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Tom reminds me of me so much!! I quit chew one year ago today and stumbled across KTC around day 5 or 6. Then I found this story and read every single post. I read it over and over anytime I think it's ok to have a chew. Thank you so much for sharing your journey and I have shared this with as many friends who chew as possible.
Anthony Marchi
Foxboro, Ma USA - Saturday, December 24, 2022 8:51 AM CST
thank you for sharing your story! It is one that has kept me quit for over a year now! Its also one I share with every new quitter that comes to KTC! It has saved so many lives, including my own! 415 days quit because of this lesson!
Nick (Nick-Otine Free)
- Thursday, February 17, 2022 7:42 AM CST
Jenny, I hope this message finds you and your family and finds you all well. I read of Tom's passing shortly after he left you all. We were close in age and I had a young family. After trying to quit several times Tom's story was the inspiration I needed to quit once and for all. I have been tobacco free since. I am convinced you sharing your story saved my myself and my family from the horrors of tobacco related illness. Again, thank you for sharing your story, Tom's legacy lives with us who were inspired to change.
Darren Stiles <stiles4@comcast.net>
North Augusta, sc usa - Tuesday, January 12, 2021 9:32 PM CST
Remember my friend today. Miss you.
Karp
AZ - Friday, June 12, 2020 8:01 AM CDT
Jenny and family,
I am sorry for your loss, I just started quitting on 5.24.20 after starting in the USMC 22 years ago. Hearing your story helped steel my resolve in quitting. I'm sorry your pain has added to my strength but thank you for sharing your story.
Scott L williams <iwannagolf4@gmail.com>
Glenwood, Iowa United States - Friday, May 29, 2020 9:22 PM CDT
Please never shut this site down. I am a member of killthecan.org. This story inspires us who are addicts to nicotine. I am quit today.
jsjohnson <jsjohnson1969@gmail.com>
TX USA - Thursday, October 24, 2019 8:12 PM CDT
I recently found your story. My husband chewed tobacco for years and had mouth & throat cancer in 2007. It took my husband 3 years of rehab to eat & swallow again. Now 10 years later after the radiation he has a feeding tube. Please don't chew, it can cause major damage. Praying for each of you!
Lisa Burgee <lisaburgee@bellsouth.net>
Adairsville, GA United States - Wednesday, June 27, 2018 9:56 PM CDT
As a father of 3 who just recently quit using chewing tobacco, I stumbled upon this POWERFUL story. I started to weep, then cry, then uncontrollably quiver and ball when reading the excerpts from Kenzi to her dad. This is such an amazing tool that I will continually refer back to during my quit. My children just got an extension of life with their dad and I cannot thank you guys enough!!
Mark Kennelley <kennelle004@gannon.edu>
Erie, PA US - Monday, February 19, 2018 1:23 PM CST
I quit 26 days ago and I think it's one of the hardest things I've had to do up to this point in my life. Thank you so much for sharing your story here, it really helps people like me put our quit into perspective.
Ryan Christensen
Buhl, ID United States - Monday, October 30, 2017 7:50 AM CDT
Very touching page...read every entry. I quit tobacco 1850 days ago, and your journal reminds me why. I am extremely sorry for your loss.
Bob A.
Troy, MI USA - Thursday, August 17, 2017 8:01 AM CDT
I often check in on this site to see how you all are doing and appreciate the updates. I know this is always a difficult time of year on the anniversary of Tom's passing. We think of you & the family often as Tom is still strong in our memories.
Karp-AZ
- Tuesday, June 13, 2017 9:42 AM CDT
HAPPY <<<
Love you!
Kenzi
Kenzi Hallquist <mhallquist@preshomes.org>
- Thursday, June 8, 2017 8:07 AM CDT
Sorry for your loss and thanks for sharing. I have been dip free for three weeks. I have quit many times before for as long as 1 yr. I think this time I will stop forever because of this story and a few more I have read.
David Smith <Navydave@san.rr.com>
San Diego, Ca USA - Thursday, May 4, 2017 8:07 PM CDT
78 Days Quit. Husband and Father to 3 small children. Blessings come in many forms. Its difficult through the pain and suffering at first to see the true plan God has for us. Your father has paid the ultimate sacrifice that is to lay down his life for his brothers. This story of your pain and suffering has and will continue to save countless lives as long as this story is shared. We unknown strangers are with your family until the end of time as your trials and tribulations have given some of us another chance at life. Remember he is always with you and you will all be together in the blink of an eye. Time on this earth is to be cherished as it is so short compared to the wonders that await. Remember for him as well it is just a blink of an eye as there are no constraints such as time which would cause longing and suffering until you are all reunited. I'm sure you have all read this but Imagine Heaven by John Burke is really good. Thank you.
Eric <gcems815@gvec.net>
- Sunday, March 19, 2017 1:35 PM CDT
This story saved my life. My first time visiting the KTC site I read this story. After reading it I broke down. I didn't want my kids growing up and going through the pain of not having a father. This story gave and continues to give me strength when I need it the most. Thank you Tom and thank you to your wonderrul family for saving me. I am day 93 days nicotene free today.
Kristopher M Chadbourne
Alton, NH - Wednesday, March 8, 2017 3:57 PM CST
I think Tom may have just saved my life. I have four kids two boys and two girls. I have chewed for 20 years. I am on day 23 of quitting, i was mad and planning on buying a can in the morning. Then i read your story on killthecan.org. I came here and read the comments from the girls to their father. This has given me the resolve to continue my quitting journey. May the Lord bless you and keep you always.
Trahurn
Taylorville, Il Usa - Thursday, August 4, 2016 1:02 AM CDT
I just got done reading Toms's story and I give my condolences to his family and friends that knew him best. It's never easy losing a loved one. I've lost plenty of people in my life to know that pain. I chewed from the time I was 15(2007) and I just quit a little over a month ago. Anyone can do it. Addiction is all in your head and if you don't think about it. You won't want it. Just gotta have will power.
Robert Allen Evans <Revans62114@gmail.com>
Cresco, Iowa United States - Saturday, May 14, 2016 9:00 AM CDT
Another Christmas has come and gone. More memories made without you. Its so hard with you not here, knowing how much you love this time of year and what family meant to you. I hope you had another wonderful Christmas in Heaven.
I love you and miss you!!
Mackenzie Hallquist <mhallquist@preshomes.org>
- Wednesday, December 30, 2015 8:22 AM CST
Today marks the 11 years. It has been 11 years, 11 years since I have seen your face, 11 years since I have heard your voice, 11 years since I have heard your laugh, 11 years since I have gotten a big bear hug. It's been 11 years of pain, 11 years of missing you. Everyday is hard and everyday I miss you. I wish more than anything that you would be able to come back for one day to walk me down the isle. All days are hard but milestones are the hardest.
I am happy that you have now been pain free for 11 years, but the selfish me wishes you were still here with us.
I love you and miss you, dad!
Kenzi <mkern@preshomes.org>
- Friday, June 12, 2015 8:16 AM CDT
Still think about Tommy every day. Especially during canoe season and hunting trips. Pray that the Kerns continue to live strong and no matter how many rods the portage length is - never let it beat you.
Steve Peterson (Spido)
Mankato, MN - Wednesday, June 10, 2015 2:52 PM CDT
Happy Birthday, Tom! I wish you were here to watch Tori graduate today!She is a wonderful young lady. We are so proud of her!
Jenny Kern-Anderson
- Sunday, June 7, 2015 8:26 AM CDT
Tom, I miss you so much today! You always made Mother's Day so special. You made sure the kids were good, and you took care of everything! Wish you were here to see how wonderful our children are! I love you!!
Jenny
Hutchinson, MN - Sunday, May 10, 2015 6:30 PM CDT
I found this journal through killthecan.org. I just made the commitment to quit chewing tobacco, this is my Day 1. I just wanted to let you know how much this has solidified my resolve. My mother passed away from cancer (non-tobacco related) just before my senior year of high school, and your entries, your descriptions of the pain, your description of the effect on your children and their thoughts on the matter...it cut deep, and that is what I needed. I don't particularly know what else to say, but thank you. And God Bless.
Tom D
Akron, Ohio United States - Thursday, April 30, 2015 11:00 PM CDT
Tom sounds like he was a great guy. This story gave me one more reason to never return to chewing tobacco or nicotine of any kind. Prayers for all of you as you continue your lives and have some amazing adventures! Thank you for maintaining this page.
Brian V
- Sunday, February 22, 2015 9:46 PM CST
I found the link to this site thru a "chew quit group". I have not read the story until today (I am 386 days quit) but found myself crying like a baby in my cubicle at work. Your story touches me in a way few other things have. I have two small boys (3 and 8). Just 2 months ago I had to tell them that their grandfather had passed away and it broke my heart to do that. I can't imagine the pain if my wife ever had to tell them daddy wasn't coming home anymore.
Thank you for sharing this story. I am so sorry for your loss and can't imagine the pain you all must feel. This is exactly why we need to continue to work to help addicts of tobacco products free themselves.
Chad Hertz
Bonfield, IL USA - Wednesday, February 11, 2015 4:02 PM CST
MERRY CHRISTMAS TO A GREAT GUY THAT GETS TO CELEBRATE UP IN HEAVEN!
LOVE YOU DAD!
Kenzi Kern <mkern@preshomes.org>
- Wednesday, December 24, 2014 2:05 PM CST
I too am the type to NOT sign guest books and such. I read your story I'd guess in about Feb 2013 and I remember crying and going to throw away my dip and spit can... I also, recall going to the store a few hours later to get a can. But, for the past year I have thought about this story over and over.
To not have known Tom or any of you I felt a connection and with 2 small ones at home I want to be around for awhile longer. With the help of killthecan.org and your stories, I've been off the snuff for 27 days. I don't plan on ever going back. I don't want to tell you how sorry I am, or that I feel bad for you, all of which is true... But, I want to say THANK YOU Jenny for having the courage to post this and have such a huge impact. Stay strong!
Jason Hinds <jehinds@gmail.com>
Dallas, TX USA - Wednesday, November 12, 2014 2:03 PM CST
Good morning Kern Family-
Jenny was my 4th grade teacher many years ago (and I can't which of you she had that year but she was on maternity leave for part of it and now you're ALL grown up)!
I have continued to follow your dad's caringbridge but hadn't checked it in quite some time. I recenly got a job with Public Health as a Tobacco Prevention Coordinator. This morning, I was busy trying to find different information/handouts to give people trying to quit chewing tobacco and I stumbled upon your story (which I already knew but read it again).
I can't imagine what each of you has gone through. The journey of grief is a long and unending one. I pray that each of you have more good days than bad, that your memories of your dad come back often and that you find comfort in the fact that your dad's story has made an impact on so many.
Melissa Markegard (Walter)
Fargo, ND - Tuesday, August 19, 2014 10:09 AM CDT
Wow, this was the most moving testimonial that I've ever heard.I was that same guy not to long ago. I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you and GOD BLESS
Jamie Ulibarri <bigulie@gmail.com>
Farmington , NM United States - Friday, June 13, 2014 8:05 AM CDT
Thank you for sharing your story. It has helped me stay tobacco free. My heart aches for your loss but I will cherish the time I do have w/ my family.
Randall <randallrayburn@yahoo.com>
Edwards AFB, CA USA - Thursday, June 12, 2014 11:49 PM CDT
I found this site from killthecan.org - I quit 10 days ago. I'm 28, have a 3 year old daughter, and feel like I have too much to live for, especially after reading your story.
My heart aches for your loss, even almost 10 years later. Know that the fact that you shared here has bolstered my resolve to stay quit. I'm praying still for comfort in the hard times, and for you to know that your story is changing lives even now.
Prayers and thanks,
Robert
Robert Fulton
Hamlin, WV USA - Tuesday, June 10, 2014 5:24 PM CDT
Kern Family,
Thinking of you this week on the 10th Anniv of Tom's passing. Still think of him often . . . his big smile and love for his family and life. Keeping you in our thoughts and prayers.
Karp
Mesa, AZ - Monday, June 9, 2014 7:43 PM CDT
You have another one quit today. I quit a year ago but screwed up and started again during deer season. Over the last couple of months it has been every day. And of course my wife does not know. But I remember reading your story a year ago and it has been on my mind every day. Today I read it again.
Ken
- Wednesday, April 30, 2014 3:18 PM CDT
Dear Kerns Family,
I am sorry for your loss. I originally found your story on a site called Kill the Can. The information that you provided really helped me in my quitting tobacco. I know that my words are just words and they won't bring Tom back, but I want to say thank you for sharing the story. May God bless you in the years to come.
Andy Bowers <andyb1471@yahoo.com>
Greenwood, SC USA - Wednesday, January 29, 2014 10:16 PM CST
Dear Kerns Family,
I am so sorry for the loss you have suffered for over nine years. In nine years, my daughter will be 16 and my son will be 14. I found quitsmokeless.org (and your story) 40 days ago. I pray that I was not too late. I chewed for 33 years, so I am under no illusions...I will not, however, take another pinch of chew as long as I live, no matter what happens. Tom's Story, and the courage and heart with which you have shared it, will be one of the greatest reasons I will conquer this evil addiction. Thank you for your generosity. I don't know if my tears are from sorrow, gratitude, fear, or relief, or all of the above. If I am alive nine years from December 1st, I will be thinking of you and the gift you have given. May the Lord bless you and keep you. May He breath comfort and peace into your hearts.
Jason Velazquez
MA USA - Thursday, January 9, 2014 10:37 PM CST
Merry Christmas dad!
Love you and miss you!
Kenz <kenrakern@gmail.com>
- Wednesday, December 25, 2013 8:18 PM CST
I am so glad Kenzi continues to share her thoughts and feelings on this site. I know it has been therapeutic for me. I wish I shared her joy in the holidays. I always get depressed during this time. I know how much Tom loved this time of year, but it reminds me of all the holidays we don't get to spend together. I try to have a positive attitude and force myself to enjoy the festivities, but it is a struggle. I am thankful for my family and love spending time with them. I just wish he were here too.
Jenny Kern-Anderson <jkernanderson@blh.k12.mn.us>
- Monday, December 16, 2013 9:04 PM CST
Hey Dad-
Christmas lights are up and your tree is at your grave. I know its not even Thanksgiving yet but every year I get more and more excited for Christmas. The only thing keeping me from putting my tree up is that no one has real ones for sale yet. This year for Thanksgiving I am going to help grandma cook since she still can't stand for very long with her knee surgery, and I'm really excited!!
Love you and miss you!
Kenz <mkern@preshomes.org>
- Friday, November 22, 2013 3:53 PM CST
Kerns Family,
I am in tears. Thank you so much for sharing your stories, you have helped me so much with my struggles to quit. I have four boys and a great wife - this really hits close to home. I pray that God continues to mend and heal your broken hearts. Thank you.
Ian Wagner <tankorama411@gmail.com>
Everett, WA Snohomish - Monday, November 18, 2013 4:20 AM CST
Kerns family, especially kenzi
About a year ago I decided to quit chewing. About three days in I needed help and that's when I found killthecan.org and Tom's story. I cried like I lost one of my own. It was so personal and to read the journal updates from kenzi was what I needed. Today, like everyday for about a year now, I post roll. My wife asks me every morning if Im still quit, and I read your Toms story. After reading it for that first time, I printed it out and taped it to the door. I'm so sorry for your dad's death, but please know he has helped so many quit.
David Eder <deder_2@yahoo.com>
Hugo, MN - Minnesota USA - Monday, October 28, 2013 8:18 AM CDT
Hello Kerns family. First I would like to say sorry for your loss. I have found great inspiration through your stories. I want to say thank you for sharing your story with all of us. I realize you didn't write this story as an anti-tobacco article but it was so personal and very inspiring to those of us who had the same addiction as Tom.
Clint Russell <clintrussell@live.com>
- Friday, October 11, 2013 7:34 PM CDT
I miss you. I miss your laugh, I miss your stories, I miss your voice, your guidance, your love, your strengeth, your advice, your hugs, your courage, your support, your "i love you's", I even miss our fights. What I wouldn't give for you to just come back.
Kenz <mkern@preshomes.org>
- Monday, September 16, 2013 12:03 AM CDT
I dipped for 12 years and one night I found this website called kickthecan.org.I started reading horror stories about people who had got cancer,usually I wouldn't even really care but there was something about toms story that really got to me.i flushed 2 cans of dip that I had just bought and haven't had any since.its been 1 year and 5 months.just wanted to say thank you to your family for sharing his story
Steve C.
Odenville, Al Us - Friday, September 13, 2013 9:47 PM CDT
I'm just here to say that I am 25 years old and have tobacco free for 453 days largely in part to this story, which I found through killthecan.org. Your story has doubtless saved lives, and will continue to be a resource for those struggling. Tom's passing was not in vain. You guys are so strong it keeps me going through tough times, often tougher than just petty tobacco-related frustrations, too. Lots of love to the Kern family.
C.W.R.H <harris.cwr@live.ca>
St John's, NFLD Canada - Tuesday, September 10, 2013 12:31 AM CDT
....hurting and missing you.....
kenzi <mkern@preshomes.org>
- Monday, July 15, 2013 12:44 AM CDT
Hello Kerns family, my name is Ted Pechie. I have chewed tobacco for twenty plus years. I've been trying to quit for twenty plus years. I have not had a dip for five days. I need your prayers. Thank you for sharing your story. It inspires me to quit all the more.
ted pechie <tedpechie@gmail.com>
amissville, va usa - Tuesday, June 18, 2013 1:49 PM CDT
Thinking again of Kern family today and wishing ongoing strength and successes - I know Tommy is with you always.
