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just sent a package to you guys!!! Ok so it is a week late, but whatever, it is worth it. LOL.. I am calling tomorrow. Things have been hectic here, and I am sure there too. I just wanted to stop in and sign in the last hours of 2007 and tell you that I feel some amazing things coming for you and your family this 2008. I love you guys! Aiden send a hug to Nick, logan and Kendall. and Tell Bruise that we love Him too!
XOXOXOXOX
Lisa and
- Monday, December 31, 2007 9:13 PM CST
Hello Cheryl.......I just want you to know I think of you often but thought I would let you know that today. Oh my goodness...the picture is just so like Haley. It was meant to be hanging in your home. What a great idea for Bruce. Please let us know what his reaction was.
Hope the holidays are going smoothly,
colleen from MI
irishgalmi <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, Mi usa - Friday, December 28, 2007 7:13 PM CST
Cheryl,
I just had to share with you - I got in my car this morning and Haley's CD was playing. My 18 year old son, Micah, had gone out last night, just hanging with friends. He was listening to your precious Haley on his way home... blessed my heart; made me smile...
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth1111@att.net>
Houston, Tx - Thursday, December 27, 2007 10:01 PM CST
OMG! Tears in my eyes when I saw that painting! IT IS HER!
Marisa <sisterpiranha@yahoo.com>
MN www.caringbridge.org/mn/marisa - Thursday, December 27, 2007 6:07 PM CST
Checking in, as usual, and had to laugh at the "bless her heart" statements. Having moved South from the Northeast, I was amazed that people actually thought it was some kind of compliment when they added, "bless her/your heart" after everything - especially when they said it about Ainsley's medical conditions. At first, not knowing any better, I thought it was sweet, but later, I realized that it really meant: You poor, sad thing. I learned to really dislike the comment and would grimmace when it was said.
Thanks for writing what you did - at least know I don't feel like the 'strange Northerner' in my thinking!
As always - keeping you and your family in our hearts!
Allyson- Ainsley's mom (CHOA) <alucash@hotmail.com>
- Thursday, December 27, 2007 12:45 AM CST
Thinking of you tonight Cheryl....
I don't know about you, but I am glad that we now have that day behind us when all are "supposed" to be happy and joyful. Hope yours was as peaceful as it could be.
Angel Olivia's Mom, Wendy
www.caringbridge.org/mi/oliviasgrace <won2xx@gmail.com>
- Wednesday, December 26, 2007 4:24 PM CST
Cheryl,
Just wanted to say I love you, friend...
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews`
Pamela Matthews <gmatth1111@att.net>
Houston, Tx - Tuesday, December 25, 2007 9:51 PM CST
Merry Christmas! I hope you and your family have a nice Christmas together, I know angel Haley is watching over and smiling. Just wanted to let you know that you're in my heart today and always.
Laura Dellicker <ldellicker@elon.edu>
- Tuesday, December 25, 2007 4:13 PM CST
I love that picture of Haley in the snow with her arms wide open. she looks so happy. I have a picture of Rachel just like that. They have always been angels.
merry xmas.
angel Rachel's mommy
jeanne <crowman2766@aol.com>
king of prussia, pa usa - Tuesday, December 25, 2007 3:33 PM CST
Cheryl,
I love Christmas music. One of my favorite carols
is Silent Night, and especially the verse that
invites us to sing with the angels!
'Silent night, holy night,
wondrous star, lend thy light;
With the angels let us sing
Alleluia to our King.
Christ the Savior is born,
Christ the Savior is born!'
Wishing you a blessed Christmas,
and knowing positively that sweet
Haley is sharing her glorious gift
of song with the angelic singing!
prayers and love from Mrs. Pam
- Tuesday, December 25, 2007 12:57 AM CST
Merry Christmas Vincent Family... Merry Christmas Haley, as you celebrate the birth of Christ with Him in Heaven
Lisa and
- Tuesday, December 25, 2007 12:41 AM CST
Beautiful pictures - you are on my heart and mind tonight.
Love you, Mary Lee
Mary Lee Carrigan <mary_robb@bellsouth.net>
- Tuesday, December 25, 2007 0:09 AM CST
Merry Christmas!
Frank (Marisa's Dad) <hamet@mich.com>
Flat Rock, MI United States - Monday, December 24, 2007 10:05 PM CST
MERRY CHRISTMAS Cheryl and family...and prayers for comfort, love, peace and hope and continued signs from your angel ^Haley^ to help make the days easier...
Hugs and prayers,
LeeAnne, and family
LeeAnne Bye <allenleeannebye@aol.com>
NJ - Monday, December 24, 2007 8:34 PM CST
Have a Happy Holiday! Sending lots of cheer your way. The picture is breathtaking. Last Christmas our family pooled together and got us a toddler sized angel boy statue and he's holding a frog. When I opened the box, it freaked me out in a weird way. But now I'm used to it and pray where he sits everyday. Love, Tam caringbridge/fl/gavinward
Tammy Ward <wardpalm@aol.com>
palm beach, fl usa - Monday, December 24, 2007 8:30 PM CST
I just wanted to stop by and wish you and your family a Wonderful Christmas since we have procrastinated in getting the cards out (writing them today, maybe). I love the story about the picture. A message from God, meant only for you, wow!!!!
I miss my baby girl with every breath, every fiber, so I know exactly how you struggle to get through the day. Normally it is much easier to answer the question, "How are you doing?", with "Fine". But unfortunately, as you know, it really isn't "fine". It won't be until we are reunited with our babies, but in the interim, we have to get by, not drag down our family and friends. It is soooo hard.
Anyway, God Bless you all today and everyday.
Roy
Cheyenne's Daddy
www.caringbridge.org/tx/cheyenne5
Roy Fiveash <rfiveash@wcc.net>
san angelo, TX - Monday, December 24, 2007 11:14 AM CST
Thinking of you and your family. Wishing all of you a Merry Christmas and praying for a peaceful 2008. I love the picture, and I do belive it looks like sweet Haley! What a beautiful gift.
Michelle www.caringbridge.org/ny.jack
Massapequa, NY - Sunday, December 23, 2007 7:05 PM CST
Merry Christmas to you and your ^i^Haley
may christmas day be peaceful,full of love and happy memories
with Love ^i^Jacob's Mum
Jacob's Mum Our Aussie^i^Jacob and Jacob's memorial page
Australia - Sunday, December 23, 2007 2:17 PM CST
Hey Cheryl,
The picture is beautiful and I have to feel seeing it, hearing the story and reading Lisa's guestbook story...that your darling angel ^Haley^ is reaching out to you as best she can...What an incredible girl your ^Haley^ was and is...Hugs and prayers that you may always feel her near and know she waits around the corner for you all. As for gossip...so very sorry, yes it does hurt, as does criticism of how we cope as parents. The saying of wearing another man's moccasins for a day comes to my mind. God Bless, hang tough and I hope you have a wonderful and blessed Christmas.
Love and prayers,
LeeAnne, Sammi and family
www.caringbridge.org/visit/byesiblings
LeeAnne
NJ - Saturday, December 22, 2007 5:14 PM CST
Cheryl,
When I saw the picture, I thought, "She's gone to her Father's House." She's home...and so is Dinah...
Thanking God for the Way -
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth111@att.net>
Houston, TX - Saturday, December 22, 2007 12:09 AM CST
Cheryl, I am always so surprised when people listen to you and only hear the grief. I mean, it's there, it's palpable...who on earth wouldn't understand that??? But when I read what you write, I always hear the faith. It, too, is loud and clear. And I know it comes from a heart that is broken, but one that remains faithful to the promises and beauty of our Lord. Interesting, isn't it, that with all the words coming at you over the past year, HIS words never do you any harm! That's true faith. Over the years, I have heard so many people--preachers included--use God's Word to hurt themselves and others. But true believers, people who know the love of the Lord, find hope and comfort in them. So Cheryl, I believe in you and I believe in your healing, no matter how long the time (it's always in His time, not ours, anyway)...because you believe in Him.
Sue G (www.caringbridge.org/visit/sueguenther)
- Saturday, December 22, 2007 8:54 AM CST
I so agree with your update about hurtful words! ... sometimes the silence from those who call themselves friends is even worse. They are the lucky ones, they will never know/understand/feel the horrid pain we go through each day without one of the most important people in our lives present.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts that often echo mine...
Kathie Mayo www.caringbridge.org/mn/rachaelmayo <winkatmayo@hotmail.com>
Winona, MN - Friday, December 21, 2007 6:10 PM CST
I read your updates reguarly, and I just wanted to tell you hugs and kisses have a Merry Christmas and time heals all. What ever you feel is how you feel and it is okay, just remember that. And everyone of us that keep up with you love you very much. Janet
Janet Brewster <dunktrans@aol.com>
Williamston, sc - Friday, December 21, 2007 4:30 PM CST
Cheryl,
Happy Holidays
Take care my friend.
Don't pay any attention to those who are mean.
Brent
Salem, VA 24153 - Friday, December 21, 2007 4:24 PM CST
Cheryl, I'm sending special thoughts your way during the Christmas season. When I was going through a very difficult time, I remember telling my sister ' People must think I'm crazy'. She replied 'They haven't walked a mile in your moccasins'. I think that says it perfectly. None of us really have any right to be judgemental of anyone else. We just simply can't put ourselves in anyone elses shoes. I think you are a woman of great strength. You love your family & you have shared your Christian faith many times over through this website. You & your family have helped us through some very difficult times. . (particularly when we first moved here & then earlier this year). You continue to be a blessing to us & I am grateful for our friendship with your family.
Kathy Wust <kathyw@chartertn.net>
- Friday, December 21, 2007 3:38 PM CST
Cheryl, I just had this incrediable Haley moment. I just have chills head to toe. It is so hard to describe these moments but I will try. I was looking at Aiden's guestbook and reading the well wishes for his anniversary. I got up because Mason was coloring on the CARPET (don't worry it came out) while I was scrubbing the rub I see Rolex sitting in the window laying on the laptop! I fussed at him to move, and as he jumped down the guestbook scrolled down to the very bottom. And lightening can strike me if I am lying.. there was a highlighted note at the bottom of my guestbook... and this is what it said:
Hi Aiden,
This is Haley.
I love you.
www.caringbridge.org/ga/haley
- Tuesday, October 12, 2004
I sat and stared.... it was amazing. Just amazing.
Lisa and
- Friday, December 21, 2007 12:31 AM CST
Cheryl, a big hug from us to you. I'm sorry people are so judgemental. It's a pity they couldn't be celebrating ALL of the amazing things you're doing instead wasting time imagining the things you aren't. Hugs and prayers from our coast to yours!
Sheryl, Justice and Tommy's mom <sheryl.lyn@verizon.net>
Gaston, OR - Wednesday, December 19, 2007 4:39 PM CST
Words do hurt - more than some (stupid) people realize! May God shut their mouthes and shield your ears against these mean words. Your grief is YOUR business and you handle it the best way you can. May God bless you and yours this holiday season! Thoughts and prayers go out to you every day!
Gina Mac
Huntsville, TX USA - Wednesday, December 19, 2007 12:08 AM CST
Cheryl,
People talk, it's all some of'em have to do. Even with the "Bless her heart" attached. Your post, while serious, made me crack up. A TN friend of mine used to tell us about being able to insult people as long as you had a southern drawl and a "bless her heart" attached. As in, "Bless his heart, if they put his brain on the head of a pin, it'd roll around like a BB on a six-lane highway."
Don't sweat the small stuff. You got enough going on in your life to really not be concerned about such fuss buckets and their silly, inane, inconsiderate comments.
Or you could go on the offensive and have comebacks yourself! Being a southern gal yourself you could get away with a few quaint "bless her heart" responses too. hehehe Ya know like "Why when she talks she reminds me of one of those wind up toy mouths that just keep going and going and going, bless her heart."
Or maybe not. Have fun! Remember the Reason for Season, keep up the great work at HVF.
Jeff <jeff.allen@abencs.abengoa.com>
St Charles , MO USA! - Wednesday, December 19, 2007 7:07 AM CST
You go Cheryl!! You are just speaking TRUTH ..... I was with a friend of mine recently .... we were out and about (she lost her husband when she was pregnant with baby #2 - she knows grief) - we ran into some people I knew - after they walked away - she just turned to me with tears in her eyes and said, "I'm so sorry that here you are in the middle of this heartwrenching situation with your sweet baby - yet, you are the one having to comfort them - I remember feeling that way as well - like I was supposed to make them feel better." It does feel that way so often doesn't it. I'm so sorry people don't "get it" - sometimes I don't think they even try ..... well, bless their hearts!!!! OKay - I don't think mine sounds very nice either - but I'm not going to delete it. Love you, Mary Lee Carrigan (www.updatesonryan.blogspot.com)
Mary Lee Carrigan <mary_robb@bellsouth.net>
Gallatin, Tn - Tuesday, December 18, 2007 11:37 PM CST
Cheryl,
You don't know me and I certainly don't know you but after reading this site I feel so connected to you in some way. I unfortnately never had the honor of meeting your beautiful daughter but from all I have read about her I certainly did miss out on knowing a truly amazing little girl. I came across your site through the site of a friend of mine who just had a liver transplant. I don't know what overcame me but the minute I started to read your story I longed to know more, so I sat here at work and read through every single post from the past few years sometimes I laughed, sometimes I cried, sometimes I got angry and other times I just stood amazed at the strength of your spirit. I cried myself to sleep that night; I cried for haley, I cried for you and your beatiful family. I cried for the man she will never marry for the sister kendall has lost and for the world that will never get to hear her voice or experience her love. I cried for the other children that will continue to come and be affected with such horrible illnesses but most of all I cried for how unfair life can be but how through it all God has this amazing plan and that he will make something beautiful out of something so ugly. So, thank you. Thank you for your story, for your strength and for continuting her legacy. It changed my life, since that night I have never been the same; I now have an internship with CHOA and will continue to work to better the lives of children such as haley because of haley. Stay strong, you still have many more lives to touch through the story of your angel.
Paige
Atlanta, ga - Tuesday, December 18, 2007 6:30 PM CST
Cheryl
You needed to say that.
There's no reason for people to be saying
things to hurt you, even if that was not their
intent.
prayers and love from Mrs. Pam
- Tuesday, December 18, 2007 3:32 PM CST
Sorry you are hurting. Even more sorry people say hurtful things. Thank you for continuing to remind me that the sadness of loss is forever, grief is a never-ending process. You are very special. Sending extra prayers today.
Amanda <amfulton02@yahoo.com>
Omaha, NE - Tuesday, December 18, 2007 1:16 PM CST
Cheryl,
Since Haley died I have met/talked to several people who have lost their child, and because of what what you have posted here on this website, I was able to share with them something other then "I am so sorry for your loss" Mainly I show them that "Top Ten List of things not to say to grieving parents"
When my son was 18 months old, I found him face down, floating in a hot tub, not breathing, with a grey-blue tint to him, and for the 30 seconds or so that it took him to start crying......I knew what it felt like to loose a child. I felt my heart being ripped from my chest, and such a deep pain I just can't even begin to describe. I saw my son's brief life flash before me, and I just wanted to die. It was the worst 60 seconds I know I will ever have.
I cannot even BEGIN to imagine what it is like, or how you even cope with type of pain for rest of your life. I especially don't know how people do it who Do NOT have Jesus...and I am SO glad that you do.
I watched a Louie Giglio video the other day about why bad things happen to good people, and it was very good. I would try and describe it, but you can watch it by going to his website and clicking on the two podcasts of "When Life Hurts Most" http://www.268generation.com/2.0/splash4.htm
Always in my prayers (you really are, you know)
Kat
Katherine Hampton <katbird76@gmail.com>
Sharpsburg, Ga USA - Tuesday, December 18, 2007 11:27 AM CST
I truly believe that there's no way to completely understand what someone is going through until you walk in their shoes, experience what they've gone through, and even then everyones experiences play out differently. I'm sorry for the comments that you've heard others make. They've not 'been there' or truly 'get it'...it's an incredibly sad and lonely road we're travelling and others just don't understand.
Cheryl, I trust you have a blessed Christmas with your family...I know our angels will be looking down on us with smiles as they celebrate with the Saviour. I'll be thinking of you.
Lisa - Forever Kyle's Mom <bailsam@msn.com www.caringbridge.org/canada/kyle>
Halifax, NS Canada - Tuesday, December 18, 2007 5:43 AM CST
Pamela said exactly what I wanted to say, but she said it so much better. As I pray for God's comfort for you, I also pray for His forgiveness for them.
Pam Doughty <p_dought@bellsouth.net>
Powder Springs, GA USA - Monday, December 17, 2007 11:00 PM CST
"Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing." (Luke 23:34)
Because if they did, if they truly knew what they were doing to you as you grieve for Haley, they wouldn't do it. God forbid they would ever have to feel what you are feeling...
Asking Jesus to hold you extra tight,
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth1111@att.net>
Houston, TX - Monday, December 17, 2007 10:54 PM CST
Oh, Cheryl, I'm so sorry people have hurt you. No one can imagine the pain you must feel every moment of every day, and yet you are learning every day how to get through and how to be there for your family when I'm sure you just want to curl up and block out the world. Somehow you find the strength to go on keep living and no one should ever criticize how you go about it. No, it's not fair that your kids have to witness your grief, but it's certainly not your choice to grieve - it's the hand you were dealt and the life you are all learning to live. I wish I were there to give you a hug and tell those meanies just what I think of them! Keep on keeping on, you are making Haley proud each and every day and you are an awesome Mom!
Sarah
MA - Monday, December 17, 2007 8:27 PM CST
let me at 'em... let me at 'em
You know I will show them some pain. tee hee hee
your body guard (Lisa) <rolexh@aol.com>
- Monday, December 17, 2007 8:11 PM CST
Cheryl
Hugs and prayers for you.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom <threelivers@alltel.net>
Chatsworth, GA - Monday, December 17, 2007 6:24 PM CST
Hi Cheryl. I just wanted to stop in and offer some(((hugs))) . We still pray for you. I am notoriously bad at this too, but try not to care about what other folks think. I'm sorry that they do that to you & your family! I simply cannot imagine.
Melissa Arnold <ecco526@aol.com>
Wake Forest, NC - Monday, December 17, 2007 4:54 PM CST
Hey my friend... Thinking of you everyday. Love you and your family.
XOXOXO
Lisa and
- Saturday, December 15, 2007 7:50 PM CST
Thinking about you this season.
Lisa - Forever Kyle's Mom <bailsam@msn.com www.caringbridge.org/canada/kyle>
Halifax, NS Canada - Saturday, December 15, 2007 3:32 PM CST
Hi Sheryl,
I'm not even sure how I reached your website, I believe sometimes God just puts you exactly where you need to be. I want to thank you for courageously sharing your journey of grief, healing and learning. I'm sure you're touching people whom you'll never meet (on this earth). I have shared some of your entries with my sister in law and her husband. They have lost both of their girls to the same disease (they are now childless). Their burden is immense and I have had a glimpse of sorrow, through them. God bless your family and so many others in grief, especially during the holidays. I'm sure it's a little worse these days. Haley was an amazing girl, obviously. Her sense of humor is so uplifting. I hope your faith and strength in the Lord continue to grow and touch others.
Oula Haddad
Oula Haddad <jhaddad1@yahoo.com>
Silver Spring, md usa - Wednesday, December 12, 2007 10:15 PM CST
Cheryl, I have written in your guest book so few times, but I come to this site at least twice a week looking for updates. I just want to take a minute to say that you really can't let anyone down. If you do not live up to the expectations of others, then they let themselves down for making their wants about you. You're doing the best you can, as we all are, no matter what path we walk in life. And that is all God really asks of us...so who are we to ask more than that from each other? Be blessed, Cheryl. You're doing exactly what you are supposed to be doing.
Sue G (www.caringbridge.org/visit/sueguenther)
- Tuesday, December 11, 2007 5:46 PM CST
Cheryl,
Haley's question about them cutting out the "songwriting part" of her brain just took my breath away. What a dear, precious, sweet child she was and what a great sense of humor to say, "Don't let a neurosurgeon cut your hair!"
I can only imagine how much you miss her.
Becky Smith <beckysmith62@aol.com caringbridge.org/nc/sarahsmith>
Smithfield, NC - Tuesday, December 11, 2007 3:19 PM CST
Keeping you in my thoughts during the Holiday season and in my prayer's always.
Brenda MY CHRISTMAS ANGEL <brurka@shaw.ca>
Edmonton,Alberta/Canada, - Tuesday, December 11, 2007 9:39 AM CST
peaceful wishes for you this season, Cheryl.
thinking of you & your family.
I'll bet Haley's gearing up for quite the Christmas concert with the angel choir!
Hugs.
Amy, Carly's Mom (10, BA, tx '99)
MN - Monday, December 10, 2007 9:08 PM CST
I am not sure what just hit me hard in this update. I read it and burst out into tears. I guess it is because here you are in your grief, telling us to udnerstand how you can't do everything you would like.. and then there I see Aiden's name. Your first prayer request.. Oh Cheryl I wish you knew how you are usually the first person I call and how you are the most special friend to me. Please know, For this person, you ahve been all I have ever hoped for in a friend. And I will never stop thanking you for that. Thank you even in your explaination of how you are selfish in grief.. that you SELFLESSLY mentioned my child in prayer.
I wish you realized how much of a blessing you are to us. If you only gave 1% of your self everyonce in a while... it would be more than most have to offer in a life time.
I love you
Lisa and
- Monday, December 10, 2007 9:03 PM CST
Just wanted to send you some hugs!
Shannon, Marisa's Mom, www.caringbridge.org/mi/marisa
- Monday, December 10, 2007 6:51 PM CST
I love what you wrote about the hamster wheel, you are just so right with that.
Your entire entry is great and I am glad you wrote about it. Certain people do not like me anymore because of those same reasons you have written about. I could not live up to a certain level of expectations. Everything we do is always done with such great effort and it can be emotionally draining. Even if we do half of what we normally did...I think that is a big accomplishment.
jeanne <crowman2766@aol.com>
king of prussia, pa usa - Monday, December 10, 2007 3:09 PM CST
Cheryl, I've seen you "in action" and you are a good person and a wonderful mother. I hate that you feel the need to apologize for doing what you need to do. And I hope and pray that nobody has made you feel wrong for taking care of yourself and your family first. Keep your sights on God and everything else will fall into place. Hugs to you, Cheryl!
Chrissy Pierce
Kingsport, TN - Monday, December 10, 2007 1:35 PM CST
Cheryl
Through my brother who lost his daughter two weeks after you lost Haley I get a small glimpse of how hard everyday life can be for you. Don't worry about the "small stuff." Stay close to the Lord. He is with you everyday whether it's a good or tough day.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Sunday, December 9, 2007 9:29 PM CST
Cheryl - as always your writing is so touching. Thank you for sharing Haley with us! - Hugs!
Mary M - KaitlynsMom
Newton, NJ usa - Sunday, December 9, 2007 6:38 PM CST
Awww Cheryl,
Well done! what a beautiful job you did!
I was not aware until now what Haley's diagnoses had been. My little guy has sclerosing cholangitis.
Prayers,
Maria
www.caringbridge.org/visit/noahwmartens
Maria <mariapamom@comcast.net>
- Sunday, December 9, 2007 1:14 AM CST
Cheryl,
So blessed by Haley's life... So blessed by you...
Yes, our God is still good and He continues to be glorified through your pain and sorrow, your joy and laughter.
We saw Jesus in Haley; we see Jesus in you -
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, TX - Saturday, December 8, 2007 8:56 AM CST
Cheryl,
That was so beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing it. I check on you very often, and do not leave messages as much as I should (my apologies). Hayley was the first caringbridge kid that I started to follow AFTER she has passed. I cannot tell you how much reading your whole journal history has told me about the wonderful, beautiful person she was. I wish I would have found you earlier. I have cried so many tears reading your words, imaging your pain. I wish I could have known Hayley in life....if I have learned this much from her never really meeting her, how much more could I have gained from her in life? You are amazing. I keep you in my prayers, and look up to you with great respect.
www.caringbridge.org/ca/jackson
Jennifer Smith
Hidden Valley Lake, CA USA - Saturday, December 8, 2007 1:04 AM CST
Chery that was beautiful! I have always admired your gift with words!
Haley has touch so many hearts, she continues to live on through you!
Laurie & Shania <crumrila@yahoo.com>
Broomfield, CO - Friday, December 7, 2007 2:13 PM CST
Another quick anecdote that made me think of you...
Last Monday at bible study we all answered the question, "when is the last time you cried?". Mine was only a few hours before during the day when I heard of a friend who was about to lose her son. Her son has battled leukemia and was in remission, but just shortly relapsed. The leukemia has spread and any treatment would only give him a year at best, and it would be a miserable year at that. His parents have instead decided to enjoy the time with their son that they have until he joins our Father in Heaven, probably sometime before Christmas. After I told the group his story, one of my friends commented on how hard that pain must be...the pain of losing a child. Her eyes got big and she commented that she had no idea how she could ever survive such a tragedy. But then we started to talk about God and how he sacrificed His son for all of us. God is just as real as we are and feels the same pain. You have shared in that pain with Him. My friend then said how it's kind of cool, in a way, that God has chosen those certain people to experience that. As horrible as it is, you have been chosen to be like Him and experience those same things. God knows your pain, He's been there. He knows your longing to hold Haley again...and because of that I am sure that He is holding on to her ever so tightly for you until that day when you meet again in Heaven. I love you and I'm praying for you always.
Laura Dellicker <ldellicker@elon.edu>
Elon, NC - Thursday, December 6, 2007 10:15 PM CST
Cheryl and Bruce,
Thank you. I truly believe Haley and Rich Carlson, author of "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" are sitting together right now. Rich Carlson's philosophy of his books is based on teaching people to be kind, patient and grateful. If people were gracious enough to have met Haley, then they got that message as she was all of these wonderful qualities. Thank you for reminding those of us who knew her to remember those words of wisdom through your testimony!
Love, Mina, Taka, Brooke and Jake <minayiyamada@hotmail.com>
Atlanta, GA USA - Thursday, December 6, 2007 9:55 PM CST
oh, my, Cheryl....all that you said about Haley and
your faith is so powerful. I imagine that there wasn't
anyone not crying when they heard you, and listened
to Haley's singing Everywhere!
prayers and love from Mrs. Pam
- Thursday, December 6, 2007 9:46 PM CST
Wow. That's all I can really say after reading your talk. You truly have a gift with words and bringing the reader/audience into your life with you...sharing a part of your experiences. You glorify Haley's life every day with your work through the foundation, and every once in awhile the world is blessed with a public glorification of Haley's short, yet so amazing, life. I just got back from a special Christmas lunch with my bible study where we exchanged Secret Santa gifts. I gave a copy of Haley's CD and a copy of your talk as a part of my gift, and after hearing my description of Haley's life all the girls in the group were asking if they could have a copy of her CD as well. You're in my heart always. I hope and pray more than anything that we can meet one day.
Laura Dellicker <ldellicker@elon.edu>
Elon, NC - Thursday, December 6, 2007 1:53 PM CST
That was beautiful.
Dana
greenville , sc - Thursday, December 6, 2007 12:14 AM CST
Thank you for sharing that with the world! Your faith is encouraging and so inspiring.
I really like the design of the foundation shirts and the verse displayed on the back of them.
"He who began a good work..." - keep that good work moving and blessing others!
Kristi Gerdon
Croghan, NY - Thursday, December 6, 2007 10:59 AM CST
Cheryl, that was truly beautiful and touched my heart deeply. God bless you.
Karen
Sacramento, CA USA - Wednesday, December 5, 2007 3:56 PM CST
What an amazing, beautiful and courageous girl, your Haley. Even just her comment "Never let a neurosurgeon cut your hair" makes me want to cry and smile at the same time.
Hannah
Berlin, Germany - Wednesday, December 5, 2007 2:12 PM CST
cheryl that was beautiful.
Lisa and
- Wednesday, December 5, 2007 12:34 AM CST
Cheryl, Lisa had mentioned to come read your entry.All I can say is Wow!There could not have been a dry eye that day.You just amaze me with how strong your faith is.It is truly inspiring to see how you have dealt with such pain and grief.I know it has not been an easy road for you these last 2 years.It really is an honor to support The Haley Vincent Foundation.What Haley left behind is living on in the hearts of others.I know she and you have touched my life deeply.I hope we can meet one day.
With much Love & Hope,
Lynne Doddridge <dhd76@aol.com>
St.Petersburg, Fl - Wednesday, December 5, 2007 9:24 AM CST
I don't know how I ended up on Haley's page today. Well, actually I guess I do. What an incredible testament to your beautiful daughter. Not only was Haley musically talented, she had the gift of widson far beyond her years. God's blessings to you and your family. Thank you for sharing!
Nancy
Nashville, - Wednesday, December 5, 2007 8:27 AM CST
What an amazing speech! I know the congregation was blessed to hear it. And I know Haley is so proud of you.
Chrissy Pierce
Kingsport, TN - Tuesday, December 4, 2007 3:05 PM CST
Cheryl,...
Tears and admiration for your grace and courage... As I sit here angry and lamenting and struggling to hold onto my lagging faith, watching my Sammi struggle with illness and feeling so futile and helpless...I so appreciated your words.."hope" versus help...working hard to hold onto hope.
Love and thanks Cheryl,
LeeAnne
LeeAnne Bye <allenleeannebye@aol.com>
NJ - Tuesday, December 4, 2007 12:09 AM CST
Cheryl,
Thank you SOOOOOO much for sharing your talk. I am in tears. You, too, are awfully brave. Haley learned it...you are living it. God bless you and the rest of your family. Your beautiful daughter will be remembered forever.
Mary Ziegler <ziggyfamily@aol.com>
Hoffman Estates, IL - Tuesday, December 4, 2007 11:50 AM CST
I hope your talk went well today...I am sure that you touched and inspired many by sharing Haley's beautiful story. Her legacy lives on through you and all those who loved her. She is such a treasure. Part one of your talk was absolutely incredible, I can hardly wait to see what parts two and three bring.
In His love,
Laura
Laura Dellicker <ldellicker@elon.edu>
Elon, NC - Sunday, December 2, 2007 8:51 PM CST
Prayers for tommorrow.. I know you will touch many lives with hers/ and your story. Love you.
Lisa and
- Saturday, December 1, 2007 8:07 PM CST
Just beautiful......
Shannon, Marisa's Mom, www.caringbridge.org/mi/marisa
- Saturday, December 1, 2007 7:31 AM CST
Wow, Cheryl! I have been reading your website for a few years now and have read the history and heard bits and pieces from Lisa. I thought I knew...
But, to hear it like you just described is just gutt-wrenching to hear as a mother. I can only imagine and still not even have a glimpse of the pain you have endured.
But, still you continue to spread your faith and give others comfort through this tragedy. It is so obvious where Haley got her gifts from. Quite clearly sraight from the Lord himself, but just as sure from you- her amazing mother!!
Thank you for sharing Haley and your journey with us. It has forever changed my life...
Michelle G <mgaylord@tampabay.rr.com>
St Petersburg, FL USA - Saturday, December 1, 2007 7:17 AM CST
YES Cheryl...YES! will stay tuned for part two...you speak for so many...and you and Haley did it so well. HUGS and prayers continue..
Love,
LeeAnne, Sammi and company...
LeeAnne Bye <allenleeannebye@aol.com>
NJ - Friday, November 30, 2007 8:19 PM CST
WOW, Cheryl! This is really great. I can't wait to hear parts 2 and 3. Your daughter was an inspiration to many. Wish I had the chance to get to know her in person, but I "knew" her through the journal. I have been following her site for a very long time, but have not taken the time to comment much. I am a ped. nurse and I have a very good friend that works as a nurse at Scottish Rite so I have been keeping up with lots of friends on CB for a long time. I am seriously considering volunteering my time at Egleston and Scottish Rite (not as a nurse, just as a friend)b/c of a love for these kids. Keep the faith and sharing her story and I will continue reading!
Wendy Whiddon
Winder, GA - Friday, November 30, 2007 7:25 PM CST
Oh Cheryl
My heart aches for you. Haley touched so many lives. I admire you so much for being willing and able to continue to share her story and therefore helping Haley continue to touch many more lives.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Friday, November 30, 2007 2:55 PM CST
Thank you for continuing to share Haley's story. I come here often to hear her sweet voice. Praying for you as you prepare the rest of your talk. I am sure it is a challenge to write (on many levels), even though you are "simply" sharing the amazing story of a wonderful life. Haley's light shines on in those who knew her, and those who have come to know her through you.
Amanda <amfulton02@yahoo.com>
Omaha, NE - Friday, November 30, 2007 11:40 AM CST
Thinking about you today.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Friday, November 30, 2007 8:43 AM CST
I still check in often too! I'm always thinking of you and hoping things are going well.
Shannon, Marisa's Mom, www.caringbridge.org/mi/marisa
- Thursday, November 29, 2007 9:28 PM CST
Me! Me! I still check in! I just am guilty of not leaving messages : ( I will never stop checking in (or stop praying!)
www.caringbridge.org/ca/jackson
Jennifer Smith
hidden valley lake, ca usa - Wednesday, November 28, 2007 10:34 PM CST
I'm sure your talk at church was very good.
Haley reminds me of a bible story that Mamie's class acted out in children's church. It's the one where Jesus got laughed at because he told the crowd the little girl was not dead, but only sleeping, and then he raised her. Mamie wanted to play the dead girl, which made the teacher a little uncomfortable because she had just been diagnosed with cancer. She let her play the part, and while the crowd was wailing and mourning she suddenly sat up and said, "Don't be sad! I'm with Jesus!"
www.caringbridge.org/al/mamieadams
Mamie's Daddy <george.f.adams@us.army.mil>
Huntsville, AL USA - Monday, November 26, 2007 9:37 PM CST
I too find myself in a deep need of "being still" and having that quality time with God. I find that I fill my days with so many things that keep me so busy and I forget that without God I wouldn't be blessed with everything that I spend time doing and the people that I spend my time with. I've made a personal goal of committing time to God every day and making a point to not push it to the side! It is during that time that I really connect with Him...many times that is the point during the day (or one of many) that I listen to Haley's beautiful music. I know that she is right there with me, just as God is. I know that she is right there with you as well, watching over you and protecting you, just as you protected her so well during her time here on earth. You are such a blessing to so many. I always look forward to reading your updates. Good luck with your talk! You're in my heart and prayers always...
Laura Dellicker <ldellicker@elon.edu>
- Monday, November 26, 2007 11:31 AM CST
haven't talked you in a few days, and just wanted to say I love you guys. XOXOX
Lisa and
- Monday, November 26, 2007 8:07 AM CST
Thinking of you today, as always.
Angel Olivia's Mommy, Wendy
www.caringbridge.org/mi/oliviasgrace <won2xx@gmail.com>
- Sunday, November 25, 2007 8:25 PM CST
Cheryl
I think God has already done some pretty
amazing things in the "unstill" you...
how about being Haley's mom, for starters.
mrs pam
xxoo
- Sunday, November 25, 2007 3:31 PM CST
Cheryl, I wish I could hear your talk in church tomorrow. Somehow, I think you'll be saying what Haley would say if she were at the microphone, and sharing her wisdom as well as your own. Love and prayers to you and your family.
Barbara Mullins
North Little Rock, AR - Saturday, November 24, 2007 8:48 PM CST
You know Cheryl - that is often how I cope since Ryan's dx - I just keep my mind busy so that I don't have to think of all the what if's - I want to just "live" in the right now and that is so hard to do when fear takes over, but then I get so cluttered, I'm not really breathing life in either. Right now is all we have .... so I don't want to waste it .... that is what sweet Haley began teaching me even before I had a sick child. I found you guys a while before Ryan was diagnosed - God was getting me ready for the unthinkable - He led me to you. Because of Haley and because of you - I KNOW, I have walked this dreaded road in a very different way than had I never "happened" upon your site. Ryan just had his last chemo over Thanksgiving .... now I am praying that God will teach us to "LIVE" and not fear in between every MRI every 3months. Ryan certainly hasn't stopped living .... I try to keep up the good front, but inside - well, you know don't you. I know that is how Haley was - she LIVED. I watch him and I'm simply amazed - I get it how a little child shall lead them. Love you - I hope you will share that what you are writing one day.
Mary Lee Carrigan <mary_robb@bellsouth.net>
Gallatin, Tn - Saturday, November 24, 2007 11:02 AM CST
How has Haley impacted me? Wow. well... can I say that 1) she taught me to remember to have humor in spite of everything being grim. 2) she reminded me that even though life is calling for the pity party, that is the perfect time to reach out to others and bless them. Nothing feels as good as giving to others. 3) Angels are beautiful little girls with sweet soft voices. 4) Sometimes the legacy we leave behind can live louder and stronger than most people's life that are lived here. It is how we choose to honor that person. 5) Being sick really is only temporary. There is healing on our Father, and one day if we choose Him, we will all get to see His Glory.
Lisa, forver changed by Haley <rolexh@aol.com>
St. Pete, fl - Saturday, November 24, 2007 7:30 AM CST
thinking of you this thanksgiving day...
prayers and love from mrs pam
- Thursday, November 22, 2007 8:04 PM CST
Wishing your family a blessed Thanksgiving! - You guys are always in my thoughts and prayers
Mary M - KaitlynsMom - LF
Newton, nj usa - Thursday, November 22, 2007 8:21 AM CST
Cheryl thinking of you this Thanksgiving eve and wanted to thank you again for sharing Haley's beautiful CD's .. Praying for happy moments, comfort and God's peace for all of your family this Thanksgiving...
Love, Hugs, prayers and thanks again for sharing your precious daughter with us.
Love, LeeAnne, Sammi, Amanda, Matthew and family
www.caringbridge.org/visit/byesiblings
LeeAnne <allenleeannebye@aol.com>
NJ - Wednesday, November 21, 2007 9:39 PM CST
Cheryl,
O.k. I know I just posted but when I am feeling sad I come to visit - because you understand...
Pamela
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, - Wednesday, November 21, 2007 9:11 PM CST
Cheryl,
What a beautiful, beautiful testimony of Haley continuing to touch people's lives!! So glad Noel shared with you (and us).
Have a blessed and Happy Thanksgiving -
Pamela
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
- Tuesday, November 20, 2007 10:19 AM CST
I've never posted here before, but I did want to share with you how Haley changed my life.
I worked closely with the Noble family in their journey, and had seen the link to Haley's story in their guest book. I visited several times, in love with Haley's beautiful voice and touching music.
In June, I headed to Los Angeles to work at a camp for special kids: and one week it was kids with liver disease and liver transplant. I had a very special girl in my cabin who was going through a very hard time. She was with me in the children's hospital on site, very very sick and very very homesick. I was struggling to comfort her, and as her parents were far away, I knew that it was my job to find a way to reach this little girl, to connect with her and find a way to still her mind, ease her pain, and bring her some peace.
As I held her in the bed, she started asking for her "haley songs". The other staff were puzzled and didn't know what a "haley song" was.I knew instantly what she wanted and rushed to get her Ipod. I sprinted back toward the hospital, singing in my head "every where you look, he's standing right there...". I held my little camper, rocked her hurting body, and with one headphone in her ear and one in mine, we talked about Haley. Her shaking stopped, her crying ceased and we talked about what a beautiful, brave and hopeful girl Haley was. And I told my camper how proud Haley would be of her.
And in that moment, Haley had given me the strength to be the comfort this little girl needed. She had opened my eyes, so that I could see what this little one had been through. And she opened my heart, so that I could connect with my camper, give her a safe place so far from her home.
Thank you, Haley. and Thank you Cheryl for sharing her with me.
Noel <osuelle43@yahoo.com>
Columbus, OH - Monday, November 19, 2007 6:52 PM CST
Cheryl
We are thinking of you all and hoping your Thanksgiving is good. Praying that the Lord brings you comfort that only He can bring.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Monday, November 19, 2007 4:55 PM CST
Cheryl, you and Haley have been on my mind today. Just wanted you to know that I am thinking about you both!
Chrissy Pierce
Kingsport, TN - Monday, November 19, 2007 2:33 PM CST
Cheryl,
I had the privilege of going to the "Casting Crowns" concert tonight with some friends from Elon. It was an incredible experience. Before going, I went back and re-read the letter they posted on their site that you had written to them. Before they started to play "Praise You In This Storm" they brought up Erin's mom, and she prayed aloud for all of us. I sung that song with tears in my eyes for Haley and for your family. On the carride back to school, I pulled out my ipod and we listened to Haley's songs. The five other girls I was with were absolutely astonished and amazed by her gifts, both spiritually and musically. We had a long discussion about how God uses people for special purposes and to reach out to people. It is clear how He has used Haley, but I don't think anyone could have ever guess how many lives Haley would touch all over the nation. God is so great...and that's how we can praise Him through this storm!
Lots of love and lots and lots of prayers always,
Laura
Laura Dellicker <ldellicker@elon.edu>
Elon, NC - Saturday, November 17, 2007 10:38 PM CST
Hi Cheryl. Just wanting you to know that you & the family continue to be in my heart. Always will be. Hugs.
Amy, Carly's Mom
MN - Tuesday, November 13, 2007 8:36 PM CST
Oh, Cheryl,
I am so very, very sorry to learn about Jon.
I will visit his caringbridge page.
prayers and love from mrs pam
- Tuesday, November 13, 2007 9:53 AM CST
I am so sad to read about another child passing. I know the Lord placed this family in your path for a reason, and vice versa. I will pray for peace and comfort for this family. I am so sorry, what a terrible tragedy.
Lisa and Aiden <rolexh@aol.com>
- Sunday, November 11, 2007 7:29 PM CST
It's been a long time since I posted here and I see that a lot has happened in that time. Cheryl, I hope your recovery from surgery has gone well. Having been through two surgeries myself this year, I have some understanding of the recovery process.
If you study the process of learning, it's easy to see that we learn primarily by modeling behavior - how did you learn to walk? Or to talk? You modeled those closest to you. While teachers certainly play an imporant role in the lives of their students, the larger component of learning is done at home. With the people who are with children many more hours of the day. You only have to look at your children to understand how good a mother and father they have. It's very obvious to any follower of this site that your children have excellent "at home" teachers.
I so miss our Haley and I never even had the opportunity to meet her - I only know her through this website. But even this website is 99% your creation - even here, you have provided a model that allows people to meet and know Haley as well as the rest of the family. Thanks so much for your creation of this site as well as continuing updates. You all mean so much to so many people - you have provided ax excellent model for living.
Haley was such a special, special lady and will always be. That specialness, in part, was due to the very loving family that surrounded her while she was here on Earth and continues to this day.
We have never met previously but vicarously through my niece, Sara Beth Williams. You helped my sister, Merri, establish SB's website many years ago. If you remember some of my previous posts, we are also fellow Welsh Corgi owners.I currently have three of these wonderful caniine kids! I would love the opportunity to meet with you sometime if you would like. I cannot even explain to you why I think it would be beneficial for us to meet but feel the need to make the offer. If you have any interest, email me at libeye@bellsouth.net. I live in Atlanta so it would be very easy for ne to get together here for a coffee or something but I am certainly open to visiting you in your neck of the woods! It's also very okay if you're not interested in getting together at all!
I wish for you all peace and happiness.
Libby Gladden <libeye@bellsouth.net>
Norcross, GA - Saturday, November 10, 2007 1:38 AM CST
I saw your note to the Metcalf family. Their experience brought back so many memories. Grieving is such hard work. I just wish there was something we could do. I wanted to tell you that I have introduced Haley to a lot of people. Monday I introduced her to 20 Methodist ministers up in Virginia. Last Saturday I introduced her to 20 recepients and 2 donor families at a volunteer training in Greeneville, South Carolina. Next Sunday I am going to introduce her to three services at State Street Methodist. I want all those people to know that they can give the gift of life. I hope you all are doing well.
Dave
Dave Lively <dlively@chartertn.net>
Kingsport, Tn - Thursday, November 8, 2007 1:56 PM CST
Thinking of you guys, and hoping Haley's Birthday Party at the hospital was a ton of fun for all of you. :)
Kristie Kendrie's Page <Kristieokc@cox.net>
Byron, GA - Thursday, November 8, 2007 5:03 AM CST
Happy belated birthday Haley. Thinking of you and praying for all of those who love you.
Sheryl, Justice' mom <sheryl.lyn@verizon.net>
- Wednesday, November 7, 2007 10:24 PM CST
Happy Belated Heavenly Birthday Sweet Angel Haley! Thinking of you always and keeping your family in my prayers.
Sending Hugs,
Mary M and Kaitlyn
Newton, NJ usa - Wednesday, November 7, 2007 9:17 PM CST
It was an honor to spend time with you on this special day. I can hear the angels singing, and the waves crashing on that celestial shore. I can only imagine how beautiful her birthday celebration was in the lap of Christ. we love you
Lisa and the boys <Rolexh@aol.com>
- Wednesday, November 7, 2007 6:07 AM CST
Thinking of you Haley.
Stephanie Olivieri
IL - Tuesday, November 6, 2007 9:37 PM CST
We remembered sweet Haley on her birthday yesterday
in Preschool. I thought of your celebrating at the hospital.
and hoped that everything went well.
prayers and love from mrs pam
- Tuesday, November 6, 2007 7:38 AM CST
Thinking of Haley today and humming and singing her songs.
Frank (Marisa's Dad) <hamet@mich.com>
Flat Rock, MI United States - Monday, November 5, 2007 7:53 PM CST
Hailey you were such a amazing girl! Happy Birthday to a special angel! May God watch over you and your family on this special day and always!
Laurie & Shania LF <crumrila@yahoo.com>
Broomfield, CO - Monday, November 5, 2007 5:47 PM CST
Thinking of you guys today. Happy Heavenly Birthday Haley! I am sure you are entertaining all the other beautiful angels in Heaven with you amazing voice.
Michelle & Ali Jacobsen
Lawrence, KS - Monday, November 5, 2007 5:14 PM CST
Happy Birthday Sweet Angel and love and hugs to your Sweet Mommy who misses you so .......
Mary Lee Carrigan <mary_robb@bellsouth.net>
Gallatin, Tn - Monday, November 5, 2007 4:10 PM CST
Happy Birthday, Haley!
Chrissy Pierce
Kingsport, TN - Monday, November 5, 2007 3:46 PM CST
Happy Heavenly Birthday Haley, you are so VERY LOVED and SO VERY MISSED!!
Dawn Pickens <dpickens_42@yahoo.com>
Beaumont, Tx - Monday, November 5, 2007 3:35 PM CST
Happy 14th birthday to the angel with THE most beautiful voice in Heaven. And prayers that God will wrap HIS hands around the family that was left behind.
Pam Doughty <p_dought@bellsouth.net>
Powder Springs, GA USA - Monday, November 5, 2007 2:18 PM CST
Happy Birthday sweet Angel. You are so missed by us here! Cheryl and family you are in my daily prayers. I love you!
Kristy and Ashlee <alyssassmama@yahoo.com>
NY - Monday, November 5, 2007 12:48 AM CST
Happy birthday Angel.
Cheryl and family although we are with you in prayers each day, today please know they the prayers continue.
We love you.
Becca and Natalie
Byron, IL USA - Monday, November 5, 2007 12:08 AM CST
Cheryl,
Praying for you today - may God's grace continue to be sufficient...
Happy 14th Birthday Haley!!
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, - Monday, November 5, 2007 9:24 AM CST
Thinking of you today. Happy Birthday Haley.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Monday, November 5, 2007 7:45 AM CST
Happy Birthday, Sweet Angel.
Shannon, Marisa's Mom, www.caringbridge.org/mi/marisa
- Monday, November 5, 2007 7:10 AM CST
P.S. Happy Birthday to the BRAVEST Girl Ever!
Love, Marisa
MN - Sunday, November 4, 2007 9:41 PM CST
On the eve of your Birthday Sweet Girl, so many of us miss you down here. It's hard but I know you would want us to Praise God and I will try my best to do that for you!
Love You and Your Family Always!
Marisa
MN - Sunday, November 4, 2007 9:40 PM CST
I have Haley's picture up right next to my bed here in my dorm room...your family is never far from my heart and you are always in my prayers. It is so wonderful the ways in which you have chosen to celebrate Haley's life, especially on such significant milestones such as her birthday. I hope to one day be able to attend one of the events in Atlanta as I am now much closer being in NC instead of MA! I have a friend at Emory, so it is quite convenient. You are in my prayers and will be on my mind tomorrow. You do such incredible things, Cheryl. If only I could one do make half the difference that you do in this world.
Love & prayers always...
Laura Dellicker <ldellicker@elon.edu>
NC - Sunday, November 4, 2007 9:30 PM CST
MY PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU AND YOUR FAMILY GOD BLESS YOU
Debbie Anderson <debbiea1958@yahoo.com>
Fort Edward, New York 12828 United States - Sunday, November 4, 2007 6:28 PM CST
(((((Cheryl))))),
Prayers that your precious ^Hailey's^ honoray birthday party is a wonderful success and you may feel the warmth and glow of her love and approval for such a sweet and loving way to remember her birthday Cheryl. Prayers to for your comfort on a day that must ache like hades missing your precious daughter. I am sure she is WOWING them all in heaven as she did here on earth...
Looking at the picture you have up of ^Hailey^,Cheryl, she has such beautiful, wise and loving eyes...
Hugs and prayers,
LeeAnne and family
LeeAnne <allenleeannebye@aol.com>
NJ - Sunday, November 4, 2007 6:55 AM CST
Hope you have a wonderful time in Atlanta. Our family is remembering your family as Haley's birthday approaches. We still listen to her songs and thank God for allowing our lives to be touched by her.
Becca Perry <6perrys@comcast.net>
johnson city, TN - Saturday, November 3, 2007 9:47 PM CDT
Thinking of your family as you approach Haley's birthday. She's still in our hearts. Love to you guys - have so much fun at the birthday party!
Stacy - Tanner's mom - www.caringbridge.com/ks/tanner <stacyrobb@excite.com>
De Soto, KS USA - Saturday, November 3, 2007 8:51 PM CDT
Imagining that "special girl who loves to sing"
singing the praises of God with other special
children who love to sing. What glorious music!
Haley's birthday celebration will be a wonderful
day-brightener for all those children.
mrs pam
- Saturday, November 3, 2007 11:02 AM CDT
I've been thinking of you a lot this week. Since Marisa's TX anniversary is coming up...I can't help but think about Haley's birthday as well. Lots of love to you and your family this weekend and especially on Monday. We'll be celebrating Haley's birthday as we celebrate Marisa's transplant.
Shannon, Marisa's Mom, www.caringbridge.org/mi/marisa
- Friday, November 2, 2007 7:35 PM CDT
What a beautiful essay from a beautiful girl.....inside and out. That is one of the most touching things I've ever read.
God bless!
Mary Ziegler <ziggyfamily@aol.com>
- Friday, November 2, 2007 1:47 PM CDT
Just thinking of you this afternoon ......
Mary Lee Carrigan (Ryan's mommy)
Mary Lee Carrigan <mary_robb@bellsouth.net>
Gallatin, Tn 37066 - Thursday, November 1, 2007 2:35 PM CDT
Happy Halloween...
Boo from Mrs. Pam
- Wednesday, October 31, 2007 6:51 PM CDT
Don't do it -- Don't touch that housework! What is the point, really?
You certainly do have great kids. haven't got to be around Nick in way too long, but I always liked being around him myself, and -- he talked about you a lot! It was always "my mom this and my dad that". Most kids his age don't do that. Family is obviously very important to him.
Sherry <shelton@chartertn.net>
Kingsport, TN - Sunday, October 28, 2007 7:28 PM CDT
Sounds like those four A+ kids
really do have an A+ Mom, too!
loved reading about the kids' attributes...
prayers and love from mrs pam
- Sunday, October 28, 2007 5:12 PM CDT
Cheryl,
If you find someone to do the housework, cook, and all the etcs, let me know
I love dust. You can write in it.
I love the way you love your children and it was great to hear about them. I like to hear your bragging about them. It is wonderful!
fran
- Sunday, October 21, 2007 6:43 PM CDT
Cheryl,
Thank you for your message on Shania's site! It meant so much too me! I know when I almost lost Shania I thought of you and how much strength you have! I always admired Haley she was such a beautiful girl! I can never forget the day she died, since my birthday is on the 2nd. I cryed two years ago, even though I never met her.
I appreciate what you & Lisa have done with Haley's Foundation! Shania was so surprised to receive her gifts when she was in the hospital! I really want to order Haley's CD, I know Shania would love it and she would sing all her songs, since she also loves to sing like Haley!
Our prayers are always with you and family!
www.caringbridge.ore/visit/shania
Laurie & Shania <crumrila@yahoo.com>
Westminster, CO - Sunday, October 21, 2007 5:57 PM CDT
I see everyday at work the children who do not get to spend time with their children...the parents do not want to or have the time to. It is SO sad to see this but it is so prevelant in todays society. :(
I think you are the BEST mom for wanting and loveing to be with your kids...talking, hanging out, etc...It doesn't matter what you do becuase you are there for them! The world should learn a thing or two from you and your family. :)
Love Ya, Marisa
Marisa
MN www.caringbridge.org/mn/marisa - Sunday, October 21, 2007 4:21 PM CDT
Cheryl, I am in tears reading that update. You are an amazing mother. With an amazing heart for her children. I think the fact that you love "just being" with your children vs doing the other stuff IS what makes you the best mom. None of that competitive muffy mom stuff for you. Volunteering in Kendall's classroom, lets face it.. is not nearly as fun as watching her do artwork on the couch next to you. But you do it. I think that is the sign of the BEST mommy in town. And this is coming from the freaky mom that loves doing the glitter and glue.. now if I can JUST get my kids to like it as much as I do!
I love you my friend. You are just burned into my heart. I can't believe how we met, how we have endured, and just how God has tied us together forever. I feel like the luckiest person to have you as a friend. Not only are you an amazing mom, you are the best friend ever to me. ((HUGS)) and I can't wait to see you in 2 weeks.
Lisa (the friend who hasn't talked to you on the phone in 3 days so she has to leave a life story on your guestbook) <Rolexh@aol.com>
St. pete, fl - Sunday, October 21, 2007 8:48 AM CDT
You and yours are forever in my heart. Wishing you a lifetime of unlocked doors!! :)
Keep in touch. I think of you and pray for you often.
Becca - mom of Natalie
Byron, iL - Friday, October 19, 2007 1:45 PM CDT
Cheryl - I can't imagine the pain of losing your precious Haley. My friend, you are always in my prayers.
Amy Hinkle <amy.hinkle@clubcorp.com>
Carrollton, TX - Thursday, October 18, 2007 9:48 AM CDT
whew...that would have been quite "nervousing"...
glad you were finally rescued!
xxoo mrs pam
- Tuesday, October 16, 2007 7:54 AM CDT
Checking in as usual and actually signing tonight. Thanks for sharing, it did make me smile and I needed that tonight. Take care Cheryl...I think of you often.
www.caringbridge.org/canada/kyle
Lisa - Forever Kyle's Mom <bailsam@msn.com >
Halifax, Nova Scotia - Monday, October 15, 2007 8:00 PM CDT
Enjoyed the story Cheryl. I can picture the look on your face as it dawns on you that you can't get out.
Prayers continue...
Frank (Marisa's Dad) <hamet@mich.com>
Flat Rock, MI United States - Sunday, October 14, 2007 9:02 PM CDT
Hello Cheryl,
I just wanted you to know I continue to think of Haley and her family..Her mommy especially comes to my heart very often. Please know Cheryl I still hold you close in prayer and thoughts.
Thinking of you,
Colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Sunday, October 14, 2007 10:24 AM CDT
....and that pain is gut-wrenching, isn't it?
prayers and love from mrs pam
- Wednesday, October 10, 2007 6:50 AM CDT
Matthew 5:8,10
Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Haley got to go to Heaven. Isn't she the lucky one!
Kathy
Kingsport, Tn USA - Tuesday, October 9, 2007 9:55 PM CDT
It saddens me so to read your words of grief, however, you continue to teach me more than I can even begin to thank you for. Continuing to send prayers from Nebraska.
Amanda Fulton
Omaha, NE - Sunday, October 7, 2007 9:27 PM CDT
Praying ...... Seems like such a trite thing to say - but I truly am .....
Love you - Mary Lee
Mary Lee Carrigan <mary_robb@bellsouth.net>
Gallatin, TN - Sunday, October 7, 2007 1:28 PM CDT
I want you to know that your family is in my prayers. Remembering Haley...always.
moirasmom
- Thursday, October 4, 2007 10:51 AM CDT
We just wanted to leave you a note, and tell you that we care for your loss of Haley. May God bless you and continue to abide with you. We are friends of Marisa Hamet, and we thank God everyday that she is still with us.
Joe and Joann Cotellesse <Sisjoann@comcast.net>
Taylro, MI USA - Thursday, October 4, 2007 6:08 AM CDT
Cheryl.. no other words tonight other than I love you and I am praying.
Lisa <RolexH@aol.com>
- Wednesday, October 3, 2007 10:05 PM CDT
Dear Cheryl,
I am sorry that Haley died. I am sorry that you are hurting so much. You don't know me...but a friend of mine has been visiting this site and asked if I would post. My 13 year old son Rory died from brain cancer in 2005. My 43 year old wife Trici died suddenly in 1999 and my 18 month old daughter died in 1990. I have a website at www.tomzuba.com. I created the site so those of us who are learning to live new lives with the death of someone we love would have a safe place to go. I hope you will visit.
Hope and peace,
Tom Zuba <tom@tomzuba.com>
- Wednesday, October 3, 2007 12:59 AM CDT
Cheryl,
Sending hugs, prayers and friendship today.
Love, Tam
caringbridge/fl/gavinward
Tammy Ward <gavinwfoundation@aol.com>
West Palm Beach, Fl usa - Wednesday, October 3, 2007 9:50 AM CDT
Dear Cheryl
There is nothing that can make Haley's loss better for you. I am just so sorry that this happened to you, and I wish you moments of peace. Take care of yourself, love,
Joanna (Jessica's mum from liverfamilies)
- Tuesday, October 2, 2007 11:41 PM CDT
Cheryl, I wish I could take your pain away for you. All I can do is tell you that you and your beautiful Haley are being thought of every day and she will never be forgotten. You will be in my prayers, as always.
sarah
ma - Tuesday, October 2, 2007 7:13 PM CDT
Thinking of you and Haley today.
Cat
NYC, - Tuesday, October 2, 2007 1:00 PM CDT
Keeping all of you in our thoughts and prayers and dancing with Haley's music....we love you.
Sheryl, Justice and Tommy's mom <sheryl.lyn@verizon.net>
- Tuesday, October 2, 2007 12:43 AM CDT
Remembering and Cherishing Haley's ALWAYS!!!!
Dawn Pickens <dpickens_42@yahoo.com>
Beaumont, Texas - Tuesday, October 2, 2007 10:36 AM CDT
Remembering your precious girl - yesterday, today and always....
