and will pray all the time.

Love, Kerry
A Nebraska Prayer Bear
Kerry Chapman
- Tuesday, April 17, 2007 9:00 AM CDT

No prob getting you over the $1,000 mark. Now I just hope I can log in a day or two and get you over the $2,000 mark. I am hoping! Any money that goes to the L and L Society is a blessing. I have also been struck by the same bomb you were about 18 months ago, so I understand, wish I had a chance to be able to run and bike with you. Stay strong and healthy, and love you family. We know how quickly it can all go away.
Julie
Minneapolis, MN - Monday, April 16, 2007 9:20 PM CDT

Hi there Melissa. I know I haven't signed in lately but please don't think for a minute that I forgot about you guys. My grandmother was very sick recently and needed round the clock care, so I was helping my mother with that. Sadly, she passed away this weekend.

Not a day goes by that I don't think of you. I hope you reach your goal so you can do your bike ride. I'm hoping to help you with a little something soon, things have just been tough lately.(you know all to well how things go). Anyway, just know I love you and miss sweet Donovan so much! xoxo
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
NJ - Monday, April 16, 2007 8:03 PM CDT

Melissa, I check on you daily. Your training is incredible what you are doing is incredible. You'll meet all your goals. Baby D is taking care of the rest of it.
Ashley Zarembka <swimfly684@comcast.net>
- Monday, April 16, 2007 5:41 PM CDT

You go Girl!!!

Prayers continue for peace...

Thought for this day�getting the right focus�

I�ve learned nothing I do on my own will compared
to what I can do through Christ. So when the world
threatens to over take me, I remember�.

�If you look at the world, you will be distressed.
If you look at yourself, you will be depressed.
If you look at Christ, you will be at rest.�
By Rick Warren

May the Lord bless you and keep you�.
Angel Hugs!
Char Jensema

www.ProjectAngelHugs.com
Be an Angel�Touch a Heart

Char
- Monday, April 16, 2007 4:37 PM CDT

Hi Melissa - I check up on your family regularly. Way to go with all the training! I hope to do TNT next year in honor of all our little heroes. You've taken it to a new level! Sending best wishes and prayers for all of you.
Jennifer Bryan ALL-KIDS <jandjbryan@comcast.net>
Los Gatos, CA - Sunday, April 15, 2007 10:38 PM CDT

Melissa,
I don't have the words to express the admiration that I have for you!
Linda Tienda <j.tienda@worldnet.att.net>
- Sunday, April 15, 2007 10:31 PM CDT

Just stopping by to say Hi and that i was thinking of you guys. I will make a donation asap...
erin <lilfishie98@aol.com>
babylon, ny - Sunday, April 15, 2007 9:56 PM CDT

Melissa - I am so sorry that I didn't pledge your race sooner. I kept meaning to and then I didn't have my credit card with me whenever I went to go do it. I hope that you continue to raise money in honor of your sweet Donovan. You are courageous, strong and so very brave and I hope that there are people in your life who tell you this every day. You Donovan would be very proud and I'm sure that your precious Dylan is too....
Kim Magnan <k_magnan@hotmail.com>
Plt Prairie, WI - Sunday, April 15, 2007 1:00 PM CDT

Hi Melissa! I'm praying for you. Good luck in the mini-marathon and bike ride! Donovon will be shining down on you with love and pride. You are making a difference!
Maureen <maureenandrob@hotmail.com>
McKinney, TX USA - Sunday, April 15, 2007 9:24 AM CDT

Just stopping by to let you know that I'm thinking about you. You go girl - you can do it.
Sending hugs your way ((()))
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Saturday, April 14, 2007 6:23 PM CDT

Hey Ironwoman,
I just wanted to stop in to say hello....your strength as always, is inspiring....Give Dylan a big hug for me.

take care,
michelle
michelle brown <mpb.mab@verizon.net>
rockville, MD usa - Saturday, April 14, 2007 5:44 PM CDT

Your determination is to be admired.THe money will come in and you will do this tribute for your baby to help wipe out this beast.You are a very strong mummy,with obviously a strong family backing you.So glad to hear from Grammie again,always helping where she is needed.Her grandchildren are sooo very lucky. Love from another Grandma
Jennifer Waters
Victoria, BC Canada - Saturday, April 14, 2007 4:36 PM CDT

Good Afternoon!!!
Just stopping by with hugs for you and Dylan - and sending angel hugs to most precious Angel Donovan!!!
Just know how much we love you all. Praying for more donations for you kiddo!
((((((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))))))) - (hope you can feel them all the way from Burlington :o)
Lots of love, Nickey
Burlington, IA - Saturday, April 14, 2007 12:59 AM CDT

Melissa, Darren, Dylan, Extended Family, Wow its been awhile since I've been able to sign the guestbook, although I check your site each day. Melissa, What a *Wonderful* job you are doing for all the Angels in heaven and here on earth. You are one amazing gal.I see Grammie still has her angel wings on, flying from here to there helping everyone out. What a selfless person she is, her rewards in heaven will be many.Baby D, I know you are right beside your mommy coaching and cheering her on each step of the way.Still missing updates about you and pictures of your sweet little face.I know you are looking out for Dylan extra special as he too, misses you so much.Contining to keep you all close in thoughts and prayers. G_OOOOOOOOO M_EL_L_I_S_A !!!!!!!!!
Karen <indianagal_2004@yahoo.com>
USA - Saturday, April 14, 2007 12:57 AM CDT

Thinking of you as always!
Lots of love and prayers,
Kara
www.caringbridge.org/in/karadimmich
Kara Meyer www.caringbridge.org/in/karadimmich <karameyer@verizon.net>
West Lafayette, Indiana - Saturday, April 14, 2007 12:06 AM CDT

Melissa: Just wanted to let you know again that I am so proud of you! I am so excited that the money is coming in and I am believing with you that God will take care of everything and supply your every need. I will keep doing everything I can to help get people to donate to help keep you moving forward to your goal! Just remember that you have so many people who love & support you and there are people all over the world that hold you, Dylan and Donovan close to their hearts!

(Mary) Beth Forey
Whiteland, IN - Saturday, April 14, 2007 10:13 AM CDT

Thinking of you this morning. Love you all so much! ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) from all of us in Burlington!!!
Lots of love, Nickey
Burlington, IA - Friday, April 13, 2007 7:07 AM CDT

We are praying for the money to come Melissa. I will do my best to donate what I can, as I truly want you to do this for your sweet baby D. I hope you don't mind, but I will post a prayer request for you on our prayer site: www.ashersfriends.blogspot.com. If there is anything else we can do, please don't hesitate to ask.
Laura Lynn and my two little miracle nephews, Asher and ^Jacob^:www.caringbridge.org/visit/asherandjacob <laurainsem@yahoo.com>
Hollidaysburg, Pa - Thursday, April 12, 2007 8:11 PM CDT

You will get there, Melissa. With your determination and strong will to make this happen, it will!!
Sandy Albert <salbert01@charter.net>
St. Louis, MO - Thursday, April 12, 2007 12:56 AM CDT

To Angel Baby D, I just put your Mommy over $1,000 for her dedication to you.
Julie
Minneapolis, MN - Thursday, April 12, 2007 9:49 AM CDT

Melissa,
What a wonderful person you are, I can't even imagine doing what you are doing. I know that you are driven to make Baby D's life make a difference. I miss that little guy so much, I know that the pain is still so fresh and will be for a long time. Try to remember all of the good times and enjoy Dylan. Keep up the good work, I am going to make a donation, there are still so many children fighting this nasty disease and I know what you are doing will make a diffrence. Keep the fight going!!! I will be praying for you and keeping you in my thoughts. Much Love and admiration!!!

Danna Lawrencwe <danna@teamtransportation.com>
Summerville, SC Berkeley - Thursday, April 12, 2007 8:30 AM CDT

Melissa
I thought about you a lot this weekend. Your positive outlook is amazing & inspiring. We're all so proud of what you are doing for all the sick kids out there!

Carrie Stroud(mom to Camden) <dstroud2@ec.rr.com>
Morehead City, NC United States - Wednesday, April 11, 2007 9:31 PM CDT

Melissa and family,

I just want you to know that you are still in our thoughts and prayers. We are so proud of all the things you do to fight this awful disease!! You are a truly amazing woman who is nothing but a gift from God!! Thank you for doing what us chubby moms can't do....... run marathons!! =0) haha. Keep up the good work.

visit: www.caringbridge.org/canada/joshua

Naomi Fehr <jnyf@mts.net>
Winkler, MB CANADA - Wednesday, April 11, 2007 2:06 PM CDT

Good Afternoon!
Just wanted to stop by and let you know I was thinking of you all today. I love the pic of you and your friends and all the bunny ears! Too cute! Keep on keepin' on with all your training! GO MELISSA GO!!!

Sending you all - and especially Dylan - ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) from all of us in Burlington! We love you guys so much!
Lots of love, Nickey
Burlington, IA - Wednesday, April 11, 2007 1:44 PM CDT

Melissa: Hello! Just wanted to let you know that I was thinking of you all today. Hoping Dylan had a wonderful trip with his Daddy to Indy this past weekend and hoping that you were surrounded by those who love you! 50 MILES - WOW! I cannot even begin to fathom.....

Keep up the good, no wait, GREAT work!

Beth
Whiteland, IN - Tuesday, April 10, 2007 11:40 PM CDT

Sorry, it's been a while. Now I have a computer again, so I will be here more often. This doesn't mean that not a day goes by without thinking of you and praying for you all, for healing. Specially on this Easter. With much love,

Aurea
Aurea, mom to Ale and Dani www.caringbridge.org/mexico/dani <aurea.zepeda@gmail.com>
Mexico, D,F. Mexico - Tuesday, April 10, 2007 4:47 PM CDT

Vivit! He lives! Know that you're in my thoughts and prayers especially today as we celebrate our risen Savior! Extra prayers as you miss Donovan!
Job 19:25-27 For I know that my redeemer liveth, and that he shall stand at the latter day upon the earth: And though after my skin worms destroy this body, yet in my flesh shall I see God: Whom I shall see for myself, and mine eyes shall behold, and not another; though my reins be consumed within me.
The Prayer Bears
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Sunday, April 8, 2007 10:51 PM CDT

Thinking of you this Easter, my friend. I'm hoping your alone time gave you some time to grieve and vent and heal a tiny bit. That's all we can do really; just move forward bit by bit. Easter reminds me of how temporary life really is and how eternal the time we have with our loved ones after this life. The communion of saints. Praying that you can enjoy your family in the midst of your sorrow and know Donovan is with you now and forever. Hugs.
Beth (www.caringbridge.org/in/kylefacts) <bdehoff@iquest.net>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Sunday, April 8, 2007 8:37 PM CDT

God bless you Melissa! What a truly wonderful, awesome person you are!
Taylor <ImTaylor2@aol.com>
So. Burlington, VT - Sunday, April 8, 2007 6:23 PM CDT

Hi Melissa & family...I am a friend of Angie Armstrong (mother of Will Armstrong). My thoughts and prayers are with you on this Easter Sunday.
Linda Knightes
Schenectady, ny - Sunday, April 8, 2007 5:41 PM CDT

Congrats on your ride. You have amazing strength and detemination. Hope you have a good Easter and Darren and Dylan get some good bonding time together. Wishing you all peace in your hearts and love for each other.
The Matlock Family
Lemint, IL USA - Sunday, April 8, 2007 10:36 AM CDT

Melissa,

Just wanted to stop by and wish you and Happy Easter, good luck with the training. And if I might paraphrase Clarence from "It's A Wonderful Life" No person is alone who has friends. You have more friends than you may even realize.
George <cgntal@optonline.net>
Morris Township, NJ USA - Sunday, April 8, 2007 9:37 AM CDT

Melissa,

Hope you have a good Easter day and enjoy
your "alone" time.

Suzanne Stoltz <sstoltz09@gmail.com>
Kingwood, TX USA - Sunday, April 8, 2007 8:38 AM CDT

Melissa, Dylan and Darren,

Just wanted to stop by and wish you all a Very Happy Easter. I know it will be hard to face the first holiday without Baby D, but I know he is smiling down on you. Dylan, I hope the Easter Bunny brought you some really fun treats!

Melissa, great job on the training. You still continue to be an inspiration to us all - GO TEAM!!
Amy R Bellini <amy_bellini@farmfamily.com>
Troy, NY - Sunday, April 8, 2007 8:32 AM CDT

Just stopping by to wish you a blessed Easter! He is risen!!

Keep training!! We'll see you in May!
Jenny Deputy (www.deputyfamily.net) <mjmb@deputyfamily.net>
Indianapolis, IN - Sunday, April 8, 2007 8:24 AM CDT

Melissa: Just stopping by to let you know that I'm thinking about you. Have a Happy Easter sweetie! Hope that the weather there has warmed up a bit. We woke up yesterday morning here in Md. with snow on the ground.
Hugs to you ((()))
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Sunday, April 8, 2007 7:17 AM CDT

We are friends of little Will and the Armstrongs. You are in our hearts and prayers through this very special season. May God's love give you grace and strength. Blessings on you for all you are doing for these little ones. May your heart be lifted up today.
Karen and Steve Lalor <splkob68@localnet.com>
Glenmont, NY USA - Sunday, April 8, 2007 6:38 AM CDT

Wanting to wish you a Happy and peaceful Easter weekend! And you go girl riding those 50 miles...I"m envious....I don't think I could even get on a bike right now....maybe after treatment. Thinking of you often, but not signing in nearly often enough. much love,
Marlena Hodges <jmhodges1@verizon.net>
- Sunday, April 8, 2007 4:07 AM CDT

Happy Easter. You are in my thoughts and prayers. www.caringbridge.org/in/cassandra
Renee' Jones ,mom to Cassandra <goinkrazy@insightbb.com>
Richmond, IN - Sunday, April 8, 2007 1:08 AM CDT

Peter Cottontail For A Cure...

~written by Laura/heavenly lights

Here Comes Peter Cottontail...
Hopping down the bunny trail...
Hippity Hop...Easters on its way...

In the story of Peter Rabbit...
Peter wanted to get into the garden so bad...
He was very determined and tried everyway...
So did we...we searched for a cure with all we had.

Just like Peter all seemed great for awhile...
We thought we had won...and we would never part...
The treatments seemed to be working...
We were so happy with all our hearts.

Like when the farmer saw Peter & yelled 'STOP THIEF'...
We wanted to yell that too...
When we heard the news...My child had relapsed...
And there was nothing more they could do.

Peter rabbit was most dreadfully frightened...
For he had forgotten his way...
Sometimes we lose our way from God also....
And in the midst of our sorrow back away.

As we stumble...God catches us...
Just like He lead Peter on that day...
He guides us in the right directions...
And shows us the way.

I thank God for blessing my life with my child....
Even though my child left earth too soon...
I would only change the outcome...but I would not trade...
Even a minute....for all the stars and the moon.
... CURES!
At The end of the story of Peter Rabbit...
He did get out...and he didnt get caught...
And this is so true of disease...Some are cured...
But some children are not.

So, I am here today...
With a purpose and a cause...
Childhood disease the purpose...
And better cures the cause.

This Easter let us all celebrate life...
How precious each day is with our children...
Lets thank God for the gift of eternal life...
And for those who have lost a loved one....
Knowing we will see them in Heaven...again.

Love~ Claire www.caringbridge.com/visit/lakenroy

**Happy Easter!

Claire Roy <caffemocha29@aol.com>
Kernersville, NC US - Saturday, April 7, 2007 11:33 PM CDT

Hi Melissa! We have not met but I am Will's Aunt. I wanted to wish you a blessed Easter and to let you know that their are many of us that are praying for you and your family. My heart cries for you but our God gives us a promise that we will all meet again. Have a peaceful day! Helen Blake (Sam's Aunt from N.Y.)
Helen Blake <helenb41852@roadrunner.com>
Queensbury, N.Y. United States - Saturday, April 7, 2007 11:17 PM CDT

Melissa, Hey, I'm Angie Armstrong's sister and aunt to Wonder Will. I'm visiting your site for the first time. That's so awesome that you're working to raise awareness and funds to help kick cancer! Thanks for being real and sharing the good stuff and the hard. I'll definitely be praying for you and your family as you walk one day at a time. I know I can't begin to understand what you all are feeling I hope these scriptures bring you encouragement knowing that your Heavenly Father is right next to you. And hey, it sure looks like you have a whole lot of friends and family standing with you too! Psalm 33:18 the LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Psalm 62:5& 6 Find rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from him. He alone is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress..
Sarah Keparutis <Keparutis5@aol.com>
NY - Saturday, April 7, 2007 10:31 PM CDT

Meliss and family, Love and Gentle Hugs....Thinking of you today and always.
Donna McDonald <flygirl9908@yahoo.com>
Raleigh, NC USA - Saturday, April 7, 2007 10:16 PM CDT

Wishing you an Easter filled with peace. I continue to pray for you and your family to have the strength you need to accomplish whatever it is you set your mind to. As difficult as some days have been I think that's all part of the "grieving process" keep your faith and remember that very precious angel watching over you.
Karen Patterson <Anchormom@comcast.net>
New Castle, DE - Saturday, April 7, 2007 10:02 PM CDT

Hey Melissa, way to go - forget those guys - that cannot compete with you girls. I want to wish you a very Happy Easter and pray for safe travels for Darren and Dylan. I think of Donovan daily and of course you and Dylan also. I know you will achieve much success in this life with Donovan pushing you forward. You can do whatever you set you mind to do. Donovan is with you forever. Talk to you soon. Love, Jan
Jan
Cary, - Saturday, April 7, 2007 9:36 PM CDT

Thinking of you guys, wishing you a happy Easter. xoxo
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
NJ - Saturday, April 7, 2007 8:15 PM CDT

~*~ EASTER BLESSINGS ~*~

My prayers are with you as you celebrate this Easter season. I know how hard it will be for you with this being another hurdle that you must face. I know that Baby D is watching over you~
Give Dylan a hug for me....

Praying for you this Easter weekend~

Love and Prayers~
Jan aka Mimi to Makayla (in heaven) & Hailey
A Virginia Prayer Bear

www.caringbridge.org/visit/haileychavers and www.caringbridge.org/visit/makaylachavers <jannyjo@cox.net>
- Saturday, April 7, 2007 8:00 PM CDT

You go girl with all your hard training. I know there is a special angel really proud of his mommy. I think everyone is proud of all the training you are doing. It sure did get cold down south this weekend maybe it will warm up soon. Happy Easter to you and your whole family. May God be with you.
Donna <drobinson1027@aol.com>
Williamston, SC USA - Saturday, April 7, 2007 7:59 PM CDT

Melissa-3 TNT events!!???!!YOU GO GIRL!!!!Hugs to you and your family for Easter and always. I think of Baby Donovan often. Love to you all-Keep up the fight! The Melkonians
Darlene Melkonian http://www.caringbridge.org/md/chrismelko <melkonid@comcast.net>
Gaithersburg, MD - Saturday, April 7, 2007 6:53 PM CDT

Just wanted you to know that I am thinking of you. HUGS sent your way.
www.caringbridge.org/mn/alexisstern
KarenStern all-kids <jandkstern@connections-etc.net>
Big Lake, MN - Saturday, April 7, 2007 5:39 PM CDT

With Much Love
Miss Shannon & My Baby Bunny <humphity@gmail.com>
Always Missing & Remembering *Baby Donovan* - Saturday, April 7, 2007 5:28 PM CDT

Hi Melissa...I spoke with the girls 4H leader and hopefully there will be more to pass out nourishment and cheer for the Tahoe ride!...I'm passing on the CB site address to Sue...anyway, keep training, prayers your funds come in.. as far as KARMA...not in the Christian vocabulary of the Bible but the Bible definetly addresses life's important issues...Love and keep moving!
Kelsey, Faith, Colleen-ALL Kids <colleencadaret@sbcglobal.net>
Placerville, CA - Saturday, April 7, 2007 4:31 PM CDT

Hi Melissa
I didn't know you were still updating but I am glad you are. You can use what you experienced to do so much for the rest of our kids and we all appreciate that. You sound like a true Amazon Warrior fighting the beast of cancer by raising money. That is awesome. I hope you find some time to do something you enjoy this weekend besides training. I think about you and Donovan often.

Andrea--Ethan's mom <heyandrea@comporium.net>
- Saturday, April 7, 2007 4:19 PM CDT

Hurray, Melissa! GIRLS ROCK! I hope that all of the activities you're doing for LLS is giving you the same kind of peace it gives my dh, Jay! He says he's most at peace when he's in the saddle. (Seems crazy to me, but, it makes him happy!)

Anyway, just wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you, praying for you & rooting for you! You go, girl!

Happy Easter!
www.caringbridge.org/fl/collinburke
Shanon Burke <legomom0701@aol.com>
Eustis, FL USA - Saturday, April 7, 2007 3:28 PM CDT

Hi Melissa, not a day goes by that I don't think of you and your darling Donny. I just wanted to send you my love and plenty of (((HUGS))) this Easter. We love you!!!!!!!

Katie (mom to Hayley, Hunter, and Taylor) <dugan2b@yahoo.com>
Franklin, MA - Saturday, April 7, 2007 1:40 PM CDT

Melissa,
Just wanted to let you that you are always in my thoughts. We love you so very much.
Thank you for all the hard work you are oding to help raise funds for all our kids.

{{{hugs}}}
Robin
Robin Debes <gresh14@hotmail.com>
kimberly, wi usa - Saturday, April 7, 2007 1:31 PM CDT

Melissa,
I havent signed here in a while, that doesnt mean I have stopped thinking/praying about/for you guys. I think about you family everyday(thats true) and I pray for you everyday. It breaks my heart that you guys are having to suffer through this. I pray you are not lonely this weekend and your heart can heal. I have always though of you as an inspiration. I am so proud of the way you are letting Baby Donovon empower you to make changes. You are touching the hearts of every other CK parent out there. Thank you for what you are doing. Joy and Blessings on you this weekend and all following days.
Jessica Kerr <robzgurl27@yahoo.com>
Birmingham, AL USA - Saturday, April 7, 2007 12:46 AM CDT

Hey guys-

Just wanted to let you know that we are still here checking in everyday. Melissa you are doing a great job. You are really putting your energy towards a great cause. Hope you all have a Happy Easter!
Heather Thompson <htast@aol.com>
- Saturday, April 7, 2007 12:00 AM CDT

GO GIRL! Train hard! I wish I were riding with you this year but after 2 Tahoe rides I have tapped out my fundraising skills! I am rooting for you on all you runs and rides...I just made another donation- however small- it all adds up to CURE!

Sending XXXX and OOOO's from CA,
Cali Ali's Mom
Marey ALL-KIDS <kteachermom@hotmail.com>
- Saturday, April 7, 2007 11:41 AM CDT

Oh Melissa. Your entry made me cry. I know we only met once, at Baby D's funeral, but I will ALWAYS remember both you and your sweet son. I will NEVER forget, Melissa. Praying for you this weekend, for healing for your heart, hope, strength...hoping that every time you walk over that Colts doormat that you'll know that this redhead in cold New York is thinking of you and cares.
Angie Armstrong
www.caringbridge.org/visit/williamarmstrong

Angie Armstrong <samandang@gmail.com>
Albany, NY USA - Saturday, April 7, 2007 9:25 AM CDT

Melissa,
I hope that you have a nice Easter, I will be thinking about you. I pray that Darren and Dylan have a safe trip. Keep up the great work with your training!
Chari Warner <millymango40@yahoo.com>
Alpharetta, GA USA - Friday, April 6, 2007 4:23 PM CDT

stop by to say hi....Happy Easter...:)

God bless
Ozzie <ovieira@hartz.com>
Harrison, NJ - Friday, April 6, 2007 2:50 PM CDT

Melissa & family~

I hope that many blessings
find you this Easter,
reminding you of His
beautiful miracle
of everlasting life and hope,
and wrapping you securely
in the warmth of his love.

Wishing you a
beautiful and blessed
Easter!

www.caringbridge.org/visit/lakenroy

Love~ Claire, Jason, Amber, Kylie & ^Laken^

Claire Roy <caffemocha29@aol.com>
Kernersville, NC US - Friday, April 6, 2007 2:36 PM CDT

Howdy,
It's Grammie.
Well, guess where Grammie is. Yes, I am in Arizona. I did make it back to North Carolina to check on Mommy, Daddy, and Dylan. Grampapa and I drove back to Indiana and then we went on to Illinois. We got the keys to our new apartment near Chicago, then with Uncle James we drove back to Indiana to get our belongings from the storage unit.
We met up with some friends who helped us pack up the truck. While there, our friend, Matt Lykins was there to tell the stories of Grammie rocking you to sleep along with rocking the aircraft. And, of course, we will not ever forget Grammie rolling off the wing of the plane.
We got back to Illinois around midnight, so we did not unpack until the next day.
The weather was pretty cold and that made it difficult for Grammie to get around.
Grampapa and Grammie had a few new friends help us unpack along with Uncle James and ourselves.
Auntie Valerie called to say there was no room at the INN (the day care center) for Sofia, so I needed to go back to Arizona to help with the babysitting until there is space for her. It will only be a couple of weeks.
I was sure glad to get away from the cold temperatures in Illinois. My legs already feel much better, except I hit my middle toe on Auntie's sofa, so now I don't walk so well anyway.
I just wanted Mommy amd Daddy to know I love them and miss them a whole bunch. Of course, Dylan, I miss him terribly. I am going to go to Indianapolis when Mommy is running her race to pick him up for a few days to past with us in Illinois. I can't wait.
Well, Madison was so glad I came back. You know, she is three now. She is so sweet. She thinks Grammie lives in the airport. She wants to know why I don't come to her house more. It's not far from her house. She does not understand I do not stay at the airport, she just knows that they take me there and they pick me up from there.

Oh, by the way, Grammie's computer went out, so I am waiting for the store to tell me it is all better. I thank your cousin Tabby for putting all my files on my IPOD for me.

Well, good work-out Mommy. I love you so much

Love Grammie <lgstmpr@walla.com>
Tucson, AZ - Friday, April 6, 2007 2:33 PM CDT

Reading your journal entry today brings tears to my eyes. I can't imagine your pain. Just know I'm thinking and praying for all of you. God Bless.
Sherry Nitschke
Jud, ND USA - Friday, April 6, 2007 1:19 PM CDT

Hi Melissa: Just stopping by to let you know that you, Darren, and Dylan are never far from my thoughts. Enjoy your Easter weekend with your friends. You and your family are always in my prayers.
Sending hugs,
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Friday, April 6, 2007 6:46 AM CDT

Oh honey, I wish I could at least take away an ounce of your pain. I will keep asking God to give you the strength to carry on. I think you've done well so far, I know you might not feel that way, but you are focusing on something that means the world to you and that's a great thing. It's ok to cry, wheep, whatever you need to do. You do it because your body is telling you it needs to do it. I will pray that time will ease the pain for you. I'm sure Donny is by your side, giving you an at-da-mommy everyday. You keep on Never Giving Up!
Jodie (Matt's Aunt)
- Thursday, April 5, 2007 9:24 PM CDT

Hi Melissa,
I have not signed here for awhile because sometimes my cp won't let me...can't figure out why. Anyways I come here for updates all the time and I just want you to know that my heart breaks for each of you. Donavan is and always will be such a special little angel. I miss him, and never met him in person. That goes to show just now special he was. You are doing such a fantastic job with Dylan...what a woman you are!!! The best in training and the marathon.
LOve to all,
Colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Thursday, April 5, 2007 9:03 PM CDT

Hi Melissa,Darren, and Dylan, Hope that you have a great Easter and that you have a good spring. Hope that the marathon's you are doing help you heal in some ways. Angel Donovan Happy Easter. I still check on you everyday. God Bless you and your family.
Donna <drobinson1027@aol.com>
Williamston, SC USA - Thursday, April 5, 2007 4:18 PM CDT

Melissa: Just wanted to let you know that I think of you, Dylan & Donovan everyday and pray for you all daily. It is good to hear that you are able to continue your training and your mission. I continue to admire you as a mother and a person!

Keep your chin up this weekend! Lean on your friends! I am thankful you have them! I am here always, just an email away!

Beth
Whiteland, IN - Thursday, April 5, 2007 9:28 AM CDT

Continuing to pray!
Psalms 118:4-5 Let them now that fear the LORD say, that his mercy endureth for ever. I called upon the LORD in distress: the LORD answered me, and set me in a large place.
The Prayer Bears
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Wednesday, April 4, 2007 11:10 PM CDT

Still thinking of and praying for you and your family. I hope you are all able to find peace in this Easter season. God bless!
Julie
- Wednesday, April 4, 2007 7:47 PM CDT

Hey Melissa, just stopping by to say great job on your training! You are doing great! Keep it up!!! Thinking of you daily and praying for better days to come. Your goal to kick the c word is simply awesome. You go GIRL!
Patti Campanella <campanella10@sbcglobal.net>
Carmel, IN 46033 - Wednesday, April 4, 2007 9:26 AM CDT

Just stopping by to see how you, Dylan and Darren are holding up. Sorry I haven't signed in a while but things have been so busy here. My husband has been out of town for work since Jan so it's just me and my three boys. I think of you everyday and also check his site to see Donovan's beautiful face. Melissa you still continue to amaze me with your strength and determination. I don't know how you can train for 3 events. I have trouble doing one at a time. You ROCK!! I will be starting again in May to train for my third Nike Women's Marathon in October and I would be honored again to wear Donovan's picture. I know I emailed you about my son writing Dylan and I haven't forgotten. He drew him a beautiful picture of the Colts winning the Superbowl and a letter to go with it I just keep forgetting to mail it but I will!!!! Hope you are holding up okay. You still continue to be an inspiration to all of us mothers out here.

Baby D - Fly High Little Man and watch over your family. Also please say hi to Angel Matty. He joined your precious group last week after fighting for almost 3 years. Please make him feel welcomed up there in heaven.
Amy R Bellini <amy_bellini@farmfamily.com>
Troy, NY - Tuesday, April 3, 2007 8:41 PM CDT

Remembering you in my daily prayers. May God continue to hold all of you in his loving arms.
Susan Mitchell <smitchel@calfee.com>
Cleveland, Ohio United States - Tuesday, April 3, 2007 7:40 AM CDT

I don't know how I came across this site. I'm a fantasy/faerie artist and someone gave a piece of my art kudos... and from there I followed a link, that lead to another link, so on and so forth... Then I found you. I could never paint or imagine an angel as precious as your Donovan, or Christine, or Breanna... but God took his mighty brush and drew them with such light, beauty, strength and dignity that they will long outshine the most timeless piece of art. I hope and pray that you find peace and comfort in time. With love...
Nora Blansett <borealisart@yahoo.ca>
Windsor, NS Canada - Monday, April 2, 2007 1:27 PM CDT

Hi Melissa, just stopping by to say hello and that I'm thinking of you.
Much love,
Angie
www.caringbridge.org/visit/williamarmstrong
Angie <samandang@gmail.com>
Albany, NY - Monday, April 2, 2007 4:28 AM CDT

Hi, Melissa! I think of you and your family often. You, Darren, Dylan and Donovan are all still in my daily prayers. I was training tonight for the June TNT marathon in San Diego and I got to thinking about all your upcoming events. I had to take 2 weeks off because of an injury but I was back out strong today. Hang in there! You're doing exactly what you need to do! I wish you the very best!!
Janette Brew
Carmichael, CA USA - Sunday, April 1, 2007 9:53 PM CDT

It was so good seeing yall yesterday! Let me know about the SAMS thing! We'll be there!

Kristi
- Sunday, April 1, 2007 8:51 AM CDT

You are just amazing. Glad you and Dylan are spending so much time together. It's not fair that Donovan is not here with you after everything he went through. His spirit lives on though thru you and everyone else who knew him.
Jenny Harootunian
olathe, ks - Saturday, March 31, 2007 7:26 PM CDT

Wow! you are doing so much with your training and fundraising. I think it is great you are taking such a terrible situation and trying to make some good out of it.
Prayers for all of you.....
michele(nurse in ny)
- Saturday, March 31, 2007 3:27 PM CDT

thinking of you all...
Love and "Kangaroo hugs & kisses from Karen www.caringbridge.org/visit/karenmelissa
Karen
- Friday, March 30, 2007 9:59 PM CDT

Just letting you know that I am still praying for your family. Good luck
Donna <drobinson1027@aol.com.>
Williamston, SC USA - Friday, March 30, 2007 9:57 PM CDT

sending tons of prayers your way...stay strong....

God bless
Ozzie <ovieira@hartz.com>
Harrison, NJ - Friday, March 30, 2007 3:42 PM CDT

Melissa: I wish thatI could give you a big hug. I can only imagine how you're feeling about missing Donovan. My heart is aching for you, Darren and Dylan. It has to be hard! It's good, though, that you and Dylan are getting plenty of bonding time. You both need that! Know that I think of you often and always keep you and your family in my prayers.
Hugs (((())))
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Friday, March 30, 2007 2:40 PM CDT

Melissa: My heart aches for you and Dylan as you continue to grieve for your precious boy! I wanted to let you know that you are in my thoughts & prayers today. If you need anything, please let me know. You can also email ANYTIME. Praying for strength & encouragement as you continue your training and as you begin your journey here to Indy. I am glad to hear that you and Dylan are having so much time together to help each other heal. You are an AMAZING mother, don't ever forget that!
Beth Forey
Whiteland, IN - Friday, March 30, 2007 11:24 AM CDT

Melissa..
You are so amazing. I cannot imagine losing someone so incredibly close to me. Baby Donovan is so adorable :]
Love, Lindsay
PS: Email me if you can ;]
Lindsay Keim <lindsaykeim@mindspring.com>
Douglasville, GA US - Friday, March 30, 2007 10:20 AM CDT

Melissa,
I check you website every day, it just makes my day to see your beautiful boys faces. Your are truly an amazing woman, with so much fight and determination. I know that your boys are proud of you. Baby D. is smiling down on you and saying kick cancers butt mom. I know that the days and nights are hard now. But, one day you will remember baby D and the pain will not be as terrible and the memories will only make you smile. Treasure the times that you had with him and his spirit and smile will get you thru these hard times. You are doing exactly what you have to help other children and to keep baby B's memory alive!!! Good luck in your training and don't over do it. You continue to be in my prayers as does your whole family. Keep up the good work..
Danna Lawrence <danna@teamtransportation.com>
Summerville, SC Berkeley - Friday, March 30, 2007 10:20 AM CDT

Melissa-
You are a fabulous mother!! The healing will take time-try to find the joy in the memories that Donovan left with you.
Danielle Perry <dperry@nemours.org>
Wilmington, DE - Friday, March 30, 2007 7:56 AM CDT

Melissa and family,
It's been a long time since I've written in the journal, but I just wanted to let you all know that I continue to think about you. Thank you so much for continuing to let us all be a part of your life and your family. You are all very special people, and I admire your courage and determination to continue to get through your horrible loss.
Leah
Minneapolis, MN - Friday, March 30, 2007 7:35 AM CDT

Thinking of you and always keeping you in my prayers~
Love ~ Jan aka Mimi to Makayla (in heaven) & Hailey
Jan ~A Prayer Bear ~ www.freewebs.com/prayerbear <jannyjo@cox.net>
- Thursday, March 29, 2007 11:19 PM CDT

Hi guys! Stopping by to let you know I'm thinking of you. And I just wanted to say how much I admire your determination, Melissa. Thank you for continuing to help bring hope to the kids and their families fighting cancer. I checked on Noelle tonight, and it just broke my heart. It's so not fair!!! How many more kids do we have to lose before a cure is found? ~heavy sigh~ Thank you for reminding us Melissa, never to give up, to keep fighting no matter what, and to always remember these kids and their families. I like to think Donovan's passing wasn't an end, but a new beginning in helping others. :o) Not a day goes by that I don't think of his journey, and how incredibly blessed I have been to follow you and your family.
Sending you & Dylan (((((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))))) all the way from Burlington! I love you guys!
Lots of love, Nickey
Burlington, IA - Thursday, March 29, 2007 8:20 PM CDT

Thinking of you all and praying for strength and endurance...
Kristi Gerdon <kgerdon@widrick.com>
Croghan, NY - Thursday, March 29, 2007 12:01 AM CDT

Hey Melissa,
It has been a while since I signed in, but I check in on you often. I hope the training is going well. I am so proud of you and all of your endevors to honor Baby Donovan. I know he is looking down from Heaven smiling at you... You are an amazing mother... I love you and pray for God to continue to strengthen you everyday.
Sending all my love across the US,
Stacey Krause (mom to Kaylee in Heaven)
- Thursday, March 29, 2007 11:30 AM CDT

Hi Melissa,

Hope your training is going well. With the pollen count as it is in the South these days, it must be tough, but you will persevere in honor of your brave Donovan.

I enjoy looking at the pictures of the boys each day.

Anne Teddlie
Decatur, ga - Thursday, March 29, 2007 8:39 AM CDT

Melissa: I just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you daily and praying for you and Dylan. I haven't posted in a while but you are ALWAYS in my thoughts & prayers. I am amazed at your strength & determination to keep fighting for your precious baby! If you need me, I am here!
Beth
Whiteland, IN - Thursday, March 29, 2007 8:11 AM CDT

Today's passage is longer because I wanted to include the whole sentence. Know that I'm here continuing to pray for your family!
Ephesians 3:14-19 For this cause I bow my knees unto the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, Of whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named, That he would grant you, according to the riches of his glory, to be strengthened with might by his Spirit in the inner man; That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love, May be able to comprehend with all saints what is the breadth, and length, and depth, and height; And to know the love of Christ, which passeth knowledge, that ye might be filled with all the fulness of God.
The Prayer Bears
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Wednesday, March 28, 2007 10:08 PM CDT

Hi Melissa,
Just thinking of you and knowing, because of Donovan, you will make a difference.
Diane
Diane Thompson
Ocoee, Fl USA - Wednesday, March 28, 2007 7:39 PM CDT

Melissa- You are such an AMAZING woman!! Baby D must be so proud of you! I think of you often...
Cindy
ma - Wednesday, March 28, 2007 2:48 PM CDT

My heart is heavy to read of Donovan's passing- I don't know your family but came across your caring bridge site several months ago (I hope you received the gift cards and were able to use them). My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. Good luck with your training for TNT- What a wonderful way to honor your sweet baby. I wish for you strength and healing.
Sarah Weitzenkorn <sarahabbott1@hotmail.com >
Atlanta, GA - Wednesday, March 28, 2007 12:39 AM CDT

We just dropped by to check on you today.

Jodi and McKayla

Jodi Phelan <jodiphelan@hotmail.com>
Sherwood Park, AB Canada - Wednesday, March 28, 2007 0:25 AM CDT

Hi guys,
Stopping by to check on how you are doing. I still cherish looking at the photos of your boys.

Hope you are feeling better now. Food poisoning is not fun. Glad you are able to spend so much time with Dylan. That is just what he needs, I'm sure. :)

How many miles are you up to now? Keep going strong!
GO TEAM!

Sending lots of hugs,
Tiffany O'Neil - mom to Jackson and Faith <jetoneil@yahoo.com>
Rohnert Park, CA - Tuesday, March 27, 2007 11:55 PM CDT

Just stopped in to let you know I always hold you close in thoughts and prayers. And also to tell you that, okay, I jogged a half mile with my dog this morning and thought I would hurl. You are doing so much better for all the right reasons. Good luck on your training and take one day at a time, my friend. Hugs.
Beth (www.caringbridge.org/in/kylefacts) <bdehoff@iquest.net>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Tuesday, March 27, 2007 10:30 PM CDT

Thinking of you and praying

A Nebraska Prayer Bear
Kerry Chapman
- Tuesday, March 27, 2007 11:18 AM CDT

Just stopping to let you know that I'm thinking of you guys. Melissa, I hope you're feeling better. Food poisoning is AWFUL...I've ended up in the ER from that also..yuck!!!

And take it easy on the training!!!! Don't push yourself so that you can't move!! :) My gosh, you are so strong...you truly amaze me everytime I read your journals.

Love you guys...xoxo
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
NJ - Monday, March 26, 2007 11:21 AM CDT

Hi Melissa,

Just checking in to let you know that we are still out here praying and thinking of you, Darren, & Dylan.

In memory of Donovan . . .

Cammy - Laken's Mom

Cammy - Laken's Mom www.caringbridge.org/visit/lakenparsons <parsons@fullnet.com>
Huntingburg, IN USA - Sunday, March 25, 2007 10:14 PM CDT

Hi Melissa~
I just wanted to stop in to let you know that I was thinking of you and lifting you guys up in prayer. I think of you often. Give Dylan a hug from Mimi Jan.
Much love, hugs and prayers~
Jan aka Mimi to Makayla and Hailey

www.caringbridge.org/visit/haileychavers and www.caringbridge.org/visit/makaylachavers <jannyjo@cox.net>
A Virginia Prayer Bear (www.freewebs.com/prayerbears), - Sunday, March 25, 2007 9:48 PM CDT

Praying for you and your family. May God bless all of you.
Julie
- Sunday, March 25, 2007 1:32 PM CDT

Good Afternoon Rasmussen family!
It is finally sunny and warm in Iowa. I even have some bedding hanging out on the clothesline today! Sorry I have not left any messages lately. My dear, I am here everyday however :o) . Sorry to hear you've been feeling ill, hopefully you are feeling better today and soon you will be up and training again! I'm rooting you on - GO MELISSA GO!!! as I know you are one of the strongest mommies I know! ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) going out to everyone - especially Dylan! Love you all so much!!!
Lots of love, Nickey <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
Burlington, IA - Sunday, March 25, 2007 12:57 AM CDT

Praying for you Melissa! Take it easy as you prepare to race for the cure. Listen to your body and try not to push into injury...'cause I know you are eager to complete each one. Praying for all your family...Darren, Dylan and extended...who miss Donovan so much. I lost a sister, so I know it's hard, but with Jesus I am pressing on. May He cover you each one!
Love,
Holly Smith
Holly Smith <chrishollysmith@msn.com>
Monument, CO USA - Saturday, March 24, 2007 9:55 AM CDT

Hey Melissa - I was just thinking about you so decided to check in on you. I absolutely can't believe you missed an episode of Grey's!!! Glad it's a repeat :-) Give Dylan a hug from us.
Jill and Alex www.caringbridge.com/ca/alexschwab <jillschwab99@hotmail.com>
Manhattan Beach, CA USA - Friday, March 23, 2007 8:02 PM CDT

Hi Melissa,

I was thinking of you and your family, and remembering your sweet Baby D. Just wanted to stop in and let you know you are still in my heart and on my mind. Wow to your goals of the marathons! Good luck to you as you train. I hope you'll be very sucessful in raising money for research.
Wishing you all the best,
suzanne
www.caringbridge.org/visit/abbymeacham
Suzanne Meacham <emeacham@nycap.rr.com>
Cohoes, NY USA - Friday, March 23, 2007 5:42 PM CDT

Howdy,
It's Grammie.

I don't write as soon as I used too. Sometimes, it is just really hard to write you and know you won't get a chance to read all the things I wanted to say to you. However, I realize that these journal entries are not just for you, but for your whole family. One of these days, when Dylan is older, he will open this special book up and see how much we wanted you to be with us forever and forever. Although, you will be with us forever and ever, it just won't be in the same way. Dylan will read how so many people prayed for him as well as you. He will read about his own strength through this journey you have taken us all on. Dylan is a special brother and even though he truly does not understand you going away right now, he will always be grateful for the special brother you are to him.
Grammie and Papa will be going back to North Carolina tomorrow. It will be a very long trip. We leave around 11am and do not get into Raleigh until 11pm. With all the time changes, it is not as long as it seems, still I think it will be a very long day.

Madison is very sad we are leaving. She wants Grammie to stay and live here. I wished I could stay and live with all my granbabies. I told her I would come back to Arizona in a few months when I get settled in Illinois.

After we pick up our car, we will be heading for Illinois to move into our new apartment there. We will get to visit with Dylan hopefully all day Sunday.

Well, Darling, Grammie needs to go. I love you so much. I so wish you were here, but I am so glad you are healthy and you are playing with all the other children and visiting all of our relatives who are living up there with heavenly Father.

Grammie <lgstmpr@walla.com>
Tucson, AZ - Friday, March 23, 2007 1:26 PM CDT

I hope you are feeling better soon, and able to train again. You're doing wonderful work! The long talks with Dylan are probably so important . . . my daughter Phoebe and I do the same thing in remembering and talking about Clare. Healing hurts, but I do cherish those talks even as I cry.

Hang in, Melissa . . . it's so hard, but you can do it.

Karen, Clare's mom www.caringbridge.org/md/clareschmidt
Cabin John, MD - Friday, March 23, 2007 6:38 AM CDT

Melissa and Family,
We still continue to pray for you all...not a day goes by that we do not think of you and we are cheering for all your hard work and training.
Kristy <krippy15@hotmail.com>
Nashua, NH USA - Thursday, March 22, 2007 9:49 PM CDT

Just stopping by to say hi and let you know that I'm thinking about you. Sorry that you weren't feeling really good, Melissa. Hoping that tomorrow will be a better day. Glad that you are getting some good bonding time with Dylan. It must be hard for him to understand about Donovan. He is lucky to have such a loving mom to help him get through these hard times. Take care of yourself and try to get some rest.
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Thursday, March 22, 2007 5:06 PM CDT

Melissa, Darren & Dylan, Congrats on your fundraising. Looks like you have a lot of support! Contining to pray for all of you.
The Matlock Family
Lemont, IL USA - Thursday, March 22, 2007 3:38 PM CDT

Checking in on you all again -- sorry to read about the sickness and soreness. Continuing to pray for your family and so many others who I've been introduced to by CaringBridge. I continue to admire your dedication to training for these events, and your determination to honor Donovan in this way. Praying that you, Darren and Dylan can continue to bond and heal.
Kristi Gerdon <kgerdon@widrick.com>
Croghan, NY - Thursday, March 22, 2007 8:36 AM CDT

Melissa,
I'm sorry to hear you've been having an even rougher time of it lately. Hopefully, you are now on your way to recovery and feeling stronger. Dylan must find such comfort in having such a wonderful mom to comfort him during these difficult times. Take it easy and don't overdo you will reach your goals I just know it!!!!!!!
Karen Patterson <Anchormom@comcast.net>
New Castle, DE - Thursday, March 22, 2007 6:02 AM CDT

When going through trials it may seem that you're all alone and that nobody understands what you're going through. There is One who not always understands perfectly but Who's always with you so that you're never truly alone!!!! Still here praying!
Joh 16:32: Behold, the hour cometh, yea, is now come, that ye shall be scattered, every man to his own, and shall leave me alone: and yet I am not alone, because the Father is with me.
The Prayer Bears
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Thursday, March 22, 2007 0:11 AM CDT

Thinking about you all and precious Baby D this evening.....I'm so sorry you have had such a bad week.....just one of those things would have been bad enough, but to have all three hit in the same week.....but it sounds like it might have been a bit of a blessing, too, that you and Dylan got some healing time together.....you are in my prayers ALWAYS.
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Wednesday, March 21, 2007 9:55 PM CDT

Melissa - Just wanted to stop and say hello and that I'm thinking of you all. I am so sorry for your friends and their son. Although I do not know them, I know this life all too well and my heart goes out to them and I will keep them in my prayers.

Lots of love to you all...
Alicia (Cammie's Mom) <alicia415@comcast.net>
Brownsburg, IN - Wednesday, March 21, 2007 8:41 PM CDT

Just letting you know we are thinking and praying for you. Take care and God bless!
Love, Lemoine Family :)
www.caringbridge.org/visit/tristenwilliam
Samantha Lemoine <szuther@hotmail.com>
Hillsboro, ND USA - Wednesday, March 21, 2007 1:52 PM CDT

Thinking of you tonight Melissa... we love you guys.
Katie (mom to Hayley, Hunter, and Taylor) <dugan2b@yahoo.com>
Franklin, MA - Tuesday, March 20, 2007 9:04 PM CDT

Thinking of you & praying for you all tonight. Melissa, keep up the hard work - I know how much it will pay off for so many children!

Carrie Stroud (mom to Camden)
Carrie Stroud <dstroud2@ec.rr.com>
Morehead City, NC United States - Tuesday, March 20, 2007 8:06 PM CDT

I'm sorry to hear about your friend's son. I will add him to my prayers. I just wanted to let you know that I was thinking of you, Darren, Dylan and the teddy bear.
Chari Warner <millymango40@yahoo.com>
Alpharetta, GA USA - Tuesday, March 20, 2007 3:19 PM CDT

I pray that God continues to carry you and your family through this difficult time, and I hope you are able to find peace, strength, and comfort through Him. I am so glad you are able to compete in these races in honor of your sweet Donovan. He was truly inspirational and will always be remembered. Thank you for continuing to share your life with us... you are a wonderful mother and person.
Ashleigh Frye <ashleighwall@hotmail.com>
Mission Viejo, CA - Monday, March 19, 2007 11:36 PM CDT

Melissa, thank you for your support for my son Nick; I know too well what you have gone through. I wish to have an ounce of your strength to go on day by day. I will call you soon. Nick goes for a bone marrow and chemo in the a.m. Luvs to you and yours Dr.Durham
Tammy Durham <dad000@indy.rr.com>
Carmel, IN USA - Monday, March 19, 2007 9:17 PM CDT

Thinking of you today little CHAMP - and missing you. Sending you and your family ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) all the way from Burlington!
Lots of love, Angel Nickey
Burlington, IA - Monday, March 19, 2007 7:20 PM CDT

saying a prayer for you today, hope you are doing well.
sandie k brown``
mesa, az us - Sunday, March 18, 2007 9:14 PM CDT

Happy St. Patrick's Day! We are thinking about you. Hope you are having a nice weekend!

caringbridge.org/visit/quiltsofhope
Jaime <aquiltofhope@aol.com>
- Saturday, March 17, 2007 3:04 PM CDT

Lots of love, Nickey <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
Burlington, IA - Saturday, March 17, 2007 10:22 AM CDT

With Much Love
Irish Sammi & her Irish Mommy <humphity@gmail.com>
Always Missing & Remembering *Baby Donovan* - Saturday, March 17, 2007 9:56 AM CDT

Melissa,
So sorry to hear about your friend's son. He will be in my prayers kiddo. I know he will have an angel looking over him as well ;o) . I will be thinking of Nicholas & his mom, as well as you & Donovan on Sunday night as we are going to see Mark Schultz in concert. I'll have to email you some pics when we get back.
Stay strong little mama - you are doing such an incredible thing with all this hard work.
Happy Birthday Hugs going out to your dad & Madison & Val! What an exciting month for them!!! (Anjali & Emma both had birthdays this month too!)

Keep in touch sweetie!
((((((BIG HUGS)))))) going out to all of you from all of us in Burlington!
Lots of love, Nickey <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
Burlington, IA - Friday, March 16, 2007 3:02 PM CDT

You are such an inspiration Melissa! I'll be following you and of course cheering you... with love,
Aurea <aureavila@cablevision.net.mx>
M�xico, D.F. Mexico - Friday, March 16, 2007 2:20 PM CDT

Melissa, you truly are a inspiration in alot of peoples eyes...your strength is remarkable!! I read your entries often and have just been soooo inspired by you...Although this is a hard time in your life keep in mind that God does not give you more than you can handle...Know that you and your family are in my prayers and Donovan is helping you have this strength. Take Care.
Jennifer Taylor <jennbernardt@hotmail.com>
League City, TX USA - Friday, March 16, 2007 9:07 AM CDT

Melissa,
I'm still praying for you, Dylan and Darren! It's wonderful that you're finding an outlet to help other children fight cancer and honor Angel Donovan too. I'm proud to be a sponsor on your Tahoe ride and will continue praying for you during your training time. I hope that you, Dylan and Darren will be together as a family again soon--Virginia is a long way from Indianapolis.
Julie Helman <julesmh@hotmail.com>
Annandale, VA - Thursday, March 15, 2007 3:37 PM CDT

Just checking on you. I gave to Mickey's team for the Mini but will be giving for your Tahoe event. I still pray for you all regularly and miss checking on our little teddy bear. We all know he is more than okay now, but I still pray for all of you and hope to see you soon. Hugs.
Beth and Kyle (www.caringbridge.org/in/kylefacts) <bdehoff@iquest.net>
Indianapolis, IN usa - Thursday, March 15, 2007 12:46 AM CDT

Just checking in on you. I am sorry that you ae in so much pain. You are putting your time to such a great cause. That is a wonderful thing you are doing. Take care of yourself and Dylan. It is good to here that Dareen is doing okay.
kjk
- Thursday, March 15, 2007 12:13 AM CDT

HI SWEET ANGEL,
DO YOU , WELL OF COURSE YOU DO,
KNOW WHAT A WONDERFUL, LOVING MOTHER
YOU HAVE , AGAIN OF COURSE YOU DO.
I KNOW YOU ARE AT PEACE IN HEAVEN,
ENCOURAGING YOUR MOMMY TO KEEP ON KEEPIN.
MELISSA,
YOU GO MOMMY, YOU ARE TRULEY ON A PATH
HEADED FOR A CURE, YOU ARE DOING FOR
ALL THE OTHER CHILDREN OUT THERE
FIGHTING FOR THEIR LIVES FROM THIS BEAST.
FOR THAT I THANK-YOU.
WE ARE HAVING NOELLES BENEFIT APRIL 14TH IN MICHIGAN, I KNOW DONNY WILL BE THERE WITH US, ONE OF THE ANGELS ON MY SHOULDER, SUPPORTING NOELLS FIGHT.
GOD BLESS YOU MELISSA,
BETH (NOELLES GREAT AUNT)
HARD TRAINING WITH HELP YOUR STRESS MELISSA
BUT REMEMBER ITS GOOD TO CRY., MS U.S.A. - Thursday, March 15, 2007 1:34 AM CDT

Know that I'm here praying so for your family!!!!!!!!!
Psalms 91:1 He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty.
The Prayer Bears
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Wednesday, March 14, 2007 8:45 PM CDT

Just got back from my vacation and wanted you to know that I'm thinking about you and sending prayers your way.
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Wednesday, March 14, 2007 7:24 PM CDT

Still praying for you and your family. May God bless all of you.
Julie
- Wednesday, March 14, 2007 7:21 PM CDT

Melissa - cheering you on to victory with your training and marathons coming up!!!

GO MELISSA GO!!!
GO MELISSA GO!!!
GO MELISSA GO!!!

:o) Sending you ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) from all of us in Burlington! :o)
Lots of love, Nickey <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
Burlington, ia - Wednesday, March 14, 2007 10:26 AM CDT

Thinking about you all...praying for you everyday.

Lori
www.caringbridge.org/visit/savahanascott
Lori <lascott32@aol.com>
AVon, in - Wednesday, March 14, 2007 9:23 AM CDT

Hi Melissa! I am so excited about all the work you are doing. I wanted to tell you that I'll be in Indy May 3rd too for my God daughter's 1st communion. I'd LOVE to try to see you if your schedule permits. How long will you bwe there? Your Chicago run is on Kellbell's birthday too! I promise that I'll sponsor you. Right now I am buried with Upside Down Ball plans. It is this Friday and SOLD OUT! Yippee! I can't wait to start anew! We ran out of money-too many sick kids-this past year. Plus, everyone was donated out because of hurricane Katrina. I have so many great things planned for our families. I hope we do really well. Check out the new web page-www.kellysupsidedownball.org
I am getting better at this web page stuff. I wish I had your energy! I sit at the desk half the day or on the phone, "begging!" Kelly is getting her port out on Tuesday. That seems weird, but good.
I think of you guys every day. I just wanted to say hi and check in before the ball-since, I'll be out of touch the rest of this week!
God Bless!
Robbin and Kelly www.caringbridge.org/in/kellbell
Robbin Lyons <thomtalent@aol.com>
- Wednesday, March 14, 2007 2:14 AM CDT

Wow, what a good long ride! You are the best of the best of the BEST! Keep on, Melissa, keep on.
Jane Snell Copes
Inver Grove Heights, MN USA - Tuesday, March 13, 2007 9:26 PM CDT

Melissa, I will never begin to imagine the strain and pressure your family has been under for so long...and now the grief. Haven't signed your guestbook in quite some time,but I want you to know that I am praying for your family and that God will help you to remain strong together. You deserve God's love and help (and the Blessed Mother....especially)....
Stacey
franklin, ma - Tuesday, March 13, 2007 6:36 PM CDT

Melissa, I am thinking of you and praying that you stay strong and protected as you do all your training - glad your fall was in the grass :)

I am proud of you for being such a great example for Dylan and showing him that you can make a difference for other kids who are in your same situation...grief is a powerful emotion, and if you can pour some of it into your fundraising, it will remind you that Baby D was a hero and your efforts are a wonderful tribute to all he went through. Dylan is also lucky to have a mommy that is not afraid of her feelings, who can share her tears and remind him that we all have feelings of sadness about someone leaving for a while....it is so good for him to know that it is OK to be sad - even normal!! He has been through so much too, and you are a great mom for helping him work through the loss of his brother.

I am so happy to hear that things are going well for Darren...your family has gone through more than most can even begin to imagine, and I pray that God brings healing to all the wounds that you suffered in this battle.

lots of love!!
Kim
Andrew's Page <kim.sprague@cox.net>
Ladera Ranch, CA USA - Tuesday, March 13, 2007 4:29 PM CDT

Dear Melissa and family,
It has been a while since I have signed in but I still check in regularly.
Melissa, What a wonderful journal. So full of heart and raw emotion. I am so proud of your dedication and perserverance! You are a true inspiration to us all :) I am sorry that you have to endure so much speculation from those who don't really know what it is like to live the life you have lived. I wish you and your family only the best!
Carrie Kleman <dukeandcarrie@netzero.net>
Avon, MN - Tuesday, March 13, 2007 3:10 PM CDT

Thinking about you guys a lot... and praying for you for strength. You are a brave, strong woman to be doing this to raise funds for this nasty thing cancer. I wish you all the best.
Nicole <coleface91@hotmail.com>
Calgary, Canada - Tuesday, March 13, 2007 2:48 PM CDT

Stopping in to say hello and let you know you were all on my mind today. Thinking of Donovan and praying for you, his family.

www.freewebs.com/prayerbears
Kerry Chapman
- Tuesday, March 13, 2007 2:14 PM CDT

I read your last entry and I think you are just a wonderful, courages woman and I pray that everything will work out for you and Darren. You guys have been thru so much heartache. Praying for you all and especially for Dylan.
Francesca
Stoneham, ma usa - Tuesday, March 13, 2007 2:13 PM CDT

I'm sorry that I haven't been by lately to check on your beautiful family. I was on vacation last week, but still had you on my mind. I pray that the days are getting a little better for you. Keep up the good work with the training!
Chari Warner <millymango40@yahoo.com>
Alpharetta, GA USA - Tuesday, March 13, 2007 9:19 AM CDT

Dear Melissa, I hope your training is going well. You have set very high goals for yourself all in the name of love. Not only for Donovan, but for all innocent little children who fall victim to vicious cancer. I would like to mention that a very special little girl, Morganelizabeth, will be celebrating her 14th birthday on Thursday, March 15th. Morgan has fought very courageously and if you or anybody has a chance, I'm sure she would love to receive a little message on that day. Thank you, and I hope you and your family are doing a little better each day. Morgan's address is: www.caringbridge.org/visit/morganelizabeth
Hara Dwyer <bckbskc@aol.com>
Barre, VT United States - Tuesday, March 13, 2007 9:06 AM CDT

Melissa - continuing to remember you in my daily prayers. God bless you.
Susan Mitchell <smitchel@calfee.com>
Cleveland, Ohio United States - Tuesday, March 13, 2007 7:14 AM CDT

Hi Melissa, Darren and Dylan...just wanted to say good morning and to let you know that not a day has gone by that I'm not thinking of you guys and precious Angel Donovan.
Good luck to you with all that you are doing to raise money and awareness to fight this horrible disease!
Lots of love to you all.
Alicia <alicia415@comcast.net>
Brownsburg, IN - Tuesday, March 13, 2007 6:33 AM CDT

Melissa

We are still thinking of you & praying for you all. I'm so proud of all of the hard work you are doing to fight this terrible monster. I never want another parent to have to hear the words that there child has cancer again. You are making a difference & Donovan must be so proud!

Carrie (mom to Camden)

Carrie Stroud <dstroud2@ec.rr.com>
Morehead City, NC United States - Monday, March 12, 2007 10:26 PM CDT

Melissa,
You are truly an amazing woman. Best of luck with your training. Your journal entries would make an amazing book about a family's love for their child and help raise awareness of this horrible disease. I continue to pray for all of you and hope that memories of Donovan continue to bring you joy as he did in life. May God bless and heal your family.
Missing Donovan
- Monday, March 12, 2007 8:32 PM CDT

Melissa, you are amazing...35 miles!!!! My legs are about to collapse just thinking about it!! I'm glad you have some special time to spend with Dylan, I'm sure he's loving it. I hope Darren comes home soon...he sure is amazing too. With everything he has going on emotionally he still gets right back to work to support his family. You guys are such a special family. I give you alot of credit for the way you're trying to move on with your life. I don't think I could ever be as strong as you. Keep up the great work! xoxo
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
NJ - Monday, March 12, 2007 8:08 PM CDT

Thinking of you...

Love & "Kangaroo hugs & kisses" from Karen www.caringbridge.org/visit/karenmelissa

Karen
- Monday, March 12, 2007 5:56 PM CDT

Way to go!!!. Melissa you are the best and your husband and son are also two great fighters. Without doubt what you are doing is increadibly positive because you will find that by doing all of these activities your life will have a nice meaning and the final objective cant be better. Best of luck and God Bless.
Diego Pando
BsAs, Argentina - Monday, March 12, 2007 2:59 PM CDT

Simply thinking of and praying for you all. Trusting that GOD will heal your hearts and hold you all together. Feeling the sadness in your words but also the determination to "keep on keeping on" for your special little guy.

As my kids would say from watching too much Toy Story -- RIDE LIKE THE WIND!!
Kristi Gerdon <kgerdon@widrick.com>
Croghan, NY - Monday, March 12, 2007 1:44 PM CDT

Stopping by to say hi and send our love!!!

((((((BIG HUGS)))))) coming from Burlington!
Lots of love, Nickey
Burlington, IA - Monday, March 12, 2007 10:26 AM CDT

Praying for you and Darren and that God heals your hearts.
The Matlock Family
Lemont, IL USA - Monday, March 12, 2007 8:29 AM CDT

I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful Donovan.
You are going to do fabulously in your races- I run marathons, and have friends that do ultras and IronMans, you can absolutely do these events with no problem. I am praying for you and Dylan to have strength in this sad time.
Sue Ann Peng <mrsfrk@yahoo.com>
San Jose, CA USA - Sunday, March 11, 2007 11:48 PM CDT

Sending you tons of LOVE and (((HUGS))) from here in MA.

xxxxoooo
Katie (mom to Hayley, Hunter, and Taylor) <dugan2b@yahoo.com>
Franklin, MA - Sunday, March 11, 2007 11:31 PM CDT

Melissa you are so strong, what you are doing is so great! I know your baby is right next to you with his hand on your shoulder as you run or ride he knows what you are doing and loves you so much for it! Hugs to Dylan
Kirsten Garcia <tkgarcia4@comcast.net>
Remington, IN. - Sunday, March 11, 2007 8:19 PM CDT

Dear Melissa,
You are sooo amazing, and I admire your courage in everything you stand for. I am sorry for the sadness that
you are challenged with everyday. You and Darren are in
my Prayers....this journey is a diffucult one.
Love to all,,,and Dylan
Colleen

colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Sunday, March 11, 2007 7:48 PM CDT

Just stopping by to say hi! Keep up the great work you are doing to raise money. Have a good night.
Heather Thompson <htast@aol.com>
- Sunday, March 11, 2007 7:05 PM CDT

Keep on working hard Melissa! You inspire me every day.
Amy
Fayetteville, NY - Sunday, March 11, 2007 4:06 PM CDT

Melissa - I just wanted to offer some cyber-support today - I can feel your pain through your words, and can also feel your determination to put your pain into your training to make a difference. Your courage to share your grief is admirable, and your selflessness all along your journey, your willingness to do whatever you can to help your kids and your sheer determination to make it through are so evident and I can't help but be a fan :)

Deanna Deutsch <dldeutsch@centurytel.net>
Delafield, WI USA - Sunday, March 11, 2007 2:35 PM CDT

Hey Melissa! Just stopping by today to let you know how much I think and pray for you. Wow all that training you are doing is amazing! I know Donovan is looking down at you with a big smile on his face. He will always be with you and he is so proud of you! Keep your chin up high and continue to know how many people are praying for you!
Patti Campanella <campanella10@sbcglobal.net>
Carmel, IN 46033 - Sunday, March 11, 2007 12:59 AM CDT

You are such an amazing and strong person. I still check your site and pray for you daily. I wish you luck in your training and in the real things!

Jenny Harootunian
olathe, ks - Sunday, March 11, 2007 11:38 AM CDT

Melissa,
I'm sorry that I haven't signed in a while. I think about Donavan everyday and although I never met him, I miss him. It's impossible not to fall in love with him. I am so proud of you Melissa for what you're doing. I hope you are able to make all of your goals. Together we will one day see the cure!!

http://www.myspace.com/austinlukeandsavannahsmom

Love & Prayers,
Amy Nasworthy <mnasworthy@tampabay.rr.com>
St. Pete, FL - Sunday, March 11, 2007 9:39 AM CDT

Hi There! Sorry it's been awhile..my computer crashed so the library is our only source right now...sorry for the confusing e-mail just saw logo and thought it was someone else! oops! Look forward to contibuting to your efforts and will pass on my # because we're on the way to Tahoe and would love to somehow participate with your team..handing out food, water etc...Hope to meet..
Prayers continue...Love,
Colleen, Kelsey and Faith- <colleencadaret@sbcglobal.net>
Placerville, CA - Saturday, March 10, 2007 6:15 PM CST

Melissa and family -
We think of of you and baby d often. I am grateful that you continue to journal, as I know it will bring you much peace and also allows those of us who have followed your story to contine to support you and be a part of your healing.
You are doing wonderful things by participating in fundraising activities for the Leukemia and Lymphoma society and you should be very proud of your efforts (as all of your supporters are) but please, in the midst of all of your efforts, take time for MELISSA. As a parent of a child with cancer, I know all too well how easy it is to get caught up in the "cause" and forget about the "mom".
God Bless you Melissa. You are always in our thoughts and prayers.
Vicki/Angel_Wings and ALL-Kids
Corson/Lamorey Family www.caringbridge.org/visit/morganelizabeth <vcorson@tds.net>
- Saturday, March 10, 2007 0:07 AM CST

Still thinking about your family. Good luck with your training and your fundraising for a cure. I'll be doing the Big Climb for Leukemia on March 18th in Seattle. 1311 stairs!! I'm gonna get my butt kicked!
Diane Ussery- mom to Dylan www.caringbridge.org/visit/dylanellefson <ddiney@yahoo.com>
Buckley, WA - Friday, March 9, 2007 10:44 PM CST

Just stopping by to say hi...see you around!!!

Valeria (Sofia's mom)
Valeria Sanchez (www.caringbridge.org/visit/sofiacastro) <valeria_sanchez_c@hotmail.com>
- Friday, March 9, 2007 6:11 PM CST

You go girl! I posted a note about your training and raising funds/awareness on Will's website the other day. Thinking and praying for you.
Angie
www.caringbridge.org/visit/williamarmstrong
Angie Armstrong <samandang@gmail.com>
Cary, NC - Friday, March 9, 2007 4:32 PM CST

Just wanted to let you know we pray for you Melissa, for Grammie, Dylan, Darren, for all your family.
A big hug
Aurea www2.caringbridge.org/mexico/dani <aureavila@cablevision.net.mx>
mexico, d.f. mexico - Friday, March 9, 2007 1:33 PM CST

Melissa, Darren, & Dylan,
Still praying for all of you as you learn to go on.
May the Lord continue to comfort you each day.
Sandi Queen (Jeremiah's Mommy) caringbridge.org/pa/jeremiah <queens@greenepa.net>
New Freeport, PA - Friday, March 9, 2007 8:48 AM CST

I have been praying for you Melissa. I found your site from Will Armstrong's site. Then I couldn't find it again. Today, Angie asked us to remember you. Wow! I am very humbled to see you and Angie reaching out through your pain to help others. God uses each of us in spite of our struggles and hurts. I will keep praying for you and following you and your family. Keep on! Be blessed!
Lauri McCallum <burninuptheice@yahoo.com>
San Angelo, TX USA - Friday, March 9, 2007 0:39 AM CST

Hey Melissa~
I left you a voicemail today....I hope that all is ok. I will try to catch you before I get ready to leave tomorrow. I will be leaving around noon...hopefully we can catch up! Call me if you can in the morning.
Many hugs my friend~

Jan aka Mimi to Makayla (in heaven) & Hailey <jannyjo@cox.net>
- Thursday, March 8, 2007 10:18 PM CST

Hi Melissa,
You are such an inspiration to me and so many others. The hard work you are doing is just amazing to me. I keep Donavan close to my heart and look at his picture so often. I pray that your days find peace and you have wonderful dreams of your Donavan. Your whole family are in prayers.
Hugs to all,
Colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Thursday, March 8, 2007 6:57 PM CST

Melissa, just wanted you to know that I am thinking and praying for you still. HUGS to you.
www.caringbridge.org/mn/alexisstern
Karen Stern <jandkstern@connec tions-etc.net>
Big Lake, MN - Thursday, March 8, 2007 11:18 AM CST

sending tons of prayers your way....its great what you are doing....keep up the good job...

God bless
Ozzie <ovieira@hartz.com>
Harrison, NJ - Thursday, March 8, 2007 9:41 AM CST

Melissa,
I'm still praying for you, Dylan and Darren! Lots of people truly do care about you and your family. It's wonderful to hear of you training and raising money to fight leukemia--this disease needs to stop taking young children.
Julie Helman <julesmh@hotmail.com>
Annandale, VA - Thursday, March 8, 2007 9:18 AM CST

I continue to keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. Your family is SO special, and I think you're right about Donovan, he was an old soul. What a special little boy you were blessed with. May you take comfort in knowing that you will forever have an angel.
Leah
Minneapolis, MN USA - Thursday, March 8, 2007 8:20 AM CST

Good Morning!!!!
So nice to hear from you again, Melissa. I am so happy to hear your faith is standing strong, just as you are. Give my love and ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) to Dylan - and know how much we care! :o)

Lots of love, Nickey <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
Burlington, IA - Thursday, March 8, 2007 8:12 AM CST

Keep your chin up Melissa.
We're still thinking of you
Kimberly
New Brighton, MN - Thursday, March 8, 2007 7:44 AM CST

Melissa,

Hope the training is going well. Thank goodness you have beautiful weather to enjoy while running! I think of the four of you often, and pray for your peace.

Anne Teddlie <ateddlie@aol.com>
Decatur, Ga - Thursday, March 8, 2007 6:28 AM CST

Thank you for the update. You are still in my prayers daily. I'm glad Dylan is doing better--I'm sure just like grown-ups he will have good days and not so good days. Also, Grey's is NEW tonight (at least the TV listing says so) so enjoy!
Karen Patterson <Anchormom@comcast.net>
New Castle, DE - Thursday, March 8, 2007 5:58 AM CST

Late start tonight, but had to let you know that I'm still praying before I went to bed.
Romans 8:18 For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.
The Prayer Bears

Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Thursday, March 8, 2007 0:51 AM CST

Thinking of you Love from Karen www.caringbridge.org/visit/karenmelissa
karen
- Wednesday, March 7, 2007 9:58 PM CST

Hi Melissa & family,

Just stopping by to say "hi" & to let you know that you are always in my thoughts and prayers. Remembering Donovan . . .

Cammy

Cammy - Laken's Mom www.caringbridge.org/visit/lakenparsons <parsons@fullnet.com>
Huntingburg, IN USA - Wednesday, March 7, 2007 8:42 PM CST

Melissa, just wanted you to know I was thinking of you today. I hope your training is going well, you are giving the gift of hope to people who you will never know, what a gift for you to give.
be gentle with yourself.
Cindy Zammit, mom to Brandon ALL Kids
Damascus, MD - Wednesday, March 7, 2007 4:23 PM CST

Thinking of you all!! Praying for wonderful days and peaceful thought of your Baby D!

Lori and Savahana
www.caringbridge.org/visit/savahanascott
Lori <lascott32@aol.com>
Avon, In - Wednesday, March 7, 2007 10:33 AM CST

Thinking of you and praying for you. Hope the training is going well. Dylan and Darren, you are in our prayers daily and hope you feel the power of our prayers in your hearts.
Kerry Chapman ~ The Prayer Bears~ www.freewebs.com/prayerbears
Grand Island, NE - Wednesday, March 7, 2007 8:31 AM CST

Just letting you know that you are in my thoughts and prayers each and every day......
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Wednesday, March 7, 2007 8:16 AM CST

Keeping you all close in thought and prayer. I was especially touched by Grammie's post about crying in Walgreen's with the nice cashier. I still have those bittersweet moments when near strangers who were somehow touched by Clare ask about her, not knowing she is gone. I love that people remember, but it is very hard at the same time.

Keep going, Melissa . . . so wonderful to read about your TNT work.

Karen, Clare's mom www.caringbridge.org/md/clareschmidt
Cabin John, MD - Tuesday, March 6, 2007 3:34 PM CST

Thinking of you as you plow ahead on this very tough road. My heart aches for all of you. Melissa, I think the marathons are a great way to honor Donovan's memory and channel your grief. I wish you all the very best. Bobbi (mom to Avi, osteosarcoma survivor, Georgetown Hosp.)
Bobbi Spector <rjspector@rcn.com>
Bethesda, MD - Tuesday, March 6, 2007 7:31 AM CST

Thinking about you all during this difficult transition time. Grammie so sorry to hear about your hard day.You are aloud to be drippy,you are misssing a very special little boy after a long hard fight.Melissa and Darren hang in there,it is a journey of highs and lows you are on.Let yourself feel everything!Dear little Dylan,it is such a confusing world for a little boy.You have so many people you love to miss.Hope you can just have fun and snuggle in the love of your parents.You are a special little boy!
Jenn Waters
Victoria, BC Canada - Tuesday, March 6, 2007 0:24 AM CST

Hi Melissa - Just checking in to see how you're doing. Hope your training is going well! Hugs,
Jill and Alex www.caringbridge.com/ca/alexschwab <jillschwab99@hotmail.com>
Manhattan Beach, CA United States - Monday, March 5, 2007 10:47 PM CST

What an amazing goal you have set for yuourself, I applaud your courage. I was wondering why there are no updates about Darren? I hope he is okay, as a father myself I was just concerned for him. Please let us know how Dylan's dad is doing.
Bill Friedman <dad2two@yahoo.com>
Portland, Or - Monday, March 5, 2007 10:29 PM CST

It's been some time since I came to check on the Rasmussens. What a wonderful thing you are doing Melissa, I know a few people who do several marathons a year with TNT and work full time, so you go for it. I did the San Diego Rock n Roll two years ago, but being an old guy of 67, I can't do it anymore..the knees put their foot down :)
Big boy Dylan, how proud you should be for being such a wonderful big brother. You are very special. Work hard in school and show them just how smart you are.
Darren, as a father myself (and grandfather) I can only imagine your pain over the loss of your Baby Donovan. Seems the moms do most of the journaling and the dads are pretty much in the background. Please know that you are in my prayers as you work hard out of town to provide for your family. I'm sure you'd rather be with them more.
May God bless you all as you travel this new chapter.
In His name, George
George Crompton <geoandbet@hotmail.com>
Escondido, CA USA - Monday, March 5, 2007 7:43 PM CST

Hi Melissa, just wanted to let you know we are thinking of you and Baby Donny and Dylan and Darren. We love you all.
Katie (mom to Hayley, Hunter, and Taylor) <dugan2b@yahoo.com>
Franklin, MA - Monday, March 5, 2007 6:24 PM CST

Howdy
It's Grammie.
I had a very sad moment this morning. After doing our morning chores, it was time to go for our morning walk. Every morning we walk to the Walgreens several blocks away. Today, at Walgreen's a cashier I met through our many visits got aquainted. I would tell her about how well you were doing last summer every time I would go in. I had not seen her since our first visits to Walgreen's on this trip. Today, she greeted us at the door. She asked about you. I took the lump out of my throat, but I could not keep the tears back. I said, you went to heaven back in January. It was her turn to try to take the lump out of her throat. She was very sad for me, because she knew how much I love you.
Well, we moved on to get the few thrngs we needed or rather wanted. Usually, there nothing we generally need, except milk and bread. Maybe, a snack.

Yesterday, we went for a ride to visit Uncle Melvin and Auntie Kelly at their new place about an hour from Auntie Valerie and Uncle Casey's home. While driving, Uncle Casey was playing some Beatles music. I was glad I was in the way back, it seem that I have been in a really drippy state these days.

Well, Sofia just woke up, so I need to go take care of her.

I know you are far a way, but I still love you so much and think of you constantly.

Oh, I forgot to tell you, Dylan called me yesterday. I was really surprised. He does not usually like to talk on the telephone. But, he was full of conversation. He told me he had a dream and my legs were all better. That they would not hurt any more. I thanked him for having the dream and I knew my legs were feeling better as we talked.

I was glad he was having dreams that Grammie was close by him. So, it would not seem so bad, when Grammie could not be there for him.

Well, need to go.
Love Grammie <lgstmpr@walla.com>
Tucson, AZ - Monday, March 5, 2007 2:20 PM CST

Can't imagine your sorrow.........praying that you all feel God's comfort. You're in our prayers every day.

The Matlock Family <lcregan@drez.net>
Lemont, IL USA - Monday, March 5, 2007 12:31 AM CST

Our family and our church family keep you in our prayers.

www.caringbridge.com/visit/cheyennenoel
A.C. Caincross <pastor23@i2k.com>
Greenbush, MI - Monday, March 5, 2007 7:22 AM CST

Your family is still very much in my thoughts and prayers, Melissa. I can't begin to imagine what all of you are going thru. Poor little Dylan, my heart breaks for him...as it does for all of you.

Donovan must be so very proud of all you are doing. No doubt he will be there cheering you on every mile of the way!
Ginny Deegan <jgdeegan@msn.com>
Mtn. Home AFB, ID USA - Monday, March 5, 2007 0:30 AM CST

Hey girl~ I am here in Durham. I will try to catch up with you tomorrow (actually today~ it's Monday now) if I get a break. Hailey has a very long day today for her 1 yr. post transplant studies. It's the 1st day....We are still on for dinner Tues. right?
My heart is with you my friend...Many hugs & prayers~
See you soon~
Jan aka Mimi to Makayla (in heaven) & Hailey <jannyjo@cox.net>
Virginia Beach, VA - Monday, March 5, 2007 0:14 AM CST

Thinking of you guys. My heart just breaks for Dylan. I can't even imagine your pain trying to find the words to explain things to him. You are such an inspiration to so many people with the strength you show everyday. I only hope that one day there will be a cure for this nasty beast and no one else will have to suffer. We can only pray and do our best together to raise funds for research.
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
NJ - Sunday, March 4, 2007 7:25 PM CST

Thinking and praying for all of you today. God Bless.
Sherry Nitschke
Jud, ND USA - Sunday, March 4, 2007 6:43 PM CST

I am keeping you 3 in my prayers! I know God is giving you the strength to train and compete in these races in Precious Donovan's memory. Love in Jesus,
Dorine McNary
Williston, ND - Sunday, March 4, 2007 5:42 PM CST

just checking in to let tell you that I admire all the work you are doing to raise awareness. You are so strong and I truly wish you peace and happiness today and always. You have such a beautiful son...he is so lucky to have you. I will never forget Donnie and will think of you and your family often. You are a true inspiration!!!
Kristina
cohasset, ma usa - Sunday, March 4, 2007 11:13 AM CST

Good morning, Just another Donnie fan stopping by to say hello and wish you well on your training to raise funds for this nasty disease. I think you are setting a wonderful example for Dylan by showing him that life is not always fair, but it is what you do with it that counts. You are going to make a difference so that hopefully some day, other families do not have to face what you have faced. Sending prayers for successful fund raising and racing for the cure!
Linny J.
MA - Sunday, March 4, 2007 10:24 AM CST

Good Morning! I hope your weekend is providing you with peace and comfort and love all around you, kiddo. Grammie - wonderful to hear from you as well. I know you are loving up on Madison and Sofia. I am jealous to hear about warm weather, as Iowa has hit a nasty cold spell and snow again in the last couple weeks. ;o) Just want to send my love to all of you, especially Dylan. ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) from all of us in Burlington!!!!
Lots of love, Nickey
Burlington, IA - Sunday, March 4, 2007 8:31 AM CST

Just wanted to let you know you are in my thoughts and prayers.Grammie it was great to see your entry.I have wondered how you are doing.It sounds like you are keeping busy with those little girls.Love to you from one Grandma to another.
jennifer Waters <waters_jenn@yahoo.ca>
victoria, bc Canada - Friday, March 2, 2007 3:57 PM CST

Melissa, I don't know if you are a fan of Saturday Night Live, but I just saw an ad saying that Peyton Manning will be hosting it this week. I thought you might enjoy it and get a few laughs. Otherwise, I hope you are all doing well. Love from Vermont

Hara Dwyer <bckbskc@aol.com>
Barre, VT United States - Friday, March 2, 2007 3:19 PM CST

Stopping by to say "hello." I hope that you and Dylan have a great weekend.
Chari Warner <millymango40@yahoo.com>
Alpharetta, GA USA - Friday, March 2, 2007 3:03 PM CST

Sorry I haven't signed in this week kiddo!!! It has been so crazy around here, with storms and work and everything. Just want you to know I'm thinking of you and your family - especially Dylan. ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) to you all!
Lots of love, Nickey <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
Burlington, IA - Friday, March 2, 2007 7:04 AM CST

Just stopping by to visit. Hope your training is going well...gosh, I get tired just thinking about it!! I'm lucky if I walk around the block. :)

Grammie, as usual, it's always so good to hear from you.
You're always on a journey somewhere helping someone. No wonder Melissa is so caring, she learned from the best!!

My love to all of you.
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
NJ - Thursday, March 1, 2007 7:53 PM CST

Hi Melissa, and Grammie and the rest of the gang,
It's Robbin. I haven't been signing in much lately, because Kelly's ball is so close. I am having trouble getting everything done.
But, I think about you all and pray for you all every day!
God Bless you and keep you safe.
Melissa, may you fly through your races on the wings of angels.
God Bless,
Robbin and Kelly
www.kellysupsidedownball.org
Robbin Lyons <thomtalent@aol.com>
- Thursday, March 1, 2007 1:53 PM CST

Howdy,
It's Grammie.
Your cousin, Sofia, is sleeping and Aunti Val took, cousin, Madison,to school today. So,I have a little time to actually write down a few things to you, instead of just talking to you in my thoughts.
This past weekend the TV broadcasted a show that honors actors for the work they do. I do not usually watch these kinds of shows, but Auntie was watching so Grammie did too. One of the parts a man sang a song from the Cars movie. I was doing my word puzzles when I looked up I knew that song from some where, yes, it was from your movie. I remember when people would come visit you at the apartment they always saw that movie going. They thought it was engraved into the TV. Probably not, but it has been engraved in Grammie's mind. I had to go buy the movie, so Grammie could have it playing in the background. I know you are so often beside Grammie, so I just wanted you to have something to watch while you are with me.

Anyway, Grammie, Madison and Sofia walked to Walgreen's yesterday. That was quite a task, because Madison has not walked more than a couple of blocks at a time. She wanted to go to Walgreen's so bad, she kept telling me it is not too far, she could do it. So, I told her we would walk until she got tired and then we would come home, because I could not carry her. She said she was very strong. Very strong she was. While in Walgreen's I bought her some more bubble water and tools to blow the bubbles. She was quite happy. She walked all the way back home too without complaiing once. That was a really long walk for her. She always obedied Grammie too. She hung onto the Sofia's stroller and always watched for the traffic.
Oh, and I think we saw a roadrunner. I am not sure about that, but I was for certain that it was a much larger bird than it is. Madison found tiny birds the size of hummingbird, but it was not a hummingbird. We just saw so many things while we were walking about.

It sounds like mommy and Dylan are going to be really exercising up a storm. That is a lot of races. Mommy has always been very physically fit. She can do it for you and all your friends. Maybe one of these days, children will not have to battle this disease.

I wanted to thank all your friends for sending Grammie wonderful notes after you went to heaven and for those that keep in touch with me. It has been wonderful to heard from them.

Well, Kid-do, Grammie needs to get going.

I love you so much.
Love Grammie <lgstmpr@walla.com>
Tucson, AZ - Thursday, March 1, 2007 9:35 AM CST

Dear Melissa
My sister had cancer, my mom is now battling cancer - you are right, cancer is the beast. You are awesome, I love what you are doing and I love the cause that you are doing it for. My thoughts and prayers continue to be with you and your family. I will continue to follow and support your journey. Stay Strong!
monica
- Thursday, March 1, 2007 9:19 AM CST

Melissa - remembering you today and hoping you will find some peace. May God continue to watch over all of you.
Susan Mitchell <smitchel@calfee.com>
Cleveland, Ohio - Thursday, March 1, 2007 7:21 AM CST

There is not a single day that goes by that you are all not on my mind. It seems so unfair that we have to go through this...and more unfair that our babies had to fight so hard. I hope you are finding comfort and know that it is ok to have bad days, and to cry, be angry, laugh when you can...whatever you need. I am so proud that you have set these goals...take one day at a time. Sending hugs to big brother Dylan!
With Love,
Cassie
ps...i know that Angel Morgie is taking good care of Donovan and they are safe & flying high with their beautiful wings
cassandrafowler <cassandrafowler@bellsouth.net>
pensacola, fl usa - Thursday, March 1, 2007 7:01 AM CST

I hope these words give you comfort. I just love to picture what these words mean. Know I'm still here praying!
Psalm 63:7-8: Because thou hast been my help, therefore in the shadow of thy wings will I rejoice. My soul followeth hard after thee: thy right hand upholdeth me.
The Prayer Bears

Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Wednesday, February 28, 2007 11:51 PM CST

Be still my child and slumber,
Awaken nevermore
You may have lost your battle
But we all know you won your war.

You�re in God� s hands now
Calm and joy upon your face,
Down here on earth we�ll think of you
And marvel at your grace.

You fought this battle long and hard
Until the bitter end
It took its toll on you each day,
God�s creatures now you tend.

You watch us now from up above
And keep us in your sight
You hold a bond with all of us
And help us do what�s right.

You lived each day in happiness
A smile upon your face
You left us far too soon young one,
And left memories in your place.

Now in heaven God will tell you
What you ought to be
Maybe you�ll be a guardian angel
Maybe just for me.

Written by J. S.

Julie Williams
Newnan, Ga - Wednesday, February 28, 2007 7:03 PM CST

Hey Melissa~
Stopping in to tell you Hello and that I am thinking of you often. I have no doubt that you will raise the $11,000 for the L&L Society. I admire you for tackling so much this year but with your dedication, it'll be a success!

With lots of love 'n hugs,
Nancy 'n Amber
Nancy Richardson <oneslickz@nc.rr.com>
Wake Forest, NC United States - Wednesday, February 28, 2007 6:52 PM CST

Hi Rasmussens,
Just thinking of Donovan and hoping you are adjusting to your new home. I hope the training is going well. The motor on my treadmill died today (sniff) so I'll be hitting the snowy streets here.
Melissa, could you post a note about the donation site for TNT -- since there are three events, will the site change to accept donations for each new event as you complete the last one or is there a way to donate to all three events?
Sarah <saranne@aol.com>
Wauwatosa, WI - Wednesday, February 28, 2007 4:34 PM CST

Hi Melissa and Family, just stopping by to say hello and let you know that I am thinking of you guys and hoping a new day brings some sunshine for you!
Kerry Chapman
Grand Island, NE - Wednesday, February 28, 2007 4:11 PM CST

just dropping by to say hello.
Rachel Lawlor <crazy_ray85@yahoo.com>
San Angelo, TX USA - Wednesday, February 28, 2007 3:21 PM CST

Melissa, I have followed your website for some time and so glad you continue to update. I think you are a wonderful mother. You picked up and moved thousand of miles from your home in order to get the best care for Donavon. What a sacrifice you have made for a precious gift from God. I am from Indianapolis. Are you coming back here or are you making NC your residence? I know how homesick you were for Indy in the beginning. Prayers are with you as you are missing Donny. Dylan souds so sweet and curious trying to understand everything.
Kelli
Indianapolis, IN - Wednesday, February 28, 2007 10:49 AM CST

Hi Melissa,

It is Susie from sunny Florida. Just checking in on you & praying for you & your family. May God give you the continued strength you need to cope. You are an amazing Mom & person & God will bless you!!!!

Love you,
Susie
Susie Dykema <sdykema@bellsouth.net>
delray beach , Fl USA - Wednesday, February 28, 2007 9:50 AM CST

Hi Melissa, it's me Koren, I just wanted to let you know I will always be here....
Hugs From Heaven

When you feel a gentle breeze
Caress you when you sigh
It's a hug sent from Heaven
From Donovan way up high.
If a soft and tender raindrop
Lands upon your nose
Donovan added a small kiss
As fragile as a rose.
If a song you hear fills you
With a feeling of sweet love
It's a hug sent from Heaven
From Donovan up above.
If you awaken in the morning
To a bluebird's chirping song
It's music sent from Heaven
To cheer you all day long.
If tiny little snowflakes
Land upon your face
It's a hug sent from Heaven
Trimmed with Angel lace.
So keep the joy in your heart
If you're lonely my dear friend
Hugs that are sent from Heaven
A broken heart will mend.

Hope you can enjoy the day and find some energy to Play with Dylan like you truly want to without worry.
Talk to you soon
Mommy Koren to Bryce
koren <kaadams@charter.net>
durham, nc usa - Wednesday, February 28, 2007 6:51 AM CST

Hi Melissa and family~
I am just dropping in to say hello and to check on you all. I will see you in a couple more days! I am looking forward to seeing you guys. I have missed you dearly.
I'll be praying for you as you travel this week. Give Dylan a hug for me.
Much love and hugs~

Jan aka Mimi to Makayla (in heaven) & Hailey <jannyjo@cox.net>
www.caringbridge.org/visit/makaylachavers and www.caringbridge.org/visit/haileychavers, www.freewebs.com/prayerbears - Wednesday, February 28, 2007 6:22 AM CST

I had bookmarked Baby Donovan's site a while back, but haven't visited in a while. I'm so sorry to learn that he died. He is free from all of the pain he was in and is running and playing in heaven. I will pray for God to hold all of you in His loving arms and give you peace and comfort beyond measure.
Love,
Kathy
www.caringbridge.org/visit/gracehodges
Kathy <mommyrn@earthlink.net>
Las Vegas, - Wednesday, February 28, 2007 0:27 AM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan, Extended Family, Stopping by tonite to see how your all doing. Dylan's remark was to cute. You must have the same kind of tree I do..the one that grows outside with dollar bills attached to the branches.lol. Praying that comfort is coming to you, in all ways. Keeping you close in thoughts and prayers as always. Hope Grammie is doing well..God Bless her sweet heart.Many thoughts with Darren also.
Karen <indianagal_2004@yahoo.com>
USA - Tuesday, February 27, 2007 7:22 PM CST

Thinking of you today and hoping the training is going well. You continue to be an inspriation to me. I continue to pray that today may be different than the day before, and a ray of sunshine will brightne your day!
Kerry Chapman
Grand Island, NE - Tuesday, February 27, 2007 12:52 AM CST

Still stopping by to check in on all of you. The slide show of pictures is just so precious. Continuing to think of you all and praying that you will heal. Blessings to Darren as he works hard away from you all, to Melissa as she trains so hard to honor Donovan through TNT, and to Dylan as he goes to school and his other activities.
Kristi Gerdon <kgerdon@widrick.com>
Croghan, NY - Tuesday, February 27, 2007 12:12 AM CST

Good Morning,
I was just thinking of you guys and wondering how you were doing. It was nice to here an update from Melissa. It sounds like you are getting settled into your new place just fine. I just wanted to say "HI" and to let you know that you were being thought of today:)
Sue Wybrecht <swybrecht@sbcglobal.net>
Macomb, MI - Tuesday, February 27, 2007 8:33 AM CST

Hi Melissa, just stopping by to let you know I was thinking about you and Dylan and of course Darren too. It must be difficult to move so soon but also exciting for Dylan...especially since he's found out the secret about being 'rich'...lol :0)
I think about you often and always pray for peace and comfort and for tomorrow to be just a little more managable then today.
Good luck on your training, sounds like your a very determined person, so theres no doubt you will reach your goal. Good for you, it will be so very rewarding!

Always praying and keeping you close at heart!
Lori and Savahana Scott
www.caringbridge.org/visit/savahanascott
lori <lascott32@aol.com>
avon, in - Tuesday, February 27, 2007 8:25 AM CST

Hope you all are settling in your new place. I bet Dylan will have a lot of fun with empty boxes when you get unpacked. They are a great source of imagination. Sending you our love and as always ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) from all of us in Burlington!!!!

PS... We miss you Donovan!
Lots of love, Angel Nickey <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
Burlington, IA - Monday, February 26, 2007 8:49 PM CST

Hi guys.
Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking about you tonight. I'm very impressed with your resolve to complete 3 events with TNT! WOW! Congratulations and I'm rooting for you! (I have done 1 event as a participant, 1 as a mentor, 1 as a coach, and am currently coaching the Anchorage Marathon/Half Marathon.) I trust you will find it incredibly satisfying.
My prayers for you, Darren, and especially Dylan. God bless you guys.

Mike Simpson
- Monday, February 26, 2007 7:42 PM CST

Hi Melissa,
Thinking of Donovan today so I thought I would stop and tell you so. I am so sorry you miss him.
Judy P.
Judy Pamer <kgpamer@comcast.net>
Beaver, PA - Monday, February 26, 2007 5:39 PM CST

Hi melissa and family!

Wanted to stop by and say hi and let you know that you are all always in my thoughts and prayers. its cute that dylan thinks you guys are rich. Kids are great like that. My oldest thinks since we are moving that we can just go and buy a house. She says "mommy just go to the bank and get the money"! hahaha, if only it was that easy, right! Must be the age!..her and dylan are close

Take care and be well,

Angel Liz
Liz Noselli <fantasm25@optonline.net>
Haverstraw, NY - Monday, February 26, 2007 3:41 PM CST

Just thinking of you guys today....thought I'd let you know. Take care Melissa, it's OK to cry, it's expected...we are all crying with you.
Cindy Zammit, mom to Brandon ALL Kids
Damascus, MD - Monday, February 26, 2007 2:40 PM CST

Rich... of course, you know all you have to do is write a check. That's what my girls think. If I say no, not right now we don't have the money,then that's their response. Thinkning of you all and continuing to pray that you and your family may find peace and comfort.
Michelle Adams <michelle.adams@ipaper.com>
Selma, Al - Monday, February 26, 2007 2:32 PM CST

Thinking of all of you today. How disapointing for Dylan that the road trip was cancelled. I'm sure Darren was disappointed too. Hopefully he will be able to work closer to home so he can spend more time with the two of you. You have great cheerleaders as you train with TNT. How cute that Dylan thinks he is rich! Of course he is right.
God bless, Sylvia
Sylvia Platt <syplatt@hotmail.com>
Tyler, TX USA - Monday, February 26, 2007 2:06 PM CST

Stopping by to check on you and the boys. I hope that you're getting settled into your new place. Have a blessed week.
Chari Warner <millymango40@yahoo.com>
Alpharetta, GA USA - Monday, February 26, 2007 12:41 AM CST

You remain in my thoughts and prayers each and every day.
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Monday, February 26, 2007 10:43 AM CST

Melissa,

Thank you again for another update on your beautiful family. I pray this new home will bring you some comfort and peace. I also pray that each day will heal yours, Darren, and Dylan's hearts just a little more, though I know that will be so hard with such an empty place. For such a little guy, Donovan certainly brought an immeasureable amount of love.
Laura Lynn and my two little miracle nephews, Asher and ^Jacob^: www.caringbridge.org/visit/asherandjacob <laurainsem@yahoo.com>
Hollidaysburg, Pa - Sunday, February 25, 2007 7:22 PM CST

Hi there,
Just thought I�d let you know I have a new website due to major issues with my carepage. I will continue to visit you and keep you in my thoughts. Please visit me at www.caringbridge.org/visit/karenmelissa
Love Karen

Karen
- Sunday, February 25, 2007 6:25 PM CST

Melissa, It is so good to see another journal entry from you. I so miss hearing your stories about Donovan. That is so funny about Dylan thinking you guys are moving so much because you're rich. It's so funny how kids think sometimes. Are you guys going to make Durham your permanent home now or will you be going back to Indianapolis? Always in my heart and prayers!!
Kaitlyn's surgery went well last week. We see the doctor tomorrow and fly home Tuesday assuming he says we can.

http://www.caringbridge.org/or/kaitlynp
Jennifer Powers <MommyJenRN@charter.net>
Central Point, OR USA - Sunday, February 25, 2007 6:04 PM CST

Dear Melissa and family,
I had found your site thru Bella's http://www.caringbridge.org/ny/isabella/
You must read the Journal entry from February 20th it is truly beautiful!
Michele <mrburrows@twcny.rr.com>
Syracuse, Ny - Sunday, February 25, 2007 5:15 PM CST

Stopping by today to let you know I'm thinking of you all, and sending some ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) from thawed out Burlington, Iowa (LOL!)
Lots of love, Nickey <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
Burlington, IA - Sunday, February 25, 2007 3:45 PM CST

Thanks for the update Melissa. I feel sad for all of you guys, but with Dylan, well I just know its hard for him to
understand this whole grown-up world. Please pass on to Darren that he is also in my prayers and thougths..I know he really misses baby D. It must be difficult to go back to work and try an stay focused. Love to all,
Colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Sunday, February 25, 2007 3:08 PM CST

Thinking and praying for you all today.....
I'll see you soon~
Hugs and Prayers~

Jan Chapdelaine aka Mimi to Makayla (in heaven) & Hailey <jannyjo@cox.net>
Virginia Beach, VA - Sunday, February 25, 2007 2:36 PM CST

Just wanted to say hello. Hope you all are having a good day.
Heather Thompson <htast@aol.com>
- Sunday, February 25, 2007 1:32 PM CST

Hi Melissa and family, Just stopped by to check on ya'll. Dylan is right to feel rich. He's rich in his mothers love. Sending you all {{{gentle hugs}}}.
Donna McDonald <flygirl9908@yahoo.com>
Raleigh, NC USA - Sunday, February 25, 2007 10:44 AM CST

Wow good for you! I wish I had your motivation to do a marathon, Donovan must be proud, and Dillon too.
I don't know if you ever mentioned, but are you staying in NC? Is Darren working there or back in IN?
Please know that your whole family is in my prayers, Grammie too.
Karen H.
Nashville, TN - Saturday, February 24, 2007 10:30 PM CST

Hi Melissa, Darren, and Dylan,
My cp has been giving me a problem when I try to go the guestbook so I read your updates all the time but couln't sign in....today it let me..go figure!! I sure wish I had your motivation to run and train, you are such an inspiration to so many moms and dads who's children are sick. I give you my upmost admiration. I miss Donnavan too,and just pray that your family has peaceful days.
Love to all,
colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Saturday, February 24, 2007 12:02 AM CST

Melissa,
You are in my prayers, what about Darren, we never hear about him, he breaks our heart also, alot of people are concerned for him, please update us as to how he is doing
Lisa Meyeres <lmeyers2006@yahoo.com>
- Saturday, February 24, 2007 9:50 AM CST

Melissa,
Don't feel bad about life going on...there is nothing wrong with making an attempt at getting back to 'normal.' There will be plenty of things (days on the calendar, memories, things people say, etc.) to continually remind you of the pain you feel right now. Nobody thinks badly of you and your family for doing the things you need to do. We have your family on our church prayer list and will continue to remember you during this difficult time.
A.C. Caincross <pastor23@i2k.com>
Greenbush, MI - Friday, February 23, 2007 9:43 PM CST

I am thinking about Donovan tonight and wanted to say hello to his family. Melissa, good luck with your training and meeting your goals. You will have a very large group of supporters behind you. Love from Vermont
Hara Dwyer <bckbskc@aol.com>
Barre, VT United States - Friday, February 23, 2007 7:57 PM CST

Hey there kiddo!!! Just wanted you to know I was here today. Hope your training is going well. We're cheering you on sweetie! GO MELISSA GO!!!! Dylan, I bet you are such a big helper for your mommy. I am sure you are coaching her on to help her with her marathons.

Sending you all ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) from cold, wet, windy Iowa!

Lots of love, Nickey
Burlington, IA - Friday, February 23, 2007 6:38 PM CST

Melissa~
I know you don't know me, but I found your website on the LLS board (my son had ALL) when Donovan needed prayers about 2 1/2 months ago and I visited his website to check on his status, but I never signed his guestbook. I was so sad when he passed and I cried and prayed for him at that time. Even as I write this, I want to cry. I can not begin to imagine the pain you feel, but like your post said, Donovan is now walking and talking with Jesus and in no more pain. Please know that I keep you and your family in my thoughts and I wish you well with your training!
Best of luck,
Mandi-Mom to Jakob SR ALL OT 2/12/07
Mandi <MandiJakeJasmine@aol.com>
Merced, CA USA - Friday, February 23, 2007 4:45 PM CST

I continue to think about, and pray for your family.. I wanted to share this poem with you~

Precious Child Remembered

We know that you are hurting
We know just how you feel.
The pain deep inside your heart
You feel it can't be real.

We know what's going through your mind,
Thoughts that cloud it through the day.
We're on the road you're travelling now.
It can be handled, there's a way.

Don't fight the tears you're feeling,
You must just let them flow.
Speak of your child daily
To many people that you know.

Find others who can understand
They'll hold you as you cry.
The questions, we have all asked,
All the how's and every why.

We will always think of our child,
No one will have to say a word.
They will remain in our hearts
Our precious child remembered.

Author Unknown

Love~ Claire (Mommy to Laken in heaven)
www.caringbridge.com/visit/lakenroy

Claire Roy <caffemocha29@aol.com>
Kernersville, NC US - Friday, February 23, 2007 3:57 PM CST

http://www.GlitterMaker.com/ - Glitter Graphics - MySpace Layouts

With love from Karen in Australia
www.carepages.com
page name is Karenmelissa

Karen
- Friday, February 23, 2007 2:30 PM CST

Hi Melissa! I just want you to know I think of you daily and I frequently stop by church to light a candle for you. I pray so hard for you and your family. I am so proud to read about your training. I will go online and make a contribution as soon as I can. You are a fabulous person and I wish you nothing but wonderful days ahead. Take care! Remain strong!
Patti Campanella <campanella10@sbcglobal.net>
Carmel, IN 46033 - Friday, February 23, 2007 1:03 PM CST

Hello!!Just sening some hugs your way!! You and your family are always in my heart and in my prayers. God bless you!!

jennifer Hewitt
Bellevue , NE - Friday, February 23, 2007 11:39 AM CST

Just wanted you to know that we were thinking of you all and praying for you. Melissa, I hope the training is going well. I know you will do great! Take care and may God continue to carry you through each day. We love you.
all our love,
Stacey & Scott Krause (mom & dad to Kaylee in Heaven)
- Friday, February 23, 2007 10:31 AM CST

Melissa~
Someone left this song in Makayla's guestbook and I wanted to share it with you. It plays on Angel ^Jacob^'s website: http://www.caringbridge.org/me/jacob/ if you would like to listen to it as you read the words. It is sung by Jessica Andrews. It is beautiful.
I am always thinking of you and keeping you, Darren, Dylan & Grammie in my prayers.

"Never Be Forgotten"
I�ll always see your face,
The corner of your smile,
And all the little things that no one will ever know.
Like it was yesterday, won�t ever fade away,
Goodbye is just a word that I will never say.

You will never be forgotten.
A million days could pass us by,
But what is time but just a dream?
Oh, I still feel you here with me.
You�re more than just a memory.
Oh, you will never be forgotten.

I can�t hold your hand
Or look into your eyes,
And when I talk to you,
It just echoes in my mind;
But If hearts are made of dust
And if we fell from the stars,
I would look up tonight and know just where you are.

You will never be forgotten.
A million days could pass us by,
But what is time but just a dream?
Oh I still feel you here with me.
You�re more than just a memory.
Oh, you will never be forgotten.

And the world just keeps on going;
It has no way of knowing
That you�re gone.

You will never be forgotten.
A million days could pass us by,
But what is time but just a dream?
Oh, I still feel you here with me.
You�re more than just a memory.
Oh, you will never be forgotten.

Jan aka Mimi to Makayla (in heaven) & Hailey <jannyjo@cox.net>
Virginia Beach, VA - Friday, February 23, 2007 8:21 AM CST

Melissa,
I think of your family every day. Baby Donovan affected so many people and was a beautiful boy. I'm so glad that you are running in the Chicago Marathan. My daughter was one of the kids that someone ran for (through Bear Necessities here in Chicago). It is such a wonderful event. Take care.

Love,
Marion
www.caringbridge.org/visit/jamesonrush
The Rush Fam <marerush@comcast.net>
Antioch, IL - Friday, February 23, 2007 6:58 AM CST

Hi Melissa: Just stopping by to let you know that I'm thinking about you. I think that it's great that you're training to raise funds to kick cancer's butt. You go girl! Always have your family on my mind and keep you in my prayers.
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Friday, February 23, 2007 6:52 AM CST

Melissa, I have the greatest admiration for you. You are hurting so much and yet somehow you find the courage and the energy to run....I know it will help you because you are running for your little Donovan and others who are sick. I look at your photo and see a beautiful young woman, obviously you are beautiful on the inside too. You are an inspiration. Run safe and take care.
Angel Conor's Nettie
Lyn <boorook2@activ8.net.au>
- Thursday, February 22, 2007 10:57 PM CST

Your family continues to be in my prayers. I'm a fan of Donovan's from Chicago and when you run the marathon I'll be cheering you on. Good Luck with your training.
Annie <jessiebelle@sbcglobal.net>
- Thursday, February 22, 2007 10:51 PM CST

Wanted to stop by tonight and let you know I'm thinking of you kiddo! Now it's our turn to cheer you on as you train for your marathons! GO MELISSA GO!!!! YOU CAN DO IT!!!!

((((((BIG HUGS))))))) coming your way!!!
Lots of love, Nickey
Burlington, IA - Thursday, February 22, 2007 9:02 PM CST

Hey guys..just want to let you know that you're on my mind. I have my own sadness this week. My grandmother, who is 90 yrs old, is back in the hospital for the 3rd time in the last month with congestive heart failure and things aren't looking to good. Tonight when they were poking her all over all I could think of was all of the pain that Donovan and so many of these other precious kids that we follow have gone thru. The tears just rolled down my face. It's just so sad.

Donovan~I miss you sweetie. I hope you're running all over and just as happy as a 2yr old should be. xoxo
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
- Thursday, February 22, 2007 8:32 PM CST

You're always in my thoughts and prayers Melissa. We love you guys and miss Donny too. (((HUGS)))

Lots of love,
Katie (mom to Hayley, Hunter, and Taylor) <dugan2b@yahoo.com>
Franklin, MA - Thursday, February 22, 2007 6:53 PM CST

Miss yall like crazy, hope to see yall soon! Give Dylan hugs for me!
Kristi
- Thursday, February 22, 2007 1:52 PM CST

The first Ash Wednesday service after Clare died was one of the most difficult days in what had been a long series of awful days. I thought of you often yesterday, and continue to hold you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Karen, Clare's mom www.caringbridge.org/md/clareschmidt
Cabin John, MD - Thursday, February 22, 2007 1:14 PM CST

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. My heart goes out to you. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers daily.

Make your Comments HEARD at COMMENTYOU.com
Jan Chapdelaine aka Mimi to Makayla (in heaven) & Hailey www.freewebs.com/prayerbears <jannyjo@cox.net>
Virginia Beach, VA - Thursday, February 22, 2007 10:15 AM CST

It's SO good for you to have this training to concentrate on. I took up biking last summer and had a personal rough spot in September and the biking helped so much! Something else to concentrate on and when endorphins kick in it SO helps with the depression.

Praying for peace, <Deirdre40@frontiernet.net>
- Thursday, February 22, 2007 9:12 AM CST

Not a day goes by that we don't pray for you. DOnovan's picture is still on our frig and I see his smiling face each day. We pray that you feel God's comfort in your unbelievable loss. We can't imagine......
The Matlock Family
Lemont, IL USA - Thursday, February 22, 2007 8:43 AM CST

Love, Nickey <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
- Wednesday, February 21, 2007 11:15 PM CST

Melissa,

So wonderful to talk to you tonight kiddo!!! Just wanted to stop in, and let you know I'm here each & every day.

Sending you ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) sweetie! (And give your little Dylan hugs for me too! :o)
Lots of love, Nickey
Burlington, IA - Wednesday, February 21, 2007 9:30 PM CST

As we enter the Lenten Season today I thought I'd share a passage from Isaiah that really speaks of what this time of year is all about. Am still here praying!!!!!!!!!
Is 53:3-6: He is despised and rejected of men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were our faces from him; he was despised, and we esteemed him not. Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted. But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed. All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the LORD hath laid on him the iniquity of us all.
The Prayer Bears

Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Wednesday, February 21, 2007 9:06 PM CST

Lots of hurting families out there in the CaringBridge world lately. I check in on so many kiddos and there have been three new Angels in the last month. Continuing to pray for each of you as you honor Donovan's memory and continue the fight you began with him.
Kristi Gerdon <kgerdon@widrick.com>
Croghan, NY - Wednesday, February 21, 2007 4:02 PM CST

I hardly ever write in but I check your site often. You and your family are never far from my mind. My heart breaks for you. I will be praying for you and your family, especially Dylan. As a mother of 2 boys about their same ages, I can't imagine having to explain everything as you have and go on being as strong as you have been. You are in my prayers.
Tracy White <mamatracy08@yahoo.com>
Monroe, LA USA - Wednesday, February 21, 2007 11:30 AM CST

Melissa~
Someone shared this story with me in Makayla's guestbook today and I couldn't help but to think of you. I wanted to share it with you. I pray that it blesses you as much as it did me. My prayers are with you always~
Love~ Jan

The Brave Little Soul
By: John Alessi

Not too long ago in Heaven there was a little soul who took wonder in observing the world. She especially enjoyed the love she saw there and often expressed this joy with God. One day however the little soul was sad, for on this day she saw suffering in the world. She approached God and sadly asked, �Why do bad things happen; why is there suffering in the world?� God paused for a moment and replied, "Little soul, do not be sad, for the suffering you see, unlocks the love in people�s hearts.� The little soul was confused. �What do you mean,� she asked.� God replied, �Have you not noticed the goodness and love that is the offspring of that suffering? Look at how people come together, drop their differences and show their love and compassion for those who suffer. All their other motivations disappear and they become motivated by love alone.� The little soul began to understand and listened attentively as God continued, �The suffering soul unlocks the love in people�s hearts much like the sun and the rain unlock the flower within the seed. I created everyone with endless love in their heart, but unfortunately most people keep it locked up and hardly share it with anyone. They are afraid to let their love shine freely, because they are afraid of being hurt. But a suffering soul unlocks that love. I tell you this - it is the greatest miracle of all. Many souls have bravely chosen to go into the world and suffer - to unlock this love � to create this miracle - for the good of all humanity."

Just then the little soul got a wonderful idea and could hardly contain herself. With her wings fluttering, bouncing up and down, the little soul excitedly replied, "I am brave; let me go! I would like to go into the world and suffer so that I can unlock the goodness and love in people�s hearts! I want to create that miracle!" God smiled and said, "You are a brave soul I know, and thus I will grant your request. But even though you are very brave you will not be able to do this alone. I have known since the beginning of time that you would ask for this and so I have carefully selected many souls to care for you on your journey. Those souls will help you create your miracle; however they will also share in your suffering. Two of these souls are most special and will care for you, help you and suffer along with you, far beyond the others. They have already chosen a name for you. God and the brave little soul shared a smile, and then embraced.