Stay powerful in your endeavors.
Spido
Steve Pete
Mankato, MN USA - Monday, June 17, 2013 10:34 AM CDT
I don't usually write in to my own caringbridge site, but I just wanted to say a little something. Yesterday was harder than I thought after 9 years. It's hard to think of my kids celebrating Father's Day without their father. I cried all the way to Connor's baseball game. It's a happy day for most people, but I find it hard to even celebrate with my own dad because I hurt for my kids. I wish he were here.
Jenny Kern-Anderson <don.jen@hotmail.com>
- Monday, June 17, 2013 7:55 AM CDT
Tomorrow marks the 9 year anniversary of you being gone. I can't believe all that has happened since you have been gone, 3 of the 4 have graduated high school, 2 of the 4 graduated college, 1 had a baby, we all have jobs, we all got our licenses. I honestly never thought I would make it this far. I so wish that you could be here with me, Alexa, Connor, and Tori. Seeing all of the things we have accomlished...and everything that we still have yet to accomplish. Graduating high school, moving in at college, graduating college, having kids, buying a house, baseball games, first jobs, first girlfriends/boyfriends. I know that you are proud of each and everyone of us, but I/we need to hear it from you. We want you to be here to tell us "Nice pitch", "Congratulations on graduating", "Have I told you I loved you yet today?" (which Kenra and I try to do everyday now :)) It is sometimes just hard to get through the day. And to think...all this over a stupid dip...who would have thought?
Kenzi <mkern@preshomes.org>
Hutchinson, MN - Tuesday, June 11, 2013 12:39 AM CDT
Happy Birthday to the most amazing dad I know!
There is not a day that goes by that I don't think of you! I wish you were here so that we could go out and have a couple to celebrate! I will definately make sure to have a couple for you tonight at Winstock!
Love you and miss you!
Kenzi
Kenzi Kern <mkern@preshomes.org>
- Friday, June 7, 2013 12:08 AM CDT
I am not one to ever comment on this type of thing. But it impacts me, I chew tobacco and have for 20 years. I have kids too and they depend on me every day. I quit 4 days ago cold turkey after reading this. I am almost done with day 5 and I think I can really beat this. Its only because I found the common threads between me and Tom's life, his fate has given me the strength to stop and do everything I can to be healthy. I feel for your loss and give my sincerest condolences. I also have to thank you for sharing your story, this may have saved my life and for that I am grateful.
Mike
Akron, OH - Wednesday, June 5, 2013 11:55 AM CDT
Hi. I'm NEVER one to sign guestbooks or comment on articles, etc...However 366 days ago I quit chewing tobacco thanks in large part to reading the tragic story on killthecan.org.
I'm sure it is cold comfort, but please know that the story of your father has inspired me to remain quit for me and my family. A lot of people for some reason still try and tell me the odds of getting cancer from chewing tobacco are small. "The odds don't matter if it happens to you" immediately come out of my mouth. That is a true and powerful statement that inspires me daily.
Well wishes to you and your family. God bless.
Craig M <diesel2112@gmail.com>
SCS, MI usa - Tuesday, June 4, 2013 8:36 AM CDT
I saw your story a few months ago and quit that second. Unfortunately, I started up again. I came back to the site for support. Wish me luck as tomorrow will be another quit day. Thank you for this site.
Jim m <Jimmisgen@gmail.com>
SNOQUALMIE, Wa USA - Monday, June 3, 2013 1:06 AM CDT
I have read the story of Tom Kern and found this website from the Killthecan.org website, Tom's story is recommended by them. What an inspiring man and family. Thank You for writing and sharing. I lost my daughter a few years ago, she was 39 days old, and things like this, writing, journaling, have helped me. More importantly, reading the story of Tom is unlike anything I have read before, it is real life, real people, yourself, your friends and family and you took the time to share, to put yourself out there and share your joy and your pain, your grief and sorrow. Thank You for that. I do want to quit, I feel and hope that I will. Thank You once again and God Bless You and your family!
Sincerely,
Chad J. Rice
Chad J. Rice <chadjorice@aol.com>
Chesapeake, VA United States - Wednesday, May 15, 2013 3:13 PM CDT
Celebrating another birthday without you dad...sure wish you were here!
Love you and miss you!
Kenzi Kern <mkern@preshomes.org>
- Monday, May 6, 2013 4:22 PM CDT
I stumbled upon "Jenny & Tom Kern's Story" on Killthecan.org as I was searching for information on the effects of chewing tobacco. I recently learned that my 17 y/o son is chewing tobacco and has been for some time now. I'm doing everything in my power to educate him about the dangers/risks associated with this awful habit. I've printed out pictures, etc. and his response is "it won't happen to me." Your story is so powerful and I plan to share it with him in the hope that it will inspire him to kick the can. God bless your family and thank you for sharing your story.
Teresa
Munhall, PA USA - Monday, May 6, 2013 3:20 PM CDT
Not a day goes by that I don't think of you, wish you were here, want to hear your laugh/voice, or get a big hug from you. I understand that you are in a place now where you are not hurting, and for that I am grateful. But I can't even begin to explain the amount of continued pain I am now in . . . I miss you!!!
Kenzi <mkern@preshomes.org>
- Wednesday, March 27, 2013 1:56 PM CDT
Dear Kern Family (and especially Kenzi),
I found your story 478 days ago through “kill the can.” I’m so sorry for your loss and I can tell you that this story has had a profound impact on my reasons to quit and success in staying quit from smokeless tobacco. I’m especially touched by Kenzi’s continued notes to her Father. Each time I read an update I have a vision of my own daughter sitting at a computer typing. I’m sorry your family had to go through this. Please add me to the long list of lives saved. Thanks, thoughts, and prayers...
Ron Lee
Chesapeake, VA - Monday, March 18, 2013 1:04 PM CDT
Kern Family
I quit 1 year ago because of your story. Thank you for sharing and continuing to share. This site and all of you greatly strengthen my resolve.
God bless you all.
steve
houston, tx usa - Friday, February 22, 2013 7:49 AM CST
Kern Family,
It has been a little over a year since I first found these pages from the quitsmokeless.org webpage. No picture or story had such a profound effect on me as the story of Tom Kern. I was just like Tom. I "chewed" for 28 years (from the age of 13). I could not get the story of Tom out of my head and Jenny's and the kids' responses on this website hit me like a ton of bricks. It was stuck in my head like a bad song. I have been married to a great women for almost 20 years and we have 3 kids. The oldest boy just got married, our daughter is almost 14, and our youngest is 11. Kenzi's posts really reached out and smacked me in the face. Well, about a month after I read this story for the first time...I quit...cold turkey. It was the hardest thing I had ever done and all I can tell you is that your family had a huge part in it. In 2 weeks, I will celebrate my 1 year quit anniversary. I thank you for keeping this sight going and please know that Tom's legacy lives on very strong. God bless you all.
Tony Marshbank
Ammon, ID US - Saturday, February 16, 2013 11:34 PM CST
Kern Family,
First off I am so sorry for your loss. But what an amazing amount of respect and admiration I have for you. I am on day 17 of my quit and found this story via killthecan.org. I can say I have been in tears since about the third post an hour ago. Thank you for sharing this story. I actually pictured my loved ones in your shoes and that's what made it hard. I know this story is going to help me stay quit. Thank you,
Brian
Brian Gimbel <bggimbel8@gmail.com>
Alexandria, MN - Thursday, January 31, 2013 8:23 AM CST
Kenzie,
I'm a father of two young girls and I've been fooling myself for years about this habit. I've dipped for 23 years.....but after reading your families story and your most recent posts I've been inspired to quit this awful habit. I've been clean for 2 days now and I can't wait to make it 3. I'm so sad... But thankful to have read your most recent posts...... I want to make sure I'm around to guide my girls and love them as long as possible. I'm so sorry for your loss.....but I'm so thankful for the love you still have for your dad......because its your posts that touched me.
All the Best,
Patrick
Patrick mcallister
San Antonio , Tax United States - Saturday, January 19, 2013 10:49 PM CST
Hi, this is my 5th or 6th attempt in quitting tobacco after usig it for 33years. I now have two small children who ask me what the stuff is that I put in my mouth. I feel so terrible that I am doing this right in front of them. I couldn't imagine having to put my children through something like this after reading the journal that your family endured. I am very sorry for your loss and wanted to say thank you for allowing me to read the journal. This will give me great strength and help me succedd in kicking this terrible habit. God Bless you and your family.
James Gallagher <irishseabee@comcast.net>
Washington, Pa US - Tuesday, January 1, 2013 8:01 PM CST
Its not fair, I am so mad that we have to grow-up without you, that Kenra will never have the chance to meet you. I am so mad that you never quit when we would all ask you. I am so mad that God wouldn't give you one more chance to be here for your family. Its not fair that we are down here suffering and hurting every day, missing you, wishing that you could be down here with us. I am so mad that you are not here guiding me through life like most dads are. I am so mad that you didn't seek help and quit.
Its just not fair...
Kenzi <mkern@preshomes.org>
- Friday, December 28, 2012 7:47 PM CST
You don't know me. Tom didn't either. I'm 42, a father of 5 (about to be 6), and today is my quit day. I'm so sorry for your loss...and after reading Tom's kids entries into the journal and guestbook, I NEVER want to do that to my family. I've got 5 years (I think) until I'm out of the woods for cancer, and I cannot wait to begin the clock. I dipped for 30 years...and I thank God that so far, my family and I have been shielded from the consequences of my dipping that you and your family have endured. Thank you for sharing your story. Now comes the hard part...
Chris Gee <chris.gee70@gmail.com>
Hixson, TN USA - Wednesday, December 26, 2012 10:32 AM CST
Hey Dad-
Christman is right around the corner, your favorite time of the year. Mom said that she went and put your tree out at the grave, now I have to find where I put your ornaments. I can't believe that after almost 9 years that your sight is still up and helping people every day start or stay quit. Although it didn't save you, you have helped save many, many lives and I am so proud to call you my dad!
I love you and miss you!!
Kenzi <kenzikern@preshomes.com>
Hutchinson, - Monday, December 10, 2012 4:09 PM CST
My heart goes out to you and your family. I thank you for the courage you had in posting the pain and loss that you all have endured. I am father of four and have been quit for 16 days now. I never want to have my kids go through this. although we never know what Gods plan is. Thank you for sharing. from ktc.org to my heart God bless you all
cdaniels <golsonchris@yahoo.com>
abilene, tx us - Wednesday, December 5, 2012 11:00 AM CST
Hey Dad
Just wanted to say I love you and miss you!
Kenzi
Kenzi <mkern@preshomes.org>
- Tuesday, October 9, 2012 1:14 PM CDT
Jenny, first off my condolences. Second, thank you for sharing your story. What is a painful experience for you is a an effective cautionary tale for many of us, myself included. I found you from killthecan.com. Thank you from all of us.
Robert Burleigh <spamcenter11@yahoo.com>
Brooklyn, NY 11201 - Friday, September 21, 2012 5:02 PM CDT
Jenny and Family, I quit dipping over 3 years ago because of your story about Tom. I am the same age as Tom and I too have wonderful daughters. I quit using KTC but am a member of Quit Smokeless also. When I decided to quit I printed out your words you wrote about Tom I don't know how many times I read that story it still brings tears to my eyes even today. I have been lucky to not had any issues yet but I dipped for 38 years so I know I am not out of the woods yet either. There is nothing I can write or say to bring Tom back but I want you and your family to know that you all have and still inspire me to stay quit. Yesterday was 9/11 I was a firefighter when that happened and yesterday I remembered the hero's that passed that day trying to save a life of someone they never met. Last night I thought of you and your family because you too are hero's saving lives of people that you have never met I am one of them. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing your story.
Quit April 1st,2009
Mark
Mark <alamor7@yahoo.com>
Crawfordsville, Indiana USA - Wednesday, September 12, 2012 1:59 PM CDT
I'm 27, I've been dipping pouches since I was 23... and I'm a girl! In the past 2 years, I have gotten married, had a daughter (I quit for pregnancy!), and I'm really starting to feel guilty about my secret habit. Tonight I Googled 'chances of getting cancer from dipping' and this story was the first one I read... and let me tell you, it changed me completely! It actually frightened me, I can't imagine leaving my family alone, all because I didn't want to kick my nasty habit! Thank you for sharing, I have never told anyone about my addiction, you are the first... and the last.
Adrienne
Los Angeles, ca usa - Sunday, September 9, 2012 10:52 PM CDT
I just wanted to let you know that I have decided to quit chewing today. Your story is a main contributor to that decision. I'll be honest, I had to close my door to my office so that people wouldn't see me tearing up. Thank you for all you do and sharing your story with all of us. I wish you and your family the best.
Drew
- Tuesday, August 28, 2012 11:51 AM CDT
Just want to let you know as a member of KTC (2 weeks)this story terrifies me. But as a father of 2 girls (7&8) and 2 boys (10&5) it has inspired me to be the best father I can, to make every moment count.. Tom clearly did that, and had he been given the oportunity he would have perfected it. Thank you for sharing this with me, it has already inspired in my life
Tom Klotz <tcklotz@kelleybros.com>
Daphne , AL USA - Sunday, August 12, 2012 0:39 AM CDT
All of your words continue to inspire thousands of users to quit this awful drug annually. Tom's legacy stretches far beyond this site, and has touched people all over the world. Out of the ashes, a phoenix has been born. My prayers are with your family. Thank you.
S <sdodson60@hotmail.com>
OH USA - Friday, August 3, 2012 6:54 PM CDT
Happy Anniversary, Tom! Memories that warm my heart and make me cry.
Jenny
- Saturday, July 28, 2012 3:34 AM CDT
I wanted to start of by sending you my deepest condolences, and to thank you from the bottom of my heart for telling your families story. I found your story when I joined KTC, and have read more of it every time I am feeling weak. I am only on day 3 of my quit, but I have found that your story helps more then anything. Every tear I shed while reading, makes the urge go away more and more. I have a one year old boy, a six year old daughter, and a nine year old daughter. It is scary how much your story seems more like a premonition to me and less like a Blog. Your story is going to be the thing that gets me through this. I am 32, have dipped tobacco since I was 10, and was up to 3 cans a day. However knowing this site is here for me to turn to, makes me know I will get through this. You no not the difference you have made. Thank you, and God bless.
Andrew <rubicon_master@yahoo.com>
Ceres, CA USA - Sunday, July 15, 2012 2:41 AM CDT
I never had the chance to meet you or your wonderful family, but I want you to know that I credit Tom (and your sharing his story) with helping me and my family. We're stronger because of what y'all went through and I just want to make sure I give credit where credit is due. I can't thank you enough for sharing. God bless you and your whole family.
E
Fort Worth, Tx - Monday, June 18, 2012 7:29 PM CDT
Jenny, thinking of you and family today. Keep strong in your faith and know that you can call on us at any time.
Karp
Mesa, AZ - Tuesday, June 12, 2012 7:16 PM CDT
This day always sucks. Eight years ago Tom lost his battle. In some ways it feels like we lost it too. I hurt for my kids who are making memories without their dad in them. I hurt for me because he can't share in these memories. Kids shouldn't have to grow up without a dad. It's hard to admit that some of the memories are fading. The memories are all we have left of him. God, help me hold on to the memories!
Jenny
- Tuesday, June 12, 2012 10:52 AM CDT
Spido, you know today would have been his 50th birthday. Today Connor made some arm motions that looked exactly like Tom. I am thankful that he has so much of his dad in him, but it makes me sad because I want to see him again. Thanks for thinking of us.
Jenny <don.jen@hotmail.com>
- Thursday, June 7, 2012 9:55 PM CDT
My thoughts with TK and his family always and especially this time of year - Kern family, always keep up the good portage.
Spido
Spido
Mankato, MN - Thursday, June 7, 2012 4:58 PM CDT
HAPPY BIRTHDAY DAD!!
You would have been the BIG 5-0 today! We sure miss you down here, but know you are having a wonderful time up there!
Love you and miss you!
Kenzi <mkern@preshomes.org>
- Thursday, June 7, 2012 7:57 AM CDT
Your story saddens me deeply and made me weep like a child. This story has motivated me to put down the can and pick up my son more often. I am deeply sorry for your loss and hope that you are finding happiness . Best regards
FosterChild KillTheCan.org.
T.J. Foster <tjf471@yahoo.com>
Mason, ohio usa - Friday, June 1, 2012 9:21 PM CDT
What a journey you have had, I read ur story on Quit Smokeless.Org. I'm at almost 100 days and I hope and pray forever, I'll always read this if I ever feel like dipping again and I'll shared it with friends. Now go have a GREAT life and enjoy it, I know Tom would want you to....
Gordie <gordonbaker9@sbcglobal.net>
- Friday, May 25, 2012 2:02 PM CDT
Thanks for sharing your heart. I am deeply moved by your story, I pray that i have the will power to conquer this addiction. I have been dipping since I was 13 and I am 36 now. I have had sores and passed them up as close calls. How ignorant is that? I know what the next step is I just need to take it before one is made for me. I love my family and friends and would hate to know I have hurt them in any way. I will move on day by day starting now and see what happens. Thanks again!