Allyson- Ainsley's mom (CHOA) <alucash@hotmail.com>
- Tuesday, October 2, 2007 8:12 AM CDT
Thinking of you today and always.
Elizabeth
- Monday, October 1, 2007 10:33 PM CDT
You are all in my prayers today and always.
Colleen (Luc's Mom) <cdubberke@aol.com>
Pleasant Hill, IA - Monday, October 1, 2007 9:54 PM CDT
Missing you, Haley. Sending love and prayers to your family, sweet girl.
Laurie, Anthony's mom
Baton Rouge, LA - Monday, October 1, 2007 9:20 PM CDT
Thinking of you, love all of you
Sherry Shelton <shelton@chartertn.net>
Kingsport, TN US - Monday, October 1, 2007 8:25 PM CDT
Cheryl
I know this is a sadder than sad day for you
and the rest of Haley's family. I just wanted
you to know that I have been thinking about
you most especially today.
prayers and love from mrs pam
- Monday, October 1, 2007 7:27 PM CDT
Just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you today.
*****hugs*****
Stacy Roberts <stacyroberts1982@yahoo.com>
Oklahoma City, OK - Monday, October 1, 2007 6:33 PM CDT
Thinking of your family today, and keeping you close to my heart.
Jennifer Smith <lakerdog2@yahoo.com>
Hidden Valley, CA USA - Monday, October 1, 2007 6:28 PM CDT
Prayers, prayers and more prayers. You and yours are in my thoughts today. May God comfort you.
Frank (Marisa's Dad) <hamet@mich.com>
Flat Rock, MI USA - Monday, October 1, 2007 6:14 PM CDT
We're thinking of you today angel Haley. We'll never forget you.
Jen, mom of Grace & Meghan
http://alphagirls.blogspot.com
Jen
WI - Monday, October 1, 2007 4:53 PM CDT
Lots of prayers and love for you today...and always.
Shannon, Marisa's Mom, www.caringbridge.org/mi/marisa
- Monday, October 1, 2007 4:51 PM CDT
Thinking about you today and praying too.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Monday, October 1, 2007 12:46 AM CDT
"For I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from his love. Death can't, and life can't. The angels won't, and all of the powers of hell itself cannot keep God's love away..." Romans 8:38
Lisa Hawk <RolexH@aol.com>
- Monday, October 1, 2007 10:51 AM CDT
Dear Haley,
I pray that your family has peace and comfort in their hearts today and that you are beo=yond happy in Heaven. God Bless you
Priscilla
Brentwood, NY USA - Monday, October 1, 2007 10:30 AM CDT
Today is no different than every other day - as there is never a second when Haley is not in the hearts of everyone lucky enough to be touched by her story. But today marks special significance in Haley's journey, and that will not go forgotten. There are no words I can say to ease your pain. Please know that special prayers are being said for you, especially today as you continue life without your beautiful girl. I cannot imagine the immense pain. I hope you know how many lives you have touched and changed through your story and the story of Haley and her music.
Lots of love & prayers...
Laura Dellicker <ldellicker@elon.edu>
Holliston, MA United States - Monday, October 1, 2007 9:05 AM CDT
Cheryl, I am so sorry that life is such a struggle. You, your wonderful family, and your beautiful angel remain in my thoughts and prayers.
Chrissy Pierce
Kingsport, TN - Monday, October 1, 2007 8:51 AM CDT
Just a note to let you know we care about you and are thinking about you especially Today. (((((hugs))))) As always, you remain in our prayers.
Melissa Arnold <ecco526@aol.com>
Wake Forest, NC - Monday, October 1, 2007 8:26 AM CDT
Cheryl,
You were on my heart the minute I woke this morning. Know that I am praying...
Much love,
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
P.S. Beautiful picture of you and Haley!
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
- Monday, October 1, 2007 7:58 AM CDT
Sending you a hug and a prayer for healing comfort from the Father who through the loss of His Son understands better than anyone what you are going through.
Barbara (one of Aiden's Aunties)
Barbara Carroll
- Sunday, September 30, 2007 11:08 PM CDT
Sending love and prayers to your family as you remember precious Haley on this sad anniversary. She made a difference, she lives on in God and in the goodness she spread while she walked on earth. Thank you for sharing Haley with us and letting us love her too.
Barbara Mullins
North Little Rock, AR - Sunday, September 30, 2007 9:56 PM CDT
After trying to write several entries, there just simply are no words besides "I'm sorry, and I will keep praying for you." And so, I am and I will.
Always amazed by Angel Haley's voice, heart, and spirit...
Pam Doughty <p_dought@bellsouth.net>
Powder Springs, GA USA - Sunday, September 30, 2007 9:14 PM CDT
Remembering Haley and praying for all her family and friends who miss her......
Mary and Molly <ziggyfamily@aol.com>
- Sunday, September 30, 2007 7:58 PM CDT
Dear Cheryl and family,
I'm sorry for everything your going through right now.
Although I never meet Haley, I know what a very special little girl she was. Her legacy she left
behind will never be forgotten.I'm honored to be a part of her foundation and spread the love to others who are so touched by all that she did for the children.
Prayers are being sent your way.
Love,
Lynne
Doddridge <dhd76@aol.com>
St.Petersburg, Fl - Sunday, September 30, 2007 7:45 PM CDT
Missing her with you.
Prayers for you for tomorrow and the coming days.
You are always close to my heart.
Marisa
MN www.caringbridge.org/mn/marisa - Sunday, September 30, 2007 7:32 PM CDT
Dear Cheryl,
Although I never met Haley, I will never ever forget her. I look forward to the day that I will meet her in heaven. I'm sorry for all you go through every day and am lifting you up in prayer. love in Him,
Kelly <bugsmom@tampabay.rr.com>
St Petersburg, Fl - Sunday, September 30, 2007 7:10 PM CDT
I read your entry today. It was posted on Sept. 28th...that is my birthday. A day I no longer celebrate. I appreciate that you understand the depth of loss a parent must undergo in different degrees as the years go by. Our grief grows with each year...I've been without my Rachael since March 1, 2003, and it gets harder with each year. I appreciate knowing there is someone else who understands.
Hopefully we will find peace.
Kathie Mayo www.caringbridge.org/mn/rachaelmayo <winkatmayo@hotmail.com>
- Sunday, September 30, 2007 5:10 PM CDT
Cheryl,
I share your pain. I wish I could make it better. No parent should ever have to go through this. I can let you know that I'm thinking about you and our little Angels today and everyday. Love, Tam caringbridge.org/fl/gavinward
Tammy Ward <gavinwfoundation@aol.com>
West Palm Beach, Fl usa - Sunday, September 30, 2007 3:15 PM CDT
Praying for you right now ..... sending love your way.
Mary Lee Carrigan
Mary Lee Carrigan <mary_robb@bellsouth.net>
Gallatin, Tn - Sunday, September 30, 2007 1:56 PM CDT
Cheryl and family - please know that we pray for you to be comforted during Haley's Angel-versay. Until you meet again, God Bless.
Jenni S.
Oro Valley, AZ - Sunday, September 30, 2007 12:19 AM CDT
Cheryl- thinking of you and praying that God wraps his loving arms around you this weekend and provides you with comfort. Remembering Haley always, Michelle
Michelle Gaylord <magylord@tampabay.rr.com>
St Petersburg, FL USA - Sunday, September 30, 2007 11:41 AM CDT
Marisa fell asleep tonight listenting to Haley's Hits. We think of you often and will never forget Haley. Lots of extra love to you during this weekend.
Shannon, Marisa's Mom, www.caringbridge.org/mi/marisa
- Saturday, September 29, 2007 9:09 PM CDT
Prayers going out to your family.
Remembering Angel Haley Always.
Sharon (Liam's Mummy-Liver Families
Waitakere, New Zealand - Saturday, September 29, 2007 8:25 PM CDT
I love you... praying for you everyday. she was my hero, and now in turn you have become mine.
I will never forget her. Ever.
Lisa Hawk <RolexH@aol.com>
- Saturday, September 29, 2007 3:31 PM CDT
Cheryl
I cannot possibly understand the depth of your grief and I don't know what to say to try and comfort you. Just know that we continue to hold you in our thoughts and prayers. We are remembering Haley, she will never be forgotten in our house.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Saturday, September 29, 2007 11:46 AM CDT
Just want you to know that I do pray for you and your family all the time. I'm so sorry. Hopefully the prayers that are being sent will lift you up. Reva
Reva Kinnally <kinnallymr@msn.com>
Schenectady, NY USA - Saturday, September 29, 2007 10:22 AM CDT
Cheryl,
As I was praying for you this morning, I realized that we will always share the same day of the week for Haley and Dinah's homegoing - exactly two weeks apart. As I've said before, I'm so glad you are a part of my life - I find such comfort in our friendship.
Carrying you in my heart -
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
- Saturday, September 29, 2007 9:31 AM CDT
Cheryl, just know that we are still here, loving you and praying for you too. Big hugs from ours to yours.
sheryl.lyn@verizon.net <sheryl.lyn@verizon.net>
- Saturday, September 29, 2007 5:51 AM CDT
Cheryl - Holding you & your family tight in prayers. I think I've mentioned before - we planted a beautiful pink Crepe Mertyl in honor of Haley last year. This spring, I thought our very cold winters had done it in. But, it suddenly appeared in June - and she's been so beautiful this August through September. I've gotten so many comments on it - and I always tell them about the special little girl it was planted for.
Praying for you guys.
Stacy - Tanner's mom - www.caringbridge.com/ks/tanner <stacyrobb@excite.com>
De Soto, KS USA - Friday, September 28, 2007 10:01 PM CDT
I know Cheryl...I know...
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
- Friday, September 28, 2007 9:04 PM CDT
(((((((Cheryl)))))) oh Cheryl my heart aches for your sorrow...so wish there were words to ease your pain...but please know I pray for your solace and some sign, a dream, a breeze, a scent or sound that helps reaffirm your faith Haley is just around that bend, and when that time is right you will be together again...so very sorry Cheryl. Cyber Hugs and prayers,
LeeAnne
www.caringbridge.org/visit/byesibliings
LeeAnne
NJ - Friday, September 28, 2007 8:00 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl
Well I haven't written for a long while either so you're absolutely forgiven although I always check Haley's site. I have also been visiting those dark places of your worst fears and realize that a normal carefree life is just not real. Thanks for verbalizing all the stuff that I can't and making it be OK. Just love your shopping story. Take care,
Joanna (Jessica's mum from liverfamilies)
- Tuesday, September 25, 2007 1:17 AM CDT
Tomorrow is the Chili's St. Jude's fundraiser, which of course made me think of Haley and you. I remember my kids getting to sit with her in the "kid" booth (so us grown ups had a chance to eat in peace at a separate table!) We had been listening to Haley's CD and after dinner, they told me they wanted to be Haley's "Back Row" singers. That story still makes me smile.
Thinking of you this difficult time of year --- and I'm so sorry about Meadow. Really, truly, sorry.
Kristie Kendrie's Page <kristieokc@cox.net>
Byron, GA - Sunday, September 23, 2007 10:41 PM CDT
Hey Cheryl
I've been listening to Haley's songs while scrapbooking and wondering how you are doing today. I just read Lisa's guestbook entry. Locked in the bonus room??? That sounds like a good story for the next update. Still holding you and your family close in prayer.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Saturday, September 22, 2007 2:05 PM CDT
Oh cheryl.. I laughed till I cried this morning when you told me you were locked in the Bonus room.. hahaha... That is so funny! I hope someone comes and saves you soon! I love you and just wanted to let you know that my threats of physcial violence are only made out of love. HAHAHAA
Lisa and The boys <RolexH@aol.com>
- Tuesday, September 18, 2007 9:13 AM CDT
Cheryl,
If you ever decide to put your misadventures into a DVD set, I'll be first in line to purchase it!!! I even thought of a title for your series.....Cheryl's Perils!!!
Thanks for a good laugh this evening. However, I AM sorry your shopping adventure was far from smooth.
Dot O'Connor <Dotocon@aol.com>
Philadelphia, PA - Monday, September 17, 2007 7:45 PM CDT
I too love the shopping stories. I had a great laugh this evening over the $650. Where do you store all of that food?
So sorry about Meadow...very sorry.
Beverly and Steven
. <bangotti40@aol.com>
- Sunday, September 16, 2007 10:10 PM CDT
Thinking of Haley today.
www.caringbridge.org/canada/kyle
Lisa - Forever Kyle's Mom <bailsam@msn.com>
Halifax, Nova Scotia - Sunday, September 16, 2007 12:47 AM CDT
I don't have three carts, but I sure do wait
until I absolutely have to, to go to the grocery store.
Actually, wouldn't those baggers have had to put all
the stuff back...that might not be a bad idea for a future
adventure.
I am so sorry about Meadow..... hard to see how a 2 year
wait could be beneficial for any child.
prayers and love from mrs pam
- Saturday, September 15, 2007 9:39 AM CDT
YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS. I've gotten my fix!! And I LOVE "random thoughts"! I was reminded of Haley's song, "Prednisone" when you wrote, "Stupid boys" - so I hurt and I laughed - the story of our lives, right?
SO good to hear from you!
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, - Saturday, September 15, 2007 8:34 AM CDT
Hi Cheryl,
That was a great update. I was laughing a lot. I also have reoccuring dreams that I'm being diagnosed with lung cancer. But in each dream, I decide to do something different before I go. Sometimes I'm scared and sometimes I'm not. Anyway, take care and lots of prayers coming your way to get through the season. Tam
http://www.caringbridge.org/fl/gavinward
Tammy Ward <wardpalm@aol.com>
West palmbeach, Fl. usa - Friday, September 14, 2007 9:07 PM CDT
PHHHHEEWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!! FINALLY...ROFLOL...
LIFE IS GOOD AGAIN Cheryl is back! LOL...
SIGH...all teasing aside it is nice to see a post from you! Hugs and God Bless,
LeeAnne, mom of a wonderful foursome...
LeeAnne Bye <allenleeannebye@aol.com>
NJ - Friday, September 14, 2007 7:26 PM CDT
Cheryl hope you ae OK and healing...miss your updates..thinking of you and have you in my prayers..
Hugs,
LeeAnne, mom of four great kids
www.caringbridge.org/visit/byesiblings
LeeAnne <allenleeannebye@aol.com>
NJ - Thursday, September 13, 2007 6:29 PM CDT
thinking of you as I listen to Haley's cd.
such a precious voice!
prayers and love from mrs pam
- Thursday, September 13, 2007 9:03 AM CDT
Cheryl,
Yes, I am needy - I have to have my "fix" from you!!
Truly blessed by your friendship -
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, - Thursday, September 13, 2007 8:46 AM CDT
Hi Cheryl,
It's been far too long since I've posted - but know that I check Haley's page every day. I love seeing her smile and hearing her beautiful voice. I'm now a resident of North Carolina, at school at Elon University. I have Haley's picture right by my bed, reminding me of the girl who I strive to be like. Thank you so much for the CDs, they have spread so much joy, tears and faith in ways that you could never imagine. Prayers for you as you recover and, as always, as you continue on. You are an amazing person and I look up to you in so many ways.
Laura Dellicker <ldellicker@elon.edu>
- Saturday, September 8, 2007 10:16 AM CDT
Cheryl,
Just checking on you...
Pamela
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, - Saturday, September 8, 2007 8:19 AM CDT
Cheryl- I came to this site a year ago today after Bailee Dunnigan's passing and I have followed it ever since. This stranger in St. Pete wants you to know that you and your family are thought of and prayed for every day.
jill young <yng56rj@msn.com>
st petersburg, fl usa - Thursday, September 6, 2007 11:43 AM CDT
I think this quotation sums it up:
"A wife who loses a husband is called a widow, a husband who loses a wife is called a widower, a child who loses his parents is called an orphan, but there is no word for a parent who loses a child, that's how awful the loss is!"
-J. Neugeboren
Tammy Weston <tammy@allen-graham.com>
Brunswick, GA USA - Wednesday, September 5, 2007 9:08 AM CDT
Keep those adorable pictures coming! I simply love them!! Thanks for "educating" people on the "do's and dont's" regarding the grief over the loss of a loved one (esp/a child) my sister lost her 14 year old (who literally died during basketball practice at school) although the majority of people were understanding and well-meaning, there were a few that just simply said the most craziest things, I like to believe it was said out of "not simply knowing what to say" but it was so DEVASTATING for my sister to keep her composure during those "well-intended" comments!
Haley will always own a part of my heart!
Dawn <dpickens_42@yahoo.com>
Beaumont, Tx - Tuesday, September 4, 2007 2:50 PM CDT
Cheryl,
Well said. I hate that I never know when the tears are going to come and then having to worry how people are going to react.
Glad you are feeling better. Know that you are always in our thoughts and prayers.
Donna and ^Kyle^ Noble www.caringbridge.org/oh/kyle <donnanoble2001@yahoo.com>
Grove City, OH USA - Monday, September 3, 2007 3:41 PM CDT
~Angel Haley has touched so many lives and she will always be remembered for her strength and courage throughout her illness~ God Bless her wonderful family.
Amber Hickman <pam1793@hotmail.com>
Blountville, TN USA - Friday, August 31, 2007 1:40 PM CDT
Thank you for your post! I wish I could of said this to people I've lost as friends. The sadness we feel is always present, even when for a moment we might feel joy/happiness. I had someone tell me once, "..so happy to see you finally smile, I'm glad you're done with your grief." Some people just don't get it.
Kathie Mayo www.caringbridge.org/mn/rachaelmayo <winkatmayo@hotmail.com>
Winona, MN - Wednesday, August 29, 2007 5:16 PM CDT
Cheryl
I just reread Haley's letter to Aiden...
so on target!
fortunately, I have only one friend who has
had a child die, and although I didn't know
him at the time, I cried right along
with her when she told me about him.
Hopefully, your message will get through to
those who need to hear it.
prayers and love from mrs pam
- Wednesday, August 29, 2007 9:07 AM CDT
Cheryl,
THAT'S why I have you (and so many other grieving moms) in my life - we can just "be" - in whatever state we are in at the moment - because we understand, because we have been there, because we ARE there. And yes, I am also SO thankful for my family and friends who are there for me - bringing "normalcy" into my life - because we continue to live here on this earth. But remember, we are pilgrims, not settlers. Like Hebrews says, "they desire a better country, that is a heavenly one. Therefore God is not ashamed to be called their God; for He has prepared a city for them."
When I find myself in situations like that, it's like I go into "another room", close the door, and find Jesus...and that's all I need. Amen?
SOOOOOOOOOOOO blessed by you!
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, - Wednesday, August 29, 2007 8:07 AM CDT
Cheryl... this is your body guard....err um your friend Lisa. Let me at 'em; let me at 'em. You cry all you want. Burst out laughing all you want. You go ahead and fall into a heap into your closet (even with the gifts from Kelly in there), and then go to the grocery store and buy 25 boxes of butterfingers. You know why? BECAUSE YOU HAVE EARNED IT. And if anyone has a problem with that.. I just say, let me at 'em.
Love ya
ps/ love the entry about Aretha Franklin below. Makes me smile and think of Haley too. Maybe a little message...
Lisa your SISTA in Christ <RolexH@aol.com>
- Tuesday, August 28, 2007 10:16 PM CDT
I would be so very happy to help you set up the paypal. It might even help me a bit to get a bit out of myself....
Today, another local 11 year old girl gone with another brain tumor.
Why, why, why, why...
why our children?????
Please let me do something, anything.....
Angel Olivia's Mommy 4 ever and ever, Wendy
www.caringbridge.org/mi/oliviasgrace <won2xx@gmail.com>
- Monday, August 27, 2007 8:20 PM CDT
Just wanted to send a quick note. I hope that you are feeling better soon.
Amy Hinkle <amy.hinkle@clubcorp.com>
Carrollton, TX - Sunday, August 26, 2007 5:18 PM CDT
I debated with myself, whether to sign here or not.I felt compelled?? Or maybe a "calling"?This was my "sign". Last night my 10 yr old daughter was singing that online kareoake(sp).She has done this a million times.I suggested she sing Aretha Franklin's Respect.She sang it really well!!Let me explain.I NEVER think about that song,I don't know all the words, and haven't heard or thought about that song for years. I was reading Lisa's journal history this morning.And there in black and white, Lisa is describing, Hayley in Atlanta, singing Aretha Franklin's Respect!!
I don't know you.We will probably never meet.I just HAD to tell you(that "calling" again).What I really have to tell you is thankyou. I feel that God was speaking through your writings at times.I feel Hayley is right there with you.I am not very good at putting this into words.You and Hayley helped me so much.I won't go into the why or how.
Bottom line- You(Cheryl&Hayley)inspire me and renew my faith(which has been shaky at times).Thankyou!!
Amy Pastier <ddnad@q.com>
CO USA - Sunday, August 26, 2007 11:32 AM CDT
Hello, You don't know me but my family has followed your daughter Haley for years. Dr. Vincent is my kids doctor. I bought candles from his office when he was on Sevier. I was responding to the entry how to set up a Paypal account. (If this is E-Bay)I have sold & bought alot on E-Bay & know a little about how to set an account up. Please e-mail me @ aacarter72@charter.net. I have always admired your sweet & beautiful daughter for alot of years. Her songs are wonderful. I would also like to have a CD & would like to give you my address to get one. I hope this will help, thank you, Anissa Carter
Anissa Carter <aacarter72@charter.net>
Kingsport, TN USA - Saturday, August 25, 2007 11:51 PM CDT
Cheryl
I hope you are feeling better by now. As much I love Lisa's updates I still miss yours. Get better soon.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Saturday, August 25, 2007 11:03 AM CDT
Cheryl,
You are blessed! A wonderful family, friends who adore you, and a God who provided eternal life through His Son, Jesus! I KNOW Haley is smiling!!!
Much love to you -
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
- Saturday, August 25, 2007 10:03 AM CDT
Cheryl, so sorry to hear you are feeling bad : ( Hope you feel well soon. Lisa, thanks for stepping in for updates : ) Well done! The pics are WONDERFUL!!!! The kids are amazing, such a wonderful family. The piece you posted about Hayley talking about 2 year olds was PRICELESS!!!! I was laughing and bawling at the same time. I wish I could have known Hayley....her spirit shines through in Cheryl's words, she is one amazing girl! Feel better soon Cheryl! Thanks Lisa!
www.caringbridge.org/ca/jackson
Jennifer Smith <lakerdog2@yahoo.com>
Hidden Valley Lake, ca usa - Saturday, August 25, 2007 0:51 AM CDT
Hi Cheryl!I'm very sorry to hear you've had a rough time after your surgery.I hope your feeling better each and every day!Lisa did a great job updating us on your beautiful family!I can only imagine how proud you are of their accomplishments!I hope one of these days we can meet in person!
Love,
Lynne Doddridge <dhd76@aol.com>
St.Petersburg, Fl - Friday, August 24, 2007 10:29 AM CDT
When you're down to nothing, God is up to something."
This is beautiful! Try not to cry.
She jumped up as soon as she saw the surgeon come out of the operating room. She said: "How is my little boy ? Is he going to be all right ? When can I see him ?"
The surgeon said, "I'm sorry. We did all we could, but your boy didn't make it."
Sally said, "Why do little children get cancer ? Doesn't God care any more ? Where were you, God, when my son needed you ?"
The surgeon asked, "Would you like some time alone with your son ? One of the nurses will be out in a few minutes, before he's transported to the university."
Sally asked the nurse to stay with her while she said good bye to son. She ran her fingers lovingly through his thick red curly hair. "Would you like a lock of his hair ?" the nurse asked.
Sally nodded yes. The nurse cut a lock of the boy's hair, put it in a plastic bag and handed it to Sally.
The mother said, "It was Jimmy's idea to donate his body to the University for Study. He said it might help somebody else. "I said no at first, but Jimmy said, 'Mom, I won't be using it after I die. Maybe it will help some other little boy spend one more day with his Mom." She went on, "My Jimmy had a heart of gold. Always thinking of someone else. Always wanting to help others if he could."
Sally walked out of Children's Mercy Hospital for the last time, after spending most of the last six months there. She put the bag with Jimmy's belongings on the seat beside her in the car.
The drive home was difficult. It was even harder to enter the empty house. She carried Jimmy's belongings, and the plastic bag with the lock of his hair to her son's room.
She started placing the model cars and other personal things back in his room exactly where he had always kept them. She laid down across his bed and, hugging his pillow, cried herself to sleep.
It was around midnight when Sally awoke. Laying beside her on the bed was a folded letter. The letter said:
"Dear Mom, I know you're going to miss me; but don't think that I will ever forget you, or stop loving you, just 'cause I'm not around to say "I Love You". I will always love you, Mom, even more with each day. Someday we will see each other again. Until then, if you want to adopt a little boy so you won't be so lonely, that's okay with me. He can have my room and old s tuff to play with. But, if you decide to get a girl instead, she probably wouldn't like the same things us boys do. You'll have to buy her dolls and stuff girls like, you know. Don't be sad thinking about me. This really is a neat place. Grandma and Grandpa met me as soon as I got here and showed me around some, but it will take a long time to see everything. The angels are so cool. I love to watch them fly. And, you know what? Jesus doesn't look like any of his pictures. Yet, when I saw Him, I knew it was Him. Jesus himself took me to see GOD ! And guess what, Mom ? I got to sit on God's knee and talk to Him, like I was somebody important. That's when I told Him that I wanted to write you a letter, to tell you good bye and everything. But I already knew that wasn't allowed. Well, you know what Mom ? God handed me some paper and His own personal pen to write you this letter. I thi n k Gabriel is the name of the angel who is going to drop this letter off to you. God said for me to give you the answer to one of the questions you asked Him 'Where was He when I needed him ?' "God said He was in the same place with me, as when His son Jesus was on the cross. He was right there, as He always is with all His children. Oh, by the way, Mom, no one else can see what I've written except you. To everyone else this is just a blank piece of paper. Isn't that cool ? I have to give God His pen back now. He needs it to write some more names in the Book of Life. Tonight I get to sit at the table with Jesus for supper. I'm sure the food will be great.
Oh, I almost forgot to tell you. I don't hurt anymore. The cancer is all gone. I'm glad because I couldn't stand that pain anymore and God couldn't stand to see me hurt so much, either. That's when He sent The Angel of Mercy to come get me. The Angel said I was a Special Delivery ! How about that ?
Signed with Love from God, Jesus & Me.
(Let's see Satan stop this one.) Take 60 seconds and repost this, within the hour, you will have caused a multitude of believers to pray to God for each other. Then sit back and feel the Holy Spirit work in your life for doing what you know God loves "When you're down to nothing, God is up to something."
Charity
Little Elm, TX - Friday, August 24, 2007 6:37 AM CDT
Cheryl,
Your kids sound amazing, and are so beautiful.
Prayers for a quick recovery.
Sarah, Anna's mom from liverfamilies <sarahjeh2002@comcast.net>
wheaton, il us - Thursday, August 23, 2007 1:39 PM CDT
Cheryl
love all the pictures of your cute kids!
so sorry your after-surgery has been so
rotten!
prayers and love from missouri
mrs pam
- Thursday, August 23, 2007 8:50 AM CDT
I am really sorry to hear that you are having such a difficult time with recovering from the surgery. Cyber Hugs!!
I love the updates on the kids.
Amy Hinkle <amy.hinkle@clubcorp.com>
Carrollton, TX - Wednesday, August 22, 2007 11:40 AM CDT
Cheryl,
Came to visit; to laugh and smile...because today I am just so sad.
Grateful you are in my life -
Pamela
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, - Monday, August 20, 2007 4:33 PM CDT
I know, I know...bad Deirdre...not signing in so long. But I am still here and promise you all have been in my thoughts and prayers. I think about Haley so very often...know that she remains alive and well in the hearts and minds of so many. Hope the school year is getting off to a decent start for your brood and it it isn't too crazy! Wishing you peace...
Much love, ~*Deirdre*!
Little Rock, AR - Monday, August 20, 2007 3:44 PM CDT
HI..just got back from our family vacation and couldn't wailt to check in on you. I enjoyed your last entry. As a teacher I can tell you what a trapper keeper is...it is one large binder that tri-folds and holds everything and then it even zips up. It's really bulky but actually it's a great way to keep everything together. For some reasons alot of teachers want everything color-coded now so it doesn't work. I personally like the trapper-keeper but my own children can't get it either(NOT ON THE LIST). Anyway, I am also preparing myself for the insane day of school shopping. It's scary. I wanted to ask you about the beautiful pix.of Haley. Looks like it says Saratoga Springs which is really close to where I live. Just curious. Thinking of you and hope all the surgery went well. Reva
Reva Kinnally <kinnallymr@msn.com>
Schenectady, NY USA - Sunday, August 19, 2007 6:59 AM CDT
Cheryl
I just realized that the wee angel border images
look like Haley's precious 18 month old picture.
hope you did all right with your surgery,
and are on the mend.
mrs pam
- Friday, August 17, 2007 10:14 AM CDT
Cheryl
Thinking about you today. I hope you are recovering without too much pain.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom - www.caringbridge.org/ga/jenandjon
Chatsworth, GA USA - Wednesday, August 15, 2007 11:17 AM CDT
Thaaat was hysterical!!! Sorry, but it was. I had the great idea of taking my two for a fun day of shopping for school supplies (NOT on the tax exempt day and Not on a w/end!!) - they could care less about school supplies - Ryan spotted a camo suitcase that he desperately needed for when he goes to the hospital (love that my kid associates a suitcase for trips to the hospital -NOT!!), Addie was hyperfocused on a real pottychair for her baby - Elizabeth. That baby doll is breaking me - every other day she needs a new outfit or a new pacifier. You would have thought I was the meanest Mom in the world when I finally made them go get the supplies - what was I thinking!!
Also - you get take those drugs girl!!! Love and prayers to you - Mary Lee
Mary Lee Carrigan <mary_robb@bellsouth.net>
Gallatin, TN - Tuesday, August 14, 2007 9:05 AM CDT
Hi Cheryl....I felt the need to drop a line and let you know I continue to enjoy reading about how life is going for your family..I just get lazy sometimes and don't respond (sorry)Today I need to let you know that my prayers will be directed for a fast recovery from your surgery...I had to laugh at your comment about Bruce..I'm sure he will let you have those meds. this time...no excuses. Take care.
colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Monday, August 13, 2007 8:29 PM CDT
Prayers for your surgery. I hope your recovery is not too bad and that you have great results.
Amy Hinkle <amy.hinkle@clubcorp.com>
Carrollton, TX - Monday, August 13, 2007 12:42 AM CDT
Cheryl
Even tho I homeschool Jon I still had to brave the crowds at Wal-Mart too AND they didn't even have what I wanted. Too much frustration for a little savings. Thinking of you today.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA USA - Monday, August 13, 2007 12:25 AM CDT
Hi Cheryl -
Your family is never far from my thoughts and prayers. Trapper Keepers are cloth binders that usually zip around. The kids like to put all their folders and agenda in there. The reasons us teachers HATE them is because for one, they take up TOO MUCH SPACE. And they don't really help most kids get organized. Because then they don't bring a back pack typically. And, they are just a mess. :)
Melissa Heide <melissa7482@hotmail.com>
Orlando, FL US - Sunday, August 12, 2007 9:16 AM CDT
Today in South Saint Paul, Minnesota there is a luminary bag lit and decorated just for HALEY at the Relay for Life going on. REMEMBERING YOU SWEET GIRL!
Marisa
MN www.caringbridge.org/mn/marisa - Friday, August 10, 2007 9:52 PM CDT
Did you not read MY black friday post? Cheryl.. hauntingly similiar to your tax free post. Seriously is THIS that alien thing we were talking about?
Naa Noo Naa Noo....
Lisa and the boys <RolexH@aol.com>
- Friday, August 10, 2007 6:21 PM CDT
First off I LOVE THE PIC OF HALEY @ 18mos old!! What a beauty!!! The "trapper keeper" must be dreaded by the teachers all over the US!! They are these folders w/comes w/paper and the folders usually three sides to them already enclosed in this binder! When my kids were in school the "school list" always had in bold letters NO TRAPPER KEEPERS!!! I think the "3-sided" folders causes an aversion for the teachers, as opposed to the "pocket folders" which most teachers prefer. My biggest gripe was "why a certain color" talk about sending Parents in a frenzy, one year after searching HIGH and LOW for a yellow folder I resorted to buying a small packet of "construction paper" and covered the folders!! This "satisfied" the "color preference" and was less a headache for me (LOL)!! YES THE KIDS HATED IT, HEY BUT PEACE AT ANY PRICE RIGHT!!!!
Now on to the subject of TAX-FREE WEEKEND, here in TEXAS it starts AUG 17, 18 and 19th at EVERY RETAIL STORE (not just Walmart) talk about a MADHOUSE!!! I avoid the shopping at stores on that weekend, never knew saving a "few dollars" could cause MASS HYSTERIA!!! It isnt worth the "few dollars" because more than likely I will "use it" to pay a doctor bill from a broken toe from a wayward shopping cart!!!
Dawn Pickens <dpickens_42@yahoo.com>
Beaumont, Tx - Friday, August 10, 2007 3:36 PM CDT
Cheryl, I LOVE the new picture of Haley!!! It is so precious. Thanks for continuing to put a smile on my face as I read your journal updates...you really do have a wonderful writing talent and frankly your life seems so much more interesting than mine :) Thanks for sharing.
Lisa - Forever Kyle's Mom <bailsam@msn.com www.caringbridge.org/canada/kyle>
Halifax, Nova Scotia - Wednesday, August 8, 2007 7:45 PM CDT
Cheryl,
I'm sorry - that picture of Haley just warms my heart!!
And then I just sigh...because once again, my heart hurts for you and me and Sandy and all my other moms...
Praying for all of us,
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, - Tuesday, August 7, 2007 11:35 PM CDT
What a precious picture of Haley ..... I am so thrilled that God is blessing your family with a new little one - He has chosen you for her, just as He has chosen her for you. Praying that all will continue to come together for her arrival.
Mary Lee
Mary Lee Carrigan <mary_robb@bellsouth.net >
Gallatin, TN - Tuesday, August 7, 2007 10:06 PM CDT
Cheryl,
She is such a precious girl! I love that picture of when she was 18 months old. She is so beautiful.
Stacy Roberts <stacyroberts1982@yahoo.com>
Oklahoma City, OK - Tuesday, August 7, 2007 8:14 PM CDT
Cheryl
I love the picture of Haley at 19 months old. Thank you for continuing to share your feelings, stories of Haley, rest of you guys too and the pictures too. Thinking of you and hoping it's a good day.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Tuesday, August 7, 2007 7:52 PM CDT
CHERYL,
THIS IS FIRST TIME VISITING YOUR SITE. MY HUSBAND AND I MET WITH YOUR HUSBAND ABOUT 3 MONTHS AFTER HALEY GOING TO HEAVEN. WE MET AT ROBERTS AND MICHELLE'S BUT YOU WERE UNABLE TO COME AND I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND. MY NAME IS PENNY AND MY SON JAKE WENT TO HEAVEN IN 2001 AFTER FIGHTING SO HARD FROM CANCER. HE WAS 11. WE ENJOYED TALKING TO YOUR HUSBAND AND LEARNING ABOUT HALEY. WE HAVE HER CD IN OUR CAR AND THE KIDS LOVE IT. I WAS READING SOME OF YOUR JOURNAL AND I KNOW ALL THE FEELINGS DISPLAYED. I, TOO, DO OKAY SOME DAYS BUT THEN THERE ARE OTHERS I CAN'T SEEM TO BREATHE. AFTER 5 YEARS I STILL THINK OF HIM EVERYDAY AND THINK HOW UNFAIR LIFE IS, BUT I TRY TO REMEMBER HE IS ONLY MINE TO ENJOY FOR A LITTLE WHILE BUT HE BELONGS TO GOD WHICH IS ALL HE TALKED AND WITNESSED ABOUT.I KNOW HE IS VERY HAPPY AND WAITING ON US TO JOIN HIM SOMEDAY. I FEEL LIKE I KNOW YOU FROM YOUR JOURNAL BECAUSE OF SAME EXPERIENCES BUT I SUPPOSE WE ARE JUST IN AN ELITE CLUB WE DIDNT VOLUNTARILY JOIN. WE WILL CONTINUE PRAYING FOR YOU AND YOUR NEW EDITION TO THE FAMILY. PLEASE DO SAME FOR US. NO OTHER REALLY EVEN HAS A CLUE OF THE EMOTIONS AND PAIN EXCEPT THOSE WHO HAVE EXPERIENCED. NOT A PLEASANT ROAD TO TRAVEL BUT WE ARE NEVER ALONE.
I'LL KEEP READING,
PENNY
PENNY AQUINO <pennyaquino@charter.net>
BLOUNTVILLE, - Tuesday, August 7, 2007 12:21 AM CDT
Cheryl,
I am so very happy for you! I know that since my little Stephanie was born, I have been a lot happier. She has brought me such hope and joy and lots of distractions. Meadow is a perfect name, so peaceful and beautiful. Congrats!!!
Jeanne
angel Rachel's Mommy
jeanne <crowman2766@aol.com>
king of prussia, pa usa - Monday, August 6, 2007 9:48 AM CDT
Congratulations on your upcoming adoption!!! That is very exciting news and worth the wait. I LOVE the name Meadow. It gives me happy thoughts. The kids will adjust to the new addition to the family, just like with a baby, it takes time and they too go through a lot of emotions getting there. My best wishes and prayers for your family.
Kim, mom to Sami and Kyle
Kim Faust <kfaust@comcast.net>
Oakdale, MN USA - Monday, August 6, 2007 5:35 AM CDT
Meadow!
A beautiful name...verdant green, new growth, sweet smells, and abundant newness and happiness.
Wonderful for you and your family...
Kathie Mayo www.caringbridge.org/mn/rachaelmayo <winkatmayo@hotmail.com>
Winona, MN United States - Saturday, August 4, 2007 5:24 PM CDT
Cheryl
didn't know that kids even used robes anymore...
perhaps you can make a deal
with daily diapering points earned for a robe.
That playground sound fantastic, and how wonderful
that Haley will have a station and a bench.
mrs pam
- Friday, August 3, 2007 8:55 AM CDT
I am so thrilled for all of you and can't wait to see pictures of Meadow! Always keeping you and your family in my prayers.
((Hugs))
Michelle www.caringbridge,org/ny/jack
Massapequa, NY - Friday, August 3, 2007 6:18 AM CDT
Cheryl
I'm gonna be jealous that you have a new baby in the house. I guess I'll just lurking here looking for pictures of Meadow. We've had more trouble at our house with kids & chores. Mark came up with a "contract" and I laughed. He looked at me funny until I told him about you & your kids with their chores. Keeping you all in our prayers.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Thursday, August 2, 2007 11:55 PM CDT
YIPPEEE! What wonderful news! I can't wait to read more and see pictures.
I think I am going to print out your Nanny 911 rules and hand them to all of mine. Making me crazy! ;-)
Love and miss you. All the best.
Irene
toms river, NJ - Tuesday, July 31, 2007 8:43 PM CDT
I am so thrilled and happy for you and your family. I am sure your Angel Haley is thrilled too! Big smiles all around!
Sue(moirasmom)
- Tuesday, July 31, 2007 12:35 AM CDT
I broke my tooth recently, and fortunately,
saved it, and somehow the dentist was able
to cement it back in. hope you were that lucky, too.
prayers and love
mrs pam
- Tuesday, July 31, 2007 9:11 AM CDT
Always thinking of you....
Shannon, Marisa's Mom, www.caringbridge.org/mi/marisa
- Tuesday, July 31, 2007 8:33 AM CDT
Cheryl,
I was on vacation when you did your last update. I am so thrilled for you all and for Meadow. Boy, she has found herself the most wonderful and loving home a child could have.
Hope by today the broken tooth is no longer bothering you. As always, I am keeping you in my prayers.
Dot O'Connor <Dotocon@aol.com>
Philadelphia , PA - Tuesday, July 31, 2007 7:31 AM CDT
I love the name Meadow! I am so excited for your family! So look forward to hearing and seeing more about your new addition. Congrats!
I may just have to check ou the Simpsons - we went to see I know pronouce you Chuck and Larry and my husband said I was the loudest laugher in the theater.. Oh well. I sleep through Harry Potter and have a grand time at these mindless comedies... Show's ya the kind of mind I have ! :)
Hugs to you !
Mary M - KaitlynsMom (www3.caringbridge.org/nj/kaitlynrose)
Newton, NJ usa - Tuesday, July 31, 2007 6:27 AM CDT
Hey i'm so happy for you and your family with the addition of baby Meadow!! I never comment on here but i read your page everyday. You are such a wonderful mother and seem to be a great person over all. Baby Meadow is truly blessed to apart of your family.
Leanne palmer <leanne.palmer@mostlo.ang.af.mil>
St Louis, MO USA - Monday, July 30, 2007 2:03 PM CDT
Congratuations to all of you on your soon-to-be new family addition. Meadow will be blessed to be a part of your family, and she will be a blessing to all of you.
Sherry <shelton@chartertn.net>
Kingsport, TN US - Monday, July 30, 2007 11:41 AM CDT
Oh, congratulations! How exciting! Little Meadow doesn't know what a lucky girl she is. Hope everything continues to go smoothly. I still think of you and your family, and of course Haley, every day.
Chrissy Pierce
Kingsport, TN - Monday, July 30, 2007 11:26 AM CDT
I"M SO excited for you!! I LOVE the name!
Haley is looking down and smiling upon you all!
I can't wait to see pictures of that beautiful girl!
Love You!!
Marisa
MN www.caringbridge.org/mn/marisa - Sunday, July 29, 2007 9:13 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl -- What wonderful news and a great photo. (I'll run right out and buy some Babies R Us stock tomorrow, because I can see where this is going!! lol) I LOVE the name Meadow. Of couse, I came of age in the Sixties, so I don't flinch at all at names like Twig, Sky, etc., but Meadow also reminds me of Heaven. I always think that our beloved four- and two-legged friends at the Rainbow Bridge are basking in bright sunlight in a flower-filled...meadow. It's a great name!! I love reading your entries, even when they are tough going. You have been an inspiration to this woman (one of Aiden's Aunties from the COTH Group). Praying that your family's new addition arrives soon!
Barbara Carroll
- Sunday, July 29, 2007 1:28 PM CDT
Wow - what exciting news! Congrats to all!
Bonnie K
Kingsport, TN USA - Sunday, July 29, 2007 10:11 AM CDT
Hey Cheryl! I *love* the photo of you shopping for baby stuff, it's gorgeous! Congrats on the big news! :-) You guys are amazing. You have so much love and you're willing to spread it around. I think that is something special. Haley was so blessed to have you as her mother. I bet she's watching over you right now, beaming with happiness, so proud of all of you as you get ready for your new arrival. Take care, and "Just keep swimming!"
P.S. I don't often sign, but I check on you daily. Please know that you are always in my thoughts.
P.P.S. I think you would be an *amazing* grief counsellor. Go for your dreams, girl! :-)
Rachael <rach66@hotmail.com>
Victoria Australia - Saturday, July 28, 2007 7:45 PM CDT
Cheryl, we had the BEST time visiting you guys! I of course can't wait to meet Meadow. You will have to have wild horses drag me away from the airport when she arrives. I love you guys. I love your family so much. I think it is amazing how God placed us together. Haley's magic, her amazing soul was a binding ingrediant for this friendship that I know will go on forever.
I just wanted to add...that on the way home, Aiden said, "Look ANOTHER rainbow painted by Haley." One on the way up and one on the way back. We all loved that the rainbows stretched like a huge arch from one end of the earth to the other.
Love you guys and love all 5 of your kids.
Lisa and the boys <Rolexh@aol.com>
- Saturday, July 28, 2007 4:37 PM CDT
What a beautiful name...Meadow...and I'm so thrilled for you and your family.
Beverly and Steven
. <bangotti40@aol.com>
- Saturday, July 28, 2007 10:09 AM CDT
What exciting news! I can't wait to "meet" Meadow! Congrats to you and Bruce!
Keeping you in my prayers, as always,
Laurie, Anthony's mom
Baton Rouge, LA - Saturday, July 28, 2007 9:49 AM CDT
Cheryl- I am so excited for you all getting your new baby girl, "Meadow." Lisa said you all had so much fun buying pink, girly stuff :) Take care, and as always, you are in my thoughts and prayers!! Love, Michelle G.
Michelle G. <mgaylord@tampabay.rr.com>
St pete, FL USA - Saturday, July 28, 2007 7:47 AM CDT
Cheryl,
Worth waiting for to hear from you! What a beautiful, peaceful name...Meadow... She will be blessed to be a part of your family!
Much love,
Pamela
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
- Friday, July 27, 2007 6:15 PM CDT
That is DELIGHTFUL news!
Meadow is a beautiful name...
how blessed she is to be your daughter!
mrs pam
- Friday, July 27, 2007 8:22 AM CDT
Congratulations in advance on opening your home and your heart to a little one who needs both!! God bless you and little Meadow will have the most awesome big sister/angel watching over her!!
Mary from Illinois <ziggyfamily@aol.com>
- Thursday, July 26, 2007 11:26 PM CDT
A baby girl!! I am so excited for you. I was just about to cry. I know lil' Meadow will be one blessed girl. My cousins adopted two children from Guatamala and they are the sweetest kids ever (a boy and a girl). I am anxiously awaiting pics and further details.
Wendy Whiddon
Winder, GA - Thursday, July 26, 2007 8:23 PM CDT
That is so awesome!!! I love the name Meadow!!!! I can't wait to see pictures of her!
Stacy Roberts <stacyroberts1982@yahoo.com>
Oklahoma City, OK - Thursday, July 26, 2007 5:47 PM CDT
Cheryl
Adopting, wow that's great. You and Bruce are great parents. So sweet that Kendall will have a little sister. I just know you will make a great grief counselor. Lots of changes for you guys, it all sounds wonderful. We definitely have a dictatorship in our house. Mark is the head dictator but he always tells the kids "if mom's not happy then no one is." Glad to see you posting again. We thinking of you guys often & you all remain in our prayers.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Thursday, July 26, 2007 12:20 AM CDT
hi Cheryl
just checking in....
mrs pam
- Wednesday, July 25, 2007 8:20 AM CDT
The new cd looks beautiful, and you managed so well to give us a touching and important glimpse on your wonderful Haley even in those few sententces on the back of the cover.
Thinking of Haley and you all,
many good wishes,
Sven (from LF)
Berlin, Germany - Wednesday, July 25, 2007 3:45 AM CDT
I'm waiting on the "beans to be spilled." Thinking of you today Cheryl.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Tuesday, July 24, 2007 7:28 PM CDT
"Cheryl...I need Cheryl......"
I mean, "Water...I need water......"
I'm dehydrated from both!! Seriously, I just miss you so much!
Cried and cried today. Judah, whose birthday is today, and I were watching his b-day video from 2004. The last words were, "Dinah, why are you limping?" Two days later she was in the hospital. Oh, this unpredictable thing called "grief"...
Your friend,
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
- Tuesday, July 24, 2007 5:21 PM CDT
Hello! We just LOVE the new CD. Thank you. We listened to it as soon as we got in the van after Lisa gave it to us.
Lots of love and hugs to you!
Shannon, Marisa's Mom, www.caringbridge.org/mi/marisa
- Tuesday, July 24, 2007 4:36 PM CDT
Lisa,
Thanks for your update. It's nice to know that you and Cheryl have each other as friends.
Cheryl,
Please know that Haley will never be forgotten for she lives in the memories of so many. Who knows how many lives she touched? My sister, Merri, and I were talking about her not long ago and wondering how you and your family were doing.
Take care and update soon to let us know your exciting news!
Libby Gladden <libeye@bellsouth.net>
Norcross, GA United States - Tuesday, July 24, 2007 0:10 AM CDT
Just popped over from Aiden's site. So glad that you guys got to spend some time together - how special for both of you. Aren't those 2 boys just so precious??!! Can't wait to hear about it on future updates. Miss hearing from you.
Hope all is well. Love and prayers.
Kel <bugsmom@tampabay.rr.com>
- Monday, July 23, 2007 9:47 PM CDT
Lisa,
My first thought was, "Hey, I didn't see a picture of Lisa!!" What a hoot! I'm jealous that you and Cheryl get to spend time together - but thanking God for Haley's site!!
But now I'm really getting two for the price of one - now I visit Aiden and Mason's site too!
I'm with Kass - "We want Cheryl, we want Cheryl!!"
Smiling today -
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
- Saturday, July 21, 2007 9:45 AM CDT
How funny that someone is doing a "We want Cheryl" chant! I'll join in that, anyone else?! :o) Just kidding, that was a really "brilliant and wonderful and funny" post Lisa and I'm so happy that the two of you to get to spend some time together. You ladies TRY and have some fun (just in case you needed a reminder!) Sending prayers from Nebraska.
Amanda Fulton
Omaha, NE - Wednesday, July 18, 2007 10:09 PM CDT
WOW the person who updated is brilliant and wonderful and skinny and funny... Just ignore the comment below (love ya Kass)
No just kidding.. Cheryl, I love you girl and can't wait to see you in a few days. I hope your tooth is feeling better and one of your computers is up and running again.. soon.. XOXOXOXO
Lisa Aiden and Mason's mom <RolexH@aol.com>
St. Pete, fl - Tuesday, July 17, 2007 4:46 PM CDT
Lisa - I did read the whole thing. It was such agony though - we want Cheryl, we want Cheryl.
Ok - enough of that. I read the journal faithfully and though I don't sign the guestbook often, I haven't forgotten Haley or you.
Michelle often brings Haley up in conversations. It's amazing what an impact she has made!!
Kass Portra <kportra@bresnan.net>
- Tuesday, July 17, 2007 4:39 PM CDT
Lisa & Cheryl,
I also pop in every so often and don't leave a note but I needed to today. I just want you to know that both of you are an inspiration and encouragement to me and my family. I have days that I remember that one conversation we have had Cheryl and guess what, school is out the window. Thank you. It may seem small to you but it relieved a lot in me. I know you have a lot going on and things have been a bit crazy here but we are back on track again. Thank you so much for the huge box. I thought Olivia was going to explode. She had a ball and the timing was great for her birthday.
Love to you both, Lisa be safe while traveling and please let us know how it goes both with the MRI and Cinci. Cheryl I can't wait to find out but I believe I already know and if that is the case God is so good and his timing is perfect.
In His Grip
Barb King
Barbara King <kingbkmp1@bellsouth.net>
Buford, GA USA - Tuesday, July 17, 2007 8:25 AM CDT
Lisa - you really write so beautifully.
Cheryl - even though I don't post often, I do check your site weekly (if not more) and think of you all often. I also share the story of our dinner meeting when Haley gave Ainsley the Dora Ice Cream box - which has a special place in Ainsley's room. When she wants to play with, I remind of the very special girl who gave it to - and she remembers. We are both so glad to have known Haley.
Allyson- Ainsley's mom (CHOA) <alucash@hotmail.com>
- Monday, July 16, 2007 8:04 PM CDT
Cheryl and Lisa,
I am reminded of the words from Ecclesiastes 4:9-11:
"Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up. Furthermore, if two lie down toegether they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone? And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart."
You both have a good return for your labor - a life long friendship
You both are there for each other when one falls "down"
You both keep each other "warm" when the cold wind of heartache and sorrow whips all about
You both resist the enemy when he tries to overpower you with "fill in the blank____"
Yes, the cord of our Lord Jesus Christ and you, Cheryl, and you, Lisa, is not quickly torn apart.
I know you thank God for each other!!!
Blessed by you both -
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
- Sunday, July 15, 2007 5:51 PM CDT
Cheryl
what a blessing you and Lisa are for each other.
It is wonderful how many TRUE friendships have
developed thru caringbridge. Friends to cry and
laugh with, friends to share the anguish and the joy,
friends whose faith can help sustain each other.
mrs pam
- Sunday, July 15, 2007 1:14 PM CDT
What a wonderful friend you have, Cheryl. That was a beautiful journal entry and says so much about you to have a friend who obviously loves you so very much. Please know that you are in my prayers each and every day. Every time I look at my daughter, I remember Haley, and think how lucky I am to have my girl by my side. Know that Haley is always remember and that you, my friend, are thought of so often.
www.caringbridge.org/visit/dianemarie
sararh <sarahr531@yahoo.com>
- Saturday, July 14, 2007 9:36 PM CDT
Cheryl & Lisa
You two ladies have so much faith in the Lord and even with everything you face you still share your faith. You both have & continue to remind me to lean on the Lord. I sometimes feel guilty that my kids have received gifts of life 3 times and Haley didn't even get one chance. I know that the Lord had a special purpose for Haley. And oh how she did share her special faith. Haley will always be close in my heart. She had a part in saving my daughter's eternal life. I miss her too.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Saturday, July 14, 2007 7:23 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl,
My name is Paula and I came to your website through a topsy turvy line of one site leading to another. My daughter Michelle made her trip to heaven on 7/3/99, she was 23. Something about Haley and your way with words caught my eye and got me reading your journal history. I spent the next few hours laughing and crying and all the while smiling that God had picked such a nice way to remind me that all of my crazy and unique ways of thinking, acting and dealing with this world of being a Mother here with their child in Heaven, may still be a little crazy but are not totally unique. Reading your journey put words to so much of what I thought and felt the 1st few years that it was almost like dipping back into that time, which to most would seem like the last thing you would wish for, but as you already seem to be finding out how you view things changes as you travel this road. I pretty much did not leave my house for the 1st two years, just existed and tryed to heal enough to be able to be in the same room with more than one person at a time. I have and had through Chelle's entire life a very strong faith, so did she, God's peace and many blessings followed us through her illness and comforted me through her death. I was and still am amazed at the peace I felt and feel knowing that God's plan is perfect even when we don't get the outcome we wanted. Having that kind of faith still does not prepare you for the absolute encampassing total physical, mental and all consuming pain that comes with the loss of a child. After I finally got to a place where I decided to return to work, I am a CT/MRI tech, God really began to put on my heart that I need to work at AR Children Hospital, I argued with him for about a year(no reason to explain those arguments, I'm sure),but finally got to the place in my life that I was willing to just follow, and I am so Blessed everyday with the children and families that I come into contact with.
One of the little girls that I did many scans on, Kaitlyn, went to Heaven last July, I had been and still continue to keep up with her Mother on her Caring Bridge site. That is the starting place that eventually led me to Haley's site. I will be sending for one of Haley's CD's soon. You and your most amazing daughter have been an inspiration and a very real comfort to me. Time does give you some distance from the pain which allows more of the happy memories to come to the surface. I hate when people say time heals, cause as you already know this is not something that ever "heals". I guess for me it is more about not letting the pain of losing her dim the joy that she brought to my life. From one Mom to another Thank You for sharing Haley and yourself, Paula
Paula Smith <tattoopolly@aol.com>
North Little Rock, AR USA - Friday, July 13, 2007 9:03 PM CDT
I am sitting here and Aiden is still packing for his trip to see "his best friends".. He is on the play phone talking to Kendall right now. He wants to bring his Sea Monkeys for Kendall to see. I can't tell you how excited Aiden is to see your kids... but it is only HALF as excited as I am to see you!! (and your tattoo) LOVE YOU
ONly 9 more days!
Lisa and The Boys <RolexH@aol.com>
- Wednesday, July 11, 2007 5:43 PM CDT
Just stopping in to say, Hi!
Marisa
MN www.marisasmiracle.com - Tuesday, July 10, 2007 1:26 PM CDT
Cheryl,
I received your "gifts" Saturday and we have been listening, once again, to your beautiful Haley. As my kids and I were singing along and laughing (you should have seen Judah (10) - he was "acting out" Haley when she "talked" on Prednisone) I thought, "Is this ok? - this little girl who died and is no longer with her mommy is bringing joy to us here in Houston, Texas. What does all this mean?! Just know Haley has touched our hearts deeply and we cherish getting to know her.
I'm almost through with your book on grief (thank you!!) and I will pass it along to a friend of mine. She has 8 children and while she was at Wal-Mart, her four-month-old died of SIDS while taking a nap (her husband was home). They had to page her to come home. Sad, sad, sad...To make matters worse, CPS was called. That sickened me! YET, they are experiencing God's amazing grace in their midst. So your gift to me will be a gift from you to them. God had a double purpose for you sending it to me!
Smiling as I think of you,
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
- Monday, July 9, 2007 1:38 PM CDT
i love the rules.. Number 17... need to stick that one to my son.. such the back talker....
We are new to your site, and its beautiful.. Praying
Melissa and hailee
http://www.caringbridge.org/az/hailee
melissa <angels4hailee@nc.rr.com>
westend, nc usa - Saturday, July 7, 2007 9:19 PM CDT
I don't even know how I happened onto your site, I just know that I had to write and tell you how happy, sad and everything in between, it has made me feel to read it. I read it at work because thats where I have access to a computor and have made it until September of 2006. I will be going on vacation for a week and am bummed to not be able to finish reading until after next week. Anyways, so many things you have said have touched my heart. You see, my son Patrick was in a terrible car accident 22 years ago at the age of 3. He was severly brain damaged because of it. We brought him home where he lived another 9 years. He died at the age of 12 from septic shock caused by an ear infection. His birthday will be next Saturday, July 14, he would be 25 years old. The pain never goes away, it just hides and comes back, sometimes at the most inopertune moments. I wish I would have had a caring page site back then to help me deal wth some of the emotional issues. I love that you have the courage to say some things that I only dared to think but never voice. I love that one minute your journal makes me cry and the next laugh out loud. I love listening to your daughters voice and would love to order a CD when I get back next week, if possible. I will get back to you on the 16th. Thanks for sharing your story, Angie Hunter
Angie Hunter <huntera@trinity-health.org>
Muskegon, Mi USA - Friday, July 6, 2007 2:35 PM CDT
I got Haley's CD in the mail yesterday.
I love it!
thanks!
mrs pam
- Friday, July 6, 2007 9:43 AM CDT
Thinking of you today, on what is an usually tough day for myself. It just isn't fair Cheryl...why oh why would our girls be taken from us? They had so much to do, and we had so much love to give to them.
Angel Olivia's Mom, Wendy
www.caringbridge.org/mi/oliviasgrace <won2xx@gmail.com>
- Wednesday, July 4, 2007 8:03 PM CDT
that's a good list of responsibilities!
God bless America and God bless you!
Happy 4th of July!
prayers and love from
mrs pam
- Wednesday, July 4, 2007 9:34 AM CDT
I've been reading your site for well over a year now, but I'm not sure if I've ever commented. I've been thinking of you a lot recently; a woman at the gym where I work out has a 12-year-old daughter named Haley, and she and the daughter fight like cats and dogs. Sometimes Haley comes with her, sometimes the mom comes by herself and gripes to the other mothers about how much Haley is driving her crazy. Every time I hear her, it honestly makes my heart hurt knowing how badly you'd give ANYTHING to have another day with your Haley. I've often thought of giving her the address to this site, just as a wake-up call to realize how lucky she is. I'm not a parent yet, but I do hope that someday I'll appreciate and love my kids as much as you obviously love all four of yours, both on Earth and in Heaven. I have the greatest respect for you.
