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Thursday, December 28, 2006 11:09 PM CST Dearest Angels:
It has been a busy week, but we are getting into a groove and Alan’s patience continues to amaze me. He has graciously adapted his routine to my Mom’s and to share his room, TV remote and to make her as comfortable with the situation as possible.
Her post-op doctor’s appointment went very well yesterday. After a round of x-rays, they removed the boot, sutures and placed her in a cast for a couple of weeks. If the progress continues as well as the past week, she will get the cast off, pin removed and the physical therapists can start working on range-of-motion exercises to begin rehabbing the ankle. The plate and screws will remain in place permanently and she is not allowed to bear any weight on the foot for six weeks. We are grateful that the home-health care agency began their visits immediately (for physical therapy and colostomy care) so that I can continue to focus on Alan’s recovery and day-to-day activities.
We had an extra-special Christmas treat today as we received a visit from Angel Tracie and her husband David. We always feel so blessed after a visit with them and relished in feeling such a part of their lives and their family.
Let us continue to pray for the troops, and their families, as they continue to sacrifice so much for us. We pray that you and yours are blessed beyond measure in the coming year. Thank you for continuing to be a blessing to us. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Thursday, December 21, 2006 9:52 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Praise God, Mom’s surgery went as planned and she was asking for coffee and something to eat as soon as she was in a regular room after recovery. Since she had a spinal block vs. general anesthesia, she was able to avoid a nauseating recovery and was alert, and doing well, less than an hour after surgery. Dr. V is keeping her overnight so Physical Therapy can work with her tomorrow on transfers and using a walker or crutches and, depending on her progress, will discharge her tomorrow or no later than Saturday.
It is truly difficult to describe how comforting it is to feel the love and support we have. We truly experience the meaning of Christmas all year long. In His Peace, Rosie
Thursday, December 21, 2006 7:56 AM CST Dearest Angels:
My mom’s surgery on her ankle is scheduled for 12:00 pm today. Please keep her and her medical team in your prayers. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Monday, December 18, 2006 10:45 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Alan continues to display incredible love and patience.
Christy and I picked my Mom up in San Antonio on Saturday so she could spend the holidays with us and we were all very much looking forward to making tamales this morning. No dice.
The not-so-good news is that as Mom was heading down the stairs, she miscalculated and fell on the stairs, fracturing her ankle in two places. Christy helped me get her down the rest of the stairs, into Alan’s wheelchair and I drove her to the ER. She is in a ľ cast and scheduled to see the orthopedic surgeon Wednesday morning. Alain reassembled Alan’s twin hospital bed and we have spent the day trying to keep her pain free and comfortable. She is now sharing Alan’s room downstairs until we figure out how to proceed. I know that this, too, shall pass. Thank you, Friend, for your words of wisdom.
The good news is that my sister received the news today that the oncologist and surgeon do not see a need for surgery to remove her tumor. She is not planned to see them again until February and has actually put in a full week’s work! She looked great to me on Saturday when we picked Mom up at her house and I thank God for His continued work in her life. Thank YOU for your continued prayers on Melva’s behalf.
So here I am, again, asking for your prayers for healing, strength and endurance. I am also asking that you pray for peace and hope for the person posting links to undesirable websites on Alan’s guestbook. Al and I are doing our best to monitor the site and delete them, but fear that somehow the Angel’s link is now on an automatic list.
I’m not sure what to expect in the next week but don’t want the opportunity to pass withouot wishing you and yours a blessed holiday in the company of loved ones. Thank you for being in our lives and for continuing to support our family in such an incredible way. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Tuesday, December 12, 2006 10:19 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Alan and I were on the road early this morning and returned home late this evening from San Antonio. However, it was a productive day and his follow-up appointment with the eye surgeon went VERY well. She has released him to resume all his activities and his only two questions for her were, could he “start working out again and how soon can we do Lasik?” She looked over at me sitting behind Alan, smiled at me and Alan after a moment of thought and said, “I guess any time. You don’t mess around, do you?!” She asked the refractive eye surgeon to come meet Alan, review the chart and for his opinion. Dr. Riley thinks Alan is a candidate and will schedule an appointment for a more in-depth exam. I asked Alan if he thought maybe we could take a break from surgeries when he reached 100 and he said, “Okay, but I want to fix everything that can be fixed.” What could I say?
Today’s eye exam confirmed that Alan continues to have single-vision “straight-ahead” and double as he looks out of the corners of his eyes. Dr. Schatz reminded him that it could be that way forever to which Alan replied, “That’s okay, as long as it’s single straight ahead.” However, the double has improved each follow-up appointment and some of the swelling in the muscle where the work was performed is still expected to dissipate; I continue to believe that God’s healing hand is at work in our sweet man and for perfect healing.
Since we were in San Antonio, I drove Alan across town to Spinal Cord for some lab work as he continues to cough and be a little congested. Let’s pray it’s just the crud or allergies and that there will be no need for antibiotics.
We are all very excited about Christy coming home for the holidays after her last final tomorrow! She sounds like she is ready for the break and looking forward to being home for a few weeks.
As an added bonus to a great day, my sister sounded upbeat and strong after her first day back at work and we are praying for a good report from her doctor tomorrow on her last scan. She will also be fitted with her new leg brace which should relieve some of the discomfort and change in gait as a result of the hip surgery.
Whew! Lot’s of answers to prayer!!! I know God is going to hand me a bill for “OVERTIME” some day! In His Amazing Grace, Rosie
Thursday, December 7, 2006 11:34 PM CST Dearest Angels:
It looks like Alan and I have been fighting a bug together - which made for an interesting week. I think we finally quit fighting it today. After having his breakfast in bed, Alan said he wanted to stay in bed and that his throat still hurt so after giving him cold meds and making him comfortable, I headed upstairs to make my bed and shower. Needless to say, I crawled under the covers for “just and minute to warm up.” I fell asleep with PJ’s, robe and covers on (which typically means WAY TOO MUCH cloth around me). Hours later, I woke up and found that we had both slept the morning away and probably felt the best we had since Monday. Of course, it also brought back memories of those first few weeks after the kids were born and they slept through the night – I was in a panic.
I rushed downstairs to find a stuffy Alan not too interested in dressing or getting out of bed. We snuggled for a little bit, watched some TV and just took it easy. His voice sounded much better this afternoon and he was giving his dad a hard time this evening; always a good sign. I pray that we are both on the upswing and for a healthier, stronger weekend. In His Healing Hand, Rosie
Monday, November 27, 2006 8:01 PM CST Dearest Angels:
At this time last year, Alan was only able to sample food, was looking at a life of many little meals a day, dietary challenges and being mostly spoon-fed. A year, lots of hard work and many prayers later, Alan had a fantastic Thanksgiving Day and truly enjoyed his holiday meal. We are so grateful for God’s healing hand on him, that he is able to feed himself and has no dietary restrictions; truly direct answer to prayers!
As if that was not enough, Alan spent Friday with Harvey Cunov, as his guest, at the Texas vs. Texas A&M football game! After dropping them off at the stadium, Al and I spent the day with Christy, running errands, picking up our Christmas tree and the TV in the van on the game. I must admit, Christy and Harvey were in much better spirits than Alan was when the game was over (A&M 12, Texas 7); however, the guys had a great time and we continue to be grateful for the Angels in our lives.
Alan and I are looking forward to a month with few travel dates, focusing on therapy and looking forward to his follow-up appointment on the 12th. We are praying that everything looks just the way it should and that Alan return to his strength training regimen. Of course, we are very much looking forward to Christy being home for a month! In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Wednesday, November 22, 2006 9:41 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Alan told his dad he did not have a good time hunting in Mason; he had a “GREAT TIME!” I had the privilege of taking my son on his first adaptive hunting trip and the honor of getting to know the heroes that put the event together. God continues to surround us with amazing love, support, respect and Angels.
As all the hunters came back to the cabin yesterday morning, I was blessed with a tour of the property and, as I stood at the top of the highest peak, was overwhelmed by the beauty of the Hill Country and the significance of our trip. I grew up in a home where Thanksgiving week started out with my grandfather, father and brothers departing for deer hunting the weekend prior and returning in time to clean up and be presentable for the Thanksgiving meal. We would sit around the table listening to their “war” stories about the hunt and grateful for venison in the freezer for tamales and meals for the next few months.
While I did my best to keep the tears from flowing as I stood at that majestic peak, I was struck by fact that I had continued the tradition with Alan and that my Daddy would have been so proud that his first-born grandson was keeping the tradition alive. I was also struck by the fact that in three weeks, we had the privilege of visiting Napa Valley, Washington, D.C., and the Texas Hill Country and to enjoy the freedom for which so many pay such a high price. We are truly blessed.
Christy is home from college, Alan continuing to recover and we are looking forward to a long weekend together counting our blessings. I look forward to preparing a traditional Thanksgiving dinner tomorrow and we are looking forward to having my brother and his family spending the day with us.
We had a special treat as we received some of the pictures taken by the official photographer from our trip to DC by e-mail today. I will post some and upload the other when we receive the rest. I believe you will agree with me that Alan is looking great and healthier day-by-day. He actually propelled his wheelchair out front today and sat outside as he let Chuy out and enjoyed the mild weather and sunshine.
We pray that you and yours will have a safe and happy Thanksgiving full of love and God’s grace in your life. In His Amazing Grace, Rosie
Sunday, November 19, 2006 10:04 PM CST Dearest Angels:
It has been a busy weekend preparing for the Thanksgiving Holiday. We are all, especially Alan, looking forward to having Christy home for a few days and gathering with my brother’s family. We have so very much for which to be thankful and continue to count you among our blessings.
I am off to bed as Alan and I will drive to Mason, Texas, in the morning for his first deer-hunting trip! Keep us in your prayers as we take on a new challenge: adaptive hunting! In God’s Amazing Grace, Rosie
Sunday, November 12, 2006 6:24 PM CST Dearest Angels:
What a special way to spend Veterans Day. It was an honor to accompany Alan as he paid his respects at The Tomb of the Unknown Soldier and to witness the honors and gratitude bestowed upon him for his service.
What a blessing it was to see our President meet our gaze and say to our son, “Bless You” after he placed the wreath at the Tomb and proceeded to the amphitheater to address those in attendance. We were honored to be by Alan’s side as he took his place of honor at both the wreath-laying ceremony and the ceremony at the amphitheater.
As a special treat, Angels Tracie and Tara were present at the ceremony and Alan’s guests at the reception hosted by the Paralyzed Veterans of America after the ceremonies at Arlington. The Secretary of Veterans Affairs, James Nicholson, attended the reception and spent some great time with Alan, Tracie and Tara. It was touching to see the look of amazement on Mrs. Nicholson’s face when she saw Alan and the progress he has made since their visit to the Spinal Cord Injury Center in January of this year.
It was a busy week, filled with pride in our son, our country and gratitude for our veterans and fallen heroes. We even managed to meet the Skolnicks for dinner Friday evening and the Browns on Saturday evening. How blessed are we?? We spent one weekend with friends in California and the next in Washington, D.C.; truly “from sea to shining sea!” With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Friday, November 10, 2006 5:37 PM CST Dearest Angels:
We spent the morning amazed at Alan’s progress and sat nearby as Alan handled his video-taped interview personally. The Paralyzed Veterans of America staff has made us feel extremely welcome, honored and treat Alan with the utmost respect.
The afternoon was spent touring monuments and, after attending the Changing of the Guard at the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier, Alan was honored with a private tour of the Ready Room beneath the Amphitheater for a behind-the-scenes look from the Guards. They spent some wonderful time with us and were visibly grateful for Alan's sacrifice. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Wednesday, November 8, 2006 9:58 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Alan looked great when we picked him up from the Spinal Cord Injury Center today. Thank you Harvey and David for keeping Alan company and to the amazing staff!
We depart with Alan for Washington, D.C., in the morning. Below is the text from the National Office of the Paralyzed Veterans of America regarding this year’s Veterans Day ceremonies; Alan is one of the two OIF veteran’s referred to in the article:
November 11, Veterans Day, is a day to honor America’s heroes and pay special tribute to all veterans, living and dead, who have sacrificed for our country. It is an opportunity for the Paralyzed Veterans of America to pay respect to not only our members, but also all men and women who have served in the armed forces.
In this, our sixtieth year, we particularly acknowledge our founding members. After service to our nation and despite having suffered spinal cord injury, these men made a commitment to ensure the rights and welfare of all veterans with spinal cord injury. Their work and commitment led to the creation of our organization. Today, we carry on this work fighting for the benefits and care veterans have earned.
The Paralyzed Veterans of America will participate, as a congressionally chartered veterans service organization, in annual Veterans Day ceremonies at Arlington National Cemetery. Wreaths will be placed at The Tomb of The Unknowns and at The Vietnam Veterans Memorial. We are pleased to host several honored guests at this year’s ceremonies, including two veterans from Operation Iraqi Freedom and the winners of the Paralyzed Veterans’ Veterans Day poster and essay contests. In addition, members of our Board of Directors and other invited guests will be in attendance at events throughout the day.
November 11 gained significance in 1918 when an armistice, or cessation of hostilities, ended the fighting of World War I at the eleventh hour of the eleventh day of the eleventh month. In 1938 the U.S. Congress declared November 11 to be a legal holiday known as “Armistice Day”, a day to be dedicated to the cause of world peace and set aside to honor veterans of World War I. In 1954, at the urging of veterans service organizations, the word "Armistice" was replaced with "Veterans" and later that year President Dwight D. Eisenhower issued the first "Veterans Day Proclamation.” Grateful for America’s Heroes, Rosie
Sunday, November 5, 2006 6:48 AM PST Dearest Angels:
The last few days spent with friends have been so precious to me. Not only are we in beautiful surroundings for our stay, but I have felt so very loved and reminded of how much Alan’s journey and sacrifice continue to mean to so many.
It has been good to visit with Alan by phone daily and to hear the smile on his face when he asks me, “Are you having a good time?” Sweet man. From the sound of HIS voice HE is having a great time; working on his hunting safety course, attending the local chapter PVA meeting and dinner on Thursday; the shooting range Friday afternoon and being visited by friends. He is looking forward to a deer hunting trip on the 21st of November and I am looking forward to accompanying him on a new adventure in his life.
As I write this update, I am sitting on one of the most beautiful places on earth; Napa Valley, California. There is a slight breeze in the air and I can hear the pine needles as they fall on the ground. The smell of the pine trees is sharp and the color of the leaves turning is overwhelmingly beautiful. The sound of water trickling out of the spa and into the pool is so a soothing and relaxing. God has blessed our trip with a feast for our eyes, our hearts and our souls. (And the wine hasn’t been bad, either!!!) I am so grateful for the beauty in my life and the generosity of friends who continue to carry us and to support us through this amazing journey In God’s Amazing Grace, Rosie
Wednesday, November 1, 2006 9:23 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Alan had a great follow-up visit; one stitch removed from his eye and the other “trimmed” so it does not irritate the tissue. The even better news is that his vision was even a little better this time than last week! Barring any changes, his next appointment is not scheduled for 4 weeks. In typical Alan fashion, he continues to deny pain, to work hard and to anticipate a full recovery.
We finished with Dr. Schatz and drove across town. Alan is now settled in for respite care at the Spinal Cord Injury Center (Room 2) in San Antonio while Alain and I travel to California to spend some time together and gather with old friends. We are truly looking forward to the trip and grateful that Alan’s recovery and ability to direct his own care are at a point where I can enjoy vacation time surrounded by such amazing love and support. I am blessed beyond measure that Alan is followed by such an amazing staff at Spinal Cord and that they know his medical status so intimately that I feel that, next to home, he is in the best place possible.
We will return to Austin on Tuesday, pick Alan up on Wednesday, head home to repack and fly out for Washington DC on Thursday. We feel so privileged to be accompanying Alan on his trip to honor our Nation’s fallen and have been moved as he has instructed us on what to pack for his trip.
In addition to a great day with Alan, we had terrific news from my sister. She had her last chemotherapy session today, will be finished with radiation early next week and was the most optimistic she has seemed in months! We are standing firm for God’s perfect healing and know that all good things come to those who know and love the Lord! We thank you for your continued prayers and support.
For those of you in the San Antonio area, please stop by and say hello to Alan if you get a chance. Hopefully, he will be out of his room and you will have to hunt him down in the Unit! In God’s Amazing Grace, Rosie
Tuesday, October 24, 2006 10:24 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
God is so very good to us; Alan’s follow-up appointment went VERY well today.
I apologize for not posting an update earlier, but Alan’s recovery continues to progress very well. I spent Friday making sure he was pain-free, comfortable and packing for a weekend with Christy at Texas A&M for the “Mother’s Luncheon” at her sorority house. Alain spent the weekend taking care of Alan as I spent time focusing on Christy. I also had the privilege of traveling to/from College Station with one of the most amazing women I have the privilege of knowing. You may recall Christy asking for your prayers on behalf of her friend’s family and Mom (Linda) last December as she underwent surgery and radiation? It occurred to me this weekend, as I watched Linda enjoying her daughter, life and being a positive influence on everyone around her, that you needed to know how actively your prayers are being answered and the power of Alan’s Angels. I was blessed, beyond measure, and privileged to spend the weekend in the company of a true survivor.
Alan’s vision continued to improve over the weekend and the swelling to dissipate. Although the muscles (and white part) of his right eye are still a bit swollen, Dr. Schatz was pleased with his recovery. Alan has single-vision as he looks straight-ahead and double-vision only when he looks to the side (without turning his head); all to be expected. Alan’s faith and determination are amazing. Even before he is fully recovered from this procedure, he is asking how soon he can undergo Lasik surgery! Amazing.
We will return for a follow-up next Wednesday morning (Nov. 1) and pray that he remains infection-free and to improve. Counting Our Blessings, Rosie
Thursday, October 19, 2006 9:13 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Praise God, Alan’s vision appointment went very well this morning. Dr. Schatz was pleased at the surgical outcome and we were all very relieved that, as the minutes passed after she took off the eye cover, he reported better and better results. He soon reported that he could see one of her, but still double “B’s” on the chart across the room. However, as I walked around him from the back of his chair, he was startled to see me in his right peripheral vision...YES!!! Until we see Dr. Schatz again on Tuesday, the instructions are for no over-exertion, keeping the eye clean and he will wear his new normal, single-vision glasses without prisms to allow his brain and eye muscles to settle in to their new position. The doctor was “cautiously optimistic” as she discharged Alan and we headed for Round Rock.
By the time we arrived home, settled Alan into his bed and he rested for awhile, he reported seeing single images of items across the room. Then, as I unpacked our bags mid-afternoon, I was standing at the foot of his bed with a paperback in my hand and he said he could read the title and author, saw single images AND got them right. I continue to remain in awe grateful for God’s blessings and Alan’s determination. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Thursday, October 19, 2006 6:02 AM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan's surgeon was very pleased with the eye surgery and Alan tolerated it very well. As usual, he was in high spirits and his "happy self" as they reported on his time in the recovery unit.
We returned to our room in the middle of a severe thunderstorm and without power, unable to check/send mail or do an update, so we went to bed and got a good night's sleep. We are now off to the hospital to dress and get Alan ready for an 8:00 am vision appointment with Dr. Schatz. Let us pray for God's continued Healing Hand on Alan. In God's Grace, Rosie
Tuesday, October 17, 2006 8:01 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan spent the day undergoing pre-operative tests and is scheduled for surgery at 6:00 am tomorrow. We must be at the hospital at 5:00 am, so we will spend the rest of the evening settling Alan in for some rest and a time of prayer and thanksgiving.
It is anticipated that the surgery will last several hours and I will update as soon as possible. We DO have internet access at base housing, so we will update no later than tomorrow evening.
Thank you for your continued prayers and support. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Monday, October 16, 2006 10:54 AM CDT Dearest Angels:
We have been notified that Alan has been selected by the National Paralyzed Veterans of America to be an honored guest at the 2006 National Veterans Day ceremonies in Washington, DC. What an honor; Alain and I will proudly assist him as he travels to Arlington Cemetery to pay his respects to those who made the ultimate sacrifice.
As most of you know, Alan received both his Purple Heart and Bronze Star (for Valor) medals, and due recognition, by our Nation’s leaders while he was at Walter Reed in critical condition. I am grateful that Alan’s sacrifice and journey are being acknowledged now that he is fully cognizant. It means so much to me that the memories he will have as a result of his heroism will be his own and not only from the pictures I share with him and the journal I have kept of his journey. Our prayers continue to be answered.
We were blessed to Spend Saturday in San Antonio celebrating my nephew’s new chapters in their lives. Freddie ships out to Guam on Tuesday for his first duty station and David has graduated from ITT. It was great to see how well my sister is doing in anticipation for her next 6 week round of radiation and chemotherapy, my mom and all my siblings. I had a big smile on my heart. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Tuesday, October 10, 2006 7:03 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
After all the surgeries Alan has endured, it is amazing to witness how excited he is about having eye surgery next week! He is scheduled for surgery at Lackland Air Force Base in San Antonio on Wednesday, October 18th. We will spend Tuesday through Thursday in San Antonio to allow for pre-op and post-op appointments.
Alan has insisted for the past year that his recovery will improve as soon as his “eyes are fixed.” Please pray that God’s healing hand continues to work in big ways in Alan’s life and that He continues to shine His face upon our tough fighter. In His Amazing Grace, Rosie
Thursday, October 5, 2006 9:17 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
I must admit, the guys did just fine with me out of town last weekend. They attended the UT football game with my brother, Art (skybox experience and all) courtesy of his friend Mark. What a treat!
I had the opportunity of spending the weekend being cared for and in the company of some amazing women; decades-old friends and fellow peace officer’s wives. I was surrounded by mentors, who quickly became friends, during my early years as a peace officer’s wife in California. These ladies taught me so much about taking pride in the weight of the badge on our lives and my husband’s chosen profession. They taught me about raising responsible, loving children even as our husbands worked swing shifts that made it impossible for them to always be present during homework assignments, church family nights, school and sports functions. We learned to lean on each other and to share our experiences with the younger wives as they came along. We found ways to laugh and grow together and to create a unique support system. The type of bonds formed made it possible for us to pick up right where we left off the last time we attended a conference together – 12 years ago. Thank you Donna, Marty and Pat for a weekend of laughter, joy, tears, hugs, more laughter and for your support during Alan’s journey. Rick and Tim, thank you for so graciously sharing your wives’ time with me and for lugging my bags around.
Although I was initially hesitant to keep my travel plans, I am so glad that Alain insisted that I get away and for the time to myself; to heal, to think, to reflect and to recharge my batteries. I am blessed with an amazing relationship with my daughter. I am blessed beyond measure and grateful that my life is so rich with friends and for the special time to re-connect heartstrings. I am grateful that I am not only the mother of a son who so selflessly risked his life for another, but also the wife of a man who daily spends his life in service to others. I have the privilege of living with two men committed to keeping our community, and our country, safe. Counting My Blessings, Rosie
Wednesday, September 27, 2006 4:37 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
We got the “all clear” sign from the doctor and I only have a contusion on my right chest wall and right knee; I need to go back in 2 weeks to make sure everything is still okay. Most of the bruising has disappeared and most of the discomfort is when I take a deep breath (I know, I know…don’t take deep breaths) or put weight on my right arm to get in bed. I’m sure that will also be better in a couple of days, but I will continue to take my meds & rest.
The doctor did not see any reason not to travel, so I am keeping my flight plans to the Police Officer Wives Club Affiliated conference this weekend and plan to do a lot of resting, reading and spending time with friends I have not seen in over 14 years. I will leave my laptop behind so I don’t impede any healing progress on my neck and shoulders, so it may be next week before I post an update – unless I find an Internet Café.
Because I have been down more than up and about, Alan did not get much therapy since Saturday. However, Alain put him in the standing frame this afternoon and he was able to tolerate it for an hour! They also have big plans for the weekend while I am away and I’m sure Alain will help Alan make-up any time lost at the gym.
Alan told me during lunch today that the memory of getting shot suddenly came back. We discussed it for a bit and then he was making fun of me for wincing when I reached for a napkin and I let the conversation go. I pray that as the memories return, his steadfast trust in the Lord grows and that He continues to protect Alan’s mental health. Grateful for Answered Prayers, Rosie
Monday, September 25, 2006 9:01 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
I am feeling better this evening. I am being a good patient, taking the meds prescribed and doing what the ER doctor advised. I have a follow-up appointment with my primary doctor tomorrow and anticipate the “all clear” sign. Alain took the day off to take care of Alan (and me) and I am grateful for his attentiveness.
Alan had a vision appointment scheduled this morning in San Antonio and Alain was able to take him so he did not lose any progress towards surgery. The doctor placed numbing drops in Alan’s eye to assess the eye muscles and, according to Al, the doctor was very pleased with the results and it sounds like she will do the eye surgery during the month of October. She will call me in a couple of days to schedule it. I was a little concerned about post-op care for Alan since the procedure is performed on an outpatient basis; however, she saw no problem with admitting him as an inpatient to allow him to rest, keep from transferring out of the wheelchair and not have to travel back/forth for follow-up.
Thank you so very much for your continued prayers, support, e-mails and phone calls. Some days I feel like I keep you, God and His Angels busy full-time. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Sunday, September 24, 2006 12:01 AM CDT Dearest Angels:
We were extremely blessed by a visit from Frank Brown Friday evening and were able to spend a little more time with him on Saturday. Frank is Angel Tracie’s brother, attends West Point and continues to support Alan and to share his journey with others. It was amazing to realize how fast time has passed as we recalled Frank’s last visit with Alan at Walter Reed – the day before he departed for West Point. The football team was staying in Round Rock as they played Baylor in Waco on Saturday afternoon. Of course, Alan quickly agreed with Frank’s offer to meet the cheerleaders as they gathered to travel to Waco for the game.
Saturday, Alan was also able to join us for his cousin Nick’s soccer game. We spent an hour laughing, cheering and proud to able to be on the sidelines as Nick and the other 5-year-olds ran their little legs off and worked their hardest. Because I had errands to run after the game we drove separate cars, the guys headed home after the game and I went off with my to-do list.
A couple of hours later I was involved in a head-on collision and my suburban is totaled. I was heading home on a beautiful county road, approaching a curve and only about a mile from home when a little red car came flying out of the curve from the opposite direction, on my side of the road. All I remember screaming was, "Oh, God, NOOO!" and fearing what it would mean for Alain if I became injured.
I AM OKAY. THE OCCUPANTS OF THE OTHER VEHICLE ARE OKAY. Praise God, I was alone and Alan was safely home with Alain.
My airbags deployed and I was stunned for a moment but I never lost consciousness. The accident scene was chaotic as you can imagine and I was kept immobile until the EMS arrived and was taken by ambulance into Austin, to their trauma center to get checked. Apparently, from looking at the suburban, they expected severe injuries. They didn't know about the Angels that surround us.
X-rays later, nothing is broken, I walked out of the emergency room 3 hours after the accident and am resting in bed with a bruised upper sternum, right rib cage area (right along the path of the seat-belt), an aching right forearm, lower right part of my face (from the airbag) and a sore right knee. The occupants of the other car were test-driving a car and, from what they told the responders and officers, the driver lost control as they entered the curve. I pray that they have only bruising and soreness.
More than anything, I am grateful to God that we are all alive and that it wasn't worse. Please pray that the pain of the impact passes quickly and for no residual effects. Grateful for God’s Protection, Rosie
Thursday, September 21, 2006 9:24 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
I had the privilege of attending the athlete recognition reception with Alan today, at the South Texas Veterans Health Care System, Audie L. Murphy Memorial Hospital in San Antonio. What a sweet surprise it was to learn, as Alan’s name was called, that his heroism was being recognized and that his efforts were being highlighted “for his devotion in rehabilitation.”
God continues to bless us and to use Alan’s journey for His purpose. As we witness Alan’s determination, and do our best to support him and assist him in his recovery day-to-day, it does not occur to us how it may be touching someone else’s life. As I stood in the crowd this afternoon, and watched someone else proudly step up to assist Alan as he received subsequent awards, I was able to see the looks on the faces of those in attendance, to feel the love and support he, and our family, are blessed with and to be reminded of what an amazing team we have supporting us. Amazingly, it makes the journey lighter.
Alan’s speech and cognitive therapy continue to be assisted by the new vision equipment and to make his vision and reading easier. It was a treat and confirming to hear from a couple of folks today that he looked, and sounded better than the “last time” they saw him. It has made a big difference for Alan to focus on the material that he is reading out loud rather than finding the “sweet spot” or turning the pages with the challenge of ataxia as he did previously. He is VERY MUCH looking forward to his appointment with the neuro-opthamologist on Monday, scheduling surgery and getting closer to having his “eyes fixed.” Let us continue to pray that great results will be achieved and that it will be another giant step in his recovery.
As an added bonus to our last week, Christy was home for the weekend and it was a treat to go out to dinner as a family, sweet to watch Alan have the opportunity to be a big brother (and slip his baby-sister some cash) and to see the close relationship both our kids continue to have in the midst of a terrific challenge in their lives. God is good. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Saturday, September 16, 2006 11:11 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
It was a somber beginning to the week as we watched the programs on television depicting the events of September 11, 2001, read the newspaper and news magazine accounts and were taken back to the emotions of that morning; how our lives have changed since then. Personally, I could not help but think of all the other families who continue to find their own way and to adapt daily to a new “normal.” As for Alan, he answered reporter’s questions himself and when asked why he had enlisted after 9/11, he boldly stated, “To fight the war on terrorism.”
There have been a few more snippets of memory retrieved by Alan’s brain recently. Although he still cannot recollect the days surrounding his traumatic event and many of the months that followed, we are grateful that he can remember all of his life up to basic training, the paratroopers with whom he lived at Ft. Bragg and can remember most of the past year, including some of his time and folks at Texas NeuroRehab Center.
Alan continues to grow stronger each day and to bear more and more of his weight when we transfer him in/out of bed and into his wheelchair. This week, in particular, several people asked whether he was getting therapy from outside sources, etc., and if the VA would even provide it – which means others may be wondering the same thing. The answers are no and yes.
The VA will provide therapists for him on a fee-for-service basis (approval reviewed each block of time) and therapists can come to the house to work with Alan, like we did at the beginning of the year. However, Alan does not want any “outside” people working with him right now and asked me for a break from appointments until his “eyes are fixed.” My sweet man; I cannot imagine seeing double all the time and trying to grasp something with my hand, let alone get food onto a fork and into my mouth. Being away for Winter Clinic and Summer Games made scheduling therapies within the approved timeframe a challenge and then we were flying around the country with Alan at least one week out of each month.
Because we do not want him to lose any ground, Alain Sr. and I continue to work with Alan; using what we learned from prior therapists and I do my best to learn about new therapies with traumatic brain injury patients and to use aspects of everyday life as therapy. It is amazing how much work there is after a stroke in such simple things as learning to put toothpaste on a toothbrush and getting the brush safely into your mouth. Because of the ataxia, Alan still has challenges with steady hands and, due to the lack of muscle control in his arms, legs and trunk, still needs assistance (sometimes just verbal cues) in keeping his torso centered in his chair.
Alan’s attitude and resilience continue to inspire me to work harder and to long for more life. Even his choice of reading material for the “reading out loud” part of speech therapy has a place in his spiritual life. He has chosen to use a bible-study workbook for reading; sweet music to our ears as we listen to him read it out loud.
We will continue to look to God for strength, guidance and wisdom; knowing that stress and change are a part of life and to do our best to use this journey as an opportunity to learn and grow. We are so grateful for your prayers, for my sister’s valiant battle against cancer and her continued fight to beat the odds. We know we could not walk this journey alone. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Sunday, September 10, 2006 8:48 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
The events of September 11, 2001, changed the course of so many lives; including Alan’s. As we reflect on the loss of so many families, we are grateful for God’s mercy on ours and for Alan’s desire to serve our Nation and fellow paratroopers. We are grateful for the selfless sacrifice of so many, and to those who continue to volunteer so that we may continue to enjoy our freedom. May we never forget the families who lost loved ones and who continue to live with the loss and pain of the past five years.
We continue to adapt to our new “normal,” to be grateful for another day of life and that our son continues to improve. As we worked on writing Friday, I asked Alan to write his name ten times, five in print, five in cursive. He said, “How about I print one, sign one, and alternate?” Each day brings more recovery and a stronger desire to direct his care.
I will have the honor of accompanying Alan to the September 11th commemoration at noon with the Williamson County Republican Women and in the afternoon to the dedication of the SFC Nathan Ross Chapman Memorial in Georgetown. SFC Chapman was our first casualty in the war against Afghanistan. I cannot begin to imagine the grief and void of the families who have lost so much and we continue to pray for the safety to those continuing to protect us now. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Monday, September 4, 2006 11:19 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
God continues to shine his face upon us and we had a terrific trip to Nashville!
I pray that I NEVER cease to be moved by the reaction of others to Alan’s journey. It is such a privilege to witness the look on people’s faces when they finally get to meet him, “after hearing so much about him.” The members of The Retired Enlisted Association welcomed him, and us, with open arms and visibly appreciated my presentation on Alan’s journey. God continues to use his journey to touch so many hearts.
I was humbled by the number of seasoned veterans, many who saw combat in VietNam and that era, who approached me after the banquet and, with tears in their eyes, shared their stories and thanked me for sharing ours. The healing continues.
What a joy it was to receive an e-mail from Dr. Dan Irizarry, the 82nd Airborne Division Surgeon, who was in charge of the Medics in Iraq and with whom Alan trained the six weeks they were in Kuwait prior to the start of Operation Iraqi Freedom. He was one of the first commanders to contact us while we were at Walter Reed to fill us in on Alan’s valorous actions and visited Alan when he returned from Iraq. We were also blessed by a telephone call from one of Alan’s combat buddies, who is back in Iraq for another tour, and scheduled to be home next week. We received the call from Corey just a couple of hours after Alan and I were talking about some of the soldier’s with whom he was stationed at Ft. Bragg. We pray for their safe return home and are grateful for their dedication to Alan.
Alan’s Angel, Tracie, and her husband, David, were in Austin visiting his parents this weekend and we were blessed that we were able to spend some time with them all this afternoon. It is so rewarding to watch Tracie with Alan and to watch her amazement at how much he has improved since their previous visit; especially, knowing that she saw him shortly after he came off the battlefield.
Alan and I are off to San Antonio tomorrow for his sunglass fitting. Because the sunglasses will fit over his regular ones, they want to make sure that it is a proper fit so it should be a quick appointment and we can return home to settle in for a week of working on therapies. In His Amazing Grace, Rosie
Monday, August 28, 2006 11:25 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
We thank God for another year of life and for the continued support and encouragement of Alan’s friends. He celebrated his birthday in their company on Saturday and I was grateful to be feeling a little better by then.