In parting, God said, �Do not forget little soul that I will be with you always. Although you have agreed to bear the pain, you will do so through my strength. And if the time should come when you feel that you have suffered enough, just say the word, think the thought, and you will be healed.� Thus at that moment the brave little soul was born into the world, and through her suffering and God�s strength, she unlocked the goodness and love in people�s hearts. For so many people dropped their differences and came together to show their love. Priorities became properly aligned. People gave from their hearts. Those that were always too busy found time. Many began new spiritual journeys � some regained lost faith � many came back to God. Parents hugged their children tighter. Friends and family grew closer. Old friends got together and new friendships were made. Distant family reunited, and every family spent more time together. Everyone prayed. Peace and love reigned. Lives changed forever. It was good. The world was a better place. The miracle had happened. God was pleased~

Jan Chapdelaine aka Mimi to Makayla (in heaven) & Hailey <jannyjo@cox.net>
- Wednesday, February 21, 2007 10:31 AM CST

Thinking of you and praying for a peace that overflows. I pray that you feel the comfort of God with you and that He continues to give you strength as you take one day at a time....I pray that you feel the presence of little Donovan each day as you train to run the marathon to find a cure. Without people like you ~ where would this world be?
Hugs & Prayers~ Jan
www.freewebs.com/prayerbears
Jan Chapdelaine aka Mimi to Makayla (in heaven) & Hailey <jannyjo@cox.net>
- Wednesday, February 21, 2007 7:02 AM CST

Thinking of you little Donovan......
Love, hugs and prayers
Karen Small <karensmall@charter.net>
St Charles, MO USA - Wednesday, February 21, 2007 6:26 AM CST

Thinking of you tonight, Donovan ~ and your family. I can't believe it's been a month already. Doesn't seem possible.

Melissa - just wanted to send you extra encouragement for your dedication to continue to fight this horrible beast that has robbed so many children and their families. God bless you sweetie!

Sending out ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) to all of you - Melissa, Darren, Dylan, Grammie, and your extended family as well!
Lots of love, Nickey
Burlington, IA - Tuesday, February 20, 2007 7:53 PM CST

You keep rockin' on Melissa! You are an inspiration! NEVER GIVE UP!!

Love surronds you!
Jodie (Matt's Aunt)
Ft Wayne, IN - Tuesday, February 20, 2007 6:18 PM CST

Praying for you, your family and your goals . . .
Sandy Diercks <adiercks@aol.com>
Atlanta, GA USA - Tuesday, February 20, 2007 6:08 PM CST

Just wanted to say hi. I can't believe a whole month has already passed. I'm so sorry that you and your family have been through so much. Hang in there.
Heather Thompson <htast@aol.com>
- Tuesday, February 20, 2007 2:53 PM CST

Hello there. I would like to make a suggestion. There are lots of people who train for endurance events and also work full time jobs. I am one of them. While training and working for the Re/Max Trailbreaker Marathon I was able to gather the support of my own company and also was able to contribute financially to the fund myself. At work I was able to rally the financial and emotional support of my peers. Some of them were so inspired by my training that they actually ran the 1/2 marathon themselves! I encourage you to find some peers or coworkers to do this with you. For me it felt so good to make such a positive impact on an important cause and I know my coworkers have a newfound respect for me. You will feel the same way after your marathon for Donovan. It is such a wonderful way for you to honor his memory and make a difference in the lives of children! Keep up the good work and training! Godspeed!
Emily <woodleyem@hotmail.com>
Racine, WI - Tuesday, February 20, 2007 1:57 PM CST

Dear Melissa,

Thank you for continuing to write in your journal. I know it's been difficult for you but your such an inspiration to all the moms who have lost an infant to leukemia or continue to fight the battle.

I think what you are doing right now is wonderful and inspiring. You are running for Baby Donovan as well as all the other children like my son Brenden who fought so valiantly against cancer. Thank you for taking on this cause and helping to raise more money for infant leukemia so that no other parent has to feel the sorrow and pain that we have felt.

I will continue to pray for you and your family and for great success on your great mission which is to kick cancer's butt.

Take care
Giselle Mouro (mom to Baby Brenden)

Giselle Mouro <robmouro@hotmail.com>
Vancouver, BC Canada - Tuesday, February 20, 2007 1:02 PM CST

Melissa,
I received your website from a friend of mine who knew we had similar stories. My son, Chad, was diagnosed in 1999 with ALL at 8 mos old. He is now 8 years old. I too have become an active member of Team In Training. I ran my first marathon in San Fransisco in Oct 2006. Chad was the honored run hero for our team. He was able to cross the finish line with me. I just completed the Austin 1/2 marathon this past weekend. I too have thought about running the Chicago marathon this October. I hope that your Team in Training friends have helped you through this awful time in your life. You are making a huge difference for the Leukemia Society. The more you stay active, the more people will donate, the sooner we will find a cure. You are an inspiration to me! Feel free to email me whenever training allows. :) Lisa Harthan
Lisa Harthan <lharthan@satx.rr.com>
San Antonio, TX US - Tuesday, February 20, 2007 12:29 AM CST

Angel Donovan..Thinking of and remembering you on this day, missing your sweet smile and updates about you from your Mommy. Melissa, Darren, Dylan, Extended Family, Thoughts and prayers are with you all, as you mark the first month without your Angel Donny.May God ease the terrible pain your hearts are feeling. Melissa, We all know Baby D will be right there beside you as you cross that finish line. You Go Girl..We all here.. are.. and will be cheering you on to *VICTORY*.
Karen <indianagal_2004@yahoo.com>
- Tuesday, February 20, 2007 11:44 AM CST

Hi Champ,
Today Has Been One Month Since You Went
To Be With Our Lord, I Look To The Sky
I Can See Your Smiling Face Looking Down
On Your Mommy & Dylan & All Of Us Who
Are Missing You Champ!!!!!!!
We Love You Donovan & Miss You...
Melissa,
Thank-You For Running The Marathon's
& To Keep The Crusade & The Fight To
Help The Other Children Out There....
You Are A Wonderful Woman & Mother Melissa.

God Bless You,

Beth
THINKING OF YOU'S ALWAYS
FLY HIGH DONOVAN, SOAR WITH YOUR FRIENDS AND OUR LORD - Tuesday, February 20, 2007 11:27 AM CST

Thinking of you guys today on Donovan's anniversary. I can't believe it's been a month. I get so teary just thinking about it. Your new pics are beautiful. Your poster is the most amazing thing I've ever seen. Every time I come here, I just love to look at your pics of everbody. You can see so much love in every picture. And you bet I will be donating not only for Donovan but for everyone else, young and old, that has this damn disease!!! My love to all of you. xoxo
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
NJ - Tuesday, February 20, 2007 11:24 AM CST

Thinking of all of you today and every day. Hoping that God will pull you through and that the sweet memories of little Donovan will make each day easier.
Love, hugs and prayers
Karen Small <karensmall@charter.net>
St Charles, MO USA - Tuesday, February 20, 2007 8:48 AM CST

Dear Melissa, Darren, Dylan, Grammie and all -
You are in my prayers always, but especially so this morning, on this one month anniversary of Donny joining all the other sweet angels in Heaven. I know that he is watching over you all, loves you very much, and is so very proud of you.
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Tuesday, February 20, 2007 8:46 AM CST

Thinking of you today and especially the smile Donovan had that could light up your heart.

Fly high Donovan, you are missed more than words could even describe!

Kerry Chapman
Grand Island, NE - Tuesday, February 20, 2007 8:39 AM CST

Come on everybody...Let's show Melissa & Donovan how much we support them by going over to her marathon link and DONATE!!! Such a great cause! Do it for Baby D and all the other children out there that need our help!!! Go Melissa!!!! :)
Cindy
CT - Tuesday, February 20, 2007 7:53 AM CST

Melissa - continuing to pray for you each and every day. May God continue to hold you in his loving arms.
Susan Mitchell <smitchel@calfee.com>
Cleveland, Ohio United States - Tuesday, February 20, 2007 7:30 AM CST

Melissa,
Praying for you... I know tomorrow will be hard but I know right now every day is hard. Stay strong and keep being that wonderful mom you are to Dylan, he's a very fortunate boy to have you.
Karen Patterson <Anchormom@comcast.net>
New Castle, DE - Tuesday, February 20, 2007 6:24 AM CST

I am praying for you today as you face the 1 month anniversary of Donovan's Heavenly Homecoming.
My heart is with you and the family.
Donny~ we miss you sweet boy....you will never be forgotten.
Hugs and Prayers~

Jan Chapdelaine aka Mimi to Makayla (in heaven) & Hailey <jannyjo@cox.net>
Virginia Beach, VA www.freewebs.com/prayerbears - Tuesday, February 20, 2007 1:42 AM CST

Just wanted to stop by and let you know I was thinking of you all today. Anjali and I were in Walgreen's tonight getting a prescription filled and we found a box of Little Einsteins' cereal and thought of Donovan. I was just thinking of his little fingers picking up that cereal and slobbering it all over his little face and getting messy like toddlers like to do.... We both 'awwwed' when we seen it and immediately said 'Look - Donovan'.
Just want you guys to know your near & dear in our hearts. Sending you our love and ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) all the way from Burlington!
Lots of love, Nickey
Burlington, IA - Monday, February 19, 2007 9:50 PM CST

Melissa, I want you to know that I am praying for your family. I think all these marathons is great. Will you be running with Jenny Deputy too. That would be really nice. I am sorry that it is so hard to explain heaven to Dylan. It is a hard thing for grownups to learn let alone kids, but I think that you are doing a great job with him as you did with Donnie too. You are an awesome mom and those kids could not have been more blessed. May God give you peace and comfort thru this trying time. www.caringbridge.org/in/cassandra
Renee' Jones mom of Cassandra <goingkrazy@insightbb.com>
Richmond, In - Monday, February 19, 2007 9:22 PM CST

Melissa, although it is so hard to read about all the heartache your family is going through, it is such a blessing to know what is going on in your lives. It makes it much easier to know how to pray for your needs. May God bless you all as you comfort and support each other on this journey.
Laura Lynn and my two little miracle nephews, Asher and ^Jacob^: www.caringbridge.org/visit/asherandjacob <laurainsem@yahoo.com>
Hollidaysburg, Pa - Monday, February 19, 2007 6:58 PM CST

The Indy-Mini is a lot of fun. I ran it last year. The fall of 2005 I ran the Detroit Marathon, both runs through Team in Training. It is a very rewarding experience. Good luck with all three events. I am praying for your whole family as you move through the grieving process.

Cindy Agnew
Lansing, MI - Monday, February 19, 2007 5:18 PM CST

Thinking of you guys today. Thank you for the update. Wishing Grammie a safe trip.
Kirsten Garcia <tkgarcia4@comcast.net>
Remington, IN - Monday, February 19, 2007 1:53 PM CST

Dear Melissa and family: I was brought to your site through another family's site that I was brought to by a child in my community, a friend from highschool's son. A long way to find myself here. I've never written an entry to anyone...I suppose I just can't find the words to convey my feelings to those of you who have gone through such a roller coaster of life and emotions. I'm compelled to write now, I suppose, because you have certainly made a mark in my life. You clearly are a genuine, strong character. Much of what appears was passed along to Donovan. I too have two sons and perhaps that is where I feel the connection as well. In a short period of time, reading your entries, I have realized that I am very much guilty of taking life for granted. A very hard thing to admit, but something that needed to be recognized. So I thank you for being so candid about your feelings and about Donovan's fight. I do wish you and your family the very best. Much time to heal, much time to remember and much love and support from every-which-where. With every step and every peddle, I hope you feel some sort of peace within. We'll be rooting for you from Pgh! Much love and peace to you and your family. The Dojonovic family.
Jody S. Dojonovic <jsdojonovic@adelphia.net>
Pittsburgh, PA USA - Monday, February 19, 2007 1:31 PM CST

May all your dreams come true and may your heart be filled while completing the marathons and bicycling in honor of Donovan. How awesome will it be to comeplete those and know you ARE making a difference, not only in your own life, but also in the lives of all those kiddos still out there fighting. And know also the difference you are making in my life. I continue think about you and pray for you and your entire family daily.
Kerry Chapman ` The Prayer Bears` www.freewebs.com/prayerbears
Grand Island, NE - Monday, February 19, 2007 12:57 AM CST

Hi Melissa,
I think what you are doing for the Leukemia Society is great. My 4-year old son has ALL. He was diagnosed at 21 months. We participated in the Light the Night Walk last fall. For a fundraiser we did a golf tournament and raised a little over $5000. It was such a fun way to raise money for a much needed cause. If you would like more info, email me. Good luck to you. Your family has been in my prayers.
Jodi Ridder <jodiridder@indytel.com www.caringbridge.org/ia/cridder>
Independence, IA - Monday, February 19, 2007 12:52 AM CST

Melissa,

Thank you so much for sharing your heart and family so openingly with your caringbridge friends. I am glad that you are turning your tragedy into hope for others...you obviously have a huge heart and a selfless spirit. As an ALL survivor myself I appreciate your willingness to help find a cure for this horrid disease. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Lisa Jenkinson <lisajenkinson@yahoo.com>
Lorton, VA USA - Monday, February 19, 2007 12:04 AM CST

Hi Melissa
Just stopping in to let you know we are thinking of you guys and praying for you daily. What an inspiration you are to be fulfulling a dream you've had and to be doing it in honor of Sweet Baby D! Give Dylan a big hug for us and don't forget to call if you ever need anything or if Dylan needs a little playmate :) Sending our love and hugs to you!
In His Love & Care
Becky Jenkins - Mason's Mommy
www.meetmason.com
Becky Jenkins <meetmason@gmail.com>
- Monday, February 19, 2007 8:52 AM CST

Still praying for you all.
It's good to hear that Dylan is adjusting well.

Sandi Queen (Jeremiah's Mommy) caringbridge.org/pa/jeremiah <queens@greenepa.net>
- Monday, February 19, 2007 7:43 AM CST

Melissa,
I promise to help you on your mission. I might be in Indy in May, I'll let you know. October 2nd is Kelly's birthday, so I'll HAVE to sponsor you for that run! You go girl. If I got my butt out there, I'd probably have a stroke. I am proud of you-as always. Hugs to your whole family. I know how you are feeling and it stinks. I am glad you still fave the will and determination to fight!
God Bless,
Robbin and Kelly

robbin lyons <thomtalent@aol.com>
- Monday, February 19, 2007 1:21 AM CST

Just stopping by to let you know I was thinking of you. Praying that each day will be a little better than the day before. Sending all my love to you,
Stacey
p.s. I love the sign of Angel Baby D!!!
Stacey Krause (mom to Kaylee in Heaven)
- Monday, February 19, 2007 1:21 AM CST

Hi Melissa
I'm glad to hear that Dylan is doing ok & adjusting to things. My heart has been so heavy for him & I've had him & all of you on my mind a lot. I'm so impressed with your family - to see all of you doing positive things with your grief. I know Donovan is so proud of all of you. I'm praying that today will be a good day.

Love
Carrie (mom to Camden)
Carrie Stroud <dstroud2@ec.rr.com>
Morehead City, NC United States - Sunday, February 18, 2007 10:00 PM CST

Hi Melissa - Just stopping by to see how you're doing. My friend ran the L.A. Marathon a few years ago with TNT in honor of her son. She said it was a great experience and that running really helpded de-stress her. I hope it helps you find peace. Thinking of you in sunny CA. Hugs,
Jill and Alex www.caringbridge.com/ca/alexschwab <jillschwab99@hotmail.com>
Manhattan Beach, CA United States - Sunday, February 18, 2007 7:05 PM CST

Hi Melissa, I just wanted to say I'm thinking about you guys. I hope your training is going well. I was one month from running the Boston Marathon with the Dana-Farber team last year when Hunter relapsed. I can say that those last few long runs and the marathon itself were so incredibly emotional and cathartic for me. I hope that your running is having the same effect. You couldn't have a better inspiration than sweet Baby D.

We love you!
Katie (mom to Hayley, Hunter, and Taylor <dugan2b@yahoo.com>
Franklin, MA - Sunday, February 18, 2007 8:53 AM CST

Thinking about your family today and wanted to let you know. Sounds like you have some great plans ahead. My cousin Chris does the TNT Triathalons and is doing one in Florida in April. He says they are very fulfilling. Know Donny will be flying right beside you to give you strength.
Vicki/Angel Wings and ALL-KIDS

Corson/Lamorey Family www.caringbridge.org/visit/morganelizabeth
Northfield, VT - Sunday, February 18, 2007 7:30 AM CST

Thanks for the new pictures Melissa. The Donovan poster at the Super Bowl was really great. We continue to pray for peace and strength for you and yours. Good luck with the training.
Jan
Cary, NC USA - Sunday, February 18, 2007 5:45 AM CST

Melissa and family its so good that things are going well. I have run 2 marathons both at Disney and everytime I pass/see someone on the TNT team it makes me want to cry just thinking about all that those families have been through. I know you can do it and will do great (I tried to get into the Mini but I registered too late). It is a great thing to know you are running for a cause, you will feel so strong and overwhelmed when you finish all of your races you will continue (it's addicting;) Good luck, especially training when you have Darren and Dylan to cheer you on!!!! Always praying that Baby D is enjoying his time in heaven.
Marci Hummell <marci81@comcast.net>
Orlando , FL - Saturday, February 17, 2007 10:07 PM CST

I just want to thank you for posting the pix from the Superbowl - I love the Angel Donovan poster..........
Praying for you always.
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Saturday, February 17, 2007 5:17 PM CST

Hello to my little Angel Donovan - and to your whole family! I think of you so often little fella. I know we never got the chance to meet in person - but I felt your spirit half way across the country here in Iowa. I cherish the few 'conversations' we had on the phone with mommy - listening to you laugh and coo and say 'mamama'. I have all the beautiful cards your mommy made for me thanking me for all the spoiling I was blessed enough to be able to do for you and your family. And my beautiful angel is hanging in my living room, proudly on display for all to see. All these wonderful items and memories I have of you continue to enrich my life. They are constant reminders of your spirit and love for life, and reminders to me to always LOVE bigger and LIVE brighter. I just wanted to say thank you for touching my heart. I miss you little Mr. Donovan.

Sending you, and your whole family lots and lots and lots of love and always ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) from all of us in Burlington!
Lots of love, 'Angel' Nickey
Burlington, IA - Saturday, February 17, 2007 1:03 PM CST

Keeping you in my prayers daily. I know how you feel about the tears falling. They just come out of no where and spill over....one of my days was yesterday.....
Today is KK's 2 mo. anniversary of being an angel....I know that she and Donovan are together, playing and having a good time now that they healed.
Love~ Jan aka Mimi
Jan Chapdelaine <jannyjo@cox.net>
Virginia Beach, VA - Saturday, February 17, 2007 1:01 PM CST

Precious Child

Written & Sung by: Karen Taylor Goode - TCF

In my dreams
You are alive and well
Precious child, Precious child
In my mind, I see you clear as a bell
Precious child, Precious child

In my soul, There is a hole,
that can never be filled
In my heart, there is hope
cause you are with me still.

In my heart, you live on
Always there, never gone
Precious Child, You left so soon
Though it may be true that were apart
You will live forever,
in my heart.

In my plans,
I was the first to leave
Precious child, Precious child
But in this world,
I was left here to grieve,
Precious child, My precious child

In my soul, There is a hole,
that can never be filled
But in my heart, there is hope
and you are with me still

In my heart, you live on,
Always there, never gone
Precious child, you left too soon
Though it may be true, that were apart
You will live forever, in my heart

God knows I want to hold you,
feel you, touch you
and maybe there is a Heaven
and some day I will again
Please know your not forgotten
Until then...

In my heart, you live on
Always there, Never gone
Precious Child
You left too soon
Though it may be true, thatwere apart
You will live forever
in my heart!

I continue to think of your family, and keep them in my prayers!! Your precious son
^Donovan^ is loved, and will be missed by so many. Stay strong, and keep doing what
you are doing. You are an amazing woman, and mother!! I am so inspired by you, and all
you continue to do. I know ^Donny^ and Dylan are so proud of you!! Take care, and know
Many people keep you in their thoughts and prayers daily..

Love~ Claire (Mommy to Laken in heaven)
www.caringbridge.com/visit/lakenroy

Claire Roy <caffemocha29@aol.com>
Kernersville, NC US - Saturday, February 17, 2007 12:36 AM CST

Melissa and family,
one minute at a time, becomes one hour at a time, grieve at your pace in your own way. Know that many of us are trying to hold your family in our hands. Big hugs from maryland
Cindy Zammit, mom to Brandon, ALL kids
Damascus, MD - Saturday, February 17, 2007 11:50 AM CST

Thinking of you guys today. Praying for you from Stoneham Massachusetts. Rooting for you as you run and ride for cancer. My daughter is an event coordinator and all her events are for charity, she just had one the other night for breast cancer research. I will mention Donovan to her and see what she can do.
francesca <francesca11@comcast.net>
stoneham, ma usa - Saturday, February 17, 2007 8:18 AM CST

Good for you Melissa, I hope you do well in the runs, God Bless you, geeesh I couldn't do a MILE lol nevermind 20 something hahaha. Praying for you and your family you are strong people.
xoxoxo
Tara Dandrea <calebsmom60@hotmail.com>
Torrington, CT USA - Saturday, February 17, 2007 8:10 AM CST

Just stopping by to let you know that I'm thinking about you. Know that you are going to be really sad to see your parents leave. They seem like wonderful people and you know that they'll always be there for you. So glad that you updated, want to know how you, Darren and Dylan are doing. Your Caringbridge family will always be here for you also. You have touched alot of hearts in these two years. Baby D will always be remembered and loved. You take care! Always keeping you in my prayers.
Hugs & love,
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Saturday, February 17, 2007 6:56 AM CST

I know running my ass off really helped me after Hunter relapsed. I hope that exercising helps you in the same way - it brought clarity to me, it gave me time alone. You need that right now.

That said, you weigh about as much as my left leg, and I've run two marathons, so I know you can do it, LOL!! You will have Donny as your inspiration and that will make every step mean something.

Love you so much....
Katie (mom to Hayley, Hunter, and Taylor) <dugan2b@yahoo.com>
Franklin, MA - Saturday, February 17, 2007 0:02 AM CST

Oh Melissa, I know it's hard to see everybody moving on, but I'm so glad they were there when you needed them most. Please remember that you're never really alone, even though it sometimes may feel like you are. Whenever you feel the need - the rest of us on "The Outside" are only a post away - and the love and strength we've been sending through all these trials will keep flying to you on the wings of prayer for years to come.
Thinking of you in Maryland tonight,
Love and Rainbow Smiles to you All,
Dawn Dorsett
Dawn Dorsett
North East, MD - Friday, February 16, 2007 10:30 PM CST

So glad to see your post, Melissa. I have been hoping you would continue to let us know how you and your family is doing. What a wonderful idea to put your energy into fundraising in Donovan's honor. You are an amazing woman!
Cindy
Rochester, NY - Friday, February 16, 2007 9:16 PM CST

Good job, that is a good mission and you will accomplish your goals
and hopefully put some more dents in cancer.
I was so sad reading Alexia's site tonight, but knowing
that you will be there for her Mama made me feel better.
I am praying for you and your family. . .
Sandy Diercks <adiercks@aol.com>
Atlanta, GA USA - Friday, February 16, 2007 7:17 PM CST

I tried to donate and it said this on the side of the page
This fundraising event is now complete. Thank you for your support.
Would love to help out, post when you get it fixed.
God Bless

Suzanne
Randolph, NY USA - Friday, February 16, 2007 7:06 PM CST

Thanks Melissa for signing. I know that you will do great in each of your feats because you will have a special angel going right along with you. Stay strong and keep the faith.

Donna <drobinson1027@aol.com>
Williamston, SC USA - Friday, February 16, 2007 6:36 PM CST

TO BABY Donavan's family, I really hope you keep updating. I have been checking your website just about daily for almost two years. We lost our oldest Granddaughter 12/15/2005. She was 16. She fought the good fight for 17 months and then went home to be with Jesus. We know she is no longer in any pain and she is free to dance. We know she is in a much better place and we know if we live right we will see her again, but we miss her very, very much. Please don't let the people that have signed the website and have been judgmental, keep you from updating. There are many, many people out here that are praying for your family each and every day and continue to want to know how your family is doing. Alex's website is caringbridge.org/visit/alexandra. All of these kids that I have known and feel like I know all of the ones that I check on and their families are amazing. All of the kids and their parents have fought so hard and never complained. I have never signed before, but wanted your family to know that our family thinks and prays for your family a lot.
GOD BLESS ALL OF YOU & I REALLY HOPE YOU DO NOT STOP UPDATING THE SITE.
SHARON MASON <dranma007@aol.com>
FRESNO, CA FRESNO - Friday, February 16, 2007 2:56 PM CST

Still coming here...still praying for and thinking of you all. Fly high, sweet Donovan, and bless your Mommy, Daddy, Dylan and the rest of your family with Angel Blessings from on high.
Kristi Gerdon <kgerdon@widrick.com>
Croghan, NY - Friday, February 16, 2007 2:25 PM CST

Thinking of you ...have a nice weekend.
Chari Warner <millymango40@yahoo.com>
Alpharetta, GA USA - Friday, February 16, 2007 10:58 AM CST

Dear Melissa, just wanted you to know that I think about you guys all the time. And I did find out the artist of the song that plays in the background of the guestbook. It is just beautiful and suits you perfectly. God bless you all during these trying times. May God give you the strength to endure it all. Praying for your family from Stoneham Ma.
Sincerely
Francesca
francesca <francesca11@comcast.net>
stoneham, ma usa - Friday, February 16, 2007 8:09 AM CST

Oh...Greys was CRAZY tonight...blah!! Gotta wait a whole week now to see what happens!!!
Thinking of you and praying for peace and warm thoughts of Baby D.

Lori
Lori <lascott32@aol.com>
Avon, in - Thursday, February 15, 2007 10:59 PM CST

Watched Greys Anatomy... had to stop by to see if you updated. Hope all is well! I hope you feel up to updating soon.
Theresa
Pa - Thursday, February 15, 2007 10:20 PM CST

Thinking of you guys as always. I looked for you on the TV during the superbowl. My family (who had no idea who Donovan was) thought I was nuts looking for Baby D's Fam. I just want to let you know that I appreciate you sharing your little boy's story with us and I hope you do in fact make it to The Century Ride! KEEP US UPDATED !!!!
erin <lilfishie98@aol.com>
babylon, ny usa - Thursday, February 15, 2007 9:00 PM CST

Thinking of your family tonight
Kirsten Garcia <tkgarcia4@comcast.net>
Remington, IN - Thursday, February 15, 2007 8:28 PM CST

Thinking of all of you and keeping you in my prayers....

Blessing's,

Kris

Danny
Kris <ccougarfan@aol.com>
- Thursday, February 15, 2007 8:06 PM CST

Thinking about you all tonight.....keeping you in my prayers, as always.
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Thursday, February 15, 2007 7:57 PM CST

Stopping by tonight to say Hello! and let you know we're thinking of you all. So good to hear Dylan is enjoying school!!! Sending out our ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) all the way from Burlington!
Lots of love, Nickey
Burlington, IA - Thursday, February 15, 2007 6:20 PM CST

Hi, Melissa, Darren, Dylan, and family. Just want to give you big hugs and big assurances that I and many think the world of you and are praying for you. Grieve however you need, get through each day however you can, and know Donovan is with you and many, many, many are praying and rooting for you. Much love.
Beth and Kyle <bdehoff@iquest.net>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Thursday, February 15, 2007 5:25 PM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan and family,
Just wanted to let you know that you are still in my thoughts and prayers. Don't let those awlful people ruin this wonderful CB. I hav grown to love you and your wonderful family. You greive any way that works for you, your family has to deal with it your way. Just keep God and Donovan close to your heart, I know that they are both walking with you and your family in these dark days. God Bless you all, and we will keep the prayers coming.
Fly baby Donovan and stay close to your mommy, daddy, Dylan, and Grammie!!!
Danna Lawrence <danna@teamtransportation.com>
Summerville, SC Berkeley - Thursday, February 15, 2007 3:31 PM CST

Melissa,
The comments ARE undeserving and cruel. We all handle stress, life, dissapointments and grief in many different ways. No ONE can tell you how you are suppose to act, talk, feel, or live at any point in your amazing, horrific, and ultimately devestating situation. If the Colts bring you joy, then soak them in, if Grey's Anatomy brings you joy, then by all means watch till you're blue in the face. But DON'T ever, ever, ever, let someone tell you that you are "greiving" wrong. Or you have somehow shown less emotion in this awful time. You know they would be wrong and to acknowledge them and let them interfere with your ability to live life your way, is lettin them in. You are an amazing woman (I was one of of (I'm sure thousands) that wrote to the Colts to tell them about Donovan. I belive wit all my heart that Donovan wanted you to be there. Truly you believe this too, or you wouldn't have gone. So know that you have a whole lot more people holding you up in prayer as you now enter this strange new world without Donovan, medicine, doctors and hospitals. We will be here for you whenever you need us.
In my thoughts and prayers,
Renee
www.caringbridge.com/ny/my2angels <rcurk@aol.com>
liverpool, ny - Thursday, February 15, 2007 2:02 PM CST

Happy Valentines Day CHAMP,
I Know You Are In Heaven Surrounded
By All Your SweetHearts.

Melissa,
Try To Stay Strong, Keep Your Possitive
Thinking You Have Always Had.
I Know It's Hard But Dylan will
Be With You Melissa, He Needs His Mommy
Strong I Think Of You Every Day & PRAY
For You To Have A Bit More PEACE & COMFORT
Each & Every Day...
WhenEver You Need A Shoulder Melissa
Please E-Mail Or Call Me.
God Bless & Much Love,

BETH
Fly High ANGEL DONOVAN> KEEP STOPPING BY TO SAY HI TO YOUR MOMMY.
Horn Lake, MS USA - Thursday, February 15, 2007 10:02 AM CST

Melissa, as I understand it, there were only two sour notes on your site ? Look at the hundreds of people who love and support you ! Let go of the rotten apples and savor the cobbler . . . feel and apreciate all the love here.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Sandy Diercks <adiercks@aol.com>
Atkanta, GA USA - Thursday, February 15, 2007 9:52 AM CST

Hi,
I just wanted to pop in to let you know that I'm thinking of you guys and to let Grammie know that its not a bad thing to be drippy :) Cry because you miss, but most of all SMILE because he was here!
Sue Wybrecht <swybrecht@sbcglobal.net>
Macomb, MI - Thursday, February 15, 2007 8:12 AM CST

Melissa
Hi this is Racquell (Pita ) and I want to tell you that I so understand what you are saying with the page being tainted with the taod heads words ....I went through that with Diane while she was living then after she passed I had to shut down her sight because of the stuff that some people were saying about me
You see Melissa I took care of Diane and walked the walk with Diane for almost 3 years I was with her every step of the way never left her side in the hospital (She didnt want her family around) and asked me in the end not to call them but in the end Melissa I did for if Diane was my sister and her bestfriend/sister/caretaker kept me from saying good bye I would freak out for real
After Diane passed her family came to her page and said horendis things like I killed Diane when we were in the hospital and the nurse was right there
After alil while Dianes family started writng CB horrable letters about me and what a bad person I am ...to stop the fight on CB I closed Dianes page down (Oh that killed me - for I am so afriad that everyone will forget Diane or her memory )
You know Melissa I wouldnt give them toad heads any satafaction of shutting Donavans sight down ...they think this is funny ...but what they cant grab the concept of is that you and your family just fought the fight of your life through your buitful angel ....lets prey that they never have to walk in the shoes that we did and that if they do that there isnt someone to knock them down the way that they do you
Your stronger then you think and you have all the power it is called DELETE BUTTON hahahhahahahah isnt it wonderful to have the power to erase the toad heads comments
The ones that have been Lurkers (Me) or the ones that have been posting to you over the years know what type of person and wonderful mother you are ...Melissa I beg of you dont let these toad heads control you ...you have to much support behind you with you through CB ....
I just wanted to add my two cents Melissa for I have come to love you your family and the COLTS!!!! whoooohoooo football rules !!!! and so do the COLTS!!!!
Know that you have prayers coming out of Kansas ...hold strong my friend ....
Knowing Your Feelings
Racquell (Pita)
Along With Angel Diane
Rembering My Angel Diane <PPrincess2424@aol.com>
Tommrow is her Angelversery, www.caringbridge.org/visit/donaldstiffler - Thursday, February 15, 2007 7:14 AM CST

Welcome Back Melissa :)
It is good to read your post and know that you are moving forward, in pain, but with hope. I am glad to know that the Super Bowl experience was cathartic for you, I cant imagine how emotional it must have been, and Im thrilled you were able to attend.

Im praying for you, that God keeps you close as you muddle through the deep grief, learning to allow yourself to feel again, amidst all the pain.

My husband has done the Team In Training ride for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society twice, and it is called, "America's Most Beautiful Ride" for good reason!! Not only is it gorgeous, but it is one of the most popular rides - nearly 2000 purple jerseys, riding to find a cure...very inspirational (he has done other rides too, but this one takes the cake!) It's been a great experience for our family (I did a tri) and I would encourage you to participate when you are able.

Sending you love and lots of hugs,
kim
www.caringbridge.org/ca/andrew <kim.sprague@cox.net>
Ladera Ranch, CA USA - Thursday, February 15, 2007 0:44 AM CST

Dear Melissa~
Sending you hugs and lots of love!

Nancy
Nancy Richardson <oneslickz@nc.rr.com>
Wake Forest, NC United States - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 11:51 PM CST

Myspace Comments

Thinking of you and praying for you always. You are such an admiral family and we think of you everyday. We still pray for Baby Donny every night.

Hugs and prayers,

Becky (mom to Nathan)

www.caringbridge.org/nh/nathanhunter
Becky Wright <mom2nateandjulia@aol.com>
Manchester, NH - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 11:23 PM CST

Love and Blessings to you and your family on this Valentine's Day. You all continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.
Nancy
GA USA - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 10:54 PM CST

Melissa,
YOU ARE AWESOME!!!!

Sharon Townsend <sltnails@comcast.net>
Seymour, IN - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 10:03 PM CST

Praying for all of you.
God Bless,
Julie
Julie
- Wednesday, February 14, 2007 7:40 PM CST

Happy Valentine's Day. Hope Dylan had a great party. I love when all these little kiddos have such a special time. We had an ice storm here so my son had no school today..oh well, so we'll do Valentine's Day again tomorrow. xoxo

I miss you so much sweet Donovan. I hope your day was special.
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
NJ - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 7:39 PM CST

Happy Valentines Day! Just letting you know that we are still praying for you. Keeping giving us messages.
Donna <drobinson1027@aol.com>
Williamston, SC USA - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 6:31 PM CST

Wanted you to know that I am still here thinking of you and praying for you daily. Happy Valentine's Day Donovan.

Kerry Chapman ~ The Prayer Bears~ www.freewebs.com/prayerbears
Grand Island, NE - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 4:29 PM CST

God Bless you all. Keep right on doing whatever it is you need to do to get through these days. Don't let anyone or anything stop you.
Leslie <kamalong@bellsouth.net>
Atlanta, GA USA - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 4:20 PM CST

Happy Valentine's Day!
Much love,
Kara
Kara Meyer www.caringbridge.org/wi/noelle <karameyer@verizon.net>
West Lafayette, IN - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 1:49 PM CST

Thinking of you guys always. It is good to hear from you and from grammie.
I really love the song that plays when reading the updates. Could you let me know who the artist is?
Take care and God Bless. and Hug Dylan for me.
francesca <francesca11@comcast.net>
stoneham, ma usa - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 1:14 PM CST

Hi Melissa.

Just dropping by to let you know I'm thinking about you and to say hello. Hope your Valentine's Day is nice.
Kim T. <T6834@aol.com>
Glendale, AZ USA - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 1:12 PM CST

Happy Valentines Day.
Abby Angel ^Tanners^ mommy www.caringbridge.org/visit/tannersharon <brandonabby@hotmail.com>
stokesdale, nc - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 11:30 AM CST

Thinking of you today ~ May you feel the prayers that are going up for you and the family today and always. Give Dylan a hug for me~
I pray that you have a Happy Valentine's Day

I love you my friend~ Jan
www.freewebs.com/prayerbears
Jan Chapdelaine aka Mimi to Makayla (in heaven) & Hailey <jannyjo@cox.net>
Virginia Beach, VA - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 11:26 AM CST

I still think of you everyday and check your page. I pray for you everyday to - to help with you and your families pain. I live in Sparks which is about a half hour to an hour from Tahoe. If you do the Century Ride and feel comfortable. Let me know. I can maybe meet you up there. I know we don't know eachother, but I feel like I know your family. Have a good day as best as possible.
Cyndi Claus <lclausgirl1@charter.net>
Sparks, Nv 89432 - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 11:17 AM CST

Happy Valentines Day....thinking of you and sweet baby Donovan...:)
Ozzie <ovieira@hartz.com>
Harrison, NJ - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 11:13 AM CST

kirsten garcia <tkgarcia4@comcast.net>
remington, in - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 11:01 AM CST

It is SO incredibly sad that people feel the need to judge these brave wonderful people, I see it on several sites and was even a victim myself! Someone made a rude comment about my uplifting comment on a Caringbridge site. It hurts even if you tell yourself it's not worth being hurt over. God bless you brave family. Not sure I've signed before but I've been here awhile.

Deirdre Antalek <Deirdre40@frontiernet.net>
Livonia, NY - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 9:43 AM CST

Wow -- I really don't know what to say. I just popped by to wish all of you a Happy Valentine's Day, but I had no idea that *Baby Donovan* had passed on. I am so sorry for not stopping by sooner. I feel horrible. Please know how VERY sorry I am for your loss and please accept my most heartfelt condolences.

Happy Valentine's Day!!!

With Much Love
Miss Samantha Therese & her Mommy <humphity@gmail.com>
Always Missing & Remembering *Baby Donovan* - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 9:35 AM CST

♥ Your Monarch Friends
http://monarchvolunteers.tripod.com/

Keeping you in our thoughts and prayers, and the spirit of Donovan to live on forever!
Ashley Kramka along with the rest of the Monarch Community <monarch_volunteers@yahoo.com>
Minneapolis, MN 55423 - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 9:34 AM CST

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY MELISSA, DARREN, DYLAN AND SWEET ANGEL BABY D!!!
Melissa, update us on how you, Darren and Dylan are doing.
Praying for you guys,
Tracy Walls
Cleveland, Ms - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 9:27 AM CST

Howdy,
It's Grammie.

I just wanted to wish you and all your friends a very happy Valentine's day. I know you are sending us lots of white roses down from heaven. When I turned the TV on this morning, so many states were covered in snow. WOW! what a sight that would have been if we were still in Chicago.
Take care,
Grammie loves you.
Oh, by the way, Dylan is very excited about his Valentine's party at school today. He told us last night that his whole class made Valentine's for everybody and they get to pass them out today. He said it was going to be really fun. We are so happy that he wants to go to school now and is excited about all the things they do each day.
Take care,
Again, Grammie loves you.
Love Grammie <lgstmpr@walla.com>
Durham, NC - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 9:10 AM CST

TO a most precious ^ANGEL^ in heaven...

A very Happy Valentines day, too you Baby Donovan. and family too!

www.caringbridge.org/visit/navadaharleighzlotnicki
Lori Zlotnicki(^angel Navada's^) mom <blueyetigger@verizon.net>
- Wednesday, February 14, 2007 7:58 AM CST

A day of LOVE for a family filled with so much LOVE. Happy Valentine's Day!!!!!!!!
Karen Patterson <Anchormom@comcast.net>
New Castle, DE - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 7:42 AM CST

Happy Valentine's Day Donovan!!
Love, hugs and prayers
Karen Small <karensmall@charter.net>
Saint Charles, MO USA - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 7:32 AM CST

Dear Melissa,

I wanted you to know that the strength you have shown in the last two years has been inspiring. Thank you for sharing your journey with us, it has helped me more than you could know.

By the way, be glad you're no longer in Indiana! We can't get to Cincinnati for Conner's pre-transplant workup, thanks to the blowing snow.

Sending hugs and prayers...
Kristin
Mom to Hayden, Evan, Conner and Kelsey

Lafayette, IN <kristinsmith@insightbb.com>
- Wednesday, February 14, 2007 7:25 AM CST

Thinking of you all this morning.....and keeping you in my prayers, as always.
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 6:30 AM CST

Wishing the beautiful Rasmussen family a Happy Valentine's Day. Donovan is smiling down on you all today. His love and your love are so apparent today and always. Thank you for sharing your family with us over the past 2 years. We are all so grateful to God for you all.

Jan
Cary, NC USA - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 5:40 AM CST

Sending prayers your way for some Valentine's Day smiles.
Stephanie and RachelJoy <mom2rj@comcast.net>
- Tuesday, February 13, 2007 10:53 PM CST

Sending lots of love to all of you for Valentine's Day!
Love, Nickey <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
Burlington, IA - Tuesday, February 13, 2007 10:36 PM CST

Melissa, Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking about you today and always. We go to North Carolina Saturday the 17th for Kaitlyn's surgery on the 19th. Kinda getting nervous. Always in my heart and prayers!

http://www.caringbridge.org/or/kaitlynp
Jennifer Powers <MommyjenRN@charter.net>
Central Point, OR USA - Tuesday, February 13, 2007 10:35 PM CST

Happy Valentines Day to you! My continued thoughts and prayers are with you!
Denise (Kyle's mom) www.caringbridge.org/co/kylel <dmlindgren@msn.com>
- Tuesday, February 13, 2007 10:01 PM CST

What a wonderful update. I'm praying for all of you all of the time. I'm so grateful to the Colts for giving you a much needed good time. NOBODY deserved it more than you. (I'm a TOTAL Bears fan and took great solace in their loss knowing that you (& Donovan) were there.

You'll catch up with Grey's--you are funny, you did not fail miserably! :-)

Beth F. <beth@friendsofallie.org>
Chesterton, In - Tuesday, February 13, 2007 9:05 PM CST

Hey Melissa,
Just wanted to let you know that I was thinking about Donovan today. I was driving home and thinking about the time that we took him out for a ride in his wagon in the hallway, and you took me back into your room to show me something. Then all of a sudden we heard this "MAAAAA!" Oops-we just parked him out in the hallway we forgot about him and he was letting us know it! I had to laugh thinking about that.
Hope you're doing okay. I think about you guys all the time.
Andria <aks623@hotmail.com>
Charlotte, NC - Tuesday, February 13, 2007 6:49 PM CST

Thinking of you daily. Happy Belated bday to Darren. Thanks for taking the time to update us.
Kelli Manford <kelliliz99@hotmail.com>
Petaluma, CA - Tuesday, February 13, 2007 6:45 PM CST

Thinking of your family, and wishing you all peace and strength. We all travel this hard road in our own way, and can't (and shouldn't) explain it to anyone else. Take care,

Karen, Clare's mom www.caringbridge.org/md/clareschmidt
Cabin John, MD - Tuesday, February 13, 2007 6:20 PM CST

Melissa you have had dozens of entries in your guestbook today. So many people are here who still care about how you are doing. Your entry was very honest and open. Life is so unpredictable. Take your time and figure things out. Your family needs you to be well on the inside so take care of YOU for once.
I just wanted to tell you that about 3 weeks after my son's diagnosis I went to a U2 concert and sang and danced my heart out. My husband offered to stay home. Now we have entered our 2nd year of treatment and I am planning a trip to Italy without my family. People may say that is irresponsible or selfish. I even had my doubts about the idea. But my husband goes to work and golf, and I just sit home day after day with my kids. Every day is the same and I have given my whole life to this damn disease for over a year. I have missed so much. I know I still have my son, but I know where you are coming from. We just need to get away sometimes, either emotionally or physically from the stress and grief of this cancer life or we will crack into pieces. Anyway, I am rambling. But I wish you the best with whatever you chose to do. You have been through way too much.
Andrea--Ethan's mom <heyandrea@comporium.net>
- Tuesday, February 13, 2007 6:01 PM CST

Dear Family,

There is no guidebook for your journey and no text book to tell you how to go about it. Only you know what is best for you and your family and from what I have read, I have no doubt that you will make that journey with dignity and grace and with only the best interests of your family.

I work with the Mercedes Marathon in Birmingham, Alabama and read that you are interested in running. I would like to extend an invitation to you and your family to join us next year at the 2008 Mercedes Marathon. As part of the weekend's events, we have the Mercedes Kids Marathon benefitting Pediatric Cancer Care programs at Children's Hospital and the BE&K 5K benefitting Kid One Transport. I invite you to look at our website at www.mercedesmarathon.com and see if it looks like something you would be interested in doing. I promise you a warm and inviting welcome and a fun weekend for your entire family - you really deserve it!

I pray you continue to find the strength to greet each day and put one foot in front of the other. You seem like an amazing person!

With Care,

Julie Ellis

Julie <julie@mercedesmarathon.com>
Bham, AL - Tuesday, February 13, 2007 5:19 PM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan, Extended Family, Stopping by to see how your all doing, letting you know your in my prayers daily. Grammie, Once again it was nice to see you had written an entry to Donovan. What a sincere blessing you are to all. Travel Safe.
Karen <indianagal_2004@yahoo.com>
- Tuesday, February 13, 2007 4:58 PM CST

Dear Melissa,

My heart goes out to you and I am so glad that you updated. We care about all of you and are praying for your comfort and peace. One of my co-workers did the bike ride that you are talking about in Tahoe and I think that is a wonderful idea for you. Just take it easy, don't do too much too soon. You are a very strong woman and I admire the way you are doing your best to handle the unbearable grief you must be feeling. You are a tribute to your precious baby boy!

Give Dylan loads of hugs and kisses and be well! Sending our love, The Rogers Family
Shaun, Austin, and Dominic <shaunr@bellsouth.net>
Atlanta, Ga - Tuesday, February 13, 2007 4:23 PM CST

Hello, all!
Just wanted to let you know how much we appreciate the update, Melissa. You have so many people out here who care about your entire family...we need to know how you are and we need you to know that our prayers for your peace and comfort continue. You are such a strong woman...an inspiration to all of us! I love the many things you are thinking of being involved in...to honor Baby D. Countless hugs and prayers to your entire family!
The Botz's
www.caringbridge.org/visit/carterbotz

Mary Botz <jmbotz@hotmail.com>
St. Joseph, MN USA - Tuesday, February 13, 2007 2:07 PM CST

I got tears hearing you waved as you drove by Remington, IN. oh I wish I could of came and met you or you guys could have came and rested!! We have plenty of snacks for Dylan and 3 little girls he would of loved to play with! Next time! I pray your family is doing as good as they can and although I do not know how hard it is I think of you everyday. Your baby made my heart bigger. Thank you so much for sharing your story.
Kirsten Garcia <tkgarcia4@comcast.net>
Remington, IN. - Tuesday, February 13, 2007 1:04 PM CST

I haven't signed your guestbook before, but have followed it on a daily basis for the past year. To tell you the truth, I don't even remember how I got here to begin with - seems like one caringbridge link led to another to another to another until I landed on this site. I think it was those big eyes and chubby cheeks that got me hooked. Please know that there are many people out here that you do not even know who were holding you all in their prayers throughout Donovan's illness and continue to do so as your family tries to heal - it will be a long process, but please don't let negative opinions get you down - those people need to get a life and stay out of your business - you are the only ones who can continue on your life the way that you think you should - may God continue to hold you all in the palm of his hand as you begin this new journey in life without your precious little baby boy.
Teri Felt <tjfelt62@twcny.rr.com>
Liverpool, NY - Tuesday, February 13, 2007 12:46 AM CST

Melissa and family,
Sorry that I haven't signed for awhile. Work is extremely busy. I just wanted to let you know that I am still keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers and wishing the best for you.
Take care! I'll never forget Donovan.
I'll continue checking your site as long as you are able to update. (((hugs)))
Jenn Huston <jennifer.k.huston@citigroup.com>
South Bend, IN - Tuesday, February 13, 2007 11:44 AM CST

Just here to let you know I'm thinking of you guys, as usual. :) Grammie, your entries bring tears to my eyes. I have tears right now, because I can't even explain how much it would mean to me if I met all of you also. One of these days I'll get down to NC and I can promise you that I'll be coming to meet everyone. I think about that everyday..the only problem is I'm one of those people that can get lost in my own town. (How pathetic is that?)

Anyway, I hope everyone's hanging in the best way you know how. You're all in my thoughts and heart. xoxo

Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
NJ - Tuesday, February 13, 2007 11:43 AM CST

Howdy,
It's Grammie.

It's been a few days since I have written in your guestbook. It's harder to write without see your face next to Grammie's for so many days.
Yesterday, Mommy pick up the cards from Make a Child Smile box. All the wonderful cards from so many people was so heart-warming. Mommy went do an errand in the post office and came back to see me dripping. It is so comforting to read these special notes. You have so many people that are still thinking about you and wanting to know how your family is doing. We still get drippy a lot, but we know you are so happy there. We just miss you so much.
As I read your guestbook, I think of all the traveling I am going to be doing soon. You know, Grammie is heading to Arizona to be with Auntie Valerie and Uncle Casey. On my way,I hope you send special waves of love to them as I pass through their town. When we were driving down from Chicago, we waved to your friends that live in Remington, IN. We stop to get gas for the car and a treat for Dylan. We passed many other towns, I could not remember the names of the people, but I swished waves of love from your family to them.
I wished I could meet all of your friends and give them big hugs. Well, we don't know what the future holds, so we never can tell. One day, just maybe one day, there will be someone that comes to me and ask me if I am Donny's Grammy. You know, if that did happen, I think Grammie would just don't know what to do. I would probably just drip and drip and drip. Because that would be so wonderful to meet some of your friends.
Anyway, Grammie is rambling on, because I just don't know what to say. I just miss you so much. I know you are in a good place. I am so happy for you!
Dilly is back in school. He is happy to be there. He even ate breakfast today. He ate 4 sausage links. That's a lot as you know.
We talk a lot about you now. I think before he was afraid to talk about you because we would get tearful, but we talk about the funny things you used to do, so it mostly makes us laugh.
He wants to ride his bike for you. Mommy is talking about training for the leukemia race, so Dilly wants to do. He wants to do it for you. Mommy says he can train with her, but the race with have to be up to mommy this time. Maybe when he is 5, Dylan said he could do the race.
Everything that he can't do right now, he always says, well maybe when I am 5 I can do it. He is really funny that way.
Well, Kid-do, I need to go.
I love you so much.
Love Grammie <lgstmpr@walla.com>
Durham, NC - Tuesday, February 13, 2007 11:05 AM CST

Melissa,
I have been following your family�s journey recently and my heart aches for all you have been through. I came across this essay by Erma Bombeck and, while a little lengthy, I felt compelled to share it with you. Just always remember, you truly are a �Chosen Mother.�

The Chosen Mothers
~Erma Bombeck~

Most women become a mother by accident, some by choice and a few by habit. Did you ever wonder how mothers of children with life threatening illnesses are chosen?

Somehow, I visualize God hovering over earth selecting His instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation. As He observes, He instructs His angels to make notes in a giant ledger.......

"Armstrong, Beth, son, patron saint Matthew, Forrest, Marjorie, daughter, patron saint Cecilia" Rutledge, Carrie, twins, patron saint Gerard."

Finally, He passes a name to an angel and says, "Give her a child with cancer." The angel is curious. "Why this one, God? She's so happy."

"Exactly," smiles God, "Could I give a child with cancer a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel."

"But, does she have patience?" asks the angel,

"I don't want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wears off, she will handle it."

"I watched her today," said God. "She has that feeling of self-independence that is so rare and necessary in a mother. You see, the child I'm going to give her has its own world. She has to make it live in her world and that's not going to be easy."

"But Lord, I don't think she believes in you," said the angel. "No matter, I can fix that. This one is perfect. She has just enough selfishness."

The angel gasps, "Selfishness? Is that a virtue?"

God nods. "If she can't separate herself from the child occasionally, she'll never survive. Yes, here is the woman I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn't realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take anything her child does for granted. She will never consider a single step ordinary. I will permit her to see clearly the things I see....ignorance, cruelty, prejudice....and allow her to rise above them."

"And what about her patron saint" asks the angel, his pen poised in mid-air.

God smiles and says..."A mirror will suffice."

Susan Krapinski - http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/daniellekrapinski <s.krapinski@insightbb.com>
Fishers, IN USA - Tuesday, February 13, 2007 10:55 AM CST

I'm so sorry you are going through this awful time. I hope you can ignore those who are critical. All of us with cancer kids have had people say inappropriate things, often without thinking about how their words might affect someelse. No one should judge unless they walk in someone's shoes. Peace to you and your family.
Alison (mom to Adrienne) <alison95070@yahoo.com>
Henderson, NV USA - Tuesday, February 13, 2007 9:58 AM CST

Go Colts for winning one for ^i^Baby Donovan^i^
- Tuesday, February 13, 2007 9:49 AM CST

thanks for the update....you will be in my thoughts and prayers....glad you had a great time in Miami...

God bless
Ozzie <ovieira@hartz.com>
Harrison, NJ - Tuesday, February 13, 2007 9:04 AM CST

Melissa,
I'm continuing to pray for you, Darren, Dylan and your extended family as you adjust to this new phase of your life. It's wonderful to hear some of the lessons you've learned from Donovan--the world would be so much better if we could all learn to love stronger and laugh harder. Keep enjoying the things that bring you joy--Grey's Anatomy, Colts, etc.
Julie Helman <julesmh@hotmail.com>
Annandale, Va - Tuesday, February 13, 2007 8:05 AM CST

Hi Melissa,

Just thinking of you today! We are getting a blizzard (maybe up to 15 inches) up here in Hoosier Land! I bet you don't miss the cold and snow much down in NC!

Call me!
Nancy and the Gang
Nancy Vinson <nvinson@comcast.net>
- Tuesday, February 13, 2007 7:30 AM CST

Melissa - just continue on your journey on your own terms. You will make all of the right decisions. I continue to pray that God will embrace all of you in his loving arms. God bless you.
Susan Mitchell <smitchel@calfee.com>
Cleveland, Ohio United States - Tuesday, February 13, 2007 7:29 AM CST

I for one am happy that you can find anything to smile about or makes you and your family happy, you all deserve it , I hope you know most people could never understand the pain you are going through and should not presume to know how you should deal with it, I wish you and your family peace and happiness because that is what your sweet Donovan brought to the world,, God bless you
tiffany <tiffanyx.pate@jpmchase.com>
op, fl us - Tuesday, February 13, 2007 7:26 AM CST

http://www.GlitterMaker.com/ - Glitter Graphics - MySpace Layouts
Love Karen
www.carepages.com
Cp: Karenmelissa

Karen
- Monday, February 12, 2007 11:53 PM CST

Melissa,
I feel like I have come to know you through your site and some e-mails. I know you are having to make some decissions to do what is right for you and your family. I am not even going to pretend that I know what you are going through or what you should or should not do. BUt something went through my mind when I read a sentence in your post. " tainted by undeserving and innapropriate judgements" Yep that is what they are. So take them as that. For you to stop posting because of them is letting them win. And for you to keep posting means we all win. We get to support you and help you if we can and you get to feel our love and prayers. There are too many people here who love and care about you and your family to not have you post because of the "bad seeds". Of course if you need time away I understand that..but not because of them.
Ok I feel better now.
I have a feeling God will help you find a path to help other people . YOu will be good at whatever you do.
Thinking of you and your family,
Amy B
Amy B <amyb1569@cfl.rr.com>
IHB, Fl - Monday, February 12, 2007 9:43 PM CST

Melissa,
Thanks for the update!! :-) I enjoyed hearing about your trip. I hadn't thought about it being cool since you were wet! We went to Disney 2 years ago in December and thought we were going to FREEZE to death when it rained! You think FLORIDA...WARM WEATHER! So glad you had a great time there and I can't imagine what you are going through each moment as you think of your sweet Baby D. Know you are being prayed for and lifted to the Father asking for His love, peace and provision for your family. And btw-it was WONDERFUL how the COLTS gave the glory to GOD after winning the Super Bowl!! What a testimony that was!
Patricia <rrfpaf@hotmail.com>
Garden City, GA - Monday, February 12, 2007 9:21 PM CST

Hello Rasmussen Family!

Stopping by today to say hello! We have 5-8 inches of snow expected tonight, please let me know if you would like any of it shipped to NC! LOL! OH, maybe you could send a few rays of sun our way instead :o) . Just wanted to send along our ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) from Burlington, and let you know how much we care!
Lots of love, Nickey
Burlington, IA - Monday, February 12, 2007 8:32 PM CST

Valentines...... To Heaven

This Valentine is not of the ordinary kind,
Its still filled with love...and blessings inside;
But mine has to be sent on the wings of love...
You see its destination is the Heavens above.

Its not being sent to my parents so dear,
For they are still with me each day of the year;
Its being sent to my child...who left earth so soon,
Who's now in the Heavens with the stars and the moon.

The message is the same as your valentine,
"I love you...my sweet precious child of mine;
My love is still deeper than the ocean is blue,
And its sent with hugs and kisses...from me to you."

"I know you are with me each and every day,
You listen as I talk to you...and hear what I say;
For that is one thing that disease cannot do...
...you'll always be apart of me...and me a part of you."

"I know God did not give you the awful disease,
Thank Him for His comfort He gives me...would you please?
I dont know what I would do without His undying love...
Sent to bereaved parents from the Heavens above."

"I know you are in the best of care,
But it's so hard for us left on earth to bear;
Could you put in a request from us left behind...
For God to send the knowledge..so a cure we can find."

"So that no other family has to go through this pain,
Our lives without you will never be the same;
When I get lonely I will look to the sky at night...
And see you shining down your big bright light."
**~

BRENDA~**MY LOVING DAD'S SITE WITH A NEW YEAR ANOTHER ANGEL <brurka@shaw.ca>
****Edmonton~Alberta~Canada****, - Monday, February 12, 2007 8:15 PM CST

continuing to pray for you and your family. My hope is you find peace and comfort in knowing your baby is now in Heaven and that You will see him again one day. I too hope you find comfort with this website, use it for your benefit as there are so many that love and care about your family very much.

Dear Child,
Do not give up. Do not feel defeated or hopeless or down on yourself. It's true that the outward circumstances of what is happening look grim to you. It's true that the world feels dreary and dismal tonight, and you feel tired. But don't dwell on the outward things, on your physical surroundings or the particulars of this situation. These outward things are actually in the process of deteriorating and passing away right before your eyes. Your lifetime on this planet only lasts a moment. But you yourself are eternal. You are forever because your real life is in me and I am in you. Your body may be aging, but your spirit is "youthening"! As you dwell in me, your spirit person is being vitalized and energized and given new vision. All the piddling trivia you're wrestling with is but a blink of my eye. All the difficulties and heartaches you're struggling with are already in the process of being formed by my hand into a glory that is beyond your comprehension-a glory that is eternal. So don't keep your eyes glued to the frustrations or the heartaches; lift your eyes to Me. See Me with your spirit and believe my voice within you now. I am more real than anything your eyes can see. I am more powerful than anything your hands can touch. I am more lasting than anything your senses can perceive.
I am real life!
God

"For Jesus Himself is our peace..." - Ephesians 2:14

"God is our refuge and our strength, an ever-present help in trouble." - Psalm 46:1

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not unto your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your path." - Proverbs 35:6

Carol
Midland, GA USA - Monday, February 12, 2007 7:53 PM CST

Dearest Melissa~
It's good to hear that you enjoyed the Super Bowl game! You deserved the break! Do what feels right for only you know what's best for you. Sending lots of hugs your way!!

Love,
Nancy 'n Amber
Nancy Richardson <oneslickz@nc.rr.com>
Wake Forest, NC United States - Monday, February 12, 2007 6:42 PM CST

Just letting you know I pray every time I think of you and your family. I couldn't sleep early this morning so I just prayed for the Armstrong family and the friends they have asked us to pray for. Praying that God will hold you and comfort you through your grief.
I am so glad that you are finding things to do to help you get through this difficult time. Only you and your family knows what is best for you at this time. Hang in there and know that many around the country care. God Bless You! Oh and Happy Birthday Darren.
Lauri McCallum <burninuptheice@yahoo.com>
San Angelo, TX USA - Monday, February 12, 2007 5:48 PM CST

We love you guys and are so glad you had a chance to get away from NC for a little while.

Tonya Naylor <tpawlow@yahoo.com>
- Monday, February 12, 2007 4:38 PM CST

Hi Melissa, Darren and Dylan!
You are all in my thoughts everyday.
I was shopping the other day, and found a tiny t-shirt with The Beatles on it - just like Donovan's. It made me smile, stop and say "Hi" to Baby D.
Then, on my way to work this morning, I heard a song from the movie "Cars" and again - I looked to the heavens and said "Hi" to your little one.
I continue to pray for all of you and I am so glad you enjoyed the Superbowl, if not the weather!
Take all the time you need to heal - there is no timetable.
We're here to support you guys. God Bless you all.
Suzanne,Steve,Ryan,Dillon and Baby Sean.
Suzanne Kos <suzanne_kos2000@yahoo.com>
West Palm Beach, FL USA - Monday, February 12, 2007 3:27 PM CST

Dear Melissa,
It was so nice to read an update from you. There are so many people thinking about you and your family-I hope our thoughts and prayers wrap themselves around you and help keep you standing. Thank you for sharing Baby Donovan with us and all "your boys" Love The Melkonians Tahoe is amazing-hope that works out!
Darlene and Christopher Melkonian http://www.caringbridge.org/md/chrismelko <melkonid@comcast.net>
Gaithersburg, MD - Monday, February 12, 2007 2:55 PM CST

Melissa - until someone walks in your shoes - they have no business sending disturbing notes to you and your family. Your family has walked a journey no other parent (or grandparent) wants to take - and you did it in style. Baby D was a wonderful child with a fantastic mom, dad and brother. Your love for him and your family was so obvious in your messages that those of us who don't know you feel in love with your little warrior. Be strong, be faithful and stay true to who you are...a wonderful person.
Dee Lange <gndlange@frontiernet.net>
Apple Valley, MN - Monday, February 12, 2007 2:02 PM CST

Meliss and family,
Not a morning or evening goes by that I do not think of you all. Melissa (Darren and Dylan as well), my mother always tells me, "Do what you have to do to survive." So, ride that race, run marathons, do what your heart tells you to do. Might sound common, but, "Until people walk a mile in your shoes...." There are so many people here who continually pray for your family. You do what feels right for you...our prayers for you all will not cease.
Kristy O. <krippy15@hotmail.com>
Nashua, NH USA - Monday, February 12, 2007 1:28 PM CST

Melissa,
It was a nice surprise to see an update from you! It sounds like you had a great time at the Superbowl. I looked for your sign, but didn't see it. I wish you the best of luck with whatever you choose to do next in your life.

Happy Valentine's to you, Darren, Dylan and ~Donovan~.
Chari Warner <millymango40@yahoo.com>
Alpharetta, GA USA - Monday, February 12, 2007 1:25 PM CST

I am beyond thrilled you were able to go to the Superbowl! I have no doubt Donovan was there with you, leading the Colts to their victory!

Please know I think of you and your family often. There is no way I can even begin to imagine all of the pain you are going thru. I wish there was something I could do to make everything better. (((HUGS))) I will continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Ginny Deegan <jgdeegan@msn.com>
Mtn. Home AFB, ID USA - Monday, February 12, 2007 12:42 AM CST

Melissa and Family,
It disheartens, saddens, and angers me that you have found people that have been unsupportive, negative, and judgemental posting on your website or in general. Everyone's greiving process is different and I think whatever gets YOU and your family through the day is RIGHT for you. Don't let others bring negativity to you. Through your website you touch so many and help so many that you probably would be shocked if you knew the magnitude of it all. I am one of your supporters although we've never met. Do what feels right for you and maybe taking a break from updating is just that thing...however you loyal supporters family and friends will be here signing in and sending our love, prayers, and strength to you.
Renee <rforte0531@sbcglobal.net>
Cheshire, CT - Monday, February 12, 2007 11:21 AM CST

Melissa & the gang!
I was so happy to see your update. Thank you! I am so glad that you had a wonderful time and the Superbowl and I know your teddy bear was there. My whole family watched the game looking for you and your banner. I will continue to pray for your healing. Whenever you need an uplifting message come here. Because regardless if you don't update the site, I will still come here and pray for you and your family. Let us know if you do the ride. I will support you in anyway I can! Sending you prayers.
Jennifer HInes <creative_jenny@cox.net>
mesa, az - Monday, February 12, 2007 10:37 AM CST

I am soo glad to hear about the wonderful time you had at the SuperBowl. And as far as keeping this site up and running....keep it going as long as you think you need to. I will echo the person who said she hopes you keep it up until you do 'the ride'. But that is your decision and yours alone. However, no matter what you decide to do with the site, I & my church family will continue to pray for you and your family....I will forever think of you when I watch the 2007 SuperBowl Champs--Colts. Have a great time "just being". With all my love
Kristy Caulder <g8torchicky@yahoo.com>
Cantonment, Fl USA - Monday, February 12, 2007 10:23 AM CST

Please know you are an inspiration to all of us LLS and caringbridge Moms...don't let those negative people get you down...there are so many more positive and supportive people! You continue to be a part of my daily prayers and meditations.

Happy Birthday Darren!
Laura Williams
Mom to Olivia
www.caringbridge.org

Laura Williams <ljcwilliams@verizon.net>
peabody, ma usa - Monday, February 12, 2007 10:17 AM CST

Melissa, Thank You for the update. I am so proud of the Colts for coming through with tickets and a motel room for you guys. I would not have missed their last two games for anything in the world. Just knowing that they would have a very special little angel rooting them on from Heaven, a place that we all can only imagine. My son is a BIG Colts fan. He has a Peyton Manning Superbowl jersey, a Colts, Superbowl T-shirt, a colts superbowl cap and a championship cap (when the Colts beat the Patriots). Did I say a HUGE fan of Peyton Manning. Melissa, We continue to lift all of you and your family in prayers. Darren, I know your birthday will be filled with some very bittersweet moments, but wanting to wish you a Happy Birthday. Dylan, You are one very special little man.
Praying for all of you,
Tracy Walls
Cleveland, Ms - Monday, February 12, 2007 9:50 AM CST

Dear Melissa, I am always keeping your family in my prayers. I have never met any of you, yet feel I know you because of following your journey these last 2+ years. Your Donovan will always be an inspiration to me and I will remember him always. I am a better person for having known about him and how no matter what he faced he was able to smile. I too am a Grey's Anatomy fan and did you know if you go to abc.com you can watch whole episodes?

May God continue to give you peace and strength.

Melissa
Portage, IN United States - Monday, February 12, 2007 9:44 AM CST

Mr. Darren and Mrs. Melissa, just take one day at a time. When you see that you are smiling are lauging out loud do not feel guilty, that is Baby D smiling down at you and laughing with you and he wants you to laugh and smile. Keeping you in our prayers.
Vanessa
Vanessa Beiriger <vbeiriger@apgov.us>
Gonzales, LA - Monday, February 12, 2007 9:42 AM CST

Hi,
I'm truly sorry for your lose. I've been following Donovan's life since the Naylor's talked about your family on their Web site. I can never understand why somone would question you or your family's actions. My wife and I also had negative comments that hurt us during and after our baby Vaughn's death. Thinking back I think when we opened ourselves and our baby's lives up we found the light we needed to carry on but we also let in the darkness. People do not understand that you and your family have made so many sacrifies for your son and tried so hard to give him every chance. Just know that there are people that care and want to help in your healing. If my family can do anything to help please feel free to contact me. Unfortuanalty I know what you are going through and will be going through these next few years. It will be 2 years on March 12 that Vaughn died and I still miss him.
http://www.caringbridge.org/wi/vaughnbrodjeski/

Dennis Brodjeski <dbrodjeski@yahoo.com>
Racine, WI - Monday, February 12, 2007 8:09 AM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan, and all of the family
Thank you so much for your update, it was nice to hear from you again. I know that you all are strugglingand the days seem dark and lonely. But I hope that one day soon your family will be able to remember this sad time in your life and all the good memories that you made with Baby D. I hope that you keep the site open, your family has become special to me, however you have to do what works best for you. I hope that you get to do all of those things that you mentioned in the update. You will continue to be in mhy thoughts and prayers.
Danna Lawrence <danna@teamtransportation.com>
Summerville, SC Berkely - Monday, February 12, 2007 7:55 AM CST

Melissa-I continue to think of Donovan and the entire family...Melissa, you have to stay on this site at least until you do the ride...just think of all the people that would support you and what that means for the cause!! So many people believe in you!!! You are in my thoughts & prayers
CS
MA - Monday, February 12, 2007 7:26 AM CST

Dear Melissa, Darren, Dylan and Grammie (Rebecca):

This is the hardest entry I have ever had to make in a CB journal. I have sat down so many times to write but could not find the words. I don�t know if the words will come even now. It has been my pleasure to know your family. It made our stay in Durham when we were terribly homesick a little easier. We came to love your family and each one of you holds a special place in our hearts. From the moment Donavan moved into 5202 next door to us I knew his mommy would be a good friend to Dana and make our transplant journey a little more tolerable. Living in Alexan Farms as our neighbor was a blessing. I enjoyed our talks and many hours of crafting. I loved to see you or Rebecca pushing Donavan in the stroller up and down the streets in the apartments. I loved coming into your apartment and what greeted me was a big smile on Donavan�s face no matter what the circumstances. My heart aches for you and your family. I know that my life will forever be changed. You are a strong woman, Melissa and will move forward with your life. You will be a wonderful mother to Dylan and I have no doubt that you will take on many projects that will benefit so many other children. Whatever God has in store for you I know without a doubt that you will meet that challenge with grace, dignity and love that will always honor Donavan. I must tell you that even though it was so hard to attend Donavan�s funeral it was a beautiful celebration of his life. I love you and hope to see you on March 2nd when we come to Durham for Braden�s clinic visit.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY DARREN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Kathy Thomas (www.caringbridge.org/visit/ashtinandbraden) <mimix2@cox.net>
Newport News, VA USA - Monday, February 12, 2007 5:47 AM CST

Hello Melissa,
I love to read your journal; I feel that I am somehow connected. I am so sorry about the deep pain that you and your family are feeling. Donovan was a very precious boy -- still is only he's living in heaven now. Our family is in the middle of transplant and experiencing a few bumps in the road. This is a very difficult journey and your family did it twice. It's hard to imagine. My prayers continue with you and your family.
Shelley Hartsuyker (CP:KrystaDremel) <hugseveryday@hotmail.com>
Jackson, CA - Sunday, February 11, 2007 11:40 PM CST

Hi Melissa,
It was nice to talk to you today and I totally support you wanting to ride Tahoe. I will miss riding it this year after 2 years of riding. It is an amazing, beautiful, heartwarming experience.
Love from CA,
XXOO, Cali Ali's Mom

Marey ALL-KIDS <kteachermom@hotmail.com>
- Sunday, February 11, 2007 11:01 PM CST

So glad you had a great time in Florida. You all need some down time to figure out what to do next. Take your time, take it slow, take it easy. Your emotions will be up and down and you'll feel like you're on a rollercoaster. Hang on and you and your family will get through this and finally see light at the end of the tunnel. Just remember to slow down and don't rush into anything. Prayers from South Dakota.
Becki Solberg <bslbg@hotmail.com>
Mitchell, SD USA - Sunday, February 11, 2007 10:50 PM CST

Dear Melissa and Family:

Thank you so much for the update! We have been thinking of you all and hoping you had a great trip to the Superbowl. Would love to see pics and hear more about it (how you were finally able to get the tickets). Keeping you all in our thoughts and prayers.

Love,
The Kelley's
Jim, Lisa and Kanon

P.S. Melissa: YOU GO GIRL.....
The Kelley's <Kelley.Jim@gmail.com>
Brownsburg, IN - Sunday, February 11, 2007 9:46 PM CST

Dear Melissa and family,
Just wanted to let you know that you are in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.
Love, Sam
Samantha Mummert <sam.reed@sbcglobal.net>
Avon, in - Sunday, February 11, 2007 9:22 PM CST

Dear Melissa,
Thanks so much for updating. My prayers and sympathies are with you, Darren and Dylan. You guys have been on a long and difficult journey. I admire the strength and serenity that you have shown through all this. I know that life is going to look up for you and that there are wonderful things in your future, and I hope to hear about them! You're an inspiration and an encouragement!! From your friend in Wisconsin.
Joleen
WI - Sunday, February 11, 2007 9:15 PM CST

Darren - Happy Birthday!!! I hope you were able to take some time and enjoy the day.

Melissa - I am so glad you are back. I am so sad that one or two negative people are hurting you so. Please know that 99.9% of us out here support you and your family 100%. God and Donovan know that you are trying your best and that is all that matters. I am glad you had a good time at the Superbowl. I was cheering so hard that the Colts would win. If you do decide to do the Most Beautiful Bike ride, let us know as I would love to support and donate to you. I am not doing my next half marathon with Team in Training until Oct but I am still mentoring our current season participants. Also, I got your email and my son has already started writing his letter, he was so excited when I told him you said it would be okay.

Still Believing....
Amy
Amy Bellini <amy_bellini@farmfamily.com>
Troy, NY - Sunday, February 11, 2007 8:53 PM CST

Darren, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU! HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU! HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAR DARREN, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!!! Oh my gosh, be glad I wasn't there to sing it in person!!! Wouldn't have been pretty. :-) I hope you had a wonderful day and were treated like a King!!! You da' man today!!
Melissa, thank you so much for the update. It was wonderful to hear form you. Glad you had an awesome time at the Superbowl. Too bad the weather wasn't better that day. What an incredible game.
I wish I wouldn't have deleted Grey's on my Tivo. I'll check, I might still have last weeks. If I do, I'll e-mail you and see if you'd like me to put it on a CD and send it to you. I LOVE GREY'S!!
Melissa, please, please, please don't shut the site down. Please!!

http://www.caringbridge.org/or/kaitlynp
Jennifer Powers <MommyJenRN@charter.net>
Central Point, OR USA - Sunday, February 11, 2007 8:29 PM CST

Melissa, Darren Dylan and Extended Family
Thanks for the update, My thoughts and prayers continue to be with you and your family even if you decide to quit journaling but please don't remove the website as I come here everyday just to see Donny's great smile and to show him off to my friends and family! Melissa,Just please know that I am here for you if you need to talk to someone!
By the way Happy Birthday Darren What a wonderful day this is as it is my birthday too! So hats off to you and I ! Have a Great Day and Big hugs to all of you
With Love and Prayers
Brandy
Brandy Hendershot <branmuffin1982@yahoo.com>
Ellsworth, WI - Sunday, February 11, 2007 8:18 PM CST

Melissa,
Just letting you know that your family is in our prayers!!!
Happy Birthday Darren!!!!!
JohnnieRae Geving
Dunn Center, nd usa - Sunday, February 11, 2007 8:14 PM CST

Melissa,

I just have to say YOU GO GIRL...
Dream big and live big.
I have a tendency to stop and look at all around me and think ok, I need to tend to this first. Why? Live for NOW.
LIVE, LOVE, and LIVE some MORE...
Karen
Karen <jkckolsen@verizon.net>
- Sunday, February 11, 2007 8:13 PM CST

Melissa and family,
So many of us want to continue to love and support you, and we will even if you decide to stop journaling. I just hope that the positive will far outweigh the negitive, and you can know in your heart that the unkind remarks are undeserved and that you can put them aside and draw strength from the rest. Praying that God will bring amazing blessings to your family and that through your experiences you can then bless others in a way that only someone who has been there can. Happy Birthday Darren!
Cheryl Mills <cherylmil@nc.rr.com>
clayton, nc usa - Sunday, February 11, 2007 8:00 PM CST

Hey there Melissa, it's so good to hear from you. I think about you and your family every day. I do hope you decide to keep Donovan's site up. He is such a treasure to all of us and we have all grown to love you and your extended family as if we were one big family. Take all the time you need to grieve and treasure each moment with Dylan. I'm sure he's glad he has so much more time with you now. :) I know I've said this before, but I want you to know that if there's anything else I can do for you, just let me know. Donovan may be an angel now, but that doesn't stop me from caring about all of you. My love goes out to all of you. xoxo

Darren, I hope you had a special birthday.
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
NJ - Sunday, February 11, 2007 7:57 PM CST

Welcome Home Melissa,
Melissa, if you ever doubt why you've kept this site open when things got so rough - think on this: if you had closed down, a very special Mommy would have missed out on a very special piece of comfort. Giselle's beautiful poem comes just in time to share with a friend who just suffered the loss of her tiny baby. Thank you, Giselle, for sharing, and Melissa for keeping up through your grief.
Both of you, lift your faces to the sky tonight. There's alot of love coming your way from Maryland.
Love and Rainbow Smiles to You All,
Dawn Dorsett
Dawn Dorsett
North East, MD - Sunday, February 11, 2007 7:42 PM CST

I am so glad you are back online. Though I don't even know you, I've missed you! This site should be a place for you to share your feelings and get support from the millions of us who have come to care deeply for you and your family and would NEVER judge you. Those who come come to your site for any reason other than to give unconditional support probably live very dark and sad lives. Despite all of the pain your family has been though, you are full of life and joy and love. I guess those that have sad dark lives see you and are forced to recognize their own sorrow and misery and that is why they put out that negativity. YOu need to remember though that that kind of negativity is NOT about YOU, its about THEM. They are too impaired by their own pain to honor and appreciate the holiness of this site. I am so glad that you are not letting them take this wonderful site away from you. And please don't censor yourself for "them". THis site is about you, your family and your beautiful little Donovan. Thanks for coming back-
Mindy McNerney <Mindymcnern@yahoo.com>
- Sunday, February 11, 2007 7:29 PM CST

Hi Melissa and Dylan and Happy Birthday Darren. We think about you all the time and Patrick still asks what I think Donovan is doing in Heaven. We'll continue to pray for your family as you heal and as you say, live strong and love stronger.
Love Always, The Maxwells
Sarah and Patrick
Indianapolis, in usa - Sunday, February 11, 2007 7:22 PM CST

Glad to hear from you Melissa. You can make everything possible if you just try. I hope that Dylan is doing great and getting ready for Valentines Day. Happy Birthday Darren. Melissa you keep writing and keeping us informed. It is good for you and all of us. Mostly for us.
Donna <drobinson1027@aol.com>
Williamston, SC USA - Sunday, February 11, 2007 7:13 PM CST

Glad to hear you made it back safely! I think of you all
daily and pray that each day gives you strength and
courage!
Happy Birthday, Darren!
Love and hugs from a soon to be snowy Indiana,
Kara
Kara Meyer www.caringbridge.org/in/karadimmich <karameyer@verizon.net>
WEST LAFAYETTE, IN - Sunday, February 11, 2007 7:06 PM CST

Melissa,
Welcome back. Have missed hearing from you but knew you needed time. Glad you have a plan! Good luck on your marathons. Noone except those who have been through what you and your family have,knows how you feel. It has to be so very tough. I pray for strength for all of you.
You can go to the network website for Grey's and watch past episodes on the internet. It's FREE and nice to watch them whenever you want. You can get caught up on what youve missed and it's been quite a but, so enjoy.
Happy birthday Darrren. Hi to Dylan. Are ya'll staying in NC or going back to IN?
Take care and we hope to hear again from you. If not, God Bless and guide you. Thanks for sharing all that you have.
Tamra
NC - Sunday, February 11, 2007 6:53 PM CST

I think of you and check on your site everyday. I continue praying for you all, that you can find peace soon.

With all my heart,
Aurea mom to Ale and Dani dx T cell ALL 4/6/05 <aureavila@cablevision.net.mx>
Mexico, D.F. Mexico - Sunday, February 11, 2007 6:16 PM CST

WELCOME BACK MELISSA..KNOW ALL OF US WHO SIGN MISSED YOUR UPDATED AND MISS BABY D. I would love to see photos of the sign you have for Donovan at the super bowl. I know he was with you. It must have been an emotional time.

Happy Happy birthday Darren. I hope it is as good as it can be under these circumstances. Keep the updates coming.

mary' <mary6418@comcast.net>
- Sunday, February 11, 2007 6:10 PM CST

Melissa,

Thanks for the update, I've missed them!!! Glad your taking your time during this healing process, stay strong and know you still have a lot of people thinking and praying for your family everyday, me included!! So glad your Colts one!!! I watched the whole game hoping to see your poster, do you have any pics of it? I know Baby D was watching and cheering them on with you, I'm sure it was very emotional for you, but I'm really glad you had the opportunity to go!!! That's a once in a lifetime memory! Sure looked awful wet & rainy on tv, hope you were under cover! God Bless you and your family, take your time, as much time as you need. We are all here to back you & pray for you.
Tammy Kelly <steelersgirl69@verizon.net>
- Sunday, February 11, 2007 5:23 PM CST

Melissa & Family,

My condolences go out to you and your family on the passing of Baby Donovan. I have been following your site for sometime but have never posted. It gave me goosebumps when I read that you want to do Lake Tahoe this year with Team In Training. Yesterday was our first training ride here in Texas for Lake Tahoe. My husband and I will be participating for the second year. I have been involved with The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society since my first marathon in Alaska for them in 2003. I completed that event in honor of my daughter who had just finished a year of chemo and radiation for Hodgkin's Lymphoma. Since then, I have completed several events for them. Lake Tahoe will be my 11th. It's not too late for you to join the team. It would be an HONOR to cross that finish line with you and Baby Donovan. I continue my efforts with the Society (and will ALWAYS do so) in the hopes that someday the CURE WILL be found. No parent should have to go through all that you have gone through.

As far as people judging you, just remember the only thing that matters is your relationship with GOD!!

God Bless you and your entire family. I look forward to watching you cross the finish line in Lake Tahoe with Baby Donovan guiding you every step of the way! YOU CAN DO IT!!
Texas Team In Training <aafly80@gmail.com>
Southlake, TX - Sunday, February 11, 2007 3:22 PM CST

Take your time and feel God's love around you. It is difficult for anyone to feel your pain, but all know the loss of a child is a huge loss. I have been there but I don't pretend to know how you feel. You are in my prayers.
Thank you for coming back to keep us updated.
We all come to this site to encourage, embrace, and show our love and concern for you.
May God give you the strength you need every day to put one foot in front of the other and smile thinking about your precious baby and all the love he brought to so many.
sara
- Sunday, February 11, 2007 3:16 PM CST

It is good to hear from you, Melissa. You've been on my mind so much lately. And Darren too. I've been thinking all week long about Darren's birthday coming up. As a matter of fact, I thought it was the 12th! LOL! I think if I remember right, it was because when I first 'met' your family, it was right after Darren's birthday and I think (I may be wrong), but I think that maybe it was your mom that was a day off that year too! Regardless - HAPPY BIRTHDAY DARREN!!!! I hope you all will find a way to celebrate your day and feel Donovan's love around you.

Just want you all to know how much we care!!!!

PS - I have been checking on all of Donovan's precious friends too - especially Noelle and Alexia!
Lots of love, Nickey <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
Burlington, IA - Sunday, February 11, 2007 2:16 PM CST

Happy Birthday Darren! I know your pain is still very raw, but I pray that the peace of our Lord is with you and that you enjoy the day with family close by. May Donovan's whole family feel the healing love of Jesus' Blessing!
Karen M
Tacoma, WA USA - Sunday, February 11, 2007 1:57 PM CST

Hello Melissa,Darren & Dylan, It's so good to hear from you and glad to know yr doing as good as you can during this time, Melissa you and yr family do whatever it takes to "heal", Yr last two years has beena rollercoaster ride and I'm sure just spending time with Lil Dylan will help,and in time he will heal also. Dont worry about all those comments made' You and yr husband are strong!!! And all that matters is yr family!, PLEASE keep the site up for awhile!!!, It does more good than you think, Lots of familes 'get inspiration from you!!, God sees yr heart and he knows what you need, So please pray about it!, I'm so gald you had a nice time at the Game' , We were pulling for "Baby D's Team" at work, he will always be in yr heart, He's yr son!!!, Be blessed and yr in my prayers, PS Happy Birthday Darren!!!
The Spiveys
Antoinette Spivey <lilmsdragonfly5@yahoo.com>
Maureaps, La USA - Sunday, February 11, 2007 1:54 PM CST

Melissa - I too am glad to see your update - I've missed you! Although we have never met, I'm just a "regular gal" like you and a mom to a kid fighting the good fight against leukemia. You are doing everything exactly right - which is to say, you are just trying to figure things out right now. I support you doing exactly what is right for you and your family, and only YOU know what that is. Somehow, you will get through, get by, get on. . . and we keep praying for God to wrap you in his loving arms and carry you through your pain.

With lots of love, prayers, and HOPE from Wisconsin (a Packer fan who rooted like crazy for the Colts and for you all)
Deanna Deutsch www.caringbridge.org/wi/frankie <dldeutsch@centurytel.net>
Delafield, WI USA - Sunday, February 11, 2007 1:49 PM CST

I'm sorry. For the loss of your son. And for the people that weren't taught to keep their mouths shut when they didn't have something nice to say. Happy Birthday Darren.
Lindsay
Houston, TX - Sunday, February 11, 2007 1:43 PM CST

Dear Melissa and Family,

We were so happy to read your recent post on your site. We missed reading and hearing about how you and your family were doing.

As a mother who has recently lost a child to leukemia, I was deeply saddened by some of the inappropriate comments that were sent to you. I just wanted to let you know, Melissa, how much our family and friends deeply admire you and find you to be such an inspiration. Please don't stop writing!!! We love your family and those people making judgements haven't walked in our shoes and have no right to make you feel bad. Your a wonderful mother!

Throughout my son's illness, you always made a point to write a note of support in our site and for that we are truly grateful. You are unselfish and kind. You always make time for your caringbridge families (even while your son was battling his leukemia) and in our books that makes you an amazing person and mom. Please don't ever change and don't stop writing. We all care about you and your family!

WHAT MAKES A MOTHER
I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today
I asked "What makes a Mother?"
And I know I heard him say
A Mother has a baby
This we know is true
But, God, can you be a mother
When your baby's not with you?

Yes, you can he replied
With confidence in his voice
I give many women babies
When they leave it is not their choice
Some I send for a lifetime
And others for the day
And some I send to feel your womb
But there's no need to stay.

I just don't understand this God
I want my baby here

He took a breath
and cleared his throat
And then I saw a tear
I wish I could show you
What your child is doing today
If you could see your child smile
With other children and say
"We go to earth to learn our lessons
of love and life and fear
My mommy loved me so much
I got to come straight here
I feel so lucky to have a Mom who had so much love for me
I learned my lessons very quickly
My Mommy set me free.

I miss my Mommy oh so much
But I visit her each day
When she goes to sleep
On her pillows where I lay
I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek
And whisper in her ear
Mommy don't be sad today
I'm your baby and I am here"

So you see my dear sweet one
Your children are okay
Your babies are here in My home
And this is where they'll stay
They'll wait for you with Me
Until your lessons are through
And on the day you come home
they'll be at the gates for you

So now you see
What makes a Mother
It's the feeling in your heart
It's the love you had so much of
Right from the very start
Though some on earth
May not realize
Until their time is done
Remember all the love you have
And know that you are
A Special Mom.
Author � Unknown

P.S. We watched the superbowl and were thrilled when the Colts won.Baby Donovan must be smiling with Brenden up in heaven.
Giselle Mouro (mom to baby Brenden) <robmouro@hotmail.com>
Vancouver, BC Canada - Sunday, February 11, 2007 1:24 PM CST

First off, Happy Birthday Darren! I'm celebrating mine today too :-). I know your heart probably isn't into a celebration, but I did want to send good wishes your way. Melissa- just sent you an email from the ALL-Kids list and although it's brief, it is heartfelt. You will be missed there. I've been thinking about you guys and was glad to see that Dylan got some very special attention from his loving grandparents last week. It sounds like you know that you have to grieve in order to make it to the other side. I hope that you'll always remember not to let others dictate how to grieve. Keeping you and Darren in my prayers as you guys find a way to get through this pain of losing Donovan together. You've proven how strong you are and I have no doubt that you guys will find your way. Take good care of yourselves and each other!
Lorie, mom to Ben (cancer warrior, 5)
www.caringbridge.com/tn/benparents
Lorie H <lghirsh@hotmail.com>
Knoxville, TN USA - Sunday, February 11, 2007 1:14 PM CST

First of all, HAPPY BIRTHDAY DARREN! I'm sure this will be a hard one for you, but your caringbridge family continues to pray for you, and wish you the best.

Melissa - Thank you SO much for your update. I still check up on Little Donovan everyday, and was so happy today to see that you had written. Although I've never met you personally, a part of me feels like I have traveled this journey with you.

Please know that you and your family are constantly in my every thought and prayer.
Leah
MSP, MN - Sunday, February 11, 2007 1:04 PM CST

HAPPY BIRTHDAY DARREN!!!!! I hope you have a good day. Melissa, it's good to hear from you. I'm also sorry that a few people's comments have you down. I have no idea how you've been so strong. No one has the right to judge you. Keep doing what you are doing. I know that I am speaking for many, we would really like to keep up with you guys and know that you are all O.K. especially Dylan. He is truly a super brother!!
Heather Thompson <htast@aol.com>
- Sunday, February 11, 2007 12:31 AM CST

Melissa,
Don't let the words of a few outweigh the words of the many, many people who have written to you here in love and support. You're right, Baby D was a shining light who touched so many lives, and I admire your strength in sharing his journey with us all. Your life has been changed forever, as you say, but you will find your way, with sweet Baby Donovan in your heart always. I pray your family will feel his presence always, and that it will bring you comfort in the days ahead.
Sherri Ross
Concord, NC - Sunday, February 11, 2007 12:20 AM CST

Melissa,
It is really nice to hear your news. I am so glad that you had a meaningful experience at the SuperBowl and got to honor your baby in a way that meant something to you. We watched and cheered for the Colts and thought of Baby D throughout!

(Once again I forgot to turn down the volume before opening the guestbook -- I just can't hear that song without the tears flowing...)

Sarah <saranne@aol.com>
Wauwatosa, WI - Sunday, February 11, 2007 10:54 AM CST

Happy Birthday Darren!!! We pray today is filled with much love, joy, peace and happiness. May this new year be better than you can ever imagine. We pray for many blessings to come your way.
Melissa, so glad you had a good time. So thankful for the update. Praying that the days get easier for all of you. We love you !!!
Stacey & Scott Krause (mom & dad to Kaylee in Heaven)
- Sunday, February 11, 2007 10:51 AM CST

It was great to hear from you Melissa. I'm glad to hear you guys are doing alright. We all miss Baby D so much, and I think the ways that you're honoring his memory are great. I'm sorry that this site has been tainted by judgemental people, but know that the great majority of people on here support you and your family 100%. I hope Darren has a happy birthday!
Becca Andrews <andre149@msu.edu>
Haslett, MI - Sunday, February 11, 2007 10:45 AM CST

It was so great to see an update from you. I watched the Super Bowl last Sunday, and I pulled so hard for the Colts. Donovan was definitely watching over the team. The Century Ride would be great for you to participate in. I've been praying and thinking of you often. Don't let those judgmental people get you down. Obviously they haven't experienced this kind of pain and anguish. Happy Birthday to Darren.
Andie
Rock Hill, SC USA - Sunday, February 11, 2007 10:35 AM CST

Happy Birthday Darren! We hope you have a great birthday!

We continue to think of your family. Donovan will always hold a special place in our hearts. Melissa, the Tahoe ride with TNT is a BEAUTIFUL ride. We were up there last year and it was amazing. As you continue through the healing process, may God guide you.

Thinking of you always
Tiffany - mom to Jackson and Faith <jetoneil@yahoo.com>
Rohnert Park, CA - Sunday, February 11, 2007 10:21 AM CST

Happy Birthday Darren. I hope you have a nice day with your family. I pray that God grants you and the whole Rasmussen family peace and confort as you all go forward on this journey. I'm sure Angel Donovan is smiling down on you all. God bless you
Ana
Mesa, AZ - Sunday, February 11, 2007 10:16 AM CST

Melissa, you heal in your way, whatever it takes, and each member of your family will probably find his/her own way, and yet, you will do it together. Your caringbridge family is here for support, not to judge you and you do not have to read or pay attention to anything that does not bring you comfort.
I think you have a full plate planned, with Donovan always in your heart and I think he is proud of his Mama. You get out there and you run for leukemia and lymphoma and help kill those monsters, someone has to ! Look what Donovan does with the Colts, he can certainly train you to run for cancer !
You let us know how you are when you feel like it, we'll be here, checking on Alexia and all of the other precious soldiers fighting the war that Baby Donovan fought so bravely.
God bless you and your family,
Sandy Diercks <adiercks@aol.com>
Atlanta, GA USA - Sunday, February 11, 2007 9:24 AM CST

Dearest Melissa and beloved family of ^Baby D^.......

I can't even imagine everything that you are going through; but you need to take your time in the healing, and grieving process. I am glad to have read an update from you; and equally glad that you got to go to the Superbowl. I was so happy when the Colts won, I knew that they would for ^Baby D^...........my grandmother passed away almost 10 years ago, and everyday I still hurt for her. I wish she was here with me in the physical sense, for one more day, hour, etc.......I can feel her presence at certain times, and during certain times I know she is there with me. I don't know why I wrote what I did, and I know it doesn't make any sense to you..........enjoy the time you have with Dylan, do what you need to do for yourself, and your family to heal and to grieve. Grief doesn't have a time-table; so take all of the time you need. I know I don't know all of you, but my heart aches for all of you, and especially for ^Donovan^ too. You are all very special to me, and I will continue to hold each of you very close in my heart, as well as in my daily prayers and tender thoughts. Take all of the time you need, and don't worry about the nasty comments from people. They just don't understand what it is like to lose someone whom they love............may God continue to abundantly bless each of you with His unconditional and unwavering love and peace; and may He also hold each of you in the palm of His hand. May He also wrap you all in His love when you need to be lifted up with comfort and with much strength. ^Donovan^ will always be in my thoughts, and in my prayers; as will your entire beloved family. May you gain the comfort and peace you need with the small signs that ^Baby D^ is always with all of you. Many blessings to each of you; now and always.

Much love and many blessings~

Christine
Christine Clinton <chrissy113@juno.com>
New Jersey United States - Sunday, February 11, 2007 9:08 AM CST

Happy Birthday to Darren!
Melissa - it was so good to see your post......you do whatever it is that feels "right" for you, and always remember that Donny is right there in your heart cheering you on.
You all continue to be in my thoughts and prayers daily - your CaringBridge family will always be here for you, and no one will ever forget your precious Baby D.
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Sunday, February 11, 2007 9:02 AM CST

Melissa, It is not to late to ride the century and you will love it. My husband, large enough to be a professional ballplayer and completely out of shape, rode it and finished with the help of his TNT coaches. It is one of the best tributes you can make to Donovan and all the other children and adults with Leukemia. If you do ride and see anyone with Peeps(stuffed versions of the candy ones) yell hello they ride for our daughter. Keep doing what you need to do and do not worry about those who only have negative things to say. Everyone grieves and heals in their own way. And do keep seeing the special things in even the littlest signs. I have said some days even a temper tantrum is a good thing. You and your family remain in our thoughts and prayers. Lynne
(a friend of Alex and Jill)
Lynne
- Sunday, February 11, 2007 8:43 AM CST

oh and HAPPY BIRTHDAY DARREN!!
WE LOVE YOU VERY MUCH AND PRAY TODAY
IS A SPECIAL DAY FOR YOU!!

God bless you!!

Melissa Smith <turtleluv@earthlink.net>
Greenwood, SC, - Sunday, February 11, 2007 8:39 AM CST

I am so glad to hear everyone is "ok". You guys are so in our prayers. I can not imagine the pain you have and are going through. I miss ^Donovan^!! No doubt you ache...I am not going to say the pain will get better - quite frankly, it sucks! My mom died almost 2 years ago from breast cancer and the pain grips me when I least expect it - looking at greeting cards, seeing other kids with their grandmother, the holidays.....but with MUCH prayer, it helps me realize what my Mom truly meant and means to me. Take all the time you need...don't update the site, have fun with Dylan, go out with Darren for dinner, go back to work (whenever), live life....we will ALWAYS ALWAYS remember your sweet ^DONNY^. He was and is so special. I am so glad you got to go to the SuperBowl. I know it was very emotional. Like I said my mom died on Tuesday and the Relay for Life was Friday....we went and CRIED the entire time we were there. But she would have wanted us to be there, just like ^Donovan^ wanted you there. He made his presence known to you (and everyone watching - I feel). Melissa, may God be with you and your precious family. May you feel His gentle hugs when you feel down and please know we are all out here in cyberland PRAYING......
~much love~
Melissa Smith <turtleluv@earthlink.net>
Greenwood, SC, - Sunday, February 11, 2007 8:36 AM CST

I am so glad to see your update - although we do not know each other, I find myself checking Baby D's site often to check up on someone that I feel I know personally. Take your time and allow yourself to grieve. I cannot even begin to imagine your pain. You have touched and changed so many lives by sharing your story and letting us get to know your family. I think of Baby D everyday - he has changed my life. Thank you for having this web site and helping me realize how precious life is.
Shelly
Avon, MN usa - Sunday, February 11, 2007 8:35 AM CST

Happy Birthday Darren!!! Melissa & Family, Praying hard for peace and comfort for you all. May God walk beside and hold each of you and hold your hands tight as you all continue down the path without Donovan. Melissa, You go Girl, Run like the wind in those Marathons, Run for your Sweet Angel and all his Angel Friends, plus all the Angels here on earth fighting for their lives.If anyone can do..with your love for Donovan..you can and will. God Bless you all.
Karen <indianagal_2004@yaahoo.com>
- Sunday, February 11, 2007 8:32 AM CST

You guys continue to be in our thoughts and prayers.
Maureen <maureenandrob@hotmail.com>
McKinney, TX USA - Sunday, February 11, 2007 8:24 AM CST

Just stopping by to say that I am thinking and praying for you guys. I am so, so, SO glad you had go to go to Miami for the game! How cool is that?? And, whoo hoo for the colts. The whole time I was watching the game, I kept thinking about Donovan.

Praying for your whole family...

Meagan
Lexington, KY - Sunday, February 11, 2007 8:09 AM CST

Melissa, Darren & Dylan: Just stopping by to let you know that I'm always thinking about you. I was so glad to see that you updated the journal. I have really missed your updates as I feel as if you are part of my family after following Baby D for so long. Hope that you will continue to update but will understand if you don't. I only wish the best for your family. Know that Baby D was with you at the Superbowl. Even though I am from the Baltimore area and a Ravens fan, I was happy that the Colts won (don't let my family know that). Just take your time making decisions as to what you are going to do next. In time, all will fall in place.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY DARREN!!! May you have a wonderful day!
Always keeping you in my prayers.
Sending love & hugs,
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Sunday, February 11, 2007 8:02 AM CST

Happy Birthday Darren!!!!
Julie www.caringbridge.org/visit/hayden
Hanover, Pa - Sunday, February 11, 2007 7:48 AM CST

Dear Melissa, it was so good to hear from you again. You are right in taking it slow to decide what is next for you. Whatever it is I know Donovan will have a hand in your decision. None of us will ever forget Donovan and he will always be there to guide us forward. Please stay in touch. HAPPY BIRTHDAY DARREN!! I hope you spend a very peaceful day with your loved ones.
Jan
Cary, NC USA - Sunday, February 11, 2007 7:47 AM CST

Melissa, Darren and Dylan! I have followed silently for some time now and wanted to stop in and express my sympathies for your loss. Please don't let those others out there, who seem to have nothing better to do then to pass judgement on others, instead of their own issues, bother you. They truly aren't worth granting them that energy. I pray for those people, knowing that they could try to further hurt someone who has suffered the ultimate hurt must mean they hurt in some way to. I wish you all peace and comfort in the long road ahead. But most of all, I wish you all the little joys you can take of this life, in the midst of your pain! Take them, they are rightfully yours and let no one tell you otherwise! You deserve them and to share them if you choose! I hope this doesn't sound too strong. I have just been so offended that there are people out there that just can't keep their negativities to themselves, that is not what this forum of posting is about!!!! I promise to always remember your little colts fan and his beautiful little smile.
Cine's Place
Ottawa, On Canada - Sunday, February 11, 2007 6:50 AM CST

Melissa, Darren and Dylan - Thankyou for updating again! I continue to check donovan's site daily, as he became a part of my life. I got several cards in the mail from friends when Baby D earned his angel wings to show their support. They knew how much I followed him as I mentioned him several times on my sons site to ask for prayers. And they knew how sad I was when Cancer finally took the fight from him. He was a beautiful boy and grabbed everybodies heart. We had a small superbowl party and everyone was yelling for Baby D and the colts. He was smiling down I think and still making us all aware that he is still with us. Take the time you need to heal- I will not say to forget - you will never forget. Thinking of you always!

Angie, Chris, Owen, Tyler, and Jake Wawrzaszek (www.caringbridge.org/wa/owen) <awawrzaszek@hughes.net>
Auburn, NY USA - Sunday, February 11, 2007 6:38 AM CST

Hi Melessa and Family,
So happy that you found the strength to update the guestbook.
Happy Birthday to Darren!
I just know that Baby Donovan was helping the Colts go on to VICTORY. He was there I just know he was. Forget all those people who have no heart. We all must heal in our own way. Remember that you and your family are in my prayers. And your little Donovan is watching over all of you. I am Matthew Facklers Grandma and I know your road was not easy. But, just think how blessed you were to have Donovan even if it was for such a short time. He was such a joy!
Sending Prayers........

mary sherbinsky <mare31839@aol.com>
N/H, IN USA - Sunday, February 11, 2007 6:00 AM CST

Hi melissa and family,
This is Krystyna auntie to our angel brenden. Thanks for having the strength and courage to keep writing. These attributes have been taught by your precious baby boy. Remember all the lessons he has taught you and your entire family and forget about all the "CRAP" written by insecure selfish people. I'm positive donovan is praying for those individuals cause their souls have been tainted horribly. At night before you go to bed just ask your angel donovan to pray for you. Ask him for comfort and peace in your heart to be able to get through this especially for your son dylan. Dylan need his parents more than ever now. Thanks for your positivity...God bless.
Krystyna <kmouro@hotmail.com>
Canada - Sunday, February 11, 2007 1:40 AM CST

Hi Darren,
Happy Birthday to you , Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday Darren, Happy Birthday to you!!!!
Melissa,
Again your words have brought comfort to all of us that have gone thru an illness with a child. You have a wonderful way of expressing your thoughts. I was in such a routine with my son Mitchell's doctor appts, tests,meds ect... that I forgot about really living. It was like I was on autopilot. I would forgot to kiss my husband goodnight I didn't have the energy to call my friends. I was so wrapped up in Mitchell that I forgot what a "normal" life was like. As I read your journal entries it helps me to try and find that balance. I wish I had a magic word that would make everything ok. We must lean on each other and know that your family has many many friends wishing you well from around the world. Goodnight and God bless you all
The Marsh Family.
Tamara Marsh <FMarsh3037@aol.com>
Fresno, CA USA - Sunday, February 11, 2007 1:26 AM CST

It was so nice to read a post from you again. I will miss them when they end. I can understand the difficulty and pain in keeping it up. I wish you and your family the best and I will think of you all often. Many prayers to all of you.
Diane-mom to another Dylan www.caringbridge.org/visit/dylanellefson
Diane Ussery <ddiney@yahoo.com>
Buckley, WA - Sunday, February 11, 2007 1:18 AM CST

Thanks Melissa for the update. I do hope you continue to update this site from time to time but I would understand if you didnt.....
There is never a time when things will feel normal again; I remember when Savahana was first diagnosed with her leukemia, I said I just wished things would be normal again, and then it hit me...the reality is that 'normal' is forever ripped away from us. The new 'normal' begins. Bittersweet, maybe, but there is no other direction to go.
I pray that you and Darren will heal together and guide Dylan in his efforts to figure it all out. I cant imagine, Melissa, the pain and sense of loss you must feel. I do know that God hears us and makes no mistakes. You will be re-united with Baby Donovan and when you are what a reunion that will be, for you all.

You will remain forever imbedded into my heart. I will always remember Donovan and I will pray faithfully and relentlessly for you, Darren and Dylan.
God Bless,
Lori Scott
www.caringbridge.org/visit/savahanascott
(my birthday is Monday....aquarians ROCK) ha
Happy Birthday Darren!
Lori <lascott32@aol.com>
Avon, in - Sunday, February 11, 2007 1:11 AM CST

Darren~
The last Birthday wish I sent you did not come through, I am praying that you get this one! Have a blessed day~
Jan

Jan Chapdelaine aka Mimi to Makayla (in heaven) & Hailey <jannyjo@cox.net>
Virginia Beach, VA - Sunday, February 11, 2007 0:15 AM CST

Darren~

I pray that you have a blessed day.

Melissa~ take your time sweetie to do what you need to do. You are right...don't make any fast moves. You need time to heal. I miss you my friend. I am still praying for you all. Please give Dylan a hug from Mimi Jan and while he is hugging you back, that is my hug to you. Please feel free to call me at any time. I am always here for you.
Much love, prayers and hugs~
Jan
Jan Chapdelaine aka Mimi to Makayla (in heaven) & Hailey <jannyjo@cox.net>
Virginia Beach, VA www.freewebs.com/prayerbears - Sunday, February 11, 2007 0:13 AM CST

Melissa... You and your family deserve every ounce of joy and happiness you can find in life. Don't let anyone tell you different or make you feel bad about trying to find a way to live your life again.

We love you guys!
Katie (mom to Hayley, Hunter, and Taylor) <dugan2b@yahoo.com>
Franklin, MA - Saturday, February 10, 2007 11:10 PM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan, Extended Family..Continuing to keep you close in thoughts and prayers, Stay safe Grammie on your next adventure. Baby D..Remembering you always.
Karen <indianagal_2004@yahoo.com>
- Saturday, February 10, 2007 9:44 PM CST

I feel bad that I haven't been by your page in awhile.Lots going on here.But that does not mean that I don't think of you for I always do.I do stop by your page to see and read the updates just haven't had time to sign your guestbook.
**~

BRENDA~**MY LOVING DAD'S SITE WITH A NEW YEAR ANOTHER ANGEL <brurka@shaw.ca>
****Edmonton~Alberta~Canada****, - Saturday, February 10, 2007 9:33 PM CST

Hello! Just thought I would drop into say "hi".
Praying for you family. We are still thinking and praying for you.
Love,
Heather, Adam, and Asher
Heather Misner (Asher and ^Jacob's Mommy^ <mitchellham@yahoo.com>
Midwest City, OK - Saturday, February 10, 2007 7:06 PM CST

Darren, Melissa, Dylan, ^Donovan^ and family~

Thoughts of you today, as always. Praying each day gets a little easier.
Donovan was such a precious, brave little boy who will be missed by so
many. I look forward to one day meeting him in heaven. I bet our ^Laken^
has already met him, plays with him, and just loves him like her mommy
and sister does.

Hope you are having a good weekend. I know once things slow down a bit,
and the numbness starts to wear off it can be a bit unbearable. Just know
I am here for you if you need anything. You are not alone by any means. I have
met so many phenomenal families who unfortunatly know the pain and heart wrenching
grief of losing a child. It seems so unfair at times, but I trust God, and I know he
makes no mistakes. We too will know what all this was for one glorious day.

God bless your family!

Love & Prayers~ Claire
www.caringbridge.com/visit/lakenroy
Claire Roy <caffemocha29@aol.com>
Kernersville, NC US - Saturday, February 10, 2007 4:30 PM CST

just stopping by to say I am thinking of you and hope you are enjoying some family time together before grammie goes off to her next "adventure". I remember awhile back Melissa said she had someone do professional photos..I hope at some point you might share with us those I'm sure gorgeous photos. Thinking, praying and missing baby D.
mary
- Saturday, February 10, 2007 3:00 PM CST

Just stopping by to let you know I think of you all everyday. We are so busy at work, but I still always stop by! Sending you ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) from all of us in Burlington! We love you!
Lots of love, Angel Nickey
Burlington, IA - Saturday, February 10, 2007 11:56 AM CST

Thinking of you guys today and everyday. Thank you Grammie for the updates they mean so much to everyone.
Kirsten Garcia <tkgarcia4@comcast.net>
Remington, IN. - Saturday, February 10, 2007 10:40 AM CST

Sending you my prayers and strength today.
Renee <rforte0531@sbcglobal.net>
Cheshire, CT - Saturday, February 10, 2007 9:52 AM CST

Courtesy of MsTags.com
Just wanted to stop by and let you know I�m thinking of you.

Love Karen
www.carepages.com
Page name is Karenmelissa

Karen
- Saturday, February 10, 2007 4:01 AM CST

Praying for you all tonight, knowing your all under one roof and hoping that through all the pain you can smile and feel Donovans love.

God Bless,
Lori
Lori <lascott32@aol.com>
Avon, in - Friday, February 9, 2007 11:41 PM CST

Hi family, our prayers are for you, this is coming from a family in Louisiana.We lost our oldest son in 1969 and let me tell you , you will never forget them. After he was put to rest my hubbie and I went home to no other children,no other child can take their place.It was four years later before we had another son, and you know what he didn't take his place, but he sure filled the big whole that was there.Time goes on and believe me it does get better, but you never forget them. We have three grown sons and four grandsons and the youngest grandson was gifted with our first son namesake.So always keep you head high and believe in God and things will be ok, I know and family and friends is the biggest and largest thing you can have, enjoy them as a family.
Diane Templet <ddtemplet@cox.net>
St.Amant, La. USA - Friday, February 9, 2007 11:11 PM CST

I have never signed the quest book but have kept up with baby D story for quite some time i also made a donation which i hope and pray was used for baby D. I am truely sorry for your loss. I hope you do not close down the guest book as many people grow to know you and feel like family.
faith
- Friday, February 9, 2007 10:56 PM CST

Hi there gang. I just wanted to say I think of you all the time and any time I look at my computer I always go and visit Baby D 's site. I hope Dillon is doing well, I know he has a good family to help him. I hope you and Darren are doing okay. Baby D was in the game that day with our BLUE and he helped them all the way. :) God Bless You All
Brooke Deckard and Family <rentalman8@yahoo.com>
Bloomington, IN USA - Friday, February 9, 2007 8:37 PM CST

Praying for strength for your family and remembering Baby Donovan's beautiful smile always. God Bless all of you.
Julie
- Friday, February 9, 2007 7:46 PM CST

Rebecca, glad you and Dylan made it back safely to NC. You are one amazing woman and so it seems is Dylan. Please give my love to Melissa and Darren and I hope to see you before you take off again. God Bless you and give you all the strength needed to go forward.
Jan <jldlatta@aol.com>
Cary, NC USA - Friday, February 9, 2007 4:22 PM CST

Grammie: So glad that you made it back to warm North Carolina. Must feel so good compared to Chicago. Dylan is one lucky little boy to have such a terrific grammie and papa. It was really good for him to have such undivided attention with family and friends. Hope that everyone (especially Melissa and Darren)are getting so much needed rest. Know that I always keep your family in my prayers and in my thoughts.
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Friday, February 9, 2007 3:43 PM CST

Howdy,
It's Grammie.

I know I still talk to you as if you were here, but you in my heart, so I will continue to write as such as long as mommy keeps your website going. I am comforted to know that you are in good hands up there, though my heart aches to hold your little hand in mine. I never knew a Grammie to so lonely without one of her grand-chick-a-dees.

Wow! It's Friday. We made it home, to your North Carolina home. Dylan was so excited. He went to each of the rooms and then came back and said, "Oh, that's right!"
I asked him what was right, he said, "Donny," he stopped.
"Donny what?" I asked.
"Donny is in heaven." He turned and went about checking for the toys he left behind last week.
He was okay with you being in heaven. It seemed. I just don't think he thought you were going to be there for a long time. Kind of like us, he thought you were just going on a vacation and then you would come back, then realized what your mommy told him. "Donny won't be coming back."

It is good to get back into some warm temperatures. It's in the 40s here. Coming from -9 in Chicago, this really feels warm. Dylan had to wear his pjs under his outside clothes, because it was so cold there. Auntie Yolanda's family lean him a really heavy jacket too. We gave it back to them when we left, since Dylan won't need it here.

Oh, let me tell about Dylan's train ride. Papa goes into the city of Chicago to work at the University of Chicago. He promised Dylan a ride on the train, so yesterday, Dylan and Papa got on the electric train and rode it all the way to the end of the track. Dylan was so excited that he just talked about it the whole way back to the motel.

Dylan had lots of fun playing with his cousins and Auntie Yolanda's grandchildren. They played in the snow until the cheeks and noses had turned red. He like most of all coming in and sitting in front of a warm cup of hot chocolate.

Grammie and Papa looked at a few apartments while we were there. I think we found one, so when one comes available we will go back there. That won't be for a couple of months though.

However, Grammie will be leaving North Carolina again soon. I am going to go help Auntie Valerie and Uncle Casey with the girls. They need a little help with the girls adjusting to a new work schedule their mommy and daddy have. I'll be there for a few months. However, I will be keeping in touch with you and Dylan all the time I am there.
Oh, and of course, there was the happiest reunion with mommy and dylan. We miss you so much.