(P.S. I loved the Kendall story! What a great answer and a great comeback!)
Lauren <dramauknow@yahoo.com>
NC USA - Monday, July 2, 2007 3:11 PM CDT
Love your house rules. I am going to modify them just a bit and use them at my house. It beats the screaming. I am a teacher and off all summer and I definately have more patience for my students so I need all the help I can get.
Thanks.Reva
Reva Kinnally <kinnallymr@msn.com>
Schenectady, NY USA - Monday, July 2, 2007 1:07 PM CDT
Cheryl, you've officially bumped me from being the "only mother in the world" who posted a summer chores list for the kids last week.
I feel so relieved as there definitely is safety in numbers....
As always, you're in my daily prayers.
Dot O'Connor <Dotocon@aol.com>
Philadelphia , PA - Monday, July 2, 2007 7:53 AM CDT
Sounds like a good chore list to me.. I can't wait to see the pictures of Kendall's room. Sounds very cute!!! Just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you guys..
Lisa Russell <loveourangel02@earthlink.net>
Church Hill, TN USA - Sunday, July 1, 2007 7:49 PM CDT
I hope that you-all are doing well!
Take a deep breath and smile/laugh; it helps!!!!
Dennis
dennis <dwiley@riverdale.k12.or.us>
portland, oregon USA - Saturday, June 30, 2007 1:47 PM CDT
God is in control.....
easy to say, but, oh, sometimes so difficult to accept.
Cheryl, thank you for sharing that message
mrs pam
- Saturday, June 30, 2007 12:00 AM CDT
Cheryl,
I have been wanting to comment on your latest journal but all I could think of to say was, "Wow!" There is so much revelation that we all need to see - and like you said, "It makes everything so much easier to live in agreement and obedience...I wish I could teach everyone that." And you are! You have found the "Sabbath rest" that God talks about in Hebrews 4 - that firm, lasting relation to God. Hebrews 3:18,19 says, "And to whom did He swear that they should not enter His rest, but to those who were disobedient? And so we see that they were not able to enter because of unbelief." (refuse belief - obstinate rejecting of the will of God) Hebrews 4:10,11 says, "For the one who has entered His rest has himself also rested from his works, as God did from His. Let us therefore be diligent to enter that rest, lest anyone fall through following the same example of disobedience." Cheryl, you have died to self - trusting - NOT trying in the flesh! I'm sorry, I am SO excited to see what God is doing in all of our hearts through your writing - learning to trust this God Who has a redemptive purpose in Haley's life and death, as well as your life right now! And as you share your heart with such abandonment, such humility, we are seeing you being transformed into the image of Christ right before our eyes! And that's what it's all about!!
I am rejoicing with you and over you as we continue to see God's hand in our lives!
You have blessed me SO much!
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
- Thursday, June 28, 2007 10:12 AM CDT
I don't know how long I have been visiting your site, I just popped over from Hunter's guestbook one day. Many times your journals have moved me to tears as you share so deeply the pain of your life as it is now. Many times you cause me to just stop what I'm doing and really think about the lesson you have layed out before us. Today was one of those days. Thank you for continuing to share!
Kristi Gerdon
Croghan, NY - Tuesday, June 26, 2007 8:18 AM CDT
Hello,
What you said in the journal about "control" is so true. I also struggle with this. Your words truly spoke to me.
Lucille <lubee32065@yahoo.com>
Orange Park, Fl - Monday, June 25, 2007 7:41 AM CDT
Glad your mom is improving. The proscranition stuff really hit home. I never had a problem with that until Kyle passed away. Now it seems to take so much energy to do the simplest things. Got a powerful Kyle little miracle today. Praying that they continue.
Know that you are always in our thoughts and prayers
Donna and Angel ^Kyle^ Noble www.caringbridge.org/oh/kyle <donnanoble2001@yahoo.com>
Grove City, OH USA - Sunday, June 24, 2007 10:18 PM CDT
Oh Cheryl I am so sorry. I know all about procrastination, as my husband had a heart attack 2 weeks ago and required 5 bypass surgery... I appreciate all he does. Dont be afraid to ask for help if you need it. Tell your mom were thinking of her and pray for a smooth recovery. And tell Nick HAPPY 16!!!
Kristy Kevin Alyssa and Ashlee KElly <alyssassmama@yahoo.com>
NY - Sunday, June 24, 2007 1:04 PM CDT
Cheryl - Oh no, I'm glad she is on the mend. Prayers for you & her - as you work through the next 3 months.
Stacy - Tanner's mom <stacyrobb@excite.com>
DeSoto, KS 66018 - Sunday, June 24, 2007 10:35 AM CDT
Praying for you all.
Hope your Mom gets well soon..
with Gods Love and Blessings
"Angels" are with us everyminiute of everyday"
www.caringbridge.org/tn/kayla
www.caringbridge.org/tn/mimmie
Creative Spiritz
April & Angel Mikayla and Family <babymsmom04@yahoo.com>
TN usa - Saturday, June 23, 2007 5:09 PM CDT
Cheryl
Your mom REALLY fell!
Sooooo sorry!
Loved Haley's Ice Cream sign!
sending a check today for a cd.
prayers and love from
mrs pam
- Saturday, June 23, 2007 9:07 AM CDT
You crack me up! I love operation, but it does stress me out trying to get those pieces out. I am just determined to get it out without that buzzer going off...and I suck at it. Its so hard.
Just the other night I spent 10 minutes looking for the remote, that was frustrating...haha.
Angel Rachel's Mommy
jeanne <crowman2766@aol.com>
king of prussia, pa usa - Wednesday, June 20, 2007 9:55 PM CDT
Just thinking about you tonight. I was cracking up at some of your observations. I played Operation with Hunter the other day and I was doing the same thing... I about jumped out of my skin every time I got buzzed!
Lying in front of the TV close enough to change channels with one's toes - I'm not sure if that's better or worse than just watching whatever station is on because I can't be bothered to find the remote to change it. (Guilty!)
Oh, and speaking of guilty - I keep meaning to catch Army Wives, but in the meantime I've got Season 1 of Melrose Place on DVD to occupy me. ;)
Lots of love,
Katie (mom to Hayley, Hunter, and Taylor) <dugan2b@yahoo.com>
Franklin, MA - Wednesday, June 20, 2007 8:23 PM CDT
We just dropped by to check on you today.
Jodi and McKayla
Jodi Phelan <jodiphelan@hotmail.com>
Sherwood Park, AB Canada - Monday, June 18, 2007 11:19 AM CDT
Cheryl,
How did Nick, Logan, and Kendall grow so much when time seems to stand still? It's as if we blinked in slow motion... They each look healthy and happy - as it should be.
Blessing to you this day!!
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, - Monday, June 18, 2007 7:32 AM CDT
Thinking of you my sweet friend in grief....
Angel Olivia's Mommy, Wendy
www.caringbridge.org/mi/oliviasgrace <won2xx@gmail.com>
- Sunday, June 17, 2007 8:25 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl...just stopped by to let you know that although I don't sign very often, I check regularly. You are such an inspiration...thank you for sharing yourself and Haley with us.
Lisa - Forever Kyle's Mom <bailsam@msn.com www.caringbridge.org/canada/kyle>
Nova Scotia , Canada - Sunday, June 17, 2007 10:30 AM CDT
Bruce,
Happy Fathers Day. We love you. You are an amazing dad. Your have taught your children laughter, even when there seems to be nothing funny. I admire you and how you have endured through so much pain. God bless you! Lisa and Joey
Lisa <RolexH@aol.com>
- Sunday, June 17, 2007 8:08 AM CDT
Cheryl,
Would love to order a few of Haley's CDs. Please tell me how to go about doing so. Thank you!!!
Mary <ziggyfamily@aol.com>
- Saturday, June 16, 2007 11:32 PM CDT
Would LOVE to have one of Haley's CDs. I've come to your site sometimes just to hear her sing and to be comforted by her reminder that He's always there. Any chance you accept PayPal payments? I'd be willing to pay the added PayPal charge (not sure what it is).
Claire Strayer <cstrayer@hrtc.net>
McCordsville, IN - Saturday, June 16, 2007 9:55 PM CDT
Blessed Father's Day
For Fatherly Guidance
Lord God, author of all wisdom,
Teach me how to do my work as a father according to your will.
Enlighten my mind that I may understand what to tell my children when it is necessary to give them direction or advice.
Give me good judgment to understand true spiritual values and to guide my family in your ways.
The world makes little of your wisdom and is not instructed in your ways, and close contact with the world makes it easy to become dulled to the things of solid spiritual worth.
Be my guide at all times, that I may be a true father and husband, sensitive always to the divine wisdom that only you can impart.
God, by the light of the Holy Spirit you instruct the hearts of your faithful.
Grant that I may be truly wise and ever enjoy his consolation, through Christ our Lord. Amen.
Praying for you,
Barb, John, Shawn,
Shannon, & Colleen
www.caringbridge.org/page/shannon
Where there is great love there are always miracles.--Willa Cather
The Prayer Bears
Barb
- Friday, June 15, 2007 7:35 PM CDT
Just checking in on the Vincent family.
I am really interested in the parent-chaperone phone. I googled it but couldn't find it. Can you give me more info?
Amy Hinkle <amy.hinkle@clubcorp.com>
Carrollton, TX - Friday, June 15, 2007 12:29 AM CDT
I WOULD LOVE TO HAVE ONE OF HALEY CD'S, BUT HOW DO I GO ABOUT PAYING FOR IT?
CAN I JUST GIVE MY EMAIL ADDRESS HERE IN THE GUEST BOOK?
Kasey Nelson <kaseynelson@aol.com>
SALEM, AL usa - Thursday, June 14, 2007 1:44 PM CDT
Cheryl
thinking of you..
perhaps Haley was one of
sweet Rachel's angels
mrs pam
- Thursday, June 14, 2007 10:11 AM CDT
Cheryl,
I just spent three days going back through Rachel's journey. Long and hard, up and down, good and bad - just like Haley's. But I noticed through it all, they never lost their faith - just like you. I'm still at the place in my life where I don't want "any outsiders". I find comfort with you and others who have "been there". So once again, I thank God you "found" me because you are a friend in need!
Praying for all of us -
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
- Tuesday, June 12, 2007 11:55 AM CDT
Hello, I am coming from Sarah Smith's site - however, I have been reading Haley's Journal for quite some time now - I must have missed the journal entry in Sarah's site about both your families meeting - and I am sure Haley had something to do with that - being the songwriter and all and having that, and other connections to the Smithes. I just wanted you to know that just as Sarah's site and her mother's beautiful words, your Haley and your journals have touched my heart, changed the way of my life, lead me back to faith and softened my soul - the price you have paid and Sarah has paid and others have paid (my daughter's dear friend Jessica, our Angel on Horseback) to help us learn this about life is appalling and I have always hesitated to state that because I would gladly go back to my "old" life and never learned these lessons if it would have saved just one of these precious children or spared them the years of treatment and misery. That statement probably makes you furious, is trite beyond belief and so very hurtful. But that was never my intent and may be why I have hesitated to sign the guestbook. You not having Haley is just wrong. I at this point in my life I can't ever profess to imagine anything of what you are feeling and living. I just hope it helps for you to know that your words, Haley's story, her faith and beauty are treasured by so many, you just haven't seen our faces. Thank you. God Bless. Keep journaling - it means more than you can imagine.
Mary H <mch@herzogcrebs.com>
St. Louis, MO - Wednesday, June 6, 2007 12:44 AM CDT
sending you support and hugs...oh how I wish we could all take some of your sadness away...holding you up in prayer.
Sue from CLASS mom to Moira
- Monday, June 4, 2007 12:48 AM CDT
I am sitting her hoping the right words come in the right order to really express my thoughts. I have not lost my child, I have not been where you are but I fear it with all my heart. I often think about the "what if" I lost my son. It is only 1 of my 3 sons that I worry about. Not because I wouldn't feel the same loss with any of them but because Marek is the one that has been sick his whole life. I often put myself there and I think, I bet I would be like Cheryl. You let yourself feel the raw pain, to me it's the reality. I know everyone grieves differently but you have shared with us what you feel and how honestly difficult losing Haley really is. My heart is so connected to Marek's that I know I could never be whole again. I worry about this so much that I think would I still be able to go on and be a good mom to my other kids. I don't know. I don't want to know. You now do know. You are some place I never want to be and yet you still open your heart to us and let us see you, not the person that you think everyone wants to see, the person that has moved on and continues to live happily with her other children, but the hurting, sad Cheryl. Thank you. I know I can't make you feel better, I guess no one really can because Haley is gone. But in some weird way, in my mind you help me understand that if I do lose a child I will still wake up everyday and some how I will deal with the pain. I just pray that I never have to and I wish with all my heart that no parent did. You still give me courage and I think about you and Haley a lot. Again, I'm sorry if this didn't make sense, it does in my mind, but I don't always express my thoughts well. Prayers for you. I know that Haley is collecting shells and will share the most beautiful ones with you some day.
Marek's mom
Jill W. <jwerda330@yahoo.com>
AK - Monday, June 4, 2007 3:21 AM CDT
Cheryl -- We don't really know one another (only me as one of Aiden's "aunties" stopping by here from time to time) and I never know what to say. I wish I had some wise words to comfort you, but I don't. I'm not wise; I'm just another mother who can try to comprehend your grief, but who falls short of that. I can, however, send you a virtual hug. I wish it could be more healing.
Barbara in NJ (from Aiden's COTH group)
- Sunday, June 3, 2007 7:43 PM CDT
Hello Cheryl:
I am popping over from the Sarah's site to let you know that my family will be praying for yours. Your Hailey is a beautiful, beautiful child. I pray that the Lord gives you grace and peace and daily reminds you of how totally AWESOME your sweet girl is doing in Heaven.
D in Louisiana
- Saturday, June 2, 2007 1:34 PM CDT
Cheryl, thank you for continuing to share your struggles with us. Through you I am learning grief is not something you just "get through", but must learn to live with everyday. Sending you hugs and prayers.
Dawn (Roger’s mom, www.caringbridge.org/nh/rogers) <spsdms@gsinet.net>
NH - Saturday, June 2, 2007 12:35 AM CDT
Please don't think I forgot about you. I think of Haley often. She touched the lives of so many people. Prayers for your healing.
Sarah, Anna's mommy from liver kids http://annabanana4.blogspot.com/ <sarahjeh2002@comcast.net>
Wheaton, IL - Saturday, June 2, 2007 0:30 AM CDT
You understand the "goneness"! I stupidly thought if someone still had surviving children they would'nt get the "aloneness/goneness' Your words have proven me wrong, and led me to an understanding of all our grief.
I envy your walks on the beach...I will join you in my mindless wanderings.......
Kathie Mayo www.caringbridge.org/mn/rachaelmayo <winkatmayo@hotmail.com>
Winona, MN United States - Friday, June 1, 2007 6:09 PM CDT
Lots of love...
Shannon, www.caringbridge.org/mi/marisa
- Friday, June 1, 2007 5:18 PM CDT
Prayers for you!
Just know she is preparing a place for you and she is with you. It is so hard to feel... but KNOW it. I am so sorry you are having such a hard time and no one can know what you are going through.
Maria-Noah's mom from LF
Maria Martens <mariapamom@comcast.net>
Mechanicsburg, PA USA - Friday, June 1, 2007 4:28 PM CDT
I am so sorry, no parent to ever have to go through what you are going through.
You are in my prayers!
Shay <selkebabe@yahoo.com>
- Friday, June 1, 2007 3:26 PM CDT
I wish I could take your pain away. I bet Haley is right by your side, she wouldnt miss your beach vacation for anything. The kids look great, I cannot believe how big the boys are getting, and how Logan looks so much like Haley. Your family is always in my heart, and in my prayers. We love you!
Kristy and the KEllys <alyssassmama@yahoo.com>
NY - Friday, June 1, 2007 1:01 PM CDT
I understand exactly how you feel and I am sorry.
Christa Frantz visit/zacharyfrantz <dcfrantz@adelphia.net>
New Philadelphia, OH - Friday, June 1, 2007 11:23 AM CDT
cheryl
praying for you.....
visited Sarah and then the foundation page,
and found another address, so will try resending
the Easter package.
mrs pam
- Friday, June 1, 2007 10:26 AM CDT
Hi Cheryl.
always holding you in my heart.
Amy, Carly's Mom <amyb46@sbcglobal.net>
WI - Friday, June 1, 2007 10:06 AM CDT
Cheryl,
Oh, how my heart hurts for you and with you. Know that I am praying...
Pamela
http://www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews/
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
- Friday, June 1, 2007 10:04 AM CDT
Hi Cheryl. I feel your emptiness. I feel your pain. I can even feel your tears running down your face.
I wish I could hug you.
Sending love.
Lindsey McLear (Angel Jackson's Mom.) <mrsmclear05@gmail.com>
Farmingdale, NY 11735 - Friday, June 1, 2007 9:44 AM CDT
Haley surely was the most amazing girl.
And I know you would have missed her every bit as bad if she had been less amazing ---
but her talents and this special funny, witty humor and her sensitivity and wonderful strength reach far beyond her all too short life and have touched people like me who never had the chance to meet her.
I cannot begin to imagine your pain or your loss and know noone can ease it. I can just repeat with many others how she truely made a difference in this world and touched our hearts so much.
Warm regards,
Sven (from LF)
Sven
Berlin, Germany - Friday, June 1, 2007 9:33 AM CDT
Cheryl, keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Sharon (Liam's Mummy-Liver Families)
Waitakere , New Zealand - Friday, June 1, 2007 5:53 AM CDT
Hi Cheryl,
I wish we could take your pain away. I almost lost my daughter Shania two weeks ago, that just upset me so much, how close I came to loosing my daughter. Hailey is an Angel of God! I'm sure you've ask why. God was ready for Hailey to go home. She has left so many footprints on everyones hearts! Our prayers are with you and your family. Enjoy the Beach!
Laurie & Shania <crumrila@yahoo.com>
Broomfield, CO - Friday, June 1, 2007 1:27 AM CDT
My heart broke and the tears flowed as I read your latest blog. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Sharls <sharlsw@ozemail.com.au>
Brisbane, QLD Australia - Friday, June 1, 2007 1:23 AM CDT
Cheryl, we continue to pray for you. God bless and we love you.
Frank (Marisa's Dad) <hamet@mich.com>
Flat Rock, MI USA - Thursday, May 31, 2007 11:05 PM CDT
Cheryl, I'm sorry that your hand is empty, and that the shouts and whispers are as they are. I'm sorry that no words, thoughts or deeds will make it different.
I listen to Haley's beautiful voice on the CD that Frank sent me, a glimpse in to the life of an Angel. I thank you for that.
You are always in my prayers.
Lucetta, from Liver families.
Lucetta Eden-Grout <lucettag@optonline.net>
CT - Thursday, May 31, 2007 9:27 PM CDT
Even if my comments are not always frequent...my love and prayers for you always will be.
Becca - Mom to Natalie <becandjay@verizon.net>
Byron, IL - Thursday, May 31, 2007 9:12 PM CDT
Oh Cheryl - I can only imagine your pain. She should be there - walking hand in hand with you. Even though she wasn't there physically, I'm sure she was with you.
Love and prayers -
Stacy - Tanner's mom - www.caringbridge.com/ks/tanner <stacyrobb@excite.com>
De Soto, KS USA - Thursday, May 31, 2007 7:55 PM CDT
I watched that DVD of Haley with Lisa today. We only watched it once, but I could have watched and listened to her sing 100 times. I know that is what angel's sound like.
I am so sorry for how you must be feeling. Thank you for the reality check about the continuous chatter as I am ashamed to say there are times in the past that I have wished that Hannah would stop talking for just a minute or two. In honor of Haley I am going to try to never let that happen again.
Thank you for sharing yourself with us. Praying for you as always.
Kelly ( Lisa's friend and Mom of Aiden's friend Hannah) <bugsmom@tampabay.rr.com>
- Thursday, May 31, 2007 7:26 PM CDT
Cheryl,
I am offering up strong prayers tonight for you. Sending you love, warm thoughts, hugs and prayers.
Laurie, Anthony's mom
Baton Rouge, LA - Thursday, May 31, 2007 6:48 PM CDT
Cheryl
My heart aches so for you. I wish there was something I could do to take away the pain. I pray that times will come where your pain is less and your memories of Haley help your alone time more bareable. I hear Haley sing everyday as I work on a "movie" of our journey through transplant for our family. Haley songs are playing as the pictures flash by. I hope that's ok that I use her singing in this way. Her words just have a way of inspiring me. Her songs remind me that God is always in my life. Everytime I hear "if you'll ask him, he'll always be in your heart" the pictures of Jen & Jon being baptised come to mind. Especially since I feel Haley had a part in Jen accepting Jesus into her heart & life. I hope I have not made you sad by saying all this. I just wanted you to know that we will never forget Haley. You are in my prayers, today and always
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Thursday, May 31, 2007 6:09 PM CDT
Cheryl,
I love visiting Haley's page, I wish I would have gotten the chance to know Haley. I can't understand your pain as a mom, but I do know the pain i feel when I lost a very close family member, The pain never goes away. I will keep you and your family in my prayer's.
christi & caden thompson
www.caringbridge.org/visit/cadenthompson
Christi Thompson
sparta, tn usa - Thursday, May 31, 2007 5:52 PM CDT
Cheryl, a few days ago I re-found my "Haley on Channel 11" dvd. Today, My friends and I watched it. Sobbing into my shirt, missing Haley. I sometimes can't believe she isn't there. There are times when Nick or someone answers the phone and I am frozen... Haley used to answer. I miss you while you are gone, and pray for you. I love you so much, and am so sorry your pain is so raw everyday. Kisses and hugs my friend..... she is right next to you on that beach. Right there forever.
Lisa, Aiden and Mason's mommy <RolexH@aol.com>
- Thursday, May 31, 2007 5:44 PM CDT
I am sorry that you are having a bad day. Continued prayers for you.
Wow, three miles a day???
Amy Hinkle <amy.hinkle@clubcorp.com>
Carrollton, TX - Thursday, May 31, 2007 5:03 PM CDT
Cheryl,
Just miss hearing from you. Hope you and your family are enjoying your time at the beach.
Pamela
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
- Tuesday, May 29, 2007 11:46 PM CDT
I really like the picture of Haley on the beach. I'm glad that you're all going to enjoy some beach time--we still have another month of school here--plus the weather isn't exactly "beachy"! I hope your little Cara is feeling better--our little Cora the corgi just had surgery and they do indeed look so sad at the doggie hospital. Your Haley continues to be an inspiration.
Denise Ward <deniward@shaw.ca>
Winnipeg, Canada - Sunday, May 27, 2007 1:18 PM CDT
Thinking of you and sweet Haley tonight - I can't take my eyes off of the precious picture of Haley on the beach(celestial shores) - I look at it several times a week. She truly is an angel - there is just "something" about that picture - don't you think? I honestly don't know how you stand it .....
Love to you! Mary Lee
Mary Lee <mary_robb@bellsouth.net>
- Saturday, May 26, 2007 11:39 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl.
I just re-read Haley's entire Journal History. Once again, I cried. Once again, I admired the strength, grace, love, and dignity of this beautiful girl ... And of her mother.
Just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you. Haley is never far from my thoughts, and neither are you. I hope you are doing ok today. Love from the other side of the world!
Rachael <rach66ster@gmail.com>
Victoria Australia - Friday, May 25, 2007 9:27 AM CDT
Thinking about you today. I hope today is a good day.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Thursday, May 24, 2007 6:24 PM CDT
hope cara is back home now...
mrs pam
- Thursday, May 24, 2007 8:51 AM CDT
We remember the soldiers who fought for our country.
Thank you to our troops & their families! Happy & Safe Memorial Day to ALL!
Praying for you & yours,
Barb, John, Shawn,
Shannon, & Colleen
www.caringbridge.org/page/shannon with new pics of our miracle girl and our Relay.
The Prayer Bears
Prayer Bear Barb
- Tuesday, May 22, 2007 2:39 PM CDT
Meredith and Allie McBeal need to run off pouting together. Better yet they both could use some "Cheryl therapy" How about 10 boxes of butterfinger granola bars a day ladies! It couldn't hurt!
Love you Cheryl... can't wait for the CD to come out. I just can't wait.
Lisa (mom to Aiden and Mason ) <RolexH@aol.com>
- Saturday, May 19, 2007 8:56 PM CDT
Thinking of your family and praying for you. Have a great time at the beach!
Chari Warner <millymango40@yahoo.com>
Alpharetta, GA - Friday, May 18, 2007 2:58 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl,
I totally agree with you Cheryl. I was thinking last week..gosh Meridith, appreciate someone reaching out to you, and don't be so rude and hurt the chief's feelings. Hmm, I just don't know what to expect tonight. I am liking Addison more all the time.
I hope doggy feels better..it wasn't bad dog food was it?
Have a wonderful time at the beach..its kinda cool here in MI.
Love to you always,
Colleen
colleen Fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Thursday, May 17, 2007 5:15 PM CDT
Just wanted to say hello today!
Shannon, www.caringbridge.org/mi/marisa
- Thursday, May 17, 2007 5:01 PM CDT
I agree! I don't understand her despression either!! I like Addison too!
Stacy Roberts <stacyroberts1982@yahoo.com>
Oklahoma City , OK - Thursday, May 17, 2007 3:58 PM CDT
beautiful pictures of Haley!
Not that I do water rides any more,
but just the thought that a snake could
be in one of the boats.....would definitely
make me never get in one. OOOOOOOOOOH!
Today Devin's family from Utah, and his grandma
from Oklahoma, and Kayla's grandparents from
Scotland and friends of Devin's mom who live
in southern Missouri will all be arriving in St. Louis
for the weekend. We will see angel Ryan's family
from KY because they are in the area for his little
sister's b-day. So, it will be fun getting together with
so many caringbridge families.
toodles....
mrs pam
- Thursday, May 17, 2007 10:23 AM CDT
Cheryl,
I was just reading your journal entry and listening to the lovely song when my daughter came in the room. Brooklyn (2) loves the song playing. She danced the entire time it took me to read the entry, and it took a while since my screen is so tiny I have to squint to see it! :)
Stacy Roberts <stacyroberts1982@yahoo.com>
Oklahoma City, OK - Wednesday, May 16, 2007 3:39 PM CDT
Cheryl,
I'm sorry, but are those not the cutest pictures you have ever seen?!! What sweet innocence. Like the little lamb that is led to the slaughter, Haley and Dinah went willingly, trusting the One who loves them so...
Taking a deep breath,
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
- Wednesday, May 16, 2007 3:23 PM CDT
Hey Cheryl
That would be me at Dollywood only I think you were braver. Love the new picture of Haley, she speaks with her beautiful eyes. Hope you had a good Mother's Day.
Joanna (Jessica's mum from CLASS and liverfamilies)
- Wednesday, May 16, 2007 1:17 AM CDT
Cheryl,
That's why I love you - because you know...and you care.
Pamela
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
- Monday, May 14, 2007 10:54 PM CDT
That first picture is so beautiful, Cheryl. I just stared at it as I listened at almost all of Haley's songs...her sweet angelic voice echoing around me. I will never, ever forget those amazing and God-filled moments I spent with Haley. It is no exaggeration to say she lives on in my heart every day - she is always with me, and I am a better person because of her.
I was listening to this song earlier and thought of you...it's called "Love Heals" from the RENT motion picture.
"Life a breath of midnight air, like a lighthouse, like a prayer
Like a flicker and the flare the sky reveals
Like a walk along the shore that you've walked a thousand times before
Like the oceans roar, love heals...
Love heals, when you feel like you can't go on.
Love heals, hold on to love it will keep you strong.
Love heals, when you feel like you can't go on.
Love heals, hold on to love and it will bring you home.
Love heals when pain's too much to bear
When you reach out your hand
And only the wind is there
When life's unfair, when things like us are not to be
Love heals when you feel so small
Like a grain of sand, like nothing at all
When you look out at sea
That's where love will be
That's where you'll find me, you'll fine me
So if you fear the storm ahead
As you lie awake in bed
And there's no one, no one to stroke you head
And your mind reels, your mind reels.
If you face is salty wet
And you're drowning in regret
Just, don't forget.
Love heals..."
Nothing can ever heal the hole in your heart, and I have never understood that more than just recently after the loss of my dear friend...but this song was sung buy our high school chorus at his funeral, and it is comforting to think about. What can we do but love? We can love, love, love, until that day when our love brings us home to Heaven to the ones that we have loved our entire lives. I think of you and your family often...and I send my love and prayers.
Love always,
Laura Dellicker <lauradellicker@aol.com>
- Monday, May 14, 2007 7:33 PM CDT
Cheryl,
As I came to visit today, I just didn't know what to write - this grief is so unpredictable! Will it be a "Happy Mother's Day" for you or not? Will you reflect with tears or smiles? Will the awesomeness of God's grace overwhelm you or will the enemy sting you with his lies? So I pray for you, always asking God to hold you tight where you will only feel His strong arms around you, quieting your heart, letting you know it's going to be o.k.
Blessed by your friendship,
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, Tx USA - Sunday, May 13, 2007 3:43 PM CDT
Cheryl- Wanted you to know that I am thinking of you today on Mothers Day. Getting to know you through Lisa and this site has made me a better mother! I was imagining this morning what a Mothers Day celebration they must be having in Heaven today. I dreamed of Haley sitting at God's beautiful table with my Mother and many others. We will all be there together one day, my friend! Love,
Michelle G
Michelle <mgaylord@tampabay.rr.com>
St Petersburg, Fl USA - Sunday, May 13, 2007 10:20 AM CDT
Dearest Cheryl
Hello...been visiting here as I always do but feel out of place sometimes with words.
I know tomorrow on Mothers Day will be most difficult for special moms as yourself who have little angels watching over you. You and others are so much in my thoughts and prayers..just so much of the time.
I am also in line with you doing some speaking and writing.You would do a wonderful job and so many parents need your guidance. I also have another suggestion. Get a nice digital camera (they come in all price ranges) and take pictures and then print them yourself. I have a decent camera and printer and have some programs that I can do so much with my pictures on. Its fun, relaxing, challenging, and a distraction. You could even take a photo class when you get your camerea. I love taking photos of kids...mostly family and have some now placed in Child Haven. I love doing black and white. Well, enough rambling..just some ideas. I hope tomorrow will be full of joyous times and joyous memories.
Love from Colleen
colleen Fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Saturday, May 12, 2007 10:00 PM CDT
Cheryl, I don't sign regularly but I do read often. I'm joining the band wagon that you write and then get on a speaking circuit. You really are an amazing writer and Lord knows this world needs some good Christian writing/speaking.
I'm praying for you that you will get through tomorrow. You are a great Mom. Think of you often!
Kelly <bugsmom@tampabay.rr.com>
- Saturday, May 12, 2007 9:43 PM CDT
Cheryl, My heart is with you today. I can only imagine how difficult it must be for you. Those precious pictures of your sweet Haley are just beautiful, thank you for sharing them. God bless.
Sarah www.caringbridge.org/visit/dianemarie <sarahr531@yahoo.com>
MA - Saturday, May 12, 2007 8:53 PM CDT
I have just cried and cried over that first picture....
I am praying for you as tomarrow is mother's day, but I already know that no matter WHAT the day, it is so very painful. I love you my friend.
Lisa (Aiden's mom) <RolexH@aol.com>
- Saturday, May 12, 2007 6:11 PM CDT
Cheryl, Count me among the members of the club who think you ought to write....for publication, I mean. Writers often get to be public speakers, and often get T.V. slots, too! That would wipe out the Beth Moore scenario and SNL with one blow! I know you wanted to raise a litter of Corgi puppies, maybe you'd make a great dog breeder? Or birds, or hamsters, or start an aquarium and raise guppies for fun and profit...! :>} If the outdoor gardening bug doesn't bite, maybe raising houseplants? Ferns? Lucky for you you don't have a cat--I love houseplants and had several before we moved to this house, but I lost them all because (1) this house has LOUSY sun exposure for them, and (2) my siamese ate several, including a lovly pink cyclamen I was particulary fond of. Go figure. He won't touch catnip or valerian. He also has a taste for potted carnations, by the way. But I don't think Labs or Corgis eat flowers, do they? And maybe Cara would like 2 more Corgis (a breeding pair) for company.....the more, the merrier!
Debbie Coffman <drcoffman@charter.net>
Kingpsort, TN USA - Friday, May 11, 2007 6:03 PM CDT
Cheryl, Count me among the members of the club who think you ought to write....for publication, I mean. Writers often get to be public speakers, and often get T.V. slots, too! That would wipe out the Beth Moore scenario and SNL with one blow! I know you wanted to raise a litter of Corgi puppies, maybe you'd make a great dog breeder? Or birds, or hamsters, or start an aquarium and raise guppies for fun and profit...! :>} If the outdoor gardening bug doesn't bite, maybe raising houseplants? Ferns? Lucky for you you don't have a cat--I love houseplants and had several before we moved to this house, but I lost them all because (1) this house has LOUSY sun exposure for them, and (2) my siamese ate several, including a lovly pink cyclamen I was particulary fond of. Go figure. He won't touch catnip or valerian. He also has a taste for potted carnations, by the way. But I don't think Labs or Corgis eat flowers, do they? And maybe Cara would like 2 more Corgis (a breeding pair) for company.....the more, the merrier!
Debbie Coffman <drcoffman@charter.net>
Kingpsort, TN USA - Friday, May 11, 2007 6:02 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl,
I was catching up on your journal entries (I had been slacking on a lot of things - hey I'm a second semester senior) and realized how much I had missed reading the page. I love what you said about Haley's family, it's a very nice thing to think about. I listen to Haley's beautiful songs each day...she is never forgotten.
And yes, you are a beautiful writer.
Love, hugs & prayers,
Laura Dellicker <lauradellicker@aol.com>
Holliston, MA - Friday, May 11, 2007 12:42 AM CDT
I just happen to find you through Amanda B's site but my suggestion is write - you are so very talented. I have been reading your journal entires for quite some time and love your honesty, wit and style.
On a more personal note - as you said in the post on Amanda's site - it is not a club we sign up for - I will pray for you. May God bless you and keep you close++++
Suzanne
Palm Beach, FL - Thursday, May 10, 2007 9:43 PM CDT
Cheryl totally understand the need for distraction to get through the day. Fortunately or unfortunately depending on how you look at it excerise has been my outlet- 2 classes in the morning so I am not home until aroun 11 then meet a friend in the afternoon several days a week. That wastes 3-5 hours a day. Dreading this weekend and all the Mother's Day celebrations trying to plan MANY distractions for Sunday. Know that I think of you often and pray for peace and distraction for all grieving parents.
Donna and Angel ^Kyle^ Noble www.caringbridge.org/oh/kyle <donnanoble2001@yahoo.com>
Grove City, OH USA - Thursday, May 10, 2007 1:54 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl --
It's been a long time since I posted but that doesn't mean I haven't been keeping up with all of you! I have a few distraction ideas for you: walking - here in Atlanta I would tell you to go to Stone Mountain or Callaway Gardens - I don't know what you have there but just cruising your neighborhood can be really interesting! If you're just strolling along, then you haven't reached the "exercise" level yet - just the level of letting a little of the outside world in for a bit!
How about movies? There are so, so many that are available these days on DVD's - either through your library - or Blockbuster - or Netflix! Try on some of the Three Stooges - or Audrey Hepburn - or who knows?
Then there is the writing - as so many others have said, you have a talent there - why not try your hand at writing a novel? short story? How about a Welsh Corgi story?
Libby Gladden <libeye@bellsouth.net>
Norcross, GA United States - Wednesday, May 9, 2007 11:07 PM CDT
There is a nonprofit organization that started here in Omaha called the Centering Corporation http://www.centering.org that provides resources for grieving/bereaved people and also do workshops. I have heard that they write a lot of their own resources, including a book simply called "Grief" and "Children Grieve, Too". Anyway, that may be a good outlet for you to get your words out there for all to read, and maybe even an opportunity to do some speaking. I actually have purchased quite a few books from the site, as part of my "learning process". Always praying :o)
Amanda <amfulton02@yahoo.com>
Omaha, NE - Wednesday, May 9, 2007 10:59 PM CDT
I have been a silent reader since Oct. 1 2006. I watch Issac Clary, I know his Grandfather and through his site I have quite a few Sites that I watch, but I don't ever speak up because I feel guilty that I have 2 beautiful healthy boys. 7 & 13, but I, no I can't imagine what you are going through nor Aiden and Mason's Mom (they are another family that I watch) but I wanted to speak up this time because you are a talented writer and I normally can't read the sight without crying, you know you'll live in a world that we have never lived in and there are alot of us out there, sometimes I read the site and get depressed and think I have got to stop reading this stuff, but you know I have a choice and you and everyone else's parents don't have a choice so I continue keeping up and praying for the children that I have come to love silenty. But I do believe that there is something in Public Speaking for you, and I believe that is your calling. People like me (with healthy children) need to understand, help and be apart of this and have our Children on Donor Lists in case something happens then we could help save a life. The world needs to know what parents like you live through deal with and people need to help more. I hope you will find something to help you fill in the time. God Bless and Happy Mothers Day
Lots of Hugs, loves, and last but not least prayers
Janet Brewster <Dunktrans@aol.com>
Williamston, SC - Wednesday, May 9, 2007 2:57 PM CDT
My suggestions (some have already been suggested so just re-iterating):
Perhaps join an on-line book club or start one
Mosaics? It is messy but kind of nice to have something around your house that you made
Redecorate a room in your house?
Learn to sew. Really, just straight lines so you can do curtains/pillows. Start slow.
Love ya.
Amy Hinkle <amy.hinkle@clubcorp.com>
Carrollton, TX - Wednesday, May 9, 2007 11:59 AM CDT
Hello Cheryl...I could think of things to distract you if you came here to NY!!! :) Maybe child care??? Nothing more distracting than children! You have beautiful writing, I love to read your thoughts. What about joining a book club, or starting up a bible study group, your faith is so strong. I wish I were there to give you a BIG hug!!! I will pray that you find that distraction that you need. We love you!
Kristy and ashlee <alyssassmama@yahoo.com>
ny - Wednesday, May 9, 2007 8:37 AM CDT
Well Cheryl..I see you already have numerous great suggestions..Mine would be the garden..pull weeds, plant flowers, a small plot of earth transformed..maybe a small fish pond to go with it..a rock garden..bird bath, feeders..OK...I think I am going out to my therapy!
Hugs and prayers..
LeeAnne
www.caringbridge.org/visit/byesiblings
LeeAnne <allenleeannebye@aol.com>
Northfield, NJ - Wednesday, May 9, 2007 8:10 AM CDT
When I needed a distraction I did start with a lot of answering guestbooks, crockpot cooking, learning to knit from a kit and reading short stories books for the short attention span! Chicken Soup for the Soul books are GREAT! They are a collection of inspirational stories that made me feel good. Then I read all 15 Left Behind books and all the Harry Potter books and The Da Vinci Code and the Breaking of the Da Vinci Code, because my children where reading them and we had something other than movies to discuss. Now I have all of Nicholas Sparkes 11 romantic books. I have 1 1/2 of his to go and the last Harry Potter book to wait on. Of course, the Bible gives the most peace of mind. Hope that helps you as it has me.
God Bless you & yours. RIP Haley.
“Love...It bears all things, believes all things,
hopes all things, endures all things.”
(1 Corinthians 13:7)
Hope you have a blessed Mother's Day!
A Mother's love is something
that no on can explain,
It is made of deep devotion
and of sacrifice and pain,
It is endless and unselfish
and enduring come what may
For nothing can destroy it
or take that love away . . .
It is patient and forgiving
when all others are forsaking,
And it never fails or falters
even though the heart is breaking . . .
It believes beyond believing
when the world around condemns,
And it glows with all the beauty
of the rarest, brightest gems . . .
It is far beyond defining,
it defies all explanation,
And it still remains a secret
like the mysteries of creation . . .
A many splendoured miracle
man cannot understand
And another wondrous evidence
of God's tender guiding hand.
~Helen Steiner Rice~
Praying for you, Barb, John, Shawn, Shannon, & Colleen www.caringbridge.org/page/shannon
The Prayer Bears
Prayer Bear Barb
- Tuesday, May 8, 2007 6:48 PM CDT
Just checking in to let you know that I'm thinking about ya as Mother's Day approaches.
www.caringbridge.org/canada/kyle
Lisa - Forever Kyle's Mom <bailsam@msn.com >
Nova Scotia, Canada - Tuesday, May 8, 2007 6:38 PM CDT
Cheryl,
Do you know how much I treasure our cyber friendship!?!!! God was SO good to allow our paths to cross!
Visiting EVERY day (well, really several times a day),
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, Tx USA - Tuesday, May 8, 2007 2:19 PM CDT
Writing is my first thought. Someone else suggested travel...I love this one....escape, be it temporary, and going where no one knows you. Please take a lap-top with you. Keep the journal going.
Once you are published I see you on a speaking tour(inspirational of course). Then you can watch yourself on the talk show circuit...you will have come full cicle! Cheryl on TV. Of course you can sing if you want.
Sue(moirasmom)
- Tuesday, May 8, 2007 10:09 AM CDT
Writing is my first thought. Someone else suggested travel...I love this one....escape, be it temporary, and going where no one knows you. Please take a lap-top with you. Keep the journal going.
Once you are published I see you on a speaking tour(inspirational of course). Then you can watch yourself on the talk show circuit...you will have come full cicle! Cheryl on TV. Of course you can sing if you want.
Sue(moirasmom)
- Tuesday, May 8, 2007 10:09 AM CDT
How about a Nintenedo Wii??
Marisa
MN - Monday, May 7, 2007 9:32 PM CDT
Of course the first thing I thought of for you...is writing. You have such a wonderful way of being completely honest, faithful, inspiring, and just plain funny. That truly is a gift. I read many caring bridge sites and I just get so much from you. You reaffirm my faith, you make me laugh and cry. Think about it...really.
Reva Kinnally <kinnallymr@msn.com>
Schenectady, NY USA - Monday, May 7, 2007 8:09 PM CDT
Well, I'm (almost) embarrassed to say that I spend a lot of time (most likely too much) reading blogs. It is pretty interesting, often inspiring, encouraging, educational (at least that's what I keep telling myself!). Anyway, if you want any good sites, let me know! I like the walking with the ipod idea, as well as the piano playing. If I think of anything else, I'll let you know (I actually could use someone to come organize my house if you are interested!). Did you catch the Saturday Night Live in the 90s special last night? I think you'd definitely be a good host...I wonder if I know anyone at SNL (ha ha!). And, I do think you would be an awesome inspiratinoal speaker (don't you already do that, only in writing on this page?!) Okay, this is why I don't make "comments", I have a hard time being brief! By the way HAPPY NURSE'S WEEK to all the nurses out there!!
Amanda <amfulton02@yahoo.com>
Omaha, NE - Monday, May 7, 2007 5:50 PM CDT
Cheryl
My distraction, or as I call it-mind numbing is Sudoku. I can do Sudoku anytime, anywhere. Small book in my purse, bedside, in the car & pencils everywhere. My kids know when I ask where my sudoku book is they better find one quick before I bite their heads off. Anyway it works somewhat for me. I hope you find something that works for you. You remain in my prayers.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Monday, May 7, 2007 5:35 PM CDT
I don't know how you feel about volunteering, but someone out there needs your help even only for a few hours a week. Or maybe, since it is spring, is there a room that needs redoing? I totally agree with the t.v thing. There is sooo much to choose from but they all are along the same lines..someone gets killed, someone has a "rare" disease that has to be cured within hours and on and on. Reality t.v is the best route cause it's fairly short term..Go Blake on American Idol;) tee hee hee. anyhow, good luck with the keeping busy issue. I'm sure you will find what you are looking for when you least expect it!
Cherlyn <cherlyngodwin558@msn.com>
Petrolia, Ontario Canada - Monday, May 7, 2007 5:23 PM CDT
Cheryl, I am still yet to leave your site with dry eyes. Your writing brings me right into your life and I can feel your pain. I had to sign off the computer for awhile before I could come back to leave a comment. Perhaps writing would be a good project for you? Even if you published your journals from this caringbridge site, it would be a way of getting Haley's story out for the rest of the world to see. I wish I could find a way to ease your pain, but know all I can do is offer you my prayers and the knowledge that someone is thinking of you and Haley every day. God bless.
Sarah www.caringbridg.org/visit/dianemarie
MA - Monday, May 7, 2007 4:10 PM CDT
Lisa's great ideas for distraction:
1) Travel!
2) YES write a book! Uhh the problem is it isn't really distracting, since you are writing about what you are avioding, but I know everyone would buy one!
3) have another one of those make 100 meals days! (or whatever you call it)
4) the medical wives auxilary?? ok scratch that.
ummm...errr....
5) garden??? Oh come on! you can do it!
6) Join your best friend Jennifer in some of her triatholon training! you can drive the car in front of her and hold the water bottles!
7) the paino? Have kendalls paino teacher stay a 1/2 hour later and you can learn more. Then when you have you vocal cord transplant you can SING AND play the Piano
8) I WOULD say start a big foundation, work tirelessly on it and spend all your time making packages for kids and families, or fundraising for them. Oh wait.. you already DO that!
Cheryl, you know what my real advice is?? Just CALL me! I am a pretty distracting friend. I love ya! And you make me laugh. XOXOXO call me... I am waiting!
Lisa and family <RolexH@aol.com>
- Monday, May 7, 2007 10:08 AM CDT
Cheryl, I know you said you had spotty success with books but Janet Evonovich wrote this series about Stephanie Plum and they are sooo good. They are numbered and there are twelve of them. I was addicted. I also really like James Pattersons books with Alex Cross. Good luck!! If I think of anything else I will let you know.
Stacy Roberts <stacyroberts1982@yahoo.com>
Oklahoma City , OK - Monday, May 7, 2007 8:15 AM CDT
Cheryl:
I have always found food to be a good distraction. Of course, the drawback is that you will gain weight. When that isn't enough and you keep pressing on toward the refrigerator, you will get high blood pressure, high cholesterol, type 2 diabetes, joint and knee pain, and a myriad of other physical maladies. The "good" news is then you will have the further distraction of making doctor appointments, filling prescriptions to offest the effects,and periodically shopping the malls for a larger, expandable wardrobe. The intrinsic rewards are acid reflux, indigestion, flatulence (if you're really lucky), and a general sense of bloating. Your face takes on a certain ambiguity as the defining bone structure fades into layers of skin/fat, and elastic pants become your mission in life. Then, once you have reached the height--or should I say breadth--of your accomplishments, you can begin a course of yo-yo dieting. This, too, is distracting in that you will become a walking encyclopedia of healthy recipes, of exercises that work your core body, and of all the latest pills/menus/schemes to lose weight. As you begin to lose, your time is spent weighing in on the handy bathroom scale that you put in a place of prominence, even though you still call it the bathroom scale. Your time is spent weighing in and trying on old clothes to see if they are looser than they were last week. You spend a lot of time in front of the mirror, admiring your new look and promising yourself that you will never go back to the old weigh...I mean, the old way. But, of course, in time you do exactly that, plus a little extra for good measure.
Yes, it is a simple distraction that anyone can do. It will keep you busy. It will keep your mind occupied. It will keep you focused. But you know...
...maybe you should consider taping "All My Children" instead. The people in Pine Valley survive everything...except, of course, the latest serial killer.
Okay, all that said, now on a serious note: You write beautifully. Why not work on a book? I would be happy to edit for you to prepare it for publication.
Sue G
- Sunday, May 6, 2007 4:56 PM CDT
Cheryl,
Even for this of us who haven't experienced the loss you have, those kinds of TV shows you mention are not enjoyable. I watch mostly upbeat lighthearted stuff - "What Not To Wear" on Friday nights on TLC. My son and I have grown to enjoy "Mythbusters", "Dirtiest Jobs", and "Deadliest Catch" on the Discovery Channel.
Exercise is not at the top of my list either but I do like to walk daily - with my iPod on with MY favorite music playing. It does give a bit of a respite from the day to day stuff.
I'll see if I can think of anything else....and of course I will keep praying for you.
Dot O'Connor <Dotocon@aol.com>
Philadelphia , PA - Sunday, May 6, 2007 11:23 AM CDT
Cheryl
"living the life we planned" I can related to that so much. I hope today is a good day and that this weekend is peaceful for your family.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Saturday, May 5, 2007 6:36 PM CDT
Oh my wonderful friend. My heart just aches when I read this. I am so thankful you have your faith... that when you describe the wind on your face, running into the arms of your daughter, that you teach us all to picture it. To focus on the "eternal perspective"... life here is so short, and yet it feels like and eternity for some.
I love you guys so much. You have just been an amazing friend to our family. I am hear with you for whatever season of life you have. God bless.. my sister in Christ!
Lisa Hawk <RolexH@aol.com>
- Wednesday, May 2, 2007 8:35 AM CDT
Your journal entry is a testament of faith that inspires me to think and by thankful. I am one that generally assumes everything will turn out ok. It truly does,it just depends on whose defination of "ok" we are seeking, ours or our Lord's.
Thank you for waking me up to all the blessings in my life.
Kari
ND - Wednesday, May 2, 2007 8:22 AM CDT
Cheryl,
My heart longs even more for Heaven. I can only imagine...
Moved by your writing,
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatthews@clearsail.net>
Houston, TX USA - Tuesday, May 1, 2007 2:05 PM CDT
Just checking in on the family. Praying for the Caringbridge kids and families.
Amy Hinkle <amy.hinkle@clubcorp.com>
Carrollton, TX - Friday, April 27, 2007 9:36 AM CDT
You will never know how much you and your daughter have inspired me to be thankful for what I have and not take it for granted. She was a very talented and strong young girl. Just know that we pray for you and will continue to pray for you through your struggling time of healing.
Kesha Gibson <LittleMommy-2@hotmail.com>
Nickelsville, VA US - Tuesday, April 24, 2007 9:19 AM CDT
Smarter then a 5th grader???? Ha, me neither! I have a 5th grader and some of the MATH homework that he comes home with just floors me! Thank goodness he is pretty smart and doesn't have to ask me for help very often. And when he does....thank goodness, it's just "can you check my answer?" I just usually look at the paper for a minute and say "oh yes honey it's right"….knowing I have no clue if it is or not! I have been thinking of taking some "remedial refresher" math classes so I can help him if I need to! I know it won't be getting any easier as he moves forward! Crazy! Just crazy!
Charity <csumm75@hotmail.com>
Little Elm, TX - Sunday, April 22, 2007 6:39 PM CDT
Wow. I came upon your page, read a few old entries. how humbling. I am always amazed at the strength of faith, and how the parents of children who have passed away manage to hold onto their faith. Dont know if I could ever be that strong, but I do know I never want to find out.
Chris & Gooch <chrisrusso_@hotmail.com>
- Sunday, April 22, 2007 5:58 PM CDT
I like the new pictures and appreciate you continuing you share your story, and Haley with me ("us"). Even though I am technically a "stranger", I believe the spirit and faith I have found here has helped make me a better person (I hope so anyway! I know I am a better nurse because of it.) Continued prayers sent your way, and to all your friends who are hurting.
Amanda <amfulton02@yahoo.com>
Omaha, NE - Saturday, April 21, 2007 10:59 PM CDT
Hello dear Cheryl,
You are just too funny!!! I know I am not as smart a fifth grader, but I am wiser. My 17th year old would beg to differ with that one though.
Peace, love and prayers for you. Dear Haley, baby Mason needs your helping hands...please talk to Jesus for his family and friends. I think of you so often.
Hugs to all,
Colleen from MI
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Thursday, April 19, 2007 10:18 PM CDT
Thinking of you. :)
Abby Bates <coconutdoggydoodle@hotmail.com>
Chillicothe, OH United States - Thursday, April 19, 2007 5:33 PM CDT
Cheryl
I can't sign at home (no #s).
But I'm at the library.
Just wanted you to know that your
Easter card from me was returned.
I'll try the Cain Drive address.
I check on you several times a week,
but just can not leave a message.
prayers and love from missouri
mrs pam
- Tuesday, April 17, 2007 3:00 PM CDT
Cheryl, I wanted to share with you a quick story about how I was touched by Haley recently.
Roger and I were at the ALF Run for Research team dinner on Saturday night, it was a bigger deal than I’d expected and I was feeling a little awkward, wondering how I belonged there. Then as I was looking through my program I got to the page of patient match names and there was an entry in memory of Haley, I immediately felt a sense of belonging there. I realized how important it was to share the stories of these patients (many of the names I knew from ClassKids and Liver Families), especially the ones who could no longer tell it themselves. I felt a peaceful feeling come over me, I was able to allow myself to relax and really take in and enjoy what was happening that night, thank you Haley.
Dawn (Roger’s mom from Liver Families) <spsdms@gsinet.net>
Weare, NH - Monday, April 16, 2007 2:21 PM CDT
Thinking of you! Sending you all my love and prayers.
Irene
Toms river, NJ - Sunday, April 15, 2007 8:20 AM CDT
Dear Cheryl,
I have lit a candle here for Haley, and when I finish in this guest book, I will light one for her at Barbara Crafton's Geranium Farm Website. Barbara is one of my favorite authors, and she is a priest in our church, which is Episcopal. I will set the candle there to burn for Haley for a much longer time than the 48 hours allowed on the site I just used. I am sure you will find it, if you Google "Geranium Farm."
I read your Easter update. Sometimes I do not know how you carry on, at all, or how other mothers such as Rhonda Hunley, Donna Fiveash, and Kellie Davideit do it.
God bless you always, and God bless your beautiful Haley.
Grace, peace, love, and all good,
~Colette
Almighty God, we entrust all who are dear to us to your never-failing care and love, for this life and the life to come, knowing that you are doing for them better things than we can desire or pray for, through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.
~The Book Of Common Prayer, Page 831
Colette
Clifton Park, NY U.S.A. - Saturday, April 14, 2007 11:53 PM CDT
Hello dear Cheryl
Just coming by to see how you are. How are the medical issues going? Did Dr. husband have any good suggestions? Hope its not gall bladder, but I can think of worse. Hang in there...your on my prayer list at the top with baby Mason.
LOve to you and your family....Hi angel Haley.
Colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Saturday, April 14, 2007 10:18 AM CDT
There is no cure for missing your darling baby girl. I only hope it helps in some tiny way to know that there are so many people who loved her and who think of her (and YOU!) so often.
My Hayley told me once that Haley sings like an angel. When I told her that Haley is in heaven, she looked at me with big eyes and said, "so she really IS an angel??" She was in awe that she's been touched by an angel. :)
We love you guys and we're sending big (((HUGS))) your way tonight.
Katie (mom to Hayley, Hunter, and Taylor) <dugan2b@yahoo.com>
Franklin, MA - Friday, April 13, 2007 8:30 PM CDT
Cheryl.. my friend. I hurt when you hurt. One day in Heaven we will dance on the seashore free of pain. Free of hurt. Eyes set on Him....
Lisa and your buddy Aiden <RolexH@aol.com>
- Thursday, April 12, 2007 1:12 PM CDT
Cheryl - Just checking in on you. I only can try to imagine the pain that you experience. I don't even try to put myself there because I know that there is no way to experience it unless it happens to you.
I hope that you see a doctor for your symptoms. Please update to let us know what is going on with you medically.
Your friend,
Amy
Amy Hinkle <amy.hinkle@clubcorp.com>
Carrollton, TX - Tuesday, April 10, 2007 10:39 AM CDT
I hope you're feeling better soon. Gall bladder issues are NO FUN! Wishing you blessings this week. (and Happy Birthday to Kendal!) Your tatoo is beautiful! :-)
Shannon, www.caringbridge.org/mi/marisa <hamet@mich.com>
Flat Rock, MI USA - Monday, April 9, 2007 4:02 PM CDT
Cheryl
Easter blessings to you and yours. Great to see you on liverfamilies. I'm sorry you're having health issues, get yourself to the doc even though it's tough to be there - I know you can do it. I think about Haley so often, and her beautiful smile. Take care,
Joanna (Jessica's mum from liverfamilies)
- Monday, April 9, 2007 0:14 AM CDT
HAPPY EASTER TO YOU to you also Cheryl,
Your journal writing today helped me understand so much about
the tragic loss of a dear child. I know in my heart that it would be unbearable and pray everyday that God spares me the hurt and pain of such a tragedy in my life. For people, such as yourself that are traveling this unthinkable journey I hold a very special place in my heart for each of you. Your pain is more than I can imagine. Cheryl, hold on tight in knowing that myself and many others out here are thinking of you so much and have you in our thoughts and prayers. PLease take comfort in also knowing that Haley lives in my heart each day, and I have never met this special little angel. I know there is probably not much I can say to help ease your pain, so I will close in telling you "thankyou" for sharing Haley with me and the rest of world. I am a better person because of her and you.
Love from my sad heart,
Colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Sunday, April 8, 2007 9:26 PM CDT
Cheryl, what a marvelous, powerful talk you gave. Those students are extremely fortunate to have heard this story first hand from you ... and I hope you take at least a small bit of pride in knowing how very much Haley, and your words about her and her life, will ultimately help these students to help other families, in their time of need.
Thank you so much for sharing that with the rest of us (and I hope you didn't hyperventilate, or faint, which is pretty much what I do whenever I speak publicly!) :)
I hope you and your family has a nice Easter tomorrow.
Kristie Kendrie's Page <kristieokc@cox.net>
Byron (Robins AFB), GA - Saturday, April 7, 2007 10:26 PM CDT
Dear Cheryl,
Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking about
you. I hope you and your family have a blessed Easter.
Much love to you all!
Lynne Doddridge <dhd76@aol.com>
St.Petersburg, FL - Saturday, April 7, 2007 6:11 PM CDT
Dear Cheryl,
As always, I feel blessed to know you through this site (and Lisa)! May you and your family be blessed in all the ways only He can bless you. With love and prayers,
Lynn Bass <lynn@superlawntrucks.com>
Warner Robins, GA USA - Saturday, April 7, 2007 5:49 PM CDT
Wishing you a comforting Easter!
Charity <csumm75@hotmail.com>
Lewisville, TX - Saturday, April 7, 2007 1:13 PM CDT
Cheryl, you are amazing.
Sue(moirasmom)
- Friday, April 6, 2007 10:16 PM CDT
Cheryl,
I'm like Kristi - my first thought was "WOW". Like you said, what an honor to be able to speak from your heart about Haley and the journey you have been on. A powerful testimony...
Pamela
http://www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews/
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, Tx USA - Friday, April 6, 2007 7:48 AM CDT
Wow, that was a one amazing update....I am sure the people that heard you speak that day will never forget what you said and always will remember the name....Haley. What a special angel living through so many people. I think of you often Cheryl, and I pray that your sad days are less.
colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Thursday, April 5, 2007 6:01 PM CDT
Cheryl, beautifully said. I'm so proud of you! What an impact Haley makes every day even now. Hugs from out west...
