Peggy Gary

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My mom Peggy has unfortunately battled depression most of her life.   She’s been such an inspiration as this is such a debilitating disease of the mind with very little resources to help compared to other diseases.   She is one of the kindest, sweetest, most giving people that I know.   She is also by far one of the funniest women that I know and can make me laugh until I cry.   She took such pride in her job with Weight Watchers that she had for almost 30 years.  I can remember her feeling blue going into work and would leave work feeling rejunivated by all the people she interacted with that treated her with such dignity and respect and were genuinely grateful for what she had taught them.   She was even given gifts to give to her grandbabies before they were born.   


I noticed a shift in her demeanor around Christmas last year and by March  of this year, she had entered into a depressive state and was asked to leave work since she wasn’t functioning properly while leading her meeting.   Since that day, she’s been on a steady decline closing off everyone in her life, including family, other than my dad, and ultimately desiring her life to end as her mind is no longer the mind of sound judgment and she truly believes no one loves her.   She went from full meals, to small meals, to nibbling on her food, to eating nothing and only being willing to drink.     It’s been one roadblock after another getting her help, but FINALLY, as she was near death at 86lbs the other day , she was finally admitted into the hospital for medical reason since it took her getting to that weight for her labs to show dehydration and poor kidney function.  This happened on November 30th.  They are taking wonderful, wonderful care of her in the hospital and she has an amazing support system with her family, both immediate and extended, and her friends in constant prayer.   She struck the lottery with my dad as her caretaker.  He never leaves her side unless I beg him to for him to maintain some of his own sanity.   I’ve requested prayer from so many as well and we cannot thank you ALL enough from the bottom of our hearts for all of your concern and prayers and your attempts to reach out to her and the beautiful cards she’s received.  My prayer is one day she will read them all and truly realize just how loved she is versus thinking she isn’t loved by anyone and believing in the love that her Heavenly Father has for her.    Mental illness is a terrible disease.   She will have to go through physical therapy plus psychiatric therapy to get both her body and mind in working condition.  My prayer to our Heavenly Father is that all the right hands and minds reach my mom to find the correct treatments  to stimulate her brain out of this unrecognizable state that she’s in.   Furthermore, I pray that she becomes accepting of the help and cooperates and becomes willing to feed her body, mind, and soul.  Amen.   Please continue to keep my mom in your prayers as we want her in our lives for so much longer!! 


As of today, she still is refusing food minus a little bit of broth on her first night, but is being pumped with tons of fluid via an IV.  They have had so many specialists in to make sure she is taken care of.   She had a CT scan done last night as they felt the artery in her stomach was enlarged but it turned out fine.  It just felt weird because she’s all bone right now.   She’s having a calmer day today as she waits for a room to open up in the psychiatric unit.   She doesn’t trust anyone at the moment , but we’re so hopeful this will change and she will open up for healing.   It’s going to be a long road, but will continue to post updates on her for all who have inquired about my mom.  


Thank you!
Angel