The heat continues to break records in Central Texas and I have moved Alan’s arm/hand cycle into the living room. We will spend the week continuing to work hard and to prepare for our trip to Nashville this coming weekend. I have the privilege of sharing Alan’s story with The Retired Enlisted Association at their Annual Convention banquet on Saturday evening and am grateful that the members will personally see the fruits of their support of Alan. TREA generously provided Alan with the wheelchair accessible circuit training equipment in our home and we all know what a difference it has made in his life.
Please join me in praying for a safe flight and good weather.
I am thankful to report that I am much better today with only a slight cough and stuffy nose – thank you so very much for your prayers. In His Peace, Rosie
Thursday, August 24, 2006 3:55 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan continues to work hard and watched with anticipation as his new computer equipment was set up Wednesday morning. We were amazed with the technology as Alan was introduced to the low-vision software installed and ready for his use. Since his mouth was still pretty sore from getting his braces on, I think he was relieved for the opportunity to work on the computer instead of speech and we received a call today rescheduling his next vision appointment for the end of September so we will not be traveling to San Antonio in the morning. I’m not so sure Alan was too disappointed as it has been a full week.
In addition, I am fighting some MAJOR flu-like bug and grateful that I have not been sick like this since Alan discharged for home. Thanks to Alain taking some time off from work I am settled into bed with tissues, water, cough drops, etc., and praying to kick this summer cold FAST. In His Rest, Rosie
Monday, August 21, 2006 9:17 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan had an AMAZING visit to the orthodontist this morning! Of course, his mouth is sore tonight and, having worn braces myself, I know how sore he will be in the next couple of days. I will be vigilant that he does not lose weight through this process and focused on cooking soft foods today. Enjoy the smiles shared between Angel Dr. Ron Barnett and Alan. We are so blessed by the kindness of so many.
It has been in the triple digits the past week and Alan and I were in/out of the van several times today so I’m wilting...will update more later...lots going on in Alan’s (and my) week.
PLEASE keep my sister in your prayers and that the current chemo will be THE ONE to beat her type of cancer. In God's Amazing Grace, Rosie
Monday, August 14, 2006 8:15 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan accompanied us this weekend as we settled Christy into her new room at Texas A&M University. It was such a blessing that he could join us, meet many of Christy’s sorority sisters (with whom she’ll live in the House this year) and to be a part of such in important time in her life as a college student.
We continue to work with the Low Vision folks and have scheduled the next appointment for his prisms on the 25th of August in San Antonio. As you know, Alan is convinced that “everything will get better” once the double-vision is corrected. I cannot imagine what it would be like to go around seeing as if my eyes were "crossed" and join him in his anticipation and belief.
Thank you to all who continue to pray for my sister and for your support. Although the chemo is taking its toll on her physically and the side effects are less-than-desirable, her voice sounds strong and she continues to fight. In His Peace, Rosie
(New Pictures on Yahoo) Tuesday, August 8, 2006 6:29 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan and I have spent the past few days surrounded by unconditional love. Alan was “game” for anything we wanted to do and got to fish off the pier this morning. It was a challenge for Tracie and me to keep from making a huge deal over Alan’s fine motor skills, control of his torso and instinctual fishing technique. To watch him cast his line into the ocean, you would have thought he had been doing it all along the past few years. He started out casting about 5 feet away from the pier and, within the next hour, was casting about 40 feet away. I left the fishing buddies to themselves and walked on the beach for a while.
We head for home tomorrow, rested, refreshed and grateful for Alan’s Angels. It has been difficult for me not to tell Tracie and Tara at every opportunity what their place in Alan’s, and our life, has meant and kept reminding myself to just allow everyone to enjoy the present time and each other’s company. I was grateful for the instances when they would remember some of the things that happened on the Comfort and shared them with Alan. So, he is learning first-hand what happened those first weeks after he was wounded, with those who spent the time with him. And, the healing continues. In His Rest, Rosie
Monday, August 7, 2006 12:15 AM CDT Dearest Angels:
It has been a privilege to watch Alan with Tracie and Tara and to see their reactions as they experience his continued recovery and progress first-hand. No matter how much I write or attempt to describe Alan’s healing, there is no way to do it justice and that has become remarkably evident this weekend. Tracie and Tara saw him at his worst, in the months that followed and every year since then and STILL they are amazed at his strength, movement and mental agility. Tracie even got Alan interested in Suduku, a wordless crossword puzzle, which Alan was able to complete on his own and blow our socks off.
We are getting lots of rest, catching up and counting our blessings. Enjoy the pictures. In His Peace, Rosie
Wednesday, August 2, 2006 10:48 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan continues to impress me with his attitude, determination and pain tolerance! Monday morning found Alan at the Oral Surgeon’s office for 2 teeth extractions (ouch) in preparation for braces; he is scheduled to have the brackets/bands on the 21st. I counted our blessings as we got out of the van at home, looked at his swollen face and realized that it has been 10 months since he last had any type of medical procedure or looked like a patient. We are so blessed that Alan has his own dental “Team Babin” and Drs. James Orr (dentist), Ron Barnett (orthodontist) and Lynn White (oral surgeon) have teamed up to provide Alan’s dental care at no cost to Alan. Dr. White was able to do the extractions with local anesthetic and we were grateful to avoid total anesthesia and the risks that come with it. As I shared with Dr. Orr, Alan took his pain medication on Monday, but was able to eat dinner, slept through the night and did not even require a Tylenol on Tuesday AND we left for San Antonio at 6:45 am for labs, the VA, Spinal Cord Injury Center and appointments at the Low Vision Clinic. We were in/out of the van all day and he kept denying pain. He just said his gums felt a little sore but did not need anything for the pain, ate all his meals and was fine when we returned after 9:00 pm last night.
We were greeted by Harvey Cunov as we arrived at the hospital in San Antonio yesterday and he joined us for Alan’s appointments. It was a treat to have so much help as I took Alan in/out of the van in the heat and to see how his journey continues to touch lives. In addition to some personal gifts Mr. Cunov brought Alan, and me, he personally hand-delivered a dedicated photo and race cap to Alan from Roger Staubach. Yep...No. 12 himself!!!
Alan then spent the remainder of the afternoon joining his team mates for a time of sharing photos and memories of the Wheelchair Games in Alaska last month.
I was grateful that we were already in San Antonio, and only a couple of blocks away from the Cancer Therapy center, when I received a telephone call from my sister with the results of her biopsies and scans. As usual, Alan was very understanding and loving and insisted that he would be fine, hang out with his team and for me to go see my sister. I was able to arrive in time for her meeting with her surgeon and, as we learned of the severity and scope of the diagnosis, her oncologist (in the same building) for his opinion and news of the recurrence of malignant tumors. She will begin chemotherapy on Wednesday to continue for the following 12 weeks. With her doctors’ approval, she will proudly attend her son’s graduation from the Great Lakes Naval Station, Illinois, this weekend and gear herself up for the coming treatments.
Alan announced when I returned to pick him up that he wanted to go see his “Aunt Melvie” so we spent the evening with my sister and her family before heading back to Round Rock. Although we did not return home until late in the evening, we were both grateful that we were right where God needed us that day. We will continue to trust God and to turn it ALL over to him, for His purpose. Please keep my sister and her family in your prayers.
I have the privilege of accompanying Alan to Wilmington, North Carolina, this weekend, for a reunion with Angels Tracie and Tara. Little could I have imagined three years ago, as I watched Alan in his ICU bed all those months, battling for his life, surviving a stroke, meningitis and life-threatening infections, that we would be flying half-way across the country to spend time at the beach, healing with the Angels that surrounded him those first weeks off the battle-field. The healing, for all of us, continues. In His Peace, Rosie
Thursday, July 27, 2006 10:35 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan has been busy this week with orthodontic and oral surgeon appointments and I have kept him busy with speech, occupational and physical therapy exercises.
We even managed to meet with the kitchen remodel team and to get rolling on the project. It was rewarding to watch join the meeting, aware of the entire process, proposed modifications and review the documents himself. The pictures speak for themselves; God is good and continues to shine His face upon Alan. Praise God for the Angels that continue to do everything possible to make Alan’s life easier.
Continued prayers are requested as my sister’s scans from yesterday reveal two new masses. I pray for wisdom and peace. I am grateful for unconditional love and support. In The Grip of Grace, Rosie
Sunday, July 23, 2006 10:46 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
As Alain and I joined Alan in the pool this afternoon, we grumbled as we skimmed and cleaned the seeds and debris from the live oak trees floating in the pool as a result of the high winds last night.
It wasn’t long before God gently reminded me that “mighty oaks, from tiny acorns grow...” and I was refreshed, renewed and inspired once again.
We spent the rest of the afternoon enjoying the breeze, the sun, the water AND counting our blessings as Alan and Christy continue to grow and blossom in His light. In The Grip of Grace, Rosie
Wednesday, July 19, 2006 11:26 PM CDT July 19, 2006
Dearest Angels:
Alan had a special visit from a gentleman from San Antonio that read the Mother’s Day article in the San Antonio Express-News, and simply had to meet Alan. It was moving to listen to a grateful citizen express his gratitude to Alan for his service to our Nation and what it has meant to him on a daily basis. As a special treat, I was also presented with a beautiful flower arrangement from “him and Alan.” Alan’s Angel network continues to grow and God continues to cross our paths with special people.
Alan and I spent the afternoon in south Austin as he underwent a follow-up bone density scan. We pray that the scan will show stronger bones and that the osteopenia with which he was diagnosed in 2004 is a thing of the past! We will hand-carry the results to his appointment in early August. While we were south, we took the opportunity of visiting Texas NeuroRehab Center (where Alan was inpatient for 14 months) and the pleasure of seeing Alan’s Pulmonologist and BIG Angel, Dr. Gilbey. Alan had no problem telling him, “whenever it’s convenient for you” when Dr. Gilbey said he still owed him a steak dinner!
We also had the privilege of meeting a young Marine who made it safely home from Iraq, then was in a tragic auto accident in March. Fortunately, his mom and sister were present and I was able to share some of our experience over the past three years with his mom and provide her with our information. I pray that we are/were able to be of service in some small way. It was touching to see Alan reach out to touch her son as he sat, semi-comatose, in his wheelchair…much the way Alan appeared when he arrived at TNC. This I know for sure: God used their circumstance to gently remind me of how far Alan has come; I pray that He used ours to give them hope. In His Grace, Rosie
Monday, July 17, 2006 9:59 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
I just hung up the telephone after a call from an Angel calling to check in on us and making sure “everything was okay with the Babins.” I shared with him that we were all fine, the last two weeks have been a whirlwind of unpacking, laundry, follow-up doctor’s appointments in San Antonio, media interviews on Alan's trip to Alaska, housing adaptation meetings/forms (for the kitchen), spending some time with friends and family, college registration for Alan and I’m tired...it’s been over 100 degrees in the shade...and I don’t know where all this paperwork on my desk came from!!!
So our Angel very lovingly said, “Okay, so update the web page and tell everyone I’M TIRED, but we’re okay!!!” Praise God for loving friends.
Alan and I spent this afternoon on campus at Austin Community College, meeting with his advisor and starting the ball rolling as he takes the next step in his recovery and future. God continues to pave the way and light the path as we continue on this journey; baby steps to some, milestones to us.
I know both Alan and I owe return phone calls and e-mails. We have blocked out tomorrow morning for physical and occupational therapy and the afternoon to rest, reply to e-mails and chat with friends. Counting you among them, Rosie
Saturday, July 8, 2006 2:20 AM ADT Dearest Angels:
Alan takes home the Silver! It was an exciting game (and strange) rooting for both sides as one of Alan's San Antonio buddies, Tammy, was on the opposing team for the Quad Rugby Championship Game late this evening. Although Alan did not medal in weightlifting, he set a new Personal Record of 120 pounds!
Alan had a great time and enjoyed the festivities after just as much. We finally had the opportunity to experience "night" in Alaska as it has been a long evening. It has been an amazing week filled with love, hugs, amazement, patriotism, gratitude, fun, great views and new relationships. We have already started making plans for next years' Games - in Milwaukee.
It was amazing to reflect upon, and share with those that saw him at The Games last year, Alan's progress. A coach even shared that if there was a medal for Most Improved it would definitely go to Alan as his progress has been remarkable in one year. Alan said to me later, "Wait till they see me next year!"
We are blessed beyond belief and thank all of you who posted messages and sent e-mails. Alan is enjoying reading them each day at the Internet Cafe provided for the athlete's use. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Wednesday, July 5, 2006 11:52 AM ADT Dearest Angels:
What started out to be a tentative day on the Rugby court for Alan at 9:00 am, turned out to be inspiring at the 7:30 pm game. As the lowest rated (ability) member of the team, we watched as Alan took the court in his first game and appeared overwhelmed, unable to keep up physically in propelling his chair or to process the quick-moves by team mates and those on the opposing team. It was simultaneously heart-wrenching and heart-warming to watch him play as he struggled to keep up. However, I kept reminding myself that at this time last year, Alan was in a motorized wheelchair, driven by us, and only able to participate in ramp-bowling. This morning, his team lost the game by a very small margin and Alan felt as though he had not contributed to his team.
Alain, Alan and I spent the afternoon together, taking in some of the local sights, watching the "salmon run," being caught by fishermen and had a relaxed, early dinner of the freshest fish we have ever tasted. By 6:30 pm Alan was ready to kick butt and we returned to the Sullivan Arena with "the Alan" we have all learned to admire and respect; ready to play and do his best.
Alain and I spent the next hour and a half with a lump in our throats as we watched him work hard, break a sweat and to witness his team mates encourage, mentor and cheer him on. He played for much of the game and even brought in the ball once and received and assisted on another play. Word of his bravery and journey had gotten around during the day and we had VA doctors, nurses and attendees asking about him and confirming that he had really “been through” all that they had heard. So many people were very proud of Alan and his accomplishments today and he was surrounded by a team eager to open their arms to him and to share in his success. To me, the team picture after their evening game says it all. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
HOT SHEET, continued Wednesday, July 5, 2006 *QUAD RUGBY 9:00 a.m. & 7:30 p.m. Sullivan Arena Quad Rugby is a unique, tough, competitive contact sport especially developed for quadriplegics. It is played on a basketball court by four-member teams. Unique to wheelchairs, this is an interesting event for the sports-viewing public and fun to watch. Rough and tumble, high-action, great action photo and interview opportunities. Lots of emotion in the final round on Friday at 9:00 p.m. Great opportunity to show true wheelchair rugby, just like it was played in the recent documentary “Murderball.” Watch Seattle veteran Gary Pearson demonstrate his techniques to Iraqi Freedom veteran Alan Babin from Texas.
Athletic Profile (National) Alan (Doc) Babin Eyes the Gold in Alaska There’s no stopping Alan (Doc) Babin now. One of the first soldiers injured in Iraq, the 25-year-old U.S. Army veteran has come a long way since being seriously wounded on March 31, 2003. After 70 surgeries and numerous hospital stays, he is now preparing to compete in the 2006 National Veterans Wheelchair Games in Anchorage, Alaska.
You can see the competitiveness in his eyes as he talks about the Games, saying “I wish they were tomorrow!” At last year’s event, Babin’s first, he won the silver medal in the motorized wheelchair rally and placed fourth in bowling in his category, which is based on each athlete’s level of injury to ensure fair competition. This year, he vows to “bring home the Gold.” And the motto he’s taking to this year’s Games? “Believe in yourself.”
That is what has kept the Round Rock, Texas native going as he struggles to learn to do the simple things all over again. An Army medic with the 82nd Airborne, Babin had come to the aid of a fellow soldier who had been shot in the head. While attending to the wounded soldier, Babin was hit several times by small arms fire that tore through his abdomen, damaging about 90 percent of his stomach.
While recuperating at Walter Reed Army Medical Center he suffered meningitis and a stroke that left him paralyzed. At the Wheelchair Games, he will compete in the quadriplegic category. He is signed up for the bowling, shot-put, weightlifting and quad rugby events in Alaska.
Despite the setbacks, Babin remains determined to one day live a normal and healthy life. Earlier this year he took steps toward that goal by participating in the National Disabled Veterans Winter Sports Clinic in Snowmass Village, Colo. It was at this event that he skied alongside is father, Al, Sr. who said that skiing beside his son was “one of the highlights of my life.” With the help of his mother, Rosie, Babin remains committed to overcoming the many obstacles that he is now facing.
The Games help him do that. "Having the National Veterans Wheelchair Games to look forward to helps keep me motivated to keep training," Babin said. "I have looked forward to seeing many of the veterans I met at last year's Games. I grew up playing baseball, soccer and taking martial arts classes. I hope to be able to participate in those sports again and to train for track events and quad rugby in the next year."
“Never, never, never give up,” he says.
Tuesday, July 4, 2006 10:35 AM ADT Dearest Angels:
Not only was the Opening Ceremony last night inspiring but seeing the Vietnam Veterans Motorcycle Clubs of Alaska roll into the arena bearing the flags was impressive.
The downtown parade this morning was amazing. All day long, we heard and over-heard athletes commenting on how touched they were by the turnout and response from the community. It is truly a rewarding experience to spend such a patriotic celebration among our Veterans.
Alan is having a great time and catching up with athletes he met at last year’s Games and meeting new ones. He has his first event tomorrow morning, Quad Rugby, and we are looking forward to cheering him on.
Our surroundings are beautiful; mountains to one side of the hotel and Cook Inlet to the other. It is interesting to see the moon high in the sky and the sun shining at the same time, as I write this, at 10:30 at night. As I look out of our window, it is a strange experience to have the sun as bright as it is at noon back home Alain and Alan sound asleep. God continues to bring so many new things into my life through Alan’s journey.
You can keep up with the week’s events at the link to the Games below. A press release on Alan has also been issued and I have included the text and included the link below. Also on the newsletter for Wednesday’s events is included a comment regarding Alan’s quad rugby event. Thank you for your prayers for safe travel and your amazing support. Much love, Rosie
HOT SHEET, continued Wednesday, July 5, 2006 *QUAD RUGBY 9:00 a.m. & 7:30 p.m. Sullivan Arena Quad Rugby is a unique, tough, competitive contact sport especially developed for quadriplegics. It is played on a basketball court by four-member teams. Unique to wheelchairs, this is an interesting event for the sports-viewing public and fun to watch. Rough and tumble, high-action, great action photo and interview opportunities. Lots of emotion in the final round on Friday at 9:00 p.m. Great opportunity to show true wheelchair rugby, just like it was played in the recent documentary “Murderball.” Watch Seattle veteran Gary Pearson demonstrate his techniques to Iraqi Freedom veteran Alan Babin from Texas.
Athletic Profile (National) Alan (Doc) Babin Eyes the Gold in Alaska There’s no stopping Alan (Doc) Babin now. One of the first soldiers injured in Iraq, the 25-year-old U.S. Army veteran has come a long way since being seriously wounded on March 31, 2003. After 70 surgeries and numerous hospital stays, he is now preparing to compete in the 2006 National Veterans Wheelchair Games in Anchorage, Alaska.
You can see the competitiveness in his eyes as he talks about the Games, saying “I wish they were tomorrow!” At last year’s event, Babin’s first, he won the silver medal in the motorized wheelchair rally and placed fourth in bowling in his category, which is based on each athlete’s level of injury to ensure fair competition. This year, he vows to “bring home the Gold.” And the motto he’s taking to this year’s Games? “Believe in yourself.”
That is what has kept the Round Rock, Texas native going as he struggles to learn to do the simple things all over again. An Army medic with the 82nd Airborne, Babin had come to the aid of a fellow soldier who had been shot in the head. While attending to the wounded soldier, Babin was hit several times by small arms fire that tore through his abdomen, damaging about 90 percent of his stomach.
While recuperating at Walter Reed Army Medical Center he suffered meningitis and a stroke that left him paralyzed. At the Wheelchair Games, he will compete in the quadriplegic category. He is signed up for the bowling, shot-put, weightlifting and quad rugby events in Alaska.
Despite the setbacks, Babin remains determined to one day live a normal and healthy life. Earlier this year he took steps toward that goal by participating in the National Disabled Veterans Winter Sports Clinic in Snowmass Village, Colo. It was at this event that he skied alongside is father, Al, Sr. who said that skiing beside his son was “one of the highlights of my life.” With the help of his mother, Rosie, Babin remains committed to overcoming the many obstacles that he is now facing.
The Games help him do that. "Having the National Veterans Wheelchair Games to look forward to helps keep me motivated to keep training," Babin said. "I have looked forward to seeing many of the veterans I met at last year's Games. I grew up playing baseball, soccer and taking martial arts classes. I hope to be able to participate in those sports again and to train for track events and quad rugby in the next year."
“Never, never, never give up,” he says.
Saturday, July 1, 2006 9:18 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan is excited about Alaska and we are packed and ready to go! His orthodontist appointment went extremely well and Dr. Barnett is amazing. His appreciation and respect for Alan was immediately evident and Alan now has one more goal in his quest for perfect health. He continued to work out hard during the week and to receive visits, cards and calls of good wishes for The Games. I'm hoping for good Internet access and you know I will post photos during the week if possible.
Our cup runneth over; my Mom is doing great at home, my sister is finished with her radiation and focusing on recovering from the hip surgery, Christy had a great Summer Session and we are all looking forward to enjoying more of God's majestic beauty in the coming week. In His Grace, Rosie
Sunday, June 25, 2006 10:34 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
I am still not sure how I will ever be able to adequately express my gratitude to you for your support and unending prayers. I know that through God's Grace I am blessed, but continue to be in awe of the immeasurable bounty He has bestowed upon us.
Although my Mom had a rough first half of the week, at least now we know the cause (Diverticulosis)and can support her in life-style/diet changes accordingly. Alan comes by his strength honestly...she is "one tough cookie!" She was asking for a shower by Wednesday morning, sat in a chair in the afternoon and walked 75 yards on Thursday. When I called to speak with her this afternoon and did not get a reply, I called the nurses desk and was informed that she was walking in the hallway and to try agan in a little while. It appears that she will be released for home tomorrow. It is amazing that my experience with Alan's ostomy and wound care has now come to benefit my Mother AND the wound nurse at the hospital in Del Rio. As we discussed and worked on my Mother's colostomy bag, the nurse was highly interested in the supplies I had used with Alan and is looking forward to providing them (and the procedure) to her other ostomy patients.
Alan is happy to be back home, in his own bed and to see Chuy. We look forward to a week of packing for the Games in Alaska and to his orthodontist appointment on Wednesday.
My sister continues to sound strong, upbeat and to tolerate the radiation.
From the bottom of my heart, Thank you. Rosie
Tuesday, June 20, 2006 4:52 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan’s vision appointment went very well. He and the doctors were able to find a “sweet spot” and change his prism so that he is able to look almost straight-forward to prevent the double-vision. If his brain continues to adapt as readily as it has to the past couple of prisms, he will have the nerve in the right eye surgically corrected in September. Dr. Schatz informed us that, even after surgery, some patients still continue to see double out of certain fields of vision. I informed her that we would begin praying now, SPECIFICALLY, for complete acceptance by Alan’s body of any optical surgical revision.
I again felt the enormity of God’s love and grace in my life yesterday. As Alan and I drove into San Antonio for his 1:00 pm appointment, I was informed that my Mom had been admitted to the hospital with severe abdominal pain and was scheduled for surgery today. With a heavy heart, I shared the news with Alan. He immediately agreed that I should call the Spinal Cord Injury Center and see if they had a bed available for him for respite care so I could travel to Del Rio to be with Mom (San Antonio is half-way between Round Rock and Del Rio). Before we arrived at the vision appointment, the amazing staff at Spinal Cord called me to let us know that there was a bed available, orders were in place and the nurses were expecting (and ready) for Alan’s arrival whenever we were finished across town. When I called Alain to inform him of my Mom’s condition, plans to admit Alan to Spinal Cord and to make arrangements for him to bring Alan clothes for a couple of days, he immediately left for home and, not only arrived at Spinal Cord before Alan finished at the ophthalmologist at 5:45, but also packed MY suitcase and had me on the road by 6:30 pm - while he settled Alan in at the hospital. As I sat quietly at my Mother’s bedside hours later while she rested, I was reminded of how blessed I am, how much God continues to shine his face upon me and counted my blessings. I unpacked my bags at midnight to find that my husband had not missed a single detail and that I had everything I need for several days.
My Mom’s surgery began at noon and ended just after 2:00 pm. According to her doctor, she had a “good sized” hernia on one side of her abdomen and an infected abscess on the other. And, although she came out of surgery with a repaired hernia and colostomy bag, she was alert and asking questions about the procedure. We pray that her recovery is uneventful and that she is back on her feet and out of pain rapidly. Barring any complications, I will remain with her for a couple of days before returning home. Thank you so much for your continued prayers. In His Loving Hands, Rosie
Sunday, June 18, 2006 10:09 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
As usual, Alan thoroughly enjoyed his time at The Roadhouse in the company of the bikers (our “Angels on Harleys”). Of course, I reminded them that if he receives any more knives as gifts he will be able to start his own armory!!! Alain and I were honored to witness the love and support showered on Alan as the members of supporting motorcycle clubs celebrated Alan’s recovery and encouraged him to keep up the good fight. The celebration included fundraising for the Fisher House Foundation which, as many of you know, is near and dear to our heart.
Alan is very much looking forward to his visit to the opthamologist in San Antonio tomorrow and, hopefully, a new prism. Praise God, Alan's progress continues.
The pictures speak volumes - enjoy. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Tuesday, June 13, 2006 9:58 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan had a very special visit today from General Sandy Meloy and, his sweet wife, Patsy. Some of you may remember General Meloy from last September when he presented Alan with a tile from one of Saddam Hussein’s palaces. General Meloy and his wife attended "All American Week" at Fort Bragg last month and brought Alan many 82nd Airborne gifts and filled Alan in on the events of their trip. Even I was presented with a Challenge Coin and key chain! We had a very nice time catching up and it was great to see the look in General Meloy’s eyes when he first saw Alan and how amazed he was at Alan’s progress. It is such a privilege to witness these two generations of Airborne warriors together.
Alan is looking forward to seeing his "Angels on Harleys" again this Saturday as they celebrate his life! I love seeing the smile on his face every time he is surrounded by the guys from the Motorcycle Clubs...I’m sure he’ll enjoy showing off his new "guns" and to show them how hard he has been working.
My sister begins 2-3 weeks of radiation tomorrow and we pray that it is the final step in the removal of her tumor. She is doing much better than anticipated and continues to look and sound great. We pray for stamina and strength for her in the coming weeks and for peace and courage as her son, Freddie, begins his first week of Basic Training. Freddie is now a Navy "recruit" and we are proud to have another military man in our family. Please continue to keep our military men and women in your thoughts and prayers. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Wednesday, June 7, 2006 8:53 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
It seems that the stronger and better Alan gets, the busier I am, less time I have to sit still and too tired at the end of the day to write. I know, I know, I just have to do it earlier in the day and make time for it! :-)
We traveled to San Antonio last Thursday and Friday for some training and to adjust Alan's wheelchair - now that he has been in it for a couple of weeks and has a better idea of the position in which he is most comfortable. He amazed the staff at SCIC with his weight lifting ability by pressing 110 pounds! It was amazing to watch him train for shot put, javelin and discuss. It was even more amazing to watch him train with the air rifles; this time last year he could not even hold his arms up to his chest. This time, he was able to not only hold the rifle on a mount, but was able to hit an 8x10 inch target at about 30 feet. Unfortunately, we did not have any cameras available to capture the progress (one is in the shop as it quit working for still photos and our small one that I keep in his backpack had a dead battery which I have just replaced). Alan has really been looking forward to the Wheelchair Games. It has been good for all of us to have training goals and he continues to push himself harder than any of us would push him.
We were also blessed with a visit to my sister's home. She is doing better than expected and looks great. Since we had the axle in Alan's wheelchair changed to the narrower one, we were even able to get Alan's wheelchair into her room and they were able to see each other for the first time in many, many months. She was also happy to share that no chemotherapy is planned and "only" radiation will be required.
We spent Saturday catching our breath, cleaning the pool, doing laundry, took in a movie in the evening and then visited Alain's parents on Sunday afternoon. We had a nice drive out to Horseshoe Bay, a relaxing afternoon in the pool and nice dinner before heading home to get ready for the week.
What looked to be a quiet month is turning out to be a busy one. The great news is that, among other appointments, Alan has his return appointment with the neuro-opthamologist for the vision exam/prism update on the 19th and his initial consultation with the orthodontist on the 28th for exam, x-rays, etc., in preparation for his braces. (Thank you Drs. Orr and Barnett!)
You will be pleased to know that Alan was in the top 6 finalists in the Republic of Texas Biker Rally Military Bike Build Giveaway! He was among true American Heroes nominated and got a shy smile on his face when we read the essays to him - including his. He knows in his heart that he will get to ride a motorcycle again and has enjoyed the posters autographed by Jerry Covington and his words of encouragement - thanks, Bill!
I know you will agree with me that there has been incredible improvement in Alan since I last posted pictures. God continues to shine His face upon us. In His Amazing Grace, Rosie
Monday, May 29, 2006 9:54 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
We had the privilege of accompanying Alan at the Memorial Day Service at Cook Walden Capital Park. Alan, along with fellow 82nd Airborne Association members, placed a wreath in honor of the brave men and women who have given their lives for our freedom. As I sat and listened to the words spoken of those that have fallen, the special words shared about our son, and looked around us, I realized that Alan is a member of many of the organizations represented: the Veterans of Foreign Wars, the Military Order of the Purple Heart, the American Legion, the 82nd Airborne Association, the Disabled American Veterans and The Retired Enlisted Association. Alan continues to be surrounded by so many amazing Americans that love him and support him. So many of the veterans in attendance have followed Alan’s progress since the news of his injury and many follow via this web site – it washeartwarming to listen to the awe in their voices as they shook his hand and celebrated in his recovery. Grateful to be an American, Rosie
Sunday, May 21, 2006 9:57 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
It has been a fast and furious couple of weeks; however, you will see from the latest pictures how healthy Alan is looking.
Alan and I drove to San Antonio on Friday the 12th to pick up his new manual chair. He was very excited and immediately felt the difference in maneuverability. As happy as I was for him, I was so pleased that his P.A., Nolan Wright, was available and we were able to weigh Alan while we were at SCIC. ALAN IS UP TO 147 POUNDS!!! He is at his “ideal” weight and it was great confirmation to know we have been doing all the right things.
Alain and I continue to work with him as much as Alan will tolerate, while trying to make sure he doesn’t feel like he “can’t get away from it” and also making sure we make enough time for fun and relaxation. We were able to get him in the pool on Friday and it wasn’t long before he was back-stroking on his own (with a life-vest on, of course). We worked on kicking, walking and Alan was able to stand at the edge of the pool, hold on to ledge and walk side-ways with minimal support for about six feet. I wish I had captured it on video, but it was nice to just enjoy playing in the water and enjoying the moment.
We also had the privilege of meeting a couple of amazing young men this past Thursday. Brian Neuman, with the Wounded Warrior Project, was the guest speaker at my Lions Club and Tim Bumley joined him as they drove up from Brooke Army Medical Center to share their experiences with our membership and to enlighten us about the project. Both Brian and Tim are amputees and do not allow that do define who they are – their attitudes are amazing and inspirational. I felt privileged to be in their presence and they made Alan feel special as they immediately made a point to meet him as we arrived and referred to his journey several times during their presentation. We hope to be able to join them at Brooke AMC this summer for additional recreational sports for Alan. Alan’s Angel network continues to grow.
As an additional bonus, my sister continues to grow stronger and recover from her surgery. Because of God’s grace and answer to our prayers, she is progressing way ahead of schedule and is due to be released from the hospital next week. She continues to have more and more feeling in her left leg and to be able to place some weight on it and to spend more hours pain-free. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Monday, May 15, 2006 1:59 PM CDT In addition to having both of my children at home, I received an amazing Mother's Day gift...Alan's story in the Headlines of the San Antonio Express News
Mom's Love Endures Web Posted: 05/14/2006 12:00 AM CDT Scott Huddleston Express-News Staff Writer
Taking a breath and swallowing hard, he forces out the words.
"Fee...fee the dog," Alan Babin says slowly.
"Feed," his mother, Rosie Babin, says, "Can I hear 'feed'? I want to hear the 'deh'."
"Feed the dog," Alan says, this time pronouncing the "d".
"That's better," Rosie says.
At age 46, she's a full-time mother again, but not by birth or adoption.
War, which so often takes our children and our future, gave Rosie back her boy and her past.
While Alan was deployed in Iraq, someone shot out his stomach. Now Rosie is teaching her 25-year-old son how to talk, sleep through the night and eat solid foods like she did when he was a baby.
Sometimes she even has to lift him as she did back then. Except now he weighs 147 pounds.
But Rosie doesn't feel burdened or cheated. On the contrary.
"The first time around," she says of motherhood, "you don't stop to see it for the blessing that it is." How's that for a Mother's Day story? Set against the backdrop of military conflict, the tale of Rosie and Alan Babin of Round Rock is about something lost and something found, about regaining the future by returning to the past, about big blessings and little victories.
Rosie quit her job managing an accounting firm three years ago to be at her son's side. With help from her husband, their daughter and friends and strangers who have donated everything from cash to a full-size van with a lift and a wheelchair-accessible addition to their home, Rosie has been Alan's caretaker and confidante.
If doctors in the Persian Gulf had been Las Vegas oddsmakers, Alan — one of the first soldiers injured in Iraq — would've been a long shot to survive. Now, after 70 surgeries, he's preparing to be one of 15 disabled South Texas veterans competing in the National Veterans Wheelchair Games July 3-8 in Anchorage, Alaska.
And he's learning to talk again in the kitchen where his mother cooks him lunch.
"Follow ... follow ... follow your dreams," Alan says in a labored voice as the tantalizing aroma of Rosie's sautéed shrimp and spinach surrounds him.
A ceiling fan hums. The wind chimes out back clang together.
"Believe ... believe in yourself," Alan says.
"Swallow," Rosie tells him, "and take a deep breath."
Alan does and tries again.
"Believe in yourself."
11 days into the war...
Rosie was 20 when Alan was born at Laughlin AFB, near her hometown of Del Rio. Alan was a happy boy, a perpetual body in motion — dancing, running, playing, practicing soccer or tae kwon do. He was giving, almost to a fault, and girls in school were drawn to his charm. Most kids didn't want to be seen with their parents at school. Alan would hug and kiss his mom goodbye.
After graduating, he was working at a delicatessen, casually toying with the idea of nursing or physical therapy, when the horrific images of 9-11 awakened something new.