Sheryl and Justice <sheryl.lyn@verizon.net>
- Thursday, April 5, 2007 3:30 PM CDT
Oh Cheryl,
Thank you. I woke up, wanted to check the site and saw your entry. First I thought I didn't have time to read this now, I have to get ready for work. But, I read. Thank God and Thank You that I did. You words constantly reaffirm my faith. Haley amazes me and I look forward to meeting her someday and thanking her as well. God Bless You during this Easter season. Reva
Reva Kinnally <kinnallymr@msn.com>
Schenectady, NY USA - Thursday, April 5, 2007 5:17 AM CDT
What a wonderful testimony. I am glad you were able to help shape the chaplains.
Know that we think about Haley and your family everyday.
Donna and Angel ^Kyle^ Noble www.caringbridge.org/oh/kyle <donnanoble2001@yahoo.com>
Grove City, OH USA - Wednesday, April 4, 2007 7:37 PM CDT
Thank you for sharing...my daughter Rachael died 3/1/03...and the pain is still so severe...
Kathie Mayo www.caringbridge.org/mn/rachaelmayo <winkatmayo@hotmail.com>
Winona, MN United States - Wednesday, April 4, 2007 6:32 PM CDT
Wow doesn't seem like quite the right word, and yet it's the first one that came out of my mouth in a very hushed, in awe way. You have a gift of putting feelings into words so that they really grasp at a person and give a clear understanding of what you are trying to convey. Thank you for sharing your message with us. I hope that those students really heard what you had to say and remember it in the times ahead. Blessings to you as you continue to honor Haley and her special gifts of faith and love.
Kristi Gerdon <kgerdon@widrick.com>
Croghan, NY - Wednesday, April 4, 2007 8:17 AM CDT
OHHHhhhhh Cheryl was there a dry eye in your audience? If so I hope they realize chaplaincy is not their calling..
Thank you for being so generous, once again and sharing the hearts of loving mothers and fathers who love and are struggling to care for their chronically ill children. Even in your own loss you so lovingly and kindly are advocating for those of us who are struggling but still have our children with us. God Bless you Cheryl! You have my gratitude and you inspire me, as does your beautiful ^Haley's^ music and wonderful smile.
Hugs, love and prayers,
LeeAnne
www.caringbridge.org/visit/byesiblings
LeeAnne Bye <allenleeannebye@aol.com>
Northfield, NJ - Wednesday, April 4, 2007 7:22 AM CDT
Cheryl - The story you shared with the chaplains (to be) was amazing and so well said. I want you to know you also helped me answer a question Sami asked me at 3:00 am the other night after a bad dream - "why doesn't God protect good people from bad people (or in the case of your story, from bad things happening to people). I now have the answer, a simple way to explain it to her. Thank you.
Kim, mom to Sami and Kyle
Kim Faust <kfaust@comcast.net>
Oakdale, MN USA - Wednesday, April 4, 2007 6:28 AM CDT
Hi Cheryl! Stopping by to say hello.
The tattoo is fabulous!
Amy, Carly's Mom
WI - Tuesday, April 3, 2007 11:13 PM CDT
Great tatoo. Kind of ironic as Kyle's cousin got one today with angel wings and a signature she gave him. She put it on her arm. I plan on posting it on his site tomorrow. You guys are soo brave. I could never do that.
Donna and Angel Kyle www.caringbridge.org/oh/kyle <donnanoble2001@yahoo.com>
Grove City, OH USA - Tuesday, April 3, 2007 9:51 PM CDT
Beautiful, completely and absolutely.
moreena
- Sunday, April 1, 2007 8:32 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl, I LOVE your new tattoo!! I'm sure Haley was right there with you and thinking what an awesome Mom you are to have honored her like that!!
It really is beautiful!!
PS)my first and only tattoo was done by a very interesting fellow in downtown
Boone, NC. years ago.:)
Love,
Lynne Doddridge <dhd76@aol.com>
St.Pete, Fl - Sunday, April 1, 2007 10:22 AM CDT
Love the tatoo!!! Very brave and very beautiful!!!
Melodie <jamesandmelodie@yahoo.com>
Kingsport, TN USA - Sunday, April 1, 2007 10:22 AM CDT
Oh Cheryl - what a beautiful tattoo in memory of your beautiful Haley!You really didn't have to describe the pain..The picture said it all! LOL! -
.
Thinking of you today and always.
P.s. - I just love Haley's song on this site. I can't tell you how many times I bring up her site just to listen to her sing that beautiful song!
Mary M - Kaitlyn's Mom - LiverFamilies
Newton, NJ 07860 - Saturday, March 31, 2007 9:32 PM CDT
Cheryl
I read your post on Haley's foundation blog. I am awed that you could make your speech at Emory. I could not have done so. I hope it reached those who were in the audience and they reach out to those in need. We continue to keep you in our hearts and prayers. Thank you for sharing your heart.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom <threelivers@alltel.net>
Chatsworth, GA - Saturday, March 31, 2007 7:23 PM CDT
Cheryl,
I am sorry it was painful,but it is absolutely beautiful!
((Hugs))
Michelle (jack's Mom) www.caringbridge.org/ny/jack <mmorea@optonline.net>
Massapequa, NY - Friday, March 30, 2007 4:59 PM CDT
It looks painful but beautiful.
Amy Hinkle <amy.hinkle@clubcorp.com>
Carrollton, TX - Friday, March 30, 2007 12:44 AM CDT
Cheryl
You are way braver than I. I love the Cross. You guys all remain in my thoughts & prayers daily. It was an honor & priviledge to hand deliver miracle mail from Haley's foundation to baby Hope & her family. Hoping today is a good day.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Wednesday, March 28, 2007 9:37 AM CDT
What a beautiful rememberance of your beautiful daughter...
I can't believe you chose your foot, though! OUCH!!! I've heard that's one of the most painful places to get a tattoo!
Jessica Dahms Gavin's Page <jessdahms@Hotmail.com>
Marshall, MN - Wednesday, March 28, 2007 8:33 AM CDT
We just dropped by to check on you today.
Jodi and McKayla
Jodi Phelan <jodiphelan@hotmail.com>
Sherwood Park, AB Canada - Wednesday, March 28, 2007 0:57 AM CDT
I love the tatoo, it is just beautiful, and how brave of you. I have always wanted to get one. Thanks for shareing your experience with us. Ashlee was looking thru her make a wish scrap book, and they were thinking of Haley today.. and now wearing her shirt to bed! They love and miss her so much, as we all do!!! Sending you love, hugs, and prayers!
kristy and the kellys <alyssassmama@yahoo.com>
ny - Tuesday, March 27, 2007 7:46 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl
Wow, what a gorgeous tattoo. A beautiful tribute to a beautiful girl :o) One of my *favorite* (Oh, who I am kidding, I love them all equally ...!) CaringBridge kids lost his fight on the weekend ... My first thought was of Matty, in Heaven ... Being shown around by Haley. I never met your blessing/daughter (:o)), but I just know she would be there to welcome Matty and show him around :o) I've never signed your guestbook before, but you guys are always in my thoughts, and I check on you constantly :o) Much love to you all.
Rachel <rach66@hotmail.com>
Bendigo, vic Australia - Tuesday, March 27, 2007 6:19 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl,
Wow! You did it!!!! I have to say, you did look like you were in some pain....physical pain!! You are much braver than I, and I wonder how people can want to do more than one...like my son. I just don't get it. Your an awesome lady, with a beautiful tattoo of a very special angel. Haley would think that you are the coolest mom around.
Loving you,
Colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Tuesday, March 27, 2007 6:10 PM CDT
Cherly - The tatoo is beautiful! I am very impressed with your bravery - I would be too scared! You are an amazing woman - I really admire you.
Kim, mom to Sami and Kyle
Kim Faust <kfaust@comcast.net>
Oakdale, MN USA - Tuesday, March 27, 2007 6:02 AM CDT
Cheryl, I LOVE it!! Before Kyle passed I would have never gotten a tattoo, but like you, braved the needles and did after he passed. It just gives us one more opportunity to talk about our precious kids, right?!
Lisa - Forever Kyle's Mom <bailsam@msn.com www.caringbridge.org/canada/kyle>
Nova Scotia, Canada - Tuesday, March 27, 2007 5:41 AM CDT
Love the tattoo Cheryl!
Frank (Marisa's Dad) <hamet@mich.com>
Flat Rock, MI USA - Monday, March 26, 2007 10:42 PM CDT
You are a braver woman than I!! (but I already knew that) It looks great and your captions said it all.
Jill Werda <jwerda330@yahoo.com>
Wasilla, AK - Monday, March 26, 2007 2:44 PM CDT
I love your tattoo. I have been wanting a tattoo but I chicken out too much. I know I will get one someday. Thank you for sharing your photos, it made me laugh.
Angel Rachel's mommy
jeanne <crowman2766@aol.com>
king of prussia, pa usa - Monday, March 26, 2007 12:58 AM CDT
Cheryl,
I think the tattoo is beautiful!!!!!
Gail
Gail Puckett <vgpuckett@northeaststate.edu>
Kingsport, TN United States - Monday, March 26, 2007 11:09 AM CDT
I love the Bible verse on your site.
"Live the life worthy of the calling you have received."
Cheryl... I know we talked about Aiden's dream about Haley, I actually did write about it on Aiden's site. After I sit back and just think about how God used your Haley to bring comfort to Aiden, I am in awe. So many times when she was here she made Aiden laugh. In her music he sings along and dances. With her foundation other children have smiles when there is nothing really to smile about....What a legacy Haley left, Cheryl... she left the legacy of joy to the children. I think it must be the greatest calling one can have.
Lisa and Haley's buddy Aiden <RolexH@aol.com>
- Thursday, March 22, 2007 5:38 PM CDT
Cheryl,
What a "hushed" weekend that must have been - to know the King of Glory stepped down and ministered LIFE to those who heard about your precious Haley! The lives that have been changed...
God, you are SO good!
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, TX USA - Thursday, March 22, 2007 4:48 PM CDT
Jelly beans & Jesus
Have you heard the story of the jelly beans?
Little jelly beans
Tell a story true.
A tale of our Father's love
That's just for me and you.
GREEN is for the new spring grass.
YELLOW is for the sun above.
BROWN is for the soft earth where
People sat hearing of HIS love.
PURPLE'S for the robe he wore
RED is for that precious wine.
BLACK is for the sins He washed
From your soul and mine.
BLUE'S for the sadness of
HIS friends and family,
and is for the glory of the Day
HE rose for you and me.
Now that you've heard the story
You know what each color means.
The story of our Father's love
As told by jelly beans.
So when you see jelly beans on this Easter season,
stop and remember,
Jesus is the reason!
"For God so loved the world, He gave His One and Only Son that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life."
John 3:16
Praying for you,
Barb, John, Shawn,
Shannon, & Colleen
www.caringbridge.org/page/shannon
The Prayer Bears
Prayer Bear Barb
- Thursday, March 22, 2007 3:17 PM CDT
Cheryl - The letter from Laura was so beatiful and sums up well what so many of us feel for Haley, you and your family. Haley was a gift from God and her presence is still felt here on earth. I think I told you the story once when I felt I saw Haley in the hospital last summer when Kyle was hospitalized and I was worried out of my mind. At the time I felt it was a message from her that all would be well, and it was. Thank you, thank you, thank you for sharing Haley with us.
Kim, mom to Sami and Kyle
Kim Faust <kfaust@comcast.net>
Oakdale, MN USA - Wednesday, March 21, 2007 6:27 AM CDT
I might have to go and try those butterfinger granola bars now. THey must be excellent if you have eaten so many. :)
HUGS!
Marisa
MN www.caringbridge.org/mn/marisa - Monday, March 19, 2007 5:50 PM CDT
Cheryl
Sounds like something I would do.
Anything sweet, especially ice cream,
and I just can't stop until it is all gone.
I'm at the library so I can see those numbers in
your guest book. So, although I can't sign
at home, I do check on you quite frequently!
prayers and love
mrs pam
- Monday, March 19, 2007 5:01 PM CDT
Just thinkin' about ya today.
Ah, the food. I can relate to that.
Rather, it relates to me.
Every part of me.
Yep, it has related to me very well.
:)
Amy, Carly's Mom
WI - Monday, March 19, 2007 2:22 PM CDT
Cheryl, I'd try the same thing with Krispy Kreme donuts, but I think the jelly would ooze out from under the sofa cushions! LOL! Unfortunately, donuts do not come in undividual wrappers, so one must virtuously eat the whole box within 24 hours to keep them from going to waste...sadly, yes, I am guilty of such. Eating donuts will not give me Meredith Grey's Anatomy, either, and that is sad and unfortunate, too........LOL!!!
Debbie Coffman <drcoffman@charter.net>
Kingsport, TN USA - Sunday, March 18, 2007 8:58 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl -- Just checking in to say 'hi.' I think about you often, even though we've never met.
I all too well understand the food obsession: I had a terrible time wending my way past the Mallomar display at the grocery story today after church. ; )
Hugs...
Barbara in NJ (one of Aiden's 'aunties')
- Sunday, March 18, 2007 8:09 PM CDT
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viks <viks@postpals.co.uk>
- Sunday, March 18, 2007 6:31 PM CDT
ROFLOL!!! Oh Cheryl you are so funny!!! I am pleased to say my years of stress weight gain (about 50 pounds worth) I have FINALLY gotten a grip on. I am now down 34 pounds! And so excited to find I can begin to put on clothes I wore 14 years ago. Ok so that was after I delivered my Amanda not before, but still it is awesome for me! My obsession, glorious bagels! I looked at a bag of Everything Thomas Bagels last evening in the supermarket, picked them up, read the calories and with utmost restraint sadly put them down! LOL I am glad to say there are none hidden under a pile on my desk! I sure hope you enjoyed those granola bars and Greys Anatomy..and hope there are no more hidden stash's around! LOL
LeeAnne
LeeAnne Bye <allenleeannebye@aol.com>
Northfield, Nj - Saturday, March 17, 2007 3:34 PM CDT
My words exactly.....You are just too funny Cheryl~!!! I hope they tasted as good as you wanted them to...just work out a little more to make up for those goodies,and then you can have all that you want....ha, ha. Thinking of you so often.
colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Saturday, March 17, 2007 11:17 AM CDT
Oh my gosh! You are too funny!! I hope they tasted wonderful!! I love Grey's Anatomy!
Stacy Roberts <stacyroberts1982@yahoo.com>
Saint Petersburg, FL - Saturday, March 17, 2007 7:03 AM CDT
Cheryl,
You're never far from my thoughts and prayers. Camille was wearing her favorite yellow "Haley" shirt this week, so you've been on my mind a lot. Just wanted to send you some love today.
Shannon, www.caringbridge.org/mi/marisa <hamet@mich.com>
Flat Rock, MI USA - Thursday, March 15, 2007 9:51 PM CDT
Just stopped by for a minute to see Haley's portrait and to hear her sing. Thanks for all you do.
Love,
Kelly <bugsmom@tampabay.rr.com>
- Thursday, March 15, 2007 9:23 PM CDT
Hello dearest Cheryl,
You are still in my thoughts and prayers,,,surg on my finger,so I am not typing much. You and Haley are so
very special to me.
Love,
Colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Sunday, March 11, 2007 7:32 PM CDT
Love you!!!! I am so glad to be in this foundation, to be your friend, and to have known Haley. XOXOX
Lisa (Aiden and Mason' s mommy) <RolexH@aol.com>
- Wednesday, March 7, 2007 7:53 AM CST
Cheryl
Thanks for the link to Jen & Jon's site. I continue to think of and pray for you often. Your journal entries continue to enlighten and encourage me. Thank you for sharing.
Karen - Jen & Jon
Chatsworth, GA - Tuesday, March 6, 2007 10:22 PM CST
Thank you for putting Lizzie's website on your site. It means so much to me, as do your postings.
I check in on you often. Take care of yourself.
Angel Lizzie's mama
Sami Stratton <samistratton@hotmail.com>
- Tuesday, March 6, 2007 5:42 PM CST
Your daughter is stunning, as is the portrait.
Patti B.
Rocky River, OH - Monday, March 5, 2007 1:54 PM CST
Cheryl- I posted on your site back in September after our friends, the Dunnigan's, lost their daughter Bailee. I check your caring bridge site often. As I read your February 17th journal entry, the tears were flowing down my cheeks. Thank you for your words on how to approach a parent who has lost a child. The timing could not have been any better. God is so good!!!! I just feel so blessed to be a small part of you and Robin's family, even if only in thoughts and prayers. Thank you.
Jill Young <yng56rj@msn.com>
St. Petersburg, fl pinellas - Sunday, March 4, 2007 8:13 AM CST
Wow, I think that portrait is even more beautiful than anyone who asked for you to post it could have imagined. It brought tears to my eyes as well. Thank you for sharing.
Amanda <amfulton02@yahoo.com>
Omaha, NE - Saturday, March 3, 2007 4:52 PM CST
Hi Cheryl...I'm back on line and checking in for the first time in a while. The portrait of Haley is so beautiful...it brought tears to my eyes and yet a smile as well...the joy that was in her heart comes through in that portrait. It is so beautiful.
Lisa - Forever Kyle's Mom <bailsam@msn.com>
Nova Scotia , Canada - Saturday, March 3, 2007 11:36 AM CST
I love the portrait of Haley that is on your wall, Cheryl.
It's beautiful!
Amy, Carly's Mom
WI - Friday, March 2, 2007 5:01 PM CST
Cheryl,
My heart aches for you...please accept my love and hugs and prayers. I am thinking of you always. And keeping Haley fresh in my mind!
www.caringbridge.org/ny/ashleejean
kristy and ashlee <alyssassmama@yahoo.com>
ny - Thursday, March 1, 2007 9:17 PM CST
Cheryl,
What a beautiful portrait of Haley!
Love,
Pamela
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, TX USA - Thursday, March 1, 2007 7:30 AM CST
"The Lord Himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you." Deut. 31:8
"The erternal God is your refuge, and underneath are the everlasting arms." Deut. 33:27
Thinking about how sometimes you and others feel so alone in your deep grief, I just wanted to share this with you. I Pray you feel your Father's arms around you as He will never leave you.
Lisa ( Aiden's mom ) <RolexH@aol.com>
- Wednesday, February 28, 2007 7:47 AM CST
Inside I am screaming...a good title for all of us parents who have lost a child. Your daughter is beautiful. I listened to all of her songs, she has the definite voice of an angel. I hope my Matthew is playing the piano for her in heaven. He loved playing it, he liked making up songs. I will keep you in my prayers. Grief is overwhelming at times and hurts. Our own grief seems to be coming up more with now our second child sick with juvenile diabetes and is getting ready to get a cord blod transplant in hopes to cure him. I pray it works!! Knowing the things Matthew went through and now here we go again, but this will be different. I will keep you in my prayers.
Darla , Angel Matt's mom www.caringbridge.org/in/angelbarneyboo <littlesisdarla@aim.com>
VA - Tuesday, February 27, 2007 10:42 PM CST
OH (((((Cheryl)))))) sending hugs and prayers for your comfort..
LeeAnne
LeeAnne <allenleeannebye@aol.com>
Northfield, NJ - Tuesday, February 27, 2007 7:23 PM CST
Cheryl,
I was at Egleston on Friday!We were on the 6th floor as outpatient. I do want to meet you very much. I have read your journals and I tried to plug into the blog the other day and couldn't figure out how to do it, so I went to this page. I hope you get this because I do so want to meet you as well. I pray for you constantly and your family. Words just cannot even wrap around where you have walked but I try to hold your arms up daily in prayer.
Next time you are going to in town let me know and I will try to get there and meet you.
Barbara King <kingbkmp1@bellsouth.net>
Buford, GA USA - Tuesday, February 27, 2007 4:06 PM CST
Cheryl, you don't know me, but I feel as if I know you. I came upon Haley's site thru another CB page. I can't tell you how sorry I am to read of the loss of your beautiful Haley. She sounded like the most God loving, mature, 11 year old I have ever heard of. It must have been such a blessing to know such a wonderful human being! Thank you so much for sharing your story, Haley's story. Your honesty is so refreshing! I felt your pain, in a sense. I am in awe of your faith. Really. I consider myself a Christian, but you have inspired me to take it a step further! God Bless you Cheryl! God bless your whole family!
Kendra
- Monday, February 26, 2007 10:57 PM CST
Oh Cheryl - you made me cry for you...and me...
I'm so sorry for all of us -
Pamela
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, Tx USA - Monday, February 26, 2007 9:01 PM CST
May the road rise up
to meet you
may the wind be
always at your back
May the sun shine warm
on your face
And the rain fall soft
upon your fields
And until we meet again,
May God hold you
in the palm of his hand.
—an old Irish Blessing
Praying for you,
Barb, John, Shawn,
Shannon, & Colleen
www.caringbridge.org/page/shannon
Prayer Bear Barb
- Monday, February 26, 2007 1:22 PM CST
Cheryl Thank You So Much for sharing this! I think it is so important for those who Love & Care about their friends ; whether in person or via caringbridge to have some insight. I wish there were books (or more books;though I've not seen any)out there both for what to say & do or not say & do to parents who have lost a child (children) and those with a chronic or seriously ill child also.
May you be blessed! Debi
Debi W.
Chesapeake, Va - Sunday, February 25, 2007 5:51 PM CST
Thank you for writing that post. Your honesty has blessed so many. I hope you will write a book some day. Was at the Beth Moore simulcast today and thought of you and sweet Haley up in heaven. I'm praying for you.
Kelly (Mom of Aiden's friend Hannah) <bugsmom@tampabay.rr.com>
- Saturday, February 24, 2007 8:48 PM CST
Cheryl, I am about to go to the Foundation website to hear the song and see all the new features. I just want to tell you I really appreciated your journal entry - for putting into words what is so true and so often not said.
I do want you to know - and think/hope I have told you this before - that I love to hear Haley's voice. Zach has been inpatient and quite ill for many weeks...I listen to Haley and it gives me courage. Perhaps sounds like a Hallmark card but it is ever so true.
I like to think she has met my Sam and when I see pictures of her with little Aiden I hope that even more. He loves his sisters and brother so much and I like to think he has taken to Haley - I think he would love her.
Anne, Zach and our Sam in heaven www.caringbridge.org/wi/zachsam
- Saturday, February 24, 2007 8:48 AM CST
She is so beautiful too. My heart goes out to you as you struggle to survive without your precious daughter. I can't even imagine how I would feel in your situation but I hope I would get some comfort knowing that there were people out there that cared about me. Please know that I am one of them. With much love from Michigan.
angela <anji@comcast.net>
brighton, `mi usa - Friday, February 23, 2007 6:10 PM CST
I AM VERY SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR DAUGHTER...I ALSO LOST MY DAUGHTER 7YEARS AGO ...DUE TO A BIRTH DEFECT CALLED SPINA BIFIDA...WE WERE VERY BLESSED TO HAVE HER IN OUR LIVES FOR 13YEARS...I JUST CAME ACROSS YOUR WEDSITE FOR HALEY AND I READ YOUR ARTICAL ABOUT FAMILY AND FRIENDS NOT "GETTING IT" ON HOW YOU ARE FEELING ON A DAILY BASES
WITHOUT YOUR DAUGHTER...I AM GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING
MY SIDE OF THE FAMILY "JUST DON'T GET IT"...WHEN I WAS READING WHAT YOU WROTE IT WAS SO TRUE WITH ME...FINALLY SOMEONE KNOWS WHAT WE ARE GOING THROUGH AND UNDERSTAND..
THANK-YOU....FOR THE LONGEST TIME I THOUGHT WE WERE THE
PROBLEM BUT WE'RE NOT ...NO ONE KNOWS HOW YOU ARE FEELING
OR THINKING UNLESS YOU HAVE LIVED IT YOURSELF....
THANK-YOU FOR YOUR THOUGHTS AND WORDS....YOU HIT IT RIGHT ON THE NOSE....
LINDA RODRIGUZ <EJAMRR2@YAHOO.COM>
ONTARIO, CA USA - Friday, February 23, 2007 3:56 PM CST
The song is beautiful and so bittersweet. I was listening to it and thinking of how special your beautiful daughter was...and then I listened to her song, "Prednisone." And odd juxtaposition, listening to one, then the other! And I laughed! What a witty, sweet, funny girl your Haley was. Yes, there was her sweet soul, and her amazing spirit...but for a child to be able to laugh at themselves under such duress...that's true heroism. If you want a good cry, and then a darn good laugh - listen to those two songs one after another and remember that Haley had so many sides to her! And all of them were amazing.
Melinda Auld
Perth, WA Australia - Friday, February 23, 2007 7:21 AM CST
Beautiful Song, and while the singer does a wonderful job, I would have loved to have heard Haley sing it. Guess I'll just have to wait 'till we meet - of course then she will have one heck of a back up choir.
You know, ever since you shared your Top Ten List for Grieving parents I have shared it anytime someone has lost a child on this horse message board I post at, as well as friends and acquaintances, and every time I have, the response has always been "That is SO true." It has also helped me. I know that going through a divorce is nothing compared to the death of a child, but it is a loss non the less, and coming here and reading your journals has really helped me. As Lisa put it, you are such a gift to so many people!!
Please know that when I say "You are in my prayers." I'm not just saying it. You and your family really ARE in my prayers.
Kat
Katherine Hampton <katbird76@gmail.com>
Sharpsburg, Ga USA - Wednesday, February 21, 2007 11:39 PM CST
Very well said Cheryl. I needed to see your words tonight....I guess I have been feeling out of sorts, and they brought me comfort. Personally, the one I despise is "She's in a better place." I stop in my tracks, and wonder what better place there is for an eleven year old girl than in her mother's arms, in her home surrounded by her family.
I often think about organ donation. I am on the list for bone marrow, and have left a directive for my organs to be donated when I go to see Olivia again. What about living donors Cheryl? If someone needed a kidney, a part of my liver...etc....I would gladly do it. Do you know who to talk to about this? Is there a list somewhere, or is this only done for families? Saturday, I am going bald, donating my hair to Locks of Love. But, there is sooo much more to be done. If you get a chance and think of it, plz let me know.
Praying for peace...
Angel Olivia's Mom, Wendy
www.caringbridge.org/mi/oliviasgrace <mom2olivia@gmail.com>
- Wednesday, February 21, 2007 6:27 PM CST
everything you wrote is soooo true. I have found that certain people just want the old me back and expect me to act and respond like how I used to. I actually tried to pretend right along and it just wrecked me over and over. It really flat out exhausted me.
I have even been "told off" because I am not meeting their expectations. And to be honest...I think I have been doing a good job...my kids are priority number one...I put forth all my effort with them, it shows because they are happy. But I think I do show that I don't care about the "petty" things that I used to care about.
Some people just dont understand how the simple things like food shopping can wipe us out emotionally. Thanks for writing such an honest entry.
Angel Rachel's Mommy
Jeanne <crowman2766@aol.com>
king of prussia, pa usa - Wednesday, February 21, 2007 3:31 PM CST
I came across your page and have been reading some of the entrys. November 2, 2005 caught my eye. What a beautiful little girl with a great smile. We will be thinking of you and your family.
Kristine w/o James 32 GBM
dx 12-29-2005
www.caringbridge.org/visit/jameshare
Kristine Hare <kmw20045@yahoo.com>
Houston, TX USA - Tuesday, February 20, 2007 6:07 PM CST
"I love you, what you are going through is horrible. No need to call back, just wanted you to know we are thinking of you, and we miss you."
May He wrap His loving arms around you, for
"I can do everything through Him who gives me strength." ~ Philippians 4:13.
Virtual friends or not - I love you, my friend.
Becca, Jason and Natalie Ketter <becandjay@verizon.net>
Byron, IL - Tuesday, February 20, 2007 2:33 PM CST
Cheryl, please know that we will always have Haley in our hearts. It amazes me, Justice's ability to know people he hasn't met. He still talks about Haley too, and asks to listen to her music. What an amazing girl...no wonder given the love of such an amazing family. Hugs from us!!
Sheryl <sheryl.lyn@verizon.net>
Gaston, OR - Tuesday, February 20, 2007 7:57 AM CST
Cheryl,
That song, is so beautiful, I love the music, it so sweet. I think of you and your family every day, and I am sure I have said this before, but feel so lucky to have known Haley through CLASS, to have heard her beautiful voice. What you are doing is so wonderful. Know that we love being able to hear Haley's sweet voice, and pray for you and your family.
Michelle www.caringbridge.org/ny/jack <mmorea@optonline.net>
Massapequa, NY - Tuesday, February 20, 2007 6:46 AM CST
Thank you Cheryl...again..you are a dear soul to share your heart and life so generously. A wise woman too! Having another dear friend ( I have several) who also has recently lost a child, is heartbreaking and so incredibly difficult feeling so helpless in the face of such grief. Thanks for renewing my my conviction and I suppose even saying something stupid is better then saying nothing at all...
Love and prayers and thank you again!
LeeAnne, mom of four great, special kids
LeeAnne Bye <allenleeannebye@aol.com>
Northfield, NJ - Monday, February 19, 2007 6:52 PM CST
OK so I will say: I was there for the good days, the bad days.. and you know I will be there for all the days to come. BUT know this.. it isn't my gift to YOU, YOU are the gift to US. I love you and selfishly keep calling you everyday (in a semi stalker-ish mannner) because I know that you are my inspiration and support. You make me laugh my head off and you know we couldn't count the tears we have shed together. I just need you to know... it isn't my gift to you... you are my gift from God. I love you and I miss Haley so much.
Lisa ( Aiden's mom ) <RolexH@aol.com>
- Monday, February 19, 2007 1:26 PM CST
Cheryl - I don't know if I have signed before - Shame on me - I check your site often and have found great faith and strength and honesty from your journal and have learned so much from Haley - I am one of the lucky ones - I can only IMAGINE your pain - yes, we have lost someone to cancer but not like you have - I also don't know if you have seen the following but even if you have, a re-read of it may be good. Thank you for your journal, thank you for your honesty, I know you are helping many who are on this forever road with you no matter where they are on that road - Haley's song is awesome.
"Sand Fleas"
written by Susan Larson
“The death of a child takes you places you’ve never been before, not only in terms of emotions, but in terms of awareness of all that is. I liken the experience to playing on the shore with your friends and complaining about an occasional bite from a sand flea. It’s painful and annoying, but at least everyone else understands how you feel when you’re bitten.
Then one day, a wave grabs you and pulls you out into the ocean where you are bitten by a shark. You feel pain you never imagined could exist. And you’re alone in unfamiliar territory. When you get back to shore, you try to explain your pain to your friends, but the worst pain they can imagine is being bitten by 1,000 sand fleas. That’s all they know. There is no way to explain it to them.
But it’s not just the pain you can’t explain. While struggling under the water you’re suddenly aware that there is infinitely more to life than what we see on the shore. You see the ocean floor with coral reefs and rock formations, things you had never before imagined. You have tapped into the vastness of creation to a higher degree. And again, there is no way to adequately describe this vastness you see and feel. You have nothing to compare it to.
You have a true sense of a greater dimension, and you know that the loved one you miss is out there. You also know your loved one is not lost, but has only gone before you to a place more beautiful and vast than those on the shore could ever imagine. Yes, you still get annoyed with the sand fleas, but you now realize how trivial they are. And even if your friends don’t understand you, you know there is Someone greater out there who does.”
Mary H <mch@herzogcrebs.com>
St. Louis, MO - Monday, February 19, 2007 10:54 AM CST
I just listened to "A Voice Above the Crowd". What a wonderful tribute to such a beautiful girl! Just wanted you to know that I was thinking of you all today.
Lisa Bond <bond@chartertn.net>
Mount Carmel, TN USA - Monday, February 19, 2007 8:01 AM CST
Cheryl
We are still seeing chocolate factories, they are everywhere. While eating at Fazolees yesterday I saw a girl who so reminded me of Haley. We continue to think of & pray for you guys each day.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Sunday, February 18, 2007 7:31 PM CST
Cheryl,
Thank you for putting into words what some of us who grieve don't know how to "articulate". And thank you for reminding me, once again, that what I am going through is "normal". God was very gracious to allow our paths to cross...
Your friend,
Pamela Matthews
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, TX USA - Sunday, February 18, 2007 6:06 PM CST
Dear Cheryl,
I respect your faith and your courage to speak your words of wisdom. As you said, you speak from your personal experience. My Daddy committed suicide nine years ago on February 12. I only tell you this because of the change in my perspective on many things in life and death resulting from his unexpected act. I think you help others see how they can better help those with such a loss as yours. I pray for you often. Anytime my children (3 & 5) see me on Aiden or Hayley's website, they immediately want to hear Billy Rubin and they love singing it (encouraging me to 'turn up the volume'). My favorite song is "Everywhere." God bless you, Lynn Bass
Lynn Bass <lynn@superlawntrucks.com>
Warner Robins, GA USA - Sunday, February 18, 2007 4:27 PM CST
We talk about Haley daily in our house. I have photos of her is Ashlees "Wish trip scrap book". We love her so deeply. We pray for you too...and your family. You have a wonderful family. I wish I lived closer so I could help more with the foundation. Thanks for this post, it was so helpful!
Kristy and Ashlee from liverfamilies <alyssassmama@yahoo.com>
ny - Sunday, February 18, 2007 9:06 AM CST
This is such an awesome entry!! I learned so much. I don't have any direct friends that have lost a child but I read your site all the time and I am praying for you and your family!!
Stacy Roberts <stacyroberts1982@yahoo.com>
Saint Petersburg, FL - Saturday, February 17, 2007 7:43 PM CST
Cheryl, thank you so much for sharing your story about Tony Dungy. It's hard to admit our faults publicly, but I just wanted you to know that you definitely followed God's direction by posting this one. You see, my dad is unsaved. I've tried for many years to get through to him. Most of the time it ended in an argument. One of the things that he cannot understand is "If there is a God, how can he let bad things happen to children and babies. They've done nothing wrong." Every time I get the chance, I bring up how it is hard for us to understand, but that every thing happens for a reason. I'm always looking for stories like Tony's to share. Most of the time I don't mention them specifically to him, but I'll tell mom while we are in his presence...just so he will overhear but it won't be a direct confrontation with him. I'm going to mention this one when we go over there tonight.
I've always been worried about dad not being saved, but specifically right now. He is having heart trouble and may have to have open heart surgery before too long. Thanks again for giving me something to share with him that may help open his heart.
Love,
Bonnie <bonnie@chartertn.net>
Kingsport, TN USA - Friday, February 16, 2007 11:52 AM CST
Thinking of you...as always....
Shannon, www.caringbridge.org/mi/marisa <hamet@mich.com>
Flat Rock, MI USA - Thursday, February 15, 2007 9:48 PM CST
Dear Cheryl,
I always know that when I go to Haley's site that you will write about something that will make me laugh and that you will say things that will really touch my heart. Thank you for taking the time to share the story about the coach of the "Colts." Our precious children in Heaven still continue to touch so many lives. We are moving to Nashville in the next couple of months. I hope that I will get the opportunity to meet you in person one day. In Christ, Sandy Bouchard
Sandy Bouchard <valleyvoice@msn.com>
Rancho Santa Fe, ca - Thursday, February 15, 2007 7:36 PM CST
Cheryl -
You continue to inspire me with your faith.
I think of Haley daily. I planted a Crepe Mertle in her honor, and I've been watching it through the snow the last few weeks. Everytime I see that Crepe in the snow, I think of the picture of Haley in the snow and her beautiful smile. It's hard to imagine how beautiful she must be in heaven - she was already so gorgeous here.
Prayers.
Stacy - Tanner's mom - www.caringbridge.com/ks/tanner <stacyrobb@excite.com>
De Soto, KS USA - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 11:01 PM CST
Cheryl,
Oh, how I laughed and laughed!!! And then as I read on, I thought, "God is so, so good." What a paradox - to love the Lord more deeply because of pain and sorrow. Oh, He is very, very good...
Pamela
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, Tx USA - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 6:09 PM CST
Thank you for sharing your entry today....and for a gentle, yet timely, reminder to myself to try to do better also.
Love in His Name,
Dee from the big city of Rogersville
- Wednesday, February 14, 2007 3:13 PM CST
Thinking of you today and wishing you a Happy Valentine's day.
Chari Warner <millymango40@yahoo.com>
Alpharetta, GA USA - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 10:04 AM CST
I really love the way you express yourself. Happy Valentines Day!!
Angel Rachel's mommy
jeanne <crowman2766@aol.com>
king of prussia, pa usa - Wednesday, February 14, 2007 9:21 AM CST
“Love...It bears all things, believes all things,
hopes all things, endures all things.”
(1 Corinthians 13:7)
Praying for you,
Barb, John, Shawn,
Shannon, & Colleen
www.caringbridge.org/page/shannon
Prayer Bear Barb
- Tuesday, February 13, 2007 2:36 PM CST
As always, the Vincent Family is in my thoughts and prayers. You are such an amazing story-teller. I'm constantly printing off journal pages for Michelle to read (and laugh).
www.caringbridge.org/mt/michelle
Kass Portra - Michelle's mom <kportra@bresnan.net>
- Tuesday, February 13, 2007 2:19 PM CST
Cheryl
I just listened to "Voice above the Crowd" for the first time. I believe the Lord directed me here, it was just what I needed. Your Haley helps me put things in proper perspective. Thank you for sharing her with us. May God continue to bless your work through the foundation and you too.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom <threelivers@alltel.net>
Chatsworth, GA - Tuesday, February 13, 2007 1:53 AM CST
I feel bad that I haven't been by your page in awhile.Lots going on here.But that does not mean that I don't think of you for I always do.I do stop by your page to see and read the updates just haven't had time to sign your guestbook.
Valentines...... To Heaven
This Valentine is not of the ordinary kind,
Its still filled with love...and blessings inside;
But mine has to be sent on the wings of love...
You see its destination is the Heavens above.
Its not being sent to my parents so dear,
For they are still with me each day of the year;
Its being sent to my child...who left earth so soon,
Who's now in the Heavens with the stars and the moon.
The message is the same as your valentine,
"I love you...my sweet precious child of mine;
My love is still deeper than the ocean is blue,
And its sent with hugs and kisses...from me to you."
"I know you are with me each and every day,
You listen as I talk to you...and hear what I say;
For that is one thing that disease cannot do...
...you'll always be apart of me...and me a part of you."
"I know God did not give you the awful disease,
Thank Him for His comfort He gives me...would you please?
I dont know what I would do without His undying love...
Sent to bereaved parents from the Heavens above."
"I know you are in the best of care,
But it's so hard for us left on earth to bear;
Could you put in a request from us left behind...
For God to send the knowledge..so a cure we can find."
"So that no other family has to go through this pain,
Our lives without you will never be the same;
When I get lonely I will look to the sky at night...
And see you shining down your big bright light."
**~
BRENDA~**MY LOVING DAD'S SITE WITH A NEW YEAR ANOTHER ANGEL <brurka@shaw.ca>****Edmonton~Alberta~Canada****, - Monday, February 12, 2007 8:53 PM CST
Just wanted to give you a hug with my heart today...
Amy, Carly's Mom
WI - Sunday, February 11, 2007 9:24 PM CST
Oh My!! Kendall and Bruce sure are funny!! :)
Marisa
- Friday, February 9, 2007 8:46 PM CST
Thanks for the laughs. Your son cracks me up especially since I am a special education teacher. Gotta love when charm runs out and they must rely on knowledge.
Donna and Angel Kyle www.caringbridge.org/oh/kyle <donnanoble2001@yahoo.com>
Grove City, OH USA - Thursday, February 8, 2007 7:40 PM CST
God Bless you Cheryl! You are a "hoot" as my dear sister Beth says..Too too funny! Thanks for sharing these pearls of life wisdom with us! LOL you bring a ray of light and humor to my life! I do hope dear "son" can endure this merciless torture from his dear parents..LOL Most especially hope the math grade improves fast! Hugs and prayers for you and your dear family! Hang tough dear lady!
Hugs,
LeeAnne
www.caringbridge.org/visit/byesiblings
LeeAnne <allenleeannebye@aol.com>
Northfield, NJ - Thursday, February 8, 2007 11:19 AM CST
Praying for you as always.
Lisa and Aiden <RolexH@aol.com>
- Wednesday, February 7, 2007 12:12 AM CST
Cheryl
Just thinking about you guys today.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Wednesday, February 7, 2007 10:11 AM CST
Cheryl,
My heart is hurting so much right now. Just asking for prayer...
Missing my Pookie,
Pamela
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, TX USA - Monday, February 5, 2007 5:17 PM CST
Thinking of You all!
I think of you every day sweet Haley!
Marisa
MN www.caringbridge.org/mn/marisa - Saturday, February 3, 2007 9:29 PM CST
Today was my first visit to Haley's site. She was a courageous yound lady. She sounds so much like my Angel Kyle. I see 'turtle" signs from Kyle often but have wondered if I was just kidding myself. I loved the ice cream sign. I agree that living without a child is like living in hell. I often called Kyle my shadow. I don't think I was away from him for more than 10 hours in his last 2 1/2 years of life. Yet there is so much I would have done with him.
I will be checking in on you often.
Donna and Angel Kyle www.caringbridge.org/oh/kyle <donnanoble2001@yahoo.com>
Grove City, OH USA - Saturday, February 3, 2007 7:14 PM CST
Cheryl,
I don't know if you rmember us (Jacqueline's mom from C.L.A.S.S) But I just wanted to say that what you said is so true. God is everywhere . . . in our dreams, in our homes, in our cars, in the bright ray of light shining down through the clouds. I've been more perceptive to this in the last few years (I've always had strong faith, but was not really listening.) If we listen, He speaks to us many times throughout the day.
I also wanted to say that I think what you are doing is awesome in Haley's memory. She touched everyone's lives at CLASS and now , though her soul has passed on, she is still able to touch and help many others.
Jen, Mom to Jacqueline <jennifer_gladen5@msn.com>
Philadelphia, PA USA - Saturday, February 3, 2007 6:53 PM CST
Cheryl
I believe in those signs. We "saw" Haley today in Wal-Mart, another chocolate fountain. These things are "Everywhere." How much more do I need to know this is Haley, nothing else. Thank you for continuing to share Haley with us. Even in your pain you are helping others to believe and trust in the Lord.
Karen
Chatsworth, GA - Saturday, February 3, 2007 4:12 PM CST
Cheryl,
I loved reading about all the signs from Haley. It gave me cold chills as I sat here and read them to my husband. It reminded me to always look for God in everything. I had not been to Haley's caringbridge page in a long while and when I pulled it up today I was impressed at how far YOU have come. It sounds like each day is getting better for you. God is definitely healing your pain. I know you will always truly long for your baby girl, but keep faith.
Wendy Whiddon
Winder, Ga - Saturday, February 3, 2007 2:02 PM CST
Hi Cheryl....Reading this entry brought me a whole new perspective on the signs from the other side..each one is truly amazing and I thank you for sharing that with so many of us. Praying and remembering your perfect angel.
Colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
Muskegon, MI United States - Saturday, February 3, 2007 9:58 AM CST
WOW...I really don't know what else to say except thanks for sharing the wonderful signs. May you continue to see more. Reva
Reva Kinnally <kinnallymr@msn.com>
Schenectady, NY USA - Saturday, February 3, 2007 7:19 AM CST
Hi Cheryl,
I just loved your journal entry. Of course, it made me cry...... Like I say on Cheyenne's page, I don't know if God sends the signs, allows our girls to, or exactly how, but I do know how real it is. God Bless you!!!!!!!!!!
Roy
Cheyenne's Proud Daddy, Forever
www.caringbridge.org/tx/cheyenne5
Roy Fiveash <rfiveash@wcc.net>
San Angelo, tx - Friday, February 2, 2007 8:49 PM CST
Thank you for sharing that very personal story Cheryl. I have heard bits and pieces about it from Lisa and have always prayed that you would write it so the whole world could see how awesome and amazing the God we serve really is.
Hearing and taking to heart your stories has made me a better mother by far.
The Lord told Ezekiel in chapter 3 that it didn't matter if anyone listened to what he (Ez) had to say or believed him, his job was to tell the stories that the Lord put on his heart.
Thank you for telling your story. May it bless thousands!
Kelly ( Lisa's friend and Mom of Aiden's friend Hannah) <bugsmom@tampabay.rr.com>
St. Pete, Fl - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 9:28 PM CST
Thank you for an amazing entry today...you lifted my heart.
We need to meet, my friend, so I can hug you.
Becca, Jason and Natalie Ketter <becandjay@verizon.net>
Byron, IL - Wednesday, January 31, 2007 9:22 AM CST
What a wonderful closing thought in your entry! There have been times in my life when I wondered why God doesn't answer me, and perhaps it is simply that I'm not listening. I'll have to try harder to just listen. I'm so glad that you received your three signs, especially the "Halye's Ice Cream" sign.
Denise Ward <deniward@shaw.>
Winnipeg, Canada - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 6:06 PM CST
I remember months ago.. almost a year ago sitting with you on your bed and your cell phone ringing 555 555 5555. I remember you said, "oh that is that crazy number again. "praise you in the storm" was blasting from your cell phone, and you told me it had been happeneing for months.
This went on for a YEAR.. your cell ringing this song, many times a day. We were JUST talking about Haley and it came on. Again the next day we could hear it playing from the other room, while we shoved chocolate in our faces and remembered your sweet girl. And then you discover the reason Casting Crowns wrote the song:
For a girl, who died at 11 years old... but with the faith and wisdom that most people never know.
Then as suddenly as your phone would ring and ring that song.. it stopped. Cheryl. To me, this is amazing. An amazing sign that God is active and alive in your life today as He is always. I love being your friend and learning so much, but mostly feeling the basking glow of God's love.
XOXOXO Forever remembering Haley in the Hawk House.
Lisa Hawk and of course the rest of the gang. www.caringbridge.org/fl/aiden <RolexH@aol.com>
- Tuesday, January 30, 2007 1:27 PM CST
Cheryl,
Thank you for sharing anything and everything. My thirsty soul comes to your "well" and drinks from one who knows...
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, TX USA - Tuesday, January 30, 2007 1:10 PM CST
Cheryl,
Will Haleys CD's be available to anyone? I love too hear her beautiful voice and would love to buy one when it comes. Please let me know.
Lisa Eddy
Lisa Eddy <rsrmine1@twcny.rr.com>
Marcellus, Ny - Sunday, January 28, 2007 6:34 PM CST
Stopping in to say HI Cheryl and hope you have a good week.
Remembering Haley,
colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
Muskegon, MI United States - Sunday, January 28, 2007 5:08 PM CST
I logged on tonight and just started crying. Crying becuase I miss Haley and just can't believe she is gone.:(
It just makes me sad.
Marisa
MN - Saturday, January 27, 2007 10:41 PM CST
Came by this evening to listen to your angel ^Haley^ sing her "Everywhere". Thank you so much for sharing her wonderful gift Cheryl..
Hugs and prayers,
LeeAnne
www.caringbridge.org/visit/byesiblings
LeeAnne <allenleeannebye@aol.com>
- Thursday, January 25, 2007 6:05 PM CST
Dear Cheryl,
Hayley's CD is a must have for my children and I because everytime I am on your site or Aiden's they want me to play Billy Rubin or Dirty Rotten Liver Blues. Thank you for sharing your journey, you are always in my prayers. Love and God's peace to you.
Lynn Bass <lynn@superlawntrucks.com>
Warner Robins, GA USA - Wednesday, January 24, 2007 8:40 PM CST
Natalie asked me today when she can wear angel wings
like her friend Haley.
I wasn't sure what to say.
But wanted you to know that you are always on my mind.
Becca, Jason and Natalie Ketter <becandjay@verizon.net>
Byron, IL - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 10:58 AM CST
Cheryl,
The words "I hope you feel better" seem like very empty words but that is what I truly hope today brings you. You've got so much to deal with right now so I will say some extra prayers for you today.
Dot O'Connor <Dotocon@aol.com>
Philadelphia , PA - Tuesday, January 23, 2007 6:22 AM CST
Just stopping by to say hello. Hello. :)
Amy, Carly's Mom
WI - Monday, January 22, 2007 6:14 PM CST
Just stopping in to say hello! XOXO
Shannon, www.caringbridge.org/mi/marisa <hamet@mich.com>
Flat Rock, MI USA - Sunday, January 21, 2007 6:48 PM CST
Love you guys! Know that I think of Haley everyday. Her picture hangs by mt bed so I see her right away in the morning and her picture is the last thing I see at night. I like to think she brings me happy dreams.:)
Marisa
MN www.caringbridge.org/mn/marisa - Sunday, January 21, 2007 10:32 AM CST
Hi Cheryl,
I am just feeling so sad....some of the children's caringbridge sites I visit are preparing for their journey to meet Haley. Catie is already there. There parents and family are going through so much right now...I know you can surely identify with there feelings. I feel like they need someone like you to talk to...just thinking. I continue to have Haley in my thoughts and her precious family who miss her here on this earth. You are loved.
colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Saturday, January 20, 2007 10:04 PM CST
Just checking in.
Frank (Marisa's Dad) <hamet@mich.com>
Flat Rock, MI USA - Friday, January 19, 2007 10:17 AM CST
Tonight is the first time I've visited your site. I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter. I found your site from baby Donovan's guestbook. The picture of Haley with the Corgi is adorable! We also have a tri-colored Corgi.
May you find happiness and comfort in 2007,
Lisa Tatem - caringbridge.org/va/tatem
YORKTOWN, VA - Thursday, January 18, 2007 5:15 PM CST
Cheryl - As often, you have given me food for thought. In another nationally recognized case, a woman was found lying next to a deck at a lake retreat. Evidence shows that she fell from a higher deck on to a lower deck and then somehow went into the water. The husband was found guilty partially because he calmly and quickly packed up their things and the children and left the area (while his wife was still in the water).
Part of the Prosecution's case was based on this. What if he really just had to get out of there to grieve in his own way?
Thanks for sharing.
Amy Hinkle <amy.hinkle@clubcorp.com>
Carrollton, Tx - Thursday, January 18, 2007 9:55 AM CST
Hi Cheryl,
I read what you wrote today...gosh, your just so darn right..your always right ya know. Just so wise..and I learn from
you each time I come here. I have become wiser because of you, and for that I thank you Cheryl. Take care and can't wait for your next update.
LOve to you,
colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
Muskegon, Mi usa - Wednesday, January 17, 2007 10:47 PM CST
Cheryl,
I understand your grief. I lost my dad just 4 days after Christmas 2006, suddenly and after a brief illness. I am not sure how I am supposed to grieve. People that send me their condolences must think I am crazy but I don't get emotional in front of them but I ball my eyes out at night, alone in the dark. God I miss him terribly. It's not fair...I want him back! Okay I need to go before I make a puddle of tears on my tile floor! Just wanted to say I am thinking of you and I now have a better understand of you feel.
Laurie, Mom to Ashley http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/ashleysstory <laurie@cfl.rr.com>
O'town, FL - Wednesday, January 17, 2007 9:39 PM CST
Cheryl you are an incredibly wise woman..with a wonderful wit and humour..a real gift to those of us who read ^Haley's^ cb site. I so wish you lived next door...
Hugs and God Bless,
LeeAnne
www.caringbridge.org/visit/byesiblings
LeeAnne <allenleeannebye@aol.com>
Northfield, NJ - Wednesday, January 17, 2007 9:50 AM CST
I had to paste in this entry from the guestbook in Kristie Escoe's blog:
"Blessed are the cracked, for we let in the light."
Amen, and amen. God uses cracked pots, and sometimes, it's to let the light shine in for everyone else. Whether you realize it or not, Cheryl, you DO shine a light... one that helps people see grief in it's reality and it's entirety. We know you're a good person.. your children bear witness to that. But through this journal, we also see the "real" you. Raw pain, warts, and all.. and the thing that shines through more than anything is your heart. Pure, loving, and broken. It will never be put together again in the same way, but God sure is using it as His witness.
Love in Him,
Pam Doughty <p_dought@bellsouth.net>
Powder Springs, GA USA - Tuesday, January 16, 2007 10:37 PM CST
Hi Cheryl...just checking in to let you know I was thinking about Haley this evening. I love the pic on the home page...
Lisa - Forever Kyle's Mom <bailsam@msn.com www.caringbridge.org/canada/kyle>
New Brunswick , Canada - Tuesday, January 16, 2007 9:48 PM CST
Hi Cheryl, Just wanted to say hi and to let you know I was thinking about you. So sorry for the long delay, work has been so crazy - tax season has definitely started! Keeping you and your family in my prayers. Please take care...
Love, Kathy <kathyp_22@yahoo.com>
Hood River, OR USA - Tuesday, January 16, 2007 3:31 PM CST
Oh, my gosh, I remember reading that previous journal entry. So sorry it came true.
Claire Strayer <cstrayer@hrtc.net>
McCordsville, IN - Tuesday, January 16, 2007 3:02 PM CST
I remember reading your journal entry last year about that evil woman. It just boggles my mind what some people will say or do.
I hope you do not shut down this website. Although I don't post a lot I do come and visit it everyday to check in and to see Haley's sweet face.
Rebecca <sonnibrook@sbcglobal.net>
Prairie Village, KS USA - Tuesday, January 16, 2007 11:58 AM CST
Cheryl, I have never signed your guestbook, but I have gained so much insight into what is really important in life by reading your updates. You have such a gift of word, a gift I know has personally been an inspiration. Whatever you decide to do, just know you are an inspiration and appreciated for your candor.
Barbara
Jonesborough, TN - Tuesday, January 16, 2007 7:03 AM CST
I don't know what I would do if there were no more updates to this site! You have taught me SO much and continue to teach me, even when it is the simple stuff of your every day life. You have showed me that with grief, eventually you come to a place where it is okay to laugh and smile, but sometimes you don't feel like doing that at all and that's okay too. You put into words what I need to know, what I want to know, to help those God puts into my path of life. Keep posting! Sorry about your dog :o(
Amanda
Omaha, NE - Tuesday, January 16, 2007 1:34 AM CST
Cheryl...Love you.. XOXOX.. thanks for all your updates. You have changed me as a person, friend, and mother.
Lisa and Aiden <RolexH@aol.com>
- Monday, January 15, 2007 9:19 PM CST
ROFLOL...Oh Cheryl I am sorry about the poor pup, Cara, BUT I do think YOU need to buy a "voodoo doll" some nice hat pins and make a minature "beach shop" LOL...Oh my...lol..shame on that nasty Lady! That story is just priceless!
Hugs and thank you again for your site!
LeeAnne
LeeAnne <allenleeannebye@aol.com>
Northfield, NJ - Monday, January 15, 2007 3:16 PM CST
Hi Cheryl ,
I just wanted to let you know I am always thinking about you and Haley. I never got the meet Haley in person but she was sure an inspiration to me. I listed to her CD often, what an amazing voice!
God bless and Take Care,
((((((((HUGS))))))))))
Jamie..liver tx 1988 <kuzco83@gmail.com>
Sasaktoon, sk Canada - Sunday, January 14, 2007 7:34 PM CST
Hi Cheryl,
I would miss you so much if you left this site...the pics of Haley, the funny stories, and just everyday life on a difficult journey. I just wanted you to know that.
Hope your week will bring some funny moments...I'm sorry about your corgi.
Hugs to all,
colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
Muskegon, mi usa - Sunday, January 14, 2007 6:09 PM CST
Hi Cheryl...I know how you feel with regard to the website...I too have wondered if it's time to move on. I feel, as you do, a tremendous connection to the site and obviously to the events that brought the site to being. If you need to keep it going to help you, then do it...we'll keep checking in.
Your grocery shopping story cracked me up...I can only imagine the amounts of food you had and the number of carts...tooo funny. Glad your cupboards are well stocked at least for a little while :)
Thinking about you often.
Lisa - Forever Kyle's Mom <bailsam@msn.com www.caringbridge.org/canada/kyle>
New Brunswick , Canada - Sunday, January 14, 2007 5:52 PM CST
Just stopping by to say I'm thinking of you. I hope your little Cara is doing well after her surgery; it's too bad that she won't be able to have puppies, as corgi puppies are incredibly cute. I hope and pray that each day will become a little easier for you; it's a long and difficult journey, to say the least, but I do pray that some days will be a little easier to bear.
Denise Ward <deniward@shaw.>
Winnipeg, c - Sunday, January 14, 2007 1:24 PM CST
Cheryl
Good thinking on the crazy shopping trip - it sounds like you and Nick accomplished your mission (and gave us all a good laugh). Glad you're finding some ways to get along. I'm sorry your heartache is so painful, I know there is no end and I just wish you some peace.
Love,
Joanna
Joanna (Jessica's mum from CLASS and liverfamilies) <joread@comcast.net>
- Sunday, January 14, 2007 0:21 AM CST
Cheryl -
I have a thank you note on my list of to-dos, but wanted to stop by here & say thnak you in the interim. The HVF Christmas package was awesome - it arrived the Saturday before Christmas - and the kids enjoyed it so much. Tanner really enjoys seeing his name - so he particularly loved the box that had been colored. Thank you all so much.
We continue to send hugs & prayers your way - I still think of Haley daily.
Stacy - Tanner's mom - www.caringbridge.com/ks/tanner <stacyrobb@excite.com>
De Soto, KS USA - Saturday, January 13, 2007 10:12 PM CST
Hi Cheryl,
Sarah certainly enjoyed her "Haley package" at Christmas; how fun!!
She has Haley's songs on her iPOD and loves to listen to them. I think the two of them would have been good friends. How wonderful to know that they will eventually meet in heaven and can do tons of singing and playing together there! (Except for the fact that "Dirty Rotten Liver Blues" will be banned in heaven since all livers are perfect!) :-)
Becky Smith <beckysmith62@aol.com caringbridge.org/nc/sarahsmith>
Smithfield, NC - Saturday, January 13, 2007 7:50 AM CST
cheryl,
i want you to know i am thinking of you. i'm impressed you made it to the food store and really hope it lasts 6 weeks. i was laughing to myself tonight when i made dinner...i made hamburger helper and i kept thinking about you.
love,
anne www.caringbridge.org/wi/zachsam
waukesha, wi - Friday, January 12, 2007 11:23 PM CST
cheryl,
i want you to know i am thinking of you. i'm impressed you made it to the food store and really hope it lasts 6 weeks. i was laughing to myself tonight when i made dinner...i made hamburger helper and i kept thinking about you.
love,
anne www.caringbridge.org/wi/zachsam
waukesha, wi - Friday, January 12, 2007 11:20 PM CST
Cheryl,
I haven't "made" time to write - though I check in at least two or three times a day. The picture of Haley is SO cute!! Dinah had a SpongeBob pillow just like that...sometimes all I can do is sigh...