Jason Cross <crossjm_33810@yahoo.com>
Lakeland, FL United States - Tuesday, May 15, 2012 2:06 PM CDT
Dear Kern Family,
Thank you so much for sharing your story and keeping this page active. I read your story just over 100 days ago on KillTheCan.org and have been quit since then. May God bless you and keep you all.
John <john@paconaway.com>
- Friday, May 11, 2012 8:26 AM CDT
I am sitting here at work on day 3 of my quit. My boss just put in a chew and it triggered a craving. I happened to click on this link and read the entire blog. I cannot tell you how much Tom's story has inspired me to STAY QUIT! All I can picture is my wife writing this exact story. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR NOT CLOSING THE SITE AND LEAVING THIS UP!!!
John
- Wednesday, May 9, 2012 9:13 AM CDT
Kern children
I met you all through killthecan.org. Your dad's story saved my life. That probably sounds cliche, but it's true. I have no doubt that your dad and mom sharing this story is what made me admit I have a problem. Your mother is an incredible women to continue sharing with strangers just to make a difference. Do me a favor and thank her for me. All of you are an inspiration for me to be a better person. Thank you.
Steve <Stevewingram@gmail.com>
Houston, Tx Usa - Sunday, May 6, 2012 8:28 AM CDT
Dear Kern family,
Your story was a major contributing factor in my quitting chewing. It made me realize how fragile life is. My deepest sympathies go out to your family, even though we have never met. I have been dip free for almost one year now and will stay this way for my lifetime, and my wife and daughters lifetimes. Thanks for changing mine and many other lives. God bless you and your family.
BM
Brandon <bmikolin@hotmail.com>
Depew, NY - Sunday, April 29, 2012 8:35 PM CDT
Hey dad
Thought I would check in. Today is Kenra's SIXTH birthday! I cannot believe she is getting so big. Wish you were here to celebrate it with us, but I know you are watching over us and will be with us all day.
Well I should probably get back to work.
I love you and miss you!
Kenzi <mkern@preshomes.org>
- Friday, April 20, 2012 10:31 AM CDT
Thank you for sharing your story. I am 3 days quit and read your Story on KTC.org. I am sorry you lost your Tom! But I cannot help wonder just how many lives you have saved! Thank you, you kind and caring stranger!! As of right now I have no cravings.
Mark Perry <cmperry@san.rr.com>
San Diego, CA US - Saturday, April 7, 2012 11:24 AM CDT
I am on day 7 of my quit. I was directed to this through KTC. It hurts me to read this and made me realize just how selfish I have been for the past 22 years. I pray that you and your family are doing better and thank youfor sharing.
Jason
Dallas, TX US - Friday, February 24, 2012 9:20 AM CST
My wife has told me for the 6 years we have been dating/ married to quit, and that I was going to get cancer. She is a nurse, but I'm a police officer/ Army Officer, and law school student who is invincible. I have been dipping for over 10 years now, and quit 5 days ago. Your story, which I located on KillTheCan.org, touched me in a way that nothing else I read had. Hearing you describe the pain of your loss, put everything in perspective. I pictured my wife writing some of those entries, and it tore me up. I want to thank you for being so open and honest in so public of a way, and I hope you know that today Tom has touched and changed yet another life. Thank you for sharing!
Ryan <rthmps10@gmail.com>
Memphis, TN USA - Wednesday, February 8, 2012 11:58 AM CST
Kerns: In the summer of 2008 I found your story via Kill the Can. That day Tom's story inspired me to quit. I'm now almost 1,300 days quit, thanks to your inspiration. Jenny, if not for your courage to share your pain, hundreds (eventually, thousands) of people would still be slaves to tobacco. Jesus' sacrifice may have saved my soul, but Tom's sacrifice saved my life.
Rich Seufer
Limerick, PA USA - Tuesday, January 31, 2012 12:40 AM CST
I'm 37 years old and have been on and of chew since I was 18. Your story is the first I've heard that's hit home the hardest. I quit again today but I feel it's for good this time. I heard about you from KTC.org. Thank you for sharing your family with all of us. I will keep Tom and your family in my prayers. I don't want to end up like Tom. It's my biggest fear. Well, take care and I hope you're doing well.
Tim <Tholder.apu@gmail.com>
Murrieta, Ca Us - Monday, January 30, 2012 0:19 AM CST
hey there, I ran across this story on KillTheCan.org If nothing else would have made my mind up to quit dipping this story most certainly would have! I am Eighteen and have dipped a can a day for around six years. I am very happy to say that i am on my second day with no nicotine! Reading about Tom passing and leaving behind the kids... that breaks my heart!! and i have a promise ring on my girlfriends hand. The very last thing i want for our future is for her to have to raise OUR kids by herself. God bless you Jenny & Kids!!!!
Caleb Sass <Calebsass@yahoo.com>
Clyde, NC USA - Thursday, January 26, 2012 6:21 PM CST
It's scarey how similar our stories are. In June my husband will have been gone 2 years. We also have two girls...one 11 and one 7. In November I was approved by the government for a 501c3 non-profit organization to promote and educate the importance of early detection and exams. (In a perfect world we could take on the tobacco companies to quit making their products and put an end 85% of all oral cancers!) I hate that we have stories that are similar...our story was posted by someone else in a forum on KilltheCan.org. When I went to read it I saw your story and wanted to let you know that I above all (unfortunately) know what you've been through, what your going through, etc...It's the hardest thing in the world...Jason and I would have celebrated our 15 wedding annv. yesterday (1/25). I also have a caringbridge...www.caringbridge.org/jasonbland and our website is www.powerthecure.org Thanks for sharing your story.
Jennifer Bland <blandjj@bellsouth.net>
Shreveport, LA USA - Thursday, January 26, 2012 2:37 PM CST
Hey Dad
Just thought I would drop in and say hi. Christmas and Thanksgiving were good, but we sure did miss you, like always!! We are all doing well and keeping pretty busy between basketball, hockey, skating, and Kenra's attempt at swimming...didn't go over so well...But even with all of this craziness I always seem to think about you throughout the day. Wishing so much that you could be here to see us all grow up, meet your granddaughter, been there for parents night, all the things that you will never get to be apart of. I miss you so much! Well I guess I better get back to work. Love you!
Kenzi <mkern@preshomes.org>
- Tuesday, January 10, 2012 9:06 AM CST
wow, I stumbled across your story on killthecan.org, and it really is inspiring. That's coming from someone who is on day ten of being tobacco free after nearly 4 years of continuous use (I'm 19yrs old). I'd just like to thank you for sharing and giving me the strength to continue my quit. One day at a time.
P.S. say hello to Alexa for me ha. small world.
Matthew Buschena <Mattbuschena@gmail.com>
Jackson, MN United States - Wednesday, November 2, 2011 0:03 AM CDT
Hello Madam,
I happened to read your story & i was in tears when i read "Don't go,dad". I too lost my father to cancer in 1998. I too cried like this when my father died. I can understand the pain. It reminds me of the old days. Now i am 43 years old & have kids. I just stopped smoking for the past 101 days. Thanks for all the inspiration that your husband left behind.
God bless you all. With prayers & good wishes.
Prince Rajarathinam
Chennai, India
Prajarathinam@gmail.com
Prince Rajarathinam <prajarathinam@gmail.com>
Chennai, TN India - Friday, October 21, 2011 4:29 AM CDT
Tom, Your story has been an encouragement for so many people! Jenny And the rest of the family, I'm so sorry you had to go through all this! I learned of your story through killthecan.org
Justin Blake2188 <Justinblake2188@att.net>
Jasper, Al US - Monday, September 12, 2011 9:09 AM CDT
DAD!!!!!!
I bought a house! I really wish you were here to help me go through the house, to help me move in, and repair things. I feel like you missed out on so much! Definitely feel like I got cheated out of my father-daughter-bonding experience! Miss you and love you always!
Kenzi <mkern@preshomes.org>
- Friday, September 9, 2011 2:10 PM CDT
May god incircle us with his arms of love forever
Kim N. Walker <kim.n.walker@boeing.com >
Vaughn , Wash - Tuesday, August 16, 2011 1:27 AM CDT
I'm an ex baseball player who can't stop chewing. reading your story helped me to move my quit date to right now. i've printed your story from killthecan.org and will post it in my kitchen to remind me of why I decided to quit. thank you so much for sharing your story. my wife and kids thank you also.
Jon Widerski
woodbury, mn usa - Thursday, August 11, 2011 4:50 PM CDT
Your dad sounds like he was a great guy. I lost my dad to a tobacco-related cancer as well.
I am also a member of killthecan.org
your dad's story has helped to save my life and many others ... always remember that
Scott
San Diego, - Thursday, July 28, 2011 2:47 AM CDT
Happy Anniversary Dad!
Kenzi Kern <mkern@preshomes.org>
- Wednesday, July 27, 2011 2:57 PM CDT
Just wanted to let you know how much of a wake up call your story was for me. After 20 years of dip, I have now been chew free for 44 weeks. I re-read your letters on Killthecan every week or so to reinforce my quit. thank you for sharing you stories and full heart felt condolences go out to you and your family.
Brian
Portland, OR 97202 - Wednesday, July 20, 2011 1:11 PM CDT
God bless your family. Although it may not come as complete consolation for your loss, you have no idea how much support those of us tryng to quit can derive from your story. Thank you.
Shaun Springer <springsl@udmercy.edu>
Detroit , MI Wayne - Friday, July 15, 2011 8:49 AM CDT
Hey dad -
Just stopping by to say hello. Every night when we go to bed Kenra prays and she always says a little something about you in it. Last night when she was praying she asked God if he would let you come back and give me a hug because I missed you so much. She also told him that he (God) better be taking good care of you in heaven. Kids are just too cute aren't they?! It has really been a hard month for us. I know I have said this before, but I feel like as the years go one they get harder and harder. Wish you could be here to see how all of us have grown up. I know that we all miss those big bear hugs you used to give us! Love you and miss you sooooo much!!!
Kenzi <mkern@preshomes.org>
- Friday, June 24, 2011 5:50 PM CDT
I hope you all know what your story means to people fighting this addiction. I am a big proponent of organ donation. I am an organ donor myself and have even thought of what I would do if something happened to my kids, and any/all of their organs could go to help another. I would make that decision in a second, so others can live. My loss would be helped by their gain. By posting your story and keeping this site alive and active, you are making a contribution so others can live. I know the loss is hard, but you are savings lives. Every time you hurt think about this site and think about all the good you are doing for people like me. Love and prayers to all of you.
Kevin
Clemmons, NC USA - Friday, June 24, 2011 9:15 AM CDT
Hi, I joined killthecan.org almost a year ago, and I am happy to say, that I have been quit for almost a year! The first time I read Tom's story, I was sitting at my desk, and the tears started falling. I hadn't cried in years, but this story really touched me! I made myself read this story over and over again. Eventually, I quit reading the story, until today. It was like I had never read it before. I cried just like the very first time I read it! With tomorrow being Fathers Day, I just wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for posting this story. Tom's story has been a huge factor in my quit! Even though Tom has passed, his story lives on, and helps guys like me stay quit. And even though I never met Tom, I am sure he would happy to know, that his story is saving lives! Thanks again, and God bless!
Eric
- Saturday, June 18, 2011 1:57 PM CDT
Happy Birthday Dad...I love you and miss you everyday!!!
Kenzi <mackenzie_k_06@hotmail.com>
- Tuesday, June 7, 2011 6:19 PM CDT
Hey Dad-
Ken turned FIVE today! It has gone by so fast I can't even believe it! I wish you could have been here to meet her! Every night when we go to bed she prays, and every night she prays that God will let you come back and meet her. She is pretty cute! Well I miss you and love you!!
Kenzi Kern <mackenzie_k_06@hotmail.com>
- Wednesday, April 20, 2011 4:34 PM CDT
Thank you for sharing. It has got to get better with time for you and your family.
Tom H.
Prescott, WI US - Friday, April 8, 2011 1:17 PM CDT
Your story saddens my so much. I have been quit for 54 days now and have quit for myself. But in the midst of the addiction/quit it is critical to know how tobacco use affects our loved ones around us. Stay strong for your jolly man is waiting for you in heaven and you WILL spend eternity with him. God bless you and your family. I promise never to use chewing tobacco again, I promise you, God, My wife and my son. Please know that your loss didn't come without a gain. Your story is truly inspiring.
Jay
Helena, MT USA - Tuesday, April 5, 2011 2:20 PM CDT
Hey dad, I just want to tell you that I miss you and love you! I really wish you were here to give me a big hug like you used to. I just want you to be here to help me with my sports, tell me what boys I can and can't like, and just tell me you love me. I know you love me and always will, but I would rather hear you tell me than have everyone tell me. I miss you so much daddy!
Tori Kern <torikern_@hotmail.com>
United States - Thursday, March 31, 2011 11:29 PM CDT
My Prayers are with during this time, May God be with you and give you strength and Heal you. Much love Char Mather
Char Mather <newplanetman777@yahoo.com>
Rocky Mount, NC USA - Thursday, March 31, 2011 1:00 PM CDT
My love and prayers, God be with you and keep you strong.
Lila Michael <newplanetman777@yahoo.com>
Rocky Mount, NC USA - Thursday, March 31, 2011 12:57 AM CDT
I just read "jenny & Tom Kern's Story" and wanted to reach out and say that it touched me. I will use this anytime I crave a plug. I plan on printing this off and reading it anytime I Crave it.
I feel so bad... I hope I stopped in time. Thank you for your story.
Tim F.
Bloomington , IL USA - Wednesday, March 30, 2011 8:16 PM CDT
Hi! I found your site a long time ago. 1893 days, to be exact which is many days quit I am. So often we only see what we want to see, and only think that our addiction only affects us. What your story did, and your willingness to share, is open my eyes to how my addiction truly impacts the people around me. Thank you so much for sharing your experience, it truly changed my life. I'm a better father and huesband because of it. 1893 days quit or 5, it's never to late to thank you for what you're doing.
A.J.
Fishers, IN USA - Wednesday, March 30, 2011 4:12 PM CDT
I read Jenny's letter on Quitsmokeless.org when I joined a little less then two years ago. I will be two years tobacco free on April 10, 2011. Jenny and Tom's story helped inspired me to continue quitting during the difficult times. I am so sorry for the Kern family's loss. Thank you for being an inspiration to me in my continued journey.
Don Steerman <dsteerman@hotmail.com>
Lamar, CO USA - Wednesday, March 30, 2011 3:19 PM CDT
Boy what a moving website, I am literally in tears at my desk. I am only 2 days quit but feel the strength and determination to continue with what I have started after reading this. My only regret is not finding and reading this story sooner. Thank you for sharing your story and please know that yall have truly impacted my quit!
Michael <mbhcpa@gmail.com>
Boston, MA USA - Wednesday, March 30, 2011 7:56 AM CDT
Thank you for sharing. Your family has provided much inspiration in my quit. 215 days today and many of the difficult times where battled through with tears and prayers for you and your family as I was reminded again of what is at stake. I pray God will strengthen you Jenny and provide your family the peace and strength he can. Thank you so much!
Ronnie
- Tuesday, March 29, 2011 10:17 PM CDT
Thank You for pouring your heart out and helping all of us that have or are going to quit!!!
Nate
Belle Fourche, SD - Monday, March 28, 2011 11:17 PM CDT
DAD!! I graduated!! Wish you would have been there! I love you and miss you everyday!!
Kenzi Kern <mackenzie_k_06@hotmail.com>
- Sunday, March 27, 2011 7:12 PM CDT
As a son who less than a year ago lost his own father...as someone who 8 mos ago became a father for the first time...as a husband...and lastly as a 2 can a day dipper for over 15 years I can't tell you how much your family's story touched me. My addiction to nicotine was a fierce one....in a silly desperate moment I stumbled across the kill the can.org website and my eyes were instantly drawn to the heading...Jenny and Tom Kern Story....I read it....and have been nicotine free ever since (10 days today!)...for the first time in 15 years I know that I will beat my addiction. Thanks so much for sharing Tom's story.
Ben Klemann <klemannb@yahoo.com>
Powell, OH USA - Sunday, March 20, 2011 4:03 PM CDT
Back in May 2010 I signed on and extended my heartfelt thanks for shaing your heartbreaking story. I had just hit the 100 days of quit milestone.
This past Friday, I reached the one year milestome. I have you and your family to thank. It is unsettling for me to thank you for helping me quit and stay quit when it is because of your unimaginable loss that I have made it this far. Thank for you for opening up your life and letting us all in.
From my family to yours - thank you and God bless.
Patrick B.
Chicago, IL - Monday, February 14, 2011 8:50 AM CST
I first heard Tom's story over 3 1/2 years ago when I found an internet website dedicated to helping people quit. Unfortunately, it was only because my dentist had referred me on to an oral surgeon. Fortunately, for me and my family, there was nothing wrong and the surgeon asked me why I was there. As I said, that was over 1300 days ago and I'm 6 months away from 4 years free from using tobacco. I'll still have one more year of increased risk for cancer, but after that, it's as low as someone who hasn't ever chewed.