Suddenly, Alan wanted to go airborne, as a medic. His mother thinks he felt guilty that working professionals with families were killed on 9-11 while he'd been floundering.
His parents, who had both been in the military, had mixed reactions to Alan's decision. Al Sr., a police lieutenant in their hometown north of Austin, welcomed it. His mother waffled.
"I wanted to hug him one minute and wring his chicken neck the next," she says — this from a mom who had gone through basic in the post-Vietnam era, when the Army was starting to train women to the same standards as men.
Rosie has been the one who once challenged Alan and his younger sister Christy, while boating with friends at Lake LBJ, to jump off an old railroad bridge into the deep water some 30 feet below. The kids followed her lead and each jumped at least twice, as Al Sr. watched. But jumping into a war zone is different.
When the war in Iraq began, Alan, a medic in his 82nd Airborne Division platoon, called home from Kuwait. He reminded his parents he was doing what he wanted to do. Eleven days into the war, on March 31, 2003, there was another call, but it wasn't Alan.
His platoon had been near an old cement plant southwest of Baghdad when he heard a soldier had been hit and had a head wound. Not knowing it was just a graze, he ran toward the soldier. Alan was gutted by small arms fire that destroyed 90 percent of his stomach.
The severity of Alan's injury notwithstanding, Jose Laguna, a recreation therapist at Audie Murphy VA Hospital, is confident Alan will be able to rebuild his life.
"He's got a great attitude, and so does his family," Laguna says. "He's just starting out now, but he'll be 100 percent better a year from now."
He'll have Rosie to thank.
She is a guardian angel with a laptop and cell phone. With prayers, determination and her mother's chicken soup recipe, she has succeeded on the limited power of a high school diploma. Now she is determined to help her son succeed against all odds.
"Is that it?" she asks her son after he finishes speech therapy. "Do you want to do buckles and bows, or watch TV?" she asks.
"Watch TV," he says.
"Wrong answer," she replies.
She lets him watch anyway. Chuy, a 2-year-old Chihuahua that Rosie got for Alan, leaps onto a white leather chair in the living room, scales the armrest and hops into his lap.
Continuing his speech therapy at home, Alan lets out another self-affirming declaration:
"Attitude is everything."
"Amen. That sounded good, Alan," his mother says.
"Never, never, never give up," he says.
"Ooooh," she says. "Say that one again for me."
Learning to talk again...
After being wounded, Alan lay bleeding in the battlefield for about three hours. His breathing was shallow and his blood pressure was dangerously low. Members of his platoon drove trucks into the clearing and unleashed suppressive fire to shield and rescue him.
The Army told Rosie initially that Alan was in stable condition. A week passed with no updates before she learned he was on a hospital ship in the Persian Gulf, listed as critical. He was in surgery almost daily, fighting the effects of bacteria, a fungal infection and swelling. He couldn't speak but, judging by his facial responses, could hear her voice on the phone.
Alan received a medical discharge as a corporal.
While the military and the Department of Veterans Affairs would take care of Alan, the family resolved to do whatever it took, even if it meant selling their two-story house and moving to an apartment, Rosie says.
At lunchtime in the Babin household, Al Sr. is at work, and Christy's off at Texas A&M University, where she's a freshman.
Rosie gently puts a bib on Alan, and he says grace, giving thanks for his life, as he always does, before they eat her concoction of shrimp and penne pasta.
"Yum," Rosie says.
"Yep," Alan agrees.
This afternoon, the Babins are excited. The next day Alan is going to Audie Murphy to trade in his wheelchair, a generic unit typically costing $850 that he's had for six months, for a new customized model that runs about $8,000. Al Sr. has to help Christy move home from A&M for the summer. So Alan and Rosie will go to San Antonio together.
That's how they were — mother and son together — for much of the two-plus years Alan spent at Walter Reed Army Medical Center in Washington, D.C., Brooke Army Medical Center, Texas NeuroRehab Center in Austin, and Audie Murphy.
During an initial seven-month stay at Walter Reed that began April 25, 2003, Alan shrank to 117 pounds, nearly 50 pounds below his pre-injury weight. Besides a tracheotomy and a nose tube pumping oxygen, he had a shunt draining spinal fluid from his brain. With a weakened immune system, he suffered meningitis and a stroke.
Rosie has kept journals documenting Alan's condition.
She's learned medical terms and used her background as a paralegal and businesswoman to be his lead supporter and cheerleader.
She's cut his nails, changed his dressings, wiped saliva from his face, cleared phlegm from his tracheotomy hole, moved his arms and legs to get his joints and muscles functioning, and cleaned and moistened a 7-inch section of exposed intestines that stayed outside his body in an ostomy bag for more than 2 1/2 years.
In short, she's been a physical and spiritual appendage of her son, refusing to let go of hope for a full recovery. Truth be told, she's likely flustered a few doctors and nurses. At Walter Reed, while Alan couldn't communicate, she insisted he be allowed uninterrupted sleep at night. She enlisted staff members to help wheel him out on his rolling hospital bed for fresh air and sunlight.
For months, Alan used eye blinks or raised fingers — one for yes, two for no — to communicate. In the summer of '04, when doctors at the rehab center in Austin let him go home on weekends, his parents kept a baby monitor in his room.
He managed to whisper "water," breaking more than a year of silence, as his parents were putting him to bed one night.
Finally, they knew Alan could learn to talk again.
Bows, broth, brisket...
Alan does his manual dexterity exercise, called buckles and bows, using frames with buckles, buttons and shoelaces he fastens or ties, about twice a week.
"That's awesome," Rosie says as he finishes a set of buckles. "You know, it used to take you a half-hour to do one?"
He gets frustrated tying bows with the laces, even as Rosie holds the frame steady. Together, they chortle as he just can't get the knot to work.
Rosie jokes that he could throw it against the wall and use it as firewood.
"I'll use it as kindling," Alan replies.
He rests, tries again and succeeds. He and Rosie victoriously thrust their fists in the air.
Alan returned to Walter Reed last fall to have that seven-inch section of his small intestine put back in his abdomen, so it could augment a walnut-size remnant of his stomach, effectively serving as part of a new stomach. Alan couldn't eat food without reflux or vomiting. Rosie's family recipe for caldo de pollo (chicken soup) came in handy.
"I've weaned this baby to solid food, and now I'm doing it again," she would think at Audie Murphy, where her son began staying six months ago, after the surgery at Walter Reed.
After feeding him plain broth, one tablespoon per hour for three days, Rosie added meat, then vegetables. She estimated he'd have to chew the meat 60 times before swallowing, and he did.
For two weeks, Rosie ate exactly what Alan ate. He was soon eating hospital food, and by last Dec. 31 no longer needed fluids from a feeding tube.
Aside from snippets of his jump school training, he can't remember much from the time he enlisted on March 6, 2002, until six months ago, but he does recall friends' phone numbers from high school, and comprehends Spanish — his mother's tongue, since Rosie lived in Mexico as a girl. "I understood everything you were saying," he tells his mother after she hangs up from a phone conversation in Spanish with her mother, who lives in Del Rio.
The conversation turns to a dull ringing sound Alan says he often hears. Many combat veterans experience that from an explosion. Or it could be from his stroke, his mother thinks.
"And you have to be sure you didn't cause it because of the iPod," she says. "How do you know it wasn't from concerts?"
"Because I didn't have it before," he replies.
By most measures, 2006 has been a great year for Alan. With his feeding tube removed in January, he has gained about one pound per week and is eating pizza, barbecued brisket, steak and beans — just about everything. He's exercising his arms and legs, and soon will be swimming again in his family's aboveground pool for exercise.
Last month, at the VA's National Disabled Veterans Winter Sports Clinic in Snowmass, Colo., Alan got to scuba dive and ski downhill in a "sit ski" tethered to two trainers. Al Sr. says skiing beside his son was "one of the highlights of my life."
For Alan, the best part of the clinic, a forum for disabled veterans to try sports as beginners, was just being able to feel normal, he told his mother.
"Since then, there's been a different confidence in Alan's eyes," Rosie says.
Then, finally, it comes: the day Alan is scheduled to return to Audie Murphy for his new wheelchair. The manual chair will allow him to move himself with the strength of his own arms, not a motor.
A new set of wheels...
The new wheelchair is made of lightweight titanium. It has an ergonomic seat and backrest, fancy wheel rims and the neon blue spokes he requested.
He has been waiting for this day for months.
He'll learn to push himself in this chair, gradually regaining his independence as he recovers his balance, coordination and — after Lasik surgery — his eyesight. It's like trading in a banged up Yugo for a Mercedes with a new-car smell.
Alan gets a hero's welcome at Audie Murphy, where nurses in the Spinal Cord Injury Center fawn over him and marvel at his developing triceps.
In Alaska, Alan will compete in quad rugby, weightlifting, softball shot put and bowling.
He recently got a sports wheelchair on loan from the VA to train for rugby at home.
The VA will pay for Rosie's flight to Anchorage, as his attendant. Al Sr., who also plans to support his son at the games, thinks they will help build Alan's confidence. "He can be a useful member of society. He can go back to school and get a degree. Ultimately, we hope he can move out and live on his own, independently," his father said.
Barry Muth, a retired Army major who's been involved in wheelchair sports at the VA after a vehicle rollover in Saudi Arabia limited use of his arms and legs, said Alan has come a long way in the last year, partly because of Rosie's devotion.
"What I've seen of those two, it's been great," he said. Alan tries his new wheelchair for the first time.
With her hands on his lower back and his fingers locked behind her neck, Rosie uses her 5-foot-1 frame to hoist Alan, who's about eight inches taller. As if slow-dancing at a prom, they stand together for a moment in an embrace. Then she gently lowers him into his new chair.
Though Alan would like to attend the University of Texas at Austin some day, Rosie would be content to see him take one class at Austin Community College — "maybe one that's fun" — as a first step.
And she's sure he'll walk again. It's a matter of when, not if, she says.
She knows she will lose her boy to the world all over again. It's what all mothers must be prepared to do, albeit most only once.
"Alan is my full-time job," Rosie says. "I've vowed to remain by his side until he no longer needs me or wants me."
In his new wheelchair, Alan stops for a warm sandwich and says grace.
"Dear Lord, thank you for this food we are about to receive, and for my life.
"In your name we pray.
"Amen."
Then Rosie loads Alan into the van and they head for home —back on the road, together again and always, hoping to beat the Austin traffic. shuddleston@express-news.net Online at: http://www.mysanantonio.com/news/medical/stories/MYSA051406.01A.Wounded_Mom.8749675.html
Wednesday, May 10, 2006 9:11 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Where have the past five days gone! After my sister’s surgery, we where so grateful and excited for the great results that we spent the next few days in a fog of joy – then I spent the past few days catching up and settling in at home. Those four nights were the first I have spent away from Alan without him being inpatient in a hospital. It was good to know that he was comfortably at home, in the company of his Dad and it was good for them to spend that uninterrupted time together…without ME hovering over Alain’s shoulder. God continues to shine is face upon us and to have His healing hand on us.
Alan has continued to work hard during our speech and therapy sessions, which I am continuing to do myself until we can get some more home-basis sessions approved. He and Alain have begun training for the summer games and he is truly looking forward to Alaska. I have posted pictures of them practicing this afternoon and I had a huge lump in my throat as I watched them toss the soccer ball back and forth, considering where he was three years ago and the prognosis given at that time. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Thursday, May 4, 2006 5:51 PM CDT Sweet Angels:
Praise God!!! Melva is settled in her ICU bed, resting and will remain there until tomorrow evening. They have asked that she not have any visitors, except immediate family, while she is in ICU due to a lack of patient/staff working space. I am grateful to God that I am able inform you that the surgery went MUCH better than anyone, including her doctors, anticipated. The surgery was expected to last 10 hours but our prayers were answered!!! The doctor walked into the waiting room after 7 hours and announced that they were finished and she was doing great. Although there was some nerve and muscle loss, they anticipate that she will regain full use of her left leg and will only need the brace for a few months (instead of permanently). A couple of hours after surgery they allowed Fred to see her and he joyfully reported to us that, upon his entrance into her recovery room, she gave an enthusiastic thumbs-up, winked at him and announced, “I’m baaaaack!!!”
Our family also had the chance to see Alan as he and Alain were in San Antonio to get together with the quad-rugby team and fit Alan for his rugby chair. The Spinal Cord Injury Center and University Hospital are across the street from each other so it was a special treat that we were able to share Alan's continued recovery with family and those who have prayed so much and done so much to support us.
Thank you, thank you for your prayers, support and love.
With a Grateful Heart, Rosie, Melva, Fred, Freddie, David, Krystal, Licha (Fred’s mom), Zulema (our mom) and the rest of the Familia
Monday, May 1, 2006 9:31 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan has reached another milestone! Thanks to his own “personal” dentist and dental hygienist, Jim and Sue Orr, Alan was able to get his teeth cleaned and to tolerate two fillings. Because they are intimately aware of what Alan’s body has endured, the trach issues and are ultra-sensitive to his needs, they are always willing to do only as much as Alan can tolerate. Praise God, Sue was able to do a complete dental cleaning and Dr. Orr was able to replace two of his very old fillings. After seeing for myself what it looked like under the old filling (much of it caused during the many months of illness, infection and poor nutritional state), I was so grateful for Dr. Orr’s continued concern and care for Alan. I am posting the pictures I took to give you an idea of Alan’s, and the Orr’s, hard work on Friday morning.
My sister will be admitted to the hospital around noon tomorrow in preparation for her surgery on Thursday. Although her blood-work today revealed that she is slightly anemic and her cell count levels continue to be lower than desired, her surgeon does not feel that there is a need to postpone surgery and Melva is ready to move on with the surgery.
For those of you in the San Antonio area, a gentle reminder of the blood-drive tomorrow. Blood donations in the name of Melva Esquivel, University Hospital, will be taken from 9:00 am to 3:00 pm at 115 E. Travis (Milam Building). Please remember not to drink any caffeine and to bring a photo ID. Please continue to keep us in your prayers; especially as family travels to/from San Antonio. I plan to drive down Wednesday evening, once Alain is home from work, and will return home sometime during the weekend. My sister’s site is: www.caringbridge.org/visit/melvasangels Grateful for God’s Mercy, Rosie
Thursday, April 27, 2006 11:09 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan has been blessed with visits from Angels all week! One of his primary nurses at Walter Reed, Cindy Aaron, is in San Antonio for her daughter’s high school choir competition, and was able to drive up to Round Rock Wednesday evening to visit us and see for herself how great Alan is doing personally. We spent a wonderful time catching up and it was good that she was able to watch Alan as he finished dressing himself this morning, and to see her amazement as he positioned himself to a sitting position and we transferred him into his chair. It warms my heart so much when we are able to share the fruits of the many months of labor, patience and love of Alan’s nurses at Walter Reed. This evening we were blessed to meet Carrie Brown (Angel Tracie’s sister) in Austin for dinner. She is in town on job-related training and we were thrilled that we were able to sneak into her schedule before she departs the area.
Alan’s journey to recovery has truly been a team effort and we are grateful to be able to continue to share in Alan’s successes and to witness the look on those who saw him during the first year of his battle and see where he is now. Enjoy the pictures. With a Joyful Heart, Rosie
Monday, April 24, 2006 9:58 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan, Alain and I have truly enjoyed Ruth’s visit; however, we have not been still long enough to take any pictures. It has been a blessing to watch Ruth with Alan, listen to them converse and to see how amazed she is at his progress since she last saw him the evening before we departed Water Reed last November.
It has been a treat for me this past weekend to act as “Texas hostess” to Ruth. We visited the LBJ Library, toured Austin, traveled to San Antonio on Sunday and visited the Alamo and Riverwalk. We generally spent time wallowing in our mutual admiration society. I am tremendously blessed with her friendship and wish we lived closer together. I continue to be amazed at the lives touched by our son and how our family has grown.
I have the privilege of spending the day tomorrow in the company of my fellow Lions’ Club members as we host the Sixth Annual Golf Tournament fundraiser in Austin and am truly looking forward to seeing so many that I saw on a weekly basis before our lives were changed in March 2003. Alan’s progress continues and our lives get back to normal little by little.
Our prayers continue to be answered and my sister sounded stronger and more like herself when I spoke with her this morning. Thank you for your continued prayers and for keeping her in your thoughts. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Monday, April 17, 2006 10:46 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan has continued to talk to everyone about his trip to Winter Clinic and to look forward to the Wheelchair Games this summer. We spent our Easter weekend celebrating at Alain’s parent’s home and, on Saturday afternoon, Alan and I were sitting on the back porch while I spent some time in prayer and working on a terrific Bible study. Alan was enjoying the view and suddenly asked what the dates were for “Alaska.” I reminded him that they were from July 3-8th and he said, “I wish they were today.” When I asked him why, he replied, “because I can’t wait to do the weight lifting and rugby!” I plan on keeping him busy during the spring and summer and pray that he continues to remain excited about overcoming the physical challenges in his life.
Our trip to San Antonio for the neuro-opthamologist consult today went very well. Alan and I were extremely impressed by Dr. Schatz’ thoroughness and plan. She determined that Alan’s prescription has changed and his current glasses need to be replaced; however, because she needed to dilate his eyes and focus on his optical/neuro health first, we will need to return for a re-exam and update his prescription. She will then spend some months assuring that her plan will work mechanically with glasses and prisms prior to scheduling any surgeries. As of now, she believes Alan will be able to tolerate laser surgery to correct the near-sightedness and later surgery to fix the “sixth-nerve palsy.” She also opined that the shunt is working properly and that we should not be concerned about revision unless there is concern that it has become plugged or infected. God is good and continues to shine His face upon Alan. God’s healing hand on Alan continues and it was a blessing to listen to the doctor confirm that “everything” will continue to improve as he continues to grow healthier and stronger.
We are looking forward to a productive week and to a visit from our dear friend, Ruth Skolnick, this weekend. We continue to be surrounded by Alan’s Angels.
Please continue to keep my sister in your prayers. Her white cell and platelet counts were up slightly over the weekend, but she will undergo transfusion again tomorrow and we pray that she will continue to improve so that surgery will take place as planned. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Monday, April 10, 2006 9:30 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan had an amazing trip. He described it, with a smile on his face, to our neighbor, Nancy, as “Overwhelming.” It simply warmed my heart to see that he was ready for any challenge and new experience offered to him. We met many amazing veterans and made lots of new friends; our support system continues to grow.
We had some great news and some not-so-good news today: The great news is that “Alan Babin Range” has been dedicated at Fort Benning, Georgia. Thanks to the work and continued support of Captain George Chigi, the Captain who used his gun trucks to surround Alan and protect him and the medics while they waited on the helicopter to extract him from the battlefield, a Bradley vehicle firing/training range has been named after Alan. It is distinct privilege and honor to have ANYTHING named after you in the military and Cpt. Chigi clearly put great effort and time into such an honor for Alan. We plan on being present and doing whatever it takes to make Alan available at such time that they request his presence for an official dedication.
My sister’s news at the oncologist was less than desired. It has been determined that the tumor size was not reduced with the radiation and chemotherapy. The doctors are hoping that at least the cells are dead and only “ghost” cells; however, they will not wait the 4-6 weeks to surgically remove the tumor as it is wrapped around her hip and invading the surrounding organs (uterus, bladder, colon, etc.) and they will need to remove some sacrum and hip bone. As of now, they are planning on using some bone from her left foot to rebuild the hip, use a brace on her left leg to support the foot and plan to do some very careful, detailed mapping of her body and to be extremely prepared before they go in. They told her to expect some nerve damage and to be prepared for a very complicated surgery and course of recovery. As of today, the plan is to admit her to the hospital May 2nd and prepare her body for surgery on May 4th. I shared with my sister that we would storm the heavens on her behalf and reminded her what powerful prayer warrior’s Alan’s Angels are. Melva is looking to God, believing for great results, trusts her doctors and nurses, and knows we love and support her. Please continue to lift her and her family up in prayer. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Tuesday, April 4, 2006 10:29 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
There are no words to describe what we witnessed today other than, “Miracles on a Mountainside.” In His Grace Rosie
Sunday, April 2, 2006 11:05 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Wow, wow and wow! It has been a super-busy three days; however, we are settled in and Alan is all registered and ready for his events for the week. And, Alain even managed to get in 6 runs this afternoon and could not stop talking about the ski conditions.
We were blessed as we attended the opening ceremonies this evening and have met so many amazing vets, families, coaches, volunteers and Angels. We had a special blessing as we ran into Peter Anderson, the manager of the Mologne House and Fisher Houses at Walter Reed! He was at Walter Reed when Alan was received at Surgical ICI back in April 2003.
Alan had the privilege of meeting some inspiring fellow vets and even Dr. Wolfowitz spent a good deal of time getting to know him, us and encouraging us in this journey. There are about 50 Iraq and Afghanistan wounded vets and we are looking forward to meeting many of them and their families as the week progresses.
There is a possibility that Alan will participate in sled hockey tomorrow morning and is scheduled for a 2:00 pm scuba diving session He will do some rock-climbing on Tuesday morning and will ski in the afternoon. I did schedule him for a massage (provided FREE by the PVA!!) Tuesday evening and I am quite positive he will be ready for it by then. I will continue to keep you updated and will continue to post the pictures throughout the week. Alain snapped some amazing shots this afternoon and cannot wait to share them with you. For now, I’m wiped out and we have to be in line for the bus for hockey by 7:45 (after we get Alan out of bed, ready, feed him breakfast, etc.) so that is all for now.
Thank you for your continued prayers and amazing support. As Alain and I listen to the stories of so many wounded/injured veterans and their families, we find ourselves frequently making eye contact and silently counting our blessings and we know that our journey is special. Thank you and may God multiply the blessings in your life a thousand-fold. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Sunday, March 26, 2006 10:34 PM CST March 26, 2006
Dearest Angels:
Alan had an amazing week of strength training and fine-motor-skill work and continues to have the most amazing attitude. I was extremely blessed on Tuesday before we ate our lunch and Alan began reciting The Lord’s Prayer! He remembered all the words and was able to recite each word clearly. He had the most beautiful smile on his face as he finished I wish I could have captured it on film.
As for Christy and me, it was a tough week. During our drive back from Santa Fe, Christy learned that Aubrey Fariss, a young man she knew all during her school days, was killed in a tragic, single vehicle accident. She returned to Texas A&M on Sunday after we returned from New Mexico, only to return home on Monday evening to attend Aubrey’s funeral on Tuesday morning. Such a young life, taken so suddenly, and it was tough to see Christy so sad and to visit his family.
My sister also had a very tough week and we became very concerned as she lost 12 pounds in a matter of days. I was glad to be able to accompany her to her treatments on Friday and we had a good visit with her doctor who changed her nausea medication and ordered home-health IV support for the weekend, hoping to keep her from visiting the ER for a third weekend in a row. We had a great time in prayer before I returned to Round Rock Friday afternoon. She specifically asked that we pray for patience for her for the duration of this battle. Praise God, when I spoke with her this afternoon, she reported that the new medication IS WORKING!!! The nausea and vomiting is gone, her appetite has returned AND she was actually reading a book when I called! That in itself is HUGE. She has been so nauseated that she has been unable to watch TV, read or do anything that requires focusing as she has been so nauseous. She had no need for the nurse over the weekend as she was able to take liquids orally, continues to be pain-free and was feeling well. I just know all our prayers are continuing to be answered. For now, the plan is for Melva to have her final radiation and chemotherapy treatments this Tuesday and then have a 4-6 week break before undergoing the surgery to remove the tumor. I am praying for a 6 week break so that she can regain some strength and weight and that she will be in the best health possible before undergoing surgery.
We were also blessed as we spent time with Alain’s parents in their new home on Saturday. As their retirement day grows nearer (May), they have begun their move to be closer to their kids and will now only be about an hour’s drive from Round Rock. It warmed my heart to see Alain visit his parent’s new home, to know he will be able to see them more often and to watch them shower Alan with their attention and love. It was also very cute to watch Alain and his Dad put a BBQ grill together and to listen to their bantering.
We face a busy week of doctor’s appointments, therapies and packing for Alan’s trip to Winter Clinic in Colorado next week. I'm off to bed as we must leave for San Antonio before 7:00 in the morning for a Neurology appointment. Let's pray that a solution to Alan's vision challenges is found and that God will continue to show favor upon Alan.
I will do my best to keep you updated, but it may be Sunday once we are settled in Colorado before I post an update. In the meantime, know that we thank God for Alan’s (and our) Angels daily and that we draw strength from the knowledge that you are praying for us and supporting us. I have some fabulous video of Alan working out his legs on the Total Gym and a priceless clip of him playing the harmonica (with Chuy doing background vocals) that I wish I could post on this site. If you can handle a video clip and would like me to forward it to you, please e-mail me and I will be happy to share it. (Rosalinda@alansangels.com) In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Sunday, March 19, 2006 9:18 PM CST Dearest Angels:
We had an amazing week surrounded by friends, focusing on Christy and enjoying God’s majesty on the mountain and from the windows of the house we leased with friends.
We also had the opportunity to visit with Alan by phone each day and to listen to him tell us about his day. This time last year, he could barely speak a few words into the telephone when he called us and mostly listened to US share the details of our day with him. This time, he filled us in on who had visited, what he did in therapy, what he had to eat and who came by to visit him. And, he made sure every day to let us know how much he loved us and wished that we were having a great time. It was such a blessing to hear a smile on his face and to know that he was doing well and supporting our trip. Our son is amazing in his love for me as he reminded me each day to get some rest.
I had a week filled with laughter, love, hugs, reading, rest, massage and cooking. As the “official cook” on the trip, I was able to do one of my favorite things in the whole-wide world and spend my late afternoons cooking and reading (okay, and enjoying some wine, too). The house had a dining room table that accommodated all 16 of us and it was a joy to share our meals, and the day’s events, together.
We picked Alan up at 11:00 am this morning and I wish you could have seen the smile on his face when his Dad and I walked into the room. We both got great big hugs from him and, as a matter of fact, all three of us have been walking around and smiling silly all day at being back home safely and getting Alan settled back into his room. When Alain and I asked Alan this evening if he minded staying at SCIC, he said, “Not at all. They are wonderful to me but it’s just not home.” He smiled, shrugged, turned his palms over and said, “I’m just happy to be home.”
Thank you, thank you, to those of you that were able to stop by and visit Alan while he was at SCIC!! He shared with us all the fun visits he had and said he is one of the lucky ones that has lots of visitors at the hospital. Thanks again. In His Peace, Rosie
Friday, March 10, 2006 9:17 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Alan had an awesome week and has been able to speak and write a little more clearly. As you can imagine, I awoke with a heavy heart knowing we would have to drive Alan to San Antonio as we prepare to head off on vacation. However, Alan woke up at 5:00 am, excited about his trip and had a smile on his face all the way to San Antonio. Even as we pulled into the parking lot, he exclaimed, “Hey! We’re here!” As I looked back in the mirror, he had a smile on his face. Of course, we then spent the next couple of hours witnessing the love and respect of the folks at Spinal Cord being showered upon Alan. It is extremely heartwarming each time I watch them, especially Alan’s Doctor, look at Alan with such love in their eyes. We are truly surrounded by a LARGE “family” at SCIC that supports us at every opportunity and grateful that his PA, Nolan Wright, is back safely from Kosovo and with his family and new baby girl.
As Alain and I walked out after unpacking Alan's things and settling him in, Alan was also being led out of his room by one of the recreational therapists, Angel (how appropriate) to a Ballet Folklorico (Mexican folkdancing) presentation.
We headed over to the Cancer Treatment Center to accompany Melva for her afternoon radiation treatment before heading home to join Christy for a week of togetherness. It was a special treat to see my sister with a sparkle in her eyes, feeling "great" and looking forward to a good weekend free of radiation and chemotherapy treatments; she is amazing. I couldn't help but feel God's hand on us throughout the day. Alain and I also enjoyed each other's company and the drive back to Round Rock catching up and counting our blessings. With a Smile on My Heart, Rosie
Monday, March 6, 2006 10:53 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Praise God, Alan continues to grow stronger, to vocalize more and to enjoy the Total Gym. He continues to insist that everything will “finally be better” once his eyes are fixed and we pray that such is the case. It has been a blessing to listen to Alan share that he is glad that we can take a vacation with Christy while he is inpatient at the Spinal Cord Injury Center for respite care. As you can imagine, as a mother (especially of Alan) it is a bittersweet time for me as I must admit him to the hospital to take a vacation with my husband and daughter. However, I know in my heart and in spirit that in order to be the best wife and mother that I can be, I need to rest and take care of myself. We also have the blessing of being able to take a vacation trip with Alan the first week of April as he participates in the Winter Sports Clinic in Colorado for adaptive skiing. It will be a busy week filled with squeezing in therapies, kitchen planning, packing for our trip and Alan’s week in San Antonio and getting the house and dogs ready for our absence.
I am grateful that we were able to spend the past weekend surrounded by Christy’s presence, the company of dear friends and that I was able to spend some time with my sister on Friday and taking in the Estonian Choir performance with my friend, Cissie, on Sunday evening. Our cup runneth over. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Sunday, February 26, 2006 9:55 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Alan has worked extremely hard this week and we have really seen an improvement in his arm/leg control. I finally found a TotalGym at a very reasonable price (patience paid off) and it was delivered while I was in San Antonio with my sister. Alain was able to get it set up and I think you will enjoy the pictures of Alan’s first time on it in over a year. While Alan was inpatient at Texas NeuroRehab Center in South Austin, the therapists there used it with him and I saw remarkable improvement in the strength of his legs within a couple of weeks. We pray that, between the core strengthening/balance exercise therapy that the physical therapist is working on, and what we are doing with Alan, it will help to strengthen his upper and lower body in such a way that he is able to transfer himself in and out of his bed and wheelchair and give him more independence. For us, walking has become secondary to independence. God continues to shine His face upon Alan.
My trip to San Antonio to see my sister was a blessing for both of us. However, we truly need your prayers. Because of the aggression and size of the tumor, she will begin radiation and chemotherapy next week – simultaneously. She will undergo radiation twice daily, with chemotherapy between the radiation treatments – and continue that for 4 – 5 weeks. At that time, they will allow her a couple of weeks rest before surgically removing the tumor, allow her to heal from the surgery, and do another round of chemotherapy. We are blessed that the radiation will occur on the second floor of the Cancer Treatment and Research Center (CTRC) and chemotherapy on the third floor. While we were there on Thursday, we inquired as so the logistics of going back-and-forth to the house 3 times a day and how exhausted Melva would be and they informed her that she would be welcome to make herself comfortable and stay for the day. The plan, for now, is for her to have her first radiation therapy of the day, go to the third floor for chemotherapy and then return to the second floor and get settled in for the day as the chemo pump does it’s thing and wait for her second round of radiation for the day…and do that Monday through Friday each week. Please keep her and her family in your prayers. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Sunday, February 26, 2006 9:55 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Alan has worked extremely hard this week and we have really seen an improvement in his arm/leg control. I finally found a TotalGym at a very reasonable price (patience paid off) and it was delivered while I was in San Antonio with my sister. Alain was able to get it set up and I think you will enjoy the pictures of Alan’s first time on it in over a year. While Alan was inpatient at Texas NeuroRehab Center in South Austin, the therapists there used it with him and I saw remarkable improvement in the strength of his legs within a couple of weeks. We pray that, between the core strengthening/balance exercise therapy that the physical therapist is working on, and what we are doing with Alan, it will help to strengthen his upper and lower body in such a way that he is able to transfer himself in and out of his bed and wheelchair and give him more independence. For us, walking has become secondary to independence. God continues to shine His face upon Alan.
My trip to San Antonio to see my sister was a blessing for both of us. However, we truly need your prayers. Because of the aggression and size of the tumor, she will begin radiation and chemotherapy next week – simultaneously. She will undergo radiation twice daily, with chemotherapy between the radiation treatments – and continue that for 4 – 5 weeks. At that time, they will allow her a couple of weeks rest before surgically removing the tumor, allow her to heal from the surgery, and do another round of chemotherapy. We are blessed that the radiation will occur on the second floor of the Cancer Treatment and Research Center (CTRC) and chemotherapy on the third floor. While we were there on Thursday, we inquired as so the logistics of going back-and-forth to the house 3 times a day and how exhausted Melva would be and they informed her that she would be welcome to make herself comfortable and stay for the day. The plan, for now, is for her to have her first radiation therapy of the day, go to the third floor for chemotherapy and then return to the second floor and get settled in for the day as the chemo pump does it’s thing and wait for her second round of radiation for the day…and do that Monday through Friday each week. Please keep her and her family in your prayers. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Thursday, February 23, 2006 11:07 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Alan continues to improve by leaps and bounds and I will do a more detailed update over the weekend.
Because of Alain’s generosity and love for me and my family, I was able to spend the past two days in San Antonio, accompanying my sister to her visits with oncologists and assisting in planning her upcoming radiation and chemotherapy, while he cared for Alan. My sister has a GREAT battle ahead of her with twice-daily radiation sessions and chemotherapy in-between for 4 – 5 weeks before she can undergo surgery to remove the tumor. With God, all things are possible, and we believe she will beat it once again. I will keep you updated. For now, I am off to get some rest and to spend some time with my husband. Grateful for Our Angels, Rosie
Thursday, February 16, 2006 2:32 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Although my sister’s complete pathology reports will not be available until after tomorrow, her doctor did call informing her that her lungs and abdomen are clear of any masses, Praise God. Thank you for your continued prayers.
Alan continues to surprise us with his determination and strength. Because of his continued hard work with the strength training equipment, he is now able to press 60 lbs, as well as to use 60 lbs in his lateral pull-downs. Alain worked with him yesterday evening and was able to get Alan, using the walker, to go from a sitting to a standing position, unassisted. After doing that a few times, he had Alan do “squats.” Alan was able to squat his bottom about 8 inches before standing back up!!! We are so grateful for answered prayer and looking forward to the day we can get him back in the pool so he can practice walking. I am grateful that Alain and I are BOTH able to work with Alan as there are many things he can now do that are too physically taxing on me as he gets stronger and continues to gain weight.