But I press on -
Pamela
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, Tx USA - Friday, January 12, 2007 6:43 PM CST
Hello Sami, Joe and girls, I just came from Lizzie's Park and was so happy to see that her stone has been placed!! It's just absolutely perfect for her!! You did a wonderful job selecting it and it's so obvious how much love went into it. Jolie's beautiful words from Sweet Elizabeth will always be a wonderful tribute to a very special little lady. love you, Eileen
Eileen Frieden <befrieden@charter.net>
Kearney,, NE USA - Friday, January 12, 2007 1:14 PM CST
hello...just wanted you to know i think of you daily. i know the struggles. the missing her more each day. instead of time healing, time just takes me one more day from my sweet girl. thinking of you, praying for you...
lizzie's mama
ne/lizziegirl
sami stratton <samistratton@hotmail.com>
kearney, ne - Wednesday, January 10, 2007 9:31 PM CST
HAD TO STOP BY AND LET YOU KNOW THAT I'M THINKING OF YOU.
LOVE BRENDAMY LOVING ANGELS FOREVER <brurka@shaw.ca>
EDMONTON,ALBERTA/CANADA, - Wednesday, January 10, 2007 7:52 PM CST
Haley~
"I thought of you with love today
But that is nothing new,
I thought about you yesterday
And days before that too.
I think of you in silence
I often speak your name,
All I have are memories
And your picture in a frame.
Your memory is my keepsake
With which I'll never part,
God has you in His keeping
I have you in my heart."
Marisa
MN www.caringbridge.org/mn/marisa - Wednesday, January 10, 2007 6:12 PM CST
Think of you everyday - it makes perfect sense to me that you miss her more and more each day - I can't imagine ... Ryan has loved his Miracle Mail - I know Haley loves watching these children rip into their packages!! That is such a great thing you are doing! During times such as this -it truly is the little things that mean so very much - such simple things, like your child getting a dollar in the mail - I am learning how simple things make life so very sweet. How true it is that drinking from this cup is truly bittersweet. We had his follow-up MRI today - now we wait for results. The plan is to start chemo next Thursday. I have been praying about an addition to your family - I actually had been praying about that long before you mentioned it in a blog - just felt led to be praying about that for you. I can just imagine Haley helping God orchestrating this entire process and helping find the perfect baby for you all. As always - you are on my mind and in my heart.
Mary Lee Carrigan <mary_robb@bellsouth.net>
- Tuesday, January 9, 2007 9:00 PM CST
I love Haley's new picture with her cute dog...so precious.
Forever in my thoughts and prayers.
colleen
colleen fraser <irihsgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Tuesday, January 9, 2007 6:56 PM CST
Just stopping by and wanting to say hi. I am anxious to see the portrait, I am sure it is beautiful!
Michelle (www.caringbridge.org/ny/jack) <mmorea@optonline.net>
Massapequa, NY - Tuesday, January 9, 2007 8:39 AM CST
Hi Cheryl~
I have been trying to figure out what to write to you for over a week. My son, Gavin, received "Miracle Mail" last week curtousy of the wonderful Haley Vincent Foundation...
We had just returned from his latest lab draw at the clinic which had NOT gone well at all; I was feeling like the world's worst mommy because I had to hold him down AGAIN, and Gavin was not very happy with me. As we pulled into our driveway we spotted a package on the front step. Gavin's eyes just LIT UP! I wish you could have seen it; it was exactly what he needed. THANK YOU from the bottom of our hearts...
Tony, Jessica, & Gavin Dahms
Gavin's Page <jessicaaroth@Hotmail.com>
Marshall, MN - Tuesday, January 9, 2007 6:25 AM CST
Oh Cheryl...it sure sounds like a HUGE shopping trip and I am sure the kids love all the good stuff you got...my teen loves it on grocery day...he always asks, "what did you get thats good"?...meaning junk food.
I am looking forward to the picture of Haley....hurry o.k.????lolol
Hugs and prayers always,
colleen
colleen fraser <irihsgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Monday, January 8, 2007 5:35 PM CST
Hi Cheryl....just been thinking of you today and of course our special heaven angel also. I just love that snow picture of Haley....it says so much about her..she loved life to the fullest and lived it that way. Well, I need to go for now but always know your in my thoughts in prayers.
Hugs
colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, lmi usa - Sunday, January 7, 2007 10:48 AM CST
Hi Cheryl- I still don't know how to express how sad I feel about Haley .. and how my heart aches for you. I still can't visit this website without crying, but I just wanted to say hello, and tell you I'm thinking of your family, and missing you and Haley.
Kristen (Havalah's mom) <kristennn@gmail.com>
milwaukee, WI - Saturday, January 6, 2007 11:00 PM CST
hi, my son was the receiver of a care package from your foundation, so i thought i would check out your webpage. your daughter was beautiful and quite a little girl. it is wonderful that you continue to remember her through what you do. my son, jon, loved everything in his package. it was our first christmas at home, and we were blessed by having such a wonderful presence in our home that your foundation, and daughter gave us. i wanted to thank you and invite you to our website as well, if you wanted to check jon out. www.caringbridge.org/visit/jonathanternes thank you so much for touching our lives. you are a special group of people.
lisa ternes <llilient@hotmail.com>
hays, ks usa - Saturday, January 6, 2007 10:04 PM CST
Cheryl
I check here very often as I think of Haley and you guys a lot but I don't sign the guestbook much. I have to let you know that we are so blessed to have received miracle mail recently. Jen and Jon received care packages from Haley's Foundation. I didn't know they were coming and when I realized the boxes were from Haley's foundation I started crying. Haley is still so very missed at our house. The boxes had beautiful drawings of a winter scene, 3 crosses on a hill, and some scenes that were drawn by younger kids too. So from the outside in, it was wonderful & beautiful; just like Haley. This has absolutely been the hardest year my family has ever had and these packages could not have come at a better time. Even though they were for Jen & Jon, I felt like I received the gift of love, a gift from Haley. We miss her so much. Haley was such an amazing little girl who’s short life impacted so many and still continues to do so through your work in her foundation. We love you all and God bless you all.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Thursday, January 4, 2007 1:34 PM CST
Cheryl,
Back at ya. It's my turn to lurk and say "hi". The pictures of Haley are so gorgeous, she takes my breath away. L~Tam
http://www2.caringbridge.org/fl/gavinward/
Tammy Ward <wardpalm@aol.com>
WPB, FL USA - Thursday, January 4, 2007 9:03 AM CST
Cheryl...are you going to share the portrait of Haley with us? I would love to see it. I have a pencial portrait of Kyle that a beautiful cyber friend of his sight did for me...it is a cherished treasure, so I know how you feel about Haley's.
Lisa - Forever Kyle's Mom <bailsam@msn.com www.caringbridge.org/canada/kyle >
Canada - Wednesday, January 3, 2007 7:45 PM CST
I saw Nick's band on HGTV! I think I must have screamed when they came on...then that annoucer guy kept talking about his show... duh, doesn't he know that NICK is on TV and needs some spot light? That was AWESOME though! Their band is HUGE! I can't get my 2 kids organized how on EARTH do they get 340 kids together? Impressive
I loved your random thoughts, especially how you "slide" in the adoption part. Oh Cheryl, prayers are being offered for your new baby. You are the best mother I know. When I call you and all I can hear is laughter in the background, barking dogs, and your aboslutly hilarious husband talking about your knees, I think to myself how much your family "get's" what it is all about. Another voice to hear teasing, another giggle in the background, just makes perfect sense to me.
I love you guys. Way to go Nick! We are SO proud of you!!
Lisa and Aiden <RolexH@aol.com>
- Wednesday, January 3, 2007 7:29 AM CST
Hi Cheryl,
Keeping you in my prayers as you make this decision. God will definitely guide you. If you can, maybe you can take a picture of the portrait of Haley and post it. I know many of us would LOVE to see another picture of your sweet angel.
May God continue to provide you with peaceful moments throughout this New Year.
Dot O'Connor <Dotocon@aol.com>
Philadelphia , PA - Tuesday, January 2, 2007 3:19 PM CST
Just in case you are also considering a name for this potential-baby-who-may-or-may-not-be-female, might I suggest the name "Amanda". It actually is quite a nice name and comes from the Latin word for love. I have been told it means "Worthy of Love". I think that it fits quite well with the situation and your family. Apologies in advance if this seems inappropriate, but I have been crying on and off for over a week and have been dying laughing for over an hour as I planned this post. So, here it is. I feel a lot better :o)
Amanda Fulton
Omaha, NE 68106 - Saturday, December 30, 2006 6:29 PM CST
Hi Cheryl,
Reading your entry today was so peaceful for me. My checkbook looks awful after the holidays...and well, you put things in perspective for me once again. I love the idea of a baby in your home...wow, how blessed that child would be. As a foster care worker, I am already excited and you haven't even said if its a for sure thing. I would love to see Haley's picture that you had done...I know it will be breath taking as she always has been. Love to all your family cheryl, now and 2007.
colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
Muskegon, MI usa - Saturday, December 30, 2006 9:37 AM CST
Thoughts are with you.
Corella Thorbeck <cthorbeck@aol.com>
Plymouth, MN - Friday, December 29, 2006 6:49 PM CST
Just stopping by...thinking of you and yours today...
and praying that God will lead you down the right path.
Becca, Jason and Natalie Ketter <becandjay@verizon.net>
Byron, IL - Friday, December 29, 2006 9:02 AM CST
I LOVE that picture. It looks like wonderland.
Thinking of you Bruce and your family today. Praying for you as always.
AmyH <amy.hinkle@clubcorp.com>
Carrollton, TX - Thursday, December 28, 2006 4:29 PM CST
Hi Cheryl - just checking in on you. I do that often; you are my guide on how to do this terrible journey. Thank you.
I love your backgrounds - would you be willing to share with me where you get them from? Lizzie's site could use a 'makeover'.
Take care and God bless...
Angel Lizzie's mama
caringbridge.org/ne/lizziegirl
Sami Stratton <samistratton@hotmail.com>
Kearney, NE - Thursday, December 28, 2006 2:19 PM CST
thinking of you today and always!
kristy and ashlee <alyssassmama@yahoo.com>
ny - Thursday, December 28, 2006 8:56 AM CST
All your ideas about life and coping help us in so many ways, Cheryl, with our lives. Have thought about you all through the holidays and hope you felt our warm love from afar. Take care,
Joanna (Jessica's mum from CLASS and liverfamilies) <joread@comcast.net>
- Thursday, December 28, 2006 0:59 AM CST
Thanks for the "random thoughts." Enjoyed the latest entry. Take care and God Bless.
Frank (Marisa's Dad) <hamet@mich.com>
Flat Rock, MI USA - Wednesday, December 27, 2006 10:56 PM CST
Just wanted you to know that Haley is in my thoughts today, as she always is. I wish I could say something to help you, but all I can do is to let you know you are in my thoughts and prayers and that Haley is always thought of and I think you have every right to be sad for the rest of your life - how could you not miss that precious little girl?! I'm sorry some people are upsetting you, I wish I could make it stop for you. I hope it helps in some small way to know there are strangers out there who are thinking of your daughter and whose hearts break for your loss.
~Sarah
www.caringbridge.org/visit/dianemarie
Sarah
MA - Wednesday, December 27, 2006 8:35 PM CST
REMEMBERING
by Elizabeth Dent
Go ahead and mention my child.
The one that died, you know.
Don't worry about hurting me further.
The depth of my pain doesn't show.
Don't worry about making me cry.
I'm already crying inside.
Help me to heal by releasing
The tears that I try to hide.
I'm hurt when you just keep silent,
Pretending he didn't exist.
I would rather you mention my child,
Knowing that he has been missed.
You asked me how I was doing.
I say "pretty good" or "fine".
But healing is something ongoing.
I feel it will take a lifetime.
*rachael* <rach66@hotmail.com>
- Wednesday, December 27, 2006 7:22 AM CST
That is not at all how
we thought it was supposed to be
We had so many plans for you
we had so many dreams
And now you’ve gone away
and left us with the memories of your smile
And nothing we can say
and nothing we can do
Can take away the pain
the pain of losing you
We can cry with hope
we can say goodbye with hope
'Cause we know our goodbye is not the end
We can grieve with hope
because we believe with hope
There’s a place where we’ll see your face again
We’ll see your face again
Never have I known
anything so hard to understand
Never have I questioned more
the wisdom of God’s plan
But through the cloud of tears
I see the Father smile and say well done
And I imagine you
where you wanted most to be
Seeing all your dreams come true
'Cause now you’re home and now you’re free
We can cry with hope, we can say goodbye with hope
'Cause we know our goodbye is not the end
We can grieve with hope, because we believe with hope
There’s a place where we’ll see your face again
We’ll see your face again
We have this hope like as an anchor
'Cause we believe that everything God promised us is true
So we can cry with hope, we can say goodbye with hope
'Cause we know our goodbye is not the end
We can grieve with hope, because we believe with hope
There’s a place
By God’s grace
There’s a place where we’ll see your face again
*rachael* <rach66@hotmail.com>
- Wednesday, December 27, 2006 7:10 AM CST
Cheryl, if it makes you feel any better, I've been known to do the same thing. I never have the nerve to confront anyone directly, so I make some snippy comment under my breath, sort of half-hoping they'll hear, and half-hoping they won't, and then I wind up embarrassed that I took such a snippy, passive agressive approach. And you're right, it doesn't make us feel any better, and it rarely (if ever!) accomplishes what I hope it will accomplish. Turning the other cheek is the way to go; thanks for the reminder, in this season of post-Christmas holiday-shopping-madness. :)
I love your tradition of writing Haley letters on Christmas and putting them in her stocking. I'd like to think she visits your house during the night, just like Santa, and reads them for herself. Regardless, those letters are to be treasured .....
Best wishes for a calm, happy New Year.
Kristie (mom to Kendrie) <kristieokc@cox.net>
Byron, GA - Tuesday, December 26, 2006 10:24 PM CST
WOW Praise God for your guestbook, I am reading all the beautiful heartfelt words, and I am so blessed by them.
Cheryl, I lov you my friend. I Hope your lobster was delicious, and your headache all gone. I have thought of you constantly, and just wanted to drop a note in your guestbook and tell you just how much your family and your amazing and very beautiful Haley has changed my life.
XOXO.. I had a great dream, I can't wait to talk to you and share. LOVE AND HUGS
The whole Hawk Family <RolexH@aol.com>
- Tuesday, December 26, 2006 10:01 AM CST
Thinking of you today, and your family. Missing her voice, too. Hoping for peace, big enough for all of the world and deep enough for you.
moreena <moreena@gmail.com>
- Monday, December 25, 2006 11:33 PM CST
The Stockings Were Hung:
The stockings were hung by the chimney with care
But one special stocking was no longer there
All that was left were the memories bittersweet
Of a life that had ended so incomplete
The family had pictures all gathered around
That sometimes made all of them tear up and frown
For the sorrow and sadness without their sweet child
Made it difficult for the whole family to smile
Although there were times when they felt him(her) so close
As if they were feeling some kind of a ghost
The signs that were sent were so special and clear
That they felt that he(she) truly was so very near
They often would talk to him(her) as if he(she) was there
Sometimes they would smile but also shed tears
For each Christmas that came brought with it such pain
That they felt in their hearts would always remain
Then one special moment on one special day
He(She) came to them and simply took them away
To fly through the heavens and up to the stars
A beautiful place that was not very far
He(She) showed them where they would all join once again
A place full of beauty no sorrow or pain
A place where he(she) is happy with heavenly friends
A place where we too will also ascend
After their amazing visit was through
This family was no longer terribly blue
For they finally realized one day not to far
They would all be together on a heavenly star
LOVE BRENDAMY CHRISTMAS ANGEL <brurka@shaw.ca>
EDMONTON,ALBERTA/CANADA, - Monday, December 25, 2006 9:49 PM CST
Thinking of you all today and every day. Sing, Haley, sing in that heavenly choir!
Love, Travis, Rhonda and Carson Kitch <tandrkitch@yahoo.com, www.caringbridge.com/mn/carsonkitch>
Moorhead, MN - Monday, December 25, 2006 8:51 PM CST
Christmas Myspace Graphics
HOPE YOU ALL HAVE A HAPPY HOILDAY!
Nater & Meghan Gapa www.caringbridge.org/ny/naters_page <gaphouse@yahoo.com>
- Monday, December 25, 2006 8:06 PM CST
Christmas Myspace Graphics
HOPE YOU ALL HAVE A HAPPY HOILDAY!
Nater & Meghan Gapa www.caringbridge.org/ny/naters_page <gaphouse@yahoo.com>
- Monday, December 25, 2006 8:06 PM CST
Thinking of you and praying for you this Christmas Day.
Your friend,
Pamela
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, Tx USA - Monday, December 25, 2006 5:51 PM CST
Thinking of you during the holidays and keeping you and your family in our hearts and prayers.
Tammy & Janna <tmwagner@cox.net>
Wichita, KS - Monday, December 25, 2006 9:49 AM CST
Angel Katelyn’s Mum, Debbie <miraclegirl101@hotmail.com>
Wheatley, Ontario, - Sunday, December 24, 2006 10:45 PM CST
Thinking of your family this Christmas. We hung an angel on our tree this year in honor of your precious Haley. It has been amazing to be able to honor her memory through the Haley Vincent Foundation and to tell all of the children and families about how special she was!! I bet she is smiling down from Heaven watching all of the children smile and play with their gifts from her!!
Wishing your family a Merry christmas and a New Year filled with Lots of Love!! Love, Michelle
Michelle Gaylord <mgaylord@tampabay.rr.com>
- Sunday, December 24, 2006 6:54 AM CST
Cheryl,
I found your site tonight through another caringbridge site and have been reading your journal and crying for over an hour. Thank you for sharing Hailey and all your tribulations and blessings with us. Your daughter sounds like an amazing person. I know how precious life is, your site has reconfirmed that truth. My daughter Grace received her liver transplant exactly 2 and a half years ago today. I am so grateful everyday for the amazing gift of life she has received and I think of her donor family and pray for them continuously. I wish I could reach out to them to let them know that a piece of their angel lives in Grace and she will never ever be forgotten. I have taught Grace to love her liver and we thank God every single night for her "new" liver even though it's not that new anymore. I want her to know what a precious gift she has received. I know that your pain lives with you daily and I just want to acknowledge Hailey and your family. I pray that the Lord will touch your heart with a peace which surpasses all understanding. My sister in law lost both of her girls to a rare mitochondrial disease, so our family is not a stranger to the grief you are experiencing. I hope this Christmas will be full of blessings and joy for your family. It is amazing how many lives you have touched.
Sincerely,
Oula Haddad
gracehaddad.com
Oula Haddad <jhaddad1@yahoo.com>
silver spring, md 20906 - Saturday, December 23, 2006 11:55 PM CST
Cheryl -
We got the most beautiful Miracle Mail package in the mail yesterday. A thank you note will be forthcoming, but please know what a bright spot Haley put into a 2-1/2 year old world's today.
Prayers for your family during this holiday season.
Stacy - Tanner's mom - www.caringbridge.com/ks/tanner <stacyrobb@excite.com>
De Soto, KS USA - Saturday, December 23, 2006 11:32 PM CST
Cheryl,
Wishing you peace and joy this holiday season. Knowing many who have passed on to heaven, I do, this time of year, wonder what the celebration is like up there....I mean He is there to celebrate with! The Reason for the Season is right there to join all of our family members for a celebration that is probably beyond our imaginations and Haley is right there in the midst of it all and is so very happy!
Gold bless you. You are in my prayers every day, Cheryl.
Dot O'Connor <Dotocon@aol.com>
Philadelphia , PA - Saturday, December 23, 2006 9:35 PM CST
Thoughts are with you.
Corella Thorbeck <cthorbeck@aol.com>
Plymouth, MN - Saturday, December 23, 2006 9:20 PM CST
MERRY CHRISTMAS!
Marisa
MN www.caringbridge.org/mn/marisa - Saturday, December 23, 2006 9:55 AM CST
I smiled when I saw that first picture of Haley. She looks so happy, at peace, free. She reminded me of Rachel with the way she has her arms out, Rachel did that a lot.
I laughed about what your husband said...my husband does that to me and really puts me on the spot..haha.
Take care
Angel Rachel's mommy
jeanne <crowman2766@aol.com>
king of prussia, pa usa - Friday, December 22, 2006 2:11 PM CST
I love the photo of Haley in the snow. I think the stocking idea is special, just like Haley. And I think if you took the big tree at Rich's, the Mormon Tabernacle choir, and all the lights at Callaway Gardens and put them all together, you wouldn't even start to touch the very, very edge of how wonderful Christmas (or ANY day) is in Heaven. I bet Haley has a tour already worked out for when you get there. Meanwhile, I'm keeping you in my prayers...(along with the Matthews, whose beautiful Dinah is sorely missed as well).
Pam Doughty <p_dought@bellsouth.net>
Powder Springs, GA USA - Friday, December 22, 2006 12:37 AM CST
Cheryl, Wishing you and your family a blessed Christmas. I think of you often, and continue to keep you in my prayers.
Kathy <kathyp_22@yahoo.com>
Hood River, OR USA - Friday, December 22, 2006 12:08 AM CST
Dear Mr. Hallmark,
I am writing to you from heaven, and though it must appear,
A rather strange idea, I see everything from here,
I just popped in to visit, your stores to find a card,
A card of love for my parents, as this day for them is hard,
There must be some mistake I thought, every card you can imagine,
except I could not find a card, from a child that lives in heaven,
they are still a parent too, no matter where I reside,
I had to leave, they understand, but oh the tears they cried,
I thought that if I wrote to you, that you would come to know,
that though I live in heaven now, I still love my parents so,
they talk with me, and dreams with me, we still share laughter too,
memories are our way of speaking now, would you see what you can do?
my parents carry me in their heart, their tears they hide from sight,
they plants flowers in my garden, there my living memory dwells,
they writes to other grieving parents, trying to ease there pain as well,
so you see Mr. Hallmark, though I no longer live on earth,
I must find a way, to remind her of her wondrous worth,
they need to be honored, and be remembered too,
just as the children of the earth will do,
thank you Mr. Hallmark, I know you will do your best,
find a way to tell them, how much they mean to me,
until I can do it for myself, when she joins me in eternity.
I know Christmas must be so hard for you although I can't comprehend how difficult it must be.
All my love,
Viks
viks <viks@postpals.co.uk>
- Friday, December 22, 2006 10:24 AM CST
Thinking of you and your family during this holiday season.
Linda Thomas <lthomas92365@mchsi.com>
Columbus, GA USA - Friday, December 22, 2006 7:58 AM CST
It is too bad that so many people, me included, often forget what Christmas is truly about. It really isn't the number of gifts, rushing around to make too much food, and then just sit around looking at everything unwrapped, etc. on Christmas day--it should be remembering the Heaven-sent gift we were given, and how we commemorate it. I'm glad you did let that man go ahead of you in the gift wrap line--perhaps it will make him more aware of the meaning of the season. I'm sure it's going to be a difficult Christmas for you all, to say the least, and I do hope that you get through it all; it's hard, and there's no way around that. My prayers are with you, and your family, especially now. On a lighter note, it would be very neat to have corgi puppies--we have a Welsh corgi too, and her name is Cora! She won't be having any puppies, though, and with her personality, I can't imagine a year of corgi PMS!
Denise Ward <deniward@shaw.>
Winnipeg, Canada - Friday, December 22, 2006 2:15 AM CST
I wanted to share this with you Chery...it's a nice poem. I see a similar one already posted here but this one is a bit different.
Thinking about you and your precious Haley this Holiday season.
Christmas With the King
To my dearest family that I left behind,
I need to touch your heart tonight.
For it’s Christmas and you're missing me,
And the season doesn't seem so bright.
While others are celebrating the holiday,
you find it hard to do the same.
You watch other families gather in splendor,
while you tearfully mention my name.
I know it was painful for you this year,
to decorate your Christmas tree.
For you cried as you hung each ornament.
Your thoughts were focused on me.
You shopped for presents for others.
Although you felt out of place.
When each day was over,
I could see loneliness written on your face.
You can't seem to get into the spirit.
To enjoy any festivities this year.
But think of the Christmases in the past,
and you'll feel my presence near.
Yes, and I come tonight to let you know
I'm happier than I could ever be.
I'm spending my Christmas in Heaven;
With the one who died for me.
So go out and feel that Christmas cheer.
Listen to the choirs as they sing.
And know that I'm happier than I've ever been...
Spending Christmas with the King.
Lisa - Forever Kyle's Mom <bailsam@msn.com www.caringbridge.org/canada/kyle>
New Brunswick , Canada - Thursday, December 21, 2006 6:05 PM CST
THinking of you during the holiday season.
Marisa
MN - Thursday, December 21, 2006 4:49 PM CST
Sorry that I have been a stranger...I think of you and
yours all the time. And my prayers are with you this season.
May Haley enjoy her Christmas in Heaven...may we all someday:
I see the countless CHRISTMAS TREES around the world below
with tiny lights like HEAVEN’S STARS reflecting on the snow.
The sight is so SPECTACULAR please wipe away that tear
for I am spending CHRISTMAS WITH JESUS CHRIST this year.
I hear the many CHRISTMAS SONGS that people hold so dear
but the SOUND OF MUSIC can't compare with the CHRISTMAS CHOIR up here.
I have no words to tell you of the JOY their voices bring
for it is beyond description to HEAR THE ANGELS SING.
I know HOW MUCH YOU MISS ME, I see the pain inside your heart
for I am spending CHRISTMAS WITH JESUS CHRIST this year.
I can't tell you of the SPLENDOR or the PEACE here in this place
Can you just imagine CHRISTMAS WITH OUR SAVIOR face to face
I'll ask him to LIFT YOUR SPIRIT as I tell him of your love
so then PRAY FOR ONE ANOTHER as you lift your eyes above.
Please let your HEARTS BE JOYFUL and let your SPIRIT SING
for I am spending CHRISTMAS IN HEAVEN and I’m walking WITH THE KING.
~ by Wanda Bencke
© Copyright 1999
Becca, Jason and Natalie Ketter <becandjay@verizon.net>
Byron, IL - Thursday, December 21, 2006 2:24 PM CST
Cheryl,
Having an extremely sad, sad time. Knowing I can come to Haley's site and just "sit" with you helps more than you'll ever know.
So thankful you are there -
Pamela
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, TX USA - Thursday, December 21, 2006 9:30 AM CST
Beautiful photos of a beautiful child! Thank God for photos, memories and beautiful children! Thinking of you and praying for a blessed holiday!
Gina Mac
Willis, TX USA - Thursday, December 21, 2006 8:34 AM CST
I love the first photo of Haley on the site. It makes me smile and takes me back to another winter with you all.
You know how you never forget the first time you see snow? Aiden remembers still seeing snow the one and only time, "with Haley". I remember the kids, (and me) screaming and pulling hats and clothes on to go catch snow flakes on their tounge.
I am praying that all of your precious memories of you beautiful and amazing daughter bring you comfort and peace. I love you all so much.
Lisa and Aiden, and her name for him: "the happiest kid in the world" <RolexH@aol.com>
- Thursday, December 21, 2006 7:21 AM CST
Hi Cheryl,
That was a beautiful letter written by such a mature 17
year old girl. Thanks for sharing that with us. It does inspire us to make a difference in this world. The St.Pete
Haley Vincent Foundation is going to spread some joy at our local Ronald McDonald House tomorrow night. All in honor of your beautiful Angel, Haley. I wish you peace during this diffucult time right now.
Love,
Lynne Doddridge <dhd76@aol.com>
St.Petersburg, FL USA - Wednesday, December 20, 2006 10:20 PM CST
Hi Cheryl
I was thinking of you today..and sweet Haley. I know this time of year is especially hard for you..Haleys angel ornament that I bought in her memory hangs right where everyone can see it,and then they comment on how beautiful it is and then I tell them about Haley. Her memory lives on Cheryl all over the world..her cd will be playing at our family christmas party Sun. night...you are warmly loved.
Colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Wednesday, December 20, 2006 10:02 PM CST
I think of you every day and I know your heart must be breaking during this holiday season. This is my prayer for you and all those that are spending this Christmas missing someone that was so precious to them.
We celebrate this time of year
because our Lord was born;
But let us not forget
That there are others who may mourn.
In times of sorrow, times of strife,
it's sometimes hard to smile,
So, Holy Spirit, please come in
and tarry for awhile.
Touch those who may be suffering;
Touch every wounded heart,
Touch all those burdened souls
When they feel distant, set apart.
Remove the pain, and fill their hearts
with happiness and mirth,
And let them all rejoice now
in The Savior's holy birth.
Amen
Karen
Sacramento, CA - Wednesday, December 20, 2006 1:03 PM CST
I'm checking in and wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you and your family, and of course, of precious Haley this Christmas. This is my 3rd Christmas with out Kyle, although the first in 2004 seems like such a blur, still not believing he was gone. It doesn't get any easier and I have said many times during this season that this one seems like the worst yet. I know he and Haley are celebrating in the Heaven's again this year...knowing that makes it somewhat bearable...who am I kidding, it's not bearable.
Know that my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Lisa - Forever Kyle's Mom <bailsam@msn.com www.caringbridge.org/canada/kyle>
New Brunswick , Canada - Tuesday, December 19, 2006 5:35 PM CST
We just wanted to let you know we are thinking about you through the holidays.
Jodi and McKayla
Jodi Phelan <jodiphelan@hotmail.com>
Sherwood Park, AB Canada - Monday, December 18, 2006 9:21 PM CST
WEll Cheryl - I agree. the second Christmas is not any better than the first. If it makes you feel any better, i ate tray of cookies on sunday, skipped out on our annual neighborhood party and made dinner while the kids decorated the tree (which is avoidance to an extreme since i hate making dinner and never do it on sundays!)
zachary was so tired tonight that i had to tell him "No you cannot write to haley's mom and Miss Monica tonight." You see he got his box from Haley's foundation...it had been an awful day for him. A lot of pain, too much work to breathe and he misses his friends. He just could not believe a package came for him and that he was allowed to open it tonight! and then to find things that he loved in there....i wish i could figure out how to post a picture of his eyes in this guestbook ...they shined. he wore his hat to bed - i'm not kidding. because of haley his day ended with smiles and thankfullness.
we talked about haley...i told my family her story. my daughter, abby, is 13 and she writes songs too (but plays them on the piano - she does not sing because she inherited my singing voice - not a good thing!). so we all came in here and looked at haley's pictures and listened to haley sing. abby cried (really cheryl - she had tears in her eyes). she said haley sounds like an angel. she was in awe that haley had written that song in 20 minutes but that just goes to show how haley let love and compassion lead her to do the neatest, most amazing things.
sorry - you know i'm not usually this long winded in guestbooks but i wanted you and everyone to know the difference that haley made in our house tonight. it is freezing here in wisconsin but haley absolutely made the room light up and feel warmer.
love,
Anne_www.caringbridge.org/wi/zachsam
Waukesha, WI - Monday, December 18, 2006 8:58 PM CST
Cheryl - the letter from Laura was extremely touching and she really nailed the gift that Haley was to so many of us. Haley is and will always be remembered for her compassion, faith, beautiful singing voice and her love for people. My thoughts are with you during the holiday season. Know that Haley is an angel singing in the most heavenly choir ever and smiling down on you.
Kim, mom to Sami and Kyle
Kim Faust <kfaust@comcast.net>
Oakdale, MN USA - Monday, December 18, 2006 6:01 AM CST
I'm so glad that you had this letter from Laura--and how wonderful it is that Haley has touched her and so many others with her love for life, faith, and desire to help other people. It's a little bit like getting a Christmas gift from Haley, even though it's not ever the same as having her with you. I like your advice, too, about finding something that will make a difference, and pursuing it--this might be my New Year's Resolution. I'm sorry that you're having such a hard time of things and feel that you need to defend your grief. I think that every year, heck, every day, brings a different kind of grief maybe. What you feel today isn't what you feel tomorrow, but it's legitimate, and it's real, and you can only try to live through it, and find a way to make things work, in your own time. Many people, I guess are fortunate enough to have not have experienced extreme loss, and I guess that's a good thing, but for those who have, time is completely different, and they are completely different. You become a different person, not better or worse, but you need time to come to terms with who you are now, and sometimes people--friends, relatives & co-workers aren't always aware of this. I loved your latest entry, and know that my thoughts and prayers remain with you. Thank you for sharing the inspiration that Haley had.
Denise Ward <deniward@shaw.>
Winnipeg, Canada - Saturday, December 16, 2006 12:49 AM CST
Remembering Haley during the holiday season. We miss you Haley!
Marisa
MN www.caringbridge.org/mn/marisa - Saturday, December 16, 2006 12:08 AM CST
Wow, did you say Laura was only 17? I'm 40, and don't think I can speak as eloquently!! I'm glad to know her letter helped you to feel better, as I'm sure that was the best gift *she* could have received. :)
Kristie Kendrie's Page <kristieokc@cox.net>
Byron (Robins AFB), GA - Saturday, December 16, 2006 11:59 AM CST
I thought about you all day. Every morning Ashlee and her cousin ?KAmryn listen to Haley sing before school...they sing along, and it reminds me of you. You were on my heart today, so I thought I would drop you a note. Sending hugs and prayers your way!
www.caringbridge.org/ny/ashleejean
ashlee thanks the foundation from the bottom of her heart for the package, it came at the perfect time!!!
kristy and ashlee <alyssassmama@yahoo.com>
NY - Friday, December 15, 2006 1:12 PM CST
Cheryl,
Was directed to your site by another and am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter. The Mathis family -- ne/haleygirl -- lost their sweet Haley in 2005, also, and are finding this Christmas season extremely difficult as well. May God bless and comfort all of you. You're in my prayers.
A friend from afar
- Thursday, December 14, 2006 10:20 PM CST
Just wanted to say Hi and we love you!!
Shannon, www.caringbridge.org/mi/marisa <hamet@mich.com>
Flat Rock, MI USA - Thursday, December 14, 2006 7:05 PM CST
Thanks for your thoughts on Mary - as always, you give me something else to appreciate.
Just heard from Lisa that our St. Pete chapter of the HVF will be delivering gift bags to RMH in honor of Haley next week. I'm recovering well enough from my surgery to be able to go. I'm so thankful.
Praying for you always.
Kelly ( Lisa's friend and Mom of Aiden's friend Hannah) <bugsmom@tampabay.rr.com>
St Pete, Fl - Thursday, December 14, 2006 2:27 PM CST
Thinking of you and I sort of think exercising and church balances out chocolate and staying in bed!
One day at a time...
A Sister-in-Christ <missrich@bellsouth.net>
- Thursday, December 14, 2006 12:49 AM CST
Just wanted you to know that we're sending hugs through the computer...
Tony, Jessica, & Gavin Dahms
Jessica Dahms <jessicaaroth@Hotmail.com>
Marshall, MN - Thursday, December 14, 2006 5:43 AM CST
What can I say? words seem so inadequate ... Please know my thoughts are with you all, and I'm sending much love ...
rachael <rach66@hotmail.com>
- Wednesday, December 13, 2006 11:10 PM CST
Dear Cheryl
I'm sorry I don't always post, but I do always read and think of you lots. I know you may not feel it but you offer us all so much comfort and so much "it will be alright" even when it isn't. Thank you,
Joanna (Jessica's mum from CLASS and liverfamilies) <joread@comcast.net>
- Wednesday, December 13, 2006 10:40 PM CST
Hi Cheryl!
Walking on the treadmill twice & church - you're doing better me.
We're sending a package to Lisa for HVF - I'm so excited by this package. It's "Shadow Buddies" - dolls that look like our liver transplant or cancer kids. We think of you guys constantly.
((Hugs))
Stacy - Tanner's mom - www.caringbridge.com/ks/tanner <stacyrobb@excite.com>
De Soto, KS USA - Wednesday, December 13, 2006 7:51 PM CST
How prophetic your words are. You have a gift of expressing what is directly given to you by God. You are using her death for good by sharing your honest thoughts and are evangelizing in a way no other could, except one walking in the shoes you are walking in. Just as God blessed Mary with a son named Jesus, you also were blessed and chosen to have a precious daughter, Haley. You are suffering your own cross, and in your suffering you are expressing where you know she is and in return you are glorifying God Almighty in just the way He wants. God Bless you for your witness to so many people through this site. You will be blessed richly ~ keep the faith.
A Sister-in-Christ
A Sister-in-Christ
- Wednesday, December 13, 2006 11:24 AM CST
Dear Cheryl,
Lisa, Michelle and I are all very much looking forward
to tomorrow afternoon when we get to deliver the presents to the
children at Tampa General Hospital. We know Haley will
be with us in spirit as we bring Christmas joy to these precious children. It is truly an honor to be a part of The Haley Vincent Foundation.
God Bless,
Lynne Doddridge The Haley Vincent Foundation <dhd76@aol.com>
St.Pete, FL USA - Monday, December 11, 2006 9:50 PM CST
We lit a candle for Haley last night. We love you
The Hawk family <RolexH@aol.com>
- Monday, December 11, 2006 6:30 AM CST
I love your new Christmas pictures! My thoughts are with you.
Kim, mom to Sami and Kyle
Kim Faust <kfaust@comcast.net>
Oakdale, MN USA - Monday, December 11, 2006 6:06 AM CST
Your poinsettia girl is the prettiest poinsettia ever!
Bridget Peller <peller6@mchsi.com>
MN - Sunday, December 10, 2006 9:11 PM CST
Thinking of you all tonight &
praying that you have a peaceful,
beautiful Christmas.
Amy, Carly's Mom
WI - Sunday, December 10, 2006 0:44 AM CST
Amen.
Frank (Marisa's Dad) <hamet@mich.com>
Flat Rock, MI USA - Friday, December 8, 2006 11:46 PM CST
just wanted to hear Haley sing tonight and had the unexpected surprise of reading what you wrote about Mary. It certainly resonates. I loved seeing the few new pictures on the front page of this site - what a beautiful girl! And judging by the song and the reason she wrote it....she is beautiful inside and out.
Anne_www.caringbridge.org/wi/zachsam
Waukesha, WI - Friday, December 8, 2006 10:46 PM CST
The Gap
The gap between those who have lost children and those who have not is profoundly difficult to bridge. No one, whose children are well and intact can be expected to understand what parents who have lost children have absorbed and what they bear. Our children come to us through every blade of grass, every crack in the sidewalk, every bowl of breakfast cereal. We seek contact with their atoms, their hairbrush, their toothbrush, their clothing. We reach for what was integrally woven into the fabric of our lives, now torn and shredded.
A black hole has been blown through our souls and, indeed, it often does not allow the light to escape. It is a difficult place. For us to enter there is to be cut deeply, and torn anew, each time we go there, by the jagged edges of our loss. Yet we return, again and again, for that is where our children now reside. This will be so for years to come and it will change us profoundly. At some point in the distant future, the edges of that hole will have tempered and softened but the empty space will remain - a life sentence.
Our friends will change through this. There is no avoiding it. We grieve for our children, in part, through talking about them and our feelings for having lost them. Some go there with us, others cannot and through their denial and a further measure, however unwittingly, to an already heavy burden. Assuming that we may be feeling "better" six months later is simply "to not get it." The excruciating and isolating reality that bereaved parents feel is hermetically sealed from the nature of any other human experience. Thus it is a trap - those whose compassion and insight we most need are those for whom we abhor the experience that would allow them that sensitivity and capacity. And yet, somehow there are those, each in their own fashion, who have found a way to reach us and stay, to our comfort. They have understood, again each in their own way, that our children remain our children through our memory of them. Their memory is sustained through speaking about them and our feelings about their death. Deny this and you deny their life. Deny their life and you no longer have a place in ours.
We recognize that we have moved to an emotional place where it is often very difficult to reach us. Our attempts to be normal are painful and the day to day carries a silent, screaming anguish that accompanies us, sometimes from moment to moment. Were we to give it its own voice we fear we would become truly unreachable, and so we remain "strong" for a host of reasons even as the strength saps our energy and drains our will. Were we to act out our true feelings we would be impossible to be with. We resent having to act normal, yet we dare not do otherwise. People who understand this dynamic are our gold standard. Working our way through this over the years will change us as does every experience - and extreme experience changes one extremely. We know we will have recovered when, as we have read, it is no longer so painful to be normal. We do not know who we will be at that point or who will still be with us.
We have read that the gap is so difficult that, often, bereaved parents must attempt to reach out to friends and relatives or risk losing them. This is our attempt. For those untarnished by such events, who wish to know in some way what they, thankfully, do not know, read this. It may provide a window that is helpful for both sides of the gap.
By
Michael Crenlinsten
L.
PA USA - Friday, December 8, 2006 5:59 PM CST
Hi, Cheryl. I didn't realize how much Haley looks like you until I saw the first picture on the main page. I know you miss her so much.
Your entry today really touched me. You see, I suffered a miscarriage two days before Thanksgiving. My baby is in heaven waiting on me, and I am left to suffer this tremendous loss. No one should have to feel the way I am feeling. It's not fair. It's not fair for you. It wasn't fair for Mary. I know I'll get to hold my baby one day, just not as early as I had planned. I also know that my grandparents are having a wonderful time playing with the only grandchild they've had the opportunity to meet.
I'm sorry, I didn't mean to make this about me. The words just flowed and it felt good to get them out. I continue to think of you and your family daily.
Chrissy Pierce
Kingsport, TN - Friday, December 8, 2006 8:16 AM CST
Cheryl,
I LOVE the pictures! Thank you for allowing me into your family's "life".
Your friend,
Pamela
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, TX USA - Friday, December 8, 2006 7:26 AM CST
Cheryl: Your words always touch my heart. With all the enormous hurt and grief you feel, you also have such clarity.
Peace and Merry CHRISTmas
Rebecca <sonnibrook@sbcglobal.net>
Prairie Village, KS USA - Thursday, December 7, 2006 1:30 PM CST
I can't wait next week to have our foundation party at St. Joe's. Haley's Foundation is an amazing way to show the true meaning of CHRISTmas, the gift of giving. Thank you Cheryl for sharing Haley, so we can carrying on her memory
You sister in Christ, Lisa <RolexH@aol.com>
- Thursday, December 7, 2006 7:48 AM CST
Cheryl, well I know Haley is here in AZ, I have no doubt. Have I met you? No. Did I meet her? No. But Sunday she was the acolyte at church and I have no doubt. I kept looking at her, straining to see. Yes, it was Haley. Her blessings are amongst us all. Hair, eyes, body. Yes, she was here. And to think I thought of Haley the whole service through, well, need I say more. She is here. God bless you for sharing her with us.
Much love,
Heather
Heather Chapman <dutch1210@msn.com>
Glendale, AZ USA - Wednesday, December 6, 2006 11:22 PM CST
That song is BEAUTIFUL! We sing it at my church every Christmas and a woman I know recorded it on a CD, so I have it available whenever I want! Another wonderful "Mary Song" is Amy Grant's "Breath of Heaven"--that one gets me every time! What a great reminder, Cheryl of what Christmas is all about. Once again, you amaze me with your strength and wisdom!
Amanda
Omaha, NE - Wednesday, December 6, 2006 10:19 PM CST
Cheryl, Your post reminded of the beautiful Christmas carol written by Mark Lowry. Have you ever heard the song, "Mary, Did You Know?" I don't usually quote lengthy passages here, but these lyrics are worth the time & space, I think. The music is equally haunting, & one that lingers in the heart long after the last note fades. Here are the words:
"Mary, did you know that your baby boy will one day walk on water?
Mary did you know that your baby boy will save our sons and daughters?
Did you know that your baby boy has come to make you new?
This child that you delivered will soon deliver you.
Mary did you know that your baby boy will give sight to a blind man?
Mary did you know that you baby boy will calm a storm with his hand?
Did you know that your baby boy has walked where angels trod?
When you kiss your little baby, you've kissed the face of God.
The blind will see, the deaf will hear,
The dead will live again.
The lame will leap, the dumb will speak
the praises of the Lamb.
Mary did you know that your baby boy is Lord of all
creation?
Mary did you know that your baby boy will one day rule the nations?
Did you know that your baby boy is Heaven's perfect Lamb?
The sleeping child you're holding is the Great I Am.
I pray for you to be in constant awareness of His presence and peace as you and your family celebrate this season of His birth.
Debbie Coffman <drcoffman@charter.net>
Kingsport, TN USA - Wednesday, December 6, 2006 9:10 PM CST
There are times when it seems as if Haley comes down to sit by you, puts your hands on the keyboard, and speaks through your update. What a beautiful post, centered on the true meaning of Christmas. "For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life". John 3:16
I never thought about it before, but it WILL be incredible to finally meet Mary someday. Just another thing to look forward to...along with hearing Haley's angel voice.
Pam Doughty <p_dought@bellsouth.net>
Powder Springs, GA USA - Wednesday, December 6, 2006 8:32 PM CST
Hey,Cheryl. I just went to see the Nativity recently and it really had me thinking about Mary, too. And how amazing that God chose her and what it must have been like to be Jesus's mother?! Christmas IS all about Christ!!
I am thinking of you and Haley this Holiday Season. I can't wait to spread some Holiday cheer to the kids in the hospital next week in honor of your precious girl! She will always be in my heart. Love,
Michelle Gaylord <mgaylord@tampabay.rr.com>
- Wednesday, December 6, 2006 8:04 PM CST
Hello Haley's family...I don't know you and today is the first time I've seen your site. You were blessed with a beautiful daughter and sister. Last year, we lost my brother after an extended illness. His favorite time of the year was Christmas - we too couldn't put up our traditional Christmas tree, it's way too hard. So instead, we decorated a "BJ tree." Every single ornament reminds us of BJ and his favorite things, from Monopoly money, Yahtzee game sheets, matchbox cars, police cars, birds, pictures, etc. Our immediate family put it up together, we found ourselves laughing and smiling one minute and crying the next. It has been a beautiful celebration of his life, and it helps us remember that he too is with us during the holidays. I hope this helps you with your holiday celebration, as difficult as it will be. Know that Haley is an angel in heaven - free of pain, worry, and suffering - singing her heart out to all of her fans!
Alissa <alidaisydew@yahoo.com>
Champlin, MN 55316 - Tuesday, December 5, 2006 9:25 PM CST
Speaking with you today was a gift straight from God. You are a true blessing, and your never ending love for Haley will never be forgotten. You are both in my thoughts and prayers daily. Love always, Laura
Laura Dellicker <lauradellicker@aol.com>
Holliston, MA - Monday, December 4, 2006 9:40 PM CST
Speaking with you today was a gift sent straight from God. You are a blessing and inspiration. Love and prayers always and forever...
Laura Dellicker <lauradellicker@aol.com>
Holliston, MA - Monday, December 4, 2006 9:36 PM CST
Dear Cheryl
I come here often as you know but feel so helpless. I was thinking about something I could do from so far away that would honour our sweet angel Haley and how much she is loved.
Tomorrow night we are putting up our Christmas tree. Tomorrow on my lunch hour I will go to the hallmark store and buy an angel ornament for my tree...and every year it will be hung in Haleys memory. I hope this will put a little smile on your face...you are very special to have been Haleys mommy.
Hugs from Colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Monday, December 4, 2006 7:26 PM CST
Thinking of you and sending many **HUGS**
Kathy <Kathyp_22@yahoo.com>
Hood River, OR USA - Monday, December 4, 2006 12:53 AM CST
Cheryl, I, too am guilty of checking in without posting, probably because I wish I could say something that would help...but know I can't. We love you. We still pray and still think of Haley... Hugs....
Sheryl, Justice and Tommy's mom <sheryl.lyn@verizon.net>
- Monday, December 4, 2006 9:29 AM CST
Cheryl - My heart grieves for you and your pain. I have said this a million times, but I wish I had a way to help. You have every right to your feelings. I hope knowing that others care so much helps in some small way. My thoughts and prayers are with you today, tomorrow and always!
Kim, mom to Sami and Kyle
Kim Faust <kfaust@comcast.net>
Oakdale, MN USA - Monday, December 4, 2006 6:17 AM CST
Cheryl, normally I check Haley's site two or three times a week for an update. I don't sign everytime I read, but check in a lot. For whatever reason, I hadn't checked in the past few days and hadn't yet read the update about your family Christmas photos. I'm so very sorry to read ..... what? That you're sad? It's not like that should be a big surprise. You've gone through the worst thing, in my opinion, any parent can go through. I'm just sad for you and wish I knew what to do to help. What can I do to help?
Kristie (ALL List) Kendrie's Page <kristieokc@cox.net>
Byron (Robins AFB), GA - Sunday, December 3, 2006 8:54 PM CST
Thinking of you. I check in almost daily even if I don't post. I am praying for your family. Hugs.
Susan, Gilbert and Gaby's mom <chediakfamily@yahoo.com>
- Saturday, December 2, 2006 6:57 PM CST
Hugs from here too. I don't know what I can write to help to comfort you...just continue to be so very sorry for you loss.
Amy Hinkle <amy.hinkle@clubcorp.com>
Carrollton, Tx - Saturday, December 2, 2006 6:23 PM CST
Cheryl,
I'm thinking about you always. I wish that I could take away your pain, sadness, and emptiness. I wish I could do it for even one day, one hour, or one minute. I know you'll always ache for Haley. I'm sorry you and your family have to bear this burden. You are all in our prayers always. Lots of hugs to you....
Shannon, www.caringbridge.org/mi/marisa <hamet@mich.com>
Flat Rock, MI USA - Saturday, December 2, 2006 2:40 PM CST
(((((((Cheryl)))))) just hugs...
LeeAnne
www.caringbridge.org/visit/byesiblings
LeeAnne <allenleeannebye@aol.com>
Northfield, NJ - Friday, December 1, 2006 7:57 PM CST
This piece of writing seems to cut to the heart of losing a child; for those of us who haven't walked that path, it may prove helpful.
The Gap
The gap between those who have lost children and those who have not is profoundly difficult to bridge. No one, whose children are well and intact can be expected to understand what parents who have lost children have absorbed and what they bear. Our children come to us through every blade of grass, every crack in the sidewalk, every bowl of breakfast cereal. We seek contact with their atoms, their hairbrush, their toothbrush, their clothing. We reach for what was integrally woven into the fabric of our lives, now torn and shredded.
A black hole has been blown through our souls and, indeed, it often does not allow the light to escape. It is a difficult place. For us to enter there is to be cut deeply, and torn anew, each time we go there, by the jagged edges of our loss. Yet we return, again and again, for that is where our children now reside. This will be so for years to come and it will change us profoundly. At some point in the distant future, the edges of that hole will have tempered and softened but the empty space will remain - a life sentence.
Our friends will change through this. There is no avoiding it. We grieve for our children, in part, through talking about them and our feelings for having lost them. Some go there with us, others cannot and through their denial and a further measure, however unwittingly, to an already heavy burden. Assuming that we may be feeling "better" six months later is simply "to not get it." The excruciating and isolating reality that bereaved parents feel is hermetically sealed from the nature of any other human experience. Thus it is a trap - those whose compassion and insight we most need are those for whom we abhor the experience that would allow them that sensitivity and capacity. And yet, somehow there are those, each in their own fashion, who have found a way to reach us and stay, to our comfort. They have understood, again each in their own way, that our children remain our children through our memory of them. Their memory is sustained through speaking about them and our feelings about their death. Deny this and you deny their life. Deny their life and you no longer have a place in ours.
We recognize that we have moved to an emotional place where it is often very difficult to reach us. Our attempts to be normal are painful and the day to day carries a silent, screaming anguish that accompanies us, sometimes from moment to moment. Were we to give it its own voice we fear we would become truly unreachable, and so we remain "strong" for a host of reasons even as the strength saps our energy and drains our will. Were we to act out our true feelings we would be impossible to be with. We resent having to act normal, yet we dare not do otherwise. People who understand this dynamic are our gold standard. Working our way through this over the years will change us as does every experience - and extreme experience changes one extremely. We know we will have recovered when, as we have read, it is no longer so painful to be normal. We do not know who we will be at that point or who will still be with us.
We have read that the gap is so difficult that, often, bereaved parents must attempt to reach out to friends and relatives or risk losing them. This is our attempt. For those untarnished by such events, who wish to know in some way what they, thankfully, do not know, read this. It may provide a window that is helpful for both sides of the gap.
By
Michael Crenlinsten
Pam Doughty <p_dought@bellsouth.net>
Powder Springs, GA USA - Friday, December 1, 2006 3:47 PM CST
Cheryl, Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers....
Love, Kathy <Kathyp_22@yahoo.com>
Hood River, OR 97031 - Friday, December 1, 2006 10:54 AM CST
Cheryl...I know. I have the same feelings of the Holidays...for some reason it's harder for me this year than last as well. Please know that I will be thinking and praying for you. We will get through...our angels will carry us through.
Lisa - Forever Kyle's Mom <bailsam@msn.com www.caringbridge.org/canada/kyle>
New Brunswick , Canada - Friday, December 1, 2006 8:00 AM CST
Cheryl,
My heart hurts for you.....
Dot O'Connor <Dototon@aol.com>
Philadelphia , PA - Friday, December 1, 2006 7:28 AM CST
I am so sorry.. we love you
Lisa <RolexH@aol.com>
- Friday, December 1, 2006 6:14 AM CST
I'm so glad you are getting your signs. Of course your faith allows you to see them. I believe everyone gets signs but not everyone understands. She wants you to be happy. I know, easier said then done.
((()))
Irene
Toms river, NJ - Wednesday, November 29, 2006 9:01 PM CST
Checking in to see how you are doing.
Enjoyed the latest post.
Prayers continue...
Frank (Marisa's Dad) <hamet@mich.com>
Flat Rock, MI USA - Tuesday, November 28, 2006 8:42 PM CST
Oh. My. Goodness. Your journal entry is beautiful, soft & gentle and strong at the same time.
Wow and double-wow----your entry gives hope to all of us who are sometimes struggling --- thank you.
And thank you sweet Haley.... you are not forgotten.
With love from Dee from the big city of Rogersville
- Monday, November 27, 2006 9:02 PM CST
A miracle, Cheryl.
I am so glad it was a miracle for you.
Peace...
Bridget <peller6@mchsi.com>
- Monday, November 27, 2006 3:30 PM CST
Cheryl - Just a quick note to let you know that you are in my prayers.
Amy Hinkle <amy.hinkle@clubcorp.com>
Carrollton, TX - Monday, November 27, 2006 12:38 AM CST
Cheryl,
Since it has been up, I have read that entry now 5 times. Everytime I just smile, and the tears flow. I am amazed at the signs she gave you, LITTERALLY in a SIGN. "Haley's ice cream shop". And you KNOW it would be icecream with Haley. My favorite part of staying with you guys in Atlanta was the nightly bowl of ice cream. These aren't cute puny bowls, we PILED it high. Fill-er up. Just the way a kid would. I love that.
I am so glad your trip was so beautiful. That you had views like the ones in the photo. I can't wait to hear more. We love you guys.
Lisa and Aiden <RolexH@aol.com>
- Monday, November 27, 2006 6:11 AM CST
Cheryl
How amazing it was for the ice cream shop to be named Haley's. My family went to Brunswick to spend Thanksgiving with Mark's Dad. We braved the crowds on Friday and we saw a reminder of Haley. Jen and I just looked at each other and said Haley. It was a chocolate fountain. I will forever think of Haley when I see one. Thank you for sharing your family beach memories. Love you guys all.
Karen
Chatsworth, GA q - Sunday, November 26, 2006 10:10 PM CST
Hi Cheryl,
I really enjoyed your beach memories and just everyday life for your family...I look so forward to coming here...most times I go away with a much closer relationship with Jesus and family. Please take care and I can't wait to see where that little or big will be coming from.
Peace and Joy always,
colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Sunday, November 26, 2006 7:05 PM CST
Cheryl,
What beautiful memories...with a beautiful sunset...
My heart breaks as you remember,
Pamela
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, Tx USA - Sunday, November 26, 2006 5:10 PM CST
Dear Cheryl, I read your beach account with tears. You said so much that I have always thought. The sights and sounds of sand and sea have always been for me what you have described: a place to see the vastness of God. To experience His closeness, to admire His handiwork, to contemplate all the mysteries that He places in a lifetime. I have stood on the shore of the Pacific, the Gulf of Mexico, and the Atlantic. And on each horizon there is one verse that always, always fits: "Oh Lord, our Lord, how excellent is thy name in all the earth!" Psalm 8:1. The one thought that I think on the Atlantic that doesn't apply to the others is gripping, too. I think that it would be a wonderful thing to be standing on the most Eastern portion in my country when my Lord returns to the earth and splits that Eastern horizon. Sunrise over that Atlantic will never match "SONrise" there. And if I'm still one of the living then, I think I'd love to be there when it happens. It sounds like an event you would love from that point of view, too.
Debbie Coffman <drcoffman@charter.net>
Kingsport, TN USA - Sunday, November 26, 2006 5:09 PM CST
Thinking of you today. I am one of the ones who question God...which is why I think I'm having such a hard time coping and gaining so much weight...my coping mechanism has become eating unfortunately :( It is hard and everyone deals differently and copes differently as you said. Do what you have to do...eat, watch tv, stay in your pj's all day if that's what it takes. It's ok.
Your work with Haley's Foundation is remarkable, Cheryl...you should be so proud...I know Haley would be proud of you and what you are doing for others. She is looking down on you with a smile.
Lisa - Forever Kyle's Mom <bailsam@msn.com www.caringbridge.org/canada/kyle >
New Brunswick , Canada - Saturday, November 25, 2006 9:02 PM CST
Thinking of you!
((()))
Irene <irenebrenner@yahoo.com>
Toms river, NJ - Thursday, November 23, 2006 8:03 PM CST
Thought of you often today ... praying for God to provide in a way that you haven't experienced Him before. Really don't know what to say as I know today is more than hard.
Mary Lee Carrigan <mary_robb@bellsouth.net>
- Thursday, November 23, 2006 7:51 PM CST
Cheryl,
Even though I'm "there with you", I don't quite know what to say. Just asking God to hold you tight...
Thankful for the Savior,
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, TX USa - Thursday, November 23, 2006 9:00 AM CST
Have a peaceful, happy Thanksgiving.
I am thankful for friends like you.
Amy, Carly's Mom
WI - Wednesday, November 22, 2006 10:04 PM CST
Wonderful photos, Cheryl. You are doing tremendous work in Haley's memory.
Thinking of you, this Thanksgiving week.
Peace...
Bridget <peller6@mchsi.com>
MN - Wednesday, November 22, 2006 2:54 PM CST
Cheryl & Family, You are in my prayers this Thanksgiving Holiday. Thank you for sharing all the lovely pictures from Haley's birthday celebration. Enjoy the beach!
Kathy <Kathyp_22@yahoo.com>
Hood River, OR USA - Wednesday, November 22, 2006 1:52 PM CST
I am so thankful this holiday you are where you feel "closest" to Haley, at the beach. I wish I was there, but I am in my prayers and spirit.
Eat some of your delicious hashbrown caserole for me.. Love and hugs from our family to yours.
The Hawk Family <RolexH@aol.com>
- Wednesday, November 22, 2006 9:17 AM CST
What a beautiful party for Haley!
prayers and love
mrs pam
- Wednesday, November 22, 2006 8:54 AM CST
Hi Cheryl,
Just stopping in to let you know your family is in my prayers this thanksgiving holiday. I hope you find some peace at the beach.