Oh, I forgot to tell you about the parade. Dylan was watching a movie on his DVD machine. While watching, a part came on showing several cars driving in a row. Dylan was so excited, he told Papa to look there was a parade just like Donny's parade. When we went to the cemetary after the mass, there were a long line of cars behind us. I told Dylan it was like a parade because there was a police car in front of the line of cars and one in the back of the cars like in a parade. So, now whenever we see a long line of cars Dylan will be thinking of you and your big parade.
Well, Kid-o, I better go help Mommy straighten up the apartment. We all have been gone so long, things just need to be dusted and rearranged.
We miss you kid-o.
Love Grammie <lgstmpr@walla.com>
Durham, NC - Friday, February 9, 2007 3:05 PM CST

Your family is in my prayers.
Jenn Elder <jelder4@cogeco.ca>
Peterborough, ON Canada - Friday, February 9, 2007 2:34 PM CST

hey! I am just sitting here checking in on my "babies" and of course thinking of ^donny^. I am praying for God's grace for your family.
Melissa Smith <turtleluv@earthlink.net>
Greenwood, SC, - Friday, February 9, 2007 1:32 PM CST

Still here...still thinking of you...and still praying for strength for the entire family. The pain of coping with such a tragedy is unfathomable to me, and my heart sincerly goes out to each and every one of you.

Always in my thoughts...
Abbie Doser <doser.abbie@principal.com>
Des Moines, IA - Friday, February 9, 2007 12:31 AM CST

Thinking of you.
Susan Mitchell <smitchel@calfee.com>
Cleveland, Ohio United States - Friday, February 9, 2007 12:12 AM CST

TO THE FAMILY OF BABY DONAVAN:
WE FOLLOW THE PROGRESS OF MORGAN DECAKARD AND BROOKE HAS KEPT US UPDATED. WE OFFER OUR PRAYERS FOR YOUR CONFORT AT THIS VERY HARD TIME. MAY YOU HAVE PEACE AND LOVE IN YOUR HEARTS. BARB AND WAYNE BROADFIELD
BARB BROADFIELD <BARB.BROADFIELD@COOKMEDICAL.COM>
ELLETTSVILLE, IN - Friday, February 9, 2007 10:33 AM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dyan, Sweet Grammie, Extended Family, Just letting you know, you remain in my prayers and close in heart. Baby D..We're all missing you little one.
Karen <indianagal_2004@hotmail.com>
- Friday, February 9, 2007 9:01 AM CST

Grammie - Thank you for the update it's so good to hear from you. Dylan is one lucky boy getting to spend some time with both of you! It is great that Meliss and Darren are able to have some alone time to grieve and not have to worry about Dylan being there at this time. Sometimes when a little one is there we need to keep a stiff upper lip...this way they can cry, scream, ,laugh whatever they want. Soon the family will be together again...forever! You are an amazing mom/grandmother....still praying for all of you!
mary <mary6418@comcast.net>
- Friday, February 9, 2007 6:04 AM CST

Hi, I found out about your site from Will Armstrong's site. I first want you to know how sorry I am for the loss you have experienced. What a precious boy he was and I feel so much for you that you had to deal with sickness almost the whole time you were blessed to have him. I want you to know that I lifted your whole family up in prayer just now. I know my Heavenly Father cares so much for you and I know He will be there always to hold you and comfort you. He promises that we will see our loved ones again. I hope this promise and all the wonderful memories you have of Donovan give you strength.
I did want to tell you something that might make you smile. I am not a football fan. Ouch! Did I say that? My boys all play hockey here in West Texas. So...while I was dreading going to my small church group on superbowl Sunday, I did decide I might as well choose a team to root for. So I chose the Bears. And most everyone else chose the Colts. One reason for choosing the Colts is because they heard the coach was a Christian. I wanted the Bears to win because a guy named Cedric on the team had a large family that lives in a small town by us. I read about him in our newspaper. Anyway, you know what happened. My team lost. I said oh well and went on. Then I heard them say that the Colts coach had been through a lot. So I looked it up on the web and discovered he had lost a son the year before. I was so happy that he had won then. And I marveled at how much God cares about us. And that even though I know He doesn't pick one team over another, He does care about what we care about. And now I read this story. And I am overwhelmed. God gave you something to hold on to. And He let you feel your son when you went to that game. And......they won! He cares! He loves you! And He will be there for you always. I care, too. I hope my prayers will help carry you through this pain. And the memories will bring laughter through your tears. God Bless You!
Lauri McCallum <burninuptheice@yahoo.com>
San Angelo, TX USA - Friday, February 9, 2007 0:27 AM CST

Hi to all,
Thanks for the update, Grammie! Please know that I continue to think & pray for Baby D ~ Donovan & his family! Will check back soon~Hugs from Adi's Grandma Liz
www.caringbridge.org/visit/adi
Liz Penner <lizzip52@yahoo.com>
Simi Valley, CA - Thursday, February 8, 2007 11:14 PM CST

Hey Melissa - Just thinking about you guys. Grammie - Thanks for the update. I hope it's warmer in NC than in Chicago. Tell Melissa she can always come visit us in sunny CA. It's cooled off, but it was in the 80's earlier in the week :-) Hugs ~
Jill and Alex www.caringbridge.com/ca/alexschwab <jillschwab99@hotmail.com>
Manhattan Beach, CA United States - Thursday, February 8, 2007 11:03 PM CST

Sending love from CA,
XXOO, Cali Ali's Mom
Marey ALL-KIDS <kteachermom@hotmail.com>
- Thursday, February 8, 2007 7:20 PM CST

Thinking of you all tonight and hoping you are safe and warm(er) in North Carolina.....keeping you in my prayers always.
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Thursday, February 8, 2007 6:58 PM CST

Hi Grammie
Thank you for updating - Jazzy has been asking about and praying for Dylan. She has been praying for comfort and courage for him. She asked me if she could go over and play with Dylan so "he wouldn't be sad anymore". Tell Melissa when she is ready to call me and we can get the two of them together if she is up for it. We think of you all daily and pray for you, hoping it brings you comfort knowing how many people love your lil family and the impact Donovan has had on all of our lives. His smiling face will be with me always. Sending our love and hugs to you all
In His Love & Care
Becky Jenkins - Mason's Mommy
www.meetmason.com
Becky Jenkins <meetmason@gmail.com>
- Thursday, February 8, 2007 6:50 PM CST

Dear Grammie,
I heard it once said to speak of the deceased often as it will always keep them alive in our hearts. You still have two beautiful grandsons, one with you on earth and the other in heaven. your family is in my heart and prayers. Stay warm!
michele
syracuse, ny - Thursday, February 8, 2007 5:37 PM CST

Thank you for the update Grammie...It was good to hear that everyone is doing "fine" (to be expected). Please tell Melissa that Mimi Jan said hi and give her and Dylan a big hug for me. I miss her so. I hope to catch up with her when I come down to Durham in March, if she is feeling up to it.
Take care of yourself too...lots of love to you and Darren as well.
God bless~
Jan
www.freewebs.com/prayerbears
Jan Chapdelaine aka Mimi to Makayla (in heaven) & Hailey <jannyjo@cox.net>
Virginia Beach, VA USA - Thursday, February 8, 2007 5:15 PM CST

Grammie-
Thanks so much for keeping us all updated. I'm so glad that Dylan is able to find things to enjoy. Take Care.
Heather Thompson <htast@aol.com>
- Thursday, February 8, 2007 5:01 PM CST

Grammie,
Thank you so much for updating the CB site! You are a tremendously wise woman to teach Dylan that it's OK to remember Donovan and it's OK to talk about him! I think about your family often, and pray for peace and comfort for all of you.
Sue Mackey
Mount Prospect, IL - Thursday, February 8, 2007 4:41 PM CST

Dear Grammie,
It was good to read your update on the family, I'm happy to know that you are ok and Dylan. I think it's a marvellous idea to write down memories for Dylan, so they won't be forgotten and when he's older and reads them, perhaps it will come back to him and he will really remember his dear little brother. Hope Melissa and husband are both ok and finding peace now, it must be so hard for them. I love the pictures of Donovan, what an adorable little one.
Take care,
Love Angela
angela <p.sturges@tiscali.fr>
France - Thursday, February 8, 2007 4:25 PM CST

Thanks for updating Grammie!! We are praying for this precious family to make it through this very rough time and find their peace as they learn to continue their journey with HOPE until they see Donovan again. He will NOT be forgotten! I would love to hear as many stories in the future as you all are able to share so that I can 'member' his smile, too. I saved one of his beautiful pictures to an Angel file, and am determined to do something good for the memory of these unforgettable Angels. For now, I just FROG (fully rely on God) and hope for the CURE and look forward to the moment that it is my time to meet these beautiful souls in Heaven--if they'll have me. :) The children are my biggest heroes, but their parents/loved ones rank right up there, too! God Bless you all.
Shaun Rogers <shaunr@bellsouth.net>
Atlanta, Ga - Thursday, February 8, 2007 4:13 PM CST

Thanks, Grammie, for updating. I'm glad Dylan could have some special time with you. His memories of Donovan are so special, I agree with someone who suggested you write them down for him. Hugs to the whole family.
Beth and Kyle (www.caringbridge.org/in/kylefacts) <bdehoff@iquest.net>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Thursday, February 8, 2007 2:56 PM CST

I am not a sports fan but I believe that your little Donnie played a part in the Colts winning! He is quite a little angel. Hope you are all holding up well and are at peace.
Jenny
FRESNO, CA USA - Thursday, February 8, 2007 1:46 PM CST

I just want you to know I think of Donovan so often. His precious little face and the smile in his eyes. Melissa, you guys are wonderful parents. You did the best for Donovan and he knows you would go to the end of the world for him. I hope you are doing o.k. and can figure out how to go on.
Diane
Diane Thompson <DiThompson@cfl.rr.com>
- Thursday, February 8, 2007 12:51 AM CST

I am thinking of you all, glad to hear Dillan is doing as well as expected and having a good visit with his Grammie and Papa. Thanks for the update Grammie and take care of yourselves. Hang in there Melissa, time does heal. Bye for now. Cheryl
Cheryl Lawrie <cheryllawrie@hotmail.com>
Langley, BC Canada - Thursday, February 8, 2007 12:37 AM CST

Grammie,
Thanks so much for the wondferful update. I am glad Dylan is having a good time and remembering Donnie. It would be special to write down the memories he shares with you so that he will always remember as he gets older. Thank you so much. I will be lifting you all up in prayer. Stay strong. Melissa and Darren, you are in my prayers.
Jennifer HInes <creative_jenny@cox.net>
mesa, az - Thursday, February 8, 2007 12:07 AM CST

Glad to hear everyone is hanging in there...thanks for the update Grammie. I think about your family all day long, and hope that one day I will get down there to meet you.
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
NJ - Thursday, February 8, 2007 11:38 AM CST

Grammie, You all are in my thoughts and prayers. I pray for Dylan to be able to show his feelings and not keep it all bottled inside. You are right it is good to talk about Donny to remember him, he will always be in your memories and heart. God Bless You All. www.caringbridge.org/in/cassandra
Renee' Jones <goinkrazy@insightbb.com>
Richmond, In - Thursday, February 8, 2007 10:51 AM CST

What a wonderful update... It's so hard to put into words, the emotions that run through a person when they lose a child. I just recently lost my nephew - very tragically, and the words you want to say are sometimes just so hard to get out of your mouth. Please know that there are so many people on the "outside" praying, hoping, supporting and loving this family. Our hearts broke like yours when Baby D passed on, but the peace you will eventually find, knowing that he is free of pain, free of everything, and now perfect - will far outweigh the grief that has consumed you now. You WILL get through this. Time heals, and Donny will be there holding your hand, wanting so much for his mommy, daddy and big brother to find the inner peace that will help you move forward. BELIEVE me, it does take time... Any family who has seen tragedy such as yours will struggle to find the good within the day, but it is there. Hang on to eachother. Hang on to those who love you and support you. You can't do this alone... With eight deaths in my family in a six month period - I too have seen tragedy. It is overwhelming at times, but God gave all of us strength beyond our own knowledge - and you will see that as the days go by. I speak only from my heart and own experiences. Pain, grief, agony, hurt, frustration, call it what you may - but you will conquer this - and one day be able to celebrate the times you had with that very special little boy without the tears of sadness from him being gone in this "earthly" life. He's still here as it must be that little guy with me right now, helping me write these words to you. I'm not sure where they are coming from - because it isn't like me to express myself to people I don't know... Wishing you comfort, peace, and days filled with happy thoughts of your precious Baby D.

From the arctic zone of Minnesota - with a temp of -17 degrees (oh how I wish I was in NC) - hugs to you all...
Cathy Malecha <cathymalecha@yahoo.com>
Northfield, MN - Thursday, February 8, 2007 10:48 AM CST

Grammie, Please let Melissa & Darren know how much we all are thinking about them! It must be so hard... I think about ^Donovan^ everyday and visit this site (everyday)...That's what it's all about...Remembering Baby D!!! Love to you all...
Cindy
MA - Thursday, February 8, 2007 10:31 AM CST

Thanks so much for this update. It pains me so to read because it shows how much this whole family is grieving. I'm glad the positive support is continuing and hope Melissa and Darren are able to log in and see it soon. I commend especially the other parents who have lost their children to cancer for providing their support and insight. I hope it is as helpful to this family as it is for those of us trying to understand and support families who have lost their precious ones. My thoughts and prayers are with you all, Bobbi (mom to Avi, osteosarcoma survivor, Georgetown Hospital
Bobbi Spector <rjspector@rcn.com>
- Thursday, February 8, 2007 9:53 AM CST

Grammie thanks for the update! It's great to hear that Dylan & the rest of you are remembering all the great time you guys had with Donny...I say keep on talking about him, heck shout if you have to!! Have a safe trip to NC and remember the etire family is still in our prayers.

Kristy Caulder <g8torchicky@yahoo.com>
Cantonment, Fl USA - Thursday, February 8, 2007 9:11 AM CST

Hey Grammie...thanks for updating! I continue to pray for you all during this time! You are an amazing family of strength! Give Dilly a hug and sloppy kiss from me! And of course...send Melissa and Darren my love!
Denise (Kyle's mom) www.caringbridge.org/co/kylel <dmlindgren@msn.com>
- Thursday, February 8, 2007 9:06 AM CST

What a wonderful family you all are a part of! We will continue to hold a special place in our hearts for Donovan - the warrior we never had the honor of meeting.
We think of you often.
Deb - Riley Mom <dtaylor@brickyard.com>
Indpls, IN - Thursday, February 8, 2007 8:36 AM CST

Grammie.

Thank you so much for taking the time to keep Donny's caringbridge family up to date on Dylan, Melissa and Darren. You are all truly blessed with a great spirit. May God always keep you in His grace.

Melissa,
Hope each new sunrise brings comfort and peace. May you feel God's arms around you as you struggle with your grief and that you will soon feel his renewing grace. God bless you all and know that you are always prayed for here in S. Easton MA.

God bless,

Karen <km.short@comcast.net>
South Easton, MA USA - Thursday, February 8, 2007 8:15 AM CST

I can only speak from sad experience, but it is so right for you to talk to Dylan and remember things about Donovan with him. Kids grieve very differently from adults, but the important thing is to not let it fester, but bring those memories out to be sad, but to be joyful as well.

And it is hard, so hard in these early weeks . . . thinking and praying for the whole family.

Karen, Clare's mom www.caringbridge.org/md/clareschmidt
Cabin John, MD - Thursday, February 8, 2007 8:09 AM CST

Grammie: Thank you so much for the update! Thank you for keeping all of the "cyber family" up to date on how you all are doing!

Melissa: I am praying for you and praying that you all feel God's loving arms engulfing you today. When you are ready please know that we are here for you whatever you need! If you ever need to talk.....

Just know we love and support you!

Beth
Beth <softballmom023@yahoo.com>
- Thursday, February 8, 2007 7:03 AM CST

You are so right about how important it is to talk about Donovan. Even 9 years after my son's death, I still love to hear his name and to know people remember him -- not daily or hourly as I do, probably, but still he lives in their thoughts and memories. And so will Donovan.

Have a safe trip back to Durham. It is not exactly warm down South, but compared to Chicago it is the tropics!

Anne <ateddlie@aol.com>
Decatur, Ga - Thursday, February 8, 2007 6:26 AM CST

Know that I'm here praying and care about your family so very much!
Ps 38:15, 21-22 For in thee, O LORD, do I hope: thou wilt hear, O Lord my God...Forsake me not, O LORD: O my God, be not far from me. Make haste to help me, O Lord my salvation.
The Prayer Bears Website
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Wednesday, February 7, 2007 11:53 PM CST

Hello Rasmussen Family! (And the Bailey's too! ;o) )

Thanks to Grammie for the wonderful updates, and for Jenny's help with the guestbook. I can only imagine how difficult it has been for Donovan's family to see those posts, as I found myself not wanting to read them either. But today is a new day, and here I am! :o)

We are freezing cold here in Iowa too - and received 3 inches of snow on Sunday night and Monday morning. It wouldn't be so bad if it weren't so cold. But - it's winter, and it's Iowa, so it's to be expected. I am envious of the warm Carolina climate - send us a few extra rays when you make it there, Grammie :o) !

I still come to Donovan's site everyday, and still watch in amazement of all his pictures. He is a part of our everyday conversation, as we all remember things and ways that Donovan touched our lives. He still helps me remember the important things in life - like LOVE and LAUGHING... and also to let the little stuff go, like letting the dishes go a night so that I can spend time a little more time with my family. He is my CHAMP and my HERO - and always will be.

Melissa - American Idol has started if you are looking for a new show. Anjali & I watch it together and like to do our own auditions during commercial breaks! LOL! It's the closest to Hollywood I'm afraid this duo will ever be! :o)

Please know that your whole family - including grandma's and grandpa's, aunties and uncles and cousins, are all in my thoughts and prayers.

Thought I would leave with a little picture I have in my photobucket account that I made for Donovan when I first was assigned to be his 'angel' through Cancer Warriors. Never did I think our titles would be turned, and he would become an angel to me. God bless you Little Mr. Donovan - I love you always little CHAMP! ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) coming from all of us in Burlington!

Lots of love, 'Angel' Nickey
- Wednesday, February 7, 2007 9:25 PM CST

To all you wonderful ones, that means You too Grammie...

Please do talk about Donny and listen to the music, take time to remember every second of his being. He is still there with you and will always be there. When you quit talking it makes it harder. I lost my brother when I was younger and my whole family quit talking for fear of feeling the pain. Trust me it feels so much better to remember than to try and forget. I hope that makes sense.
Hold close to one another and cheerish everything there is.
Especially memories...
Karen
Karen Olsen <jkckolsen@verizon.net>
- Wednesday, February 7, 2007 9:09 PM CST

Thanks Grammie for the update. I have been thinking of you with the big chill in Chicago. We hope you and Dylan have safe travels tomorrow. Look forward to seeing you when you come back here. Our prayers continue to be with Melissa and Darren. We will NEVER forget Donovan. He is always on our minds and in our hearts.
Jan
Cary, NC USA - Wednesday, February 7, 2007 9:02 PM CST

Aww Thanks Grammie for the update. Praying you all will have a safe journey back to N C. It's great Dylan is having some very special time with all while talking and remembering his baby brother. How very confusing it must be for him ,but being the loving family that you all are he seems to feel secure in how you handle his questions and his talking about Baby D. Continuing to pray for peace, comfort and strenth for you all. We will all be here if and when Melissa is ready, untill then let her know she , Darren, Dylan, and extended family are in our daily thoughts. Baby D..Missing you and your Mommys updates, but keeping you close in our hearts.
Karen <indianagal_2004@hotmail.com>
- Wednesday, February 7, 2007 8:55 PM CST

Thanks for the update Grammie. I am sure Dylan is having a great time with both of you. Also enjoying the snow. I hope that Darren and Melissa are ok and are getting a little rest. God Bless your family. It is good to talk about Donovan and to remember all the good times.
Donna <drobinson1027@aol.com>
Williamtson, SC Usa - Wednesday, February 7, 2007 8:54 PM CST

Thank you so much for the update, Grammie. No one will EVER forget dear Donny, or any of you, for that matter. Dylan is a very lucky little boy to have you, and Melissa and Darren - he will grow into a fine young man, always with his little brother in his heart. We are here for you, Melissa, whenever you are ready, however long it takes, we understand.
Grammie, have a safe trip to North Carolina tomorrow.
My thoughts and prayers are with each of you tonight, and always.
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Wednesday, February 7, 2007 8:31 PM CST

Grammie,

Thanks for the update. I always enjoy reading your entries. I am a long term survivor of ALL. I have been blessed with three wonderful children. All of the physical pain that I endured during my 6 years of chemotherapy does not even began to compare to the emotional pain you all are going through. There is nothing worse, for any family, than to watch your child suffer and know that making them better is out of your control. Of course you can provide support and lots of love but you can not make the illness disappear which is such a helpless feeling. My heart continues to break for Melissa and everyone that loved precious Donny. I pray that God will wrap His loving arms around you and provide comfort and strength during this difficult time.
Lisa Jenkinson <lisajenkinson@yahoo.com>
Lorton, VA - Wednesday, February 7, 2007 7:49 PM CST

Thanks for the update, Grammie. I am so glad you
are keeping us all a part of your lives for now! Melissa & Darren- Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, as well as, the rest of your family!
Lots of love, hugs, and prayers,
Kara
Kara Meyer www.caringbridge.org/in/karadimmich <karameyer@verizon.net>
West Lafayette, IN - Wednesday, February 7, 2007 7:45 PM CST

Thanks Grammie for the update. I am sure this is a tough, tough, time for all of you. I pray for all of you every day. You are always in our thoughts!
Peace!
Robbin and Kelly
www.caringbridge.org/in/kellbell
Robbin Lyons <thomtalent@aol.com>
- Wednesday, February 7, 2007 6:52 PM CST

Thinking of you today!
Julie www.caringbridge.org/visit/hayden
Hanover, Pa - Wednesday, February 7, 2007 4:56 PM CST

Dear Melissa, Darren, and Dylan,
I wanted to be at Donovan's celebration, however, a dear friend of forty years passed away on Wednesday, January 24th. Her service was at 11 am on Sat. the 27th. Jean fought a five year battle with breast cancer. She was very brave like Donovan. Just want you folks to know how much we think of you and pray for you. Losing Joseph was the most painful experience of my life, so I think I know what you are feeling. It has been a little over a year and it still hurts. Somehow it helps to know that Joseph has some wonderful friends in Heaven with him. You are all close to my heart.
Love you,
Nina Brown <Bobbymarie303@aol.com>
Concord, NC US - Wednesday, February 7, 2007 4:14 PM CST

Thanks for the update Grammie! I am glad they are doing well. Give them a hug from me, especially my sweet buddy Dylan!

http://www.caringbridge.org/ny/michelelynn/

Michele wanted me to post this picture, she always asks to see it and she asks about Dylan all the time! (I am sure she is not his only "girlfriend lol)

Becka and Family <music-mom@nc.rr.com>
Morrisville, NC usa - Wednesday, February 7, 2007 2:56 PM CST

Grammie,
Thanks so much for the update. I have been wondering how things were going. Watched the Superbowl Sunday and kept my eyes peeled for the Donovan sign. Go COLTS!
Ginny Streeter <gstreeter@hookercreek.net>
Bend, OR - Wednesday, February 7, 2007 2:00 PM CST

Hey you guys! Just wanted you to know that you continue to be in our thoughts and prayers. I am sad to say I was not able to watch the game :( I have been sick all week... but was so happy to hear that the COLTS won!!! Yeah!!!! Just wanted you to know that we love you and we are only a phone call away. Praying for great grace, peace and supernatural strength for your entire family. May God comfort you and heal your hearts the way only HE can. We love you and we are sending you all our love and many prayers your way,
Stacey & Scott Krause (mom & dad to Kaylee in Heaven)
- Wednesday, February 7, 2007 1:45 PM CST

Melissa and family...

Glad to hear your team won! I don't know much about football so I can't say much else. I'm glad that grammie was able to post to let us know you are doing ok.. As always you are in my thoughts.

www.caringbridge.org/visit/navadaharleighzlotnicki
Lori Zlotnicki(^angel Navada's^) mom <blueyetigger@verizon.net>
- Wednesday, February 7, 2007 12:57 AM CST

Melissa, Darren, and Dylan the dill pickle,
I watched the Colts win the Super Bowl - first time i've watched the game in 20 years ! It was great ! I just imagined little Donovan, our very own MVP, giving the plays and helping the players carry them through. It was Donovan Day, for sure !
Carol
- Wednesday, February 7, 2007 12:30 AM CST

I am so glad that Tabitha made it home!! Melissa I hope to see a picture of you guys with your poster before you shut down the site if that is what you choose to do. Just know that no matter what. I will be thinking and praying for you EVERYDAY!!! ALWAYS!! You are an AMZAING MOM and I will be praying for both you and darren. And of course your sweet sweet Dylan. Thank you so much for sharing your journey. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Godspeed
Jennifer HInes <creative_jenny@cox.net>
mesa, az - Wednesday, February 7, 2007 11:04 AM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan, Grammie, and other family members.
You continue to be in our thoughts and prayers. Thank you so much for sharing your journey with all of us. I hope that all of you will drawn closer together and be a support team for each other. You are an amazing family and I hope that you find peace and comfort in God at this time in your life. I know that Baby D. will always be with you and no one can take that away from any of you. Much love to all of you.
Danna Lawrence <danna@teamtransportation.com>
Summerville, SC Berkekley - Wednesday, February 7, 2007 10:32 AM CST

Just wanted to say that all Donovan's family and friends are in my daily thoughts and prayers. He sure did touch a lot of people. He was one special little boy, that's for sure.
April <hollandtrio@windstream.net>
- Wednesday, February 7, 2007 10:07 AM CST

Darren, Melissa and Dylan~

I wanted to share this poem with you as you continue to love, miss and
remember your precious son, and brother in the weeks to come, which includes
Valentine's Day. Thank you Grammie for the update, and Jenny for keeping it
positive. May God continue to bless all of you!

Valentines...... To Heaven

This Valentine is not of the ordinary kind,
Its still filled with love...and blessings inside;
But mine has to be sent on the wings of love...
You see its destination is the Heavens above.

Its not being sent to my parents so dear,
For they are still with me each day of the year;
Its being sent to my child...who left earth so soon,
Who's now in the Heavens with the stars and the moon.

The message is the same as your valentine,
"I love you...my sweet precious child of mine;
My love is still deeper than the ocean is blue,
And its sent with hugs and kisses...from me to you."

"I know you are with me each and every day,
You listen as I talk to you...and hear what I say;
For that is one thing that disease cannot do...
...you'll always be apart of me...and me a part of you."

"I know God did not give you the awful disease,
Thank Him for His comfort He gives me...would you please?
I dont know what I would do without His undying love...
Sent to bereaved parents from the Heavens above."

"I know you are in the best of care,
But it's so hard for us left on earth to bear;
Could you put in a request from us left behind...
For God to send the knowledge..so a cure we can find."

"So that no other family has to go through this pain,
Our lives without you will never be the same;
When I get lonely I will look to the sky at night...
And see you shining down your big bright light."

"Happy Valentines day sunshine...I miss you so much,
I know you know how many lives you have touched;
You'll always be mine...I love you with all my heart,
I know we be together again...and then we'll never part."

So you see the meaning is still the same...
The method of delivery is the only change;
Mine must be sent by a little white dove...
On the wings of Love.

Author~ Laura/Heavenly Lights Childrens Memorial

Love and Prayers~
Claire Roy and family
(angel Laken's family)

www.caringbridge.com/visit/lakenroy

Claire Roy <caffemocha29@aol.com>
KERNERSVILLE, NC US - Wednesday, February 7, 2007 9:33 AM CST

Thanks for the update Grammie....so glad that the family are doing good....they are always in my thoughts and prayers...

God bless
Ozzie <ovieira@hartz.com>
Harrison, NJ - Wednesday, February 7, 2007 8:42 AM CST

Just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you all, and praying for you.

Melissa, thank you so much for sharing your difficult journey with us. I still check Donovan's site daily, just to look at his beautiful pictures.

You and your family are constantly in my prayers.
Leah
MSP, MN - Wednesday, February 7, 2007 8:18 AM CST

Grammie, it was so good to hear from you both in the guestbook and on the journal. Many prayers are lifted for you and your husband as you continue to lend support to your children and to Dylan. Prayers also are lifted for the other family members, friends, and caregivers who so strongly feel the loss of Donovan. Melissa, Darren and Dylan my prayer is simply that you feel arms of love and support holding you up and surrounding you every moment.
Kristi Gerdon <kgerdon@widrick.com>
Croghan, NY - Wednesday, February 7, 2007 8:16 AM CST

Jenny - Thank you so much for doing this for the family! This is a supportive place for Melissa to come. Now she can come and read all positive things!

Thinking of the family and Baby D....waiting for an update. Hoping the family is doing ok.
mary <mary6418@comcast.net>
- Wednesday, February 7, 2007 7:33 AM CST

Thanks for the update Grammie. I hope the family is doing well and that they are finding peace and comfort in their lives.
Also, thank you to the lady that cleaned up this website. The Rasmussen family already has enough to deal with in the loss of their precious little boy.
God Bless you Melissa, Darren, Dylan and all the grandparents.
Shannon Cooke <imatrueredhead36@yahoo.com>
Vanceboro, NC - Wednesday, February 7, 2007 6:49 AM CST

Thanks Grammie for the update. I always look forward to reading you're entries. It's no wonder where Melissa learned to be a good mommy. Give Dylan a big hug and kiss and hold him real tight from all of us. Your family remains in my thoughts and prayers each day and I pray that you're able to find peace and strength. Thinking of you too little Donovan. Fly high little angel!
Karen Small <karensmall@charter.net>
Saint Charles, MO USA - Wednesday, February 7, 2007 6:31 AM CST

I'm keeping your entire family in my prayers. I can't think of anything to say that would help ease the pain you are feeling but hopefully time will ease a little of the pain. You are loved and we are praying for all of you.
Bobbi Piper <bobbihome@hotmail.com>
Speedway, IN - Wednesday, February 7, 2007 5:15 AM CST

Melissa, Darren & Dylan: Praying for peace and healing for each of you today and praying you feel God's arms (and all of your many supporters arms!) around you today.

Grammie: Thank you so much for the update! It means so much! I know this has been a difficult journey for you too!

To All of Melissa & Darren's Families: I pray for peace and healing for you too. I do not know your names but God knows who I mean when I lift your family up before Him. I pray for strength for all of you!

Please know that we love & support you!

Beth
Beth <softballmom023@yahoo.com>
- Wednesday, February 7, 2007 3:42 AM CST

You should do what feels right for YOU. Everyone grieves in their own way. Critics only do so out of their own frustration of not knowing how to deal with their own feelings. Please do what feels right for you, not what someone else thinks is the right thing to do. Only YOU will be there with yourself forever. I am so sorry for your loss.
mary CA
- Tuesday, February 6, 2007 11:13 PM CST

Melissa, Darren, and Dylan,

I happened across your caringbridge site and would fequently check it. Being the mother of two young boys, I can not begin to imagine the pain and suffering you guys are going through. I will say that my heart was broken when I saw that Donovan earned his angel wings, but I also know that he is better off where there is no pain or suffering. It was a joy to read your journal entries as you always tried to look at the bright side of things. From what i have read Donovan was blessed with a great mommy daddy and big brother. May God give you the strength to realize that you showed Donovan a tremendous amount of love. I wish you nothing but the best and I hope that as time goes on your days will become easier. I know that Donovan is there with you all the time in spirit. Again, I can not imagine the pain and grief you are feeling and I am so sorry for your loss. Both of your boys are beautiful. Dylan will always have his baby brother looking out for him. Good luck to you and your family, I know this has been a tough two years. Even though I do not know you guys please know that you are always in my thoughts and prayers. You are a wonderful family and Donovan was blessed to be a part of it.
Alicia <sills2220@aol.com>
howell, nj usa - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 10:33 PM CST

Keeping you all close at heart and close in our prayers!

Blessings....

Lori <lascott32@aol.com>
AVon, in - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 9:43 PM CST

May God Bless you. We are praying for you. Such a handsome child....
Richard, April & Austin Purser <purserperformance@carolina.rr.com>
Monroe, NC USA - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 9:24 PM CST

Prayers from CA!
Grammie, Thanks for the update!
Jenny, bless you for your work :)
Cali Ali's Mom
Marey ALL-KIDS <kteachermom@hotmail.com>
- Tuesday, February 6, 2007 9:23 PM CST

Hugs and oodles of prayers to all!

Love
Mike and Mary Slade and families <mar-e@rogers.com>
Guelph, Ontario, Canada - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 9:17 PM CST

I am so thankful the guestbook has been cleaned up! Yikes! Who are we to inflict more pain on this family when they have already experienced the most painful event in life one could ever imagine. Thank you, the family really needs love and support, and thats exactly what should be in this guestbook, and only that.

Whatever it takes to nuture and protect this precious family.........that is what we all should be doing.........

~Jennifer~ <jenifer66@aol.com >
Bremerton, Wa - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 9:00 PM CST

To Jenny, you go girl! They don't need to waste their time being bothered by others who can't find anything better to do than to put a family down that has been through hell. I hope and pray that Melissa will return to updating Donovan's site. We have followed him for so long that they seem like family to us, even though we never got to meet Darren too.
Melissa, we are thinking of you guys in prayer. Missing Baby D . . .
Cammy Parsons -- mother to Laken www.caringbridge.org/visit/lakenparsons <parsons@fullnet.com or caringbridge.org/visit/lakenparsons>
Huntingburg, IN USA - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 8:57 PM CST

Yeah Jenny!!!!! Great job so far! If you need anyone to wait in the wings and keep an eye out (if you find you won't be around a computer) I would BE HONORED to help!!!

Ahhhh.....I will sleep so much better tonight!

All our love and hugs to the Rassmussen family and to Angel Baby D!!
Andrea, Troy, Jack and Sam
Andrea Schultz <ams031804@yahoo.com>
- Tuesday, February 6, 2007 8:48 PM CST

I have been asked to delete messages that are not supportive and encouraging and that detract from the purpose of a CARINGbridge guestbook. I am doing just that. Melissa's mom wrote that she and her family are doing as well as can be expected. "Family" includes Darren and Dylan. Please if you have questions or comments that are not supportive in nature, keep them to yourself. Otherwise they will be deleted so when Melissa is able to get back online she will find a guestbook that is encouraging, not degrading or condemning.
Jenny <jennydep@hotmail.com>
Indianapolis, IN - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 8:34 PM CST

Yea GO COLTS!!!! Thanks for updating Grammie and I hope that everyone is finding the strength to cope with their changes in the past couple of weeks. Stay strong Rasmussen family we are all still praying.
Marci <marci81@comcast.net>
Orlando , IN - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 8:17 PM CST

Grammie - Thank you for the update! Missing those upbeat updates from Melissa. All of you are in my prayers
mary <mary6418@comcast.net>
- Tuesday, February 6, 2007 7:12 PM CST

Melissa, Darren & Dylan, I am praying for peace and healing for your family.
Mendi <mendip@comcast.net>
Mufreesboro, TN - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 6:45 PM CST

Thanks for the update. Hoping all is well!
Love, Kara
Kara Meyer www.caringbridge.org/in/karadimmich <karameyer@verizon.net>
West Lafayette, IN - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 6:33 PM CST

A family has just been torn apart by the loss of their precious Donovan, and all I can see in this guestbook is one big battlefield about the Super Bowl. Those of you who think defending Melissa's attendance at the Super Bowl are not doing her any favors. She doesn't have to defend what she did. She and her family have endured a hell on earth that nobody should ever experience. Don't make it worse by using this guestbook as a forum for opinions. It was started as a support system. I think Melissa should close this site down so that she can go on with her life and all of you can find something else to do with your time.
Elinor Schwartz <eschwar1@tampabay.rr.com>
Lithia, FL - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 6:24 PM CST

Oh Thank you, Grammie. Thanks so much for updating us all. You are a truly wonderful person and we love hearing from you.

The entire family of Grammie, Papa, Melissa, Dylan, Darren, etc are all in our thoughts and prayers. I love all of the pictures that have been posted and thanks for sharing this difficult journey with all of us.

Thanks, and God Bless, Kris
Kris W
MN - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 5:55 PM CST

Melissa,

You are a true inspiration! You are one of the most amazing moms on this planet, and I pray that you are able to get through all of this as peacefully as possible. Grammie- you are a special soul, and your family is so lucky to have you!!! Thank you for letting us share in your journey. I sure do love seeing the precious pictures of your sweet family......:)
Flora Londre' <londre4@comcast.net>
San Ramon, CA 94582 - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 5:49 PM CST

God Bless you Grammie! Thank you for updating us and for cleaning up the guestbook!!!! Please tell Melissa, Darren and Dylan that their support system is not broken and we are here waiting to listen, lend an ear, a piece of advice, a prayer, a shoulder to cry on and a hug (well virtually, anyway!) whenever she is ready! Let her know that her sweet teddy bear is thought of every minute of every hour of every day by someone in this world!!! We'll be here when she's ready!!!
All our love,
Andrea, Troy, Jack and Sam
Andrea Schultz <ams031804@yahoo.com>
- Tuesday, February 6, 2007 5:41 PM CST

Grammie, thanks so much for the update. You all continue to be in my thoughts and prayers as you embark on your lives without your precious Baby Donovan. May God bless you all and give you strength as you move forward, one minute, one hour, one day at a time.
Amy Martin <paak9744@comcast.net>
Gunree, IL USA - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 5:36 PM CST

To the Rasmussen Family --

This is a prayer that was found on Fr. Mychal Judge, the New York fire chaplain who was killed in the Sept. 11th attacks:

"Lord, take me where you want me to go.
Let me meet who you want me to meet.
Tell me what you want me to say.
And keep me out of Your way."

Grief is different for everyone. May you go where you need to go, find the people whom you need to find, and say what your hearts need to say. And may God show you what His way is for you. You all remain in our thoughts and prayers as you get through this very difficult time.
The Shaft Family
Macedonia, OH - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 5:25 PM CST

Thanks, Grammie, for updating. Please pass along our support and love to the family.
Patricia <rrfpaf@hotmail.com>
Garden City, GA - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 5:11 PM CST

Grammie: Thanks so much for the update. I only wish the best for Melissa, Darren & Dylan and hope that all is well with them. I can only imagine how hard it must be on them to start living a new life without Baby D. If at all possible, please try to update now and than and let us know how they are.
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 5:02 PM CST

Thankyou Grammie for the update on your beautiful family. My heart aches for each of them. Please give Melissa, Dylan and Darren a prayer hug for me.
God Bless and remembering your loss also.
Colleen
Colleen Fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
Muskegon, MI usa - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 4:59 PM CST

Dear Grammie, thank you for your update. I'm glad to hear that everybody is doing as well as can be expected. Melissa, Darren and especially Dylan are so lucky to have you. I'm sure Dylan is being showered by hugs, kisses and lots of attention. I love your letters to Baby Donovan. You are an especially loving grandmother. Love from Vermont
Hara Dwyer <bckbskc@aol.com>
Barre, VT United States - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 4:56 PM CST

Thanks Grammie for the update on Melissa,Darren and the family. Thanks also for deleting the awful comments from the heartless folk out there. Those of us who know Melissa and her family, know that we all need to be praying for she, Darren, Dylan and the rest of you to try to heal and have only people with positive attitudes surrounding you. May you gain strength with each passing day and let God guide you in a positive direction. Always here for your family.
Jan
Cary, NC USA - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 4:54 PM CST

I have logged onto Donovan's site everyday for the past few days and always wanting to write something inspirational, and uplifting. I just can not seem to find the words, so it simply needs to be that I continue to pray for you all and think of you all the time. I pray that this weekend was a step of healing for you Melissa, and that Dylan enjoyed his time with Grammie. I pray too for Darren, that he is grieving in ways that only he knows. Everyone grieves differently, and deals with death differently, so please grieve how you feel necessary and know that those who love and pray for you are praying for your hearts, minds and souls to heal and that perhaps just for today a smile is brought to your face because you were all the MOST important people in Donovan's life. Please never forget that, and never forget all those who have come to know Donovan and your family because of you, Melissa, his mommy; because of you Darren, his daddy; and also because of you Dylan, his brother. The lives you have touched are better because of you and the journey you have been through...my eyes are filling with tears thinking of Donovan, his smile and your family's aching hearts. Just know, we are praying...
Kerry Chapman
Grand Island, NE - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 4:53 PM CST

Thanks Grammie for updating. We really want to hear from you guys so that we know that you are doing at least ok. I was glad the colts won also and I think that Donovan had a hand in it. Did Melissa have a good time?
Donna <drobinson1027@aol.com>
Williamston, SC USA - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 4:47 PM CST

It's so nice to get an update on the family of such a precious angel. I know it has to be hard to find any words, but over the last couple of years i feel i have grown to be part of the family...as strange as that may sound. And i will sincerely miss you all. Stay strong, and know that your little warrior is always in your heart.
Cathy Arnold <sheller56@yahoo.com>
Huron Park, Ontario Canada - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 4:43 PM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan and all who love Baby D:
One of my favorite verses: "I can do all things through Christ Who strengthens me." Philippians 4:13. May Christ continue to strengthen you in the upcoming days and weeks. Know that you are all in the thoughts and prayers of many people who care very much about you.
MN mom
- Tuesday, February 6, 2007 4:30 PM CST

Thanks for the update Grammie, Glad to hear your all hanging in there as best you can. Praying hard for you all as you face each diffcult day without Donovan. Postive thoughts coming your way for the entire family. Baby D.Thinking of you daily.:)
Karen <indianagal_2004@yahoo.com>
- Tuesday, February 6, 2007 4:28 PM CST

God Bless You, Grammie.....
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 4:25 PM CST

Melissa, I miss reading journal entries from you. I'm not sure if you've definitely decided to take down Donny's site or just aren't back home yet. I'm concerned about you and you're definitely always in my thoughts and prayers. Your friend, Jen

http://www.caringbridge.org/or/kaitlynp
Jennifer Powers <MommyJenRN@charter.net>
Central Point, OR USA - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 4:25 PM CST

Melissa and family,

You are all on my mind and in my prayers as you journey through this new part of your life. My heart breaks for you all.

Keep up your positive attitude Melissa, it will help!

Thinking of you all........

~~jennifer~~ <jenifer66@aol.com>
Bremerton, Wa - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 4:23 PM CST

Howdy,
It's Grammie.
I have been trying to help Melissa delete some of the bad remarks so she would not have to see them, I might have mistakenly taken got a roll of entries by mistake. I am sorry. Of course we want you to all know we care about each of your entries that are positive and helpful to Melissa's family in regaining their life back to somewhat normal.
Hopefully, I have only take out the ones that were unkind to the family.
Love Grammie <lgstmpr@walla.com>
- Tuesday, February 6, 2007 4:20 PM CST

Ephesians 4:29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen! Proverbs 12:18 Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing! Words. Do you fully understand their power? Can any of us really grasp the mighty force behind the things we say? Do we stop and think before we speak, considering the potency of the words we utter? Melissa still PRAYING for you and your dear family daily!
Bridgette
Bridgette Justus <justruckservice@bellsouth.net>
Dana, NC USA - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 4:08 PM CST

Melissa,
I am so glad the Colts won! Normally, I could care less who wins the Superbowl, but I really wanted them to win for you family and in honor of Baby D. I smiled when I heard the news because I thought of how them winning would brighten your day just a little. I am praying for you and your family. I hope everyone in your family is allowed to grieve in your own way. I know you will live life honoring the memory of your baby. I am sure he would want his mommy to enjoy life. I am so glad you got to go to the Superbowl. I hope it was an encouragement to you. I am praying for you and your family.
Blessings,
Shannon
Shannon Musselman <shannonmusselman@yahoo.com>
- Tuesday, February 6, 2007 3:59 PM CST

Just wanted to drop in and let you know that my thoughts and prayers continue to be with this family. May God's arms be wrapped tightly around you and I pray you feel the warmth of His embrace. May you find some comfort and a sense of peace. I search for more incouraging words and am at a loss... Please know I continue to lift you up in prayer...
Shawn Hanson
- Tuesday, February 6, 2007 3:56 PM CST

Thinking and praying for you and your family! Missing your posts.....but loving seeing Donovan smiling in his Colts attire!

mary <mary6418@comcast.net>
- Tuesday, February 6, 2007 3:53 PM CST

All I can say is who are we to judge? We haven't walked in her shoes. I can't begin to imagine what it must be like to lose a child. Everyone just needs to stop, and if you don't like what is written on this site, then find something else to do with your free time!!
Kimberly
St Paul, MN - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 3:46 PM CST

Dear Baby Donovan-
It's me sweetie, your friend Bailey's Mommy from the unit. I'm thinking of you so much, Baby D, and I wanted to let you and your family know.
I remember first meeting you! Your family would walk you through the halls of 5200 in your stroller. You had the nicest blanket, you were carefully cuddled up and so alert, so adorable. I remember your parents walking with you endlessly.
I remember how Bailey fell in love with you, he sure loved all you babies didn't he? And at the time there were quite a few of you of similar age on the unit. Sadly for us here on Earth many of you are now in Heaven- but how happy Bailey must be for your company- you all must help him miss his sister less, as you did on the unit.
How lucky I am to have known you, how I miss you now, crying for our Earthly needs yet celebrating-- for you are free!!
Thank you for letting me hold you endlessly when I visited North Carolina! What a happy baby you were! And how amazing. The majority of your life was fighting a monster of an illness... yet you would smile! You would laugh! You gave love! Your mom and dad and whole family made sure every little thing was a party... I know about that- I did that for Bailey, too- and have always admired Melissa and Darren for knowing somehow to do the same. Their hard work making it all ok for you and your brother always was so obvious- and still is.
Well, sweetie, I'm thinking of you every single day with a little bit of tears and a little bit of a smile at the same time.
Love you so much!!

Christine

http://www.caringbridge.org/nh/baileyslife/
Christine Robinson <bcubed@localnet.com>
Conway, NH - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 3:33 PM CST

A song that holds a lot of meaning in my life, is the hymn, "It is Well With My Soul." My great-great Grandfather wrote the hymn, and the story behind it always gets me through the reall rough times. I hope it can do the same for you.

When peace, like a river, attendeth my way,
When sorrows like sea billows roll;
Whatever my lot, Thou has taught me to say,
It is well, it is well, with my soul.

Though Satan should buffet, though trials should come,
Let this blessed assurance control,
That Christ has regarded my helpless estate,
And hath shed His own blood for my soul.

My sin, oh, the bliss of this glorious thought!
My sin, not in part but the whole,
Is nailed to the cross, and I bear it no more,
Praise the Lord, praise the Lord, O my soul!

And Lord, haste the day when my faith shall be sight,
The clouds be rolled back as a scroll;
The trump shall resound, and the Lord shall descend,
Even so, it is well with my soul.

Leah
MSP, MN - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 2:52 PM CST

Melissa & Darren - still praying for you. Stay strong. Get all the help you need. I don't know the exact statistic, but it is high for couples who suffer the loss of a child not staying together. Fight this battle, too! It's one that you can win with the Lord's help. And for Dylan's sake, too. In Christ's Love,

Anna Mastro <mastroanna@aol.com>
Pittsburgh, PA - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 2:50 PM CST

Nobody but your family knows what is going on in your life. Only you guys know what is the right thing to do. I back your choices 1,000,000%. I watched the superbowl and thought of your family and Baby D the whole time. No matter how you ended up at the super bowl, no matter who was where, you made the right choices for your family.

I continue, and will continue, to keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. I also pray that NOBODY has to go throught the heartache that your family has gone though, and that noebody has to find out first hand, how they would react.

Love and Prayers,
Tanya H. <mommytanya05@aol.com>
Lancaster, Ohio USA - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 2:42 PM CST

I think of sweet little Donovan all the time. I'm continuing to pray for your entire family as you embark on so many changes without sweet Donovan's physical presence...but I hope you find peace in knowing that he is with you, the most amazing little angel to watch over you all.

He touched my life and has helped to change the kind of person that I am, for the better. I will always be greatful that you opened up your lives to so many...because I know I'm only 1 of MANY who have felt this impact.

God Bless...
Jacquelyn <jacqmills@comcast.net>
Sacramento, CA - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 2:31 PM CST

Melissa, Darren, and Dylan,

Thinking and praying for all of you without ceasing!!!
Jacqueline Trochil <jtrochil@tds.net>
Green Bay, WI US - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 2:22 PM CST

Darren, Melissa and Dylan~

Still thinking of your amazing family, and praying for peace, strength and comfort
to get you through the next few days, weeks and months. Please know that your precious
family has meant so much to so many, and baby Donovan will continue touching lives from
the heavens above. I don't know why God "allows" things like cancer, to happen to
children and families. However I do know that so many people will learn and grow
from Donovan's amazing fight and journey in his short little life. Life on earth
is a BLINK OF THE EYE compared to the eternity in heaven, that each and every one of
us have the opportunity to receive because God sent his son to save us. Your amazing son
(and brother)will be waiting at the gates of heaven for you, and one amazing day
you will be reunited. That is what keeps me going, from our loss. The promise to
one day see my little baby girl again. Stay strong, you are an amazing and inspiring
family, and we love each and every one of you!

Love~ Claire and family
Claire Roy <caffemocha29@aol.com>
Kernersville, NC US - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 2:15 PM CST

My thoughts right this second are of a smiling little teddybear of a boy named Donovan.........he was ill his entire short life, but he knew the love of his family, and his family knew the love that surrounded them.....he knew happiness and was blessed.........on the day that he made his journey to Heaven, this site logged it's one millionth visitor.

We fell in love with you and your family, Donovan.....you opened our hearts, came inside, and you will ALWAYS be within us.
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 2:10 PM CST

The people making cruel comments never said they are Christians. Believe it or not, people of all religions can be amazing, wonderful people.

Continuing to PRAY for you Melissa
Tarek
Minneapolis, MN - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 1:58 PM CST

Melissa,

I was hoping that you changed your mind and I would find an update about your weekend, but I really don't blame you for not wanting to share anymore of your private life with some of these nasty, gruel people. To me, they are not true Christians for judging a total stranger. I'm sorry, but I just couldn't keep my mouth shut! Anyway, I hope that you had a wonderful time and you feel refreshed. I continue to pray for you and your family daily.

Love,
Chari Warner <millymango40@yahoo.com>
Alpharetta, GA USA - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 1:53 PM CST

Melissa & Darren: I wanted to let you know that my earlier post was meant in SUPPORT of you and EVERYTHING you have gone through but I failed miserably to accomplish that because I unintentionally became a part of the problem and not the solution. I apologize because even as I typed I knew that I was caving in to the negative energy by responding but I had sat here day after day and listened to these sad people saying things about a family that means so much to me and I stooped to their level. From the bottom of my heart I apologize! I want to remember Baby D as the AMAZING little Angel that he was and is! I am very proud of you all for the way you guys faced such a difficult journey head on and fought it with a vengence. I will do my best to keep everything I say upbeat & supportive! I only wanted the nay sayers to go away so that you could see ALL OF THE POSITIVE people that love & care about you. I guess I was selfishly hoping that if you didn't have to read anymore negative then you might be able to keep this site going for those of us who want to remain a part of your AMAZING family's lives!
Beth <softballmom023@yahoo.com>
- Tuesday, February 6, 2007 1:47 PM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan, and the rest of your family,

Although no one knows exactly what it feels like to be in your "shoes" I have somewhat of a good idea of the types of emotions you are all going through. I lost my son almost a year ago to neuroblastoma. He was diagnosed at the age of 2, and was 5 when he became an angel. For 3 years, everything in me and my husband's world revolved around our child, Tobin, and his sickness. Nothing that was important to us prior to his illness, was important to us anymore We also have a daughter who is 2 years older than Tobin, and I felt constant guilt that she wasn't getting much needed attention. For those 3 years, I spent countless days and nights at the hospital with Tobin. I watched him get stuck by needles, vomit uncontrollably, shake from the pain, and everything else. Don't get me wrong... I would NEVER take those 3 years back, but I also want you to know I have never experienced something so difficult in my life. My husband and I really grew apart during this time. He had to keep his job for insurance purposes, and he also needed to attend to our older child. I was with Tobin day in and day out, and we would go 3 months at a time without even sharing a bed! Not only that, but he and I dealt with stress and sadness very differently. I was the one who always wanted to talk about things. I journaled, I reached out to family and friends, I even asked for help from complete strangers. My husband bottled up everything inside during this time. He was hurting just as badly as me, but he wouldn't dare talk about it. I know family is supposed to be a support system, but when no focus remains on the marriage because 110% of everyone's energy is on the cancer, it makes leaning on family rather difficult.

When Tobin passed away, I didn't know what to do with myself. I was used to basically "living" at a hospital and now I had this freetime on my hands. My daughter was in school, my husband and I didn't even know each other anymore, nor did we even talk at this point. My sister who I am very close with suggested that we go on a cruise, the week after Tobin passed away. I couldn't even imagine leaving my husband and my daughter, but my sister insisted. I went on a 5-day cruise, and all I can say is it was the best decision I ever made!!! I laughed, I cried, but most importantly, I reflected on what had happened to me and my family, and I found strength that I needed to endure.

Now, almost a year later, my husband and I continue couple's counseling, and I won't say our marriage is perfect, but we are both genuinely trying to make it work. My daughter is doing wonderfully. I remember feeling guilty about leaving on a cruise so soon after Tobin's death, but now I realize that that much needed break helped me to find the peace I needed so I could be a better mother to my living child.

Sorry for this long post, but I want you to know that I KNOW what cancer does to a family. I know what losing a child does, and I know that long after the child goes onto heaven, that there are constant earthly battles that we must fight.

And Melissa, NO ONE can possibly know what it's like to be you. I look at you though, and I can just feel your sadness. We all have this idea in our heads about what the perfect family is. So many times the reality of what we get is disheartening.

I hope you know that as a cancer mom, I absolutely adore you, and the fight you have put up for your family. It is so unbelievably hard to ask for help, but you did it, because you knew who would benefit the help.

I hope you and your family make it through this most difficult time. Please know that me, and so many millions of other people, have so much respect and admiration for all you have gone through as a human being. Life is such a journey Melissa, and you have lived life beautifully.
Elise
Chicago, IL - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 1:40 PM CST

Now, with my apologies to Melissa, I have to chime in. Regardless of my personal feelings on the way Melissa has conducted herself....I have no right to badger her. For the record, I did it once. Yes, many months ago I posted a negative comment in line with the ones that others have since posted. So...now that cat's out of the bag regarding how I personally think about some of the issues raised here. I also have since written to Melissa and apologized for my posting here. I WAS OUT OF LINE. It doesn't matter what I think.....What matters is that a mom is grieving. There is no right or wrong to do that. Many would do it as the family is doing it, many would not. Who the hell cares??? What matters is that we support Melissa....the person she is. Not the choices she has made. It wasn't our call, it isn't our business. I feel I can say this with some authority. I am an authority on beraved parents. I am one....most of you thank God are not. Be greatful for that. All of us need to support the woman Melissa is, not all the choice she made.....it is not our business. I am here for you Melissa, regardless of what I may or may not have done differently. I am sorry for your heartbreak, and no....it doesn't get better. You just learn to live with the unbelievable, unimaginable pain a little differently. Now, can we all just shut the hell up?

Angel Olivia's Mom, Wendy
www.caringbridge.org/mi/oliviasgrace <mom2olivia@gmail.com>
- Tuesday, February 6, 2007 1:34 PM CST

Whoever came on the website and cleaned it up of all of the negativity earlier today, please do it again and then will EVERYONE PLEASE STOP RESPONDING TO THESE MISGUIDED PEOPLE!!!! JUST IGNORE IT!!! YOU ARE PERPETUATING THE SITUATION. If you feel the need to write something in response and to let the Rassmussens know you support them then email them personally. Stop using this website as a forum. PLEASE!!!!
Andrea Schultz <ams031804@yahoo.com>
- Tuesday, February 6, 2007 1:22 PM CST

Thinking of you Donovan. In your memory, let there be peace.....
Love, hugs and prayers
Karen Small <karensmall@charter.net>
Saint Charles, MO USA - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 1:21 PM CST

Dear Melissa,
Please know there are so many of us holding you and your boys in prayer right now. Keep up your strength and Baby Donovan will be remembered by so many. I heard the SuperBowl was the second most watched SuperBowl ever and I know it is because of all of Baby D's Fans who watched! Take Care of Yourself and your wonderful guys. Love Darlene
Darlene and Christopher Melkonian http://www.caringbridge.org/md/chrismelko <melkonid@comcast.net>
Gaithersburg, MD - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 1:18 PM CST

Although I do not know this family, I believe that Melissa has every right to do what she wants. She has to grieve and try to take a step back in the world. NOBODY should judge her. From the postings, Melissa was by Baby Donovan day in and day out. Each and every one of us has a different way of grieving. Keep your opinions to yourself. Thinking and praying of all of Baby Donovans family on a daily basis.
Shauna E
Independence, Mo United States - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 1:02 PM CST

Melissa, Darren and Dylan,

Holding you in prayers constantly!!! Hope you are able to find some peace in your days.

All our love and prayers,
Troy, Andrea, Jack and Sam
Andrea Schultz <ams031804@yahoo.com>
- Tuesday, February 6, 2007 12:59 AM CST

Continuously thinking of you and your family during this difficult time.
Karen
MA USA - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 12:57 AM CST

Melissa, I think and pray for your family daily and hope as time goes by the pain will ease somewhat.
I hope you had a great time at "Super Bowl"
Kelly
Enterprise, Fl - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 12:45 AM CST

Melissa,
Me and all of your caringbridge family continue to love you and support you.

Thank you for having the strength to ask for help when it was needed. I cannot imagine going through what you have been through without the helping of family and friends.

You are constantly being thought of.
Leah
MSP, MN - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 12:21 AM CST

Continuing to think about you and your ^Donovan.^

Melissa, you seem like a wonderful woman. Keep the faith.
Lou Lou
Rochester, NY - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 12:17 AM CST

Continuing to think of you, and pray for your happiness. Melissa, you have a wonderful family and you are a wonderful person.

Please know that not a day goes by that I'm not thinking of you and praying for your peace of heart and mind
Tarek
Minneapolis, MN - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 12:15 AM CST

My thoughts and prayers will always be with you - and with each and every one of us that love that sweet boy Donovan. We will forever carry him and your family in our hearts.
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 12:15 AM CST

Melissa and family,
Please know that I continue to think of you all daily, and I continue to pray for your healing.

To ^Donovan's^ supporters,
It is so easy to respond to the hatred that is being created in this guestbook. It takes a lot of guts (or stupidity) to create fake alias', and then to create more fake alias' to agree with the other fake alias', but I am begging each and every one of you, DO NOT RESPOND. DO KNOW ACKNOWLEDGE!!! I have been following Baby D for quite some time, and even now that he is an angel, I continue to check on him. It saddens me so much that the focus has shifted. I remember in one of Melissa's first journal entries, she asked us all to write in the guestbook so that someday she could share these memories with Donovan. How sad that we have allowed the focus to shift. I love all of Donovan's supporters, and I know that this it is not the supporters fault that there are angry, sad people that must be cruel. But the guestbook should work in a way that if Melissa just wanted to go through it, and delete the negative comments, she wouldn't have to erase about 20 more comments that are positive, but that address the negativity. Instead, she should be able to just delete the negativity, and then be completed uplifted by all the other comments.

Please, for the sake of Melissa, and the memory of Donovan. Be bigger, and turn the other cheek.
Leah
MSP, MN - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 11:54 AM CST

Grammie,Melissa, Darrin, Someone.

You need to get someone to monitor the sight and delete the ugly, nasty comments. This site has been one of the most beautiful things I have read in quite some time. I happened upon it while visiting another site. The love that is expressed for Baby D and his family from other individuals is wonderful and so uplifting. It lets us know that there is some good left in this world. I know from reading that the family did everything they possible could for Baby D in his final time on earth and they will do everything they can for Dillan. Give them time to greive and leave them alone. Melissa, I truly hope that you will keep posting and let us know how everyone is doing.
Debi Gulbrand <debigulb@bellsouth.net>
Jacksonville, Fl USA - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 11:41 AM CST

Precious Melissa and family..know that I pray for your recovery from such a terrible loss. My family has also been in your shoes..we lost our precious boy Mark (age 8)in '04 post transplant.
I know our Father in Heaven has a heavy heart...all the friendly fire seems so inappropriate and disturbing = in reference to an attack on friendly forces by other friendly forces,[1] which may be deliberate (e.g. incorrectly identifying the target as the enemy), or accidental (e.g. missing the enemy and hitting "friendlies"). The term friendly fire is also a classic oxymoron. You can see by it's discription...it's NOT God's intention too see it unfold HERE.
May the Holy Spirit bring you comfort and hold you up. Just keep in mind..how very much you are loved and *admired*.

cathy (Nana to angel Mark) JMML <ccharon@comcast.net >
- Tuesday, February 6, 2007 10:57 AM CST

Darren, Melissa and Dylan~

Continuing to think of all of you, and lift you in prayer. Thank you again
for allowing us to share in this personal journey of your lives. Thank you
for sharing Donovan and your family with us. MOST of us have grown and are
better people because of your amazing journey. Baby Donovan will forever be
loved and missed by so many. We will also forever love your precious family!
If there is ever anything I can do, please let me know. Take care, and God
Bless all of you!

Love~ Claire www.caringbridge.com/visit/lakenroy

Claire Roy <caffemocha29@aol.com>
Kernersville, NC US - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 9:08 AM CST

Melissa, Darren and Dylan ~ Thinking of you all and holding you so close to my heart!

Lots of love...
Alicia - Cammie's Mom <alicia415@comcast.net>
Brownsburg, IN - Tuesday, February 6, 2007 4:52 AM CST

Hi Melissa,
Thinking of you all the time. We watched every second of the game and couldn't be happier to see a team win the Superbowl. I'm so very happy that you were able to be there.
Hang in there Melissa. You are loved.
Love,
Donna (ALL-KIDS) www.caringbridge.org/ny/mollyg
Donna Guarton <dguarton@aol.com>
No. Bellmore, NY USA - Monday, February 5, 2007 10:58 PM CST

Hi, Melissa, Darren and Dylan. Go Colts! We had a party with two families over, and both mentioned to me that they knew you were there and so glad for you and praying. They only know you through me, and yet you were still first in their minds. How many countless people were with you in spirit, cheering the Colts, cheering Donovan, etc. - I'm sure the Colts benefited and I hope you did too. I would really miss your site but understand if you need to let it go; just be warned that I'll be bugging you personally a lot more if you do! Hugs.
Beth and Kyle (www.caringbridge.org/in/kylefacts) <bdehoff@iquest.net>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Monday, February 5, 2007 10:56 PM CST

Melissa, I can understand you wanting to close this Caringbridge site but please, for the sake of all the Caringbridge Donavan lovers, please let us know what you were feeling at the game. I have thought about your whole family so much this weekend and the superbowl took on a whole new meaning. I will never forget Donavan Day and I will never forget your grace at being the mother of Donavan and laying your feelings right out there for all of us to read. You captured my heart every day. God bless you, Darren and Dylan and Grandparents.
lisa <blumtnldy@hotmail.com>
VA - Monday, February 5, 2007 9:07 PM CST

Hey Gang-
Just wanted to let you know that we can't stop thinking of you. You are in our prayers.
Heather Thompson <htast@aol.com>
Wilmington, NC - Monday, February 5, 2007 7:34 PM CST

I am very sorry to read about the loss of your son . May you feel God's presence and comfort at this time .
Wendy Ford
Grand Manan, NB Canada - Monday, February 5, 2007 6:44 PM CST

Way to go. They did it, with all the Angel's help.
Has anyone ever tried to get your family in contact with the Colts organization? I bet Dungy would love this as a motivational tool. Blessings to the whole family
Paula Tincher <pdtinch@verizon.net>
Largo - Indy, FL USA - Monday, February 5, 2007 5:59 PM CST

Dear Melissa and family,
I know it was bitter sweet but I hope you enjoyed the game, you deserved to. Though I never met him I will never forget sweet baby Donovan, he was such a darling.
Live a happy life, take care,
Love Angela
Angela <p.sturges@tiscali.fr>
France - Monday, February 5, 2007 5:08 PM CST

Melissa,

Kim Sprague said it better than I ever could...

Love,
Lisa, mom to Brian & Kevin (www.caringbridge.com/va/kevin) <ltignor@comcast.net>
Montclair, VA - Monday, February 5, 2007 3:29 PM CST

My husband and his family are from Chicago, big Bears fans, but all through the game, all I could think was, Go Colts, win this one for Donovan and his mama! You've been in my thoughts and prayers so often this week. I hope you are finding support and comfort.
LisaW
Morgantown, WV - Monday, February 5, 2007 2:50 PM CST

I hope you were able to stay somewhat dry during the Super Bowl. I am sure you felt Donovan's presence, right there with you. My thoughts and prayers will continue to be with all of you.
Amy Martin (a not at all dissapointed Bears fan) <paak9744@comcast.net>
Gurnee, IL USA - Monday, February 5, 2007 1:20 PM CST

CONGRATULATIONS TO THE COLTS!!! We know that our Baby Donavan was cheering them on to victory!
Lori Pietro
Roswell, GA USA - Monday, February 5, 2007 12:49 AM CST

Melissa,

I watched the Super Bowl on Sunday, when my husband asked me why I was cheering on the Colts my answer was for DONOVAN. He just looked at me strange and kept on watching. At the end of the Super Bowl, his comment was "This Donovan must be a mighty special fellow, I have never seen you so into a Pro Football game" my answer was "You'll never know just how special". Melissa, God knows what we need and at this time in your life THE COLTS are just what you needed. Some cheer in your life, some happy times, a party, a smile and a laugh. Donovan could not be here with you to watch the game, but he was in heaven watching over his MOMMY and he (I will say again) IS VERY PROUD OF YOU!

Peyton played an awesome game, I told you Donovan would be helping him..and he did just that.

I would say DONOVAN DAY was very successful....WAY TO GO COLTS!!!!! GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY
Tara
Pinson, AL USA - Monday, February 5, 2007 12:40 AM CST

I am glad that so many are reaching out to Melissa and her family during this horrible time in their lives. We do not hear much about Darren. I hope he is doing okay and receiving the same love and support. I am sure that this is all terribly hard on him as well, especially with Dylan gone. Please hang in there Darren, and know that many are praying for you as well. I hope that this is not taken "negatively," as I totally support Melissa too and cannot begin to imagine the pain she has been through and still has to face, just concerned.
Stephanie Sadler <ssone@hotmail.com>
- Monday, February 5, 2007 12:35 AM CST

WOW! YAY COLTS!!! I must say that I have NEVER watched any football game before, only the Superbowl halftime shows. I have only even heard of a handful of teams, and had never heard of the Colts until I found Baby D's site. But, last night I paid attention, all because of Donovan. I know Donovan lead them all the way to victory, there is no doubt.
Ginny Deegan <jgdeegan@msn.com>
Mtn. Home AFB, ID USA - Monday, February 5, 2007 12:17 AM CST

Thinking of you and your precious Baby D. What an amazing game last night. We were thinking of you all night last night and hope that the game brought some smiles and joy to you and your family. Take Care. God bless you all.

Emily
Panama City , - Monday, February 5, 2007 12:15 AM CST

I had everyone routing for the Colts after telling the story of your beautiful Donovan.
Renee <rforte0531@sbcglobal.net>
Cheshire, CT - Monday, February 5, 2007 12:07 AM CST

Howdy,
It's Grammie.

Wow!!!! I am so happy you were taking care of the COLTS last night. I am so glad you were helping the COLTS. I am so sure Mommy and Cousin Tabby were thinking of you the whole time. I know there was not a moment while we watched the game that your name was not mentioned many many times. We could just imagine you jumping and down with joy for the first time.
Grammie and Papa and Dylan are in Chicago now. Dylan was so excited to go, he kept waking me up Wednesday evening to see if it was time to go. Finally, Grammie got up and we left. On Friday, Grammie and Papa packed up the apartment in Indianapolis. You remember Jenny Deputy, she and her hubby came to help us move, along with many many people from our church. It was freezing cold. It even snowed from time to time. Dylan was such a good boy. He kept asking Grammie if it was time to go to Chicago. When we finished moving all the stuff in the apartment. We cleaned the apartment really fast and then we were on our way.
We arrived at Auntie Julie's and Uncle Jim's home in the evening. They had dinner for us and we were pretty tired out.
The next day we went to church. All Grammie and Papa's friends from long ago hugged us a lot. Of course, it made Grammie have tears coming down that I just could not make them stop. They all wished they could have met you. I wished they could have too. Maybe with the stories Grammie tells, I will be able to share your wonderful life with them.
Then we went to visit Auntie Yolanda. She had a wonderful lunch for us. Homemade tortillas and lots of good food. We went back to Auntie Julie's and Uncle Jim's home to watch the game. What a wonderful game it was. The Chicago people thought they were going to win with such a great start. Dylan and Grammie was really tired, so we went back to the motel during the concert. Papa watched the end, he was cheering so loud, it woke me up.
I was sure happy for Mommy, you did IT!
Dylan woke this moring wanting to go into the city of Chicago with Papa, but it is -9 here. We were going to the planetarium, but it is too cold to come back out into a very cold car when we were finished. So, we will have to go visit Papa at his office in Chicago where it won't be such a long visit.
Well, Grammie loves you still.
I do miss you so much.
Love Grammie <lgstmpr@walla.com>
Tinley Park, IL - Monday, February 5, 2007 11:57 AM CST

I am not a football fan, but went to my first Superbowl party last night and rooted for the Colts in honor of Donovan. I'm thrilled they won!!!!!!

May this victory bring some comfort to your family,
Lisa Tatem - caringbridge.org/va/tatem
YORKTOWN, VA - Monday, February 5, 2007 11:57 AM CST

As we were watching last night I kept thinking that you all deserved the Colts to win! I'm thinking Baby D helped make it happen :-)

Sending hugs and prayers...
Kristin
Mom to Hayden, Evan, Conner and Kelsey
Lafayette, IN <kristinsmith@insightbb.com>
- Monday, February 5, 2007 11:46 AM CST

Sounds like the Colts had a lot more new fans cheering them on yesterday thanks to Donovan and your family! We thought of you the entire game and were so happy when they won. I wish you and your family well and know that you will always be in our thoughts and prayers.
Dee Wright (Chris Melkonian's Aunt)
Kent, CT - Monday, February 5, 2007 11:46 AM CST

I'm soooo happy that the Colts won for your family,the coach was great with his thanks to God,and we know Donny held that guy in bounds for the touch down!My daughter and granddaughter have been sending their prayers for a while now and the sent me the link so I could read all the comments. God bless you all.
janet <jjdg_7@yahoo.com>
North Conway, NH USA - Monday, February 5, 2007 11:42 AM CST

You can include me in the count - I even had my husband helping me with the ususal "chores" that had to be done, so we could both sit and watch the entire pregame & game......
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Monday, February 5, 2007 11:38 AM CST

Melissa,
THEY DID IT!!! YAY COLTS!!!!
I was at a party last night where there was an 18 month old boy who raised his hands in the "touchdown" symbol and I immediately thought of Donovan! Then when Kelvin Hayden's foot was still in bounds after his interception, I knew Donovan was standing right there on the sidline holding up Kelvin's heel so it wouldn't touch the line! I hope you had a great time, Melissa, and felt Donny with you there the whole game. What a wonderful tribute to him! I understand you not posting any more, but please know that all of your caringbridge "family" will continue to remember and pray for your family. Have a safe trip home, and feel our hugs as you begin the healing process with Darren and Dylan. You are a fantastic mother!
With love from FREEZING Indiana,
Sharon Townsend <sltnails@comcast.net>
Seymour, IN - Monday, February 5, 2007 11:37 AM CST

Yeah, I only watched the game because of Donovan...and I know he was there!!!!!!
Cristina
Mzt, Mexico - Monday, February 5, 2007 11:36 AM CST

I just posted earlier but I liked what Claire (post below) wanted to know. So, I will start: I (and 12 others!) were watching last night because of Baby D! So, there's 13 people to start! I have NEVER watched a Super Bowl game from start to finish (including pre and post game!). I did last night and I TOTALLY enjoyed it! :) I would love to know how many others.......

Beth
Beth <softballmom023@yahoo.com>
- Monday, February 5, 2007 11:28 AM CST

Yeah Colts! I was rooting them on through the whole game...even though my husband had money on da Bears (what was he thinking?!).

Anyhow, I pray that you had fun, and are finding inner peace with all that you are dealing with right now.

Jacquelyn <jacqmills@comcast.net>
Sacramento, CA - Monday, February 5, 2007 11:25 AM CST

Just wanted to let you know that you were on my mind last night as I watched the SuperBowl. Donovan was on my mind, also. I have yet to watch a Super Bowl, or any other sports game, where faith and love were so evident. Coach Dungy is an inspiration just like Donovan and his family. I am very grateful to have shared with you in your story through the Ladybug. :0) I know that Donovan had a hand in that win last night. You know that him and Jesus were having a big party last night after the game. God is awesome. That was an awesome game, blessed by God Himself. I pray that He continues to bless each one of you in His own special way. Always remember that He loves you very much. Have a safe trip back! Philippians 4:13 :0)

Marjorie and Ryan <JCCRADGURL2004@aol.com>
Four Oaks, NC USA - Monday, February 5, 2007 11:24 AM CST

Melissa, I am not a football fan but I was rooting for the COLTS to win for you, your family and especially baby D.
Janet
Perth Amboy, NJ usa - Monday, February 5, 2007 11:17 AM CST

Thinking of your family this morning, as you celebrate the
Colts victory, and the love for Baby Donovan that spreads
across the world. Melissa~ hoping you travel home safely, I
know Dylan and daddy missed you! I would love to know a
total of how many more Colts fans there were watching last night,
because of Baby Donovan and his family. Probably hundreds of
thousands. His story of courage and strength have touched
the hearts and lives of so many across the globe.

I continue to lift you in prayer, asking God to give you the
strength, hope, comfort, and peace you need to pick up the
pieces of your lives, and continue moving forward. Baby Donovan
will never be forgotten. He is loved and adored by so many.

Love, hugs, and lots of prayers~ Claire (angel Laken's mommy)
www.caringbridge.com/visit/lakenroy

Claire Roy <caffemocha29@aol.com>
Kernersville, NC US - Monday, February 5, 2007 10:48 AM CST

WOOHOOO! I bet you had a wonderful time. I was cheering the entire time (Colts have always been my 2nd favorite team!). I too hope you continue to post here!
Christine (Hunter's Hope volunteer~friend of Michelle Gwin) <Luvbills@aol.com>
LeRoy, NY USA - Monday, February 5, 2007 10:12 AM CST

Darren and Dylan, I hope you too were able to get to watch the game too!!! Melissa, I know it must have been a great experience to watch and cheer them to a VICTORY!!! WE were all cheering here in INDY!!! It was a crazy day here in Indiana yesterday.
I hope you all continue to move forward in your healing and I wish you all well, special hugs to Dylan.

COLTS FAN!!!
Lori <lascott32@aol.com>
AVon, in - Monday, February 5, 2007 10:09 AM CST

Hi Melissa... WOW I watched for the first time the Super Bowl, Baby Donovan was with all of us.. I was soooo happy to see them win!!
I hopw that from time to time you let us know... fans .. how you are doing...
Love
Olga <omoreno2@houston.rr.com>
Houston, - Monday, February 5, 2007 9:44 AM CST

Asher, Adam, and I are very happy the Colts (not Cults, as Asher likes to spell it, see earlier posts for reference) won!!!
We had a fun Super Bowl party in Donovan's honor.
I hope you had a blast!!! Please let us know.
Heather
P.S Melissa- I hope all of the encouraging posts you have received over the last few days urges you to change your mind and that you keep your site up. But if this is something you can't do we understand. We will always pray for you and keep your family in our hearts.
Heather Misner (Asher and ^Jacob^'s Mommy) <mitchellham@yahoo.com>
Midwest City, OK - Monday, February 5, 2007 9:40 AM CST

sooooo glad the colts won Congratulations....I know it was all baby Donovan doing....even though I am not a big football fan but I did watch the game for my sweet Angel Donovan...

God bless
Ozzie <ovieira@hartz.com>
Harrison, NJ - Monday, February 5, 2007 9:23 AM CST

Melissa and Family--YAY; they did it! I just knew it would turn out this way..for Baby D and his whole family! Again, YAY!

Kim Danielson <kdanielson@earthlink.net>
MSP, MN - Monday, February 5, 2007 9:21 AM CST

Congrats on the win of your Colts! I remember months agin in your journal you said that you thought they would win the Superbowl, and they did it!

Continuining to think you of you and pray for your family.
Leah
Minneapolis, MN US - Monday, February 5, 2007 9:21 AM CST

Stopping in this morning to say that I was able to watch the Super Bowl and was so excited that the Colts won. We never watch football in our house but we did last night. Both my husband and my son watched parts of the game with me and were chuckling at my talking to the TV cheering the Colts on. It was so special knowing how much this means to your family!
Continuing to pray for each of you that you can heal in your own ways but together also. Thank you again for sharing your life so openly with all of us. I have learned valuable life lessons from reading your journals, and have been honored to "know" your family--a family who fought so hard together and shared their love and precious Warrior with the world.
Kristi Gerdon <kgerdon@widrick.com>
Croghan, NY - Monday, February 5, 2007 9:13 AM CST

YEAH COLTS!! I never watch pro games (of any kind) anymore as I have so little respect for so many of the players (except, of course, PEYTON!) but watched last night and could only say "I'm so happy for Melissa" and "go, go, go" as they went again and again!! Yeah! Thought of Donovan the whole time, praying you were feeling some happiness as you've had enough sadness to last a lifetime. PLEASE update at least once more and tell us how it went and share the excitement you felt with us!!!!
Patricia <rrfpaf@hotmail.com>
Garden City, GA - Monday, February 5, 2007 9:11 AM CST

Melissa, Darren and Dylan,
Go, Baby D, go! He did such a great job helping those Colts win yesterday! I hope you enjoyed the game (despite the rain) in his honor, Melissa! Still praying for your family, and now baby Alexia too.
Julie Helman <julesmh@hotmail.com>
Annandale, VA - Monday, February 5, 2007 8:42 AM CST

WAY TO GO COLTS!!!!!
We miss you Baby D!
Melissa, I hope that you had a great time!
Darren and Dylan, I hope that you guys are doing okay.
I'm keeping you all in prayers. I hope that you can all get through this...together.
Take care!
Jenn Huston
South Bend, IN - Monday, February 5, 2007 8:38 AM CST

I hope that you had a great time..like many others I was thinking about you the entire game. I'm sure D was doing a wonderful touchdown dance the entire game. Prayers for a safe journey home. Go Colts & Go Donny!
Kristy Caulder
Cantonment, Fl USA - Monday, February 5, 2007 8:35 AM CST

I am sure that Donavon would have really enjoyed watching the game with you in person, but I am sure that he was right by your side the whole time. What a great game! Not even the rain could dampen the day. I hope that you had a great time and I hope that you can continue to heal after losing your sweet boy. Thank you for sharing your life with us so that we could all have the pleasure of knowing your precious son.
Jaime
- Monday, February 5, 2007 8:25 AM CST

i think our Baby D helped me to understand the game last night. i've never just sat down and watched a football game, let ALONE the Super Bowl, and last night was no different. i got up screamin' at the TV! haha, i think Baby D helped me to listen and learn more about how the game actually works, and i was so pumped when the Colts won last night! first thing i cheered was "go Donny! go Donny! go Donny!" haha, cuz i knew that lil' angel was pullin' for 'em! :D
take care Melissa, you're doing a great job. call me if you need ANYTHING! <3 you!

~Holly~ <WldCowGirl19@gmail.com>
Greensboro, NC USA - Monday, February 5, 2007 8:23 AM CST

Well Mommy the rain sure didnt damper your game!
Baby D made sure the game and the day were extra
special for many!! Way to go COLTS!! 3 cheers for
a Mom that is moving forward in life, even if its
not the direction she would have chosen!
All the best to you!

Cathy Wachtstetter <Skugalskid@aol.com>
Ft Lauderdale, Fl - Monday, February 5, 2007 8:15 AM CST

I'm not a huge football fan, but was pulling for the Colts yesterday! I will be keeping your family in my prayers!
Emily Edmunds (The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society)
Raleigh, NC - Monday, February 5, 2007 8:10 AM CST

Truly an amazing game; I could sense Donovan's presence throughout. I pray you had a marvelous time and you and your cousin have a safe journey home.
Laura Lynn and my two little miracle nephews: www.caringbridge.org/visit/asherandjacob <laurainsem@yahoo.com>
Hollidaysburg, Pa - Monday, February 5, 2007 8:03 AM CST

Hip Hip Hooray!!!! The Colts-a reason to smile!! Love, Anne
Anne Himes <www.caringbridge.org/page/andrewh arhimes@msn.com>
Boonsboro, md USA - Monday, February 5, 2007 8:03 AM CST

Congrats to all of you Colts fans...I was thinking of your little man during the game!!! The rain reminded me of the tears coming from Heaven for your little boy, but I think they were tears of joy once the Colts won!!!

Prayers to your whole famiily always!!!!

S
MI USA - Monday, February 5, 2007 7:46 AM CST

Congratulations, on a great game for your Colts.

Always, a BEAR fan...
Sherrill
Sherrill Jones <Sherrill@probaglady.com>
"The Mile High City", CO USA - Monday, February 5, 2007 7:43 AM CST

WOHOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!! I KNEW it was going to be a good game when they made a touchdown in the first 14 seconds of the game. We thought about nothing but the Rasmussem family the entire game. I hope you had a great time!!!

http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/zacksheart
Hahn family <MishaaE@aol.com>
Hedgesville, WV - Monday, February 5, 2007 7:35 AM CST

Melissa,
What an amazing thing you have done. You have carried BabyDonovans name so high... We (all of us who had followed this story) were able to see and feel his spirit and did not feel sorry for him...He is in a better place now (even though it hurts) and YOU have found a way to celebrate him and his new life. We do have to admire you!. I know a some people do not agree with the way you have handled things. I think that it takes a lot more courage to keep going and keep your sons spirit alive, than stay in a bed crying. For those of you that worry about Dylan, he has an amazing mom...by now that boy has learned more about sacrifice, patience, strength, compasion and LOVE than most boys at that age. So Melissa: "do it your way" ..God and your precious angel will show you the road.
Always in my prayers,
Ana
A friend of Baby D
Orlando, FL - Monday, February 5, 2007 7:32 AM CST

Melissa,
Baby D and the Colts did it, what a game. You just knew that Baby D was helping them out. I really hope that you had a good time. We were looking for you but couldn't find you. Baby D and his angels were helping them out. I know that you really miss you him dearly, I just hope that the Super Bowl help to ease the pain for a little while. I hope that you update the website with all of the exciting news from the Super Bowl. We will continue to keep you, Darren and Dylan in our prayers. Wiht much love and admiration for a family that has brought so much inspiration into our lives. I hope that you don't take down the website as I look forward to seeing that smiling face every morning.
Danna Lawrence <danna@teamtransportation.com>
Summerville, SC Berkekley - Monday, February 5, 2007 7:31 AM CST

WAY TO GO COLTS AND THAT LITTLE BABY ANGEL!! YOU BOTH ARE THE CHAMPS!! Melissa I hope you had an awesome time!! You deserved that!! GO COLTS go BABY D!!

jennifer Hewitt
Bellevue , NE - Monday, February 5, 2007 7:24 AM CST

While watching the game not really caring who won until I found "Baby Donovan" I quickly became a Colts fan. I could feel Donovan's presents as the Colts huttled up for each play, and was surely the MVP of the 41st Superbowl!!!!

Patty
PA - Monday, February 5, 2007 7:09 AM CST

Melissa: Welllll, THEY DID IT! I live in Indy and the celebrations here were AMAZING! The downtown circle had to be shut down and the police asked the news stations to tell everyone to stay out of downtown because it was too crowded! They were celebrating and dancing in the streets!! We of course celebrated by banging our pots and pans and screaming until we lost our voices outside on our back patio! We normally reserve this for New Year's BUT last night it was obvious we had to CELEBRATE! It was funny because people were screaming in unison with us from other houses and the teenagers were running through the neighborhood! The rumor is that there will be a parade downtown Indy today at 4:00 pm and then a pep rally at the Dome. That should be an AMAZING experience!!

Ok, now onto more important things..... I have NO DOUBT that Baby D and ALL of his little Angel friends were riding on the backs of the Colts! They definately had Angels on the football field! I thought of you and Baby D the ENTIRE game and tried hard to find you in the crowd but it was impossible! Just knowing you were there to experience in this joy and moment in history was enough to make my heart sing! Take it all in and keep it close to your heart!

Beth
Beth <softballmom023@yahoo.com>
- Monday, February 5, 2007 6:58 AM CST

Mellisa
Here comes your Chiefs fans doing cartwheels !!! Ed and I watched the whole game ...I was on the end of my seat cheering forreal ...I will have to say the frist TD the bears made Eds like OH NO !! I told him not to worry that the Colts have a very special angel lighting thier way to victory !!! Whoooooohoooooo !!!
I have to be honest now I have two favorite teams in the NFL !!! Chiefs and Colts ...infact today I am going and getting a Colts TEESHIRT !!! Heck Yes COLTS ROCK !!!!
I hope that you had a blast at the superbowl and were able to feel Donavan there with you ...
Congrats Baby D You Are Da Man !!!
Thinking Of You And Your Angel
Ed, Racquell & Marc
Along With Our Very Special Angel Diane
The Kansas Crew <PPrincess2424@aol.com>
Whooooohooooo The Colts Did It !!!!, Bady D You Did It !!!!!! www.caringbridge.org/visit/donaldstiffler - Monday, February 5, 2007 6:50 AM CST

Woo hoo!! The Colts won!!! I fell asleep before the 3rd quarter ended. I immediately asked my husband this morning and he said the Colts! Donovan definitely had a hand in their winning. I didn't see Melissa's sign either, but, Melissa, I hope you had a fabulous time and were able to relax a little bit. And, I definitely agree, Donovan is the MVP! Hope you have a safe trip home!
Carolein
Long Island, NY USA - Monday, February 5, 2007 6:34 AM CST

As I watched the COLTS beat the Bears I new that Donovan was looking down on them and helping them when the game!!!

Laura
Laura
Clifton, KS - Monday, February 5, 2007 6:34 AM CST

Melissa: all my love from Argentina.

Marina (Alexia's Aunt)
Marina Vidaguren <marinavidaguren@hotmail.com>
- Monday, February 5, 2007 6:32 AM CST

Way to go Colts!! You won it for little Baby D. We knew you would do it!!
Love, hugs and prayers
Karen Small <karensmall@charter.net>
Saint Louis, MO USA - Monday, February 5, 2007 6:31 AM CST

Melissa: Well, they did it! Baby D and the Colts won the Superbowl. Thought of you and your family as I watched the game. Hope that you had a good time with your angel watching over you.
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Monday, February 5, 2007 6:22 AM CST

Wow! If sweet Donovan didn't play a role in that game, then I'm a fool. With the rain, the double fumbles from it going to colts to bears to back to the colts, the team who had such a good spirit and knew and understand that things are in God's hands..I had tears in my eye at the end of the game! GO COLTS!!
Carissa <cwoleslagl@state.pa.us>
Hershey, PA - Monday, February 5, 2007 6:17 AM CST

I knew it. I just knew it. :)

Some things are meant to be.

Stacey
MA - Monday, February 5, 2007 5:58 AM CST

I fell asleep before the end of the Superbowl, but when I awoke, my first question was who won? I was so happy to find out that the Colts made it!!! They won for your baby Donovan. There was a precious angel guiding the Colts last night, and that was your angel son!
Hope you are well, and I know that last night made your faith even stronger than it already is in the first place.
Always Believe.
Love,
Ann
www.caringbridge.org/visit/ascarp
Ann Carpenter <send.2.ac@gmail.com>
- Monday, February 5, 2007 5:57 AM CST

As I sat watching the Super Bowl I thought why is it raining? It was Donovan sending the rain to help hide your tears. When I watched the owner, then Tony Dungee accept the trophy and thank God for all of it, I knew they should thank one little Angel too. With the two fumbles by the Colts that were quickly fumbled by the Bears....I knew that some little angel was making things right for his team.
Melissa, Darrin and Dylan,
Your most precious angel has inspired me in so many ways. You as a family have inspired me.

Baby D,
Fly high little one. Keep Mommy and Daddy and especially Dylan close to you. Protected and safe and always sure that you are watching over them. :)
Sara Towriss
Port Moody, BC Canada - Monday, February 5, 2007 5:45 AM CST

Greetings from Bear Country. I'm here in Chicago, and let me tell you what a sad day it was. I was sitting in downtown Chicago, my home sweet home, with my Bears jersey on, loving how the game opened up, but all I could think about was Donovan. I don't know any of you, but stumbled across your carepage. I've only visited a few times and I don't know what it was, but I couldn't stop thinking about your little angel the entire game. Every play the Colts had I thought to myself "that's Donovan". Nobody knew how I couldn't be devastated. How I could actually smile. I didn't even know the angel and he makes my heart smile. But now that the game is over and I am surrounded by a lot of sad souls, I'm actually happy your team won, because of your precious baby. You really did win this one baby D. Give Big J a high five for all of us down here. With prayers every night-Elizabeth
Go Colts! (and Bears!)
Elizabeth <seamusmcfly7@hotmail.com>
Chicago, IL - Monday, February 5, 2007 2:19 AM CST

Hi i live in Australia and know nothing about superbowl but the first thing i did today when i got home from work was go online and check the superbowl score. I am so happy that the colts won for you and baby donovan. I also hope you had a fantastic time there.
Vicky Farrow <thefarrow_family@bigpond.com>
Gosford, nsw Australia - Monday, February 5, 2007 0:46 AM CST

I knew the Colts were going to win...because of Donovan!!!! Hope you had a wonderful time Melissa, you deserved a great day!

Praying for you guys-
Zhohn Dupont <z_dupont@hotmail.com>
SIMMESPORT, LA USA - Monday, February 5, 2007 0:26 AM CST

Hey Melissa - Hope you had a great time watching the Colts win the Super Bowl for Donny. Steve, Alex and I watched the game which is a first in our house. Steve calls it the "Super Bore" but he was happy to root for the Colts for you guys. Hugs,
Jill and Alex www.caringbridge.com/ca/alexschwab <jillschwab99@hotmail.com>
Manhattan Beach, CA United States - Monday, February 5, 2007 0:22 AM CST

Hey Melissa, I said it 2 weeks ago that your little teddy bear would bring the Colts to the super bowl and he did and ya all won!!!!!!!!! Donovan was shining down on you tonight. I'm so glad that you got too go, ya know you deserved that trip and you sure needed the rest. Hang in there, take care and God bless, Connie
CONNIE <NATIVEROSE1961@YAHOO.COM>
PUYALLUP, WA UNITEDSTATES - Monday, February 5, 2007 0:19 AM CST

Stopping by to let you know that I'm still here and still praying!
Heard that you were at the game with a sign about Donovan...didn't see it but was so thrilled that the Colts won!
Heb.4:14-16: Seeing then that we have a great high priest, that is passed into the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our profession. For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.
The Prayer Bears Website
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA USA - Monday, February 5, 2007 0:15 AM CST

Magical! When I realized the Colts were going to win, I thought of your baby son.

I hope this game gave you a measure of comfort. You are in my prayers.

M Elton <m_elton@aol.com>
Richmond, VA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 11:36 PM CST

Hey Melissa,
I was so excited watching the game, scanning every bit of the crowd for you and a poster of Donny. What a great game, played with such dignity and class. There were so many parallels to your struggle, including a coach that lost his son, and a tight knit group that supported each other through thick and thin, relying on Jesus to bring them victory. It was a reminder that although Donny is not here now, and the pain in your heart must be so indescribable, ...the hope of seeing him again in Heaven, reminds us that through Christ we are victorious in the end.

I pray that while the rain poured, as your tears often do....that you experienced some sunshine in your heart as you were able to attend this very special game.

Much love,
Kim
Andrew's Page <kim.sprague@cox.net>
Ladera Ranch, CA USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 11:24 PM CST

I have never been a football fan but from what I have read about sweet Baby D and his family, I made it a priority to watch the Superbowl earlier. I was nervous when the Bears scored the early points and then prayed the Colts would bring it on for the sake of Donovan and his family. They brought it on!! Looks like baby D was with them after all!! Take care, Donovan's family.
K <wisegal1974@aol.com>
- Sunday, February 4, 2007 11:12 PM CST

Congrats Baby D!!! They did it!!! GO COLTS!!! Melissa, I am continuing to pray for your family through these difficult times!!!
Kirby
Murfreesboro, TN - Sunday, February 4, 2007 11:08 PM CST

Thank you Angel Donovan for filling your mommy's heart with so much love!!! Good night and hope to meet you someday Baby D.....

A long time fan!
Peg Curtiss <margaret.curtiss@usbank.com>
oakdale, mn - Sunday, February 4, 2007 11:03 PM CST

Yeah Colts!!! I couldn't help but think of Baby Donovan throughout the game. Thoughts and prayers continue for your healing and grief.

Nancy
Midland, GA USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:56 PM CST

Colts win! This win's for you ^^Baby D^^!
Jennifer K
Rockford, IL USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:54 PM CST

I've never been so happy for a team that's NOT the Patriots to win a Superbowl!!

YEAH COLTS!!!

Lots of love,
Katie (mom to Hayley, Hunter, and Taylor) <dugan2b@yahoo.com>
Franklin, MA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:51 PM CST

I am so happy for the victorious COLTS win tonight... ^Angel Baby D^ and the Colts ARE a winning combination for sure... Praying for a safe return home and for happiness and peace in your hearts once again...

Jen <djechw@iw.net>
Luverne, MN United States - Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:42 PM CST

It is so fitting that the Colts won tonight! Donovan is my MVP, although Manning is still really good (who can beat that adorable face your baby had). We are sending you all of our prayers, hoping you have the support you need and on call for whatever we can provide you, just let us know.

Sending all our prayers,

Brittany Dahlen and the rest of Monarch <monarch_president@yahoo.com>
Minneapolis, MN - Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:40 PM CST

Mellisa, GO COLTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Great job. Watched the game and knew that Little Angel Donnavon was up there watching over his parents,brother, and the COLTS. Great job Mellisa, your faith in the Colts and your Baby D made one of your wishes come true, take care of yourself and again congrats on your teams win.
Cheryl
Cheryl Lawrie <cheryllawrie@hotmail.com>
Langely, BC Canada - Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:37 PM CST

I felt like Donovan left several "signs" tonight - the child laughing in the pregame show, the persistent rain (it also made me think of the song "Holes in the Floor of Heaven" - I know Steve Wariner wrote it, but I don't think he sang it, I think Collin Raye did), and of course the fact that the Colts were victorious, plus mentioning their unwavering faith in God. I think Donny is letting everyone know that he is in Heaven, that he is OK, that he will always be watching over you, and that it's okay to laugh and have a good time. Melissa, I hope you felt that, or something very close to it, too. You all are in my prayers each and every day.
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:32 PM CST

YEAH COLTS!!!! I was thinking of your beautiful boy the whole entire game! Praying for you all
alyssa family of (www.caringbridge.org/ca/bennettboys) <sabiemc@aol.com>
roseville, ca usa - Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:30 PM CST

WOOHOO GO COLTS! I'm sure there was an angel in heaven who was very happy about the Superbowl tonight!!!

Much love,
Addy
- Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:28 PM CST

I am not a big fan of football, but my daughter is and was so for the colts so i told her about Baby D and that the colts were his favorite team and then she was rooting for them even more, I caught the last quarter and I was so rooting for the Colts. of course Peyton being a Tennessee man made it even better since i am from Tn., anyway i am sooooooo glad that they won. and i thought the man that accepted the trophy first and said they owed it all to God i cut loose with the tears. Made me think of the movie facing the Giants. but i thought of you the whole night.

GOOOOOO COLTSSSS YESSSSSSS AM SO GLAD THAT THEY WON
Theresa <t022470@yahoo.com>
Henderson, TN usa - Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:24 PM CST

Hooray!! The Colts won!! Congratulations, sweet Baby D and family.
Rachel <crazy_ray85@yahoo.com>
San Angelo, TX USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:24 PM CST

I KNEW THE "COLTS" WOULD WIN FOR BABY D!!!!!!!!!! I watched the entire game and was thinking about Donovan the whole time~what a good way to have a memory of such a special little guy~ Hugs to you all from Adi's Grandma Liz
www.caringbridge.org/visit/adi
Liz Penner <lizzip52@yahoo.com>
Simi Valley, CA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:24 PM CST

Well Donovan and Melissa, we knew the Colts would win didn't we. I was sooooooooooo HAPPY to see the end results. The Bears just should have stayed home. Can't wait to hear from you Melissa, about the whole experience. Safe travels back to NC.
Jan
Cary, NC USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:22 PM CST

Hooray for the Colts, Donovan & his whole family...some people think sports fans are kind of foolish, I say if having your team win makes you feel a little better in you day...there's no problem with that.

All the best to your family...
Alison
Montreal, QC - Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:19 PM CST

Colts did it for Donovan, and I know that he was with his mommy in spirit at the game. Way to go Colts. As time goes on I hope that things get easier for you all. I also hope that you keep signing the book.
Donna <drobinson1027@aol.com>
Williamston, SC USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:18 PM CST

YEAAAAA!!!!! I am so happy that they won! I said a few times, Baby D whisper what to do to Peyton and both times were really good plays. My whole family and anybody that I know I told about why I wanted the Colts to win and so we were all rooting for the COLTS! I hope that you enjoyed your time there in spite of the rain and that you start seeing signs from baby D in your every day life. Watch for them and I hope that we hear from you again! God Bless You!
Cyndi Claus <lclausgirl1@charter.net>
Sparks, Nv 89432 - Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:15 PM CST

Colts won!!!!! Yaaaay!
Julie <Swimjulie9@aol.com>
MN - Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:14 PM CST

Hi Melissa:
I normally don't watch the Superbowl but I did this year. I could not help but think about the fact that you and Coach Dungy have both lost sons and you were both able to celebrate because of the victory. Thank goodness you both have your faith, family and friends to get you through this wonderful and difficult journey of life.
Love, Ann
Ann Campbell <TheCampbells596@verizon.net>
Moseley, VA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:10 PM CST

YEAH BABY D!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WE LOVE AND MISS YOU!!!!
Andrea <ams031804@yahoo.com>
- Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:07 PM CST

HOORAY!! The COLTS WON the SUPER BOWL!
Boy, ya'll were on SO many minds tonight!
I can just imagine the BIG smile on your face! I had crocodile tears of JOY for you!! I'm so happy you got to be there!
Continuing to pray for God's comfort....
Christie
Jonesboro, AR - Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:05 PM CST

Yeah Colts - I think they had a little extra help from above today:)

Carrie Stroud <dstroud2@ec.rr.com>
Morehead City, NC United States - Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:04 PM CST

CONGRATULATIONS BABY D !!!!!! YOU made this happen! Hang in there Melissa and Darren........ we are praying for you!
Traci Froelich <britcandance@hotmail.com>
Bolivar, MO - Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:01 PM CST

Although I was cheering for the Bears, there was a part of me that was cheering for the Colts. I couldn't help but thinking about you, Melissa, at the game and Baby D rooting from heaven! Congrats Colts!

Shannon Mashinchi
www.caringbridge.org/or/javad <smashintwo66@yahoo.com>
Happy valley, OR USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:59 PM CST

...I was a little worried when the Bears returned the kick off for a touchdown...but after that it was COLTS all the way...with Baby D coaching from above! I am so happy you were able to go to the game Melissa ans share the joy of today's win.

All my love to you coming from CA,
XXOO, Marey, Ali's mom
Marey ALL-KIDS <kteachermom@hotmail.com>
- Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:53 PM CST

Melissa and Family,

As I was watching the game today... when the pregame show started... at the beginning of the song their was a little childs laughter in the song... and all I kept thinking about was that it was Baby D... laughing from heaven as he was watching you and knowing that the Colts were going to win. I NEVER watch the super bowl... but, because of the inspiration of your sweet baby boy and you and your family... my son and I watched the whole game... I told him to cheer for the colts and told him the story about Baby D... you should of seen him cheer them on Melissa... it was precious. Now, my adopted team is the Colts. I through the TV felt little baby Donavans spirit there, and I am sure you did. Please know that your family has brought me closer to mine through all that you have shared. I am praying for you every day that you will find the strength to move on. Much love to you guys... and once again YAY COLTS and BABY D!! XO
Nicole <coleface91@hotmail.com>
Calgary, Canada - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:51 PM CST

As many others were, as well, I was thinking of you tonight as I cheered on the Colts at my youth group SuperBowl party! What a fun victory! Praying for you tonight!
Love in Christ, Mary Holland
Mary Holland Doan <Godsgirl889@yahoo.com>
Memphis, TN USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:49 PM CST

Hope you enjoyed the game.........never forget, you deserved this joy. You are a terrific person and have given this fight your all.
No one has any right to judge anyone else.....only God will do that.
sara
MN - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:43 PM CST

As the Colts Coach expressed his Faith and has overcome many obstacles...they Celebrated the Moment and I know being there must have been emotional for you too! As we watched a game with special meaning in so many ways..God's Victorious! Amen!
Kelsey, Faith and Colleen-ALL Kids <colleencadaret@sbcglobal.net>
Placerville, CA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:42 PM CST

As I watched the game and saw the rain, the chorus to the song holes in the floor of heaven kept running through my head -

Chorus:
Cause there�s holes in the floor of heaven
and his tears are pouring down
that�s how you know he�s watching
wishing he could be here now
and sometimes if your lonely
just remember he can see
there�s holes in the floor of heaven and he�s
watching over you and me

He was there Melissa! I truly hope you felt his spirit and the love and support you have from so many people!

We're all so proud of your true MVP!

Hang in there! Our thoughts and prayers are with you!
Betty <bandbfritschi@adelphia.net>
- Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:42 PM CST

Ye Ha Colts!! Way to go Melissa to go to the Superbowl & celebrate with your fans and baby D in heaven. Have a blessed night.
Trevino's <ctrevino@twcny.rr.com>
Liverpool, NY - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:41 PM CST

Congrats Baby D and Melissa!!!!
Paige <paigeduncan68@hotmail.com>
Franklin, MA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:38 PM CST

Yay Colts and Baby D!!! Woo hoo!
He had the best seat in the house :-)

hugs and prayers,
Heather, mom to Brianna dx ALL , www.caringbridge.com/ny/mylittlesunshine, daughter to Pete, dx CLL. SCT 8/3/06 www.caringbridge.org/visit/petek
Syracuse, NY USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:35 PM CST

Way to go COLTS. I'm sure Donovan's Super Bowl party is still going strong. Hope you found comfort in the game. God Bless You always.
Ann <radiogal62@comcast.net>
- Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:35 PM CST

WAY TO GO BABY D! I KNEW YOU WERE WATCHING OVER YOUR COLT TEAM! YOU ARE THE MVP LITTLE ANGEL!
Way to go Colts!!! WOO HOO!!! Doing a happy dance for the Colts and Baby D!!!
Hope you had a good time Melissa! I am sure that Baby D was right there with you the entire time (except when he went down to help out his players!)
Love you guys~ Have a safe trip back home! Give Dylan a hug from Mimi Jan!
Hugs and Prayers~
Jan aka Mimi to ^Makayla^ & Hailey
www.caringbridge.org/visit/makaylachavers
www.caringbridge.org/visit/haileychavers

Jan Chapdelaine (A Prayer Bear) www.freewebs.com/prayerbears <jannyjo@cox.net>
Virginia Beach, VA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:35 PM CST

YAAAAAAAY! WAY TO GO COLTS!! I must admit I do not watch A Lot of sports on TV but I just had to watch some of the Superbowl today in Honor of Baby Donovan & His COLTS FANS Family! I WAS VERY HAPPY the COLTS WON! I can just see Donovan and his friends jumping up and down with joy!
CONGRATULATIONS on a Win Well Deserved!!
Debi W.
Chesapeake, Va - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:34 PM CST

Donovan is letting everyone who he cares about know that he is ok....how you ask? Well by having the Colts win the SuperBowl.
YAY!!!
www.caringbridge.org/visit/shelbyandaverykrumwiede
Kristin Krumwiede <kckrumwiede@bis.midco.net>
Bismarck, ND USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:31 PM CST

Oh, Melissa....You MUST KNOW your baby Donovan was orchestrating today's game. I had an entire neighborhood cheering them on in Donovan's honor. The Colts didn't need us. They had Donovan.
Sweetie....I'm hoping you found the tiniest bit of solace with this game. I thought about you, your entire family through the whole thing.
I'll NEVER forget your beautiful Donovan's face for as long as I live......which means he'll be here forever.
lisa
jersey shore, nj - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:31 PM CST

GO COLTS!! Donovan was truely cheering them on.. even though i didn't know him personally i felt him with me. I am so happy for you're win- i was in a house with bears fans- and boy did i do a happy dance at the end!!
May God be with you always!
*HUGS*
~Hilary (16 y/o)
Hilary
Iowa USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:30 PM CST

Way to go COLTS!! I new that little Angle Donovan was watching out for them. Hope you had a good time - Melissa - even though the rain looked pretty bad!!!
Love,
Susan
Susan Kalb <kalbsusan@yahoo.com>
Redwood City, CA USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:29 PM CST

I couldn't get this out of my mind....'and a little child shall lead them....'

Way to go, Colts!!!!!
Roxann <horsesetc@msn.com>
Audubon, MN USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:28 PM CST

Oh YES !! Donovan must be the MVP !! Perfect, Kaitlyn's Mommy ! I am doin' the happy dance, and i hope Melissa is tooooo !!!
Carol
- Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:26 PM CST

Your favorite team is the champions just as Donovan is a champion!!!!!!!!! Melissa, so many believe just as you do thanks for showing us how. God Bless...
Karen Patterson <Anchormom@comcast.net>
New Castle, DE - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:26 PM CST

HEY Donovan the MVP of tonights game! Melissa I hope you enjoyed yourself and didn't get too drenched! I also thought of you and Donovan throughout the entire game! I hope you have a safe trip home and you will go home with a big smile knowing yours and darrens baby shined down on you all tonight!
Dottie Williams
Davie, fl usa - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:26 PM CST

The COLTS WIN................

BABY DONOVAN this WIN' S for YOU! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !

Hug's & Blessings,

Kris

Danny
Kris <ccougarfan@aol.com>
- Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:25 PM CST

THEY DID IT!!!!!! I thought of your family and little Baby D. throughout the whole game. Melissa, Darren, Dylan -- I hope you all see this as a sign from your little guy that he is happy, well, and healed. Please never forget that he wants to see you all smile again and hear your laughter.

I wish you peace and comfort.
Suzanne Shaft
Macedonia, OH - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:25 PM CST

Well...I noticed a certain Angel must have been watching down over the Colts today as they brought home the Victory! Great Game! Congratulations!!!
In Love & Prayer...Eleasha <eleasha@cox.net>
www.caringbridge.org/va/cody, - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:24 PM CST

WOO HOO!!!! I know that now that Donovan is healed and pain free he is cheering, jumping and high fiving from his best seat in the house! Way to go Donny....you did it! I am very happy for the Rasmussen family!
Mimi <cowboymimi825@yahoo.com>
Richardson, Tx - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:22 PM CST

Way to go COLTS! I'm sure Donovan is smiling with you!
Toni <toni310@optonline.net>
Edison, NJ - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:21 PM CST

WAY TO GO COLTS AND BABY D!
Melissa,
I thought of you and Baby D thru the entire game! What a game! I am so happy the Colts won! But with a special angel like Baby D rooting from above, how could they loose!

~~Jennifer~~
Bremerton, Wa - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:21 PM CST

YEA!!! Go Colts!!! It was all for you Donovan :) Hoping you had tons of fun at the superbowl Melissa, and that you were able to feel Donny sitting with you the whole time.
Kelley Chuang <kschuang@gmail.com>
Durham, NC 27708 - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:18 PM CST

WAY TO PULL THE COLTS THROUGH D!!! You were right there with them, I know it.. and what a victory you helped them with tonight. Melissa, it must have been truly amazing to be there and witness this. Chills went down my spine at the end of the game... what an great (although bittersweet) day!!
Becca Andrews <andre149@msu.edu>
Haslett, MI - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:16 PM CST

BABY D BABY D THE COLTS WON!!! YAHOOOO. WE ARE SO EXCITED. MY EYES TEARED UP I WAS THINKING ABOUT YOU THE WHOLE TIME. WE ALL MISS YOU LITTLE BUDDY. I KNOW YOU HAD A GREAT TIME TONIGHT WATCHING THE GAME WITH MY LITTLE MAN FROM HEAVEN.
Abby Angel ^Tanners^ mommy www.caringbridge.org/visit/tannersharon <brandonabby@hotmail.com>
stokesdale, nc - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:16 PM CST

Yeah,
Your boy Peyton got it!!! Go Donnie!
Sue <swybrecht@sbcglobal.net>
Macomb, MI - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:14 PM CST

CONGATULATIONS COLTS! ONLY THE STRONG SURVIVE!!!! STAY STRONG,MELISSA!!!!
Midge <midge@flash.net>
Houston, Tx - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:14 PM CST

As the tears flow I am soooo happy the COLTS won!! All during the game my son (4 years old) came in and sat with me. I thought so much of Melissa and her son....I cried all through the game!! My hubby thinks I am crazy for sure...crying over a football game...but it was all for Donovan!! Congrats COLTS!! we knew you could do it, besides you had an ANGEL watching you the whole time!! God Bless you, Melissa, Darren, and Dylan!!

Melissa, I watched the pre game show and the game and didn't see you :-( I know you were there!!

much love, Melissa
Melissa Smith <turtleluv@earthlink.net>
Greenwood, SC, - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:13 PM CST

Donny, 29 to 17!!!! Did you hear that? 29 to 17!!!! OH YEAH THAT HAS YOU ALL OVER IT DONNY!!! You are the man. I think you should be the MVP of this Superbowl. What do the rest of you think? Yes, Donovan, you will always be our MVP. I hope you are grinning from ear to ear and just whooping it up up there. Your man, Peyton Manning was awesome!!!! Tony Dungy soooooo deserved this win!!! I love you Donovan and wish I could just hold you one more time. Play with you one more time. See you just ONE more time. I love you little man!!
Dylan, mommy will be home soon I'm sure. You are going to get so spoiled now, just like you deserve! I pray for you sweetheart that you will do ok through all of this. You are a very special little man and I have faith that you are going to have a wonderful, happy, healthy life. I pray that Melissa and Darren stay strong and united! I love you guys! God Bless you and your entire family! Melissa, PLEASE DON'T SHUT THE SITE DOWN. If it is truly what you want to do to move on with healing and not because of anything else, ok. I will be absolutely heartbroken to see you guys go. My love, hugs and prayers to all of you!

http://www.caringbridge.org/or/kaitlynp
Jennifer Powers <MommyJenRN@charter.net>
Central Point, OR USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:12 PM CST

I have never signed your guestbook before.. I come from Katia's site.. I just wanted to say that i thought of Donovan the whole evening while watching the Colts take the victory.. I hope you know that Baby D must be having his own party up in Heaven this evening watching his team win.. I Hope you were able to enjoy this evening watching the game and thinking of your angel.. I know i did.. and i dont even like football...

GO COLTS!! Go BABY D!
Staci C. (Katia's ladybug Club member)
Hamilton Sq., NJ - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:11 PM CST

WOW...what a game! Baby Donovan is the true CHAMPION!
God Bless you all in the months to come.
Stacey
Bondurant, IA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:10 PM CST

Melissa,
I am so glad the COLTS won! I know Baby D was watching over them. Praying for your family.

Missy Rye <mjrye@bellsouth.net>
Clarksville, TN USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:08 PM CST

Go, Baby D...I definitely see your hand in tonight's game, sweetie!!! Hugs to you all, Melissa...I am sure tonight is very bittersweet for you!!
Kirsty Benson <bensonfamily@gmail.com>
Dayton, OH - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:08 PM CST

YEA! Baby D your team did it for you!
Love, The McBurnett's
www.caringbridge.org/visit/alexandriamcburnett
The McBurnett's
Beaverton, OR USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:06 PM CST

Yeah for the COLTS!!! This WIN is for Baby Donovan!!!! Melissa hope you had a wonderful time watching your team win the Big one for the teddy bear!!!

Still a Donovan Believer....
Amy Bellini <amy_bellini@farmfamily.com>
Troy, NY - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:06 PM CST

Hey There Rasmussen family! I have been following Baby D's story for about a year now, and was absolutely devastated to hear about your loss. I live in a sorority house and am literally surrounded by Bears fans however, I was rooting and praying for those Colts just as much as you were! I just know that your precious Donovan had something to do with that glorious win! I think of your family every day, and please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you always.
Jaime~
Jaime
Harrisonburg, VA USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:06 PM CST

The Colts had an angel on their side tonight. A Great night for Melissa.
Lin Ridley <lin_ridley@hotmail.com>
Lutz, FL USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:05 PM CST

The Colts walked away with it and I get the feeling they had a little help from above! (Or at least some inspiration!) Way to go Colts and Baby D!