I was blessed with Christy’s company yesterday. Because she has a full day of classes on Tuesdays, she was unable to visit for my birthday (2/14) and INSISTED on coming home yesterday after her last class. Although I resisted at first, it was good to have my “little chickies” around me and the four of us went out for dinner and truly enjoyed each other’s company. Christy returned to A&M after dinner and was there by 9:30; I am so glad that she is only an hour-and-a-half away. She continues to voice her astonishment each time she comes home at Alan’s progress which, of course, puts a BIG smile on Alan’s face every time. He takes delight in the look on her face each time he does something “new” since the last time she saw him. My heart smiles whenever I overhear them actually carrying on a conversation and not just “yeah” or “no” responses from Alan. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Tuesday, February 14, 2006 9:00 AM CST Dearest Angels:
I turn to you again and implore you to storm the heavens in prayer for my sister, Melva, who discovered last week that the cancer has again invaded her body. She and my brother-in-law are at the doctor’s office right now making the necessary preparations to begin radiation again next week. As many of you know, my sister battled this ugly monster about a year ago and, until the holiday season, was cancer-free and feeling great. She has spent the past month trying to determine why her hip and leg were in such great pain and nothing they gave her provided relief.
Apparently, the size of the tumor this time is forcing the doctors to initiate radiation immediately and continue for a few weeks - first to shrink it, then surgically remove it and she will have to undergo chemotherapy again after that.
I first ask God for strength for her, her husband and kids as they start this battle again. I ask for complete and perfect healing and that the chemotherapy will kill every last cancer cell in her body. I ask for restorative sleep, if and when she can sleep as she sounds exhausted. And, I ask for wisdom and guidance to be able to support her through this valley. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Thursday, February 9, 2006 7:56 PM CST Dearest Angels:
It has been an interesting couple of days. As Alan gets healthier physically, his mental status and health is improving by leaps and bounds. He has been asking lots of questions about where certain items (gifts) came from, if they’re his, and trying hard to remember anything from the past three years. Yesterday, as we watched a news clip of three soldiers wounded in Iraq, receiving their Purple Hearts in a special ceremony at Ft. Hood, as their story was shared and they were interviewed, he said, “Hey, at least you were recognized!” I let him finish watching the piece and them IMMEDIATELY made sure he knew he HAD been recognized and pulled out the awards, newspaper clippings and spent the afternoon going over so many of the recognitions bestowed upon him. This morning, he asked to read the article in the Fort Worth Star Telegram and he read that again. As you know, the main reason I have taken so many pictures, kept a journal, kept his story alive and done my best to be the keeper of the memories is EXACTLY for this stage. I look at this period as a blessing and a wonderful sign that Alan is “waking up” neurologically, that he IS aware of all that is going on around him, is having appropriate reactions/emotions and that is why I am by his side. I took the opportunity to do some cognitive thinking therapy and to use it for a Higher Purpose. We spoke at length about what he recalls of jump school and Texas Neurorehab Center in south Austin, the only two times over the last 3 ˝ years when he remembers anything, and I had him describe the people he said he remembered and he was right on the mark. We sat at the dining room table for a long time, pouring over articles and did it again after lunch today. I will do some research on the legality of a “ceremonial” presentation of the Purple Heart and Bronze Star. It seems such a shame to have earned such high military honors and to never have a memory of the events.
Alan has continued to work hard physically and continues to increase the weights in his upper body workouts and to tell us, “I want to work out.” He is anxious to see the doctor in March to begin the process of consults for his shunt revision and eye surgery. We have continued to enjoy the beautiful weather and have been sitting outside to do Alan’s speech therapy and get some Vitamin D at the same time. In His Sweet Grace, Rosie
Sunday, February 5, 2006 10:58 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Whew!!! It was a whirlwind week and even busier weekend! Alan continued to work hard during the week and we started our weekend traveling down to San Antonio for an Endocrine follow-up to check on Alan’s Vitamin D & C blood levels and to do a weigh-in. Praise God, Alan gained 1 pound in the last month! That means that, without nutritional supplements or tube-feed, Alan’s digestive tract (what is left of it) is able to absorb nutrients from the oral foods and to process them in a normal fashion. He continues to eat 3 meals a day, with snacks in-between, and I continue to approach his meals from a nutritional/vitamin-filled/natural-fiber-filled aspect and to keep a hawk-eye on his fluid intake between meals.
I believe you will agree from the pictures this week that Alan’s color is even looking better than it did last week. We returned home Friday afternoon to greet Christy who was home for the weekend and we spent a relaxing evening at home.
Alan began his weekend being honored by the National Association of Medics and Corpsmen, American Military Retirees Association and the local American Legion Post with lifetime membership in their organizations. What a blessing to know that his fellow veterans are there to support him in ways that we cannot. We were amazed at the turnout, including our Congressman, Judge John Carter and his lovely wife, our City Manger, Jim Nuse, members of local motorcycle clubs, the 82nd Airborne Association, members of the Military Order of the Purple Heart, including Major General Robert “Doc” Bernstein (who, after a long and distinguished military medical career, was Commander of Walter Reed AMC in 1973), the American Legion, Veteran’s of Foreign Wars, our Lakehouse camping/boating friends, homebuilders association Angels, some of Round Rock’s finest and too many others for me to mention. We have SO MANY pictures from the weekend that I plan to rotating some of them over the next week and uploading them to the Yahoo photo album as time permits between Alan’s therapies.
We had the privilege of attending the VietNam Vets Mid-Winter Conference 2006 Banquet Saturday evening in Austin and to be among many of our Nation’s heroes. It is so good to see Alan around these patriots and for him to get to know so many that have come such a long way. It is tragic that so many of the returning heroes from that era did not have the support and love that our son has been fortunate to experience.
Sunday afternoon found us back at the Roadhouse surrounded by Alan’s Angels on Harleys as John Metcalf continued capturing photos of Alan with his motorcycle club Angels. It was a good time filled with laughter, hugs, love, support and a new motorcycle vest for Alan! He had a great time and could have hung around all afternoon visiting had it not been for the dusty winds making us all sniffly! We returned home to settle in for a relaxed afternoon watching the Super Bowl, enjoying Christy’s company before she returned to A&M and preparing for the week.
I anticipate a full week of doing therapy with Alan myself as the “order” for home therapy expired last week and we will have to wait and see whether they are extended and more is approved. As you know, we will continue to work with him whether we have assistance or not, and continue to believe that God’s hand is on Alan and that His will is what we must honor. Counting Our Blessings, Rosie
Tuesday, January 31, 2006 9:07 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Alan had a busy day and a good visit with a reporter doing a story on Alan’s relationship with the VietNam/Legacy Vets Motorcycle Clubs. It was cute to be sitting with Alan while he ate lunch, heard the roar of the bikes as NoSpokes and MickeyD pulled up to the house. He “quickly” pulled off his bib, pushed his wheelchair away from the table and turned his chair to watch them park in front of the house. He told me he wanted to see the bikes and had me wheel him out – he NEVER leaves the table until ALL the food is gone from his plate. I had to help him clean his mouth as we headed out the door because he was in a hurry!
Alan worked very hard in the afternoon during speech therapy and then watched our President’s State of the Union address with me. He was visibly moved as the president honored our troops and military families. I am so grateful that he is able to comprehend the depth of his sacrifice. Grateful for God’s Blessings, Rosie
Sunday, January 29, 2006 3:42 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Alan worked extremely hard this week and, I believe, is actually beginning to enjoy the strength training. Several times this week when he was just hanging out he told me or his dad, “I want to work out.” While being very mindful of overuse or injury to muscles, we assist him and continue to encourage his determination to regain the use of his body. He has also become a little more adept with the computer and is now able to navigate around enough on his own to find streaming music, games and even Googled his own name and was astonished at the amount of websites sharing his story.
We are also very grateful that his fellow soldiers continue to honor Alan’s service. This Saturday, he will be honored for his selfless service by National Association of Medics and Corpsmen (NAMC) and the American Military Retirees Association (AMRA) with life membership in their associations. We are so grateful that he is being honored; especially now that he is able to experience the presentations fully cognizant and to have the memories as his own. He will top off the day as a special guest at the Viet Nam Vets Mid-Winter Conference banquet in Austin. In God’s Amazing Grace, Rosie
Tuesday, January 24, 2006 11:19 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Alain, Alan and I had the distinct privilege of attending the Georgetown First Baptist Church’s prayer ministry banquet this evening, and to thank all the Angels who have been praying for Alan, and our family, for almost three years. It was such an honor to be able to provide them with an update of Alan’s miraculous recovery and to give specific results of answered prayer.
I am also pleased to report that Alan has been enjoying his computing time so much that he has even begun using the keyboard to type! Our occupational therapy is truly becoming fun and I love that he has been playing games not just for the eye/hand coordination, but for the amazing cognitive therapy that he is receiving. He got a BIG smile on his face this afternoon when I told him I thought he would be more than ready to register at our community college this coming Fall – even if it’s just for one class at a time. Let us pray that his vision challenges are resolved by then so that he can manage to see in a classroom without adaptive devices. We will continue to challenge him and to assist in his amazing recovery and to support him as he fights to regain his independence.
Thank you again for your support and continued prayers. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Friday, January 20, 2006 10:28 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Alan continues to be surrounded by Angels...on Harleys!!! The motorcycle United Clubs of Austin provided a 19 inch monitor for Alan’s computer tablet to make his computing time easier visually. He has enjoyed being able to read easier, navigate the desktop easier and to have the monitor positioned at the perfect height for him.
He has also enjoyed having lots of company n the past couple of days as his friends hung out and my Mom and baby brother visited. He continues to work on getting stronger and to use his voice more, Praise God.
We are also looking forward to a more accessible kitchen for him as we have been informed that the final layout has been printed! Life with Alan’s new “normal” gets a little easier every day. In His Amazing Grace, Rosie
Wednesday, January 18, 2006 11:11 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Alan improvement is remarkable! To get out of bed, he is now able to slide his legs to the side of the bed and push his torso up to a sitting position. Although he requires some “spotting” as he finds his balance, he is doing all the work and weight-bearing himself and making it easier for me to transfer him from his bed and into his wheelchair.
He and Vance worked on balance and abdominal muscles yesterday and Alan was able to tolerate 8 minutes sitting on the side of the bed UNASSISTED! He continues to do a little more for himself every day and has been using his Tablet computer more each day. Today, he was able to find a radio station on the Internet and to stream music that he could listen to while he played Solitaire. Of course, he reminded me several times that he needs to get his eyes “fixed.” I have begun consulting with his doctors at Spinal Cord to begin the process of finding the right specialist to correct the double vision. I know that God’s time is perfect and that He will bring the right person into Alan’s life. In the meantime, we will continue to count our blessings and for Alan’s continued amazing recovery.
The fact that Alan is able to desire better vision, to realize that it affects every aspect of his daily functions and to remind me time and again to check with the doctors for an appointment is a testament to how much healthier he is and how much he is directing his own care. His speech therapy has also made a difference. Just being more aware of breathing and speech habits has made Alan work on enunciation and, again, he is showing much improvement.
I had a restful, enjoyable weekend in the company of Lisa and the time flew by way too quickly. Because of Alain’s support and ability to care for Alan, I was able to take time off this weekend to get in lots of “girls” time and some good R&R. As I drove away from the airport after dropping her off last night, I spent my drive to Round Rock thanking God for all the blessings in my life, the wonderful friends in our lives, the amazing gestures of support, that our son is alive and getting better every day and excited about the great things to come in 2006. In His Amazing Grace, Rosie
Thursday, January 12, 2006 11:49 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Okay, okay okay!!! Just kidding. :-)
We have started out the year with a bang!!! We spent the first week of January in the company of my brother’s boys, Nick and AJ, as Art and Sonia had the privilege of attending the Rose Bowl, and to sneak in an extended stay in the Santa Barbara wine country for some Mommy and Daddy time. Thanks to Christy being home, we were able to manage two active toddlers and their schedules and still maintain Alan’s full schedule, Praise God. I believe it was the trip of a lifetime and was willing to do whatever I could to help them go and enjoy their trip.
We had the privilege last Friday of joining Alan at the Spinal Cord Injury Center as he met The Honorables Nicholson (Secretary of the VA) and Harvey (Secretary of the Army) as they visited San Antonio and honored veterans for their service. It was a good trip and a good opportunity to thank them for their service to our country, for all they are trying to do for our veterans and for the staff at SCIC to see how well Alan is doing.
Monday evening was a little too exciting for Alan and me. In typical fashion, what could have been a “Good News/Bad News” situation, turned out to be a “Good News/Great News” situation. As I assisted Alan in removing his clothes for the evening while he was in bed, as he pulled down on his boxers he said, “oh, no.” Somehow, he managed to slip his thumb into the loop of his feeding tube and as he pulled down on the shorts, out came the tube. I immediately called his surgeon, Dr. Shriver, in D.C., to make sure we did not need to rush to an emergency room for x-rays or scans and he graciously returned my call a couple of minutes later. The great news is that Dr. Shriver confirmed that, had he scheduled an appointment to remove Alan’s tube in his hospital, he would have probably done the same thing Alan had done and simply remove it in clinic and put a small bandage over it (which is what I had done). The even better news is that we had appointments scheduled in San Antonio on Tuesday, so Alan’s medical team was able to peek at the site and confirm that all was fine. Since we had only been running water through the tube just to keep it from clogging, Alan simply removed the tube ahead of a planned office visit. Whew! And, Praise God!!!! No more abdominal drain tubes!!! Of course, this also means that we have to keep a very close eye on hydration as it was easy to depend on the water he was getting through the tube.
The past week has been filled with speech, physical therapy and personal training appointments. At the same time, we have tried to get in some family movie time, fun time, occupational and cognitive therapy, housework and to enjoy Christy’s time at home before she heads back to Aggieland.
You will be pleased to know that, in addition to what we do with Alan at home, he is receiving physical therapy twice a week (to work on balance and transfers), speech therapy twice a week and, as of today, will be working with a personal trainer two days a week, all at home. God continues to shine his face upon Alan, and us. I am praying that the new schedule will enable me to do a little less of the physical work with him and free some time up for me to write or head off to the gym myself. I continue to work on menus and to make sure his body is receiving the proper fuel for all the work he is doing while keeping in mind that I want all of us to be able to sit down for a meal and enjoy the same things. I know that it will all become automatic at some point, it’s just going to take a little work up front.
We are anxiously anticipating the arrival of our friend, Lisa, who will be visiting this weekend from the D.C. area. We are so grateful for her presence in our lives, for God placing her in our paths while we were at Walter Reed Army Medical Center and for the wonderful friendship that has blossomed between her family and ours. I am tickled that her visits have become “annual” January trips. I always leave our time spent together refreshed and reinspired.
I hope you agree with me that this week’s pictures reflect a healthy, happy Alan. In His Amazing Grace, Rosie
Tuesday, January 3, 2006 10:06 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Happy New Year! Our year started out with many blessings as we spent our time at home, in each other’s company, with my Mom staying with us for the Holidays. Alan continues to tolerate foods and to enjoy many as if it were the first time in his life he had tasted them; it is a real treat to watch him when he eats something “new” and to watch the look in his eyes. Alain and Christy continue to challenge each other as they run together on a daily basis.
As we were working on ADL’s (aspects of daily living) this morning while he was in bed and dressed him for the day, Alan was able to cross one foot over the opposite knee and put his own socks on...without any assistance or the use of an assistive device!! Until now, I have been placing his undershirt and shirt on the bed in front of him and he takes his sleep t-shirt off and puts on his shirts, not until today was he willing to attempt his own socks…every day brings more progress and healing in Alan’s life…and more joy to mine.
Thanks to The Retired Enlisted Association, Alan’s circuit training equipment arrived late last week and is now set up and Alan was able to do a full upper-body workout today. In addition to working with physical therapists at home he will also be able to work with a speech therapist and his attitude continues to be one of, “bring it on.” I will continue to work with him on fine motor skills, reading, writing, and using LIFE as the main therapy tool as I continue having the privilege of caring for Alan. Setting up Alan’s workout space even inspired me and I was able to make it to the gym after feeding Alan lunch this afternoon and Christy hung out with Alan until I returned.
I hope you enjoy the most recent pictures. It is exciting to know that in the not to far future we will be able to actually convert the garage into Alan’s therapy space. It has been a very good thing for him to be able to have a true bedroom in which to retreat, without all the therapy tools staring him in the face 24/7. I truly believe it has even made the space more enjoyable to his friends when they come to hang out and to find that Alan’s “normal” life is just a new normal and continues to improve daily. I know it is only January but the weather for us has been in the upper 70’s for the past week and it has really gotten me excited about putting Alan in the pool this coming swim season…I just know that without all the drains, getting in the water is going to work wonders for Alan’s coordination.
We wish you, and yours, the best year ever in 2006 and pray that the Lord will Bless you abundantly and richly reward you with much love and laughter in the coming year. In His Amazing Grace, Rosie
Tuesday, January 3, 2006 10:06 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Happy New Year! Our year started out with many blessings as we spent our time at home, in each other’s company, with my Mom staying with us for the Holidays. Alan continues to tolerate foods and to enjoy many as if it were the first time in his life he had tasted them; it is a real treat to watch him when he eats something “new” and to watch the look in his eyes. Alain and Christy continue to challenge each other as they run together on a daily basis.
As we were working on ADL’s (aspects of daily living) this morning while he was in bed and dressed him for the day, Alan was able to cross one foot over the opposite knee and put his own socks on...without any assistance or the use of an assistive device!! Until now, I have been placing his undershirt and shirt on the bed in front of him and he takes his sleep t-shirt off and puts on his shirts, not until today was he willing to attempt his own socks…every day brings more progress and healing in Alan’s life…and more joy to mine.
Thanks to The Retired Enlisted Association, Alan’s circuit training equipment arrived late last week and is now set up and Alan was able to do a full upper-body workout today. In addition to working with physical therapists at home he will also be able to work with a speech therapist and his attitude continues to be one of, “bring it on.” I will continue to work with him on fine motor skills, reading, writing, and using LIFE as the main therapy tool as I continue having the privilege of caring for Alan. Setting up Alan’s workout space even inspired me and I was able to make it to the gym after feeding Alan lunch this afternoon and Christy hung out with Alan until I returned.
I hope you enjoy the most recent pictures. It is exciting to know that in the not to far future we will be able to actually convert the garage into Alan’s therapy space. It has been a very good thing for him to be able to have a true bedroom in which to retreat, without all the therapy tools staring him in the face 24/7. I truly believe it has even made the space more enjoyable to his friends when they come to hang out and to find that Alan’s “normal” life is just a new normal and continues to improve daily. I know it is only January but the weather for us has been in the upper 70’s for the past week and it has really gotten me excited about putting Alan in the pool this coming swim season…I just know that without all the drains, getting in the water is going to work wonders for Alan’s coordination.
We wish you, and yours, the best year ever in 2006 and pray that the Lord will Bless you abundantly and richly reward you with much love and laughter in the coming year. In His Amazing Grace, Rosie
Wednesday, December 28, 2005 10:18 PM CST Dearest Angels:
We have spent the past week surrounded by family, counting our many blessings, enjoying each other and grateful for our home. We are so grateful to live in a Nation that takes care of their Veterans and that so much progress has been made in the past few years in treating those wounded in battle and their families. I am especially grateful to the men and women who serve this country so courageously. These young American heroes, so far away from home, are fighting the enemies of freedom and keeping our country safe at home. Their sacrifice and that of their families is always on my mind and I pray that they are aware of how much we appreciate their service and how proud we are of their sacrifice.
Alan continues to improve by leaps and bounds and his nutritional progress is phenomenal. We are anticipating the arrival of his circuit training equipment and continue to work with him daily. He is truly looking forward to continuing working out his upper body and strengthening his core and continues to ask when “it” will be ready and reminding me to call to check on delivery status. I now catch myself walking away from him with a smile on my face thanking God for His perfect healing in Alan. Just a year ago Alan was barely able to make his needs known and was (for others) difficult to understand and spoke in a barely audible whisper. He is in the manual chair full time, propelling himself around the house, using his Tablet computer, joining us in making plans for the coming year and looking forward to Winter Clinic in Colorado. In Awe, Rosie
Thursday, December 22, 2005 11:52 PM CST Dearest Angels:
We would like to wish you all a very Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays.
We are very grateful to be able to spend this holiday at home, together, enjoying our beautifully painted rooms and not having to dread Alan’s return to a hospital facility when the festivities are over. The Viet Nam Vets/Legacy Vets MC and friends were so generous when they learned that I was interested in repainting. We continue to be extremely grateful for their support; especially Alain, when he walked back in the house after three months, saw what they had done and realized the many hours spent by others on the house that he could now spend with Alan and settling back in at home.
Alan continues to make great strides in his recovery and we have been informed that his exercise equipment will be shipped this week and should be delivered in about a week or so.
God continues to surround us with so many Angels that want to make Alan’s life better, easier and that are so supportive and encouraging in his recovery and it seems ages since we were at Alan’s deathbed, day after day, for so many weeks at Walter Reed and are now able to look forward to a brighter, healthy future for Alan. Counting You Among Our Blessings, Rosie
“Glory to God in the Highest, and on earth peace, and good will toward men.” Luke 2:14
Tuesday, December 20, 2005 10:54 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Alan continues to improve in amazing ways, Praise God. You will be pleased to learn that Alan is eating 3 square meals per day! For example, yesterday he had 2 scrambled eggs, a slice of ham and 2 pieces of toast for breakfast, after attending “A Tuba Christmas” on the steps of the State Capitol in Austin, we joined friends for lunch at Austin’s oldest restaurant and Alan had a cheeseburger with fries and, for dinner a dinner of spiral cut ham, potato salad and BBQ beans. He ate more than I did.
After reviewing/converting the Food Journal for the week following discharge, Alan’s dietician called us to day with magnificent news: no more tube feed needed! We will continue to run water through the feeding tube just to keep it from clogging until Alan is able to drink enough and take his meds by mouth…I don’t anticipate it will be much longer before the tube can be removed. I will begin working with Alan on taking his water orally tomorrow; pray that it goes as well as the rest of his recovery. What an amazing Christmas gift to our family to know that Alan will be able to lead a normal life. We had the blessing of joining him as he took our friend, and neighbor, Arthur, up on his offer for a juicy steak once he was able to eat. We spent a lovely evening out with Alan, Arthur, and two of his sons, Ryan and Sam and we all enjoyed watching Alan slowly devour a 7oz filet, garlic mashed potatoes, with about 1/3 of a bowl of potato/cheese soup to start.
As we celebrate the birth and life of Christ, we are reminded to also celebrate the lives of our friends, family and rebirth of our son. In His Amazing Grace, Rosie
Thursday, December 15, 2005 11:18 PM CST December 15, 2005
Dearest Angels:
Alan continues to work hard, to enjoy being home and to spend time with Christy. We have been busy interviewing for home physical therapy as it appears that the VA will fund 1 hour 3 times a week of physical therapy at home. I am praying that it will mean that someone else will be able to work with Alan on lower-body therapy as he is getting too strong for me to do effectively and safely (for me), Praise God!!! The Retired Enlisted Association is also in the process of ordering the circuit training equipment for Alan’s home gym and I am looking forward to Alain’s return home so we can begin the process of converting the garage into a workout space.
We continue to work on oral intake of food and Alan continues to amaze me. I will have to figure out a way to share his food intake chart with you because I believe you will all be amazed at the frequency and amount of food he is able to consume, without residual side-effects. I am silently looking forward to the arrival of his custom lightweight wheelchair because it will make his life even easier; this morning, we needed to get his morning grooming routine done, breakfast and his room cleaned up before another home visit appointment. After I worked with Alan on sitting at the side of the bed for about 5 minutes before transferring him to his chair (to strengthen his abdominal muscles), I suggested that maybe he could do his grooming at the bathroom sink while I cooked his breakfast and he immediately agreed. I laid everything out for him and left for the kitchen. After about 15 minutes, he wheeled himself into the dining room and said, “I’m done.” Although there were a couple of toothpaste stains on his beard, he had managed to brush his teeth, use the electric shaver, wash his hands and set the toothbrush, razor and towel neatly side-by-side on the sink before propelling the wheelchair to the dining room. He is my hero and inspiration each and every day.
Seeing how well he did on his own, I continued to use his determination and momentum to ask him “move over there” or to “get the movie you want to watch from the shelf,” etc., and to help me with the laundry. He actually sorted and rolled his own socks this morning with a smile on his face that said, ‘She thinks she’s fooling me into helping her with the laundry by telling me I can do some occupational therapy while we’re at it.’ Progress.
Alain graduates from the National FBI Academy at 10:00 am tomorrow morning and it is a very strange feeling for me not to be present at such a momentous accomplishment for my husband. Although I know I am where I need to be, it is a not-so-gentle reminder of how much my life as a wife has been affected by the wounds of war and to continue to be vigilant of the effects of its impact on our marriage and family life. There is no possible way Alain and our family would be where we are without the prayers, support and friendship you have extended. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Monday, December 12, 2005 6:40 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Wow, Wow and Wow! I have had an amazing week with Alan as he realized that, except for a couple of minor surgeries, he was headed home for good. We were able to depart by 1:00 pm Friday afternoon, after his Angel Nurse, Sandi, came in on her day off, to shower, dress and help pack Alan up for his trip home. I was so grateful to see Sandi in Alan’s room as I arrived after checking out and having some bookkeeping challenges at the hotel (which were, of course, resolved, it just took time away from my time with Alan). He was spit-shined and ready to roll as soon as we finished up with an appointment he had in the main part of the VA hospital.
Alan insisted that I transfer him out of his wheelchair and into the bench seat in the back of the van for his trip home. As we drove away, he asked me to take him to Sonic, where he had ˝ a cheeseburger and ˝ a small order of cheese-tater-tots! Of course, I insisted that we sit in the van and watch part of a movie before I got on I-35 and proceeded to bounce him around after having just eaten a burger! As we traveled Sam Bass Road (one of the old-town, original roads in Round Rock heading home from I-35), Alan said, “I never thought this street would look so beautiful to me.” He also did not hesitate to give Thanks to God in prayer after we entered his room and included our neighbor, Arthur, in on his prayer. Arthur was just arriving as I unloaded Alan from the van and was present for Alan’s return home to his uncluttered room.
Alan had a busy Friday evening with friends and neighbors stopping by to welcome him back once they saw the van in the driveway, and then had a very busy weekend as he attended a couple of gatherings celebrating Tim’s birthday. Because they guys expected to party some, I dropped and picked Alan up myself so it would be safer for all of them. I think you will agree with me that he is determined to get on with his life; he called me to pick him up around 11:30 pm Saturday night (after I had the bonus of doing some reading and relaxing at Barnes & Noble for a couple of hours) and he was out from 4:00 to 9:00 pm Sunday evening, giving me some time to spend with Christy, who was home studying for exam week.
I had a very poignant experience with Alan Saturday morning. Because he cannot reach the breakfast counter in his wheelchair, Alan and I were sitting in the dining room having breakfast when Tim called to tell him he would be coming over in a little while. Since I was finished eating, I asked Alan if he wanted me to continue joining him or if he preferred that I make his bed, etc., before Tim came over. He said he was fine and to please make his bed so I had been in his room for a while, putting up more of his stuff out of his suitcase when it occurred to me that I could no longer hear him eating in the dining room. I poked my head out of his door to catch a glimpse of Alan, with his plate and fork nestled in his lap, in the kitchen, heading to the sink to put up his dishes. I had to step back into his room and stand in his bathroom to wipe the tears away and to call Alain to share with him that our son WILL regain his independence and was already on his way. After a couple of minutes, Alan called for me as he could not get turned around or back out of the kitchen by himself, but was not distressed about it and I reminded him that it would not be long before we redid the kitchen to accommodate his wheelchair and so he would have access to everything he needs. His reply was a firm, “Good.”
We were also able to use his fabulous shower bench for the first time. Alan helped me transfer him from the wheelchair to the bench and I helped him "hop" his bottom towards the corner, where he was able to grasp the hand rail and I was able to give him an honest-to-goodness shower, dry him, set his robe on his chair and get him into bed immediately thereafter. Much of it was possible because of the work Sandi did with him at Spinal Cord. Alan had somehow gotten it in his mind that he would "fall" if he had a shower and Sandi slowly worked him from the "canoe" shower gurney and into the shower chair while he was inpatient. I did not want to return to bed-baths once we returned home, so just went about getting him in the shower as if it was something we did every day.
We continue to work on nutrition and I continue to be amazed at the amount of food and normalcy of his diet. He is on no restrictions (other than either solids or liquids and he continues to use his space for solids as he is getting water through the feeding tube around the clock) and has been able to consume about 6-7 oz of food at any given meal. I try to do 2-3 oz of protein, 2 oz of veggies and 2 oz of a starch or legume. He has yogurt, fruit, bread w/butter, peanut butter crackers, etc., for snacks in between meals. So far, no lactose intolerance, no sugar intolerance, no reflux issues and no dumping syndrome. Alan was weighed before we departed Friday and he weighed 148.2 pounds; he weighed 147 prior to surgery and his and his dietician’s “ideal weight” goal for Alan is 140-145 pounds. I don’t believe the night tube feeds will be around as long as we all anticipated. As far as I’m concerned, perfect healing in direct answer to prayer. Thank you, again and again and again.
Since our return home, I have experienced problems with the wireless connection on my laptop and, frankly, have been more concerned with Alan’s comfort and transition than to work on networking issues, so I have read but not replied to e-mail and thank you so much for the great e-mails welcoming us home. I will spend some time on the laptop tomorrow. For now, he has just called me and said he's "done" with dinner so I'll try to upload pictures after he's in bed this evening. In His Amazing Grace, Rosie
Wednesday, December 7, 2005 0:46 AM CST Dearest Angels:
The good news; Alan continues to do amazing things. The GREAT news; Alan will be heading home “for good” on Friday! Although I promised myself that I was going to retire early this evening, I could no longer rest without updating you. Alan’s doctor and dietitian informed us that Alan’s blood work from the prior week does not reflect good nutritional levels, but GREAT ones!!! They encouraged us to keep doing whatever we’re doing and that except for therapy, there is no medical reason for Alan not to come home. Praise God for answering all our prayers and for healing Alan’s digestive system above and beyond what we could have expected. He celebrated by having me take him to North Star Mall for some shopping Sunday afternoon and out to dinner at The Cheesecake Factory where he enjoyed ‘his’ usual small portion of a petit filet, mashed potatoes (w/skin on) and steak onion rings. Of course, I insisted that the German Chocolate cheesecake (2 oz) wait until we returned to the SCIC an hour later. As you can imagine, I barely had him back in the room and situated before he instructed me to get his cheesecake.
So, while Alan and I ate lunch (leftovers) on Monday, I lamented that I wished I could have just one entire, uninterrupted day to be at home alone to clean his room, pack up ostomy supplies that he no longer needs, unpack from our return from Walter Reed, put up our suitcases and get the house ready for his and Christy’s return, he smiled at me and told me to head home after his afternoon therapy and return Tuesday evening with dinner for him. Needless to say, I fed him as soon as we returned from the gym and headed to Round Rock. Alan also instructed me that morning to put him in his manual chair (which we have for air travel) and to take his power chair home. Although it is not custom fit for Alan, it will allow him to have some freedom to move around and to build some confidence, muscle and agility until his custom lightweight manual chair comes in.
Thanks to my nephew David being by Alan’s side this morning and after work this evening, I have spent the last two days getting rid of everything that reflects rehab out of his room. He made a comment to me during Thanksgiving that there was too much “stuff” in his room. As I thought about it over the past week, I realized that Alan needs to have a bedroom/guy’s room that he can escape to and move on with his life instead of all the equipment looming over him constantly reminding him that he is in rehab. Except for a couple of things that I kept in his supply closet (therabands) and small free weights that he can use while he is in bed after I’ve dressed him, I moved everything into bins and placed them in the garage for the eventual construction of his home gym. It is just as easy for me to move the equipment into his room, or living room, when needed and I can very easily pick up a space heater and we can use some of the equipment right where it sits in the garage. I had planned on heading back this afternoon, but Alan was doing great, his awesome nurse, Sandi, was with him until midnight, and David was back hanging out with him, so I told him I would be there for breakfast in the morning.
To my surprise, Alan called me this evening and told me not to rush back and to just be careful, be back by 12:30 tomorrow because he and David were hanging out, David was bringing him Mickey D’s breakfast in the morning, the therapists were in training and I could keep working on the house so he could come home on Friday. Alan’s room is now ready for him and many of the things that I would love to continue to display and show family and friends will simply move into our guest room upstairs which will now be our “Red, White & Blue” room and not in Alan’s “face” all the time. I will travel back to San Antonio tomorrow before the weather turns icy as anticipated, spend the afternoon with Alan, pack up his room as he has an outing to rugby practice Thursday evening, pack up my hotel room so that we are able to depart as soon as he can be discharged on Friday. According to the weather reports, we are expecting some cold/rainy/icy conditions tomorrow evening, but things should be good by Friday. I will only head for home if the weather cooperates and conditions are safe for travel. I promise you that for the next couple of days, until I am back to my high-speed modem, no news is VERY GOOD NEWS. I will spend my time in the next few days getting our hero back home, where he belongs, and not overdoing it, staying up too late or lifting things I shouldn’t. Christy should be home by the 15th and Alain will return from Quantico approximately the 18th. I know it will take Alan and me a couple of days to get settled in, but Alan is always ready for company.
I continue to be eternally grateful for the work that the staff at the Spinal Cord Injury Center performs for their patients. Most of you know how I feel about leaving Alan’s side, and how he feels about me or his dad being away from him when he is in hospitals. The fact that he is comfortable enough with them when he is inpatient for us to be gone for a couple of days or more, is a testament to the trust and respect he has for them; we are blessed beyond measure. I received a call from Sandi this evening giving me a report of his day and Alan was eating the last of the cheesecake and a shower was on the horizon before she settled him in for the night.
We are also in awe of his cousin, David’s, dedication and selflessness with Alan. David stops by every day (if even for just a couple of minutes on his way to work on very busy days) to encourage Alan and make sure I don’t need anything, anytime we are in San Antonio. During our absences, David will spend hours on end keeping Alan company, sitting side-by-side with him watching movies, or harassing Alan when things get too serious or simply to needle Alan. Our life is good and we are surrounded by love every single day.
Although I am very much looking forward to seeing Christy and Alain, I am so proud of them and what they are accomplishing. Christy is experiencing things at Texas A&M that I could only dream of and Alain has the privilege of attending an elite, highly coveted course at the National FBI Academy and has been able to enjoy many side-trips along the way. He had the privilege of attending the Army/Navy game with Angel Tracie and her family this past weekend and truly enjoyed it. I’m not sure he will be enjoying driving in the winter weather the next couple of weeks before he is able to return back to Texas! I pray that we are all able to spend a safe, warm, holiday season together and to count all our blessings as we reflect on the past year. Counting You Among Our Blessings, Rosie
Friday, December 2, 2005 11:56 PM CST Dearest Angels:
I apologize for not updating sooner but it has been a busy week with Alan. Busy, but AMAZING! I have caught myself wondering if I will ever cease to be amazed at God’s answers to our prayers and at Alan’s miraculous recovery. I hope not and that the amazing recovery will continue and that I never become desensitized to the powerful work of God taking place in our lives.