The pictures of Haley's Birthday party are spectacular!
I only watch Grey's Anatomy - need a little fantasy to get through life sometimes. Waiting for AI to return!
Mary M - KaitlynsMom (liver tx9/05) www3.caringbridge.org/nj/kaitlynrose <marmor@ptd.net>
Newton, NJ usa - Wednesday, November 22, 2006 5:24 AM CST
Thankyou for sharing Haleys birthday pictures Cheryl..what an awesome job everyone did. You must be very proud of your kids who helped put this together. I think of you often and pray for peace in your heart now and always.
God Bless, and HAPPY THANKSGIVING VINCENT FAMILY!!!
colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Tuesday, November 21, 2006 10:32 PM CST
Hi Cheryl, Just stopping by to let you know I was thinking of you. Sending love and prayers to you and your family.
Kathy <Kathyp_22@yahoo.com>
Hood River, OR USA - Tuesday, November 21, 2006 11:45 AM CST
Cheryl,
Thinking of you today...
Pamela
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, Tx USA - Tuesday, November 21, 2006 10:01 AM CST
Sam loved the beach too....so in some ways it is good to be there (when I can - I live in wisconsin where they actually think going to the lake is going to the beach!). In other ways it is unbearable. I'm right there with you Cheryl -second holidays after our children are gone sure don't seem to feel much better or different than the 1st.
I wanted to visit Haley's site tonight so that I could hear her voice. I cannot imagine angels singing more sweetly, more beautifully than Haley.
Crying with you,
Anne - mama to Sam_www.caringbridge.org/wi/zachsam
- Monday, November 20, 2006 8:21 PM CST
I couldn't agree more with LeeAnn. Everyone deals with grief, differently. My father passed away when I was 19 years old. I felt robbed and was mad at my siblings because they had more time with him (I was the baby out of 5). Mad at God because he would miss my wedding and the births of my children. I cried...a lot...but it was a year later when I truely started grieving. Up until that time...it was like I was treading water...running from the realization of it and trying to do everything except deal with it. He has been gone for 19 years the 16th of this month. It doesn't seem possible that it's been that long ago...I guess b/c I hold him so near, every day, in my thoughts and heart. Only you know what helps YOU...the rest of us are here to let you know that no matter HOW you learn to live without Haley, we're here to walk this journey with you should you need a hand to hold...a shoulder to cry on ...or an ear to listen...and above all...praying prayers of encouragement.
I wanted to tell you that I enjoy reading your updates. I hope you are feeling better and I hope to see an update from you as soon as you feel up to it. I miss hearing from you.
Sonya <thekaupohana@yahoo.com>
Columbus, GA - Monday, November 20, 2006 10:50 AM CST
Thoughts are with you.
Corella Thorbeck <cthorbeck@aol.com>
Plymouth, MN - Sunday, November 19, 2006 11:05 PM CST
I am praying that the LORD JESUS wrap you in his arms an let you know that he cares about you and that he still has a plan for you.I do not think anyone can begin to understand how you feel until they have lost a child.It has to be so hard.Know that I AM PRAYING FOR YOU DAILY.I found your site from RACHEL HANSENS site.
Julie <jachass@nodaknet.net>
- Saturday, November 18, 2006 1:45 PM CST
Hi Cheryl, just thinking as I read your first line, about running from grief. I remember years ago lamenting that I had gotten through so much, so much time had already past, it seemed so incredibly UNFAIR that now at this point I had to come to terms with a loss, 18 months after. I was a single mom, with a job, bought a house, raising baby, LIVING. Doing my job...the words still come back to me. The therapists response was that I had to survive first and be able to cope with my grief before I was able to experience it fully and then move on emotionally. I remember how grossly unfiar it seemed to have to go backwards to move forwards, and truth is with a death of one we love so deeply the loss is never over, only time brings acceptance, new memories, other relationships, but the loss remains nonetheless. So I just wanted to say, I think it IS OK at times to avoid the grief, run, hide, distract, and when you have the emotional strength to face that sorrow it will come around, even when we feel its so unfair. I think you are doing a remarkable job at surviving and living. Hugs and prayers for solace and comfort.
God Bless,
LeeAnne
LeeAnne <allenleeannebye@aol.com>
Northfield, NJ - Saturday, November 18, 2006 8:32 AM CST
We are praying over you. Our family lost my Niece kylee at age 3 months due to heart Defect we know how hard it can be to lose a Child that you love big time Your Daughter is in heaven playing with the angels and Singing with the angels jesus holds her tight . She had such a lovly voice you can email me if you ever need to talk may our Lord bless you today and always
Http://www.rainbowkidsandbabys.org
April and Christian from Rainbow kids and babys <rainbow_kids04@yahoo.com>
Indianola, Iowa USA - Friday, November 17, 2006 9:40 PM CST
Although it is certainly no comparison to the loss of a child, I went through an extremely nasty divorce and the holidays have always been tough for me. During what is supposed to be the happiest of times it just sometimes brings to the surface that my family is not whole. I read all the books too about making new memories and facing the old ones head one but like you said . . . easier said than done. To this day there are still times I just want to get into bed the day before Thanksgiving and not get out until New Year's Day but manage to get through it anyway. It has gotten easier but still sucks sometimes.
Wishing you peace this holiday season.
Rebecca <sonnibrook@sbcglobal.net>
Prairie Village, KS USA - Friday, November 17, 2006 8:54 AM CST
Hello dear Cheryl,
I have an awful fear of loosing one of my children or grandchild... I wonder if this book "Heaven" would benefit me?It gets overwhelming to me at times and puts me a place where I think of you and others who walk the reality of my fear. I continue to pray and wish with all my soul that somehow God would change his mind about angel Haley and send her back to her precious mom. For now, I wish you peace and happiness.
hugs,
Colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Thursday, November 16, 2006 11:42 PM CST
Dear Cheryl,
You put it all into words about how we miss our children and how we don't want to "be a part of the bigger plan." But there's that quiet part of my spirit that hears God saying," Trust me, trust me." So,,, we go on, broken beyond description, but we go on with Jesus holding our hand. Love, Sandy Bouchard
Sandy Bouchard <valleyvoice@msn.com>
- Thursday, November 16, 2006 9:17 PM CST
I am praying for you while at the beach Cheryl. We love you all so much.
Lisa <RolexH@aol.com>
- Thursday, November 16, 2006 2:36 PM CST
Keeping you in my prayers....
Kathy <Kathyp_22@yahoo.com>
Hood River, OR USA - Thursday, November 16, 2006 10:20 AM CST
Just checking in on you guys. It was good to see ya'll. I was amazed by how "not shy" Kendall was. Of course it's been quite a while since I've seen her. Hhhmmmm, who was that blonde in the purple sweater? We continue to love & prayer for you all.
Karen
Chatsworth, GA - Thursday, November 16, 2006 7:15 AM CST
Cheryl,
thank you so much for your kind words in your entry. I think everyone who ever even came anywhere near Haley, either through her singing or her conversations with you or her amazing writing (that poem/essay she wrote still stops my heart beating for a few seconds because it is squeezing so tight with love and respect for the little girl who had such words), anyone at all knows what an incredible spirit she was -- and still is, to move so many. Your words and your continued work in Haley's memory inspire me every day.
moreena
normal, il - Monday, November 13, 2006 11:04 PM CST
Cheryl, I must say I do have to agree with the entry before mine - it is a very beautiful picture of you and Haley. I hope you're feeling better from that awful cold of yours. My very best to you and your family.
Kathy <Kathyp_22@yahoo.com>
Hood River, OR USA - Monday, November 13, 2006 9:54 AM CST
Cheryl,
What a beautiful picture of you and Haley!
Praying for you today,
Pamela
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, TX USA - Monday, November 13, 2006 6:38 AM CST
Cheryl,
I just stopped by for a visit. I usually watch whatever the kids have on.....either Nickelodean or Disney Channel - Suite Life of Zach and Cody, That So Raven....I'm sure you get the idea. However, when I have the TV to myself, it's What Not to Wear and Little People Big World. I've heard 24 is good but never had the opportunity to see it. We are waiting for American Idol to return as we usually watch that together.
I hope your cold goes away quickly. If I could, I'd send you some of my chicken soup with dumplings....works like a charm!
Take care and as always you, Haley and the rest of your family are in my prayers always.
Dot O'Connor <Dotocon@aol.com>
Philadelphia , PA - Sunday, November 12, 2006 8:48 PM CST
Just dropping by to check on you. What I'm watching....Flip That House, What Not To Wear (for which, I should be nominated) and Deal or No Deal
Kelley Williams <kelleywms@hotmail.com>
Brentwood, TN USA - Saturday, November 11, 2006 8:56 PM CST
Cheryl
I hope you are feeling better soon. As for what I watch on TV other than craft/scrapbooking shows is Top Chef. Jon and I both like to watch that. I know we are boring people. Ha Ha
Karen
Chatsworth, GA - Saturday, November 11, 2006 8:04 PM CST
HI Cheryl,
I was just checking the site and my little four year old son asked me "Who is that girl?"
I shared with him who Haley is and we listened to "Everywhere." I told him how she loved God even when she was sick and hurting.
Thank you for keeping up this site. You have given me another opportunity to tell one of my children about the love the Lord has for us... no matter what happens.
I pray God blesses you and your family today.
Susie <supersusie@chartertn.net>
Kingsport, - Saturday, November 11, 2006 8:03 AM CST
As someone who has seen kids die waiting for transplant, kids die from complications after transplant, as well as MANY great stories of positive outcomes, I would like to share some encouraging statistics. I believe that the word of how great organ donation is is starting to get around. In September 2006 at The Nebraska Medical Center in Omaha, Nebraska, a record number of transplants was performed. In one month, there were 37 transplants, including five pediatric transplants. From what I know, if you carry that number into October, I believe up to half a dozen transplants were performed on patients under 2 years of age. Many of these patients required small bowel transplantation which means the donor must be size-compatible. While there are still somewhere near 100,000 people waiting and there is no end in sight for the need for organs, I think people are starting to get the idea. If I had a website, I definitely would post a donate life button. In the meantime, I will keep spreading the word of how organ transplantation can improve the lives of so many people (kids and adults) and keep all of those waiting (and those who have died waiting) in my prayers. For more information on the included statistics, they can be found in the newsroom/media release section at www.nebraskamed.com.
Amanda Fulton <amfulton02@yahoo.com>
Omaha, NE - Thursday, November 9, 2006 11:47 AM CST
hi cheryl,
i sent you mail at haley's foundation email address......
angel olivia's mom <mom2olivia@gmail.com>
- Thursday, November 9, 2006 8:38 AM CST
Hi Cheryl,
Though I wanted to write this on Sunday night, I had to gather my thoughts before just rambling. Thank you, Bruce and Haley for allowing me and my family to be part of your mission. Haley's birthday was an amazing and selfless way to celebrate a birthday. And, all of the Vincent family were just so inspirational on Sunday, and always.
The Foundation will be an everlasting legacy to touch so many hearts of our young children, and look forward to reaching out and growing with all of you.
We love all of you and again, thank you!
Mina, Taka, and Brooke
Mina Yamada <minayiyamada@hotmail.com>
Atlanta, GA USA - Tuesday, November 7, 2006 9:47 PM CST
Happy Birthday Haley!! What beautiful words, Cheryl. God Bless.
Reva Kinnally <kinnallymr@msn.com>
Schenectady, NY USA - Tuesday, November 7, 2006 6:00 PM CST
Cheryl, a beautiful entry...Happy Birthday Haley...always remembering Haley!
Sue from CLASS mom to Moira
- Tuesday, November 7, 2006 11:21 AM CST
Haley was remembered on her birthday
in our All Saints Day service at church.
mrs pam
- Tuesday, November 7, 2006 8:13 AM CST
We just dropped by to check on you today.
Jodi and McKayla
Jodi Phelan <jodiphelan@hotmail.com>
Sherwood Park, AB Canada - Tuesday, November 7, 2006 0:34 AM CST
Hi Haley's,
We are friends of Marisa Hamets, and we wanted to say we were thinking about your family today. May God bless you and continue you to heal your hearts and minds.
Joann and Joe Cotellesse
Joann Cotellesse <Sisjoannc@comcast.net>
Taylor, MI USA - Monday, November 6, 2006 7:16 PM CST
Cheryl
Jen & I were so glad to be a part of Haley's party. What a wonderful way to remember her. The kids all looked like they had a good time. It was so crowded with kids, it was great. I agree Lisa's prayer was very good, very moving.
Thank you for allowing Jen & I too be a part of a very special day.
Karen <threelivers@alltel.net>
Chatsworth, GA - Monday, November 6, 2006 3:02 PM CST
Thinking about you Cheryl. I'm sure this week will be hard for you. I continue to keep you in my prayers. I wish I would have gotten your cell number from you - I should have called you yesterday.
Love and prayers....Kathy <kathyp_22@yahoo.com>
Hood River, OR USA - Monday, November 6, 2006 12:58 AM CST
Happy Birthday Angel Haley! It has been such
an honor to honor YOU and all that you did for so many children.
Your legacy will forever live in the hearts and minds
of those you touched and continue to touch!!
Much Love,
Lynne Doddridge The Haley Vincent Foundation <dhd76@aol.com>
St.Petersburg, FL USA - Monday, November 6, 2006 10:20 AM CST
Happy Birthday Haley!
Amy Hinkle <amy.hinkle@clubcorp.com>
Carrollton, TX - Monday, November 6, 2006 9:26 AM CST
Cheryl - We'll never forget.
Happy Birthday, Haley - we miss you girl.
Stacy - Tanner's mom - www.caringbridge.com/ks/tanner <stacyrobb@excite.com>
De Soto, KS USA - Monday, November 6, 2006 8:58 AM CST
Happy Birthday (one day late), Haley! I know you had a wonderful party in heaven.
Cheryl, I thought of you all day long yesterday. I hope that your day was filled with more happy memories than tears.
Chrissy Pierce
Kingsport, TN - Monday, November 6, 2006 8:05 AM CST
Happy 13 sweet angel! We will always remember you Haley!
Imprint. Forever.
Amy http://crossingdestinies.blogspot.com
WI - Sunday, November 5, 2006 10:33 PM CST
Happy Birthday Sweet Haley! I hope you're smiling and singing with all the angels today! Thinking about you Cheryl, and praying for you and your family during this difficult time.
Love, Kathy <kathyp_22@yahoo.com>
Hood River, OR USA - Sunday, November 5, 2006 8:55 PM CST
Happy Birthday in Heaven. You surely had an extra special day watching over so many children in Atlanta as they got to enjoy a brief respite from their hospital routines. What a difference you and your family make in so many lives!
Marc, Kimberly, Meg, & Cade Maynor
Kingsport, TN - Sunday, November 5, 2006 8:03 PM CST
happy happy birthday sweet haley. now, there are two thirteen year old angels i know of gracing heaven. i am so sorry that you are not here for a the kind of party i know your mommy would so have liked to have thrown for you. i pray that there is peace....and that you give your mom a sign or two today to let her know your birthday is okay. angel kisses and special birthday wishes. the world misses you sweetheart.
cheryl, thinking of you on this particularly difficult day. the work you are doing is so admirable. i don't know how you do it...i am just glad there are people such as yourself doing it. hugs to you...my sister in grief.
angel olivia's mom, wendy
www.caringbridge.org/mi/oliviasgrace <mom2olivia@gmail.com>
- Sunday, November 5, 2006 7:49 PM CST
Happy Birthday sweet angel Haley. Cheryl the party in honor and memory of Haley sounds so fantastic...you are an amazing mom to be able to reach out to others despite your pain. Haley would be so proud I'm sure. I trust your day was indeed truly rewarding and full of laughter, no doubt some tears and lots of sweet memories of Haley.
Lisa - Forever Kyle's Mom <bailsam@msn.com www.caringbridge.org/canada/kyle>
New Brunswick , Canada - Sunday, November 5, 2006 5:24 PM CST
Happy 13th Birthday Haley! Hope your having a jammin' party up there! I also hope you got every present you asked for!
Charity <csumm75@hotmail.com>
Little Elm, TX - Sunday, November 5, 2006 4:46 PM CST
Happy Birthday Haley! As I was reading the update Taylor was standing here next to me, completely mesmerized by your beautiful voice. We love you and we miss you, sweetie.
With love,
Katie (Hayley, Hunter and Taylor's mom) <dugan2b@yahoo.com>
Franklin, MA - Sunday, November 5, 2006 4:22 PM CST
Haley, it has been absolutely beautiful down here in the Atl area today. What a way to decorate for your party! Happy 13th birthday, beautiful girl... and my prayers are with your family as they get through this day~ may there be 100 different "Haley moments" to let them know you are dancing right beside them the whole way....
Pam Doughty <p_dought@bellsouth.net>
Powder Springs, GA USA - Sunday, November 5, 2006 4:05 PM CST
Happy Birthday Haley! I hope you are enjoying the party thrown in your honor today and are enjoying your cake as you smile down on your family and friends living your mission!
Cheryl - I also want to thank you for visiting Sami and Kyle's website recently. It meant so much to me to see the note from you - thank you, thank you, thank you!
Kim, mom to Sami and Kyle
Kim Faust <kfaust@comcast.net>
Oakdale, MN USA - Sunday, November 5, 2006 2:18 PM CST
Happy Birthday!
Stacy Roberts <stacyroberts1982@yahoo.com>
Saint Petersburg, Fl - Sunday, November 5, 2006 11:28 AM CST
HAPPY 13th BIRTHDAY HALEY! May you have a grand party up in Heaven! Thinking of you your Family on this day.
Marisa
MN www.caringbridge.org/mn/marisa - Sunday, November 5, 2006 11:20 AM CST
Vincent Family,
May you have a grace-filled day as you remember Haley's 13th birthday!
Pamela Matthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, TX USA - Sunday, November 5, 2006 9:59 AM CST
Happy Birthday Haley.
Thinking of you and your family today Cheryl.
Rebecca Bohannon <sonnibrook@sbcglobal.net>
Priairie Village, KS USA - Sunday, November 5, 2006 9:58 AM CST
Thinking of you on your Birthday today Sweet Angel Haley! I bet Heaven is having a glorious Party today!! Your Mom is having a special Party in honor of you today and blessing so many other children's life's with your spirit and memory. Something tells me you will be there watching it all and surrounding them with your Love :) Your legacy of Hope and Faith will continue to live on in all of our hearts and minds forever!
Love Always, Michelle
Michelle Gaylord <mgaylord@tampabay.rr.com>
- Sunday, November 5, 2006 9:51 AM CST
Happy Birthday sweet Angel!! Your Mom has planned a super birthday party that will bless so many children. Your life continues to shine.
Mary Lee
- Sunday, November 5, 2006 8:15 AM CST
Happy Birthday Angel Haley! Gather up all your angel friends and grass skirts--it's gonna be a great luau! So many people have been working hard to make your day special, even though it is difficult to celebrate without you there in person. Your family is in my prayers on this special/difficult day. I am enjoying sharing your music with people here in Nebraska.
Amanda
Omaha, NE - Saturday, November 4, 2006 10:26 PM CST
Just a few more hours till it is Haley's birthday. I will be praying for all of you. Mostly, I will be thinking of you, Cheryl, since we are both moms without one of our babies right where we can touch them.
Peace...
Bridget
MN - Saturday, November 4, 2006 8:36 PM CST
HAPPY BIRTHDAY ANGEL HALEY!!!
I know you are having a great 13th b-day party with all
your angel friends...singing and dancing the night away.
Have a blessed birthday...I have learned so much from you and your mom that keeps me grounded daily.
Love to you and your family that misses you here on earth,
Colleeen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Saturday, November 4, 2006 8:01 PM CST
Thinking of you and praying for you and your family. Haley was a special part of our lives. Tomorrow (Sunday) will also be Marisa's 2nd Transplant Anniversary. Haley will not be far from our thoughts on that day.
Shannon, www.caringbridge.org/mi/marisa <hamet@mich.com>
- Saturday, November 4, 2006 7:20 PM CST
Happy Birthday to your precious daughter. I love the words to the song she wrote and love hearing her sweet voice. Cheryl, I can only imagine the struggles you face without her. I pray that God will surround you with strength and peace, particularly when you're missing Haley the most. Take care.
Lynne <L.Beard@sbcglobal.net>
Dallas, TX - Saturday, November 4, 2006 3:38 PM CST
Happy Birthday Angel Haley! We miss you! We know you have made heaven extra special!
Tammy & Janna <tmwagner@cox.net>
Wichita, KS - Saturday, November 4, 2006 3:05 PM CST
Happy Birthday Angel Haley We have you in our thoughts and prayers
Many Blessings
Your Friends at Quilts Of Love
Chris
Quilts Of Love
Chris <tuesdays_child@earthlink.net>
Los Angeles, CA USA - Saturday, November 4, 2006 1:00 PM CST
Happy Birthday, angel Haley!
Amy
WI - Saturday, November 4, 2006 9:39 AM CST
I believe I heard you on the Star 94 program this afternoon. Your letter to heaven had me in tears on the way home. What a beautiful letter. My dear friend Hannah was interviwed shortly after they read your letter. Thoughts and prayers are with you.
Misty
http://www2.caringbridge.org/ga/hannah/
Misty <mpugmire@bellsouth.net>
- Friday, November 3, 2006 3:10 PM CST
My love and prayers are with you in Atlanta, for your safety and for the joy that will come from Angel Haley's party - and all that you do. Thanks for making a difference in so many lives, including mine. I wish your family sweet memories and blessings on Haley's birthday, and always. Loveyas!
Barbara Mullins
North Little Rock, AR - Friday, November 3, 2006 10:50 AM CST
Happy Happy Birthday sweet angel!!!
Cheryl you all will be in my thoughts and prayers this weekend. I still have not sent out the toys we have, but we will get them out in time for the next holiday, I promise!!! I wish we were closer to help, have fun, and know so many are praying!!! Much Love!
Kristy, Kevin, Alyssa, and Ashlee <alyssassmama@yahoo.com>
ny - Friday, November 3, 2006 5:02 AM CST
Hello,
I've been following Haley's site for a good while now. What an amazing and sweet girl she is. I have a feeling that I may have seen her or you somewhere at Egleston in the past while Haley was being treated there. My precious 15 year old daughter, Jordan, was also a patient there at the AFLAC Cancer Center. She had Leukemia (ALL), went through 21 months of treatment, and we lost her on November 14th, 2005, also from sepsis, shortly after you lost Haley. I know and understand the deep sadness, pain and unbearable loss that you describe only too well. I can only pray that Jordan and Haley have become good frends in heaven. My heart aches for you and your family and I pray for peace (for all of us).
I also heard the tribute for Haley on Star 94 this evening. How exciting for Haley to have her very own "Power Hour"! Cindy (DJ)could not talk about Haley without crying during the show.
Lots of love and hugs from my family to yours,
Teresa Hill
Teresa Hill <thillduluth@hotmail.com>
Duluth, GA - Thursday, November 2, 2006 10:41 PM CST
You don't know me, but I've been following your story for about a year now. I was driving in Atlanta traffic today and heard your tribute to Haley on Star 94. I read that letter on your website when you wrote it, but listening to you read it was so much more powerful. You are amazing.
DeAnn <deesimon@comcast.net>
Rome, Ga - Thursday, November 2, 2006 9:40 PM CST
Cheryl -
We'll be thinking of you guys this weekend.
I'm ashamed to say that our box of toys is still sitting here waiting to be shipped. We missed the birthday party - but you'll have these for Christmas.
Hugs to you!
Stacy - Tanner's mom - www.caringbridge.com/ks/tanner <stacyrobb@excite.com>
De Soto, KS USA - Thursday, November 2, 2006 6:25 PM CST
What a great tribute for such a special girl ... she will be with you. I hope the children have a wonderful time at the party ... I will pray. I have checked on you often and prayed for you often, but never signed your guestbook ... I am sorry for that. Now that my Ryan was dx with a brain tumor that was cancer and we have a blog set up I realize how much these little notes mean to you. You are an incredible lady and mother!
Mary Lee Carrigan <mary_robb@bellsouth.net >
Gallatin, Tn - Thursday, November 2, 2006 3:52 PM CST
I am a bucket of tears... I love you. I can't even wait for this weekend.
Lisa and the boys, whom will be there to celebrate and angels' birthday <Rolexh@aol.com>
- Thursday, November 2, 2006 7:13 AM CST
Cheryl
Jen and I will be honored to help with Haley's party. We'll see you Sunday. Call us if you need anything. As Always, thinking and praying for you.
Karen
Chatsworth, GA - Thursday, November 2, 2006 6:53 AM CST
That's kind of a scary story! I hope that your family remains safe. I also hope your children had fun trick or treating.
Praying for you daily,
Chari Warner <millymango40@yahoo.com>
Alpharetta, GA USA - Wednesday, November 1, 2006 4:19 PM CST
dear cheryl,
thank you so very much for your kind package. i particularly enjoy the book "hope" because i still have trouble concentrating long enough to read anything heavy or long. so, with this book, i can read a page or two. and of course the angel for my collection will always be treasured.
i apologize for not thanking you earlier. i punched out for quite a while. i am not really "punched back into life", but wanted to thank you and let you know i am thinking of you as i do often.
this time of the year....oh my. memorial day, t'giving, olivia's 14th bday and then xmas all in the next 60 days. i may punch back in then.....
until then, depending on my remote and ice cream, and thinking of you as i do.
angel olivia's mom, wendy
www.caringbridge.org/mi/oliviasgrace <mom2olivia@gmail.com>
- Wednesday, November 1, 2006 12:39 AM CST
Cheryl, I think of you and Haley all the time. Sam died before Haley (3/3/05) and yet I have learned so much from you. You really cannot have any idea of what a gift you taking the time to keep Haley's site up has been to me.
Anne www.caringbridge.org/wi/zachsam
Waukesha, WI - Tuesday, October 31, 2006 9:58 PM CST
~*~Happy Halloween!!~*~
Your story had me laughing out loud. So very glad your are locked in and not up!
Hope all is well...
Luv, ~*Deirdre*~
Atlanta, GA - Tuesday, October 31, 2006 11:57 AM CST
I am so proud to be a part of this weekend. This weekend where we will be celebrating Haley's life by simply doing what Haley did. GIVING to others. I can't wait to hug you and be together on this day. No long distance could keep me away. HUGS
Lisa, Aiden's mommy <RolexH@aol.com>
- Tuesday, October 31, 2006 6:18 AM CST
Hi Cheryl,
Wow, I loved reading that mystery story, but I don't think the story is over yet...oh,oh!!! I think the white powder stuff has something to do with the bad guy they were looking for...hmm , just an idea. You were looking for some excitement for the day anyways, right Cheryl?
Hugs and prayers,
Colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Monday, October 30, 2006 9:57 PM CST
Uh hummmmm a likely story. Just joking. Wow, what excitement!
Amy Hinkle <amy.hinkle@clubcorp.com>
Carrollton, TX - Monday, October 30, 2006 4:08 PM CST
Dear Cheryl,
Thank you for visiting Jennifer's web site and your lovely comments.
My heart broke when I read about precious, beautiful Haley. How strong and brave she was. I know you miss her very much Cheryl and if you ever need to rant, cry or scream please know I am just a click away.
I will be praying for strength and peace on this dark journey. God has brought me far since He called Jennifer home but I will never forget what it was like to be where you are now.
God bless you honey.
Judy and Angel Jennifer
Judy <tnderheart@yahoo.com>
- Monday, October 30, 2006 3:53 PM CST
ROFLOL....Oh Cheryl, They always say truth is stranger then fiction, but I thought only at my house did that apply..LOL You have definitley WON on that bizzare tale! LOL YIKES! I do hope the perp has long since flown from the country ..you did change your locks right????
LeeAnne, Sammi and family
www.caringbridge.org/visit/byesiblings
LeeAnne <allenleeannebye@aol.com>
Northfield, NJ - Monday, October 30, 2006 12:51 AM CST
Oh my gosh - the strangest things happen to your family! I was also recalling the bee incident story as I read this one. Cheryl - please consider writing a book someday, you are such a great writer!
On another note - Sami has been listening to Haley's CD and the song Everywhere on your website. She is so into them right now. She spent about 20-30 minutes on Saturday listening to Everywhere over and over again and writing down the words to the song. It is so cute listening to her sing along. She especially likes Bili Rubin right now. We think about Haley always.
Kim, mom to Sami and Kyle
Kim Faust <kfaust@comcast.net>
Oakdale, MN USA - Monday, October 30, 2006 6:21 AM CST
Cheryl, this may sound odd. But not really I suppose, as a mom of such an angel like Haley. This morning, (early might I add) all I could hear is Haley singing. I have her songs and I cherish them, but today it was different, like she was here with me, and I don't even "know" you. I heard her singing and I want you to know that. What a blessing. If I could I would come to your home and sit with you and cry, scream, ache. Just know there are armies of us on your side, on YOUR side. God bless you always, always.
Heather Chapman <dutch1210@msn.com>
Glendale , AZ USA - Sunday, October 29, 2006 9:21 PM CST
I pray for your family.
Kellie <kelliekea@hotmail.com>
Tyler , Tx USA - Sunday, October 29, 2006 9:19 PM CST
Thinking of you!
Marisa
MN www.caringbridge.org/mn/marisa - Saturday, October 28, 2006 5:53 PM CDT
Cheryl,
Thanking God for you today...
Pamela
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, TX USA - Saturday, October 28, 2006 9:10 AM CDT
praying for you, Cheryl.
holding your whole family in my heart always.
Amy http://crossingdestinies.blogspot.com
WI - Thursday, October 26, 2006 9:17 PM CDT
My last post was one of those things like you want to take back just as soon as the words cross your lips. Or at least to clarify.
I am a long time follower of Haley's site. I read often but post infrequently. I KNOW that you have HOPE. I've read every precious entry that you've ever written. I know that you know that your HOPE lies in meeting Haley again in Heaven. I didn't mean to imply that you lacked hope. I simply know that sometimes it is hard to see the hope through the fog.
Still praying,
Kelley Williams <kelleywms@hotmail.com>
Brentwood, TN USA - Thursday, October 26, 2006 8:53 PM CDT
Praying for you; that tomorrow will always be just a little better than today; that breathing in and breathing out will come easier and that hope will flood your soul.
Kelley Williams <kelleywms@hotmail.com>
Brentwood, TN USA - Thursday, October 26, 2006 8:50 PM CDT
You're in my prayers.
Cat
NYC, - Thursday, October 26, 2006 2:30 PM CDT
You can count on me to be praying for you. I am so sorry.
Bridget Peller <peller6@mchsi.com>
Hutchinson, MN - Thursday, October 26, 2006 8:36 AM CDT
I am so sorry. So so sorry... I hurt when you hurt. I love you
Lisa <RolexH@aol.com>
- Thursday, October 26, 2006 7:47 AM CDT
Cheryl,
I really stepped up the prayers for you today.....that it will be a better day than yesterday.
Dot O'Connor <Dotocon@aol.com>
Philadelphia , PA - Thursday, October 26, 2006 7:46 AM CDT
Cheryl...know that we pray for you often. Justice, bless his litte four year old heart, still prays for Haley to come back home with her "happy heaven liver." I wish she could. I'm sorry for your pain, I wish we could spread it out and bear this burden for you. Anyway, we continue to pray for you and the family.
Sheryl, Justice's mom <Sheryl.lyn@verizon.net>
- Thursday, October 26, 2006 0:30 AM CDT
I've been to Haley's page several times over the past year and not sure if I've ever signed.
When I came back to it tonight and saw what today was, I knew I had to today. I know this day NEVER gets any easier with time and the pain is just as intense as it was a year ago. I was reading back a little about Haley and listening to the song. Wow! What talent and beauty.
I know there are no magical words I could offer to ease any pain, but just wanted you to know that another family is hurting with you tonight and thinking of Haley.
love,hope and courage
Carol (Reid and Randon's page) <dmill3@insightbb.com>
Bowling Green, KY - Thursday, October 26, 2006 0:16 AM CDT
This post reads like a blow to the gut :( ...which is, I'm sure, how you feel over and over and over. I am a lurker ('introduced' to your sweet Haley by Kristie/Kendrie). I just wanted to let you know I'm thinking about you, and I am hoping that tomorrow will be a gentler day for you.
Jadine Doyle <jadoyle@cox-internet.com>
Pflugerville, TX USA - Wednesday, October 25, 2006 11:15 PM CDT
Dearest Cheryl,
What to say, and not to say?...I just never know, but I do know this, Haley is so very proud of her beautiful mom. I am praying for more easier days than harder days like today, and for you to have that special dream tonight.
Hugs and love,
colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Wednesday, October 25, 2006 10:40 PM CDT
Cheryl, please know that I'm thinking about you, and it is my fervent hope that tomorrow is a better day. Huge cyber-hugs to you,
Kristie (ALL List) Kendrie's Page <kristieokc@cox.net>
Byron (Robins AFB), GA - Wednesday, October 25, 2006 10:37 PM CDT
Cheryl
I'm sorry this is a bad day for you. I will say extra prayers. You are always in my thoughts & prayers.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Wednesday, October 25, 2006 9:00 PM CDT
What a terribly sad entry. I can't imagine how you must feel. Still praying and hoping for better days. Much love from Michigan.
Angela <anji@comcast.net>
brighton, mi usa - Wednesday, October 25, 2006 5:29 PM CDT
9) "...Thou art my servant; I have chosen thee, and not cast thee away."
10) "Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of righteousness."
Isaiah 41:9 & 10
May God bless you in your hour of need.
Sarah <sbc1779@aol.com>
- Wednesday, October 25, 2006 4:06 PM CDT
Stopping to pray for you right now... I'm just so sorry that you have to walk this impossibly hard road.
Pam Doughty <p_dought@bellsouth.net>
Powder Springs, GA USA - Wednesday, October 25, 2006 3:25 PM CDT
Thinking of you today. My heart and prayers go out to you.
Linda Thomas <lthomas92365@yahoo.com>
Columbus, GA USA - Wednesday, October 25, 2006 3:12 PM CDT
I read your entry today and am feeling so bad for you. Please just remember that God is with you and for you to help you through this hard time. You are totally in my prayers and totally in my heart for feeling the way you do as a mother who dearly loves their child. I will pray for your strength to get through this hard time. You are a strong momma and I really respect you for that....
Love, Hope, Faith and Prayers
Kasey
Kasey Nelson <kaseynelson@aol.com>
Salem, AL USA - Wednesday, October 25, 2006 3:06 PM CDT
Cheryl: I'm praying for you. I'm sorry it is a hard day for you. I'm thinking of sweet Haley too.
Rebecca <sonnibrook@sbcglobal.net>
Prairie Village, KS USA - Wednesday, October 25, 2006 3:00 PM CDT
Hugs from one mom to another.
www.caringbridge.org/canada/kyle
Lisa - Forever Kyle's Mom <bailsam@msn.com >
Canada - Wednesday, October 25, 2006 2:00 PM CDT
I'm so sorry for your sadness. You don't know me, but I pray for you often. God bless you.
Claire Strayer <cstrayer@hrtc.net>
McCordsville, IN - Wednesday, October 25, 2006 1:43 PM CDT
Praying for you, and sending many ((hugs))) your way. Please know that we always think of sweet Haley.
Michelle (Jack's Mom) www.caringbridge.org/ny/jack <mmorea@optonline.net>
Massapequa, NY - Wednesday, October 25, 2006 1:28 PM CDT
Cheryl,
Thank you for sharing this so we know what your prayer needs are. May God wrap you in his love and get you through this tough time.
-The Wellmans
Kimberly <kawellm@yahoo.com>
Kingsport, TN USA - Wednesday, October 25, 2006 1:15 PM CDT
Omigosh, I am laughing so hard and at the same time feeling so grateful that I have not given in to Hunter's incessant requests for another puppy!!
Thank you so much for the big smile tonight. :)
Lots of love,
Katie (Hayley, Hunter and Taylor's mom) <dugan2b@yahoo.com>
Franklin, MA - Tuesday, October 24, 2006 10:56 PM CDT
Thanks for the laugh! Always thinking of you.
Sue from CLASS mom to Moira
- Monday, October 23, 2006 9:30 PM CDT
Oh my gosh Cheryl how funny. I think most everyone who owns a dog can write about their (mis)adventures. My dog has chewed up my wood blinds and actually chewed and clawed his way through a wood door when I locked him in my bedroom one day. It's a good thing the outside of my house is made of brick. But, like you, luckily I love him!
Rebecca <sonnibrook@sbcglobal.net>
Prairie Village, KS USA - Monday, October 23, 2006 8:46 PM CDT
Cheryl, I just wanted you to know I absolutely LOVE to read your entries. You are so funny! I know that having to wash the dishes by hand has to be horrible, especially when you have such a big family. I continue to pray for your loss.
God Bless
Kasey Nelson
Kasey Nelson <kaseynelson@aol.com>
Salem, AL USA - Monday, October 23, 2006 12:05 AM CDT
Just thinking about ya today!
oh my, the dog in the dishwasher...what a sight that must have been! hee hee!
Amy, Carly's Mom
WI - Monday, October 23, 2006 11:05 AM CDT
Thank you for sharing your laughter. You really must videotape the dog eating the popcorn ball. Funniest Home Video winner, for sure!
I no longer have a dog to make me laugh(we had to put our Penny to sleep about 9 months ago) But, I do have cats of every size and shape, and they manage to get a smile out of me a few times a week.
Looking forward to seeing your dog on TV!
Kathie Mayo www.caringbridge.org/mn/rachaelmayo <winkatmayo@hotmail.com>
- Sunday, October 22, 2006 4:11 PM CDT
I check on you often. Your story about the dishwasher gave me the biggest laugh I have had in a long while. Hang on in there. I'm praying for you.
Love from Michigan.
angela <anji@comcast.net>
brighton, mi usa - Sunday, October 22, 2006 10:03 AM CDT
Cheryl...I found this on beautiful Christi Thomas's site and it melted me to tears. I had to share it with you.
“Words from an Angel”
I have not turned my back on you,
So there is no need to cry.
I’m watching you from heaven,
Just beyond the morning sky.
I’ve seen you almost fall apart
When you could barely stand.
I asked the Lord to comfort you,
And watched Him take your hand.
He told me you are in more pain,
Than I could ever be.
He wiped his eyes and swallowed hard,
Then gave your hand to me.
Although you may not feel my hand
Or see me by your side
I’ve whispered that I love you
While I wiped each tear you cried,
So please try not to ache for me
We’ll meet again one day
Beyond the dark and stormy sky
A rainbow lights the way.
Thinking about you often.
Lisa - Forever Kyle's Mom <bailsam@msn.com www.caringbridge.org/canada/kyle>
New Brunswick , Canada - Friday, October 20, 2006 12:04 AM CDT
Thinking of you today. You latest entry was touching.
Lisa Russell <loveourangel02@earthlink.net>
Church Hill, TN USA - Friday, October 20, 2006 10:52 AM CDT
very well said!!! I love reading your entries. Your writings have such an impact on me and you have made me laugh a few times. I love how honest you are. There are still so many things that are hard for me too. There are certain roads that I cannot drive on, the camp she used to go to, certain playgrounds I won't go to, and even certain foods I cannot cook anymore.
To hear I look or seem better has bothered me too. Bottom line is that I don't think its even possible to "look" as bad as I feel.
Your Haley was and is a unique beautiful girl, just like her mommy.
Angel Rachel's mommy
jeanne <crowman2766@aol.com>
king of prussia, pa usa - Thursday, October 19, 2006 4:14 PM CDT
Your guestbook entry in Cheyenne's book made me smile.. If I can garden, anybody can. I have had more flowers die and live, but thank goodness for all the nurseries around here. I just keep trying until I find one that will grow around this place.
Always thinking about all of you and always praying. If you husband needs any pointers (ha) I would be more than happy to help..........
God Bless
Roy
Cheyenne's Proud Daddy, Forever
www.caringbridge.org/tx/cheyenne5
Roy Fiveash <rfiveash@wcc.net>
San Angelo,, tx - Thursday, October 19, 2006 12:46 AM CDT
Cheryl
understanding how "better" could feel like denying your grief,
making you feel defensive. Eventually "better" will feel normal,
I imagine. I hope.
mrs pam
- Thursday, October 19, 2006 9:20 AM CDT
I don't know if you are better or if God just dumps on the grace... but you are my inspiration. When times are rough here, and they can get that way, I look at you and say, "ok so what is YOUR purpose, Lisa?" SO last night I and some other wonderful people worked on that purpose at the fundraisor for the foundation. And after 3 hours of sweating and making dinners, my friend Kelly and I toasted Haley. Because MY purpose was somehow ment to be intwined into yours.
You are my sister Cheryl, my strength, and I love you like family. Thank you for everything you do for me. I am sure you get an extra little crown just for being my friend. I love you.
Lisa and Aiden <RolexH@aol.com>
- Thursday, October 19, 2006 8:33 AM CDT
Cheryl, you are in my heart and in my prayers. Just take it one day at a time.
God Bless you all,
Kasey
P.S. Will you please email me your address, I would like to send some toys and coloring books to you!!
Kasey Nelson <kaseynelson@aol.com>
Salem, AL USA - Thursday, October 19, 2006 8:07 AM CDT
Cheryl
Just take the clipping tools away from Bruce. I didn't see ANY new grow either, maybe Bruce needs his eyes checked. You guys all remain in our thoughts and prayers. We'll see you at the party in a few weeks.
Karen
Chatsworth, GA - Wednesday, October 18, 2006 8:12 PM CDT
Dear Cheryl
Your poor trees, what is it with men and power tools (I'm not really asking that!). Your letter to Haley in heaven was so beautiful Cheryl. All your words, your humour, your humanity are a gift to us. Thank you and take care,
Joanna (Jessica's mum from CLASS and liverfamilies) <joread@comcast.net>
- Tuesday, October 17, 2006 11:51 PM CDT
Cheryl
Although I'm hard of hearing and can't understand
the words Haley wrote about her Heavenly Father,
I can imagine that they are as beautiful as she.
No way is there any regrowth on those bushes.
About 50 years ago all of the pine trees (there were
probably 10) at the end of our beautiful, elegant
sunken rose garden died. What did my daddy do?
Spray painted the brown needles an atrocious shade
of green. Not quite what you'd expect in a formal garden.
Maybe Bruce could try painting a few leaves on those sticks!
prayers and love from Missouri
mrs pam
- Tuesday, October 17, 2006 11:38 AM CDT
Cheryl - I hope to meet you in person someday. You have a way of cracking me up with your wonderful ability to tell a story! I love the Hurricane Bruce stories! I still think you should write a book!
Kim, mom to Sami and Kyle
Kim Faust <kfaust@comcast.net>
Oakdale, MN USA - Tuesday, October 17, 2006 6:25 AM CDT
Hi, My name is Michael and I am scheduled for open heart surgery Oct. 23, 2006. I wrote the words to a song called Pre-OP Blues. There's no music to it but when I told my friends on the ACHA website about it Lyn referred me to Haley's page. Hayley sounds like a beautiful, talented little girl. I love her dirty rotten liver blues. I'm betting God is enjoying her music as much as we are. My web site is: www.geocities.com/brophman2
Michael Brophy <Brophman2@yahoo.com>
Troy, MI USA - Monday, October 16, 2006 10:46 PM CDT
Thinking of you! Can't wait to hear about the big birthday bash next month.
Marisa
MN www.caringbridge.org/mn/marisa - Monday, October 16, 2006 4:40 PM CDT
Cheryl,
I just signed on to check and see how you were and to listen again to Haley singing "Everywhere". I love the song!!
ABout the shrub, maybe if you had a zoom lens on your camera we might be able to back up your husband's claim of "new growth" but as it stands now it just looks like twigs.
I'm always keeping you in my prayers. Thank you for your journal entries. They are wonderful!!!
Dot O'Connor <Dotocon@aol.com>
Philadelphia , PA - Monday, October 16, 2006 1:28 PM CDT
I just wanted to let you know how strong you sound when you are typing your entries for us to read. I really admire you as a mother. I pray for your strength everyday!!
Love
Kasey
Kasey Nelson <kaseynelson@aol.com>
Salem, AL USA - Monday, October 16, 2006 11:01 AM CDT
Hi, this is my first visit to your site. I must say, I'm glad the DMV is bad in places other than CA. Pretty funny stuff. It sounds like you have an amusing and very loving family. I loved the song on your site. It's beautiful.
Karen & Isaac www.caringbridge.com/visit/isaachatfield
Karen Hatfield <wkhatfield812@yahoo.com>
Coarsegold, CA - Monday, October 16, 2006 0:22 AM CDT
Cheryl,
I just love you!!
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, TX USA - Sunday, October 15, 2006 5:10 PM CDT
Cheryl, I haven't signed for a while, wanted thought you would like to know how much Haley is part of the lives of people she never met. Because of Justin's Heart defects I'm on a few groups, one of adults that have CHDs, one of the guys is having his surgery and posted a short verse of the pre op blues, so of course my thoughts went right to Haley. I told them a little about your daughter and gave the link here, so hopefully even more people will learn of and Love the amazing Haley Vincent. I know there is no "good" time of year when your child isn't here, but can only imagine the Holidays have to be even harder, so please know you are all in my prayers, Lyn www.caringbridge.org/nj/justinw
Lyn Wyatt <glwyatt@gmail.com>
stratford, nj usa - Saturday, October 14, 2006 10:44 AM CDT
Just stopping by to say hello, Cheryl...and to tell you that I have what was once a beautiful forsythia and which now has a crew cut thanks to my husband, the Tree Butcher. I tell myself that all that pruning must be therapeutic, but...
Barbara Carroll
- Friday, October 13, 2006 7:57 AM CDT
Your daughter's page is beautiful. Her voice is truly that of an angel.
Michelle and Ben
Michelle Hawkins <michellehawkins3@yahoo.com>
Ashburn, VA, - Wednesday, October 11, 2006 10:10 PM CDT
I hope everything went well today.. I am praying it did. XOXO
Lisa <Rolexh@aol.com>
- Wednesday, October 11, 2006 3:43 PM CDT
Hello. Your daughter is very beautiful and I am very sorry for your loss. Your dedication to helping others is very admirable. Keep up the good work.
Sandi M. <snowflake_37656@yahoo.com>
TN USA - Tuesday, October 10, 2006 9:40 PM CDT
Cheryl, I love Haley's beautiful song. The Lord is working through her still, and through you, to reach and change people's hearts and lives. Thanks for still taking the time to share your ups and downs with us. And much good luck with the new driver!
Jeanne Ubaldini <ubaldini@charter.net>
Kingsport, TN USA - Tuesday, October 10, 2006 8:58 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl, Just dropping by to say hello and to let you know I was thinking of you. I will drop a longer note next time - life has been so busy, busy lately! My very best to you and your family.
Kathy <kathyp_22@yahoo.com>
Hood River, OR USA - Tuesday, October 10, 2006 10:01 AM CDT
The bible makes the promise: "Your dead ones will live...They will rise up". And the bible also says: "The righteous themselves will possess the earth, and they will reside forever upon it". - Isaiah 26:19; Psalm 37:29 The bible makes it clear that God did not originally intend for humans to die. He created the first human pair Adam and Eve, placed them in an earthly paradise called Eden, and instructed them to have chilren and extend their Paradise home earth wide. They would die only if they disobeyed his instructions. - Genesis 1:28; 2:15-17 However, lacking appreciation for God's kindness, Adam and Eve disobeyed and were made to pay the prescribed penalty. "You will return to the ground", God told Adam, "for out of it you were taken. For dust you are and to dust you will return". - Genesis 3:19 Death is thus an absence of life. The bible draws the contrast: "The wages sin pays is death, but the gift God gives is everlasting life". (Romans 6:23) Death is a state of unconsciousness, the bible says, "For the living are conscious that they will die, but as for the dead, they are conscious of nothing at all". (Ecclesiastes 9:5) When a person dies, the Bible explains: "His spirit goes out, he goes back to the ground; in that day his thoughts do perish". - Psalms 146:3,4 (HUMANS CAN LIVE AGAIN)!!! After sin and death entered the world, God revealed that it was his purpose that the dead be restored to life by means of a resurrection, "He is a God of the living and not the dead, for they all are living to him" - Luke 20:37,38 (Why)? B/c God has the power & desire to resurrect our dead loved ones whom He chooses, back to this earth. God's son Jesus stated, "all those in the memorial tombs (graves) would hear his voice and come out". - John 5:28,29; Acts 24:15 (Ask yourself, if my daughter is already in heaven with Jesus, then how can she be in the memorial tomb as well, awaiting Jesus' call)? B/c, she and others are all "asleep in death" as Jesus said, "resting" (see Lazarus' account John 11: 11-44) Other accounts of the resurrection, Luke 7:11-17, Luke 8:40-56 and others. Because you have confidence in the resurrection of your daughter, to see her in perfect health back here on this earth, under Paradisaic conditions, just as God's original plan had so purposed, your sorrow will not be unrelenting. "Draw close to God" in prayer to give you strength and "he will draw close to you". - James 4:4. God and has promised, you will see your dear daughter, Haley again, in Paradise, here on this very earth after all the wicked ones are gone and the righteous ones possess the earth (Psalms 37:10,11)! And "no more pain, suffering, tears", (Rev 21:3,4) and "the last enemy death, is to be brough to nothing" ((1Cor 15:16)-(AN IMPORTANT QUES) - But what do you need to do to be HERE to greet her? There are specific answers found in the bible.
"Someone Special who met Haley once"
Stone Mountain, GA USA - Monday, October 9, 2006 10:29 PM CDT
"Peace be still."
"Oh, I got a piece o steel"
Jennifer <jrfielden@yahoo.com>
Kingsport, TN USA - Monday, October 9, 2006 9:48 PM CDT
I am sooooooooo excited to start reading these great books you sent me! They look exactly what I've been waiting to read. How kind you all are; thank you!
Love, the Thomas team
www.ChristiThomas.com
Christi's Mom <Email@ChristiThomas.com>
Tiffin, OH - Monday, October 9, 2006 8:41 PM CDT
Just doing my caringbridge rounds as they are long overdue and as such checking in to see how you are doing. Take care.
Madelaine and Chris <cwing@mts.net>
Winnipeg, Manitoba Canada - Sunday, October 8, 2006 8:52 PM CDT
Dear Cheryl, I'm still giggling about Bruce and the clipping jobs! It MUST be a husband genetic thing. CK has it, too. The first time he ever attempted to trim hedges here with our spiffy new Black and Decker electric clippers with the 16" blades they looked, well, naked. That was 6 years ago. Now I do the clipping. It just makes sense. Especially since I'm taller than both the hedges and CK. That is a mild, very mild husband bash. More like a hubby tap! :>} as CK is well, short. But we worked out an even trade. The first time I tried to use a weed eater, my work looked equally as pathetic. So now he swears off the hedge clippers, and I don't approach the weed eater and all our neighbors are happier. I can really identify with the 15 year old and the Learner's Permit. I survived it personally just 3 years ago. Now the 15 year old with the learner's permit is an 18 year old with a full fledged license who believes that anything less than a V-8 engine is not even a car. Lucky for him his salary disagrees, so his vehicle is way more low key than a v-8!!! Wait 'til the "Can I drive" litany turns into the "Can I have my own car" song and dance!!!!! It is such music to the ears....not. As for turning in surveys, at least your child remembered to give it to you. Aaron used to hide them in his back pack and they never saw the light of day unless I dug through all the junk to mine for them. Which I did or did not do as the mood struck me. Just one more thing. If you really want some great ice cream to eat right out of the carton, get some of the new "Dibs"! They are way cool. The Nestle's Crunch Bar version are amazing. Ice cream you can eat with your fingers....what could go better with TV than that?!?!?! (I'm speaking from experience here.)
Debbie Coffman <drcoffman@charter.net>
Kingsport, TN 37664 - Saturday, October 7, 2006 9:55 PM CDT
Dear cheryl and family, I have been following your story for a long time, since long before Hayley died. She inspires me and I love her music. She will never be forgotten. Good luck with the foundation.
Love Becky.
Becky Butler <rebecca_r_butler@hotmail.com>
London, England - Saturday, October 7, 2006 6:59 AM CDT
Good to come to your site and read the humor -- absolutely laughed at the picture of the tree!! My husband's idea of trimming anything in our yard ended up with him on an excavator completely removing it, trees, shrubs, you name it, it was gone. Remind us not to ask again...
Continuing to remember you all in prayer and thoughts.
Kristi Gerdon <kgerdon@widrick.com>
Croghan, NY - Friday, October 6, 2006 3:48 PM CDT
Oh my gosh Cheryl, I'm laughing my butt off. What a great entry.
Shoot, I must admit I have a hard time lately getting a date. Perhaps I need to go hang at the DMV for a while.
Thinking of you and Haley today. I'm sure she is laughing her butt off too.
Rebecca <sonnibrook@sbcglobal.net>
Prairie Village, KS USA - Friday, October 6, 2006 8:12 AM CDT
Even in your sorrow, you are so funny. Your sense of humor is a gift from God. You brightened my day. Thank you!
faithful reader
Rogersville, Tn US - Thursday, October 5, 2006 9:47 PM CDT
Maybe your husband sacrificed that poor, sad tree just to get the world to laugh so hard. That was hysterical! Or maybe just pathetic! But anyway, it was terribly funny and scary at the same time. Please never allow him to trim your hair.
Claire Strayer <cstrayer@hrtc.net>
McCordsville, IN - Thursday, October 5, 2006 9:25 PM CDT
hi cheryl,
do you have an extra seat, and an extra spoon? i could be there soon enough to sit with you and your ice cream....
angel olivia's mom, wendy
www.caringbridge.org/mi/oliviasgrace <mom2olivia@gmail.com>
- Thursday, October 5, 2006 5:02 PM CDT
Cheryl,
You made me laugh today, and I really needed that laugh! Thanks so much for that! I am happy to hear the kids are good and that the survey was never completed (even though I found your answers amusing! :)
Michelle (Jack's Mom) www.caringbridge.org/ny/jack <mmorea@optonline.net>
Massapequa, NY - Thursday, October 5, 2006 4:27 PM CDT
Thanks for the laugh Cheryl! I needed that today, more than I even knew! Glad things are going ok over there. I am dreading the day I have to stand in line at the DMV with my oldest!
Crystal www.caringbridge.org/visit/trentonlamadline <mom2threeboys@altelco.net>
West Olive , MI USA - Thursday, October 5, 2006 12:37 AM CDT
Oh my Gosh, I am so glad to have stumbled onto your CB site. I have both cried for Haley to belly laughed at your most recent journal entry. I know where Haley got her way with words and ability to write through music if what you wrote was any indication.
I came across your site through checking Isacc's site. I am interested in sending a few gifts for your foundation. This year, not many, as I am still not back to work due to Sophie. Your journey has been very inspirational to me.
Sincerely,
Kelly Hohler
www.caringbridge.org/visit/sophiehohler
Kelly Hohler <hohlers@earthlink.net>
Ashland, Oh USA - Thursday, October 5, 2006 11:52 AM CDT
just checking in..must say..I don't know what made me laugh more. The poor tree or the survey or the comment about the uniform in the DMV. Thanks Cheryl, I really needed a laugh.
Susan, Gilbert and Gaby's mom <chediakfamily@yahoo.com>
- Thursday, October 5, 2006 10:46 AM CDT
Oh Cheryl,
Loved the entry. I think a lot of us can sympathize with our husbands and their "chores". Thanks for the laugh. Thanks too for sharing Haley's beautiful song.
Keeping up prayers for you always.
Dot O'Connor <Dotocon@aol.com>
Philadelphia , PA - Thursday, October 5, 2006 7:13 AM CDT
Hello! Just stopped by to say Hi, thinking of you guys. I still can't come here without crying. it's wonderful to hear her pretty voice singing though, and the site looks great.
Kristen (Havalah's mom) <kristennn@gmail.com>
Milwaukee, Wi - Wednesday, October 4, 2006 11:33 PM CDT
Oh Cheryl,
I read your entry and laughed until I cried. My husband always gets his hedgetrimmer out and starts cutting about thirty minutes before we are to have massive amounts of company and we are running late getting everything done. It's now a family joke," Oh company is due any minute, yep I hear Dad and his hedgetrimmer." But I laughed the hardest when reading about the survey that you were commenting on. What a blessing to laugh with you and your "survey." Thank you for sharing!!!!! Love, Sandy
Sandy Bouchard <valleyvoice@msn.com>
Rancho Santa Fe, ca USA - Wednesday, October 4, 2006 7:43 PM CDT
OK I must say FOR The record: This is all true. I actually was on the phone with you after the Logan incident. Sometimes when Joey wonders what on Earth we are talking about, I will just send him here.
And let me add one more thing: Logan if you are reading this: I am SOOO proud of you.
Nick: I am learning for when Aiden is your age. I think he might be your clone.
Kendall: you biggest fan wants to hear you play the piano really soon.
Love to you!
Lisa and Aiden <RolexH@aol.com>
- Wednesday, October 4, 2006 5:43 PM CDT
Cheryl, What a beautiful tribute to your angel Haley. I'm sure she is watching over you and your family. We were honored to eat with you last year (we're friends of Kendrie's) at Chili's and I have followed your site since then. I think and pray for you often and hope that you beautiful memories with Haley bring you peace.
Renee' Goodenough & family <goodenough99@aol.com>
Bonaire, GA - Wednesday, October 4, 2006 1:39 PM CDT
What a beautiful letter, and a wonderful tribute to Haley and her gentle spirit...
Kristi Gerdon <kgerdon@widrick.com>
Croghan, NY - Wednesday, October 4, 2006 1:38 PM CDT
You're forgiven - forever and always. And please - I'm the queen of falling asleep at inopportune times, so no worries. I'll be back in ATL 10/16 for another chunk of time, so if you plan another trip down that way or I get a chance to run up your way, I'm sure we'll get to meet up. I promise I wasn't holding you in exile - I just forgot to check my guestbook since it's been crazy at home. Hope all is well. You are in my thoughts and prayers always. :c)
Luv, ~*Deirdre*~
Jersey City, NJ - Wednesday, October 4, 2006 12:05 AM CDT
Cheryl, that was the most beautiful letter I have ever read. It moved me to tears. Thank you for sharing it with us. I am praying for you and your family.
Sending lots of love your way.
Kia <k.klinger@insightbb.com>
Daivs, IL - Wednesday, October 4, 2006 10:15 AM CDT
That was beautiful, Cheryl.
Crystal www.caringbridge.org/visit/trentonlamadline <mom2threeboys@altelco.net>
West Olive , MI USA - Wednesday, October 4, 2006 9:47 AM CDT
You all in my prayers. May God heal your wounded hearts.
Irene
TR, - Tuesday, October 3, 2006 4:11 PM CDT
Beautifully written Cheryl. We'll never ever forget Haley. She is forever etched in our hearts. HUGS!