Melissa, may God Bless you and Darren and Dylan in the days and months to come. I hope this brings a small spark of happiness with it. You all deserve it!
Shaun, Austin, and Dominic Rogers <shaunr@bellsouth.net>
Atlanta, GA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:05 PM CST

I knew Donovan was shining down on the Colts today! CONGRATS to the COLTS on a well-deserved win ~ I hope they know they had a special Angel cheering them on!

God bless all of you always.
Terri <timjay613@sbcglobal.net>
Allen, TX USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:04 PM CST

GO COLTS!!! There is NO DOUBT that they had an angel on their shoulders!!! We LOVE you Donovan!!!
Devan <devan_griffin@yahoo.com>
Louisville, KY USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:04 PM CST

Wahooooooooooooooooo! Baby D was watching over the Colts! The only thing bigger than those raindrops are my tears for Melissa and her family. Enjoy the win!!
Linny J
- Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:04 PM CST

That was heaven sent :) Congrats guys!
Ashley
- Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:04 PM CST

Go Colts!!! Am crying tears of joy right now, as we watch the Colts win the Super Bowl!! Thanks Baby D, for watching down on them. You're the best!!
Rita <rchajh@yahoo.com>
Velva, ND - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:03 PM CST

Oh yeah baby!!!! That was an awesome game!!!! I am sooo happy. Did anyone see Melissa and her sign? I didn't :-( I hope she had a blast!!! Pretty sure there isn't a dry hair on her pretty little head right now. INCREDIBLE GAME!!!! I am a Colts fan at heart now for you Donovan. You are so precious in my heart and will never ever be forgotten by me. I am still so sad you are no longer here. I know you are in such a wonderful place. God Bless the Rasmussens.

http://www.caringbridge.org/or/kaitlynp
Jennifer Powers <MommyJenRN@charter.net>
Central Point, OR USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:03 PM CST

COLTS WIN!!! That game was for Baby D. He had the best seat in the house. Way to go Colts.
Paula Thompson www.caringbridge.org/visit/zacharyathompson <thompson@sptent.com>
The Colony, TX USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:03 PM CST

Go baby D, you were watching over your boys in blue tonight, that's for sure!
Beth
- Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:03 PM CST

YEAH! Congratulations on your Super Bowl Victory! I am sure that your little prince was with you cheering them on to a victory! I am so glad you were there to experience it!Tonight...a little peace.
Julie Redmon <jredmon1@wi.rr.com>
Racine, WI - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:03 PM CST

Wooohooo..Way To Go Colts And Baby D..You Did It!! We Love You!!!!
Karen <indianagal_2004@yahoo.com>
- Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:02 PM CST

I sit here with tears in my eyes as this must be so bittersweet for you and your family. I am so glad you got the opportunity to go to the Super Bowl and hope you enjoyed it. We all know Donovan is a happy little guy tonight. May you find peace to continue on during your journey. Love.
Dawn Mayer <DLove0429@aol.com>
Frederick, MD - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:02 PM CST

GO COLTS !!!!!!!! I KNEW IT...THEY HAVE THE GREATEST ANGEL WATCHING OVER THEM.
Jennifer Iljazi Angel_Wings <jzee1664@optonline.net>
- Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:02 PM CST

This one's for you Baby D!!!! I know you had a hand in this!!!

We love you!!!!
Becka and family <music-mom@nc.rr.com>
morrisville, nc 27560 - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:01 PM CST

Why do I get the feeling the Colts had a little angel on their side today? :) Congratulations Colts, and Baby D.
Amanda <amanda@southpawcentral.com>
Glendale, AZ USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:01 PM CST

Wahoooooooooooo!! Baby D won!! Yippeee!
A huge Donovan Fan
- Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:01 PM CST

Way to go Colts!!! Baby D they did it! Yay! They did it! Thanks for sending your mommy something to smile about!
Jessica
Keller, TX - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:01 PM CST

Congrats Colts fans! How could they lose with a precious angel rooting them on!
Angel Becky & Family (Matthews Angel)
Mattoon, IL - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:00 PM CST

WOO HOO HOO HOO HOO!!!!!!

THEY DID IT!!!! SAILING ON ANGEL WINGS!!!!!

COLTS - 2007 SUPERBOWL CHAMPS!!!!!!

Love you guys all so much!
Love, 'Angel Nickey' <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
- Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:00 PM CST

Pretty darn sure that was for you, Donovan. Congratulations, little guy. I'm sure you had a great seat for that game. Super Bowl Champs and yet they don't hold a candle to you, brave boy. You are missed.
Shelly VanB <jasonshelly@sasktel.net>
Saskatoon, Sk Canada - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:00 PM CST

Donovan, baby, that game was for you!!!!
Summer B
Eugene, OR USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 8:59 PM CST

The Colts just won!!!!!!
Hope you had the time of your life Melissa. Looks like Baby D watched over your team!!!!

Sue Wybrecht <swybrecht@sbcglobal.net>
Macomb, MI - Sunday, February 4, 2007 8:59 PM CST

YAHHHHHOOOOOOOOOO!!!!! They did it!!!!! Did you see that Donny? They did it!!!!!

http://www.caringbridge.org/or/kaitlynp
Jennifer Powers <MommyJenRN@charter.net>
Central Point, OR USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 8:59 PM CST

There is aboout 1 minute left on the clock and unless Donovan wanted to play a trick on us, the Colts will win! Thanks Baby D.
www.caringbridge.org/visit/mch
Megan Haas <mchaas@kent.edu>
Medina, OH USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 8:57 PM CST

I haven't really ever gotten into football until I started reading about Baby Donovans love for the colts!! I have watched and cheered throughout the whole game, I just knew they would win with their special little angel helping them out!! I'm glad you got to go to the game Melissa, you deserve it! I've never signed before but I've been following Donovans story for a long time, but tonight I feel like I need to sign.
Lindsey
- Sunday, February 4, 2007 8:54 PM CST

Go Colts! Go Donovan!
Linda Tienda <j.tienda@worldnet.att.net>
- Sunday, February 4, 2007 8:53 PM CST

GO COLTS!!!!!!!
Kristi Schoolfield <snickles999@yahoo.com>
Grand Blanc, Mi - Sunday, February 4, 2007 8:38 PM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan and baby ^Donovan^~

Thinking of your precious family, as I spend time with my
family watching the COLTS win in the SUPERBOWL on this big
DONOVAN DAY!! I feel so close to your family, and remember
your precious, strong, courageous son, as all of you
celebrate something that means so much to you as a family.
I will always remember Donovan when I see or hear about
the COLTS.

WE LOVE AND MISS YOU BABY DONOVAN! WE KNOW YOU ARE HELPING
YOUR TEAM ALONG, AND PUTTING A SMILE ON YOUR FAMILIES FACES!
FLY HIGH BABY D, YOU WILL ALWAYS BE REMEMBERED FOR THE
COURAGE AND STRENGTH IT TOOK FOR YOU TO LIVE!

LOVE~ Claire (Mommy to Laken in Heaven)

www.caringbridge.com/visit/lakenroy

GO COLTS GO!! WE KNOW YOU HAVE YOUR LITTLEST BIGGEST
FAN HELPING OUT FROM THE HEAVENS ABOVE!!
Claire Roy <caffemocha29@aol.com>
Kernersville, NC US - Sunday, February 4, 2007 8:36 PM CST

I have never watched a football game before, until tonight. I have been asking a lot of questions trying to figure out what it's all about, but the only thing that matters is that the Colts are winning. I'm sure Melissa must be ecstatic. I am so happy for her and I keep seeing Baby Donovan's precious smile looking down on her. I hope she is dry and that she has a safe return home. I can't wait to read her update when she feels up to telling us about her experience.
Hara Dwyer <bckbskc@aol.com>
Barre, VT United States - Sunday, February 4, 2007 8:32 PM CST

Thinking of you tonight as I watch the Super Bowl.
Tanya H. <mommytanya05@aol.com>
Lancaster, Ohio USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 8:21 PM CST

Melissa, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you have a wonderful time at the game like you soooo deserve. Many HUGS to you and your family!!!!!!
Mindy (Friend Of Nickey and Becka) <davin106@hotmail.com>
Des Moines, IA usa - Sunday, February 4, 2007 8:07 PM CST

Go Colts!! Donovan, you're on all of our hearts right now. I gotta say I've never cared for the outcome of a Super Bowl like I do today.... Donovan, everytime those players take a hit or make a great play; I think of you and your game here on Earth. You played with strength, drive, determination, and courage; just like those players on the field. You got back up after every hit and you celebrated the good times! You taught us a lot that we will never forget. Thank you little man! I'll bet your Heaven Halftime Show was brighter and better and never-ending. Dance Baby, Dance!!!
Gotta go cheer on your team....
Karen <karent924@charter.net>
WV - Sunday, February 4, 2007 7:33 PM CST

Half Time and the Colts are up......Yeah!!!!! Praying that you are having a great time and you are staying dry. We know that Baby D is there in the stands with you. Many Blessings to your family
Maria Lisac...........caringbridge.org/or/robert <musicmaddness@comcast.net>
Happy Valley, OR USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 7:31 PM CST

Please just ignore people who attempt to spread their hate. Your responses give her the "power" she was seeking. If she were ignored she would fade. If you can't post your e-mail address rethink your post.

Melissa, enjoy your life and live the life Baby D would be proud of!!!!
Lisa Freeman <fairhopefreemans@bellsouth.net>
Fairhope, AL USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 7:30 PM CST

Thinking of your family, and wondering if Baby D is smiling down from heaven. As a visitor to this site, I am also amazed at the comments. This family is just trying to move on from what I would believe is one of the hardest things a parent would ever live through. Praying for all of Baby D's family that you are staying dry and having the time of your life, knowing your beloved ^angel^ son is sitting in the stands next to you. For those out there that are offended that this family is trying to find a way to move on, please do not judge them...I am sure they are doing what they can to find "normal" every day after what they have been thru. Praying for all those families in similar situations...May the good Lord give you strength to move forward.
Joyce...mom of 3
Oakdale, MN - Sunday, February 4, 2007 7:25 PM CST

It is 1/2 time and we are watching the game and thinking of you and hoping your Colts win! My husband and I don't usually pay too much attention but I got in the spirit this year and got a bunch of snacks and made potato skins and did it up right. You are in my heart. Love, Anne
Anne Himes <www.caringbridge.org/page/andrewh arhimes@msn.com>
Boonsboro, md USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 7:21 PM CST

I am watching the Colts WIN and thinking of Donovan!!! GO COLTS!!!
Much Love!!
Hannah Lane

PS Donovan, I know you are SO excited that the Colts are winning! Keep helping them beat the Bears!! We miss you!!

Hannah Lane <hannah_banana3131@yahoo.com>
Lexington, TN USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 7:14 PM CST

Well, it's half time of the Superbowl and I'm thinking of y'all out there....and in this RAIN! Gooooo Indy!

Roxann <horsesetc@msn.com>
Audubon, MN USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 7:07 PM CST

Baby D..Watching the colts and keeping my eyes wide open for your smiling face. Goooo Colts!!. Grab Angel Donny and run us to VICTORY.!!!!! Hope your having the time of your life Melissa.Daddy, Dylan, Extended Family, Hope your all enjoying the game and time spent together. Prayers continuing for you all.
Karen <indianagal_2004@yahoo.com>
- Sunday, February 4, 2007 6:46 PM CST

Colts are winning!!! woohooo Baby D this is for you sweetie!!
misty <armywifeandmomx3@aol.com>
fort hood, tx usa - Sunday, February 4, 2007 6:38 PM CST

For Sherry, you seem confused.
Hara Dwyer <bckbskc@aol.com>
Barre, VT United States - Sunday, February 4, 2007 6:27 PM CST

Melissa and family,
I am so sorry for the loss of your precious baby boy. I do understand some of what you are going though, I lost my precious baby boy on Jan 1,2000. He had a rare lung defect and died during surgery to correct the defect. I know many others have given you some advice about dealing with the grief but I also know that you can't possibly begin to take it in right now. I found Donavan's site though another caring bridge site and a mom on our parenting after stillbirth/infant loss board. If you ever need to talk, vent, cry, or just information, I would be glad to help you.
Kerrie <southbrgirl@yahoo.com>
Baton Rouge, LA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 6:18 PM CST

Donovan is "raining" down his joy on you Melissa!!! Looking for your sign!! Happy Donovan Day!!!!
Katie Olson <bisongolfer@hotmail.com>
Moorhead, MN 56560 - Sunday, February 4, 2007 6:17 PM CST

Was that opening Cirque D'Soleil show made for Donovan or what??? That was AWESOME - balloons, football players, bright sunny smiles - and the song kept repeating 'One Dream, One Hope, One Game'. Man oh man - Baby D, Angel Nickey was nearly in tears. I can only imagine what your momma is feeling being there at the field! We are rooting for the Colts and really celebrating Donovan's Day!
GO COLTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WIN ONE FOR OUR CHAMP BABY D!!!!!

Dylan, Darren, Grammie & Papa - I hope you are enjoying this game as much as we are. Know we're only a heartbeat away from you all.

WE LOVE YOU ALL!!!!!!
Lots of love, 'Angel' Nickey
- Sunday, February 4, 2007 5:17 PM CST

HERE we go BABY, this ones for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

NOREEN <talkntalkn@aol.com>
- Sunday, February 4, 2007 5:12 PM CST

Woo hoo, it's Donovan day! Your little man has been on my mind all day, and although not the biggest football fan, I am so excited to watch the Colt's cream the Bears in honor of Donovan. I'm watching for the poster right now... :)
Laura Lynn and my two little miracle nephews, Asher and ^Jacob^: www.caringbridge.org/visit/asherandjacob <laurainsem@yahoo.com>
Hollidaysburg, Pa - Sunday, February 4, 2007 4:04 PM CST

Mellisa, will be watching the game today with a large group of friends and we will be cheering for the Colts. I will watch for Baby D's picture and will be watching for that Angel in the outfield doing his job, helping the Colts to a Super Bowl. Thinking of you all and stay strong.
Cheryl Lawrie
Cheryl Lawrie <cheryllawrie@hotmail.com>
Langley, BC Canada - Sunday, February 4, 2007 3:06 PM CST

Just to let you know we will be watching the game, thinking of your precious Baby D. GO COLTS!!! A big hug for you Melissa.
Aurea mom to Ale and Dani dx T cell ALL 4/6/05 <aureavila@cablevision.net.mx>
Mexico, D.F. Mexico - Sunday, February 4, 2007 2:42 PM CST

It's Donovan's Day ! Melissa, Darren and Dylan the dilly bar, i hope you feel your little guy Donovan with you in some special way today.
Carol
- Sunday, February 4, 2007 2:20 PM CST

Thinking of you all and hoping that Angel Donovan can help the Colts pull this one off! I'll be watching for your picture Baby D!
Cammy Parsons -- mother to Laken <parsons@fullnet.com or caringbridge.org/visit/lakenparsons>
Huntingburg, IN USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 2:09 PM CST

Melissa,
Without knowing it, and sometimes being critized for it, you have given our precious Donovan a legancy of his own. Only our Father in Heaven knows the number of people who will think of and remember Donovan each time they hear or see The Colts. I think it is awesome! Go COLTS!!!
Remembering Donovan,
Cheryl Mills
Cheryl Mills <cherylmil@nc.rr.com>
Clayton, NC USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 1:43 PM CST

GO COLTS!! We'll be cheering them on tonight and thinking of Baby D and your family.
Patricia <rrfpaf@hotmail.com>
Garden City, GA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 12:55 AM CST

Dear Melissa and family,
I just wanted to send you a big hug and tell you that I am thinking of you today(as so many others are!) We will be rooting for the Colts and sending you lots of positive thoughts for strength and peace. Love Darlene Melkonian
Darlene and Christopher Melkonian http://www.caringbridge.org/md/chrismelko <melkonid@comcast.net>
Gaithersburg, MD - Sunday, February 4, 2007 12:47 AM CST

GO COLTS!!!!!!!!!

As I was watching Grey's Anatomy on Thursday with Sarena nestled in my arms... I was thinking of you and your sweet Baby D. I cried so much that night! I know we never met, but you and your family touched me in so many ways! Thank you for sharing your story through this website. Hugs to you! Love, Nadya Sahadeo
http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/sarena

Nadya Sahadeo <nadya217@yahoo.com>
East Meadow, NY USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 12:29 AM CST

Hi Melissa,
Thinking of you today, and holding you close to my heart. Angel Donavan is always in my thoughts...I want you to have a peaceful, fun day today...Donavan is so proud of his beautiful family.
LOve and hugs,
colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
Muskegon, MI usa - Sunday, February 4, 2007 11:40 AM CST

Thinking about you all today.
GO COLTS!!!!!!
Kristi Schoolfield <snickles999@yahoo.com>
Grand Blanc, Mi - Sunday, February 4, 2007 11:00 AM CST

Thinking of you sweet Donnie! Go Colts!
Karen Small <karensmall@charter.net>
Saint Charles, MO USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:30 AM CST

GO COLTS!!!!!!! Today is DOnovan's day!!!

Becka and family

http://www.caringbridge.org/ny/michelelynn/
Becka <music-mom@nc.rr.com>
Morrisville, NC usa - Sunday, February 4, 2007 10:14 AM CST

Go Colts go!!!!

Thinking of your family. Baby D will be with you always.
Hugs,
Heather, mom to Brianna dx ALL , www.caringbridge.com/ny/mylittlesunshine, daughter to Pete, dx CLL. SCT 8/3/06 www.caringbridge.org/visit/petek
Syracuse, NY USA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 9:28 AM CST

The Colts Are Going To Win The Super Bowl With Donavan Leading the way to Victory
GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO COTLS!!!!!
Thinking Of You
Ed,Racquell (Pita) & Marc
Along With Our Angel Diane
The Kansas Crew <PPrincess2424@aol.com>
Cheering The Colts On , Smelling Victory www.caringbridge.org/visit/donaldstiffler - Sunday, February 4, 2007 8:50 AM CST

GO COLTS GO!! BABY DONOVAN, CARRY THE COLTS TO VICTORY!!
PRAYING FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!
Allan, Kim, Ashleigh, McKalyn & Jacob
GO COLTS GO, - Sunday, February 4, 2007 8:15 AM CST

Go Colts, Go! How can they not win when Baby D is guiding them from up above.

Thinking of you all today as well as everyday.
Danielle
Ann Arbor , Mi - Sunday, February 4, 2007 8:02 AM CST

GO COLTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Julie www.caringbridge.org/visit/hayden
Hanover, Pa - Sunday, February 4, 2007 7:53 AM CST

~Good Morning Rasmussen Family!
Stopping by before I leave for work today to let you all know I'm thinking of you. We are all ready for the game tonight to watch the Colts WIN with their angel wings!!! I know we will all feel Donovan's prescense today, and carry on his adorable smiles and giggles with each play.
~Little Mr. Donovan - you are so loved, and so missed little CHAMP! Touch your family's hearts today, and know you will always have a team cheering you and your Colts on down here on earth.
~Sending you all our love and prayers, and as always
((((((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))))))) from all of us in Burlington!
Lots of love, Nickey
Burlington, IA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 7:37 AM CST

GO COLTS GO!!!! Today is the big day. I will be on the watch out for Baby D's poster.
brandonabby@hotmail.com <brandonabby@hotmail.com>
stokesdale, nc - Sunday, February 4, 2007 7:13 AM CST

Melissa, Dylan and Darren - We will be thinking of you all day and sending prayers for signs from your little angel. I'm sure he will be watching the game with you! Showers are expected at the game today - stay dry and enjoy! Go Colts!
Cindy <cdw8360@yahoo.com>
Rochester, NY - Sunday, February 4, 2007 7:12 AM CST

Go Colts!!!
I bet Donovan is up there so happy that his mommy is getting to watch the game. I hope my Jacob found Donovan and is watching the game with him. I don't know how heavan works, but it's a nice thought anyway.
I hope you have a memoriable day. We will be keeping the whole family in our thoughts today.
Heather Misner (Asher and ^Jacob^'s mommy) <mitchellham@yahoo.com>
Midwest City, OK - Sunday, February 4, 2007 7:11 AM CST

Sending love, thoughts and prayers. Hoping Donovans Day is magical and carries you through. Missing you, Melissa.
Jen, Mom to Samuel <bud110@aol.com>
S. Prairie, WA - Sunday, February 4, 2007 0:30 AM CST

Hugs and oodles of prayers!
Love

Mike and Mary Slade and families <mar-e@rogers.com>
Guelph, Ontario, Canada - Sunday, February 4, 2007 0:00 AM CST

I just wanted to let you know that I'm still praying for you here on Earth and for your beautiful little boy in Heaven. Even though we're Pats fans, I'm cheering for the Colts tomorrow. I hope they win for Donovan. Take care and God bless you all.
Hugs,
Johanna and Daniel
www.caringbridge.org/visit/danieljr
Johanna
MA - Saturday, February 3, 2007 10:56 PM CST

I'm not the biggest football fan, but I want you to know I'll be thinking of your little Angel Donovan tomorrow and routing for his Colts. Donovan and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I BELIEVE!
Christine Milczarek <cmilczarek@cox.net>
Chandler, AZ - Saturday, February 3, 2007 10:56 PM CST

GO COLTS!!!!!

Tomorrow is going to be bitter sweet in many many reasons. I know little Baby D is going to be rocking in some awesome seats but I wish he was there with you. I am sure he will be in spirit. I think of you throughout the days and just pray for you to know that your little boy touched many lives. He didn't pass and will be forgotten. I wish so much there had been a cure found early enough for him. I think there will be someday, soon I hope. We are praying for Alexia as well. I know you have said you decided to not keep up the page but anytime you like, please email me.
Love, Tracy and
Katia (a.k.a. "The Ladybug")
Fighting leukemia AML with a vengence!
Sharing Hope on the Wings of a Ladybug

Tracy and Katia <tmsol87@aol.com>
- Saturday, February 3, 2007 10:16 PM CST

Hi Melissa, I'm working tomorrow but rest assured all of my passengers will know they need to cheer the Colts on!!! DVR is a wonderful thing, hope to see Donovans banner when I get home. {{{{Gentle Hugs}}}} have a memorable time in Donovans memory....You Rock!
Donna McDonald <flygirl9908@yahoo.com>
Raleigh, NC - Saturday, February 3, 2007 9:32 PM CST

Glad to hear that you made it safe and sound to Miami. I hope that you are having a good time and know that little Donovan is with you ~
I will be watching the game and thinking of you guys and baby D the entire time. I will be watching for your poster!
As always....praying for you and your family~
Jan aka Mimi to Makayla (in Heaven) & Hailey
www.caringbridge.org/visit/makaylachavers
www.caringbridge.org/visit/haileychavers
Jan Chapdelaine ( Prayer Bear) www.freewebs.com/prayerbears <jannyjo@cox.net>
Virginia Beach, VA - Saturday, February 3, 2007 8:33 PM CST

Melissa, I'll be looking for you tomorrow. Hang your sign up high and enjoy Donovan's Day!!!! He'll be right next to you giving you the strength to make it through another day. I love you guys. xoxo
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
NJ - Saturday, February 3, 2007 7:51 PM CST

We just dropped by to check on you today.

Jodi and McKayla

Jodi Phelan <jodiphelan@hotmail.com>
Sherwood Park, AB Canada - Saturday, February 3, 2007 5:34 PM CST

I will never see the word COLTS again without thinking of sweet Donovan and your family - Bless you ALL - although I would love to continue to hear updates, I totally understand. GOD BLESS.
Devan
Louisville, KY USA - Saturday, February 3, 2007 5:07 PM CST

I will be thinking of you and looking for you at the game, I will wait patiently for Donavan's picture.
Have a wonderful time..
A big hug to you!
amy schwartrz <amy415s@aol.com>
pembroke pines , fl usa - Saturday, February 3, 2007 4:34 PM CST

Mellisa.
Enjoy the Colts game sweetie, as I imagine Donovan wil be watching with you. May God bless your heart, you go and have fun, you are allowed to, and sometimes its these times when we feel closer to the one we lost, in a way it brings you together. Share the day with your little boys, Mellisa and GO COLTS.
Love you Donovan
God wil watch over you and it will be ok
Love Susan
susan <susanhubley@hotmail.com>
- Saturday, February 3, 2007 3:20 PM CST

Waiting for Donovan's Day....GO COLTS! Hope you are having a great time Melissa!
Kara Meyer www.caringbridge.org/in/karadimmich <karameyer@verizon.net>
West Lafayette, IN - Saturday, February 3, 2007 2:58 PM CST

Have a great time at the Superbowl,Mellissa!!! Your sweet little baby will be right by your side with his hands up in the air. I hope you not only get to see the game, but maybe meet the Colts!! Please update how the game was, etc. Your little guy WOULD approve of your going to the game. ENJOY!!!!!
Tara <howard.family01@comcast.net>
Swansea, MA - Saturday, February 3, 2007 12:55 AM CST

Just stopping by to say I will be rooting for Donovan's COLTS to win tomorrow. Since we had our moment of fame last year with the Steelers winning- it's your turn! Still thinking of your teddy bear and praying everyone is doing ok.
Beth L
Mansfield, OH USA - Saturday, February 3, 2007 11:31 AM CST

Donovan was a beautiful, strong, young man. He's touched my heart. Your family is in my prayers.
angela hennessy <hennessy762@mchsi.com>
mound, mn usa - Saturday, February 3, 2007 10:52 AM CST

Thanks Jenny for the update, glad Melissa has made it
there safely, praying for her, hoping she has a BLAST!

One day until DONOVAN DAY! Woohoo!!

I know Daddy and Dylan are have some GREAT father son
time this weekend. Melissa, have a blast, make a lifetime
of memories. We are so happy for you!

Praying baby Donovan's love and presence is felt by all
of you as you celebrate this weekend. We will be looking
for that poster, and cheering on the COLTS, and thinking
of all of you that have made such a difference in the
lives of so many.

Love~ Claire (Mommy to angel ^Laken^)
www.caringbridge.com/visit/lakenroy

GO COLTS!! DO IT FOR BABY D AND HIS FAMILY!

Claire Roy <caffemocha29@aol.com>
Kernersville, NC US - Saturday, February 3, 2007 10:11 AM CST

We will be rooting for the Colts tomorrow!

Nick and Michele wanted to send a message:

Becka and family <music-mom@nc.rr.com>
Morrisville, NC usa - Saturday, February 3, 2007 9:03 AM CST

Mellisa
ED and I are coming up here to tell you that you better belive that we will be watching the superbowl so that we can see you and your sign
We are so glad that you are going to the superbowl ....
to be honest with you we are total Chiefs fans but this superbowl we will be cheering on the Colts for not only you but youer angel ....enjoy this Mellisa !!
Hugs Love and Understanding
Ed & Racquell
Along With Our Angel Diane
The Kansas Crew <PPrincess2424@aol.com>
Chering The Colts On , Knowing That A Special Angel Is Going To Guide Them To Victory www.caringbridge.org/visit/donaldstiffler - Saturday, February 3, 2007 8:49 AM CST

Still stopping in here several times a day. Just love looking at all the pictures in the slide show. The feelings you all have for each other just beam out of the pictures. Enjoy your time with the Superbowl on Sunday! I'm still hoping to be able to watch at least some of it. Fly high, sweet Donovan, wrap your Angel wings around your Mommy, Daddy, and Dylan and let them continue to feel your awesome love.
Kristi Gerdon <kgerdon@widrick.com>
Croghan, NY - Saturday, February 3, 2007 8:00 AM CST

"DONOVAN" what a special lil guy you are!!! Going with mommy to the super bowl even if on the wings of an Angel, I'm sure mommy will feel your presence as will everybody who is watching the game! Hope you all have a great time, GOD knows you deserve it!
bjsmamaw forever(caringbridge.org/wv/bjtammy) <luwanabradley@aol.com>
Ky - Friday, February 2, 2007 11:53 PM CST

Melissa, Darren and Donovan,
Thank you for sharing your journey.
I share your sadness, and have confidence
you will find peace with God in your lives.
Wishing you well.
Susan Ryndak
- Friday, February 2, 2007 11:30 PM CST

Go Colts,Baby Donovan and His family. I came across baby D's site because I have 2 cousins fighting colon cancer.My prayers go out to ALL of the people that are enduring chemo,radiation,etc and their families. Have fun Melissa and I will be looking for Donovans picture Sunday. God Bless you and all of the Caringbridge families.
Claudette Justice <claudettejustice@yahoo.com>
Rex, Ga United States - Friday, February 2, 2007 10:40 PM CST

Jenny,
Thank you for letting us know. I got such a sense of relief, just thinking of Melissa in a fun environment.

When someone has gone through so much agony, trying so hard to save her baby's life....giving up everything to take him across states to the best Dr, having to accept donations (very humbling) just to try to save her baby's life with expensive treatment.......well, you always just hope that God will bring that person a break, some relief, bits of joy amidst the pain.

Thank God that He has provided Melissa this opportunity to get a break. She will, no doubt, continue to deeply grieve the loss of Donovan, but I pray she gets some relief with this trip....

I for one will be watching the game, searching for Baby D's poster....

love,
Kim
Andrew's Page <kim.sprague@cox.net>
Ladera Ranch, CA USA - Friday, February 2, 2007 10:22 PM CST

Just wanted to say that your Baby D has touched my life. Have a wonderful time at the super bowl. I will be routing for the colts just in Baby Ds memory. Love and Prayers, Tanya
Tanya H. <mommytanya05@aol.com>
Lancaster, oh USA - Friday, February 2, 2007 9:46 PM CST

Dear Melissa,
What a sweet little thrill for Baby D to get to go to the SuperBowl! I am sure he will be close by his mommy in the stands! After watching the Patriots falter against the Colts in the championship game we here in RI who have been following Baby D's battle firmly believe that he and a troop of his angel buddies were working their magic on the field! I think he tripped Brady in the backfield for that tackle that sent everything into a tailspin. And when whatshisface missed that catch, I think angel wings were fluttering in his face blocking his view of the ball. Anyway you slice it...there was some magic being tossed about that day. I hope you enjoy yourself and can feel the love of your precious baby boy with every fiber of your being on Sunday (and everyday actually but especially on Sunday). Don't let the morons who don't support you get you down. They haven't earned the right to that much attention from you. The RI faction of those who do support you will be watching for you and routing the Colts on to victory for Baby D!

Be good to you,

your friend and soldier,
Kristine
Kristine McPherson <j_mac11@verizon.net>
warren, RI USA - Friday, February 2, 2007 8:41 PM CST

Thanks, Jenny, for the update! We'll be watching!!!
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Friday, February 2, 2007 8:22 PM CST

Looking forward to seeing you and the poster of Donovan on Sunday at the game. Wave that poster high up.
Donovan is with you. Hugs to Dylan.
francesca <francesca11@comcast.net>
stoneham, ma USA - Friday, February 2, 2007 7:57 PM CST

Melissa, have fun at the game! We will be cheering here in Colorado for the Colts...only Baby D can get a bunch of Bronco fans to cheer on another team! I will be looking for your poster.
God Bless! >;<
Jen Jones <Jenjoturtle@yahoo.com>
Westminster, CO United States - Friday, February 2, 2007 7:50 PM CST

Just wanted to let Melissa's caringbridge friends know that I just spoke to her. She is in Florida, having fun with her cousin and looking forward to Sunday. She hopes to get Donny's poster on TV somehow so be sure to watch not only the game, but the pregame festivities also in case she is not allowed to take it into the stadium.
Jenny Deputy (www.deputyfamily.net) <mjmb@deputyfamily.net>
Indianapolis, IN - Friday, February 2, 2007 7:39 PM CST

Dear Melissa, I have been thinking about you today and I hope you are alright and getting excited about Sunday. I am looking forward to seeing Donovan's sweet little face, so hold that poster up high. I hope you will feel up to telling us all about it when you return. We love you and your family and always will.
Hara Dwyer <bckbskc@aol.com>
Barre, VT United States - Friday, February 2, 2007 7:14 PM CST

I agree with Tara from AL, and Laken's Mama -- SUNDAY IS DONOVAN DAY !!!

Peace to you, Melissa, Darren, and Dylan the dilly bar.
Carol
- Friday, February 2, 2007 6:56 PM CST

Go Colts!!!!!!!!!! You know I'm rooting for them just for Baby D. I bet he'll have the best seat in the house right on Jesus' lap.

I hope you all have a wonderful time at the Superbowl. You all deserve some happiness. You know you have to make a giant sign so we can all watch for you.

Hugs and prayers!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Lois (Friends of Heroes, formerly Friends of Allie)
NJq - Friday, February 2, 2007 6:23 PM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan and ^Donovan^~

Thinking of your perfect angel, and lifting your
family in prayer. Asking God to continue to give
you that amazing strength, and comfort.

Only 2 more days, WOOHOO! I am so very happy for
you and hope we all get a glimpse of baby Donny's
poster, and his beautiful, loving mommy at the
game. Even if we don't see you, we will know you
are there, and know Donovan will be so close!

GO COLTS GO!! DO IT FOR DONOVAN!!

We love you, travel safely, have fun, it is only
ONE day and ONE game, but I know how special it is
for you, and how much it means to you, and it puts
tears of happiness in my eyes. This will be a day
you, and so many of us will never forget!!

SUPERBOWL 41~ DONOVAN DAY!!

Love & Prayers~ Claire Roy ^i^ Laken's mommy

www.caringbridge.com/visit/lakenroy

Claire Roy <caffemocha29@aol.com>
Kernersville, NC US - Friday, February 2, 2007 6:21 PM CST

Dear Melissa and family,

I am so happy that you have the opportunity to go to the Superbowl. I will be watching for you and your precious Donovan. I hope you can enjoy and escape reality for an afternoon. You certainly deserve it.
Lisa Jenkinson <lisajenkinson@yahoo.com>
Lorton, VA USA - Friday, February 2, 2007 5:18 PM CST

Praying for you and your family today...and everyday.
I have no doubt your little man loved football. I have an almost six year old that fell in love with NASCAR at eight months old! It happens
L Chase
- Friday, February 2, 2007 4:59 PM CST

Sorry you have to be caught in this it just strikes me as amazing how people can judge but not sign their name are they proud I have a friend that lost a daughter yes grieving is hard but it can suck you in an not let you out I pray that your friends and family keep you busy I have a 2 year old grandson and he can fell when you are sad and yes even at 2 they are more compassinate than a 30 yr. old I will be watching the superbowl and cheering for the colts to bring joy to a hurt family I wish Manning could shake your hand on TV during half time and those neg. people can swim in their self pitty because that's what it is I feel sorry for them I post my name GO COLTS GO DONNY GO MELISSA Sorry I may have stuped to their level
Kathy Ulmer <bkulmer@charter.net>
MO - Friday, February 2, 2007 4:23 PM CST

A quote for one of my favorites, Dr. Seuss:
"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those that matter don't mind."
Becki Solberg <bslbg@hotmail.com>
Mitchell, SD USA - Friday, February 2, 2007 4:06 PM CST

To help Mr. Asher with his translation, it is "Go Colts" not "Go Cults". At least Heather, Adam, and I hope not! We would much rather Asher grow up to maybe be a Lutheran Pastor, garbage man, police officer, or even Mcdonald's hamburger flipper, not some cult leader. But whatever he chooses, we'll love him just the same! :)
Just wanted to stop in again today to let you know you are in my prayers. I was just sitting here watching the slideshow for the hundredth time, remembering all of your great stories of Donovan, Dylan, and the family. Praying you have a safe and wonderful trip this weekend. May God bless you all as you continue on this journey.
Laura Lynn and my two little miracle nephews, Asher and ^Jacob^: www.caringbridge.org/visit/asherandjacob <laurainsem@yahoo.com>
Hollidaysburg, Pa - Friday, February 2, 2007 3:45 PM CST

GO COLTS!!!!!!!!!!!! GO COLTS!!!!!!!!!GO COLTS!!!!!!!!!GO COLTS!!!!!!!!! ^^^^^ANGEL BABY DONOVAN^^^^^^^^ WILL BE EVERYWHERE SUNDAY. PRAYING FOR ALL OF YOU GUYS.
Tracy Walls
Cleveland, Ms - Friday, February 2, 2007 3:24 PM CST

Strange, rare moment when our wireless is actually working! How nice to be able to get onto Donovan's guestbook again. Melissa, in honor of Donovan, I'm glad that you are going to the Superbowl. Surely no one has earned a their ticket more than you & Donovan, who will surely be there trying out his new wings and keeping an eye on his precious Mommy. We will keep an eye out for you and Donovan's picture. I will miss your updates and news of Donovan. I hope that you, Darren, and Dylan are holding one another close now, Donovan would want that. Donovan will forever be missed and remembered by our family. Hope that you will look us up sometime if you are passing through southern Indiana. I know that it won't change anything or make Donovan come back (and that there are many others that you have been closer too), but I feel like I need to give you a hug. Sounds silly I know, I can't even explain it, but as Laken's Mommy . . . In memory of Baby D, love and prayers . . .
Cammy, Jeremy, Nigel, & Laken Parsons <parsons@fullnet.com or caringbridge.org/visit/lakenparsons>
Huntingburg, IN USA - Friday, February 2, 2007 2:58 PM CST

Warmest of thoughts and prayers to your family - may you find peace.
Jennifer <joeandjennifer@peoplepc.com>
Livonia, MI - Friday, February 2, 2007 2:39 PM CST

I will be at the superbowl also I amsure that even though I never met Donavan I willfeel him there, of course when the colts win we will all know he was there! I will be looking for your sign of Donavan!! I hope that you enjoy yourself the best you can. God Bless your family! GO COLTS!!!!
nicole <mom4u3@msn.com>
wi - Friday, February 2, 2007 2:17 PM CST

Melissa,
I'll be sad to see you go, but I can understand why. You started this site to update your family and friends about Donovan. I'm sure you didn't expect so many strangers to find it. I can see why you need to leave this "chapter" behind and move on.
I'm glad that I was able to find this site and follow it from the very beginning. I've come to love Donnie and will miss hearing about him. Thank you for not making this a password protected site and for sharing your son and the rest of your family and your emotions with all of us.
Have a great time at the SuperBowl. I'll watch for your sign and will cheer like crazy when the Colts win.
I wish you and your family all the love and support that you need to get through this. Give Dylan lots of hugs for me. I hope that you and Darren are able to make it through this. The three of you (and the rest of your family) really need each other's support.
Even though you won't be posting anymore I will continue to think of your family and especially your sweet Baby D. I'll keep you in my prayers.
Take care and have a safe trip to Miami. Have fun!
Love you guys!
Jenn Huston <jennifer.k.huston@citigroup.com>
South Bend, IN - Friday, February 2, 2007 1:33 PM CST

Have a great time at the Superbowl. Thinking of you and praying for all of you. God Bless.
Sherry Nitschke
Jud, ND - Friday, February 2, 2007 1:15 PM CST

Hello Melissa and Family,
Just wishing you an exciting trip to Miami, Melissa. Living right here in Indy, I can tell you I have been out and about today, having lunch and such, and man o'man people are going COLTS CRAZY!!! It is soooo exciting to see all the BLUE! You would love it Melissa! I had to go to my sons high school today too and ALL the kids were wearing their COLTS gear. So Indy is ready.... Go have a great time, we will be hosting a COLTS party here at our home and can't wait to see them kick some BOOTY!!! I will, along with many others, be scanning the crowd looking for BABY D's picture and if I see it you will hear me cheer all the way from AVON, INDIANA lol
Be safe and enjoy!!!
Hugs and prayers to you, Darren and Dilly Bar :0)

Lori Scott
Lori <lascott32@aol.com>
Avon, In - Friday, February 2, 2007 12:03 AM CST

Fully relying on God to help your family in the days, weeks, and years to come as you keep on smiling for that precious little boy and as you continue to grow your faith in God and rely on him to help you raise that other little precious boy. Will be looking for signs of Donovan on TV Sunday. God bless you and your family in all that you do in the future. Thanks so much for sharing your precious Donovan with so many people and for sharing your faith in God, your love and committment to your entire family with so many people -- many you may know and many that you may never know personally. You have touched so many people through your experience and through your committment to keeping this site updated. God bless you and your family as you take the next step toward healing and helping one another.
Catherine DeZemplen <cdezemplen@memphisgrp.com>
Cordova, TN USA - Friday, February 2, 2007 11:49 AM CST

God loves you and so do many, many people who visit this site. You are a devoted mom and love your children. We are not here to judge you but to give you comfort and support. God Bless you and keep you in his care.

Sandy
- Friday, February 2, 2007 11:46 AM CST

^Donovan^, Enjoy your trip to the SuperBowl!!! Go Colts!
CS
MA - Friday, February 2, 2007 11:34 AM CST

Melissa, check out today's copy of USA Today. There is a huge ad on the back of the superbowl section with the coaches of both teams talking about their love for Jesus Christ. AWESOME!!!! I've never been a football fan or a superbowl watcher but we'll be watching on Sunday, cruising the stands for Donovan and his mommy. :) HAVE FUN!!!! YOU DESERVE IT! :)

If you don't have time to get the newspaper, I'll save the ad for you and I can mail it to you. It's great.
Corrie van Kampen <corrie@thevankampens.com>
Rocky River, OH usa - Friday, February 2, 2007 10:58 AM CST

Superbowl is getting closer!!! I can't wait, i hope to see the poster. I will be thinking about Baby D the whole time. As now I to am a Colts fan. Melissa I hope you have a wonderful time. I know it will be hard but know Donovan is looking down at you and smiling and cheering for his team. GO COLTS !!!!
Abby Angel ^Tanners^ mommy www.caringbridge.org/visit/tannersharon <brandonabby@hotmail.com>
stokesdale, nc - Friday, February 2, 2007 10:32 AM CST

Good Morning Melissa and Family,
It's Friday and I was just thinking of You(Melissa) and wishing you the most AWESOME time ever this weekend at the SuperBowl. I will be looking for the BIG sign for Baby D! Please know that GOD LOVES YOU VERY MUCH and he will keep continuing to comfort YOU!I thought of these two Bible Verses that might help you on Contentment:John 14:27:Peace I leave with you, my peace I give to you; not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.Also Psalm 46:10:Be still, and know that I am GOD...Melissa I think of YOU daily and read and check this site several times a day-YOUR journey with Baby D has forever left a spot in my heart-YOU will always inspire ME-Keep your chin high always! Praying for YOU daily.
Bridgette
Bridgette Justus <justruckservice@bellsouth.net>
Dana, NC USA - Friday, February 2, 2007 10:28 AM CST

Girly Myspace Layouts

Stephanie
- Friday, February 2, 2007 10:27 AM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan~

Thinking of ^Donovan^ and praying for all
of you this morning. Holding your family
close to my heart. As I see all the news
footage in Miami, getting ready for the
SUPERBOWL, I think of baby Donovan more,
as well as all of you. I pray that GOD
continues to bless each and every one of
you. Your strength is nothing short of
amazing. So many of us have fallen in love
with your family.

Lifting all of you in PRAYER!

Love~ Claire (Mommy to angel Laken)

GO COLTS!! I'll be cheering for you on
"Baby Donovan Day"!!!
Claire Roy <caffemocha29@aol.com>
Kernersville, NC US - Friday, February 2, 2007 10:11 AM CST

Melissa, Darren & Dylan: I just wanted to sign in and let you know that I am thinking of you and praying for each one of you. I'm not going to feed into the negative so I am just going to say that I am one of the MANY that love and care for you all even though I have never "met" you face to face.

Like so many of the others here that love your family, I too will miss the WONDERFUL entries you post and keeping up with you all as you embarq on this new chapter in your life that you have been forced to begin HOWEVER, if closing this site is what is necessary for you to begin your healing then I SUPPORT you 100%.

I pray you do have a WONDERFUL time at the Super Bowl as I know that you will be celebrating it with your Baby D. Not in the way that had been your dream of him surviving his horrible illness and you celebrating that by going with him to the Super Bowl, but in the way that is your reality now, you are still going to celebrate with him and his COMPLETE HEAVENLY HEALING and instead of him sitting in the seat beside you or on your lap he will be one with you and in your heart! So, be safe on your journey to Miami and then back home and remember to enjoy & absorb each moment as much as you can. I agree with another person who posted that we should make it "CELEBRATE DONOVAN'S LIFE" day!

Please remember that you will ALWAYS be in my thoughts and prayers regardless of whether you choose to keep this site up and running or not and that is BECAUSE OF YOUR AMAZING ENTRIES, YOUR HEARTFELT WORDS that allowed SO MANY OF US to BECOME a part of YOUR FAMILY & ALLOWED US TO ALL KNOW THE AMAZING LITTLE ANGEL THAT BABY D WAS, IS AND WILL ALWAYS CONTINUE TO BE!

Much love & support from Whiteland, IN
Beth <softballmom023@yahoo.com>
Whiteland, IN - Friday, February 2, 2007 10:10 AM CST

Melissa, two rotten apples do not spoil the whole basket !
Look at the people who love you and your family and ignore the others. They are not the first people to not know both sides of a situation and they are the losers. Nothing can be more difficult than losing a child and God knows, whatever it takes, do it, and it is certainly not the same for each person. You do what you need to do and God bless you and your family.
I hope that you will reconsider those who are in need of you keeping in touch, as they are not ready to let go yet and they did support you. Don't sign off because of two sour apples, only sign off when you are ready.
Sandy Diercks <adiercks@aol.com>
Atlanta, GA USA - Friday, February 2, 2007 9:30 AM CST

Asher and Heather here saying "hi". Hope you have a great time this weekend!
All of us here in OK love you guys!!!
Praying for you,
Heather, Adam, and Asher Misner.
Here's a message from Asher. He's on my lap and he wants to say something:
bcvv n m m,..gbcvgbhbj (Translation: Go Cults!!!!)

Heather and Asher Misner <mitchellham@yahoo.com>
Midwest City, OK 73130 - Friday, February 2, 2007 9:29 AM CST

God Bless you all. Enjoy the game and yes, GO COLTS! I'm originally from Baltimore - and Irsay is still abhored - but the team earned this and however they got there ane wherever they live - GO COLTS!!~!

Cindy and Leah have expressed my feelings well. God Bless you each one. And don't stop posting - we'll be here for you still.
Leslie
Atlanta, GA - Friday, February 2, 2007 9:17 AM CST

I THINK WE SHOULD CONSIDER SUNDAY "DONOVAN DAY". We all know he is going to be watching the Super Bowl, after all he will have the best seat in the house.(helping Peyton) GO COLTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Melissa, my thoughts and prayers are with you, GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.
Tara
Pinson, AL USA - Friday, February 2, 2007 9:11 AM CST

I've followed your family for a while now, have signed only a handful of times. I think it's shameful that people are being so hateful and hurtful. Personally I can't think of a more awesome trip to make and more memorable way to be with your angel! I will be watching for your sign and praying you feel your baby close to you all the time! May God grant you strength and peace. May God protect you from all evil. Go Colts! Win for Baby D!

Have fun!
hugs and blessings
Vicky <hoosiermomma2@msn.com>
Poland, IN - Friday, February 2, 2007 9:03 AM CST

LOVE AND HUGS TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. JUST WANTED TO LET YOU KNOW I AM THINKING ABOUT YOU AND PRAYING FOR YOU THIS MORNING. I AM SO PROUD OF YOU MELISSA. YOU ARE AN AMAZING WOMAN! <>< <>< <>< <>< <>< <>< <><
Joshua 1:9
BETH LYNN <EMMALIZ0316@YAHOO.COM>
WILLOW SPRING, NC USA - Friday, February 2, 2007 8:51 AM CST

Dear Rasmussen Family,
I am where you are. I lost my own daughter 5 months ago. I understand some of the feelings of grief you may be going through. Although Sophia didn't have cancer, she did have an undiagnosed neuro-muscular disease. We were in the hospital for many months on end and searched for a diagnosis for 4 years. Only to come up empty handed. Unknown to the medical field, the disease affected her heart and her heart stopped unexpectedly on Sept. 18th. My point being is this: long hospital stays that divide a family are difficult. Medically involved children who require more attention than the other child/children in the family is difficult. When a mother focuses on the sick child for as long as Melissa (and myself) have, when that child dies there is a HUGE void in our lives. I'm sure at this point in time, Melissa doesn't even know what to do with herself. She hasn't had time to think about herself in YEARS! While she may need to put her "family first", she needs to wrap her head around what has happened. I'm sure she's operating in a state of shock and numbness. Maybe going to the game is a good idea, maybe to some people it is not. But right now, Melissa probably doesn't know what is right or wrong, I would guess that all she knows is her baby is dead. It's been 5 months for me and that is still all I know for certain. I also, like Melissa, have another child. She also suffered taking a backseat to her sick sister. I didn't ask for our family life to be as such, but you make the best you can with the hand you're delt. I hope to eventually pick up the pieces and have a "normal" life again, but I also know that for the rest of my life I will grieve the loss of my Sophia.
Melissa, please know that I hold Baby D's soul up in prayer every night. I also pray for peace, comfort and strength for your family. The journey will get much more difficult before it gets better. That's how it seems to work. But trust in the Lord God and know that all that happens is according to His will.
Be Well and Be Blessed,
Nichole
www.caringbridge.org/visit/sophiaekstrom
Nichole Heidl-Ekstrom <nicholehe@yahoo.com>
Eagle Lake, MN usa - Friday, February 2, 2007 8:48 AM CST

Melissa,
Thinking about you and your family today and praying for you all!!!
PLease know how many of us that only know you throught his site care. Your little boy was so special. Your heartfelt entries brought me to tears many times as I wished the pain away. I can't imagine what you are going through.
Know that you are the only one that knows how you need to grieve. It is shameful that people are judging you. I am praying that whatever makes them lash out at a stranger they will someday make peace with.
Have a blast at the Superbowl!!!! I will be watching for a Donnie poster! Oh yeah and please don't stop posting!!!! If you must we understand but there are so many who care!!!!
Jennifer
Jennifer Sundt <maddyajx@msn.com>
Elk River, MN - Friday, February 2, 2007 8:36 AM CST

Melissa & Family ~ Just wanted to drop a line to let you know I was thinking of you. Have a great time at the Super Bowl. I will be scanning the tv looking for your sign. Go Colts!!

Julie Dell www.caringbridge.org/visit/hayden <dell991@comcast.net>
Hanover, Pa - Friday, February 2, 2007 8:23 AM CST

I am not a friend of Melissa's - I don't know the family at all, only what I've read on this website. I do know that I'm not going to judge anyone for any reason. If going to a football game is not how you would remember your child that's ok, but why be nasty and judgmental to someone else who makes this choice? I hope none of you ever have to make the decision as to how you would spend the days, weeks, months and years after losing a child - but if it were to happen I certainly hope you wouldn't be judged for whatever you do to get through your grief. Melissa has many days of grief to get through, whether the Colts win or not and if she can find one hour of happiness away from that grief why deny her that opportunity? It's easy to sit back when you aren't faced with losing a child and say this is what I would or would not do, the reality is no one knows how they would handle such a devastating event until it happens to you. Melissa has devoted herself 24/7 to taking care of two little boys, one with cancer and one dealing with the effects, moved away from family and friends to a place where she knew no one, all for the one possibility of saving his life. Can any of you imagine what this was like? I sure can't and don't ever want to. I hope all the people who are writing negative comments think about what this family has been through since Donovan was an infant and pray for them, support them and wish them the best.
Cindy <deb8able@aol.com>
VA - Friday, February 2, 2007 8:15 AM CST

Melissa and family - Thinking of you, and praying for you this morning.

And I agree with Leah's post 100%.
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Friday, February 2, 2007 8:12 AM CST

Just wanted to let you know that I continue to think about you.

I can't remember how long I've been checking on Donovan, but it's been quite a while. I had a friend whose son had a caringbridge site, and through checking on him I came across Asher and ^Jacob's^ site. As you know, Heather and Laura, from that site, do an excellent job at keeping us all up to date on precious children like Donovan, and of course many many others. During the past few months, I have checked up on Donovan and others daily, and unfortunately, many of these beautiful children have lost their earthly battle with cancer. And even though the child goes on to heaven, I still check on the sites to see how the parents and the family members left behind are coping.

I have not personally had to deal with the trials and tribulations of cancer. But from checking on many cancer children through caringbridge, I can see the battle with cancer is often times long and hard. A lot of the parents who lose their children will up and go on a family vacation, one woman went on a cruise. . . The journals become about how the family members left behind are coping. After all, once the child has become an angel, the focus shifts, as it needs to.

Melissa, I commend you for being able to ask for help. Cancer is not something any of us are ever ready for, and it's something that no one needs to go through alone. I think it's brave that you continue to ask for help, and I think it's commendable that you are trying to move on with life in the best way you know how.

You have struggled for 2 long years, with daily doctor appointments, time in the hospital, long chemo treatments, seeing your son poked and prodded. You deserve to heal Melissa. The fight must be exhausting, and now more than ever, you deserve to finally take care of yourself.

Peace be with you always.

I've said this once, and I will say it again. EVERYONE - QUIT ADDRESSING THE NEGATIVITY. I FEEL LIKE PEOPLE JUST GO THROUGH THE GUESTBOOK AND LOOK FOR THOSE NEGATIVE COMMENTS, AND AREN'T EVEN READING THE UPLIFTING ONES. INSTEAD OF USING THIS GUESTBOOK TO FIGHT BACK AND FORTH WITH PEOPLE WHO NEED PRAYERS MORE THAN MOST, LETS USE THIS GUESTBOOK TO OFFER ENCOURAGING WORDS TO MELISSA AND THE FAMILY, AND FOR NO OTHER REASON!!! IGNORE THE NEGATIVITY. LETS BE THE UPLIFTING PEOPLE THAT WE NEED TO BE!!!!!!!
Leah
Minneapolis, MN USA - Friday, February 2, 2007 7:50 AM CST

The Rasmussen Family: Let me begin by saying how sorry I am for the loss of your son. What a great warrior he was. Do not listen to the people who write negative comments in the guestbook. They do not know the struggles that your family has endured. Believe in your faith and the love that all of Donovan's supporters have for you and your family.

Your son was a fighter and I hope that I can fight as well as he did if the situation ever comes forth.

I will be looking for sweet Donovan's face in the crowd and hope that it brings more awareness to helping these kids in their fight against cancer. Someone has to help them and I believe that you are beginning this awareness.

Go Colts even though I'm a Cowboys Fam

lauren
union, nj usa - Friday, February 2, 2007 7:29 AM CST

Dearest Melissa and Darren,
My deepest condolences for the loss of your precious baby boy. I cannot even imagine the pain of losing a child, so the words are hard to come by at the moment. I am so sorry that I did not find out sooner, or I would have figured out a way to attend the showing and mass you had for him. I'm sure it was beautiful. I will never forget the first time I met you in the hallway at Riley. You had Donovan in a little front carrier-it was in the summer of 2005. I don't remember what we talked about, but I just remember thinking what a fighter he was. And it's obvious where he got that spirit from! :)

Have a wonderful time at the game and never mind the people who don't really know you or who haven't lost a child and have the nerve to be negative. I didn't know you all that well, but from what I did know, you loved your little boy more than life itself and you deserve a break from everything. Please feel free to email or call me ANYTIME if you ever need anything. (317)828-8498 Take care of yourselves and cling tight to each other.
~Love from your Riley friends~Naomi, Gavin and Hannah

I SAW THIS IMAGE AND IT JUST MADE ME IMAGINE DONOVAN IN HIS PERFECT NEW BODY UP IN HEAVEN SITTING WITH JESUS AND LOOKING AT BUTTERFLIES.

Christian Glitter by www.christianglitter.com

Naomi <hopelovegrace@gmail.com>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Friday, February 2, 2007 7:14 AM CST

PEACE!
Karen <Anchormom@comcast.net>
- Friday, February 2, 2007 7:10 AM CST

Thinking of you little Donovan.....
Love, hugs and prayers
Karen Small <karensmall@charter.net>
Saint Charles, MO USA - Friday, February 2, 2007 7:10 AM CST

I think it is time that all of us put the situation to rest and let Melissa and her family go on with their lives in their own way.
Elinor Schwartz <eschwar1@tampabay.rr.com>
Lithia, FL - Friday, February 2, 2007 6:55 AM CST

I am so sorry for your loss, but I am going to give you some advice that the family of angel Jake did when he passed away. Pray for the people DON'T feed INTO THE NEGATIVITY of these people that don't sign! Melissa continue to share your journey if you feel and if not I'm sure everyone will understand..........
Dottie Williams
Davie, FL USA - Friday, February 2, 2007 6:44 AM CST

Melissa, Darren and Dylan, I'm praying for all of you and that you guys do whatever you feel is necessary to get through this hard time and come to terms with where your lives are now. Remember God has a plan you just need to be still and listen to what that plan is and roll with it. Thank you for sharing your family's up's and downs with us. I think of you often and pray for you often.
For the first I will be REALLY watching the game as I already know though that the Colts are going to win because Baby D will be there.
Ashley Zarembka <swimfly684@comcast.net>
South Bend, IN - Friday, February 2, 2007 6:35 AM CST

It sounds as if the world was blessed to have Donovan for the time he was here. I don't usually watch the Superbowl, but I will be cheering for the Colts for Donovan and your family.
Dee Wright (Christopher Melkonian's Aunt)
Kent, CT - Friday, February 2, 2007 6:23 AM CST

I have been following Baby Donovan for awhile and I pray that your family will find comfort and healing soon. I can't imagine losing a child and I have no idea how I would handle it. I guess I just wanted to let you know, that you are still in my prayers.
Rita Lystad <ritalystad@hotmail.com>
Granville, ND USA - Friday, February 2, 2007 5:43 AM CST

praying for you Darren and Dylan. go away mean people. I have never met you except through this site, but my heart breaks for you just the same. Enjoy the Superbowl.
Traci <britcandance@hotmail.com>
Bolivar, MO - Friday, February 2, 2007 1:21 AM CST

I know...adding fuel to the fire. But I just can't help but state the fact that I am not one of Melissa's friends. I have never MET this family. Most people who have signed in have never met this family. And probably a bunch of us WERE contacted, also, about giving at Christmas. I didn't give, I CHOSE not to give that way BUT I did GIVE money to several organizations who research for cures to cancer in the names of all my Caringbridge buddies. I CHOSE to honor these families that way...just as a very, very few (if not one...come on...how do we KNOW it's more than one person when you're to ashamed to give us your email address and real name/city????) of you CHOOSE to spit hate and ugliness instead of love and compassion. I PRAY for your children, really, if this is the type of compassion you have when you disagree with them. As for this site being all about Melissa, even if I felt that was true (which I don't at all) you know...for the whole time Donovan was fighting this beast, Melissa was his 24 hour a day caregiver and SHE was the one who took care of this sweet baby day in and day out and saw this little body being racked more and more with pain. If she did (WHICH SHE DIDN'T) go on about herself more than you felt necessary, perhaps it was the only time that she had to THINK about herself that day. The lack of compassion here is just incredible. Truly, truly incredible. Proverbs 11:17 says "A kind man benefits himself, but a cruel man brings trouble on himself." You are bringing yourself trouble and I pity you.

Melissa, look at the support you have here. Please consider going to the sign in procedure and delete these nasty comments-or better yet, have a friend whom you trust do the scanning of the site and give them permission (and the necessary info) to delete the posts so you don't even have to read them. I pray you will allow us the JOY of being able to pray for your family! (and I am willing to do the scanning and deleting if you need me to-no nasty comments would EVER make it in the book-or make it very long!)
Patricia <rrfpaf@hotmail.com>
Garden City, GA - Friday, February 2, 2007 1:13 AM CST

To ^Angel Donovan^ & family~
I am so sorry for the horrible way that uncaring people are treating you, but if you actually read most of the entries from the past 2-3 days, you will find more people who support you than those who don't-they are cowards. They say that they have walked in your shoes,but I don't think so or they would have more dignity than to say the things they did. I am SO looking forward to Sunday & the SuperBowl all because of your family's love of the game and especially Baby D!!!! Enjoy the game in Angel Donovan"s memory~your Angel will be with you!! Hugs to comfort you from Adi's Grandma Liz
www.caringbridge.org/visit/adi
Liz Penner <lizzip52@yahoo.com>
Simi Valley, CA - Friday, February 2, 2007 1:06 AM CST

Melissa, I've never signed before, but have followed your journey for quite some time. I interned at Riley, when you were there, and met your sweet family for only an instant. I think you're a great mother and an inspiration to many. You fought the good fight with all your heart, and let the whole world walk beside you. I thank you for giving us that gift.
Anonymous
Chicago, IL United States - Friday, February 2, 2007 0:30 AM CST

Joining so many in surrounding Melissa and family with loving thoughts, lots of prayers, and thinking of Donovan and how the Colts were a big part of their family time and how much that means to them!
Dawn
- Friday, February 2, 2007 0:23 AM CST

Let us all remember "Judge not, and ye shall not be judged." Luke 6:37. We all have to give account someday for everything we say and do. Let us remember why we should be coming to this site. We come to support you Melissa and all of your family.
I'm thinking and praying for all of you as you are going through this very difficult time that I can't even begin to imagine. Even though we have never met, know that I care for all of you and love you. Have a wonderful time at the superbowl, I'll be looking for you. God Bless.
Sherry Nitschke
Jud, ND - Friday, February 2, 2007 0:16 AM CST

Thinking of you all.....so many are walking the journey with you....

Amy
Thousand Oaks, CA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 11:43 PM CST

Keeping you close in thought, and surrounded in prayer..........
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 10:59 PM CST

Prayers from CA!
XXOO, Marey, Ali's mom
Marey ALL-KIDS <kteachermom@hotmail.com>
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 10:55 PM CST

I am definitely not one for confrontations but I have to say that each family handles things diferently as well as each individual in the family. Some people are more "self motivators" and others really need input and encouragment from others. Cancer is something that nobody plans on and when it hits, it hits hard. Especially for a child. I know this as I live through this. We all want the best for our kids, the ones diagnosed as well as the siblings involved. We also all have our own way of coping with the loss of a child. I haven't lost one but I have one that is in the fight and I can't imagine my 24/7 job of taking care of her taken away. As far as the SuperBowl, I think it is a great opportunity no matter how it came about. The Colts are Donovan to me. For right now, that is just the way it is. If I hadn't been a COLTS fan, I would now but I already was. The fact of this website is to remember Donovan, focus on Donovan but also remember a grieving family and an older brother that shouldn't nave to be in the middle of any fuss at this time. I am reminded of a story... "You are looking out your front window, watching your child play. The child is playing fine but moving closer and closer to the busy street. You try to warn them but you are blocked. No way out to go get them. You plead with them but they can't hear you. Cars are driving pretty close to them and each car gets closer, yet the child remains playing with no fear and oblivious to what is going on around them, much less inside the house where the parent is just beside themself with worry and anxiety." The story doesn't end there but I am going to end it there. Nobody can really judge someone in this situation until they have lived it. I think Donovan's Mom wanting to go to the Superbowl is not selfishly but wanting to be closer to her son. As a mom of a young child battling leukemia AML, I can see it that way. I may be wrong but I don't want to judge. It is always my choice to visit each site I visit, my choice to help either through prayers, donation or however. None of us pick our life, our careers or in many cases our families but we do chose our Purpose in life. I think Donovan's purpose was met in touching many many lives. I keep up with a lot of children. I am not easily pursuaded but my prayers are always with the patient and their family. If I feel things are being done with the worng motive, then I pray that the right motive be found. If I don't agree with something that I figure will cause me to be negative I decide to not visit the site. Donovan was a brave fighter and he will mean so much to me forever. Parents do what they feel necessary to cope and help. I could go on and on but my point is really not to judge but to pray. A guestbook entry can be deleted. A website can be deleted but Donovan's life and his courage to fight can never be belittled or forgotten. His parents love and staying by his side is admirable. Many kids are left alone at the hospital. Dropped off for treatments and picked up when they are done. This happens for many reasons as parents are blocked to their job for insurance reasons, can't handle the emotional stress or just have other family issues. I have chosen not to judge but to pray for each family, their needs, their feelings and their way of facing the battle. Everyone is different, very different but this page is Donovan's page, always will be and I think he should always be remembered as a brave fighter against his disease. If that is all you take from this site, then hold onto that and keep him in your heart. No need to further check on the site. I have learned through this journey to respect others, where they come from and that all of our beliefs, decisions and needs are different. "Donovan, you will never be forgotten, always loved and we are going for the COLTS this game day!!!
Love, Tracy and
Katia (a.k.a. "The Ladybug")
Fighting leukemia AML with a vengence!
Sharing Hope on the Wings of a Ladybug

Tracy and Katia <tmsol87@aol.com>
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 10:52 PM CST

Sending you my love and best wishes. Safe journey and sweet thoughts to go with you. Always thinking of your sweet little teddybear Donovan! And all the best to all of your family also. You are all on this journey together, no matter that some hours are spent apart -- that's what makes you a family !
Carol <cajeag@msn.com>
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 10:38 PM CST

To the person who questions the fact that Melissa's friends and family aren't defending her - you have no idea what is going on in their family. I spent 4 days with Melissa and her wonderful, huge extended family last week as we all said goodbye to Donny. You frankly have no clue what this family is dealing with. They all handled themselves with more grace and dignity that I have seen at such a service. Until you've walked in their shoes, keep your opinions to yourself. This site is here to support and encourage this family. Let's get it back to its original purpose, folks.
Jenny Deputy
Indianapolis, IN - Thursday, February 1, 2007 10:28 PM CST

I have been following this story for several months and the way some people act will never shock me. Remember life still has to go ON no matter what.Every person who looses a loved one grieve different, there is not a good way or wrong way to grieve and it all comes in time.
Donnys parents enjoy the game. God has special plans for you and your family so do anything and everything you feel that you need to do for yourself and your family.
I will continue to keep your family in my prayers
kPhillips
Irwin, Ga - Thursday, February 1, 2007 10:26 PM CST

God doesn't tell us how to grieve or how long to grieve. We do what is right for us. Don't worry about how someone else is coping with a tragic situation. Let that person take care of it in their own way. Don't put your personal preferences in another person's life. We all need to make our own decisions that we feel comfortable with. MELISSA - Do what your heart tells you. Don't pay any attention to the wicked witches of the west that are out there. I don't like football but I will watch the game just to look for a "DONOVAN" sign some where in the stands. Go, have a good time and don't let the wicked witches get you down!
Becki Solberg <bslbg@hotmail.com>
Mitchell, SD USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 10:26 PM CST

Melissa,
I think your words are very powerful. I like the way you expressed the fact that you have renewed your faith in people because of this site. I also like the way you said you will become the supporter after you heal...that's what it is all about..that is what I've tried to be..I feel that the least I can do is try to support people especially since my daughter had a successful outcome. I know Donny would not want you to sit home and be sad. He will be at that game right there with you..Remember..go, Donny, go!
Linda Tienda <j.tienda@worldnet.att.net>
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 9:40 PM CST

Have been following the site due to a friend who has a site that led me to Donovan's.. but I like several others have never signed the guestbook but come home from work to check on my friend and a few others (like Donovan)that I keep tabs on even though I do not know them all personally. I would normally watch or sort of anyway watch the Superbowl because the rest of the house is.. but this year I will be watching and rooting for the COLTS for Donovan.. I hope you will continue the site and I wish your family well in the future..
Linda Kaster <Lsmryk@web-ster.com>
Canby, OR USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 9:40 PM CST

Enjoy that Superbowl!..You Go Girl!!!!
If your up to it...let me know where your seats are and I will come give you a great big hug!
Lots of Love to you!
amy Schwartz <amy415s@aol.com>
pembroke pines, fl usa - Thursday, February 1, 2007 9:39 PM CST

I have been following Donovan's journey for the last 5 or 6 months and have left messages several times. It has been heartbreaking to read Melissa's updates since Donovan relapsed. I could only imagine the pain and total devastation she and her family felt knowing they would most likely be losing their precious baby much sooner than they ever expected. Along with the horrific feelings they felt they also had to do the second hardest thing imaginable, that is, to tell their other precious child that his beloved baby brother was going to die. My belief, based on Melissa's updates and Grammie's stories is that nobody could have handled the situation with more love and thought for Dylan's feelings than this incredible family. I never felt that this site was "all about Melissa". It was about a family going through hell and Melissa drew on whatever strength she could manage to keep all of us informed as to what was happening from day to day, long, long days, as a matter of fact. How many of us have checked this site at all hours of the night and sure enough, late as they might have been, there were updates. Melissa always put a positive paragraph in her updates no matter how bleak they sounded. I am talking about a young couple with 2 very young children who never had a chance to do the normal things with both of their children that most of us take for granted, such as going to the zoo, entertainment parks or just riding bikes with them. They have had to make major decisions about their lives right down to leaving their home, friends, family, jobs, and God only knows what else. This was all done without hesitation in the hope their baby would have a chance for a normal life. Whether Donovan knew what the Superbowl was or not is, immaterial. To him it was a game on television that he could enjoy with all of his family and see how happy they were and most important, he wanted to be a part of it. Melissa's dream was for her family to someday go to the Superbowl, just as my husband and I dreamed about taking our children and later our grandchildren to Disney Land. There is no need for anybody to defend Melissa's decision to go to the Superbowl. There should be no ifs, ands or buts. As long as she has the opportunity to go, even though her heart is broken, it is something that would be looked back on with regret if she didn't go. She is not deserting Darren or Dylan or anything else. We are talking about one day. Even though I have gone on for so long I do agree with the person who said everybody should ignore the person who is getting us all riled up. I believe it is one person and he/she is not a parent. No parent could be so cruel and unfeeling. No good parent anyway. Only a very bitter, twisted, pathetic replica of a human being would go out of their way to draw attention to their sick, perverted intrusion into somebody else's space. With all that said, I pray that you, Melissa will reconsider and please don't close this site. So many people love you and your family and will want to know how you are all doing. As for the game, I will record it so if I miss your poster I can replay it and scrutinize it until I see that sweet little face in the crowd. I just thought of one more thing that I almost forgot about. The person before me who was complaining about being asked to please help make Christmas better for Donovan's family could have made an entry to the guestbook and simply say "Merry Christmas", or go a little farther and send a card. Nobody was made to feel they were being asked for money. I have 3 grown children and 7 grandchildren and everyone of them told me not to spend any money on them, but to send it to Baby Donovan. Even the little ones wanted to send toys. How do you like that for an example of what this site is all about. So now, I have to say I feel a little better for not holding my feelings in and I hope I haven't added to Melissa's stress by venting in her space. My feelings are sincere and I love your family and pray that someday you will be able to smile and laugh and be happy. Your precious little angel left a big mark in his short time on this earth and won't ever be forgotten. Love from Vermont.
Hara Dwyer <bckbskc@aol.com>
Barre, VT United States - Thursday, February 1, 2007 9:32 PM CST

Melissa--- Please do not close this site!!! I am from Mo and i am ashamed that someone so nasty would even think this! I am a Chiefs fan but guess what COLTS ALL THE WAY!!! I tell everyone that i want the colts to win and then i tell them Donnies story, dont listen to them please and remember that i will be watching the Superbowl Sun and looking for that big sign Donnie will be looking down from Heaven with that huge smile! Remember that i am always here for you girlie
misty thacker <armywifeandmomx3@aol.com>
fort hood , tx usa - Thursday, February 1, 2007 9:25 PM CST

Melissa, Darren and Dylan,

Thought of you, and wanted to share this poem with you as you remember Donovan.

Angel in Waiting

Today another tear fell for you,
another memory came to mind.
A piece of my heart is still missing,
from the day you left mankind.

The answers to our questions is silence,
only the Lord himself knows why.
But yet through His grace and mercy,
we never have to say good-bye.

I'll see you again one glorious day,
when sorrow and pain won't matter.
We'll walk hand in hand down the streets of glory,
as you fill me in on the heavenly chatter.

You've met a lot of new faces up there,
each one with a story to tell.
But none more magnificent,
then the one whose death keeps us from hell.

So now you and Jesus can shine down a light,
to watch and guide over me.
As I wait here paitently for my time,
my angel you'll always be.

AUTHOR UNKNOWN

Love~ Claire (angel Laken's mommy)

Claire
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 8:56 PM CST

To baby D's family, I have checked in on your site many times and have never signed the guestbook. I had to tonite to say that a few people are trying to ruin it for those of us who have come to care so much for your family. I hope you are able to have a very enjoyable time at the super bowl, you deserve it!!!!!!!!!
Diane <dmc1025@iowatelecom.net>
Bellevue, IA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 8:45 PM CST

God Bless You Melissa and family. Be strong, and seek each new day with love and memories of Donovan. For those who choose to leave rude and CARE"less" entries..may God Bless you and help you to keep your comments from hurting others who use this wonderful Caring Bridge site- as a site of friendship, love, and support. When I look at the CARINGBRIDGE site and the words "BE THERE"... I can't imagine what those who choose to use the site for lashing out at parents of sick and dying children are thinking.??? The bridge needs support and love. As the "Love Can Build a Bridge " song phrases " You can do anything, anything, if you keep believing in the power" Stay Strong Melissa, you have love and support from so very many. Bobbi from Indiana
Bobbi Verostko <baverostko@aol.com>
Terre Haute, IN USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 8:18 PM CST

When I came here tonite it made me sick to my stomach to see how a few negative people have made Baby D's guestbook a battlefield.Whether they believe or not, we are here for one reason and that is to support this family with caring thoughts and prayers. We traveled Donovan's journey with him, we now support his grieving family.It's time they, The *negative* go on with their lifes and let us the Caring continue to be here for this family, and turn this site back into what it was meant to be, A Tribute To Baby D. ADIOS NEGATIVE'S
Karen <indianagal_2004@yahoo.com>
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 8:16 PM CST

Melissa, Dylan and Donovan~

One day closer to the BIG game day!!

I can just see baby Donovan with his jersey on
ready to cheer on the COLTS!!

Oh how happy that little angel will be to
look down at his mommy that he is OH SO
PROUD, and see how happy she is, doing
something she loves!! I am so very
excited for you. Everyone that asks me who
I am cheering for, I tell them the COLTS, then
I tell them why~ Baby ^D^ and his FAMILY!

Continuing to LIFT YOU UP in prayer!

Love~ Claire (Angel Laken's mommy)

Claire Roy <caffemocha29@aol.com>
Kernersville, NC US - Thursday, February 1, 2007 8:15 PM CST

I have followed your site for a while, but have never signed. I am absolutly in shock that someone would have the nerve to comment on how you are supposed to grieve. You know your son better than ANYBODY, and I think it is wonderful that you have the opportunity to go to the Superbowl. I hope you can just blow off the negative entry's and focus on all the entries that support you and your beautiful son. I am so sorry for your loss, ^Donovan^ was and is a beautiful little boy.
Laurie Wright <lwright@insightbb.com>
Louisville, KY USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 8:10 PM CST

Just wanted to let you know that you and your family are still in my thoughts and prayers. I am sickened by the way people comment on your son's website as if your family were the stars of a reality television show. My heart aches for all of you. To think that you gave up your job, moved your entire family away from home, sold your house, spent all of your money to provide Donovan with the best medical care, and spent the better part of two years by your son's side in the hospital only to have strangers judge your abilites as a mother makes me sick. I have two healthy children ages 2 and 4 and I know its a struggle for me to get through some days. I also know first hand that you have to take care of yourself before you can care for your family. You have neglected your own wants and needs for two years. I think you need some time for yourself before you can begin to put the pieces of your family back together. Good for you for realizing that! Your husband and son, Dylan, will be just fine. God bless you and your family as you continue to cope with all that has happened. You are an incredible woman and I pray for your continued strength. Your family is very lucky to have you. God bless.
Julie
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 8:08 PM CST

First of all I have been a faithful follower of your site through another Caring Bridge site.I am sorry to hear of the loss of your angel. Just think he will always be watching over you and you now know who your guardian angel is. :) My twin daughters were born 10 weeks early and spent the first 6 weeks of their lives in the hospital in the Neonatal ICU and we had CB sites for them as well and having everybody sign them and check in on them daily if not even more than that and everybody offering their prayers and for all the support is what made us through the hard time.
Second of all, for the rudeness of people's comments: if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all. Just because your daughter is suffering with cancer and you have a hard time grieving with her illness does NOT give you any right to rain on somebody else's parade. Everybody grieves in their own ways and I hope that the Colt's do win the SuperBowl just for Donovan's sake! You otta be ashamed with yourself for being so rude and for not caring about others!
Thinking about you all often and hoping that you smile everyday as your angel watches over you!
Kirsten
Fergus Falls, MN - Thursday, February 1, 2007 7:57 PM CST

"Judge not, and ye shall not be judged." Luke 6:37 - The Holy Bible

"Judge not, and ye shall not be judged." Luke 6:37 - The Holy Bible

"Judge not, and ye shall not be judged." Luke 6:37 - The Holy Bible

"Judge not, and ye shall not be judged." Luke 6:37 - The Holy Bible

"Judge not, and ye shall not be judged." Luke 6:37 - The Holy Bible

A loving supporter, IN CHRIST
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 7:54 PM CST

Melissa and Family,
I have been a long time follower of Donovan but have not signed the guestbook lately. You all are in my prayers during this difficult time. I'll be looking for the BIG sign for Donovan at the SuperBowl! GO COLTS!! Don't even listen to those people who like to criticize...they are rude...very rude...You grieve in whatever way you want....I know Donovan is SO glad that you are going to see the Colts WIN!!

Many prayers and hugs!!
Hannah Lane <hannah_banana3131@yahoo.com>
TN USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 7:46 PM CST

Melissa, Dylan, Darren, and ^^Baby Donovan^^,

You continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. Melissa, I will be watching the crowd at the SuperBowl on my tv on Sunday, hoping to see you and a big poster of Donovan!

I continue to be one more person in the crowd of thousands whose heart is carrying the memory of ^^DONOVAN^^ forever and ever.
Heidi Krieger <HKrieger@wi.rr.com>
Racine, WI - Thursday, February 1, 2007 7:31 PM CST

I have never posted here before but my wife, Heather Misner, who signed below told me about the emails and such you are getting for going to the superbowl and I was so deplored I had to visit and defend you.

To those who wish to criticize: How dare you judge this parent for how she and her family wishes to grieve. The only thing it is accomplishing is to cause more grief and heartache for her and her family. You have no right to come here and criticize anyone for how they choose to express themselves. If your intent was to cause more pain, grief, sadness, and to ruin a day they view as special and in memory of their recently lost son, then you can email me and we'll talk about it, do not put anymore harassment here. There is no excuse for expecting everyone to grieve as you do or as you expect parents to. Everyone is different in how they get over the loss of a child, and in that most terrible time that no one wants to ever experience, the last thing you want to hear is criticism that you should sit around and do nothing all day instead of move on with the memory of your lost. I have experienced the loss of a child and there is nothing that can ever prepare you for what you will experience, think, do, wonder about, cry about, get angry about, etc and to expect people to be perfect at handling any of it is asking far too much, and to even dillusion yourself as having been perfect at it in the first place is unthinkable, so where then do your credentials come from for judging others? How dare you, you are being contemptable, that's the best word I can think of. Judge not...
Adam Misner <adammisner@cox.net>
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 7:24 PM CST

Dear Melissa and Family,
I am so outraged over the few who dare to be mean spirited that I am speechless...And then I read on...and I am uplifted all over again at the love and support that 99% of the entries are wishing your way. You know, I've posted a few times over the last month, and have been watching for several...Since I've come to know Katie, Hunter's Mom, she has been my hero...dealing with her beautiful child's cancer with spirit, grace, dignity and humor...and through her, I found you...and now I realize that ANY mother that lives through this trial is my hero. I'm a Mom, too, and maybe that's why you have both inspired me so much...and made me look at my 2 children in new ways...and made me realize how lucky I am...but more than anything, my experiences through living with you all has made me start to pray again every day- HARD. On behalf of all the Mommies out there who have read, posted, cried, and prayed, I say God Bless one more time, and may He grant you the serenity to get through this awful time and give you the peace of knowing that your baby is with Him now forever.
I really truly understand your need to go somewhere else now, to try to figure out how life goes on in the days ahead. This Sunday, the entire Deem family will forget about their Patriots and will be standing up and yelling for YOU. God Bless and may you find a million reasons to smile in the days ahead.

With the greatest respect and admiration,
Stacey <sbdeem@aol.com>
Franklin, MA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 7:21 PM CST

This goes out to everyone that is reading this and who loves Melissa, Darren, Dylan and their whole gang of amazing people....I know everyone means well, and it's hard to read the rude things that some asses leave...without us defending Melissa, but those people are getting exactly what they want by everyone getting all riled up and lashing out at them. Melissa has this page here for Donovan and their family...and that's what we should all do our best to focus on. So what I'm trying to say is, let's not even give this person the time of day and waste our breath on them, they're obviously not worth sh*t. If they don't like what they read on here, they can go elsewhere...they're probably having a ball just seeing how everyone is getting so mad and as long as that keeps happening, they'll stick around. Let's focus all of our energy, entries and prayers on ONLY the Rasmussens...they're the ones that matter.

Melissa, have a great time this weekend. You deserve it. xoxo

Donovan, I miss you sweet angel, but I know you're happy now and not in anymore pain. Send your mommy a sign this weekend to let her know you're right beside her. xoxo
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
NJ - Thursday, February 1, 2007 7:19 PM CST

Melissa,

Just wanted to check in tonight and let you know that you and your family are still in my thoughts and prayers. I am sad that you are not going to update Donovan's site, as I start my day at working by checking in on you, but I can certainly understand. I hope that every once in awhile though you will let all of us tru Believers know how you are doing. We all care so much about you and you family. Have a great time this weekend and I'll be looking for Baby Donovan's sign. I can certainly understand why Dylan wouldn't want to go. My kids love watching sports on TV also but my younger two don't like going to an actual game as the noises totally freak them out. I will always remember Donovan and his contagious smile. You will continue to be an inspiration to me for your courage and love of your boys. You are a GREAT mom and don't ever think otherwise.

Still a Donovan Believer and missing him so!!!
Amy Bellini <amy_bellini@farmfamily.com>
Troy, NY - Thursday, February 1, 2007 7:18 PM CST

Please don't sign off forever! I am a silent follower, rarely signing the guestbook, but I am outraged that anyone could be so presumptious as to tell another how to grieve. Please, please ignore the hurtful things and do what you need to do for yourself and your family.
Jonna <jonnaschrupp@yahoo.com>
Mound, MN - Thursday, February 1, 2007 6:43 PM CST

Have fun at the Super Bowl. Go Colts! Praying for you and your family.
Julie Ellis <julieellis@bellsouth.net>
Douglasville, GA USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 6:28 PM CST

You don't have to explain your actions to ANYONE! Do what you need to do! Others, who are not in your shoes have no right to judge. They should spend more time dealing with their own issues and less sticking their noses in where they have no business and no right!
I hope you will feel able to come back to Caring Bridge in the future. Though we all shared in Baby Ds fight, we also feel close to the rest of the family. It would be double hard to lose you all.
You have our love,prayers, and support.
R Vess <rfwvess@bellsouth.net>
Forest City, NC USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 6:15 PM CST

I have only signed one other time and I can't believe that there are people out there that are so disrespectful during your time of grief. I have followed this site for awhile now and your Baby D was so precious. Don't let anyone tell you how to live your life. Congratulations on going to the Superbowl, by reading your posts I felt your compassion towards football and the COLTS and if this trip is going to make you feel closer to Baby D then go and have a great time and enjoy it, you really deserve the time away.
Eunice <eunice.cox@grissom.af.mil>
Peru, IN - Thursday, February 1, 2007 5:13 PM CST

I learned of angel Baby Donovan's site through asher and Angel Jacob's site.. I was able to follow for a little while. I too, have lost a child.. And yes we do grieve in different ways, it took me awhile to figure that out. But I have never left a negative comment for a family going through the same. I say forget these people and do what your heart says, or better yet what baby Dononvan would want you to do... I'm sure he would rather see his mommy happy then crying and not trying to move on. So I say go to the super bowl and have fun.. And knowing that ^Angel Baby Donovan^ will be there will make it even better.
^angel Navada's ^Mom www.caringbridge.org/visit/navadaharleighzlotnicki <blueyetigger@verizon.net>
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 5:10 PM CST

Hello. I have been reading the Guestbook entrys and the 2 lasies from MO are so rude!! Melissa you deserve to go to the game!!!! DON'T LISTEN TO THEM! I get this done to my site all the time!!
I am praying for your Baby D!!
Casey
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 5:07 PM CST

Unlike some of the rude posters on this site, I HAVE lost a child. We all grieve in different ways. Melissa, you need to do what makes YOU feel better, ignore the rude commenters! May God bless you and your family, I pray that you find peace and happiness!
Sarah
VA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 4:52 PM CST

RIP Sweet Baby D

With our deepest sympathies & prayers,
Barb, John, Shawn,
Shannon, & Colleen
www.caringbridge.org/page/shannon

Prayer Bear Barb
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 4:49 PM CST

You have BEEN giving so much by sharing your journey, the ups and downs and everything. I am sure many have learned so much by your insight and many, including myself have been so touched by Donovan (Baby D) and will always remember him. Your little Donovan will never be forgotten by me. We will be cheering on the COLTS this Sunday and forever have you in our prayers.
Love, Tracy and
Katia (a.k.a. "The Ladybug")
Fighting leukemia AML with a vengence!
Sharing Hope on the Wings of a Ladybug

Tracy and Katia <tmsol87@aol.com>
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 4:31 PM CST

Melissa, We will all be lost without you and your family in our lifes...I have been following "Baby D" for the last 6 months or so... He is and always will be your beautiful baby, You are a great mother, wife and friend to many of the caringbridge family...Couldn't you make your site password protected so people who are here to support you and listen will be just a password away to offer you support? It is just an idea, I really don't know who these sites work but I would love to continue to hear about you and your family and I also never watch football but will be looking for baby D's poster in the crowd...God Bless you and your family
Melanie Perry <melanieclark1960@msn.com>
St Paul, MN United States - Thursday, February 1, 2007 4:25 PM CST

I will be very sad to sign on and not know how you are coping. I think that in a way all of us who have fallen in love baby D heal along with you and like to hear your thoughts and feelings, but I understand if the negative comments are taking you away. Just always remember there are people - Nice People - That will miss you and continue to think and pray for you and your family!
Cyndi Claus <lclausgirl1@charter.net>
Sparks, Nv 89432 - Thursday, February 1, 2007 4:11 PM CST

Oh Melissa...praying for you. For peace and strength for someone to be there for you when you're crying and can't seem to stop, for an understanding ear when you need to vent, mostly for God to wrap His strong arms around you and bring you His comfort & healing.
~Angie Armstrong
www.caringbridge.org/visit/williamarmstrong

Angie Armstrong <samandang@gmail.com>
Cary, NC USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 4:07 PM CST

Melissa and family,

I too have never signed your site but feel compelled to let you know that you are a wonderful, compassionate person who loves her children very much. You need to remember that while Baby D is not physically on earth with you--you still physically are on earth. You need to continue to go on living--hard as that might be sometimes. That means doing the things that you love and sometimes doing things that are difficult without Baby D. It is good for Dylan to see that as much as your life has changed by Baby D's death--it goes on. By giving yourself some time to do things you enjoy you are showing Dylan that life is beautiful and worth living even in the midst of sadness and loss. What a wonderful lesson for him and what a tribute to Baby D's memory. Enjoy the game!! Cheer hard! Come back a little more refreshed and able to face what will certainly be difficult days ahead. Prayers for healing, peace, and bright days ahead are being sent your way!!
Minnesota mom
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 4:01 PM CST

I am glad that you signed again and I hope that you will continue to sign and keep us up to date. Have a great time at the super bowl and I will be looking for Donovan's sign. I hope that Dylan is doing ok also.

Donna <drobinson1027@aol.co,>
Williamston, SC USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 3:55 PM CST

Melissa

Just wanted to say hi and see how you were doing. I can't believe people are still commenting negatively (although like someone else said, maybe it's the same person doing it under several different fake names---does anyone realize that only 1 of these "people" left an email address on there?). I'd like to see you stay and post. I have posted in your guestbook once or twice now.
After 9/11 someone said that if we stop doing our day to day things and instead keep worrying every day, then the terrorists will have won; I hope Melissa stays posting on here, and doesn't let these RUDE people win. I know Jenny Scott had the same problem a while back after Allie passed (she has it posted somewhere in one of her journal entries) and asked us not to comment on the rude person's comment; it would only add fuel to the fire and I think that's what this person wants. Maybe we should all ignore this person and pray that Melissa will come back and post. I'd love more updates on herself and the family. Go Colts!! (And this is coming from a NE Patriots fan!)

Carolein Bennett <cat12780@yahoo.com>
Long Island, NY USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 3:50 PM CST

I would like to express my deepest sympathy for your loss. I have visited your page several times and was so saddened to hear of the loss of your precious baby boy. I know that noone can understand what you are going through but you and your family will be in my prayers as you have been since I first visited your page. Rest peacefully little man. And GO COLTS!!! Have a blast at the Superbowl - you completely deserve it...
Angela Napier <angelajnapier@yahoo.com>
Atlanta, GA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 3:44 PM CST

While I'll be sorry to see you go from the Caringbridge site, I can completely understand it. I hope you will not take the negative with you, but instead remember the many people who were positive. When healing, you need to surround yourself with loving, caring people who understand you, so I respect your decision to sign off. Please know that you, Darren, and Dylan will remain in our thoughts and prayers.

Because of you, Donovan, and his story that you shared with us, I will be wearing my blue on Sunday and rooting for the Colts. I will never be able to see the Colts again without thinking of you, Donovan and your family.

May God grant you and your family peace and healing in the days and months ahead. May you feel Donovan's loving presence embrace you forever -- until you meet again.

God bless you all, now and always.
Suzanne Shaft
Macedonia, OH - Thursday, February 1, 2007 3:32 PM CST

It breaks my heart that you will not be posting on Donovan's site any longer. I feel that after following Donovan's journey for so long that I really know you, and I am sad that this will all end. But I understand that you need to do whats best for you and your family. Donovan has touched so many, and I know that his memory will always live on. I will continue to always keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. This is just the start of a new journey that your family will embark on, but I know that God will carry you through everyday! Thank you for sharing your sweet little baby and family with all of us. I hope you have an amazing time this weekend... you deserve to put a smile on your face. Dononvan is finally pain-free, healthy, and flying with the angels.
If you ever need anything please feel free to contact me.
Hopefully, all of us avid Donovan fan's will convince you to keep posting:)
Ashleigh Frye <ashleighwall@hotmail.com>
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 3:31 PM CST

Have a wonderful time at the superbowl. I will be looking for the poster. Even though I only met you once I will keep Donovan and family in my heart forever. If you need anything please dont hesitate to email me.
abby sharon <brandonabby@hotmail.com>
stokesdale, nc - Thursday, February 1, 2007 3:28 PM CST

I am overwhelmed with anger and saddness at the two women from MO. If you are reading this go to the pictures of Melissa and Donovan, and look at the love that shows in her eyes. How can you say such horrible things to such a wonderful, loving mother. As for critizing her for accidently putting .org and .com. Everyone makes mistakes including you for your words. As for Melissa hinting for tickets, I went back in the journal entries and I didn't see any hints at all. She loves football, and so do I. Just because one person was willing to give her tickets to something she has wanted for along time and to see her all time favorite team and quarterback doesn't mean she was hinting for the tickets. The person or persons who gave her those tickets were doing so because they cared about her and Donovan. Next time make sure to leave your email addresses please. I am praying for you to be more compassionate and empathetic people.

Melissa,
This is my second entry for the day, I want you to know that so many of us out here support your decision to go to the Superbowl. I hope your poster will be shown, I will be watching. Have a safe trip and God Bless.

A faithful follower
Christine
Christine B <cb@atlasinspection.com>
MN - Thursday, February 1, 2007 3:19 PM CST

Melissa: I was so sad to read that you are going to stop posting. I feel as if your family has become part of my family. I will surely miss your updates but only wish you the best that life has to offer. Will continue to keep you in my thoughts and in my prayers.
Love & hugs
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Thursday, February 1, 2007 3:18 PM CST

Dear Melissa and family

I have checked in on you daily for almost a year now. I found your site from Zoe's site. I have never signed your guestbook, but you have always been in my thoughts and prayers. I fell in love with you and your family when I started sharing your journey. I hope that you will continue to update every now and then. You have given so many of us such inspiration with your faith. You are a wonderful Mother. I admire your strength. I've also been following Alexis, and I pray that they will find success with the second transplant. They too are a wonderful family, and they don't deserve the hard road that they are traveling.

enjoy the game - I've never cared about football one way or the other - but I am a Colts fan now, and I am sure that Donovan was helping them in the playoffs. I'll be looking on Sunday for your big sign.

You are a beautiful person, both inside and out, and I do hope that you will continue to share your journey with those of us that care.

Thanks you for allowing me to share with you. My concern is very sincere and my heart is with you.

I hope you will find happiness here in NC. It is a wonderful place to live, and I'm sure everyone will continue to welcome you here. Best of everything to you, You and your family deserve nothing less.

With much love
Kim

I admire you.
Kim Cook <kimcook@carolina.rr.com>
Concord, NC US - Thursday, February 1, 2007 3:17 PM CST

P.S. I just found this and thought you and your Dilly Bar would get a kick out of this. :) LOL

God Bless,
Becky
Becky Wright <mom2nateandjulia@aol.com>
Manchester, NH - Thursday, February 1, 2007 3:12 PM CST

Hi Melissa-

I am continuing to pray for you and your sweet family. The Superbowl is just a few days away and this is something you deserve more than anybody. Your amazing angel will be right there with you. He certainly will have one of the best seats in the house. :) I'm sure his great buddy Blake will be there with him to help him cheer. I've followed Blake's amazing journey as well and he and Donovan are HUGE inspirations to me. They exemplify the truest meaning of the word *HERO*....They will never be forgotten and will ALWAYS live in our hearts and minds....

God Bless you all and please take good care Melissa and Darren. Give that sweet pickle a hug for us. You are amazing parents.

Lastly, I want to share a song that I've loved for a long time. It reminds me of you and your sweet Angel Donovan. It's called Afterglow by INXS:

INXS - Afterglow

HAVE A BLAST THIS WEEKEND!!!!!! GO COLTS!!!! (This is coming from a die hard Pats fan but you all mean so much to me....)

With Love, Hope & Faith,

Becky Wright

Mom to Nathan: www.caringbridge.org/nh/nathanhunter

Dx: Infantile ALL at 5 months of age. BMT at 18 months.

Becky Wright <mom2nateandjulia@aol.com>
Manchester , NH - Thursday, February 1, 2007 3:07 PM CST

I am so sorry for your loss. I have been checking on your family for a long time now but never signed your book. The reason for doing so now is that I am outraged by some of the comments found in this guestbook. I can tell you from first hand experience from when my father died that if my mother had not of made us move on with our lives that we would of stayed in that little rut. You go to the superbowl and you enjoy yourself, you deserve this. Cherish the memories you have of your little boy. Live for those special times and don't ever let someone who is obviously too ignorant to understand that people grieve in different ways stop your life or your site. I hope you do not stop posting, I have loved to hear about your family. While I do not really follow football, and I have to work til 7:30 sunday evening, I will definately be TVIOing the game so that I may be able to watch closely and catch a glimpse of your banner! Take Care Melissa, Darren, and Dylan!
And I will put it out as so many have done before me - I can take whatever criticism anyone has to dish - email me! But DON'T PUT THE CRITICISM HERE FOR MELISSA TO HAVE TO READ! Let her be able to greive her own way! Who are you to judge?
Heather <poohbearpiglet2000@hotmail.com>
Cincinnati, OH USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 3:07 PM CST

Melissa &Family..Just stopping by to say I'm thinking of you all today. Also stopped by Princess Alexia's page to add support for her mighty fight.Praying that peace and comfort is finding it's way into your life's. Baby D..Only three more days till you get to show Mommy your right there with her at the Superbowl. Gooo Colt'ssssssss!!!Win this one for Baby D and all his Angel Friends.
Karen <indianagal_2004@yahoo.com>
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 3:03 PM CST

Amazing....a word to describe so many things in this
caringbridge page. Amazing...Melissa, Darren, and Dylan. Amazing....the thoughtless people who continue to post
terrible things. Mary and Betsy in MO...wow. Take a look
inside yourself and realize how terrible you people are.
It's quite a lucky thing for yourself that GOD doesn't
judge you like you are judging Melissa.
Melissa and family----there are so many more people that
love you and support. Is there a rule that Melissa has
to follow??? How many days does she have to stay home
before it is "acceptable" for her to do something???

Kara Meyer www.caringbridge.org/in/karadimmich <karameyer@verizon.net>
West Lafayette, IN - Thursday, February 1, 2007 2:59 PM CST

First, I would like to express my sympathy for the loss of your precious son. It is clear from your journal that you and that baby fought everyday of his life just to give him a life. That is something very few people will every have to experience and I can't even begin to imagine the journey you have traveled.
Second, I want to say that I have "visited" your journal many times over the past several months, I "visit" many sites, sometimes regularly, sometimes once or twice. Some of the people I like, some I don't or some just may rub me the wrong way. Those I don't like, I don't visit anymore. But one thing that should be clear to anyone who "visits" someone's Caringbridge site is that they are in fact a visitor and the place for messages to the host or hostess is a "guest"book. I hope that those that somehow feel free to say rude things to someone in a guestbook would not feel so free were they to be a guest in someone's home or visiting them in the hospital. What a sad state our society would be in if that were the case! When someone opens up their heart and life to the internet for anyone to see, they should be accorded the same respect and good manners that they would be accorded were the guest physically in their presence.
Melissa, enjoy the Superbowl while you can still remember the warmth of your baby's body, the feel of his skin, the sound of his cry, while your dreams for him and you are still fresh, and with his sweet baby spirit surrounding you.
Brenda
CA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 2:44 PM CST

You will all continue to be in my thoughts, and I wish you only the best. Donovan will always be in my heart.
Robin Brunet <robinb@start.ca>
Bradford, Ontario Canada - Thursday, February 1, 2007 2:42 PM CST

Your family will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers... I will still check in on you through this site, hope that you continue to update.

Try to have some fun at the BIG GAME! I'm so happy that you get some happiness during such a difficult time.

I'm sorry that this site hasn't been the full inspiration that it should be. Hang in there! Don't let this crap get you down, you have more important things to be dealing with.

Go Peyton!

Karen
MA USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 2:34 PM CST

I haven't signed your guestbook in a while but it is certainly not because I haven't been checking in on you and praying for you and your sweet angel Baby Donovan. I am so very sorry that Donovan lost his earthly battle but he has WON the fight and has earned the ultimate reward. I will continue to keep your family and especially precious Dylan in my prayers as you walk the journey of life without Baby D's physical presence. I just know that Donovan will be guiding you each step of the way until that glorious day when you will all be reunited for eternity. Melissa, enjoy your wonderful SuperBowl experience, I'll be cheering loudly in honor of your precious Baby Donovan! I hope you will update us on your experience when you return and let us know that your angel was truly with you during the game. Blessings to you and your entire family. You are loved!!!!
Kathy Sanders <kathy_sanders@tx.rr.com>
Richardson, TX - Thursday, February 1, 2007 2:14 PM CST

Hi Melissa. I've never posted before, but I like to look in on you every once in a while, and I most definitely send up prayers for you often. I found this quote by Mother Teresa and it reminded me of you, having to deal with negative, mean people. I believe that you should grieve and remember your precious baby exactly how you see fit. If that means going to the Super Bowl, then by all means do it! I hope that you and your family have a wonderful time. If you feel that not posting anymore will help you heal, at least know there's a girl in Texas who thinks of you and prays for you often!

People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful you will win some false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you.
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight.
Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough.
Give the world the best you've got anyway.

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway.
J McClung
TX - Thursday, February 1, 2007 2:10 PM CST

Dearest Donovan's Family,
You are an amazing family and you have had to endure so much heartache and pain. Much more than so many others out there! Your love for each other will always remain! Donnie will be watching over you and I may even watch the Super Bowl this year just because Donnie loved the Colts so much! They have a huge advantage! They have a wonderful baby angel helping them out!

Your family is beautiful and extraordinary!

Love and Hugs!
Lizz
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 2:05 PM CST

I have followed your site through Asher and ^Jacob's^ for some time, and have been so touched by your beautiful little boy. Enjoy every minute of the Superbowl! May it bring you some light in a time of darkness.
Wendi Naugle <kwnaugle@winbeam.com>
Duncansville, PA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 2:03 PM CST

Just wanted to let you know, I am praying for little Alexia. Melissa, I hope you have a great time at the game, and the Colts win...I will be watching it, just for baby Donovan! Also, did you happen to notice that Mary from MO and Betsy from MO were too chicken to list their email addresses on this guestbook site. Ummmmm, could it be they knew they were really in the wrong and being very rude to a great family. People just cannot keep their rude thoughts to themselves!!! Anyway, enough said. I will miss reading your posts on baby donovans site. Please reconsider, as we, your friends, are always eager to read about the family. God Bless You!!!
BJ Porche <bjporche1@hotmail.com>
Magnolia, TX USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 1:58 PM CST

I'm very sad, I hope that you change your mind and at least let everyone know how your trip goes.

GO COLTS!!
Chari Warner <millymango40@yahoo.com>
Alpharetta, GA USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 1:56 PM CST

I wish you wouldn't sign off, but I totally understand!! I will remember you and Donovan and pray for your family. I'll be looking for Donnies sign on Sunday. GO Colts!! Sending my love, Shaun Rogers
Shaun, Austin, and Dominic Rogers <shaunr@bellsouth.net>
Dunwoody, GA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 1:52 PM CST

melissa,
No one has the right to tell you how to greive.
thinking of your family.
please continue to write.
Love,
Becky.
Rebecca Butler <rebecca_r_butler@hotmail.com>
London, England - Thursday, February 1, 2007 1:50 PM CST

I was so saddened to hear about your little friend Alexia relapsing. I had followed her story for a long time, and thought it so wonderful that she was able to return home, and I prayed that it would be a complete cure for her. My prayers are with her and her family, and I hope that there will be some more treatment options for her that can return her to remission.
Denise Ward <deniward@shaw.>
Winnipeg, Canada - Thursday, February 1, 2007 1:40 PM CST

Sorry I realized, I didn't edit my entry before I sent it.
If you disagree with what I said or with Melissa e-mail me, not Melissa. I know there are others who would gladly take any sort of wrath off of Melissa's shoulders and deal with it themselves. When I was coming under attack on my site someone did the same thing for me. It meant the world to me. My e-mail is below.
Heather Misner <mitchellham@yahoo.com>
Midwest City, OK - Thursday, February 1, 2007 1:37 PM CST

Melissa-
It makes me very happy to see how many people are supporting you.
No one has the right to judge you. That is not what caringbridge is for. Even if they disagree with you they do not have a right to post that on caringbridge. Caringbridge is only for uplifiting, supporting, and praying for the families. It's not for judging them, telling them how to behave, how to greive, or how to be parents to their children. I believe this oppertunity at the Superbowl will give you a break and you will come back refreshed, or as refreshed as you can be and you will be able to focus ALL of your energy on your family. You need time for yourself. At least, I did when I lost Jacob.
If you do decied to not leave any more entries here, please feel welcome to update us in the guestbook on Asher and Jacob's site. You can tell us all about the superbowl, tv shows, or whatever else you want to tell us. You should get no critcism and if you do we will not tolerate it. I have asked some not to check into our site anymore becuase they could not be supportive, and I am willing to do that again. We would love to know how you are doing. But no matter what we will always be praying for you and your family.
Have a great time at the superbowl.
One more thing: For whoever is reading this and disagrees with me, feel free to e-mail. I don't mind you ranting at me, I can handle it. As I said before this is not a "forum" of discussion over Melissa's parenting skills. Plus Melissa and her family should not have to put up with any negativity. I know that there are others who have posted entires and would gladly deal with your issues if it would mean Melissa and her family doesn't have to.

Heather Misner (Asher and ^Jacob's^ Mommy) <mitchellham@yahoo.com>
Midwest City, OK - Thursday, February 1, 2007 1:27 PM CST

God Bless you and your family! Just keep on keeping on and do what you need to do individually and as a family to grieve and adjust to your new normal. We all have different things that we find comfort and/or escape in...even if only briefly. Go and enjoy!
T'Ann Love <daveandtannlove@yahoo.com>
Ovid, MI USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 1:15 PM CST

I have been following Donovan through Asher and ^Jacob^'s site, as well as through Ladybug Katia's site. I am so happy for you, that you are going to get to go to the Superbowl!! I think it is really a testimony of your faith and your love for your family that you are able to do something like this so soon after Donovan has found his home in heaven. As many, many others have said, please do not listen to any of the negative comments. I wanted to be another person from MO who shows her support. These too women do NOT represent the whole of MO, as I'm sure you know.

Go and enjoy the Superbowl. I will be rooting for the Colts, since my Rams have been out of the running since the beginning of the season. lol
Allison
St. Peters, MO USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 1:11 PM CST

Please don't stop posting your thoughts!!!
My first thing in the morning and my last thing at night is to check your site.
I'm so so sorry about Your little "teddy bear"
Monika
Monika Mayer <mmonika73@yahoo.com>
Clayton, NC USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 12:44 AM CST

Melissa-
I hope you have a great time at the Superbowl. I know you will be thinking about all of your family while you are there. Not all of us from MO are as cold hearted as some who write in your guestbook. We might like the Cheifs instead of the Colts but we are just jealous because the Colts are in Miami and the Cheifs are not. Anyway I hope you have a good time and do what you want!!!
Cathy Schwartz <catandkevin@hotmail.com>
St Louis, MO USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 12:41 AM CST

Melissa, you are simply amazing! You have had the hardest job the past few years. I am in complete awe of you, and thank you for the bottom of my heart for being the person you are. Many of us have learned so much from you and I just want to say thank you! Your future is so bright and yes you will have your moments, but that is so normal. Donovan fought so hard, he would want his mommy to carry on and face the future holding your head up HIGH! I sure hope you enjoy the weekend with your cousin, put a smile on your face and have a great time! Thank you again for being the strongest woman I know!
Patti Campanella <campanella10@sbcglobal.net>
Carmel, IN 46033 - Thursday, February 1, 2007 12:40 AM CST

Melissa,
We've never met, but I am in awe of you and your family. If you feel like you need to stop posting, then that's what you need to do, but also know that this site will be here for you when you need to read the messages and maybe add some yourself in the future.
As you go through this devastating and emotional journey, know that all you have to do is click onto "Baby D's" site to see the outpouring of love for you family.
My prayers go out to you as you grieve and remember in your own special way.
Take care.
Heather J. <heatherjurgenson@hotmail.com>
St Cloud, MN USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 12:31 AM CST

Melissa,
Please don't stop posting due to some rude people out there who don't have a clue what we parents of kids with cancer go through. You go to the big game and hold that poster up proudly. Believe me, I am rooting for the Colts because of Baby D and won't take my eyes off of the game until I see your poster of your precious little one. You are amazing!!! and who cares what others think, they are simply ignorant!!! We love you and will continue praying, but we also want to know how you and your family are doing as time passes, so we know how to continue praying for each of you. God bless you today and always.....and "GO COLTS!!!!"
~Maria
Maria Lisac........caringbridge.org/or/robert <musicmaddness@comcast.net>
Happy Valley, OR USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 12:27 AM CST

Hi Melissa and family,
Just stopped by to check on you all and leave you {{{gentle hugs}}}. Sending you positive thoughts and vibes...GO COLTS!!!!
Donna McDonald <flygirl9908@yahoo.com>
Raleigh, NC - Thursday, February 1, 2007 12:20 AM CST

This is to all of you that have chastized Melissa for her choice to go to the SuperBowl:

What has special meaning to your family? What do you do together that brings you closer? Do you make crafts, watch movies, garden, play cards, read books, exercise, etc? Would you be chastizing Melissa if she was going off to bike in a marathon in memory of Donnie, or planting a memorial garden? No, because those are considered "acceptable" ways to memorialize someone. Who are any of us to get to say what is considered acceptable for someone else? None of us have that right.

What this family did together that they loved and enjoyed was watching the Colts play football. No matter what age a person is - 1 or 91, they can feel the love, energy, and spirit in a family. Donnie may not know what the Superbowl was, but he knew what football was, he knew who the Colts were, and he loved watching them with his family. This was something that brought this family together. It wouldn't matter if Melissa is going to the Superbowl or just a regular Sunday afternoon game, she is honoring Donnie in a way that means something to this family.

It doesn't matter how she came to receive the tickets - she is still honoring Donnie's beautiful life in a way that Donnie would be able to understand even at his young age. I have plenty of neices and nephews that by the age of 1 1/2 were able to cheer and enjoy sports teams with their family and Donnie was no different.

If you don't like the way they memorialize and honor the life of their son, don't come to the site. Don't leave your rude comments. You are not in their shoes and can not know what is in their heart. Caringbridge is about support, not downgrading. Act like an adult.

TO Melissa, Darrin, and Dylan - My heart breaks for the lost of such a beautiful little man. Your posts and the photos of Donnie have really touched my life and I will miss them if you close your site. I applaud you for spending time as a family doing something that you loved, for focusing on something other than how cancer has affected your life, and for giving your kids something to be excited about. You knew Donnie the best and only you can choose what is best way to honor and celebrate his life. My thoughts, prayers and love are with you.

I apologize for the long post, but I have just been so angry at all of the horrible comments that some people leave.

God bless,
Dawn Hartwig
Dawn Hartwig <spirit_crosses@yahoo.com>
Hutchinson, MN - Thursday, February 1, 2007 12:10 AM CST

Melissa, don't take the site down because a few people are jerks and write to you. I'm sorry that you have to deal with such poopy heads! :) I'm trying to keep it p.g.! My husband died on 12/7/05 and I took my kids to Disneyland on 1/4/06 and we stayed two days. You are grieving and celebrating Donovan's life the best way you can.

Don't let "dgi's" (people who Don't Get It = DGI) get under your skin.

Dusty <imdusty2002@yahoo.com>
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 12:09 AM CST

Melissa and Family
Have a blast at the SuperBowl - we'll be staying in for sure with the balmy -0 forecast they have set for us for the weekend:) Scream and yell for the Colts for me. God Bless your family, I pray you can find happiness and peace. Donovan the teddy bear will always be in my heart. If I ever have to go through what you have I hope I have it in me to fight hard and never give up and do it with the grace that you and your family have shown. You've done it without complaining - by enjoying the little things and cherishing every moment. God Bless you and your family on yet another journey that I would never wish on anyone.

Shawn Schlueter <schluetersm@hotmail.com>
Janesville, MN - Thursday, February 1, 2007 12:06 AM CST

Melissa and family,
You have been an inspiration to so many people throughout the world. As part of Alexia's network we have always had baby Donovan with us and we know that now he is with you with no limitations! He will guide you and take care of you as only a true warrior ANGEL can! May you always know you are surrounded by love and prayers, even as the days and months go by... all of our love and prayers to you and your family.
Familia Ruiz <seryo18@hotmail.com>
Washington, DC USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 11:55 AM CST

I am a lurker and someone new to your story. I must say that I am in disbelief that there are people out there with such cold hearts. To judge a family and your actions is unacceptable. In one comment it was wrote that "friends" would help you to see perspectives. I am thanking God right now that I do not have friends like that. There is a time and place when interventions are needed in friendships, however, now is not the time. I am confused as why some readers feel that a little time spent for a grieving mother is not okay. I am quite certain that every parent has left their children at some point to have some "alone time". It is healthy to enjoy something that is yours, not anybody elses, just yours! This will help you tackle some issues that will come about in the future, questions that you should have never had to answer for you oldest son. I have never experienced grief of losing a child and hope to God I never have too. I cannot say that I know what your feeling. I have in fact had friends that have had to suffer this loss, and never, ever, ever would I judge them for how they coped. I am also proud to say that they spent some time away without their other children, and guess what, they are all surviving. You should all feel ashamed of yourself right now. I can almost gaurantee that you are not a perfect parent and have made many mistakes yourself. I'm also betting that you would be furious if someone blamed you of being a bad parent. My guess is that you are and you are feeling guilty about your own parenting methods.

With that said, I hope that you enjoy your time to yourself. You have giving up alot of things in the years for both of your children so it is okay to get something back. Ignore ignorant people, and pray that they never have to walk in your shoes. Be bigger then them, and allow them to be miserable as they seem to be. They can themselves can only change their ways. Know that the only thing that matters is how you will be judged when it is your time to meet our maker. I am sure he is not judging you for dealing with your grief!
A supporter
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 11:55 AM CST

I can't stop thinking about your amazing family. I pray this weekend offers you, Darren, and Dylan some smiles as you go to the Superbowl and they watch from home, looking for mommy in the stands! I am so glad that you have this chance to care for yourself, as I know that this weekend will give you the strength needed to help you take care of Dylan. Always praying for you.