I will attempt to bring you up to date on Alan’s week:
Alan has been progressing by leaps and bounds. During therapy Wednesday afternoon, Jose (Recreational Therapist) brought in a “quad” rugby chair for Alan to look at and to see if Alan might want to try it out in the next month or so, when we returned from Christmas break. Alan said, “No, put me in it now.” So, Jose and I "two-man" lifted and transferred Alan into the chair and he spent 45 minutes in the chair, propelling himself back and forth in the therapy room, working his abs tremendously and trying to get the timing down, considering is left arm is much stronger and with quicker reflexes than the right.
Alan was able to get away from the hospital for a few hours Thursday for an afternoon of bowling. After watching him bowl and seeing that he was aiming and moving the ramp on his own, I wondered if he might want to try hand bowling and as I was visiting with Jose while he supervised the bowlers, and I was about to suggest my idea, he mentioned that soon we might want to re-introduce Alan to hand bowling!! After finishing his 3 games, we asked Alan if he wanted to try and, of course, he immediately said, “Yep, get me a ball.” Although he was able to place his hand properly in the ball and lower it the first time, it only went about 6 inches as he attempted to release the ball. He shook his head, pointed back at the ball machine and said to me, “Give it to me again.” The second time, we angled his chair a little to get the wheel out of the way and he was able to release the ball properly and send it down the lane for about 4-5 feet! We did not allow any more as he is not yet strong enough to dangle an 8 pound ball from his arm, much less send it down the lane. However, as he continues with strength training I just know he will be able to do hand-bowling instead of ramp bowling at the Wheelchair Games next summer. As Jose was taking a turn retrieving the ball for Alan so I could take a break, he called me over to him and told me to order him some nachos! He was able to have 6 cheesy tortilla rounds and you would have thought they were gourmet nachos the way he was enjoying them. Alan returned to the SCIC with Jose and the others as I headed off to dinner and the Broadway production of Evita, at the magnificent Majestic Theatre downtown San Antonio, with my friend Cissie, who drove down from Austin to join me for a lovely evening out. I must admit that I felt badly about not preparing an update when we returned to my hotel, but I knew that if I began writing at 11:00, it would be very late before I turned in and I did not want to be exhausted today as we had a very busy day planned.
Alan enjoyed his first steak today. Many of you know how much he has looked forward to eating steak again. He was able to enjoy 3 oz of Texas Land & Cattle’s tenderloin filet, 2 oz of a baked potato (with all the toppings) and 1 oz of steamed broccoli!!! Okay, Drs. Shriver, Gilbey, Hueman, Arthur Callaway and those of you who promised him a steak: You’d better start saving up, because not only was he able to tolerate it without any side-effects, he was able to enjoy dinner out this evening at the PVA Christmas party! You know he’s going to want to collect on your offers once he’s out of the hospital and back home.
Alan looked so handsome as we arrived at the party where so many fellow veterans and SCIC staff were visibly pleased to see him looking so well, so soon, after surgery. Just think about it, Alan had super-major-organ-shuffling, abdominal-reconstructive surgery 8 weeks ago and is not only working out every day, he is willing and eager to try new exercises, new equipment and to attend a Christmas party where he would be eating in front of many strangers and he did it with amazing confidence and grace. I wish I could share more than 4 pictures at a time with you from the past week, but I will do my best to load them up to the Yahoo link when I am home this weekend with faster internet access that way you can see how terrific his week has been.
Christy has asked that I request special prayers for one of her dearest friends and her family as her mom undergoes surgery and they await pathology results to determine if radiation or chemotherapy will be necessary. You can imagine what this family is going through, especially since Christy’s friend is an only child and away at college as her mom goes through surgery and recovery. As you can see, even an 18 year old knows the powerful prayer warriors we have in Alan’s Angels.
Thank you for being such an important part of Alan’s (and our) recovery. In His Amazing Grace, Rosie
Monday, November 28, 2005 10:35 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Alan’s morning was very busy as the representatives from The Retired Enlisted Association arrived to make a special presentation. President LeRoy Riddell and Memorial Fund Chairman, Bill DeBoer along with his lovely bride, Alice, presented Alan with a Lifetime Membership in the Association. Alan was also blessed with the company of fellow 82nd Airborne Association members who drove in to support him as the presentation was made. Mr. DeBoer also announced their commitment to Alan to provide the circuit-training equipment for his home gym and the work on the kitchen to give Alan full access to the entire first floor of our home. It was such a blessing to meet Mr. Riddell and Alice DeBoer; Alan’s Angel network continues to grow.
A significant milestone was reached by Alan today as he was able to be interviewed by the media personally, rather than me speaking for him as I have for the past two and a half years. Not only did he give interviews to five different reporters, but he insisted that he did not need a nap at noon and wanted to do therapy in the afternoon. As I stood by and watched him talk to reporters, I marveled at how far his speech has come since we left SCIC at the end of March headed for 6 months at home and at his confidence and poise as he answered questions.
We continue to be amazed at Alan’s amazing recovery from his abdominal surgery. He is doing so well with oral food intake that we started, tonight, giving him his tube feeds only at night so as to free his tummy up for solid foods during the day and also to free Alan up from one more pump. That will mean that he will only have the pump for his water intake running around the clock. Let us pray that he is able to tolerate the higher tube feed rate at night and that we can eventually get rid of the feeding tube still inserted into his gut. Our son and the miracles we continue to see in his life keep me in a perpetual state of awe at God’s amazing work. In His Amazing Grace, Rosie
Sunday, November 27, 2005 12:22 AM CST Dearest Angels:
Where do I begin to share the good news?!?! Tuesday afternoon, after picking Alain up at the Austin airport, he and I had the treat of entertaining our nephew, Nick, for the afternoon as we picked up holiday pies, ham, etc. In the evening, Alain, Christy and I were blessed to spend the evening out to dinner together before Alain headed to San Antonio to spend Wednesday at Spinal Cord with Alain. As we all know, nothing ever “goes off without a hitch” and, as Alain drove away in the van, I drove to Auto Zone in the Suburban to replace a dead battery, or so we thought, since it has been sitting in our driveway. A tow-truck ride later to the mechanic after learning that the cable-ends were disintegrating and after being told that it would be Monday at the earliest before they would have the vehicle ready, Christy picked me up and we ran the last errands needed and headed for home. Needless to say, we were pleasantly surprised when the shop called two hours later to let us know that they had replaced the parts and we could pick up our vehicle! What a blessing knowing that I would not have to make special arrangements to have someone pick it up next week…and it cost less than I had dreaded.
Then, as an added bonus, Alain called around 4:30 pm Wednesday to inform me that he and Alan were headed home ahead of schedule. I prayed that they would not spend hours stuck in holiday traffic and, must admit, was surprised when I walked back in the house from doing laundry in the garage and heard their voices in Alan’s room as they walked in around 6:20. According to all the local news reports, traffic was horrendous between San Antonio and Austin from noon until late in the evening…and you wonder why I walk around with a silly grin on my face???!! Answered prayer, again…
The holiday weekend continued to prove to be an amazing success for Alan; not only was he able to join us (out of his wheelchair) for Thanksgiving dinner, he was able to eat each and every food item that was prepared. Although we continue to monitor the amount of food eaten at any meal, he has been able to tolerate foods with milk and sugar products without any reaction, including New York style cheesecake!
We were blessed with Alan’s friends visiting throughout the weekend and had a special visit from Bill DeBoer and his son-in-law, Robert Hadlock, who stopped by to meet Alan. Mr. DeBoer heads the Memorial Fund of The Retired Enlisted Association and the association has generously covered my lodging expenses in San Antonio while Alan is inpatient at the Spinal Cord Injury Center. We are looking forward to seeing them again tomorrow morning as they visit Alan at SCIC to honor him.
We are in the process of departing our home again for a little while and are all anxious to be home again for the Christmas holidays and together as a family one more time. We continue to count our many blessings and for the knowledge that you are with us on this journey, supporting Alan and praying for all of us. In His Amazing Grace, Rosie
Monday, November 21, 2005 7:09 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Alan had a great day at Sea World yesterday, enjoyed 1/3 of a hot dog wiener, nacho chips (no cheese), the pepperoni off a small pizza and ordered me to pick up BBQ chicken for dinner on the way back to the hospital! He had a great day at Sea World. I believe you will enjoy the pictures.
Alan was able to tolerate the standing frame for 35 minutes today! Yipppeee! I had a nice break as my sister, my niece and I had lunch together and were able to catch up a little before we returned to the hospital to join Alan for his afternoon therapy session. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Saturday, November 19, 2005 11:43 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Alan had a great time bowling today and another HUGE milestone. He ate out, at a restaurant, for the first time since he was wounded and it went extremely well. Although he had joined us at restaurants a couple of times since then, he usually only got to “taste” food on the tip of a fork, etc., Alan was able to tolerate about 6 tortilla chips, a small amount of chicken fajitas and an even smaller amount of pinto beans. I ordered the “Fajitas for Two” and made sure he only ate those items which I felt were “safe.” We had a great time surrounded by amazing athletes, their families, friends and volunteers and are so blessed to be a part of the family at the Spinal Cord Injury Center.
We have an outing to Sea World scheduled for tomorrow and the weather is supposed to be in the low 70’s so I’m looking forward to being outdoors with Alan for the afternoon.
It looks like we will all be very busy early in the week as Christy will be returning to Round Rock on Monday night, Alain will fly in Tuesday afternoon (I will pick him up at the airport, take him home, spend the evening with him and Christy at home, he will drive to San Antonio on Wednesday morning to be with Alan) and Alan will get to head home on pass Thursday morning. Before we all begin our travels and Thanksgiving week, I want to wish you and yours a blessed Thanksgiving celebration and pray that you will be surrounded by your loved ones, making the most out of a day especially set aside to count blessings. Our family has very, very much for which to be thankful. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Friday, November 18, 2005 0:40 AM CST Dearest Angels:
As you can see by today’s homepage picture, Alan continues to work very hard and to progress. He had a challenge with some reflux when he went to bed last night, but it was a single episode and, I believe, because he did not chew his 2:00 pm feeding very well, had beef for the first time in the evening and went to bed almost exactly one hour after his last meal. I believe he will need to wait at least two hours after eating before returning to bed, as there is too much turning, lifting, moving him to get him out of his clothes and into pajamas and his food is not far enough down his digestive tract to stay down. We had a very serious discussion then and again today about his new system, reviewed the diagram prepared for us by Dr. Shriver and he agreed to be much more careful about chewing and to continue to take it slow, be patient and stick to the "rules" for now. Of course, my heart just ached as I watched him review the diagrams as I cannot imagine how I would respond after not eating for 2 ˝ years and I’m sure I would be as anxious to chew and swallow as much and as quickly as I could. Unfortunately, it will take unpleasant episodes for Alan to learn what will work and what will not. Needless to say I stayed after cleaning him up making sure he was not going to throw up again and it was a long night praying that it was an isolated incident and even Alan seemed tired and as if he did not sleep well last night. Praise God, it was an isolated incident and I pray his success continues. Today’s feedings went very well and he appeared to be paying very close attention to his chewing and, for the first time in a week, did not ask for “more” when he was finished each time.
I came home this evening and will return to San Antonio in the morning. Alan and I have a busy weekend coming up as he will be participating in a bowling tournament on Saturday and will have an outing to Sea World on Sunday. I drove up to check on the house, the dogs and do our Thanksgiving Day shopping since I will not return home until next week and prefer to spend that time with Alain, Christy and Alan than to fight the crowds at the grocery store.
The drive was a good time to count our blessings, return phone calls and have some quiet time. We have so very much to be grateful for this year and for the Angels in our lives. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Tuesday, November 15, 2005 10:46 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Alan’s progress amazes me. He continues to do better than anticipated with the food solids and to work hard during therapy. He volunteered to participate in working with a visiting Physical Therapy group from Brooke Army Medical Center this morning and was a real trooper through the session.
We returned to his room where, instead of resting, he opted to eat chicken at noon and again at 2:00 pm. Because he is feeding himself, chewing his food extremely well, waiting a couple of minutes between bites and eating every last morsel in his bowl, it takes him about 30 – 45 minutes to finish a serving. As I sat next to him while he ate, I found myself choking up as he lost a grain-of-rice size bit of chicken off his fork, onto the towel on his tray and I watched him very gingerly pick it up with his thumb and index finger, place it in his mouth and carefully chew it to an even smaller piece before swallowing it. The realization that he will have to eat many small meals a day for the rest of his life and that it may be a full time occupation for a while hit me at the same time that I grasped the magnitude of his amazing postoperative digestive progress. It was a bit overwhelming for a minute as I thanked God for the answered prayers and I had to focus to maintain my composure as I could not leave the room and Alan alone while he was eating.
Alan continued to work very hard during the afternoon and asked to work with weights. The pictures will say it all. And, he had a special visitor today as Guera returned to love on the patients. I soaked in the comments by those present that watched Alan feed Cheerios to Guera and were able to compare his fine motor skill improvement over the last time he was inpatient during June. He truly enjoyed the visit and cannot wait to see his buddy Chuy over Thanksgiving. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Monday, November 14, 2005 10:57 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Please praise God with me as I witness direct answer to prayer every day. Our prayers are being faithfully answered as Alan continues to tolerate solids without any residual negative effects. I believe today’s pictures will show you just how great he is doing and how much he is enjoying being able to enjoy food by mouth.
I must admit, the “chicken leg” picture was totally staged and Alan PROMISED not to take a bite while I took the picture. Of course, I couldn’t tempt him that way and not allow him to take an itty-bitty-bite off of it before I boned the meat off for him to eat. I also decided today that, if Alan would agree to be very patient between bites and chew his food extremely well, it was time for him to try to feed himself, if possible.
We also learned today that, barring any medical changes, Alan will be able to have a 96 hour pass for Thanksgiving and to join us at home for the holiday! Needless to say, I will continue to do my best to get Alan to a point where he is able to enjoy Thanksgiving dinner at our dinner table.
I have spent this evening in gratitude for the Angels at the Spinal Cord Injury Center. Not only do they encourage the pace, program and plan that I am taking nutritionally with Alan, but are totally committed to supporting “our” program any way they can. His physical and occupational therapy are also coming along great and I, along with the therapists, am seeing a marked improvement over his abilities when we discharged from SCIC at the end of March. Although I believed there had been much improvement over the summer, it is confirmation to hear others make comments about how much bigger, stronger, heavier he looks since the last time they saw him. All direct answer to prayer and a strong will.
We have so much for which to be grateful this year, including YOU in our lives. There are so many of you following Alan’s journey and praying for him that I have never, and may never meet. Know that you, Alan’s Angels, are lifted up in prayer every day and that when you get a chance, I would appreciate you sending a quick e-mail to me at rosalinda@alansangels.com with your name and address so that I can compile a list of all of those that have been supporting Alan in his journey. Counting You Among Our Blessings, Rosie
Saturday, November 12, 2005 3:46 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Alan celebrated Veteran’s Day with some special visits; especially from the Middle School and fellow SCIC patients. We also got to have our first real outing since his surgery in early October. He was in need of some grooming products and new movies to watch so, since the doctor had approved weekend passes and modified his IV antibiotic schedule to free him up in the afternoons, I loaded him up in the van and we spent a couple of hours at Target looking through CD’s and movies. It was nice to get out of the hospital and to spend the afternoon with Alan.
We continue to see answer to prayer! Alan’s oral feedings continue to be a success. As you know, we worked on a clear fluids diet last week and began introducing solids (from the soups) this weekend. Today, he was able to consume the 2 pieces of chicken meat from my Mom’s chicken soup (solid meat only). Of course, it was over the course of 5 hours, but that’s okay. Alan has been very good about chewing his food to an extremely liquid state. Of course, that meant he did not want to leave the SCIC today as he said, “I’d rather stay here so I can eat some more chicken.” Imagine that. I will head home this evening just for the night to check on things and return in the morning. I am praying he will want to go see a movie at the theater tomorrow afternoon.
I will head to Round Rock this evenisng to check on the house, the dogs and to sleep in my own bed. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Thursday, November 10, 2005 6:47 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Alan continues to work very hard during therapy and to tolerate the oral feedings. We plan on introducing some protein liquefied with the broth in the next few days. Let’s pray that his body will accept the "solid" feedings and that his system begins drawing nutrition from the oral foods so that we can eventually wean him from tube feeds.
Alan also had a couple of nice surprises today as some of the Vietnam Vets stopped by for a visit and he received a great banner from the Round Rock Police Department, with well-wishes from so many at the Deparatment. We are so grateful for the continued support, encouragement and for knowing that we are not alone on this journey.
I am looking forward to spending Veteran’s Day by Alan’s side and for the privilege of being among so many who have paid the price for Freedom and deserve our unbridled gratitude. Grateful for a Nation Under God, Rosie
Blessed is the nation whose God is the Lord...Psalm 33:12
Tuesday, November 8, 2005 9:15 PM CST Dearest Angels:
After a couple of days of evaluations, assessments and settling in, Alan has been attending physical and occupational therapy the past two days. As usual, he continues to work extremely hard and to push his body to respond to him. The oral feedings have continued and, Praise God, continue without reflux or dumping syndrome. He continues to be on a clear liquid diet, no sugar, no milk and we are taking things very, very slowly. He has actually been able to have, in the span of 5 hours (1 serving each hour) 60cc chicken broth, 30cc unsweet decaf iced tea, 50cc chicken broth, 30cc sugar-free cherry gelatin and 30cc chicken noodle soup broth. Yipppeeee! Let us pray he continues to tolerate the food.
We continue to be showered with God’s bounty. The Enlisted Retired Association Memorial Fund, in addition to covering my lodging across the street from Alan’s hospital, has offered to assist with installing the door from the kitchen to the garage giving Alan access to the entire first floor and to assist in the purchase of the upper-body exercise equipment that we planned on installing in the garage for him as we convert it into a gym. There is no adequate way for me to explain my continued amazement of God’s work in our lives and to properly thank all the Angels that have come to Alan’s rescue and continue to carry our family.
I believe the pictures will reflect how great Alan is doing and how hard he is working. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Sunday, November 6, 2005 10:07 PM CST Dearest Angels:
Alan, Christy, Alain and I have had a very busy, but family filled, three days. I spent most of the day Friday getting Alan’s room set up and he settled in. He stayed in bed and rested as we don’t want to tax him. Saturday morning we woke up to a beautiful warm day, clear skies and he and I spent the morning out in the garden while my mother lovingly cooked her famous chicken soup at my sister’s house as we have started a liquid diet again with Alan. He was able to tolerate two separate “meals” of chicken broth and to keep it down/in. We will continue a clear liquid diet for a couple of days and very slowly introduce other foods as we all learn what will work best for Alan’s new digestive anatomy. He continues to be extremely patient and understands the need for taking it one food at a time.
A couple of hours before I planned to leave Alan to head to Round Rock, his friends Robbie and Tim arrived to visit Alan, so I was able to head home a little early to spend some time with Christy and Alain. It is so good to be nearer to Christy and to be able to see her more often. We had the blessing of spending some time with my brother’s boys before attending my brother’s 40th birthday party and joining the rest of my family for the evening. The timing could not have been more perfect for our return.
We spent today with Christy at Texas A&M as she was presented as a new member of Delta Gamma and were thrilled to meet many of her new friends (and their parents) about whom I’ve heard so much. It was a great day and I drove back to San Antonio after dropping Alain off at the airport in Austin so he could head back to Quantico. Praise God for the lower price of gas this week!!!
I stopped by Alan’s room to make sure he was doing okay and found that he was having a great time with our nephew, David, who spent the day with him in my absence. I am praying for a good night’s sleep as we begin Alan’s physical rehabilitation tomorrow. Thank you all so much for your prayers, the great e-mails and messages during our travel days home and for being Alan’s Angels. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Thursday, November 3, 2005 10:21 PM CST Sweet Angels:
It is 11:00 am East Coast time and we are in the air, headed for Texas. Alan is having a very good day, pain free and visibly happy to be heading closer to home. I have spent the morning counting my blessings, grateful for all the friends that cocooned us while we were at Walter Reed and for the new friends we have made.
I had the privilege of speaking by phone to Mr. Perot a couple of minutes ago and was able to thank him for all of us for his generosity towards Alan and our family. Please keep him, his family and his staff in your prayers. The entire flight crew is comprised of retired military, so Alan is being flown back by his brothers.
It is 10:20 pm Central Time, Alan did beautifully during the flight, we had clear, blue skies from DC to Texas and were welcomed with open arms to Spinal Cord Injury Center. Dr. Hueman’s presence made admission a breeze for me, as he was able to relay all of the medical information directly to the doctors, while I spent time with the nurses, therapists and rest of the team to get Alan settled in. Alan is in a private room, comfortable and fell asleep early so I am off to bed but felt a need to thank you so much for your prayers today. God continues to shine His face upon Alan. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Wednesday, November 2, 2005 11:24 PM EST Dearest Angels:
Alan's room was full of visitors, well wishers and lots of love. I kept hearing the flutter of Angel's wings around us. We know Angels like to hover in the presence of miracles!
Alan received a special visit from Jake Ryan, a 'young man' about whom I've been reading for over a year. His father, William Ryan, wrote "On Eagles Wings," an account of his son's journey with the same type of surgery that Alan had, in the early 1980's. The book was published in the past couple of years, but the story is about Jake as a young Naval Student Pilot, so you can see why I still visualize him around Alan's age. He, and his family, are an inspriation and without knowing it, were a great source of strength and support to me during the past couple of months and painted a vivid picture of what Alan could face during his recovery. As we have learned, many of the challenges have been (and may continue to be) the same for Alan so it was a blessing for me to watch Alan and Jake interact and for me to remind Alan of what Jake has accomplished in his distinguished career.
The evening for Alan was topped off with a fun visit from Tracie and Tara. Because I need to get some sleep before checking out and returning to the hospital by 6:00 am, I will post pictures tomorrow evening as I can do some of the downloading of pictures on the flight.
We depart for San Antonio at 10:30 am tomorrow morning with an ETA of 12:45. Thank you for your prayers. I KNOW we will be flying with the assistance of Angels. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Tuesday, November 1, 2005 11:44 PM EST Dearest Angels:
As of this evening, transfer back to Texas on Thursday is "a go."
Alan had a very good day in that he asked to be bathed as soon as I walked in and wanted to get out of bed and into his chair. Although he refused physical therapy, he stated that squat-pivoting and sitting in the chair for at least 5 hours today would be enough. Of course, I encouraged him to work with occupational therapy and I worked with him some myself, but I must admit that it does my heart good to see him voice his desires and assert himself. He looked great all afternoon and managed to take a couple of catnaps.
He also had a lot of company today, which always brings a smile to his face. I will do my best to post some pictures tonight, but am trying to get laundry, pre-packing and am sorting through what will go with us and what Alain will bring back with him when he drives back from the Academy in December.
Alan is scheduled to have a PICC line inserted at some point tomorrow and I will have to go to Radiology again with him for a couple of hours so I am trying to get a little ahead in case tomorrow gets too busy.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your incessant prayers; they are being answered. Although we will miss all our friends and 'family' once we leave, we know we will return and look forward to returning closer to home. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Tuesday, November 1, 2005 12:03 PM EST Dearest Angels:
So far, so good. It appears that the drain tube placed in Alan’s abdomen during the ultra sound procedure drained whatever it was causing the swelling and pain. The CT scan last night revealed that everything going through the feeding port is going exactly where intended, Praise God! We are praying for good results from the lab and that we will still be heading for Texas on Thursday. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Monday, October 31, 2005 6:18 PM EST Dearest Angels:
One step forward, two steps back…
It appears that there is some fluid collection in the area where Alan’s old jejunostomy used to be and where his new feeding tube is inserted. And, for those of you that know Alan, you know the pain level must be high because Alan shrinks away and complains when it is touched. Broad-spectrum antibiotics have been started pending the results of lab work on some drainage that was collected this morning and we are running contrast so we can take him for a CT scan of the area to determine the cause.
Please, please pray that there is no infection and that the tube feed line is not compromised. I will keep you posted as I receive information. Praying for Perfect Healing, Rosie
Sunday, October 30, 2005 4:54 PM EST Dearest Angels:
Alan's cold or severe allergy bout is mostly behind him. I spent the night battling a stuffy nose and cough myself and awoke with pretty much the same symptoms that Alan was fighting the previous couple of days. However, we have great news to report and I will spend the day resting tomorrow while Alain is available to hang out with Alan so I can get over this thing quickly, as it will be a very busy week.
WE ARE HEADING BACK TO TEXAS!!! Alan's team agrees that Alan would benefit from transferring to the Spinal Cord Injury Center in San Antonio for rehabilitation, further nutritional support and that the mission with regard to his surgical reconstruction at Walter Reed has been accomplished. Therefore, we will be transported to San Antonio on Thursday, November 3rd. Mr. Perot is generously transporting us back on his plane and Dr. Shriver has authorized for Alan's surgical team leader, Dr. Hueman, to accompany us on the flight so Alan will have one of his own surgeons by his side.
It was such a warm feeling to hear the smile in Dr. Fredrickson's voice when I called to see if there would be a bed available for Alan on Thursday. They are looking forward to receiving Alan and assisting in the next chapter of his rehabilitation. We are truly blessed.
Alan had a day full of great visits today. Bob and Irene Harlan and their daughter, Beverly Johnson, from the Central Texas area came by to visit. Bob and Irene's grandson (and Beverly's nephew) returned safely from Iraq in the past couple of weeks and they are in the area for the Marine Corp Marathon.
Col. Arnold Bray also traveled a long way to see Alan. He was Alan's brigade commander during the time they were in Iraq and has been a great support to us in teh past couple of years. The admiration and respect that this Gentle Giant, man of God, has for Alan,and our family is humbling. He spent some time with Alan and then he treated Alain and me to a very enjoyable, relaxing dinner. We spent the evening getting to know each other better and sharing our respective emotional experiences during the past two years. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
P.S. I wrote most of the above-posted update last night about 11:00 pm, but it hurt my eyes so much to read that I chose instead to go to bed. I apologize for worrying anyone without updates, but was suddenly not feeling well, and was simply too achy and tired. I have spent today on the Skolnick's couch, taking Jewish penicillin (homemade Matzah ball soup!) and praying that I am better by tomorrow. Thank you in advance for your prayers. I spoke with Alain by phone and he and Alan were outdoors enjoying the beautiful sunshine and cool weather. I also spoke with Alan and told him I thought I had whatever he had last week and he very confidently said, "You should be feeling better by tomorrow."
Thursday, October 27, 2005 10:10 PM EDT October 27, 2005
Dearest Angels:
I walked into Alan’s room to find him with a runny nose and a froggy sounding throat. And, his tube feeds were off again as the night nurse reported that he had refluxed twice during the night…both times after his linen had been changed after getting soiled. So, it sounded like he had a busy night in addition to not feeling very well and looking like he either has a cold or a bad bout of allergies. Of course, he did not want anything for it that would make him drowsy so it’s tough to give him anything to dry up his drainage. I tried to keep him busy with card games, movies, etc., but he spent most of his time wiping his nose and coughing…at least he is able to wipe his own nose and use the suction wand. We must be grateful that it is the first time he has been “sick” since he was wounded in 2003. Let us pray it’s only allergies and that no respiratory issues arise.
He did have some surprise visitors in his room this morning as Dr. Shriver was hosting a trauma surgeon who was very interested in Alan’s case and in seeing Alan’s abdomen for himself. Included in the entourage was another doctor who was aboard the USNS Comfort when Alan was a patient, and is a friend of the surgeon who performed so many surgeries on Alan. It is so great to be able to thank those that were with Alan those first three weeks after he was wounded.
We also had some great news in the past two days. We have been contacted by The Retired Enlisted Association asking what they could do to support Alan and we have been informed that they will be taking care of my lodging across the street from the Spinal Cord Injury Center once we are back in San Antonio, so that I can continue to remain by Alan’s side! God continues to surround us with His Angels.
I am praying that Alan will be up to getting out of bed tomorrow and that he is feeling a little better. Thank you in advance for your prayers. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Wednesday, October 26, 2005 11:00 PM EDT Dearest Angels:
Alan and I began our day by praising God for answered prayer and for great results of his CT scan.
The first thing he said to me as I walked into his room this morning was, “Get me dressed.” Forget, “good morning,” “did you sleep well,” etc. He was ready to get out of bed...a GREAT sign. We continued to count our blessings as I bathed, dressed and got him ready to transfer out if his bed. We discussed what “our” plan would be now that we knew that there are no blockages, strictures, trips to the OR, etc. I must admit, there was a lot of negotiating going on as we continued with his shaving, tooth brushing and shampooing routine, but the bottom line is that we will take things very, very slow, steak is in the not-so-immediate future (let-alone carbonated beverages) and Whole Foods may become our new grocery store (translation: a higher budget for groceries, BUT easily labeled food until we get the hang of Alan's new diet requirements). Dr. Shriver paid a visit in the morning and we were able to discuss the findings of the CT scan and agree on a plan of action. Dr. Shriver also spent some great time holding Alan's hand and letting him know how much he appreciates him and his patience.
Ruth brought a fabulous lunch which we enjoyed in the family room as we waited for the cardiac chair ordered by Dr. Shriver to be delivered and Alan had some quiet time as he started watching a movie.
Even after lying in bed Monday and Tuesday, Alan was chomping-at-the-bit to go to therapy today and worked extremely hard. He seems to think he can pick up right where he left off prior to surgery and I cannot convince him that there are going to be some areas that will require some work to regain. The therapists allowed him to work on the areas of his choice (trunk control) and he worked so hard he required pain meds as the session ended. Hard-headed, 82nd Airborne Paratrooper!!!! We returned to his room, administered pain medication, started a movie on his DVD Player and he was able to eat 1 tsp of natural peanut butter (peanuts salt) on Ľ piece of a slice of sugar-free, dairy-free, gluten-free, high fiber bread. And, nothing else. We will take small steps and introduce foods one at a time, focusing on is nutritional and physical needs. Of course, Alan’s goal is to walk…which requires a lot of hard work, lots of physical therapy with many calories burned...and, if he wants to eat by mouth, we must guard his caloric intake/output which means that if we are not careful, he will be burning more calories/protein, etc., than he is taking in. The delicate, balancing-act continues. I think you will agree that today’s pictures reflect a patient, determined, tough-cookie.
I am praying for a quiet, peaceful night’s sleep. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Tuesday, October 25, 2005 11:57 PM EDT Dearest Angels:
Alan spent most of the day receiving contrast into his feeding tube for a comprehensive intestinal CT scan. We were finally able to head to Radiology around 3:30 and it was 5:00 before we were able to resume his tube-feeds. The good news is he was able to get another day’s rest as he needed to keep the contrast going and Dr. Callahan also started IV fluids to get him ahead of the game. The GREAT news is that everything looks “as it should” in his belly. The Radiologist was concerned about a spot she saw in the x-ray that was taken yesterday (of chest and abdomen) and since his white cell count was also elevated, Dr. Shriver ordered the CT scan. It appears that the spot is “simply” some constipation which is to be expected considering what his system has undergone in the past two weeks. Okay, I know that of all the journal entries over the past couple of years, this is the one that is going to get me in trouble with Alan. However, considering what his body has been through, we will take a case of constipation any day. In any event, we will keep a close eye on his bowel program and resume oral feedings, at a much slower, non-sugar/non-dairy rate and to learn what position(s) will work best for Alan as we keep an extremely close eye on his nutritional and physical status.
Thank you so very, very much for your continued prayers and support. Please continue to keep Alan’s doctors and caregivers in your prayers. Dr. Shriver graciously paid a visit to Alan’s room late in the evening to share the reports of the CT scan after a FULL day in the operating room, knowing we would not rest well until we knew the results. He has been a tremendous blessing in our lives. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Monday, October 24, 2005 9:49 PM EDT Dearest Angels:
Alan’s morning began at 5:00 am with another bout of vomiting. According to Alan, the only thing that was different from the rest of the night was that he needed to be changed and was lying flat on his back when it all started. Therefore, his tube-feed was turned off until 11:30, which means he did not get approximately 700 calories at a time when we are working so hard to improve his nutritional status and recover some of the weight lost the week after the surgery. I did not protest when he said he was too exhausted to get out of bed today and did not want to do physical therapy. I did manage to get him to do some work with the thera-bands, hand grips and got him to bridge about 5 times when I changed his soiled linen early in the afternoon. He seemed to look better and feel better as the day progressed and enjoyed Heidi’s company, as well as Tracie and Tara’s when they visited in the evening. After Heidi heard about how his morning went, she used one of the bands I had just given her to use with her son (a soldier who was injured in Iraq in an automobile accident) to challenge Alan to several games of tug-of-war; we managed to get some therapy in anyway!
Alan truly enjoyed his time with Tracie and Tara and they told each other lots of funny stories…I could almost imagine what their days on the Comfort must have been like and can only imagine the memories their joint visits to Alan stir for these Angels. It is always so great for me to see Alan surrounded by friends his own age and to see him smiling and teasing them.
I plan on being at the hospital early in the morning and pray for an uneventful night and morning for Alan. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Sunday, October 23, 2005 10:42 PM EDT Dearest Angels:
The weekend started out with a challenge as Alain arrived in Alan’s room on Saturday morning to find that Alan’s tube-feed had been turned off since 5:00 am because, as Alan reported, he had been throwing up. Alain did not think much of it because of last week’s episode, then noticed a container of orange juice on Alan’s nightstand and asked Alan if he had been given juice. Apparently, not only had he been give juice, but it was given so he could take his pills by mouth!! Needless to say, it was a very stressful and disturbing morning for his team doctor and us. Of course, it was also a relief to learn that it had been a nasty error that caused the vomiting, and not intolerance to the tube-feeds. Alan was able to attend his physical therapy session to have a good day without any residual effects of the reflux and we had an amazing afternoon surrounded by amazing women.
We had a special visit from Kim Roche, who was one of Alan’s big Angels when he arrived at SICU in 2003. Kim’s nursing care of Alan made it possible for us to get some decent sleep on the nights she was on duty and we became fast friends. We were honored that she traveled down from Hershey, Pennsylvania, just to see us. It was great to see how much her son, Colin, has grown since we met him. He is now a beautiful, smart, loving 4-year-old, who made fast friends with Alan. We were also treated to a visit from Lisa and her friend, Mary Ellen, who came to visit her from Georgia and generously spent several hours visiting with us and Alan. And, I was finally able to meet Camille DiClerico, Cpt. George Chigi’s mom. It was a day filled with love, support and topped off with a wonderful, relaxing dinner with Fred and Ruth Skolnick.