Thank you for sharing your heart wrenching story. I do not think there are enough words in any language to say how we all feel after hearing Tom's story. I feel the pain your family has had and continues to endure and am so glad you shared it so that it helped show the light to so many of us. May God help you through all your pain in missing someone who was so loved by his wife and children.
Steve Schneider <schneider@thunder-strikes.com>
Sublette, Ks USA - Friday, January 21, 2011 7:36 PM CST
I just want to say thank you for telling your story. I have a four year old daughter myself and I don't want her and my wife to go through the tough times you and your family are going through for something that is within my control.
It's been four days since my last dip, lets hope and pray that number continues to rise.
Thanks again for telling your story
Matt Anderson
Norwalk, Ia U.S. - Wednesday, January 19, 2011 6:39 PM CST
Dear Kern Family,
I signed your book on July 15, 2010, when I had quit using chewing tobacco for 16 days. Today is Jan 19, 2011 and I have quit now for 204 days. Since then my wife and I had a baby girl, and I am proud to say she will never have to see me using that poison. Again I would like to thank you for sharing your story, it's a huge inspiration for everyone using killthecan.org to quit chewing tobacco. Thank you, thoughts and prayers.
chris m.
burnsville, mn usa - Wednesday, January 19, 2011 11:00 AM CST
So today is 13 days since I've read your story and it's 13 days since my last pinch and I thank you for that. Your story has changed me and motivated me to do what I've always wanted to do but could never fully commit.
James <Jimmyfntn@yahoo.com>
nj - Sunday, January 9, 2011 11:45 PM CST
Hey Dad!
Christmas was good, we got a 10 FOOT TREE!!!! It is huge and you can smell the tree all the way downstairs!! Bubba also came home this year, which was really nice for all of us. Well just thought I would drop in and say hi! I love you and miss you tons!!!!
Kenzi <mackenzie_k_06@hotmail.com>
- Thursday, January 6, 2011 7:39 PM CST
Ive gone through my first week with out a pinch and honestly it's because of your story on killthecan.org. I am sorry for your loss as I too lost my father a little more then a year ago. I'm 19 years of age and I feel the pain your children are feeling. Thank you for your help.
James Fenton
- Monday, January 3, 2011 1:36 AM CST
Thank You again for sharing Tom's story. I posted almost a year ago and I read your story and promised to not dip again after quitting a 20 year habit. I am days away from reaching one year without tobacco. I have 3 young boys and I can not tell you how much your story influenced my life. Thank you again and God Bless you and your family.
Rick <sigper@gmail.com>
Watsonville, ca US - Tuesday, December 28, 2010 2:11 AM CST
Thank you for sharing Tom's story with everyone. His story along with Sean Marsee's were my inspirations for quitting. I had been using skoal and grizzly for 13 years, and I was one of those that thought quitting was impossible. I never smoked, so I thought that the dip was only hurting me and no one else. I had tried to quit before, although I was never able to do so.
Today makes only 2 months for me being dip free. My wife has been very supportive. I would read different stories for inspiration when I needed, and I would pray. The power of prayer has really opened my eyes up. God is real, and God is there for you if you'll just reach out to him. If I can quit dipping, anyone can. You just have to believe in yourself and what you are truly capable of.
I wish you a safe and happy holiday Kern family.
Frank C <sorrynotonline@gmail.com>
Dublin, VA - Monday, December 20, 2010 0:25 AM CST
From the bottom of my heart I just wanted to say Thank you Kern family for sharing Tom's story with me and all of us at Killthecan.org. Your story has touched my heart and has been the cornerstone and foundation of my personal quit. Thanks to Tom and his story, I've been able to string together 197 days free from tobacco! Your family will be in my prayers as we enter into this holiday season. God Bless.
Austin Bolton <austinbolt@gmail.com>
Evansville, IN USA - Wednesday, December 1, 2010 3:41 PM CST
Today is my 3rd day quit using KTC. I've tried and failed before. Your story is heartwrenching and makes me think of my own very young children who need their daddy around. Tom's story has helped our family today.
Bryan <bstrauss@bechtel.com>
- Wednesday, December 1, 2010 9:13 AM CST
Well Dad,
Today is Connor's 16th birthday!! How crazy is that?! He will be taking his test next week, I went to pick him up at a friend's house yesterday and he drove home. It is WAY too weird with him driving, in less than a year Tor will be getting her permit...that is also WAY WAY too weird. If you think about it...I didn't even have my license when you left. Actually I think that I had failed it a few days before. Wow it has been so long!! But anyways, I love you and miss you!!
Kenzi <mackenzie_k_06@hotmail.com>
- Tuesday, November 9, 2010 9:53 AM CST
Today is my first quit day. I will not let Tom down. Thanks so much for telling his story.
Brad
- Saturday, November 6, 2010 4:12 PM CDT
*quitsmokeless.org
Preston
- Monday, October 25, 2010 9:50 PM CDT
Kern Family,
Thank you for being brave enough to share your story. I am 19 years old and just joined quicksmokeless.org. Your story has solidified my decision to drop the habit for good and never look back. If only I could get my 49 year old father to see why he needs to quit as well.
Preston
- Monday, October 25, 2010 9:49 PM CDT
I want to first offer my sincerest and deepest condolences to you and your family for your loss. I am a member of killthecan.org since July 2010. On July 24th 2010 I had a scare due to a sore after having dipped for more than 2 decades. My wife was going crazy and crying, which hurt deeply. However, when the kids asked her what was wrong and she told them that she was scared of losing me, I seen all three of my children burst into tears also. It's been nearly 3 months, but I am crying while writing this because I remember that moment in time so vividly. Within a few days of quitting I found the KTC site and began using it. Just prior to signing up while I was still lurking around the site, I ran onto your letter about Tom. The similarities were dreadful between our families. I have a 12 year old daughter, a 9 year old daughter and a 6 year old son. I cried like a baby every time I read through your letter and I am in no way ashamed to state that. I needed to see what I would be doing to others if I continued. Several weeks after I had quit I finally read the letter with my family. They were glad that I had quit, but knew the battle I was facing. We were all in tears and in a huge group hug. I could feel their love in the hug and in the tears and it just reconfirmed for me that I had to stay away from tobacco. Reading your journal makes me want to hug every one of your kids and reassure them that their dad does truly love them. I know that I can't reassure them, but I know without a doubt that he regretted fully some of the decisions he made relating to his health. We all think "it won't or can't happen to us", but the truth is that it can happen to any or all of us. Your family is often in my prayers because of the pain that you endure daily due to the loss of a great man. Words simply can't express enough how sorry I am for your loss. Words also can't express how thankful I am for you sharing your family's story. You have touched so many peoples lives and I am grateful that mine was one of those lives. I read your letter every time that I get weak and it breaks my heart, but enforces my desire to remain quit. I can't imagine the pain for your family, but know that many appreciate your willingness to share, because through your experience, countless lives are spared from a similar end.
Denny Bouse <dbouse@live.com>
Doe Run, MO USA - Wednesday, September 29, 2010 12:32 AM CDT
Jenny & family,
I just read your entire journal from the beginning. I feel as if I have just been visited by the Ghost of Christmas Future. You see, this story could be mine. And will be, if I don't heed your call. I don't know if you still visit this site, but if you do, THANK YOU. Today, I will change my life. Today, I swear to put my family's future happiness ahead of my worthless, weak-willed addicted habit. Today, I WILL QUIT.
Mike
O'Fallon , IL USA - Monday, September 27, 2010 4:17 PM CDT
Kern Family,
I have been quit for more than 3 years. Your story was very significant in my decision. Thank you for sharing. May God Bless Your Family!
Andruw Jackson Taylor- Killthecan.org <joepasanders@gmail.com>
Pelham, AL US - Sunday, September 26, 2010 9:45 PM CDT
You'd hold me close in your arms
I loved the way you felt so strong
I never wanted you to leave
I wanted you to stay here holding me
I miss you
I miss your smile
And i still shed a tear
Every once in a while
And even though it's different now,
You're still here somehow
My heart won't let you go
And I need you to know
I miss you
I'm thinking back on the past
It's true the time is flying by too fast
I know your in a better place yeah
But i wish that I could see your face oh
I know where you need to be
Even though it's not here with me
Kenzi Kern <mackenzie_k_06@hotmail.com>
- Sunday, September 5, 2010 10:56 PM CDT
Hey dad!
Well today is the day that Alexa leaves for school. I thought I would be so excited for her to go since I will finally not have to be her second mom...reminding her to clean her room, do the dishes, help with laundry, well basically cleaning up after herself...which we all know if a life or death situation for her. Well I am actually sad. (don't tell mom, she will do the "I told you so" thing) Kenra, Lexa, and I had so much fun last night just hanging out, dancing, and just talking.m Now I am at home cleaning her room, bathroom, and closet..because it is now mine. I thinking of her moving in and you should be there helping. When you go to college your dad should be there helping you carry all of the big things, giving you a big hug and as your pretending not to be scared to be on your own you should be there saying it will be okay kiddo, you can call when anytime. But your not. I am so mad that you are not here to watch all of us grow up and here for every waking moment. I wish you could be hear for us and give us that hug and call us kiddo or pumpkin. Well I miss you dad and love you so much!
Kenzi Kern <mackenzie_k_06@hotmail.com>
- Saturday, September 4, 2010 10:58 AM CDT
Jenny & Mackenzie,
Thank you for girls night on Wednesday. You know how much that means to my mom and I. I am so proud of what you two have accomplished in the past few years and I KNOW that you have many GREAT years ahead of you! Keep on pushing on. The listening ear and the helpful advice does wonders for others. Please know that you are an inspiration! Be Strong!
Jessica Wendland <jessiwendland@gmail.com>
Hutchinson, MN US - Friday, August 20, 2010 12:11 AM CDT
Hey dad
Just wanted to stop by and say hi. Thought you might like to know that Connor got the MVP award for baseball from his coach this year. Mom said that he started out by saying that he was every coaches dream player...that outta make you proud!! You raised a good one!! :)
Love you!!!
Kenzi <mackenzie_k_06@hotmail.com>
- Tuesday, August 10, 2010 10:59 PM CDT
Thank you so much for this story and prayers to your family for strength and comfort as you continue on. I can relate to Tom's story and have recently been "told" to make an appointment with an oral surgeon to have my mouth checked for cancer. I'm very scared (although I have a tough time telling that to my wife) on what I might hear and hope that this is just a wake up call to make positive changes in my life. I can't count the number of times that I've quit in the past only to come back to it. It is a powerful drug and addiction and I hope everyone struggling can find the power to beat it once and for all.
I am sure your husband is watching proudly from Heaven at his family and I again thank you for the time and words about him. It has given me the strength to kick this habit for good!
Todd Smith <tdslsmo@aol.com>
Warren, OH USA - Friday, July 30, 2010 11:41 AM CDT
Dear Jenny,
Thanks so much for sharing your story, it has been a motivation to stay quit. After reading your story I could have easily inserted my name instead of Toms. We are very close to the same age and I also strarted around the age of 12 or 13, and had continued off and on for the next 20 some years. I have now been quit for 9 months and intend to stay that way. My wife has been very supportive and I have two young boys that help remind me of why I need to stay off that junk and how important it is not to pass it on to them. My wife and I had also gotten the people at our church to pray for me and that has also given me strength in times of weakness or stress. Again thank you for sharing you familys story, I pray that the Lord will give you and your family strength, peace and assurance.
Ken
Ken
Knoxville, TN USA - Friday, July 30, 2010 7:44 AM CDT
Thank you for your story. It helps me to know there are worse things about dip than my husband lying to me about it for 5 years, and it gives both of us strength for him to keep up his quit. (12 days)
Take comfort to know your suffering is not in vain - it is helping many to quit, and giving hope to people like me that our spouses have more reasons and resources to help them quit than have previously been available.
L. White
salt lake city, Ut USA - Saturday, July 24, 2010 10:40 PM CDT
Hey Dad-
I have been thinking about you a lot. Lately I have been crying every night. I don't know why but I feel like the pain is getting worse. It has been 6 years already, but I swear I remember it like it was just yesterday. I remember mom waking me and nikki up in the morning saying it wasn't good. I remember Julie driving us to the hospital. I remember going to Walmart to get swim suits because we were going to go to john and shell's and run through the sprinkler, until Dave called my phone and told us to come quick. I remember coming to the hospital scared of what might come next. I wanted to run out to the car to get my CD that has the song "Dance with my father" that I really wanted you to hear. Right as we were going to get on the elevator grandma yelled to have everyone come back into the room, we all new it was bad. I remember running back into the room, throwing myself on top on you at the end of the bed yelling "DADDY, PLEASE DON'T GO", but then you did. Hearing you take your last breath, was like getting my heart ripped out of my chest. I remember laying there at the end of your bed crying and crying and crying, hoping and praying you were going to come back. I needed you, mom needed you, connor, alexa, and tori needed you. We needed you to be there for us, to cook me steak and tell me who I could and couldn't date, you needed to coach tori and connor's softball and baseball teams, you needed to watch alexa perform just ONE more time, mom needed your help to keep me out of trouble. It's not fair. It's not fair that such an amazing guy like you had to go. It's not fair that alexa, tori, and I will never get to have you walk us down the isle or have our father daughter dance, it's not fair that you will not get to see what a good pitcher connor is or see what an amazing guy he has become. it's not fair that Kenra will never get to hear your laugh or have you give her one of those amazing hugs you gave. Dad I miss you so much and want you hear to tell me everything will be okay.
Kenzi Kern <mackenzie_k_06@hotmail.com>
- Monday, July 19, 2010 9:03 PM CDT
THANK YOU FOR TELLING YOUR STORY. THIS POWERFUL STORY
HAS KEPT ME FROM FALLING DOWN. AFTER 29 YEARS OF DIPPING
I HAVE BEEN QUIT FOR 25 DAYS. MANY THANKS
SCOTT
SCOTT <SCRENWELGE@YAHOO.COM>
FREDERICKSBURG, TX USA - Friday, July 16, 2010 8:06 PM CDT
Thanks for sharing your story.
Steve Hardman <Wantmyjeep@yahoo.com>
San Dimas, Ca USA - Friday, July 16, 2010 0:15 AM CDT
Dear Kern Family,
I want to thank you for sharing your story. I lost my mom to cancer a little over two years ago. I found your story on killthecan.org. I have quit chew for 16 days now, and if anything I just wanted to let you know you've given me help in my hard journey. My prayers are with you.
chris m.
Burnsville, MN 55337 - Thursday, July 15, 2010 11:40 PM CDT
Toms story has greatly inspired me to quit chewing and im 33 days quit today. I wish you all the best through your journey.
Joshua Johnston <epislashsig@live.com>
Valparaiso, IN - Thursday, July 15, 2010 7:53 PM CDT
Hi
Our prayers are with you
lucy & al
Lucy Hess <alluhess@q.com>
cold spring, mn usa - Monday, June 28, 2010 2:48 PM CDT
Happy Father's Day Dad!!! I love you!
Kenzi Kern <mackenzie_k_06@hotmail.com>
- Sunday, June 20, 2010 9:31 PM CDT
Hi Jenny and family. I discovered Tom's story recently through your letter to quitsmokeless.org. I have been struggling staying quit for about 7 years, after dipping every day from ages 14-31. But I still "slipped" a few times a year. My wife and I now have two beautiful children, a two-year-old girl and a one-year-old boy who are the joys of our lives. I have promised myself to never slip again and have made it six months, my longest stretch since I went a full year a couple years ago. Your story brought me to tears sitting here at my desk at lunch. I wish you all the best and thank you for sharing your story. I come to the Web site today, as I do intermittently, to get support to be sure that I won't go back to such a terrible habit. After reading your story, I am prety certain that I will never go back to my old habit again. Thank you and God Bless you all for wanting to help others such as myself. I will keep all of you in my thoughts and prayers.
Joe
Toledo, OH USA - Thursday, June 17, 2010 11:58 AM CDT
Happy Birthday DAD!!! Can you believe that Alexa graduated yesterday?! Love you and miss you.
kenzi kern <mackenzie_k_06@hotmail.com>
- Monday, June 7, 2010 7:36 AM CDT
Jenny & Family,
I know you will have a tough week ahead. We still think of Tom often as he lives in our hearts & memories . . . amazing how he has touched our lifes. Hang in there and keep strong in your faith.
Karp
AZ - Friday, June 4, 2010 11:29 AM CDT
Jenny,
My heart breaks for everything your family has gone through. I quit dipping 103 days ago after 17 years. I am able to stay quit becasue of the way I was touched when I read your story 103 days ago. I am sad for you because of your your loss, but grateful you shared your story and let us wanna be quitters in.
God Bless.
Patrick B
Chicago, IL - Tuesday, May 25, 2010 9:27 AM CDT
Jenny,
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I cannot imagine how you feel but it reminds me to continue to quit not only for myself but my family also. You continue to be in my prayers that your life does get better.
Kevin Larkin (klark) <klark24@hotmail.com>
Edgewood, KY USA - Thursday, May 20, 2010 12:52 AM CDT
Thank you and your children for being brave enough to share your story. I have quit for only about 6 months, but I know I never want to use again. Your story and letters make me cry every time, but I keep reading them. They keep me quit. You and your children are saving lives each day, including mine. Thank You.