For anyone who wants to battle out what is the appropriate way to grieve and care for your family, please e-mail me and I would be happy to discuss it. I have taken many classes on grief and loss, and have also taken courses in counseling. Otherwise, please, PLEASE, leave this family alone.
Laura Lynn and my two little miracle nephews, Asher and ^Jacob^: www.caringbridge.org/visit/asherandjacob <laurainsem@yahoo.com>
Hollidaysburg, Pa - Thursday, February 1, 2007 11:49 AM CST

Melissa,

You and your family will always hold a special place in my heart. You have no idea how much your site has changed me, the way I look at life, watch my children grow and really appreciate what truly matters. May God bless you and keep you all healthy and safe. May you find peace in your healing, strength in the knowledge that you did an amazing job with Baby D, hope that your child did not die in vain and someday soon there will be a cure, and complete and Holy love from above. God bless you in your life, may you always remember Donovan, perhaps shed a tear, but always know he was your "little soul" who was sent from God for only a short while to show the world how to truly love. You are loved, Melissa, by all your family, friends and "us" caringbridge people. My prayers will always be with you, Darren and Dylan.

God Bless

Karen
Karen <km.short@comcast.net>
South Easton, MA USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 11:47 AM CST

First of all: For those trying to go leave Alexia's family a message, just remove the .com after the .org and it'll work.

Second of all: I agree it's best to ignore negative people and simply focus on our support for this family. They deserve it and so much more...

May God continue to instill a sense of peace and comfort to you!! Many thoughts and prayers continue to surround you! God Bless!!
Shawn Hanson
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 11:29 AM CST

Melissa,
It really is noone's business how you handle your grief. I "think" I would have a difficult time being WITHOUT my other living child at a time like this...it's just so soon, but I can only assume because THANK GOD I have not lost a child. Sometimes the best way to handle your grief is to do something fun or even just anticipate something fun in the future. I suppose you could just sit at home and be depressed, but that won't bring Donovan back.

This is definately something you are doing for youself...NOT DONOVAN...he was only two...I have a two year old...she just follows me and likes what I like. But that is neither here or there...I hope you have a great time :-)!!

Amber
Nashua, NH USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 11:29 AM CST

I have been a frequent visitor to sweet Donovan's page and have not signed before. I am so sorry you will be ending your journal. I can't believe that some people can be so rude. I feel that Baby Donovan would want you to go to the Super Bowl and root his favorite team on to Victory. He will be there with you both through every cheer. I think they will conquer the Bears and WIN big...For Donovan....
Love, hugs and prayers to you all,
Love- Barb <barbilens@yahoo.com>
La Crosse, WI USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 11:27 AM CST

Hey Melissa!!
Just checking in to say hello! I look at the pictures and it just melts me and brings tears to my eyes!! I love the ones were you are holding him!! He was a lucky boy to have you all as parents!! You have an awesome family!! I hope you have an awesome weekend you deserve it!! GO COLTS!! I am glad you are still updating your site!! Take care!!
jennifer Hewitt
Bellevue , NE - Thursday, February 1, 2007 11:17 AM CST

My apologies to you, Melissa, for using your site to say this, BUT to Mary in MO ---- don't bother to find out how to get to Alexia's website -- all you will probably have to say is negative things. Want to vent? You can email me.
Elinor <eschwar1@tampabay.rr.com>
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 11:11 AM CST

Dear followers of beautiful ^Donovan^ and his absolutely wonderful family,

I want to first begin by saying that whoever is writing these negative messages is sad and needs to be prayed for. I just came across another one, and the name is coincidently similar to another username used, which makes me think it is one horrible person doing this, under fake names.

Secondly, I would like to say that from this point on, we should make a vow, that no matter how tempted we are to address the cruelness of this "person" or "persons" that we all stand together for Melissa and her family and IGNORE this person. Trust me, I know it's hard, as I want nothing else than to scream at how cruel some people can be. But people like that thrive on the attention they provoke. I think for the sake of Melissa, and honoring Donovan's memory, we should all promise to ignore the cruel messages, and instead, only offer messages of support here. Let us be the support system that Melissa needs, and lets do this by positive messages.

Melissa, millions of us are here thinking of you. You and your family mean the world to us.

Leah
Minneapolis, MN US - Thursday, February 1, 2007 11:09 AM CST

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope your memories sustain you through the darkest times.

And to some of the nay-sayers out there....a 2 year old can certainly be excited about a sports team! My 2 year old son is in love with the Minnesota Twins. We took him to 5 games last year and he STILL talks about the games and when we get to go again. He can't wait until April!
Shannon
MN - Thursday, February 1, 2007 11:07 AM CST

Just as many have said
I will say it again and in my point of view. NO ONE can understand what you are going through! I too lost a son to cancer and I cant tell you that every single person grieves in their own way! Even between you and Darren. Me and my husband grieve diffrently too. It doesnt matter what other people think. They just dont get it! It really dont matter what other grieving mothers think because everyone is diffrent. I'll be honest, I wouldnt have dreamed of going out to a big football game after loseing my son so soon, but thats MY decision and is in NO WAY a reflection of you or me. When your child dies your whole world it turned upside down and inside out and NO ONE can judge you. YOU have to do what feels right for YOU and thats what I applaud! I applaud grieving parents who do what they know is right for themselves and their babies! Thats the only thing that will make you feel closer to baby D. So you hang in there and do whats right for you!
This page has been a safe haven for you, or should have been so delete the crap people are saying and vent all you want in any way you want. If your truley done then be done until you feel the need to come back because when you do come back, there will be THOUSANDS of supports here waiting for you. :o)
Tori <ToriWelch@aol.com>
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 11:02 AM CST

Well thanks to you & Baby D I will actually be watching the Super Bowl for the first time in my life & will my husband ever be shocked!! I hope you have a wonderful time & never fear you'll be back to reality soon enough.
Margie M <margiemm54@aol.com>
Winter Springs, FL - Thursday, February 1, 2007 11:01 AM CST

I just want you to know that even if you do stop updating, I will continue to check on you and pray for you. I did scroll way down to read Grammie's entry on her talk with Dylan. What a beautiful way to describe Donovan's entrance into Heaven! I also wanted to add my support to your decision to go the game on Sunday. Please go and keep Donny company there in spirit. I'm sure he will be there with you.
Tracy Stanley
Ramsey, MN - Thursday, February 1, 2007 10:54 AM CST

Ginny: they did identify the woman that had set up Avery's fake site. I was one of those who was heartbroken when "Avery" died. I think if you google "Avery caringbridge hoax" it will explain more. Apparently the woman was very apologetic and had some mental issues which led to her setting up the fake site.

Unfortunately there are a few people out there who ruin the caringbrige experience. It is heartless for these people to be so mean, so cruel, after someone has just lost their baby. I pray for them.
Corrie van Kampen <corrie@thevankampens.com>
Rocky River, OH USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 10:53 AM CST

Dear God, Forgive them for they know not what they do...

Dear Melissa and Family,
You will be sorely missed but never forgotten!! Donovan was such an inspiration to all. I am so sorry that there are people who think they know how you should be dealing with your loss. It always amazes me!! I have dealt with death in my family and everyone deals differently. There is not one person in this world that knows how another should deal with their loss. You are not choosing the Super Bowl over ANYTHING!! If that were the case, one could say that these people that are choosing to judge you, are taking away from their own families and sick loved ones, just to go on and leave hateful, judgemental messages. I hope the ladies from MO do not find Alexia's page. What these children and families need are love and support, not hate and someone with nothing better to do than judge another person's actions.

While I was trying to sit back and not give the people who choose to leave these messages the time of day. I just could not take it anymore.

I hope that one day we will hear from you again!! I will be watching the superbowl, looking for a sign with Donovan's picture.

God Bless you and your family!! You are in our hearts forever. Sending lots of Hugs from Wisconsin!!

Tina
Tina from WI
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 10:52 AM CST

I was actually thinking about Donovan and Melissa last night, not knowing that again someone had posted negative comments in the guest book, but I was wondering why people have done this off and on over the last several months. As a person who has followed several of these amazing children and their families, at first I just could not believe it, but then I remembered something that happened with a Caringbridge site several months ago. I don't know if any of you followed a beautiful little baby named Avery. According to her site, she was born with a severe heart defect, and had to have a heart transplant. MANY of us were heartbroken when it was announced on her site that she had passed away. We felt like we had lost one of our own family. Then several months later, we rejoiced when it was announced that the mom was pregnant again, only to go to the depths of despair with the family when they posted that the mother had miscarried. Several weeks after that posting, we were informed that the site was a hoax. To this day I don't know if they caught the woman who played with so many people's emotions, but I think that there may be people who "question" folks because of being burned in the past. I don't know. It does not excuse the comments made, because really there is no excuse. The guestbook is here for folks to encourage families going through hell, not take them further into a place they don't want to be. Know that whether you decide to keep this site up or go back to a more private life that many of us will always remember you and that precious little baby who loved his Colts.
Ginny Streeter <gstreeter@hookercreek.net>
Bend, OR - Thursday, February 1, 2007 10:50 AM CST

People, if you can't say something positive to this amazing woman and her family who have just been through hell, keep your mouths shut. I certainly don't know how I would feel or what I would feel like doing if my child died. This is what is going to get her through.

We are praying mightily for Alexia the Princess Warrior.

Hang in there Melissa.

Corrie van Kampen <corrie@thevankampens.com>
Rocky River, OH USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 10:50 AM CST

Melissa, Do not quit if you do those HORRIBLE people win. Remember there are so many people out here who love and care about you and your family. KEEP ON for DONONVAN. He is proud that you are his mommy, regardless of those peoples opinions. GO COLTS!
Tara DeFrank
Birmingham, AL USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 10:49 AM CST

Melissa, Darren and Dylan~

Thinking of you today,
as the ANGEL KISSES (snow flakes)
are falling from the heavens above,
all over North Carolina.

I hope Dylan gets a chance to go out in the
snow today. Tell him as the snowflakes hit
his face, it is angel kisses from Donovan!!

We love you guys! Stay warm, and know we
continue to lift you in prayer.

You have "given" so much to so many of us
already, just by sharing baby Donovan with
us, and letting us be a part of his, and
your journey.

You are AMAZING and INSPIRING to so many!

Holding you close to my heart, and lifting
you in prayer.

Praying God continues to give you strength
to get through the minutes, days, weeks
and months ahead.

I look forward to the day I meet your precious,
strong, courageous son, in the heavens above.

Love & Prayers~ Claire Roy and family

It's so sad that there are a few "HATERS"
plagued with negativity. How SAD their lives
must be, and I pray for them to find the
peace and happiness they are so desperately in need of

BLESS THEIR HEARTS!

Claire Roy <caffemocha29@aol.com>
Kernersville, NC US - Thursday, February 1, 2007 10:40 AM CST

I will look at the game as an event that made little Donovan smile when he was feeling bad. I remember my kids at that age and they adored certain events-couldn't get enough of it! Donovan seemed to pick football. Enjoy the game. I will be watching for the poster. In my mind the "attention seeking sour grumpy" will have turned into the football being kicked around. Go Colts!! Do it for a wonderful baby and his family.
Midge <Midge@flash.net>
Houston, Tx - Thursday, February 1, 2007 10:31 AM CST

It's too bad you won't be continuing to journal on caringbridge. You have inspired and given much to so many. Perhaps you'll change your mind one day.
Amy
Old Forge, NY - Thursday, February 1, 2007 10:21 AM CST

Oh, I do pray you will be able to ignore the comments that others post that are critical of your LIVING LIFE to it's fullest in the memory of your sweet Donovan! He would want no less. I have noticed that Mom2aspecialangel has posted on grief sites in 2004 and I dare say that instead of being angry (which I am some) at her for her insensitivity, that we should pray for her because SHE is the one that, in all this time, hasn't realized that death is NOT the end of life. It is only a CHANGE in where you are living at. You miss Donovan, and will continue to do so for a long time, but your life will go on, just as HE IS LIVING NOW in the prescence of a HOLY GOD and he's so happy to be where he is!! You can live in the peace of knowing that. We need to pity, feel sorry for and pray for Mom2aspecialangel that she can find that peace, also, because I can't imagine the despair that she must be feeling after all this time of being so angry. We are praying for you and understand you need to do what is best for your family regarding this site (have you considered using the sign-in feature or delaying the posts till you ok them??) but know you, and baby Donovan, will never leave our hearts! I'LL BE LOOKING FOR THAT SIGN DURING THE GAME!!! GO COLTS!
Patricia <rrfpaf@hotmail.com>
Garden City, GA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 10:10 AM CST

Hey Melissa,
I guess some have never heard the term If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all. We will always be here for you and your family. I think of you daily and pray you find what ever peace you may need and if that means going to the super bowl then so be it. I hope your COLTS WIN. Im not much of a foot ball fan but I will be watching and thinking of Donovan cheering his colts on from HEAVEN.

Lots of Love
Michelle mother to ANGEL BLAKE:)
Michelle Doxsee
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 10:07 AM CST

Hi Donovan - I know you're having a tremendous time where you are right now! No more hurt...no more hospitals...just playing...laughter...joy. I'm sure you're looking down on your mommy and smiling at her. I'm sure you're very proud of her! I wonder...will you be watching the Colts this Sunday from where you are? I'm sure you will be right there with your Mom, helping her cheer them on because that's what you liked to do while you were here. I'm so glad I found your site a few months ago. Though I never was fortunate enough to meet you, I have been fortunate enough to have my life touched by you. You're an incredible little boy and you will always be remembered and greatly missed here on earth. We will all look to see you again someday.

Melissa - I'm REALLY looking forward to Sunday for several reasons. 1)I have been waiting FOREVER to see the Colts go to the Superbowl. I just LOVE football and I LOVE the Colts. I even bought a Colts shirt just for the occasion. The funny thing is - as I was looking through them and came across some smaller size shirts, I thought to myself, Donovan probably would have loved that shirt! :) 2) I can't wait to look for you holding up that beautiful sign with a picture of that beautiful boy. 3) I can't wait to see glimpses of Donovan's spirit - even if it is through the TV. I'm sure he will be there with you and rooting the team on. Hang in there. May God's grace bless you in a special way this week.
Jodi Johnson <jodi.johnson@stjude.org>
Memphis, TN - Thursday, February 1, 2007 9:55 AM CST

Praying for Alexia...Praying for you all too.
Love~
Jan
Jan Chapdelaine aka Mimi to Makayla (in heaven) & Hailey <jannyjo@cox.net>
Virginia Beach, VA USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 9:36 AM CST

Melissa and family, you do what you need to to grieve and heal. Your friends and family will understand and love you all unconditionally for whatever you chose. Everyone grieves differently and that is what makes us all unique. I pray that you get the much needed healing and time that you need. Please know that I will not stop praying for you, your family and that sweet little teddy bear in heaven. If it is okay with you, may I continue to email you?

Kerry Chapman
Grand Island, NE - Thursday, February 1, 2007 9:31 AM CST

Thinking and praying for all of you today. God Bless.
Sherry Nitschke
Jud, ND - Thursday, February 1, 2007 9:28 AM CST

i am prayin for yous all. dont listen to stupid people. i glad yous can goes to super bowls an remeber baby donavan.
crystal
mom to only angel kyle
http://www.caringbridge.org/nc/kyle1989/
crystal
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 9:26 AM CST

i am prayin for yous all. dont listen to stupid people. i glad yous can goes to super bowls an remeber baby donavan.
crystal
mom to only angel kyle
http://www.caringbridge.org/in/babydonovan/index.htm
crystal
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 9:25 AM CST

I am so sorry for your loss. I have been checking on your family for a long time now but never signed your book. The reason for doing so now is that I am appalled by some of the comments found in this guestbook. I am thinking that people don't understand the word guest. When you are a guest in someone's home do you treat them like this? As far as the person claiming to know how his brother would feel about you going to the superbowl I can tell you from first hand experience from when my brother died that if my mother had not of made us move on with our lives that we would of stayed in that little rut. You go to the superbowl and you enjoy yourself, you deserve this. I am a mother and I can not even begin to imagine the depth of your pain and noone should live their lives focusing on pain. Cherish the memories you have of your sweet little boy. Live for those special times and don't ever let someone who is obviously too ignorant to understand that people grieve in different ways stop your life or your site. This site is part of your grieving. Sometimes it is much easier to write/type what you feel then it is to actually put them into spoken words. I will continue to keep your precious family in my prayers. Have a safe trip to Miami and enjoy yourself. I think that you understand how short life is and how precious each moment is.
Amanda N
Columbia, SC - Thursday, February 1, 2007 9:21 AM CST

Oh, please, "say it ain't so!" I will surely go through withdrawls without being able to check on your family! And, most importantly, I will be wondering how you are doing. I will continue to check the site in hopes that every now and again you need to vent or just want to say "hi" to all of us Donovan fans. I hope you have an awesome time at the Superbowl! I very seldom watch the game but will be watching this year. May God Bless you always!
Lisa Evans <lisaraesc@yahoo.com>
Lexington, SC - Thursday, February 1, 2007 9:21 AM CST

Melissa-
I have not lost a child, but do have a child who battled cancer. You need greive, heal, and get closure in your own way. If that means going to the Superbowl, closing your Caringbridge page, or writing about how you feel, then that's what you need to do. Everyone deals with their sadness in their own way...there is not one way to handle it. Don't listen to people who tell you how to do it....you do whats best for you, Dylan, and Darren the way you feel is best. Do not doubt yourself.
If you do decide to close your page, I will still always think about you and your family and you will always have my support.
Stephanie Smith
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 9:18 AM CST

Dear Rasmussen family:
I cannot imagine why other people think they have the right or feel the necessity to tell you how to grieve the loss of your child. Having been in this situation I can assure you that this is something that everyone does in their own way and quiet frankly is not anyone else's business. We lacked the true support from our family as everyone left for home within a few hours of the funeral of our son. Our wonderful neighbors stayed with us and insisted we come over for dinner that night. One of her brothers came in unexpectedly and as the evening wore on he got to telling funny stories and jokes, at the end of the evening he became very serious and told us that it was important at that time for us to laugh as well as to cry, and not to feel guilty because we could still laugh. I think that was one of the first moments of healing for our family I sort I feel that the Super Bowl is like that to you. If you can go and get just one minute of relief, I say go and God bless. I would hate to see you close down your site because of rude people, but if that is your decision just know that I will continue to pray for you and your family. I do not think that Dylan has been or will be neglected by you. It appears to me that you have a wonderful family. It is not always possible to do everything together and I don't think it is always harmful to be apart. It would be great if your entire family could attend the Super Bowl together, but they may not enjoy it as much as you. I never watch the Super Bowl but this year I am rooting for the Colts. Good luck on this difficut journey you are on, and God bless each of you.
Vivian Adams <momandpops@centurytel.com>
Greenville, AL USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 8:57 AM CST

Melissa-
As much as I am going to miss the updates, after scrolling through the guestbook, I can understand why. I hope that you'll stop by ALL-kids and let us know how you guys are doing. Know that this CK mom holds no judgement, I only hope that you guys are managing OK during this difficult time. Safe travels to you and your cousin and I hope that Dylan and Darren enjoy having some "Daddy and Dylan" time together this weekend. To those who have criticized about hearing only about Melissa- on my son's site, I was extremely selective about what I shared- mainly, I only posted about tests, etc because I didn't want to share my own personal fear and anguish. Melissa has been the exact opposite and if you could not feel the love that she had for her family, that's your problem. If you go back and look at earlier posts, you'll see that for the longest, she was basically a single parent trying to keep up with two kids in a new city away from family and friends. That alone showed grit and determination to do whatever she could to save her baby. Melissa and her family have my utmost respect for keeping things together with humor and grace. Melissa- as a formal hospice social worker, I just want to say that I hope you never let anyone dictate how you grieve. Take care!
Lorie, mom to Ben (cancer warrior, pre-b cell ALL, dx. at 20 mo. 8/03, OT 10/06)
www.caringbridge.org/tn/benparents
Lorie H <lghirsh@hotmail.com>
TN - Thursday, February 1, 2007 8:56 AM CST

Melissa, my heart goes out to you during this most horrific time in your life. Certainly, the order of things was not designed this way.

There have been many families who have chosen to go on trips and do other things that some might consider inappropriate so soon after the death of their child. I have never read in their guestbooks the criticism and hurtful remarks that you have been experiencing. They continue to journal if they feel it is the right thing. You created Donovan's site so that you could have a support system for you and your family during this most difficult journey. If Donovan's site no longer brings you the peace and help it has, then you are right to stop journaling. You and your family will always be remembered and thought of in a positive way even if you don't keep up the site. If others need to feed off your grief, whether in a positive or negative way, then they should find another outlet.

Enjoy the Super Bowl!
Elinor Schwartz <eschwar1@tampabay.rr.com>
Lithia, FL - Thursday, February 1, 2007 8:51 AM CST

soo sorry to hear that you are thinking of closing this site....I pray you will change your mind...you are an awesome person...I admire your strength....keep up the good work..:)

God bless
Ozzie <ovieira@hartz.com>
Harrison, NJ - Thursday, February 1, 2007 8:50 AM CST

I've never signed the guestbook here but i found you guys at asher and angel Jacobs site... I just want to say... HAVE fun!! I will be looking for that sign!!! I am praying for your family!! Have fun!!!
Heather H <nannyheadie@hotmail.com>
Edina, MN - Thursday, February 1, 2007 8:47 AM CST

Melissa,
I hope that one day in the future you will be willing to update us on how you, Darren, & Dylan are doing. Speaking for myself, I checked in not only to see how things were going with Donovan, but also the rest of you. Even though most of us are very far away checking in on the site made me believe I was closer than I am. I hope that you have a great time at the Superbowl! Being a Florida Gator it is soo hard to route for Peyton (as he was a Tn Volunteer), but I will tell you this....I won't be routing for him to lose. I know that being at that game this weekend will be a great time and that Baby D will be there arms up and all! I will continue to pray for you and your family for healing and wholeness. Keep the faith...I know God has great things planned for you.
Kristy Caulder <g8torchicky@yahoo.com>
Cantonment, Fl USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 8:46 AM CST

I'm so sorry for those who have chose to criticize rather than support. Each of us are individuals who handle any of life's circumstances differently from others. Please know that there are plenty of us who are still praying for and supporting you all. You need to do what you feel is best for you and your family, only you can know that. If this was your last post I will truly miss coming to your site and seeing how you all are doing. One thing that has always amazed me is how you have fought this battle together. My prayer is that your together-ness will continue and that you will allow GOD to continue to guide you as you piece your lives back together and find new direction for your passion and determination. Thank you for your openness and for sharing Donovan's journey with the world. You truly are a special family, and I have been blessed through you.
Kristi Gerdon <kgerdon@widrick.com>
Croghan, NY - Thursday, February 1, 2007 8:43 AM CST

Mrs. Melissa, I have been coming to Baby D's site for some time now. I signed a few times. But when I read that you might be closeing it out because of the hateful things that people are saying. Do not let these people win by closing this site down. I can not imagine how these words hurt and I also can not imagine some one out there in this world could be so mean, hateful. You have the power just delete it and pay no attention to their harsh words. Dylan does need you at this time but he is stronger then we think. Kids understand more then we will ever know. He knows that you love him, he also knows how much you are hurting and when the time is right he will let his feeling out to you. I just wanted you to know that there are some good people in this world that is reading Baby D's site. This is one and hoping that you do not close. I would love to check on you, Darren and Dylan. From one Colt fan to another. Go Peyton! If you would like to write to me through e-mail I would love it. I know I am a stranger to you but after following Donovan for so long I feel that I know ya'll.
Prayers/Love Vanessa
Vanessa Beiriger <vbeiriger@apgov.us>
Gonzales, LA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 8:37 AM CST

Melissa,
You have been a true inspiration to me. Please take into consideration that the hurtful people who left you negative entries are people with no compassion. You on the other hand have a lot. You spent two years of your life watching your sweet baby struggle with pain, and wanting to take it away from him and couldn't. You have experienced a parent's worst nightmare by having to watch your sweet, sweet Donny die. I can't imagine the pain you and your family have gone through. I think Donny would want you to go to the Superbowl. I would like to believe he was the one who gave the Colts that extra push at the end to win it, so you could go. Please don't stop your journals. To the people who have hurt you, I would like to say that this is a place for SUPPORT NOT JUDGEMENT. Melissa please don't let these people out to hurt you win.
If you must end these journals, know that your family will always be in my prayers.
God Bless,
Christine
P.S. I will be watching the game on Sunday, because I am too a super huge fan of football, and I hope to see your huge poster of your Angel. Go Colts!!!
Christine Boisvert <cb@atlasinspection.com>
Ham Lake, MN - Thursday, February 1, 2007 8:34 AM CST

Dear Melissa and Family,

I, like the others, will certainly miss checking up on your family on a daily basis, but if closing this website is what is best for you and your family, then so be it. I appreciate the way you have shared your life, your family, your hopes, your dreams, your sorrows, and your grief with all of us. I have been humbled by your strength and faith.

God bless you all!

Donna Charles <dcharles@butler.edu>
Indianapolis, IN - Thursday, February 1, 2007 8:24 AM CST

Dear Melissa,
I have followed your site for a while now. I guess I'm what you would call a lurker. Many people don't know what it is to experience this kind of grief. I've not lost a child, but I was widowed about a year ago and left to raise my son and daughter alone. I never understood grief until I began this journey. My husband passed early on Wednesday morning. We had his funeral on Friday. My son played in his high school football game that night. My daughter was in her place with the band. Our family came and supported all of us that night. Many people raised eyebrows about doing this, but the kids and I believed that this was the best way to honor their dad. Enjoy that Super Bowl. Take energy from it. There are difficult times still to face. You have to find the strength to grieve and to support your son in his grief. I'll be praying for you.
Melissa Benson <jan1026@aol.com>
Katy, tx - Thursday, February 1, 2007 8:22 AM CST

Melissa~ I will miss your reading your updates every day. Just remember that if you change your mind or ever feel like you need a friend, someone to just listen, we'll all still be here. Take care of little Dylan. We all know you will. It's so obvious that you love your boys more than ANYTHING!! You're a very good mommy & you've been an inspiration to many. Little Donovan has been an inspiration too. I hold my babies more often and hug them a little tighter because of you and Donnie. Thank you for sharing Donnie and your journey with all of us. I will keep you, Darren & Dylan in my prayers. I will be watching for you and little Baby Donovan on Sunday. GO COLTS!!!
Karen Small <karensmall@charter.net>
Saint Charles, MO USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 8:16 AM CST

Melissa,
I found Donovan's site a little while ago and followed your journals daily. I am very sorry for your loss. He was absolutely adorable. I apologize for anyone who would tell you how you should be grieving. I do think that keeping Donovan's memory alive is most important and that's what you are doing. I just wanted to at least let you know that I have been cheering your little one on all along. I rarely even opened the guestbook, as I wasn't sure whether to sign or not. Our children suffer from different conditions but nevertheless, they suffer and we have a lot in common. Please accept my condolances and know that your little Donovan will always be in my heart.
Krystena & Boys (Caden & Carsen)

Caden & Carsen http://www2.caringbridge.org/ky/cadencarsen/ <krystena@bellsouth.net>
Mt. Sterling, Ky - Thursday, February 1, 2007 8:11 AM CST

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you are going through. Just lean on the Lord and He will lead you through! He will also take care of everything else - just leave it in HIS hands.
Annette Darden
West Monroe, LA USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 8:07 AM CST

Melissa and others, first I'm sorry about the loss of Donovan. I have been in your shoes and there is nothing worse. As for the "negative" comments take them with a grain of salt. Part of being a friend is also telling them something that may hurt. It sounds like people are worried about Dylan and Darren too. Dylan has not had your attention for a couple years. From the outside it may seem that he still is not a priority to you. As harsh as it may sound Dylan needs you now. He lost as much as you did and he needs you to be there for him. Sure, you need to heal yourself as well but he needs to come first now. Donovan came first for so long, Dylan's time is now. I would want my friends to give me perspective. I think you need to spend this time with your husband and son rather than taking off without them. Cheer on the Colts together. There is nothing wrong with rooting for your team, but do so with those who need you - and you need as well.
Sarah R.
Dayton, OH - Thursday, February 1, 2007 7:50 AM CST

Melissa,
Sorry to hear there are such rude people out there. This isn't the first time I have read that these people have said mean things and hurt the feelings of very sad parents. I am sorry for that. Just for you and Baby D this weekend I will be reversing the way I usually watch the Super Bowl. What I mean is I usually watch the commercials and then get up and do stuff while the game is on. BUT not this year, I will try and stay put the whole game to watch for sweet little D's picture and cheer on the Colts!!! God Bless you and your family!!
Shannon
Lincoln , NE - Thursday, February 1, 2007 7:47 AM CST

Melissa,
I am so sorry to hear that you are endning Baby D's journbal. I understand why,, but I am still sad. May God give you the support you need to make it through each day. I will be watching for your big sign on superbowl sunday. I can't image CB without you. Keep in touch, and GO COLTS!! Baby D, please be with your mommy and daddy and big bro. We all know how much they miss you. Be with them. Let your memories flood there hearts. Praying for all of you.
Jennifer HInes <creative_jenny@cox.net>
mesa, az - Thursday, February 1, 2007 7:30 AM CST

Melissa,

It really saddens me that you have decided to close the site. I have turned on my computer every morning and gone straight to your site. Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us. Melissa you have been such an inspiration, God knew what he was doing when he made you and Darren the parents of Baby D. and Dylan. It takes special people to go thru what you guys have been thru. And thru it all your love was unconditional to your boys and family. I only wish that I could have met Baby D. he always put a smile on my face, I love all the pictures you shared with us. What an amazing little angel!!
Melissa, you go to the Super Bowl and have the time of your life with Baby D. there with you. I will be cheering for those Colts and looking for you and your poster when I watch the super bowl.
Melissa you will be be missed, please consider updating with your details of the Super Bowl. Please don't let the negative things that people say effect you as you know what you have done and went thru and noone can ever take that away from you. You and your family will always be in our thoughts and prayers. Baby D. take care of your family and let your mommy know that you are there with her at the Super Bowl. Dylan you are special little boy and a great older brother for Baby D. I hope that you continue to do good in school and keep mommy and daddy busy. Darren you are a great father to your boys you can see how much you love them in the pictures, take care of yourself, Melissa and Dylan. Grammie your posting to the website made me cry and I no that your heart is broken but you were lucky to have such a wonderful family and I will also continue to pray for your strength to make it thru the days ahead. I will miss this caringbridge site and the updates. Thanks again for sharing your journey with us. Love to you All!!
Danna Lawrence <danna@teamtransportation.com>
Summerville, SC Berkekley - Thursday, February 1, 2007 7:28 AM CST

Melissa and family...I have followed all of you and Donovan, cking on him daily. I will miss all of you, even tho we've never met. I thank you for sharing Donovan and your family with me. You are an inspiration, and believe me having a child in Heaven has its advantages, someone is always watching over us!!!! Our Angels taught us so much in being a better person and have learned what life is really about!!! Have a safe trip to Florida, and I will be watching the Colts in honor of Donovan and looking for HIS sign:)
Love, Denise
www.caringbridge.org/in/sydneylynne
Denise Pequignot <dpequignot@earthlink.net>
S Whitley, in usa - Thursday, February 1, 2007 7:24 AM CST

Melissa - continue to be your own person. God will help you through all of this. I will continue to pray for you and your family.
Susan Mitchell <smitchel@calfee.com>
Cleveland, Ohio United States - Thursday, February 1, 2007 7:10 AM CST

Thank you so much for sharing your family's story so openly these past months. As you know, you have inspired hundreds upon hundreds of people. Like the others, I wish you only the very best on this long road to healing. You are in my thoughts and prayers daily. Although I never met Donovan I miss him and grieve that he is no longer on this earth. In my faith (judaism) cards that are sent to mourners often have this expression: "may your memories bring you comfort" and I very much wish that to you. With much admiration, Bobbi (mom to Avi, osteosarcoma survivor, Georgetown Hospital)
Bobbi Spector <rjspector@rcn.com>
Bethesda, MD USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 7:09 AM CST

Melissa, Thank you so much for sharing Donovan's story with all of us. May you and your family find peace in each other in times to come. You have touched so many people and made me look at and enjoy my 2 boys that much more...You should be so proud! Thank you! God Bless...
Cindy
CT - Thursday, February 1, 2007 7:07 AM CST

I won't even take the liberty of wasting my time or anyones elses to acknowledge the remarks made to you by a certain individual. Your family deserves nothing but happinness, and I wish you the best. I know when I watch the game on Sunday, my mind won't be on anyone else except Donovan, the Teddy Bear. He is loved by many and so is your family. Your life does not stop, your life goes on...and it must.
Pat Johnson <pjohnson@matcmadison.edu>
Fitchburg, WI USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 7:03 AM CST

Melissa~ I wish I would have signed the guestbook earlier, as I check your site daily. I learned of Donovan's site when he relapsed. I will forever remember his silly little smile. I love the picture of him grabbing his nose! You have given so much of yourself to your boys, please go and enjoy the superbowl, you deserve this for YOU and DONOVAN. He would not want you to miss it! Just remember that you have people praying for you from around the world.
Denise <dpaasivirta@yahoo.com>
Helsinki, Finland - Thursday, February 1, 2007 6:56 AM CST

Dear Melissa,
I am so sorry to hear that you are thinking of closing the site. But if this is what helps bring closure to this, then you should go for it. Nobody has the right to judge you for what you do or say. You are a wonderful mom to both your boys. there will always be bad/angry people, and they are often selfish and think that we all should think and do like them. Well this just shows that you are not selfish, and your life is nothing but PASSION and enjoying life and what you have. The super Bowl will be unique this year and even though I can't watch it on TV (in France, no so much fans I guess) I will be thinking about you and Donovan. We all have our ways of grieving and I am glad that you know what works for you.
I will still be praying for you and your family for better days. I hope to hear for you again but if I don't, know that you've given all of us much more than you can imagine. I am going to go hugh my daughter and tell her I love her now,

GO COLTS!
Nathalie Doremieux <nathalie@doremieux.org>
Toulouse, France - Thursday, February 1, 2007 6:45 AM CST

I think of your family often, you will be very missed on the caringbridge site. You are a very strong woman, keep your head up and rememer all the greatness of Baby Donovan!!
Tammy McMahon <tamthenurse@aol.com>
Dracut, MA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 6:43 AM CST

Melissa,
I would hope that this isn't really your last post, if it is, you will be missed. Donavan stole my heart, and took a piece of it with him to Heaven. I don't think I will ever forget your sweet baby "D'. What a blessing he is to so many people.
I wish nothing but the best for your family. You all deserve to have a wonderful life. I really hope that you will be back to tell us about the Super Bowl!
Love & Prayers,
Amy Nasworthy <mnasworthy@tampabay.rr.com>
St. Pete, FL - Thursday, February 1, 2007 6:18 AM CST

I've only signed one other time but I wanted you to know how I enjoyed getting to know Donovan and what a special little boy he was. I think it's awesome that you can go to the Super Bowl and cheer your team on. You know Donovan will also be watching and cheering. I will be looking for your sign and I'll also be rooting for the COLTS! Take care and know we'll all still be thinking about you long after you've signed off.
Vicki Lynn Pfiester <vlpfiester@chartermi.net>
Bark River, MI - Thursday, February 1, 2007 6:16 AM CST

Dear Melissa, Darren and Dylan, I wish you all a wonderful life filled with love and happiness and peace. I will never forget Donovan or the strength of your entire family. As you say goodbye to this site please know that your family will be missed and that Donovan's spirit is alive with so many people around th world.
Kristina <kristinacoffey@comcast.net>
cohasset, ma usa - Thursday, February 1, 2007 6:15 AM CST

No No No!!! Melissa, don't you give even one iota of energy to being hurt or upset by the mean words of one pathetic excuse for a human being!!! First off, I doubt that "person" even IS a mom to an angel - because if she really were, she would never say something so hurtful and inappropriate and judgemental to a fellow angel mom!!! Second - only YOU know what is right for you and your family, and if going to the Super Bowl makes you feel good and brings you closer to your little bear, then you go for it, and don't look back!!! You have done NOTHING wrong, and you have NOTHING to feel sorry about!! Please don't let this monster make you feel bad, and don't let her stop you from going to the Super Bowl, and mostly - don't let her stop you from posting here!!! You have lot of people praying for you - me included - and I know that Donovan would want you to go to the game and smile and be happy!!! The "person" who posted those mean things in the guestbook will get what is coming to her - what goes around comes around!!! If saying mean things to someone else and causing pain to you makes her feel bigger - well, there is nothing to say about that, is there? I personally feel supremely sorry for her - she sounds like a lonely, miserable, pathetic woman. You on the other hand are loving and good, and you have a wonderful family, a husband and son who love you, and an angel bear watching over you!!! Don't give this nastiness another though - you just go and enjoy!! I will think of you and Don as I watch the game!!! Go Colts!!!!!!!!!!!
Barri <barrikim@optonline.net>
Long Island, NY USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 6:14 AM CST

Bless Your Soul,
You have been through so much. I am sorry to hear that the site will be deactivated. I will miss the updates. Know that we are praying for you. I will greatly enjoy the magazines I ordered from D'S site. I look forward to getting the first one soon. May God Bless You and Your Family.

Paula Thompson www.caringbridge.org/visit/zacharyathompson <thompson@sptent.com>
The Colony, TX USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 6:06 AM CST

Thank You for sharing your family's story, May your Angel be over your shoulders wherever you go. God Bless. Have fun at the game! GO COLTS!
Jessica (Caring Nurse fromVA) <jlbncrcz@comcast.net>
Lynchburg, va - Thursday, February 1, 2007 5:41 AM CST

I only "met" Donovan a short while ago through caringbridge. His courage and his fighting spirit are truly inspirational.

While it is impossible for another human to truly "know" what you are going through; I do know that each of us has to deal with our days the best way we know how. I am inspired that you choose to celebrate the good times! While I enjoy football, I don't normally have a favorite pro team. That has changed this year. I have been a Colt fan all the way!!! We are having a big Super Bowl blowout in honor of Donovan. We will celebrate his drive and his determination and will cheer the Colts on to demonstrate those qualities on the field for the whole world to see. Go Colts Go!!

Please know that only you can judge what is best for you and know that others are touched by your ability to choose to celebrate when it's probably lots easier to curl up and cry. Whatever you need to do this week or the next, I support 100%! Godspeed and hold that sign high for us all to see the world over.
Karen <karent924@charter.net>
WV - Thursday, February 1, 2007 5:29 AM CST

Thankyou for letting us be a part of your families lives and allowing us to love your precious Donovan. My family will be in blue on Sunday for your family (and I think half the country too!) Please think of updating once in awhile to let us know how things are - we care about you all!

Angie, Chris, Owen, Tyler, and Jake Wawrzaszek (www.caringbridge.org/wa/owen) <awawrzaszek@hughes.net>
Auburn, NY usa - Thursday, February 1, 2007 5:28 AM CST

Dear Melissa

If you feel it's time to sign off, OK. Thankyou for sharing your family and Donovan's journey with us. I have followed Baby D through the ALL-Kids list. My son starts school Monday and after leaving him there I will come home and switch on the Superbowl. I saw an ad for it today on TV in Australia. I'll be watching and thinking of your family and especially Baby D. A tiny boy with a gigantic life. GO COLTS.

Sending you love prayers and strength
Cathy Nell
Canberra, ACT Australia - Thursday, February 1, 2007 4:02 AM CST

I just wanted to say I am thinking of you. I have read about your gorgeous wee boy for a while, but never posted. What a cutie!!! The world is missing an angel, but Heaven must surely be having a great welcome party.

With much love,
jess
jess <jeska_amba@hotmail.com>
new zealand - Thursday, February 1, 2007 3:31 AM CST

Thankyou very much for sharing your teddy bear baby Donovan with us all and for the journey, it was a pleasure to pray for you and your family, Take care in the future and you'll forever stay in our family prayers. I will always wonder how you are doing but I know God will keep you. God bless and I'll be watching the game this sunday.

CONNIE <NATIVEROSE1961@YAHOO.COM>
PUYALLUP, WA UNITEDSTATES - Thursday, February 1, 2007 3:26 AM CST

At first I didn't care about the Super Bowl, but this weekend, I will be the BIGGEST Colt fan I can be in Donovan's honor. I will miss reading all the updates from you. Before you sign off completely, I had left a message a while back saying that I had made a donation to St. Jude's fund in Donovan's honor along with a few other people. I colored a picture that hung in the Chilli's in NC with Donovan's name on it. If you'd like a copy of it, e-mail me at Nadeva913@aol.com. I check your site everyday, Donovan is truly missed and you and your family will be too! God Bless
.
www.caringbridge.org/visit/littlebrady
Allison Burger <Nadeva913@aol.com >
CT - Thursday, February 1, 2007 3:09 AM CST

Sweet Melissa,
I just wanted you to know that I am praying for you and your wonderful family. I hope you have a great time at the superbowl... please know that it is okay for you to go. Those who truly love you and care about you... we support you. You have plenty of time to grieve. You will grieve when you are ready and you will grieve in your own way. God knows what you can handle and when you can handle it. Remember God loves you too. He cares about you. God is watching over you and He will continue to take care of you. Please call me anytime. I will e-mail you my phone number.. not sure if you still have it or not. If Scott or I can help you or Darren in any way, please let us know. We love you all and we are praying for you. Please don't let others cause you to stop journaling. Those of us who love you (which is many) want to know how you are doing. This website is your website. Sweetheart you can write how you feel and it is okay. Baby D was just that ... a precious little baby.... YOUR Precious Little Baby, and we all come here for YOU, Melissa. It has been through your words that we have learned to love Baby D and your family. Either way, please know that I am here for you and I will be e-mailing you. A true friend loves at ALL times. (Proverbs 17:17) So many love you and I am one of many!!!!
Stacey & Scott Krause (mom & dad to Kaylee in Heaven)
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 2:16 AM CST

Hey gang,
You will remain in my thoughts and prayers. Drop by Kelly's site when you feel up to it and let me know how you are some time. I'll miss hearing from you. Squeeze Dylan, and know that every time I hug and squeeze Kellbell, I think of Donny. As surely as when I watch the Colts. I wish you the best. I spent this afternoon chatting with another Indiana mom, who just lost her son. I know you are feeling so many things right now. I pray for your faith to pull you through.
God Bless, Robbin www.caringbridge.org/in/kellbell
Robbin Lyons <thomtalent@aol.com>
- Thursday, February 1, 2007 2:05 AM CST

Dearest Melissa,

Everyone else has summed it up so well. Thank you for sharing your family's journey so openly & candidly. My life has forever been affected by your sweet, precious son, even though we've never met. It's so amazing to me that in his short life, he's had a greater positive impact than many people ever do.

I will miss this site, as I check on it (and a couple others) several times a day. Please know that although this site is closed, there are hundreds of people continuing to pray for your beautiful family and wishing you all the best . . . one day at a time.

I will never again think of the Colts or the Super Bowl without remembering sweet Donovan & saying a quick "thanks" for his life & your family. I hope the big game is a bright spot in your week.

Please know you're loved by so many strangers, as if we were all family. Take care of yourself, your husband & son.

Praying for brighter days,
Summer

Summer B
Eugene, OR USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 1:45 AM CST

Melissa (& family)- thank you for sharing your sweet Donavon with us. I will be praying for your family.

You will forever be in my heart-
Zhohn Dupont <z_dupont@hotmail.com>
SIMMESPORT, LA USA - Thursday, February 1, 2007 1:13 AM CST

Melissa,

As much as it pains me to think about you closing this site (I've grown so attatched to Donovan and the family), I want you to know that regardless of the site, you will always be thought about and prayed for! Donovan will forever be in our memories and hearts, that's one thing death cannot remove from us. For that I thank you Melissa, for sharing Donovan so openly and honestly with the rest of us in cyper world who have grown to love your family while traveling this journey with you all....

I have seen caringbridge sites with guestbooks thru bravenet, which allows the site owner to approve all posts before actually posting them in the guestbook for others to see. I do realize this would not spare you the pain of someones awful words, but it may alieviate some of the harassment you are receiving in the guestbook. Just a thought.......I hate to think of you feeling the need to close this site due to someone's negative postings.......it should be closed when you feel the need..........

Always praying for you Melissa and family.....enjoy the Super Bowl and we will be thinking of you there while we watch from home, and of course while cheering for the Colts......

~~Jennifer~~ <Jenifer66@aol.com>
Bremerton, Wa - Thursday, February 1, 2007 0:44 AM CST

I'm so in awe that you can still see the good in people in spite of all that you've been through. I know that I would be just so wrapped up in my own misery that I would overlook all the kindness and good things that had ever happened along the way. I hope that you have a great time at the Super Bowl, and I will be watching to see if I can spot you with your Baby Donovan sign. Your boys are truly your blessings, and I'm so glad that you were chosen to be Donovan's mother, even though it was for all too short a time. No one could have loved him more or done more for him, and I truly believe that you will see him again one day. My prayers remain with you and your family.
Denise Ward <deniward@shaw.>
Winnipeg, Canada - Thursday, February 1, 2007 0:30 AM CST

Still praying so for your family.

Ps 31:1-5: In thee, O LORD, do I put my trust; let me never be ashamed: deliver me in thy righteousness. Bow down thine ear to me; deliver me speedily: be thou my strong rock, for an house of defence to save me. For thou art my rock and my fortress; therefore for thy name's sake lead me, and guide me. Pull me out of the net that they have laid privily for me: for thou art my strength. Into thine hand I commit my spirit: thou hast redeemed me, O LORD God of truth.
The Prayer Bears Website
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 11:56 PM CST

Melissa I have come to love donovan and will miss seeing the awesome pictures you update. I happen to notice one of the neg. remarks came for a busy buddy in MO well I am from MO and everyone we know are rooting for the colts for your family and donovan I have a friend that lost a child right before the cardnials won the world seris and we belive it was a push from him. A very bitter sweet monent don't let the cruel people in the world take any monent away for you life is to short and sometimes to hard not to enjoy the good things what ever you can do to distract your self from your mind wondering. GO DONNY GO COLTS GO MANNING
Kathy Ulmer <bkulmer@charter.net>
FESTUS, MO - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 11:52 PM CST

Melissa,
I have followed Donovans site for many months now. I first want to tell you how sorry I am that your little man is not here with you. He was such a strong fighter and I am looking forward to the day I will meet him in heaven. As for the negative comments, it's just a shame that people think they have the right to give their opinion on how you are to grieve and carry on your life. I read a comment about how this was your dream and not your two year olds. I beg to differ. If any of you out there reading have ever had a two year (and I have had three of them) they all have there own likes and dislikes. They know what they like to play with, watch on t.v. and who they like to hang out with. I am sure that Donovan got excited anytime he saw football just like my little guy got excited anytime he saw a train or a truck come on the screen. He would have loved to been at a game and I am sure you would have loved being there as a family but since you can't-you are going and taking him with you in spirit. I guess I am just trying to encourage you and let you know that you are doing the best that you can do. There is nothing more than your little guy would want to do than to watch a little ball this weekend-Go do it for him!! God bless you all.
Amy, John, Autumn, Mara, Ian
Amy Wilkie <anwilkie@charter.net>
Lakeville, MN - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 11:20 PM CST

Dearest Melissa,
I will miss you and your sweet family so very much, but truly understand where your coming from. You have gave me so much these past few years...words can't even describe it. I wish you and your family peace and love on this next journey that you will be traveling. Donavan will always be in my heart.
I will be looking for you on T.V. at the game. Have a great time, and for now....you will be missed.
Colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
Muskegon, mi usa - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 11:09 PM CST

Melissa~
I left you a voicemail earlier tonight. I came on to see how you were doing only to read your latest entry...I truly understand. Please know that if you are reading this, I am praying for you my sweet friend. You have my number, please don't hesitate to call me. I know what you are going through. My heart, prayers and thoughts are with you all.
Try to have a good time this weekend sweetie...I love you all~
Much love and prayers~
Jan

Jan Chapdelaine aka Mimi to Makayla (in heaven) & Hailey <jannyjo@cox.net>
Virginia Beach, VA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 10:53 PM CST

Have a Wonderful Time
Donavan will be watching from above
Talk is cheap Forget it
You have always done what is best for both
of your boys. Hopefully you will be able to
come back to update the site one day if not,
know Donavan will not be forgotten!
Cathy Wachtstetter <Skugalskid@aol.com>
Ft Lauderdale, Fl - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 10:50 PM CST

Hugging you right now, holding you in my heart and prayers. Wanting you to know that I am here whenever you need me. Once you get home and the days are lonely and you miss giving 30+ medications and going to clinic plus 20 specialist and 10 therapist, you can drive the 1 1/2 hours to our house and spend a day or two with me and Graci and we will honor baby Donivans memory. He was so adorable, and you all were so fun and such a wonderful part of our transplant family.

It makes it so hard for me, not to be sad thinking of all the beautiful little angels that we have lost, we have quite a litte choir up there in heaven now. At least we know that Donivan will not be lonely. He has some friends to keep him company when he may get down from Jesus lap to chaise a butterfly or eat a honeycomb.

I mean it Mellisa, am walking on a separate path, but it is a simular road. If there is every anything that I can do for you or your family, anything to ease your hurt or just share your happy memories. Sometimes the worste things is just the outside "World" that doesn't understand our "Terminal Sick kid" world. They just don't get it, and that can be very hard. I will be praying for you to have an easy adjustment when you return home, I am sure that is going to be very dificualt.

Give Donivan a kiss from all of us, and I will say an extra special prayer for your family tonight.

Naomi Esparza www.caringbridge.com/visit/gracielaesparza (mom to Graciela fellow transplant buddie) <gracitransplant@hotmail.com>
Sellersburg, IN - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 10:47 PM CST

I wish you and your family all the best, Melissa. I'll keep you in my prayers always!
Becca Andrews <andre149@msu.edu>
Haslett, MI - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 10:29 PM CST

Melissa & Family~

Thinking about your PHENOMENAL family tonight, and lifting you in prayer. Your STRENGTH is amazing!

As the weekend is getting closer, so is your BIG GAME day, and time for Donovan, and your family to SHINE! It is ONE day, ONE game, go and have the time of your life, in loving memory of your precious, courageous, strong little man that will be smiling down on you from heaven, and with you in your heart and soul. He will be part of every tear, every smile, every cheer, not just from you, but from all of the loving, supportive "followers" and "supporters" who will be watching the SUPERBOWL, in his honor and memory.

ONE DAY, ONE GAME, but a lifetime of memories for a FAMILY. I am SURE Darren and Dylan are THRILLED that you get a chance to be there, and we ALL know, baby Donovan is too!

Melissa, after all you have been through, all the sacrifices you have made in the last two years, knowing this is something that means so much to you, you DESERVE to be there more than anyone in that stadium.

I am speaking for us ALL when I say, WE LOVE YOU, WE SUPPORT YOU, and we are SO VERY PROUD of the MOTHER YOU ARE.

Travel safely, ENJOY, HAVE FUN, make a LIFETIME of memories!! GO COLTS GO! DO IT FOR baby "D"!

Thank you for sharing your lives with all of us, you've already GIVEN more then you know, you've HELPED families around the world, THABK YOU for what you have given all of us!

Love & Prayers~ Claire

Claire Roy <caffemocha29@aol.com>
Kernersville, NC US - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 10:26 PM CST

I have been so blessed to follow Donovan's site. My love and prayers are with you.
Dorine McNary
Williston, ND - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 10:21 PM CST

Melissa, I have followed Donovan's story for some time, and I was so sorry when he passed away. He was just a little bit younger than my son, so I related to you in that respect. Now, I just want to say that you do what you need to, Donovan wouldn't want you to quit being you, the mother that he knew and loved. I am sure that Darren and Dylan understand why you are going to the Superbowl, its a way to honor Donovan's memory, and I personally can't think of any thing better than that.

I hope you will reconsider your decision to not post anymore, but if this was your final post, I wish you the best.
Jennifer Coon <thecoonfamily1@adelphia.net>
CA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 10:09 PM CST

One word that describes you Melissa is : PASSION! That is something everyone needs, and I hope you can keep your passion through this very rough time in your life. You have passion for your family as well as the COLTS! That is truly awesome! I am a Vikes fan, but will be cheering loud and proud for the Colts this weekend. We will always love your angel, and hope you change your minds about your updates! Just remember you and your family are loved!
Jamie
Sioux Falls , SD - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 10:01 PM CST

I just wanted y'all to know that I have read your site for a while now, but have just been a 'lurker' and not signed the guestbook. You are an amazing family, and I pray that God give you the strength to make it through each day and to PRAISE HIM in each day! God has something BIG in store for y'all!!! Thank you for being so transparent...it has truly been a joy 'getting to know' your family through this storm of your life. May God bless you in all you do!

P.S. - GO COLTS!!!
Ashley Frain
Hernando, MS - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 10:00 PM CST

I have been following your story ever since you moved to NC. I live in Indinapolis but found your through Friends of Allie. I have cried tears with you and rejoiced with all of your happiness. I am sad that you have to leave this site. I too would like to keep checking on you.

You truly are an awesome mother. I have admired your courage and never giving up on Baby D. He was so precious.

I am truly estatic for you being able to attend the superbowl. What an awesome chance for you to go and support something that brings you and brought Baby D so much joy. Go, enjoy yourself and have the time of your life. You deserve that and so much more.

You, Darren and Dylan have been through so much. I hope you all can find all the love and happiness you can get in the coming days.

Thank you for sharing your journey with us.
Kelli
Indianapolis, IN 45259 - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 9:59 PM CST

Dear Melissa,
I found your site through a friend's site. I have many times wanted to sign in to let you know that I was praying for your entire family, but I always felt that I never had the right words. But after tonight I felt compelled. I am so sorry for your loss. I will continue to pray for you all. Please remember to take care of yourself and be kind to your self. If you feel that it is the best thing for you and your family to stop posting, then I understand. Please know that you will be missed, but your sweet baby D and your entire family will never be forgotten. Take care! I hope someday you will be able to post again but I understand if this is just too much with everything else in your life.
shell
lawrenceburg, In United States - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 9:53 PM CST

We've come to check in to see how you are, we pray, we cry, we wish, we hold your family close.....All this because you were lucky enough to have such a precious darling come into your lives...Donovan
Melissa above all else remain true to your heart and keep being the wonderful mom you are to Dylan. I respect whatever decision you make and just want you to know how your story has changed my life. I will never forget you or Donovan. May God bless you today and always--may you find peace, comfort, joy, happiness and blessings. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being so courageous and sharing Donovan's story and life with us.
Karen Patterson <Anchormom@comcast.net>
New Castle, DE - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 9:49 PM CST

I'll be praying for you that recovery from this time goes smoothly, and that you continue to know that so many are thinking and praying for you and your family. Fully rely on God, and NEVER GIVE UP!
Danisha Luttrell <dluttrel@indiana.edu>
Bloomington, IN - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 9:46 PM CST

Melissa and family,

I pray that you find peace and comfort in the coming days. Please know that Donovan and all of you have touched my life in a way that I can't describe.

I have to admit, it will be a hard habit to break, not coming on to this site each and everyday, several times a day (is that weird?) to see how you are doing.

My heart is broken over the loss of Donovan, so I can only imagine the agony you are going through. And, I understand whatever 'steps' you need to take to get you through this difficult time.

I only hope everyone else 'out there' is so understanding.

God bless!
Jacquelyn <jacqmills@comcast.net>
Sacramento, CA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 9:43 PM CST

Dear Melissa,

Like everyone else, I will miss your updates. But you must do what feels right to you -- now, more than ever.

It hurts my heart to see people misusing Caring Bridge, a tool that is meant to support people. I hope you can ignore their negative and judgmental comments. They must know they are doing is wrong, because they cannot even leave their name or email address.

I hope that the time will come when you are able to share with us again. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Even though we have never met, Donovan will always hold a special place in my heart.
Kim <kimsue@mindspring.com>
Lancaster, CA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 9:42 PM CST

Dear Melissa and family,

I will be praying for you to have a safe and enjoyable weekend at the Super Bowl. You DESERVE it! Donnie will be there with you in spirit and in your heart.

Thank you for sharing your journey and letting us pray for you. I'd love to continue following your journal, but only if it feels right for you. No matter where you are, know that there are always people thinking of you and remembering Donovan

p.s. Go Colts!
Jenn B. FOH (formerly FOA) <pr@friendsofallie.org>
CA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 9:32 PM CST

Melissa, when I found out that the Colts were going to the Superbowl, I smiled because I thought of Donovan, and I told my husband all about Baby D. I will be watching the game on Sunday and thinking of Donovan...and watching for your big sign!! Thank you for sharing your precious baby boy with all of us-- I will continue to hold your family in my prayers--even if you do not journal anymore. Please do what you feel is right in your heart.

Kelly Madison <rcmkam@cox.net>
Omaha, NE - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 9:30 PM CST

I love you...
Dana Jobst <dajobst@cox.net>
Hampton, VA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 9:24 PM CST

I am so sad to see that you are getting more grief at a time when your grief is already unimaginable to most of us. No on has a right to judge or tell you how to grieve or cope with the loss of your precious baby. I was going to skip the game, but now my family and I will be watching for Donovan's picture, and praying for a safe and theraputic trip for you.
The Shawgo Family
Pittsburgh, PA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 9:15 PM CST

Melissa & Darren,
I'm glad you have the chance to go to the Big Game. Enjoy! Your world has certainly been a bit thin on fun lately - it's time to let loose a bit! I envy your spirit! I'm sure Darren has his own reasons for not wanting to go to the game. Everyone grieves in their own way - and all ways are painful.
That said, the people who claim judgement rights on others because of their own pain are not just to be criticized and written off - they are to be pitied and prayed for. While I can't imagine living with the pain of losing a child, I also can't imagine living with a bitterness so deep and dark that it totally blackens the world. My prayers are for all of you - for the healing that comes to the mind as well as the heart.
And I know I speak for many, many of us "out here" when I say - you keep doing what you need to do, Girl. If that means no posting for awhile, so be it. We'll understand. But there may be times down the road when you need the touch point these pages provide. When those times come, remember that we're out here. We'll be checking in on you - and our prayers will continue for you - all of you - for a very long time.

Love and Rainbow Smiles (just like Donovan's) to You All
from one of Donny's Prayer Warriors - now yours,
Dawn Dorsett
Dawn Dorsett
North East, MD - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 9:15 PM CST

Melissa,
I am a changed person because of Donovan and your family. I hug my kids tighter and am thankful for the little things. You have to do what is best for your family and your healing. Please know that you will always be in my thoughts - I can not imagine hearing the word "colts" or seeing a football game that will not make me think of you all and your precious Donovan. There will always be a few a few kooks in this type of public forum, however thousands of people will miss you and will always only wish the best for you. Enjoy the Superbowl - you deserve it and Donovan would certainly want it for you.
Take Care - Enjoy Life!
Amy
Thousand Oaks, CA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 9:14 PM CST

EVERYONE DEALS WITH THEIR GRIEF IN THEIR OWN WAY/TIME. TO EACH HIS OWN. DON'T PUT YOUR EXPECTATIONS/FEELINGS ON SOMEONE ELSE. EVERYONE DOES IT IN THEIR OWN WAY. LIFE GOES ON AND WE LIVE IT AS WE SEE FIT. ((((MELISSA)))) GO TO THE SUPER BOWL AND ENJOY IT! LISTEN TO YOUR OWN HEART.
Becki Solberg <bslbg@hotmail.com>
Mitchell, SD USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 9:10 PM CST

You must do what your heart tells you. Please know that there are countless of us out there that have been enriched by being allowed to share in your journey. If you "leave" this site, you will be GREATLY missed and we will continue to pray for you and your family. We will wonder how you are and hope for nothing but the best. In as much as you have come and gotten support from us, we have been blessed by the wholesome love that flowed through you to your boys. I pray that if you leave it isn't because of some thoughtless/mean-spirited individual, but because it is something you just feel you have to do. I would hope that you are able to "stay", we'd love to continue on your journey. But, alas it is your decision. Whatever you decide and wherever you go, know that many well-wishes and prayers follow. May God bless you and your family. May He bring you all comfort and a sense of peace. Enjoy your weekend.
Shawn
- Wednesday, January 31, 2007 9:07 PM CST

I have checked on Donovan's site daily for many months now although I don't normally sign the guestbook. Once again I am sorry for the loss of your little sweetie. I will miss your posts & wish you all the best. I will especially miss seeing the pictures of your BEAUTIFUL little boys! Enjoy the SuperBowl, you deserve it! I don't normally watch, but will be this year keeping an eye out for Donny's picture! Because of Baby D I am rooting for the COLTS!
Jennifer K.
Rockford, IL USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 9:04 PM CST

I am another parent of a child fighting cancer - my daughter has osteosarcoma. While I can agree that we all grieve in our own ways and that Melissa shouldn't curl up in a hole, this just seems off. Melissa has been basically begging and dropping hints about wanting to go tothe Super Bowl for a long time now - for Donnie's sake of course! Its Donnies dream... I think it merrits question - it isn't a 2 yr. old's dream - it is his mom's. And now to just leave your other son? At at a time like this? I find it hard to justify choosing a football game over your son and husband barely a week after burying your baby. That isn't ok. Donovan would surely NOT be ok with Melissa picking a football gave over his daddy and brother. Melissa, I hope it is worth it.
BetsyinMO
MO - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:57 PM CST

Melissa,

Know that whether this site is here or not, we, the lurkers and the avid posters, will continue to keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers. You have been through so much, none of us will ever understand exactly your situation. We are not in a position to judge you; we are in a position to send you prayers and love and hope. God will continue to hold you in His hands, please don't ever forget that. Don't lose your hope, your courage, and your strength. You are loved and surrounded by God's people.
Vicki <vjlsoccer@hotmail.com>
Atlanta, GA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:52 PM CST

Melissa,
One more thing.Look at the numbers at the end of the journal. Over a million, one hundred thousand people have logged on to your site. That kind of support is REAL and something that shows how much people care about you and your family.
Tamra
- Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:50 PM CST

Melissa

Don't let a few uncaring individuals stop you from posting. I'm sure if Donovan were still here, he'd want to go with you. You BELONG at the Superbowl; I think it's a wonderful way of honoring his memory. I truly hope that you only take a break away from your journal, enjoy your weekend and come back and tell us all about it.

Shame on the people who left nasty comments; didn't your parents ever teach you that "If you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all"?

Lastly, Melissa, have a wonderful time and a safe trip!!
Carolein, Jay and Jason Bennett <cat12780@yahoo.com>
Long Island , NY USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:47 PM CST

Melissa,
I have read your journal everyday for months. I checked on Baby Donovan every morning and every night. I prayed for him and for all of you. We who have not been through what you have,cannot possibly imagine what you have been through, now much pain you have and how much your heart aches for your son. Going to the superbowl will be a wonderful break for you but it will be so brief. You have a lot of rough days ahead. Donovan would want you to be at that game and I know he will be there with you. I was thinking days ago, how much I wish you could go to the superbowl, that someone would hear about DOnovan and your family and make sure you got to go. God Bless whoever made this possible. I dont watch football, but I will be watching this game to see if I can see you and your picture of Baby D. But if I dont see you, I'll know you and Donny are there! Have fun in memory of your beloved son. Do what you need to do, but like everyone else, I hope you will continue to let us know how you all are doing.
Love and prayers
Tamra
Hendersonville, NC - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:46 PM CST

Melissa
I hope you have the time of your life at the Superbowl. That is great you are getting to go.
I can't even imagine what you and your family are going through. I think of you all day and especially when I look at my kids. I just think "It's not fair!"
Your family is in my prayers. Peace be with you.

Jenny Harootunian
olathe, ks - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:40 PM CST

Melissa,
I am so sorry to hear that negative people are trying to stop such an awesome Mom from posting on her Adorable little ^son's^ caringbridge site any longer. You are such an inspiration Melissa and myself as a caringbridge family member we don't want to lose you, I hope that you will continue to post and let us know how you are doing We care about you and love you all so much we would miss reading your awesome posts! Melissa just know that I am here for you and I wish I could just come and give you a big giant hug well I will give you one through the cyberspace and hope that it reaches you!!! ((((((HUGS))))))))) Take Care
Brandy
Brandy Hendershot <branmuffin1982@yahoo.com>
Ellsworth, WI - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:36 PM CST

I'm going to echo what everyone else has said. IGNORE the evil posts and keep writing here. You've got a ton of support from THOUSANDS of people out here that care about you and your family. We'll be cheering the Colts on Sunday in honor of Donovan and his courageous family. GO and have a great time!!!

http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/zacksheart

The Hahn's <MishaaE@aol.com>
WV - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:36 PM CST

Melissa,
I will miss your family updates and can't even imagine what you and your family are going through. My prayers and wonderful thoughts are with you all and I am so delighted for you as you look toward the game (GO COLTS!!!!). I will be looking for your sign and will continue to check your site and wish great things only for you, Darren and Dylan and ^Donovan^! You are wonderful!
Taylor Black <ImTaylor2@aol.com>
So. Burlington, VT - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:32 PM CST

Melissa, I am so sorry for whatever negativity you received (I must have missed the entry). I just want to tell you that I will miss you and your entire family very much. I have followed your journey for so long and feel as if you are a part of my own family. When I read your latest entry, my heart sunk the same way it did when I read about Donovan's passing. You're a strong, amazing person and I only wish you the best for you and your family. If you ever need anything, please know that you can always count on me. Don't ever be afraid to just send me a quick email for anything...I truly mean this.
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
NJ - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:28 PM CST

One more thing, you've got a whole lot more people out here for you than against you. As my husband says,(excuse the profanity) "Don't let the bastards get you down!" Don't let them win, you have way more backing, more class and more dignity than those that choose to cause trouble. HANG IN THERE, WE ARE ALL BEHIND YOU 100%!!!!!!!!!
Becki Solberg <bslbg@hotmail.com>
Mitchell, SD USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:25 PM CST

You go to the SuperBowl and have the time of your life!!!! You deserve it. The Lord dealt you a very, very tough hand to play and you played it beautifully, with grace, dignity and strength. For the first time in a very long time, you go and enjoy something for yourself. I'll be looking for your sign...may the Lord bless you all. Whether you continue to post or not, your family will be in my prayers for a long time to come. You've all touched my heart.
Lisa C
Rochester , NY - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:24 PM CST

To ^Baby D^'s family...
I have enjoyed following Donovan's story for quite awhile but I'm not sure I have ever signed in. I was so sad to read of Baby D's passing, but am thrilled for your family that you are getting a chance to go to the SuperBowl. Although I'm not a huge football fan, I'll keep my eyes open for Donovan's poster and cheer for his favorite Colts! I'm sure he will be sending you signs to let you know he is there enjoying the game with you. I will miss reading your updates, but certainly understand your need to "move on"...not forgetting about Baby D, but continuing to live your life they way he would want. My thoughts continue to be with your family...
Kristen
Rome, NY USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:23 PM CST

God Bless You and Your entire Family as you continue through the next phase of your life journey!! I wish you all the best of luck!!
Tina Boling
GreenField, In USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:20 PM CST

WE NEED TO REMEMBER THAT THE devil IS OUT THERE CAUSING TROUBLE EVERYWHERE!!!!!!! IGNORE him!!!!! DELETE THE FOUL MESSAGE AND MAKE NO MENTION OF IT!!!!! The devil CAN ONLY BE SATISFIED IF he IS GETTING ALL OF THE ATTENTION AND CAN SEE ALL THE TROUBLE AND HEARTACHE he IS CAUSING!!! DON'T LET the devil GET his WAY, REJECT ALL THAT he IS SAYING AND DOING!!!!!
Becki Solberg <bslbg@hotmail.com>
Mitchell, SD USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:19 PM CST

Melissa, Although we hate to see you go, there is a time for everything. Thank-you and your whole family for allowing all of us to take the journey of Baby D's life with you. What a sefless and special family you are.May your continuing journey through life, be one filled with love, joy and happiness and all that you so much deserve. We will never forget you or Baby D, you all have an extra special place in our hearts.Be Happy Sweet Family..Be Happy!!!
Karen <indianagal_2004@yahoo.com>
- Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:09 PM CST

I feel truly blessed to have been able to share in your journey. You are a huge inspiration. Thanks so much for sharing your precious son with us. God Bless you all in everything that you do. I am sure Baby Donovan will be with you every step of the way - for he is truly blessed as well.
Amy Martin <paak9744@comcast.net>
Gurnee, IL USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:09 PM CST

I will be watching the Colts this Superbowl, looking to see if I can spot a huge poster of Baby D, and watching for signs that he's helping the Colts win.

We love you guys. We want you all to be healthy and well--physically, emotionally, and spiritually. You have to do what is best for you and your family. If you decide not to post more--just know that you will be missed and prayed for.
Gwyn McWhorter <gmcwhorter@gmail.com>
Murfreesboro, TN USA!! - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:05 PM CST

Thank you for sharing your journey with me. Although we never met, your updates made me feel a part of your family and I mourn the loss of your son.

I wish you and your family good luck and much happiness in the future.
Thank you again.

Lisa
Garner, NC - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:02 PM CST

I agree with Dana. if only half the readers posting did something to help, what a difference it would make. Anyone wanting to help can start by going to www.chemoangels.com and signing up to Angel someone going through cancer treatment.
A fan of Donnie
- Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:01 PM CST

Wow. I just can not believe all this on a site designed to try and make grieving families feel better. Really, who care what you or I think. You are NOT Melissa and even if you have lost your child that doesn't mean that your way of grieving is the "right" way. I truly hope God wraps his arms around this family as not only are they going through the worst time of their lives, but they have people like some of you to make them question themselves as parents. Shame on every one of you that bring negativity here.
Lori Crane
Ky - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:00 PM CST

Best wishes to you always. I will think of you often and pray for your family. I know Donovan will be with you always!! May God bless you in the days/years to come.
Michelle Gray
Michelle <gray1819@bellsouth.net>
Jay, FL 32565 - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:00 PM CST

Melissa, You have been a wonderful mom to both of your boys so continue to trust you instincts and do what you feel is in your family's best interest. Don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. If you feel it is time to stop posting, then no one should say otherwise. It has been my honor to have followed Donnie's journey and to have gotten a small glimpse of your life. Thank you for sharing in such a way that I have learned to be a better human being. God bless you and your family, as you go forward in life.
A dedicated Donnie Fan
- Wednesday, January 31, 2007 7:57 PM CST

Melissa, I'm so happy that you are getting to go to the Superbowl, ^^Donovan^^ would be very pleased. I hope that you do not have to stop writing in your journals as we always look forward to seeing your wonderful updates. I truly wish that people that don't have nice things to say wouldn't leave their comments. Please do not give in to them.Hoping you enjoy your special trip to see the Superbowl,you so deserve it!! Keeping you all in our prayers, Trish Boyd, www.caringbridge.org/visit/rhysboyd
Trish Boyd <boyd.trish@gmail.com>
Kendal, On Canada - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 7:56 PM CST

I am glad that you are not sitting in a corner and crying because that is not what little Donovan would want his mommy to be doing. He loved football so therefore it is a real joy for you to be able to go to the superbowl in memory of him. Please reconsider ending your caringbridge site as you have been very helpful and encouraging to others going through similar situations. I will be praying for you and your family.
Judy Kochsiek <rnjkochsiek1603@msn.com>
Woodbury, MN. - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 7:47 PM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan and family...our prayers will forever be with you...updates or no updates. Move forward into the next phase how ever is best for you and your family, but move forward knowing we will always pray for all of you. We pray for your comfort, and the strength in your marriage and as a family. God is with all of you, always.
The Matlock Family
Lemont, IL USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 7:46 PM CST

Melissa,

It is completely understandable that you no longer want to keep this site up. As I was reading people's entries "begging" you to keep it up, I thought to myself that instead of lamenting the end of your posts, we should go out and personally help a family who is going through the trials and challenges that the Rasmussens have gone through. If everyone who visited here would just go out and help one family in their community -- bring them a meal, give them a phone card, volunteer at a nearby hospital, anything -- it would be such a positive way to keep Donovan's memory alive and honor his life.

It is so easy to read CaringBridge sites, it is a little harder to pray for these folks, but to go out and serve others who are going through these things in our communities -- that is what is really needed in our world.

Just my $0.02 worth folks. And that's what I plan to do. Thanks for giving me insight Melissa, on what you families really go through and giving me ideas for practical ways I can help. God bless your family as you work through your grief.
Dana
Southeast, United States - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 7:46 PM CST

Melissa and Family...people can be so tireless with their judgements, but how many of the righteous do anything that reaches out in a positive way. I remember watching the playoffs and when the player put his head down in prayer, I just felt that Donovan was reaching back. My take is that Angels are everywhere and they go everywhere with us and I really think they often lead the way. Bless you and your family and you know what you've given and we have all been blessed to be pray warriors with you. Now know too, that our prayers have not ceased nor do they think there is a right way to grieve. We need to remember that as much as we mourn our losses, meeting the Lord and to be in His embrace is cause for celebration. God Bless You and continue to feel His embrace.
Pam Coakley <pcoakley2@yahoo.com>
Camarillo, CA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 7:44 PM CST

Hey please dont end it here. I have been reading your site so long and fell in love with Baby D!! I would like to keep reading your updates. Please dont let other peoples negative feeling toward you upset you! You are such a sweet person and i feel like i am so close to you even though we have never met!! Keep the faith and you are in my thoughts and prayers!!
jen Hewitt
bellevue, NE - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 7:42 PM CST

My prayers are with all of you. I don't know how I would grieve if I lost one of my children. I hope and pray I never find out. I DO know that it is NOT my place to judge you. You do what is right for you and your family. No one has the right to judge you. I LOVE Tony Dungy -- go COLTS!!! Stay strong.
Tammy Nettina
Lithia, FL USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 7:32 PM CST

I hope that you will reconsider your decision to stop the site. I have been checking in on Donovan and your family for so long now I can't imagine not seeing another update. I know I haven't signed your guestbook often enough, but that doesn't mean I haven't been here. I will continue to pray for your family, and hope that we'll hear more from you in the future.
Lisa
Lynnwood, WA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 7:24 PM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan and ^Angel Donovan^-

I have signed this guestbook a couple of times-not as often as I would have liked but sometimes the words just wouldn't come. I have prayed for all of you for months and have found strength and inspiration for my own life just from reading your journal entries. You have let many people into your life and allowed us to get to know all of you and the struggles you all faced-both regarding Baby D's fight and other struggles faced while trying to get through this time. I hope that when you look back at this journey the first thoughts are about the friends you have made through this journal, the lives your family has touched, strengthed, inspired and most of all educated some of us about what life is like with cancer. I hope that the negative things that have come up on this are not what you remember most about this experience. I know it is hard to ignore them-but please do not give them the satisfaction. I truely hope you can get past this hump, find the strength to show these people that regardless of what they say or how many times they say it you have the confidence to say "This is what I am doing for me and my family, this is how WE are dealing with this!!" You do not owe anyone anything-but please know that there are so many more of us that want to continue to hear about your journey. You already have helped so many-I hug my boys tighter every chance I get and tell those I love that I love them whenever I get the chance. I cherish the little things now and appreciate the good things in my life so much more becuase of your family and Baby D's journey. We all want whats best for you and if this journal is not a healthy outlet for you anymore we will understand, you need to take care of you and yours and you will all remain in my prayers forever!! Big Hugs being sent your way from MN!! GO COLTS!!!!

**While I know it's hard to not respond to the negative people-it only adds to the fire. Lets get back to what this journal is about and ignore the negatives-this family needs support and love and prayers regardless of if there will be anymore updates**
Tawni <t61176@yahoo.com>
East Bethel, MN - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 7:23 PM CST

Melissa I surely do ohpe this is not the last update that you post. Who cares what others think of you! My thoughts are if people do not like what they are seeing written on YOUR PISS OFF they can go else where! I think if that "mother" truely did lose her child she would be more SUPPORTIVE of you! As I stated in my last signing I will be yelling a little LOUDER for baby D and HIS colts.
BTW............this is not just a GAME.....this is D's GAME!!!!
Sunshine
- Wednesday, January 31, 2007 7:22 PM CST

Melissa - Why stop your entries? You'll be doing what they want. Do not give in to them in your grief....stand tall...stand proud.....you are better than them. Don't give in. There are ALOT more of us who understand you than don't. Don't let negative people take you down with them. Stay strong on your path.....do not let anyone take you on a detour.
mary' <mary6418@comcast.net>
- Wednesday, January 31, 2007 7:20 PM CST

the good will always outnumber the bad...dont let the bad guys win....and go colts go im not a colt fan but a donny fan and i know he would want them to win...if you have to leave please dont make it permanent we will all miss you...my family is so sorry we had to meet this way.
Carolyn
sioux city, ia usa - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 7:19 PM CST

Blessed be, Melissa and family. You will always be in my prayers.
Tracey Goodart <billtraceygoodart@yahoo.com>
Greenfield, IN - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 7:09 PM CST

Melissa, I hope you will continue to check in and keep us posted on how you, Darren and Dylan are doing. We will continue to keep your whole family in our prayers, especially dearest angel Donovan. Just look at all the love he has inspired through your Caringbridge site. Please think of us once in awhile, as we will be sending love to all of you. And if you have time, leave a note. We'll be watching the Super Bowl and saying a special prayer for the Colt's littlest guardian angel. Have a wonderful time! You've earned some R&R and have no one to answer to but Darren and Dylan. (And feel free to delete any guestbook entries you don't like. I really believe they are just trolls.)
Cindy <cdw8360@yahoo.com>
Rochester, NY - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 7:06 PM CST

go colts go....not my fav team but you get my cheers this weekend...for donovan and your family love and hugs from canada
kelly keys <flowerhouse@iglide.com>
sooke, b.c. canada - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 7:05 PM CST

Your family is in my prayers. The picture of Donnovan cuddling with his Dad tears my heart. Does anyone know how Melissa actually came about getting Superbowl tickets? If,not Melissa, then possibly someone who knows would want to share that with the people who check in on the family.

Karen Rappalaison
- Wednesday, January 31, 2007 7:05 PM CST

Our family also lost a very important person to ALL last year, and right before Christmas. We went on a cruise to the Caribbean a week later and it was the best thing that we could have done. It gave us something happy to do after the months of chemo and sickness and hospitals. Those who are judging you no idea what it is like to go through the cancer nightmare and the toll it takes on your life and what you give up to battle it. Please be strong, do not let them get to you. You are stronger and better than them.
Jennifer <marknjenna@yahoo.com>
Seattle, WA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 7:04 PM CST

hello, i really hope you will update in the future, i would really like to know how things go and keep up with your family.

all my love

viks
www.postpals.co.uk
viks <viks@postpals.co.uk>
- Wednesday, January 31, 2007 7:04 PM CST

I will also miss the updates, but please do whatever it is that you feel you need to do! If that means no more updates, that will be hard for all of us who have grown to care about you and your family, but you must put yourself first right now. I want to tell you, regarding the person who keeps coming back and leaving hurtful, mean messages to you: I am positive that this person is no "mother" as he or she claims, but probably a kid or teenager who has not matured enough yet to realize what a disgusting and repulsive thing they are doing by leaving negative messages to a mother who just lost her child. It is unforgivable, but need to try to not let it affect you. This person may very well get older and more mature and look back at this, and be disgusted and ashamed at the horrible horrible thing they have done. So you must try your very hardest not to let this sad immature person make your life any harder than it already is. I'm the kind of person who really takes things to heart, and I'd have a difficult time with taking my own advice if I were you, but I hope you are stronger than I am. I know you are. Have a wonderful time at the Super Bowl Melissa.
Donovan Fan <HKrieger@wi.rr.com>
- Wednesday, January 31, 2007 7:03 PM CST

I too am hoping that after "the dust settles" you will return to Caringbridge. I can't imagine what you are going through, but want to send you all of my love and prayers. Have the most wonderful time at the Superbowl!! I will be watching for your poster of sweet little angel Donovan.
God Bless you Always!

Kristina <kristinasorenson@hotmail.com>
Mankato, MN - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 6:58 PM CST

Melissa- I have been a long time lurker. I am truly amazed at your strength. Please do not stop posting! Ignore the negativity! Enjoy the Super Bowl! Do it FOR DONOVAN! May the Lord continue to give you strength to get through this time.
Keitt <keitt@lpchurch.net>
Bristol, Wi - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 6:54 PM CST

Melissa...I have kept up with Donavan for sooooo long. I beg of you not to quit journaling because of others. Their are to many of us that truly enjoy hearing about your journey. Im going to the superbowl too. I would love to know where your seats are so I can come over and give you a great big hug.
amy schwartz <amy415s@aol.com>
pembroke pines, fl usa - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 6:51 PM CST

Hello. Just checking in to let you know I am thinking of you guys and continue to keep you all in my prayers.
Maureen <maureenandrob@hotmail.com>
McKinney, TX USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 6:51 PM CST

Melissa:

You are not alone...many of us continue to "do" after our children pass away...

I remember the day after Cody died my friends came ot my house and dragged me to Busch Gardens...I remember sitting there at the park...thinking how can I be here riding roller coasters...then I realized...that if Cody were here that's where he would want to be.

I also made my way to a Dirt Bike race about a week after he passed away...sort of like what happened with you all and the Super Bowl tickets...someone went out of their way to pay tribute to something Cody knew and loved for us...it was difficult to be there...but I found my son's fingerprints all over it...

My husband and I went through many struggles after he passed...I hated him for "having more time" with him...I blamed him for many things he had no control over...

Don't let other people get you down...this site is about YOU for YOU...many of us will come here and offer words of encouragement and support...none of us...even the ones with similar stories will be able to feel exactly what you feel. This is YOUR journey...learn...live...make no apologies to people here who do not agree with how you are living your life. You are doing the best you can in the situation that you are currently forced to face.

I know first hand how difficult it is...but, like you, I am not one to curl up in a ball...sit in a corner and cry...or die for that matter.

God called our sons home...we were there...we supported them...we loved them...we did everything possible...

God, Himself, watched as His own Son died...He grieved...but He did not stop....He continued to offer grace, peace and mercy...and upon the death of His son He rejoiced at his return to heaven...His rightful place anyway...

Donovan has returned to heaven...Praise God!

If you ever need a friend...one who knows better than most what you are going through...let me know.

In Love & Prayer...Eleasha <eleasha@cox.net>
www.caringbridge.org/va/cody, - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 6:50 PM CST

I will miss your updates. Please sign on every now and then. How you cope with what comes after all of this will help others that will have to travel the same path you guys have traveled for over two years. We need to hear from you sometimes. This web site is therapy to a lot of people not only a place for you to place your thoughts and fears. Even though we have never meet I feel I know your family so well. Please take care and keep in touch with your extended family.
Renee Hoggard <reneehoggard@yahoo.com>
Windsor, NC Bertie - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 6:47 PM CST

I, too hope that you will continue to update us on your journey as I know there are great things yet to come from the Rasmussen clan! If you ever decide to open a forum to those of us who care, please send me an email. Every time I use my Santa cookies plate, I will always think of Donovan. Blessings to you all.
Lisa DeCarlo <athome4u@att.net>
- Wednesday, January 31, 2007 6:44 PM CST

Melissa and family--we're going to miss you terribly. Please reconsider and update your site occasionally at least. We want to know how you're doing. We care about you and even though we may not have met you we love you. Please keep in touch with all of us. I'm continuing to pray for you.
Bobbi PIper <bobbihome@hotmail.com>
Speedway, IN - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 6:37 PM CST

There are more GOOD people than bad...you are wonderful, you have been thru so much. Have a GREAT time at Super Bowl, I don't watch normally, but I will on Sunday looking for that picture of Donovan!
Kelly
Enterprise, f - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 6:36 PM CST

Continuing to pray for you and your family through the difficult journey you still travel in learning to heal in your own way. God Bless you.

www.caringbridge.org/visit/isaacsimpact
Lisa lawton
Louisville, KY - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 6:35 PM CST

Melissa: I am very sorry to hear that you are no longer going to be posting on this website. However, I do understand it is time to move to the next stage of your life. May God Bless your family and I haope you enjoy the weekend to come.

Love,
The Kelley's
Jim, Lisa and Kanon
The Kelley's <Kelley.Jim@gmail.com>
Borwnsburg, IN - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 6:34 PM CST

Everyone has the right to grieve in their own way, and you are not obligated to explain your actions to us. I would hate to see you end your journaling because of negative comments from others. I know I would miss Donovan's sweet face on the site. May God wrap his arms around your family and give you peace.
Michelann Tangen <hlcqueen@yahoo.com>
Fargo, ND USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 6:32 PM CST

They are calling for snow for us here in North Carolina, again, tomorrow. Snowflakes are angel kisses, sent down from the heavens above. Your precious son Donovan will be another PERFECT ANGEL that I will be thinking of as the snowflakes fall, and hit my face like angel kisses, tomorrow as I play outside with the girls.

I agree 100% with Laura Lynn, and so many others who love and support your family.

"Mom2aspecialangel"~

Your rude opinion, and comments are not welcome here. If you don't like what you read~then don't visit this site. Being a "Mom" to an "angel" WE as a caring bridge FAMILY would expect MUCH more from you.. I'll pray for you tonight, that our great God gives you the care, love, compassion, and understanding that you are in need of, so you can learn how to reach out and comfort others, with the strength and comfort you TOO can find in GOD!!
Claire Roy <caffemocha29@aol.com>
Kernersville, NC US - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 6:26 PM CST

Melissa,

My name is Lisa and I have checked on your family for the past 1 1/2 years and signed your guestbook on several occasions. I am a long term survivor of ALL (Diag 1979, Relapse 1985) and I guarantee that if I had not survived I would be very sad if my parents and siblings did not go on with their lives enjoying everyday activities. Although I am certain that your days are filled with emptyiness and sadness, we all know that Donovan is in a better place shining down on his family and desperately wants you to be happy. It is those that are left behind that suffer until we meet our love ones again. We have all grown to care and love your family and would hate to see you give up your caringbridge site. You are an inspiration and support to others walking down your path. Personally, I have found so much comfort and healing reaching out to others. Please don't let the few negative comments discourage you. You have people all around the world who love and support you unconditinally, the same way that Jesus does. I will continue to keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Lisa Jenkinson <lisajenkinson@yahoo.com>
- Wednesday, January 31, 2007 6:25 PM CST

I have never written before but checked this site often. I just felt like I had to write. Please ignore all of those people who are saying things. Yes you lost a child but you still have another child and you need to live your life also. People mourn all ways and I say more power to you for being able to go on. Please understand you have more people who support you and they way you can go on. I pray for those who say negative things. Enjoy the Super Bowl and know that your sweet little boy will be with you in that stadium.
Jennifer <mycass412@aol.com>
Philadelphia, PA USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 6:18 PM CST

I hope this isn't your last entry. I just don't know why people are so mean, what is wrong with them. People grieve differently. I know I grieved differently for my mom then I did for my dad. I don't know what I would do if I lost a child. I always read your entries and think what a courages woman to be able to write and to help others while you and your family are going thru so much.
I will be watching the game on Sunday and only to see you with the banner of Donovan.
God Bless and hug Dylan for me.
francesca <francesca11@comcast.net>
stoneham, ma usa - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 6:05 PM CST

Thinking of you and your family tonight, and often.

Karen, Clare's mom www.caringbridge.org/md/clareschmidt
Cabin John, MD - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 6:04 PM CST

Dear Melissa,

I understand why everyone is so vocal about you continuing to post entries, because we are all very eager to hear about you and your family every single day. But I also understand why you need to sign off of the website and continue on... I am so glad for you to have realized this. At the same time, I do hope you'll post every now and then about how you, Darren, and Dylan are doing!

I know I've said this many many times, but I feel so lucky to have been Donovan's best buddy, and it was such a pleasure to spend time with you and Darren at the hospital, and Dylan during the afternoon we spent in the gardens. If there is anything you need while you are in Durham, please don't hesitate to call me! I will always be here for you as a best buddy. =)

Much love,
Kelley Chuang
Durham, NC 27708 - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 6:01 PM CST

May God hold you in this time of great need! As a parent of another angel myself I can understand some of the feelings you are experienceing. My little boy died after open heary surgery to fix a defect. Things will be hard in the beginning but keep your head up and know that someday you will see your baby boy donovan again! My family and I will be praying for your family!
Mary Gilbert <mary_gilbert_1999@yahoo.com>
Topsham , Me United States - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 6:00 PM CST

Oh Melissa, please don't take Donovan's site down or stop posting. I have come to care for you and your family so much over the past couple of years. I'm sure it sounds selfish of me, but I would just hate not knowing how you guys are doing.

As for those who have posted mean uncaring things in the guestbook....ignore them. I know that must be much easier said than done. But, they want to get you riled up. They want to cause more pain in your life. Don't give them the satisfaction of letting their ignorant comments get the best of you.

As I posted earlier, you DESERVE to go to the Superbowl! I know Donovan will be right there with you in spirit.
Ginny Deegan <jgdeegan@msn.com>
Mtn. Home AFB, ID USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 5:58 PM CST

Melissa I hope that you will keep writing and letting us know about Dylan and your family. You are a special family and everyone has come to love all of you. Please let us know how you are doing. May God be with you, Darren, and Dylan.
Donna <drobinson1027@aol.com>
Williamston, SC USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 5:57 PM CST

Hi Melissa,
Please do not stop posting. Please don't let the negative comments get you down.

I am glad that you are going to the Superbowl. If anyone who has been following the journal for any length of time, they know that you are a HUGE Colts' fan. I wll be cheering the Colts on to victory on Sunday!

To those of you who post negative comments, stop before you post. Every one of us grieves in our own way. Please respect Melissa's way of handling her grief.
Kristi <simplykristi@simplykristi.com>
Near KC, MO United - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 5:53 PM CST

I am hoping we will hear from you again telling us how your week end goes and also following up with your day to day feelings. Please do not take your site down-so many of us enjoy seeing the pictures and reading your entries. You are helping many others.
I have always tried to live by, "judge not, lest ye be judged," and I pray all others who come to this site can do the same.
You gave this fight your all and you did a great job of it; don't let someone who has no idea of what you went through drag you down. You're a great mom and you fought the fight.
Baby D is in a better place and we are left to grieve.
God Bless you and your family.
anonymous
- Wednesday, January 31, 2007 5:50 PM CST

Hi Melissa,
I found this on a caringbridge website and have since lost the web address, but I hope this helps. A fellow Cancer-Mom lost her precious baby, Hannah and it helped her:

The Gap
Michael Crenlinsten

The gap between those who have lost children & those who have not is profoundly difficult to bridge. No one, whose children are well and intact can be expected to understand what parents who have lost children have absorbed & what they bear. Our children come to us through every blade of grass, every crack in the sidewalk, every bowl of breakfast cereal. We seek contact with their atoms, their hairbrush, their toothbrush, their clothing. We reach for what was integrally woven into the fabric of our lives, now torn & shredded.
A black hole has been blown through our souls &, indeed, it often does not allow the light to escape. It is a difficult place. For us to enter there is to be cut deeply, & torn anew, each time we go there, by the jagged edges of our loss. Yet we return, again & again, for that is where our children now reside. This will be so for years to come & it will change us profoundly. At some point in the distant future, the edges of that hole will have tempered & softened but the empty space will remain - a life sentence.
Our friends will change through this. There is no avoiding it. We grieve for our children, in part, through talking about them & our feelings for having lost them. Some go there with us, others cannot & through their denial & a further measure, however unwittingly, to an already heavy burden. Assuming that we may be feeling "better" six months later is simply "to not get it." The excruciating & isolating reality that bereaved parents feel is hermetically sealed from the nature of any other human experience. Thus it is a trap - those whose compassion & insight we most need are those for whom we abhor the experience that would allow them that sensitivity & capacity. And yet, somehow there are those, each in their own fashion, who have found a way to reach us & stay, to our comfort. They have understood, again each in their own way, that our children remain our children through our memory of them. Their memory is sustained through speaking about them & our feelings about their death. Deny this & you deny their life. Deny their life & you no longer have a place in ours.
We recognize that we have moved to an emotional place where it is often very difficult to reach us. Our attempts to be normal are painful & the day to day carries a silent, screaming anguish that accompanies us, sometimes from moment to moment. Were we to give it its own voice we fear we would become truly unreachable, & so we remain "strong" for a host of reasons even as the strength saps our energy & drains our will. Were we to act out our true feelings we would be impossible to be with. We resent having to act normal, yet we dare not do otherwise. People who understand this dynamic are our gold standard. Working our way through this over the years will change us as does every experience - & extreme experience changes one extremely. We know we will have recovered when, as we have read, it is no longer so painful to be normal. We do not know who we will be at that point or who will still be with us.
We have read that the gap is so difficult that, often, bereaved parents must attempt to reach out to friends & relatives or risk losing them. This is our attempt. For those untarnished by such events, who wish to know in some way what they, thankfully, do not know, read this. It may provide a window that is helpful for both sides of the gap.

Lots of Love and Prayers,
Darla and Dani www.caringbridge.org/mo/danikos
Darla <www.danikos@sbcglobal.net>
Arnold, MO USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 5:42 PM CST

Oh Melissa, I pray that this is not your last entry. I know how hard it is to ignore those nasty comments. When people posted and e-mailed nasty ones to us, it tore us up and no matter how hard we tried to ignore them, it still left a bitter taste. You know your heart, you know your family, and no one can tell you how to grieve. Each of our journey's are different, and God gave us each a special way to remember our loved ones. Caringbridge is a place for all of us to come, write whatever is on our hearts, and to try and make sense out of a difficult situation. No one has the right to tell us if our journey is right or wrong. No one know what happens in our homes and in our hearts. What is represented on this sight is just a mere peak into what is truly going on. We know you are one of the most amazing mothers to ever walk our earth. We know that your heart and every thought is encompassed with the three boys that make up your family. Please know that the nasty comments only represent less than a percentage of the people who have come to this site. 99.9% of us love your family to pieces and have fallen in love with each and every one of you. I cannot imagine our caringbridge family without you. And yes, we are a family. We at Asher and Jacob's site love you and are learning from your journey. You have helped us to cope with our own. If you decide to stop your journal, we do not blame you. We have been tempted before as well. If you do, we will keep you in our prayers daily. But I can tell you we would miss you so much if you left.
Laura Lynn and my two little miracle nephews, Asher and ^Jacob^: www.caringbridge.org/visit/asherandjacob <laurainsem@yahoo.com>
Hollidaysburg, Pa - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 5:30 PM CST

ANNA LEA DIREOR!!!!What a nerve Firstly hello to the Rasmussen family, I have been following Baby D and your family for a while now, and was saddened by Donavan passing, I then watched as your site received so many hits from colts fans, and non colts fans who have been converted for this superbowl. As an aussie I do not understand how big it, but we have been covering the parties on the news here!! I say good on you for going to Superbowl, please do not stop posting and getting love and support from the caring bridge just because of this one lady. I cannot believe her nerve to even dare judge you. If thats how she feels then she should stay away and keep her opinions to herself. YOU DON"T NEED TO EXPLAIN YOURSELF TO ANYONE. Feel the love and keep posting. Vicky
vicky farrow <thefarrow_family@bigpond.com>
gosford, nsw australia - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 5:29 PM CST

Melissa and family,
I so agree with what Andrew's mom wrote. In a way I cannot blame you for wanting to sign off, but please know that there are far more people out there who care about you than there are those who read your posts just so they can put you down or judge you. This site is called "caringbridge." It is a way to bridge together all of the thousands of people around the world who do care for you and want to pray with your family. There will always be those that judge and I will never understand that. Perhaps making others feel bad is how they handle their own grief, however sad that may be. But....know this Melissa...you gave Donovon the best possible life, you continue to do the same for Dylan. Everyone of us parents different, lovs different, grieves different, etc. Every couple has struggles, some decide it is best to split, others do not. The bottom line is only you and your family know what really goes on in your everyday lives beyond what you have shared on this site. All the rest of us can do is pray for you and love you and hope that those that do not want the best fo you stay away. It sickens me to read all of the bantering going on. You have been through so much, but each day you have to wake up, be a mother to Dylan, put one foot in front of the other and keep going. I can only imagine there are going to be so many days where that seems next to impossible, but because you love Dylan and Donovon so much, you will do it, with the help and prayers of those that care. Keep your head up Melissa, as hard as it may sometimes be. Do what feels right to you and for your family. Some go on vacations, some adopt, some curl up in corners, or stay in bed all day after losing a child or a loved one. All of these things are okay, if it is how they need to get through the next minute. That is all you can do, take it minute by minute, day by day. If you do not post anymore, please know that although I have never met you, I will never forget your family. I will always wonder how you, Darren and Dylan are doing, and I will always pray that you find peace again in some way, and I will never forget the precious smile of Donovon's. No child smiles like that if they do no know they or loved, or have the best momma in the world. Take care of yourself so you can take care of your family, hang in there.
Mom to 3 boys <Mkdmsc@aol.com>
- Wednesday, January 31, 2007 5:27 PM CST

Dear Rasmussen Family,
Enjoy the game... feed off the energy in the stadium - and not the NACHOS (ha-ha)...
Travel safely.
Sherrill
Sherrill Jones <Sherrill@probaglady.com>
"The Mile High City", CO USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 5:11 PM CST

Kim's words in her entry convey my thoughts exactly - I just couldn't get the words to come out right........
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 5:03 PM CST

If this means you are not going to post anymore, that makes me so sad. I love hearing about your family, about Dylan, and your memories of Donovan. But if you do decide to truly sign off, I understand and support that decision and I will continue to pray for the Rasmussen family. God Bless You all, I hope you find your peace.
Corrie van Kampen <corrie@thevankampens.com>
Rocky River, oh usa - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 4:54 PM CST

Melissa,

Parker said, "Mom, Can Donavan see football in Heaven?"

Me, "See it? Well, Parker....Donavan can BE THERE watching! In fact, his mommy is going to be there because SHE KNOWS that is where he is going to be that day!"

Parker, "How cool is THAT Mom! I'm gonna root hard for the Colts, but either way it's a win cuz they got to celebrate going there. Donovan's family celebrates through football like we celebrate through cycling. I think it's good for every family to have a way to celebrate life together."

If a 7 year old can get it, shouldn't an adult?!! You have a WONDERFUL, SPECIAL DAY Melissa. GO COLTS!!!

Love,

The Fritsch Family
Melissa, Richard, Parker, and Connor
Melissa Fritsch <mich_rissy@juno.com>
Fresno, CA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 4:53 PM CST

Melissa, from all my heart....I have two favors to ask of you.....

1. please dont stop posting....your vulnerability has been such a gift to others, sharing your path of love and struggles...but your journey goes on, through your grief, picking up the pieces, and eventually enjoying life and receiving many blessings, even while missing Donovan.

I know that many of the caringbridge families that lost their children do so much to share their story, so that others can have some "companionship" in their grief, and know they are not alone. You will have good and bad days, and they will be an encouragement to others in your shoes.

Additionally, we care about you. We want to know how you are doing, we want to pray for you.

And....we pray so much for Dylan, please let this also be a place where we will be able to watch him blossom, in the midst of the pain of not having his brother, we can pray and give thanks as he develops into an amazing young man.

I know it is hard to continue to share yourself so openly. It is hard to let everyone see your heart, especially during times when you would rather be by yourself or with a close group of safe friends/family.

and that is why my request number 2, is to please delete the bitter, ugly posts that are written.

This journal is a gift, a gift to your family and a gift to strangers who walk a similar path. Please dont let it be sullied by hateful people....protect it, and protect your heart, and make this a place where you can continue to share without the fear of being judged in the midst of your most fragile time.

We love you Melissa, this is not over for you, God has great things in store, and we want to walk with you in your pain, to encourage and support you, and we want to be here to share in the sunshine that will, one day again, shine down on you.

With much love,
Kim
Andrew's Page <kim.sprague@cox.net>
Ladera Ranch, CA USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 4:49 PM CST

...you and yours will not be forgotten. Thank you for sharing Donovan's spirit with us.
Theresa
Pa - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 4:42 PM CST

Oh, Melissa, I hope that you don't mean that you are not going to post anymore.............there are so many of us that want to know how you are doing and if we can help in any way......of course, we will always be thinking of you and praying for you even with no posts.......I just saw your post and I'm not seeming to come up with the right words......
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 4:25 PM CST

Dear Melissa~
Continuing to check on you all and pray for you daily. I can't wait to see the poster of Baby D at the game -held by his most amazing, Mommy. NO ONE deserves this special day more than you! Travel Safe.
Sue Kilcoyne <jskilcoyne@hotmail.com>
Franklin, MA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 4:02 PM CST

Melissa: You keep hanging in there and ignore the negative people. You need the break, and it will be good therapy for you. I'll be watching for that Baby D poster and cheering like crazy for the Colts!! I think I'll be outnumbered at our party but I dont care! Have a good time! Watch for angel winks from Donovan!!!!
LeeAnne
Hastings, NE - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 3:59 PM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan,Extended Family, Continuing to carry you in thoughts and prayers. Only 4 more days till the Superbowl.Even though bitter sweet,Enjoy every minute, all will be scaning the crowds looking for Angel D's picture. Go Colt's !! Baby D..Knowing you will be an angel on your Mommy's shoulder at the superbowl, bringing your colt's all the *Good-Luck* they can handle. We can all feel the win now.:)))
Karen <indianagal_2004@yahoo.com>
- Wednesday, January 31, 2007 3:57 PM CST

Melissa:
I have followed Baby D's website for some time now, but have never written. I just had to write and tell you that there are no rules on how to grieve. As a Christian, I admire your faith that Donovan is in a happy, healthy place and I know that God loves your strength in continuing to love the life He has given us here on earth.
Mary Davis
Acworth, GA USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 3:56 PM CST

Hi Melissa, Darren & Daylan~
Melissa you have an awesome time at the game and I know that our Baby D is going to be right there with you! Be sure to watch for the signs he will send. I'm sorry your other "guys" aren't going with you but it will give them some daddy/son together time that is precious.We care & love you all. Becky
Becky <bljpulley@aol.com>
Wendell, NC Wake - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 3:52 PM CST

I have been reading your guestbook, and there is such an outpouring of love for you and your family. I came across Donovan's website from another child I have been following, and have come to love him and your entire family so much.

Please do not pay attention to the negativity. Everyone grieves in their own way. It has been mentioned on here several times by people's postings that Christians wouldn't act that way. Well, I don't think it's necessarily about being a Christian. I myself am a muslim, and I would never act that disrespectfuly to anyone, especially a mother grieving the loss of her precious son. It's about being good people, and good people do not kick others while they are down.

May peace be with you always. Please always know how loved you are.
Tarek D.
Minneapolis, MN USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 3:47 PM CST

It just breaks my heart that you have to keep explaining yourself to these heartless people. You grieve the way you feel is right. Everyone deals with a loss differently and no you should not have to crawl into a hole and just cry. That is NOT what Donovan would have wanted for you. And who ever said that you were trying to replace family with football. Anyone who has followed Donovan's site and all your updates should have no doubt that you have ALWAYS put your family first!!!! There is absolutely nothing wrong with you taking a break from reality and enjoying yourself for a day � that's doesn't mean that you love your family any less or that the pain of Donovan's death is not still there. But you would go crazy if you did not try to forget about this for a little bit � and NO ONE has any right to question that. You have been through so much � something no parent should ever have to endure and you handled it with Grace, love and compassion. Those of us that have followed Baby D know that and we know that you have been absolute best mom to your kids.
Amy Bellini <amy_bellini@farmfamily.com>
Troy, NY - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 3:43 PM CST

Melissa,

My heart is with you daily! I think that going to the SuperBowl is a wonderful idea for you! In fact, the superbowl holds a whole new meaning to me this year! My whole family is rooting for the Bears and I AM ROOTING FOR THE COLTS!!!! All because of you and Baby Donovan! I wish that Darren could go with you, but rest assured I will be looking for Baby D's picture! And I will have tears in my eyes when I see it, knowing he is at the game with his mommy in spirit! May God Bless you all at this time and bring you peace. Sending our love, The Rogers Family

PS. Don't give a moments thought to anyone who would post something negative. They are ridiculous!!!! We all grieve differently and must do what we can. A real Christian would support you in anything you did to honor your child's memory and to help your heart find some peace from the torment of losing your baby. Be safe, God speed, and GO Colts!!
Shaun, Austin, and Dominic <shaunr@bellsouth.net>
GA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 3:27 PM CST

I am sorry to hear about Donovan. I have been following his story from day 1. I lost my son when he was just 3 yrs. old. With all due respect, your journal entries have been so focused on football! You need to be spending time with Dylan and Darren, not going off to game! And YES, it is just a GAME. You need them and they need you. You can't honestly expect Dylan, or Darren for that matter to understand why you would go away without them at this time. Yes, loss is hard. IT is hard for EVERYONE though and you need to stick together. Sure Donovan would want you live your life and not be sad, but goodness! Football does not replace family.
Mom2aspecialangel
VA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 3:26 PM CST

I am continuing to pray daily for you and your family. I pray for your healing and your strength.

I also want to thank you for taking time out of your day these past two years to update us on Donovan, and now to update us on you and your family. Each and everyday I look forward to checking in on you all. I feel like you have let us all be a part of your lives, even though many of us, like myself, never had the chance to meet Baby D in person. Please know though, that he will never be forgotten, and that you will always have a family online.

Peace be with you always.
Leah
Minneapolis, MN 55430 - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 3:16 PM CST

Hey Melissa,
I am so happy that you are able to go to the Superbowl! I'm sure it will be a wonderful experience and it is exactly what Baby D would have wanted you to do. I think you are an extremely strong woman and an awesome mother.
Love Tammie
Tammie Wallace
Raleigh, NC - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 2:59 PM CST

Donovan blessed us with his time here on earth and has enriched so many lives in the too short time he was here. He was and Angle on earth and is now our Angel in Heaven. We thank God every day for Donny, and all the Blessings recieved in his honor.

Now.
Please, in the name of all that is graceful and honest I hereby ask ANYONE who posts here to post positive and encouraging statements to Melissa and this family. Yes, this is her outlet. Her way to speak to the world and share her grief that it might be in some small way lessened through expressing her most sincere emotions on this caring bridge page.

If you have something else to say, or a specific question like,"How is Dylan today, I'm thinking of him?"
please email her directly. That is the right thing to do.

It is NOT the right thing to do, to criticize a grieving parent in anyway. It is not your right or your place.

I ask you with negative feelings or criticism to search your heart, ask for guidance.

Please find compassion.
Please have integrity if you post here.

There are so many wonderful and supportive words and prayers lifting this family up. It is an inspiration each moment to see how many people care for Donny and his family.

Donovan continues to amaze me from Heaven.

Jess <jessicawhitmore@sbcglobal.net>
Indianapolis, IN - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 2:50 PM CST

Melissa,
I hope you have TONS of fun at the SuperBowl. I will be watching for you and for your Donovan sign! Don't worry about what others have to say. People just don't understand how hard it can be to have a child that has or has had cancer. If the people that say the horrible things that they do about you going to the SuperBowl could walk in your shoes for just one day, I think they would change their minds and realize that you do deserve this. You have gone through so much lately and this is something that you totally deserve!! Remember, if you ever need someone to talk to, please email me or IM me anytime.
GO COLTS!
Lori (Mom to Teresa DX w/ALL 01/02/01) <plainlori123@sbcglobal.net>
Plainfield, IN - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 2:39 PM CST

You rock! I hope that you continually feel the unconditional love and support of this community that was built by the love between you and Donovan.
Ellen
Cary, NC - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 2:04 PM CST

Melissa, I received this email and felt I needed to share it with you. I have followed Donovan's story for over a year, checking in on him and your family each morning. Grammie's stories just touched my heart, and I am truly sorry for your family's loss. I hope your family feels the hugs and kisses of your sweet angel each day as you try to heal.

One Flaw In Women

By the time the Lord made woman, He was into his sixth day of working overtime.
An angel appeared and said, "Why are you spending so much time on this one?"
And the Lord answered, "Have you seen my spec sheet on her? She has to be completely washable, but not plastic, have over 200 movable parts, all replaceable and able to run on diet coke and leftovers, have a lap that can hold four children at one time, have a kiss that can cure anything from a scraped knee to a broken heart - and she will do everything with only two hands."
The angel was astounded at the requirements.
"Only two hands!? No way! And that's just on the standard model? That's too much work for one day. Wait until tomorrow to finish."
But I won't," the Lord protested.
"I am so close to finishing this creation that is so close to my own heart. She already heals herself when she is sick AND can work 18 hour days."
The angel moved closer and touched the woman. "But you have made her so soft, Lord."
"She is soft," the Lord agreed, "but I have also made her tough. You have no idea what she can endure or accomplish."
"Will she be able to think?", asked the angel.
The Lord replied, "Not only will she be able to think,
she will be able to reason and negotiate.."
The angel then noticed something, and reaching out, touched the woman's cheek.
"Oops, it looks like you have a leak in this model. I told you that you were trying to put too much into this one."
"That's not a leak," the Lord corrected, "that's a tear!"
"What's the tear for?" the angel asked.!
The Lord said, "The tear is her way of expressing her joy,
her sorrow, her pain, her disappointment, her love, her loneliness, her grief and her pride."
The angel was impressed. "You are a genius, Lord. You thought of everything! Woman is truly amazing."
And she is! Women have strengths that amaze men.
They bear hardships and they carry burdens, but they hold happiness, love and joy.
They smile when they want to scream.
They sing when they want to cry.
They cry when they are happy and laugh when they are nervous.
They fight for what they believe in.
They stand up to injustice.
They don't take "no" for an answer when they believe there is a better solution.
They go without so their family can have.
They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.
They love unconditionally.
They cry when their children excel and cheer when their friends get awards.
They are happy when they hear about a birth or a wedding.
Their hearts break when a friend dies.
They grieve at the loss of a family member, yet they are strong when they think there is no strength left.
They know that a hug and a kiss can heal a broken heart.
Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.
They'll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you to show how much they care about you.
The heart of a woman is what makes the world keep turning.
They bring joy, hope and love.
They have compassion and ideals.
They give moral support to their family and friends.
Women have vital things to say and everything to give.
HOWEVER, IF THERE IS ONE FLAW IN WOMEN, IT IS THAT THEY FORGET THEIR WORTH.
PLEASE pass this along to all your women friends and relatives to remind them just how amazing they are.

You are an amazing mother, your son an amazing angel, and you have an amazing family - a model of unconditional love, and no can tell you how you should grieve. I could care less one way or the other about football and the Superbowl, but I find myself excited for the game and to cheer the Colts on to victory. Donovan left a visible mark on this world, he made Colts fans out of all of us.
Kelly
Central, WI - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 2:03 PM CST

I agree with every thing Claire just wrote 100%!!

You all are in my prayers, today and every day!
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 1:38 PM CST

Melissa, Darren and Dylan~

The strength of you family is amazing! You need not explain yourself, and those of us close in our walk with God support you, reach out to comfort you with the comfort and strength we have received from God, and do NOT judge or question you, only LOVE and EMBRACE all of you as a family, listen, and offer words of encouragement!

We will always remember, love and miss your precious son Donovan, who has forever changed so many, and touched our hearts and souls. We will also remember your phenomenal family for your strength, courage, dedication, love, support, and compassion that you surrounded Donovan with every minute of every day of his life. He was just as blessed to have all of you, as you were blessed to share your lives with him.

Thank you for sharing his life with us. I pray God wraps his arms of strength, peace and comfort around all of you as you travel this journey.

We love you guys!

Love~ Claire (Mommy to Laken in heaven)
www.caringbridge.com/visit/lakenroy

Claire Roy <caffemocha29@aol.com>
Kernersville, NC US - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 1:19 PM CST

Hey Melissa, Darren and Dylan-
Thinking of your sweet family all the time. You are all very brave. It takes a lot of strength to move forward, step by step, which you are doing. It takes a lot of strength to allow yourself happy moments and a little fun- but of course that is just how Donovan would want his family!
It also is a gift to understand we each grieve differently- even spouses- and to support each other in their choices.
I admire your strength and bravery.
Christine
http://www.caringbridge.org/nh/baileyslife/
Christine Robinson <bcubed@localnet.com>
Conway, NH - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 12:53 AM CST

I miss getting the updates on Baby D. Have followed him for a long time. Luckily I have never seen one of these terrible, hurtful entries but it seems to me that you should be able to do whatever you think will make you feel better & not have to answer to anybody. These pages are voluntary so these negative people should take a hike. I'll be rooting for the Colts & thinking of Baby D.
Margie Miller <margiemm54@aol.com>
Winter Springs, FL - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 12:26 AM CST

Melissa: You go to the Superbowl and have a great time. Don't listen to the negative comments of others who have not walked in your shoes. Your family has had a hard couple of years both medical and financial. You and Darren are the greatest of parents - you even gave up your home to come to NC to help Donovan. Just go and enjoy ( you need it)!Donovan will be there in spirit with you. I will be watching and looking for you and your banner.
Love & hugs,
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 12:20 AM CST

I have been reading all of the bantering that is going on about the negative posts. I feel sooo bad for the family of Donovan (the most adorable little boy). God bless them all.
I think Melissa uses the journal as an outlet for her feelings. I worry about Dylan and Darren. You never hear anything about Darren and very little about Dylan it is alot about her and how she is coping. I'm sure there are alot of people that have the thoughts but wont say them because of not wanting to hurt Melissa. My intention is not to hurt her by any means. I wish only good things for the Whole family.
Mary <Maryb49@aol.com>
Indy, IN - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 11:42 AM CST

Melissa,
Please do not feel like you have to explain or justify your actions to anyone. I hope that you go, have a wonderful time and that your Colts win! I can't think of a better way to honor the teddy bear. I will look for you on t.v.