Jen, mom of Grace & Meghan (jenchar from CLASS)
www.caringbridge.org/wi/alphagirls
Jen <jenchar@uwalumni.com>
Milwaukee, WI - Tuesday, October 3, 2006 12:09 AM CDT
Cheryl, What a beautiful letter. Thank you for sharing it. I have been keeping you and your family in my prayers. I know Haley is beaming and so proud you are her mother. Hugs to you.
Sue from CLASS mom to Moira <patmcg457@comcast.net>
- Tuesday, October 3, 2006 10:05 AM CDT
Wow, I got lost reading your journal entries tonight. You put so many of my thoughts and feeling into words that I could just read your journal forever. I can so totally realte to a lot of it. It's been over three years since Jayli passed away. I still love staying at home, have TV shows that have become my life, get angry and yell at God, have dreams about Jayli, have days that I don't get dressed, have a hard time going to church, have a stronger faith than before Jayli passed away, want people to say Jayli's name and remember her, and am still getting used to this whole new world without my little girl. It still hurts just as bad as the first year, but feeling aren't as close to the surface anymore and I am able to not compare everything with the last year that Jayli was alive. I still think about her every day that passes and miss her like crazy. You are so not alone in this. You feel so many things that I do, that I'm not sure I could ever be of any help to you. But if you ever want someone to talk to that knows a little bit of what you're feeling, please send me an email.
Andrea - Angel Jayli's mom (from CLASS) <adoremire@yahoo.com>
Allendale, MI USA - Monday, October 2, 2006 8:22 PM CDT
He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away."
Revelation 21:4
Kat Hampton <katbird76@gmail.com>
Sharpsburg, Ga USA - Monday, October 2, 2006 7:05 PM CDT
Cheryl,
You are never far from my thoughts. I want you know how very, very proud I am of you. You have fought through this past year like a champ. Lot of love and prayers to you and your family.
Shannon, www.caringbridge.org/mi/marisa <hamet@mich.com>
Flat Rock, MI USA - Monday, October 2, 2006 6:02 PM CDT
Remembering Haley and keeping you close in thoughts.
Jina- Mom to Jackson & Alexis
Deerfield Beach, FL - Monday, October 2, 2006 5:13 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl - I just wanted to say that I especially have been thinking of you and Haley, Bruce and the kids this past week and continue to pray for all of you. You and your entire family are such an inspiration. Haley would be so very proud of you and how you are carrying on her memory and her legacy. We love you and think of you often even though we rarely see you. Your journal entries are inspiring and remind me that we're all human and we deal with things in different ways and that there really are no right or wrong ways to deal with things and that the main thing is to be true to yourself. Thank you for that. Love you all!
Kathy Coleman <kwcoleman@Northeaststate.edu>
Kingsport, TN USA - Monday, October 2, 2006 12:25 AM CDT
Thinking of you all and remembering Haley.
Chrissy Pierce
Kingsport, TN - Monday, October 2, 2006 11:55 AM CDT
Keeping you and your family in my prayers at this difficult time.
Kathy <kathyp_22@yahoo.com>
Hood River, OR USA - Monday, October 2, 2006 11:19 AM CDT
Thinking of you and your family and sweet Angel Haley looking down on you from Heaven and I am sure leading everyone in a song.
Rebecca <sonnibrook@sbcglobal.net>
Prairie Village, KS USA - Monday, October 2, 2006 11:03 AM CDT
Love and prayers to you all.
We were thinking of you yeserday, like we do
everyday.
Becca, Jason and Natalie Ketter <becandjay@verizon.net>
Byron, IL - Monday, October 2, 2006 9:52 AM CDT
My heart and prayers are with you. Your love for your precious girl shows so clearly in all you do and say. I'm sure she's smiling down on you, feeling so very proud of you for not just surviving this year, but honoring her life so beautifully. You are a great mom!
Sarah <sarahr531@yahoo.com>
- Monday, October 2, 2006 6:46 AM CDT
I read Haley's website all the time but have never signed in. I also keep updated with Aiden's site and have been listening to Haley's songs. I have loved every one of them. The predisone song is adorable. I always read from both of your sites about her singing but actually hearing her put it all together, she had an amazing voice. What an awesome letter you wrote to her. As happy as you are to be her mom she's just as happy to be your daughter. Take care!
Vicki Lynn Pfiester <vlpfiester@chartermi.net>
Bark River, MI - Monday, October 2, 2006 6:38 AM CDT
That was the most beautiful letter to Heaven I have ever read. We love all of you.
Lisa <RolexH@aol.com>
- Monday, October 2, 2006 6:06 AM CDT
Prayers....
Frank (Marisa's Dad) <hamet@mich.com>
Flat Rock, MI USA - Sunday, October 1, 2006 10:17 PM CDT
Thinking about Haley and you today, and always.
Harriet (from CLASS kids)
Houston, - Sunday, October 1, 2006 9:17 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl,
This past Thursday I had to take my eight year old little girl to the ER for stitches. She fell off of her brother's bunkbed and hit her head on the dresser which resulted in a big nasty gash on her eyebrow a little longer than an inch. This was my first trip to the ER with any child. During the process of the doctor sewing the gash up, Sofie, who was doing unbelievably well, started to get upset as medicine stung and the scariness of the whole thing took over...
Cheryl, the Lord brought you and Bruce to my mind and my heart. As I cried and whispered the name of Jesus is my little one's ear, I thought of how easy this was.. it was stitches... one moment in one day.
My heart ached for Sofie but it was aching for you and Bruce having to watch and deal with the physical pain I know that Haley had to deal with all the time.
I pray God blesses you today and heals just a tiny bit more of your heart and your family.
Susie <supersusie@chartertn.net>
Kingsport, TN 37664 - Sunday, October 1, 2006 9:12 PM CDT
God bless you again and again and again Cheryl. You are in my prayers. Thank you for your beautiful words.
Lynn Bass <lynn@superlawntrucks.com>
- Sunday, October 1, 2006 9:04 PM CDT
No one can say it better than you Cheryl, that was just beautiful. Haley always knew, and still does know what a perfect mom she had. You were perfect for her. Haley i miss you so much, and i thank you soooo much for being such a huge inspiration to ashlee. thanks for sharing your daughter with my family cheryl, she is a true blessing and always will be. untill we meet again sweet haley...
www.caringbridge.org/ny/ashleejean
kristy and ashlee and alyssa and kevin kelly <alyssassmama@yahoo.com>
ny - Sunday, October 1, 2006 8:53 PM CDT
Thats a beautiful entry mom, a wonderful testament to your amazing daughter. Hugs and prayers to you
Chris & Gooch
Share the Love.org <chrisrusso_@hotmail.com>
- Sunday, October 1, 2006 8:32 PM CDT
I don't have any words that would be even close to adequately covering todays feeling that you must be going through - only prayers.
Love,
Kat
Kat Hampton <katbird76@gmail.com>
Sharpsburg, Ga USA - Sunday, October 1, 2006 8:05 PM CDT
I don't have any words that would be even close to adequately covering todays feeling that you much be going through - only prayers.
Love,
Kat
Kat Hampton <katbird76@gmail.com>
Sharpsburg, Ga USA - Sunday, October 1, 2006 8:05 PM CDT
Dear Cheryl, If they celebrate anniversaries in heaven, today Haley is having one. EVERY day lived in the face-to-face presence of Jesus has to be a celebration, though. All the beauties and joys of heaven are too glorious not to make for a daily celebration. But time here on earth moves so differently, and over the past 365 days, you have opened your heart to share how those days have changed your life forever. It is a beautiful testimony of your faith that you bear witness to the truth that you know about heavenly celebrations: that there's one coming where Haley, you, and the rest of the family will never again be divided by anything of this world, but totally united by all the things of a world that is eternal. We have seen you celebrate that knowledge on these pages even in the midst of your deepest sorrow. For those who believe in that truth with you, it is a privilege to weep with you when you weep, and rejoice with you when you rejoice. I pray that today you find comfort in your faith, your family, and your friends.
Debbie Coffman <drcoffman@charter.net>
Kingsport, TN USA - Sunday, October 1, 2006 7:38 PM CDT
dear cheryl,
i feel a bit like an idiot. please know that my intentions were good with the card i sent to you yesterday. i am so so sorry i mistook the meaning of the day, sending you a happy birthday card instead of the real reason for the day. i have thought of you often today, and hoping for some comfort, some peace. fly high sweet hayley...you are loved, and you are missed.
angel olivia's mom, wendy
www.caringbridge.org/mi/oliviasgrace <mom2olivia@gmail.com>
- Sunday, October 1, 2006 7:00 PM CDT
God IS Everywhere - and it seems Haley is too. I know it seems that way to Haleys family and friends who will never forget her. I thank God for all the songs and words of wisdom she left us to hold on to.
God bless Haley's family with peace and comfort as they continuously miss her physical presence.
Sherry Shelton <shelton@chartertn.net>
Kingsport, TN US - Sunday, October 1, 2006 4:05 PM CDT
Cheryl,
Praying for you and your family...
Your friend,
Pamela
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, TX USA - Sunday, October 1, 2006 3:39 PM CDT
Thinking of the Vicents today and Haley in heaven.
Leah - Alexander's mom <kcmom2boys@yahoo.com>
Lee's Summit, MO USA - Sunday, October 1, 2006 3:38 PM CDT
Sending love and prayers for your family and friends as we remember precious Haley on this sad anniversary. She touched lives everywhere, and the foundation touches even more in her name - and in His Name.
Barbara Mullins
North Little Rock, AR - Sunday, October 1, 2006 3:32 PM CDT
We miss you angel Haley!
Remembering your sweet smile and holding your family in our hearts always.
Amy http://crossingdestinies.blogspot.com <Snklfritz117@aol.com>
WI - Sunday, October 1, 2006 2:56 PM CDT
I just wanted to let you know that you are in my thoughts and prayers, especially today.
Lisa Russell <loveourangel02@earthlink.net>
Church Hill, TN USA - Sunday, October 1, 2006 2:51 PM CDT
I wasn't going to leave a message because you don't know me personally, but I've left you messages before and just want you to know that you're very much on my heart, especially today. When I came to Haley's site yesterday I played her song over and over, and when I woke up this morning it was going through my mind. That happened one other time when I woke up and the first thing I thought of was Haley singing Billy Rubin. I am amazed with her incredible gift of not only singing but of songwriting, and my heart hurts very much for you. I'm thankful you have this site where you can share your pain and your joy and even your anger sometimes. Please know that I continue to lift you in prayer. We STILL serve a mighty God, and just like in Haley's song, He's *everywhere*, even when we think He's not being quite fair. Haley had great insight for a young girl. Peace.
Claire Strayer <cstrayer@hrtc.net>
McCordsville, IN - Sunday, October 1, 2006 2:38 PM CDT
Thinking of you today on this first anniversary of Haley earning her angel wings. I trust you're embracing some sweet Haley memories today.
I love the song Haley wrote...Everywhere...she was so talented and so very wise beyond her years. She is an inspiration to me.
Lisa -Forever Kyle's Mom <bailsam@msn.com www.caringbridge.org/canada/kyle>
Canada - Sunday, October 1, 2006 2:20 PM CDT
Thinking of you today. We miss you Haley.
Susan, Gilbert and Gaby's mom <chediakfamily@yahoo.com>
- Sunday, October 1, 2006 1:40 PM CDT
I've been thinking of you and praying for you all day. I can't believe it's been a year... I miss your sweet Angel Haley even though I never met her. (((hugs)))
Emma <star_heartuk@yahoo.co.uk>
UK - Sunday, October 1, 2006 1:30 PM CDT
Dearest Cheryl and family,
Just letting you know that your all in my thougths today...Haley and your family has taught me to appreciate each moment and day with my precious loved ones. Thankyou for sharing this journey...you are incredible.
Peace and harmony,
Colleen (spencers gramma)
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Sunday, October 1, 2006 1:10 PM CDT
Cheryl, you are in my heart and prayers today.
Michelle G. <mgaylord@tampabay.rr.com>
St Petersurg, FL - Sunday, October 1, 2006 12:28 AM CDT
Praying for your family today, and reminding you that you do NOT have to be "all better" tomorrow.
Jessica Jackson <jessicajrn@yahoo.com>
Augusta, GA - Sunday, October 1, 2006 9:02 AM CDT
Just wanted to send a special note to you, and thank you for sharing Haley with all of us. I KNOW I am a better person from knowing her. There is NO DOUBT. I love you all.
Lisa (sisters in Christ!) <RolexH@aol.com>
- Sunday, October 1, 2006 8:41 AM CDT
Thinking of all of you today!
angie <afoley@park6.k12.wy.us>
cody, wy - Sunday, October 1, 2006 8:37 AM CDT
Loving and Missing you Haley!
Thinking of you all today.
Marisa
MN - Sunday, October 1, 2006 8:33 AM CDT
Cheryl, Bruce & kids
We are thinking of you all today. I don't have words to express my sorrow for you guys, I just take comfort in knowing where Haley is today & hope that knowledge provides some comfort for ya'll too. We love you guys & ya'll remain in our prayers.
Karen, Mark, Jen & Jon <threelivers@alltel.net>
Chatsworth, GA - Sunday, October 1, 2006 8:14 AM CDT
Hi Cheryl and Family,
Just letting you know I am thinking and praying for your family always but especially today. Cheryl, may God continue to heal you. You are an incredible person... no doubt why Haley was so special.
P.s. - I cut out of back to school night early so I can watch Grey's Anatomy. Great Mom I am!!!
Sending Hugs!
Mary M - Kaitlyn's Mom (caringbridge.org/nj/kaitlynrose) <marmor@ptd.net>
Newton, NJ usa - Sunday, October 1, 2006 7:13 AM CDT
Thinking of you all and praying for you everyday with extra thoughts and prayers today. We are going to listen to some heaven-sent Haley music today.
Rhonda (Carson's mom) <tandrkitch@yahoo.com, www.caringbridge.com/mn/carsonkitch>
Moorhead, MN - Sunday, October 1, 2006 6:03 AM CDT
Thinking of and praying for you and the family...and missing Haley with you.
Sheryl, Justice's mom <sheryl.lyn@verizon.net>
- Sunday, October 1, 2006 1:19 AM CDT
Thoughts and prayers going out to your family today. Haley has given me and others so much.
Donna Shelatree <dshelatree@venustel.com>
Venus, PA USA - Saturday, September 30, 2006 11:45 PM CDT
Dear Cheryl,
Know that I am thinking of you and praying for you as you pass the one year mark of Haley's move to Heaven. I love your transparency that you show in your journal entries. Love, Sandy Bouchard
Sandy Bouchard <valleyvoice@msn.com>
Rancho Santa Fe, ca USA - Saturday, September 30, 2006 11:50 AM CDT
Though you have made me see troubles, many and bitter, you will restore my life again; from the depths of the earth you will again bring me up. You will increase my honor and comfort me once again.
Psalm 71: 20-21
Kat Hampton <katbird76@gmail.com>
Sharpsburg, Ga US - Saturday, September 30, 2006 10:05 AM CDT
Hello, dearl Cheryl --
It's been a while since I've posted here - not because I haven't been checking in but more so that I didn't know quite what to say. But when I realized that it's been almost a year since Haley joined the angel ranks, I knew it was time to say hello again.
It never ceases to amaze me - that thing called synchronicity! How in the world did I ever have the good fortune to get introduced to Haley and her dear family? Only by way of synchronicity! You were present to help introduce my sister to Caringbridge because of the serious illness of my niece, Sara Beth Williams. That meeting linked me to Haley and thus to you and your family.
Haley remains so dear in my heart - it's a rare day that I don't think of her and I never had the opportunity to meet her. Her sweet spirit captured my attention from day one and continues to do so. I miss her tremendously but remain encouraged by the fact that I know in my heart that she is one happy lady!
I know that your journey is difficult right now but I also know that you have the best guardian angel that you could possibly have to direct you on your way. Haley was a powerful force here on Earth and can only be even more powerful where she is right now.
Please keep Sara Beth in your thoughts and prayers. She is doing well but Haley's passing impacted her, my sister Meeri, and myself a great deal. It is never easy to say goodbye, is it?
I know that going forward, you will all do well. How could you not with Ms. Haley sitting on your shoulder?
Much love always --- Libby Gladden
Libby Gladden <libeye@bellsouth.net>
Norcross, GA United States - Saturday, September 30, 2006 1:14 AM CDT
Hi Cheryl - I want you to know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.... I know this is probably a particularly difficult (as if the last year was not hard enough) time with Haley's 1 year anniversary coming up. I think about her on a regular basis and share her story with so many others (just yesterday again, as a matter of fact). I tell people how special she was, how she touched so many lives, her unwavering faith in God - even in her most difficult moments, her beautiful smile, her gentle - sparkling eyes, her amazing singing talent and her gift for caring about others. All that, and I never got to meet Haley in person, but hope to some day in Heaven. May knowing that others care so much bring you some small measure of peace today, tomorrow and always.
Your friend - Kim, mom to Sami and Kyle
Kim Faust <kfaust@comcast.net>
Oakdale, MN USA - Friday, September 29, 2006 6:07 AM CDT
Cheryl,
I think about Haley everyday, and you are always in my prayers. I feel as if Haley is everywhere...and I never even met her. It is amazing how many lives she continues to touch. I read your site all of the time. Your writing is wonderful. ***Emma thinks the "Hots" song is hillarious! She loves to listen to Haley.
Angie - Emma's mom <afoley@park6.k12.wy.us>
cody, wy - Thursday, September 28, 2006 10:22 PM CDT
Cheryl,
If it makes you feel any better, I TOTALLY CARE ABOUT WHO MEREDITH PICKS!!! I am so hooked on that show, it is ridiculous. Dancing with the stars......HOOKED as well. You are right about the low maintenance friends thing : ) You are amazing. I will be lighting a candle this weekend for Hayley and holding you close to my heart.
Jennifer Smith <lakerdog2@yahoo.com>
Hidden Valley Lake, CA USA - Wednesday, September 27, 2006 9:34 PM CDT
Dear Cheryl,
Thinking of you and praying God's peace among other blessings for you. Thank you for your words of faith and inspiration, you are amazing.
Lynn Bass <lynn@superlawntrucks.com>
Warner Robins, GA USA - Wednesday, September 27, 2006 8:12 PM CDT
I have glanced through your site by accident. I was looking for Bible studies on Heaven. We lost our 22 year old son on Mothers day of this year. You made a comment of this life being hell here. I absolutley agree. I will never have true joy again. I have learned what hate REALLY is. My thoughts are ever on I just want to go HOME to be with him. Why was he and us chosen to carry this load, instead of someone else. We all loved ech other deeply, there are so many familes who don't care, why was ours chosen? I will forever be angry. I am 45 years old and don't want to spend another 40, or even 5 years left here without him. I want God to call me HOME. I will wait till he does, but as far as "joy" goes. It's gone forever. Family and friends will never understand. My heart bleeds for your lose, as mine. I am not sure why I am writting to you, or if you will even receive this. But I know you know how I feel. I guess sharing it, may be some kind of release? I pray for us all who have lost a child. Never ending pain..............
Becky <Becmae1@insightbb.com>
Rockford, IL USA - Wednesday, September 27, 2006 7:23 PM CDT
Cheryl,
We will be thinking of you and your family this weekend, and will be thanking God for allowing us to know Haley, her beautiful voice, and her precious smile. We are grateful to still be able to hear her sweet voice, and the talent she shared with us all.
You are doing amazing things, your daughter would be proud, as we all are. Know we will be praying and thinking of sweet Haley and many hugs will be sent down to you and your family from all of us here in NY.
Michelle (Jack's Mom) www.caringbridge.org/ny/jack <mmorea@optonline.net>
Massapequa, NY - Wednesday, September 27, 2006 7:06 PM CDT
HI I'am your dad bobs and vel cousin, it good to
hear you sounding better, i think about you alot
and marc and i pray for you daily.alway keep your
eye on god and you"ll get to where you need to be.
love and hugs from joy and marc poorboy
JOY POORBOY <POORBJO@TULSASCHOOLS.ORG>
CLAREMORE, OK USA - Wednesday, September 27, 2006 2:31 PM CDT
I just happened to find your website and as I read I felt like I was reading my life. It is amazing how important TV can be when you feel like everything that you had is gone. I feel sometimes like I find my joy through the characters on those shows and now I have something to talk to people about since I can not share stories about my child anymore.
I am sorry that you have to belong to this horrible club. All I can say is that I understand and I am sorry.
www.caringbridge.org/ca/paigepeterson
Suzanne <PetersonS2@sbcglobal.net>
La Crescenta, ca usa - Wednesday, September 27, 2006 1:37 PM CDT
Cheryl,
I'm always with you in my daily prayer and when I go to rosary almost every week you are prayed for each time.
I just wanted you to know that.
Dot O'Connor <Dotocon@aol.com>
Philadelphia , PA - Wednesday, September 27, 2006 1:12 PM CDT
PRECIOUS SWEET ANGEL HAILEE,
EVERYTIME I COME TO YOUR PAGE IT'S WITH TEARS.YOUR SO MISSED.LOOKING AT YOUR PICTURE'S WITH YOUR BEAUTIFUL SMILE ALWAYS BRINGS TEARS TO MY EYES.BUT I KNOW THAT YOU ARE IN HEAVEN SMILING DOWN AT US ALL.A BEAUTIFUL ANGEL WATCHING OVER.YOU WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN AND YOUR MEMORY WILL LIVE ON FOREVER AND ALWAYS SWEETY.I LOVE THE NEW PAGE YOUR MOMMY HAS UP.
The Cord
We are connected,
My child and I,
by An invisible cord
Not seen by the eye.
It's not like the cord
That connects us 'til birth
This cord can't been seen
By any on Earth.
This cord does it's work
Right from the start.
It binds us together
Attached to my heart.
I know that it's there
Though no one can see
The invisible cord
From my child to me.
The strength of this cord
Is hard to describe.
It can't be destroyed
It can't be denied.
It's stronger than any cord
Man could create
It withstands the test
Can hold any weight.
And though you are gone,
Though you're not here with me,
The cord is still there
But no one can see.
It pulls at my heart
I am bruised...
I am sore,
But this cord is my lifeline
As never before.
I am thankful that God
Connects us this way
A mother and child
Death can't take it away!
LOVE ALWAYS BRENDAMY LOVING DAD'S SITE <brurka@shaw.ca>
EDMONTON ,ALBERTA
, - Tuesday, September 26, 2006 9:16 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl,
Just stopping in to let you know, YOU, and ALL of your family are thought of today. Hope all is going O.K.
Hugs to you,
colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Tuesday, September 26, 2006 8:56 PM CDT
Just wanted to let you know that I check in almost daily...I know, I need to sign more...I'm one of those lurkers :) You're in my thoughts.
Lisa - Forever Kyle's Mom <bailsam@msn.com www.caringbridge.org/canada/kyle>
Canada - Tuesday, September 26, 2006 6:39 PM CDT
Just wanted to send my regards, and to let you know I was thinking about you.
Kathy <kathyp_22@yahoo.com>
Hood River, OR USA - Tuesday, September 26, 2006 3:23 PM CDT
Cheryl
I was thinking about you and thought I check in. It was good to talk to you the other day. Jen & I definitely want to help with the party on Haley's birthday, it will be an honor to help.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Monday, September 25, 2006 9:24 PM CDT
Cheryl..I have found myself in life afraid to pray for all the reason you listed in your last post...thank you for helping me to see its importance. God Bless
BJ
Brentwood, TN - Monday, September 25, 2006 9:40 AM CDT
Cheryl,
The wonderful thing about our God is that He can handle our pain, our grief, our doubts and yes-our anger. When you let Him know how you felt you were actually reaching out to Him in faith and that's when the healing begins. Hang in there - it does get better. Sending you a cyber hug.
Sharon <mkfnfraz@bellsouth.net>
- Sunday, September 24, 2006 3:39 PM CDT
I make it a habit to visit any caringbridge site I see while reading entries from Rachel Hansen or Blair Anderson. When I came to Haley's sight and read your last entry, I simply shook my head. You having to explain something so basic to presumed adults is just ridiculous to me. You deserve nothing but love and prayers for the way you have conducted yourself, and for how you raised your precious child. Your lose is unimaginable for most of us. I pray that GOD continues to give you those times of peace, and that each day, each minute those times get a bit longer. I pray that your children on earth stay happy and healthy, and that your angel in heaven continues to watch over you all.
God Bless you and your family.
Much love, and many prayers from a soul who does not know you, but cares deeply.
The Waldron's
Ken & Nancy <kjw0126@msn.com>
- Thursday, September 21, 2006 12:59 AM CDT
Cheryl,
God made all of our emotions.
I'm sure He has just been waiting to receive your
anger, and replace it with His peace. And, of course,
willing to receive it again and again if needed.
You have blessed me with your faith sharing journals.
Thank you
prayers and love from Missouri
mrs pam <preschoolpenpals@yahoo.com>
- Thursday, September 21, 2006 8:36 AM CDT
OK, so here's my armchair-theology-101 opinion: in order for you to have even five minutes of anger with God, then that was five minutes where you weren't able to focus on your grief. Not that I think forgetting your grief is the goal --- obviously, you will never forget Haley and will grieve her until you join her. But if you can forget the grief for five minutes of anger, then hopefully you'll be able to forget for five minutes of happiness, or silliness, or any of the other emotions you still need to feel to enjoy life. So I think the anger was a HUGE wonderful thing, and I don't think God holds a grudge! :)
(PS Did that even make any sense????)
Kristie (ALL List) Kendrie's Page <kristieokc@cox.net>
Byron, GA - Wednesday, September 20, 2006 9:22 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl,
We don't know one another - in fact this is the first time I've visited your site. I saw your entry on Rachel Hansen's site and felt compelled to go to yours!
First I want to say what an absolutely beautiful girl Haley was!! I was mezmorized by the slide show. WOW...
Second, your entry on Rachel's site was how you wished you had known more about nutrition as a treatment...
Let me say that it makes me CRAZY that the medical community doesn't POINT people more in that direction!!! It's ludacris. Please do not blame yourself - how the heck are we supposed to know all this???? Isn't it enough that people like you had to deal with the devestating news that your child was sick LET ALONE do all the research and come up with answers like Jodi's doing for Rachel?!?! I still can't figure that out.
Anyway, I'm so sorry for your heartache. Please know that there are probably many many people out here reading and praying for you - I'm one of them now. Take care of yourself,
Missey <HiyahChef@aol.com>
Prescott, WI USA - Wednesday, September 20, 2006 1:46 PM CDT
OK so here is the great friend I am... I don't even come to your site to check if you updated because I figured there was none since I am slacking. so I peak in and what do I find?? MY NAME! linked and everything... Oh the guilt!
off that topic. In regards to this latest update. I MUST tell you, that you have counselled me on this topic for about.. oh 4 years. I am just moved by God lifting the anger, I am moved that you recognized it, and I just am hopeful that I can feel the same way myself one day. Thank you my friend who has walked in the fire and shown other's (ME) how to crawl out.
I love you!!!! XOXOXO
Lisa (that is Mrs. PRESIDENT to you! :P) <RolexH@aol.com>
- Wednesday, September 20, 2006 11:40 AM CDT
Cheryl,
As I was walking through my living room, I noticed "Deal or No Deal" was on...and I prayed for you and your family. I know I've said it before but I'm so thankful you are my friend.
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, TX USA - Tuesday, September 19, 2006 8:16 PM CDT
Your last entry was so moving. I wish I could tell a friend of mine about your conversation with God. I'm not sure she is ready to talk about it. She lost her teenage daughter in an auto accident several years ago. Although she wants to come to church (where she was a faithful and active member), she told me that she drives into the parking lot, sits there, and then drives out. I pray that God will move her to tell him what she's feeling (anger, fear, loss of faith -- whatever it might be)and that she will be able to take one of those baby steps, too. And I pray that that small step you've taken will be just the first of many on a healing journey.
Barbara Carroll
NJ - Tuesday, September 19, 2006 12:25 AM CDT
Dear Cheryl,
I have never signed your guestbook in the past, but have followed your journey for a little while (I was introduced to you by Lisa, Aiden's mom and I also know Kristie, Kendrie's mom). You certainly have done an awesome job with God's message and I am constantly inspired by you. You are also in my prayers. I would like to see if you would mind if I use your Sunday, August 6, 2006 post to forward to a family member who would benefit from these words. I pray for peace and strength and whatever God's blessings can be for you. Thank you for sharing your journey. In Prayer, Lynn Bass
Lynn Bass <lynn@superlawntrucks.com>
Warner Robins, GA USA - Tuesday, September 19, 2006 10:07 AM CDT
god bless, I can't imagine the suffering you have been through. One does not expect to outlive their children. Take care. x
liz holmes <lzzhlms@aol.com>
ripley, derbyshire England - Monday, September 18, 2006 1:49 PM CDT
Cheryl, many of those people in the Bible with the strongest faith (David, Job, Elijah, etc) had times when they were angry with God. But, no matter how angry they were, they always continued to turn TO Him, rather than walking away. I see that in you, as well. He understands your anger; I imagine He was angry with all that happened to His Son, as well. And even as you fall back, each step forward takes you a little farther out of the abyss and closer to the light. Sometimes I feel as though God is speaking directly through you, with no filter. I pray that you keep finding more of those moments of release and relief. Lifting you up..
Pam Doughty <p_dought@bellsouth.net>
Powder Springs, GA USA - Monday, September 18, 2006 7:51 AM CDT
Cheryl,
Just wanted you to know that you're always in my prayers. I will pray for lots of "baby steps" for you in the coming days.
Dot O'Connor <Dotocon@aol.com>
Springfield, PA - Monday, September 18, 2006 6:14 AM CDT
You have a beautiful, powerful partnership with God, dear Cheryl, if I may say so... In thoughts and in the heart with you on your visit to and meetings in Atlanta.
Lovingly,
Eva
Eva Van den Broeck <eva.michaele@skynet.be>
Brussels, Belgium - Monday, September 18, 2006 5:30 AM CDT
We just dropped by to check on you today.
Jodi and McKayla
Jodi Phelan <jodiphelan@hotmail.com>
Sherwood Park, AB Canada - Sunday, September 17, 2006 10:41 PM CDT
Dear Cheryl
Your posts are always amazing, you don't know how much of a profound effect you are having on the rest of our beliefs(you're pulling all us doubters along with you to a better place). Thank you and Haley for your inspirational examples.
Joanna (Jessica's mum from CLASS and liverfamilies) <joread@comcast.net>
- Sunday, September 17, 2006 9:33 PM CDT
Your strength is inspiring. Take care.
Corella Thorbeck <cthorbeck@aol.com>
Plymouth, MN - Sunday, September 17, 2006 11:08 AM CDT
Oy...behind again...and apparently missing some excitement. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers with the hopes that I'll catch up on the journal soon.
BTW - I'm in ATL through the end of the month. I know you hate going out and I know this is a long drive, but I have a car that I can borrow while I'm here. If you are up to it, maybe we can meet.
Luv, ~*Deirdre*~
Atlanta, GA - Saturday, September 16, 2006 11:05 PM CDT
Cheryl, I have been reading your site for a while now. I found Haley's site from another CB site and I just wanted to let you know that you continue to be in my prayers. I am sitting here in disbelief that someone would actually critize you for what you wrote here. I have the privilege of working with a lady that lost her grown son a couple of years ago and I know that she deals with her grief each and every day. As a mother myself I don't know how I would handle what you have been through. I want to encourage you to continue sharing your feeling and thoughts about Haley. I hate that I never had the opportunity to meet her, but she sounds like an amazing girl.
Karen <Agentkaren@direcway.com>
Asheville, NC USA - Saturday, September 16, 2006 10:58 AM CDT
Thinking of you tonight with a smile.....your a special kind of lady, and I admire you for everything that you are.
Hugs,
colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Friday, September 15, 2006 9:40 PM CDT
This was on another site - I hope it helps you. Prayers for you and your family for a peaceful Fall weekend with lots of signs from your Angel Haley -
Sand Fleas
written by Susan Larson
“The death of a child takes you places you’ve never been before, not only in terms of emotions, but in terms of awareness of all that is. I liken the experience to playing on the shore with your friends and complaining about an occasional bite from a sand flea. It’s painful and annoying, but at least everyone else understands how you feel when you’re bitten.
Then one day, a wave grabs you and pulls you out into the ocean where you are bitten by a shark. You feel pain you never imagined could exist. And you’re alone in unfamiliar territory. When you get back to shore, you try to explain your pain to your friends, but the worst pain they can imagine is being bitten by 1,000 sand fleas. That’s all they know. There is no way to explain it to them.
But it’s not just the pain you can’t explain. While struggling under the water you’re suddenly aware that there is infinitely more to life than what we see on the shore. You see the ocean floor with coral reefs and rock formations, things you had never before imagined. You have tapped into the vastness of creation to a higher degree. And again, there is no way to adequately describe this vastness you see and feel. You have nothing to compare it to.
You have a true sense of a greater dimension, and you know that the loved one you miss is out there. You also know your loved one is not lost, but has only gone before you to a place more beautiful and vast than those on the shore could ever imagine. Yes, you still get annoyed with the sand fleas, but you now realize how trivial they are. And even if your friends don’t understand you, you know there is Someone greater out there who does.”
Mary H <mch@herzogcrebs.com>
St. Louis, MO - Friday, September 15, 2006 4:34 PM CDT
Cheryl, I can only think that those who challenge your feelings have never been "crushed in spirit" or truly brokenhearted ... at least not in the way that losing a child literally rips apart your heart into a million pieces. To be crushed - to squeeze between opposing forces so as to damage or injure, to extract by pressing, to break or grind into small bits, to put down or suppress. That doesn't seem like something that one would quickly "get through". I love Barbara Johnson's books, but am willing to bet that she didn't get to where she could write those books in a year :). I am fairly certain that in one of her books that I read she shared that she even thought of driving her car into a concrete wall because the pain of her brokenheart was so great ... I would say that any mother who has traveled this journey could testify to having similar thoughts. All I know, is that when I read your journal I always tell God that if I ever travel this road you are on that I hope to do it with the same honesty and grace that you travel it .... whether you are broken or angry you ALWAYS reflect His Glory. That is a constant!!! I can promise you that you are leaving a path through the darkness to those who will sadly follow behind you and giving them some glimmer of light. While most won't understand, your Father in Heaven "gets it" and He "gets you", His precious, beautiful daughter ....The King is enthralled by your beauty. I'm thankful that you carry on with what He has called you to do.
Mary Lee <mary_robb@bellsouth.net>
Tn - Friday, September 15, 2006 4:20 PM CDT
THINKING OF YOU AS ALWAYS...PRAYING FOR YOUR STRENGTH! WE LOVE YOU!
WWW.CARINGBRIDGE.ORG/NY/ASHLEEJEAN
kristy and ashlee <alyssassmama@yahoo.com>
NY - Friday, September 15, 2006 12:01 AM CDT
***Correction*** - Thank you for sharing Haley with us! Thanks for sharing your feelings and you are so right...if people cannot support you then THEY don't need to come here! This is your space and you should be able to express what you want to and how you want to. Thanks for being so strong and letting us into your reality! May God continue to bless you and comfort you!
Charity <csumm75@hotmail.com>
Little Elm, TX - Friday, September 15, 2006 7:38 AM CDT
Cheryl,
we the Chick Fil A week is finished and man we had FUN! I loved telling people about the foundation and what we do and plan on doing still. I see there was an entry from someone here that knew Baily. I am so touched by that. Prayers to that family daily.
Last night, people all seemed really touched and excited. I hope and pray that God continues to lead us so quickly down this exciting path. I better go.. I got some boxes to make lol! I love you and this wouldn't have happened if it wasn't for your calling. The calling sucks sometimes, but I am glad I am just riding the ride with you.
XOXOXO love you
Lisa <RolexH@aol.com>
St. Petersburg, - Friday, September 15, 2006 7:38 AM CDT
Thank you for sharing Haley with us! Thanks for sharing your feelings and you are so right...if people cannot support you then don't come here! This is your space and you should be able to express what you want to and how you want to. Thanks for being so strong and letting us into your reality! May God continue to bless you and comfort you!
Charity <csumm75@hotmail.com>
Little Elm, TX - Friday, September 15, 2006 7:37 AM CDT
Cheryl - you are as inspirational as Haley was. You grieve in your own way and in your own time. God's mercy and grace will carry you through at your and His pace. I am so honored that you share your sorrows and joys. You make my life richer.
Kass Portra <kportra@bresnan.net>
Billings, MT - Thursday, September 14, 2006 1:01 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl,
While taking a break of enjoying being outside today, I had to drop by to say hello. Always thinking of your sweet Haley, what our girls and all their friends are up to. Around here today, so far, has been a good day, lots of beautiful memories and even some smiles.
Take care and God Bless.
Roy
Cheyenne's Proud Daddy, Forever
www.caringbridge.org/tx/cheyenne5
Roy Fiveash <rfiveash@wcc.net>
San Angelo, Tx - Thursday, September 14, 2006 12:10 AM CDT
Cheryl,
I am sorry that anyone has given you negative feedback. Personally, you help me a great deal with your postings. I am going thru the same emotions that you are in a sense. My Grandmother passed away in April and she was my world and best friend, I know it is not the same as losing a child, but the pain is very real. Keep on being you and expressing yourself anyway you want to. It's not that easy for me to express my feelings and I think that is awesome that you can. By the way, Bruce is my doctor and I think he's awesome and by keeping up with the rest of you on here I think the entire family is awesome. Much love and prayers. Hang in there, just wanted to let you know that you were an encouragemnt to me.
Carrie <canomo@charter.net>
Kingsport, Tn USA - Thursday, September 14, 2006 8:19 AM CDT
Cheryl,
Oh, how I love you, my friend! Thank you for being YOU!
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, TX USA - Thursday, September 14, 2006 6:34 AM CDT
many many many prayers for you and your family..and much love..
loveit murphy <loveitdiane@aol.com>
sheppard afb, tx usa - Wednesday, September 13, 2006 9:15 PM CDT
Thinking of you.
Marisa
MN www.caringbridge.org/mn/marisa - Wednesday, September 13, 2006 8:54 PM CDT
cheryl-I received a letter in my daughters school bag about the haley foundation and visited the site.I clicked on Haley's caring bridge page and saw that you offered prayers to another caring bridge child named Bailee Dunnigan. Tears poured from my eyes because yesterday I attended Bailees funeral. My husband and Bailee's father work together and it has been an honor to call Robin and Mike Dunnigan our friends. I want you to know that I will think of you and pray for you and your family every day as I will the same for the Dunnigan family. I hopem I can be the type of friend that the Dunnigans and your family need. God bless you and your family! I will continue following your caring bridge site and the foundation for it gives me strength! Thanks for all you do. Jill Young
jill young <yng56rj@msn.com>
st. petersburg, fl 33703 - Wednesday, September 13, 2006 2:39 PM CDT
You write what you want to write for exactly the reasons listed - sometimes this CB "place" is the only spot in your life where you feel you can just pour it all out and that will be okay - for you to worry about offending anyone with your grief and your expression of that grief is unthinkable - if they have not walked in your shoes......and if they had, they would have never responded to your journal in that fashion - Haley's story, like so many others has inspired me - your journals, like so many others, have changed my faith and trust and how I live my life. Not a fair price for you to pay to make my life better, no, not a fair price at all! My prayers and sympathy are with you every day.
Mary H <mch@herzogcrebs.com>
St. Louis, MO - Wednesday, September 13, 2006 12:13 AM CDT
I come to your site from time-to-time to check in on you and Haley's foundation. You don't know me and I don't know you, but my first visit to your site really drew me. Haley was granted the gifts of beauty and talent, and freely shared her gifts with others, just as you are now doing in her honor. Your grief is obviously raw and yet you share your feelings so openly. I know there is no way that I can understand your pain and loss, and no amount of trying will let me. So I pray...that God will carry you, that He will bless you with people who can support you as needed, that He will bless the foundation you have worked so hard on to honor Haley, and that your faith that you also freely share will remain strong.
Kristi Gerdon <kgerdon@widrick.com>
Croghan, NY - Wednesday, September 13, 2006 11:54 AM CDT
Hi Cheryl... I am so sorry to read that some folks have challenged or questioned the length of, or expression of your grief. I too use my children's cb page as a place to journal my most personal feelings, sorrow, pain, frustration, anger as well as life's progress. It is cathartic for me, and also helps me to come to grips with my family's trials and triumphs. I wonder at times if those who know me, face to face, would recognize me reading the cb site. I suspect few know me so personally. That is Ok for me, it is after all only one facet of my life as you so aptly noted, we can only write a portion of our time, life feelings. 14 years ago I lost an unborn son, Taylor, he died in utero at 20 weeks gestation, he was my daughter Amanda's twin and I carried both to term. He is buried at the head of my grave, his name is on my stone, and I miss my son who never got to see the light of day. I do still remember his kicks, his video on ultrasound and the overwhelming grief I experienced for many months after his in utero death. I cannot imagine or presume to understand and know the depths of anothers grief, but I surely know my own and can only offer my prayers, support and hope others would do the same. I do not believe the grief I suffered and still feel to some degree measures in comparison to that which I would experience were I too loose any of my other children or anything like what you have had to endure. I do admire and appreciate your candor, honesty and sharing such private thougths and feelings with others. I am sorry you have felt "censored" or chastised to "get on with it already". UGGHHH. I can only hope it was a misguided attempt to help by someone who personally knows and cares for you and your family and finds it hard themselves to witness your grief. Sometimes we find the greatest comfort from total strangers as those who know us too well and love us too much are just not able to bear seeing our pain. I have a few who are very dear to my heart who I cannot share too much with as it causes too much pain for them to cope with. Funny how that is.
ANyway, God Bless and you remain in my thoughts and prayers. I lit a candle for your angel Haley in church on Sunday.
Hugs from a stranger!
LeeAnne
LeeAnne <allenleeannebye@aol.com>
Northfield, NJ - Wednesday, September 13, 2006 11:05 AM CDT
Cheryl, No one knows your timetable better than you. I have two grown children and I don't know how I would manage if I lost one of them. God bless you as a sweet mother to all your children here and in heaven.
Gail <gailp@chartertn.net>
Kingsport, TN United States - Wednesday, September 13, 2006 11:02 AM CDT
Dear Cheryl,
I just wish to thank you for surviving, for being alive, for being who you are and the wonderful Mom of Haley...
Don't give up... The world is truly a better place with your breath.
With love,
Eva
Eva Van den Broeck <eva.michaele@skynet.be>
Brussels, Belgium - Wednesday, September 13, 2006 9:29 AM CDT
HI,
My name is jessica, I am 12 years old. Me and my mother went to Chick-fil-a tonight for dinner and saw a table set up, so I went over and found out about your daughter Haley. I told the ladies working the table that me and my friend Emily were knitting blankets for the babies in the hospitals, so they gave me a card and said we can help out!! We visited the website on the card they gave us and read her story. I was inspired by her. We share the same interests. I was wondering if I could get a copy of her CD? We would like to stay updated with the events going on for her organization. P.S. Haley is a beautiful young lady.
Jessica
St. Petersburg, fl usa - Tuesday, September 12, 2006 7:51 PM CDT
Dear Cheryl, I read your last post with so much empathy. I'm familiar with the old Southern custom of mourning clothes for a year (so is any one who ever read "Gone With the Wind"!). There used to be debate that one year was much too long. That forcing the grieving loved ones into a one year absence from society was cruel, and just maybe, they would like to get out of that black, mourning prison a lot sooner than one year. Maybe that was true for some. In your case, it doesn't seem to fit. Barbara Johnson is a Christian author, humorist and speaker who has made a comment in several of her books that is quite succinct. I think I am quoting it correctly here, "Pain is ineveitable, but misery is optional." And yes, she knows what it is to lose a child. She has 4 sons, and has buried 2 of them. A lot of her writing grew from her struggles to deal with those losses and other hardships in her life. The "one year mark" really doesn't signify anything. The passing of time has no bounderies. Eternity has no markers, no fences or walls separating days, weeks, months, and years from one another. What will make the difference in your life is not a date on a calendar, but a choice in your heart. Emotions and feelings are one thing, but choices can be something totally different. You have the power to choose behavior and actions that are different from what you feel. Is this easy? An unqualified, resounding NO! It is not easy. But it is often the best thing to do for those around us. And many times, feeling will follow on the heels of determined choices. Perhaps this is what your friends and family are trying to say with their words to you. They are urging you to choose a life of happiness with the blessings God has given you in the shape of Kendall, Nick, Logan and Bruce, and not let them slip through your hands. Time lost now with the 4 of them can not be recaptured. It seems that none of your friends and family want you to have additional regrets of losing the here and now with them. Maybe you perceive their words as hard, but maybe they are softer than you realize. But nobody resigned and left me in charge, so I am only speculating. Time is a precious commodity and what we have of it with people we love is priceless. There are more "firsts" and "lasts" in the lives of Kendall, Nick, and Logan that you won't want to miss. Remember that when you are remembering other things.......
Debbie Coffman <drcoffman@charter.net>
Kingsport, TN 37664 - Tuesday, September 12, 2006 2:45 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl,
I am thinking of you today and hoping that your day had some happiness. I am also remembering Haley today, along with people who lost there lives and families on this tragic day five years ago. I picture Haley dancing and singing to them all on this day. YOU are loved and Haley will always be remembered.
Sending a cyber HUG your way,
colleen
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Monday, September 11, 2006 7:38 PM CDT
Thank you for sharing the beautiful life story of Haley.
Good bless.
Ian & Ruiha
Canterbury, South Island New Zealand - Monday, September 11, 2006 5:58 AM CDT
Dear Cheryl, I lit a candle for Haley tonight, but it was also for you. There is no time limit on grief, how can there be. You just take it one breath at a time. That is all you can do. I hold you close in my heart. Peace be with you.
Sami Stratton <strattonfamily@charter.net>
- Sunday, September 10, 2006 7:33 PM CDT
Oh my dear girl, don't ever feel that you are a failure. I have three children and if one were to die my life would be over. I know it would. I would go through the motions of living for the sake of the other two but I would never know a real day of happiness again. Please don't let anyone make you feel bad about your grief - you can never get over the loss of a child.
With much love
Angela
Angela Warne <anji@comcast.net>
brighton, mi usa - Sunday, September 10, 2006 3:43 PM CDT
I can't imagine the loss and the grief that you have felt over the last year. I hope that you can get to a place that allows you to grieve for your precious Haley without the anger and sadness that shadow your days. (Rightfully so!) But I do hope that you allow yourself to feel happiness again...in time. Haley was and still is a precious gift to you...she was very fortunate to have a mom that loved her so very much. You also have been very fortunate to have the gift of an angel in your life.
I pray that your days get better! Be patient with yourself!
God Bless you and your family!
Kellie <kelliekea@hotmail.com>
Tyler , Tx USA - Sunday, September 10, 2006 2:41 PM CDT
I found you site through Kendrie's. My husband died 4 days after your daughter and when I read your comment about how September is proving to be hard, I could TOTALLY relate.
I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless You.
Amy
www.caringbridge.org/visit/gerryheidt
Amy <suzyhsmows@aol.com>
Billings, MT USA - Saturday, September 9, 2006 3:42 PM CDT
You have suffered an unimaginable loss, be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to heal in your own time.
Some one who cares <someonewhocares@www.>
- Friday, September 8, 2006 5:58 PM CDT
I came to your site through a friend's Caringbridge site. I am heartbroken for you - not only for the loss of your beautiful angel, but that people are making you feel like a failure for grieving in your own way. You take your time and feel anyway you want. Your grief is yours alone and no one has the right to rush you or tell you to move on. Grieving the loss of one child does not mean you love the other children less. You are in my thoughts and prayers as is Haley. God Bless you.
Stephanie Crates <kttyerwg@comcast.net>
Portland , OR U.S.A. - Friday, September 8, 2006 5:10 PM CDT
Dear Cheryl,
found your site on another friends CB site...and read and cried with you. Your Haley looks like an angel on earth and I can only imagine the immeasurable grief this year has been. I will add you and all who knew and loved your precious Haley to my prayers that you may find solace, comfort and strength to continue. Your cb site is powerful, honest, forthright and strong. God Bless you...
LeeAnne
PS I will light a candle for your precious angel
www.caringbridge.org/visit/byesiblings
LeeAnne <allenleeannebye@aol.com>
Northfield, NJ - Friday, September 8, 2006 2:52 PM CDT
Thinking and praying for you today...
Becca Ketter - momofnataliebear <becandjay@verizon.net>
Byron, IL - Friday, September 8, 2006 12:30 AM CDT
DIRECTIONS ON LIGHTING A CANDLE:
1. Go to the following link: http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/candles.cfm?l=eng&gi=Haley
2. Click on any candle that is not lit (you may have to flip though the pages to find one)
3. Follow the directions. You may sign your name, or you can choose to leave it anonymous. The name for Haley's "Candle Group" is of course "Haley"
4. Your candle will only stay lit for 48 hours, so please do come back often to light candles.
5. To read what others have written for their candle, just click on any lit candle.
6. To see what rank - based on number of lit candles - Haley's Candles are, please go to: http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/groups.cfm?l=eng
Kat Hampton <katbird76@gmail.com>
Sharpsburg, GA USA - Friday, September 8, 2006 10:09 AM CDT
You wrote a really good entry. Thank you for sharing how you feel. You were able to help me feel like its ok to feel what i am feeling. our grief is rushed and i feel it is insulting when its rushed. it is hard to go on errands without our angel. it wipes me out sometimes. i know a couple of times i went on several errands at once and i really was so proud of myself and others looked at me like i was nuts, i had to explain it to them and they still didnt understand. the list is getting smaller and smaller.
take care
jeanne
jeanne <crowman2766@aol.com>
king of prussia, pa usa - Friday, September 8, 2006 8:24 AM CDT
Cheryl
I think of you so often and hate myself for not having the words to write every time I read your journal. I think you should try not to feel any pressure from others, seek out the people who support your need to do things your way. You and Haley and Lisa, who sent a much appreciated care package to Jessica, have inspired me to send care packages to other liver kids that we meet and hear about at our hosp. Just one more good thing that you can feel proud of. Take care of yourself,
Joanna (Jessica's mum from CLASS and liverfamilies) <joread@comcast.net>
- Thursday, September 7, 2006 10:23 PM CDT
Praying for you...
Travis and Brenda <fsgsmom@gmail.com>
Niceville, FL - Thursday, September 7, 2006 6:57 PM CDT
For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to seperate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 9: 38-39
In His Love,
Michelle <mgaylord@tampabay.rr.com>
- Thursday, September 7, 2006 1:50 PM CDT
Cheryl
I saw that Haley had 44 candles, but I couldn't
figure out how to light another one!! I'll just
light a real one at home.
Most likely anyone who questions your grieving this
year just has no clue what real grief is.
mrs pam
- Thursday, September 7, 2006 10:49 AM CDT
Cheryl
You have every right to mourn Haley. I can't believe she's been gone almost a year, I can't believe she's gone period. Our prayers continue for you, Bruce and the kids.
Karen
Chatsworth, GA - Thursday, September 7, 2006 9:54 AM CDT
Cheryl, I understand your feelings completely and those days do not get any easier 5.5 years later. I am coming upon my precious daughters 21st birthday on October 9th and 6 years without her on December 15th and I already have myself bawling daily and just down right miserable.... If you need someone to talk to please e-mail me... Thinking of you....
Prayers Deneen
Deneen Gethouas <dgethouas@state.pa.us>
Enola, PA USA - Thursday, September 7, 2006 9:10 AM CDT
Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor a lack of faith . . . it is the price of love. Everyone mourns in a different way, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
Ann Menk <amenk@ncbank.net>
Saint Peter, MN USA - Thursday, September 7, 2006 8:59 AM CDT
Cheryl - My heart breaks for you and your pain. Thank you for sharing your deepest thoughts and feelings with us. I hope in some small way it helps you to know that so many people care and are here for you. I visit your website at least once a week (oK - most of the time more often - just hoping to hear from you), even if I don't always leave a note.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and Haley in heaven.
P.S. - I also just wanted to let you know that Sami got her gift a few weeks ago and is doing well. Haley is watching out for all her little liver friends here on earth.
Kim, mom to Sami and Kyle
www.caringbridge.org/mn/samiandkyle
Kim Faust <kfaust@comcast.net>
Oakdale, MN USA - Thursday, September 7, 2006 6:37 AM CDT
Cheryl, I'm sorry for the insensitivities around. I have nothing to say except I fear the kind of pain you suffer as I can only imagine all moms do and respect your grieving. I pray that the pain fades and you find continuous joy again. Hugs from us to you. Thinking of your family through this month and into the next....and remembering Haley always.
Sheryl, Justice's mom <sheryl.lyn@verizon.net>
- Thursday, September 7, 2006 2:59 AM CDT
Hi Cheryl,
The candle lighting site is just very special..thankyou for sharing that Cheryl. I am thinking of you with a very special prayer tonight...one of my own. You are going down one of lifes most difficult journeys Cheryl, and you so much deserve all the time in the world. God is walking with you every step of the way, even though I am sure there are many days that you feel you are walking this by yourself. Faith, Faith, and more Faith and hopefuly some JOY along the way.
With Loving Arms aroud you,
Colleen (spencers gramma)-I am going to stop putting "spencers gramma", because he is doing so much better now. Thank you Jesus!!
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Wednesday, September 6, 2006 10:21 PM CDT
Dear Cheryl,
Like you, I KNOW that a year is not enough to grieve for our precious children. I think that in June at the one year mark for our family, I was "expecting" something magical to happen and make life "normal" (whatever that is!!) and of course it didn't. I have already counted how old I will be when I will have been without Jonathan for as many years as I had with him. It can be overwhelming. Until today, I was really struggling feeling upset, angry, frightened, and untrusting toward the Lord because after all He allowed our precious boy to suffer and then die. All I can say is there ARE breaks in those feelings and there ARE times of surviving the overwhelming "lost" feelings for more than 2 seconds. I figured out why I don't feel like talking much. It's because I have to talk to myself and to the Lord SO much every minute of everyday just to make it through the 24 hour period we call a day that I am just plain talked out. AND that's okay. The Lord NEVER gets tired of hearing me talk. We are ALL on our own timetable for living through our grief and our loss. It's okay to ask "WHY." Even Jesus asked that question as he hung on the cross carrying all the sin of the world on his broken body. Thank you for being honest about your journey. Heaven isn't just a word in a song. It's real and I hold on to the reality of us all rejoicing WITH our children as we gather at the river that flows by the throne of God when we will meet Jesus face to face.
Sandy Bouchard <valleyvoice@msn.com>
Rancho Santa Fe, ca USA - Wednesday, September 6, 2006 10:17 PM CDT
Hi, you don't know me, but I came to your site after reading your response to Hunter's guestbook. Your pain reached out to me, so I wanted to reach out to you. The poem your daughter wrote was truly wonderful work. I know how proud you must to have been her mom.
I have not lost a child, but when I was 12, I lost my older brother. The pain is still there, but it has faded. And you're right -- there wasn't some magic day a year later that I woke up and said, 'Oh - it's been a year, I can be happy again.' It's something that had to come in stages. I will pray for you. That in time, your wound may heal and scab. There will always be the times that the scab peals off, and the pain begins again....but once the scab has formed once, it will heal over quicker the next time.
To those around you, I will pray that they can understand the need for time. Putting pressure on someone to be happy, is not the way to help someone through grief. And I can only remember too well how hard it was on my parents when Kevin died. Give yourself time.....and remember that there are those of us out here who you don't know, who will pray for you.
Carol - friend of Katie and Hunter <cajm21@yahoo.com>
WI - Wednesday, September 6, 2006 8:43 PM CDT
Cheryl,
Do not let ANYONE tell you that a year is "Long enough" or that you should be getting back to "Normal" by now. People who say these things do not realize that there is no "Normal" for you now. Your life is forever changed, you lost a piece of yourself. Learning to live without it should not be timed in any way. You go at your own pace and damn anyone who makes you feel bad for where you are at. You ARE doing the best you can. I think you are doing great. I think you are an amazing mom. All you can do is your best. If that means some days you leave the house, and others you don't get off the couch.....SO BE IT. YOU know your limits, YOU know yourself. Hang in there. I am thinking of you as always.
www.caringbridge.org/ca/jackson
Jennifer Smith <lakerdog2@yahoo.com>
Hidden Valley Lake, CA USA - Wednesday, September 6, 2006 7:48 PM CDT
Add me to the list of people praying for Nick - as well as Caitlin's family. I am just glad that her family have you, Cheryl, who know the heartache that they are going through.
To everyone reading:
I just came across a neat site where you can light candles for people. I lit one for Haley - and prayed for her family of course. If anyone else would like to light a candle for Haley - or Caitlin, or anyone else - you can go to:
http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/candles.cfm?l=eng&gi=Haley
I wish there was more I could do, besides lighting a virtual candle, and praying, but for now, it's all I can do.
Kat Hampton <katbird76@gmail.com>
Sharpsburg, Georgia USA - Tuesday, September 5, 2006 9:46 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl,
Just letting you know that you are on my mind. Please know Haley is also thought of with special intentions.
With loving arms and prayers,
colleen (spencers gramma)
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Sunday, September 3, 2006 6:56 PM CDT
Although obviously I don't know Caitlin or her family, I am saddened to hear this news. Sad, also, for Nick ...losing a friend. And sad for you, since you understand exactly the pain her parents are experiencing right now.
Thinking of all of you,
Kristie Kendrie's Page <kristieokc@cox.net>
Byron, GA - Saturday, September 2, 2006 9:50 PM CDT
I wanted to send my condolences to Nick regarding his friend Caitlin passing away, and of course to her family - my heart aches for them. I will certainly include them in my prayers. My very best to you Cheryl also!
Kathy <kathyp_22@yahoo.com>
Hood River, OR USA - Thursday, August 31, 2006 9:58 AM CDT
From the mom of another Caitlin in Heaven, will you, please, offer my heartbroken condolences to the family of the newest Caitlin in Heaven, for me?
I think of you often, Cheryl.
Peace...
Bridget Peller <peller6@mchsi.com>
MN - Wednesday, August 30, 2006 10:43 PM CDT
I am so sorry to hear that another parent has lost a very special part of there life...their child. There is no greater grief that I can think of. I am blessed to have not had this tremendous pain, but I feel so much greif for those that have.
Cheryl please give my sympathies to Nick. I continue to pray for some better days.
colleen (spencers gramma)
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Wednesday, August 30, 2006 6:22 PM CDT
I will say a special prayer for everyone who has lost a dear loved one. Thank you for reminding me not to take our loved ones for granite and not to forget those we have lost. I'm sorry I need reminding. All of God's people are in my special prayers today.
Melodie Head <jamesandmelodie@yahoo.com>
Kingsport, TN USA - Wednesday, August 30, 2006 3:28 PM CDT
Praying for Caitlin's family.