Don <d45murf@verizon.net>
Lakeville, Ma 02347 - Friday, May 14, 2010 10:59 AM CDT
Hi Jenny - Like the other people who have commented, I need to say thank you for posting this information on killthecan.org. I had chewed for 27 years and never planned to quit until I read the journal on Tom. I have printed out three copies of your story and if I ever have a doubt, all I have to do is read the part about your daughter throwing herself on Tom's legs and saying Please don't go. There is not a urge or craving in the world that can overcome that as I have two kids that are soon to be young adults.
I am QUIT for 70 days today. Thank you again so much for sharing your story and I am very sorry for your loss.
Dave B
Dave Bloomfield <dbloom01@yahoo.com>
Linden, MI USA - Thursday, May 13, 2010 6:03 PM CDT
Hello Jenny & Kern Family.
I just wanted to drop in and say thank you for sharing. I found the group "kill the can" just over two weeks ago and it's going really well. I have a long way to go yet. I owe so much to the people who put that organization together and keep it going and to you for sharing such a difficult and painful experience to help others. Thank you! and take care!
Jeff Kern <kerniescorner@gmail.com>
Rogers, MN USA - Thursday, May 13, 2010 1:24 PM CDT
Thank you for keeping this site up. Jenny, thank you for your response to my e-mail the other day. It was greatly appreciated. I'm so sorry for the loss of Tom. It was years ago, but pain of losing loved ones doesn't seem to go away. May God be with you. I have quit dipping tobacco 17 days ago with you and your family to thank.
Kevin
Spanaway, WA USA - Saturday, May 8, 2010 2:49 PM CDT
Your story is very sad and I am so sorry for your loss. Your story helped me to stay focused during the hardest parts of my quit. I am now tobacco free due in part to you sharing your pain. Thank you for helping me to save my own life.
Rawaldem (Greg B) <gtbrown77@live.com>
Sioux Falls, SD USA - Friday, May 7, 2010 5:30 PM CDT
I feel for your family I couldn't even begin to think about loosing somebody like him. Thats why I decided to stop chewing !
Kyle
Spanaway, WA US - Wednesday, May 5, 2010 5:26 AM CDT
Kenzi--I visit here every so often yet to read posts and I continue to keep your family in my prayers. It looks like your Dad's story continues to touch many lives. Thinking of you all
Dawn <vandenberg@mchsi.com>
- Friday, April 30, 2010 11:19 PM CDT
Hey Dad!
Just wanted to drop in and say hi. There is not a day that goes by when I don't miss you. I wish more than anything I could just have one last bear hug from you (yours were ALWAYS the best)! I would do anything just to have another day with you. I know you are in a better place, but it hurt so much not having you here with me.
I love you dad!
Kenzi
Kenzi Kern <mackenzie_k_06@hotmail.com>
Mankato, - Friday, April 9, 2010 1:17 PM CDT
Jenny and Family,
Your terrible loss is the strength for countless thousands of people struggling with this addiction. I cannot express how deeply sorry I am for the loss of your husband and father, or how eternally thankful I am for you sharing your story. Many many times have I read thru your words. 1 year ago I broke a 23 year chew addiction. Your story made all the difference. My wife and kids will hopefully never know this kind of pain. I pray that you may find some comfort in knowing that every day Tom is saving someones life. Kenzi- your own posts to your Dad reminded me what I have at stake with my daughters and son. I have cried for your loss because "but for the grace of God go I " . I am indebted to you for giving me the clarity and strength to conquer tobacco and never look back. For all my life Tom's story will be part of me and many others who have been touched by this. I wish I could write some flowery words to ease the sense of unfairness and grief you must still feel. I have none. But for what it is worth, The Tom and Jenny Kern story is the rallying cry of 100's of quitters each month on kill the can. It is the unescapable truth that helped not only me but many others quit tobacco forever. Just knowing the pain that I could inflict on my family by dying from continuing to chew, keeps me quit.With all my heart I wish for you all to find the peace and solace you so deserve. Thank you again
Justin Orris
Denver, Co USA - Wednesday, March 31, 2010 1:45 AM CDT
Words cannot express how sorry I am for your loss. Your story will continue to be a large part of my nicotine free life. God bless you and your family and thank you for sharing.
j. .m. brooks (neveragain10@KTC.org) <mcneiljb28@yahoo.com>
Virginia Beach, VA - Thursday, February 25, 2010 7:03 PM CST
thank you for saving my life with your story
grateful
- Thursday, February 25, 2010 3:55 PM CST
I found your story on killthecan.com, and i am glad i did. as i was reading it it brought tears to my eyes because i imagined that happening to me and my daughter who is only 2 right now not knowing her daddy when she is growing up. Thank you very much for sharing your story. It has given me the will power and strength i need to kick my habbit of chewing. i truely and sincerely thank you. you have saved my life!
Caleb Abel <abel.caleb@yahoo.com>
fairmont, mn usa - Wednesday, February 24, 2010 5:46 AM CST
Thank you for sharing your family's story. You can count mine among lives you have saved by sharing the story so generously.
I pray for your family.
John SM
- Monday, February 8, 2010 1:33 PM CST
Thank you so much for sharing Tom's story. I have 3 young boys and have been dipping for 20 years. I quit 3 weeks ago and after reading your story I just wanted to say I will not ever dip again. I feel guilty for the risk I've put my family in and I never realized just how this addiction can hurt those around me 100 times more than just myself. Tom's story helped bring that realization to me front and center. I don't think I have ever been touched as much by a story as this one. I relate on so many levels and can't believe I have let this product run my life, make me lie to my loved ones and risk my life all these years.
Thank You again for sharing and please know that reading your story has helped saved my life.
I will pass your website on to my April group of quitters at killthecan.org.
You and your family will be in my families prayers.
Rick <sigper@gmail.com>
Watsonville, ca US - Wednesday, January 27, 2010 11:54 AM CST
Hey Dad-
Merry Christmas!!! I know this is your favorite time of year and we are all missing you so much over the holidays. Ryan, Kenra, and I went out and got a real tree agian this year...It makes me think of you every time I look at it! I miss you and love you so much wishing you could be here every day with us!!!
Merry Christmas Daddy!!!
Kenzi Kern <mackenzie_k_06@hotmail.com>
- Friday, December 25, 2009 8:24 PM CST
Jenny,
On my 60th day of being free from this nasty addiction I stumbled across your husband's story. Thank you so much for sharing! Tom's story has renewed by strength to continue to fight this battle and obviously has touched many lives. Tom's story is frequently brought up on the QSSN.ORG site.
Clemey <tclemetson@charter.net>
Pepperell, MA United States - Monday, December 21, 2009 12:24 AM CST
Thank you.
124 Hawaiian Dr, Mankato, MN from 1971 to 1987.
I was just recalling a few weeks back how my brothers Jai and Kent and I would wait for the bus to pass our house and then run through the backyards to catch the bus with Bubba and Tom. When I joined QTC (killthecan) I was jolted by how after just reminiscing about him I was confronted with your story.
I now have 2 children of my own and 10 days of quit. Whenever I think this is too hard I think of them and I think of your family's story. Thank you for sharing. Out of your suffering you found the strength to help who knows how many people. I consider myself blessed to be counted among those numbers.
Terry Jeffery <terryjeffery@comcast.net>
Jordan, MN USA - Saturday, December 19, 2009 1:26 PM CST
Dear Kern Family,
Thank you for sharing your story. You husband and father has saved countless lives, including mine. Thank you and God bless.
Jim
Oh US - Saturday, December 5, 2009 10:33 PM CST
This is a very touching story as it highlights exactly the reason I decided to quit for good 433 days ago! I did not want to miss walking my daughter down the isle in 10-15 yrs, along with everything else that may happen with her, my son and my wife period! Anytime from here out that I can help someone quit and take their lives back, it will be done in memory of Tom! Thank you for sharing this story and I'm very sorry for your family's loss. I hope this story helps many, many people choose to throw their cans away for good! God bless you and your family!
Rob May <vze12udp1@verizon.net>
Athol, Ma - Wednesday, December 2, 2009 1:09 PM CST
Thank you so much for sharing this story. I am deeply sorry for your loss. I had been putting off quitting for some time. I could always find a reason not to quit yet. I was looking through the KTC website one night, and found this story. I have been quit since then. I couldn't make any excuses after this story. Thank you so much! I owe my quit to you.
Bandito
Hastings, Mn - Wednesday, December 2, 2009 0:43 AM CST
RIP. I have read your story and it has touched me. I dont want to die for something I can control. I want to be around for my wife and my kids always. I have quit and will stay quit.
Todd
Allentown, PA USA - Friday, November 27, 2009 11:14 AM CST
Thank you for sharing your heartbreaking story. I hurt so bad for you and your family. My greatest fear is that your story will become my story. I want to share this with my husband, but it would only make him irritated. I feel very helpless. I will pray for your family. God bless you all.
Beth Collins <bethcollins419@gmail.com>
- Tuesday, November 24, 2009 4:04 PM CST
Dear Jenny and Kern Family,
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm so sorry for your loss but I think that through suffering, others (like myself) will be saved. I'm only going on my 3rd day of quitting after going through a 2 can a week habit for the last 7 years. This story also encouraged me to put that snuff down. It's been hard and the cravings are skin-crawling, but I will be strong like your family and get through this.
Happy Thanksgiving to all of you and Happy Holidays. And thank you so much for sharing your story with us.
Alex Levatte <AlexLevatte@yahoo.com>
Toledo, OH United States - Friday, November 20, 2009 3:29 PM CST
Hi Paul Berg!! WE have not seen each other in about forty years or so. Since Lighthouse Temple . I would really like to hear from you whenever you feel up to it.
Blessings, Dick Pendleton
Dick Pendleton <randspendleton44@msn.com>
Eugene, ORE. USA - Tuesday, November 17, 2009 6:41 PM CST
This is my first time to visit this site and so far I am very impressed.
Richard (Dick) Pendleton <randspendleton44@msn.com>
Eugene, Or. USA - Tuesday, November 17, 2009 5:51 PM CST
I have sounded like Tom on numerous occasions. I really have not thought about quitting until today. This morning I went to the dentist and they advised me that I have pre-cancerous lessions. I have dipped for 20 years. I have been on the web researching and trying to find ideas on how to quit and reasoning why not to. But after reading your story I am quitting right now. I am sorry for your loss and I pray for your strength to carry on. Thank you for sharing your story. I hope and pray that I can susceed so I can be around for my children.
Robert C
Mount Calm, Tx usa - Tuesday, September 15, 2009 1:03 PM CDT
I quit dipping snuff 133 days ago (AFTER 26 YEARS) and Tom's story was one of my reasons to quit. Thank you for sharing this powerful story and God bless all of you!
Scott
Dalton, GA usa - Tuesday, September 8, 2009 12:20 AM CDT
I've read a ton of the guestbook entries and I can see the strength Tom and your family has given and continues to give.
I realized today after reading your story I didn't just quit for myself. I quit for my wife, my future family, my present family, my past family, my friends, Your family and other families that have effected by this addiction.
Aug
Aug
Denver, CO United States - Tuesday, September 1, 2009 12:39 AM CDT
Wow...I came to the killthecan site just looking for help in quitting. I gained much more, and I only found the site last night. I found many reasons there to quit, but none compare to this...none of them made me think and cry over my addiction. I never took it seriously. You could call me a fool. But this is another way that God is taking care of me...by sending me here to read your story. I never thought of my wife and kids before reading here. I never thought of how I could help my friends quit until I read this. Truly divine inspiration. Thank you SO MUCH for not hiding this story and thus making it meaningless...but thank you for sharing it...it has changed my life.
Brian Benfield
Salisbury, NC US - Tuesday, September 1, 2009 11:21 AM CDT
I am on Day 3. Tom and Jenny's story will become an inspiration as I struggle through.
Dave <edhab@hotmail.com>
Hays, KS US - Friday, July 17, 2009 3:49 PM CDT
To the Kerns family,
I read your story on killthecan site. I have daughters at home about the same age I will be 88 days without tobacco today. your story insiped my quit and is the driving force behind me to stay quit. My thought and prayers are with you and all your loved one daily.
Mark R <alamor7@hotmail.com>
Crawfordsville, IN United States - Friday, June 26, 2009 1:15 PM CDT
Happy Father's Day dad!! I love you and miss you so much. You would have been so proud of Connor today he pitched a good game, and Tori has a good tournament yesterday too, but I know you were there in spirit! I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Kenzi Kern <kernmac@ridgewater.edu>
Hutch, MN - Sunday, June 21, 2009 8:29 PM CDT
Thinking about Tommy especially much today. God bless his family. As he used to say many times crossing portages in the Boundary Waters.."don't let it beat yah".
Spido Peterson
Mankato, MN USA - Friday, June 12, 2009 1:45 PM CDT
I began the journey of quitting dip. I found your story on killthecan.org. Thank you so very much. I have two little boys, an amazing girlfriend and her two little kids. I want to be there for them. I lost my father when I was 11 years old, so I know that feeling, and I don't ever want to cause that pain to them. I just wanted you to know that Tom will be an inspiration and someone I will think about every time I want to pick up tobacco. I'm sorry for your loss, but things happen for a reason, and by you sharing your story, he did not die in vain. He will live on with all of us that are trying to kick this disgusting habit. I'm sitting at work crying (I'm a grown man, that never cries) while I read your posts. I wish the best for you and your family. In honor of Tom, I am going to make my quit date June 12, 2009.
Dave <davidlbauer@gmail.com>
Arnold, MD USA - Tuesday, June 9, 2009 10:42 AM CDT
WOW - what a heart breaking story. I am so sorry you had to share this info on your husband. My husband quite dipping 1 year ago tomorrow. (((HUGS))) Thanks again for sharing and hopefully your story will change some lives!
Diana George <ddmgeorge@hotmail.com>
GA - Thursday, March 12, 2009 2:58 PM CDT
Just wanted to say thank you for sharing your story. It inspired me to quit chewing a little over a year ago! I am continuing to share it with others trying to help them to quit. Thank you so much, you saved my life....God Bless
David Cleveland
Surprise, az USA - Wednesday, March 11, 2009 11:13 PM CDT
Thank you for sharing your life with us over the last 5 years. I was a dipper for almost 20 years, deciding to give it up on New Years. A post on killthecan.org led me to this story, and will be book marked so that anytime I feel weak, I have another tool to help my quit! I am sorry that you had to go through the pain of posting your life, but it will help others either to have them quit or staying quit also!
Ron <ron3775@yahoo.com>
Chambersburg, PA USA - Thursday, February 5, 2009 1:55 PM CST
Dear Ms. Kern,
You do not know me, nor I you, but you have touched me deeply.
I am so sorry for your loss but am so glad that you took the time to so eloquently share your life and Toms struggle with us. But for the grace of God..... thank you for helping me keep my quit, Best regards to you and your family,
Mark
Mark R
ND - Thursday, February 5, 2009 12:34 AM CST
Ms Kern;
I am 45 years old, and like Tom, started in middle school somewhere and have struggled my WHOLE LIFE with this sickness. I have a family of four kids and a beautiful wife. I have quit a thousand times, sometimes for even over a year. After spending 1/2 a day reading and reviewing the things on this site, I am determined to make this current 'quit' my final one. I don't care if it takes everything I own to stay quit, if that's what it takes, so be it.
Thank you for being brave enough, kind enough, considerate enough, and loving enough to share your story. It HAS made a difference. As a Christian man, I know someday we will meet (in Heaven). I plan on giving you my thanks, in person, on that day.
May God Bless you, your new marriage, your beautiful children, and your precious grand-child for all of their days.
A Christian Man from Arizona
Christian Man
Phoenix, AZ US - Thursday, January 22, 2009 11:50 AM CST
19 days quit, all i have to say is wow, sorry for your loss, that habit isn't worth it, I will be strong.
Eric Burmeister <ejburmeister@yahoo.com>
Kewaskum, WI USA - Thursday, January 15, 2009 2:16 AM CST
Jenny,
I am 16 days in to my quit and just came across Tom's story at killthecan.org. Thanks for sharing...sometimes I have to search for motivation to stay quit. It is a very selfless gift to tell the story of Tom and your family to help people like me kick nicotine. Thank you.
Ray M. Wolfe, III <rwolfeiii@email.itt-tech.edu>
Lansing, MI USA - Friday, January 2, 2009 10:24 AM CST
Hello Mrs. Kern,
Just wanted to drop a note of thanks for sharing your story. I first signed this guestbook some time back in 2005 after reading every word of your ordeal. I have not had a chew in almost four years now, in no small part because of your and Mr. Kern's story. I think of you and your family from time to time even to this day because you were an integral part in my quitting tobacco. I wish you and the family well especially this time of year.
Mike Carbone
MA - Tuesday, December 2, 2008 12:11 AM CST
I have just read your story and really made me think. Thanks for sharing and sorry for your loss. I took my last dip out of my mouth as I read. I don't want to leave my 3 year old or 4 month because of chew. It will me tough but will keep your page in my favorites on my computer so I can look at it if I have urges.
Painter
Lima, OH USA - Monday, December 1, 2008 9:10 PM CST
Jenny,
I miss you.