Love,
Chari
Chari Warner <millymango40@yahoo.com>
Alpharetta, GA USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 10:28 AM CST

Melissa, I am so glad that you and your family get to go to the Superbowl. Thank you Jesus for letting all the phone calls and e-mails to the COLTS pay off. Be Careful and Have fun. My son is 12 and he got his Superbowl XLI Peyton Manning jersey in the mail yesterday. He will be wearing it Sunday as we watch the game and ROOT the COLTS to their SUPERBOWL WIN. All in honor of one very special little man!! Baby D. Hugs and love to all of you.
Tracy Walls
Cleveland, Ms - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 10:08 AM CST

I have been following Donovans journey for quite some time now. It wasn't until today that I had the strength to say: Your family are in our thoughts and prayers. Our 2 year old passed away in April 2005. Our hearts are with Donovan and Family!
Love, Tammy & Randy Ward caringbridge/fl/gavinward
Tammy Ward <wardbass@aol.com>
WPB, FL USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 9:56 AM CST

I will be watching the Super Bowl and looking for your sign. I pray that Donovan is right there with you and whispering plays in Peyton's ear. I will rejoice with you when they win. I hope that you enjoy being there even though it will be hard. You deserve something special. You are a wonderful mother! Thinking of you always!
Cyndi Claus <lclausgirl1@charter.net>
Sparks, Nv 89432 - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 9:19 AM CST

Melissa,
I don't see why you have to explain yourself about going to the Super bowl. I'm so happy that you will get the chance to experience a bit of joy after all you have been through these past two years. You have given so much of yourself over and over and if going to the game gives you some peace then so be it. Have a great time w/ your cousin and your Angel on your shoulder who will surely be there for every play. God bless.
Joyce & Family <jacpbs@earthlink.net>
MA USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 9:10 AM CST

Melissa and family,
I found this site when I checked in on another caring bridge family. I read your journal entries for hours yesterday. My daughter has ALL also. Your journal entries shone with a strength and love that are amazing. We will be thinking of you and praying for you, and will watch for your big poster on TV Sunday. GO COLTS!!

Jessica Owens <owens.family@gvec.net>
New Braunfels, TX - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:59 AM CST

Just as many have said
I will say it again and in my point of view. NO ONE can understand what you are going through! I too lost a son to cancer and I cant tell you that every single person grieves in their own way! Even between you and Darren. Me and my husband grieve diffrently too. It doesnt matter what other people think. They just dont get it! It really dont matter what other grieving mothers think because everyone is diffrent. I'll be honest, I wouldnt have dreamed of going out to a big football game after loseing my son so soon, but thats MY decision and is in NO WAY a reflection of you or me. When your child dies your whole world it turned upside down and inside out and NO ONE can judge you. YOU have to do what feels right for YOU and thats what I applaud! I applaud grieving parents who do what they know is right for themselves and their babies! Thats the only thing that will make you feel closer to baby D. So you hang in there and do whats right for you!
Tori <ToriWelch@aol.com>
- Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:58 AM CST

Melissa,

Have a great time at Superbowl. I am a Tony Dungy fan, as he used to be here in Tampa with the Bucs. I will be cheering the Colts to win on Sunday.
Lin Ridley <lin_ridley@hotmail.com>
Lutz, FL USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:57 AM CST

Melissa~

I will pray too, for those who "don't understand." Losing a child myself, I know that you have to hold on tight to the things that make you smile, and lift you up, as a part of healing and hope. Baby Donovan wouldn't want you sitting in a corner and crying, he'd want you at the SUPERBOWL cheering on the COLTS because it is something you love, something your family loves, something that makes you happy, and like you said, carrying out a dream of yours. I am so very proud of you, and I know baby Donovan is too!! YOU DESERVE THIS MORE THEN ANYONE I KNOW, OR EVEN THOSE I DON'T KNOW. I will be looking for your poster, as we watch the game, and cheering them on too in memory of your PRECIOUS, COURAGEOUS son DONOVAN, and your PHENOMENAL family!

LOVE~ Claire (Mommy to LAKEN in Heaven)

www.caringbridge.com/visit/lakenroy

Claire Roy <caffemocha29@aol.com>
Kernersville, NC US - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:54 AM CST

You are constantly in my thoughts and prayers. Go to the Superbowl and have FUN! Donovan would not want you to cry in a corner in his name. Everyone works out their grief in their own way. Pay no attention to those who criticize you for not handling things the way they *think* you should. Sending (((HUGS))) from Bear Country,
Sue Mackey
Mount Prospect, IL - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:51 AM CST

Dear Rasmussen Family,

Please know that your family continues to be lifted up in my every prayer. We are thrilled that you are going to the Superbowl and we, too, will be looking for that poster of Donovan. I'm sure Donovan will be with you as you cheer our Colts on to victory!

God bless you!

Donna Charles <dcharles@butler.edu>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:48 AM CST

Dear Melisssa, Darren and Dylan-
Continuing to hold you in my thoughts and lift you up in prayer. Your family has touched my heart. Thank you for sharing Donovan with the world.
Safe travels Melissa. Have a great time. I will be cheering for you and for Donovan!
Love in Christ,
Julie
Julie Sessor <juliesessor@cox.net>
Roanoke, VA USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:42 AM CST

I am so happy for you that you get to go to the game. I have been cheering for the Colts and betting my son on it. I love Tony Dungee and the Vikes made a Huge Mistake not choosing him when he wanted to coach here.

Sending many prayers to help heal you and your family.
www.caringbridge.org/visit/sophiawinters

Nicole <nicole.weber@state.mn.us>
West St. Paul, MN - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:28 AM CST

Melissa
I have been following Donovan's page for about a year. My son has leukemia ALL and is going through his 2nd treatment due to a relapse he is 11 years old. I would like to thank you because you have given me lessons that I will take forever with me. I hope that you have a great time here in Miami. GO COLTS
Claudia <claudia0474@aol.com>
Miami, FL USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 8:13 AM CST

Oh Melissa, you don't need to explain yourself or your actions to anyone. Don't let those people who question you get you down. You deserve to go to the Superbowl. Donovan would WANT you to go! I have no doubt he will be right there with you, cheering on the Colts! I will continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Ginny Deegan <jgdeegan@msn.com>
Mtn. Home AFB, ID USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 7:48 AM CST

I am so sorry for your loss..I think I would go nuts if I lost one of my children. God Bless...
Tammy H.
IN USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 7:39 AM CST

Melissa: You enjoy the Superbowl, you deserve it. What
people don't realize that the hardest part about losing
someone they love is that the grief will hit you at the
times when you least expect it. 6 months from now when you
find a long lost toy or sippy cup of Donny's. When you wake
up in the middle of the night, certain you heard him cry
out. That is when it hits, and that is when you will
grieve the most. And know that God will strengthen you in
those times. You are still in our prayers.
Mary Black <rosary101@verizon.net>
Fort Wayne, IN - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 5:54 AM CST

Hi Baby D Family!!!!! Melissa, Dont even give those negative people "one" thought!, They are people that haven't been in yr shoes, I had a son with problems from birth and "let me tell you I would have givin anything to go on a trip",You go and enjoy yrself and Lil Donny will be there"Cheering the Colts", I'll be looking for you!! And to whom ever said "you were begging" that's not true!!, God's children do not have to beg in this world, Somtimes we need help' But not begging!!! Yr not a begger!!, Donny would not want you to "sit and cry" all the time, You still have Dylan to care for and yr wonderful husband!!! So go girl!!! People need to watch there mouths' Or God will take care of them!!!.. Never judge someone, unless you've walked in there shoes!, Melissa & Darren 'please take time to "smell the flowers and enjoy yr beautiful Dylan and never let anyone change that!!!, God bless you.. The Spiveys in Louisiana
The spiveys <lilmsdragonfly5@yahoo.com>
Maurepas, La USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 1:56 AM CST

I don't know you, but I think it is wonderful that you are going to the Superbowl. You really deserve to get away for a little while. I don't see how this is any different from when parents go on vacations after losing their children. It is hard to tell you to have a good time (although I hope you do), but I do hope that you find some peace and comfort on your trip. I'll be watching for that poster! I'm still praying for your family.
Lisa Whorten <lisawhorten@yahoo.com>
Bakersville, NC USA - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 0:10 AM CST

Melissa- you deserve this trip to the superbowl probably more than anyone else there! No one has any right to criticize you or any of your decisions, and quite frankly, I think you going to the superbowl is great, it's what Donovan would have wanted, and he'll be there in spirit cheering for the colts right along with you! I have to say I never got into the superbowl much before, but this year you can bet i'll be rooting for those colts! Your family has amazing courage, I only hope I can be as wonderful a mother as you some day. Have a safe trip!
Becca Andrews <andre149@msu.edu>
Haslett, MI - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 11:25 PM CST

You don't owe anyone an apology or even an explanation...I think you going to the SuperBowl is EXACTLY what you should be doing. First of all, what an opportunity! Second, Donovan will be right there with you, so proud of you for going! He would want this! I am happy for you. You deserve this...you are allowed to experience happiness, even as a "side dish" to your grief right now. Way to go, Melissa! Once again, showing all of us how to be SuperMom!!!!!
Many hugs~
The Botz's
www.caringbridge.org/visit/carterbotz
Mary Botz <jmbotz@hotmail.com>
- Tuesday, January 30, 2007 10:02 PM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan and Mr. Donovan...Please know that my thoughts are with you now and in the future. I remember so vividly hearing "we all live in a yellow submarine" and then a little squeal and then "a yellow submarine." I looked down and there was Donny, on his little car, right next to the submarine. What a Mom you are, Melissa. I know nothing about football, but I do know that I want the COLTS to win and I want you to have a GREAT time! With Love, Dora (the PT)
Dora Gosselin <dora4smile@yahoo.com>
Durham, NC - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 9:58 PM CST

Hi Melissa - I'm so excited that you're going to the Super Bowl. Steve's going to a party and I told him he has to tell everyone to root for the Colts. If it wasn't for Donovan I'm sure he could care less who wins and loses. Have a wonderful time. Hugs,
Jill and Alex www.caringbridge.com/ca/alexschwab <jillschwab99@hotmail.com>
Manhattan Beach, CA United States - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 9:49 PM CST

Melissa, Darren and Dylan,
I don't know you but followed Baby Donovan's story via the LLS Boards. My 4 year old has ALL and my younger one is just a couple of months older than Donovan. I AM SO GLAD YOU ARE GOING TO THE SUPERBOWL and although I am not a big football fan, and I was so rooting for them and truly believe Donovan got them to the Super Bowl. I almost went as far as to try and contact some Indiana media outlet to make sure your family got tix. Have a great time and I will look for your picture of Donovan on TV!
Anonymous
- Tuesday, January 30, 2007 9:47 PM CST

Melissa,

I too echo the sentiments of everyone's entries. Just because Donovan is in heaven doesn't mean you need to stop living. I know it was your wish and dream to take Donovan to the SuperBowl and you still are in spirit. He will be there right by your side cheering with you. After all you have been through you should not have to explain your actions. Anyone who has followed Baby Donovan's site for any amount of time should know that you are truly an amazing mom to your boys and NO ONE should ever question or doubt that. I still log onto Baby D's site sveral times a day just to see his beautiful face. We will always be here for you - never hesitate to vent on us or cry on our shoulder. Even though most of us never met Donovan we all feel as though he was a part of our family and we will continue to back you up when these nasty people can't seem to keep their negative comments to themselves

Missing Baby Donovan......
Amy Bellini <amy_bellini@farmfamily.com>
Troy, NY - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 9:36 PM CST

{{{Melissa, Darren & Dylan}}}

I am so sorry for the pain you are going through and how much you miss sweet Donovan. Please know how much you are loved, thought of - and prayed for. I'm happy you're going to the Superbowl and I'll be looking for your banner on Sunday. Baby D will be right there with you.
Lisa, mom to Brian and Kevin (www.caringbridge.com/va/kevin) <ltignor@comcast.net>
Montclair, VA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 9:11 PM CST

You have to find happiness in anything and everything you can, because right now it is hard to find. Who cares what others think!
My heart breaks for you all, I should say he is in a better place, but just like our Lexi, the best place is at home with family.
May you find happiness where ever you can! Fly high Baby D, With love, Nichole (Angel Lexi's mom) www.caringbridge.org/visit/alexismarkowich
Nichole <markowich8@oh.rr.com>
Amherst, OH - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 8:39 PM CST

Love and hugs from Argentina in this difficult moment you�re going through.

Always thinking and praying for you
Luciana(Alexia�s aunt) <luvidaguren@yahoo.com>
Argentina - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 8:24 PM CST

OH Grammie you are so awesome, your entry made me cry once again trying hard not to get it on the keyboard so that it doesn't short out!
Melissa~ I am so excited for you to go to the Superbowl you SO deserve this and I am so excited for you, even though I really don't get into football I have been watching the Colts because I knew that they were going to win and they are going to win the Superbowl there because they have 1 very important and special person watching down on them and 2 very special people attending the game to see them WIN!
Dylan you are such a sweet little guy I wish I could just come and give you a big giant hug! You are the cutest little man!
Melissa please email me when you get a chance
We Love you guys
Brandy
www.caringbridge.org/mn/scottbabies
Brandy <branmuffin1982@yahoo.com>
Ellsworth, WI - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 8:06 PM CST

Melissa-
I hope you have a great time at the superbowl. I think it is wonderful that you are able to go.
It's a shame that you going to the superbowl or enjoying the cults is such a "caringbridge" debate. It should not be. Who are we to judge how you and your family spend your time no matter if you are in greif or not. It is in the hard times that it is good to have something to look forward to. I am very thankful for your families love of the Cults.
Have a great time!!!
We will be supporting the Cults on Superbowl Sunday.
With Love,
Heather (Asher and ^Jacob's^ Mom.

Heather <mitchellham@yahoo.com>
Midwest City, OK - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 8:02 PM CST

Over the last few days there have been many times I have been tempted to post those nasty guestbook entries on our site in order to get people as upset at those icky people as I am. But I know in my heart that is no way to honor your amazing Donovan and it will simply give those icky people the attention they so crave. Praise God for the love of so many, and those who have blessed you with the gift of the Superbowl. I know Donovan is thrilled that his mommy and cousin are going to remember him through cheering on the family's favorite team! Melissa, Darren, Dylan, and family, know that we love you all and are keeping you in our constant thoughts and prayers. I will be watching out for the poster of your cute little Angel in the stands this Sunday.
Laura Lynn and my two little miracle nephews, Asher and ^Jacob^: www.caringbridge.org/visit/asherandjacob <laurainsem@yaho.com>
Hollidaysburg, Pa - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 8:02 PM CST

Just coming hear to say hi to you guys. I'm sorry all of your family had to go home, but I'm sooo happy Grammie is still there. Her stories just bring tears to me eyes everytime I read them. Now we all know why you turned out to be one special person, Melissa. I hope you have a great trip to the Superbowl and most importantly a safe one. You deserve the best of everything. I can't stand football, but I have to tell you, because of you,Donovan, and your whole family I will be glued to the TV hoping to see you and your poster of the most amazing angel there is. I miss Donovan so much, but I'm sure I don't really need to tell you that...how could anyone not miss him. He was so special..so brave. I find myself wondering all day...what could Donovan be doing now or who is he flirting with? He sure was a ladies man!!! :)

Please always know that I may not sign here everyday, but I do come several time a day just to look at Donovan's pictures (still in disbelief) and read all of the guestbook entries that truly show how loved he was and still is. He changed so many lives. It's so amazing.
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
NJ - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 7:35 PM CST

I don't know you, I found you thru another site a year ago. I have prayed for your baby and cheered for you in good times and cried during the bad. I too lost a child years ago and have felt some of the same pain you have felt and feel. It is absolutely the most difficult thing one has to go through. However, we all grieve differently and none of us has the right to judge each other. We second guess ourselves enough in life, no one has to do that for us. You have every right to go and enjoy yourself if that is what you want to do. And, I might add, it may do you a world of good! You have cried a million tears and will cry many more, but enjoy the football game this week end and know you are doing what is best for you.
God bless you in this very difficult time. I am praying for your family. Stay strong and enjoy the game-go Colts!
MN prayer warrior
- Tuesday, January 30, 2007 7:24 PM CST

Because of Donovan I took notice of Payton Manning
Because of Donnovan I will be watching the Super Bowl Game
Because of Donovan I will be REALLY paying attention to it
Because of Donovan I will be yelling a little louder
Because of Donovan I will remember to hug my children a little longer each time they hug me
Because of Donovan I will love my children a little stronger each day.
All this because of Donovan!!
I am the mother to a 12 yr old son that had a heart transplant in 1997, I guess since things have gone so good for us I kind of lost touch with reality around us.BUT since I found my way to your page my eyes have been reopened. Thank you so very much!!
Cody's Mom Sunshine
- Tuesday, January 30, 2007 7:12 PM CST

**Pulling out my soap box and hopping up.....be forewarned....lol***

This is an article I wrote some time ago. I am publishing it here. As always Melissa, please do not feel like you owe any explainations if you choose to remove this post. Grief is a selfish journey, and that is not a bad thing. You truly have to do what you have to do for you....no one else. Listen to your own heart.

Supporting the bereaved parent�from a bereaved parent's perspective:

Let me begin by saying that words cannot adequately describe the pain of losing a child. Trying to explain parental grief to those that have not walked the path is like trying to explain childbirth pains to a man, or
childless woman. You can hear the words, you can try with all your might to wrap your head around it, you can close your eyes and imagine��.but, those of us who have given birth, know that when the moment comes, it defies
description.

My first experience with grief occurred twenty years ago, when my then 29-year-old sister in law died. I remember my then husband pestering me to "get over it." And most recently, I had a psychologist, of all people, tell
me that two months is long enough to grieve, it is time to "get better, and get on with life." Grief, again being compared with childbirth, is a unique, intimate and personal experience. Some laboring mothers scream; some don't make a sound. Some ask for drugs, others do not. Some, while finding the experience a very unique type of pain voluntarily subject themselves to it again, while others do not. Some grieving parents are able to channel their energies into another course�while others become paralyzed with overwhelming grief. My point in all this is indeed to draw a parallel between childbirth and having your child die. Each is profoundly unique, and handled in your own way, in your own time. That concept needs to be welcomed.

Society whether knowingly or not, places some sort of timeframe on acceptable, supportable grief. Cross that line, and most will find their true support system dwindling. This, in part, is my attempt to raise
awareness of this issue.

In a perfect world, I long for the continuation of all those that without a moment's hesitation, offered to do anything, anytime for me. Yet, after about six weeks, all those wonderful supportive people were once again well
entrenched in their own lives, without an utterance of support. I can tell you that the need for unconditional support grows, rather than dwindles at that point in the grieving process. It is at about six weeks after the loss
of a child that some of the protective numbness begins to fade, allowing the realness and permanency of the loss to begin to sink in. I began to realize and feel with every breath that I took, that Olivia was gone forever. As I
write this tonight, seven months exactly since Olivia left this earth, it still is not completely believable. There is still a lot of grieving to be done in my life, and I do not anticipate it feeling any better for quite a while.

So, since the stage is mine, I have the opportunity to express what I believe a grieving parent needs. To be truly helpful, I would recommend not asking, "what can I do for you?" as the mind is so jumbled when grief sets
in, that an answer to that may not even be reachable. My response, would have been something like "bring Olivia back." Instead I would recommend telling the parent that you wish to help, that you are available on Monday
from ten till twelve o'clock, and you will call just before you come over to see if there is anything you can pick up on the way. By doing this, you have given them a little advance notice to consider what, if anything, they may need. And you have eliminated the possibility of the polite response "I don't need you to do anything, thanks." You will find when you show up, there is a need. Even if the need is to simply sit with the bereaved parent, it will become evident and trust me, it is important.

One of the most bewildering effects of grief is memory loss. Initially, I often panicked, thinking that I had "forgotten" Olivia, leaving her at home alone or at school. And then I remembered� I hadn't. I would often find
myself in a room, with no idea why I went there. So, if you call, and it's not returned, do not assume that is a conscious choice. It is just as likely that it was forgotten. To this day, there are times when I cannot recollect my phone number. Please be patient if we tell the same story more than once�or forget a commitment we had made.

Please do not be afraid to talk to us. We have lost a child; we do not have a communicable disease. Perhaps you are afraid of "making us cry." I can tell you with absolute certainty that you do not make me cry. Olivia's death makes me cry every day, several times a day. Your talking to me, or listening to me, makes me feel cared for and supported. Make it a point, set a timeframe that is doable for you�once a week, twice a week, once a month��.and please make sure you consistently make contact with the bereaved.

On the other hand, shallow clich�s are not the way to go. The ones that ruffle our feathers the most (based upon those that I've talked to) are:
"She's in a better place" what better place is there for an eleven-year-old girl than in the arms of her loving mother? "It'll be okay." To a grieving parent, it sounds dismissive or diminishing. And what exactly is okay? Or
"At least she isn't suffering." Albeit selfish sounding, we could parent the suffering child. We could attempt to bring relief, and we were doing our parental duty�something that the loss of now leaves nothing other than a
gaping hole. Please, do not compare the loss of your pet (mother, grandpa, etc.) with the loss of a child. Quite simply, there is no comparison. Just remember, we're not looking for you to say the magic words that will somehow
make it better for us. There are none. We just need a place that is safe and unconditionally welcoming as we muddle through this.

I heard of a particular person who hoped they never got stopped by me in passing, because they wouldn't know what to say. How about hello? A sincere "how are you doing", followed by attentively listening to the answer is
always appreciated.

And, a quote from an anonymous parent who is not grieving, but is learning to deal with those that are. "Even if you feel uncomfortable, it isn't about you, it's about the person you are offering support to (and in time, you
will feel more comfortable in the situation yourself- I know because this is how I felt in the beginning)."

The greatest gift someone can offer is that of time. Bereaved parents sometimes feel that you don't want to hear another one of our sob stories. Let us know it's okay. Ask about our favorite birthday memory with our
child, ask about our child's favorite song, or ask if we have any videos or photos we would like to share. Yes, we will cry, but I can tell you, that that will be the favorite part of our day!

If you want to help a grieving parent, take your calendar out, and jot down in it the child's birthday, anniversary of their dying and any other specific important dates, and make sure they are remembered. My greatest fear as a grieving parent is that "Olivia" will cease to be a daily spoken word in my vocabulary, or as is more likely, that "Olivia" will cease to be a heard word in my day, every day.

And remember, if you don't know what to say, the most honest and truthful thing I can think of is "I don't what to say, I just want you to know that I am sorry (or thinking of you, etc). We don't expect you to "fix" it for us; we know no one can. We hope you will just be there for us.

Angel Olivia's Mother, Wendy

www.caringbridge.org/mi/oliviasgrace <mom2olivia@gmail.com>
- Tuesday, January 30, 2007 6:58 PM CST

Melissa, you so deserve this trip to the Super Bowl. You have a great time, and just know Baby D is watching over you and every one he loved. Don't let negative comments get you down. I'm not a football fan, but I will be cheering on the Colts Sunday night. Have a safe trip.
Andie
Rock Hill, SC USA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 6:53 PM CST

Melissa: Hang in there! Have a great and much deserved weekend at the superbowl.

The Kelley's
Jim, Lisa and Kanon
The Kelley's <Kelley.Jim@gmail.com>
Brownsburg, IN - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 6:41 PM CST

Dear Melissa,
Please ignore all the negativity from ignorant people. You deserve to go to the Superbowl and have a great time. Please do not even consider removing your name from any list!! Sorry that other people are so uncaring and empty-hearted! We loved Donovan so much, he has become like a part of our family. Go and have a blast!
Marilee McFarland <mari4435@verizon.net>
Jim Thorpe, PA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 6:37 PM CST

THE GREIVEING PARENT'S WISH LIST(author aunknown)

1. We wish you would not be afraid to speak our child's name. They lived and were important and we need to hear their name.

2. If we cry or get emotional if we talk about our child, we wish you knew that iT isn't because you have hurt us; the fact that they haved died has caused our tears. You have allowed us to cry and we thank you. Crying and emotional outbursts are healing.

3. We wish you wouldn't let our loved one die again by removing from your home his pictures, artwork, or other remembrances.

4. We will have emotional highs and lows, ups and downs. We wish that you wouldn't think if we have a good day our grief is over, or that if we have a bad day we need psychiatric counseling.

5. We wish you knew that the death of a child IS different from other losses and must be viewed separately. It is the ULTIMATE tragedy and we wish you wouldn't compare it to your loss of a parent, spouse, or a pet.

6. Being a bereaved person is not contagious, so we wish you wouldn't stay away from us.

7. We wish you knew all the crazy grief reactions that we are having are in fact very normal, depression, anger, frustration and hoplessness and the questioning of values and beliefs are to be expected following a death.

8. We wish you would not expect our grief to be over in six months. The first few years are going to be exceedingly traumatic for us. As with alcoholics, We will never be "cured" or a "formerly bereaved" but forever be "recovering" from our bereavement.

9. We wish you understood that the physical reaction to grief. We may gain weight, or lose weight, sleep all the time or not at all, develop a lot of illnesses and be accident prone, all of which are realted to our grief.

10. Our child's birthday, the anniversary of his death, and the holidays are terrible times for us. We wish you would tell us that you are thinking about him on these days and if we get quiet and withdrawn just know that we are thinking about him.

11. We wish you understood that grief changes people. We are not the same people we were before our child died and we will never be that person again. If you keep waiting for us to get back to "our old selves" you will be frustrated. We are new creatures with new thoughts, dreams, aspirations, and values.

Pleas try to get to know the new us; maybe you will
still like us.

Believe
- Tuesday, January 30, 2007 6:26 PM CST

My Heart goes out to your family. I can't imagine what you are going through and NO ONE who has never lost a child can. SO not to draw attention to the obnoxious person who thinks you begged to go to the superbowl through your dying son(HOW CRUEL CAN YOU BE LADY), can imagine your pain-- and if she could she wouldn't be so rude!! She should be banned from caringbridge sites--KEEP YOUR OPINION TO YOURSELF!!
Donovan will be at the superbowl with you in spirit.
When I was watching the last game the colts played, my husband and I were at the edge of our seats rooting for the colts--then i sat back and said to him--You know what? The colts are going to win--He looked at me funny--I said "The colts are going to win" He said" well don't jinx them"-I said come here i want to show you "why" the colts are going to win--I ran to the computer and pulled up Donovan's site--I said he passed away yesterday, and he is a huge colts fan--he is going to help them win--Well sure enough--They won!!!!! My husband was touched by your pictures and thought it was a great the colts won!! We know Donovan had something to do with that--Now on the other hand, my husband is a huge Bears fan and we are from PA--So I won't tell him the Bears are going to lose(which they will) cause Donovan will be up there rooting them on--
God Bless your family--You grieve how you wish--Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
Donovan will NEVER be forgotten, he has been such an inspiration to me--HE IS AN AMAZING LITTLE HERO!!!
Cindy
Phili, PA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 6:23 PM CST

Melissa,
You don't know me but I have followed this site for some time now and I am so very sorry for your loss! I watched the playoff game the weekend that you lost your little angel and I found myself saying "Come on, do this for baby Donovan!" I must say that I am a Giants fan, but at least one of the Peytons is going to the superbowl. I am so happy for you that you are getting to go to the superbowl - you can bet that there will be many people watching and hoping to see many signs from Donovan......and he will bring them to victory! You have a beautiful family and I am praying for you! GO COLTS GO!!!
Kim <mctwins2@stny.rr.com>
Binghamton, NY 13904 - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 6:23 PM CST

Dear Family,
Thinking of you in Colorado and continuing to pray for your peace. At the risk of starting something in the guest book, which isn't my intention at all, for those that can't say anything nice, please don't leave messages questioning this family's decisions. Everyone deals with grief differently, and until we've walked a mile in another's shoes, we should not be the ones to judge what behavior is appropriate. After all the Rasmussen's have been through, it's a wonder they can be as positive and sane as they are...which speaks volumes not only to their faith in God, but also to their character. Remember "that which does not break you, makes you stronger". AMEN!
I'll be watching the Superbowl and hoping for a COLTS win, while glued to the TV in hopes of seeing Angel Baby Donovan's precious face on that big posterboard. He will always be with you in spirit wherever you go~
God Bless your family and thank you for sharing your lives with the world...some of us are truly better people because of you!
Tammy Nelson <All3Nelsons@aol.com>
Broomfield, CO U.S.A. - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 6:01 PM CST

Melissa - enjoy the Superbowl and have a great time! Sending prayers for all your family as you grieve and cope in your own ways. Wish I could do more for you all. I'll always remember Donovan!
Jennifer Bryan <jandjbryan@comcast.net>
Los Gatos, CA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 5:51 PM CST

Melissa:
I am so very glad you are going to honor your sweet little one and do something that you had always planned to do with him, go to the SuperBowl. I wish I could be there with you to cheer the COLTS to victory! And I will be there in spirit, because for the FIRST time ever in our house, we will be having a SUPERBOWL party in Donovan's honor and will be jumping, "arms in the air", at each TD! This is something the kids and I have decided to do in Donovan's memory, and something we are really looking forward to doing "together". I understand Darren not being up to the trip and I know that it's been so hard for him, letting go is never easy, the pain will always be there, but time does move on and you find ways to "cope with it" because there is never any way to "get over it". Take a deep breath, and live for Donovan, because of Donovan, and as he would have wanted. It's the legacy he leaves behind, because he taught us all that "each day should be treasured, savored, and enjoyed" for tomorrow is only a promise and today, today is your present. Darren you gave that little guy the very best you could give him, a loving home, all the medical treatments known to mankind, and all the love in your heart. You both taught him that even though the end result is not what you wanted, that there was a loving Lord and Savior awaiting him. God bless you, Melissa and Darren, you gave Donovan and Dylan your "all" and in return they will always love you and appreciate all you have given. I will be watching for you Melissa, and I really hope you "enjoy" this trip as much as you can possibly force yourself to do.
Love, Susan
Susan Wright <yokena05@bellsouth.net>
VICKSBURG , MS - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 5:27 PM CST

You are truly in my prayers. I had been connected to you site from another family of a dying child. I can not imagine what you have been through and no doube that Baby Donovan is in heaven. Please though be careful not to try and make us confuse Donovan's dream with yours. He may have liked football, but we all know a child his age has no idea what the Superbowl is. I applaud Darren for staying with Dylan. I am sure it is very important for him to have his family with him now. No one is asking or expecting you to sit in a corner and cry. It is just very hard to understand how you can even consider leaving your family to go to a football game, especially since that was only made possible by your begging through a dying son. Also, can you take the request for money off the site. It really conflicts with the trip.
ANNA LEA DIREOR <ADOR34@yahoo.com>
- Tuesday, January 30, 2007 5:22 PM CST

Go COLTS!!! I am excited you are going to the superbowl...you enjoy it and I know that Donovan's spirit will be right with you as they win...love and hugs!
Kitty <kittyrn@hotmail.com>
Belmont (missing Duke), NC - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 5:16 PM CST

You said it beautifully, Melissa; the words that described your journey and the end result; the ultimate eternal triumph!! Many are the plans of man but it is God's purpose that prevails. I believe God had a purpose for baby Donovan and his family and it was lived well and will be well rewarded. Have a good time at the superbowl and I will be thinking of you and cheering for the Colts. God bless you all always.
carter's grandma gayle
www.caringbridge.org/mn/carterjohn/

gayle cook <alysacook@hotmail.com>
albert lea, mn usa - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 4:53 PM CST

God Bless you Melissa, you go to that superbowl and you cheer. Cheer for all of us who can't be there who have lost loved ones to cancer. When I lost the love of my life to cancer in June, after 38 years of a wonderful, loving marriage, I decided I could go to my bed (actually I felt more like going UNDER the bed!), but I decided to go on and be the inspiration that I knew I could be to my family. My strength comes from the fact that I did everything in my power to make his life a better one (especially those rough last few weeks). I thank God to this day for the time we had together and for the children and friends He has given me. I can't say that I didn't have those bad days, but I knew in my heart that they would get better, and they do. Thank you for sharing you little warrior's life with us all. And, thank you for going to the superbowl on Sunday. You go my friend and have a few hours of fun. If anyone deserves it hon, it is YOU. Love to you and your family, you are in my prayers.
Joeann S. Marko <jmar4684@aol.com>
Jamesville, NY Onondaga - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 4:24 PM CST

Melissa-
I am so happy that you are going to the Super Bowl. Being from Minnesota I am a TRUE VIKINGS FAN, but since they went no where this season I will be rooting for the COLTS all the way.... Have fun and know that your sweet ^Angel Donovan^ is watching the game and guiding the team to a victorious WIN....

Grammie-
All your entries are so heartfelt and full of love for your ^Angel Grandson Donovan^. The pictures of you and him are just beautiful and you can see that special bond that you two have. Remember the good times and cherish those for your memories..

^Angel Donovan^-
Okay Teddy Bear, even though I never got a chance to meet you I feel like you're my adoptive child. I am so sad that you are physically not here to be with your family, but also realize that if you were still here you would have pain, meds, surgeries to endure and the list goes on and on. I hope heaven is treating you wonderful and that you are having a blast playing and jumping from cloud to cloud. Just remember to always check up on your family in their dreams. I know they miss your terribly. Take care precious ^Angel D^...

Jen <djechw@iw.net>
Luverne, MN United States - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 4:13 PM CST

I hope you have a great time at the super bowl. If anybody deserves you do.... don't ever feel quilty... From reading your journal entries I can see and feel how much your baby meant to you and will always mean to all of you...Eventhough, I am from the south of Boston in Patriot Land... Don't tell but I was hoping the Colts would do it for Baby Donovan and you..
Take care
My thoughts and prayers for you and yours
Lisa <lmdillon3@hotmail.com>
- Tuesday, January 30, 2007 4:12 PM CST

Melissa, I am so excited that you get to go to the Super Bowl. It is quite a tribute to the Rasmussen family that the Colts responded with tickets to the SB. Imagine how many requests they get every year. Way to go Baby D. Your fans out here are so behind you on this one Melissa. There is NO ONE who knows you that can say you did not devote your entire life to Donovan the last 2 years. Donovan will be there with you at the game for sure. We all will be looking for his poster in the crowds. Be sure to hold it up high - as high as Donny is flying. We all love reading your entries and Grammies as well. Grammie you are an astounding woman. We all feel blessed to have known you this last year and a half. We know that you will all go forward and live life for the living, as God has intended us to do. Dylan is one lucky little boy to have such wonderful parents and grandparents. GO COLTS!!
Jan <jldlatta@aol.com>
Cary, NC USA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 3:54 PM CST

I lived the past 10 years in Indiana and was a Colts fan, we moved to Chicago last year and I am still a Colts fan - even more so now. Enjoy the game and all of those who support you! I am so sorry for the loss of Donovan! I know he will be there with you. Go Colts!
Kris Dowler <the6dowlers@comcast.net>
Aurora, IL USA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 3:53 PM CST

Melissa,
I know Angel Donovan had a hand in the Colts winning! I was watching the game, and I just *knew* they were going to win!!! I am so happy you are going to the Super Bowl! I will be looking for an Angel in the crowd.

Here is a prayer I found that touched my heart, I changed it a bit to fit.

Father of all compassion,
please comfort Donovan's
family in all their pain and troubles.
He was so small,
so beautiful,
so full of hope and promise.
What a blessing he has been
to all of us who knew him
those few short years.
He taught us to love,
to hope beyond expectation,
to trust in that which is unseen.
He drew us together
in our anxiety,
our moments of despairing and hopelessness,
as well as in our joys and delight,
and in his every breath.
His life ended prematurely;
just so had he been born.
Too soon he died.
We wept.
The tears continue.
We hugged
and held one another.
The pain will always linger.
Our hearts emptier
for his absence
and the unfulfilled dreams
he promised.
But the love he brought
into our lives will live forever.
Thank you for giving him to us.
Thank you for the blessing
that he will always be.
Thank you for the love we
would never have known,
but for him
and his brief days with us.
Thank you for Donovan,
our blessed child of grace.
Amen.

Adapted from Vienna Cobb Anderson�s prayer

We love you all and will continue to hold you up in prayer.
Love,
Audra, Keegan's mom <audrapuckett@keeganthecrusader.com>
Fayetteville, GA USA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 3:44 PM CST

Super Bowl Bound - Donovan is smiling right now, and you know he'll be there with you.
I think it is important for Dylan to see that life goes on. That doesn't take away from the hole in your hearts, but Donovan would be sad if everyone wasn't living to the utmost degree.
Have fun. You deserve a respite!
Deb ~ Riley Mom <dtaylor@brickyard.com>
Indpls, IN - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 3:17 PM CST

Some prayers and hugs coming your way. I hope your heart is filled with some joy this Sunday as you feel Donovan's presence in the stadium.

Rooting for the Colts....go, Donny, go!!

With lots of aloha,
Sheila
Sheila Bierwert <bierwertfam@yahoo.com>
Honolulu, HI - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 3:14 PM CST

Melissa, I was even praying that you would get to go to the Superbowl. It is something so special to you and that you and Donovan shared. He was too sick to go on earth, but now, oh now, he can be there with you; I really believe that. I will be home at our party cheering you and your family on along with the Colts. Be safe and know you are loved.
Beth and Kyle <bdehoff@iquest.net>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 3:11 PM CST

Melissa...take no heed to any (negative) person. There is NOT a more deserving person than yourself..to do whatever brings you a moment of peace..in mind and body. Your family is beyond precious...and I for one will keep an eye out for that poster.. :) Sending prayers for better days ahead..and joyous memories.
cathy (Nana to angel Mark) JMML <ccharon@comcast.net >
- Tuesday, January 30, 2007 3:04 PM CST

Melissa and Family,
I was so sorry to hear about the loss of your precious Donovan. I am truly happy that you will be going to the Superbowl. I to am a diehard Pats fan but will be rooting for the Colts and scanning the crowd to see you and your poster. Enjoy! I know Donovan will be with you always and everywhere.

Anita
Newhall, CA United States - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 2:41 PM CST

Thinking of you.
The superbowl....woohoo!!!! Being born and raised Indiana, we will be cheering loud from our home and I will def be looking for the poster of Donny!! Donny will be there with you Melissa, with all of us cheering his team on that day!

hugs...

www.caringbridge.org/visit/savahanascott

Lori <lascott32@aol.com>
Avon, in - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 2:40 PM CST

Melissa, I find it incredibly sad that you had to even mention any one that would question how you could go. They have no right to even bring it up. You don't owe them or anyone else an explanation, but because of the wonderful mom you are, you did any way. That is just additional testament to the kind of person you are. Along with hundreds of others who have never met you or Donnie, I will be watching every second for the poster of Donnie. I can't wait to see and proudly exclaim to everyone at the party, I know of that little Angel and his WONDERFUL family. Have a wonderful time! God bless you on your journey.
Linda Rudman
Shrewsbury, MA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 2:18 PM CST

I am absolutely happy that you are attending the superbowl. I am behind you 100% as is 99% of people on this site.

Thinking of your family.
God Bless

Stranger in MN
St Paul, - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 2:17 PM CST

Melissa, I am so happy that you will be at the Superbowl cheering on our Indianapolis Colts! You are a truly wonderful mother and deserve to have a great time. So go there and have the time of your life on Sunday! We will be watching as they scan the crowd for your poster of your special little angel. I will always keep Baby D and your family close to my heart.

Love,
Charlette

Charlette Lawson <charlette_513@sbcglobal.net>
Plainfield, IN - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 2:07 PM CST

thinking of you and sweet Donovan....hang in there...

God bless
Ozzie <ovieira@hartz.com>
Harrrison, NJ - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 1:56 PM CST

Melissa, I am so happy that you are going to the Superbowl....I know you would give up all Superbowls and everything fun in life to have Donny back....but enjoy this for him, you know he wants his mommy to smile.

We are praying for you, and asking God to comfort your family. We are praying that in the midst of such intense pain, you are able to experience some joy....and the Superbowl seems to be an answer to that prayer!!

love and hugs,
Kim
Andrew's Page <kim.sprague@cox.net>
Ladera Ranch, CA USA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 1:54 PM CST

Hello Melissa,
I am sure it will be a bittersweet trip. Your joy and your tears will probably both accompany you ! And as someone said earlier, your Donovan will accompany you in your heart.
I truly hope you find some joy in going, Melissa, even though it is not, of course, the way you wanted to go.
We will all be rooting for YOU and your DONOVAN !
Go Colts ! (and i'm not even an occasional football watcher)
Carol
- Tuesday, January 30, 2007 1:50 PM CST

Grammie~ Thank you for sharing your special time with Dylan. I know that was hard. As I mentioned in an earlier entry I just sent my sweet baby granddaughter, Makayla to be with Jesus a month and 3 days before Donny went. I was glad that my other grandchildren were not old enough to understand as for I just don't know if I could have found the words like you did. I will always treasure that story of you and Dylan in my heart. I will one day have to explain to them why death comes and why someone that they love is not coming back. I will reach down deep in my heart....ask God to give me guidance ~ and remember your story to Dylan. I pray that God continues to give you strength as you take each day one at a time. I pray that the empty arms that ache to hold your precious grandbaby feel the embrace of the Father as He holds you to comfort you. My prayers are with you Grammie~ Love~ Mimi to Makayla

Melissa~ sweetie, oh how I feel your emptiness of not going to clinic today. I remember how my days once Makayla left to go home to Jesus were. I didn't know what to do with myself because I had such a routine. I pray that God can help ease the pain. I pray that you know that everyone in clinic is missing you and Donny too.
I am so happy for you that you get to go to the Superbowl my friend. You so deserve it. Yes...you are right. You don't have to sit around and cry....Donny wouldn't want you too.

To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
(Ecclesiastes 3:1-4) NKJV

My prayers are with you my friend. Have a wonderful time and know that your precious little boy will be right there, holding your hand.....

Love and Prayers~ Jan aka Mimi to Makayla (in heaven) & Hailey

www.freewebs.com/prayerbears
www.caringbridge.org/visit/makaylachavers & www.caringbridge.org/visit/haileychavers <jannyjo@cox.net>
Virginia Beach, VA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 1:38 PM CST

Another angel takes flight.

My deepest, most sincere sympathy and condolences to each and every one of you!! Donovan was a fighter; there is no doubt about that! He is now pain free, free to fly in the Heavens and watch over all of you!
We lost our precious Pam on Oct. 7, 2003, so I know what you are going through. There are no words that can ease the pain.

The worst thing that can happen to a parent is to lose a child. It feels like someone ripped your heart out. You go from the unbelievable to the unbearable.

Donovan is in a good place now and I'm sure Pam is with him. She just loved children so much.

I would just like to share a saying that was on the card my wife Diane picked out, and we bought for Pam:

If you were a star
That wasn�t expected back
In the universe
For a thousand years,
I�d wait.

If you were the sky
And everyone went inside
When you got sad
And started to rain,
I�d stay.

And if you were a peach
And the world decided to get rid of all peaches,
I�d pick you up,
Put you in my pocket�

AND KEEP YOU��..FOREVER.

I would also like to share, with you and your family, a poem that was put on Pam�s website:
God's Garden

God looked around His garden
And found an empty place
He then looked down upon the earth
And saw your tired face

He put His arms around you
And lifted you to rest
God's garden must be beautiful,
He always takes the best

He knew that you were suffering
He knew you were in pain,
He knew that you would never
Get well on earth again.

He saw the road was getting rough
And the hills were hard to climb
So He closed your weary eyelids,
And whispered "Peace Be Thine."

It breaks our hearts to lose you
But you didn't go alone.
For part of us went with you,
The day God called you home.

Below is a poem that we have on a plaque dedicated to Pam:

The Broken Chain

We little knew that morning that
God was going to call your name.
In life we loved you dearly, in death
we do the same� It broke our
hearts to lose you, you did not go
alone; for part of us went with you,
the day God called you home� You
left us peaceful memories, your love
is still our guide, and though we
cannot see you, you are always at our
side� Our family chain is broken,
and nothing seems the same;
but as God calls us one by one,
The Chain will link again.

You are all in our prayers. GOD BLESS YOU ALL.

Frank father of Angel Pam ( www.caringbridge.org/ny/pamostrowski ) <frank.muratori@nyct.com>
Syosset, NY USA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 1:12 PM CST

a V.I.P............... that's what you will be at the Superbowl!!!! You simply amaze me!!!!! Praying for you at this time.

Naomi Fehr

visit: www.caringbridge.org/canada/joshua

ps GO COLTS GO!!!!!
Naomi Fehr <jnyf@mts.net>
Winkler, MB Canada - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 12:59 AM CST

Melissa,
If anyone deserves this trip to the Super Bowl it is you. You are such a wonderful person and such an inspiration to so many. You fought that hard battle with Baby D. never complaining about the long nights without sleep and the long days at clinic. You are an angel on earth giving so freely to your children and doing whatever needed to be done to take care of Baby D. and still finding time to make sure that Dylan knew how much he was love and give him the time he needed also. I have followed your long journey, and every day looking forward to the new updates and pictures of that precious little angel. My heart is broken, we will continue to pray that God will lead you to whatever the furute holds for you and take care of you and your family. Melissa you go have fun at the super bowl and we will be cheering those colts on to victory. Baby D you care of your family and make sure that your mommy knows that you are there at the super bowl with her. I know that Baby D is running around on the streets of heaven and having the time of his life. Much love to you, Darren, Dylna and the rest of your family.
Danna Lawrence <danna@teamtransportation.com>
Summerville, SC Berkeley - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 12:30 AM CST

This is what is wrong with the world today! I am so sorry for your loss, but I am so happy that you are going to the superbowl! Please, don't worry or even care about what anyone has to say regarding your going. I am so sorry for everything and everybody. My family loves you and yours!

Karen <tianjaffords@hotmail.com>
Valdosta, GA 31632 - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 12:17 AM CST

I'm so sorry you are so sad, but I'm thrilled you are going to the Superbowl. You know that Donovan will be with you, cheering the Colts on. Maybe even down on the field helping plan strategy. A little help from above. Take good care and hang in there. You are a wonderful mother and a dear person. Those who may criticize you are pathetic....something you and your family DEFINITELY ARE NOT!!! Go Colts!!!
Kim T. <t6834@aol.com>
Glendale, AZ USA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 11:51 AM CST

I have read your page today. I feel sadness for you and your family. I think it is wonderful that you are going to the Superbowl. Donovan will have a great view up with the angels and will want you to be there with him. God Bless you and keep you comforted.
Linda Dolezan www.caringbridge.org/visit/lindadolezan <bluyz1966@aol.com>
Benton Harbor, MI 49022 - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 11:40 AM CST

I know your dream was to have Donovan make it to the Superbowl - and you should certainly go and bring him with you in your heart! Donovan will always be by your side. You have to live life and dance when the music is playing. No one can criticize you for going and, if someone does, remember they're not going through your experiences.

You can count on us to cheer for the Colts on the sidelines! We know Donovan will be cheering with the angels!
Cindy
Rochester, NY - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 11:39 AM CST

Melissa,
Thank you for continuing to share your life with us. So many of us have been praying for Donovan and your family for months and years--it's wonderful to hear that you're getting to realize a dream of seeing the Colts play--what a touching tribute to Donovan! I'm continuing to pray for you, Darren and Dylan--that you'll find a direction to take your lives in, that you'll have the strength to do what you need to do, and that Angel Donovan will be protecting you wherever and whatever you do.
Julie Helman <julesmh@hotmail.com>
Annandale, VA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 11:38 AM CST

Melissa and family~
I just don't understand people. Why judge? I was so happy to read that you will be going to the see the Colts win the BIG game! How different is that from taking a trip that many families who lose a child or loved do soon after their services are over? It is NO different. You are doing something that brings you happiness and joy. You are doing something that little precious Warrior Dononvan LOVED. You go. You raise those arms up and shout and scream with each touchdown. And relish in the fact that your sweet boy is right there next to you watchin those boys WIN WIN WIN! GO COLTS!

Donovan~ You are one missed little boy! Send down some sweet kisses and love to your mommy and all that loved you. You were one fighter and you will NEVER EVER be forgotten.
Erin
TX - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 11:37 AM CST

Melissa,

You go girl! Donavan will be the Angel on your shoulder. I am not a Colts Fan, but while in Florida to walk in The Susan Komen walk (I am a survivor) I sat in a bar in Lake Worth mostly populated by NE fans and screamed my head off for the Colts during the playoffs. How upset I was when I got back home and checked the website only to find out that Donavan had passed. GOD needed another Angel!

I am now back in Connecticut and will be screaming my head off for the Colts on Sunday. I will be watching for your poster.

All of you are in my thoughts and prayers daily. May God Bless You and Guide You.

P.S I work with Kara's Mom.

God Bless!

Charlene
Charlene Hollo <charh22964@sbcglobal.net>
Beacon Falls, CT USA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 11:29 AM CST

I could not agree more...Donovan would not want you to stop living because he no longer lives on this earth. I have lost many people in my life, and no one ever said that they wanted us to do nothing with our lives but mourn them -- just the opposite. Donovan is in a place of perfect peace and happiness, and I can't imagine for a moment that he wouldn't want the same for you, his Daddy and his brother. Until your earthly journeys come to an end and you see Donovan again, he will want you to go on...he will want to hear your laughter and see you smile as he watches over you.

I'll be looking for your sign at the Superbowl. I'm so glad you get to go! And I'm sure your sweet little guy will be with you too!
Suzanne Shaft
Macedonia, OH - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 11:17 AM CST

I'll be watching the Superbowl and rooting for the Colts in Donovan's honor...it's been years since I've had such an interest in the Superbowl (eventhough my husband is always a diehard fan and watcher).

I truly hope there aren't mean people giving you grief over going to the Superbowl. If anyone deserves to go...it's you! I always hear of families taking a 'vacation' after a long fought battle, like the one you just emerged from...my family took a camping trip after we lost my brother. It's very normal.

Anyhow, I continue to check for updates everyday, as I have for over a year and a half now. Little Donnie is living on in all of our hearts.

Continuing to pray for your peace, especially sweet Dylan's...have fun this weekend.
Jacquelyn <jacqmills@comcast.net>
Sacramento, CA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 11:16 AM CST

Melissa, You go to that game and have a grand time! If there is anyone in this world that deserves a break - it is you - a wonderful mother who so tirelessly fought a fight that few of us can even imagine. Enjoy and don't let anyone or anything dampen your spirit.
Kerrie <LALALAND@FUSE.NET>
Cincinnati, OH USA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 11:16 AM CST

Thinking of you this week as you beign this day with no clinic visit. My mind and my heart are aching for you and hoping that you continue to find peace and comfort in the memories you have in your heart of Donovan. Laugh when you can and cry when you have to, let the tears fall. I'll be thinkin of you while watching the Colts this weekend and knowing how both hard and rewarding it will be to be at the game. Let the tears flow, for I am sure Donovan will be with you...probably in the middle of the field making sure Peyton is doing the right thing!!
Kerry Chapman
Grand Island, NE - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 11:04 AM CST

I will be watching for that sweet little angel face in the crowd!!! Praying for you all as you continue to find this new direction for your lives.
Janet
St. Louis, MO USA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 11:02 AM CST

Do not apologize for going to the Superbowl. Quite frankly, I was so excited when I read your entry saying that you were going. You deserve it. It was your dream to share that experience with that wonderful little baby or yours, and what better tribute to that special little boy than you going in his honor. You are right, you cannot stop living your life because Donovan has gone to a better place. You owe it to him to continue on. You owe it to Dylan, Darren and yourself. Life is very precious, and a very good friend of mine who was paralyzed many years ago told me something once that really made an impact on me. She said that she only has one life and can could choose to be bitter about the hand she was dealt, or she could embrace the life she has and make the most of it. I encourage you to do the same. Embrace life and enjoy life. Nothing will bring Donovan back, but you can live your life and find joy in each day as a tribute to him and your family. Enjoy the Superbowl and I will be looking for that special Donovan sign.
Ginny Streeter <gstreeter@hookercreek.net>
Bend, OR - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 10:58 AM CST

Dear Melissa,
I have visited your site a dozen time since Donovan went to a better place and I could not sign because I just could not find the words, to simply say I am sorry for what has happened to you and your family. Donovan's life was too short but he made a tremendous impact on so many people in his short life. You are a wonderful mom and us moms, we all know that by now. I hope that you enjoy the Super Bowl, it's going to be awesome, and you should not feel guilty about it, if this has taught us something is to enjoy life while we can, and that's exactly what Donovan would like you to do.
You and your family continue to be in my prayers for today and the days and months ahead as you learn to live without your baby.
God bless
Nathalie Doremieux <nathalie@doremieux.org>
Toulouse, France - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 10:51 AM CST

Just wanted you to know that all of you remain in our prayers!!! Melissa, I am so glad you get to go to the superbowl. Enjoy it sweet heart. Laugh, cheer, rejoice... Have the time of your life!!! You deserve all the happiness this life has to offer. Donovan will be there with you rooting and cheering, "Go Colts"!! The days ahead will not be easy. On the days when no laughter comes only tears fall, please know that you are not alone. God will see you through and I am here too. Melissa, you can call me anytime!!! I love you all and I wish that I could have been there with you this past weekend. I may not have been there physically but my heart was there with you. Take each day as it comes.... laugh every chance you get, but always know that you are loved by God and by so many others!!! I will be cheering for the Colts and I will be thinking of you and Donovan the every second!!!!
Sending all my love and prayers,
Stacey Krause (mom to Kaylee in Heaven) <kayleespromise@msn.com>
- Tuesday, January 30, 2007 10:32 AM CST

Oh Melissa I Am So Glad You Are Going
To The Superbowl Champ Will Be There Right On
Your Shoulder......
Champ,
You Are Forever At Peace Now Honey...
We Will Watch For You And Your Mommy At
The SuperBowl You Are & Will Be Forever MISSED
DONOVAN...........

GOD BLESS YOU & YOUR FAMILY!!!!!

Beth
:))))))
:)))))), :)))))) :))))))) - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 10:24 AM CST

I am so sorry for your loss. He is now a beautiful angel and watching over all of you. I hope Dylan is doing ok. It is so so hard when you lose a child. I hope you guys have a great time at the superbowl. Donovan will be cheering with you from heaven. So, you go have fun!!! Donovan will be right there with you...
tammy <tammy.hammock@delta.com>
sharpsburg, ga - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 10:24 AM CST

Melissa...go and have the BEST moments of Joy you are able..Your times have been far and few between these last years and the times of Joy should not be missed..there are special times that shouldn't be missed and this is one!
Cheer for your Team, Your Player, Your Being There and Most of all Picture Baby D running that touchdown..he did!
Our Love to You and Your Wonderful Family,
Kelsey, Faith and Colleen-ALL Kids <colleencadaret@sbcglobal.net>
Placerville, CA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 10:23 AM CST

Shame on ANYONE for judging you!!! You need NOT worry what other people think of you Melissa, we are all in AWE of you! We'll be looking for you and praying for you and cheering and crying with you on Sunday!
ANdrea <ams031804@yahoo.com>
- Tuesday, January 30, 2007 10:21 AM CST

Melissa...you are a GREAT person! There was a reason Donovan was sent to you and your family- I hope you have a fun, fun time at the Superbowl, and hold that poster up high for all to see your precious baby angel. I'm so sorry you are going through so much right now- but the sun will shine again (only in a differant way) you know you have to stay strong for Dylan and you are doing so good. You have so many people who support you and love you. Have a great time this weekend ...let the sun shine on you it's what your baby wants. He's happy he wants to see you smiling for him. We love you...all the way from c-o-l-d Indiana!!
Kirsten Garcia <tkgarcia4@comcast.net>
Remington, IN - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 10:18 AM CST

Melissa and family: I'm glad to hear you're going to the superbowl! I know it wont be the same, but you are still entitled to go do things and have fun. Good grief ~ you need a break from all the heartache. Have a great time! I will personally be cheering for the Colts right along with you, with Donovan heavy on my mind and my heart! GO COLTS!!!
LeeAnne
Hastings, NE - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 10:16 AM CST

I am so glad that you are going to the Super Bowl. I never follow football but found myself watching to see if the Colts were winning. Have the best time possible, and enjoy it as much as possible. Donovan would want you to be there and to have fun. When you can find something that distracts from your pain even for a few minutes go for it Girl. Your family are still in our prayers, we pray for God's peace and comfort to come to you.
Vivian Adams <momandpops@centurytel.com>
Greenville, AL USA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 9:54 AM CST

Hi Rasmussen Family,
Thinking of you guys and missing Baby D. Melissa, have a great time at the Superbowl -- you deserve a weekend of fun. I can't wait to hear all about it and I will definately look for your big Baby D poster! Grammie, as always I enjoyed reading your post. Thanks for sharing your intimate conversation with Dylan. What an amazing woman you are. Sending lots of hugs all around,
K-C <kellychristine.day@citigroup.com>
Eastchester, NY - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 9:36 AM CST

I think going to the Superbowl is the PERFECT tribute to your beautiful son! Love, Gwen
Gwen Haag <ghaag@frmc.us>
East Rochester, NY USA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 9:34 AM CST

Melissa and family,
I have been visiting BabyD's website for a while now. I found him through Matthewk's. My nephew was dx just a couple weeks before BabyD with bone caner. I am so very sorry for the pain you all are feeling. No words can take this pain away, but I really wanted you to know how courageously you fought this disease right alongside Donny. God placed him in the perfect family to love, care,and provide him the BEST medical care this world has to offer. Unfortunately, for us, only God could provide complete healing. For two years you have selflessly devoted yourselves to this precious soul. Donny knew it, and could feel your love. That is why he was such a happy, joyful baby. Now it is time for you to let him care for you. He is dancing over you now and will always be close by. Melissa, I think it is great that you are going to the Superbowl! After all, that IS where Donny will be...cheering his Colts on to victory. God Bless and my prayers will be with all of you. Love, Elaine
Elaine
Oh - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 9:29 AM CST

First, Grammie, that was so well put and sweet! God Bless you for being there for your family, especially Dylan.
Melissa, have the time of your life. Do not regret being strong enough to enjoy the Colts victory or cry bittersweet tears at the same time. You deserve every wonderful oppurtunity that comes your way. Seize the good times, for Baby D's memory, for Dylan to know that it's ok to be happy for Baby D's return home to heaven and yet still miss him, for yourself and your family enjoy life. Never forget the hard lessons you've learned along the way.
Go have fun with your cousin.
Evan's mom www.caringbridge.org/visit/evansolomons
Tamara
Colorado Springs, CO - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 9:23 AM CST

RASMUSSEN FAMILY- YOU ARE AMAZING! MOST PEOPLE HAVE NEVER HAD TO EXPERIENCE WHAT YOU HAVE SO NO ONE KNOWS WHAT THEY WOULD OR WOULD NOT DO. IT IS SO EASY TO SAY "I WOULD NEVER..." BUT WE JUST MIGHT GIVEN THE RIGHT CIRCUMSTANCES. SEEING YOUR CHILD ILL AND DYING IS THE WORST THING THERE IS AND NOT ONE OF US KNOWS WHAT WE WOULD DO IN MELISSA'S SITUATION. GO COLTS!!!!
A FAN IN MINNEAPOLIS
- Tuesday, January 30, 2007 9:22 AM CST

Oh your guys I think that is wondeful that your going to MIAMI, to see our COLTS win!!!!! You deserve it so much. Your baby boy will be there with you and his team all the way. I think of you all everyday, are you coming back home? Your an amazing woman, your doing so well, your such an inspiriation, Dylan and Darren are so lucky to have you. As is Baby D. God Bless Your family.
Brooke Deckard & Family <rentalman8@yahoo.com>
Bloomington, IN USA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 9:17 AM CST

You go girl! So glad to hear you're going to the SuperBowl! Hold that baby's picture high and know that you are honoring him and your family. I'm sure with the picture with you, it will turn in to an all out Donavan Bowl! I'm glad you have something to help you with your grief. Everyone grieves in different ways. You do what is best for you! You deserve it! I pray for your son and your husband. I hope they can find the necessary and healthy way to help them grieve as well. Still praying for you and your whole family!!
Best wishes, and most of all, GOD BLESS!
Holly Dorsey
Laurel, MS
Holly Dorsey <holly@c-gate.net>
Laurel, MS USA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 9:10 AM CST

Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.
Wow! I can't believe that you get to go to the SuperBowl to see the Colts win! I'll watch for you in the crowd.
Grammie's letter was so sweet. The tears were flowing. I loved that she ended it with a little humor!
Take care! I'm praying for the strength and comfort that you all need.
Jenn Huston
South Bend, IN - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 9:09 AM CST

Continuing to think of and pray for you all. Am so happy that you will be making it to the Super Bowl. Tears still come easily when I think of you. Grammie's letter to Donovan sure hit deep in my heart, but the visual picture of Donovan being swept up to Heaven in Tow Mater was simply precious. Praying that you will continue to feel Donovan's love and joy through those who surround you and support you as you continue your journey. GO COLTS!!!
Kristi Gerdon <kgerdon@widrick.com>
Croghan, NY - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 8:39 AM CST

You are such an amazing famiy, not many could still find positivity the way you always seem to do. You always seem to find light, even in the darkest hours. I admire you all. I don't normally watch football, but I will be watching this Sunday. I will scan the crowds for you and I will watch for Donny leading the Colts to victory and wrapping his Angel Wings around you.
Stephanie Smith
- Tuesday, January 30, 2007 7:40 AM CST

To Baby Donovan's family, May the Lord keep you in his loving embrace during this very difficult time. I don't know you personally but have been on the sidelines for many months praying for Donovan. My little niece Shannon, www.caringbridge.org/ny/smilesforshannon also has been fighting this horrible disease for almost 5 years now. A few days ago her parents were given the news that the doctors had run out of answers. The sadness never seems to end. God Bless you all.
Donna Fasoldt <dfasoldt@oswego.org>
Liverpool, NY USA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 7:38 AM CST

Thinking of you guys often and will be cheering the Colts on during the Superbowl this weekend! Have awonderful time at the Superbowl and enjoy yourself...we'll be looking out for ya on the TV!
May God continue to bless you and your family
Marlena Hodges <jmhdoges1@verizon.net>
- Tuesday, January 30, 2007 7:24 AM CST

Melissa - you know I was thinking last week I wish Melissa could go to the Superbowl and low and behold you are going! I wish you a wonderful time. I will continue to remember all of you in my daily prayers. God bless!
Susan Mitchell <smitchel@calfee.com>
Cleveland, Ohio United States - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 7:21 AM CST

I have never been more happy for a person than I am for you right now Melissa. I hope you enjoy the superbowl, feel Donnys love wrapped around you and rejoice that even from heaven your precious son is letting you know that it's ok, and he's ok. Those tickets are a gift from heaven, from your boy. Enjoy your day with your arms held high above your head and an angel on your shoulder.

Christine www.carepages.com BrandonM
Christine LaFleur <Chrystyne1112@yahoo.com>
Warren, RI USA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 7:20 AM CST

Oh, Grammie - what a special message to precious Donny.....and how very lucky Dylan and Melissa are to have you, helping each other through this incredibly tough time. I find myself coming to this site several times each day, watching the slide show, checking for a journal update, and reading the guestbook entries. The pictures show such happiness in Donny's face, and he is just so full of love......because that is what he knew the most of, LOVE.....both of these little boys are so very special.
You are all in my thoughts, my heart, and my prayers every day.
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 6:55 AM CST

Howdy,
It's Grammie.

I am so sorry it has taken me so long to write you. There are lots of things I wanted to tell you, but I just could not seem to get them typed out.

Mommy was so happy with the out-pour of support your family recieved from so many people. Family and friends came from all corners of the United States to send you spiritually off to your new home. Aunts and Uncles, Great-Aunts and Great Uncles, cousins from far away came to be with us as your days ended here on earth and were sent up to our Gracious Heavenly Father. There were many that came, whom I had never met before, but were very close to you because of your website. Everybody was so wonderful to your family and to Grammie and Papa.

Your big brother, Dylan, he is just such a special little giant of a man.

The morning after you went to heaven. Dylan came in to where I was sitting very early in the morning. He stood quietly with his blanket beside me, along with his two fingers in his mouth.

After a few moments, he asked, "Nanny, where is Donny?"

I said, "Last night, he went back to Heavenly Father's home."

"Oh," Dylan replied. Then he asked, "Did Mommy take him there?"

"No,Mommy is sleeping," I answered.

"Then, how did he get there?" Dylan inquired.

Now, I sat quietly for a moment. With all the family and friends that Grammie has sent off back to Heavenly Father, none of them had relatives to asked me such intense questions.

"Well, Dylan, there is a special invisible chariot that comes to pick up special boys and girls to go back to God. no one can see these chariots except the children they are for. Donny's body is still here, but his spirit gets to go to heaven where he will live."

"What's a char..it?"

"Well, sometimes it's a special golden train like in Thomas the Train or maybe stagecoach, like the one on American Tails, or even a carriage with horses like in Little Mermaid, or even a Tow Mater like in Cars. I think Donny's chariot was a Tow Mater..." I stopped for a moment and wipe an escaping tear from the corner of my eye.

"I think so too," Dylan's eyes brightened.

"It's invisible, because if others could see it they all would want to go where Donny is going. However, not everybody can go. We have to stay here on earth to help Mommy and Daddy get through these rough times."

"Nanny, when will Donny come back?" Dylan asked quietly.

"Dylan," I picked him up and put him in my lap and hugged him tight. "Dylan, he won't be coming back."

"But, why?" he takes his fingers out his mouth with wonder in his eyes.

"Because, you remember Mommy told you Donny was very sick and had a bad disease. The disease was so bad that the doctors could not help him any more and Donny died," I did everything I could to keep my tears from falling. I wanted Dylan to know you went to a good place.

With each question, my heart pleaded for the right words. You know Donny, Grammie loves you so much. I know you are in a great place and you have so many foster family members and friends to take care of you until your family gets back to you, it is just so hard to let you go.

I sat with him in my arms and rocked and hummed some little tunes. "Nanny," he said with a struggle. You squishing me."

"Oooops, Grammie gets carried away some times.

"Yeah, sometimes," he replied. "Can I watch a movie?"

I shook off those butterfly emotions and started the day.

So, that was our first day after you went back home to that special mansion of Heavenly Father's. I don't need to tell you to be good, because you were always good here on earth. I will only tell you to have FUN! Enjoy all the things you dreamed of doing here on earth. I love you, darling. You will forever be in Grammie's heart and you are so missed.

By the way, Grammie is even going to watch that silly game called FOOTBALL. Grammie is going to hunt the field to see if I can find you. I will also be looking for Mommy and Cousin Tabby. I am wishing Mommy the best time of her life. Mommy needs this weekend so much! I am so happy she gets to be there. I will raise my arms high for the touch downs. However, I think Papa will have to tell me when, I don't want to do it at the wrong time.
Cheers! My darling.
Love Grammie <lgstmpr@walla.com>
Durham, NC - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 6:38 AM CST

All of you are in our thoughts and prayers each day. I'm so happy that you'll be able to go to the Superbowl. We'll be pulling for the Colts here in Saint Louis and we'll be watching for you on TV. How can they possibly lose with Peyton in the game, the obvious determination they displayed against the Patriots AND sweet little Angel Donovan keeping an eye on them from above? Little Donny will be there with you rooting his team on to victory. Hope you have a wonderful time.

Love, hugs and prayers
Karen Small <karensmall@charter.net>
Saint Charles, MO USA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 6:26 AM CST

You know Donovan will be at the SuperBowl with you. It has to be bittersweet, though. Cheer for me! I'll be watching the game and rooting for our team. GO COLTS!! You're still in my prayers.
Bobbi Piper <bobbihome@hotmail.com>
Speedway, IN - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 5:19 AM CST

I just hate cancer. I am going to miss hearing Donovan stories. I feel terrible for what you are going through. I just wish there was something I could do to bring Donovan back.
Lindsay
Houston, TX USA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 0:13 AM CST

Thinking of you all. It must be hard after all of the friends head home, and things settle down... But sooo glad to hear you are going to the Superbowl. So appropriate. I had hoped that the Colts would hear of Baby D's story. They should know about him, and be inspired by him.
Safe travels and have a wonderful time!
Wishing you all the best,
suzanne
www.caringbridge.org/visit/abbymeacham
Suzanne Meacham <emeacham@nycap.rr.com>
Cohoes, NY USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 11:42 PM CST

I read your journal for the first time tonight, because the Parker Fritsch family of Clovis CA gave me a link. It was truly view from a mother. I am a mom like you who has experienced the unbelievably difficult role of saying goodbye and letting a son go on to the next life. You wrote, "Our lives will be forever changed. " and no words could be more true. It's been 5 years for us and Chris' older brother and I still feel Chris' spirit and the effects of our 'hospital/medical journey'. Your son Donovan and my son Chris have been freed from their pain, and we are left to make sense of the loss. God bless your family; be patient and gentle with yourselves and each other as you negociate the days ahead. My son Chris will be there to welcome young Donovan into heaven, I'm sure of this!
debb Campbell, Chris Caughron's mom forever <workinmom3@hotmail.com >
Visalia , CA USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 11:00 PM CST

Melissa,

Thinking of you often now that life is trying to return to the new "normal". I am so excited for you that you get to go to the Superbowl, no one deserves it more than you! And really you are taking Donny with you, because he will be there cheering with you! Lots of prayers for you and your family!

Jen <jen@igreenwood.com>
Excelsior, Mn - Monday, January 29, 2007 10:41 PM CST

Melissa, I wish your family the best. I know going to the superbowl is a bitter sweet experience. I know Donny will be there. I think of you all the time. I know the cloud you are swimming through right now. I pray for you each and thank God for Dylan. He is there for you to help you through. Your family will continue to find blessings, but ultimately you'll get to see Donovan again and it'll be as if these days never happened. There will be nothing but joy. Be patient. God bless you.
Robbin
Robbin Lyons <thomtalent@aol.com>
- Monday, January 29, 2007 10:36 PM CST

Homesick by Mercy Me

"You're in a better place, I've heard a thousand times
And at least a thousand times I've rejoiced for you
But the reason why I'm broken, the reason why I cry
Is how long must I wait to be with you

I close my eyes and I see your face
If home's where my heart is then I'm out of place
Lord, won't you give me strength to make it through somehow
I've never been more homesick than now

Help me Lord cause I don't understand your ways
The reason why I wonder if I'll ever know
But, even if you showed me, the hurt would be the same
Cause I'm still here so far away from home

I close my eyes and I see your face
If home's where my heart is then I'm out of place
Lord, won't you give me strength to make it through somehow
I've never been more homesick than now

In Christ, there are no goodbye
And in Christ, there is no end
So I'll hold onto Jesus with all that I have
To see you again
To see you again

And I close my eyes and I see your face
If home's where my heart is then I'm out of place
Lord, won't you give me strength to make it through somehow
Won't you give me strength to make it through somehow
Won't you give me strength to make it through somehow
I've never been more homesick than now."

Please accept my deepest sympathy in the loss of Baby Donovan. I have only been a follower a shoet time, but he has touched my heart forever.

Rachel <crazy_ray85@yahoo.com>
San Angelo, TX USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 10:19 PM CST

I am so glad you are going to the Super Bowl! I bet Donovan will be right down there on the field cheering for the Colts to win, probably riding on the shoulders of the players! He'll have the best seat in the stadium. Prayers from South Dakota.
Becki Solberg <bslbg@hotmail.com>
Mitchell, SD USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 9:57 PM CST

Melissa and family, I am glad that you all get to go to the Superbowl. I will pray that you find guidance in helping Dylan understand. I can not begin to understand what you are going thru. Just know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Renee' Jones mom of Cassandra <goinkrazy@insightbb.com>
Richmond, In - Monday, January 29, 2007 9:34 PM CST

I'm glad that you and your family will be able to see the Superbowl, and I know that you'll have a special little angel on your shoulder the whole game, cheering on the Colts!
Denise Ward <deniward@shaw.>
Winnipeg, Canada - Monday, January 29, 2007 9:18 PM CST

I will be watching the Superbowl on Sunday, & I will be thinking of you. I am sure the Colts are going to have a special angel with them.
Lin Ridley <lin_ridley@hotmail.com>
Lutz, FL USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 9:09 PM CST

GO COLTS!! I am happy to hear you'll be in attendance at the superbowl. Praying for all of ya! XO, Erin
Erin <lilfishie98@aol.com>
Babylon, NY USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 8:43 PM CST

Just writing to say hello. I am glad that you still have some family visiting. Talk to you later. www.caringbridge.org/visit/hannahtheriot
kristen Theriot <kristheriot@cox.net>
- Monday, January 29, 2007 8:40 PM CST

Melissa, your workds are so sweet. I pray for peace to come to you and your family during this time of mourning for your little Baby D. What wonderful news about the Superbowl. I am sure your little angel will be there with you routing for the Colts. Have fun!
Levelle
Baltimore, MD USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 8:00 PM CST

Melissa I am so happy you are going to the SUPER BOWL!! I really actually thought about how I could get some tickets for you! Have a great time-ROOT FOR THE COLTS- and enjoy some time with Dylan and Darren and Baby D will be with you in spirit!

Love from CA,
XXOO, Cali Ali's Mom
Marey ALL-KIDS <kteachermom@hotmail.com>
- Monday, January 29, 2007 7:59 PM CST

To ^Angel Donovan^ & family~
You had an amazing little guy and he is all around you~tickets to the Superbowl sounds fantastic and I (the real NON-football person)will be rooting for the Colts in Baby D's honor!!!! May they win for the spirit of DONOVAN!!! Will also continue to keep your family in my thoughts & prayers~Hugs from Adi's Grandma Liz
www.caringbridge.org/visit/adi
Liz Penner <lizzip52@yahoo.com>
Simi Valley, CA - Monday, January 29, 2007 7:40 PM CST

Oh Melissa, Donovan surely had his little hands on the gift of those tickets! He will most certainly be there, rooting with you at the Superbowl. Although I am still a little sad that the Seahawks aren't playing too, we will be rooting for the Colt's in honor of your amazing family. Continuing to keep you in prayer as you miss your amazing baby D.
Laura Lynn and my two little miracle nephews, Asher and ^Jacob^: www.caringbridge.org/visit/asherandjacob <laurainsem@yahoo.com>
Hollidaysburg, Pa - Monday, January 29, 2007 7:26 PM CST

So glad to hear you guys get to go to the Superbowl. We'll be continuing to pray for you - we know the hardest part of your journey isn't over -
Love
The Strouds

Carrie (mom to Camden) <dstroud2@ec.rr.com>
Morehead City, NC United States - Monday, January 29, 2007 7:22 PM CST

Oh my goodness I am so jealous you are going to the Super Bowl, if anyone deserves it sure is you, the Rasmussen's. We all know Donovan will be there, take lots of pictures and make sure Peyton does everything he can to let us win. Have a safe trip and enjoy the game we will all be looking for you on the big screen.
Marci Hummell <marci81@comcast.net>
Orlando, FL - Monday, January 29, 2007 7:07 PM CST

Melissa: So glad to hear that you are going to the Superbowl. Have a great time and enjoy every moment. God Bless you!

The Kelley's
Jim, Lisa and Kanon
The Kelley's <Kelley.Jim@gmail.com>
Brownsburg,, In - Monday, January 29, 2007 7:03 PM CST

Melissa, GO GO GO GO and have a wonderful time at the Super Bowl...I am so thankful you're getting to go. Let this be a time of relaxation and fun and every single minute Donovan will be right there cheering you on as you're smiling and living life. He wouldn't want you to continue to be sad over him...he's with JESUS....what more could you want... Time will heal all wounds. Be strong and just love Dylan and give him....You! Have a wonderful time...
Sandra Stallings <sandraastallings@yahoo.com>
Rocky Mount, NC - Monday, January 29, 2007 6:50 PM CST

I am so happy to know you get to go to the game and get the chance to get your mind off of the heartache of your child's loss, even if it will be for a short time. I think it is great that you have something to look forward to. You are a great mother who has gone through more than any mother should ever have to go through. I wish peace and happiness for you and your family. Still praying!!!!
Just another friend
- Monday, January 29, 2007 6:31 PM CST

I will forever remember Donovan in that little car, opening the trunk to get his ball. What a trooper. I hope you have a wonderful upcoming weekend.
Diane Thompson <DiThompson@cfl.rr.com>
- Monday, January 29, 2007 6:27 PM CST

Hi. I am a stranger to you and I have only "followed" your sweet baby and your family a short while. I have nothing to say that has not already been said. I share the sentiments of the many wonderful people who come before me. I am simply one more person who is thinking of you and who is praying for all of you. My prayers go with you here, not so much as Baby D, for he is already at perfect peace and glory. He is a special little boy and you are a wonderful family. Finally, having lived in Chicago for 6 years, I was a "solid" Bears fan. However, on this unusual occasion, I might perhaps be pulling for the Colts, too!! Keep your faith. You will be with Baby D again. Of that, I have no doubt.
Julie Williams <jwilliams@kameb.com>
Newnan, GA - Monday, January 29, 2007 6:21 PM CST

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, most of us could not even imagine your heartache. Go the the game, scream wildly when the Colts score, and know that Donovan - and a host of us! - will be right there cheering with you. And when it is over all who love you will still be there, holding you, hugging you, praying for peace for you and your family during these saddest of times. God Bless.
Another Friend ....
- Monday, January 29, 2007 6:15 PM CST

Sorry to hear about Donovan, and I agree with Jack Black (below). Wishes do come true!
agree w/Jack
- Monday, January 29, 2007 6:04 PM CST

I have followed Donovan's site for some time and anyone who has had a loss as great as yours knows that no matter where you are at or what you are doing you take that loss along with your grief with you. I for one believe that you and your family deserve to go to the super bowl and yes have some fun. You did everything you could for your son and put your life on hold for two long years. Until someone has walked in your shoes they have no right to find you at fault. You have no apologizes to make to anyone. Enjoy yourself and have a wonderful time and good luck to the colts.
sophie Shoaf <sshoaf@charter.net>
Spartanburg, SC USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 5:58 PM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan, Extended Family..Just checking to see how you all are doing, letting you know prayers continue. I'm so glad to hear you get to go to the Super Bowl, hold your head high and cheer your heart out for Baby D's beloved colt's. Your true followers here on Caring Bridge support your family 100%, and stand behind your choice to go. Enjoy yourselves to the fullest!! Baby D...We're all missing you, but know you will be with your family as the colt's * Kick Butt*. Goooooooo Colt'ssssssss!!
Karen <indianagal_2004@yahoo.com>
- Monday, January 29, 2007 5:48 PM CST

HI, I am so excited that you will be at the SuperBowl. That is just the way I believe that Baby Donovan had it planned all along. I am sure he had a hand in making this wonderful thing happen. I know it won't take the missing away. But think of the wonderful memories that you will get to make. Honestly, It was meant to be. I hope that people realize that they just do not know what tomorrow will bring. The good Lord is the only one who truly knows. We should all be careful what we speak to others, because we do not know the hurt we can cause. I will be wearing a Colts Jersey at our pizza shop where I work on Sunday... I am sure people will be wondering since I live in the Middle of Bengals Country..
I will tell them it is in honor of the biggest Colts Fan ever. Baby Donovan.
Take CAre,
My Prayers are constantly with your family.
Maureen
Maureen Graham <mgraham009@columbus.rr.com>
Ohio USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 5:41 PM CST

Sending rainbows and sunshine your way. Glad you are going to the Superbowl since that is where Baby Donovan will surely be on Sunday!!

With lots of aloha,
Sheila and family
Sheila Bierwert <bierwertfam@yahoo.com>
Honolulu, HI - Monday, January 29, 2007 5:33 PM CST

Melissa,
I am so excited that you get to go to the Super Bowl!! I just know that our Colt's are going to win. I know Donavan will be with you, he will just be in your heart.
I can't imagine how difficult your days must be...just know that your baby will never be forgotten.
Love & Prayers,
Amy Nasworthy <mnasworthy@tampabay.rr.com>
St. Pete, FL - Monday, January 29, 2007 5:29 PM CST

Hi,
My family and I have been following your sweet baby donovans story. I was directed to it through Hunters website. We were all so saddened to hear that he passed away. We also lost our 16 year old daughter/sister and feel the pain with you. Our thoughts and prayers are with your family. God Bless baby Donovan and your family.
Peace and Prayers,
The Schmall Family
www.caringbridge.org/visit/leanne
Brenda Schmall <schmall6@aol.com>
Franklin, MA - Monday, January 29, 2007 5:23 PM CST

Praying for your family! I must admit to you...while the Colts were playing their last game...I kept thinking...do this for Donovan! I think its great that you do whatever gets you through the day!!
Kristina <hecks319@aol.com>
- Monday, January 29, 2007 5:22 PM CST

Hi Everyone,
I want you to know iam praying for you and im so sorry for your loss.
Molly Jordan <bikeridr97@aol.com>
Chapel Hill, NC USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 5:05 PM CST

I've never met you or your family, but you're continuously in my thoughts and prayers. I'm so sorry for the pain that you're going through. Try to enjoy yourself this weekend, you certainly deserve it.

I will be routing for Peyton, but not outloud since I'm in Patriots land!!

Karen
Danvers, MA - Monday, January 29, 2007 4:50 PM CST

Sorry for your loss. I hope Dylan and Darren are doing ok.
a friend <foy@Yahoo.com>
- Monday, January 29, 2007 4:46 PM CST

Thought about all of you this weekend.......and thought about your precious ^DONOVAN^.......Please know that you all will continue to be in our thoughts and prayers as you continue your journey.......
Enjoy the SUPERBOWL and I bet you will feel ^Baby D's^ presence all around you and there will be thousands of people thinking of him as they watch the game - I know I will be....GO COLTS! The Colts will have an extra special angel watching over them - as you, Darren, and Dylan will always have him watching over you... Take care and we wiil be looking for ^DONOVAN's^ poster at the game and
pulling hard for his team to win!
Cindy
Roanoke Rapids, NC USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 4:42 PM CST

Hey Melissa, I'm thinking of you today, as always. Call me whenever and we can talk about whatever! I'm thrilled you're going to the Superbowl. Relax and ENJOY it!

At the risk of starting something again, I would just like to plead with everyone to keep the guestbook uplifting and supportive for Melissa, Darren, Dylan and the rest of their family. You don't have to understand why people do the things they do, but I truly feel like whatever a grieving mother can do to give her some happiness is fantastic. Going to the Superbowl is so much better for you than laying in bed crying! It's better for Melissa and for Dylan. People might not agree with decisions Melissa makes, but can't we all just keep those opinions to ourselves? The last time someone made a comment like that a virtual brawl broke out on the guestbook. I didn't even want to come sign because the comments got ugly. So if you don't understand or don't agree with something, you don't need to post. Let's keep this a supportive and understanding place where Melissa can come when she needs to feel uplifted! Whenever I saw Donovan and he was awake, he was laughing and playing and smiling. He was such a positive person, through everything he endured, and we can honor his memory by doing the same things in our own lives, including on this site. If anyone would like to discuss this, please email me privately instead of taking up guestbook space. Thanks!

Love to all,
Caroline
Caroline Elliot <caroline.elliot@gmail.com>
Chapel Hill, NC - Monday, January 29, 2007 4:31 PM CST

I wish I was able to erase Jack Black's comment before Melissa had to read that. :( Unfortunately, there are sick people to whom nothing is sacred, even guestbooks of children who have cancer. Most of us with caringbridge pages, including myself, have experienced these sad individuals writing hurtful things. There are good people in the world, and there are bad. Melissa, on top of everything else I've been praying for for your family, I have to now pray that this jerk's comment can somehow just roll off your back.

Have a wonderful time at the superbowl!!
Heidi <HKrieger@wi.rr.com>
Racine, WI - Monday, January 29, 2007 4:26 PM CST

Hi Melissa and family, I know that there are hundreds of us from all over the country who are thrilled you get this chance for some diversion after the heart break you have suffered. Go and enjoy. It is what Donovan would want you to do. Your little Angel will be watching and cheering right along with you - as will the rest of Donovan's CB fans!!
Linda Rudman <linjtr55@aol.com>
- Monday, January 29, 2007 4:25 PM CST

Thinking of you today, and saying a prayer that you will find strength and encouragement from those around you!
Love in Christ, Mary Holland
Mary Holland Doan <Godsgirl889@yahoo.com>
Memphis, TN USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 4:18 PM CST

Hi Melissa and Family,
Enjoy the SUPERBOWL! You have cheered so long and with such enthusiasm for Donovan, and now he has the victory in Jesus, our Savior. You are a SUPERMOM! May God continue to bless and comfort you and your family! He loves you and so do I! Sincerely, Mary Hawkins
Mary Hawkins <mhawkins@kusd.edu>
Waukegan, IL USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 3:32 PM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan and family~

You've been on my mind and in my heart and prayers all weekend. I know after things slow down, and the friends and family start leaving, then numbness starts to wear off, and it can be really difficult at times. If you need anything, I am here for you. If you need to talk, or to vent and just need someone to listen. I pray for comfort, strength and peace for all of you as you continue through the weeks and months ahead.

I feel so very blessed to "Know" baby Donovan, and his story of courage and strength. Thank you for sharing him with all of us. I know he will continue to touch hearts and lives of so many, even from heaven, as they learn his story.

I am glad to hear you are going to the SUPER BOWL, I was hoping the whole family would get to go. Baby D will be so proud and happy to see you there! My family will be watching it together, pulling for the COLTS for baby D and thinking of your family, and holding you close to our hearts!

Love~ Claire (Mommy to Laken in Heaven)
www.caringbridge.com/visit/lakenroy
OUR ANGEL IN HEAVEN~OUR HEART BABY
Claire Roy <caffemocha29@aol.com>
Kernersville, NC US - Monday, January 29, 2007 3:28 PM CST

I am sure the Colts will win, with an Angel at their side! I never watch football, but I will be!! GO COLTS! Win one for Donovan!
Becka <music-mom@nc.rr.com>
Morrisville, NC usa - Monday, January 29, 2007 3:24 PM CST

I found your site from another caringbridge site. As a mother of two boys, 2 and 5, I am heartbroken for you. It's just not fair when a baby gets so sick...I just don't understand. But, God is in control. I will pray for your family.
Christy, John, Logan and Connor Hale <christy4977@aol.com>
Rochester Hills, MI USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 3:11 PM CST

Dear Melissa & Darren,

Our thoughts have been with you and Dylan over these past months. There is no greater pain or injustice in laying your child to rest. You have handled it with grace and compassion as you spent every waking (and sleeping) hour making Donovan's world as comforting and loving as your large hearts could make it. We pray that in the weeks and months to come that you can take comfort that your love and teachings have helped create the most wonderful of Angels who now sits at God's side to watch over you.

Somehow I feel that our Angel coley is with Donovan. She would be wearing the Adam Vinatieri jersey (Patriots vintage) -- her favorite Patriots player. I know this weekend however, she, as we all ---- will be Colts fans.
Todd & Kristin Levine <todd.levine@gdc4s.com>
Raynham, MA - Monday, January 29, 2007 2:57 PM CST

Dearest Melissa-

I just wanted you to know that you and your entire family will continue to be close in my heart, in my constant and daily prayers, and in my tender thoughts as well. I don't know what you are all going through, and I don't want to try either. I do want you to know that even though Baby D is no longer with you in the physical sense, he is always with you in spirit. I do hope you enjoy yourselves at the Super Bowl; and of course I will be praying that the Colts win big for Baby D too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am also keeping Dylan in my prayers too. May God continue to hold each of you in His unwavering and unconditional love and care, and may He give you the comfort and the strength to live each day; one day at a time. I will continue to check on all of you; and I hope to read updates soon too. Take care of eachother, and Baby D will watch over each of you too. My deepest condolences will forever be with you. God Bless.

Much love and many Blessings-

Christine
Christine Clinton <chrissy113@juno.com>
NJ United States - Monday, January 29, 2007 2:50 PM CST

God Bless You. May you continue to draw your strength from HIM!

www.caringbridge.org/visit/isaacsimpact
Lisa Lawton
Louisville, KY - Monday, January 29, 2007 2:03 PM CST

I know that the quiet time after the rush of family and friends can be quite difficult. I'm glad to have met you, however briefly, and I hope you and your family can find some peace in these hard times. I think the Superbowl sounds like a terrific distraction! Take care,

Karen, Clare's mom www.caringbridge.org/md/clareschmidt
Cabin John, MD - Monday, January 29, 2007 1:46 PM CST

Hi Baby D Family!!!!! YEAH yr going to see the Colts!!! I know you will enjoy yrself and " Baby D" will be there in spirit Cheering them on!!!, I'm so sorry you and yr family had to go through these horrible days, But know "God is with you" and he will always be there. PLease take care and enjoy yrselves at the game and tell "Dylan " to eat a few Superbowl hotdogs!!! haha, Always in our prayers your friends in Louisiana...
The Spiveys
Antoinette Spivey <lilmsdragonfly5@yahoo.com>
Maureaps, La USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 1:41 PM CST

So I guess all of the hundreds of thousands of phone calls to the Colts paid off!!! Yeahhhhh your going to the SUPER BOWL (and beautiful MIAMI of course)!!! Are ALL of you going? Continuing to keep all of you in our thoughts and prayers....and that GOD will continue to wrap his arms around you all and guide precious Dylan to some understanding and comfort. Sending lots of hugs your way. Thank you for sharing your precious Baby D and his amazing story with us. He will be missed by so many, even those of us never had the chance to meet him. We will be looking for you on sunday as we watch the Colts kick butt with Baby Donovan watching over them!!! GO COLTS!!
In our thoughts and prayers.

Love~
Margaret Coe (Angel ^Laken Roy's^ Godmother)
Margaret Coe <Martini27@clearwire.net>
- Monday, January 29, 2007 12:41 AM CST

Dear Melissa,
I have followed Donovan's story for so long. My nephew Aiden was also diagnosed with ALL when he was just a baby.

Words cannot even express my grief for you and your family. I myself never meeting Donovan, love him, very much. It's kinda strange, and I know we have never met, but I feel as though we are family because of how much you have touched my heart through your entries on Caringbridge. I too will miss that sweet baby, but I will always hold him dear in my heart. I will continue to check in on you and Dylan and the rest of the family through your entries. From the bottom of my heart...I'm so sorry for your loss.
Kim (Aiden's Aunt) <emmi923@yahoo.com>
Cincinnati, oh - Monday, January 29, 2007 12:09 AM CST

Dear Melissa, I have been following Donovan's progress for some time now. I am so sorry for your loss. You must be very special person to have been chosen to be mom to such a beautiful angel. I am very happy to hear that you will be going to the superbowl. I too am an avid football fan, although my team is the Patriots!!! I must admit that although I was cheering for the Patriots, I was not as disappointed at the loss as I normally would have been. That is because you and Donovan were on my mind, and I hoped that you were sitting on the couch with him enjoying the game. I was saddened to know that you lost him before the game, but, he was surely smiling down from heaven and will be at the Superbowl with you in spirit. Please do have a poster of Donovan as many of his fans will be looking for you in the stands as we cheer for the Colts on Sunday. May God grant you the peace that you will need to continue his work. GO COLTS!!!!
Enid Gotay <egotay@comcast.net>
West Hartford, CT - Monday, January 29, 2007 12:07 AM CST

Praying for your family, Melissa, Darren and Dylan. Guard your hearts and minds in the days ahead. Hold to each other and look to the Lord. May He bless each one of you and give you continued peace. Again I say keep watch over your hearts and minds...the enemy doesn't hold back a thing, when he thinks he can gain a foothold. Remember that He who is in you (Jesus) is greater than he who is in the world. Enjoy the Superbowl. I hope your team wins! Thank you for sharing your journey with a stranger like me who has been encouraged and blessed by Donovan and your family. My prayers will continue for you all. I look forward to meeting you all someday! May God Bless you and keep you; May He make His face to shine upon you and give you peace.
Holly Smith <chrishollysmith@msn.com>
Monument, CO - Monday, January 29, 2007 11:58 AM CST

I'm so happy you're going to the superbowl!!! Donovan will be right there with you, I just know it!!! He had the greatest mom ever!! It was so nice to see an update from you. I can't imagine how you're feeling, buT I want you to know that your cyber family will always be here for you.
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
NJ - Monday, January 29, 2007 11:53 AM CST

I am beyond excited for you to be going to the Superbowl!!!! A SuperMom definetely deserves a break after all you have been through and the Superbowl is definetely fitting!! You have continued to be in my thoughts and I hope that each minute that passes is easier than the last. I hope Dylan is starting to understand a little better-I know that you are doing everythng you can to help him, be patient and know that eventually things will get easier for him. He has wonderful parents and family helping him through so he will be ok! Enjoy the game on Sunday-do Dylan and Darren get to go too?? GO COLTS!!!
Tawni <t61176@yahoo.com>
East Bethel, MN 55011 - Monday, January 29, 2007 11:23 AM CST

Melissa glad to hear that you will make it to the Superbowl, can you please do all your "Donovan Fans" a big favor, PLEEEEASE, make a poster w/Donovan picture in his "colts" jersey (the montage on this page would be perfect)and hold it up for the world to see. I'm praying the cameras will scan the audience (which i'm sure it will) and the whole world can get a glimpse of an Angel....shouldn't we all be so blessed!

Missing Donovan......always
Dawn <dpickens_42@yahoo.com>
Beaumont, TX - Monday, January 29, 2007 11:22 AM CST

I am thrilled to hear your good news! I have been checking in on your site every day. You must have mixed emotions about going to Miami, but I hope you are able to take in every minute, knowing Donovan is right there with you.
This is the beginning of a new chapter in your life, Melissa, and I can only imagine the roller coaster ride it will be. Just know you have inspired so many people like me, so let us inspire you to go on and continue to be the wonderful God-fearing mother that you are.
My 18 year old daughter's life verse is Phillipians 4:13 ----"I can do ALL THINGS through Christ who strengthens me." Continue to lean on HIM to guide your days.

Lovingly,

Sharon Townsend <sltnails@comcast.net>
Seymour, IN - Monday, January 29, 2007 11:15 AM CST

Yeah. I am glad you guys get to go to the superbowl. I will be at a get together this sunday to watch the Colts in Baby Ds memory. Thank you so much for sharing this little Angel with me. I will never forget him or you. Thank you
brandonabby@hotmail.com <brandonabby@hotmail.com>
stokesdale, nc - Monday, January 29, 2007 11:08 AM CST

Yea!!! Going to the Superbowl!!!! That is wonderful! I will never ever be able to see the Colts without thinking of Baby D. and all of you. I will be wearing my Colts blue for you all on Sunday.

God bless you all and bring you His peace and comfort.
The Shaft Family
Macedonia, OH - Monday, January 29, 2007 10:48 AM CST

I'm so happy to hear you are going to the Superbowl!! After all you guys have been through over the last year and a half, you deserve a little vacation, and the Colts need to have their second biggest fan there to root them on. We know their first biggest fan is rooting them on from up high... :)

We love you guys so much...
Katie (mom to Hayley, Hunter, and Taylor) <dugan2b@yahoo.com>
Franklin, MA - Monday, January 29, 2007 10:41 AM CST

Melissa-Thanks for updating after what you just went through over the weekend! I have a very HEAVY heart for you and your family but you INSPIRE me-WOW going to the SUPERBOWL how AWESOME-BABY D knows his mommie will never let him and his team down-ITS A WINNING COMBINATION! I continue to PRAY several times a day for you and all of your family-Just love and squeeze that beautiful little DYLAN a little more with each passing day-I know the LORD will give you all PEACE-WITH GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE! You guys are BEAUTIFUL inside and out and THANKS for sharing with the world your story!
Bridgette Justus <justruckservice@bellsouth.net>
Dana, NC USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 10:41 AM CST

Dear Melissa, Darren and Dylan,
I can't even begin to imagine the pain you must be feeling right now, but I hope that you find peace, someday. May God be with you and ease your burdon. Baby D is at peace now, pain-free and lighting up heaven with that infectious smile. I came to know about Donovan through my niece, Dani, at Children's Hospital in St.Louis.
I'd like to "sing" you a song:

Oh Danny Boy, the pipes, the pipes are calling
From glen to glen, and down the mountainside
The summer's gone, and all the flowers are dying
'tis you must go and I must bide
But come ye back when summer's in the meadow
Or when the valley's hushed and white with snow
'Tis I'll be here in sunshine or in shadow
Oh Danny boy, Oh Danny boy, I love you so.
And, if you come, when all the flowers are dying
And I am dead, as dead I well might be
You'll come and find the place where I am lying
And kneel and say an "Ave" there for me
And I shall hear, tho' soft you tread above me
And all my dreams will warm and sweeter be
If you'll not fail to tell me that you love me
I'll simply sleep in peace until you come to me.
I'll simply sleep in peace until you come to me.

May his soul, and the souls of the faithfully departed, Rest in Peace, AMEN.
Our deepest symathies and most sincere condolances,
Suzanne,Steve,Ryan,Dillon and Sean Kos.

Suzanne Kos <suzanne_kos2000@yahoo.com>
West Palm Beach, FL USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 10:38 AM CST

I am glad that you get to go to the Superbowl, Please know that you have the support of me and my family with you as we pray for you and your family. We'll all be able to watch and know that Donavan is there with you and the Colts. With all my thoughts and prayers.

Colleen Bennett <colinsydney2004@yahoo.com>
Lebanon , Pa 17042 - Monday, January 29, 2007 10:38 AM CST

I'm so happy that you will see the Colts play in the Superbowl!! I hope you have a safe journey and that you have the best time while you are there.
Lisa Evans <lisaraesc@yahoo.com>
Lexington, SC USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 10:35 AM CST

"Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God." 1 Corinthians 1:3-4
I pray that today you will find comfort in the words of God our Father. I will pray for your comfort and peace. Precious Jesus, the one Who holds Donovan in His arms, Father I pray for Donovan's mommy and daddy and brother...I pray Jesus that they would glorify You today and they would use Donovan's life song to tell others of Your grace and mercy. Father, I pray that this precious family will use every circumstance in their lives to become more like You. I pray that as the seconds turn into minutes and the minutes into hours and the hours into days that they will continue to trust You for all of their needs and that they would be able to one day reach out to so many others that find themselves in the same heart wrenching situation and offer them the comfort from Your Word....for our comfort only comes from You Jesus. I thank You for this precious family and I pray Your tender mercies today, Your grace and Your love continually as they continue to walk in Truth and life. Amen. I will continue to pray for you!
Kay
Kay <cassandkay@netzero.net>
Moore, SC USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 10:30 AM CST

I'm so happy for you being able to go to the Super Bowl! Baby Donovan will be there with you rooting the Colts on. You all really need to have a break and have some fun time.
Hopefully, as time goes on, Dylan will start to understand a little more. My granddaughter will be 5 next month and is already questioning us about dying.
By the way, is the entire family getting to go to the Super Bowl. I sure hope so!
You all take care of yourselves and know that you are in my prayers.
Love & hugs,
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Monday, January 29, 2007 10:20 AM CST

I pray that somehow, over the coming days, weeks, months, that God is able to provide you all with peace.

I continue to keep you precious son (as well as your entire family) in my thoughts and prayers.
Roxann <horsesetc@msn.com>
Audubon, MN USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 10:20 AM CST

So very happy you are going to the Superbowl. With you on the sidelines and Baby D's spirit they are sure to win.
Really praying hard for all of you. Dylan just needs time. It's so hard for a child his age to grasp the meaning of death and heaven. It will come with time.
Tam
CS, CO - Monday, January 29, 2007 9:57 AM CST

Melissa and Family,
I have been thinking of you all weekend and am glad that you made it through such a difficult time. I am so excited that you are going to the Superbowl. You deserve a break and some normality again. Enjoy, overindulge, laugh, scream at the top of your lungs and just have some good old fashion fun. Please keep us posted! GO COLTS!!!!!!
Sue Wybrecht <swybrecht@sbcglobal.net>
Macomb, MI USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 9:55 AM CST

Your family is so beautiful, especially Angel Donovan. We are praying for you as you adjust to this new life without his earthly presence. We pray God's blessings, peace, and love upon you all.

We'll be having a big party here next Sunday for Baby D and his Colts. I've never been a football fan before, never really cared about the Super Bowl, but we'll be rooting on Baby D's Colts. Have a GREAT TIME!!!!! Be safe!
Corrie vanKampen and family -USCG <cavankampen@yahoo.com>
Rocky River, OH USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 9:50 AM CST

I just wanted to sign in today because your family was in my thoughts all weekend. I am so glad you are getting to go to the Superbowl. My family is routing for the Colts, in honor of Donovan. Also, in terms of Dylan's acceptance, my little boy lost part of his leg to the cancer beast. He is the same age as Dylan. His acceptance of this loss is still ongoing. We have books that I read and read. I made up a song for him about his "beautiful short leg" but he still asks if his leg will grow and be like his sister's; just as I'm sure Dylan asks for Donovan. It's gotten a little better lately, he's starting to understand finally after many, many months. It doesn't compare to your loss but I have a small sense of what you are going through. When I was in the throws of grief over Avi having to lose his leg, having to answer those questions, again and again, took all the strength I could muster. Keep reading to him, explaining it to him and holding him tight. Know that you are all in the thoughts and prayers of so many people. You and Donovan have inspired and touched us all. Bobbi (mom to Avi, osteosarcoma survivor, Georgetown Hospital)
Bobbi Spector <rjspector@rcn.com>
- Monday, January 29, 2007 9:48 AM CST

Dear Melissa, Darren & Dylan, just stopping by to check on you all. We have been thinking and praying for your family. I was so excited to read you will be going to the Superbowl!!! Please take time to enjoy every minute of it, you deserve all of it! I will have to say, I am going for the BEARS, but of course if the COLTS win, I will be so happy for Tony Dungy and his team!! Enjoy and have a wonderful time away! You are in my daily thoughts and prayers.
Patti Campanella <campanella10@sbcglobal.net>
Carmel, IN 46033 - Monday, January 29, 2007 9:38 AM CST

Praying for peace in your heart as well as Dylans, Darrens and all those that loved Donovan.
So glad to hear that you will be cheering the Colt's on from the sidelines......they are lucky to have a fearless fan like you on their side!
Kerrie <lalaland@fuse.net>
Cincinnati, OH USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 9:37 AM CST

Dear Melissa, Darren, Dylan, and little Angel Donovan,
I think of Dylan's understanding as being a journey. He will not understand all at once any more than we adults do. Searching for explanations for him may help you understand what you believe in an even stronger way.

I am so glad you have the opportunity to go the the Super Bowl in honor of your Donovan. I'm not a big football fan, but i will be checking in and i hope Donovan pushes those Colts on !! Wouldn't it be amazing?

You are on a new path now, Melissa. May you find the mountains high, the valleys not too low, and much peace and understanding along the way.
Carol
- Monday, January 29, 2007 9:31 AM CST

Hey melissa,darren and dylan, I've been praying and constantly thinking of you all, I find myself crying at the weirdest moments, just thinking of you all, and thinking I was in the same spot 1 yr ago. I've never met donny but I hear so much from noelle's family and I feel like I've known you forever. I recieved an email that made me feel different.....a good different and I hope it makes you feel the same........
�In the midst of the darkness that threatens to overwhelm us lies a pinpoint of light, a persistent flicker that guides us through the pain and fear, through the hopelessness and despair, to a place of peace and healing on the other side. This is God�s Spirit, leading us back home like the lighthouse beacon that directs the ships through the fog to the safety of the harbor.�
You will continue to be in my thoughts and constant prayers... I'm really a packer fan, BUT i guess I can be a COLTS fan for one day...for baby donovan....
Rochelle (baby Marco's mommy) www.caringbridge/visit/marcogalicia.org
Rochelle C. <rcoleman0321@yahoo.com>
Milwaukee, WI - Monday, January 29, 2007 9:26 AM CST

Melissa and family -
You and your family will continue to forever be wrapped in hugs, prayers and love from all of us in your CaringBridge family, and I hope that you always feel that. You are so compassionate and caring, and Dylan will always know that -even though he doesn't understand everything just yet, he will be okay with you there to guide him.
I am so happy to hear you are going to the SuperBowl - we will of course be rooting for the Colts!!
We love you sweet Angel Donovan.....please watch over your family.
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 9:26 AM CST

I am so glad to hear that you are going to the SuperBowl. After everything you and your family have been through you totally deserve it. It should be a nice break from reality for you....enjoy every minute of it. I know Donovan will be there with you cheering on the COLTS right by your side.

When you need that extra support, just remember we all are out here to help you...never hesitate to ask.
Amy Bellini <amy_bellini@farmfamily.com>
Troy, NY - Monday, January 29, 2007 9:12 AM CST

Melissa and family,
I cannot possibly imagine the heartache and pain of Baby D's physical presence being gone but I do rejoice with you in knowing that he is so happy today!!! Dancing and playing and running with other little ones, doing the things you have, I'm sure, dreamed of him doing. He is really living now...he has won.
My heart has been heavy for you over the weekend knowing you and Darren were doing something no parent should ever have to do. Please know we pray for you and your family and will continue to keep little Dylan close in heart.

GO COLTS!!!!!!! Good for you for getting to go to Miami, enjoy it Melissa!

The Scott's, Lori, Ron, Collin and Savahana
www.caringbridge.org/visit/savahanascott

lori <lascott32@aol.com>
avon, in - Monday, January 29, 2007 9:08 AM CST

Dropping in to let you know that my prayers are with you and I continue to lift you up to our Lord each time I think of you all.
I am happy to hear that you are going to the Superbowl. We will be watching and praying for the Colts to win....we will also be watching to see if we can get a glimps of Donovan on the shoulder of his favorite player! :) (We will be looking for you too!)
God bless~
Jan aka Mimi to Makayla (in Heaven) & Hailey
www.freewebs.com/prayerbears
www.caringbridge.org/visit/haileychavers and www.caringbridge.org/visit/makaylachavers <jannyjo@cox.net>
Virginia Beach, VA - Monday, January 29, 2007 9:06 AM CST

Go Melissa, Go Darren, Go Dylan!!!! GO COLTS!!! AND GO BABY D!!!
Andrea <ams031804@yahoo.com>
- Monday, January 29, 2007 9:01 AM CST

Prayers from CA- along with me rooting for the Colts!
XXOO, Cali Ali's Mom
Marey <kteachermom@hotmail.com>
- Monday, January 29, 2007 8:57 AM CST

Praying for your family this week, that when you feel all alone you are comforted by the loving memories of your son that will live in your heart forever. May God bless you and wrap his loving arms around you in the days and weeks ahead. I never met your little boy and yet I miss him terribly. I learned a lot from reading about his short life. He will never be forgotten. Peace to you.
Julie
- Monday, January 29, 2007 8:55 AM CST

Melissa,
Even when you say you don't have the words your message still manages to come across so beautifully. I am so happy for you about the Superbowl. My prayers will continue all the days ahead as you move forward. As for Dylan just keep being the most wonderful mom that you are to him and the rest will follow. It mean so much to have you continue to share your story and Donovan's with all of us. You are an amazinly strong, caring, loving and compassionate woman. Take each day as it comes.
Karen Patterson <Anchormom@comcast.net>
New Castle, DE - Monday, January 29, 2007 8:47 AM CST

Yeah your going to the Superbowl! I know you will feel Baby D there and have an awesome time- just what you need...GO COLTS! Thank you for the update on how you and your family are doing, I along with millions of others think of you everyday and know you have to take small babysteps forward in life, although so hard. I hope you have a great time in Miami although bitter sweet I'm sure. We love you guys!
Kirsten Garcia <tkgarcia4@comcast.net>
Remington, IN. - Monday, January 29, 2007 8:37 AM CST

Thank you for your sharing your story. Your website was forwarded by a girlfriend of mine and I am grateful that she took the time to send it.
Please be strong. Please visualize hundreds of mothers embracing you and holding you up when you feel down. Because, this is really what is happening, in our hearts to yours. You were chosen for this mission from the Lord, because you could handle this and you were chosen to help others going through this. God Bless. Kendra Seiler
Kendra Seiler <kendraseiler@bellsouth.net>
Boynton Beach, Fl - Monday, January 29, 2007 8:17 AM CST

Melissa, Darren, and Dylan,
as hard as it was for me to see Donny's precious little body and see him taken to the burial site, i'm so glad i was able to be with you for his wake and funeral. i plan on making a small donation to one of your suggested children's charities in honor of our Donovan, and i plan on participating in Relay for Life in April. we will camp out on our school's soccer field---i HATE camping out! haha, but i will do it for our precious Angel. Oh how God works in mysterious ways.....long story short(i can give you the full version later sometime): i have felt God calling me to be a teacher, but a music teacher....on Fri. night after i saw Donovan and spoke with you and your family....i told my dad on the way home, maybe i'm not suppose to be a music teacher, but a general classroom teacher for young kids (K-3rd grade or so), where i can teach them about different things, including SCIENCE! and get them excited about it young! b/c that's where it counts. maybe while i'm not a big science fan, i can get someone excited young, and THEY can be the one to find a cure for Cancer. when we got home, i told my mom of God's mysterious ways, and the first thing that came out of her mouth was "but you HATE science!" hahaha, that's what i was thinking when God told me i needed to get kids excited about science,....but God spoke to me, so this very week i will call the people i need to get my major officially changed so that i may become a teacher, ready to inspire young minds! :) It is your Donovan who has lead me to this decision. i personally believe that Donovan's purpose on this earth was to let others know what their purpose is, whether through my story, or through his doctors who felt they had followed the correct path when caring for him.
All my love,

~Holly~ <WldCowGirl19@gmail.com>
Greensboro, NC USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 8:15 AM CST

Praying for you and your family continuously. Remember Donovan is experiencing something each day that all of us long to experience, HEAVEN. I know Donovan will be cheering for the Colts in heaven, and I am so excited you are able to go to the Super Bowl. Continue to be strong and give Dylan lots of hugs and kisses for me. Take care and remember God is good all of the time.
Chasity Gray <cograyavon@yahoo.com>
Swainsboro, GA USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 8:00 AM CST

Dear Melissa: In the midst of your extreme grief and pain, you reached out yesterday to comfort another family whose precious angel Brenden will soon be joining Baby D. Having followed Donovan's journey for so long, nothing has illustrated so clearly the depth of your compassion, strength and love. God bless you all in the long days ahead.
Barbara
Toronto, Ont Canada - Monday, January 29, 2007 7:59 AM CST

Melissa,
I am so happy that you are going to the Superbowl. Donny will be there every step of the way. I am glad that Jenny and Tabitha made it safely and were able to be there with all of you. May all of the prayers to you and your family continue to lift you up.
Jennifer HInes <creative_jenny@cox.net>
mesa, - Monday, January 29, 2007 7:56 AM CST

Thinking of you this morning as you continue your journey without your precious child.
Susan Mitchell <smitchel@calfee.com>
Cleveland, Ohio United States - Monday, January 29, 2007 7:26 AM CST

Just to let you know that I'm thinking about you and sending prayers your way.
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Monday, January 29, 2007 6:48 AM CST

Just letting you know you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Monday, January 29, 2007 6:29 AM CST

He guys,
I thought I'd just let you know before I turn in that I am still thinking of you. So glad my dear freind Jenny Deputy could go to the service. She's a great gal. God bless you.
Robbin
Robbin Lyons <thomtalent@aol.com>
- Sunday, January 28, 2007 11:47 PM CST

Thinking of you and praying for you especially knowing the celebration of life service was this weekend. I hope it reflected the beauty of Donovan's life and the joy he brought to your family and to us who will have to wait for heaven to finally meet him. Much love and prayers
cathy nell <cathy-nell@grapevine.net.au>
canberra, act australia - Sunday, January 28, 2007 10:52 PM CST

Melissa, thank you for allowing me to share this weekend with you. Your family and friends are phenomenal! They were all so loving and caring to me, a total stranger. I'm going to miss snuggling with little Sophia! What a cuddlebug! We will continue to pray for you as you begin this next phase in your life. May God continue to guide and direct you in all that you do. I miss you already!
Jenny Deputy (www.deputyfamily.net) <mjmb@deputyfamily.net>
Indianapolis, IN - Sunday, January 28, 2007 9:22 PM CST

Dear Rasmussen's,
I've just been thinking about you all tonight.
Prayerfully,
Sherrill
Sherrill Jones <Sherrill@probaglady.com>
"The Mile High City", CO USA - Sunday, January 28, 2007 8:52 PM CST

We've been holding your family in our thoughts and prayers even more than usual this weekend. We wish we could have been there with you -
Carrie & Camden Stroud
Carrie (mom to Camden) <dstroud2@ec.rr.com>
Morehead City, NC United States - Sunday, January 28, 2007 8:42 PM CST

May God comfort and hold you in the palm of his hands and may you feel Donovans love and beautiful spirit, for he was and will always be that beautiful blue eyed little boy whom I fell in love with the first time I read your journal. I am so heartbroken for you all. Peace be with you.
Francesca <francesca11@comcast.net>
Stoneham, ma usa - Sunday, January 28, 2007 8:08 PM CST

You are in my prayers and thoughts today and the days to come. God Bless Baby Donovan and the precious memories he has given you and your family.
Donna <drobinson1027@aol.com.>
Williamston, SC USA - Sunday, January 28, 2007 8:08 PM CST

Sending prayers your way; you have been in my thoughts this weekend (more than usual). I know this is a really tough time and I don't have a clue how you get through it, but I know Jesus will be there beside you and he will guide you; just hold his hand.
Pam Gerstner <ggpg6@yaoo.com>
Kenosha, wi - Sunday, January 28, 2007 7:32 PM CST

Hi Melissa - Just wanted to let you know that we've been thinking of you guys. Hugs and Love from California.
Jill and Alex www.caringbridge.com/ca/alexschwab <jillschwab99@hotmail.com>
Manhattan Beach, CA United States - Sunday, January 28, 2007 7:27 PM CST

Good Evening Melissa & Family!
Stopping by tonight to check in and see how you all are. Just want you to know you're not alone, and only a thought away from us. Melissa - I've sent you and Grammie both an email over the weekend. If you're up to it, get in touch with me (phone me or email). How is Dylan doing? I bet he & Grammie have cookie plans in the making. :o)
Sending you our love and ((((((BIG HUGS)))))) from Burlington. God bless you all.
Lots of love, 'Angel' Nickey
- Sunday, January 28, 2007 6:38 PM CST

Thinking of you today and holding
you close in our prayers..
Trish/Angel_Wings <Kngboyer@aol.com>
Kingston, TN USA - Sunday, January 28, 2007 5:38 PM CST

Dropping by to let you know that my thoughts and prayers are with you all today...
{{{{{HUGS}}}}}
Jan aka Mimi to Hailey & ^Makayla^
(A Prayer Bear) www.freewebs.com/prayerbears
www.caringbridge.org/visit/haileychavers and www.caringbridge.org/visit/makaylachavers <jannyjo@cox.net>
Virginia Beach, VA USA - Sunday, January 28, 2007 4:57 PM CST

To ^Angel Baby D's^ family~
I just want you to know that even though we've never met we all belong to "the Caringbridge family" through the miracle of computers and because of this my heart goes out to your family. I offered up my Sunday mass today for Donovan and another little girl, Mary Katherine Conroy who died Mon. 1-22 from a brain tumor(4 yr old). I felt that I could not be at the funerals~I could offer up my Mass for them & their families~and today was such a Beautiful Mass as it was a celebration of our deacon's 25th anniversary~even our regional bishop, Fr. Thomas Curry was present, lots of singing, incense and alot of people. In a way, I think that it was a celebration of the lives of Donovan & Mary~2 of God's newest Angels!! My thoughts & prayers will be with you. Many hugs from Adi's Grandma Liz
www.caringbridge.org/visit/adi
Liz Penner <lizzip52@yahoo.com>
Simi Valley, CA - Sunday, January 28, 2007 4:49 PM CST

I've been thinking of your family this weekend. You continue to be in my prayers.
Amy
Carmel, IN 46032 - Sunday, January 28, 2007 4:14 PM CST

Just stopping by to say that your family remains in my thoughs and prayers. I'm sure your house must feel so quiet now, and I hope that you feel your precious Donovan all around you in those quiet moments.
Denise Ward <deniward@shaw.>
Winnipeg, Canada - Sunday, January 28, 2007 2:37 PM CST

I wish you and your family God's peace and comfort at this difficult time. I am so sorry to read about your loss.
Jenna, Johnny, and Shelly Marcella; http://www.caringbridge.org/ma/jennamarcella
Hanover, MD - Sunday, January 28, 2007 2:01 PM CST

Hello, I'm sorry I havent signed sooner, I logged on not long after the entry went up saying Donovan had passed away, I was so sorry and my heart goes out to you all. Like so many others I've been really touched by little donovan, I think this quote is very true in his case

All my love

Viks
viks <viks@postpals.co.uk>
- Sunday, January 28, 2007 1:18 PM CST

God bless you all and may you be covered with his love and know that he has been with you throughout the whole journey and is right there beside you. Praying for your family each and every day and praying for some peace and praying that you will lean on God each and every day.
Catherine DeZemplen <cdezemplen@memphisgrp.com>
Cordova, TN USA - Sunday, January 28, 2007 1:09 PM CST

I am just down the road if you need anything. 225 252 3229 www.caringbridge.org/visit/hannahtheriot
kristen Theriot <kristheriot@cox.net>
Durham , nc - Sunday, January 28, 2007 12:54 AM CST

I am holding you close in my heart and praying that you are able to find some comfort and peace in knowing how many lives Donovan has touched!
Julie Redmon <jredmon1@wi.rr.com>
- Sunday, January 28, 2007 9:02 AM CST

May God give you peace in knowing that Baby D is safe in the arms of Jesus and knows no more pain or suffering. Heaven is getting sweeter every day with these precious babys. There are no words that I can give that will ease the pain you and your family are having right now. I wish there were. But like King David in the bible said about his son when he passed away, we can't bring him back but we sure can go where he is when we die Praise The Lord!!! May that give you comfort. My prayers are with you. I may not know you personally, but I do care.
pat ivey <pivey@sbcglobal.net>
Mesquite, TX - Sunday, January 28, 2007 8:16 AM CST

Melissa, Darren, and Dylan,

I'm so heartbroken for you as you say goodbye to Donovan. It tears my heart out to know that he's gone but I also know he is no longer suffering. He was just a few weeks older than my Jayden so him passing really hits close to home. I hope you can find some comfort knowing that he is at peace and never has to feel another ounce of pain. Rest well sweet Donovan!