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, TX USA - Wednesday, August 30, 2006 9:18 AM CDT
I am indeed sad to read about Nick's friend Caitlin.
prayers for her family and yours.
mrs pam
St Louis, - Wednesday, August 30, 2006 9:00 AM CDT
Caitlyn, we will miss you even though we never met you. Cheryl, thank you for sharing this family with me. My heart is broken for all the angel families. I love you, and my prayers are always with you.
Lisa and Aiden <RolexH@aol.com>
- Tuesday, August 29, 2006 8:57 PM CDT
Just stopping by to let you know you're in my thoughts and prayers.
www.caringbridge.org/visit/dianemarie
sarah
ma - Tuesday, August 29, 2006 10:43 AM CDT
Cheryl,
I checked on you last night and as Haley's site came up, the music started and my three little girls started dancing and raising their hands in praise and it made me smile as I realized that Haley was probably doing the exact same thing at that moment. I can't imagine how much your arms ache with not being able to hold her or how your heart misses her but you will see her again and spend forever with her. I am continuing to pray for you.
Kathleen
Atlanta, Ga - Monday, August 28, 2006 9:09 PM CDT
Keeping you in my thougths and in my prayer's always.
Love Brenda MY LOVING DAD'S SITE <brurka@shaw.ca>
Edmonton,Alberta
, - Monday, August 28, 2006 8:17 PM CDT
Just looking in on you, Cheryl. (I'm one of those infamous 'Aiden's Aunties,' from the 'aged mares' subgroup. Lisa will explain it all to you, lol, but it's a wonderful online group of caring, supportive women, most of whom have never met.) You're in my thoughts and prayers, even though we've never met, either.
Hugs from
Barbara Carroll
- Monday, August 28, 2006 9:24 AM CDT
I cried when I saw that pic of me and Haley.
What beautiful memories I have of that weekend!
Marisa
MN www.caringbridge.org/mn/marisa - Saturday, August 26, 2006 7:54 PM CDT
Cheryl....I visit this website often and I wanted to share with you my "Haley Story". I don't remember when I first came across this site....I know it was while Haley was still making her music. I remember clicking on the links to her song and thinking, "Wow...this little girl can sing!" Then....back several months ago, I was listening to Star 94 one morning after driving my daughter to school. It was when they were doing their weekend of pledges for Children's Healthcare and I heard you on the Radio talking about Haley. As soon as I got home, I immediately opened her webpage and listened to her sing. Her voice so beautiful, so angelic. I won't forget her.
Angie Lindley <lindley25@charter.net>
Newnan, GA - Friday, August 25, 2006 11:03 PM CDT
Cheryl, I found Haley's site from another caringbridge site months ago and have been unable to find it again until tonight when I spotted your signature in Kendrie's guestbook. Even without being able to come to her site, I have thought about Haley each and every day. Her story touched my heart. She reminds me so much of my daughter and I know that I can't even begin to imagine your pain, but I hope it brings you some comfort to know how her story has touched so many lives. I think of her every day when I look at my Laura and it reminds me to appreciate all that I have and to treasure each moment. Thank you for sharing your story and your precious Haley. She will NEVER be forgotten!
sarah <sarahr531@yahoo.com>
MA - Friday, August 25, 2006 10:42 PM CDT
Cheryl,
Haley will never be forgotten. For she changed the lives of all who knew about her. I am a different person just from knowing Haley's story. Haley's memory lives on in the changes she has made in so many lives.
Mindy Barker <mindybarker@aol.com>
Lithia, FL USA - Friday, August 25, 2006 10:27 PM CDT
I would be honored to donate my Rachael's ArtCards to your fundraiser/birthday bash. If you think this is appropriate, please let me know. The ArtCards are my way of keeping the memory of my daughter alive.
I so admire your ability to put into words how so many of us 'grief moms' feel.
Kathie Mayo www.caringbridge.org/mn/rachaelmayo <winkatmayo@hotmail.com>
Winona, MN - Friday, August 25, 2006 12:24 AM CDT
Love and hugs to you...did you get our "invitation" for Natalie's un-birthday?
Becca, Jason and Natalie Ketter <becandjay@verizon.net>
Byron, IL - Friday, August 25, 2006 10:03 AM CDT
Cheryl~ I just wanted to thank you for sharing your beautiful daughter with all of us. I love listening to her sing, and I think my favorite song is the "Dirty Rotten Liver Blues". Keep your chin up, I think you are such an amazing, STRONG woman--I know we haven't met, but your strength is evident in the words you write.
Jessica Dahms
www.caringbridge.org/mn/gavindahms <jessicaaroth@hotmail.com>
Marshall, MN - Friday, August 25, 2006 6:28 AM CDT
Just came across your site..your angel is an inspiration
God Bless
Sara <nursechick2004@hotmail.com>
New Gloucester, ME USA - Thursday, August 24, 2006 11:36 PM CDT
Want you to know I think about you and Haley a lot. I hope I can leave as much inspiration to this world as Haley has...
Congrats on the success of the Golf outing.
Sue from CLASS mom to Moira
- Thursday, August 24, 2006 10:11 PM CDT
Cheryl, please know that Haley will not be forgotten in our home. We have her CD and the girls love to sing and dance to it. Janna knows that Haley was a "liver girl" just like her. On Janna's one year tx anniversary Aug 8th, we sent a balloon to heaven for her angel donor, Jonathon, and one to Haley and all the other "liver angels" in heaven. I visit your site often. You and your family are in our prayers.
Tammy & Janna <tmwagner@cox.net>
Wichita, KS - Thursday, August 24, 2006 10:03 PM CDT
Cheryl,
Sending prayers your way again. That's all those of us out in cyberspace can offer you....however I have witnessed firsthand the power of prayer and I can promise that I will not stop praying for you nor will I ever forget your dear Haley. I'm hopeful that she was there to greet a very special little 9-year-old boy who two weeks ago just went to sleep on Friday night and never woke up. His name is Johnny B and he was truly one special little guy so it would just make sense that Haley would be there to welcome him.
Never ever doubt that there are people out here who care so much for you.
Dot O'Connor <Dotocon@aol.com>
Philadelphia , PA - Thursday, August 24, 2006 5:00 PM CDT
Cheryl
Thinking about you today. Prayers continue....
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Chatsworth, GA - Thursday, August 24, 2006 1:50 PM CDT
Cheryl, fall has always been my favorite season as well. Then, Kendrie was diagnosed in mid-October, and fall lost some of its luster. Now, she's doing well and I'm enjoying fall again. I will say a special prayer tonight that you begin to enjoy fall once more, as well. I realize our situations are completely different and I'm sure no amount of beautiful autumn foliage, or pumpkin patch, or brief bit of chill in the air can make everything better ........ but if those things bring back happy memories of Haley's childhood, then by all means take them out and enjoy them every time you can.
I don't blame you for feeling lonely in the uniqueness of your situation. You're right, cancer moms have a large support group .... one of the few times I was grateful to be part of the "popular" crowd of leukemia. {wry smile} Blaine's situation is completely different. We have struggled to find others like him and come up lacking, and you're exactly right ... it's very discouraging to have no social support group. I hope the Kellie Martin connection works out, and will be praying for that as well.
I realize we're not close friends and we don't live near one another, but know that there is a small piece of middle Georgia that won't forget Haley. My kids still ask to listen to her CD and tell me they want to be Haley's "back row" singers. :)
Kristie Kendrie's Page <kristieokc@cox.net>
Byron (Robins AFB), GA - Thursday, August 24, 2006 5:39 AM CDT
I was posting this picture on Cassie's site, and thought I would swing by your page to say "hello", I still can't hear or read words like billirubin without hearing Hayley singing away, i doubt i ever will :)
Lots of love
Viks
viks <viks@postpals.co.uk>
- Wednesday, August 23, 2006 12:50 AM CDT
I was directed here through an e-mail from an organization that helps you cope with loss and i just recently read it but recieved the e-mail a while back. I lost my five year old daughter Oct.13th,2005. It is amazing what you have done for and through your daughter and all the people who have helped. I love the songs and the pictures. Right now my ten year old is singing to the songs Haley recorded using her recorder. She said Haley is awesome and always will be. My five year old(Alexis Marie) recieved a little doll that she fell in love with (the day before her third open heart surgery) someone made and donated to the hospital here in Michigan where we live. Alexis said "Mommy, this is the bestest doll i ever did get because it is just like me." It reminded me of your care packages you make up for families. Thank you
Angela Jones <angelflower28j@aol.com>
Muskegon, MI United States - Wednesday, August 23, 2006 11:12 AM CDT
Cheryl, I don't think I've ever posted before. I was led to Hayley's page thru another page quite some time ago, though I don't remember whose it was now. I have read every one of your entries. You have had me crying my eyes out and also laughing so hard I think I may wet my pants! I cannot fathom your pain. The unfairness of it is overwhelming. Hayley has touched so many people, what a shining star! I cannot imagine how proud you are of her. I think of you & your family often. I am sorry the hosptial does nothing to honor Hayley's memory, that is upsetting. I know I am only one person, but I can promise you to always honor her memory. I so look forward to your entries. You are so honest, so real. I love how you sugarcoat nothing. It sucks and you're not afraid to say it! You deal with your loss however you need to and don't let anyone give you any crap about it. My dear friend lost her son to leukemia two years ago. I find it odd that people assume she should be less devastated than before. Like it goes away. Our sons fought their battles together. Her son passing two weeks before mine finished treatment. I often don't know what to say to her, and I find myself just desperately wanting to absorb some of her pain somehow. I feel that when I read your entries. I wish I could somehow take a piece of it away. That may sound odd, but I hope it somehow makes sense. You and Hayley have touched me, and I thank you for that.
www.caringbridge.org/ca/jackson
Jennifer Smith <lakerdog2@yahoo.com>
Hidden Valley Lake, CA USA - Monday, August 21, 2006 12:46 AM CDT
Cheryl...that little town you speak of, it is righ down the road from where I grew up. To bad I found that out way to many years later...we were neighbors and did not even know it. God put us in each others lives for a reason many years later. I too love fall, especially here in upstate NY. It is the BEST, and now when the leaves change, and crisp in the driveway when we walk, we will think of Haley! Thanks for that! Love you and praying for your strength!
Kristy, Kevin, Alyssa, and Ashlee <alyssassmama@yahoo.com>
Queensbury/Hudson Falls, NY - Monday, August 21, 2006 10:01 AM CDT
Cheryl- There is a little girl named Haley that I have never met, but thoughts of her (and you) come to me often. I just moved to Alaska and the beauty here makes me reflect on many things while I am driving around and Haley is one of those memories that come to me with all of this beauty. She is forever a part of me and so many people. As time goes on, she is not forgotten but instead she is a growing part of each of us. I hope you feel our love when you need it.
Jill Werda <jwerda330@yahoo.com>
Wasilla, AK - Sunday, August 20, 2006 2:58 PM CDT
Just wanted you to know I was thinking about you. Lisa and I went shoppping this morning for some Miracle Mail things. It is so exciting thinking of all of the smiles we are going to bring to so many children's faces through the Haley Vincent Foundation. It is a privelege to be a part of this foundation and to be able to honor your precious Haley and everything she lived for! Much Love,
Michelle G. <mgaylord@tampabay.rr.com>
- Saturday, August 19, 2006 9:43 PM CDT
I can totally relate to your love for the fall season. It too is my favorite season. Your description of the season was so totally accurate that it almost made me feel like for a moment it was Fall! The changing leaves, the crisp apples, the smells, the warmth of your home when it is a little on the chilly side. Our town is like the one you describe;small, friendly, and you can just about walk anywhere to get to where you are going. Life,as good as it is sometimes, does not stay as warm though does it? It can leave you feeling cold and bittersweet. Not such a good feeling. I pray for the return of those warm feelings for you.
Cherlyn <cherlyngodwin558@msn.com>
Petrolia, Ontario Canada - Saturday, August 19, 2006 12:47 AM CDT
Dear Cheryl,
I am a cancer angel mom...I live in the middle of nowhere...and the support, it is family, friends and my CB family...the most important support of them all. We do have a local hospice group but just isn't the same losing your 78 year old husband as it is losing your child. The hospital we doctored at is a 4.5 hour drive and they do wonderful things for all families including scrapbooking and memorial gardens. I haven't been because it is so far away, but think it would be nice if it were closer. The social worker in that particular department is who send us the invitations. Maybe Haley's foundation can come up with some kind of bereavement group that helps all the families, cancer is tough but we loose so many precious children in so many ways. In my heart, it doesn't matter how our child leaves us, it just matters that it happened and our sweeties are gone. Haley will always be in my heart and in my mind because of her sweet voice and stinkin rotten liver song and also because by looks, she reminds me of my niece at that age. I would be absolutely honored if you could send me a rock with Haley's name on it, state it is from and I would love to put it with the 50 state stones or our memory garden. It might not be a star on the ceiling but she is a star in my heart. I know we have talked about bears before but just still want to let you know, when your ready I would love to make one for your family. Hang in there. It sucks, it is not fair but it just is. I don't know why, all I know that we were and are the luckiest mom's in the whole world to be blessed with such precious children even if it is not as long as we wanted to be. Angel mom hugs...
Heather
Gage's Page,
BEAR HUGS BEARS
the Edwards <hinteriors@yahoo.com>
Alliance, NE - Friday, August 18, 2006 6:47 PM CDT
I don't have anything good or useful to say this time. It makes me mad that your experience is like this. Aside from being present around the time of her death, the people at your hospital should have been helping you to make final memories of Haley - things like handprints and footprints in plaster and paint, pictures, time together and with the staff. It makes me so mad that you didn't have this. Regardless of the diagnosis, length of treatment, anything, this should have been a given. At my hospital we do it for any of our patients who die, no matter how long or short they were with us (even if it happens in our ED). Our families do not leave the hospital empty-handed when they can't leave with their child and we contact them later as well. As it should be.
May you find solace where you can. Know always, always, that Haley will *not* be forgotten. We love her here, and we love you here too.
Luv, ~*Deirdre*~
New York, NY - Friday, August 18, 2006 10:05 AM CDT
Cheryl - We remember Haley...all of our liver kids do and will...she did so much to help them.
Praying...
Stacy - Tanner's mom - www.caringbridge.com/ks/tanner <stacyrobb@excite.com>
De Soto, KS USA - Thursday, August 17, 2006 9:36 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl - just wanted you to know I check in on you and pray for you. I can't imagine what you are feeling, yet understand a little. Everytime Lizzie and I watch Friends or Gilmore Girls I think of you. Sending a rainbow your way...
Sami Stratton <samistratton@hotmail.com>
- Thursday, August 17, 2006 9:21 PM CDT
Cheryl~ I think of you and Haley quite often even though I don't post. I don't post because I don't know the right words to say. My heart breaks for you and I am so sorry you have to go through this pain. I am crying along with you as I read your updates. I have family members that also read this. I am blessed that I was able to meet Haley and hear her sing in person. It is just so unfair for any parent to lose a child. I can't imagine how hard everyday life is for you. Even though I don't post much, please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers and we will never forget Haley. Haley was so special to all of us at CLASS. We love you.
Jina McKenna
Deerfield Beach, FL USA - Wednesday, August 16, 2006 9:07 PM CDT
Cheryl
I was thinking about Haley and decide to check in on you. Our prayers are always with you. Love you lots.
Karen, Mark, Jen and Jon <threelivers@alltel.net>
Chatsworth, GA - Wednesday, August 16, 2006 5:07 PM CDT
Cheryl
Haley is known around the world...her sweet and caring spririt is everywhere and that is an honour in itself. Your family will never be forgotten by all of us here...you are truly loved by so many. I think of you so often and when I think of you, I think of Haley, and when I think of Haley I think of you. You are always together forever...just not in the physical sense...and I am just so sorry for that physical loss that leaves such a tremendous whole in your heart...Love you Cheryl. I am flying to WA. today for a weeks vacation to see a HS friend. I will still continue to pray for better tomorrows.
Praying for Peace.
Colleen (spencers gramma)
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Wednesday, August 16, 2006 11:31 AM CDT
Lots and lots of love to you.
Shannon, www.caringbridge.org/mi/marisa <hamet@mich.com>
F, MI USA - Wednesday, August 16, 2006 8:54 AM CDT
Cheryl - Haley doesn't need a placque hanging on a wall in a hospital because her life is etched in the hearts of the many people who have come to know Haley via this website, CLASS, etc. Haley will not be forgotten because she lives in the hearts of those who care for all that Haley was and what her foundation will become. Keep the faith Cheryl...
Take Care Cheryl
Sharon
Canada - Tuesday, August 15, 2006 10:11 PM CDT
Cheryl, I haven't posted here in ages but I am constantly checking in and continuing to pray for your family and the fabulous work of Haley's Foundation. I have to say I'm a bit shocked about the hospital losing touch....Haley is still larger than life for us. Justice wouldn't let me taker her CD out of the car until I put her songs on his MP3 player...and then brought the CD back to the car.
Haley's diagnoses no doubt made her unique and I'm sad that there isn't a more specific support system for you....but it's also part of what made Haley so unique...so special. I feel blessed that you are/were a part of our support network as we travelled Justice's journey...
Anyway, good luck with Kellie Martin, I loved her on ER! Maybe you'll find the connection you're looking for there. We love you. HUGS from afar....
Sheryl, Justice AND Thomas's mom <sheryl.lyn@verizon.net>
- Tuesday, August 15, 2006 8:57 PM CDT
Cheryl,
We have never met, but I can not tell you how many times I have cried with you. I also have a daughter with autoimmune hepatitis and I first came into contact with you on the CLASS website. Last July, my daughter was listed for transplant. I didn't visit the CLASS website for a little while and then when I did it was the week that Haley died. It was always my biggest fear that my daughter would die before she received a transplant; no one seemed to understand that fear or think the fear was valid. My daughter when she was first diagnosed cried and asked if there were camps for kids like her. She also wanted to be able to have a disease that people knew and would support. Haley will never be forgotten because of her music; she will continue to touch lives farther than you will ever know. I realized this when one night I was showing my daughter something from Haley's caring bridge page (It was her song about prednisone - at the time Heather was having a horrible time on prednisone and I thought it would make her laugh.) She looked at it and said - "oh this is Haley; I have her songs on my ipod." She had the Dirty Rotten Liver Blues downloaded! My daughter is 17 and Haley has touched her life.
Cheryl, you have also touched so many lives through your journal. People need to know what grief and loss of a child really is. It is not just an upward heroic battle that goes smoothly. It is some ups in the middle of horrible lows. Your honesty moves me. I know in my case you have given permission to all of us parents to admit we are not perfect, that we do not always handle things in the strongest or best manner. At times we question, we get angry, we laugh (and then feel guilty) and every emotion in between. I just wanted to let you know that both you and Haley are wonderful and you will make sure that Haley's memory stays alive. I hope the hospital figures out a tribute. I think giving out her cd to all new liver patients would be a great start!
Susan Pickett <pickettgirls@cinci.rr.com>
Cincinnati, OH USA - Tuesday, August 15, 2006 8:53 PM CDT
Cheryl, just letting you know I care. I have never met you and the little I know is from Liver Families and my heart goes out to you & your family. We are all here for you. God Bless Sheri Perez (Mom of 4 Antonio BA w/Kasai-listed for transplant, Ricardo Jr., Andres, and Aurora
Sheri Perez <spemom4@sbcglobal.net>
Beloit, WI USA - Tuesday, August 15, 2006 8:06 PM CDT
Dear Cheryl, I saw your message on Cheyenne's site and wandered over to see your beautiful daughter's pictures and read her exquisite poem. What a special child to express her dreams so vividly. I cannot imagine your loss but do understand some of your loneliness. I want you to know that you are in my prayers today. I am holding your hand across the miles and wish you could feel it. Love, Linda
linda champa <lachampa@mintz.com (Audrey's Umbrella, www.braintrust.org/Audrey)>
boston, ma usa - Tuesday, August 15, 2006 3:11 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl
Just wanted to let you know that Mariella and I are going to make a star with Haley's name on in honour of her memory. Thinking of you....
Alex , Mum to Mariella, Biliary Atresia Splenic Malformation Syndrome, Kasai 04/05
Lincoln, UK - Tuesday, August 15, 2006 1:30 PM CDT
I remember Kellie Martin.
Ironically, she was in "Life Goes On".
Haley deserves much more than a plaque at the hospital,
that's for sure.
prayers and love from Missouri
mrs pam
- Tuesday, August 15, 2006 10:28 AM CDT
Sending out warm thoughts to you - I "met" you on Liver Families and CLASS and no matter we have never met, you are family. Thank you for being brave and strong enough to share your love and grief for Haley with the world. Thank you for carrying on her dreams and wishes. Take care and please know you are not alone - many people are thinking of you.
Vanessa Koch <squirrely@panax.com>
Milford, ME 04461 - Tuesday, August 15, 2006 10:00 AM CDT
Praying.
Laurie, Anthony's mom <mommy_laurie@hotmail.com>
Baton Rouge, LA - Tuesday, August 15, 2006 7:46 AM CDT
I can't sleep and my husband is at work...just having a difficult time tonight so I thought I would come read some of your journal..I guess so I wouldn't feel so alone. I appreciate your entries...they are helpful to me.
Jenny
www.caringbridge.org/visit/gusdoriot
Jenny <pdoriot@chartertn.net>
Elizabethton, TN - Monday, August 14, 2006 11:15 PM CDT
We just popped by to check on you today.
Jodi and McKayla
Jodi Phelan <jodiphelan@hotmail.com>
Sherwood Park, AB Canada - Monday, August 14, 2006 10:36 PM CDT
Haley now has a "star" in my little sister Jennifers' bedroom. One that she can look at each night before bed adn read her precious name. I know it isnt much. But I wanted to let you know that there was at least one star out there on the ceiling wiht your precious baby's name on it.
God bless with much love
Nancy
http://kellycountry2002.homestead.com/Index.html
Nancy <thebratt72@hotmail.com>
- Monday, August 14, 2006 7:42 PM CDT
I dont really know exactly what i want to say..so im just gonna do the best i can..bare with me..
Ive been a "lurker" for quite some time. i dont even know how i found Haleys page..all i know is that ive cried so many times after reading your entries.. my heart aches for your familys loss. Haley touched my heart..I continue to keep you and your family in my prayers..
with much love,
loveit murphy
loveit murphy <loveitdiane@aol.com>
sheppard afb, texas usa - Monday, August 14, 2006 6:45 PM CDT
We are thinking of you...
Travis and Brenda <fsgsmom@gmail.com>
Niceville, FL - Monday, August 14, 2006 5:50 PM CDT
Haley will never be forgotten Cheryl.
I only wish I knew the best way to
help you not feel so alone.
Remember the 3 bricks at Give Kids the World...
they were put there in Haley's memory
by so many who love her.
By so many who love you.
We will never forget.
Amy http://crossingdestinies.blogspot.com
WI - Monday, August 14, 2006 3:11 PM CDT
Cheryl,
We have never met, but you have signed my daughter's guestbook often and I thank you for that. Your feelings are just like mine, no matter what your child dies of, your child is still gone. The animalistic feeling to hug and touch them is the same, the need to smell them or hear their voices one more time never goes away. You are a strong woman for starting such an amazing foundation in your daughters honor, I am sure she is very proud of you.
God Bless
Jen Evans
www.caringbridge.org/ky/hanna
Jen Evans
Simpsonville, KY - Monday, August 14, 2006 12:04 AM CDT
Cheryl,I am so sorry that the hospital was so cold like that.Haley was so very loved and will never be forgotten.We often look at the wood postcard you all sent in September and think of her.Hopefully you can get a hold of Kellie Martin and get the foundation going good to honor Haley.I know she loved children.I wish there were more things out there for all the different illnesses children suffer from.We deal with that a lot with intractable epilepsy.There are some things out there,but not that many.I know it has to be the same with what Haley dealt with.She's our hero.God bless,love & hugs,Linn,Daniel & Ariel
The Marrero's <gillinn7@msn.com>
Port Orchard, wa usa - Monday, August 14, 2006 2:54 AM CDT
Cheryl,
You are amazing. Thank you for continuing to write - I pray for you and Haley and your family everyday. God bless you, and know that "those" you are speaking of who have abandoned you, have abandoned a true gorgeous spirit. I listened to Haley's amazing, gorgeous, beautiful voice again today and felt touched by an angel - truly she is an angel. What a gift, both she and YOU.
Love,
Heather
Heather Chapman <dutch1210@msn.com>
Glendale, AZ USA - Sunday, August 13, 2006 10:16 PM CDT
Dear Cheryl~
If ever you want to talk, I will listen.
Bridget <peller6@mchsi.com>
MN - Sunday, August 13, 2006 9:54 PM CDT
Dear Cheryl,
Just want you to know that you are not alone -- and that a day doesn't go by that I don't think of Haley and the others who have earned their wings far too early...
With Abundant Prayers of Love and Joy,
Sherrill
Sherrill Jones <Sherrill@probaglady.com>
"The Mile High City", CO USA - Sunday, August 13, 2006 7:42 PM CDT
Just checking in....
Frank (Marisa's Dad) <hamet@mich.com>
Flat Rock, MI USA - Saturday, August 12, 2006 9:32 PM CDT
Dearest Cheryl,
First I want to say that Haley's page is one of the most beautiful pages I have ever seen; I have page envy! Actually, maybe first I want to say thank you for reading Robert's page...I am baffled at your words on your page and the words I was led to write on his page just the other day...I am compelled to write to you personally, and I shall I see your email address on the main page.
I have to tell you-Please, please do not think that the people who have left your life have forgotten your Haley. It is terribly awful and disappointing that they have forsaken you and your family...truth is, we know all too well how devastingly empty the loss of a child is; and it is so sad that those who were not even their parents would be so devastated that they have to bail out to survive...but it is true; I heard recently that in this life there are 2 kinds of people- the "smart" and the "strong"; it was said that the "strong" always work for the "smart". Well I am certainly one of the strong ones; whether I work or follow the smart one remains to be seen, but we are strong not by choice but because...we have no choice.
I have to tell you, you crack me up about your potty mouth...if you have read Robert's page for long you would have read that my addiction after his death was not found in a bottle of any sort, but in my language-I started to curse like a son-of-a-gun since his passing.
Oh the path of questions and wonderment is never-ending; but I have to tell you that in time you will find that some of the questions get answered in sort of unanswerable ways.
I pray that in your "isolation" your heart will find that which is the only true solace we ever can have or need; our Heavenly Father...He guards our children-they dwell with Him from which they came...it took me almost 4 years to forgive myself, others, and life in general. Grace abounds-I am so glad to have read your words.
Haley is so lovely, I love her poem...please write me again. Warm thoughts from another Mom who has buried a child...
Kathy Charlton www.caringbridge.org/fl/robertmitchel <ckcharlton@aol.com>
- Friday, August 11, 2006 9:39 PM CDT
Cheryl
I started to post how Haley will never be forgotten in our house and decide to email you. We love and pray for you.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Karen
Chatsworth, GA - Friday, August 11, 2006 6:55 PM CDT
Cheryl,
How could ANYONE EVER EVER EVER forget Haley, or EVEN WANT to forget her??? She is a beautiful soul. I will NEVER EVER forget her!!! I loved her and will remember her for the rest of my life. You too...thinking of you as always!!!
kristy and ashlee <nykellycrew@verizon.net>
NY - Friday, August 11, 2006 5:00 PM CDT
Checking in - late and frazzled as always, but here nonetheless. Please don't think that times ever goes by where I don't think of you, your family, and especially Haley. It lights my heart each webpage I visit that has the Foundation logo on it (I should get off my sorry backside and put one on my webpage while I'm thinking of it). She is everywhere and she is beautiful. Praying for peaceful moments for you.
Luv, ~*Deirdre*~
New York, NY - Friday, August 11, 2006 4:28 PM CDT
Cheryl,
Regarding your journal entries... I check for them often, they help me with my own grief, my own loneliness, and your words seem to mimic my feelings so, so much.. I love your insight and your words, they are a true and wonderful way of honoring Haley..
No one in our household, or any of our true friends will ever forget the memorial Haley... What a girl!!!!! There is not a doubt in my mind that Cheyenne and Haley have become very, very good friends.
Trying not to sound crazy, but I think you will understand, fear of dying for us is completely gone... We actually look forward to the day that we will get to meet Jesus face to face, ask all those questions I have, and get to hug our girls. I now understand that we live to die and go to Heaven. That's what life is, a preliminary to Heaven... So we don't mind going as quickly as God will allow!!!
Have you ever asked a person if they thought they were going to Heaven? We have, many people, even from our church. The answer really surprised us. We get a lot of "I don't know, but I hope so!" Well, like yourself, there is no doubt in our minds, we know that we will be joining our girls....... That is a good feeling!!
Take care and God Bless
Roy
Cheyenne's Proud Daddy, Forever
www.caringbridge.org/tx/cheyenne5
Roy Fiveash <rfiveash@wcc.net>
San Angelo, Tx - Friday, August 11, 2006 3:35 PM CDT
Cheryl,
When I see all the pictures of Haley, I just smile! Thank you for sharing your beautiful daughter with all of us. My life has been enriched because of her life!
Your friend,
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, TX USA - Friday, August 11, 2006 7:47 AM CDT
It hurts me to know that there are people who have cut you and your family from their lives, but mainly I am sad for those people, because THEY are the ones missing out on so much now, and it is THEIR loss - not yours. Your true friends - and just from reading this Guest Book, it is easy to see you have plenty of them - will NEVER forget. Ever.
Today's lesson in my Bible Study - well, actually it's a DivorceCare Group, but Bible STudy just sounds SO much better! - was about Depression. In the video, they talked about how depression is a normal - and necessary - part of healing...and surprise, suprise...the bigger the trauma, the deeper the depression. For me, it really helped hearing that, because so many times we - or maybe just me? - think of depression as a sin, but it isn't. It's "just" part of the grieving process. So, for those who should be pooping Zanax's by now - it's OK, 'cause we're normal!!
Kat Hampton <katbird76@gmail.com>
Sharpsburg, GA USA - Thursday, August 10, 2006 11:10 PM CDT
dear cheryl,
please....if you find any "stronger" antidepressants, let me know. i feel like i am on an antidepressant cocktail, probably taking almost as many pills as olivia did, and while i know they take the edge off, i feel as if there will not be happiness again. how could there be? i still cry every day, and remain locked in my house.
and in this update, you mentioned the previous one. i missed your last two, so i went back and looked. thank you so much for your words...the words that told just what i was feeling. here it is:
"could have easily walked in there with Haley, fed her 16 pills, and had to leave early because she was ill, and STILL felt completely normal. But, now I walk in without her, and it is like I am an amputee going out for the first time. But what has been cut from me isn’t visible. The part of me that is injured is my heart. It is why I just stay home. I belong nowhere."
that's it. normal was being caretaker first. for over 8 years that's what i did. now, what is there to do. can't replace that oh so important job, so why even attempt to do anything? and the normal part...so true. people would stare in curiosity. sometimes i didn't understand why they would. then i remembered we are not typical walking examples of normal. but, it's what we were. it's what we would give anything to be again. can you even imagine getting all worked about office politics, or deadlines, or client meetings again? i can't. i too belong nowhere anymore, and don't think i ever want to again. when i walk through the market, i imagine people looking at me, thinking i am just a normal woman. oh......if they only knew, i think. haven't had a date in years, but i couldn't. who would want to? what would i say? how could i possibly care? i care about my son, and my remote control. that's it.
okay cheryl, this is your journal, not mine! wow, did i just monopolize it. i am sorry if i am out of line. it just came out....i appreciate your support, and will do my best to be here for you whenever you need.
angel olivia's mom, wendy
www.caringbridge.org/mi/oliviasgrace
wendy thompson <mom2olivia@gmail.com>
- Thursday, August 10, 2006 5:47 PM CDT
Never apologize for sharing your faith and challenging others to make find faith in our Savior. It's refreshing and it's pure and it's inspiring.
Claire Strayer <cstrayer@hrtc.net>
McCordsville, IN - Thursday, August 10, 2006 4:15 PM CDT
You guys came to Florida and Haley was going to sing at the ALF fundraisor. I remember sitting on the hotel bed with you guys, and in usual Haley fashion, she was skipping from bed to bed. (as you and i recall this is how I met her skipping from bed to bed that day too) Dancing and singing and laughing. You were just sitting back, and I was on my stomach laughing Haley. Although secretly admiring how she was turning into such a pretty girl.
You ask me a question, "Lisa did you bring that book?"
I look at you, confused.. sit for a moment and think, "What book?" This must have seemed funny to Haley. Me sitting there flakey and confused, so she took the oppertunity to express her unmatched wit.
Suddenly with a smirk on her face and her blonde hair floating above her head, in mid leap, Haley chimes in, "Uhhh..." reffering to my confused look, "we will take that as a NO"
It took me so off guard.. and then all three of us burst out laughing. I remember her giggle. She didn't just laugh, she giggled that fast adorable giggle. It was high pitch and just all Haley. Sassy and amazing.
Cheryl.. I can promise you my friend.. I WILL NEVER FORGET HER. She was UNFORGETTABLE.
I love you.
Lisa mommy to Aiden, who will also never forget. <RolexH@aol.com>
- Thursday, August 10, 2006 3:08 PM CDT
Cheryl,
I too find it so hurtful when people no longer talk about our Jonathan as if he never existed. It hurts me to the core. Even my other children have talked about this very thing. I guess the only good thing that can come out of this phenomenon is to continually let people know how much it hurts us to Not talk about the one that we think about every minute of every day and let them know that even if talking about our missing child makes us cry that it's good for us to cry and it really helps us. We haven't "lost" our children for we know where they are and they still exist, just not on this earth. Love, Sandy
Sandy Bouchard <valleyvoice@msn.com>
Rancho Santa Fe, ca USA - Thursday, August 10, 2006 2:06 PM CDT
I actually LOVED the "Nick's butt is on fire" entry... if I'd been drinking something, it would probably have spewed out my nose (and then maybe I wouldn't have liked the entry so much). But this entry...well, it just shows how Haley is taking your hand and leading you to where we ALL need to be. I love it... I LOVE it... even though it makes me wince and take a hard, cold look at myself. I doubt that I am the only one reading your journal who has had to do that. And Haley is singing... and smiling.. and you can rest assured that her work here isn't finished. I do also love the foundation website; what a great job, and what incredible potential for good.
BTW... my original entry into the cancer world was following the story of a young man named Graden Gaines, who passed away last Sept, 12 HOURS before his friend, Dinah Matthews, who was at MD Anderson at the same time. I've kept in touch with Pamela, and I see that you visit her page, as well. What an incredible family... I just know that Dinah and Haley (and Graden, that gorgeous young man) are having a blast together in Heaven!
In His hands,
Pam Doughty <p_dought@bellsouth.net>
Powder Springs, GA USA - Thursday, August 10, 2006 0:05 AM CDT
Wow Cheryl.. thank you for that. XOXOXOX love you
Lisa <RolexH@aol.com>
St. Pete, Fl - Tuesday, August 8, 2006 12:19 AM CDT
Hi! I was introduced to you by Kelly Wagamon, Samantha's mom. I have a 13 yr. old grandson whom will be under going a bone marrow transplant beginning on 8/24/06. His name is Dylan Melvin, please pray for him. I am very sorry about your daughter, she is beautiful. My prayers are with you and your family. It is very difficult !!!
Sharon Melvin <melvincc0927@aol.com>
Milford, DE USA - Tuesday, August 8, 2006 7:47 AM CDT
What a powerful sermon you have provided. The Lord is using you in a big way.
A frequent visitor
- Monday, August 7, 2006 8:25 PM CDT
Cheryl,
What a "real" writing from the Lord. I especially loved the story at the end. I too think about heaven all the time now since Jonathan now lives there. I always think of hell as being how you feel when you suddenly realize you have misstepped and you know you are falling feeling 24/7. What a terrible place to be. I too am grateful for Jesus.
Love, Sandy Bouchard
Sandy Bouchard <valleyvoice@msn.com>
Rancho Santa Fe, ca USA - Monday, August 7, 2006 3:50 PM CDT
Cheryl....AMEN to that!!! It is so funny because my pastor taught on sunday about HEAVEN. What heaven has and it blew me away when I saw your post today.
Hugs
Dawn <dawnmarshall@wowway.com>
Wayne, Mi - Monday, August 7, 2006 1:33 PM CDT
Cheryl: Your last journal entry. All I have to say is:
AMEN
I have printed this entry out. It is a daily prayer as far as I'm concerned.
Thank you.
Rebecca <sonnibrook@sbcglobal.net>
Prairie Village, KS USA - Monday, August 7, 2006 9:38 AM CDT
Cheryl,
I know exactly the graphic of the girl you are talking abuot. In fact, that heartbreaking morning that Craig shared with us about Haley, that same graphic was on the screen during worship. I just stared at it and thought the same thing you have written today... it's Haley. She has her hands raised and her beautiful hair blowing and she is worshipping this morning. Except, she is worshipping the Lord face-to-face. It was a gut wrenching and beautiful realization all rolled up in one. Not a time goes by when they use that image that I don't think of her and pray for you and your family. I am so warmed to know we know "who" the girl is.
God bless you today.
Susie Lawson <supersusie@chartertn.net>
Kingsport, TN 37664 - Sunday, August 6, 2006 3:20 PM CDT
By the way, I forgot to mention I love the collage of Haley's pictures. Thank you for continuing to share Haley with us.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Karen
Chatsworth, GA - Thursday, August 3, 2006 10:41 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl... I started to write an epic guestbook entry and then ended up just emailing you. :)
We think of you guys all the time.
Lots of love,
Katie, mom to Hayley, Hunter, and Taylor <dugan2b@yahoo.com>
Franklin, MA - Thursday, August 3, 2006 9:19 PM CDT
Cheryl
I agree with the bra thing. I jokingly tell Mark that if we ever win the lottery that I'm having mine cut off! Then there will be no worries about wearing those darned contraptions. Lying.... hhmmm, does that go with the age our sons are? We are having some issues with Jon too. Don't you just love this rebellious stage. NOT! I hope you are having a good day. Love to you all.
Karen - Jen & Jon's mom
Karen
Chatsworth, GA - Thursday, August 3, 2006 10:38 AM CDT
Cheyrl - I like your post today. A little of this, a little of that. I don't know why kids lie but it seems that the same person that stuffed the twinkie wrappers in Nick's room has visited my home. At my home, he left the upstairs faucet on for hours. Amazing.
I am signing off now and going to think about the verse that you shared.
Always in my prayers,
Amy
Amy Hinkle <amy.hinkle@clubcorp.com>
Carrollton, Tx - Thursday, August 3, 2006 9:07 AM CDT
Cheryl,
Thank you, once again, for helping me understand my heart - knowing I'm "normal" in my grief. I spent a wonderful day with my best friend, another friend, their kids and mine. We had a wonderful time - us moms even went to see, "The Devil Wears Prada". Funny thing while I was in line - There was a black mom and her two kids getting tickets for three different movies. I asked her if she saw, "The Devil Wears Prada"; she said yes. I said, "You KNOW he doesn't wear Prada!! You KNOW He's a liar and a thief! - we just laughed!! ANYWAY, once the movie was over, I just wanted to "run away" to my home, my safe haven - and be held by my husband. I don't belong "nowhere" either. At least not now. Just thankful for friends like you...
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, TX USA - Wednesday, August 2, 2006 8:38 PM CDT
Cheryl,
I am so proud of how fast God is allowing the foundation to grow. I am so excited for all that is to come. I know that it can overwhelming at times, but oh what a beautiful "tapestry" this will be one day. I love you, and thank you for inspiring me daily.
Lisa and Aiden <RolexH@aol.com>
- Wednesday, August 2, 2006 6:35 AM CDT
Cheryl,
I think your idea about no bras is great. Think of all the money we could save and all the washing that we wouldn't have to do!! Even with a bra everything is on a downward slope for me!! Ha, ha. So that's one more reason to do away with the "pebble and or boulder holders."
Sandy Bouchard <valleyvoice@msn.com>
Rancho Santa Fe, ca USA - Tuesday, August 1, 2006 8:55 PM CDT
Sheryl...I love ya!!! Benji is my favorite too...he is just the BEST!!! Ashlee is the biggest lier in the world and she is only 5 years old lol! I was thinking about you today, wanted to stop by and say, I miss you, and am missing Haley too a lot lately. Were sending you our love from NY!!!
The KElly's <nykellycrew@verizon.net>
NY - Tuesday, August 1, 2006 5:22 PM CDT
Cheryl,
Your post about kids and lying was absolutely hilarious. I tried to read it out loud to my husband, but couldn't even say "you butt is on fire!" without almost crying. In fact as I write I have to laugh out loud.
Thank you for sharing your random thoughts.
You are in my prayers. :)
Susie Lawson <supersusie@chartertn.net>
Kingsport, TN USA - Monday, July 31, 2006 9:18 PM CDT
Hi Cheryl,
As always I look forward to reading your journals..and if you get too late I get concerned. Not that you are expected to come here and write on a scedule but you just do so if you don't I worry more about you...no pressure. Ha, ha. Anyways, it is soooo hot here lately that the only place I have worn my bra is at work...and well to the store. I really am not over endulged in that area but like you said, its the rule of the land.Uhgh!!!! My 16yr. old does some of the same crap of lies like your Nick. Its not serious stuff, just stupid stuff. Just before I came here, I asked him why he took the pop cartons out of the garage frig. and put them on the cooler instead of the garbage can....oh now he didn't do that...well he is our only kid left at home..and my husband nor I did this. HE swears he didn't. Its not that big of deal,its just the principle of the simple question I asked. You would think I beat the kid or something. I don't get it.
I can't wait to hear the new song for our special angel Haley...it is going to be a real tearsome time here at my computer.
Take care Cheryl, and I mean that with all my heart,
Colleen (spencers gramma)
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Monday, July 31, 2006 8:07 PM CDT
Just wanted to let you know that as I write, Ains is sleeping in a Lightning McQueen tshirt and Thomas the Tank Engine boy 2T-3T underwear. Usually she insists on wearing the Mater or Lightning underwear (so I had to buy 2 full sets of them) underneath her white flower dress - which she only started wearing for potty training. So I guess I have a mixed kid! Half boy (cars/trains/dirt) and half girl (dresses and pedicures). From one tomboy to another :)
Allyson Lucash Notine - Ainsley's mom (CHOA) <alucash@hotmail.com>
LEH, NJ - Saturday, July 29, 2006 9:31 PM CDT
Oh, my, lets talk, I have a 10 year old who daily tells me she is a boy....Last year she took a sharpie marker to who body and drew chest, facial and underarm hair. My mom walked in to hear her hysterically screaming when my husband was trying with lotion to get the ink off, and her screaming "I want to be a boy"! I so understand!!!
Sandra K <cymomtx@yahoo.com>
Cypress, TX - Saturday, July 29, 2006 7:17 AM CDT
Hi.Last year Party City had a very cute girl version of a pirate. My son and daughter both went as pirates. BUT..hey, whatever works. Our friend's daughter, also went through the tomboy stage for years, never wearing a skirt and basically living in soccer gear. Anyway, she turned 11 or 12 and BOOM..nails painted, stylin' clothes, highlights in hair. Go figure. Never a dull moment. ...Reva
Reva Kinnally <kinnallymr@msn.com>
Schenectady, NY USA - Saturday, July 29, 2006 6:16 AM CDT
Cheryl,
I can relate to you and Kendall. Many tears have fallen because one would have to wear "nice" clothes in public - or God forbid - a bra! Also, I wanted you to know that I finally found Haley's CD that you sent to Dinah and me last year. I apologize for not listening sooner - we were just in our little world at the time. BUT, since I "know" you and Haley now, it blesses me more! My children and I cranked it up in the car and just sang along - especially with Billy Rubin - it made me laugh! What a BEAUTIFUL voice! Not only is she dancing with the angels, she's singing with them too!
Smiling today,
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, TX USA - Friday, July 28, 2006 10:14 AM CDT
I say go for the Pirate!! Argh...
I know if Natalie had her
way that's what she'd want to be.
But since she's only 2 going on 30 I get to choose and I chose Dorothy from Wizard of Oz. Hugs and kisses to Kendall!
Becca, Jason and Natalie Ketter <becandjay@verizon.net>
byron, IL - Friday, July 28, 2006 8:24 AM CDT
I have never wept, laughed or rejoiced more than I did while reading your journal entries. You are right - I haven't had the words to say anything until tonight. Now all I can say is God bless you and God bless your girl and your family. I'm sorry, but Kendall, keep up the good work! Driving your momma nuts is what you should do. Love, love love coming to you from AZ. You make me laugh, cry and rejoice all at once - now THAT is a gift! And Angel Haley, if I could wrap my arms around you I would tell you you were an angel on God's earth. Amazing indeed. God's grace was certainly upon you.
Bless your mommy, daddy, brothers and sis, they were in the company of an angel,
Heather :)
Heather
Heather Chapman <dutch1210@msn.com>
Glendale, AZ USA - Friday, July 28, 2006 3:24 AM CDT
If we could just control the world, life would be easier for everyone! Michelle doesn't actually want to be a boy, but she is not a girly-girl. I think your little battles with Kendall are precious and in 20 years you will all laugh at them.
kass
- Thursday, July 27, 2006 3:39 PM CDT
Cheryl:
Your last post was so profound. I check your site everyday to be able to see your sweet Haley's face and read about here. But I also check it to read your incredible posts. I always have to read them over and over again because they are so awesome and sometimes take my breath away.
What do we have if we don't have faith? That's what I tell myself daily. I'm not sure I could exist without it.
Your struggle of grief will be everlasting and I know we who are on outside looking in can only be of so much help. But I want to thank you for all the help you have given people from this site in their journey of life and struggles and faith.
Rebecca <sonnibrook@sbcglobal.net>
Prairie Village, KS USA - Thursday, July 27, 2006 10:03 AM CDT
cheryl, your last post on faith was awesome! you should really think about writing a book...you are so great at putting into words what everyone needs to hear.
i am glad the pancake breakfast went well, too.
do you have a link on haleys foundation site for donations?
sherri gattshall from classkids and liverfamilies <putgod1st@msn.com>
prospect, oh usa - Wednesday, July 26, 2006 11:29 PM CDT
We just thought we would pop by and check on you today,
and let you know we are thinking about you.
Jodi and McKayla
Jodi Phelan <jodiphelan@hotmail.com>
Sherwood Park, AB Canada - Wednesday, July 26, 2006 0:53 AM CDT
Just checkin' in...glad to read the pancake breakfast was a success! That's wonderful news! Thinkin' about ya.
Amy http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/carlytessa
WI - Tuesday, July 25, 2006 10:02 PM CDT
Hello Cheryl,
I am so happy the pancake breakfast was such a success. I have never even held a golf club in my hand, but I hope all is successful with that also. I have a lot of interest in Heaven and would like to get that book. For some reason that whole process is so scary for me. Being brought up Catholic, Heaven was always such a mystery..a place you go to if you were deserving of it. Maybe this book would clarify some things for me. I just want to say thankyou Cheryl for sharing some of your most saddest days...I pray very often that some kind of peace will overwhelm you...and days will be a little easier...although I can't imagine that I could ever find that if I was in your place. Gods plan is different for each of us, and HE will bring you some days of less sadness..I think of you often. I was listening to Haleys songs today from the foundation site....wow, I was just in awe and felt some kind of feeling I can't even describe.Its been on my mind for the rest of the day.
I feel Haley playing and singing with all the other little angels....she is there idol and soooo happy and perfect, but so very missed down here.
Love and peace with lots prayers.,
colleen (spencers gramma)
colleen fraser <irishgalmi@comcast.net>
muskegon, mi usa - Monday, July 24, 2006 10:42 PM CDT
Remember when we were in Florida for the picnic. You, Me, Haley, Nick, Logan, and Kendall were walking back to the hotel after dinner. We stopped at that little surf shop so I could get spray for my sunburn and your kids got snorkeling gear. That was a FUN day!
Marisa
MN www.caringbridge.org/mn/marisa - Monday, July 24, 2006 10:31 PM CDT
Cheryl
Just checking in on you. I hope the pancake fund raiser went well. I would have loved to have come but with Jon just having a biopsy I have had to practically sit on him to keep him from being his normally too active self. My love and prayers to you all.
Karen
Chatsworth, GA - Monday, July 24, 2006 1:16 PM CDT
What an awesome story! How comforting. Thank you for signing Lizzie's website. We have seasons 1-5 (Gilmore Girls). I love the theme song, and the series. I was 18 when Lizzie was born, so I see a lot of Lorelai in me and Rory in Lizzie. Like Rory, Lizzie has always been more mature and wise than her age. Anyway, thanks for coming over to our site. My prayers are with you.
Sami Stratton <samistratton@hotmail.com>
- Monday, July 24, 2006 1:11 PM CDT
Thinking of you all and just checking in. We continue to remember you all in our prayers.
Love and hugs,
Merri Williams, Mom to Sara <mamamerri@bellsouth.net>
Decatur, Ga USA - Monday, July 24, 2006 10:10 AM CDT
A lucky many indeed!
Prayers for a blowout at the pancake breakfast tomorrow. I'm sending you an e-mail with my home e-mail address so I can start that spreadsheet for you!
Hugs and prayers to you all -
Stacy - Tanner's mom - www.caringbridge.com/ks/tanner <stacyrobb@excite.com>
De Soto, KS USA - Friday, July 21, 2006 10:24 PM CDT
Cheryl
You are helping me in sharing your stories. I thank you for letting me be a part of your life and your help in mine. Prayers for the fundraiser to go well. Hugs to you all.
Karen
Chatsworth, GA - Friday, July 21, 2006 5:57 PM CDT
I was very touched by the pictures and what everyone had to say. Each one of us are a child of God. I too lost a loved one 6 years ago 2/18/00 my mother. It was vey hard at first with holidays and such. God gave me the grace that I needed for that moment and forever. Each year it gets a little easier(if that's the word I am looking for). I have the assurance from God I will see her one day when my time on earth is run. It is sad sometimes not to have someone here with us(that's the carnal being we are) but to have the peace and joy to know she is not suffering and now has a perfect body. May God Bless you in all you do and give you the strength for each day.
Love in Christ
Rita Neeley
Rita Neeley <grneeley3379@hotmail.com>
Kingsport, Tn United States - Friday, July 21, 2006 8:06 AM CDT
Thinking of you, Cheryl, and praying for you....Thank you for sharing that story with us. Although I do have great faith in what awaits us in the next life, it always helps to deepen it further when I hear of experiences like the one of that man from your church.
Dot O'Connor <Dotocon@aol.com>
Philadelphia , PA - Thursday, July 20, 2006 8:11 PM CDT
Cheryl,
Thank you for sharing...I am just sobbing. And wrapping my
arms around you in prayer.
Becca, Jason, and Natalie Ketter <becandjay@verizon.net>
Byron, IL - Thursday, July 20, 2006 11:57 AM CDT
I am an employee at Children's. I didn't meet Haley in person but by video. (Kim Miller my Director shared this video with us) I laughed as well as cried. She shared so much with your family in so little time. Keep her alive in your hearts, your thoughts cause she's still with you.(you may not be able to touch her physically but Haley's there.) I have three children of my own and I can't even imagine what you're going through...I know that God is a merciful God. Haley is a beautiful Angel!
Stephanie Bennett-Watson <Stephanie.Bennett-Watson@choa.org>
Lithonia, ga usa - Thursday, July 20, 2006 10:12 AM CDT
Thinking of You.
I miss her letters.
Marisa
MN www.caringbridge.org/mn/marisa - Wednesday, July 19, 2006 8:36 PM CDT
I am praying for you Cheryl. In life it was an honor to walk with your daughter.... I loved her laughter and her humor. I am praying for you and Bruce. We love you
Lisa <RolexH@aol.com>
- Wednesday, July 19, 2006 6:52 AM CDT
Cheryl
You have not told that story before and it is truly inspiring. You continue to inspire me and I wanted to let you know that. I wish you could have a dream of your own with Haley. Take care,
Joanna (Jessica's mum from CLASS and liverfamilies) <joread@comcast.net>
- Wednesday, July 19, 2006 1:27 AM CDT
Dear Cheryl, Your post was beautiful. It is scriptural fact that God has indeed communicated to His people using dreams. I'm glad He gave you knowledge of this one from your fellow church member. Tonight in a searching place of my own, 2 people gave me an insight of hope that I'd like to share with you. It is from Psalm 84: 5-7. Normally I wouldn't write in the whole passage here, but this one bears noting: "Blessed is the man whose strength is in you, whose heart is set on pilgrimage. As they pass through the valley of Baca, they make it a spring; they make it a spring. The rain also covers it with pools. They go from strength to strength." The Hebrew word "Baca" means "tears." The Valley of Tears. In Israel this path to Jerusalem was arid, dry, and water was a precious commodity. Sort of like real life. The travelers there faced an arduous journey, much like the one you are taking. They found themselves refreshed by the wells of water placed there by others who had made the journey before them. And God saw to it that those wells remained filled with His heaven sent rain. And sustained by those measures, the travelers were then able to "go from strength to strength." The words posted here for you are like those wells, I think. The compassion of those who have traveled this path before you KNOW what an arid and arduous journey you are taking. Those of us who DON'T know exactly what your journey is like still have reservoirs inside from our own trips through assorted sorrows that we draw from to share with you. And God is the one who keeps all of those Living Water sources flowing. The strength will come. These pages are full of "wells" and contributors who long to see you moving from strength to strength. And the Haley Vincent Foundation will be a well, too, that others coming behind you will draw from when they have need. And the gift will go on........
Debbie Coffman <drcoffman@charter.net>
Kingsport, TN USA - Tuesday, July 18, 2006 9:47 PM CDT
What a beautiful experience... Thanks so much for sharing it.
Shannon, www.caringbridge.org/mi/marisa <hamet@mich.com>
Flat Rock, MI USA - Tuesday, July 18, 2006 7:41 PM CDT
Thank you for sharing that wonderful story. I can tell that Haley touched so many lives and she continues to do so. God Bless, Reva
Reva Kinnally <kinnallymr@msn.com>
Schenectady, NY USA - Tuesday, July 18, 2006 7:14 PM CDT
You are in my prayers and in my heart.
I wish I could do more ...
Give it to God. Give Him your grief to carry for a while.
Becca, Jason and Natalie Ketter <becandjay@verizon.net>
byron, IL - Tuesday, July 18, 2006 11:47 AM CDT
I'm sorry that it's such a rough time for you right now; my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Denise Ward <deniward@shaw.>
Winnipeg, Canada - Monday, July 17, 2006 10:24 PM CDT
Thinking of you.
Amy http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/carlytessa
WI - Monday, July 17, 2006 7:38 AM CDT
Cheryl,
Just wanted to send you a hug and let you know we are thinking of you and always have Haley in our heart.
Michelle (Jack's Mom) www.caringbridge.org/ny/jack <mmorea@optonline.net>
Massapequa, NY - Monday, July 17, 2006 6:24 AM CDT
Cheryl, as you know, (I think you know), I've been out of town this past week and haven't been able to check all of "my" CB sites that I visit regularly, Haley's being one of those. I was sorry to sign on here tonight and see that you've been feeling down, and that I haven't left any messages to let you know I've been thinking of you. Not that I'm so vain that I think a message from *me* will brighten your day, but just that I'm not sure what else, besides think of your family and pray for all of you, I can do. So I do that regularly, and just want you to know.
Kristie Kendrie's Page <kristieokc@cox.net>
Byron (Robins AFB), GA usa - Sunday, July 16, 2006 10:18 PM CDT
Cheryl and family,
I recently read your entry on my daughter's care page and it brought me to your daughter's. What a beautiful, beautiful girl Haley is. Her smile lights up her whole face and from her pictures, she eminates a feeling of peace. My daughter, Ashleigh, recently became an angel March 29, 2006. As you know, the grief is unbearable, and the constant void of their physical presence numbing, but I try to find some comfort in believing that we will be together again in heaven one day and at that time, our time on earth that we were apart will only seem like a minute of time. Thinking of you and your daughter.
Love and hugs,
Amy and Angel Ashleigh Kieliszewski
Amy Kieliszewski <amdinger@aol.com>
- Sunday, July 16, 2006 9:50 PM CDT
Cheryl
I wish there was something I could do or say to help you. I just wanted to let you know that You continue in my thoughts and prayers everyday. We love you. Please let me know if there is anything I can do.
Karen
Chatsworth, GA - Sunday, July 16, 2006 7:27 AM CDT
Cheryl,
I know the grief that I am going through right now, is nothing compared to yours, but grief, is grief is grief, I guess...
The man who heads up the DivorceCare group that I have been going to. reminded me of something the other day. He said that we are like a puzzle. God will put the puzzle together - without our help - we just need to give him ALL the pieces to the puzzle. For us to ever be whole again, we have to surrender everything. I can't imagine the pain and anguish you are going through, but I hope you are able to keep in mind that after every painful day is just one step closer to completing the puzzle.
I also wanted to posted the words to a song that has been my "theme song" here lately. It is by one of my favorite groups, DownHere:
When everything is wrong
The day has passed and nothing's done
And the whole world seems against me
When I'm rolling in my bed, there's a storm in my head
I'm afraid of sinking in despair.
Teach me, Lord to have faith
In what you're bringing me will
Change my life and bring you glory &
There on the storm I am learning to let go
Of the will that I so long to control
There may I be in your arms eternally
I thank you, Lord, you are the calmer of the storm.
You rebuke the wind and the waves
Once again I find I'm amazed & the power of your will
Cuz I'm a child of little faith
I feel the wind and forget your grace
And you say, "Peace, be still."
There on the storm I am learning to let go
The white wave's high, it's crashing o'er the deck
And I don't know where I go
Where are you Lord, is my ship going down?
The mast is gone so throw the anchor
Should I jump and try to swim to land?
There on the storm, teach me God to understand
Of the Will that I just cannot control
There may I see all you love protecting me
I thank you Lord, you are the calmer of the storm.
Kat Hampton <katbird76@gmail.com>
Sharpsburg, Ga USA - Saturday, July 15, 2006 8:59 PM CDT
Cheryl,
As I read your entry today, I thought of Psalm 121 -
"I will lift up my eyes to the mountains;
From whence shall my help come?
My help comes from the LORD,
Who made heaven and earth.
He will not allow your foot to slip;
He who keeps you will not slumber.
Behold, He who keeps Israel
Will neither slumber nor sleep.
The LORD is your keeper;
The LORD is your shade on your right hand.
The sun will not smite you by day,
Nor the moon by night.
The LORD will protect you from all evil;
He will keep your soul.
He LORD will guard your going out and your coming in
From this time forth and forever."
Walking beside you...crying with you...
Pamela
www.caringbridge.org/tx/dinahmatthews
Pamela Matthews <gmatth@clearsail.net>
Houston, TX USA - Saturday, July 15, 2006 8:11 PM CDT
Cheryl...we continue to love and think about Haley and pray for you and Bruce and the kids.
Sheryl, Justice's mom <sheryl.lyn@verizon.net>
- Saturday, July 15, 2006 4:56 AM CDT
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