Mary
mary Getzke
Hutchinson, MN USA - Wednesday, August 6, 2008 8:40 PM CDT
Thank you Jenny for sharing Tom with me, and allowing me a second chance at life, be assured of my prayers for you and yours. I am truly grateful for Tom
Andrew Thomas Fahey <andrewfahey07@yahoo.com>
Worcester, Ma. USA - Wednesday, August 6, 2008 1:02 PM CDT
Jenny,
Thanks for keeping the site up. I'm not sure if you even read posts here anymore, but if not maybe soemeone else will be inspired by all of the posts and quit this habit. I started my battle with nicotine addiction (in the form of Skoal) and quit on February 13, 2007. I'm proud to say I'm going to hit 18 months here in a couple of weeks. It was, and still is, a tough fight. I used nicotine for 26 of my 41 years of life. Sorry...
My story is not really important. What is really important is what got me started, and my first step was reading Tom's story. As a father to 3 young children, the impact of your story hit me REALLY hard. Like Tom, I DON'T CRY, but I laid in bed in the grips of an anxiety attack and cried for almost 2 hours straight after reading it. I just pictured my kids at my deathbed crying, only to have their memories of their dad fade over the years. Wow! Its still tough for me now.
I guess what I would like to extend to you Jenny, is a heartfelt thank you for bringing Tom's story to the public eye. I think most people just merely fade out of existence without any type of legacy. Tom left a legacy, and while I am know that you and the kids would rather have him back, a legacy be damned, know this; Tom's legacy lives within me, in the fact that I will not die by own hand in the form of oral or lung cancer. That I will wake up tomorrow (by God's grace) and see my smiling children and hear the cherished word "Daddy" that defines my life and my legacy. I do it for them, but also in the spirit of Tom's legacy...
God Bless you and your family Jenny.
JeffM <jmalone@satx.rr.com>
- Saturday, July 26, 2008 11:53 AM CDT
no one in this world is alone,i have been there and trust me i did not like the experience.i was bold and used my second chance,i am free at last.take your second chance.
........................................
carol smith
Dual Diagnosis
carol smith
machassuchettes, boston U.S.A - Monday, June 23, 2008 1:24 AM CDT
God bless you all. I wept as I read your story 3 days ago. I made the decision to quit using tobacco right then and there. I have been scared straight. I am not ashamed to say I cried. Better for me to cry now than later, when my wife's and family's tears could only be tears of pain and sadness over my premature death.
P.H.
Orange County, ca USA - Tuesday, June 10, 2008 7:44 PM CDT
I dont know if you continue to read these messages, but I just wanted to add my thanks for your words. 200 days ago I first read "Jenny and Tom's Story" on killthecan.org. At that point I was "thinking" about quitting, but had never had anything to push me over the edge. Reading the reality of my back of my mind fears finally pushed me to act. Your loss can never be made right, but please accept my thanks for your witness to the evils of snuff and for perhaps saving my life. I am 194 days clean today and looking forward to enjoying a longer life with my unborn child (due 1/09). Blessings upon you and your family.
Troy Tindall <tindalt@yahoo.com>
Richmond, TX USA - Wednesday, May 28, 2008 11:03 PM CDT
Jenny,
I didn't know that you were continuing this level of outreach in Tom's legacy. One of the last conversations I had with Tom was encouraging him to share his story. Your continued dedication to that purpose is beautiful. Sharing the story has without a doubt saved many individuals and families from grievous loss. I'm honored to be your BIL. :)
Fred Patch <fpatch@tds.net>
Monticello, MN USA - Tuesday, May 13, 2008 5:48 PM CDT
Jenny,
Hi, I am a 22 year old from Burnsville, Minnesota. I used skoal for the last 4 years of my life. I would go through a can or two a day. I have now been clean for a little over 3 months. I wanted you to know that it was your story about Tom that made me quit chewing. I am so sorry for the loss you and your children suffered. I am also happy that you were able to find love again. But I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. Your story may have saved my life. I just wanted you to know that you made a difference in my life, and it means a lot to me. So once again, thank you! God bless you and your family. You guys are in my prayers.
Zach Wise <xfileszach03@yahoo.com>
Burnsville, Minnesota U.S.A. - Sunday, May 11, 2008 6:06 AM CDT
Jenny-
I just happened to find your page in a Google search. I have been reading your page and your story over at quitsmokeless.org for almost an hour now. I am sure I have no idea the pain you and your children must have gone through and like still go through from time to time.
I fell sill to admin that I have sat here reading about your family with tears in my eyes and so much emotion filling me up as I read through your posts.
It is wonderful that God has brought Don into your life, I also think it is wonderful that you are doing so much to make sure your kids remember Tom.
You will have one more persons prayers tonight out here in California.
My God Bless you and your family.
Jeremy
Jeremy
Alta Loma, CA USA - Monday, May 5, 2008 6:51 PM CDT
Jenny I'm very sad for the loss you and your family suffered, and it is great to see that you have been able to move on. On January 3rd of this year I had a chew in my lip, was bored so I google'd quit chewing, with no intention of actually doing it. I found killthecan.org and from there found your story. I had a son on the way and just couldn't imagine leaving him fatherless due to something I had control over.
I'm now 108 days free of chew, a huge huge reason for that is your story. I thank you, my wife thanks you, and my 6 week old son would thank you if he knew.
I also think that hopefully this will break the nicotine chain that has been in my family for generations, my son will never see me use chew, hopefully that will help to keep him off of nicotine. I'll be sure to educate him to the dangers though.
Your story has helped so many.
Sandman32 from killthecan.org
Josh
- Saturday, April 19, 2008 1:17 AM CDT
In one month i will have been skoal free for one year and it has made such a big difference in my life. I want to share my story because life without tobacco is amazing. I started when i was 12yo. I was 37 when I guit. That is 25 years of my life wasted to a worthless cause. I now wake in the morning and my mouth does not taste like crap%^^&&*(*(((. I'm not feeling my pockets for my can or spit cans here and there. Ever drink from one? I found this website to remined myself why I needed to kick the habit. It has given me more reason and support to stay tobacco free.
Bruce McGuire <brucemcguire57@yahoo.com>
chandler, ok usa - Sunday, April 13, 2008 8:52 PM CDT
Jenny, Yet again I am another success story! 20 plus year addict of Copenhagen, now quit over 6 months! Reading your painful stuggle of what such a horrible addiction can do. I am so amazed how many lives you have touched, I know there are many, many more people who have stayed quit because of this true story. I know for a fact you are not the only one to ever go through with this, but no matter how much I search the web, yours is all I find.....Thank you for keeping this here, I bet you and Tom's story has changed thousands of lives for the better!
God Bless you and your family!!
Jim Melton
Portsmouth, VA U.S.A. - Wednesday, April 9, 2008 11:33 AM CDT
The Kern Family
Your letter was the first thing i read on the quitsmokless.org website. It was the turning point in my decision to quit. I have now been quit for almost a year 319 days to be exact. I know i will never touch the stuff again. I am so sorry for your loss. Your story has helped me as well as many others make the decision to quit. God Bless you and your family!
Chris Bruce
Springboro, OH US - Thursday, April 3, 2008 9:49 PM CDT
I just stumbled across this memorial, and wow what jolt it gave me! I'm a 40yr old who has been dipping since the age of 12. I'm honestly embarrassed to admit that I can't remember a SINGLE day gone by that I haven't dipped. It made me sick to my stomach and brought tears to my eyes to see what damage this stuff has done to Tom you and your kids. I'm feeling like a selfish jerk right now for all the years I've been doing this and what harm can come of it. I think reading this made me think for the 1st time, not about what physical damage it will do to me, but what harm it will cause my family and friends if tobacco were to kill me. This story scared the **** out of me, and I pray that this is enough to give me a good base to free myself of this addiction that absolutely controls my life-where I go, what I do, and how I feel. Thankyou for leaving this site up, it means a lot!
Hoss <dblristretto@aol.com>
Basalt, CO - Saturday, March 8, 2008 0:22 AM CST
Thank you for your story. As I type, I am crying because I am dealing with a husband and father who has loved Copenhagen more than he has loved us. He has lied to me, taken money from me and sacrificed his time with me and our children. I am so sad for you and your family but I do have an (small - compared to you) undertsanding of how much this issue hurts those addicted and especially those who love them. My husband says this is it this time but as many of us know we have heard that before. I hope God will direct him to conquer this beast because I am so afraid of also losing him forever - either by death or becuase of his love of Copenhagen. May God be with you and continue to be strong!!! Your story is an inspiration to all of using dealing with this painful issue.
K Roberts
- Friday, March 7, 2008 12:57 AM CST
I am on day 5 of my quit right now and I am 31 years old. I am married with a wonderful 17 month old son. It scares me right now to know that my life could have been cut short due to my addiction. I know I am only on day 5 but after reading the story of your husband I know that I will stay quit. I am so sorry for your loss and I hope that others can gain knowledge from your life and realize how they are wasting away the possibility of wonderful moments. I will pray for you and your family and I hope nothing but the best for all of you in the future. Thank you for sharing your husbands story. Just know that he just saved a life, mine.
Travis Overstreet II <crazycboater@verizon.net>
Bedford, Va - Monday, January 21, 2008 8:53 PM CST
I will pray for you and you children. May God bless you. Your story is very touching, I to am addicted to Tobbacco Dip. Today is number 109 days free of dip for me. I know your story could have been my familys story, thank you for posting your message. I wounder way something could come to take place in your familys life of such desaster. And then I think why did I dip for all those many years 25 years to be exact. You story Im sure will live forever. God purpose in life may not be understood now, but somehow there is. I can understand my words may not be much comfort. But thank you. I will remember to pray for you and your family. And add you to our family.
Dan Lee <threekids2dog@peoplepc.com>
Lynchburg , VA. USA - Sunday, January 20, 2008 3:47 PM CST
I have tried several times times to quit dipping. I've made promises to others, to myself, and I have broken them every time. I feel like that every time that I do something that involves manual labor, fishing, etc. I think that I need a dip. I tell myself just one, and then I end up dipping for a few months, and then the vicious cycle begins. I check my mouth everyday for soars. I am scared to death of getting cancer, but yet I continue to dip. That is until I just read your story. It brought tears to my eyes, and a sickening feeling in my belly. I have two beautiful children that I do not even want to think about leaving. I made the same promises that Tom made about quitting after my first child was born....she is going to be 3 years old. Your story is very sad, but inspirational. I have been dipping off on and for approximately 18 years, and I am 32. I read your story, and I feel sad for Tom, but then I think about you, and your children, and the saddens multiplies. I do not want leave my family in the same manner. Thank you for sharing your story, and being a strong person, and wonderful mother to your children. I am printing a few copies of your story out to keep them with me at all times, so when I want to chew, I am going to read it again. Thank you Jenny, and you Tom, have made greatest sacrifice of all, but you just saved my life.
Craig Merrick <cmerrick@hotmail.com>
Phillipsburg, NJ United States - Thursday, January 17, 2008 6:02 PM CST
Jenny...
I've got a beautiful wife and beautiful children, just like you and Tom have... I've read your story many times and my wife will not be in the same shoes that you once wore. Thank you for sharing. May God bless you, your husband, and your families always.
19 years of chew at 33 years old... and it's over. Please email me dear so I can learn what my wife would have to deal with if I'm gone. My boys would be okay b/c their mom is one of a kind.. but she just can't do it alone... and the craves suck. But I'll win.
Shane Clem <telecommwhiz@yahoo.com>
Elk, VA 22827 - Monday, January 7, 2008 9:02 PM CST
Jenny...
I've got a beautiful wife and beautiful children, just like you and Tom have... I've read your story many times and my wife will not be in the same shoes that you once wore. Thank you for sharing. May God bless you, your husband, and your families always.
19 years of chew at 33 years old... and it's over. Please email me dear so I can learn what my wife would have to deal with if I'm gone. My boys would be okay b/c their mom is one of a kind.. but she just can't do it alone... and the craves suck. But I'll win.
Shane Clem <telecommwhiz@yahoo.com>
Elk, VA 22827 - Monday, January 7, 2008 9:01 PM CST
Mij @ KTC My 10 year old son and I read the story together tonight, and our thoughts & prayers will be with you always.
James Cupo <JimmyCupo01@comcast.net>
Port Charlotte, FL USA - Tuesday, December 18, 2007 7:10 PM CST
thank you for sharing your story and allowing me to use this message to finally quit the smokeless tobacco. I pray for you and wish you the merriest holidays.
Shadd <shadd307@yahoo.com>
Cheyenne, WY USA - Tuesday, December 18, 2007 6:48 PM CST
Thank you very much for sharing your story. I'm very sorry for your loss but your courage in sharing this story has helped countless others.
God bless you and your family.
steelcities at killthecan.org
Tallil, Iraq - Friday, December 14, 2007 11:40 AM CST
I'm 30 years old and finally tobacco free, thanks too QSO, beaverchew, and most importantly, Jenny and Tom Kern. Like so many before me, I want to thank you for saving my life. I tried to quit several times unsuccessfully, until I read your family's story on QSO. May God bless you and your family.
Will <willpharmd@hotmail.com>
Florence, SC - Tuesday, December 11, 2007 7:15 AM CST
Thank you for sharing your story. My thoughts and prayers continue to be with you.
KillTheCan.org says THANK YOU!
Greg Bellan (chewie) <iuchewie@gmail.com>
Twinsburg, OH USA - Thursday, November 8, 2007 11:18 AM CST
Like so many others here, your husband's story affected me deeply. It finally brought reality to my addiction and shook me to the core. I am so sorry that he can no longer be with us but I hope your family finds solace in the many lives he has saved. I stopped using tobacco in March, 2007 and I cite your husband's story and QS.org as the reason I was able to break free.
wgh
Louisville, KY - Thursday, October 18, 2007 4:23 PM CDT
Jenny Kern and family...I never was formally introduced to your father but like any 30-something smokeless tobacco user we know Tom. We know how much he loved his family. We know how he would do anything for his family. We know how he wanted to quit using everyday. And we know the shame he felt b/c the addiction was too powerful. And I would imagine Tom was more powerful than life itself.
My name is Pat and I am a 38yr old father of two beautiful children. I am also a 24yr user of smokeless tobacco. Five days ago I decided enough was enough...I QUIT. I have made the same commitment to quit in the past however this time is different. Your story while absolutely tragic serves as an inspiration to many. You will never know all the people your family will touch.
Your father is one of the most important persons in my life and I never met him. The best way I can honor your father is to say...
THANK YOU FOR SAVING MY LIFE!
GOD BLESS!!
Pat <pjob@optonline.net>
New York, NY - Wednesday, September 12, 2007 9:21 PM CDT
Day 16. Thank You Kern Family.
John Smith <johnrachel@sbcglobal.net>
Simi Valley, CA - Friday, September 7, 2007 11:02 AM CDT
Thank You for making me realize why I must quit. I have been chewing for 12 years and I can't put my wife and two little girls through the pain you must have felt. God Bless you and your family. Today is day number 1.
John Smith <johnrachel@sbcglobal.net>
Simi Valley, CA - Friday, August 24, 2007 2:47 PM CDT
Hi I'm Kalley Karpinsky. Nichole if you see this i have already told mom and dad but they have not told you. i remember my dad mike kerpinsky telling me about tom. he was a nice guy i here. i pray for you and your family every single night when i go to sleep. well hope ur doing well ttyl.
Kalley
mesa , pennsylvania usa - Wednesday, August 22, 2007 5:11 PM CDT
Jenny and Family of Tom Kern,
Today is 100 days for me without dip. I have made it this far because of a website called quitsmokeless.org. When I stumbled onto this website, I found the link to Tom's story. Clicking on that link may very likely have saved my life. I cannot begin to imagine the pain felt by your family, but I hope it can provide some comfort knowing that Tom's story has saved lives. I know I will always count Tom and your family as one of the inspirations I had to quit.
God Bless you and your Family
John Cole <formyboys@nc.rr.com>
- Friday, July 20, 2007 9:21 PM CDT
Hello Jenny,
I just want to thank you for sharing your story about Tom on the quitsmokeless board. I have used tobacco for almost 20 years and have recently quit. The story you posted about Tom was a huge inspiration to me and I will draw from it daily to help me stay off of tobacco. I'm in my late thirties and also have kids that I want to be around to see them grow. I have read some of your other journal entries and glad that you are doing better and moving on. God bless you and your kids. Thanks once again for sharing your story about Tom. I don't ever want to use tobacco again.
Brad Xanders <xanders@pldi.net>
Orlando, Ok United States - Thursday, July 19, 2007 11:10 AM CDT
Hello Jenny,
I admire you and your family very much. I have used smokeless tobacco for over twenty years. I have two lovely children that are very young. I want to see them grow up. Thanks largely to you and the quitsmokeless site, I have now been quit for almost 100 days. This is truly the longest I have gone largely due to you and the people on the site. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for your courage and determination to get the word out. I can't immagine the pain you must feel- I will not pretend that I do. Just know that I will say a prayer for you and your family every day.
Rob Scilingo <jimjenkins4_11@yahoo.com>
San Jose, CA USA - Thursday, April 5, 2007 8:45 AM CDT
Hi Jenny~
I have two more books that you have got to read. Maybe you have already read them but they are called One Tuesday Morning and Beyond Tuesday Morning...They are about 9/11 and a wife losing her husband and learning to move on. They are Christian books and are awesome...I woke up two mornings at around 3 and finished them by 8! The faith that is shown in these two books speaks right to you and I bawled through the majority of both of them. You will love them. (Let me know if you read them). Thanks for the updates and congratulations, you deserve all the happiness in the world.