Love,

Vicki Fields (Jayden's Mommy)

www.caringbridge.org/visit/jayden
Vicki Fields <jarjaysmom@aol.com>
Louisville, KY US - Sunday, January 28, 2007 4:32 AM CST

I have held you so close these last few days in my heart. I am home after a long gymnastics meet; my oldest competed in his first meet, as I told you, and did well and placed third in the all around. It was so important that I be there for him, but gosh, I wish I could be there for you, too. I pray the services were beautiful and that you know, as the busy times start to get less busy and the visitors go home, that you all are now and always in my heart and in my prayers.
Beth and Kyle - and Brad, Brandon and Ryan too <bdehoff@iquest.net>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Saturday, January 27, 2007 11:20 PM CST

God Bless you and your family. I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope Donovan is at peace now.
Marie
- Saturday, January 27, 2007 10:28 PM CST

Praying for you tonight. May God give you strength, comfort and grace for the days to come.

www.caringbridge.org/visit/reillyguhr
Susan Guhr <sguhr@cfl.rr.com>
Winter Garden, FL USA - Saturday, January 27, 2007 10:02 PM CST

We just wanted to share the Lyrics to this song. They really touch our heart! MUCH LOVE, THOUGHTS, PRAYERS, & (((GREAT BIG HUGS))) COMING YOUR WAY TONIGHT!
Love,
Bill, Stacey, Josh, & Ben
& The Weekly Prayer List

Homesick by Mercy Me

"You're in a better place, I've heard a thousand times
And at least a thousand times I've rejoiced for you
But the reason why I'm broken, the reason why I cry
Is how long must I wait to be with you

I close my eyes and I see your face
If home's where my heart is then I'm out of place
Lord, won't you give me strength to make it through somehow
I've never been more homesick than now

Help me Lord cause I don't understand your ways
The reason why I wonder if I'll ever know
But, even if you showed me, the hurt would be the same
Cause I'm still here so far away from home

I close my eyes and I see your face
If home's where my heart is then I'm out of place
Lord, won't you give me strength to make it through somehow
I've never been more homesick than now

In Christ, there are no goodbye
And in Christ, there is no end
So I'll hold onto Jesus with all that I have
To see you again
To see you again

And I close my eyes and I see your face
If home's where my heart is then I'm out of place
Lord, won't you give me strength to make it through somehow
Won't you give me strength to make it through somehow
Won't you give me strength to make it through somehow
I've never been more homesick than now."
The Reich Family <weluvobx@comcast.net>
Winchester, VA USA - Saturday, January 27, 2007 9:43 PM CST

Thinking of you and praying for you today. We will not forget you or your precious little boy. You will remain in our thoughts and prayers.

We wish you peace and comfort. God bless you.
The Shaft Family
Macedonia, OH - Saturday, January 27, 2007 9:30 PM CST

Thinking of you and hoping that you will soon be able to once again have smiles and laughter. This is a time when there is one set of Footprints in the Sand.
Clara Farlow
Independence, KS - Saturday, January 27, 2007 9:10 PM CST

I just wanted you to know you are in our thoughts. I could say so much to you, but I cannot possibly find the proper words of comfort or apology. Just know we pray for you daily.
Corson/Lamorey Family www.caringbridge.org/visit/morganelizabeth <vcorson@tds.net>
- Saturday, January 27, 2007 9:08 PM CST

Melissa~
Praying that you find comfort knowing that Donovan was tightly tucked into bed tonight by our Lord, Jesus.
I know how hard today was for you. My thoughts and prayers were with you.....
Many prayers my friend~
Jan aka Mimi to Makayla (in Heaven) & Hailey
www.caringbridge.org/visit/makaylachavers
www.caringbridge.org/visit/haileychavers

Jan Chapdelaine ( Prayer Bear) www.freewebs.com/prayerbears <jannyjo@cox.net>
Virginia Beach, VA USA - Saturday, January 27, 2007 9:07 PM CST

Just wanted to send ((((Rasmussen Family)))) and tell you that you guys are in my thoughts and prayers today.
Lorie, mom to Ben (cancer warrior, 5)
www.caringbridge.org/tn/benparents
Lorie H <lghirsh@hotmail.com>
Knoxville, TN - Saturday, January 27, 2007 8:34 PM CST

Praying for you and your family. May God Continue to wrap His arms around you and comfort you.
Melissa <sammidrew@Alltel.net>
West Columbia, SC - Saturday, January 27, 2007 8:31 PM CST

Thinking of you today! Sending hugs and prayers to your hearts.
Kerry Chapman
Grand Island, NE - Saturday, January 27, 2007 8:29 PM CST

I wanted you to know that I am still thinking about you, yesterday, today, and at this exact moment especially. I had a dream about Baby Donovan last night. He was running and laughing in the most beautiful place, playing with other little children. It made me feel very happy, and whenever I have felt the tears coming on today, I have thought of that dream and it gives me a little comfort. I'm still praying very hard for peace for your family. I know I've already signed your guestbook a couple of times, but I really want you to know that even though I hardly "know" you (only through our ALL-Kids group), Donovan has so, so greatly affected my life.
Heidi Krieger <HKrieger@wi.rr.com>
Racine, WI - Saturday, January 27, 2007 8:28 PM CST

Melissa and family -
It just doesn't seem like it's been an entire week since that sweet Baby Donovan made his journey to Heaven, yet in some ways it seems like it's been a very long week. A little earlier in the evening on that same day one week ago, the millionth vistor came to your site - in the week since, there have been over 78,000 visits. You have touched so many lives, and I thank you from the bottom of my broken heart for sharing your precious Donovan, and your family's journey, with us all. That handsome smiling face, and the lessons we all learned along the way, will never be forgotten.
Your family will forever be in my prayers.
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Saturday, January 27, 2007 8:23 PM CST

Thinking of you tonight, and sending love and prayers....
Lisa, mom to Brian and Kevin (www.caringbridge.com/va/kevin) <ltignor@comcast.net>
Montclair, VA - Saturday, January 27, 2007 7:41 PM CST

Melissa and family,
You and your family were very much in my thoughts and prayers today. I keep praying that God wraps his loving arms aroung you so that you remember that He is with you always. I also continue to pray that you continue believe that His plan and timimg are perfect. I have followed Baby D for several months now and you and your family have done nothing but inspire me! Please continue to be the mom and dad that God wants you to be, because you guys are nothing short of awesome. Keeping the prayers coming from Pensacola Florida.
Kristy Caulder <g8torchicky@yahoo.com>
Cantonment, Fl USA - Saturday, January 27, 2007 6:53 PM CST

Dearest Melissa,Darren,and Dylan,
I wish so badly I could have there today, but the miles that separate us are far. I have thought about all of you so much today...I see tears and I also see smiles, always remebering what joy Donavan has brought to so many lives. He has brought to me a great appreciation for loving everyone for who they are and telling each of my children that I love them more often than I was. Melissa and Darren, your love for your children is known from far away, and what you have taught me and so many others is beyond words. Your sweet family and angel Donavan will always be in my heart. Thank you for sharing this difficult journey with the world.
Please feel my loving arms around you all,
Colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Saturday, January 27, 2007 6:44 PM CST

Dear Melissa, Darren, Dylan and extended family,
My heart goes out to you as I am sure today was the most difficult so far. I can not even begin to fathom the pain and heartache you must be enduring. I close my eyes and all I can see is Donovan's cute little smile and chubby little cheeks.
I am so sorry that I was not able to attend the services as the miles that separate us are many, but please know that I am right there with you in spirit. I wish I could wrap my arms around you and tell you that everything was going to be all right, and I wish it were that easy. It is going to take time to heal the feelings of loss and emptyness, but I promise that you will find peace and comfort. Your son is in heaven smiling down on you and telling you that he is healthy and strong. Your family had to endure two very long years of fighting the beast of cancer and now that the fight is over, it must be difficult to find your direction. I have faith that you will. I know Donovan has taught me that life is short and the simple things are worth savoring. Please know that your family is in my thoughts and prayers daily. I will NEVER forget your sweet Baby D.
Sending you hugs and prayers from MN.
Take care :)
Carrie Kleman <dukeandcarrie@netzero.net>
Avon, MN - Saturday, January 27, 2007 6:10 PM CST

Dear Rasmussen Family, I don't know you at all and I have signed the guest book a couple of times but today I wanted you to know how much I was thinking about you. Donavan has touched my life in a tremendous way. I will never forget you and that precious baby that showed us how fragile life really is, and how we should all reach out to husbands, moms, dads, children, grandchildren and let them know how much they mean to us each and every day.
lisa <blumtnldy@hotmail.com>
Va - Saturday, January 27, 2007 5:49 PM CST

Thinking of all of you today. My prayers continue for your strength during this difficult time.
Kari (Cancer Warriors) <zfamily00@hotmail.com>
Wauwatosa, WI - Saturday, January 27, 2007 4:46 PM CST

Thinking of you and keeping you in my prayers today and always.
Bobbi Piper <bobbihome@hotmail.com>
Speedway, IN - Saturday, January 27, 2007 4:41 PM CST

I am sorry for your loss of your precious son, brother and friend. I pray that all of you feel the Hands of our Lord lifting you thru this time.
We will continue to remember your family in the days, weeks and months to come. May God grant you the peace that only He can.
With tears and prayers,
Jim, Dawn and James Runde www.jamesrunde.com
Greensboro, NC - Saturday, January 27, 2007 4:39 PM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan, Extended Family, Thoughts and prayers were surrounding you all today. Baby D's colt colored ballons were released at 11:oo A M this morn in honor of Precious Baby D. Praying for comfort for you all.
Karen <indianagal_2004@yahoo.com>
- Saturday, January 27, 2007 3:44 PM CST

Melissa, Darren & Dylan,

Thinking of you on this very sad day, hoping that you will find comfort knowing that he is finally at peace, pain free. I cannot imagine your pain but know that there are so many people out there, thinking of your family & saying so many prayers & your strength (which we've seen for SOOOOO long now) will get you & your beautiful family through this. Fly free Sweet Donovan. God bless you all.
kim <duanezgirl@aol.com>
rsm, ca usa - Saturday, January 27, 2007 3:34 PM CST

you are in our heavy hearts today. we are with you in spirit. we love you more than words could ever express.
prayers and hugs....
we love you all-
g.
george ewald and the boys <georgeewald@comcast.net>
Elkhart, IN USA - Saturday, January 27, 2007 3:32 PM CST

Hello,

My name is Deanna Weaver. I just wanted to let you know I
am thinking of you all.

Sincerely, Deanna Weaver
Deanna Weaver <weaverdenny@earthlink.net>
Clinton, N.C. usa - Saturday, January 27, 2007 3:29 PM CST

I intended to come to the guestbook and write some eloquent words. But I can't find any words, only tears. The visitation last night was tender and touching. I loved seeing all of the pictures of Donny all around that truly captured his spirit. The service today was moving and heartfelt. Nothing got to me like Dylan releasing the balloons and telling Donovan goodbye. That little boy touched so many lives in his short time on earth. You have all fought so hard and so long. Donovan has been granted his eternal rest, and I hope all of you will take time now to rest from the long fight. I know you would have fought forever by his side, but find peace in the knowledge that you did absolutely everything you could not just to add years to his life, but to truly add life to his years. Donovan, I will miss you so much, little man. The thing I take the most comfort in is knowing that you can now run and jump...something you were always so frustrated that you couldn't do here. Come visit your mommy and daddy and brother when you can. Fly free, sweet boy!
Caroline Elliot <caroline.elliot@gmail.com>
Chapel Hill, NC - Saturday, January 27, 2007 3:24 PM CST

Praying that you find comfort and peace today knowing that your baby is happier and safer now than he ever could have been on earth. Fully rely on God, and Never give up!
Danisha Luttrell <dluttrel@indiana.edu>
Bloomington, IN - Saturday, January 27, 2007 3:17 PM CST

Thinking and praying for all of you as you get through today and the difficult days to come.....
Ashleigh Frye
Mission Viejo, CA - Saturday, January 27, 2007 3:10 PM CST

Dear Melissa and family,

I am thinking of you today and saying many prayers for all of you. May God give you strength and comfort to get through these very hard days. Melissa, you seem like such a brave and wonderful person and such an amazing mother. I have followed Baby Donovan's story for so long and am so sad that he's no longer with you. He has a special place in my heart - he has always reminded me of my 19-month old son - they have alot of the same Zutano clothes and the same sparkle in their eyes. I may have to start watching Greys Anatomy after "hearing" how great it is. When I do start, I will always think of you and your precious Donovan.

May all the happy memories keep you going until you reunite in Heaven!
Robin
Robin Birchfield <w.bIRCHField@comcast.net www.caringbridge.org/fl/audreykate >
Jacksonville, FL 32205 - Saturday, January 27, 2007 2:51 PM CST

Thinking of you all today. Holding you close in my prayers.

Love,

Wendy (Jacob Alexander's Mommy)
wendy Rickman <wsr29@bellsouth.net>
Charleston, SC United States - Saturday, January 27, 2007 2:41 PM CST

Hello Melissa

You are in our prayers and thought. Thank you for sharing Baby Donovan with all of us. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY

The Baez Family (Ivan's mom)
www.caringbridge.com/visit/ivanbaez

Maria Baez <mbaez1966@yahoo.com / www.caringbridge.com/visit/ivanbaez>
Durham, NC - Saturday, January 27, 2007 2:40 PM CST

Thinking of you today and praying for you. We love you.
Stacey & Scott Krause (mom & dad to Kaylee in Heaven)
- Saturday, January 27, 2007 2:14 PM CST

Dear Melissa and family,

My thoughts are with you especially today with your saying your final goodbyes to donovan. But remember it is not really a goodbye...more of that you will all see him later. in a better, happier place.

All my love and hugs,
Angel Liz
Elizabeth Noselli <fantasm25@optonline.net>
haverstraw, NY - Saturday, January 27, 2007 2:07 PM CST

Mellisa, All of you are in my thoughts and prayers, today especially. God Bless you and your family.
Love, Carol
Carol
Garden Grove, CA USA - Saturday, January 27, 2007 1:43 PM CST

We are thinking and continuing to pray for your family's strength. What an amazing family you are! May God bless you all.

Love,
The McBurnett's
www.caringbridge.org/visit/alexandriamcburnett

The McBurnett's
Beaverton, OR USA - Saturday, January 27, 2007 1:39 PM CST

May God bless and comfort all of you in the difficult days ahead. Thank you for sharing Baby Donovan with us. He has touched so many lives in this world, and he will be remembered forever. Your pictures are beautiful! I join the others in hoping that you will let us know how you are doing. Baby D--fly high, sweet baby, and do all those things that you could not do here on earth. You have no idea how many lives have been changed because of you. We love you!
Jan Peterson <janpeterson@hotmail.com>
Addison, IL - Saturday, January 27, 2007 1:33 PM CST

((((HUGS))))
Katie (mom to Hayley, Hunter, and Taylor) <dugan2b@yahoo.com>
Franklin, MA - Saturday, January 27, 2007 1:25 PM CST

Hello Melissa and family. I know this is a very rough time. You have to belive that Donovan is in a much better place and not more doctors. Cassie and I have been thing about and praying for you guys. If you or you husband EVER need to talk or just scream feel free to call either of us.

Mickey Fowler... Angel Morgan's dad
Mickey Fowler <mgfowler@bellsouth.net>
Pensacola, FL usa - Saturday, January 27, 2007 1:22 PM CST

HI CHAMP,
IT IS HARD FOR MOMMY & DADDY TODAY
I WILL MISS YOU DONOVAN, BUT I
LOOK FORWARD TILL THE DAY WE
MEET IN HEAVEN....
MAY GOD BE WITH YOUR MOMMY & DADDY & DYLAN
REST IN PEACE CHAMP......

GOD BLESS YOU ALL,
BETH
I PICTURE YOU IN A YELLOW SUBMARINE
WITH YOUR COLTS JERSEY ON....., FLY HIGH CHAMP.. SAY HI TO CHRIS FOR ME... - Saturday, January 27, 2007 1:19 PM CST

Dear Darren, Melissa, Dylan, & Family,

Just wanted you to know that you are covered in Thoughts and Prayers today! So wish we could be there to celebrate you Baby Donovan's BEAUTIFUL life! Thanks so much for sharing the journey with all of us! We hope that you will continue to update us on how life is going for you all! You will always hold a VERY SPECIAL place in our hearts!

All Our Love, Thoughts, Prayer, & Biggest (((HUGS))),
Bill, Stacey, Josh, & Ben
& The Weekly Prayer List
The Reich Family <weluvobx@comcast.net>
Winchester, VA USA - Saturday, January 27, 2007 1:05 PM CST

Thinking and praying for all of you today. God Bless.
Sherry Nitschke <sherryn@drtel.net>
Jud, ND - Saturday, January 27, 2007 1:02 PM CST

my heart aches for all of you today. I wish so much that I could have been there.

Melissa, I hope you'll continue to write. I'm sure we would all love to hear how everyone is doing. We all love your family so much and Donovan will be missed but never forgotten....
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
NJ - Saturday, January 27, 2007 12:49 AM CST

Praying you will find peace in knowing we are all thinking of you today. We will all miss Baby D. Give Dylan a big hug for me today - even though you don't know me. I know it is difficult for him - I lost my sister when I was 9 yrs. old and she was 12 yrs. old. Take care.
Traci Mosby <Humble369@aol.com>
Fishers, IN USA - Saturday, January 27, 2007 12:35 AM CST

Sending you prayers today.
Renee <rforte0531@sbcglobal.net>
Cheshire, CT - Saturday, January 27, 2007 12:27 AM CST

thinking of you today, yesterday and always all the tomorrows.... as you say goodbye to your sweet teddybear. Wish I could be there in person to meet you and give a BIG HUG!! God Bless
Chris~ mom to Zayla www.caringbridge.org/visit/zayla
Chris Mitsdarffer <christymits@aol.com>
Bonfield, IL - Saturday, January 27, 2007 12:25 AM CST

Missing our babies today--thinking of your family as you say goodbye and just how much i hate this disease. May our angels drive them towards the cure.

Thoughts and prayers to you all today, especially Donovan.

With love,
Catherine Willard <catherine_willard@yahoo.com, mom to everett www.caringbridge.com/ny/everettscottwillard>
Brooklyn, NY - Saturday, January 27, 2007 12:24 AM CST

Thinking of you all during Donovans celebratory mass this morning..................

~~Jennifer~~ <jenifer66@aol.com >
Bremerton, Wa - Saturday, January 27, 2007 12:22 AM CST

A LETTER FROM
HEAVEN

"To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say.
But first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every
morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."

"It's good to have you back again, you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly, you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man."

God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do,
and foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight,
God and I are closest to you... in the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years,
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.

I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.

There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
But together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too....
That as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.

If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night... "My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented.... that my life has been wothwhile,
Knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.

So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
Just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in you footsteps only half a step behind.

And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.... you're coming here to me.

I am very sorry for your Loss.
www.caringbridge.org/visit/kaitlyns

Georges <gk15@aub.edu.lb>
Lebanon - Saturday, January 27, 2007 11:53 AM CST

Dear Melissa, Darren, and Dylan,

The mass today was so beautiful, I had tears in my eyes the whole time. I'm so glad I had the chance to say goodbye to Donovan. I pray that he is watching over you all, especially over Dylan, and know that he is resting peacefully now.
I'm so very glad that I was able to be Donovan's best buddy; even though I didn't spend that much time with him, within an instant I loved him. :) I'm glad I was able to get to know your family, and if there is anything you ever need while you are still in the Durham area please let me know!
Donovan is so well loved by so many people, and he was truly a hero. With all my heart,
Kelley Chuang <kschuang@gmail.com>
Durham, NC 27708 - Saturday, January 27, 2007 11:50 AM CST

I wish I could be there today to meet your wonderful family and support you during this difficult time, but please know that you are in my thoughts, as you have been since I first heard about Donovan's story. I wish for you a beautiful, perfect day to celebrate your Angel's life. I wish you the strength and courage to face each new day and the challenges it may bring, and above all I wish for you that you find peace and acceptance of Donovan's new life in Heaven free of pain but full of love and peacefulness.

**on a side note-I fell asleep during the Colt's game, but was awake enough to hear some of the plays-first the fumble recovery by Saturday for a touchdown. I remember thinking Donovan had a part in that, he became an Angel on Saturday. And then at the end I knew they were going to win, because Donovan wanted his mommy to see their team go to the Super Bowl, so I didn't have to fight to stay awake. I hope you got to watch the game at least a little.
Tawni <t61176@yahoo.com>
East Bethel, MN - Saturday, January 27, 2007 10:28 AM CST

Sending hugs and prayers today as you say goodbye to your precious baby D. He touched so many lives in his short time on earth--he will never be forgotten.
Peggy Hines <phines@chartermi.net>
Cadillac, MI - Saturday, January 27, 2007 10:24 AM CST

Thinking of all of you while you continue to celebrate Donovan's life and sending prayers that the pain in your heart is filled with love from those around you.
Jane Kahl (Wisconsin Angels) <kahlja@charter.net>
Sun Prairie, WI - Saturday, January 27, 2007 10:09 AM CST

Praying that you feel God's comfort today, as well as that of your own special Angel, Donovan. Wishing that I could be in North Carolina for the service today, but please know that my every thought is there with you all. And from one grandma's heart to another, a special prayer for Grammie.
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Saturday, January 27, 2007 9:05 AM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan & Families:

I just wanted to let you know that you are in my heart and prayers today. I pray that God wraps His arms extra tight around each one of you. Your little Angel is a Hero to many!

Beth <softballmom023@yahoo.com>
- Saturday, January 27, 2007 8:31 AM CST

Good Morning Melissa & Gang,
So glad you were able to receive my long distant hugs last night. ;o) We were celebrating Donovan last night too, as it was my dad's birthday and he was all we talked about over dinner. Today we'd like to invite Donovan to Anjali's basketball game and help her bring home a win. I can see in the pics he is a good basketball player! :o) Maybe we can borrow some of the Colts magic!
Just know we are thinking of you ALL - your entire family - today. Remember how much we love you guys!!!
((((((BIG HUGS)))))) and lots of prayers from us all in Burlington!
Lots of love, 'Angel Nickey'
- Saturday, January 27, 2007 8:16 AM CST

My condolences to your family on the passing of Donovan. My wife and I are friends with Valeria, Sofia Castro's mom. As a father of two, I'm deeply saddened by Donovan's story. We will be praying for you him and your entire family. May God be with him and all of you!!!! GO COLTS!!!! Win one for Donovan!!!!!

Please feel free to email me (lmilian@790theticket.com). I'm a radio talk show host for the official radio station of Super Bowl XLI. I will have access to Colts players. I will tell them about Donovan's story. If there is a message you'd like for me to convey, please do not hesitate to contact me.

Your family will be on my mind this week and I will mention this story on my show today.

May God be with you and continue to bless you all!!!!!!
Larry Milian <lmilian@790theticket.com>
Miami, FL USA - Saturday, January 27, 2007 8:00 AM CST

Melissa and family,
There are no words. I can only pray that you all find healing and peace knowing that Donovan suffers no more. I have to believe my little Macie was waiting for him at Heaven's gates. They will watch over us forever.
Love,
Sharon McCloud
Sharon McCloud <smccloud@nc.rr.com>
Raleigh, NC - Saturday, January 27, 2007 7:53 AM CST

Thinking of you guys so much right now.....
Heather Thompson <htast@aol.com>
- Saturday, January 27, 2007 7:53 AM CST

To all of Donovan's family,
We do not know you, but a friend of ours Kate (james' mummy) told us of Donovan a while ago now.

We were deeply saddened to hear of Donovan's passing. Our hearts go out to you all, with big hugs from the U.K for you all for being so brave through this terrible time,
Love The Witts family, (Ampthill, U.K) xxx
Iraina Witts <iraina.witts@virgin.net>
Ampthill , U.K. - Saturday, January 27, 2007 3:03 AM CST

Thinking of you and praying for you tonight, tomorrow, and always.
www.caringbridge.org/visit/hannahhopster
Beth Hopster <bmschmeltzer@yahoo.com>
VAFB, CA - Saturday, January 27, 2007 2:01 AM CST

Our Lord Himself promises to comfort us whatever we have to face.
2 Cor 1:3-4 Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort; Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.
The Prayer Bears Website
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Saturday, January 27, 2007 1:14 AM CST

Melissa~
I am so sorry that I couldn't be there with you tonight and through this weekend. Please know that I am with you in spirit. Also, I wanted to let you that our Friday night Bible Study group lifted you and your entire family up in prayer as you face this difficult weekend. I wish I were there to give you a hug....please know that I will be praying for you all this entire weekend and the days to follow.
Hugs and Many Prayers~
Jan aka Mimi to my Hailey girl & ^Makayla^ (in Heaven)

I lift my eyes unto the hills, where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of Heaven & Earth (Psalm 121:1-2)
Jan Chapdelaine ( Prayer Bear) www.freewebs.com/prayerbears <jannyjo@cox.net>
Virginia Beach, VA USA - Saturday, January 27, 2007 0:09 AM CST

Baby D will be forever young and now has eternal health. He will not suffer another day. He is now pain free. I think typing those words helps relieve some of the sadness I am feeling right now. I will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Monica Mack <bmbtmack@comcast.net>
Rohnert Park, Ca USA - Saturday, January 27, 2007 0:02 AM CST

Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers. Hoping that you feel God's warm embrace wrapped around you helping you during this very difficult time. Wishing I could be there in person to celebrate Donovan's life...I am with you in spirit.
Julie Redmon <jredmon1@wi.rr.com>
- Friday, January 26, 2007 10:41 PM CST

We were not able to be in NC today, but we are both in the military and we wore orange socks today under our uniforms to represent Baby D and the battle against Leukemia. We pray for you as you move on with your lives without him. We left a beautiful member of our family behind last year to Leukemia and know. Orange is a great color today and I told everyone that seen me, even if they didn't see the socks, about your beautiful baby. Bless you as your move on to life without. We know and we will be here praying for Melissa, Darren, Dylan, and Angel Baby D! Go Colts! Baby D. has it all figured out. Going to be a great game!
Mark and Jennifer
Seattle, WA - Friday, January 26, 2007 10:26 PM CST

thinking and praying for you all today!
crystal <crydust@aol.com>
GPW, MI - Friday, January 26, 2007 10:21 PM CST

My thoughts and prayers are with you. My son has been battling A.L.L. for over 7 years. We will add your family to our prayer list.
Connie
- Friday, January 26, 2007 10:01 PM CST

I have been following Donovan's site for quite sometime. I have never signed in. But I just want to tell you how sorry I am for your loss. I will continue to pray for all your beatiful family for a long time to come. May the lord give you stength for tomorrow and the days to follow.
Rachel <rachel94@hotmail.com>
Lakeville, MN USA - Friday, January 26, 2007 9:36 PM CST

Dylan's drawing was propped up beside Donovan at the viewing tonight ... it was so moving and heart breaking all at once. The photos that were all over the funeral home were amazing .... just gorgeous and showed his personality and Melissa's so well! I was really touched and glad I went, even though it was difficult.
Ami C.
Cary, NC - Friday, January 26, 2007 9:36 PM CST

Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers! Sending love hugs and kisses to you.
Melissa
Portage, IN - Friday, January 26, 2007 9:26 PM CST

You are all on my mind more than ever tonight. God Bless that little soldier of yours as you all say good-bye. If it were not for the miles between us I would have loved to come and tell you what Baby D has meant to me. I love the fact that you are celebrating his short little life here on earth with so much love and affection. I've read some of the comments from those that visited and it sounds much as I would expect. Peace and comfort to all of you during this very difficult time.

Peg Curtiss <margaret.curtiss@usbank.com>
Oakdale, MN - Friday, January 26, 2007 9:15 PM CST

Grow, little flower,
reach for the light,
your sweet little spirit
forever will bloom.

Glow, little star,
tucked into the heavens,
cradled with care
in the curve of the moon.

Blow, little leaf,
to a beautiful somplace
safe in the sheltering
arms of a breeze-

Know, little one,
that you'll always be with us...
Forever held close
in our love's memories.

Your little one will always be blessed by your love...
and remembered in so many hearts..
i never met you or your family but have been following baby d for sometime now, i lost my daughter this past september and i know they are in good hands and are pain free.. so fly baby d fly high and embrace and new pain free life.. we shall all meet again someday and we can rejoice togther may you always live on in our memories..
..
www.caringbridge.org/visit/iyonnagrazette
nicole grazette <iyonnaslife@yahoo.com>
sneadsferry, nc usa - Friday, January 26, 2007 9:10 PM CST

Only you knew all the joy of having your child.
only you know all the pain of your loss.
but anyone who has ever loved must yearn to bring you comfort.. thinking of you with love and sympathy...
FOR A BRIEF WHILE, A SWEET LITTLE MIRACLE WAS YOURS.....
www.caringbridge.org/visit/iyonnagrazette
nicole grazette <iyonnaslife@yahoo.com>
sneadsferry, nc usa - Friday, January 26, 2007 9:00 PM CST

Melissa, Darren and Dylan,

The viewing was beautiful. You really had a onderful set up with all the pictures, and Donovan looked peacful withhis blanket and teddy bear. Bless little Dylan, he was fast asleep!

Please if you need anything, do nto hesitate to call or email me!!

Becka and family
Becka <music-mom@nc.rr.com>
Morrisvlle, NC usa - Friday, January 26, 2007 8:51 PM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan and family-
Thinking of you all tonight and praying for you to have the strength to get through this difficult and heartbreaking time. I'm sorry we weren't able to be there this weekend - we are with you in spirit.
Janice and Filippo <jshoya@aol.com>
Long Island, NY - Friday, January 26, 2007 8:45 PM CST

Thinking about you and your family, I wish I could be there to support you all! Take Care and ((((((((BIG HUGS))))))
Give yourselves a big hug from me
Love you
Brandy
www.caringbridge.org/mn/scottbabies
Brandy Hendershot <branmuffin1982@yahoo.com>
Ellsworth, WI - Friday, January 26, 2007 8:34 PM CST

Jesus Loves the little Children..a point made during His ministry. Your families Love for Donovan Shines...
We hurt for you...and know our thoughts and prayers are there, even if we aren't able to be there... Love...
Kelsey, Faith and Colleen-ALL Kids <colleencadaret@sbcglobal.net>
Placerville, CA - Friday, January 26, 2007 8:24 PM CST

Praying for you tonight, tomorrow, and in the days ahead.
Laura Lynn and my two little miracle nephews: www.caringbridge.org/visit/asherandjacob <laurainsem@yahoo.com>
Hollidaysburg, Pa - Friday, January 26, 2007 8:18 PM CST

I do not know you but you have been on my mind this week and especially today. May the Lord be with you and baby Donovan as you go through this weekend and the many days ahead. Sending prayers and hugs your way.
Michelle and Jeff Gray
Michelle Gray <gray1819@bellsouth.net>
Jay, FL US - Friday, January 26, 2007 8:16 PM CST

Thinking of your family tonight.
Sending lots of prayers your way!
Jennifer Sundt <maddyjax@msn.com >
Elk River , MN - Friday, January 26, 2007 8:13 PM CST

Melissa, Darren and Dylan,

I am so sorry for the circumstances for which we saw you tonight. It was hard to see you all in pain, so we just couldn't stay long. We are sorry for that, but it was too hard to watch friends struggle. We think of you often and hope that we can continue to see you all. Please let us know if you need anything at all. I loved seeing all the beautiful pictures of Baby D and the visitation was very well done. You guys show so much class, even at your hardest moment.

May God Bless and Hold You All Tightly,
Dave and Tonya Naylor
David Naylor <naylorda@yahoo.com>
Durham, NC - Friday, January 26, 2007 8:00 PM CST

I am thinking of you guys especially tonight. Sending many, many (((HUGS))) and smiles for the memory of darling Donovan. I wonder how I can so miss a little person that I never actually met?

Dylan's rocketship came in the mail today, I will get it out to you this weekend.

Love you guys so much,
Katie (mom to Hayley, Hunter, and Taylor <dugan2b@yahoo.com>
Franklin, MA - Friday, January 26, 2007 7:30 PM CST

I miss Donovan so much and am so very sorry for your loss. I still think about him so much every day. On my way to work I would always think of him and pray for him. Now that he is gone, my heart just aches on my way to work. I pray that you find comfort in knowing he is at peace and disease free. Find comfort in the fact that you made every effort possible to help him. He was such a precious little boy who LOVED life so much. It was so apparent by his beaming smiles. He was very lucky to have such an amazing family that loved him soooo much. Donovan you will always have such a special place in my heart. God bless you BEAUTIFUL soul! I hope to meet you someday in heaven.
Holly Victor <hollistervictor@sbcglobal.net>
Westlake, OH 44145 - Friday, January 26, 2007 7:10 PM CST

Prayers for stregnth and peace. May Jesus and fond memories comfort you at this time.
A Prayerbear in Pa.
Cheryl
Cheryl Taggart <chertagg@comcast.net>
Levittown , Pa - Friday, January 26, 2007 7:01 PM CST

Thinking about you today, as I have thought about you all week long. Praying for peace and strength for you all. I hope you know what incredible parents you are. And I hope Dylan knows what an awesome big brother he has been to Donovan. Sending hugs from California.
Jennifer Bryan <jandjbryan@comcast.net>
Los Gatos, CA - Friday, January 26, 2007 6:53 PM CST

Dear Melissa, Darren, and Dylan

You are in our thoughts and prayers constantly. Hoping for peace and comfort in these difficult days ahead.

Love
Giselle (mom to Baby Brenden)
www.caringbridge.org/visit/brendenmouro
Giselle Mouro <robmouro@hotmail.com>
Vancouver, BC Canada - Friday, January 26, 2007 6:46 PM CST

Baby D-
Thinking of you this evening as so many are attending the wake, honoring you, sharing their love for you... so do I, just from my home here in New Hampshire.
Melissa and Darren-
I'm here for you both if you ever would like to talk, and my prayers are with you and your whole family. Give Dylan a hug from me!
With love-
Christine
http://www.caringbridge.org/nh/baileyslife/

Christine Robinson <bcubed@localnet.com>
Conway, NH - Friday, January 26, 2007 6:45 PM CST

Thinking of your whole family, tonight more than ever. May the love of family and friends wrap itself around you as you celebrate the joy and wonder that was Donovan's all too short life.

Lauren
www.caringbridge.org/vt/fergus

Lauren Quinn <peckschoolhouse@gmail.com>
East Montpelier, VT USA - Friday, January 26, 2007 6:29 PM CST

Hi to ^Angel Donovan^ & family~
I have had Baby D on my mind all week and on Sunday when the Colts came from behind & won the game which gave them the chance to be in the SuperBowl, my 1st thought is I want the Colts to win the SuperBowl for Baby D!!(You have to know that although I enjoy High School football because my son use to play, I don't usually watch professional games except the SuperBowl because we always go to a party).So I'd like to put a message out there for all who come to this cb site and read the guestbook LETS ALL ROOT FOR THE COLTS IN HONOR OF BABY D!!!!!!! I can't think of any way to honor the memory of such a sweet little boy who loved the Colts along with his entire family! Your family will continue to be in my thoughts & prayers~Hugs to all from Adi's Grandma Liz
www.caringbridge.org/visit/adi
Liz Penner <lizzip52@yahoo.com>
Simi Valley, CA - Friday, January 26, 2007 6:25 PM CST

I know you guys are at Donny's visitation right now. I'm on Pacific Coast time and it's 4:15 pm here. I wish I could be there with you guys. I am thinking of you guys and praying for you right now. I'm so sorry. Please know how much I care. I miss Donovan soooooo sooooooo much. I'm starting to cry again so I'll stop here. May the Lord be with you.

http://www.caringbridge.org/or/kaitlynp
Jennifer Powers <MommyJenRN@charter.net>
Central Point, OR USA - Friday, January 26, 2007 6:18 PM CST

Hello Darren & Melissa,

Just wanted you to know that we are thinking about you tonight and pray that the Lord's comforting arms, as well as all your family & friends arms will be wrapped tightly around you bringing you Lots of Comfort! So wish that we could be with you! All Our Love, Thoughts, Prayers, & Big Bear Hugs are coming your way from everyone on The Weekly Prayer List!

Love,
Bill, Stacey, Josh, & Ben
The Reich's <weluvobx@comcast.net>
Winchester, VA USA - Friday, January 26, 2007 5:57 PM CST

I don't have the right words to express my sympathy. I am so very sorry. Please know that I will continue to pray for all of you. May God grant you peace and comfort.

In His Love,
Linda Tamblyn (Micah's MaMon)
Linda Tamblyn <tmtlht1973@yahoo.com>
Swainsboro, GA u - Friday, January 26, 2007 5:52 PM CST

Sorry Melissa that I can't be there with you, but I am on the unit 5200 with Kallie girl. She had her surgery this morning. Sending a big (((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))))) your way. You are in my thoughts & prayers.
Love,
Janine
www.caringbridge.org/visit/kalliegirl
janine <janinemcguire@cox.net>
new orleans, - Friday, January 26, 2007 5:43 PM CST

Thinking of you all today....and wearing ORANGE!
Love,
Kara
Kara Meyer www.caringbridge.org/in/karadimmich <karameyer@verizon.net>
West Lafayette, IN - Friday, January 26, 2007 5:43 PM CST

Thinking of and praying for your family.
marie wind <mwind0841@charter.net>
brainerd, mn - Friday, January 26, 2007 5:39 PM CST

Dear Melissa,
I couldn't let today go by without letting you know that I'm thinking of you and your family.

With Love and Prayers in Abundance,
Sherrill
Sherrill Jones <Sherrill@probaglady.com>
"The Mile High City", CO USA - Friday, January 26, 2007 5:35 PM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan, Grammie - and your entire family is in my thought tonight and tomorrow. I had to take a break at work to let you know you're on my mind, and in my heart and prayers. Sending you the biggest
((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))))))
ever, and remembering the cutest little teddy bear ever.
WE MISS YOU DONOVAN!
X0X0X0X0X0X0
Lots of love, 'Angel' Nickey <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
- Friday, January 26, 2007 4:49 PM CST

Thinking about you and keeping you in my prayers. Wish that I could be there this weekend to celebrate Donovan's life. Keeping you in my prayers.
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Friday, January 26, 2007 4:44 PM CST

Lifting you all up in prayer as you celebrate Baby Donovan's precious life.
Amy Martin <paak9744@comcast.net>
Gurnee, IL USA - Friday, January 26, 2007 4:34 PM CST

I hope your weekend is filled with happy memories of your baby D so that there is laughter through your tears. Thinking and praying for you often.
Amy Grady
Waverly, NE - Friday, January 26, 2007 4:33 PM CST

Thinking of you tonight, praying God's love will be evident in the words and arms of those who are able to visit tonight, may they bring healing and comfort to your broken hearts.
cheryl mills <cherylmil@nc.rr.com>
clayton, NC usa - Friday, January 26, 2007 4:19 PM CST

I'm so sadden to hear of Donovan's passing. May you find peace and comfort knowing that he is in a better place and finally free of pain.

http://www.caringbridge.org/canada/shaunam/

Karen, Graham, Shauna & Jenna McLean
Watford, Ont Canada - Friday, January 26, 2007 4:15 PM CST

Melissa,
I am praying for you and your entire family as you celebrate your little hero tonight. I can't think of anything appropriate to say except that I am so sorry and that I will be praying for you all.
Shannon Musselman <shannonmusselman@yahoo.com>
Germany - Friday, January 26, 2007 3:50 PM CST

To the family of baby Donovan,
There are no words to comfort you during this time of grief. All of us at Alexan Farms want you to know that you are in our thoughts and prayers. Donovan always made us smile and he will always be remembered. Celebrate his life and the love that he shared with everyone.
Respectfully,
Georgia, Leila and Jason
Georgia MacMaster
Durham, NC USA - Friday, January 26, 2007 3:41 PM CST

thinking of you...I'm so sorry I could not be there to give you a hug.....(Bryce is here in the PICU)
Big HUgs...
Mommy Koren to BRyce
koren adams <kaadams@charter.net>
durham, nc usa - Friday, January 26, 2007 3:24 PM CST

How do you get through today-I just don't know. But I know that Donny is now at peace and feels no more pain. He'd want you to celebrate his life. He was a great child and you are a great family. I pray for you today as always. I believe Donny is seeing the goodness of The Lord, in the land of the living. Be strong, Melissa. We all know you are.
God Bless your whole dynamite family,
Robbin and Kelly
Robbin Lyons <thomtalent@aol.com>
- Friday, January 26, 2007 3:10 PM CST

Even though I can't be there tonight, I am with you in my heart. Praying for your peace, as well as Darren's and Dylan's and holding you all close tonight and in the days to come. How 'bout Grey's!? :) God Bless!!
The Rogers Family <shaunr@bellsouth.net>
Dunwoody, Ga - Friday, January 26, 2007 3:04 PM CST

praying for peace in your hearts
theresa
pa - Friday, January 26, 2007 2:46 PM CST

Thinking about you guys today and always. Please let us know if you guys need anything, and we will try to help. With love and prayers, The Howards
www.caringbridge.org/visit/jamesonhoward
Dawn Howard <jamesonhoward@hotmail.com>
Durham, NC - Friday, January 26, 2007 1:38 PM CST

Thinking of all of you today and praying for peace and comfort and undertanding for Dylan as you move through your days ahead.

Know that we will all be with you in heart....

Lori and Savahana....
www.caringbridge.org/visit/savahanascott
lori <lascott32@aol.com>
avon, in - Friday, January 26, 2007 1:37 PM CST

Melissa, is it safe to admit I've never seen "Grey's Anatomy?" I borrowed the first season from son Dan and wife Michelle and will watch it in honor of Baby D. Know that my thoughts are with you today, as always. The offer still stands!
Love,
Ellen
Ellen Harpin <ellens12@yahoo.com>
Casselberry, FL USA - Friday, January 26, 2007 1:26 PM CST

Dear wonderful family,

My thoughts are with you today as you pick up your very heavy feet and take every step you can to move forward. As hard as things seem today, you will strive and your family will forever be changed but still wonderful. Live, Love and even let go a little.
Healing thoughts send your way,
Karen Olsen
Karen Olsen <jkckolsen@verizon.net>
- Friday, January 26, 2007 1:04 PM CST

Dear Rasmussen family,

You're in our thoughts and prayers everyday, remember God is there with you too.
Psalms 23
The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.
He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.
He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in paths of righteousness for his name's sake.
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.
Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anouintest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord for ever.

May God give your family the help you need physically and emotionally over the following days and weeks.

The Albright's
Camellia, Dwayne, Tyler, Brandon, and Blake
Camellia Albright <camelliaa@hotmail.com>
West Baden, IN 47469 - Friday, January 26, 2007 12:08 AM CST

I'm continuing to pray for you all everyday. Wishing I could be there for Donovan's celebration of life. What an amazing boy he was.
Jacquelyn <jacqmills@comcast.net>
Sacramento, CA - Friday, January 26, 2007 11:31 AM CST

Thinking of you and praying for you today and tomorrow as you celebrate the life of your very special little boy!
Sharon Townsend <sltnails@comcast.net>
Seymour, IN US - Friday, January 26, 2007 11:23 AM CST

I keep praying for you every day. One thing about explaining to kids about loosing someone is that as they grow they will continue to ask. My daugter was 2 (almost) when we los Daddy. Every year she goes through a stage where we have to explain this again. It is because she grows and can understand better (or differently) what happened. It is hard having to say it over and over. Just understand that you will always have to answer those questions, and change your response to match what they can understand. I am still waiting for my son to ask. He was borne a few days after Daddy died. I have no idea what he thinks.
I hope this helps a little.
Paula
Washington, DC - Friday, January 26, 2007 11:16 AM CST

Dear Family,
Sending extra prayers your way during these difficult days. We'll be letting balloons go in Colorado for Baby D (I'm hoping others around the world will do the same)and we'll be waiting for him to catch them in Heaven. Thank you for sharing Donovan and your journey with the world...
God Bless,

Tammy Nelson <All3Nelsons@aol.com>
Broomfield, CO U.S.A. - Friday, January 26, 2007 11:14 AM CST

Just want to let you know I'm thinking of you guys....xoxo
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
NJ - Friday, January 26, 2007 10:47 AM CST

To all of Baby D's Family, Knowing how extra hard the next two days will be, I wanted to stop by and let you know although not there in person, thousands will be with you in thought, prayers, and spirits.May God hold you all tight in his loving arms, give you the much needed strenth you will need in the days ahead.Baby D..Never far in our thoughts.
Karen <indianagal_2004@yahoo.com>
- Friday, January 26, 2007 10:42 AM CST

Dear Melissa - I'm a Grey's A fan too....last night's episode was pretty great! My prediction - Christina will say yes to Burke but Callie will say no to George. I hope you made Tabitha sit through it with you - she likes House and Grey's is so much better. Seriously, though, just wanted to let you know that I'll be thinking of you all tonight and tomorrow for the wake and the services, and hoping that you can take comfort in them. Oh, and if you get the chance, could you pass a message on to Tabitha for me?? Tell her that I just loaded the events for the Echostar logos and that they'll be waiting for her when she gets back (neener, neener, neener!!).
Liz Stevens <elizabeth.a.stevens@boeing.com>
Sumner, WA USA - Friday, January 26, 2007 10:33 AM CST

Thinking of you and your family. May your sweet memories of your beautiful son warm your heart during these difficult times.

~Kim www.friendsofheroes.org <friendsofalliememphis@yahoo.com>
Memphis, TN - Friday, January 26, 2007 10:16 AM CST

Dear Melisssa, Darren, dylan and family,

My thoughts and prayers will be with you all especially so over the next two days. Every day I come and look at the pictures of donvan. And the family pictures you got to take with all of you are just so beautiful. They really touched my heart.

Sending much love and hugs during this most difficutl time and always,

Angel Liz
Elizabeth Noselli <fantasm25@optonline.net>
haverstraw, NY - Friday, January 26, 2007 10:07 AM CST

Wishing I could be there with you today. I will be praying and with you in spirit though. Praying you find comfort in the warmth of Gods love surrounding you today, tonight and all the days of your lives.

www.freewebs.com/prayerbears/
Kerry Chapman
Grand Island, NE - Friday, January 26, 2007 9:59 AM CST

Darren, Melissa, Dylan and Family: Thinking of you all today and praying for God to wrap you in His loving embrace and provide you with unrelenting comfort and peace. Love, Susan
Susan Wright <yokena05@bellsouth.net>
VICKSBURG , MS USA - Friday, January 26, 2007 9:55 AM CST

I was deeply saddened to hear that the world lost sweet Donovan. But what a precious gain for Heaven above!

I'm so sorry your Donovan had to endure so much in his short life.

Distance henders me from joining his Celebration of Life ~ I will be releasing a balloon for him as well as for another child whom God called just two days before he called your precious Donovan.

I will be thinking and praying for all of you. May He comfort you during this time and through the many difficult days ahead.

God bless all of you.

PS Since our graceful quarterback (literally) fumbled our chances of the Super Bowl, I will be cheering for the Colts! I'm sure Baby D will be joining you all as you cheer them on as well ~ probably even helping them win!!
Terri <timjay613@sbcglobal.net>
Allen, Tx USA - Friday, January 26, 2007 9:53 AM CST

Praying for you as you prepare to lay the teddy bear to rest. I can't wait to meet him one day! I'm very sorry that I will not be able to make Donovan's celebration of life service, but I will be with you in spirit.

Sending all my love,
Chari Warner <millymango40@yahoo.com>
Alpharetta, GA USA - Friday, January 26, 2007 9:36 AM CST

Thinking of baby Donovan, and praying for your family as you have his Celebration of Life. I really wanted to be there. Even though I cannot make it in person, I will be there in thought, in spirit, and in prayer..

Baby Donovan, you are so loved and missed precious child!

Love~ Claire (Mommy to Laken in heaven)
www.caringbridge.com/visit/lakenroy
CLAIRE ROY <caffemocha29@aol.com>
KERNERSVILLE, NC US - Friday, January 26, 2007 9:12 AM CST

Praying for you,
Barb, John, Shawn,
Shannon, & Colleen
www.caringbridge.org/page/shannon

We always thank God for you all and always mention you in our prayers. (1Thess. 1:2)

Psalm 94:19

Lord, when doubts fill my mind, when my heart is in turmoil, quiet me and give me renewed hope and cheer.

Prayer Bear Barb
- Friday, January 26, 2007 9:10 AM CST

Thinking of you often and continuing to share Donovan's special family with my friends and family. I still tear up when I tell his story. I'm not a sports fan and it's been years since I watched the Super Bowl, but I'll be finding a way to watch the Colts play this year. Sending special prayers to Heaven asking GOD to be with you especially today and tomorrow. You will weigh heavy on my mind, and I will be with you in spirit as you celebrate Donovan's life and your gift to the world through being his family.
Kristi Gerdon <kgerdon@widrick.com>
Croghan, NY - Friday, January 26, 2007 9:07 AM CST

Remembering your family in thought and prayer today.
Julie
- Friday, January 26, 2007 8:32 AM CST

I hope you feel some comfort knowing that there are many people saying extra prayers this weekend as you celebrate Donovan. You will be in my heart and thoughts all weekend. A big hug from Kansas.
www.caringbridge.org/ks/gunner
Kim Murphy
Olathe, Ks - Friday, January 26, 2007 8:28 AM CST

Wanted to share a Donovan story with you. I was on a cruise a couple weeks back and one night before supper they had a trivia game going on in one of the bars. So the people I was with and myself took part in the game. Wouldn't you know it, one of the questions was name 3 Beetles movies...of course Yellow Submarine was on our list and Donovan popped into my head immediately! Even while on vacation trying to relax he was on my mind! He was a very special boy and had me wrapped around his finger from the first time I saw his picture over a year and a half ago! I pray that you find comfort in knowing there are so many people around the world praying for you at this difficult time. Celebrate Donovan's life, remember all the great times you had with him in his 2 short years here on earth and know that you will see him again. I'm sure he will give you the grand tour of heaven when you arrive!
Lisa Kipp <kipper1979@yahoo.com>
Waterloo, IA USA - Friday, January 26, 2007 8:22 AM CST

Sending extra hugs and prayers your way today........
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Friday, January 26, 2007 8:03 AM CST

Hello Colts
I am coming to you on behalf of a lil boy that has just passed from cancer
My husband and I followed Babby D through his Cb sight and Donavan as lil as he was loved you all and loved to watch you all while he was in the hospital ...
As I said before Baby D flew to heaven ...this Saterday they will be laying thier lil angel to rest (Somthing no parent should ever have to do ) the reason I am writing to you I am asking no I am begging for you to get ahold of Baby Ds family and let them know that you Colts are right there with them
Baby D sight is http://www.caringbridge.org/in/babydonovan/
I know that you must get thousands of emails trying to get you all to give some support ...but this is diffrent Baby D got me to root for you all ...I am a chiefs fan through and through ...but you better bet that I will be rooting for you all in the super bowl for Baby D for real
Please I am begging you to help Donavans family ...they are all colts fans
Donavans Mom wanted to Take Donavan to the superbowl to watch you guys stomp some butt now she cant but she will know that Baby D will be right there in the huddle with you all making the winning plays come through
Know that this not only means alot to Us here in Kansas but Donavans family and friends as well
Please stop by Donavans sight and leave a message for them
Thanks In Advance
Racquell Werbe
On Behalf Of Donavans Family
Racquell (Pita ) <PPrincess2424@aol.com>
A Learker No More , Lurker No More www.caringbridge.org/visit/donaldstiffler - Friday, January 26, 2007 7:42 AM CST

Wishing you and your family strength as you celebrate Donovan's life and what fantastic parents you are!
www.caringbridge.org/mi/shelby
Julie Stimpson
Rochester hills, MI usa - Friday, January 26, 2007 7:28 AM CST

When I turned on Grey's tonight - I thought of you and was hoping that you would be able to watch it. I also thought of you during the show because of the patients. Even though we have never met - i think of your family everyday.
Shelly Pierson
Avon, mn - Friday, January 26, 2007 7:23 AM CST

I will be praying for your entire family as you continue on this journey. Please know that God is with you always. Peace.
Susan Mitchell <smitchel@calfee.com>
Cleveland, Ohio United States - Friday, January 26, 2007 7:14 AM CST

My thoughts and prayers are with you all across the miles as you celebrate Donovan in the following days. May you wrap yourselves in his love and gain the strength you need.

Much Love
Christine www.carepages.com BrandonM

Christine LaFleur <Chrystyne1112@yahoo.com>
Warren, RI USA - Friday, January 26, 2007 6:58 AM CST

Dear Family,

My thoughts and prayers are with you today, along with countless others. I pray you feel waves and waves of peace and comfort as you think of so many people who follow Donovan.
When my aunt's daughter died, the priest told her to let herself be carried by the love and support of all who loved her and her daughter, Betsy. I pray the same for you and your family.
Thank you for sharing Donovan with us.
Julie Ellis <julie@mercedesmarathon.com>
Bham, AL - Friday, January 26, 2007 6:36 AM CST

I watched Greys last night too and thought of you. Of course you'll have to fill me in on the ending because Kelly walked in and started throwing up! I wanted you to know that I am thinking of you today and though I wish I was there, I am in spirit.

God bless you all and baby D, we will never forget how you touchedour hearts!
Peace!
Robbin and Kelly
www.caringbridge.org/in/kellbell
Robbin Lyons <thomtalent@aol.com>
- Friday, January 26, 2007 6:34 AM CST

We will be thinking of you today and tomorrow and will be with you in spirit. Donovan will never be forgotten he was everybodies 'teddybear'. Thankyou for sharing your lives with us.

Angie, Chris, Owen, Tyler, and Jake Wawrzaszek (www.caringbridge.org/wa/owen) <awawrzaszek@hughes.net>
Auburn, NY usa - Friday, January 26, 2007 5:14 AM CST

Oh Melissa, I just love the portraits. The ones of you and Donovan alone are adorable! You can certainly tell the love you have for each other.

I actually thought of you tonight as I was watching Grey's. Might sound silly...but I have read so many times how you looked forward to Thursdays and loved watching it. Wow..tonight was a great episode!

You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers over the days to come. Little Baby D will forever hold a place in my heart.
Ginny Deegan <jgdeegan@msn.com>
Mtn. Home AFB, ID USA - Friday, January 26, 2007 1:44 AM CST

Praying so for your family right now!
Ps 25:1-2a: Unto thee, O LORD, do I lift up my soul. O my God, I trust in thee...
The Prayer Bears Website
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Friday, January 26, 2007 1:18 AM CST

You are in our hearts, and we will be with you in spirit tomorrow. I am so sorry that Donny's healing was not on this earth.....as I watched Andrew in a little program at school today, I thought of the moms that wont get to experience such treasures with their kids, and it made me sad. I know God can bring joy during even the darkest times, and I pray that for you.

Many hugs,
Kim
PS. Ill be rooting for the Colts during the Superbowl, and somehow I know that Donny's gonna pull all the right strings for them :)
Andrew's Page <kim.sprague@cox.net>
Ladera Ranch, CA USA - Friday, January 26, 2007 1:02 AM CST

Keeping you close to my heart and praying for you.
Pam Gerstner <ggpg6@yahoo.com>
Kenosha, wi - Thursday, January 25, 2007 11:52 PM CST

I have been thinking about you guys all week - this was my first chance to "check in" since last Saturday. I'm so sorry for your loss, but it is comforting to know that Donovan is running around healthy and happy in Heaven. I was thinking about him last Sunday, and hoping he got to see the Colts win. I will also be thinking about him, and your family, this weekend as you celebrate his life. Peace be with you.
Megan Farr <meganmfarr@hotmail.com>
Eau Claire, WI - Thursday, January 25, 2007 11:22 PM CST

Thinking of you guys. Just wanted to stop by and look at the cute photos of Donovan and Dylan.

We know sweet Donovan will be watching over you this weekend and always.

Tiffany - mom to Jackson and Faith <jetoneil@yahoo.com>
- Thursday, January 25, 2007 10:54 PM CST

Melissa, Darren & Dylan,

Just wanted to let you know that I will be thinking of you all this weekend and you Celebrate his life and say your final goodbye's. Even though I cannot be there in person, please know that I will be there in spirit. As I have said before Donovan was truly a Miracle and he will never be forgotten. I know he is watching down on you and giving you the strength you will need to get through this weekend and the days to come.
Amy Bellini <amy_bellini@farmfamily.com>
Troy, NY - Thursday, January 25, 2007 10:06 PM CST

Dear Melissa,
I'm so glad to hear that you are still doing fine and watching Grey's. :) (Two marriage proposals in one episode! Crazy!) I absolutely love all the new photos in the slideshow, especially the Christmas (?) photos -- everybody looks so beautiful. I stop by your page and think about Donovan every day. I miss him dearly, but I know that he is at peace, watching over you all. All my best~
Kelley Chuang <kschuang@gmail.com>
Durham, NC 27708 - Thursday, January 25, 2007 10:03 PM CST

I love all the new pics be sure to treasure them and I hope that it helps you to all remember was a strong little boy that Donovan was and still is as one of your angels. Tomorrow there will be so many people thinking of your whole family even if we are all not able to be there. Hope Donovan can help give you the answers to next weeks Grey's b/c I don't think we can all wait until next week:) Praying and thinking of you all and know that Baby D will never be forgotten and has touched some many peoples lives in his 2 years.
Marci Hummell <marci81@comcast.net>
Orlando , FL - Thursday, January 25, 2007 9:45 PM CST

Melissa, Darren and Dylan:

Our thoughts and prayers will be with you this weekend. We will be wearing orange in honor of Baby D and hope for a cure to this awful disease. God Bless.....

The Kelley's
Jim, Lisa and Kanon
The Kelley's <Kelley.Jim@gmail.com>
Brownsburg, IN - Thursday, January 25, 2007 9:44 PM CST

Just wanted you to know I am thinking of you. I have been thinking of Donovan all day and that sweet smile. I will miss that so much. I love you all and will see you tomm. night. Hope you enjoyed Grey's. (I had to tivo so I will watch it in the morning :)

Dana and the boys
Dana Jobst <dajobst@cox.net>
Hampton, VA - Thursday, January 25, 2007 9:39 PM CST

Hello,
Just stopped in to say Hi and to let you know that you are in my thoughts tonight and here is hoping that tomorrow and Saturday will be days filled with great memories of Donovan. You are not alone .. people in your cyber world are right by your side to help you along and even though we have never met, are support is there for you. Remember that this is not an end, but a new beginning and you have a very special angel on your shoulder. Remember, and smile, for nothing can take that away from you. We are all here for you.
Sue <swybrecht@sbcglobal.net>
Macomb, MI USA - Thursday, January 25, 2007 9:32 PM CST

The family pictures are precious...may you always cherish them. Praying for you always especially the next several days. I know Donovan's life will be celebrated in the most special way by the most special people in his life.
Karen Patterson <Anchormom@comcast.net>
New Castle, DE - Thursday, January 25, 2007 9:22 PM CST

Melissa, Darren, and Dylan,
I am still thinking about Donovan and you nearly non-stop, and I'm still praying too. Donovan was such a special little boy- I haven't cried this much since my own daughter was diagnosed with leukemia, and I cannot begin to comprehend your pain. Donovan has touched so so many lives. I know he WAS there with you, cuddling with you while you watched Grey's Anatomy tonight.
Heidi Krieger <HKrieger@wi.rr.com>
Racine, WI USA - Thursday, January 25, 2007 9:17 PM CST

Hi guys! Just wanted you to know I was here today. I love the new pictures you put up! You are all such a beautiful family. I so wish I could be with you all Friday and Saturday! Please know I'll be with you in spirit. Donovan is going to have an absolutely amazing send-off, that is for sure!
Tonight, on my way to the hospital to visit a friend of mine, the sun was setting, it was the brightest most beautiful shade of orange I've ever seen. And it lit against a most brilliant blue sky for evening. I thought of Donovan, and his courage, and beaming smiles - and of course, his love of the COLTS with all that blue. It was a really nice feeling, and I smiled thinking of your teddy bear. :o)
Kiddos, I need to get Anjali to bed soon. Couldn't end my day without stopping in and sending our love.
((((((BIG HUGS)))))) coming to all of you from Burlington!

Lots of love, 'Angel' Nickey <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
- Thursday, January 25, 2007 9:12 PM CST

Dear Darren, Melissa and Dylan, I just want you to know how I will be praying for you always but especially the next few days. I will be going to our church here in Carmel with my family on Fri, Sat and Sunday. We will devote all our prayers to you and your extended family. I just want you to know we will never give up praying for your family. God Bless You All!
Patti Campanella <campanella10@sbcglobal.net>
Carmel, IN 46033 - Thursday, January 25, 2007 8:44 PM CST

Thinking of you and praying for you today!
Love in Christ, Mary Holland
Mary Holland Doan <Godsgirl889@yahoo.com>
Memphis, TN USA - Thursday, January 25, 2007 8:11 PM CST

It is certainly amazing how many lives Baby Donovan touched, from all over the world. If that isn't a testament to how special he is then I don't know what is. Almost every caringbridge page you go on has a link to your page. What a wonderful, amazing family....we continue to think about you and will pray especially hard as you get through these next two days.

With much aloha,
Sheila and family
Sheila Bierwert <bierwertfam@yahoo.com>
Honolulu, HI - Thursday, January 25, 2007 7:39 PM CST

Just thinking about all of you
Take Care and BIG HUGS
Love you all
Brandy
www.caringbridge.org/mn/scottbabies
Brandy Hendershot <branmuffin1982@yahoo.com>
Ellsworth, WI - Thursday, January 25, 2007 7:39 PM CST

When I check the site everyday, I look at Donovans pictures and think this all can't be real. He looks so happy and is smiling in all of them. You guys did a great job keeping him comfortable and happy through out his days. I know it was a challenge sometimes. I really hate that I'm not going to be at his service. He was such a little cutie and has made a huge impact on many. Baby D will not be forgotten. Hang in there gang.
Heather Thompson <htast@aol.com>
Wilmington, - Thursday, January 25, 2007 6:51 PM CST

I've heard a lot of strong stories from Michelle, Blake's mom, about Baby Donovan. Blake was my very best friend and I am 100% sure that Blake is looking out for your son. I'll be praying for you guys for peace of mind and strength. There is a silver lining to every cloud, so just keep that in mind, as hard as it may seem, as you continue throughout your days.

In my prayers
Ryan Courtney <rcourtney0330@msn.com>
Gainesville, VA - Thursday, January 25, 2007 6:42 PM CST

Thinking of you guys today and always. You'll be in my heart more than normal over the next couple of days.

http://www.caringbridge.org/or/kaitlynp
Jennifer Powers <MommyJenRN@charter.net>
Central Point, OR USA - Thursday, January 25, 2007 6:26 PM CST

Dear Melissa, Darren and Dylan,
Over the next two days in particular, I am praying HARD for all of you. God bless your family and may the Blessed Mother shine upon you, Melissa, and hold you.

I emailed the Colts today. They need to send you 3 to some sunshine and temporary relief in Miami.
A Mom Friend in MA
- Thursday, January 25, 2007 6:24 PM CST

Sorry about the death of your son. We lost a 9 month old boy in 1969 and let me remind you , you never forget. Time goes on but I go on becuase I know I have someone watching over me and my family. They make us special because we have an angel.My heart goes out to the family. Please take care.I do think your baby was watching over the Colts Sunday night. Sure wish they could have played the New Orleans Saints in the Super Bowl..Go Colts!!!!!!!!!
Diane Templet <ddtemplet@cox.net>
St. Amant, La. - Thursday, January 25, 2007 6:17 PM CST

Melissa, Darren and Dylan - Words cannot express the sadness I feel for your loss of precious Donovan. You have been so strong for him and did everything right...that's why God made you his mommy and no one else. I can't wait to meet him someday and give him that hug I always felt when the pictures on your site came up. You all are in my prayers. COLTS ALL THE WAY :-) Love in Christ,

Anna Mastro <mastroanna@aol.com>
Pittsburgh, PA - Thursday, January 25, 2007 5:46 PM CST

Thinking and praying for you and your family. I have been following your story for about a year now. From one mom to another, cherish the memories and be strong for Dylan and your husband. Little D is not suffering now and that should give you comfort. Bless you always.

Kim Maddux <kim@manda.net>
Alamo, CA - Thursday, January 25, 2007 4:43 PM CST

Good Evening everyone. Just wanted to let you know we're all thinking of you. May God and Donovan give you the strength you need in these coming days.
God Bless you all-
Jodie (Matt's Aunt) and the Gang
Ft Wayne, IN - Thursday, January 25, 2007 4:24 PM CST

Hi Melissa,
We're thinking of you tonight, and about the visitation and services. I read about Nancy and her friends' efforts with the orange ribbons. Donovan touched so many lives, I'll bet 500 won't be enough. Graydon, Tessa and I will wear orange ribbons tomorrow and Saturday, and spread the story of Donovan's battle and triumph. I wish you and Darren and Dylan strength in the upcoming days.
Love,

Jacquelyn, Tessa and Graydon (ALL-KIDS list) (www.caringbridge.org/canada/graydon) <jacquelynwv@yahoo.ca>
Toronto, ON Canada - Thursday, January 25, 2007 3:54 PM CST

Hey guys,
Wishing you well as you head into a difficult weekend. I know Donny is watching you and sending down his love. God bless you all.
Robbin
Robbin Lyons <thomtalent@aol.com>
- Thursday, January 25, 2007 3:53 PM CST

Hi Melissa,
You don't know me but I started following your story months ago when I got the link off of my friends caring for cambridge site. I loved to visit everyday because it was so awesome to read about what an incredible mother you are and how lucky Donovan was and Dylan is to have you. No matter what the news, you always had a great spin on everything. You have the best pictures and it was so much fun to see what the boys were doing. Even though I do not know you, you are TRULY an inspiration to me and the best mother I have ever know. I have 2 daughter 2 and 3 years old and I can only hope that one day I will be as wonderful as a mother as you are. Thinking about your family always.
Cindy
Wyckoff, NJ USA - Thursday, January 25, 2007 3:53 PM CST

My thoughts and prayers are with your family in this difficult time.

www.caringbridge.org/visit/katelynvanghle
Andrea Van Ghle <andrea_vanghle@yahoo.com>
- Thursday, January 25, 2007 3:46 PM CST

Melissa,
My heart is with you.
Linda Tienda <j.tienda@worldnet.att.net>
- Thursday, January 25, 2007 3:44 PM CST

You don't know me, but I read of your son's passing through the website for my cousin's son, Sean Henry. I just wanted share my deepest sympathies with your family. I cannot imagine the heartbreak you must feel and it saddens me to think of anyone having to go through such a loss. Please take comfort in the fact that Donovan is with God, and watching over your family. Take comfort in the precious, blessed time you had with him and may the wings he now wears eventually lift your spirits.
Colleen S. <inourprayers@baltimore.com>
Baltimore, MD USA - Thursday, January 25, 2007 3:39 PM CST

I found your site through another Caringbridge site, and I just wanted to say how sorry I am about your son's passing. I have an almost five year old boy, and I have another son who was born the same day as Donovan. My heart aches for you. Life is just not fair sometimes. Please take care of yourselves the best you can. There are a lot of people praying for you!
Julie Bodenstein <juliebodenstein@yahoo.com>
MA - Thursday, January 25, 2007 2:41 PM CST

Melissa, Darren and Dylan,
I just wanted to let you know that you're in my heart and constantly in my thoughts and prayers.
I'll especially be thinking of you tomorrow and Saturday. I'm sure everything will be beautiful.
Take care you guys. (((hugs)))
Jenn Huston
South Bend, IN - Thursday, January 25, 2007 2:29 PM CST

Just wanted to let you know that your friends at Riley are thinking about you all.
Sharon RN, CPNP
Indianapolis, in - Thursday, January 25, 2007 1:58 PM CST

Melissa and family:
Just popping by to say hi & let you know were thinking of you.
Charlene & Becky www.caringbridge.org/canada/beckybunny
Ones Who Care & Angel_Wings
OWC and Angel_Wings
.**.**.**.**.**.**.**. <cb_withowcandaw@yahoo.ca>
- Thursday, January 25, 2007 1:12 PM CST

Hi Melissa~
I am just dropping by to check on you guys today and see how you are doing. I am praying for you constantly as I know where you are right now. God did not bring us together by chance...there was a reason behind it. Some may think that it was because our kids needed transplants, but I feel as if God knew there was more to it. Please know that my heart is with you and your entire family. I want to call, but I know that sometimes (from my own experience) that you just maybe don't feeling like talking...so please know that I am here for you if you would like to talk. I am praying for God to give you strength as you are approaching the next couple of days. My heart and prayers are with you my friend.
Much love and lots of prayers~

Jan Chapdelaine aka Mimi to Hailey & ^Makayla^ <jannyjo@cox.net>
Virginia Beach, VA - Thursday, January 25, 2007 1:11 PM CST

I came across your story "by accident" while shopping for baby gear on craigs list. I cannot put into words how your Baby D has affected me!! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. You have all been so brave. Have comfort in knowing that God will get you through this and He is taking perfect care of Baby Donovan. We are Steeler fans, but this year we are pulling for the Colts!! God bless you and your family.
Fonda Sharp <sharp030@mc.duke.edu>
Raleigh, NC USA - Thursday, January 25, 2007 12:55 AM CST

melissa and family.
I read your journal everyday. You are such a good writer. I felt close to you all. I am so sorry for your loss and i have no words of wisdom for you. God bless you and your family and i hope you keep us posted how you all are doing .
Denise husband Bryan, twin boys brett and owen 2 and daughter taylor 8 who is a ALL survivor
Denise <denise107@aol.com>
Hacienda Hts, ca - Thursday, January 25, 2007 12:21 AM CST

Sending you prayers and stength.
Renee <rforte0531@sbcglobal.net>
Cheshire, CT - Thursday, January 25, 2007 11:31 AM CST

Dear Melissa & Darren,
I keep checking back time and again, just to see Donovan's picture. I LOVE the vignette with Donovan's "game face" in the background. What a FAN!!!!

I know these days are hard - and Dylan's innocent questions can make them harder. I hope sharing a story from my own son's questioning can help.

Garrett was almost six and asking about Heaven. He asked about the heart - how it worked, why it would stop working and such. We talked about the heart's job and why it's so important to our bodies - and why our bodies shut down when the heart stops. Still confused, he asked how we could still talk to someone who died, since their ears didn't work anymore - and the light went on.

We talked about how everyone has a physical body that we can see and touch, but that we also have another part that makes us different from every other person in the world. We call it our soul. We talked about how the soul is really the most important part of a person - that the soul, not the body, is what really makes a person special. Only God can see your soul - but everyone who knows you can feel it in their own, especially if your soul is kind and loving. That, I assured him, was the part of a person that goes to Heaven when we die. We can put our bodies away, because we don't need them anymore. God calls the best part to Him - and it never, ever dies.
After a small silence, his face slowly lit with understanding. Then he said something that I'll never forget, as long as I live. "Mama," he said, "I know what my soul is. It's my LOVE part!"

I know that Donovan's soul is listening for Dylan - and that your own is one of the strongest, kindest, most loving I know. May Our Lord grant them both Peace - here and in Heaven.

Love and Rainbow Smiles to You All,
Dawn Dorsett
Dawn Dorsett
North East, MD - Thursday, January 25, 2007 10:57 AM CST

Many prayers, countless hugs, and much love from Minnesota! Thinking of you guys constantly. As hard as it is to think Donovan in no longer physically with you, it is also sooooo wonderful to know that he is close in spirit AND that he is pain free. It brings a smile to my face knowing that he is running around, laughing and cancer free. He deserves such glory! Please feel the support we are sending over the miles! God bless~
The Botz's
www.caringbridge.org/visit/carterbotz
Mary Botz <jmbotz@hotmail.com>
- Thursday, January 25, 2007 10:49 AM CST

Melissa and family-
I know you have probably seen this poem before, but it always brings me comfort when I think of the loved one that my family lost to leukemia. May God bless your family during this difficult time.

What Cancer Cannot Do
Cancer is so limited.
It cannot cripple love,
It cannot shatter hope,
It cannot corrode faith,
It cannot destroy peace,
It cannot kill friendship,
It cannot suppress memories,
It cannot silence courage,
It cannot invade the soul,
It cannot steal eternal life,
It cannot conquer the spirit.
Jessica <gilbertson_jessica@yahoo.com>
Bismarck, ND - Thursday, January 25, 2007 10:16 AM CST

We think of you and your family always!
Tiffany Drummond Armstrong - The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society <tiffany.armstrong@lls.org>
- Thursday, January 25, 2007 10:03 AM CST

Please know that I am keeping Sweet Little Donovan and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

~Angel~ Connie
Connie Walczak <Walczak55@comcast.net>
- Thursday, January 25, 2007 9:57 AM CST

Just wanted you to know that we are praying for you guys. Know how hard the days are. It is hard with all the hours to fill when there is no longer meds to give or appointments to go to. It has been almost 4 weeks since Kyle passed away, while the days are not easier we are finally getting used to the free time.
If you ever want to email, I am around.
Donna and Angel^Kyle^ Noble www.caringbridge.org/oh/kyle <donnanoble2001@yahoo.com>
Grove City, OH USA - Thursday, January 25, 2007 9:46 AM CST

Just noticed the new pictures. They are great and what a great memory those will be. I am sure there were lots of memories made the day they were taken. Just wanting you to know that I am thinking about you all today.

www.freewebs.com/prayerbears/
Kerry Chapman
Grand Island, NE - Thursday, January 25, 2007 9:46 AM CST

Just thinking about you guys and wanted to let you know.
K-C <kellychristine.day@citigroup.com>
EAstchester, NY - Thursday, January 25, 2007 9:33 AM CST

We just wanted to let you know that we're praying for all of you as you deal with the pain of loosing your little one. What a blessing to have had the opportunity to have him in your home these past two years! Each little one is so special. Perhaps Philippians 4:1-8 would be a special encouragement to you during these days.
Connie Robertson <robertson@ctrmax.cl>
Talca, CHILE - Thursday, January 25, 2007 8:31 AM CST

Dear Meliisa & Darren,
I read about Donovan few days ago & was terriblly shattered to know that he earned his angel wings!!
I just did'nt have the words that can give comfort or bring him back.I know the feeling,the pain& heart break it must have caused every one of the family members.He was the most adorable,lovable kiddo ever.We will always remember him as the youngest boy we will ever know with tremendous charisma to draw so many people to him in such a short time on earth!!May God be with you always.You are in our prayers everyday.
Love you all,

Sonia Sekhri <sonia2sekhri@hotmail.com>
New Delhi, India - Thursday, January 25, 2007 7:58 AM CST

I have been following Donovan's story for a while now, I ususally don't sign in. I am sorry for your loss of Donovan, your entire family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Amy Lay
Racine, WI - Thursday, January 25, 2007 7:54 AM CST

Melissa and family,
My heart goes out to you at this time, and I will keep all of your family in my prayers. Dononvan had such an impact on so many people in the short time that he was on this earth. My son is a 10-year cancer survivor this month, and I actually feel guilty about that when I hear of other children that don't beat the odds. None of us here on earth can understand God's plan, we just have to trust that He will give us strength and peace to get through the trials that we face. "God comforts us so that we may be able to comfort others with that same comfort." II Cor. 7:3-4.
Therese Blakley <tblakl@yahoo.com>
Platte City, MO USA - Thursday, January 25, 2007 6:56 AM CST

I'm glad you guys are staying busy and hangin in there. I find myself thinking about your family a lot praying for your comfort. If you guys made it through the last two years, you can do anything.
Love & Prayers,
Amy Nasworthy <mnasworthy@tampabay.rr.com>
St. Pete, FL - Thursday, January 25, 2007 6:49 AM CST

Melissa and family,
Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I have never met you, seen you once at Riley when you and your mother was making a poster for a fundraiser, but I have followed Donovan for some time and he was a very couragous boy. You all are! May you find peace during this difficult time. www.caringbridge.org/in/cassandra
Renee' Jones <goinkrazy@insightbb.com>
Richmond, In - Thursday, January 25, 2007 6:13 AM CST

Dear Melissa, Please know that I will be with you in spirit today, tomorow and always in prayer. Two years when we met with the other Indy moms we could have in no way known that baby Donovan would earn the ultimate cure, to be cured by God himself, but I just know that he is one happy little boy now. Although I never did get to give him my hug, I have hugged him so many times through my granddaughter. My God be with you and your family. Cecelia
Cecelia Kenna www.caringbridge.org/in/dustinkenna <ckenna@sbcglobal.net>
Lebanon, IN - Thursday, January 25, 2007 5:24 AM CST

Dear Rasmussen Family,
I was a student nurse at Riley and took care of Baby Donovan a few times. I am sorry to hear of your loss, but grateful Donovan has no more pain. I have followed a few of the Riley kids after I left. I now work at IU Med Center in the Special Care Nursery as an RN. It seems like not that long ago we were decorating Baby D's room for his monthly birthdays while in his room, especially with Sally & Megan the other student nurse. Please know that your family and Brother Dylan are in my prayers
Becky Skirvin <beckyskirvin@yahoo.com>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Thursday, January 25, 2007 5:16 AM CST

Hi Melissa, praying for strength for you and your family. Baby Donovan is surely smiling down from Heaven and waving to you all laughing out loud and being his sweet self. Glad that you are at peace.

With warmest wishes,
Ann
Ann <annlatimer@optusnet.com.au>
Sydney, NSW Australia - Thursday, January 25, 2007 2:31 AM CST

Just stopping by to say that your family remains in my thoughts and prayers. It's so sad and so sweet that Dylan was drawing a picture for his little brother; I'm sure that Dylan will always have a very special angel on his shoulder to watch over him.
Denise Ward <deniward@shaw.>
Winnipeg, Canada - Thursday, January 25, 2007 2:18 AM CST

Continuing to pray for you! What a blessing it is that we can call upon the Lord in times of trouble!
Ps 91:15: He shall call upon me, and I will answer him: I will be with him in trouble; I will deliver him, and honour him.
The Prayer Bears Website
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Thursday, January 25, 2007 1:06 AM CST

Hello Darren, Melissa, & Dylan,

We just wanted to let you know that you are on our hearts each and every day and we are asking the Lord for lots of extra love, support, and strength to carry you through. The pictures you added to your site just brought tears to my eyes as I sat and watched them on the slide show. Thanks soo much for sharing those precious photos with all of us.

All Our Love, Thoughts, Prayers, & Big Teddy Bear Hugs
Are Coming Your Way From The Weekly Prayer List!!!
Love - Bill, Stacey, Josh, & Ben
The Reich Family <weluvobx@adelphia.net>
Winchester, VA USA - Thursday, January 25, 2007 0:29 AM CST

Sending many prayers. especially for sweet Dylan. I would highly recommend the book Tear Soup by Pat Schweibert. It is a beautiful story on grief for all ages.

May your hearts be full of Donovan and much peace each and every day.
Mindi <melinda_chouinard@hotmail.com>
Tacoma, WA - Thursday, January 25, 2007 0:05 AM CST

Dear Melissa,
My deepest sympathy to you. On Sunday, my 10-year-old son and I cried together when we learned that your precious little Donovan had gone to heaven. "To be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord", and for that we rejoice for Donny, but we cried for you as a mother, Darren as a father, and for Dylan losing his sweet baby brother. Together we prayed for all of you, that God would put his loving arms around you and comfort you, as only He can. Words just aren't adequate at a time like this.
Joleen <freqflyer888@yahoo.com>
WI USA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 11:46 PM CST

Hi Melissa,
It was sure nice to hear from you today....I know your missing sweet Donavan so much...I am praying for all of you, and just feel bad for Dylan also. Your a strong woman and you have taught me so much through sharing your journey with us. Thank you so much for that. I continue to hold you close to my heart in thoughts and prayer.
Colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
Muskegon, mi usa - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 11:26 PM CST

"The day you die is better than the day you are born."
Ecclesiastes 7:1

My first impulsive answer to this is "NO WAY!" How can that be?? And when I think of Jacob's birth and death - I can assure you that the day Jacob was born was a much better day than the day he died. I felt incredible happiness on the day he was born - and nothing but the weight of grief and sadness on the day he passed on to Heaven. So how can this scripture be true??

But if I step back and look at Jacob's life from HIS point of view and not mine . . . knowing all the hardships he would endure from the moment he was born . . . and then consider all the JOYS he would have from the moment of his death - then this scripture makes more sense to me. We are born into a broken world - filled with evil and always ending in death. Yet for those who believe - when we die we are "born" into Heaven - where there is no pain, no death, no evil and we can live there forever - safe in the arms of God.

So is Jacob in a "better place?" Absolutely! Heaven is by far a better place than earth. Jacob has not really died - for Jesus has conquered death! And I really like the way someone worded it in the guestbook . . . They said that Jacob is HOME and he is just waiting for us to get there. No, this life is not our home - it is just a temporary journey on our way to Heaven! A journey to give us an opportunity to serve God, to help others, to love and to learn along the way. It is a journey filled with blessings and hardships - but always a journey filled with God's love and strength.

Believing in Heaven and knowing that Jacob is completely safe and perfect in the presence of God brings us tremendous peace . . . however the sting of Jacob's absence and the pain of his loss will always be there. It lingers under the surface, behind our smiles and in our hearts. It can resurface instantly - with a memory, a picture, a song or one of Brandon's endless questions. But the pain always ends with HOPE . . . Hope that we will see Jacob again. HOPE that Jacob's pain and our grief will bring glory to God. HOPE that Gods' grace will sustain us. HOPE that we can celebrate each day. HOPE that we can comfort others. HOPE that the best is yet to come . . .

And in thinking about Jacob so much this week - I can't help but to think back to this time last year . . . we were blessed with a wonderful month with Jacob. He felt great and we took advantage of every moment by going to Disneyworld almost every weekend during the month of January!
�Life gives us brief moments with another . . . but sometimes in those brief moments we get memories that last a life time...�
Author Unknown
How I thank God for so many memories to last me a lifetime . . .
Melissa... Heather Duckworth wrote this on her son Jacob's site and her words are just so powerful. I can only hope that this gives you some peace. Amanda and I continue to pray for you and your family. Please know that I will be there in spirit on Friday and Saturday. Thinking of you and remembering a wonderful Thanksgiving, forever being greatful for being able to spend the holiday with Donovan. Keep the faith and know that we are here for you whenever you need us.
Love, Colleen and Amanda
www.caringbridge.org/visit/amandaconatymoser
Colleen Conaty <amandasheart@gmail.com>
Glenolden, Pa U.S.A. - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 11:13 PM CST

Melissa, Darren and Dylan,
I see that you have added pictures to your website. They are SO special. You are so much in my thoughts and prayers this past week (and before). I actually had to look up last week to see who the Colts actually were (basketball or football LOL) and I watched the game off and on Sunday night and cheered when they actually won. All I could think of was Donovan rooting them on from the best seat in the house. He knows how important it was for Mommy to see that game that day. You guys are so lucky for having that sweet little soul in your lives for even a short time. He has made quite an impact on the rest of the world. Be proud of him and be proud of yourself even in this difficult time. I know it is difficult in the here and now but you have memories that will live on forever. I PROMISE, there will be a time in your life when you will look back and smile, with no tears. YOU DID THE LITTLEST COLTS FAN PROUD!!!!
Sue <swybrecht@sbcglobal.net>
Macomb, MI USA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 10:42 PM CST

Sending lots of love and prayers your way. I hope your family is continuing on with the strength and love only God can provide --
Carrie Stroud
Carrie (mom to Camden) <dstroud2@ec.rr.com>
Morehead City, NC United States - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 10:09 PM CST

I am sooooo very sorry for the loss of your adorable son Donovan. May God bless you and carry you thru this most difficult road you have before you. Donovan is now painfree and soaring with the angels.
Jamie Bates <jamiebates2@cox.net>
Edmond, ok - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 10:08 PM CST

Hello Rasmussen Family!
Had to stop by and let you all know I was here and thinking of you. Your Dyllie-Bar Dylan is quite the little man. What a sweet picture he was making for his brother. It must be so hard for him trying to understand things that even us adults have a hard time coming to grips to and fully understanding. That's where FAITH comes in, and I know you and your family have an amazing faith that has sustained you so well already. Grammie - I miss your stories. Please know I am thinking of you, sending you hugs as well. I never heard the song you sang Donovan, but I always loved the words to it you posted at the end of your entries. I hope those tunes are bringing you some comfort as well.
I wish you all sweet dreams , may Donovan come and pat and smile and play to you all tonight and help comfort your hearts in knowing he is with Jesus.
((((((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))))))))) from us all in Burlington! We love you so much!
Lots of love, 'Angel' Nickey <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
Burlington, IA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 9:34 PM CST

I have to keep coming here to see Donny and to check on you. I know you must be so very lonely without him, and missing him at every turn. I have Donny's photograph on my refrigerator big and smiling, almost winking at me. I hope your ears and hearts ring with the memory of his laughter and flirtatious ways. If I know anything, it's that you will live these moments and days as you have all the rest; experiencing it all fully, good and the bad.
Erica Hoelscher, mom to Zenus, ALL-kids <ebh2@lehigh.edu>
- Wednesday, January 24, 2007 8:45 PM CST

I'm still here praying for you all, as always. Your sweet little Donovan was truly a special little boy. He had my whole family mesmerized. We all would check on him several times each day, and remembered to pray for him daily.

And now, we continue to check on and pray for you.
Sandi Queen (Jeremiah's Mommy) caringbridge.org/pa/jeremiah <queens@greenepa.net>
- Wednesday, January 24, 2007 8:39 PM CST

Always here....just checking in, "I've always told my girls that Heaven is in our Hearts, right in the spot where love comes from...it's the most special place you can ever imagine." Thinking and praying for you all.
Hugs and more hugs...
Mommy Koren and Bryce
Koren Adams <kaadams@charter.net>
Durham, NC usa - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 8:34 PM CST

I�m sorry for your loss.A beautiful and brave baby. A beautiful and brave family. My deepest respects. All the love and hope for you.
soledad <eripley25@yahoo.com.ar>
argentina - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 8:28 PM CST

I hope you all know that yall are incredible, such and inspiration for our family. Donovan and your whole family stood up and fought when I know all you wanted to do was lay down and quit. Keep your heads held high, you and baby D gave it everything you had plus some. I just pray for the strength that you guys have, my son Austin was diagnosed in September 2005 with ALL, we start an intensive protcol in the morning and we are very nervous about it. His site is www.caringbridge.org/visit/austinscott
We continue to pray for you all everyday, god bless you.
Marty, Leigh Anne, Austin Scott
Marty Scott <immdscott@yahoo.com>
pelzer , sc usa - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 8:16 PM CST

Dear Melissa,Darren and Dylan,
You don't know me but I have been following Donovans' caringbridge site for some time now. What a sweetheart he was(and IS}. You all are such wonderful parents! The boys are lucky to have you.
I would like to send Dylan some coloring books and I wanted to make sure this would be ok with you. I hope they will make him smile for a bit. Please let me know if this is ok with you so I can get them in the mail.
Thank you and my thoughts are with you all.
Ms. Taylor Black
South Burlington, VT - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 7:47 PM CST

Sorry for your loss. What a beautiful website you created for your precious one! You can see that you are surrounded by love, we will pray for you and were directed here through a friend with ALL in Clovis, CA
Thoughts and prayers
Kim Marks <jarrett_kim@sbcglobal.net>
Clovis, CA U.S. - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 7:38 PM CST

Hello,
I am so sorry for your loss. I started following your journey when one of my students was diagnosed with leukemia last year. Dylan's portrait of his brother hits it right on, Donovan lives in his heart and always will. My students are constantly talking about the colts (middle school art students) and everytime I hear them I think about Baby Donovan and smile. Thank you for sharing your family with us, please continue to let us know how you are doing.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Michele Burrows <mrburrows@twcny.rr.com>
Syracuse, Ny usa - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 6:58 PM CST

Melissa and Darren and Dylan ~ You have all been on my mind and in my heart all day. I wish so much that I could be there...I know that there is nothing that I can do or say to bring you any comfort, but I want so much to be there to tell you how much Donovan and all of you mean to me. You are an amazing family and I just want you to know that not a moment goes by that I am not thinking of you.
Love ~
Alicia - Cammie's Mommy <alicia415@comcast.net>
Brownsburg, IN - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 6:11 PM CST

I am truly sorry to hear of the passing of your sweet baby boy. He is a beautiful child. I am a good friend of baby Curran's mom and I know that Curran welcomed Donovan with a great huge smile in heaven. (He has really great smiles.) I pray for peace and comfort for you and your family. Take care.
Jodee Chapman <ronjod@hotmail.com>
Belmont, CA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 6:03 PM CST

Melissa and family-
I just wrote yesterday but checked in today and saw that Dylan is asking questions about heaven. About 5 years ago my Mom passed away unexpectedly and our oldest daughter at the time was the same age as Dylan is now. Up here in Minnesota they have a camp (Camp Amanda) which is for school age children that are grieving the loss of someone close to them. It worked wonders for our daughter. They have many activites (climbing wall, anger wall, fussy balls, candlelight service, and a doctor on hand to answer questions the children may have concerning what happened to there loved one(s).) I found out through our local newspaper about this camp and contacted one of the local funeral home about it and they had a video tape that we watched. The funeral home also sponsored our daughter to go. I don't know if N. Carolina has something like this for grieving children but probably something that Dylan might benefit from if there is. Also it helped the rest of the family as they had a time where each family released balloons in memory of the loved one(s) that had passed away. I just wanted you to know about this Camp and hoping that there is something like this in your state. I am constantly praying for your family and missing Baby Donovan as well, he is such a precious angel...
Jen <djechw@iw.net>
Luverne, MN United States - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 5:48 PM CST

Melissa,
I have been thinking of you all constantly. I can't even really imagine how hard this is.
It was and continues to be challenging explaining the concept of heaven to the kids. I do have some really good books for children on this though. If you would like, I would be honored to pass some along to you.
I know that we have not met in person and my loss is different than yours, but if you ever want or need to talk, please know that I am here. If you want, I can e-mail you my phone number and we could talk...anytime and I mean *any* time.
Hang in there.
With love and deep sympathy,
Donna Guarton (ALL-KIDS) www.caringbridge.org/ny/mollyg)
Donna Guarton <dguarton@aol.com>
N. Bellmore, NY USA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 5:36 PM CST

Just dropping by to let you know you are still in my thoughts and prayers. Although Dylan might not understand exactly where Heaven is, he will be able to feel his brother's presence. Kids seem to be able to tap into that energy better than adults. Take good care and hang in there.
Kim T. <t6834@aol.com>
Glendale, AZ USA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 5:31 PM CST

When i opened your journal today and saw what you had wrote about Dylan asking if this was heaven, it made me think about how to really explain to these young children heaven and how awesome it is. LAst night while I was giving my daughter a bath, she told me about the dog at daycare that died and was in heaven now. I tired to explain heaven to her and that Daisy, the dog, was running around playing catch with Jesus. She said in her two year old manner, "No mommy, Jesus is at church" I tried at least half a dozen times to explain to her where heaven is. Wow, I know we did not see eye to eye. I thought of you guys last night and wondered if Dylan was confused about where heaven was. And then I opened your journal. I pray for your continued strength and guidance from our Lord for you this weekend. Thinking of you always...

www.freewebs.com/prayerbears
Kerry Chapman
Grand Island, NE - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 4:38 PM CST

Dear Rasmussen Family,
As many people, I have followed the updates on your precious Donovan. Tiffany and Jackson in CA have kept us posted on your journey.
We are especially holding you in thought and prayer during these next few days.
Please know that so many of us will be with you in spirit as you celebrate Donovan's life.
Much peace and blessings to your family.
Barbara Thorsen <btsunflower@sbcglobal.net>
Cotati, CA USA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 4:35 PM CST

Dear Melissa, Darren and Dylan-
Love the new pictures! Your family is so special. It is clear that Donovan was surrounded by love always! Thank you for sharing him with us.
Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers,
Julie Sessor
Julie Sessor <juliesessor@cox.net>
Roanoke, VA U.S.A. - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 4:30 PM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan,Extended Family, Just checking in on you. Sweet Dylan,how sweet the heart was, you can tell he's really missing his little brother, as you all are.Thinking of you all many..many times a day, keeping you close in thoughts and prayers. Baby D..I'm sure you are sending Mommy, Daddy, and Dylan, signs, that even though your in Heaven now, you are still all around them. Thousands are missing you Baby D..but forever in our hearts you will stay.
Karen <indianagal_2004@yahoo.com>
- Wednesday, January 24, 2007 4:28 PM CST

Hey Melissa, Darren, Dylan, Grammy and Papa...my thoughts and prayers are with you. It has been such a hard week to be at work and not see you guys around. I'm glad that Donovan is not having pain anymore and is giggling and playing up in heaven! I won't be able to make it this weekend, but I will be in touch.
Nurse Brooke <brookecapel@yahoo.com>
Durham, NC - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 3:54 PM CST

Dear Melissa, Darren and family
I'm so sorry to hear that your little teddy bear Donovan has gone from you. The pictures of him with all of his family are adorable, he is just so beautiful, it makes my heart hurt. Now he is an angel, at peace. One day you will meet again and hug him again. Take care,
Love Angela
Angela <p.sturges@tiscali.fr>
France - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 3:43 PM CST

Dear Melissa,
There are so many people around the world thinking and praying for your family! I am glad to know that everyone is doing well in these hard times - hang in there! Dylan is such a strong, introspective, and thoughtful little boy. You have such beautiful children! If I can get a ride to the wake on Friday I will try my best to be there, but if not I will definitely be there on Saturday morning. All my prayers and best wishes,
Kelley Chuang <kschuang@gmail.com>
Durham, NC 27708 - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 3:43 PM CST

we all fell in love with Donovan through your journals. Thank you for sharing him with us.
Wishing you continued peace.

Love Shelley Hartsuyker (CP: KrystaDremel) <hugseveryday@hotmail.com>
Jackson, CA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 3:29 PM CST

Thinking of you today and praying for you.

Missing the teddy bear,
Chari Warner <millymango40@yahoo.com>
Alpharetta, GA USA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 3:12 PM CST

Melissa and Darren,

Our family is wearing orange ribbons beginning tomorrow until Sunday in honor of sweet Donovan. I wish I could be there in person...you know I would if Matthew's spinal tap wasn't on the same day. I'll be thinking of you all!

With Love,
Nancy and the Gang
caringbridge.org/in/matthewk
Nancy Vinson <Nvinson@comcast.net>
- Wednesday, January 24, 2007 3:09 PM CST

I love the new pictures, how precious Donnie & Dylan are. I think of you all so often. The world seems much sadder and more incomplete without Donovan. Please know that you always have our love and prayers.

Cammy Parsons -- mother to Laken www.caringbridge.org/visit/lakenparsons <parsons@fullnet.com >
Huntingburg, IN USA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 3:05 PM CST

Melissa and family, Just wanted you to know you are always and constantly in my prayers. I am missing Donovan very much myself even though never meeting him in person that smile just grabbed me..Love, Marci The Prayer Bears
http://www.freewebs.com/prayerbears
Marci Connell <mac093@bellsouth.net>
Valdosta, GA USA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 3:04 PM CST

So sorry to hear of your great loss. I am the parent of a baby who died also although it is quite some time ago. It is so terribly difficult and does get easier after time but never goes away. I am praying for you.
prayer warrior
- Wednesday, January 24, 2007 3:01 PM CST

Praying for peace and comfort, praying for you and Darren and little Dylan as he tries to understand what has happened. You are in my thoughts and prayers and even though we have never met, it is clear through your words how amazing Donovan was and will be in your hearts and how wonderful your family is.
Jennifer <jen@igreenwood.com>
Excelsior, MN - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 2:21 PM CST

Melissa and family~
I just wanted to let you know that I was thinking of you and keeping you in my prayers all day long. I am thanking God for your strength that I know that you are drawing from Him. Continue to lean on Him and He will continue to keep you in His care...
I love and miss you~
Jan aka Mimi to Makayla (in Heaven) & Hailey
http://www.freewebs.com/prayerbears/
Jan Chapdelaine <jannyjo@cox.net>
Virginia Beach, VA USA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 2:02 PM CST

Hoping, praying, knowing that my Ellis was there to show your Donovan all the fun places to run and sing and play.

www.caringbridge.org/mn/ellis
Melissa <melissabergstrom@yahoo.com>
- Wednesday, January 24, 2007 1:51 PM CST

Praying for the peace only God can bring at a time like this. God bless and keep you all. Bearhugs.
Amy Clark <proverbschapterthree@yahoo.com>
Chillicothe, OH - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 1:39 PM CST

Dear God,

When a little child leaves us....
Our first question is...Why?
Why not let this child live?
Why did he have to die?
How can such a thing occur?
Why couldn't he stay longer?
We have prayed for this sweet boy...
"Oh Lord help him grow stronger"...
And still he leaves this place on earth...
Despite each prayer and plea...
To join so many other's...
In sweet eternity...
His life has taught us many things...
His journey touched us so...
But why Lord must this happen?
Why did he have to go?

Beloved child,

Your pain has reached the heaven's child...
Please don't think I don't know...
How very much it hurts inside...
To let your child go...
He sits with me this very day...
In heaven up-above...
Surrounded by my angels...
But held still...by your love.
The doubts may always be with you...
And as I hear your cries...
I ask you to consider...
Some of the other "whys"...
Why did his smile light the room...
On the cloudiest of days?
How could he touch a multitude...
In oh so many ways?
Why does his courage guide you...
In ways you can't convey...
Why does his life make other's...
Stop...to hope and pray.
Heaven may seem far away...
Days and months and years....
A longing to see his sweet face...
And wash away your tears...
Have faith child...when I tell you...
Your not truly apart....
You've held a piece of heaven...
Forever in your heart.
Goodbye seems all to final...
"He's gone" just isn't true...
"He lives on in each of us"...
In what we say and do...
"Why"....did we know a miracle?
Who brought us such great joy?
Why did we get a chance to know...
This very special boy?
A miracle... a special gift..
Loved beyond all measure...
Only for a little while...
For all to know and treasure.
Hold onto that most joyous day...
A tear,a smile, a sigh...
When he is in your arms again...
You'll never say...goodbye.

Dawn Pickens <dpickens_42@yahoo.com>
Beaumont, Tx - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 1:06 PM CST

Melissa,

I'll be there with you in spirit on Friday. You've been on my mind and in my heart all week. Just wanted you to know...

Love,
Lisa, mom to Brian & Kevin (www.caringbridge.com/va/kevin) <ltignor@comcast.net>
Montclair, VA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 12:54 AM CST

Thinking of you all often as I go about my day-to-day things. I just love the pictures on the site--your love for each other is so evident, and Donovan's smile just beams out at all of us. Your telling of Dylan's picture was just so sweet. Praying that you all will find your way through this valley.
Kristi Gerdon <kgerdon@widrick.com>
Croghan, NY - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 12:37 AM CST

Go Colts!
When we're watching the SuperBowl, and Peyton throws a pass that seems to glide into the receiver's hands - we know Donovan is there helping!
Thinking of your family.

Deb - Riley Mom <dtaylor@brickyard.com>
Indpls, In - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 12:36 AM CST

Melissa,
I have been thinking about your constantly. I wish I could go to the service. I had already decided that if you had a service in Indy, I would drive in, but I just can't get out to N.C. But, know that I will be there in spirit. I donated on Donny's picture apge, hoping to help with the funeral, but use it however you like. Words can not begin to express my thoughts, as a mom and as a cancer mom. I suppport you, weeo with you, and pray for you all daily. God Bless!
Robbin www.caringbridge.org/in/org
Robbin Lyons <thomtalent@aol.com>
- Wednesday, January 24, 2007 11:41 AM CST

Just letting you know that I'm thinking of you and praying for your strength. My heart just aches for you and your sweet angel.

Always in my thoughts...
Abbie Doser <doser.abbie@principal.com>
Des Moines, IA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 11:35 AM CST

Fly, baby D, fly!

I still tear up when I read your site, but did want to let you know we are holding all of you close in our thoughts and prayers. Hope you can feel the hugs!
Roxann <horsesetc@msn.com>
Audubon, MN USA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 11:34 AM CST

Words do not express my sadness for your lost. I have followed your family's journey and Baby D's fight for a long time. As a fellow Hoosier and mom to a cancer kiddo, I have been inspired by your courage. That being said, you should never have had to be this courageous. I am so sorry that your family has had to battle this. I know that Baby D is in a special part of heaven just for kids, and he can watch Cars all day long as he guards over other kiddos still here on earth. Please know I pray for you and think of you.

Hugs and so many, many, many more hugs to you
Carrie Meyer <meyer123@msn.com>
Camby, IN USA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 11:19 AM CST

I just wanted you to know that I've been thinking of you Melissa, and your family. You are such an amazing person. I feel blessed to have "met" you online.
My son is 6 and still doesn't quite understand how is grandmother got to heaven or where it is. He asks me if there is a special bus that you ride.
Sending a HUGE {{HUG}} and strength vibes to you and your family.
Kelli Manford <kelliliz99@hotmail.com>
Petaluma, CA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 11:19 AM CST

Just wanted to let you know that your family continues to be in my daily prayers! I could look at Donovan's pictures for hours!!! What a PRECIOUS little boy and you can tell from the pictures how LOVED and how HAPPY he was!!! What a BEAUTIFUL spirit!!! I have come to realize since I started checking on children through caringbridge that these kids are the REAL HEROS!!! We could only dream of having their strength, courage, and positive attitude REGARDLESS of what obstacles they are faced with! That is AWESOME in itself and I am saddened for the people that have never stopped to "meet" such remarkable young people! I have yet to "meet" one of these kids that my life was not PROFOUNDLY changed and enriched FOREVER!!! Thank you for sharing your precious family with us!! I pray that each of you can feel God's loving arms wrapped around you as he carries you during this time! I pray for Dylan. I know that God will carry Dylan and that Donovan will be watching over him! I know your heart aches for Dylan's loss and I know you are worried about him more than yourself! Donovan and Dylan chose two WONDERFUL parents and had they searched the world a hundred times over, they could not have chosen parents that could love for them and care for them better than you and Darren do!!! I will continue to pray for your entire family in the hours, days, and weeks ahead!

Love, Ashley Howard & Dustin

Angel Donovan, I know that heaven is MORE than any of us can imagine and I know you have some VERY SPECIAL angel friends up there! Thank you for blessing SO MANY lives during your short time on earth! You are TRULY A SUPERHERO!!! I know that SO MANY are sad that Jesus has taken you so soon, but it is very hard for us to understand that you WON!!! When we are sad, it is because we are sad that your physical presence is no longer here! I know there is a part of all those who love you that rejoice in knowing that you will now spend eternal life with Jesus FREE from pain and suffering and FOREVER HEALED of cancer!!! Dustin and I send LOTS of Angel HUGS & KISSES to you!!! I know you will be working hard on helping the Colts win the Super Bowl!!!

"My Mom Is A Survivor"

My Mom is a survivor, or so I've heard it said.
But I hear her crying at night when all others are in bed.
I watch her lay awake at night and go to hold her hand.
She doesn't know I'm with her to help her understand.
But like the sands on the beach that never wash away...
I watch over my surviving mom, who thinks of me each day.
She wears a smile for others...a smile of disguise.
But through Heaven's door I see tears flowing from her eyes.
My mom tries to cope with death to keep my memory alive.
But anyone who knows her knows it is her way to survive.
As I watch over my surviving mom...through Heaven's open door.
I try to tell her that angels protect me forever more.
But I know that doesn't help her or ease the burden she bears.
So if you get a chance, go visit her...And show her that you care.
For no matter what she says...no matter what she feels.
My surviving mom has a broken heart that time won't ever heal!

This poem was written by Kaye Des'Ormeaux

Ashley Howard <babydustinsmom@yahoo.com>
Pelham, AL USA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 11:15 AM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dyland and Rasmussen Family. Our hearts are broken for Donovan and you. We are praying for you.
Emma's Grandparents
Debbie and David Hudspeth <dehudspeth@aol.com>
Harrisburg, NC - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 11:05 AM CST

Hi! Just to let you know that you are always on my mind.
Can only imagine how hard these days have to be for you. Want you to know that Donovan will never be forgotten. He was truly a fighter and an inspiration to many.
Wish that I could be there for his visitation and services but it's quite a long drive. I'm also trying to contact someone from the Colts to try and get you to the Super Bowl.You truly deserve a break.
Keeping your family in my prayers and in my thoughts.
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 10:23 AM CST

Been thinking of you guys all week. Glad your hanging in there. Remember there are thousands of people out there praying for your family!
Jenny Harootunian
olathe, ks - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 10:21 AM CST

stoping by to say hi and glad that you are hanging there....you are all very special...praying for peace and strenght....

God bless
Ozzie <ovieira@hartz.com>
Harrrison, NJ - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 10:13 AM CST

Melissa and the D's -
I'm still struggling for words and I'm worried that they may just never come. My heart and mind haven't wandered far from you for the last week or so. I'm praying that you are able to find peace in the knowledge that your love for Donny inspired all of us and made him the happiest baby I've ever seen. The pictures are worth a thousand words...that sparkle, that grin, there was NO hiding his joy. Despite all of the "stuff", his joy was not to be concealed. It's all because of you! You made this awful hand Donny was dealt into a joyous, happy, full, fun, love filled life for him. You should be proud of yourselves.
We certainly are....
with love and hugs-
george ewald ry ry's mommie www.caringbridge.org/in/ryry <georgeewald@comcast.net>
Elkhart, IN USA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 10:05 AM CST

Melissa, Dylan, and Darren, I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your "Teddy Bear." I have honestly NEVER seen a cuter child. When I check on your family I just want to squeeze him! Donovan makes me think....if he can go through all he did and still smile....who am I to complain about anything! Praying for comfort, Mendi
Mendi Patterson
Mufreesboro, TN 37129 - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 10:03 AM CST

Your family is always on my mind. I'm praying for you every single day. I miss Donovan. I'm so sorry and can't begin to imagine the heartbreak you are all coping with. Please know that he will live on forever in all of his fans. I will never forget baby D.
April
- Wednesday, January 24, 2007 10:00 AM CST

I am thinking about you. I am very sorry for your loss, Donovan is the cutest, most special teddy bear. He taught so many so much in so little time. I will continue to pray for all of you. Thank you for today's update, I continue to check in several times a day. Grammie ... I miss your stories because every one of them showed how much love you have and each one taught me a lesson. Love and prayers to you all.
Deb Bruzas <ddambb@hotmail.com>
Salem, WI USA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 9:48 AM CST

I have been checking to see how you all are doing. I am thinking and praying for you everyday. When I put my son down for bed every night and we say our prayers, you and your family are always in them along with all the other children fighting for their lives or have lost their battle. We are truely sorry for your loss. I have a friend that had his mother pass away suddenly last week. I know that she was up in heaven welcoming your little teddy bear. She was such a great lady.

Keeping you in my prayers, keep all of us Donovan prayer warriors updated on how you are all doing.