Today was a relaxing day for me. I was able to sleep in a little and get a manicure as Alain spent the day outdoors with Alan. It was a beautiful fall day here and I joined them at the hospital after spending some time writing just in time to greet Fred and Ruth as they visited Alan. It is such an amazing feeling to feel like we have family surrounding us while we are here. When I think about the other families going through their own journeys with their loved ones while they are at Walter Reed, I have to count our blessings. Our family has grown in amazing ways through this journey and I get a smile in my heart each time Alan meets another one of his Angels (like Fred, today, and Kim and Mary Ellen, yesterday) now that he is aware and can remember them the next time. And, I am so grateful for God’s timing and that Alain can be here with work as well.
Christy continues to enjoy her experience at A&M and was home in Round Rock yesterday long enough to get her hair cut, mow the back lawn, groom the dogs and head back to Aggieland in time to attend a dinner last night and get study groups in today. She continues to remain focused and strong through this latest chapter in our lives. We have been tremendously blessed as parents. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Sunday, October 23, 2005 10:42 PM EDT Dearest Angels:
The weekend started out with a challenge as Alain arrived in Alan’s room on Saturday morning to find that Alan’s tube-feed had been turned off since 5:00 am because, as Alan reported, he had been throwing up. Alain did not think much of it because of last week’s episode, then noticed a container of orange juice on Alan’s nightstand and asked Alan if he had been given juice. Apparently, not only had he been give juice, but it was given so he could take his pills by mouth!! Needless to say, it was a very stressful and disturbing morning for his team doctor and us. Of course, it was also a relief to learn that it had been a nasty error that caused the vomiting, and not intolerance to the tube-feeds. Alan was able to attend his physical therapy session to have a good day without any residual effects of the reflux and we had an amazing afternoon surrounded by amazing women.
We had a special visit from Kim Roche, who was one of Alan’s big Angels when he arrived at SICU in 2003. Kim’s nursing care of Alan made it possible for us to get some decent sleep on the nights she was on duty and we became fast friends. We were honored that she traveled down from Hershey, Pennsylvania, just to see us. It was great to see how much her son, Colin, has grown since we met him. He is now a beautiful, smart, loving 4-year-old, who made fast friends with Alan. We were also treated to a visit from Lisa and her friend, Mary Ellen, who came to visit her from Georgia and generously spent several hours visiting with us and Alan. And, I was finally able to meet Camille DiClerico, Cpt. George Chigi’s mom. It was a day filled with love, support and topped off with a wonderful, relaxing dinner with Fred and Ruth Skolnick.
Today was a relaxing day for me. I was able to sleep in a little and get a manicure as Alain spent the day outdoors with Alan. It was a beautiful fall day here and I joined them at the hospital after spending some time writing just in time to greet Fred and Ruth as they visited Alan. It is such an amazing feeling to feel like we have family surrounding us while we are here. When I think about the other families going through their own journeys with their loved ones while they are at Walter Reed, I have to count our blessings. Our family has grown in amazing ways through this journey and I get a smile in my heart each time Alan meets another one of his Angels (like Fred, today, and Kim and Mary Ellen, yesterday) now that he is aware and can remember them the next time. And, I am so grateful for God’s timing and that Alain can be here with work as well.
Christy continues to enjoy her experience at A&M and was home in Round Rock yesterday long enough to get her hair cut, mow the back lawn, groom the dogs and head back to Aggieland in time to attend a dinner last night and get study groups in today. She continues to remain focused and strong through this latest chapter in our lives. We have been tremendously blessed as parents. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Saturday, October 22, 2005 01:27 PM EDT Dearest Angels:
Alan continues to do well and is enjoying having his Dad around for the weekend. Just a quick update so nobody worries. In His Grace, Rosie
Thursday, October 20, 2005 11:27 PM EDT
Dearest Angels:
Alan’s morning was as close to his routine at home as possible and he LOVED IT! Apparently, he has instructed his nurses and therapists that he does not want anybody getting him out of bed except his mother (I’m silently praying he means Dad, too). When I pressed him about it this morning as we were going through his grooming routine, he said, “I like the way you take care of me and have everything organized, I enjoy having you around me making things fun and I know you aren’t going to drop me.” He sure knows that flattery will get him anything!!! Although I don’t believe that any of the staff working with him would drop him, I’ve wondered myself several times how Alan felt with “new” people, usually 2-3 at a time, getting him in and out of bed. His comment this morning confirmed my gut feelings as I wondered if it was too much stimulation all at once, happening very rapidly, instead of the way we take our time with him and verbally share with him what we are about to do at all times and what we expect him (and his body) to do before we move him.
I had just transferred him to his wheelchair and washed his hair when we were informed that some students from Stanford University were visiting. Alan enjoyed the visit from three beautiful young ladies that were present to thank and support our troops. They are enrolled at Stanford, working in D.C. during the day and attending classes at night. It is always wonderful when young people Alan’s age visit; especially when they are beautiful, intelligent, exude positive energy and have great attitudes. It was almost time for Alan to go to the gym so they said they would leave so he wouldn’t be late and, after checking the clock on the wall, he quickly smiled and responded with, “It’s okay, I’ve got two more minutes.” I think he would have enjoyed their company all afternoon.
Alan’s trip to the gym was extremely productive. He was able to tolerate the standing frame for 16 minutes!!! Although he was up to 2 hours at home, we must remember that he has not been in a standing frame or bearing much weight on his legs in almost a month. The therapists and I were thrilled that he was able to tolerate it as long as he did. My biggest interest in his ability to increase the time he can tolerate the standing frame is that, considering the results of his swallow study, it may be best for him to eat standing up at first so that the food empties from his stomach remnant into his intestines without pressure, as in a sitting position. Of course, that is simply my own observation and something to keep in mind.
After Alan finished with therapy, we headed outdoors and were shocked when we passed through the doors and realized that it was in the 50’s outside!!! He insisted on me pushing him around the walkway in front of the hospital and, believe me, I did it at a brisk pace and we immediately power-walked to the Red Cross office inside the hospital to see if they had a jacket or wind-breaker for Alan as his was at the Fisher House. Praise God, they had the fleeciest, hooded lumberjack looking jacket that fit Alan perfectly. The gentleman then insisted on gloves, a neck pillow, a crocheted afghan, another lap throw and even a “girlie” lap throw for mom (which they both got way too much enjoyment out of, if you ask me). We returned to Alan’s room around 3:00 pm and I anticipated that he would want to return to bed after his time in the gym. Nope! He insisted that he was fine, he would stay in his chair, wanted me to start a movie for him and to recline his wheelchair a little bit and he promptly fell asleep…for 2 hours…right through the movie. Of course, the setting was perfect since he had been out in the cold, brisk air, returned to his room with a warm blanket over his lap, we closed the blinds to block out the glare from the window, turned off the lights to avoid the glare and he had worked out really hard.
I took advantage of his deep sleep to go in search of a family about whom I received information from First Baptist Church in Georgetown, Texas. The Prayer Warriors at FBCG have cocooned our family in prayer and knew there was a reason I needed to visit this family. I know it is no coincidence that, after calling the parents and learning of where their son was in the hospital, it turned out that he is in the exact same room as Alan, one floor below. I assured them that there would be many, many prayers for their son and their family trickling down from the room above them…and throughout the United States. Their son was injured in an auto accident in Iraq a couple of months ago and, after undergoing brain surgeries in Iraq, has remained in a coma and there are many issues with seizures, medication, responsiveness, etc. All I know to do for them is hold them, visit with them, pray with/for them and hopefully provide some measure of hope 2 ˝ years into Alan’s journey. It was good to see the soldier’s mom visit with Alan for almost an hour before she learned of his medical history, his long road and the fact that he had suffered a stroke. Please keep this sweet family in your prayers as they begin their journey from the wounds of war.
Alan’s TV bit the dust today when we returned to his room, so I left him watching movies on his DVD player late this evening and made sure he had plenty more near him in case he wanted to watch more or if he woke up very early. I could not help but chuckle each time (about every hour or so) that he pressed the Call Button when I wasn’t watching and, when asked what they could do for him, he would say into the intercom, “Fix my TV.” Of course, I reminded him that a work-order had been issued and admonished him that it would probably be tomorrow before anyone could come and take a look at it. He would agree with me each time and then proceed to bug the folks at the nurse’s desk anyway. It took all I had to contain my laughter as I left for the day, walked out of his room, past the nurse’s desk, heard a nurse respond to a patient’s call button, and I heard a familiar, “Fix my TV!” In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Wednesday, October 19, 2005 11:14 PM EDT Dearest Angels:
Our prayers continue to be answered in amazing ways. Alan’s tube feeds were started out slowly around noon yesterday and gradually increased to almost pre-surgery rate. He has tolerated the rate extremely well and we began re-introducing his water through the tube-feed as well. Since today is the last day for antibiotics and we can run his water through the tube (for now), it means he will be free of IV’s and we can have a little more freedom when he wants to leave his room as we can use his portable pump and simply tuck it in his backpack. We will most likely re-introduce food by mouth very, very slowly and make sure that his nutritional status, white blood cell count, etc., are normal before depending on normal foods for nutrition. Alan is in agreement and he and I decided it would probably be next week before we begin introducing foods by mouth again, one kind at a time.
The day was absolutely beautiful, so after putting Alan in his wheelchair, I took him outside for an hour and it was evident that he was really enjoying the sunshine. He also did so well without the oxygen that, after visiting with his doctor, we decided that Alan is ready to wean off the minimal oxygen support while he is out of bed and only use it while he is in bed, sleeping or if the rate drops under 94 xygen saturation. We continued to check it hourly (at Alan’s insistence) and he remained 97-99 aturated - without the oxygen support.
Our original plan was to go out for a little while, watch a movie while he was in the chair and then return him to bed. He got to watch most of the movie and then had a special visitor as Chris Isaak stopped by to visit. He thanked Alan for his service, his courage and spent some good time with Alan. After hearing of Alan’s story, he was very moved and impressed by Alan’s attitude. He shared, when we were out in the hallway and visiting with Ruth and Lisa, that he could tell that Alan had a great spirit, amazing attitude and just knew that he was “quick witted.” It was also special that Ruth and Lisa were visiting as Lisa is a BIG fan and especially since it was her first real outing since she was released from the hospital. It warms my heart to be able to share pictures of her and Alan looking so well, considering the scare they gave us Sunday and Monday. Two walking testimonies of answered prayer; Praise God!!!
Well, Alan was still feeling so well after everyone departed; he insisted he did not want to return to bed until 7:00 pm!! He was in good spirits and resting comfortably when I left around 9:00 pm. His physical/occupational therapy sessions have been moved to 1:00 pm (from 9:00 am), so it will give us a little more time to spend on personal grooming tasks in the morning, ease into the day and I am hoping will also make it easier for him to be out of bed for longer periods of time.
We had the privilege of being introduced to a young man (and his mother) that has many of the same medical challenges as Alan. He received a gunshot wound to the abdomen in Iraq during June and lost many of the same organs as Alan. I believe he was very encouraged at seeing Alan’s progress considering that Alan also suffered the stroke, contracted meningitis, incurred so much tissue damage, endured so many surgeries and is wheelchair bound. Eric is walking, talking, has one drain tube and is already back up to 140 lbs. (from 160 when he was wounded). I pray that Alan’s journey will help him and his mom in some small way. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Tuesday, October 18, 2005 6:58 AM EDT Dearest Angels:
Alan was finally able to fall into a deep sleep around midnight and, except for a couple of vitals and IV fluids checks by staff, slept through the rest of the night. They came to draw blood at 5:00 am and the team was in to see him around 6:00 am. Alan reported that his tummy feels better and it actually even feels better to the touch, not as taut and bloated. We will probably not restart tube feeding until around noon, and start out slowly and work our way back to normal at a very slow rate.
After the doctors left and Alan went back to sleep, I headed downstairs in search of a cup of coffee and prayed as I walked the halls to the elevators. When the doors to the elevators opened and I stepped in, there were several young men there; a double arm amputee, a leg amputee and a young man who appeared to have lost his vision in at least one eye and was being led by another young man. I stood in that elevator with a lump in my throat, grateful for the journey we have walked, knowing that Alan’s wounds are, for the most part, healed, and believing that the current challenge will also pass and Alan will again succeed.
I sit here, looking out of Alan’s window as the sun rises, with an extraordinary feeling of peace knowing that God will continue to carry us and to shine His face upon Alan. In His Amazing Grace, Rosie
Monday, October 17, 2005 10:50 PM EDT Dearest Angels:
Alan said he felt weak when the physical and occupational therapists were getting him up for bed, and he complained of pain in his belly. After getting some medication for pain, he was able to tolerate being in his wheelchair and actually had scrambled eggs for breakfast. He is still only able to eat small amounts, but at least he is getting to taste different foods. He also had a tiny bit of lasagna for lunch and some pudding mid-afternoon.
Unfortunately, for the second day in a row, there has been some reflux after he is transferred back to bed. Of concern to me is that there were some tiny bits of undigested egg, which he had eaten almost 6 hours earlier. He and I decided that tomorrow he would only eat lunch and we would see how he does when he is transferred back to bed.
Thank you so much for your prayers for Lisa, she was discharged from the hospital this afternoon and her voice really sounds stronger. Let’s pray that the worst is over and she can begin to recover. As a Social Worker, Lisa has spent many years making things easier for others, especially including the past 4 years as she helped so many families after the Pentagon was hit on 9/11, and the many, many soldiers and families that were treated at Walter Reed. She has given so much to so many that I wish I could make all the yucky stuff go away in return.
Well, I wrote the above update about 7:30 this evening and planned on posting it when I returned to the Fisher House. I am now (10:50 pm) adding to the update as Alan has been vomiting several times this evening and I plan to stay by his bedside throughout the night. Although the nurse is only a call-button away, it is too difficult for Alan to handle the suction wand, stuff in his mouth AND a call button, and I am too afraid that he would end up with the fluid in his lungs if not suctioned out of his mouth immediately; especially if it is accompanied by a coughing fit and he cannot manage to call the nurse. For now, his tube-feeds have been turned off to rest his digestive tract and he will have to sleep in an almost-sitting position. Your steadfast prayers are tremendously appreciated. Cocooned in Prayer, Rosie
Saturday, October 15, 2005 11:57 PM EDT Dearest Angels:
Alain and I had a terrific dinner with David, Tracie, Tara and Jay, after David and Tracie visited Alan last night.
Alan reported that he “slept all night” in his new room and appeared rested when we arrived at the hospital early this morning. We spent the morning bathing him, unpacking his things and settling in before moving him from his bed to his own wheelchair. Although I had some applesauce ready and I was waiting the 30 minutes after he had been sitting upright before introducing food, he did not want the applesauce once he saw that meatloaf and mashed potatoes were on his tray. Imagine that!
As a result of our (Alan’s and my) report to Dr. Shriver regarding Alan’s oral intake on Wednesday and Thursday, and taking into consideration his pre-Albumin levels, it was determined that Alan’s tube feed needed to be slowly increased to their pre-surgery levels, with eating by mouth being for pleasure and to determine what Alan will/will not tolerate. Therefore, the bland/clear diet restrictions were lifted and Alan and I can experiment with all foods to determine what he can tolerate. We have already learned that 30cc’s is about all he can handle per hour, but have faith that in a few months, he will either be able to tolerate that much every ˝ hour, or a little more volume each time. It is amazing how much easier our lives are just by getting rid of two drain bags and not having to change his ostomy bag every few days. Of course, transferring him is not just easier, but safer as there are fewer tubes to worry about.
I made a run to the grocery store this afternoon and picked up some fun foods (Jell-O Pudding Sundae’s, yummy fruit yogurt, etc.) for the times that the food from the kitchen is not appealing to Alan. Dr. Shriver has also allowed us to bring Alan anything we want to try. Of course, everything has to be very well cut up and he knows he must chew everything very, very well and get it to a liquid state as the opening to his stomach remnant is only about one inch wide and not flexible as metal staples are permanently in place. Therefore, we must be extremely careful that he never swallows a mouthful of anything that could clog the entry way and must give enough time for food to work its way out of the pouch prior to introducing more food. It will be a delicate balancing act and simply another challenge to overcome on this amazing journey with our son.
We had the pleasure of spending the evening with the Skolnicks as Lisa recovers from surgery and before Fred and Ruth travel to Austin on business; too funny to think that they will be in our community while we are in theirs. I wish we could be there to show them around and to welcome them into our home as warmly and unconditionally as they have welcomed us. Well, I guess that means they will just have to come back when all the Babins are back in town and allow us and our friends show them a real Texas welcome! In His Amazing Grace, Rosie
Sunday, Oct. 16, 2005 2:30 EDT Dearest Angels: Please storm the heavens with prayer for our friend, Lisa, as she is back in the hospital after a long night with bleeding, has already received 2 pints of blood and has been re-admitted to the hospital. Her parents have decided not to fly out to Austin today and will remain by her side. We will continue to lift her family up in prayer as well. Thank you for being such prayer warriors. We know that your prayers are answered and it doesn't cease to amaze me that whenever things get tough, I immediately think of reaching out to you. God Bless You.
Friday, October 14, 2005 4:54 PM EDT October 14, 2005
Dearest Angels:
Alan began his day with physical and occupational therapy and had 30cc’s of oatmeal for breakfast. He did great, except that when it was time to have some Jello-O an hour later, he was only able to tolerate 15cc’s because he felt “too full.” He still felt full at 12:00, so I think tomorrow we will start out with the clear stuff and save the oatmeal for his last intake.
Alan is doing so well; he has been released from Surgical ICU and moved to Ward 68, Room 41, where he will probably remain until he is discharged back to San Antonio. We continue to be so grateful for the amazing Angels that cared for Alan in SICU. They continue to receive the incoming wounded and continue to need our prayers.
We are looking forward to seeing Tracie and David Lattimore as they come to visit Alan this evening. Tracie returned aboard the Comfort Hospital Ship last night and it is humbling to find that she will make time out of her homecoming to spend time with Alan and us, and we are so grateful to David for sharing their special time, and Tracie with us. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Thursday, October 13, 2005 8:17 PM EDT Dearest Angels:
Alan enjoyed 30cc’s of broth for breakfast and, I wish I could have captured the look on his face when he smiled, closed his eyes and said, “Chicken!” Rather than using a straw with the fluids (because he absorbs it in two sips) I measured out 30cc’s by teaspoonfuls and, instead, fed him with a spoon so that he could enjoy the food intake in 5 swallows instead of 2. He then had Beef broth an hour later and, because he said the back of his throat was sore, I gave him cold cranberry juice an hour after that. I’m sure the intubation during surgery, the NG tube and nasal trumpet irritated the back of his throat.
I was so proud of Alan as he was able to tolerate sitting at the edge of the bed for 2 minutes and then pull himself to a standing position with the walker, and stand for 2 minutes. He was also able to tolerate being in the chair for about 3 ˝ hours before returning to bed. We all agreed that 5 hours was probably too much, too soon, and he was able to remain awake longer this evening.
Alan's vitals continue to remain stable and there is talk that, if there is a bed available in a step-down ward, he may be able to transfer out of ICU tomorrow. Praise God for an amazing recovery!
Thank you to all the Angels taking care of our home; it has been a blessing not having to give it a second-thought, knowing everything, including the dogs, is taken care of. May God richly reward your compassion and generosity, as I cannot imagine that we will ever be able to repay you for what you have done for our family. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Wednesday, October 12, 2005 9:51 PM EDT Dearest Angels:
I arrived in the wee hours of the morning to a smiling Alan who greeted me with a clear, strong, “Good Morning!” He was able to tolerate 30cc of cranberry juice (one of his favorites), without any reflux, aspiration, tummy cramping or belching. Yippeee!!! And, he was able to tolerate being in the chair for about 5 hours straight, having sat on the side of the bed and then stood for a few seconds before being placed in the chair. All of that was followed with an immediate round of chest percussion and surgical-site dressing changes as soon as he returned to his bed. Needless to say, he was sleeping hard by 5:00 pm and was still sleeping soundly when I left in the evening. As an added blessing, his vitals were ALL in normal ranges for the first time since the surgery, so I believe he has turned the corner towards recovery. Now we will focus on retraining his digestive tract and stomach to tolerate fluids, get him moving and get him some decent rest and sleep so he can recuperate.
Lisa is recovering from her surgery, still in hospital and we thank you so much for your prayers for her and her family.
The weather has turned chilly in DC and the leaves have begun turning colors. The glory of God’s beauty is all around us and I cannot wait until we can take Alan outdoors again so that he may be able to enjoy the majesty of fall. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Tuesday, October 11, 2005 10:49 PM EDT Dearest Angels:
Alan’s swallow study went EXTREMELY well this morning. I was a little concerned after the fluoroscopic traditional scans were taken and, although there was no evidence of leakage, Dr. Shriver just did not appear satisfied. He, the team, the radiologist and I peeking over their shoulders all reviewed the results and, when he requested additional specific, multi-angle scans, it was determined by the radiologist that they could only be accomplished if Alan was standing. So, the surgical team surrounded Alan and, with arms/hands supporting Alan’s body on the x-ray table, sustained his weight so he could be in a standing position for some scans and then lying on his right side for the others. I had to work at maintaining my composure as Dr. Shriver stood by Alan’s side (where I usually stand) and wiped his brow, stroked his head and reassured him as Alain and I do, while he underwent the necessary scans. And, you can imagine my joy as I “thought” I saw some contrast (on the monitor) trickle out of Alan’s stomach pouch and into his intestines, but since I don’t know how to read an x-ray, thought I might be “seeing” what I wanted to see…until I heard Dr. Shriver, with a smile on his face, emphatically say, “Yes! That’s what I wanted to see!” I think we would have been high-fiving had they not been supporting all of Alan’s weight. He is scheduled to begin clear fluids at 6:45 am tomorrow, so I want to be by his side and hopefully snap a couple of pictures.
The day continued to be blessed. We returned to his room and he requested his electric shaver and toothbrush, which to me is a sign that he must be feeling better and we finished just in time for physical therapy to appear, along with a standing frame, and Alan was able to use his arms and bear enough weight to push himself up from a sitting position to a standing position. Although he was only able to tolerate it for about 30 seconds, he was able to accomplish it with the epidural still in place administering meds, which I’ve been informed is extremely difficult. The bonus was that the anesthesiologist appeared to remove the epidural just as we stood Alan, so he was thrilled that Alan was in a perfect position for removal of the tubing from his back! We returned him to his bed after he had been in his chair for about 2 ˝ hours and he continued to do well. I left for some lunch and some rest and received a call that Alan was headed to Radiology for a CT scan to rule out a pulmonary embolism. Of course, I was shoveling down my lunch to return to SICU when I received another exciting phone call…Tara was visiting!!!
Tara and I got to catch up a little bit as we waited for Alan to return from radiology and it was sweet to see the look on Alan’s face when he got a look at Tara. He had only met her when he was still very ill and under many narcotics while we were at Brooke Army Medical Center in San Antonio the latter part of 2003. Although he has seen pictures of her and spoken with her on the phone, it was the first time he had met her when he was fully aware. As she walked away after visiting for a couple of hours, he said to me and Stephanie, with a smile on his face, “She is so pretty.” Tara has just returned from being on the Comfort while it was deployed to assist the victims of Katrina and it was very good to see her and know that the rest of those sailing with the hospital ship, including Tracie, are on their way home.
And, we had TERRIFIC news on the results of the CT scans; no blood clot in the lungs!!! It is “just” pneumonia and the appropriate antibiotic course has been started. I will continue to make sure that Alan keeps moving and that I do whatever possible (and accessible), while counting our blessings that he is able to be monitored in ICU until he is pneumonia free, his nutritional needs are being met and is ready to begin discharge planning. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Monday, October 10, 2005 9:29 PM EDT Dearest Angels:
Although Alan continues to show daily improvement from his abdominal surgery and op site, he continues to battle pneumonia, now also in his right lung. His white cell count crept up in the past 24 hours and he sounds “rattley” again, and just looked tired and not himself to me as I left this evening. He is scheduled for the swallow study at 9:00 am tomorrow and we are praying it all goes well, and then he will be able to begin on clear fluids. His nurse Stephanie (who was his nurse in 2003 many, many days) will be with us tomorrow and our plan is to get Alan out of bed and standing tomorrow. I have his socks and shoes in his room and just BELIEVE that if we can “un-pancake” his lungs, he will be able to breathe better and get air down into the challenged airways. Although he has been out of bed and into a chair every day, it’s just not the same as moving and sitting up. I may see if Dr. Shriver will let me take him to the small physical therapy gym and get Alan on the arm bike…even for just a couple of minutes. Please keep him in your prayers.
Our friend (and BEST Social Worker ever), Lisa Skolnick, is scheduled for a planned surgery at 11:00 am tomorrow. Please keep her, her family and her surgical team in your prayers. Her family has supported us tremendously during this journey and we pray that God will shine his face upon them and show Lisa favor during her surgery.
One of my fellow Fisher House mates lost her husband this evening and she will head home tomorrow morning to break the news to her daughters. Please keep this sweet family in your prayers…God knows who they are. I praise God for this man’s life, his and his family’s sacrifice for our Nation. In God’s Grace, Rosie
Saturday, October 8, 2005 10:42 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Just a quick update to let you know that Alan continues to improve, to cough stronger, the x-rays show improvement in his lung and his white cell count continues to improve. Alain spent the day with him today and reported that Alan enjoyed his visit with Cpt. George Chigi III and his mom, Camille. George was the commander of the gun trucks that provided protection for Alan after he was wounded until they could get him to an aid station. Alan continues to be surrounded by Angels.
We were blessed to spend the evening with The Skolnicks, had a great time celebrating Alan's improvement and each other's company. We shared many laughs and it was heart-warming to realize how many tears of joy we have shared on this visit to DC versus our first visit. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Saturday, October 8, 2005 12:18 AM EDT Dearest Angels:
Our prayers are being answered. Alan’s white cell count dropped from 17,000 to 14,000, his temperature has been normal, and he has been able to produce strong, productive coughs this afternoon. Let us pray that between respiratory therapy and his strong coughs he can clear his lung and not need another invasive procedure.
We were extremely blessed this afternoon with a visit from Dr. Shriver to check on Alan’s status and resulted in Alan being moved to his old room! Once the order was given, it did not take Lorraine long to make sure the room was wiped down, cleaned and ready for us to move in. For those of you not familiar with Alan’s room from the 7 months that we were in Surgical ICU at Walter Reed, it is a corner double room that is used for a single patient, with walls, two doors, mini-blinds, etc., and made it possible for me to get Alan some uninterrupted sleep IN AN ICU SETTING!!! For the afternoon and evening, Alan was the only patient in the ward, as they are expecting a medevac with 4 soldiers wounded in Iraq. Especially with so much anticipated traffic, it is a blessing to be in a room where we can shut out some of the activity and get Alan some rest.
Alan had old friends visit this afternoon. Our Congressman, Judge John Carter, had not seen Alan since our last celebration at home and Gretchen Hamel, his Press Secretary, had not seen Alan since we last left Walter Reed. It was a blessing to see the look on their faces as they saw Alan and heard his voice as he greeted them. Gretchen was telling him that she had been following his journey every day, had heard “all about him and what a rock star” he was and he quickly replied with, “don’t believe everything you hear!” We spent some great time with Alan, celebrating life and grateful for the sacrifice of our military men and women. Not only was Alan in great spirits, but when Gretchen told Alan she bet OU would beat Texas this weekend, Alan said, “No!” They got into a betting match and, since he will hopefully be eating soon, Gretchen bet him that if Texas won, she would buy him a pizza. He immediately pulled his right hand out from under his sheet and made her shake on it! We all had a good laugh and enjoyed each other’s company for a while.
We are always so blessed to be around Judge Carter, his family and his staff. Their visit was, of course, made even more special with Judge Carter leading us in prayer. Again, Alan’s old room continues to be covered in prayer and I was refreshed and re-energized after their visit.
Alain does not have class this weekend and will be able to spend the holiday with us on Monday. We are looking forward to seeing him and Alan is really looking forward to hanging out with him on the weekend. I am looking forward to some time “off” from the hospital while Alain is around and I can get all our laundry out of the way for the week. Although WRAMC will be down to a skeleton crew for the weekend, Alan is being very closely monitored and the SICU continues to be well-staffed for the wounded arriving from Iraq. Please continue to keep them and their families in your prayers. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Thursday, October 6, 2005 11:40 PM EDT Dearest Angels:
Please keep Alan in your prayers as he has been battling with fluid in his left lower lobe – this morning’s x-rays showed it very socked in. Because his heart rate had remained elevated, they decided to run tests and the x-ray showed the fluid. They also did an EKG this afternoon and we should have those results tomorrow. The team, and Dr. Shriver, is keeping a very vigilant eye on him, doing all the respiratory therapy, meds, etc., but I have learned that specific prayer works miracles. Even through his breathing challenges, Alan’s spirits continue to be great and he is trying to cough and move the gunk even with a huge incision running down his belly. He actually wanted me to wash his hair and shave him while he was in his wheelchair for 2 ˝ hours this morning. He then spent the day watching (and dozing) movies. I finally forced him to take a power nap, made sure all his meds and procedures had been given and scooted everyone out of his room, drew the curtains and he was able to sleep for a little over an hour. He woke up looking a little more refreshed and his heart rate was a little better.
I was able to get away for a nice dinner and company with the Skolnicks and just peeked in on Alan on the way back and he was resting comfortably. They will continue percussion therapy to keep everything loose and moving and we will get him out of bed again in the morning. The days of praying at his bedside for so many months in 2003 were very fresh in my mind today. Cocooned in Prayer, Rosie
Wednesday, October 5, 2005 9:01 PM EDT Dearest Angels:
Alan was able to tolerate having his bed in a “chair” position for almost 7 hours, reclined the bed and rested for about an hour, and then asked to be placed in “chair” position again! Around 5:00 this afternoon he started watching a movie and was able to stay awake for the entire Matrix movie. When I commented that he looked MUCH better, he said, “I feel much better,” and we actually heard his voice. Until then, he was pretty much only mouthing as his throat is sore from being intubated for 9 hours and from feeling the NG tube (a temporary one) in his throat. Imagine having something the size of a flexible straw in your nose, down the back of your throat and into his stomach! I asked him if I could take a picture to post on the web site so everyone could see how well he was doing and he immediately nodded. The nurse could not believe he actually smiled when I snapped the picture and was calling him the toughest trooper she had ever met.
I am back in my room at the Fisher House and am going to bed. I was WAY too excited about the success of the surgery last night and only managed to catch a couple of hours sleep. So, after the emotional roller coaster of this morning, I am spent. I took a good, long bath, put on some comfy PJ’s and am looking forward to a good night’s sleep.
I promise to continue to keep you updated. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Wednesday, October 5, 2005 11:33 AM CDT Dearest Angels:
Please keep Alan in your prayers as he goes through recovery. He’s had a challenging morning as the morphine they administered for pain did not agree with his system. His breathing was much slowed and we have been working all day to keep him stimulated, awake and with his eyes open, which helps keep his breathing up. He is being weaned off the morphine and will be switched to something else and scheduled to be moved from the bed to a cardiac chair for a couple of hours this afternoon. As you can imagine, he is being VERY CLOSELY monitored and has an amazing nurse taking care of him today.
I am not able to have my mobile phone on in SICU, but I will post an update this evening. Other than the challenge with the breathing, he is doing very well, is responsive, mouthing words and wanted me to bring back movies so he can watch on his portable DVD player…all great signs. So, I’m off to the hospital with movies, his own pillow and will spend the rest of the day with him. Grateful for God’s Blessings, Rosie
Tuesday, October 4, 2005 11:45 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan is settled into Surgical ICU and being very well taken care of. Several of the nurses that were here in 2003 are still there and clearly remembered Alan and his journey. I was also extremely surprised when the nurse finally came to escort us from the waiting room and it was one of the male nurses that had been assigned to Alan at Brooke AMC in San Antonio, has been activated with his Reserve unit and is at Walter Reed SICU!!! So, there are many Angels keeping an eye on him tonight.
The surgery was a great success with more of Alan's stomach available to attach than they had originally thought and it has it own blood supply rather than leaching off the esophagus which is very positive. He was able to respond to those around him and did not have to be placed on a ventilator which they had available just in case. Alain asked Alan if he could put the TV on the Sci Fi channel and got a quick "no" reponse. Some things never change! He mouthed, “I love you,” as we said goodnight and we left the SICU as we felt it was more disruptive for Alan for us to be there. There were so many folks that wanted to say hello and glad to see Alan and us, that he was trying to stay alert and awake and what he needed to do was rest, and the staff needed to focus on settling him in, getting his orders and meds processed and so we left to get a bite to eat, spend a couple of hours together before Alain headed back to Quantico for class and celebrate another day of life, God’s Grace and count our blessings.
We spent a great time in the Lord with Dr. Shriver after he reported on the surgery and Alan's upcoming recovery. He was so thorough in describing the procedure and possible challenges that it answered all the questions I had prepared in anticipation for Alan's discharge (and details that I envisioned his next team asking). Although we have not seen each other daily, Dr. Shriver has stayed up to date on Alan's progress through Caringbridge and we are grateful for his presence in our lives. His respect and committment to Alan are evident and we are so blessed that he agreed to perform Alan's reconstructive surgery. We, as a Nation, are blessed to have surgeons of Dr. Shriver's caliber in Military Medicine.
Please keep Alan in your prayers as he recovers and that his body will begin producing stomach acids and enzymes so that he can process food normally. He will be placed on clear liquids in about 7 days and could be eating steak in 2 weeks!!! He has been making a list of foods he wants me to cook and I may have to start doing some of that while we are still here!
We have stayed in touch with Christy throughout the day and she is doing well, concerned for her big brother, but also able to pick up on the fact that Alan’s voice sounded stronger and clearer than before when she spoke with him before his surgery this morning.
As an added bonus, I was blessed and privileged to have spent Rosh Hashanah with Lisa, Fred and Ruth Skolnick. Although this was a special day of celebration and New Year for them, they attended services this morning, then brought lunch and spent the day keeping me company and making the hours seem like minutes. How blessed I am to have such dear, dear soul-mate friends and to spend the day getting to know each other better and creating tighter bonds.
I just called SICU and Alan's nurse reports that he is resting comfortably. His heart rate was a little elevated a while ago but, because pain is to be expected, he has received a little more morphine in his IV and his heart rate is slowly decreasing and he is sound asleep. She will continue to monitor him and make sure he is comfortable and not in pain. As you can imagine, I made sure she was aware what a “tough cookie” he is and that he will deny pain and tough it out and she agreed that now was not the time for him to be a tough guy and would make sure he was comfortable. I’m off to bed as I want to be with him early in the morning; although I have taken a long, warm bath, I am still overly excited at God's work in our lives today and will do my best to get to sleep and get some rest. I hope you can understand that I just want to shout out the great news from the Highest Mountain of the Good News in our lives this day.