Melissa Walter <missw24@hotmail.com>
Moorhead, MN - Saturday, March 17, 2007 9:58 PM CDT
Jenny - Wow! I have been browsing your site for a while today. It's amazing to read the guestbook and discover how many people are actually educated about smokeless tobacco becuase of you! You have been a wonderful spokesperson to help many people see the long-term pain that chewing can cause. You are truly an inspiration to so many people. Also Jenny, congratulations on all the great things that have transpired in your life and the lives of your children. As a wife, I can't imagine what you're going through, but as someone who lost their dad at 16 and watched my mom re-marry, I can understand what your kids might be feeling. Take it from me, I didn't like it at first when my mom got re-married, but looking back, it's EXACTLY what my mom needed to be a whole person herself. There's no reason you shouldn't miss Tom or stop loving him, but there's also no reason that you should spend the rest of your life alone without the happiness that Don can bring you either. Celebrate each day with Don, his son, your wonderful kids and beautiful baby Kenra! You have SO much to be thankful for and Tom has got a wonderful seat to watch you and guide you through it all!
Lisa (Frisell) Newpower <mrmrsnewps@msn.com>
Cottage Grove, MN USA - Thursday, February 15, 2007 12:50 AM CST
Hi Jenny,
My name is Walter and I was a smokeless tobacco user for years. Tom Kern's story had a direct impact on my decision to quit that terrible habit. I am now free of tobacco. May Tom's memory serve as an example to people about this terrible tobacco habit that does not get NEAR as much press as it should. Many people still think the stuff is harmless. My mission now is to help as many people as I can to quit this terrible habit. Tom's story helped me change my life, however, there are still too many people who did not hear the story or just choose not to listen. All the best to you Jenny and family.
Walter <captainretail@aol.com>
- Monday, February 5, 2007 4:30 PM CST
Jenny, I've just reread Tom's story that you shared awhile back. It never ceases to bring me to tears. Through the last few years, you've struggled and grown. I am so happy for you now, with your impending marriage to Don. Best wishes for the coming years. I know Tom is smiling for you. with much love, Aunt Charlotte
Charlotte Robertson <cwgrbird@aol.com>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Wednesday, January 10, 2007 9:03 PM CST
Hi Jenny,
Yes, like the others, I have followed your inspiring blog. Despite different problems we may have, you testimony of faith speaks to all of them and it touches me in so many ways. I liked Don the minute I met him at the reunion. He felt "right" for you and your family and you for him. Sure am lifting up Connor and McKinley in prayer, as many are. Hang in there, dear niece, you're on the Godly path. Love and Blessings.
Molly & Bill Halter <christian@cboss.com>
North Lima, OH USA - Friday, October 13, 2006 5:29 PM CDT
Jenny and Family
I stop in here from time to time to catch up with your family. I continue to keep you and your family in my prayers. I saw MacKenzie in the Medical Center not long ago with Kenra and she told me about your engagement. Congratulations to you and Don. That is a big step for all of you. I truly think Tom would be happy for you, he wouldn't want you to be alone Jenny. When you wrote in a previous posting about dating... "I asked God to open doors so wide I would be able to tell He wanted me to walk through them." God must have opened that door for you. I know its probably hard for the kids with another adjustment, but when you keep those lines of communication open with them and continue to trust in God for guidance, He will see you through all the those times. I will definitely continue to pray for you, Don and all the kids.
Sounds like you all have been very busy. We have had a very busy summer with many hills and valleys to go through. I think we are finally see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Dawn
HUTCHISON, MN USA - Friday, October 13, 2006 5:28 PM CDT
Hey Mrs. Kern~
Congratulations on your engagement! My Social Theory class was having a great debate about love...one girl claimed that you are meant to only fall in love once and once you have, you will never have that same love again. The rest of the class disagreed with her, believing that love is different for everyone...I used you and your experience as an example and my teacher agreed with me. Anyway, I just thought I would let you know that. Have a great day!
Melissa Walter <walterme@mnstate.edu>
Moorhead, MN - Wednesday, October 11, 2006 10:21 PM CDT
Hi Mrs. Kern,
I first signed this guestbook in July of 2005 and followed your story for some time before that. I wanted to let you know that I have been tobacco free for 610 days today, in no small part due to your and Mr. Kern's story. I sincerely thank you. Congratulations on the new addition- may God bless you and your family.
Mike Carbone <mikecarbone@comcast.net>
North Attleboro, MA USA - Monday, October 9, 2006 3:12 PM CDT
Dear Jenny and family,
I have been following you in your Caring Bridge journey. Peter and I wish you and your family only the best. Give Connor time, he is a wonderful boy because of you and Tom. Congratulations on your engagement. Peter met Don at the family reunion and could see he makes you happy.
Take care and have fun at Bobby's wedding, Peter and Karen Heers
Karen Heers <heers.karen@mayo.edu>
Oakland , MN USA - Monday, September 25, 2006 8:17 AM CDT
Jenny,
You wrote the following in your 5/2/06 post about dating... "I asked God to open doors so wide I would be able to tell He wanted me to walk through them."
Sister, you've opened so many doors to life I honestly can't see any reason why your reqest would be denied. What do I mean?.... The story you published, and the pain of your suffering has been a beacon for hundreds of us over on Quitsmokeless.org. I really wish there was a way for me to express just how much you've helped us put an end to the destructive forces of nicotine addiction in our lives. You've truly been a guiding light, leading lost souls to a better life.
God Bless you Jenny. I sincerely hope you find all that you seek in life, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for your inspiration.
- Patrick
Patrick
San Ramon, CA - Saturday, September 9, 2006 1:47 AM CDT
Hello Jenny,
I want to thank you for sharing Tom's Story. I am a new member of the quitsmokeless website and have been for going on my 4th day. My quit day was July 25,2006. I have been having some difficulty staying focused and keeping from using the chew. Until I came across Tom's Story. I now have you and your family in my prayers and I thank you for your bravery. I now have another inspiration in my life and I will always be thankful. Peace and Love to you and your Family.
Corey Robinson <coreyrwrestling@canada.com>
Halifax, NS Canada - Thursday, July 27, 2006 10:01 PM CDT
JLou,
BigMac & baby Kenra are looking great! Grandma Robertson & Aunts said they had a fun time being with all of you and loved cuddling with Kenra. Jenny, you and your children are always in my heart & thoughts. You are a loving, supportive, and hard working Mother! Yet, as you surely know, life doesn't stop. Stay focused on the things you can give & receive love today. Can't wait to see you on J-4th.
I Love You,... Drew
Andrew Robertson <ARIC74@comcast.net>
Naperville, IL - Tuesday, May 23, 2006 10:03 AM CDT
I wanted to thank you for sharing your story to those of us trying to quit smokeless tabacco at quitsmokeless.org. As a 35 year old father of two, with one more on the way, I relate to your story and I have found it to be another source of strength as I celebrate 120 days quit.
I wish I had more to say to you and family, but I'm afraid I cannot adequitly express how I feel. I just can't find the words. Thanks for sharing your story. I wish you and your family the best.
In Christ's peace, A.J. Parker <ajmette@sbcglobal.net>
Fishers, IN US - Monday, May 22, 2006 2:39 PM CDT
Jenny, Glad to see you've got a couple of new things to smile about. You deserve it. Best of luck.
Jay O <superstar3354@hotmail.com>
- Monday, May 8, 2006 3:45 PM CDT
A new baby! How wonderful!! Congratulations to Kenra's mommy, grandma and her auntie's and uncle!!!
Carolyn Bah <cbomstad@hutchtel.net>
- Monday, May 8, 2006 8:55 AM CDT
Jenny~
Congratulations on becoming a grandma. I check the website every once in a while, just to see if you have updated it. It sounds like you really are going through some changes but everything happens for a reason. Have a great day!
Melissa Walter <missw24@hotmail.com>
- Wednesday, May 3, 2006 5:38 PM CDT
hi,
I am the daughter of Mike and Katherine Karpinsky. I logged on to this website today not knowing what i was going to see, for this is the first time i have logged on. What i saw was remarkable and made me regret never logging on before! I want you to know that my family and i are sending our prayers everyday and it is obvious that everyone else is doing the same. I still can remember Tom from when my dad, him and all of their friends would go on boundry water trips. I remember Tom as a funny guy who always was making people laugh. Tom and your family are always in my prayers!
Nichole Karpinsky <Katherine Karpinsky@aol.com>
Mesa, AZ - Wednesday, March 15, 2006 4:55 PM CST
Dear Jenny,
I found Tom's story on the Quit Smokeless.org site. And I can honestly say this story brought me to tears and has given me a greater motivation to stay away from chewing tobacco. I quit 2 weeks ago and before that I had quit for 9 years and started back using chew for 4 more years. Thats all it took was one chew and I was hooked again. Tom's story also shows me how deadly smokeless tobacco is. And the tobacco companys need to change their warning labels to this product will kill you and not use the current one that says this product could cause cancer or tooth lose and gum disease. I need to share this story with my uncles and cousins who chew. I,am also grieving right now I lost my father-in-law to brain cancer on 01/29/06 and he never chewed, smoked or drank more than a few beers. I was raised by a single parent my mother and never had a father and my father-in-law was like the dad I never had and after losing him I deceided to give my chideren a father like grandpa was to my wife,sister-in-law and brother-in-law. After reading Tom's story I feel it gave me the extra boost to stay tobacco free for life. I have no urges to start up again and now I would like to help my uncles quit. Their both in their 50's and have been chewing since highschool. And they both have loving famlies like yours. I have not even chewed half the time my uncles have and I have caused enough tissue and tooth damage from chewing that I will have to spend $20,000 to repair my teeth. And I Have a loving wife and two little girls who need me.
May GOD Bless you and your family for this story it will probable save my life from cancer and hopefully my Uncles.
Toby J. Aberle <tobyaberle@rushmore.com>
- Thursday, March 2, 2006 3:38 AM CST
Hi Jenny,
Tom's story resonated so much with me. I, too, have made promise after promise to my wife: honey, I will quit on your birthday; sweetie, on valentine's day; my love, when our daughter is born. I even went as far as to write contracts out for specific numbers of cans for specific periods of time. I was an addict, no doubt about it. You see, I have two years of sobriety under my belt, and I thought, wow, another addiction has taken over my life, and now I have to battle this too. I am not ready. I need chew to get through the day, through trips, through life. Well, Tom's story touched me on such a deep level. If it means anything, I have quit smokeless tobacco because of that story. My family life is great, my wife does not threaten divorce (I used to holler at her, yeah, you will divorce me over nicotine), not realizing that it was the broken trust and promises, the lying and cheating that she was leaving behind. My daughter, Molly, who is only two, has a chance to have her father. My heart goes out to you and your family because Tom is gone. But his story and your story, your family's story, will, I promise, save lives. Perhaps that can bring some confort to you all.
God Bless,
Mark
Mark
Bethlehem, PA United States - Wednesday, February 22, 2006 5:10 PM CST
Hi Jenny,
The Christmas photo with 5 adorable, smiling faces beaming at us is a testimony to your family's faith, courage, and trust in Christ Jesus. The "ChristmasTomTree" is the best. Tom surely is smiling. We are, too. We miss him and Tom Markey so much. Though we can't fix your heartaches, we do lift them up in prayer. You're never far from us in spirit. Love, Bill & Molly Halter
Molly Halter <christian@cboss.com>
North Lima, OH USA - Friday, January 13, 2006 3:49 PM CST
Thanks for the Christmas card. Just want you to know that I think of you often and wonder how you're making it, especially during those times when it's easier to have a husband around to take care of the smoking washer, replace the shower head, and force the dog to swallow pills. I admire your strength to be able to continue on doing dual duty. I'd bet that your kids are gaining quite a bit of independence, which may be a real blessing down the road, though it seems tough right now.
Just my 2 cents on "doing something for yourself", which yes, you do need to do some. However, it seems to me, that when someone tells me this, I don't FEEL like going off by myself, because then I'm SUPPOSED to be having fun, feeling refreshed, etc. I find that when I'm sad, keeping busy and doing for others is much more therapeutic and makes me much happier.
I wish we had been there for the funeral in summer '04. We keep saying that we're going to MN to visit. Maybe this summer.
Cousin Julie Younger <jyounger@att.net>
Dripping Springs, TX - Friday, January 13, 2006 8:40 AM CST
JLou,
Thank you for your beautiful Christmas letter & picture. About some old news, we can certainly understand Kenzie’s dilemma to leave the swim team. When Alyse decided to not play college basketball, I think it burned me more than her? Shows’ who the really mature “adult” is, eh? But the BigMac will love just being a college student & enjoying a new life. This is a blessing for you as well. Sharon & I have found a renewed sense of wonderment watching Alyse truly start to fly on her own (even though she wrecked my car on one of her school-breaks @#X%?).
Alexa, Connor & Tori are so beautiful with so much energy given the similar activities our families share. And you Jennifer are beautiful as well, I Love your Smile in the photo taken in the fall leaves. As you’ve stated “one day at a time” is the best way to learn-live-love life. We look forward to seeing y’all at the Francis reunion @ BigLou’s.
God Bless you and your children.
Drew
Andrew Robertson <ARIC74@comcast.net>
Naperville, IL - Thursday, January 12, 2006 11:05 AM CST
Dear Jenny,
My husband found QuitSmokless.org. He has quit chewing tabacco using it. Tom's story has been posted and re-posted several times and I cry every time I read it. I have refered others to read your story as well. Thank you so much for sharing your pain with so many people including those you have never met. Many wives of users have found courage from your strength. May the Lord strengenthen you every day. Peace be with you.
Vivian Trimble <vimvam@earthlink.net>
TX USA - Wednesday, January 11, 2006 7:54 PM CST
Hi Jenny and kids,
I just got your beautiful card and I thought I would check out your website.I thought about you guys alot over the holidays and really hope that you could find peace and happiness. I know this has got to be a very tough time of year. I thought about how Tom spent Christmas in heaven with Jesus. Can you even imagine how awesome that would be? Well, we love you all and Tori, you'll have to come over soon!
Happy New Year.
jennifer johnson <john1234@hutchtel.net>
hutchinson, mn - Wednesday, December 28, 2005 11:06 AM CST
Wishing you better times and wonderful dreams!
Love to all.
Carolyn Bah
Hutchinson, MN US - Thursday, December 8, 2005 11:42 PM CST
Hi Jenny,
I think of you so often.. pray for you lots... but need to see if you have any time we can get together. You are doing such an awesome job as a parent... I see your kids and they look good Jenny. When I think of Tom it brings a smile to my face but there is an empty hole in my heart. I am sooo sorry that you have to go through this...I am glad to hear how supportive your family is... they rock!
Mary
Mary <maryg@hutch.k12.mn.us>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Wednesday, November 2, 2005 2:32 PM CST
Hello Jenny,
Perhaps there will be a family who needs your ministering. Heidi Oquist died this morning. She was Amy Schmidt's cousin (in Hutch). Heidi's son, Shane, is an exceptional swimmer, in 11th grade, and daughter, Caley, is in 6th grade - equally good at swimming. Son, Colton is in 8th grade and plays hockey. All areas you guys are involved in.
Heidi positively affected a lot of people in the swimming world as a coach and mentor.
It's possible that you all could run into them or their extended families.
An enormous prayer would be welcomed.
Thanks Jenny.
Mary <fpatch@tds.net>
Monticello, - Monday, October 31, 2005 8:14 AM CST
Mrs. Kern
I was so happy to see that you have been feeling slightly better since your last update. I think that Tom, even though I didn't know him, has taught many of us to live more in the moment!
Michelle Walter <twinshelly2003@hotmail.com>
Moorhead, MN - Thursday, October 27, 2005 11:41 PM CDT
Hey Jenny,
I hope this weekend away will be refreshing and uplifting! Should be beautiful weather as well. Take Care. Love, Mary
Mary Markve-Patch
- Wednesday, October 26, 2005 10:15 PM CDT
Hi Jenny. I hope your day and evening at Gustavus homecoming was enjoyable. I know with talking to you on Friday night you were going to experience a ton of different emotions. I hope you could feel Tom's presence with you all day. Just wanted to drop in and say hi and hope all was going good today. The sun is nice. Enjoy the day.
DeeDee Reiner <dmr@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Monday, October 10, 2005 1:52 PM CDT
Jenny,
You and the kids continue to be in our thoughts and prayers. Can't imagine the emotional rollercoaster ride you are taking. Know that you have family and friends to call on for support. BWCA trip was a good time. Between the WX, wind, and fishing, it was obvious to all that TK was watching over us as we felt his presence countless times. Hang in there!
Karp <mkarpin2@wm.com>
Mesa, AZ - Friday, September 30, 2005 3:37 PM CDT
Dear Jenny and Family,
I've been waiting for a new entry. I'm sorry things are as they are. I continue to think of you often and the prayers continue as well. Stay busy and ask for the help when you need it.