With much love and admiration.
Crissi Klein
Crissi Klein <cklein@transomamedical.com>
Woodbury, MN - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 9:47 AM CST

Thinking of you and praying for you.
Cheryl/Angel_Wings
MD - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 9:38 AM CST

Melissa and family,
My heart aches for you. Both you and baby Donovan inspired so many. Much to my husband's delight, baby D even got me to watch the football game on Sunday, which I must admit is not my favorite thing to do. Well, at least it wasn't. I will be right there with the rest of the Donovan fans cheering for the Colts in a few weeks. Please know that you are in my thoughts and I am continuing to pray for your family.
Kirsten (www.caringbridge.org/ca/clayton)
- Wednesday, January 24, 2007 9:25 AM CST

When my aunt passed away Bella was only 2 1/2 yrs old at the time! Because we went to the funeral she didnt quite understand! I told her Heaven was on top of the rainbows and that when she saw a rainbow that mean my aunt was saying hello to us! Im sure you could tell Dyla something similar or even that Heaven is above the blue birds! It gives them an idea yet its beautiful! Still thinking of you and your family!
Kelli & Bella <krc_55@yahoo.com>
Tomball, TX USA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 9:24 AM CST

Melissa,
A friend of mine just lost her son at 6 years old to a horrible disease. She recently commented that people are suprised at how well she is doing despite the loss of her son. She let everyone know that she is doing okay because she is a peace and she knows that she did everything she could for her son and gave him the best life despite the circumstances. You and your family did that for Donny. In between hospital visits, chemo, needles and the like you gave your Little Bear normalcy. This showed in all the pictures of a happy, smiling little boy even with tubes and lines running out of him. You have peace and that is so important.
K-C <kellychristine.day@citigroup.com>
Eastchester, NY - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 9:20 AM CST

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Tammy Tylers Mom <GTinkrbel@aol.com>
- Wednesday, January 24, 2007 9:20 AM CST

Melissa, Just to let you know that I've been thinking about your family so much and continuing to pray for all of you. Like many I cheered the Colts onto victory the other day. And I am really rooting for them in the Super Bowl. I am hoping that it will give you a reason to smile. Many prayers for all of you.
Kari Z. (Cancer Warriors) <zfamily00@hotmail.com>
Wauwatosa, WI - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 9:06 AM CST

Dear Melissa and Family,
Please know that you continue to be in our prayers thru this difficult time...I love to see the outpour of people...Donovan has touched so many lives and he has been an inpiration to all.. we love you and pray for you always,
Lots of Love and Hugs, Grace
- Wednesday, January 24, 2007 9:05 AM CST

Melissa and family,
It was good to read your message today. I feel like I know you and I've never met you. I have been reading your site for about 8 months now, I fell in love with Donovan the second his picture popped up. Your entire family has touched the hearts of many. My husband even started asking about your family. He connected with you because of the Colts. We had a reason to pull for someone to be in the Superbowl. Take care.
Karen <khaney@lps.org>
Lincoln, NE USA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 8:51 AM CST

My heart goes out to you and your family. I have read your journal for quite some time and prayed for Donovan to get better. I know he has earned his angel wings and is a happy little cherub up in heaven. He smiles down on the faces of those who fought so hard alongside him. May you be blessed and feel comfort from those around you.
Karen <klmdba@gmail.com>
Santa Cruz, ca usa - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 8:47 AM CST

Melissa,
Thinking of you this morning, praying peace within your mind, soul and home. Knowing Donovan has conquered death and is in the presence of Jesus this very moment waiting patiently for his loved ones to join him one day. What a day that will be! Seeing him run, play, laugh, and sing praises to his Lord! Praying for strength as you move toward this weekend, God be with you, meeting your every need.
cheryl mills <cherylmil@nc.rr.com>
clayton, nc usa - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 8:47 AM CST

Thank your for letting everyone know how you all are doing. I have been thinking about little Dylan and wondering how he was. Still no words that can comfort you as your heart is broken, I pray it will slowly start to heal. Thank you again for letting so many be part of your life and your little guys. Praying for you and your family...huggs to Dylan.
Kirsten Garcia <tkgarcia4@comcast.net>
- Wednesday, January 24, 2007 8:43 AM CST

My heart breaks for you and your family...I often wonder how all you wonderful mommy's and daddy's maintain thru all of this...where does your strength come from? I know God can see us thru alot, and glad that you find peace knowing Baby D is in heaven with him. After watching your baby suffer for so long, I don't doubt that it gives you comfort knowing he is no longer suffering...only a true love can be that unselfish and hope that you always will be comforted by that. I always called my middle daughter Baby D, now she's 17 years old and I still call her Baby D it is what first caught my eye when I came to your site...your wonderful outlook on life that kept me coming back every day, many could take lessons from you, Melissa on staying positive, I hope it can continue thru your healing....always praying for you and your family!!!
Amy Grady <amyg@capitaltower.com>
Lincoln, NE - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 8:36 AM CST

I am truely sorry to hear about your loss. I can only imagine the pain that you and your family are going through. My thought and prayers are with you and your family. You now have a very special Gaurdian Angle looking down on you and smiling down on you everyday. God Bless you whole family.
Chrst Daugherty <nemofan2001@yahoo.com>
Kenosha, WI - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 8:35 AM CST

Melissa:

I know that there is no pain like what you are experiencing now...I just wanted to let you know that I have been praying for you constantly...it is my hope that you continue to find peace and comfort in the arms of the Father above...My heart hurts for you.
In Love & Prayer...Eleasha <eleasha@cox.net>
www.caringbrige.org/va/cody, - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 8:31 AM CST

I am so sorry for your loss - I literally cried my eyes out when I read your entry. I am praying that you all are doing well. I wanted to send a note - I bought my son a book about heaven that really helped him - it is called "What's Heaven" by Maria Shriver. It is kind of long, but he understood it well. Take care.
Shelly Pierson <ticks@pierson.clearwire.net>
avon, mn - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 8:29 AM CST

Thank you for contacting the Indianapolis Colts. We appreciate your care and concern for the Rasmussen family. Recently, the Colts have been in contact with the family and are currently exploring a couple of possibilities to show the family our care and support during this difficult time.

Thank you again for your e-mail.

GO COLTS!!!

The Indianapolis Colts
Community Relations Department

I woke to this wonderful e-mail this morning. I pray that whatever they choose to do, brings a least a moment of light amidst your darkness. I must admit, prior to "meeting" Donovan, I didn't know ANYthing about the Colts. Now I, like Donovan and his many fans are rooting them on. It's probably not fair to the Bears, as with such a special Angel cheering for the Colts, they are at a slight disadvantage. I continue to pray for your peace and comfort. I also pray for Dylan to have a better understanding, as this must all be so difficult to grasp. May you know God's loving arms are constantly wrapped around you. Many thoughts and prayers...
Shawn
- Wednesday, January 24, 2007 8:28 AM CST

Melissa and family -
I find myself coming to your site many times a day to watch the slideshow - sweet Angel Donovan smiles.
It was comforting to see your entry this morning, and to know you are hanging in there - I am still so heartbroken that you are all having to deal with this, especially Dylan, who doesn't fully understand things. The things that you have shown this entire journey will keep you going now - your strength, your love for your family, especially your children, and your faith in God.
You all are never far from my mind, and always in my prayers.

Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 8:20 AM CST

Thinking of you...Dylan's confusion of Heaven is like my lil' one after Grampa died last spring. We talk about it a little because he is a little younger than Dylan, so he doesn't understand either. I decided that maybe he needed a place to see...so we chose the moon. Our Grampa and Grandma and the other caringbridge children, Jacob & Jake Owen, that we kept up on live on the moon. This way we get to see the moon a lot and can say Hi. I talked to my another grandma and she and her son picked out a star for my uncle's grandpa when he passed. I don't know if this will help until he can understand it better!!! But it is pretty cute when my lil' one says HI to the moon!!!

Still thinking and praying for your family...I will cheer the Colts on during Super Bowl Sunday!!!
S
MI USA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 8:00 AM CST

Melissa, Your family is in my thoughts every day, especially Dylan who can't understand in the same way we can. He will always be a big brother but it will take awhile for him to deal with his brother being in heaven. I've been rooting for the Colts (Steelers fan here) all year, hoping they would make it to the big game. I think they had a little angel on their side influencing the second half! I know Donovan will be cheering along with all of us in less than 2 weeks! Praying for your comfort, strength and peace.
Cindy
Rochester, NY - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 7:53 AM CST

My deepest sympathies,
Kimberly
New Brighton, MN - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 7:22 AM CST

My deepest sympathy to your family. I learned of Baby Donavan from Dana, Ashtin and Braden Jobst and she has been keeping everyone up to date on her page. Your baby boy is not it any pain anymore.....he is with the angels right now watching over his family. My deepest sympathy to you and yours.
Kimberly Landes <2travsnkim@cox.net>
hampton, va usa - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 6:43 AM CST

Praying for you. I am so sorry.
Jodi <jomicheleb2@yahoo.com>
Clarkston, MI US - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 6:40 AM CST

God's love 'n blessings to the family.
Angel Jen, SOEW
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God bless the Angels

Angel Jen, SOEW <eaglet@mymacs.org>
Nashville Area, TN USA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 6:23 AM CST

Hugs and oodles of prayers sent to you all at this time!
Love
Mike and Mary Slade and families <mar-e@rogers.com>
Guelph, Ontario, Canada - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 6:16 AM CST

Melissa and family, I want you to know that you all have been on my mind for the last few days, and of course in my prayers. Your baby Donny will always be with you. I have to admit that I am a Chargers fan...I'm sorry...I'm a San Diego girl, but I will be rooting for the Colts for sure in a couple of weeks, for you all! :) Thoughts and Prayers, Kelly*
Kelly Monahan* <shnook424@yahoo.com>
Clovis, CA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 2:16 AM CST

Missing your precious boy so much today!
What a comfort to know that the Holy Spirit Himself is praying for us perfectly according to His Will.
Rom 8:27: And he that searcheth the hearts knoweth what is the mind of the Spirit, because he maketh intercession for the saints according to the will of God.
The Prayer Bears Website
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 1:09 AM CST

Hi Melissa and Darren, You do not know me but i have known about your precious baby boy for a little while. I was referred by my sister in law, Christine LaFleur. I really do not know what to say. I myself have a little boy who is two. His name is Jayden. I cannot imagine all of the heartache your family has been through and all the pain that your beautiful boy has been through. Although i do not know you, my prayers are with you and your family. I want to say try and stay strong, but i don't know if i could be as strong as you. But you have another reason to keep on going and that is Dylan. I am sorry that i really don't know what else to say or how to say what i want. I will continue to pray for your family along with praying for my nephew Brandon who suffers with leukemia, and my father in law who has prostate cancer. I know it will not be easy to move on, but i have a great feeling that you and your family will be pk knowing that donovan is no longer in pain.

ALL MY SYMPATHY.....MARILYN LAFLEUR
Marilyn LaFleur
Fall River, Ma USA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 0:20 AM CST

Melissa,
I just ordered this video for you that I had mentioned earlier. Where can I send it?
Perseverance In Pain
Tony Dungy of the Indianapolis Colts talks about the pain of losing his son and walking with Christ through seasons of pain.
Tina <tinaschmidt@lilly.com>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 0:18 AM CST

Dearest family of baby Donovan,
We have never met, I heard about you from the McBurnett's. Our 3 year old was just diagnosed 2 weeks ago, so while we are new to all this, we have so much love for others that are bearing heavy burden's. Please know your family is in our prayers, you will be lifted up and given extra strength to get you thru this unimaginable loss. Our family lost a little niece in a drowning, we watched as her family experienced unimaginable pain, it can be endured.

Your little soldier is gorgeous, what a beautiful smile, he must have melted hearts. God bless you, that baby looked happy as happy can be, what special people you must be.
Love,
Brooks and Katie Newsom (Grady is our boy)
Katie Newsom <bkccnews@aol.com>
Portland, OR USA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 0:12 AM CST

Keeping your family in my prayers tonight. God Bless.
Sherry Nitschke <sherryn@drtel.net>
Jud, ND - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 11:37 PM CST

Melissa and family,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. I heard Coach Dungy speak about the loss of his son on a Christian radio station just the other day. He said that one of the things that has helped him alot is the fact that he knows that his son is in heaven. And given what he knows about heaven, if he had the chance to bring his son back he would not.(The radio station said that there is a tape of his entire talk about the loss of his son that is available. I will look for it for you.) May the peace of Christ be with you and your family.
Tina Schmidt <tinaschmidt@lilly.com>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 11:30 PM CST

I am so sorry to hear about your lose donovan was such a strong little boy now he can play football anytime pain free.... He is in good hands the hand of the lord.. we dont knwo why our children go but they do i pleade night and day fr the lord not to take my precious baby girl but he said no i have to some were only ment to be here for a short while to teach others love and compassion for one another.. so i know of some of what your going through.. stay strong there is a tomorrow...

I was there.I sat with youthe vigil through daysand nights, pleading with heaventhat I might take your place.Heaven did
not want me,but you, my beautiful boy.I was there.I held your still hand,never to clasp mine again,as it so often didwhen
you were small�How is it then,that I look for you in every crowd?The breeze blows open my door,I turn to see if you are
there.Footsteps approaching,I raise my eyesexpecting to see you,hands in pockets, all smiles.Then I remember
anew,that heaven has taken you.My boy, my boy,that you could sing to mejust one more song.That I could hold youin my
arms once again,if only for a moment.How is it that I see youaround every corner?How is it that I hear your voiceupon the
evening breeze?That lovely gossamer thread,that binds mother and child together,That part of me that was you, the part
of you that was me,Is still tightly woven together my son,I hear you on the breezebecause you sing still, out of heaven
.That gossamer threadwill lead me home to you,wait for me my darling boy.I love you.

nicole grazette <iyonnaslife@earthlink.net>
sneadsferry, nc usa - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 11:24 PM CST

Darren & Melissa,

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Words cannot express. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Robin Coleman <robin6662@sbcglobal.net>
Frisco, Texas - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 10:51 PM CST

Dear Baby Donovan family,
I am extreamly sad to hear of Donovan's passing. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Love,
sam
Samantha Mummert <sam.reed@sbcglobal.net>
- Tuesday, January 23, 2007 10:51 PM CST

Melissa,
We don't really know each other well. I am the BMS rep and I think we met maybe just once at Dr. Lebow's office. I mainly know of your reputation as a great person and from reading Donovan's story, I pray that God will give you and your family peace and comfort through this. After all, God says that although bad things may happen, if we ask, he will strengthen us. That is my prayer for you as well. I wish you the best and hope that you will call if I can do anything here in Indy to help.
Dave
Dave Thurston <david.thurston@insightbb.com>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 10:25 PM CST

Please know that I am praying for you during this difficult time.
All my love and prayers~
Jan aka Mimi to Baby KK (in Heaven) and Hailey girl
http://www.freewebs.com/prayerbears/

Jan Chapdelaine <jannyjo@cox.net>
Virginia Beach, VA USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 10:14 PM CST

I search for words that will bring you some sort of comfort. I am at a complete loss. Perhaps it is not for me to offer words... All I have to give is prayer. Please know that I will continue to lift your family up in prayer, as I have done since I fell in love with your little man months ago. I was drawn to your site by a posting you left on Ellis' site. It's strange how one thing can draw you to another... God truely works in mysterious ways. What I thought would be a casual look into your son's life turned into me being completely drawn in by his radiant personality and yet I had never met him. I find it difficult to explain this to others... I have never posted here and certainly didn't think I'd ever be posting with such a lump in my throat or a pain in my heart. I was so sure he'd beat this. I guess in the end he did, as he is now pain free and soaring high in a glory we can only DREAM about. I am SO sorry for your loss. Words can't begin to convey my deepest sympathy. Please know that you are on my mind and in my prayers. Among many things, I pray for some level of peace and comfort. May God hold you close; may you know you are never alone!
Shawn
- Tuesday, January 23, 2007 10:01 PM CST

Melissa and Family:

Just wanted to let you know that we are thinking of you......

The Kelley's
Jim, Lisa and Kanon
The Kelley's (friends of Matthew and Nancy) <Kelley.Jim@gmail.com>
Brownsburg, IN - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 9:56 PM CST

Christian Glitter by www.christianglitter.com

My prayers are with you!
Veronica
Veronica <goldhouma@aol.com>
Houma, La USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 9:46 PM CST

To the Rasmussen family,
I am so sorry to read about Donovan. I am praying for you all and wish you much comfort and peace.
Ms. Taylor Black <imtaylor2@aol.com>
VT - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 9:36 PM CST

Dear Darren, Dylan and Family,
My heart truly aches for all of you and our family. Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers almost every single minute of the day. I truly wish in all of my heart that I could be there with all of you. Donovan touched some many hearts its obvious to see. What a blessing he was and always will be to our family! The girls and I send our deepest love and hugs.
Love,
Linda, Brooke, Kirstie and Eryka
Linda Hauschild <indylindy0505@yahoo.com>
Noblesville, IN USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 9:36 PM CST

Dear Rasmussen Family,
I am so sorry for your loss. Donovan was a beautiful little boy. May the Lord give you comfort and peace during this difficult time and for the days to come.
Nancy Livermon <nlivermon1119@gmail.com>
Raleigh, NC USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 9:16 PM CST

Remember... God's love is all around you along with caring thoughts, and prayers of strength for you and your family. You were not alone in the fight and you will not be alone now that Donovan's fight is over. Wishing you peace and comfort.
Denise Stubblefield <gistreet@aol.com>
Hobart, IN - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 8:40 PM CST

Dear Melissa,
I found out on Sunday that your 'lil teddy bear had passed away Saturday night but didn't have internet access until today in order to leave you a note. I am so sorry sweetie that you're having to go through this horrible pain right now. My mind keeps playing back these images of when we were inpatient together and I'd see you pushing Baby D up 'n down the hallway in that little red car -- he'd be all smiles!! And all those times you'd have him sitting on your lap or right beside you while you worked on your crafts. I will remember him as a sweet, beautiful 'n cuddly little toddler! My love goes out to you and your family. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers daily.

Lots of hugs,
Nancy
Richardson Family <oneslickz@nc.rr.com>
Wake Forest, NC United States - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 8:37 PM CST

Melissa, Darren & Dylan,
Hi guys! Stopping by tonight to let you know I'm thinking of you today. I still stop by a few times a day to check Donovan's site. His smiles just fill my heart! I spent a good part of Sunday going through all the pictures again I collected when we made Donovan's quilt for his first birthday...just remembering how beautiful and special our little CHAMP is. I am comforted to know he's not in pain, that he's free of all his lines and tubes... but it's still just unimagineable he's gone. Becka and I have been chatting online last couple nights. There are sometimes just long, long quiet pauses between us, still just in disbelief. Please know kiddos, that you are all never more than a thought away from us. Please feel free to call me anytime you need to. To talk or vent or cry or remember. Day or night - doesn't matter. Also, I just wanted to pass along to you the KLOVE radio station in your area. I have found much comfort in listening, I think you will too. (That's where I found the Mark Harris cd) It's 106.7 WKVE (Raleigh/Durham/Greensboro).
My prayers are with you and your family - please know how special you are to us, and how much we love all of you!!!
((((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))))) coming all the way from Burlington!
PS - Becka wanted me to remind you to please give her a call if there is anything she can do for you all. Nick & Michele would love to have Dylan over again sometime! Take her up on the offer sweetheart! :o)
Lots of love, 'Angel' Nickey <nickeypoo72@yahoo.com>
Burlington, IA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 8:24 PM CST

You don't know me but I have been reading your journal for many months. I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful
son. I will keep him in my prayers. Peace to you and your
family.
Kathie Browning <kbrowning1@verizon.net>
Bloomfield, NJ USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 8:14 PM CST

I am Joyce Schiltz and just don't know how to send you a comforting message. You have been through so much sorrow, but know that your little Donovan will always be with you. You will feel him holding your hand when you need some comfort. You will see his face when the world seem so difficult. He still is your little boy, and he still loves you. God bless you and your family.

Joyce Schiltz
Cottage Grove, MN USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 8:12 PM CST

Thinking of you guys.....not a minute goes by that I don't think about Donovan, still in such shock over everything. My heart will be with you this weekend. I really wanted to be there but my husband will be out of state for work longer than he was supposed to be.
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
NJ - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 8:12 PM CST

Dear Melissa and Family,

Although we really didn't get a chance to know one another and I've only seen you all a few times inpatient and outpatient I just wanted to say that I am so sorry for you all's loss. Although little baby donovan is in a better place I could not imagine the pain you all are in. I wish I had the words to comfort but unfortunately there are none. May God continue to hold you in his loving hands and bring you peace in your time of need. If you need anything please don't hesitate to ask.

Sincerely,

Danielle Brown (Lane's mom) www.caringbridge.org/travislanebrown
Danielle Brown <danielleejb@yahoo.com>
Fort Bragg, NC USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 8:12 PM CST

Hi
My names is Daisy Ramos, I'm from Methuen Mass. My son is 2 years old (born on 11/23/2004) fighting infant ALL, had a relapsed to transplant too. They say he only has months left to live. I'm very sorry about your Baby, my heart hurts. Keeping you in my thoughts & prayers.
Daisy & Fernando (carepages NANDORAMOS)
Daisy Ramos <fernandojose1123@yahoo.com>
Methuen, MA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 7:28 PM CST

Hi Melissa and family,
Sure wish I could be there...I am there in spirit and thoughts and hold you tight in prayers.
I miss you baby D.
colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
Muskegon, MI usa - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 6:55 PM CST

From one mother of an angel born on the ninth day of December to another....

knowing this day was coming and having it come are two entirely different things. I pray for moments of peace, clarity and the knowledge of the love you shared being the purest and felt deeply. Donovan knew nothing but love, every single day of his too short life.

Time does not make this hurt better Melissa. But it will make less raw....keep breathing in the light, and blowing out the darkness.

Angel Olivia's Mother, Wendy

www.caringbridge.org/mi/oliviasgrace <mom2olivia@gmail.com>
- Tuesday, January 23, 2007 6:53 PM CST

Dear family, hope you are doing ok. lord bless this family in this sad time. lord give this family comfort.
Emily <wa_emily@yahoo.com>
Edmonds, WA USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 6:27 PM CST

Mellisa and family, you have continually been on my mind since I heard the news Sunday. Today I received my weekly hope of the day from a grief awareness website that I would like to share with you. Since I lost the twins, it has inspired me and helped me through some of my darkest hours. I am thinking of you and praying for peace...
"HOPE FOR THE DAY" from SilentGrief.com
http://www.silentgrief.com
-----------------------------------------------------------
January 22, 2007

Waking up with a smile on your heart is a near impossibility
when you are experiencing the raw pain of grief. When you
wake up, the feeling you get is that of a sinking spirit. The
feeling that lets you know almost immediately that something
is not right. In fact, that sick feeling you get in your stomach
lets you know that your entire world has been invaded by an
enemy we call death, and the world as you once knew it no
longer exists. Grief, in its raw stage, robs us of all joy.

God, in His infinite wisdom, knew that we each would go
through the lonely pain of losing someone we love. That
is why He has surrounded us with so many visible assurances
of His love and presence in our lives. We can see His
mighty power in the rolling of the ocean waves and in the tide
that comes rushing into shore. We see His love proclaimed
every time there is a sunrise and sunset. We can be assured
of His control over the seasons we pass through in our lives
when we see new life pushing through the cold soil to usher
in spring and all of its newness and beauty.

God is everywhere and is our partner through everything we
endure. When we are feeling our lowest, it's important to
anchor onto God and His promises. His love is the only thing
that will not change and will not leave. He endures forever
and walks by our side always. He lifts us up when we fall, and
He carries us when we are too weak to travel this journey we
call grief alone.

Don't be afraid to talk to God. He is with you right at this very
moment. He's our Friend - the one who will not ever leave our
side. Call on Him and you will have a listening ear. Look to the
heavens and be reminded that death is not the end for those who
have gone on before. Death is a new beginning. It is a place
where all fear, hatred, sin, and pain cannot exist.

Our grieving hearts will one day be filled with hope that overflows.
When we keep looking to God for our daily strength and hope, great
things will begin to happen. We will no longer feel alone, and we
will cry tears of sorrow rather than tears of regret and bitterness. Hope
restores our soul and gives us the strength to go on! --Clara Hinton

"When we look to the heavens, hope appears." --Clara Hinton

"Because He has inclined His ear to me, therefore I shall call
upon Him as long as I live." --Psalm 116:2

God Bless~
Chris mom to Zayla and twin angels
www.caringbridge.org/visit/zayla
Chris Mitsdarffer <christymits@aol.com>
Bonfield, IL - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 6:17 PM CST

Keeping all of the family in
prayers and thoughts. God's
Blessings to all.
Prayers and Hugs,
LeAnn/SOEW/AngelsofHope
http://www.caringbridge.org/ga/annettelee
LeAnn Mooneyham <angel4God352000@yahoo.com>
Baxley, Georgia United States - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 5:39 PM CST

Praying that you are leaning on, and holding, each other close......and that you feel the love and support from your Caringbridge family, too.

Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 5:21 PM CST

Still here....Still praying with you. May you find the strength you need in the next few days. God Bless you all.

Christine
www.carepages.com BrandonM
Christine LaFleur <Chrystyne1112@yahoo.com>
Warren, RI USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 4:22 PM CST

Dear Melissa, Darrin, and Dylan,
Sometimes in life we find words are inadequate, this is one of those times for me. I am so very sorry to read of your loss, but so very happy to know baby Donovan is now free of all pain. I just wished your pain could be erased, yet I hope it gives you encouragement to know so many have cared, prayed and loved your little bear and your family.
I read this poem and hope in some small way it will help you know that God's loving arms are holding you as so many are praying:
What Can Comfort You?
What can comfort you
When a loved one is lost,
When the pain is so great
And your world�s been tossed?

What can calm you
When no words know how,
When the load is hard to bear
And you need relief right now?

What can guide you
When you�re not sure which way to go,
When the mountain seems too steep
And you�re in the valley so low?

What can uplift you
When you can�t see this trial�s end?
Only the arms of the Lord
And the prayers of a friend.

Copyright� Denise Campbell

I shall continue praying for all of you, my love and thoughts are also with you now and in the days ahead.
Love and Prayers,
GerryAnn DeCraene

GerryAnn DeCraene <gramiegogo@aol.com>
Niles, MI USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 4:12 PM CST

Heaven's Child

I would not like for you to cry
It's just a part of life to die
I know you miss me and you're sad
But dying isn't something bad.

I'm only just beyond your sight
I've gone with Angels to the light
I send to all of you my love
From Heaven's gardens up above.

I like it here, I'm having fun
And I am with The Holy One
I am sitting on His knee
With Jesus watching over me.

So many souls we knew before
Were waiting here at Heaven's Door
To welcome me with open arms
And keep me safe and make me warm.

So when you think of me please smile
For I will see you in a while
Trust the Lord, don't ask Him why
He wants me here to paint the sky

With rainbows, clouds and shining lights
To brighten days and warm your nights
Remember what I said before
Please don't cry for me any more.

I am Heaven's Child, you see
I play with Angels surrounding me
I can fly with the speed of thought
To be with you when you think I'm not

So please remember I love you
And I know you love me too
And even now, while we're apart
I'm still right here ... I'm in your heart.
a silent follower
- Tuesday, January 23, 2007 3:58 PM CST

I'm so sad to hear of your loss. I pray for comfort for you and yours.
Tom Mulkerin <mulkerin1@verizon.net>
Pittsburgh, PA USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 3:08 PM CST

HI CHAMP,
I KNOW YOU ARE AT PEACE NOW CHAMP!!!
I KNOW YOU ARE SMILING DOWN UPON MOMMY
AND DADDY & DYLAN & EVERYONE WHO
KNOWS & LOVES YOU.
WE HAVE ALL CONTACTED THE COLTS I KNOW YOU WILL BE AT
THE SUPERBOWL CHEERING THEM ON.
I HOPE MOMMY & DADDY CAN BE THERE WITH YOU ALSO.

MUCH LOVE CHAMP,
YOU OUR WITH OUR LORD NOW.
BETH
FLY SWEETIE FLY..
RUN PLAY & ENJOY, YOUR PAINFREE LIFE... - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 2:37 PM CST

Melissa,
I have had a hard time coming up with the right words to say. Donovan will forever hold a special place in my heart. His unbelievable spirit will never be forgotten. NO matter how yucky he was feeling he always was able to smile and remain pleasant and I know a lot of that has to do with the incredibly strong Mom he has. He always felt your unconditional love and knew he was going to be okay because you were always right there by his side. You are a wonderful mother and an incredible woman. Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you, I am only a short drive away.
God Bless you and your family,
Please Keep in Touch
Love Tammie
Tammie Wallace <wallacetl@comcast.net>
Raleigh, NC - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 2:17 PM CST

Sending love and prayers from Toronto, Ontario. Thank you for sharing the life of your precious son with all of us. I am a better person because of him. (I contacted public relations for the Colts as well - they were rather surprised to know they had a fan up here but Peyton has yet another message that Baby D is his special angel!)
Barbara <bcassells1809@rogers.com>
Toronto, Ont Canada - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 2:03 PM CST

The Colts public relations dept have actually been aware of Donovan and his fight for sometime after we contacted them back in early December and they sent a care package out to the family around Christmastime,i know the girl i dealt with at the time said they would be continuing to watch his webpage and his progress so i'm sure they've not been surprised with the outpouring of love or the phonecalls one little bit.
Theresa
Executive Director
Cancer Warriors
Theresa Heath <theresa@cancerwarriors.org>
Rowlett, Tx - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 1:54 PM CST

Thinking of all of you.
The Brader's <marla.brader@gmail.com>
IA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 1:42 PM CST

Melissa,

OK, I contacted them too since everyone else is fessing up. Baby D -- we miss you.
K-C <kellychristine.day@citigroup.com>
Eastchester, NY - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 1:27 PM CST

You don't know me, but a friend of mine told me about Baby D and I have been on the site many times. I just wanted to let you know how sorry I am for your loss. Baby D is in Gods hands now and flying free of pain. My pray's will be with you and your family. Although I am a Pat's fan and was surprised and upset that they lost and just couldn't understand why. Then on Monday I checked in and found out about Baby D and just knew that he had a hand in the Colt's winning the game.
Diane Silva
Diane Silva
Warren, RI USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 1:26 PM CST

Melissa, Darren & Dylan:

I too contacted the Colts. I talked to a lady named Stephanie and she said they had been on Donny's website because they have been swamped with so many calls. So, here's hoping Peyton knows about his SPECIAL #1 FAN!!

Praying you are feeling peace and comfort today. Wishing so much that I could be there to celebrate Baby D's life with you all! My life will FOREVER be changed because of him and because of you, Melissa. You inspire me to be a better Mother. I hold both of my kids closer and tell them I love them because I don't want to ever take for granted that I will have them forever.

I will DEFINATELY be with you in my heart!

Beth <softballmom023@yahoo.com>
Whiteland, IN - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 1:08 PM CST

My thoughts and prayers are with you all as you struggle through this terrible time. Just remember sweet Donovan is looking down on you know and smiling away.....He's gone to play with the other angels taken too soon. God Bless you all!
Tracy Allen <mysticalunicorn919@yahoo.com>
Durham, NC - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 12:55 AM CST

Although I have never met you - I do check on your website quite often. I wept when I saw that your beautiful son passed away. I hope you will never know pain like this ever again and I wish you strength to go on. May his memory serve as a blessing for all of you. God Bless.
Abby A. <abbya2@hotmail.com>
Israel - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 12:42 AM CST

I am sorry for your loss and will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Teri Henderson <hendo3@aol.com>
Winona, MN - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 12:30 AM CST

Praying that all of your days ahead are with peace and comfort in knowing sweet Baby D is flying high, free...of pain, leukemia, needles, medicines, doctors. He has the best now and forever. How glorious is that!!!!!!! I pray for Dylan often and I just know you and Darren being the awemsome parents you are, will keep Donovan in Dylans life always, until they meet again. I too called the Colts public relations #.....good luck!!!

Although we cannot be with you this weekend, please know a minute will not go by without me thinking of you guys and praying for your strength!

In HIM...
Lori Scott and family

www.caringbridge.org/visit/savahanascott

lori <lascott32@aol.com>
avon, in - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 12:24 AM CST

I am heartbroken over your loss. I will pray for peace and comfort for your family.

Peggy
www.caringbridge.org/visit/russelllee
Peggy Lee <pegwu@yahoo.com>
Hollis Hills, NY - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 12:20 AM CST

Peace and comfort be yours during this time dear family. May the Lord provide you much grace to walk a bit longer here until you are reunited again with your baby.

Even for the dead
I will not bind my soul to grief
Death cannot long divide
For is it not as though the rose
that climbed my garden wall
Has blossomed on the other side?
Death does hide
But not divide
You are but on Christ�s other side!
You are with Christ
And Christ with me
In Christ united still are we.

~Alice Carey~

My sweet boy is in heaven, too. Both Donovan and Stephen are Leukemia free for eternity...

http://www3.caringbridge.org/wa/stephen/

Just as He is doing it for me, may the Lord meet your every need for the journey ahead...
Robin <robin.bonesteele@comcast.net>
Battle Ground , WA USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 12:13 AM CST

Dear Melissa and family - I just wanted to sign in and add my condolences to all of the many already here. I can't imagine your pain, but I know that it's got to be huge. I hope you can take some solace in knowing where your sweet little boy is, that he's free and that he's no longer in any pain. I just talked to Tabitha and she says that she's flying out tomorrow night, and I'm really glad that she's going to be able to be there with you all this weekend. Please take care of yourselves and know that I'll be praying for you all.....
Liz Stevens <elizabeth.a.stevens@boeing.com>
Sumner, WA USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 11:24 AM CST

Sent an emil privately but also wanted to share my sympathy here. I am soo sorry for your loss. Please know you are all in my prayers. I to sent a letter and some pictures to the Colts hoping to give this deserving family a little bit of joy at this difficult time.

Jill <jill@blawat.com>
Menmonee Falls, wi - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 11:23 AM CST

Thinking of you today as you continue to make plans for Donovans celebration. Praying you are finding comfort in the memories of Donovan and his sweet smile that could light up anyones heart. Wishing I could be there to give you a hug and let you know I am constantly in prayer for your family.

praying and believing...

www.freewebs.com/prayerbears
Kerry Chapman
Grand Island, NE - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 11:08 AM CST

My deepest sympathies for your incredible loss. I have signed the guest book a couple of times, but again wanted the family to know that the Women's Bible Study Group at the Smith Valley Baptist Church in Greenwood, Indiana, is keeping them in their prayers.

I, too, contacted the Colts on Tuesday of last week. If anyone deserves to go to the Superbowl, its this family.

Go Colts!!!!!!
Donna Charles <dcharles@butler.edu>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 11:07 AM CST

Dearest Rasmussen Family,

My thoughts and prayers are with you during this most difficult time. I will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers as you take this difficult journey. I truly believed he is with you and your family as a very special angel. And will always be remembered of all the love and support he had received from his family and around the world.

Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. You have touched us with your courage, your determination, and your incredible will.

He was and is a beautiful child inside and out. And I know that your family will always remember the joy, the laughter, and those special little voices Donovan would say though-out the day. They will never be forgotten and neither will Donovan.

Thank you again for allowing us to share in the incredible life of Donovan.

May you be blessed with peace and strength.

Now it is time to care for you and your heart as well as your husband and son.

God Bless you

Nia, Cate, Chloe, Jim and Frank
(nia-martinez@hotmail.com)

Nia Martinez <nia-martinez@hotmail.com>
Naperville, Il USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 10:59 AM CST

I am so sorry for your loss. I am a stranger to your family...but tears rolled down my face when I read your entry. I check on Baby D daily and I hope you continue your journal so we can watch Dylan grow..your family has touched my heart and I now find myself cheering on the COLTS! because I know your baby is watching them and I know what this team means to your family. I called the number listed by another entry and I hope and prey your family gets great seats at that SuperBowl game..as everyone knows Baby D will be flying above them!! Fly Baby D FLY!!
kirsten Garcia <tkgarcia4@comcast.net>
Remington, IN - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 10:34 AM CST

Melissa, Darren and Dylan-
I was just heartbroken when I signed on here to check on
Donny and learned he had earned his angel wings. Heaven has certainly just received it's best angel yet! Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Your family will forever hold a special place in my heart. If there is anything you need, please don't hesitate to ask(even if it's DD!)
Love, K3
Karen Rosskamp <Pedsrn2go@aol.com>
Apex, NC - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 10:29 AM CST

I have waited two days to try to find some words to say. I do not have internet on the weekends. Sunday night I was cheering for the Colts and my fiance wanted to know why I cared about the Colts. I told him about Baby D and that I wanted the Colts to win so it would put a smile on your faces. I am so glad they won! 1st thing Monday morning I checked to see how D was doing and sat crying at my computer. May God Bless and comfort you in this time. I know He is holding Baby D right now.

This is the chorus from my favorite song, "Held" by Natalie Grant. I hope the words offer some comfort.

"This is what it means to be held
How it feels when the sacred is torn from your life
And you survive
This is what it is to be loved
And to know that the promise was when everything fell
You'd be held"

Love,
Sarah
Sarah Thompson <listeningfordirection@hotmail.com>
Springfield, MO USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 10:25 AM CST

Darren, Melissa, Dylan, and baby ^Donovan^~

Thinking of all of your family and praying for you during this most difficult time! I wanted to share this with you. We had a woman from our church sing Jesus Loves Me, and asked her to pick out another song to sing at ^Laken's^ service, and she chose this one. It was so perfect! Baby Donovan was a blessing to so many, and a visitor from heaven too, even though we were blessed with his stay being a couple of years.. He's a BLESSING from GOD that continues to touch the lives of SO MANY..

A Visitor From Heaven

By Twila Paris

A visitor from heaven
If only for a while
A gift of love to be returned
We think of you and smile

A visitor from heaven
Accompanied by grace
Reminding of a better love
And of a better place

With aching hearts and empty arms
We send you with a name
It hurts so much to let you go
But we're so glad you came
We're so glad you came

A visitor from heaven
If only for a day
We thank him for the time he gave
And now it's time to say

We trust you to the Fathers love
And to his tender care
Held in the everlasting arms
And we're so glad you're there
We're so glad you're there

With breaking hearts and open hands
We send you with a name
It hurts so much to let you go
But we're so glad you came

We're so glad you came

Lots of LOVE and PRAYERS for your family~
Claire Roy & family (angel Laken's family)
www.caringbridge.com/visit/lakenroy

(P.S. I put a call in to the Colts Sunday morning, and left a message on like 10 voice mails, so with all the calls, hopefully they will represent for the GREAT WARRIOR BABY D!)

Claire Roy and family <caffemocha29@aol.com>
KERNERSVILLE, NC US - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 10:25 AM CST

I talked to the colts the day before BABY D became and angel too!! I was hoping they could do something for the family too!! Keep your spirits up!! Thats so awesome everyone is thinking alike!!
Jen
jennifer Hewitt
Bellevue , NE - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 10:24 AM CST

Thinking about your family and praying hard as you go through this most difficult time. I have been following for some time now, just never signed. I am so sorry that Donovans life on earth was cut short but am thankful that he is no longer hurting. I have a 2 year old (month older than Baby D)and can not even to begin to imagine what life would be without him. I know nothing anyone says can take away the pain but know many of us strangers care about your family and love Angel Donovan. I will be thinking about your family as these next few days come and praying forever for peace in your hearts.
Jen <djechw@iw.net>
Luverne, MN United States - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 10:11 AM CST

I think of our newest angel often. He's a perfect teddy bear angel now.
Our love is with you.
Deb - Riley Mom <dtaylor@brickyard.com>
Indpls, IN - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 9:29 AM CST

I just called the Community Relations department at the Indianapolis COlts to tell them about Baby D and they said they have been FLOODED with calls about baby D!!!!!!!- If everyone who signs here gives them a call, perhaps we can help make this family's dream come true- its nice to be able to DO SOMETHING to ease their pain and have an opportunity to feel even closer to their angel. - call them at 800-805-2658 and ask for community relations!!!!
Mindy <MIndymcnern@yahoo.com>
- Tuesday, January 23, 2007 9:11 AM CST

Melissa & the gang,
I woke up this morning thinking of all you. I continue to lift you up in prayer. Praying for safe travels of all your family and friends that will make the journey to NC. If you need anything, please let me know.

Jennifer HInes <creative_jenny@cox.net>
mesa, az - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 9:10 AM CST

You are constantly in our thoughts and prayers.
Tiffany - mom to Jackson and Faith <jetoneil@yahoo.com>
Rohnert Park, CA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 8:53 AM CST

May god be with each of you and give you peace and comfort during this time..

PHYLLIS PADINHA <PPADINHA@VERIZON.NET>
RAHWAY, NJ USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 8:26 AM CST

God Bless your family. My heart is breaking for you. I am so sorry for your loss. Donovan was such a fighter. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

God Bless,
Christine
Christine Boisvert
Ham Lake, MN - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 8:13 AM CST

Dear Family of Sweet Donovan,
God has carried you through all of the sadness, pain, disbelief that this terrible disease pounces on babies, etc. And the Good News is that God will carry you through the loss and the joyful resurrection that Donovan now has with our merciful Savior. God has lifted this baby from all of the pain and suffering that he and you have endured. Praise the Lord...for His goodness endureth forever!! God loves you and so do I! Sincerely, Mary Hawkins
Mary Hawkins <mhawkins@kusd.edu>
Waukegan, IL USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 8:09 AM CST

Good morning~
I just can't stop coming here to see Donovan's sweet little face. I wanted to let you know that our prayers for Donovan, and for all of you will continue forever...your family has touched ours in a way that has changed us, and you will forever be in our hearts. We will be holding you especially close as you celebrate Donovan's life in the upcoming days. I pray that all of your family is able to be with you and that you are surrounded by soooo many people (which, keep in mind, is only a fraction of the lives that Donovan has touched...countless people can't physically be there but will be there in spirit) to share in the awesome way that Baby D lived his life. Look at the lessons he taught in such a short amount of time. He did his job well...we were blessed to have him teach us along the way. You must all be so proud. Praying for peace and comfort the heal your broken hearts. God bless!
Hugs from MN
The Botz's
Mary Botz <jmbotz@hotmail.com>
- Tuesday, January 23, 2007 8:02 AM CST

We are so sorry for your loss just know that your family is in our prayers.
www.caringbridge.org/visit/willadkins
www.caringbridge.org/visit/samandrae

Deborah Adkins <LIldebbie80@aol.com>
Hamptonville, NC USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 6:54 AM CST

Dearest Melissa & Family,
I am a friend of Dana's (Ashtin & Braden) and have been keeping up with Donovan's story through her website and clicking on your link. I haven't signed your guest book before but always try to read the journals. This time I feel it is different. I wanted to express my heartfelt sympathy. Your little trooper is such an inspiration and I am sure he is smiling down from heaven. I am so, so sorry for your loss and am praying for you and your family.
With sincerest sympathies,
April

April Sessoms
Hampton, VA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 6:53 AM CST

My deepest sympathy to your entire family and circle of friends. I was directed to your website from Conner's website. I just want you to know that you have someone in Puerto Rico praying for you all. May God Bless you all and I sure hope "Angel Donovan" is with the Colts on Feb. 4th!! :)
Denise Gonzalez <deniseg97@hotmail.com>
Humacao, PR Puerto Rico - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 6:45 AM CST

My prayers are with you in this difficult time, I am Parker Fritsch's Aunt. There are no words at this time to make you feel at ease.. you will be in my prayers
Tammy
Beach Lake, Pa - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 4:30 AM CST

My heart is breaking for you. I wish I could be at Donovan's Celebration, but I live in Oregon. Please know that someone in Oregon is thinking of you. I love you Donovan!!!
Tiffany <ttaylorrn@comcast.net>
Salem, OR USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 0:54 AM CST

If I didn't live on the other side of the country I'd be there! Will be there in spirit!
This is one of my all time favorite verses when it comes to getting through hard times.
Rom 8:26 Likewise the Spirit also helpeth our infirmities: for we know not what we should pray for as we ought: but the Spirit itself maketh intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered.
The Prayer Bears Website
Lynn <aprayerbear@gmail.com>
Seattle, WA United States - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 0:21 AM CST

To Melissa, Darren and Dylan, I'm so very sorry for your lost, I've been following yr "Lil bear's "journey for some time now and I'm sadden for yr lost, He touched so many people in his short life, He is truly am "angel"!!! May God bless and keep you in the days to come
Antoinette Spivey & Family
Antoinette Spivey <lilmsdragonfly5@yahoo.com>
Maurepas, La USA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 0:07 AM CST

Sending many, many Prayers....................

Love,

Kris
Danny

Kris <ccougarfan@aol.com>
- Monday, January 22, 2007 11:41 PM CST

Dearest Melissa, Darren, Dylan and Family-

I am so sorry for your tremendous loss. I am at a loss for words. I am so sad but feel relief in knowing that Donovan is perfectly healed and in a beautiful place with our Father. I've been checking in on all of you several times a day for months and will continue to do so. I can't help but look at that beautiful baby of yours that will remain forever in our hearts.

May you find peace in the coming days and know that Baby D has impacted so many lives. He's been on my mind a lot lately and I will never forget your sweet little teddybear.

Below are the lyrics to one of my favorite songs that is so fitting. It's called "Held" by Natalie Grant:

NATALIE GRANT lyrics

Follow the link below to listen to it. It's the third song in....

http://nataliegrant.com/jukebox.php

God bless you all,

Becky, Chuck, Nathan, Julia and Madelyn

http://www.caringbridge.org/nh/nathanhunter
Becky Wright <mom2nateandjulia@aol.com>
Manchester , NH - Monday, January 22, 2007 11:09 PM CST

My heart goes out to you and your family. You all are in my thoughts and prayers. Donny is now a healthy angel, flying free in heaven.
Cristie <cmitzel@gra.midco.net>
East Grand Forks, MN USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 10:58 PM CST

I am so sorry for your loss, but I am so happy Baby D is no longer suffering. I am at such a loss for words.

My heart is with yours and my prayers are with you.

Go Colts!!! Go BABY D!!!!!!
Andrea <ams031804@yahoo.com>
- Monday, January 22, 2007 10:54 PM CST

I am so sorry to hear the news, but rejoice that baby Donovan is now healthy in Heaven. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
Joanne Morgan
New Hope, MN USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 10:45 PM CST

You don't know me, but I have also been praying for you all. I am not usually a guest book signer, but this is a time when you need all the encouragement that you can get. As I was watching the last few minutes of the football game yesterday, I saw what the final score was. I couldn't believe it because the last time I checked, the Colts were losing. I looked at my husband and said "THAT'S AWESOME!!!" He looked at me in shock because I don't even like football. ( In Canada, it's hockey). So, I explained why I was so happy the Colt's won. You had a very special little boy who was loved by so very many!! May God wrap his loving arms around you and the Holy Spirit give you peace. I just picture Donovan sitting on Jesus' knee cheering on the Colts. God bless you and your family.
Continuing in prayer, Naomi Fehr

Visit: www.caringbridge.org/canada/joshua
Naomi Fehr <jnyf@mts.net>
Winkler, MB Canada - Monday, January 22, 2007 10:40 PM CST

Melissa,
It was nice to talk to you this evening. Even though I wish it was on on different terms. Your teddy bear was a special special little boy and he will always be with you. I know that things will come around eventually for you. They will be forever changed, but things will get better. I hope your dream can come true to go to the Superbowl in honor of your little man. I know that donny would be with you and cheering on your colts. If there is anyone out there that can help make this dream come true, you have NO IDEA what this would mean to Melissa and her family!

I will be praying for You and Dylan. Praying that God watches over him and gives him the strength and courage he needs to understand everything that has happened. Donny will wrap his wings of love around him and be with him always.

In God's Grace,
Jennifer Hines <creative_jenny@cox.net>
Mesa, AZ - Monday, January 22, 2007 10:17 PM CST

I so wish I could be there to meet you all. You are so strong and I feel like I know you. Take care and I will be thinking of you on Friday and beyond.

Megan www.caringbridge.org/visit/mch

PS- I think Donovan helped the Colts to win! They knew they had to for this little man.
Megan Haas <mchaas@kent.edu>
Medina, OH USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 10:07 PM CST

sORRY TO HEAR OF YOUR LOSS OF bABY dONAVAN. mAY THE lORD cOMFORT YOU NOW AND GIVE YOU GRACE FOR THE DAYS AHEAD
rHONDA
WWW.CARINGBRIDGE.ORG/VISIT/MADELYNGURGANUS

Rhonda Gurganus
New Bern, NC usa - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:32 PM CST

I am so very sorry to hear about Donovan.My heart and prayers are with you during this difficult time.

Charmian
Burke, VA USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:17 PM CST

May God wrap his strong arms around each of you and carry you through this difficult time. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Darlene Roper
Morganton, NC USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:08 PM CST

I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine anything I say can ease your pain. Just know my thoughts and prayers are with your family. God Bless you.
Lori <hotlori@sbcglobal.net>
Festus, MO US - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:07 PM CST

I was sent your precious baby's link from Brenda(Colby's grandmother) who is a leader in an email prayer warrior chain. I have never written in the guest book, but I wanted you to know that your family will continue to be in my prayers as you face the days ahead. May God give you the peace and comfort you need.
Thank you for sharing your very special "love story" with the world.
Piper Stephens <benpip@yahoo.com>
Hickory, NC usa - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:02 PM CST

Dear Melissa and Family. I am a BMT nurse in Michigan. I found your site through Amazing Jacobs and finding myself signing on everyday to check on Donovan. I am so saddened by the news but happy that he is no longer in pain. Although I've never met your family you guys have touched my heart and been an inspiration. When I've had a bad day or am losing my patience with my kids I read your journal and it really puts things in perspective of whats important and that spilled milk and a messy house cannot compare to the problems that you and your family have had to endure. You have taught us all grace, patience and over all to be better moms. Your strength is amazing. Please know that your family is in my thoughts and prayers. Also I was not a football fan before but did follow the game yesterday and will certainly be rooting for the Colts in the Superbowl..Much love to your family ...Tracy
Tracy <baylinermy@msn.com>
Livonia, MI USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:01 PM CST

DARREN, MELISSA AND DYLAN,
MY HEART ACHES FOR YOUR FAMILY. I KNOW THERE IS NOTHING ANYONE CAN SAY OR DO TO TAKE THE PAIN AWAY BUT KNOW THAT YOUR FAMILY IS IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS. I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOUR FAMILY IF GOING THROUGH, I ALSO LOST MY SON TO CANCER FEB. 14, 2006. ALTHOUGH I DON'T KNOW YOUR FAMILY I FEEL CONNECTED....WE SHARE THE SAME LOSS. I PRAY FOR GOD TO COMFORT YOU, TO GIVE YOU THE STRENGTH YOU NEED TO FACE THE DAYS AHEAD. PUT YOUR TRUST IN GOD AND KNOW THAT WE WILL SEE OURS SONS AGAIN SOMEDAY...THAT IS HOW I KEEP GOING. GOD BLESS.
KIM MIZELL WWW.CARINGBRIDGE.ORG/AL/MIZELL <CKATT@BELLSOUTH.NET>
ATTALLA, AL - Monday, January 22, 2007 8:57 PM CST

Here I am once again...I'm here so many times a day just looking at Donovan's pictures....still in shock.

Donovan, I just want to let you know how much I miss you sweet angel. Although we all miss you terribly, I'm so happy that you get to be free of all those tubes and chemo and nasty cancer cells. Watch over Dylan, Mommy and Daddy and keep them safe....xoxo
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
NJ - Monday, January 22, 2007 8:51 PM CST

Dearest Melissa and family,

Yesterday, our family watched the Colts beat New England. This was something different for us because we usually don't watch football. We cheered and yelled and I couldn't help but smile and think Baby D had something to do with their victory.

We are thinking and praying for all of you and we appreciate each and every message you leave on our site. You will be in our thoughts and prayers constantly in the next few days as you endure the hardest of things for a parent. We pray for peace and comfort and a celebration of Baby D truly worthy of an amazing and inspirational warrior.

Love
Giselle(mom to baby Brenden)
Giselle Mouro <robmouro@hotmail.com>
Vancouver, BC Canada - Monday, January 22, 2007 8:51 PM CST

I have been thinking of you and your family all weekend. My heart goes out to all of you. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. Please except my sympathy.

Love

Jess
Jess Ferrell <aerostones1@verizon.net>
Middletown, RI USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 8:49 PM CST

I'm so sorry about your baby boy. my heart goes out to you, I can imagine the pain in your heart but just remember he is an angel now in Gods arms, there is no more pain for him and some day you will hold him in your arms again.
Love and God Bless you.
Flora Gens
Hemet, CA USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 8:45 PM CST

Dear Melissa,

I truly wish I could be there to celebrate Baby D's life. But please know I will be thinking of you all and saying prayers. As for sharing your journey with us, the honor is all ours. Baby D. is an amazing little guy, and your family is an inspiration to us all; an example of love and devotion. Peace be with you.
Kim T. <t6834@aol.com>
Glendale, AZ USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 8:38 PM CST

Melissa,
Thanks for the note in my book...it was really good to hear from ya! We are thinking of you guys constantly and working hard on kicking major butt on the cancer front. Heard the colts are going to the superbowl and of course we all thought of you guys....
praying for ya daily
Marlena Hodges <jmhodges1@verizon.net>
- Monday, January 22, 2007 8:28 PM CST

Dearest Rasmussen Family,

Our hearts are breaking for you. We will continue to keep all of you in our thoughts and prayers as you walk this difficult journey. Baby D will be greatly missed by all of us. You have all touched us with your courage, your determination, and your incredible grace under unimaginable circumstances. Thank you for allowing us to share in the incredible life that Donovan lived. May you be blessed with peace.

All of our love,
The Quigleys (from ALL-Kids ListServe) www3.caringbridge.org/ut/elizabeth <debbiedozoo@cs.com>
Kaysville, UT USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 8:24 PM CST

You are all in my thoughts.
Annie <penguini1982@yahoo.com>
Rochester, MA - Monday, January 22, 2007 8:11 PM CST

Pryaers from CA,
Marey, Cali Ali's Mom
Marey <kteachermom@hotmail.com>
- Monday, January 22, 2007 8:09 PM CST

I'm praying for your family.
Hugs,
Ann Watts/Angel Wings <bubbasoldlady@cebridge.net>
Jacksonville, AR USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 8:07 PM CST

God Bless!!
I am so sorry
from Rhys in Wales the UK one of the NEMO children
Kevin and Rhys Harris <cure4rhys@gmail.com>
Newport, Gwent Wales UK - Monday, January 22, 2007 8:02 PM CST

I have been following the journey of your little Teddy Bear for quite some time now and am saddened to hear the news of his passing. I have been able to witness the enormous amount of love you have for Donovan through your site. I have no doubt in my mind that you will have the most wonderful celebration of his life. My thoughts and prayers are with you!
Julie <jredmon1@wi.rr.com>
- Monday, January 22, 2007 8:02 PM CST

Darren, Melissa, Dylan, Extended Family, I have no words to comfort you or make it better. I was just thinking of all the little ones that shared rooms next to Alexandria "Alex" on the transplant wing and was checking in on them. (Alex left to be with Jesus a year ago, January 6th.) Know that sweet Donovan is not alone, he is with Jesus and all the other special little angels that have come to share their precious lives with us; and left us changed forever. Just know that many people are thinking of you and praying for you. I know this is not very comforting right now. It's funny though, how when you think you have no more strength to keep going; you get a gentle push or lift from behind and you find that you keep going. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

(Alexandria's Mommy)

www.caringbridge.com/visit/alexrebolokozubal

Cell# 908-578-5451 (if you ever need to talk)
Maria G. Rebolo <mgrpilot@yahoo.com>
Branchburg, NJ USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 7:54 PM CST

I have been following Donny's journey for a while, but I have not signed your guest book. I really can't find the words to express my sympathy.

I too have a two year old and I really can't imagine what you are going through. I just watched your photo montage (with tears streaming down my face) of your little teddy bear what a beautiful tribute to such a strong, beautiful, and happy little boy that had the most loving family that any little boy could have. I am not even a football fan but, I will root for the Colts in the Super Bowl.
I know your little Donovan will be cheering those Colts on from heaven.
My thoughts and prayers are with your entire family in this most difficult time. May God bless you.

I will give my son a few extra hugs and kisses tonight and every night. Thank you so much for sharing Donny's journey with us I just wished it would have had a happier ending. There are too many babies losing their battles with this terrible disease. I know what you were going through. My husband is a cancer survior, (diagnosed with Hodgekins at 24) we were lucky, I wish that could have been the same outcome for your little guy.
I will keep checking your website to see that beautiful boy and to be thankful everyday for the little mircles that God gives us and not to take anything for granted. Thank you so much for sharing your journey.

Keep all of us Baby D fans updated on how your family is
doing.

Again Thank you so much you are truely an anazing family
Crissi Klein <cklein@transomamedical.com>
Woobury, MN - Monday, January 22, 2007 7:47 PM CST

Dear Melissa, Darren & Dylan, I just want you to know that I think you are phenominal individuals. Actually, I look up to you all so much. I just want you to stay stong and hang in there, I am praying for you hourly! I just don't know what else to do. You all are AWESOME! God Bless You!
Patti Campanella <campanella10@sbcglobal.net>
Carmel, IN 46033 - Monday, January 22, 2007 7:35 PM CST

Darren, Melissa, Dylan, Extended Family, Checking in on you all tonight, letting you know you are being held close in thoughts and prayers. I wish I lived closer that, I might attend Baby D's celebration of life.I instead will be releasing blue and white balloons on Sat morning in honor of Baby D and his beloved colts. Baby D..So many people are missing you today, but all are happy that you are free from pain and suffering. Can't wait to see the *Good Luck* you bring to the colt's in the super bowl. G-O D-O-N-N-Y!!!!... G-O C-O-L-T'-S!!!!!
Karen <indianagal_2004@yahoo.com>
- Monday, January 22, 2007 7:24 PM CST

Donovan(Little Buddy) I am thinking about you non-stop you were such a precious little guy! You will hold a special spot in many hearts!
Melissa and Darren and Dylan and xtended family~ My thoughts and prayers are with each and every one of you today and especially last night when I heard that the Colts WON! They did it in honor of Donovan and his wonderful family! Hang in there guys you are such miraculous people and such a wonderful family! Take Care and We Love you
Love Brandy
www.caringbridge.org/mn/scottbabies
Brandy Hendershot <branmuffin1982@yahoo.com>
Ellsworth, WI - Monday, January 22, 2007 7:06 PM CST

Dear Melissa, Darren, Dylan, and your extended family,
I'm just heartbroken like everyone else over losing Donovan to this horrible disease. It's taken me two days to think about what to say...and in that time, thirty-four thousand people have viewed this site since Donovan earned his angel wings...people from nearly every state, Canada, and as far away as Australia...your following is unbelievable. You have allowed us into your lives, and I'm sure I speak for many in that we feel like part of your beautiful family; we were happy when Baby D had a good day, and sad when he didn't. I feel like in some way, he belongs to all of us. I'm so sad that he's no longer here with you, but am thankful that he's no longer suffering and can run free in Heaven and play with all of the other angels. What your family has endured is not fair and we'll never understand why, but Baby D definitely had a purpose here on earth and God decided it was time to bring him home. They say God never gives you more than you can handle...your family must be one of the strongest that exists. I will continue thinking of you every day and I know that God will continue to watch over you, as will his newest beautiful Angel Donovan. May you continue to be blessed with God's grace, peace, and strength.
Tammy Nelson <All3Nelsons@aol.com>
Broomfield, CO U.S.A. - Monday, January 22, 2007 7:02 PM CST

Baby D's Mommy and Daddy~

HI! My name is Amber (12y) when my Mom told me about your baby boy, Donovan, I wanted to see his site so I could see what he looked liked! It really broke my heart to see such a cute baby die! I showed my friend Tara (12y) and all she kept saying was "AWWWWWW". She liked the picture when he had his hands over his eyes, I thought it was cute too! My Mom told me the COLTS won I screamed and whistled in high pitch! I was so happy! I am sad that he died, but happy at the same time. I mean yes he is not here with us and yes we will miss him a lot, but ya know what, he is in the best place anybody could be. One day later you will get to see him again and hold him touch him and hear him laugh and play. You know what baby Donovan would want you to do to please stop sheading those tears! You know what Baby Donovan is probably up in HEAVEN right now play with ^Laken^, ^Tanner^, ^Jacob^, and a bunch more ANGELS up in HEAVEN! Also he is in a better place now with no BOO, BOOS. Last night he had the best seat in the house! I will pray for your family tonight!

Baby Donovan~

Hi baby Donovan! You are the cutest little man I have ever seen! Did you help the COLTS win last night? I think you did! Oh Donovan you were so cute, and I bet you still are! Give your Mommy some signs to tell her that you're O.K.! Send your Daddy and your big brother signs that your O.K. too!

With Love and PRAYERS~ Amber Coe (Sister of ^Laken^ in HEAVEN)
http://www.caringbridge.com/visit/lakenroy
Amber <I'masweetgirl10@aol.com>
Kernersville, NC USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 7:01 PM CST

I just want to say how sorry I am. I remember the first day I met you all and most of all Donovan at clinic. You did so much right for Donovan. I am proud to know you....Tonya....P.S. I watched your Colts last night and was so excited to see them win. I never watch football but wanted to see them win to give you at least a tiny bit of happiness. Please let us know if there is anything we can do. Please know we will take Dylan anytime to play. Tessa would love it.
Tonya Naylor <tpawlow@yahoo.com>
- Monday, January 22, 2007 6:53 PM CST

I am so sorry for your loss. Know you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Kenna <mkschulz@charter.net>
Northfield, MN - Monday, January 22, 2007 6:46 PM CST

Just letting you know you have constantly been on my mind, in my heart, and in my prayers.
Oh how I wish I could be in North Carolina this weekend to celebrate Donny's life, and to hug his entire family.
Debby Cushing <dbsue@casstel.net>
Peculiar, MO USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 6:29 PM CST

Our entire family wish to send our condolences for your loss. We will continue to keep your family in our prayers.
Vicki/Angel Wings
Corson/Lamorey Family www.caringbridge.org/visit/morganelizabeth
Northfield, vt - Monday, January 22, 2007 6:26 PM CST

Dear Rasmussen Family,
I didn't get a chance to check the page this weekend. I was watching the news last night and during the sports highlights they showed the amazing Colts game and I just knew heaven had a new angel (guiding the Colts to victory as his first heavenly act no doubt). Our thoughts and prayers are with you and yours as you celebrate the amazing life of your teddy bear Donovan.

Much Love,
The McCarthy 6
Joy McCarthy <joymcarthy@aol.com>
Mountain View, CA USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 6:25 PM CST

Hi Melissa,
I am so sad for your loss. I am glad that Donovan is no longer in pain. God bless you and your family during this time.

Debbie Wood (ALL KIDS) (McKayla's Mommy) <mkddwood@aol.com>
Riverside, CA USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 6:11 PM CST

Just to let you know that I'm thinking about you and sending prayers your way.
Liz Unger <poppy4100@aol.com>
Arnold, Md. - Monday, January 22, 2007 6:10 PM CST

I'm heartbroken, yet comforted, knowing Baby D doesnt
have to suffer anymore. I will miss you Donovan, and
remember, you are a True Warrior. I will forever
remember your courage and strength. God Bless you
baby boy!!!!!
Love Noelle's Uncle Chris
Chris and Jennifer Naylor <typeoneg8888@yahoo.com>
Joliet, IL - Monday, January 22, 2007 6:09 PM CST

Donovan's Family, I am so very sorry. May you find peace.

Angel Donovan, Go rest high on that mountain, your work on earth is through. You have blessed all that heard your story.
Lori Rastatter <thediego@aol.com>
Simi Valley, CA USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 6:00 PM CST

Donovan,
While I never met you in person my heart is with you and your soul today. You should know that our hearts are more open and there is more compassion in the world because of your brave fight. I'm sure your parents and brother will love one another more fully because of your presence in their lives. You will live on as a beautiful angel touching all of our lives. May you rest in peace little boy.
Chris <neilands@bellsouth.net>
Atlanta, GA - Monday, January 22, 2007 5:54 PM CST

I have been following Baby D for a while now but never wrote. His picture just caught my eye from the first time I saw his sight what a handsome little boy. I am normally not a colts fan but I cheered and prayed for your family through the whole game. Thinking and Praying for you all.

Lori Nelson <lorinelson@midrivers.com>
Sidney , MT USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 5:53 PM CST

Just wanted to let you know how sorry I am for your loss. I have been following Donovan's story for about a month and I can't even imagine what you are going through. He is very lucky to have such a supportive family. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Kim <krgr@aol.com>
Vienna, OH - Monday, January 22, 2007 5:21 PM CST

Thinking of you, praying for you during this difficult time. Donovan touched us so and somehow I feel a loss here on this earth without him. Now, he will continue to touch the world through your family. May God keep you and sustain you as you rebuild your lives.
Jen, Mom to Samuel <bud110@aol.com>
S. Prairie, WA USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 5:21 PM CST

Dear Melissa and Darren,

I just wanted to stop and leave you the name of a book I thought you might find helpful. The author is Nancy Guthrie, the title Holding on to Hope. I heard the author and her husband speak on a radio talk show and it sounded like a great book for those going through difficult times. Hopefully you can find it at a library. The website where you can find out more about the book is www.familylife.com.

Still praying for your family as always,
The Albright's
Camellia, Dwayne, Tyler, Brandon, and Blake
Jeremiah 17:7
Blessed is the man that trusteth in the Lord, and whose hope the Lord is.
Camellia Albright <camelliaa@hotmail.com>
West Baden, IN USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 4:54 PM CST

I am sorry for your loss. I have followed Donovan for awhile. It broke my heart when I read that he had passed away. I also know that he is in a better place and not suffering anymore. May God be with you and your family during this difficult time.
Donna <drobinson1027@aol.com>
Williamston, SC USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 4:46 PM CST

I am so sorry it has taken me so long to write to you. I have had the hardest time coming up with the words to write- I think I have sat down at the computer about 5 times the past couple of days and could not get anything out. Thank you so much for letting me know Sat. night- I was not able to get to a computer until last night so I would not have known. Your family has become so special to me and my heart is breaking for all of you. I love Donovan so much and I talked about him all the time to all of my friends. I miss him so much already but I know that he is looking down on his family and will be by your side all the time. Mel, I love you and am so sorry that you have to go through this. I know that Donovan is so happy right now to be pain free and finally able to run and jump :) Oh, how I would love to see that right now. May God wrap you in his arms during this most difficult time. I will continue to pray for you all. You have amazed me through all of this and you are the most wonderful mommy I know. I love you and I will see you Saturday for sure.

Dana and Boys
www.caringbridge.org/visit/ashtinandbraden
Dana Jobst <dajobst@cox.net>
Hampton, VA - Monday, January 22, 2007 4:44 PM CST

I am sooo sorry..my heart breaks for you
The Lester Clan (Mike, Sherri, Jacob & Morgan) <a_bear4u@yahoo.com>
IL USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 4:43 PM CST

I am so so sad for yur loss...I am crying for you now as I did when my own child passed away when you were learning of Donovan's first relapse. Our stories are similar in the fight that we went through with that beast called Leukemia. I know the pain in which you are about to endure yet with comes the peace that even though we suffer, they don't anymore...My heart hurts for you. I will offer up my prayers for your peace and continued strength.
In Love & Prayer...Eleasha <eleasha@cox.net>
www.caringbridge.org/va/cody, - Monday, January 22, 2007 4:28 PM CST

Thinking of you and praying for your continued strength, good spirits, and knowledge that Donovan touched so many lives near and far. You must feel so proud of his amazing life Spirit - which undoubtedly shines over all of us. With our sincere condolences,
Claudina (Caterina's mom) <claubonetti@aol.com>
New York, NY - Monday, January 22, 2007 4:26 PM CST

wanted you and your family to know im sorry my family will be praying for all of you and god bless you all your son was loved bye many people and will be missed bye them all
ann woodell <woodella@bellosuht.net>
morgantom, nc burke - Monday, January 22, 2007 4:24 PM CST

Hey Melissa and gang,
I am so sorry for your loss. Donovan was an amazing trooper and SO adorable. I wish I could come to the services and finally meet you guys, but we will be in Colorado this week. I hope all goes well and I will be praying for your comfort and peace during this hard time. May God bless your family.
Beth :)
Beth Lynn <emmaliz0316@yahoo.com>
Willow Spring, NC USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 4:19 PM CST

My heart breaks for you. I uncerstand the pain of losing a small child to cancer as I lost my son Max nearly one year ago. I don't have any magic words to take this all away, but I do know that somehow, our precious Angels seem to leave us with incredible amounts of strength. We might not always feel so strong, but it's surprising how such a little person can make you want to do big things in your life. For them. Donovan was a beautiful and sweet little man and I am angry that he was stolen from you, saddened that you're in so much pain and still so very blessed to have seen pictures of his perfect little face. This is not fair, I know, and it will never be, I can only hope for you that time will ease your pain, and you will find the answers you need to heal. Thinking about you today, and always.

www.caringbridge.org/visit/maddoxrothernel
Arryn Scott <arryn@sympatico.ca>
St.Marys, ON Canada - Monday, January 22, 2007 4:08 PM CST

Your perfect angel is at peace and without pain. My heart aches at the thought of your loss. May God be with you and your family, as I am sure he is walking beside your beautiful boy. I lack the words, but know that you and your sweet angel Donovan have been in my thoughts and prayer.
Tracey Rodgers
Bend, or - Monday, January 22, 2007 4:02 PM CST

Dear Melissa and Family:
Your sweet Baby D stole my heart since the first time I saw his pictures. I'm his #1 fan in Panama and I will remember him forever. He's definitely in a much better place now surrounded by everything beautiful, where there's no pain or sorrow and knowing that he is immensely loved by his family and everyone who happened to meet him either in person or thru your site.
Nitza Maiolini <nitza_maiolini@yahoo.com>
Panama, Panama - Monday, January 22, 2007 3:55 PM CST

Praying for peace and comfort that only God can give-Katelyns MomMom
Wylie Williams
Villas, NJ USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 3:52 PM CST

I am very sorry for your loss. Thank you for allowing us to be a part of your lives. He will be missed. He had such awesome courage. God Bless
Mari Bolden <doggluvrs@aol.com>
MANSFIELD, OH USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 3:42 PM CST

Our Prayers are with you!
Gavin Nicholas Ontiveros "Nicky" <ranchovaquero@hotmail.com>
Hebron, IN US - Monday, January 22, 2007 3:36 PM CST

My heart aches for you all. Baby D will me missed by many. He truely was an amazing little guy --- look at how many people he touched.
My best wishes to your whole family thru this difficult time. Love to you all.

P.S. Way to help the Colts win the game Donovan!
Danielle Good <dgood@airmail.net>
Little Elm, TX - Monday, January 22, 2007 3:27 PM CST

I have followed your page and your story for a few months now. I am so sorry again for your loss. I signed in last night after the Colts won. I keep telling Peyton do it for Baby "D" Win for that family. I wish there was some way that I could get in contact with Peyton and tell him that on Super Bowl sunday he will have an angel on his shoulder helping him out and thousands accross America praying that they win! Take comfort in knowing that so many people will be watching and thinking of your son on that day. I hope that the address on the bottom of the home page is correct as I have sent you a card. Thanks again for sharing your son and your lives with all of us.
Cyndi Claus <lclausgirl1@charter.net>
Sparks, Nv - Monday, January 22, 2007 3:23 PM CST

I wish that I could attend so that I could give your whole family a huge hug. I hope that a cyberhug suffices - {{{{{HUG}}}}}.

I know that we talked last week - please let me know whatever you need me to do!

I also have to say that as happy as I am that the Bears are in the SuperBowl, I was JUST as happy to see your Colts make it there too.
Kim Magnan & Family (John, Brady, and Tyler) <k_magnan@hotmail.com>
Pleasant Prairie, WI - Monday, January 22, 2007 3:21 PM CST

Hi there, I wanted to send a big hug your way, all of you. Especially you big bubby Dylan. :) We think of you all the time. God Bless. GO BIG BLUE, Baby D the Colts won for you, and I know that you cheered them on all the way, right along with your family. Peace be with you all.
Brooke Deckard & Family <rentalman8@yahoo.com>
Bloomington, IN USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 3:11 PM CST

Dear Rasmussen Family,
I am so very sorry to hear that Baby Donovan had to move on. It must be so hard for all of you, but especially hard for Dylan. We will keep praying for all of you and the children fighting this hard battle. Sincerely, Noelle's Cousin Tammy
Tammy Renick Clark <trenick@pacbell.net>
Sunnyvale, CA - Monday, January 22, 2007 3:09 PM CST

I found your site through Austin Scott's site. I have been following your story for a while now. Your news sadens me. I just wanted you to know that my heart goes out to you. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Chrissy Conway <christinaconway@charter.net>
Woodruff, SC - Monday, January 22, 2007 3:06 PM CST

Many thoughts and prayers are with you Melissa and family at this saddest time imaginable. Thank you for sharing Donovan's life and beautiful spirit with us. What an amazing gift to give to so many. Keeping you in prayer.
mary and alex ziegler <mary.ziegler@comcast.net>
steilacoom, wa 98388 - Monday, January 22, 2007 3:00 PM CST

My heart goes out to you. I also have a very special angel who went home to be with Jesus on December 10, 2004. I saw this was the day Donovan was born.
Thinking of you and holding you up in prayer.
www.caringbridge.org/in/christian
Maurie Johns <edj@netnitco.net>
Rensselaer, IN - Monday, January 22, 2007 2:55 PM CST

Knowing that Baby D is an angel watching over you and hoping this comforts you now and forever.
Tricia Fullem <phdfullem@yahoo.com>
Bolingbrook, IL USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 2:47 PM CST

GOD'S GARDEN
Author Unknown
God looked around His garden
And found an empty place.
He then looked upon the earth
And saw your tired face.

He put His arm around you
And lifted you to rest.
God's garden must be beautiful
He always takes the best.

He knew that you were suffering.
He knew you were in pain.
He knew that you would never
Get well on earth again.

He saw the road was getting rough,
And the hills were hard to climb.
So He closed your eyelids,
And whispered, "Peace be thine."

It broke our hearts to lose you,
But you didn't go alone.
For part of us went with you
The day God called you Home.

I AM SO SADDEN BY THE LOSS OF YOUR BABY BOY. JUS TKNOW THAT YOU WILL ALWAYS HAVE YOUR OWN VERY SPECIAL ANGEL WATCHING OVER YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. I DON'T EVEN KNOW YOU OR YOUR FAMILY, I FEEL LIKE I SHOULD. BABY DONOVAN YOU HAVE TOUCHED MY HEART IN SO MANY WAYS. I WANT TO THANK YOUR FAMILY FOR BEING STRONG AND SHARING YOUR LONG HARD JOURNEY WITH US.I AM A MOTHER OF 2 AND I CAN'T EVEN BEGIN TO IMANGE ALL THAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL.

YOU ALL ARE IN MY HEART AND PRAYERS.
TIFFANY CLARK <TCLARK@COASTALFCU.ORG>
CREEDMOOR, NC US - Monday, January 22, 2007 2:46 PM CST

May God be with you through this very sad time. My heart and prayers go out to your family. Your precious son no longer needs prayers as he is an Angel in heaven with Jesus where there is no pain, no saddness, no tears. God Bless you all.
Dee Dee Carlson <ddcarlson@yahoo.com>
Plainflield, IL USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 2:43 PM CST

I have never signed this guest book and followed your Lil' Bears story for about a month. I wanted to pass along my sympathies to the whole family. I did not check the net yesterday, so I did not know about Donovan's passing until this morning, but I thought of him as the Colts game started and when I saw that they won. I was hoping he'd get to have one more game with you, but I guess they needed his help from above to win the game!!! Thinking & praying for all of you!!!
S
MI USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 2:43 PM CST

Dononvan
I have been sad since I got your moms email you had joined the angels. I will be praying 4 u all.
pam(www.pamsstory.org) <sylteach@aol.com>
- Monday, January 22, 2007 2:42 PM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan,
I can't remember if I signed the GB or not. This is where my head has been since I learned of Donny's passing. I am so heartbroken that a there needs to be a new word for it. I'm not sure what else to say except I fell in love with your little guy -- you know that. I pray that you have the strength to get through this. Little Bear I will miss you!
K-C <kellychristine.day@citigroup.com>
Eastchester, NY - Monday, January 22, 2007 2:38 PM CST

We are praying for your family!!!
JohnnieRae Geving <jrgeving@hotmail.com>
Dunn Center, nd usa - Monday, January 22, 2007 2:36 PM CST

Melissa, Darren and Dylan,
Our family has been following Baby D's site for quite awhile. I am Matthew's Aunt and Nancy's youngest sister. We are wishing you all comfort and peace during this difficult time ahead. You are all in our prayers and will continue to be.
Debbie
Debbie <Deb13210@comcast.net>
Fort Wayne, IN - Monday, January 22, 2007 2:33 PM CST

We are praying for your family. God Bless.
Pam Porter <r.porter@mindspring.com>
Cumming, GA - Monday, January 22, 2007 2:29 PM CST

I have been crying off and on since yesterday...your little boy has stolen such a huge piece of my heart, and losing him has affected me in a way I never could have imagined.

My heart aches for your loss...I am so sorry for what you are going through. I've never heard of a fighter like Donovan...he was an amazing boy and is now the most glorious little angel.

I am sure you already realize that your special little man has impacted thousands of people...perfect strangers like myself...in such a positive way.

He was and always will be a little hero.

My prayers go out to you, Melissa, Darren and Dylan.
Jacquelyn <jacqmills@comcast.net>
Sacramento, CA - Monday, January 22, 2007 2:12 PM CST

"You are my Sunshine", that just got to me, I sang that song alot too! Hang in there ok! You have a special deposit in Heaven now.

I have found the missfoundation a great resource! www.missfoundation.org

Know that you will be in our thoughts and prayers for the coming days ahead.

Sincerely,

Elaine and JJ
www.trinitysdiary.com
www.missfoundation.org
Elaine and JJ <angelsmom@shaw.ca>
Bby, BC Canada - Monday, January 22, 2007 2:10 PM CST

I follow many Caringbridge sites. Baby D's site was the only one I followed daily. He touched my heart and many others.
I'm hoping the Colt's win yesterday helped you to get throught the day with out Baby Donovan's physical presence.
You and your family will be in my prayers. Baby D will forever be a part of my life. He was one of the amazing hereos that wasn't able to speak profound words verbally but the way he lived his life spoke volumes. You and Darren did a terrific job with him. Dylan is blessed to have you to help him through this.
Wasn't planning on picking a team to cheer for but I'll be cheering for the Colts....and thinking of you all.

Tamara
Colorado Springs, CO - Monday, January 22, 2007 2:09 PM CST

Melissa, Daren, Dylan and the rest of Baby D's family,
What an inspiration. I have followed your site for almost a year now. I feel as if I know each and everyone of you. I am a Bronco's fan, but you better beleive that I was cheering on those Colts last night and will be in the Super Bowl. I was so sad to read your site and realize that baby D didn't get to watch the game here with his family. However he was watching with his new family and running around on the streets of glory, no more pain and suffering Baby D. Fly with the angels and be happy and I know that you are sitting at the right hand of our Heavenly Father. I know that your family misses you dearly. I know that you will be looking out for them in these terrible times. I know that Dylan will miss you also, but he is such a great big brother.
I know that the days ahead will be very trying and lonely, but always know that thru God are Things are Possible, He will never leave nor forsake you, lean on Him and He will pull you thru. I will continue to keep up with you and your family. Love and prayers to all of you. FLY FREE BABY D. you have won the battle and your hard work here on this earth is over. You will be missed by some many that knew you and by even more than never had that opportunity. What a beautuful child.
Your will always be in our thought and prayers!!
Danna Lawrence <danna@teamtransportation.com>
Summerville, SC Berkeley - Monday, January 22, 2007 2:08 PM CST

My thoughts and prayers go to you and your precious family. Your precious angel will live in God's arms until you meet again. God bless you.
Marcia Hornberger <aerobicfit@aol.com>
Frisco, Tx USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 2:04 PM CST

I have been following your family's story for quite sometime now but have never left a message. My heart was broken to hear about Donny's passing. Although you knew it was the plan doesn't make the pain any easier. Your story is an inspiration and I hope that you continue to share with us.

Amy Fournier
Windsor, On Canada - Monday, January 22, 2007 2:02 PM CST

Like other die hard Patriot fans, I am a bigger fan of sweet Donny, so I rooted for the Colts. At one point my husband was sure the Pats would win, but I knew better. The Colts had a very special Angel on their side. I want you to know, last week when I was shopping, the cashier said "getting food for the patriots big game?" And I said "nope - for the Colts!" She looked at me funny and I explained. Today, I was back there and when I told her of Donny's passing, she got a tear in her eye and said "that little Angel was on the Colts side huh?" See how far reaching Donny's story is? I will never ever forget Donny and will hold you all in my heart and prayers as you face the days ahead.
Linda Rudman
Shrewsbury, MA - Monday, January 22, 2007 1:59 PM CST

Dear Melissa and family~ I continue to think about you and sweet Baby Donovan constantly. I am praying for peace for you, and I pray that someday in heaven you will once again hold your precious teddy bear in your arms.
Heidi Krieger (www.caringbridge.org/visit/graceanne) <HKrieger@wi.rr.com>
Racine, WI - Monday, January 22, 2007 1:58 PM CST

Dear Rasmussen Family:
I am continuing my prayers for you all through these extrememly sorrowful times ahead. You guys have been exceptional parents and were truly blessed to have known such a special little guy and to share in his life, thank you soooo very much for sharing him with us!
And my family was OFF THE COUCH last night in the final seconds of the Colt vs Patriots game! My husband is a hugh Patriots fan and yet there he was jumping up with the kids and I, ARMS in the AIR! (Thanks little Donnie, you made our night!)If there is anything you need, please let me know, I would love to help! God bless you all! Love, Susan
Susan Wright <yokena05@bellsouth.net>
Vicksburg, MS USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 1:56 PM CST

You do not know me. I am friends with Cammy Parsons, Laken's mom. I just want you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Kristi Humphrey
Kristi Humphrey <hunterandholly@aol.com>
Salem, IN - Monday, January 22, 2007 1:50 PM CST

Hello Melissa and Family, I'm Christina, Colleen Conatys sister. I have been reading Donovans website for the past few months and it broke my heart to read your sunday entry. Colleen told me what a sweet and happy little boy Donovan was this past thanksgiving, and how much Amanda loved playing with him. She said he was always happy, and always had a big smile on his face, even though he was so sick. From the pictures i see on this site, he was absolutley adorable little boy, i only wish i could have met him myself. I cant even imagine what you are all going through right now. I'm glad he is in a better place now, watching down on all of you. My thoughts and prayers are always with you and i wish you all the best!
Christina Conaty <tinac111303@hotmail.com>
Glenolden, PA 19036 - Monday, January 22, 2007 1:46 PM CST

I heard about your family from Conner S and family. I am truly sorry for your loss, and I am touched by your family. Know you guys did everything you could do, and he is now in a much better place.
Kim Badon and Family <kim_badon@yahoo.com>
Bolingbrook, IL United States - Monday, January 22, 2007 1:46 PM CST

I'm normally a Giants fan, but was pulled over as a Colts 'cheerleader' through your site.
While watching the game last night I was on pins and needles, only to wake up to find the COLTS WON!!
I believe they should be Thanking heaven's new angel for this one.
Hugs to you all......
Lisa
jersey shore, nj - Monday, January 22, 2007 1:43 PM CST

I was refered to your site by Conner S. family and I have only been following your story for a short time now, but your family has really touched my heart. I am deeply sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers go out to your family.
Renee Larmon and family
Bolingbrook, IL - Monday, January 22, 2007 1:34 PM CST

Melissa-I thought about your family and Donovan all throughout the game last night-and just had a feeling that he had gone to heaven, however, did not know that until this morning. He must be an angel...
Amy Larimer <allarimer@yahoo.com>
Terre Haute, IN USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 1:29 PM CST

soooo sorry for your loss.....Sweet Donovan will be greatly missed....he touched so many lives especially mine...I cried when I read about his passing...its funny, I loved that little boy and I never even met him...sweet Donovan you will never be forgotten...Thanks for sharing your angel with us, Melissa and Darren....sending tons of prayer your way...

God bless
Ozzie <ovieira@hartz.com>
Harrrison, NJ - Monday, January 22, 2007 1:19 PM CST

I as a mother can not begin to know the loss you are feeling. I am so sorry for that loss. Please keep an open door of communication with your oldest as he will need you more than you can realize now. Death hurts us, it breaks our hearts but it also messes with the little ones too, because they dont always understand the process. That this precious baby is now being rocked by Jesus, and that he will never be in pain or run a fever again. May god be with each of you and give you peace and comfort during this time

T
Indianapolis, in - Monday, January 22, 2007 1:10 PM CST

Your strength and courage is amazing! I am forever changed by reading about your precious family. May God continue to look over your entire family. Our prayers are with you all.
Brandy
Clovis, - Monday, January 22, 2007 1:10 PM CST

Wow - I have been following Baby D's story for as long as I can remember. I am just sad today. The wind has been taken out of my sail. I am just so sorry this story never got it's happily ever after. Please know that many are grieving with you. Please know Donovon is in a better place and dancing with the angels.
Kimberly
New Brighton, MN - Monday, January 22, 2007 12:49 AM CST

Melissa and family,
I'm so sorry.
Love,
Ellie and Nathan
Ellie Harvey <nghmommy@yahoo.com>
New Whiteland, In - Monday, January 22, 2007 12:48 AM CST

My heart and prayers go out to you and your family.
amber
indep, mo usa - Monday, January 22, 2007 12:43 AM CST

Melissa and family...I am at a true loss at what to say, as there is nothing I can say, but that we are thinking and praying for your family. I was in tears yesterday after reading your post and my husband instantly knew. As beloved Patriots fans...we watched the game with a different eye last night...almost in hopes that your Colts might win....after family left last night we hugged...never said a word and prayed out loud for Donovan,you and your family. I have been told that children with Down Syndrome are earth angels (my Zack has DS) I asked him to watch over Donny and he smiled as I finished asking...all our strength, love and prayers to you and your family,
Kristy
Kristy Ostrowski <krippy15@hotmail.com>
Nashua, NH USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 12:40 AM CST

I got your link through another chil'ds website that I visit here and I have been checking in on your wonderful family since.
I'am a die hard Patriot's fan and I have to tell you that before I saw your site I would have been devestated that The pat's lost last night. Now I'm just glad that this may have given you and your family peace in knowing that your precious son had a little something to do with the Colt's win.
Your son was a true hero and I will continue to pray for your family's solace.
My sincere condolonces.
Joyce & family.
Joyce <jacpbs@earthlink.net>
Mashpee, Ma USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 12:29 AM CST

Hey guys! How about them Colts. When my son was worried about the score, I told him not to worry, Angel Donovan would soon take the field!
Praying for you all every hour of every day.
Peace!
Robbin and Kelly
www.caingbridge.org/in/kellbell
Robbin Lyons <thomtalent@aol.com>
- Monday, January 22, 2007 12:29 AM CST

I have never been witness to any child who has touched so many lives. Baby Donovan has been our inspiration for so long. He was born 1 day before my grandson Colby (then 18 months old)was diagnosed with ALL. This monster is hurting too many Children and breaking the hearts of so many families. We ask why,but the only answer is, it is HIS will. Baby Donny knows why and is getting all of the rewards now. We grieve his passing,but he says Thank you Jesus.
I am so proud of all of you for the faith and strength you have shown the world. I know this would make a wonderful "Movie of the week" It has been a book to read every day for 2 years. Such Love,such courage,such caring, you are all in our prayers and we Praise God for Allowing us all to know Baby Donny.
I loved the coaches comments after the game last night,he took no credit,he gave all thanks to God above.....God Bless the Colts!!! From a new Colts fan!!!! Even in Panther country!! I will never see a Colts Game that I won't thank God for allowing us to have Baby D even if for only a short time. I will see you in Heaven Baby D.....I know you will be watching over Colby and all the others left here to fight the monster.
God Bless.
Brenda Woody (Colby's NeeNee)
www.caringbridge.org/nc/colbybrown
Brenda Woody <werpraying4u@bellsouth.net>
valdese, NC - Monday, January 22, 2007 12:21 AM CST

Melissa I had my whole family cheering for your colts last night, and I know donovan enjoyed watching his favorite team win this one for him. Much love Christine
Christine Kiesel <Christinerussin1@msn.com>
hewlett, ny - Monday, January 22, 2007 12:20 AM CST

I have to admit that I have not been a big football fan for years now. But last night, I sat fixated on the TV..thinking of Donovan and your family the whole time while watching the Colts earn their way into the Superbowl. I knew without a doubt they would win. And the Superbowl is theirs, I just know it. Donovan wouldn't have it any other way. How beautiful for you to know how many people will be thinking of you all and remembering your sweet boy on that day. Can you imagine how many prayers will be said? I will be one of them : ) Keeping you close to my heart...
Jennifer Smith <lakerdog2@yahoo.com>
Hidden Valley Lake, CA USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 12:13 AM CST

Melissa and family,

Words cannot express the sorrow I feel for you all...Though Donny is in a better place now and pain-free, it is still unfathomable to imagine a family losing their baby at such a young age. God puts us all here for a reason, and it's encouraging to know that your spirits haven't given up on what some may call a great betrayal.

I was introduced to you all by Ami C. She's a beautiful person and I'm so glad she found you and was able to bring you so much help. Please know that you are cared for and thought of all the way down in southwest Florida. Sending you many hugs.
Shantel Jilani <fariqshantel@aol.com>
Lehigh Acres, Fl USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 12:10 AM CST

I was not very popular in my house last night as my son is a huge Patriots Fan, but I was rooting for the Colts all of the way. I thought of you through the whole game, and Donovan with his Colts jersey on. You are in my thoughts and prayers as you say goodbye to a very precious little boy. He is in heaven with Jesus and is no longer in pain and celebrating the Colts victory
Ginny Streeter <gstreeter@hookercreek.net>
Bend, OR - Monday, January 22, 2007 11:55 AM CST

In our hearts and prayers.
Yipeeeeeee Way to go COLTS.
Prayers and Hugs,
LeAnn/SOEW/AngelsofHope
LeAnn Mooneyham <angel4God352000@yahoo.com>
Baxley, Georgia United States - Monday, January 22, 2007 11:51 AM CST

I am so very sorry that you have lost your precious little baby Donovan. I know he's much better off, but it still upsets me that these children are dying so young! He truly was a great warrior....he fought so hard! Praying for strength, comfort and peace as you adjust to his absence and go through the days and months ahead. In His love,
LeeAnne
Hastings, NE - Monday, January 22, 2007 11:43 AM CST

SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.I WILL PRAY FOR THE FAMILY LEFT BEHIND.
DONNA MEAD
FORT LAWN, SC USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 11:42 AM CST

Darren, Melissa and family,
I've been trying to find the right words that I want to say to you guys for the past two days and I can't seem to put it together in my head right now. I have stayed away from the computer since I read the news yesterday morning. I am so heartbroken and beside myself. I send you all my love and strength to help you get through these days without Donovan. I've been up since 2am and I just can't stop the tears. Your little Donovan is still so precious to me and always will be.

I do have to tell you though, that I am NOT at all a football person...but I watched last nights game. My husband and I always tease each other about who's going to win the games and last night I picked the Colts and of course he picked the patriots. And then you know I got laughed at all night long for picking the losing team....and then my sweet angel Donovan came in and rescued me...when I heard them announce "the Colts make it to the superbowl!!!" I had a huge smile with tears running down my face but I had a beautiful picture of Donovan in my head wearing his jersey with his arms in the air and the most beautiful wings of course. It's a memory that will stay with me forever. The Colts winning in the last second has to be Donovan's way of telling you "Mommy, I'm ok now".

Donovan~I miss you sweetie pie. xoxo
Janis <jtheuret@verizon.net>
NJ - Monday, January 22, 2007 11:41 AM CST

He changed me. Love and prayers for the trying times ahead.
God love you all.
Wendie House <whouse@co.st-joseph.in.us>
South Bend, IN - Monday, January 22, 2007 11:39 AM CST

Just checking in to say hi and letting you know I am praying for you during these hard times!! Baby D you will be greatly missed!! I wish i could of met you! Fly baby D fly!! The rest of your family is an inspiration to me, you all are so strong! I couldnt even imagine!! I hope you will continue to update your site!!
Your friend from Nebrasksa!! GO colts in the superbowl!! Go baby D!!
jennifer Hewitt
Bellevue , NE - Monday, January 22, 2007 11:37 AM CST

As much of a NE PATRIOTS fan that I am.....i was actually happy that the COLTS won last night for ^^Baby D^^! They had an extra special ANGEL watching out for them!!

RIP SWEET LIL' ANGEL!!
Sherri <sherri65184@yahoo.com>
Lowell, MA USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 11:36 AM CST

Keeping you in our thoughts and prayers. We love you.... Praying for you today and for the days ahead!!! May God comfort you and hold you close!!
Stacey & Scott Krause (mom & dad to Kaylee in Heaven)
- Monday, January 22, 2007 11:29 AM CST

Melissa,
I'm so, so sorry that you and your family have to be parted from Donovan now, and cannot imagine the ache. He could not have asked for a better mother or father or brother here on earth. You are incredible. We're sending all of you love and healing thoughts for strength right now.
Jacquelyn, Tessa and Graydon (ALL-KIDS list) (www.caringbridge.org/canada/graydon) <jacquelynwv@yahoo.ca>
Toronto, ON Canada - Monday, January 22, 2007 11:25 AM CST

Dear Rasmussen Family~
First of all, please acdcept my prayers and thoughts for your family.
I have been following your story for just a short time but I am so sorry for your loss of your little sweetheart. Donovan will be the cutest little angel up in Heaven and he is truly in a better place.
I was thinking about your family last night when the Colts were playing and so happy that they made it to the Superbowl! Of course, I will be rooting for the Bears since I am from Chicago, but happy that your Colts are the ones to play :)
Good luck with these next few weeks and know there are so many people taht fell in love with your son and family thru this journey!
May God Bless you today and always,
The Sorensen Family
Naperville, IL.
Mary Sorensen <marysorensen@wideopenwest.com>
Naperville, Il USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 11:21 AM CST

Melissa,
I'm so very sorry. I will always remember your sweet little Donovan. Praying for your family and keeping you close to our hearts.
Kelly (Abe's mom, ALLkids)www.caringbridge.org/mn/abe
Bemidji, MN - Monday, January 22, 2007 11:13 AM CST

My heart is so heavy right now, I am so sorry to hear the sad news. I could not bring myself to check the site over the weekend because I didn't want to believe that the teddy bear's life was coming to an end and I knew how sad I would be. I pray that God wraps his arms around your family and gives you peace and comfort knowing that your teddy bear is no longer in pain.

Chari Warner <millymango40@yahoo.com>
Alpharetta, GA USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 11:07 AM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan & family~

My girls and I watched the Colts game last night, and every time they scored we would cheer, "GO BABY D!!" We all know what ^angel^ was watching over them last night! I felt so close to Donovan, and your family as I sat with my girls watching the game, holding them close..

I continue to lift you in prayer as you face the next several days. I pray that God gives you strength and comfort. The "planning" was really heart wrenching for my husband and I. I will be holding your family close to my heart!

I know Donovan is so very proud of his mommy, daddy, big brother, and family!

Love and Prayers~ Claire (mommy to Laken in Heaven)
www.caringbridge.com/visit/lakenroy
Claire Roy <caffemocha29@aol.com>
KERNERSVILLE, NC US - Monday, January 22, 2007 11:04 AM CST

I'm so sorry for your loss. God has a new Angel, and I know he will be watching over his Mommy and Daddy. Your family is in my prayers.

http://www.geocities.com/calebwaddell
Kelly Waddell <kellywaddell@hotmail.com>
Southaven, MS USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 10:58 AM CST

I just had to check your CB site again this morning and as expected - all of ^Baby D's^ fans absolutely believe he really helped the Colts win last night. I'm not a Colts fan (I live in Minnesota), but I had to watch last night. We all know ^Baby D^ was cheering loudly from Heaven and that's what helped! My prayers go out to all of you as you mourn the loss of your adorable teddy bear.
Dee Lange <gndlange@frontiernet.net>
Apple Valley, MN - Monday, January 22, 2007 10:56 AM CST

Melissa and family
I am so saddened by Donovan's passing. I have been following him for months and my heart broke when he relapsed this last time. He was very blessed to have such a great and supporting family. You did everything you could possible do for him. I pray for your family at this very hard time.
Jenny Harootunian
olathe, ks - Monday, January 22, 2007 10:50 AM CST

Dear Baby D's family,
Words simply seem insignificant but we wanted to let you know that we have been following your fight and been praying for your family. We are so saddened by your loss but are certain that Donovan is in Heaven and free from pain. Know that you will continue to be in our hearts and in our prayers. We know that you don't know us but we are friends of the Wallace family. If there is anything at all that we can do to lessen your grief, please let us know!
Sending you lots of love and prayers,
Kelly, Billy, and Georgia Leigh Murdoch
Kelly Murdoch <bmurdoch5@verizon.net>
Easton, MD USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 10:50 AM CST

Still keeping you in prayer today! I know Baby Donovan won and he is now free from pain and suffering and FOREVER cured from cancer, but I still PRAY, PRAY, PRAY for a cure for this monster!!! It breaks my heart that SO MANY families are missing a precious child because of cancer!!! I know Donovan was working over time during the Colts game! Maybe he wanted to send his Mommy a sign and give her something to smile about :o) He certainly was blessed with an awesome family! Wanted to leave you with the following poem. It certainly discribes these little warriors to a T. We could only dream of EVER having their strength and courage! Thank you for sharing your Superhero with us!

Love, Ashley Howard & Dustin

P.S. Dustin and I send GREAT BIG BEAR HUGS to you ^^Angel Donovan^^! You have blessed more lives than you will EVER know! I know there were some VERY special children that met you when you arrived in heaven! Watch over your family! I know they will LOVE to continue feeling you close by them! XXOO

THE CHOSEN ONES: Jeanie Kane, St Jude Mom

Not just any child
could walk this uphill road
These children walk it every day
Carrying a load.

They show us heights of courage
that we may never reach.
They show us what it is to fight
a fight you cannot teach.

We stand beside them knowing
There is no guarantee
Except the one we started with
To love them endlessly.

They are the special chosen ones
God knew it from the start.
He picked each child for cancer
by measuring their heart.

The ones that measured biggest
Would someday face a test
The challenge is to understand
God loves them MORE not less.

He's using them to move our hearts
Closer to his own.
Teaching us to trust his plan
and fear not the unknown.

For God can move a mountain
and part the raging sea.
He wants our struggles offered up
and given forth to thee.

He smiles upon the chosen ones
Before they're even born
And blesses them with courage
To walk through any storm.

His love for them surpasses ours
and Cannot be denied.
For in the dark of suffering
His light will not subside.

No matter what the outcome
There is the greatest peace
In knowing deep inside our hearts
His love will never cease!
Ashley Howard <babydustinsmom@yahoo.com>
Pelham, AL USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 10:44 AM CST

I've been following the story of your sweet teddy bear for quite some time. My heart aches for his passing. I'll keep you and your family in my thought in prayers during this difficult time. Baby D was a true angel rooting his Colts to victory.

My deepest sympathy,
Renee' in Louisiana
Renee
Prairieville, La - Monday, January 22, 2007 10:43 AM CST

I know that there isn't a Caringbridge reader out there that wasn't thinking of your precious little boy during that Indy game last night. I have no doubts he was cheering from On High!

I am thinking of your special little Angel and your entire family during these difficult days. Give your sweet Dylan an extra 'squeeze' as we realize how hard it is to be the "ones left behind." We WILL all be together again, when our glorious Savior calls us home!

Peace be with each of you.
Roxann <horsesetc@msn.com>
Audubon, Mn USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 10:42 AM CST

Know that people everywhere are praying for you!
Natalie <nrooney@centurytel.net>
Eagle, CO - Monday, January 22, 2007 10:41 AM CST

i am so sorry to hear that Donavan passed. He is now free of the pain and suffering. My father passed away recently and the priest said that he had completed the journey that God had planned for him and that he took him home as a reward. I found this comforting and I hope you can too.

Donavan even though he lived for such a short period of time touched so many lives with his courageous struggle and strong spirit. Dying would be so bad if they could come and visit sometime!

My thoughts and prayers are with you, your husband and your
young son during this diffcult time.

P.S. I also watched the Colts and thought about Donavan during the game. Maybe he was resposible for their "miraculous" win?!!!! I don't know anyone in the Colts organization but I'm sure they would be honored to know that they helped in some small way. I think that they should dedicate the Super Bowl game to Donavan!!!
Karen Stteffes <ksmsteffes@yahoo.com>
Mayfield Hts, OH` 44124 - Monday, January 22, 2007 10:31 AM CST

After the Colts won last night, I told my husband that Donny must have cheered them on. The Lord kept waking me up to pray, so I prayed for your family, somehow knowing that Donovan was gone, although I hadn't read the update until now. I'm so very sorry that you have lost your Warrior, but please know that we have been praying and will continue to pray that your battle will not be in vain - that some good will come of it all. That is the only thing that gives me true peace - knowing that good will come out of all this impossibly miserable grief of seeing too many children and young adults pass away.

May you be held.
Carolyn Wyman

<re_born@sbcglobal.net>
Belding, MI You Pray for Life - Monday, January 22, 2007 10:29 AM CST

I watched the Colts last night for little Donovan. I bet he was bouncing around in Heaven and so excited that they won. Go Colts .... Donovan we know you gave them a hand in that win.
abby sharon <brandonabby@hotmail.com>
stokesdale, nc - Monday, January 22, 2007 10:25 AM CST

The Colts have just lost their greatest fan here in earth, but they also won the GREATEST Angel fan in Heaven. He will coach all of you from up there...We all love you Baby D!!!!!We are praying for your family...
Ana Tirado <cristv_99@yahoo.com>
Mexico - Monday, January 22, 2007 10:25 AM CST

I am so sorry for your loss. I have been following Donavan's story for awhile now and even though we don't know each other, I am deeply affected. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Shannon Burgess
Murrieta, CA - Monday, January 22, 2007 10:25 AM CST

My heart goes out to you. I feel like saying I'm sorry isn't good enough though I am sorry. Keep the faith.
David melton angel wings <DMelton321@yahoo.com>
- Monday, January 22, 2007 10:23 AM CST

I prayed that the Colts would win last night for you AND THEY DID!!!! My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. Donovan is such a cutie pie. Hug each other for me and the rest of that can't be there with you now.
Shawn Schlueter <schluetersm@hotmail.com>
- Monday, January 22, 2007 10:20 AM CST

I am a friend of Janine McGuire. I have been following Donovan's story through Kallie's website. I am so sorry for your loss. I do take comfort in knowing that your little angel is watching over all of us. This first year without him will be the hardest that you face. It will never stop hurting and his being gone won't ever get or be easy. But you will find new strength everyday. You will remember all the things that were good and happy. Those happy thoughts will fill your heart and your memory. You will think of his smile and his laugh and his beauty when you think of him. One day you will be able to give comfort to someone else because of your strength. Donovan will be with you always. My family will pray for you. I hope that you can find comfort and solice soon.

Missy Falcon
New Orleans, LA
Melissa Falcon <falconmissy420@hotmail.com>
New Orleans, LA USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 10:11 AM CST

Gosh, what does one say? I have been following your site and journey for sometime now. I guess I have become addicted to that little guy's bright face and smile. I watched the game last night just hoping the Colts would have a victory- and I thought of you and your family the ENTIRE game. This morning when I checked the site I gasped, for our world has lost yet another hero to this horrid disease. Have faith in that your young one, who fought so hard the majority of his life, touched MANY here in his short stay. In your post following his passing you wrote that he changed your life- and SO many others along the way. Keep him close to your heart and mind and all the memories will last vividly until you meet his shining face again.

My thoughts are with you-
Margaret
west saint paul, mn usa! - Monday, January 22, 2007 10:09 AM CST

Well I was getting a little nervous last night watching the Colts but I felt very strongly that they would pull it out thanks to Donovan and they did. Way to go Donovan - you are now the angel who is flying high over the Colts. I would also like to say that I agree with the entry from Amy B about not letting Donovan's long and painful journey go unanswered. We must all do something to educate others in the importance of funding to find the cure for children's cancer and other horrible diseases. No one should ever have to go through what the Rasmussen family has just gone through. We need to all stand up and make a difference. Thanks Melissa and Darren for sharing your son with all of us. We will certainly never forget you guys or Donovan. Hopefully this is the start of a big change in the way diseases are attacked and the way families, who have to endure these horrible experiences, are treated. The financial burden that is put on these families is life changing.
Jan
Cary, NC USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 10:07 AM CST

Thinking of you as you prepare to say your final goodbye's to one of the world's most adorable teddy bear's. My heart breaks for you as I know how greatly Donovan will be missed. Praying you all- especially Dylan- will find peace and comfort in the memories you all share. Run free Baby D, go chase some puppies with Catie and all the other hero's who've gone before you.
Beth L <beanieb@earthlink.net>
Mansfield, OH USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 10:02 AM CST

My eyes are crying, but your faith and final words about your precious son make me know he is now in heaven and smiling down on all of you...my heart and prayers are with all of you...Mary Ellen Mantz (cousin to Matthew & Nancy Vinson)
Mary Ellen Mantz <mmantz678@aol.com>
Cumming, GA - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:48 AM CST

I was watching the colts and I thought about Donovan I said that they were going to WIN because little bear was watching,from Heaven.
sharon bolin <sbolin@fiser.com>
Lonoke, ar usa - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:48 AM CST

My thoughts and prayers are with you during this most difficult time. I am from Boston, and last night watching the game, I thought of your family a lot. As much as I love my Pats, I was secretly hoping that the Colts would win it for Donovan. I truly believed they had an angel on their shoulders! He was a beautiful child and I hope and pray that your family will always remember the joy that he brought to you. Thanks so much for sharing your story with the world.
Mary <kmegsmom@aol.com>
boston, ma - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:47 AM CST

I'm just heartbroken to read this sad news. I'm praying for strength for the whole family during these hard days.

Always in my thoughts...
Abbie Doser <doser.abbie@principal.com>
Des Moines, IA - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:41 AM CST

I was very saddend to read your journal entry yesterday.

May the memories and the way that Baby D has changed so many peoples lives in such a short time help bring you peace.

I know I will be cheering for the Colts simply because of Baby D!

God Bless
St Paul, MN
SP
St Paul, - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:37 AM CST

We love you and remain here for your family. Baby D touched more hearts than I can probably count! He will be remembered always for his incredible courage and smile. HUGS!!!!!
Family of Christina & David Lillig
Founders, Cancer Warriors, Inc.
www.caringbridge.org/ga/ashleylillig
Christina Lillig <Christina@cancerwarriors.org>
- Monday, January 22, 2007 9:36 AM CST

Melissa, Darren, Dylan and Angel Donovan,
Although I am so saddened that Donovan isn't here with you to hold and play with, it brings peace knowing that after a hard two years battle, he is finally Healed. I am sure that he is laughing and dancing and cheering with all his friends - (I know he was cheering for those COLTS last night. God's Grace and wonderful memories will help you through this time. Continuing to keep you all in our thoughts and prayers, The Rodriguez Family
Keri Hoover-Rodriguez <kerihoover@ocfa.org>
Orange, CA - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:33 AM CST

I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful son. God Bless all of you.
Christie <clove@optonline.net>
Lynbrook, NY USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:29 AM CST

Dear Melissa and family,
My deepest sympathies for the loss of your beautiful son Donovan. Please take comfort in knowing that he is now with the Allmighty. I will pray for your family in these most difficult days to come. God Bless.
Farrein
Chapel Hill, NC USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:29 AM CST

3Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.
Karina <karinajustin@hotmail.com>
Miami, FL USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:26 AM CST

Well, I was so excited to sign-in this morning and tell you that I truly believe that it was because of Donovan and all of us rooting for him and the Colts that they came back and won. And then I read on another site of the news that Donovan had flew to heaven. At first, I thought I shouldn't post my thoughts, but then I realized that the sentiment hadn't changed...in fact it was greater than ever. I'm sure now more than ever, Donovan was cheering on the Colts from Heaven; perhaps it was his sign to you all that he is OK - flying high, free from any pain and suffering.

I am so sorry for your loss of your most precious boy. He was a brave little soul. I wish for you peace and comfort during this most dificult time. Our family will be praying for your entire family.

Sending our love and prayers -

Amy Nash

p.s. We are MOST DEFINITELY cheering for your Colts in the Superbowl!!!!

The Nash-Heflin Gang <aleigh04192002@yahoo.com>
Lexington, KY - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:26 AM CST

Go Donovan go!!!!!! If he had lived here on earth instead of heaven, he woulda been one heckuva football player! So instead, he will play on God's team ... otherwise known as the Colts. :)
Ami C.
Cary, NC - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:24 AM CST

Rest Sweet Donovan. I am deeply saddened to hear about Donny...I have held him close to my heart for many months. Sending peace & comfort to your family.
Carrie Wunsch <cwunsch@fidelitybank.com>
Wichita, KS - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:22 AM CST

Melissa, Darren & Dylan,

I am truly heartbroken by Donovan's passing. While I am glad that he is no longer in pain, I am so saddened that the world has lost such a precious boy. He was all I could think of yesterday, and I was so glad to see that the Colt's won, just for him!! I know he will be watching over all of you, especially Dylan. He was truly an amazing boy with such a contagious smile. He was a true warrior, showing more courage and strength in the face of all this than most adults while still showing us how to laugh. There is no doubt that he was definitely a Miracle. You can see that just by looking a the sheer volume of people he has touched in his way too short life. While most of us never met him, we became a part of your family, following him everyday. Thank you for sharing him with the rest of us.

And now I have a challenge to the rest of us. Don't let Baby Donovan's fight end here. Get involved, help fundraise to find a cure and rid the world of this awful disease. Do it in Donovan's name. Children should not have to endure what Baby D and his family went through. Let's all try to put an end to that.

Amy
Amy Bellini <amy_bellini@farmfamily.com>
Troy, NY - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:22 AM CST

Just wanted to stop by and let you know I'm praying for you!! I was so happy to hear that the Colts won last night. It made me think of Sweet Donovan! Now the Super Bowl will be so special, and we all will have many thoughts of Donovan during the game!!!
My thoughts and prayers are with you!!!
Love,
Michelle & Bethany

Bethany's Site <VMGLPERRY@wmconnect.com>
Knoxville, TN USA, - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:21 AM CST

I was so happy to see that the Colts won last night; it seemed to be a fitting tribute to Baby Donovan. Don't tell my (Bears fans) family, but I hope the Colts win the Superbowl for Donny. The world lost a valiant warrior Saturday night, and heaven gained a handsome new angel. Your family will be in my prayers. I wish I could do more for you than pray.
Sue Mackey (ALL-Kids)
Mount Prospect , IL - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:21 AM CST

I have been watching Donovan's story for quite awhile now, but am guilty of not signing the guestbook very often. This morning, however, I was very anxious to get in here and let you know how happy I was that your Colts won last night. I'm not typically a huge football fan, but my boys just happened to be watching the game last night and when I saw that it was the Colts, I just had to watch. I instantly thought of you and shared your story with my family, not knowing at the time that Donovan had passed on to heaven. I found myself excited at the end of the game, not necessarily for the Colt's team, but for Donovan's team.
I am so sorry for your loss, and I pray for your peace and comfort
Heidi Tooker
MN - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:17 AM CST

I am so saddened by Donovans passing, but knowing he is being greeted by so many other angels I can only imagine the grand party they are all having!! May God watch over and bless you and your family always.
Deb
Perham, MN USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:17 AM CST

"Heavens Most Amazing Angel" has arrived. He is no more pain and he is just perfect. I also watched the colts play last night and I never cheered so hard for a team to win. Everytime they got a chance to score I would yell at the TV do it for Baby Donovan. Although at the time I did not know he had earned his angel wings on Saturday. I was just hoping against hope that he would be able to see his team win and go on to the Superbowl. Now the Colts have one more game to win for Baby Donovan. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this most difficult time. GO COLTS
Linda Thomas <lthomas92365@mchsi.com>
Columbus, GA USA - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:14 AM CST

You don't know me, but I wanted to offer my most heartfelt prayers and condolences to you at this very difficult time. May the Lord bring you comfort and peace.
Andrea B
- Monday, January 22, 2007 9:13 AM CST

I've been to Baby D's site soooo many times and have watched him pull through sooooo many different things that affected him. I was out of the country last week and came back to find that our little warrior had earned his angel wings. Even though we've never met, I feel like you are such dear friends. It is with such a heavy heart that I send my deepest sympathy to all of you. Please know that you all continue to be in my daily prayers.

Baby D is wearing all of the blue he can gather to watch those Colts in the Bowl of all bowls. GO BABY D -- CHEER THEM ON! (Plus they have our Iowa buddies playing for them -- Dallas C and Bobby S.) GO COLTS!
An Iowa Hawkeye
IA - Monday, January 22, 2007 9:10 AM CST

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