Praise God for another day of life! Let us pray for no infections and rapid healing of the rejoined areas in Alan's abdomen; all our hard work in keeping his ostomy site healthy, clean and without skin breakdown has paid off HUGE dividends! Thank you for your part in Alan's recovery. Forever Grateful for Your Prayers and Support, Rosie
Tuesday, October 4, 2005 5:00 PM EDT Sweetest Angels:
Alan is in recovery!!! We just spoke with Dr. Shriver and Alan is doing great. They were able to keep the stomach remnant and found that it had its own blood supply and was not parasiting off the esophagus. He will be in SICU in a few minutes where we'll be able to join him, remain there for a couple of nights and then back to Ward 65. The main thing he said was that all of our patience has paid off. It was the perfect timing for the surgery. Of course we all know that all things work out when we leave it up to God's timing.
We are off to see our son, without his guts hanging out, and will continue to update you. I will post an update once I return to the Fisher House later tonight, after seeing Alan. Much love, Rosie
Tuesday, October 4, 2005 04:10 PM EDT Tuesday, October 4, 2005 04:10 PM EDT
The OR nurse just called; Alan's vitals are stable and THEY ARE CLOSING HIS ABDOMEN!!!! We should see Dr. Shriver in about 30 minutes and I will do a more detailed update then. Praise the Lord!!!
Tuesday, October 4, 2005 11:13 AM EDT Just got an update from the OR; Alan is doing fine, vitals are stable. They are presently reviewing his anatomy to determine the best course of action. Let us pray for wisdom, strength and endurance for the medical team and perfect healing for Alan.
Tuesday, October 4, 2005 8:18 AM EDT Dearest Angels: I have been informed that Alan's surgery could last up to 7 hours. I am it the 5th Floor Waiting Room (Women's Breast Center where Dr. Shriver's office is located) and they will keep me updated. I will post updates as I receive them. So, no news is good news. Alan is scheduled to go to Surgical ICU, Room 14, after recovery. Alan was in great spirits and smiling at everyone as we wheeled off to the OR. As I left him and told him he would do great he said, "Yeah! Cause I'm a Babin. We take a lickin' and keep on kickin'!" Needless to say, the anesthesiologists were in stitches as I walked away. Yours in Christ, Rosie
Monday, October 3, 2005 10:00 PM EDT
Dearest Angels:
Alan has completed his last CT scan necessary for tomorrow’s surgery. He is in great spirits and you should have seen the look on his face when Dr. Shriver informed him that, if all went according to plan, he would be able to eat by mouth within 5-7 days and when Alan said, “steak!” Dr. Shriver said that it could be possible in 2 weeks….if very well cut up. Alan was beaming and giving thumbs-up.
Alan is scheduled to be rolled out of his room at 6:30 am tomorrow, for a 7:00 am surgery lasting approximately 4 hours. Dr. Shriver explained that depending on how much blood flow is feeding directly to the stomach remnant will determine whether they keep it or whether they attach the intestine directly to the esophagus. Pray for great blood flow! They will place a PEG tube in as back-up until we know for sure that Alan’s nutritional needs are being met orally. However, for the next 5-7 days, there will be no food introduced to allow the sites to heal and Alan will be on IV maintenance. We had a great time in prayer with the team and I plan to be with Alan for some private prayer time before he heads off to the OR.
I had the distinct honor of meeting the young man that was the first to reach Alan immediately after he was wounded, and started an IV. I was at the Mologne House yesterday evening when a beautiful young man and a gorgeous young lady passed by me in the lobby. Something in me just knew to him as went past and, sure enough, it was Jesse Walker and HIS Angel. I could not hold him long enough without embarrassing him and we spent a few minutes together. I look forward to re-introducing him to Alan and to getting to know him better. As I shared with you before, Jesse was wounded in Iraq this past summer also and is at Walter Reed for continued care. However, he has come such a long way that he is able to do it out-patient while living at the Mologne House. Please keep Jesse, and his family, in your prayers.
Alan has been very busy this past weekend and had lots of visitors. Alain and I were able to take him to the National Mall and he toured the World War II Monument, Vietnam Veterans Memorial, the Korean Veteran’s War Memorial, the Lincoln Monument and the first memorial placed in the nation's capital honoring women's military service. The sculpture depicts three women, one caring for a soldier. And, although Alan was very somber as we toured the other Memorials, he immediately removed his hat as Alain wheeled him around the nurse’s memorial.
He was wide-awake when I arrived this morning and he was excited to open a package received from Ryan Langerhans, a former Round Rock alum and now a member of the Atlanta Braves. Ryan sent Alan a game-used bat with a special get-well message and Alan immediately told me to “get a mount for my room so I can put it on my wall.” By the way, Ryan’s mom taught Alan and Christy at Round Rock High School and Ryan has kept up with Alan’s story through Patty Rassmussen, Captain Matt Rassmussen’s mom. Alan served with Cpt. Rassmussen in Iraq.
I am taking so many pictures while we are here, that I am going to upload them to a Yahoo Web Page so you can view them all. I will continue to upload a select few to the website for those that don’t want to have to go to another link, but too many things will happen that I will want to share and there is not enough room to put it all on here. The link to the pictures is:
http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/babinette1978/album?.dir=/688a&.src=ph&.tok=ph.iIuDBqqYU5Hwp
Plus, you can find the link below for future reference.
Thank you for your continued prayers, I know we will be covered in those tomorrow as we wait for Alan’s surgery. Please lift up his surgeons, anesthesiologists, nurses and all those involved in his care as they care for OUR hero. I will update the website as soon as he is out of surgery and will do my best to update before going to bed tomorrow. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Friday, September 30, 2005 10:04 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Beginning early in the morning and continuing into the afternoon, Alan spent much of the day in radiology, undergoing studies of his digestive tract, swallow status, etc. As Alain was finally bathing him in the afternoon and Ruth Skolnick and I were leaving his room to give them some privacy, we ran into his team “power-walking” to Alan’s room with GREAT news for us. The only way I can describe the look on their faces as they walked towards us is that they were beaming. After looking at some of the films, they determined that there is a little more stomach remnant than initially anticipated (THAT’S answer to prayer) and that things are not as far under his chest cavity as they could have been, which makes their job much easier. Dr. White said that although it doesn’t mean he’ll ever be able to eat a “full” meal at a time, it means that he can have a little more at a time than anticipated and it also means that he may have a little more “enzyme” action in the stomach remnant than expected. It was hard not to ask to “high five” all of them as Ruth and I just smiled at each other and then tried not to cry at the great news.
After his bath, he returned to radiology for another scan, under contrast, of his colon, then Lisa, Ruth and I met them outside for some sunshine and to enjoy the beautiful weather. It is strange to be in 74 degree weather after leaving 103 degree weather on Monday!
After returning to his room, we were informed that Ear, Nose and Throat wanted to do a scope study of his traech to see what sort of challenges they would have intubating him for surgery. Again, GREAT news as Alain and I witnessed the Doctor passing the scope down Alan’s nose, throat and beyond his old traech site. Her comment was that it was “remarkable” how great the tract looked considering he had a traech in for 2 years…thank you Dr. Gilbey and all those Respiratory Angels that did such a great job managing his airway and to the ENT doctors that closed the traech site.
Alain and I had the pleasure of joining Angel Tracie’s sister, Carrie, for an evening at the DC Improv tonight and had a good hard laugh…much needed prior to surgery next week! Alan has been granted a pass for tomorrow and Sunday, so we plan on taking him to see some of the monuments tomorrow as well as getting him out Sunday early afternoon. He will begin pre-op scans on Sunday evening and more pre-op procedures Monday, so we will make good use of the passes this weekend as he and I will be hospital-bound for a few weeks and Alain begins the National FBI Academy on Sunday. And, as an added bonus, we were moved to the Fisher House yesterday!!! So, I am now unpacked, settled in and in a home environment for the remainder of our stay. We are so grateful for the Fisher House Foundation, the USO and all those who make it possible for families to be with their loved ones as they recover from the wounds of war.
I’m off to get some shut-eye, but will upload some pictures over the weekend of our great time outdoors this afternoon. Thank you all for your continued prayers, support and love. Alan has enjoyed the guest-book messages and I will continue to read them to him.
Many times today I found myself counting my blessing for the people that God has placed in our lives, and how different this trip to DC has been. It was so wonderful to have friends around me to share the events and experiences of today and for others to feel the joy that I do in walking this journey with Alan. It truly is a privilege. Grateful for Answered Prayer, Rosie
Tuesday, September 27, 2005 9:31 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Another HUGE milestone! We arrived at the San Antonio airport at 4:00 am and were scheduled for a stopover in Memphis (without getting off the plane) at 8:00, with a connecting flight to DC. Well…..we were informed as we arrived in Memphis that we would, including all the flight crew, be moved to a different plane. My heart skipped a beat as I realized that Alan’s wheelchair was in the belly of the plane, we would be the last one’s off the plane, and were 30 gates away from the new flight. With God’s grace, not only was the transfer smooth, but there Alan and I went, with all the flight attendants, pilots, and escort power-walking to the next gate. Upon arrival to the gate, we learned that they had Alan in the first seat in first class for easy transfer and me 13 rows away. As the flight attendant (a retired Army medic, by the way) was explaining to the boarding agent that Alan was Iraqi combat wounded, that I was his mother traveling with him and full-time attendant because of medical/feeding needs, a businessman stepped up and immediately volunteered his seat, next to Alan. I could not keep the tears from blinking out of my eyes. I promise, I tried. And, you can imagine the lump in my throat as Alan reached out, shook his hand and said, “thank you,” and the look on his face when the man thanked him for his service and welcomed him home. Then, as an added bonus (and I just know God was sitting there giggling at what he was doing) a sweet Angel walked up and said, “Mrs. Babin?” In Memphis, Tennessee!!!! It turns out this lady lives in Round Rock and has been keeping up with Alan’s journey through the local news media and recognized us from pictures in the paper, etc., and has been praying for Alan and us since learning of his journey! Needless to say, I got my hugs and we boarded for our flight to DC. Alan received many well wishes, welcome homes, and a couple of pins from fellow travelers, and the rest of our trip went smoothly as we headed to Walter Reed.
Alan was greeted by Dr. Paul White, who will be leading Alan’s surgical team (and was in surgical rotation with Alan when we were here in 2003 and performed many, many surgeries on Alan) and it was very special to me to watch Dr. White wheel Alan to his room knowing the condition Alan was in the last time Dr. White saw him, and to listen to them actually hold a conversation. I managed to snap a picture but will have to wait until I have my laptop to upload it. I spent most of the afternoon giving “report” on Alan’s care and routine to the Interns, Nurses, and settling him into his room. We also had the privilege of seeing several other Angels from our prior stay at Walter Reed. And!!! I had my first dinner date! Lisa Skolnick came by to see Alan, make sure we were settled in and not in need of anything, and then we headed off to dinner at one of my favorite pasta places from when we were here in 2003. I am so grateful for the blessings that continue to be bestowed upon us and for your love and support.
I am lodged at the Mologne House on the Walter Reed grounds until a room becomes available at the Fisher House, so I am within walking distance of the hospital.
I last spoke with Alain around 5:00 pm and he was just outside Lexington, Kentucky, getting ready to call it a day, and will head to DC tomorrow. Please continue to keep him in your prayers. Counting Our Blessings, Rosie
Sunday, September 25, 2005 11:39 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Another HUGE milestone for Alan is upon us. He is Soooo ready for his digestive reconstructive surgery and we are blessed to be returning to a team that was instrumental in Alan’s recovery during his stay at Walter Reed in 2003. As of now, he is scheduled for lab, pre-op work the latter part of this week with surgery early the following week. We know that it will happen in God’s time and continue to be grateful for Alan’s continued recovery and progress.
We depart for the first leg of our trip to Walter Reed Army Medical Center in Washington, D.C., tomorrow morning. We leave Round Rock around 9:00 am on Monday, Sept. 26th, headed for admission at Spinal Cord Injury Center in San Antonio for a hospital-to-hospital transfer. We will then depart Spinal Cord for the airport around 3:30 am Tuesday, Sept. 27th. Flight info follows: Northwest Airlines Flight 1864K Depart SAT 6:18 am Memphis Stopover (we do not deplane) Arrive Washington National 11:59 pm
Alain will depart for DC after dropping us off in San Antonio and returning to Round Rock. I will send my laptop with him so will probably not do an update until Tuesday night after Alan is settled in and I have access to a computer at Walter Reed.
For those that have shared concern for Christy, I am grateful to report that she is absolutely thriving at Texas A&M and we speak daily (most days multiple times a day) and she has been very involved in the Hurricane Rita volunteer efforts during the past week. Should we be in DC longer than 5-6 weeks, we will do our best to have her fly in to visit Alan.
We are extremely blessed to live in our neighborhood and continue to be surrounded by Angels. Our home and pets will be cared for, watched, visited and blessed by our neighbors daily. My brother Art, and his wife Sonia, will also be in/out of the house regularly along with the boys. I cannot imagine my house without my "monkey boys" visiting and bringing life and laughter to our home. Counting you Among our Blessings, Rosie "Every time you cross my mind, I break out in exclamations of thanks to God. Each exclamation is a trigger to prayer. I find myself praying for you with a glad heart" Philippians 1:3-4
Sunday, September 18, 2005 8:47 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan had a terrific week capped off with attendance at the Alamo Chapter of the 82nd Airborne Division Association, held in Austin this month. Not only was Alan the Guest of Honor, but also received several gifts and awards. Special among those were a hand-made combat helmet liner and a tile retrieved from the ruins of one of Saddam Hussein’s palaces. The tile had been presented to Gen. Guy Meloy, who resides in Georgetown, just north of Round Rock. Gen. Meloy prefaced the presentation to Alan by saying that he “could not think of anyone more deserving” to pass the tile down to. In addition to the privilege of accompanying Alan to the meeting, I was also blessed with a gift from Gen Meloy’s wife. For my “contributions” to the 82nd Airborne Association, I was presented with a decorative pillow bearing a cross-stitched All American logo that was presented to Mrs. Meloy in 1980. I will display it proudly and treasure it always.
It was a busy Sunday as Tim picked Alan up so they could attend church together and then they attended a movie. We were blessed by my sister and her family’s company as they came to spend some time with us and Alan before we head off to Washington D.C. next week. We should have exact times, dates, etc., in the next couple of days and I will make sure to post them. We are extremely grateful to God for bringing us to this neighborhood 11 years ago and for surrounding us with the best neighbors, great Americans and true Angels. As we prepare for our trip, they continue to surround us with support, love and to take care of our home and responsibilities so that we can focus on Alan and Christy and to make it possible for us to do whatever necessary to assist Alan in his recovery to total health. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Psalms 27:14, "Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord."
Wednesday, September 14, 2005 10:05 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Praise God, Sharon has finally started feeling better. Thank you all for your prayers; she, her family and friends truly appreciate them.
Alan continues to do well. We did a little bit of work this morning while he was still in bed, sitting at the side of the bed and then we pretty much had an “administrative” day as I spent time making arrangements for our trip back to Walter Reed. The plan is to admit him to the Spinal Cord Injury Center in San Antonio on Monday, Sep 26th and then transfer us from there to Walter Reed the following day. He is scheduled to begin pre-op labs the latter part of the week, with surgery following early the following week (1st week of October) and I will be housed at the Mologne House or Fisher House while he is in the hospital.
He immediately gave me “high fives” when I walked in and told him I was finalizing travel arrangements for his surgery. As he said, he is tired of having his “gut hanging out” and is ready for his surgery. We are so extremely blessed with such a special son and equally special people that love him. We have begun receiving e-mail from our friends back east (I call them our East Coast family) offering support, transportation and company. Counting our Blessings, Rosie
Monday, September 12, 2005 6:11 PM CDT Alan’s work and attitude continues to impress me. He tolerated the standing frame for several hours this morning while Alain worked with him.
Our day began early as our friend and front-door neighbor, Sharon’s, surgery was this morning and she had to be at the hospital at 6:00 a.m. Her surgery (to straighten out her nose from her fall) went very well and she was in the recovery room by 8:00 a.m. Recovery should have lasted an hour and a half and then be released for home…not that easy. She is experiencing a lot of pain, was very dizzy and not well at all. Because of her Multiple Sclerosis, there was no way we were going to attempt to transfer into her scooter and leave the Surgical Clinic. I returned home at noon so Alain could go to work and our friend, Chris Marcus, down the street relieved me to stay with Sharon. Finally, around 2:30, she was better enough to be dressed and transferred to her chair. Chris and I transported her back in the van and got her settled in. As of right now, she is still not comfortable and in pain from being flat on her back in the OR. Alain and I just left her house after repositioning her pillows, legs, etc., let us pray that the pain meds will bring some relief and that she will get some rest; especially, that this does not exacerbate the MS.
Alan has been so patient today as we focus on Sharon. He insisted he would be fine and could stay by himself while I drove to pick Sharon up. He said, “I have my phone, I’ll call you if I need anything.” His love and patience continues to be a lesson for me daily. Thank you for your continued prayers for our dear friend. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Thursday, September 8, 2005 9:18 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan has been working very hard and keeping up with the news. Until now, it is the most interest he has shown in news and has been praying for the evacuees, as have the rest of us.
We have also been blessed by visits from several friends and those stopping by to wish Alan well in D.C., to offer help and to let us know they will be praying for us. It is so uplifting to know how much support surrounds our family. And, I was reminded again today that I have not provided Christy's new address to some of you that requested it and, honestly, have lost track of who all wanted it and I apologize. Her new mailing address is: P.O. Box 2739, College Station, TX 77841-2739.
We are blessed to remain in touch with Tracie and Tara and are grateful to be receiving updates from Tracie as they sail towards the Gulf coast to assist the victims of Hurricane Katrina. Let us continue to lift all those affected by the storm in prayer. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Saturday, September 3, 2005 12:49 AM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan continues to improve and we have spent the last week working hard and praying hard for our Americans affected by Katrina. When we heard that the USNS Comfort was heading to the area, we just knew that Alan’s Angels would be aboard and began praying for them and grateful that they will be able to provide the level of care, compassion and assistance that they did for Alan over two years ago.
I sometimes feel like I ask for so much from you, but your Angel network can move mountains. Our front-door neighbor, Sharon, who is in a scooter as a result of MS was side-swiped in her van several weeks ago. Although she and her daughter were not hurt, the van with the wheelchair lift has been taken to the shop for repairs and she will be without her hand-controlled van for 4-6 weeks. In addition to that, she took a tumble out of her scooter and has suffered a broken nose and possible damage to an eye socket. I thank God for Mr. Perot’s generosity in providing a van for Alan and I have been able to assist Sharon with transportation to and from the hospital. She learned yesterday that she will more than likely undergo surgery next week and so I ask you to please keep her in your prayers and for safety and strength for all of us in the coming week.
We will continue to focus our prayers on those who have lost so much and to count our blessings for the bounty in our lives. Tracie and Tara, know that we are praying for you and your shipmates and thinking of you constantly. Thank you for what you do. Yours in Christ, Rosie
Sunday, August 28, 2005 11:42 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan had an amazing week and continues to work very hard. We have been focusing on aspects of daily living more and you will be pleased to know that he is now able to take off his own shirt (as long as I raise the back to around neck level, and leave it there, because he wants to do the rest) and put on his own shirts. Pants and shorts are a little trickier, but we are working on those as well. We had the privilege of attending the Viet Nam Vets Appreciation Party on Saturday and continue to thank God for the privilege of being among these heroes and for the support they continue to bestow upon Alan, and us. As usual, Alan departed at the end of the day with an arm-load of gifts and “prizes” that others win and simply turn around and shower on Alan. He must have enough ball caps to wear a different every week of the year! He was also presented with a beautiful commemorative knife and hand-made mesquite wood case, by two Vets that had actually bid hundreds of dollars for the items and won the bids. It was moving to watch them present Alan the gifts and their words of gratitude and encouragement. Okay, so I cried.
After a while outdoors, we sat in the van with the air conditioner running to cool off a little and were watching a movie when one of the Vets came by to check on us and noticed that Alan was watching a VHS movie. Well, that just isn’t good enough for Alan, he decided, so he marched over to his RV and returned with a portable DVD player for Alan!!! Not only will that make the next hospital stay a little better, but he plugged it in to the van’s TV and now Alan can watch his DVD movies as well! Thanks, Doc!!
I spent the afternoon and evening today with Christy at College Station and she is all settled in and had a fabulous week. She thoroughly enjoyed participating in Rush Week, attended lots of parties, met many wonderful young ladies, was invited to join Delta Gamma and joyfully accepted. I had the treat of touring their Sorority House this afternoon and enjoyed meeting some of the members. It is good to know that she has a “home” environment at A&M where she will spend some evenings during her Freshman year, and where she will most likely live during Sophomore year.
And, between a virus that was sending legitimate e-mail to my Spam folder and lots of traffic in/out of the house last week, I have lots of mail to respond to and promise to catch up and respond in the next couple of days. I apologize for unanswered mail, but am heading off to bed for today.
We count our blessings as we get to celebrate another year of Alan’s life tomorrow as he turns 25! Praise God for Another Year of Life! Rosie
Sunday, August 21, 2005 9:16 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Whew!!! What a week!! We had an amazingly busy week, both with Alan and Christy. Alan has been working very hard and is looking forward to his surgery. Christy had a terrific time at Fish Camp and spent the last couple of days at home packing, having breakfasts and lunches with friends she would not see for a few months, spending time with Nick and AJ and catching a couple of movies with us. It was a blessed day today as we accompanied her to Texas A&M; especially with Alan joining us. I drove her Explorer (and had some quiet driving time) while she and Alan watched a movie in the van as Alain followed me. We spent the day getting her moved into her dorm, taking her to lunch and showing Alan around the campus some so he had an idea of where Christy is living. It was 109 degrees at College Station, so we did not stay outdoors very long.
We hugged long and hard all around and are so excited for this new chapter in Christy's life. Alain and I counted our blessings as we drove home and are so grateful for the privilege of living in this great country, with its great opportunities for learning and the freedoms that we enjoy. We heard from her around 8:30 this evening and she and Allyson are settled in, looking forward to Gig’em Week and classes begin on August 29th. Counting our Blessings, Rosie
Monday, August 15, 2005 9:28 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan had a fantastic day, continues to work extremely hard and to speak more. We had a very busy, but productive day. Lately, I am reminded of when he was a little boy and wanted to know the “why” and “when” about any given event. He cannot wait to travel to Walter Reed for his reconstruction surgery and is counting down the days. He also says he wants to see the people that helped him, and us, so much during those first months after he was wounded. I am so grateful that his attitude regarding the surgery is one of hope rather than dread. I know it will make all the difference in his recovery. We are also hoping that we will be able to see SSG Jesse Walker when we return to WRAMC. Jesse was the first to reach Alan when he was wounded and is now fighting his own battle towards recovery at WRAMC after being wounded on June 30th. Please keep him and his family in your prayers.
We all had a great weekend and I had the blessing of spending the morning with Christy yesterday as I drove her to College Station. She is attending Fish Camp through Wednesday afternoon and was really excited about meeting new people. She sounded really good and rested when she called today and, from the greetings in the background as people walked by, has quickly made lots of friends. It sounds like they are in 10-12 bed cabins and doing lots of team-building activities. She will return for 3 days, wash, pack her clothes and we will all travel with her as she moves into her dorm on Sunday (21st). Where did the summer go???
Thank you so much for your prayers and support for my Mom. The surgery went extremely well and she continues to report that she feels very well and was actually able to have ice chips and Jell-O within 24 hours of her surgery. I pray that her recovery continues without complications and that this is all behind her soon. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Tuesday, August 9, 2005 10:35 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan’s progress this week has been amazing. His legs continue to grow stronger and he is doing so much of the work while getting out of bed, into the chair and in/out of the standing frame. He is up to 2 hours in the standing frame! He now works on his writing and arm weights while in standing and we even played “patty cake” while he was in the frame this morning. Initially, he could not meet his hands exactly together but after about the 10th time, he was more and more accurate each time.
We had a special treat on Saturday as my Mom and my siblings and their families arrived for the weekend to support and encourage Christy as she gets ready to leave for college, and to see Alan before we leave for D.C. next month. Saturday we enjoyed swimming, sitting on the deck, watching the kids swim and each other’s company while we had a great time catching up and grilling into the evening.
An added bonus for me was to get to see (and love on) my Mom before she goes in for her reconstructive surgery this Friday. All her tests and radiology results from last week look great. Praise God that she has healed well as she is SO ready to be rid of the colostomy. Of course, she absolutely insists that I not leave Alan’s side and kept assuring me over the weekend that she believes the surgery will go smoothly and hopes to come spend a week or so with Alan and me once the doctor allows her to travel. Please continue to keep her in your prayers.
We have enjoyed having my niece and nephew visiting for the week and Christy has enjoyed spending time with them and Nick and AJ. Praising God for Family, Rosie
Wednesday, August 3, 2005 9:33 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan is truly growing stronger and counting the days down to his trip to DC. He has been speaking more, calling friends on his mobile phone and practicing with his Reach Tablet. He has had some great visits with friends and spent a beautiful time in the Lord with Bernie yesterday, who stopped by specifically to pray with Alan. God is so good to us.
We received some sad news yesterday, but are so grateful to God for His Grace. Alain’s grandfather, John McGeoghegan, passed away while sitting up in bed enjoying the company of his next-door neighbors of many years (Malden, Mass.). They were paying him a visit at the nursing home and said that at one point he just took a breath, exhaled and passed on. He was the sweetest, most loving man, who adored his wife and cared for her as she disappeared into the grasp of Alzheimer’s until her death about a year ago. Please keep the Alain, his parents and siblings in your prayers as they say goodbye to a wonderful man and their last living grandparent.
Please continue to lift up the families of those who have made the ultimate sacrifice for our Nation. As you know, it has been a difficult week for many Marines and their families and they, and all our troops, continue to need our support and prayers. Alan’s 82nd Airborne Unit has also re-deployed to Afghanistan and we continue to lift them up in prayer. And, at the risk of asking for too much, please lift up Emmanuel Melendez-Diaz. He is the young man whom we met, along with his parents, while we visited Walter Reed in June. Emmanuel spent 5 months in “Alan’s room” in Surgical ICU this past year and has undergone many of the same procedures to his digestive tract; he is scheduled to have his intestinal reconnection surgery tomorrow and we pray for no complications, total healing and peace and comfort for his family as they remain by his side at Walter Reed. Although it is in Spanish, you can post get well wishes to him at www.caringbridge.org/dc/emmanuel. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Thursday, July 28, 2005 8:08 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
It has been a busy week, for both Christy and Alan, as we get ready for their respective travel deadlines. Christy will be away for Fish Camp August 14-17, return home to pack for the Fall Semester and then we will accompany her to College Station August 21 to move her into the dorm and she will attend Gig’em Week prior to starting classes on August 29th. She is really excited about college life and we are excited for her.
Alan has worked extremely hard this week and continues to ask questions about his pending surgery, how he is “wired” and repeatedly asks how he will be “wired” after the surgery. He also came to the realization this week that, even after the surgery, he will not be able to eat by mouth right-away. Although we have explained it several times, I think it finally clicked that his internal organs will need healing time prior to food being introduced by mouth. I am grateful that he understands, is taking it in stride and pray that it helps minimize any anxiety he may have as the time draws near.
We were contacted by Dr. Shriver, his surgeon at Walter Reed, to formalize a surgery date and Alan is now scheduled for pre-op the week of the 26th of September, with surgery the early part of the following week.
Alan continues to get stronger, to talk more, to write better, to enjoy Chuy more and to get better with the Reach Tablet. He and his therapist, Mendy, have programmed the communication device so that if Alan has any challenges communicating (is intubated or in a traech again) he can simply use a mouse, stylus or infrared “mouse” dot on his forehead to press certain buttons that will “speak” his needs. Some of the phrases Alan requested were along the lines of “move my legs,” “I’m hot/cold,” “close the door,” “I am in pain,” etc. He has also enjoyed reading the Guestbook entries as the Tablet has a wireless modem so he has access to the Internet. He is also multi-tasking when we do his therapy and combining therapies. I believe you will enjoy the pictures of him in the standing frame AND LIFTING WEIGHTS!!! Remember when he could barely last in the frame for a few minutes, while he held on to the platform for dear life?! I also think you will enjoy the picture of him with his hands behind his head…lying in bed. I know his therapists from the past two years will appreciate how far he’s come since the days of barely getting his arms up to his chest. Cindy, enjoy!!
Please make it a great weekend and know how much we appreciate your continued prayers, love and support. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Sunday, July 24, 2005 11:30 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan is looking so great to us and continues to progress. I began working with him going from a sitting position on the side of the bed and pulling himself up on the walker. Although he was only able to do it once on Thursday, you should have seen the determination on his face as Christy encouraged him and cheered him on and the look of satisfaction on his face when he was finally able to stand “tall and proud” on his own with me only laying my hands on his arms gently to help stabilize his balance. After he stood for a few seconds, he sat down and then we transferred him into his wheelchair. By Saturday, he was able to stand with the walker 4 times!
Alain spent some great therapy time with him today working on wheeling around in the manual chair better and worked some more on hand-writing. Alan’s penmanship is really coming along and we are grateful for the improvement as he prepares for another surgery. We are praying that communication will not be an issue as it was during the first year of his medical journey. With God, all things are possible. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Tuesday, July 19, 2005 10:07 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan has been working very hard and enjoying company from friends the past couple of days. His speech is also really coming along and it was great to listen to him visit with Angel Tracie when she called him this evening.
I truly thank you for your e-mails and guestbook entries. It has been a privilege to read them to Alan. I have heard from several Angels that the timing was good because it is easy to forget how much Alan, and his caregivers, went through those first few months. As you know, Tracie’s family has a special place in this journey and have graciously allowed us to share some of their family’s communications regarding Alan with you. I hope you have an easier time of getting through Tom’s (Tracie’s Dad) letter than I have. I was only able to read it to Alan this evening because I could not get through it without crying; especially now that I know Tom, have heard him offer moving toasts, recite “The Long Grey Line” and have witnessed the love with which he looks at Tracie. I thank God for the Brown’s presence in our lives and for touching a father’s heart the way He did, through Alan. Although I managed to get through the letter without tears, Alan did not:
Tracie,
I had to go over to Walter Reed Hospital today for some minor stuff...anyway, while I was there, I decided to see if I could visit Alan Babin--the 82nd Airborne soldier you were taking care of on the Comfort and whose story was printed in the Austin American Statesman. I stumbled around wards until I found his and asked if I could see him. The nurse said she'd have to ask his parents if it was OK. The nurse asked who I was, and I said "Tom Brown," and she had just turned to go into Alan's room to ask Alan's parents about me when she saw them waving me in, and she said, "Well they know you, it's OK to go in." Of course they'd never met or talked to me, but they heard my name, they figured I was Tracie's dad, and that was all they needed to know.
There they were, the two of them, standing by Alan's bed and doing what they could for him. He looks alert, but appeared to have all kinds of things plugged into him and totally helpless. His mother and father are very positive, and they are prepared to do whatever it takes to get him back to health. His mother says he gets better every day, and the plan is for him to stay at Walter Reed until he is strong enough to move to Brook Medical Center in San Antonio. His father talks to him and strokes the top of his head like I'm sure he did when Alan was 3 months old.
As I said, he is alert and I know he can hear and know what is going on, he just can't move much more than his eyes. When I would talk to him, his answers were an almost imperceptible quiver of his lip, but I knew he was communicating with me. When I left, his father asked him to wink at me and he did this immediately. I'm sure there is a treacherous road ahead for Alan, but he couldn't have better family support than he has with his mother and father.
His mother told me they were Army and were in and around Landstuhl when you were a baby there...I got the impression that maybe we had unknowingly crossed paths in Germany. Funny.
Well, you can read the letter below from Alan's mother to the many people she keeps informed about Alan's condition to get more details, but I don't want the moment to pass without saying this: All positive talk and medical miracles aside, Alan wouldn't be alive without the people who have taken care of him--I can justimagine how much worse he was when he came in off the battlefield.
And there's this thought for you: You may be busy, and you may not have had the time to reflect on what you are doing, but I want you to know that we all know what a big difference you are making in people's lives. Alan's mother talks often about "Alan angels" (a class of people), but when she talks about you, she talks about "his angel" (in the singular)...and she made a point of showing me the picture of you (his angel) she keeps by his bed...still watching over him. You should be proud.
Keep up the good work. DHC.
Love, Dad
Rosalinda's letter:
-----Original Message----- From: Rosalinda Babin Sent: Monday, April 28, 2003 9:27 PM
Dearest Angels:
We just got back to the room and are spent. So, rather that re-type, I will share with you part of our letter to Christy and that will bring you up to date. It is clear to us and every person that treats Alan that he is truly in God's hand. He is unbelievably strong and has a strong will to live.
The Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, and his wife, General Richard B. Myers were in to see Alan today. They were so gracious and supportive and grateful to Alan for his service and willingness to put his life on the line for another. It was very moving and humbling to see him with Alan. He presented him with a "Challenge Coin" from the Joint Chiefs of Staff. What an honor. Mrs. Myers will be praying for Alan. They have daughters of their own and asked how Christy was doing.
Thank you again for your support, and mostly for your faith-filled prayers.
Here is part of our letter to Christy:
Alan has a long way to go, Sweetie. It may be months and months before he is better. And it will be weeks if not months before he leaves D.C. They have had to re-open his abdominal cavity because the skin did not "take" and rather than mess with the integrity of the skin, they just undid all the stitches and have opened it again. They have a very wonderful team that placed a sterile gauze over everything and then there is a layer of film (like contact paper that sticks to the surface of anything it touches) over everything. They will take him in to surgery every 3 days to change it and make sure everything is perfectly clean and working right. He is scheduled for surgery again tomorrow.
He has some burns from the reaction to some medication they gave him to try to keep him alive, those are being worked on and it will be a long time before they can do surgery on that.
The good news is: he is no longer on sedative (drowsy) medicine, that means that after he gets our of recovery after surgery, he knows that we are there and he is awake most of the day and one of us is always standing at his bed-side at all times. He winked back at Daddy today and I have been suctioning the spit out of his mouth throughout the day and this afternoon he actually motioned with his cheek that he had stuff in his mouth and I knew exactly what he wanted - suction!
I am learning to read his few facial expressions and so is Daddy. They were showing MIB II today and he looked at Daddy and looked at the TV and looked at Daddy and when he turned up the TV, Alan smiled and they watched the movie together. Daddy has started reading Oblivion's Altar today - and is reading it out loud so Alan can hear his voice. They both seem to enjoy that.
I spend my time holding Alan's hand (with anungloved hand as much as possible because we have some wonderful nurses that allow that and understand the need for human touch, but we also have a nurse Cratchet that I have yet to get a smile out of BUT THERE'S TIME!!!) and catching up on thank-you cards and letters to people we need to thank.
Daddy loves you and misses you very much and we are constantly asking the Doctors to please let us know as soon as you and Alison can visit. For now, it is too difficult for them to accommodate anyone except us. I will give you the GO as soon as they give us the go.
I love you very, very much and cannot wait to hug you again. Mom
So you can see why we are spending so much time rejoicing in Alan’s amazing progress in the last 3 months and for God’s grace. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Sunday, July 17, 2005 9:13 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan continues to work hard, get stronger and talk more. He is also remembering “snippets” of memories of some of the guys with whom he served.
We were tremendously blessed on Friday morning as Dr. Jim Orr and Sue Orr made time in their lives to accommodate Alan for a dental cleaning. Although they were totally prepared for a five minute session, if that was all he could tolerate, he did beautifully and was able to tolerate a full cleaning and is good to go until January. He kept running his tongue over his teeth for the rest of the day. On Saturday, we had the privilege of visiting one of Gary Henley’s recently completed projects. As you know, Gary was instrumental in the building of Alan’s room addition to our home. Premier Animal Hospital has a beautiful new building at 1431 and Parmer, Alan really enjoyed the Open House and now wants me to make an appointment for Chuy.
We have received some amazing e-mails for Alan and it has been deeply moving for me to read them to him. Before I read Tracie’s e-mail to him, I asked, “You remember who she is, right?” He immediately nodded his head, smiled and said, “Yea, she’s my savior.” We discussed sharing his and Tracie's experience together on the Comfort with Alan's Angels and he said, "We have to." Tracie gave us permission to share her entries and we do so because it will be easy for you to see why our family fell in love with her and how she helped us cope with not being able to see Alan for ourselves for 26 days after he was wounded. I have realized in the last few days that many of you have never seen Alan's departure from the Comfort, so we are sharing some of those early pictures.
10 April …I did get an email asking about a marine out here who went to round rock, in Austin Texas. I wrote back saying that I was not allowed to give out information. However, if the family had not been contacted I would get in contact with the doctor for them. The patients name is Alan. He is in bad shape, but much better off then he had been. He is still on a ventilator. He had a gun shot wound through his abdomen. His liver was nicked and now packed, spleen as well, and now with bowel resections. Chest tubes are in place. I will keep checking up on him until he is off the ship…
11 April …I also got a letter from Alan Babins parents. They asked me to read it to him and post it for others to read to him. I could not do it because I was crying. I had the nurse read it to him. When I went by tonight I checked and it was posted on his bed. I also emailed the family back and asked if they had any pictures I could show him. I told them they could email me some pictures and I would post them at his beside. They sent back an email that they are getting some pictures ready to send. I will continue to check in on him. Once he is off the vent, I will go see him more often…
12 April …I stopped by to see Alan Babin on the way back from doing my laundry. I went in and read the letter to him. He is intubated, chest tubes, open abdomen, and possibly septic. I started talking and he opened his eyes. I asked him to blink twice if he could hear me and he did. I told him who I was and that him mom was emailing me. He started to cry and so did I. I read him the letter. I cried, he cried, and the corpsman taking care of him cried. I also printed out the new pictures and told him who was in them. I held his hand for a while. I also told him Allison his girl friend was waiting for him to come home. After I left, I emailed his mother and let her know that I would go by everyday and hold his hand and talk to him. I hope it helps both of them get through this…
13 April …After that I went to see Alan. He was doing much better. He was much more alert. I also called his mom and spoke to her. It was obvious that it meant a lot to her…I also got to call David for just a few minutes. I used my turn to call Mrs. Babin, which I know he understood…
14 April …I also printed out a new letter for Alan form his girlfriend Allison. I had two more from friends of his family. Plus, one new picture of guys from the police station with a banner for him…I did manage to call David and my family. After that I took pictures and letters to Alan. Unfortunately, they had just given him a lot of morphine to do am care. They told me that he had been really alert and answering questions. So I read him the letter and showed him the picture. Before I started I asked he wanted me to read it now. He blinked two times to respond that he did. I read it to him, but I will also go back and read it again when he is more awake…
15 April …I was up all night. I did not have time to check my email or go see Alan…after work I went back to back to see Alan. He did not look near as good as the day before...
16 April …Things were busy again, I did not have time to check my email or go see Alan…After washing dishes I went to see Alan. I sat with him for an hour. I held his hand the whole time. He was spiking 103.0 temps. He looked up at me the entire time. His eyes never shut. I read him the letters and showed him some pictures. After a while the staff had to do am care. So I said that I had to go. “I will be back this afternoon.” To this he closed his eyes and stopped squeezing my hand. It made me realize he did want me there after all. I will go see him this afternoon. After leaving him I sent his mother a quick letter…
17 April …I checked my email, ate dinner, and then went to see Alan. They were trying to get him settled. He went to surgery again. They closed him up a little more and put in a tracheotomy. He had been intubated until this point. In any case, I did not stay because he was trying to rest…
18 April …I went to see Alan and read to him. He is doing well. I imagine he will be taken to a land based hospital soon. He is stabilizing. I wrote his mom to get more pictures as well as music he would like. I will start playing it for him to listen to…
19 April …Tonight I called Alans mom from the ICU. I told her I was putting Alan on. Then I woke up Alan and put him on the phone. His parents got to speak to him. As soon as he heard their voiced his eyes got really wide and then he got tears in his eyes. He looked like he tried to stay awake for a couple of minutes. Then he fell asleep. I was happy knowing the he recognized their voices. I hope, and think, it was very special for him. His mom told me that every time she thinks of something to do for Alan, I write within hours asking about it…
20 April …after Easter service I went to see Alan. I put his girl friend on the phone with him. After a couple of minutes I said, “okay I am going to take the phone away. Blink if you don’t want me to.” He blinked frantically. Then a couple of minutes later we did the same routine again. Cozz gave me her only rap CD and I left that with my CD player at Alan’s bedside. Cozz, Rivera, and I went around asking people to donate CDs because we did not have any rap. All the people donated CDs. No second thoughts about it. People (mostly enlisted) gave one of the few precious commodities they have out here. And they did it without hesitation. They gave him good CD’s too! Not just the ones they did not want anymore. People continued to come by and drop them off in the ICU. When all was said and done we had colleted 50 really good CDs. I had already given him my CD player, with all his new cd's I had to leave the case as well. Lol. One corpsman included a note. The generosity was really touching…
21 to 24 April …I lost some days in here…things were busy….I went to see Alan a lot in this time…Alan left yesterday morning to fly off the ship. I took pictures of the helicopter as he left. I held his hand for a while before he left. I talked to him. He just stared at me. When I asked him if he wanted dm to call his mom, he smiled and shook his head. It was so sad and yet such a happy moment when he was preparing to leave. I could see he was nervous. Yet he knew he was going home. I said my goodbyes and left…
We are so grateful to God for placing this Angel in Alan’s and our lives and for Alan’s continued recovery. By the way, her CD player is still the one that goes with Alan anytime he is hospitalized. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Thursday, July 14, 2005 10:42 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan continues to improve by leaps and bounds. His fine motor skills are really coming along and, you will see in the pictures, at a fast pace this week. Nintey-five percent of his pool lift has been delivered, we are simply awaiting the “wooden deck anchor” and they can come install it. Let us pray it arrives soon and we can have an easier time of getting Alan in the water. As it gets easier for Alan to read, I am trying to provide him with cards and letters that you previously sent him since he does not remember much of the first year-and-a-half of his journey. I would greatly appreciate it if you would send him accounts of experiences you have shared with him and what his journey has meant to you, especially those of you that served with him in Kuwait and Iraq and those who were a part of his evacuation from Iraq and along the long road to Walter Reed. You can either post them on the Guestbook or, for those of you who wish to keep your messages private, you can e-mail them to me at rosalinda@alansangels.com or to Alan directly at alan@alansangels.com. I had the most amazing telephone call this evening from one of Alan’s Angels. As most of you know, the Prayer Ministry at First Baptist Church in Georgetown, Texas, has cocooned us in prayer from the early days of Alan’s injuries suffered in Iraq. While Alan and I were in Minneapolis, I received an e-mail from Gayle Parks, the Prayer Coordinator, sharing an e-mail with me from another mother that was at Walter Reed with her son. I will share the part of the e-mail that pertains to us with you:
…And just a special note for Alan's Angels: Today, I met someone from The Water Reed Society who commented about the extraordinary spirit that the patients have shown, despite very serious injuries. She mentioned one particular patient, a medic, whose spirit never faltered. She told me his mom had been made an honorary Army nurse for her care at this young man's bedside. The Walter Reed Society representative was delighted to learn recently from his parents that he would be able to return soon for a visit. I asked his name; and she replied, "Alan Babin." I told her our church is among those who have been praying for him.
What a comfort it is to be part of the family of Christ.
Thanks for being there for Jim and Alan!
Blessings, Darlene Kirchner
I had the privilege of counting our blessings with Darlene on the phone tonight and found myself with a smile on my face during our entire telephone call. Her son, Jim, is now home in Georgia, convalescing, and recovering well. Listening to her share about her time at Walter Reed I felt as if I had been right there with her, walking the same sidewalks, praying the same prayers, and grateful that our sons survived. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Monday, July 11, 2005 11:00 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
Alan continues to work hard and has been able to tolerate the standing frame both in the morning and the afternoon, and is doing most of the work while transferring from bed/chair/standing frame using the transfer board. I pray that he will be able to sit at the side of the bed on his own by the time we leave for Walter Reed in September. Praise God, preliminary plans are going well and Alan’s entire team both in Texas and Washington DC are all on the same page.
The rest of the summer, our plan is to help Alan get stronger, get Christy ready for college, get ourselves and our home organized, and spend time with family and friends as we prepare to be away from home for months, again.
Alan and I were working on some occupational therapy today as we heard the news that 700 paratroopers from the 82nd Airborne Division will deploy to Afghanistan in the next two weeks. He looked at me and said that if he had not “been shot” he “would be going back with his unit." It is difficult to imagine what must go through in his mind in the quiet hours of the morning before we get busy with his day. Even though he does not have a memory of the battle when he was wounded, he still feels like he should be with the unit. We will continue to lift up our military, their families and our leaders in prayer. I know how what those families are going through as their loved ones are about to deploy and my heart aches for them. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Thursday, July 7, 2005 10:11 AM CDT Dearest Angels:
We have just been informed that Alan took the Silver in the Motorized Rally event during the Wheelchair Games last week. His study of Minnesota facts paid off! As you can see in the home page picture, it was a gorgeous day, with the temperature in the 70's and a beautiful one and a half mile walk around the lake at Como Park. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Tuesday, July 5, 2005 9:48 PM CDT News Release
Local Veteran Competes in National Veterans Wheelchair Games
Minneapolis, Minn. -- June 29,2005 -- Alan Babin, a disabled Army veteran from Round Rock, Texas, is competing in the 25th National Veterans Wheelchair Games, being held through July 1 in Minneapolis, Minnesota. With nearly 500 athletes from 45 states, Puerto Rico, and Great Britain, this is the largest annual wheelchair sports event in the world. All athletes are military veterans who use wheelchairs due to spinal cord injuries, certain neurological conditions, orthopedic amputations or other disabilities. Babin, 24, a combat-wounded veteran of Operations Iraqi Freedom/Enduring Freedom, is a quadriplegic. He is currently receiving care at the VA medical facility in San Antonio, Texas.
Babin is competing in the following events:
bowling - ramp (hand control) motorized wheelchair rally
"I have been looking forward to participating in sports again." said Babin. "This is therapy for me." Competing in the Wheelchair Games will be Babin's first involvement in any organized wheelchair sporting event since he was injured while serving as a medic in Iraq.
Athletes in the Games compete within three divisions — Masters (over age 40), Novice (first-time competitors in the Games), and Open (all others, or those who chose to compete in this category). They also compete within classes according to the level of their physical ability, with three quadriplegic-level classes (IA, IB, and IC), and four paraplegic-level or amputee classes (II, III, IV, and V). Babin competes as a Class IC in the Novice division.
The Games are presented by the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) and the Paralyzed Veterans of America (PVA), and are hosted this year by the Minneapolis VA Medical Center and the PVA Minneapolis Chapter. Funded with help from a host of corporations and service organizations, the National Veterans Wheelchair Games are a showcase for the benefit of sports rehabilitative programs, and the remarkable athletic abilities and personal achievements of our nation's disabled veterans.
Dearest Angels: Alan continues to do very well and we are spending this week resting from the trip and getting back into therapy as the only one who got therapy (walking and lifting and walking) last week was me.
We had a very good visit with a Neurosurgeon in San Antonio, this afternoon, who concurred with my thoughts regarding the shunt drainage and he agrees that we should wait until after his abdominal surgery in September before revising the shunt. So, we will consult with the surgeon and neurosurgeon at Walter Reed. Our visit with Dr. Bogave today was a blessing and his admiration for Alan was evident. He made sure Alan knew how much he respects him as a person, a paratrooper and a medic. He has asked to see Alan when we return from Washington as he wants to make himself available for any future needs or challenges and said it would be an honor to monitor the shunt as long as Alan needs it. Another Angel. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Wednesday, June 29, 2005 11:36 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
In his first games ever, novice division, Alan placed fourth in Ramp Bowling! I am so proud of him, his determination and attitude. It was such an honor to receive calls from our Congressman, Judge John Carter, and also from one of the medics that was at the forward aid station the day Alan was wounded. Sgt. Kearns shared with me how that day is as fresh in his mind as if it happened yesterday. He also shared how, as seriously as Alan was wounded, he continued to tell the Physician’s Assistant what to do for him and continued to “give him a hard time and never let up on him.” He graciously shared with me how much all the guys loved “Doc” and how they still continue to think of him. And, he got to say hello to Alan and wish him luck in the games on the phone. Alan had a big smile on his face as he held the phone.
And, Alan’s time in the military since he was wounded may be our memories and his fellow paratrooper’s memories but, since we have been at the Games, several times when he meets new veterans and they introduce each other, etc., he has introduced himself and followed it with, 82nd Airborne Medic, with the 1/325. Hooah! The first time, I must admit, put a lump in my throat.
We attended an intimate cocktail hour gathering last night as Guests of the Paralyzed Veterans Association and a few the sponsors. We also met some of the other novice veterans who were wounded in Afghanistan or Iraq and had the privilege of thanking them and their families for their service and sacrifice for our country. Alan received a HUGE “hooah” when he was introduced as “Doc Babin,” a medic. I had the opportunity to personally thank the UPS Sponsor for their amazing work in getting the equipment, wheelchairs and luggage to our hotel room without a glitch. They will, again, pick up all our things Friday night, Northwest Airlines will come to the hotel to issue our boarding passes, etc., and we will board a bus directly for the gate Saturday around noon and have a direct flight to San Antonio. I thank God that our Veteran athletes are so well taken care of by the PVA and VA during the Games.
We had a bit of a challenge this afternoon as Alan decided to lie down for a couple of hours as he wanted to attend the weight-lifting events in the evening to support a couple of team mates. While he watched some TV and I was checking e-mail, etc., I heard him say “uh, oh!” I looked over and he had somehow disconnected his ostomy bag from the drain tube, totally missed the bed pads I had under him and leaked all over the bed. Bad. As I immediately changed him out of his soiled clothes, I picked up the phone and called housekeeping hoping they would come by before we left for the convention center to bring replacement linen so I could put him on clean sheets when we returned late this evening. I fully expected to change them myself and possibly be charged for special cleaning. In a matter of 5 minutes (thank goodness I had Alan dressed!) there was someone from housekeeping in our room removing the linen in a sterile manner and in a total of 7 minutes, the sweetest housekeeping ladies had his bed remade with a fresh duvet, thanked him for fighting for America and told him they would be praying for his recovery. Alan thanked them with a big smile and shook their hands. What could have been a traumatic experience was handled with such dignity and respect that simply leaves me humbled.
I have met several families who also care for their loved ones at home. All I can say is THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART for the prayers, love and support you give our family. As I listen to some of the challenges they face with retirement transitions, benefits, home modifications, vehicle adaptations and family breakdowns, I count our blessings and thank God for Alan’s Angels…okay, Babins’ Angels, and for carrying us and cocooning us in prayer. After spending time with some of the wounded, I praise God for Alan’s attitude, faith and lack of remorse.
Today was a “down day” for Alan so we spent the day watching team mates compete and other events that Alan would like to participate in during the Games in Alaska next summer. I will do my best to post some of the pictures tomorrow, but felt a need to update you on Alan’s accomplishments and experiences the past couple of days. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Monday, June 27, 2005 11:14 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
The past couple of days have been a unique experience. Alan is truly enjoying meeting so many Veterans and, because he is one of the rookies, so many have enjoyed meeting him and shaking his hand.
The flight from San Antonio to Minneapolis yesterday was amazing due to the efforts of Northwest Airlines and UPS. I have been very impressed by their service and professionalism with our veterans. The Hilton has also been extremely accommodating and, considering there are over 600 wheelchairs zipping in their hallways, in and out of their elevators, etc., their graciousness and service have been impeccable. And, it was a huge blessing to discover that there is a Skyway between our hotel and the Convention Center as we woke up to thunderstorms this morning. Alan will compete in ramp bowling tomorrow at 1:00 pm and Power Rally at 9:00 am on Friday. We will fly home on Saturday. During the rest of the time, we will be supporting his team mates and watching exhibition games and a couple of others that Alan is interested in training for next year.
The Opening Ceremonies this evening were very moving. I did okay, until we walked through the “tunnel” into a darkened convention center arena to thunderous applause for the athletes. I choked up and could not hold it back as all the times we were told Alan would not survive came flooding back. I was grateful for the dim lighting as it took me a while to regain my composure. Two years ago during Fourth of July weekend, Alan was fighting an elevated heart rate, had fluid around his heart and fighting for his life daily. One year ago during the same time he was spiking a fever, dehydrating, going back to the hospital for IV’s and antibiotics and scaring us all. Today, he entered an arena with his head held high and, when they announced the Texas delegation, raised his hand high with a “Hook’em Horns” and held it all the way to our place among the athletes. I hope somewhere there is a picture of his entrance.
Sleeping in the same room with him for the past few nights has been a blessing as I listen to his breathing and lie in bed thanking God for every breath. For so many months, I listened to his monitors, willing him to breathe on days when the alarm sounded or he seemed to simply stop breathing. The sound of his rhythmic breathing has been music to my ears and I have the privilege of sleeping in a wonderfully comfortable feather bed just feet away from our hero.
Alain continues to sound great and reports no symptoms of his dizzy spell. Thank you all so much for your prayers, calls and e-mails. It is so comforting to me to know that you are there for us. It was simply instinctive for me to post an update immediately after I learned of Alain’s situation as I knew prayer and good thoughts would be sent Up immediately. I am so blessed. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Friday, June 24, 2005 11:48 AM CDT Alain's appointment with the doctor went well this morning and the diagnosis of Vertigo still holds. As a precaution, he will go to Radiology at 2:00 pm for an ultrasound of his arteries. Thank you for your continued prayers and support. In His Peace, Rosie
Thursday, June 23, 2005 9:48 PM CDT
Dearest Angels:
Alan worked very hard during his therapies this morning and then spent some time praying with me.
Alain Sr. experienced some dizziness while at work today and was taken to the ER by EMS. It was diagnosed as “vertigo” but I have insisted that he see our family physician since his blood pressure was very elevated so he has an 8:45 appointment in the morning. Needless to say, Alan was very concerned this afternoon and I spent time reassuring him that his Dad was going to be okay. As usual, God surrounds us with tremendous support; Captain Ryle remained with Alain the entire time and Troy Evans came by the house to let me know what was going on and to bring Alain’s equipment home. Alain insists that he feels “fine” even though I (and Troy) think the look in "his eyes" just doesn’t seem right. Please keep him in your prayers and let us pray that it was simply an isolated incident. In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Wednesday, June 22, 2005 10:53 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
While Alan spent the past two days at home with his Dad, I had the amazing privilege of accompanying Christy to Texas A&M University for her New Student Conference. It was an amazing time filled with excitement about the future and in the presence of the most incredible, dedicated, hard-working young people! We spent last night in one of the dorms (praise God for my bed!!!) and spent the two days learning all about Aggie traditions, college life and all the things about which parents have questions.
Christy is now registered in Pre-Vet classes in the College of Veterinary Medicine Biomedical Science and will begin classes August 29th. We hope to have her settled in on August 21st for a week of orientation, etc., before heading off to Walter Reed in September for Alan’s surgery. As we drove away from campus heading for home, I left with a sense of peace as the Director of the Biomedical Sciences informed us as we met to review Christy’s class schedule that he already knew “all about her.” He is aware of Alan’s journey, through an Angel at Walter Reed, and knew all about our pending trip to DC. God continues to shine his face upon us. Our Cup Runneth Over, Rosie
Sunday, June 19, 2005 10:16 PM CDT June 19, 2005
Dearest Angels:
Happy Father’s Day to you dads out there! Alain had a great weekend with Alan and Christy. We all drove to San Antonio to pick Alan up from the Spinal Cord Injury Center and transport him to the bowling alley for the bowling tournament. He scored a 111, 95, and 159; most importantly he had a great time. I am looking forward to taking him to Minneapolis, MN, to the 25th National Veterans Wheelchair Games from June 26th through July 2nd. Please keep Alan and me in your prayers as I travel with Alan out of state, by commercial plane, for the first time.
We were blessed to spend Father’s Day at home, with both kids, just being a family and enjoying each other and as normal a day as we could have ever imagined. Alain did some work on the garage, the cars and the lawn, while Christy ran the weed-eater. Alan watched movies in the living room while I took over the dining room table (for the week) as I began organizing his supplies, meds, etc., in preparation for our trip and unpacked from our last trip. Alain and I then got Alan in the swimming pool around 4:30 for some fun (and therapy) while Christy went for a bike ride. We had a relaxing dinner as the kids wished Alain a happy father’s day.
The Round Rock Leader ran a cover story in their Saturday paper (with a picture of Alain and Alan while we were at Walter Reed on the front page) entitled “The Love of a Father.” What a gift to Alain during Father’s Day weekend. In His Grace, Rosie
Tuesday, June 14, 2005 10:44 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
We had an amazing weekend as we took part in Tracie and David's wedding. To be included as a part of these two amazing families is an honor. It has also been great to spend uninterrupted time with Christy.
While we were in the DC area, we scheduled an appointment with Dr. Shriver, the (Angel) Chief of Surgery at Walter Reed Army Medical Center. We met with him yesterday and he informed us that it would be an honor for him to perform Alan's final abdominal surgery. We have set a tentative date for admission the week of September 19th and a tentative date for surgery the following week. Of course, we continue to put it in God's hands and will do whatever is best for Alan as we prepare to bring him to WRAMC for his reconstructive surgery.
It was such an amazing experience to return to Walter Reed and to visit with those that had such a huge impact on our lives for seven months. To witness the impact that our son's journey had, and continues to have, on those who cared for him is humbling. We were privileged to bump into Dr. Paul White while we visited the Surgical Intensive Care Unit; he performed many washouts on Alan and was instrumental on the "mesh" closure that was so successful in Alan's case. We have learned so much about how much Alan's abdominal mesh protocol has been used as a prototype for soldiers that continue to come in with those type of injuries and, his case continues to be used in medical conferences and presentations. God continues to use Alan for His purpose. It was great to be able to return to WRAMC under such pleasant circumstances and to hug Alan's nurses and SICU staff again. We also had the honor of meeting the parents of another young soldier who occupied Alan's old SICU room for about five months and are just beginning their journey with their son. We spent some time with them, enouraging them, but mostly just providing support. Praise God, he has left SICU and is now in a step-down ward and, we pray, continuing to recover. It was such a profound experience to listen to the staff at SICU share with us how they use our experience to give hope to those that have followed Alan to Bed 12 of SICU and to know that our journey continues to help others.
Christy returned to Round Rock in time to attend her softball banquet and Alain and I have enjoyed some quiet time together, dining at our old haunts while we were here in 2003, meeting Lisa and Jill for blue crabs, visiting some museums AND I was able to get appointments to get my hair cut & colored by the young lady that was so wonderful to me while I was here in 2003.
We have spoken with Alan every day while we have been away and he reports that everything is going well. This evening, he called me and asked if we had "met with HIS doctor." I filled him in on the meeting and when I asked what he thought his reply was, "I think I like it." He is so eager to have his surgery behind him...he would do it today if it was time. He will be attending a baseball game tomorrow and is looking forward to the outing.
We are so grateful for the hospitality of Lisa, Ruth and Fred Skolick in allowing us the use of their wonderful homes while we were here. God continues to shine his face upon our family. In the Grip of Grace Rosie
Friday, June 10, 2005 11:45 PM CDT Sweet Angels:
The past couple of days have been busy, but blessed. We drove to San Antonio on Wednesday, settled Alan in at Spinal Cord Injury Center (Room 32), had a meeting with one of his doctors on Thursday morning, ran some errands, and returned to Alan’s room in the evening to find him eating pudding, watching TV and with a smile on his face. We flew to Baltimore this morning, had the privilege of meeting Lisa’s parents, Fred and Ruth Skolnick (and immediately fell in love!) and were especially blessed to attend Tracie and David’s rehearsal dinner this evening. It was very moving to listen as, one after another, family members and friends toasted these two wonderful human beings and to know that they have had such a huge impact in our son’s life, and ours. And, I could not help but think about the day that Alan, too, will one day meet his perfect mate and we will get to celebrate with him; much of it possible because of the love and compassion that Tracie bestowed on our family after Alan was wounded.
It was wonderful to see so many of our “new family” and a special treat to get to hug Angel Tara as well. After six months in Guantanamo, she is back home, safe and sound and we are grateful for answered prayer. She and Tracie were our eyes, ears and hands while Alan was aboard the Comfort in critical condition. What a long way we’ve all come in two years.
It was good to speak by phone with Alan this evening and to get a report on his day - directly from him. He attended the air-gun practice but is not so sure it will be an event he will be able to participate in during the summer games because of the double-vision. He said he planned on focusing on billiards, bowling and wheelchair slalom. He was settled in for the evening, enjoying his cousin David’s company, and eating pudding (no surprise there). We are looking forward to the wedding tomorrow and will, of course, call Alan to fill him in on the day. With a Joyful Heart, Rosie
Monday, June 6, 2005 11:08 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
How could I forget to share another HUGE milestone with you??!!! As you know, we have been feeding Alan very small amounts of pudding, Jell-O and applesauce. I believe you will enjoy the pictures of him feeding himself!!! Yesssssss!!! Of course, one of us must be present as he can only have about a quarter teaspoon per bite, allow some time between bites, and we help it move along the drain by giving him sips of water in-between bites. Although anything taken by mouth is strictly for pleasure as his digestive system is still “unconnected” the fact that he can swallow without coughing or having it go down his windpipe at this point means bigger success as we get near his reconstructive surgery. We are so grateful for the Angels currently working on the project to remodel our kitchen, pantry and utility room as it will mean that Alan will have access to the entire first story, the kitchen will be accessible to him (and make our life easier as we face 6-10 small meals per day for him), and I will have greater peace of mind while doing his laundry during the day without having to be in the garage and out of earshot. It is amazing to me that I can visualize him sitting in the kitchen helping me prepare his meals and eager to test-taste food like he did before he left for Basic Training. With God, all things are possible!
The environmental control devices were installed in his room last week so Alan is now able to open and close his bedroom door from his bed or wheelchair and has a universal control remote for his lights, “nurses button,” TV, etc. He loves being able to open OR CLOSE his door if there is too much activity in the bedroom (or his dad is watching something he doesn’t want to hear). He was also very cute Friday night when we had friends over and were playing games after Alan had already gone to bed. Before we knew it, his bedroom door was opening and closing and Alain and I immediately left our seats to make sure he was okay and see what he needed. He was laughing at us as we walked in his room and said he was “just playing.”
He surprised me tonight at around 10:00 when suddenly his door closed and I noticed there was no light showing under the door. After a few minutes, I walked in and his TV was off, the head of his bed was lowered and his glasses were off. I asked him where his glasses and remote were and he said he “put them in the bag’ and pointed to the bag I have attached to the bed’s side-rail for his door remote, etc. Alan is making great strides in his independence, directing his own care and in making his needs known.
He, Christy and I spent a great afternoon together as we ran errands in preparation for our trips. While Christy was checking out at one store, I asked Alan if he was going to miss her when she went off to college. He immediately shook his head and said, “Nope. Just watch, she’ll be coming home all the time!” Before we left the mall, we took some time to just relax and let Alan eat some “ice cream of the future.” What a treat – for all of us. With a Grateful Heart, Rosie
Sunday, June 5, 2005 10:48 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
I wish I had video to show you of Alan in the pool this weekend. He loves being able to “walk” and, with the lifejacket on, is able to float on his own, and thoroughly loves using his arms and kicking his legs to move himself around in the pool. A couple of times, he even used his hand and toes to push against the pool wall to go in a different direction - instinctively. I have noticed that his reflexes are quickening. Friday evening, Alain threw a rolled up paper towel at him while Alan was in bed and Alan batted it away with his left arm/hand and, in the pool, I noticed that several times when he thought he was going to turn sideways or get water in his face, he immediately corrected his weight. I can’t help but believe that the water therapy has much to do with the improvement.
We have a busy week ahead as we prepare to attend Angel Tracie’s wedding next weekend and settle Alan in at Spinal Cord Injury Center in San Antonio for Respite Care. For those of you wishing to visit Alan while he is inpatient, the address is 7400 Merton Minter Road (corner of Wurzbach & Merton Minter). The best visiting hours for Alan will be 11:00 am – 6:00 pm from Friday, June 10th through Friday June 17th. I will post his room info, etc., once he is admitted and settled into his room. He will be participating in a bowling tournament in San Antonio on Saturday, June 18th that we will be back in town for, will attend and we will all return home to Round Rock after the tournament.
We are looking forward to seeing our friends in Washington, D.C., and to meeting with the surgeon that may do Alan’s digestive tract “reconnection” surgery in the fall. As usual, I am having more angst about being away from Alan than anyone, but know that God’s angels are charged with protecting him and he will be in wonderful hands with the staff at Spinal Cord. It amazes me to realize that when we were last separated from him, he could barely talk on the phone and now he has his own mobile phone and will be able to call us anytime he wishes. Praise God for His healing hand on Alan. In His Peace, Rosie
Wednesday, June 1, 2005 12:52 AM CDT Dearest Angels:
What an awesome God we serve! His blessings upon us are beyond the imaginable. As I shared with you before, Christy’s graduation celebration began on Thursday and it has been a long weekend filled with family, friends and many blessings. Christy made the rounds of parties and we had a great time during her party on Sunday. We had a special treat as my Mom made a surprise visit and it was the first time I had seen her since her surgery; she is doing well, has a great attitude and she and Alan both agreed that “it stinks” having an ostomy bag. They had a good laugh and hugged a bunch.
Of course, I had the added bonus of having my dear friend, Lisa Skolnick, here from D.C., to join in the celebration. She was a tremendous source of support during the weekend, along with neighbors that just keep stepping up to help. It was such a blessing to be able to celebrate Christy’s accomplishments with her and let her know how much we appreciate her hard work.
Today was a very special day and another huge milestone in Alan’s recovery. With the use of the Hoyer Lift and “muscle” we (Alain, Christy, Lisa and I) we got Alan in the pool and he LOVED IT!!! We put him in a wet suit to keep his ostomy and drain sites dry and made sure the drain bags were wiped down with alcohol before getting in the pool, so everything remained as sterile as possible. It worked. We intended on being in the water about 10 minutes and ended up staying in for 30 minutes. As we got him tucked in this evening, I asked him what he enjoyed most about the pool and he said “walking” with a big smile on his face and then with a HUGE smile said, “AND RUNNING!” I am so excited about this new tool and cannot wait until we get the pool lift in and it’s even easier for us to get him in/out.
We face the summer with a renewed sense of hope and excitement and are looking forward to attending Tracie and David’s wedding, and accompanying Alan to the Summer Games. With Joy in My Heart, Rosie
Friday, May 27, 2005 07:59 AM CDT Dearest Angels:
Graduation of the Class of 2005 of Round Rock High School was a great ceremony. Christy Babin had the privilege of giving the invocation. Rather than describe how we felt, I will share her words with you.
Dear Heavenly Father,
We thank you for the opportunity to gather here today on this momentous occasion to celebrate our achievements. You have been a constant light in each and every one of our lives that has guided us through every obstacle and triumph of the past to bring us to where we are today. As we look towards the brightness and hopefulness of the future, we pray that we will always remember and thank those who have helped us come this far.
We thank you God for our families who have seen us through it all. Through you they have blessed us with a strong foundation for success and have instilled morals and values that lend us compassion and grace. We thank you for our teachers who have unwaveringly committed to our futures and accomplishments. They have taught us so many things in preparation for life outside of Round Rock High School, but most of all they have taught us to hold only the highest expectations to our abilities. And God, we thank you for our friends who have given us unconditional love and support and who have made high school a truly unforgettable experience.
As we each set out on our own path, Lord, we pray that you persist in your guidance and protection. We know that there will be trials and tribulations to come, and we pray that we may have the strength to stand proudly in your name. With the opening of a new chapter in our lives, we ask that you grant us with as many blessings as you have in the last and that you continue to guide us in your direction. By your love, we know we will find comfort and assurance in our new surroundings.
Lord, again we thank you for this time you have given us today to honor our accomplishments. We thank you for the safe arrival of everyone here and we ask that you continue to watch over us. God, as the Class of 2005, we ask that you help us to strive for success and to honor you in everything that we do. We pray all of this in your name. Amen
In the Grip of Grace, Rosie
Tuesday, May 24, 2005 11:41 PM CDT Dearest Angels:
We had a very special night as we attended the Success Graduation ceremony of the Class of 2005 and Alan took part in leading the Pledge of Allegiance and was the Guest of Honor. We have spent the week thanking God for the blessings he has bestowed upon us in Alan and Christy. And, I have spent much time reflecting on my father’s dreams in bringing our family to the United States. He would have been pleased. In His Peace, Rosie
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