Sincerely,
Jay O
Buffalo, MN - Monday, September 26, 2005 11:11 AM CDT
Jenny,
I haven't been in here lately, but I happen to go into it today. I think of you and your famliy often. I'm sure some days are harder than other, but always remember there are people out there that can help you get through. If you ever need someone to listen give me a call. Life does go on and days go bye. Tom will never be forgotten by any one. He touched so many lives and you and your family should be so proud to be a big part of it all. Have fun at the Gustavus week-end reunion. Remember Tom will be with you every step of the way. He watches over all of you more now thatn he did before.
Love Dawn
Dawn Wegner <swimming19@mchsi.com>
Hutchinson, MN McLeod - Sunday, September 25, 2005 4:01 PM CDT
Mrs. Kern~
It sounds like you have been extremely down lately. I read your entry and then heard this song for the first time and started crying because I thought of you. Its by Rascal Flatts and is called "Wanna Be Running When the Sand Runs Out". It is very good and even though I didn't know Tom, it sounds like he lived his life by this song. Hopefully you get the chance to hear it sometime, I don't think it was ever released but it is very good.
Melissa Walter <walterme@mnstate.edu>
Moorhead, MN - Saturday, September 24, 2005 11:06 PM CDT
Hey sis,
I am sooo sorry!!!!
Did you hear focus on the family this A.M.? Perhaps this evening. A woman, humorist, speaker. You may not laugh out loud, but perhaps it would be a "light" you could hear. In recalling something she said, I wonder if you could attend a spirit-filled church this weekend, every service. Park your laden backpack at the door, just be, and maybe forget to pick it back up when you leave. I'm hoping you find relief and joy.
If a hug could share your burden, it's sent.
Love you, Mary
Mary Markve-Patch <fpatch@tds.net>
- Friday, September 23, 2005 3:09 PM CDT
Mission accomplished: Tommy's favorite Quetico Fishing spots have been visited by his old friends. Fish caught and fun times had in his memory with some new memories made - which he would have enjoyed. Also noted wind at our backs (both ways - never happened before) - a resident bald eagle that monitored us closely, a double rainbow and I caught the largest walleye of my life. Thanks Tommy.
Steve Peterson
Mankato, MN - Tuesday, September 6, 2005 4:39 PM CDT
Mrs. Kern: Your letter to the quitsmokeless.org community was recently posted on its website. I have that letter in my wallet and will keep it with me for as long as it takes. I know that there are no words that I can write that will ease your pain. If it is any consolation, your story has inspired me, and many others, to quit this terrible addiction. I do not want my young children to suffer as your family has, knowing that it is within my power to prevent such a tragedy. I hope you and your children can find peace. Thank you for sharing such a painful experience in order to help others caught in the same web of addiction. I'm sure Tom is proud of your strength. Again, I'm very sorry for your loss.
Eric <evanorden@yahoo.com>
- Tuesday, August 16, 2005 12:25 AM CDT
I read Mrs. Kern's letter to the October 05 quit group on Quit Smokeless.com and it brought me to tears. I have chewed tobacco since I was 17. I have quit and quit and quit some more. I joined the Quit Smokeless group and had a successful quit for 1 1/2 years. I recently quit again and have been going for 11 days. I plan on eliminating smokeless tobacco from my life forever and it is letters like yours that help others to do the same. I want to learn from Tom's tragic death. I thank you for sharing and God Bless you and your family. May you find peace.
BJ Rycus <Spartanbj@comcast.net>
Okemos, MI USA - Saturday, July 23, 2005 9:45 PM CDT
Mrs. Kern,
Your family's story has been an inspiration to me in my quitting smokeless tobacco. Today, I have been 162 days free from chewing tobacco. During those 162 days, I have become engaged to my fiance and purchased a house; two things I attribute directly to the absence of tobacco in my life. I received this link at some point early in my quit and read every word of your story. I added this link to my signature line on quitsmokeless.org so that as many people as possible attempting to quit chewing tobacco could hear Mr. Kern's tragic story. I hope that you know that many people have been assisted in their struggle to quit and to remain quit because of Mr. Kern. Although I can only imagine the pain you and your children have undertaken, you can rest assured that this forum has enabled that pain to transcend into helping others.
Thanks again and God Bless!!!
Mike
Mike Carbone <pcarbone339@rwu.edu>
North Attleboro, MA USA - Monday, July 18, 2005 2:31 PM CDT
Mrs. Kern,
I've spent too long looking at this box to think of the right words to say. 196 days quit. Two words...Thank You.
Christian N
- Saturday, July 16, 2005 11:12 PM CDT
JLou,
Just checking in, thinking of you & the crew. With summer here and Alyse graduated getting ready for college I know your right behind us with the "Big Mac." So, here we go on another of life's adventures, yes!? Calvin at 16 is already 6'1 - 235lbs and has started football training camp. I can see Connor suiting up soon himself. Oh yes and then Alexa & Grace our two ham-bones, is there a stage big enough for any one of them, and Tori too? Yep, summer is off & running with a full schedule. But I still want to meet you somewhere in the WI-Dells before the season ends. Jenny,.. make sure you are getting out in the sun, playing in the grass, and being chased by the gang with water squirt guns. Love & Prayers,... Drew
Andrew Robertson <ARIC74@comcast.net>
Naperville, IL - Monday, June 13, 2005 9:15 AM CDT
Thinking about the Kern's today and wishing the best during this time. We've made a Boundary Waters/Quetico park permit to return to some of Tommy's favorite fishing spots this summer - the boys, Karp, Beeps, Geils and I will do some catch and release for him.
God bless and you're in my prayers
Steve Pete
PS: We'll cook up a few walleyes for Tommy too.....
Steve Peterson
Mankato, MN - Thursday, June 2, 2005 10:05 AM CDT
Jenny and kids,
I was unaware that your page was still up, but while checking on the status of someone else on another caring bridge page,who has an 8 year old boy fighting with cancer, I thought I'd take a stab and type in Tom's name. Lo and behold your page is still up! I'm so glad! You are like me, in that just being able to sit and release my feelings takes a load off. I'm glad you have this outlet for yourself and for all of us that care so much about you and your kids. I have had some wonderful e-mails back and forth with MacKenzie and am hoping that becuase I've walked in her shoes, she feels a little better when we communicate. There's nothing any of us can do to take your pain away, but like you said, when you went to that conference where you met someone else, 43, who lost her husband in January, it happened for a REASON! Yesterday marked EIGHTEEN years since my dad died. It was also fishing opener, which was a very exciting time for my dad every year. I now have lived two years longer withOUT him that WITH him. That is a strange reality and doesn't seem possible. It really DOES get easier to cope with and doesn't sting every day anymore, although it still SUCKS in a big way. God does funny things to such great people and we just have to plug our way through each day/week/month/year to find out what awesome things he has in store for us. Like you said in another entry, good things are worth waiting for, right?? This next month will be hard. You are so fortunate though, Jenny, to have an INCREDIBLE family to be there for you to help you through it. I don't know the Kern side of your family, but I'm sure they're great people. But knowing your family from my beginning practically, I have to say the Markves are ALL extremely WONderful individuals. You are so fortunate to have 4 siblings and your parents to lean on. As your kids grow up, they too, will be grateful they have each other to share stories and remember Tom as well. You have so many people behind you, caring for you, praying for you, wishing you weren't in the shoes you're in. What lucky kids you have, to have a mom, a hero, to help them through this journey. You are so brave and have come so far in the last year. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your kids even stronger in this next month to carry you through.
See, I didn't lie at the beginning of this journal entry when I said I liked to get my thoughts down on paper, did I? :) Keep the entries coming when you need to. We're all here to support you and will be there for you guys with ANYTHING you might need!
Sending all our thoughts and prayers,
Lisa Newpower <mrmrsnewps@msn.com>
Cottage Grove, MN - Monday, May 16, 2005 5:00 PM CDT
Hey, Jenny. Even phone calls are too hard to actually have a conversation, between kids and exhaustion, on both sides of our fences. You know, I still am dumbfounded that this has all transpired. I also imagine each day, what happened? I pray, then pray, then pray .... for you.... and again. There's is such a loss of what to do or say, other than ask and care. I probably go overboard putting myself in your shoes, empathizing, grief overwhelms me, and I just can't imagine. A whole year. You have done a wonderful job of taking care of yourself and your children. These next few weeks will be trying, but like you said, hand it over, He WILL carry that burden. What is the name of that guy singer who talks about "When life is hard....chorus.. cry to Jesus, dance for Jesus, fly to Jesus and LIVE." It's such a great song. I'll get it eventually. There is so much going for you right now, though it may be hard to see. Those baby steps might seem more like canyon leaps, but you'll be carried over. I'm proud of you and I love you. Mary
sis <fpatch@tds.net>
Monticello, MN - Wednesday, May 11, 2005 8:32 PM CDT
Dear Jenny,
I just wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you and the kids.
Mary Rasmussen <bamm@hutchtel.net>
Hector, MN - Friday, April 29, 2005 8:36 PM CDT
JLou,
I loved reading your recent entries. The confusion and joy of kids growing combined with the dealing of thier raw emotions must add to your stress load. But I hope it also provides you new ways to connect with your children, whom you love so much. Thank you for continuing to share your pain. Even I was taken back with your comment about how you miss Tom in so many ways you didn't think of before. This forces me to revisit my life, with Sharon & kids, and be thankful -yes- even for the countless stupid arguments we have, but to realize how much more I'd miss them if they weren't here!? I think of you often, how you're doing & holding up. My prayers are with you and your beautiful motley crew. I Love You. Drew
Andrew Robertson <ARIC74@comcast.net>
Naperville, IL - Tuesday, April 26, 2005 2:39 PM CDT
Hi Mrs. Kern
Melissa and I went home this past weekend and attended prom....Mackenzie looked beautiful! You all know that your dad was watching, just like he does everyday! I was so happy to see an update. It's okay to cry and remember, people are thinking about you guys everyday, people you never see, like me! I hope that all of these guestbook entries helps you to maybe get through a hard day or to remember that people have not forgotten about Tom or any of you!
Michelle Walter <twinshelly2003@hotmail.com>
Moorhead, MN 56563 - Monday, April 25, 2005 10:15 PM CDT
Hey Jenny,
It's be awhile. I can only imagine the roller coaster of emotions you continue to face. Keep the faith and know that we continue to think of you & the kids and are keeping you in our prayers. Did you get the e-mail I sent you awhile back about the "Fork"? Keep in touch and let us know how you are doing.
Karp <mkarpin2@wm.com>
Mesa, AZ - Friday, April 22, 2005 9:25 AM CDT
Hey Kern Family:
I haven't checked your website for a while. I really enjoyed your last journal entry, Jenny. I have heard great things about Camp Amanda.
I imagine it will always be "one day at a time" but glad things are getting a little better. Think Spring!
Scott Weilage <scottw@weilage.com>
Mankato, MN - Saturday, February 26, 2005 12:15 AM CST
Hey you guys. I just wanted to stop by and say that... Alexa... you did so good in the musical, I went to watch it with my brother and you guys were so awesome, I was amazed at how good it was. Good job girl! Connor, I watched one of your games for a little bit at the tourney the other day and you guys were doing real good. It looked like you were having so much fun and boy were you fun to watch. Good job kid, keep trying, those wins will come eventually. Kenzi, I never see you in school anymore, probably because I'm never there, but don't forget about our horseback riding adventure we still have to go on, just let me know when you would like to go and I'll get it set up. Tori, it's always fun seeing you at Park and you always have a smile on your face. Keep smiling girl and keep drawing, you might be an artist someday, that would be fun huh? Jenny I don't see you that much, but thanks for coming to the girls hockey games, we appreciate the support. It's fun seeing you in the stand during the games.
Jesse Madson <maddy414@hotmail.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Wednesday, February 2, 2005 11:04 AM CST
Hi Jenny,
I have been thinking about you alot and praying for you as well. We tried to contact Deb Day to see if all of us could get together around Christmas but I guess it didn't work. I remember when the kids were little. We used to get together every year for the holidays. I feel I need to apologize for not staying in contact with you more. I don't feel like a very good friend. I imagine the holidays were difficult. I was glad to hear about the support group you've been attending. Sounds like a great support. I wish we weren't 2 1/2 hours away but maybe we can connect sometime on our way to the cities. I continue to pray for you and the kids.
Love in Christ,
Ploegs
Kurt Ploeger <kploeger@iw.net>
- Wednesday, January 12, 2005 3:35 PM CST
Dear Jenny, I was not aware of this web site until I walked with Linda S. last wed. I was telling her how helpful Curt Lund's caringbridge page was. (Curt's wife Sandy died of cancer --funeral Dec. 19th...age 55...he is a Jr High shop teacher.) I'm thinking how good it must be to write when you are able: not to have to repeat yourself to so many caring friends; and to read messages when you are strong enough. And to feel and know of the love and concern that is there for you and the kids. Keep on keeping on, Jen. God will provide the light But the light is just until the next corner and I suspect you (like me?) want the entire way illuminated. We both know you can do it and will survive, but I'm just awfully sorry that you have to. May he hold you in the palm of his hand and may you feel comforted and carried and nurtured. p.s. I enjoyed the "Dear Mrs Kern" notes from students..aren't kids wonderful?
Sharon Dierks <sdierks@lakedalelink.net>
Maple Lake, Mn USA - Wednesday, December 29, 2004 9:26 PM CST
Dear Jenny,
Thank you again for the copy of "A Mom's Colorful World." I made beaded bookmarks for family members and friends. They turned out nicely. I told my family about Tom, you, and noticing your bracelet at school. I'll show one to you when we get back to work.
I've thought of you often during our gatherings, church, and my alone time. Thanks again for keeping us updated on this page.
Brenda
Brenda Rasmussen <brras@en-tel.net>
Willmar, MN Kandiyohi - Monday, December 27, 2004 3:15 PM CST
Hi Mrs. Kern~
I continue to check the website to see how you're family is doing. I read this poem and thought of you all. Have a Merry Christmas and a Great New Year.
My First Christmas in Heaven
I see the countless Christmas trees around the world below
With tiny lights, like Heaven's stars, reflecting on the snow.
The sight is so spectacular, please wipe away that tear
For I am spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year.
I hear the many Christmas songs that people hold so dear,
but the sounds of music can't compare with the Christmas choir up here.
I have no words to tell you, the joy their voices bring,
For it is beyond description, to hear the angels sing.
I know how much you miss me, I see the pain inside your heart, But I am not so far away, we really aren't apart.
So be happy for me, dear ones, you know I hold you dear.
And be glad I'm spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year.
I sent you each a special gift, from my heavenly home above. I sent you each a memory of my undying love.
After all, love is a gift more precious than pure gold.
It was always most important in the stories Jesus told.
Please love and keep each other, as my Father said to do.
For I can't count the blessings or love he has for each of you.
So have a Merry Christmas and wipe away that tear
Remember, I am spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year.
Melissa Walter <missw24@hotmail.com>
Buffalo Lake, MN - Saturday, December 25, 2004 4:14 PM CST
Dear Jenny and Family,
Just wanted to wish you a happy Christmas. I never get to see you at school so this my way of staying in touch. Enjoy the break and have a Happy New Year.
Cindy
Cindy Miller <cmiller848@hotmail.com>
Hector, MN USA - Friday, December 24, 2004 11:10 AM CST
We wish you your memories of Christmas past and wish you more generous, loving, sharing Christmas' and holidays with friends and families to come.
God bless you.
Carolyn Bah <ckbah@hutchtel.net>
- Friday, December 24, 2004 0:38 AM CST
Hi Kerns:
Just to let you know that people think about you and pray for your good family everyday.
God bless during this holiday season.
Steve Pete
Steve Peterson
Mankato, MN - Tuesday, December 21, 2004 8:43 AM CST
HI,
I just got your website from Brenda. I have been visiting it through my uncle who has been diagnosed with cancer since August. I never see you at school but I think of you often. This has to be just about the hardest time of year, if you ever need to talk come on down to my room (I almost never leave it). Hope those 4th graders are shaping up for you. Take care and know you are in many peoples prayers.
Cindy Miller <cmiller848@hotmail.com>
Hector, MN USA - Wednesday, December 1, 2004 10:35 PM CST
Kern Family:
I just wanted to let you know I think of your family often.
Recently, I decided to quit using smokeless tobacco and came across your story on quitsmokeless.org. Although this probably of no comfort to you, you all have indirectly played a role in saving several lives. You have motivated many in our war against addiction. Thank You. I hope you find strength and peace.
Dan
- Wednesday, October 27, 2004 2:29 PM CDT
Mrs. Kern- I still can't call you by your first name eventhough you were my teacher nine years ago!
I just heard of this website tonight and thought that I would write a little message to tell you that I having been thinking about you and your family. While I read the journals I cried and thought of the great times you and your family got to have with Tom while he was still here on earth. My mom has cancer and has been fighting it for two years so i kinda of know what you went through while Tom was fighting. I saw you at the Relay for Life in Hutch and just wanted to give you a hug. Eventhough I never knew Tom from what I have heard he was a great guy and will never be forgotten. Don't forget that its ok to cry when you need to.
Kasey Franzeen <shortthing_fran@hotmail.com>
Buffalo Lake, MN - Tuesday, October 19, 2004 11:04 PM CDT
Jenny and kids, its such a beautiful fall day. The leaves are gently falling from the trees and the colors are spectacular this weekend, changing of the seasons. I often think of you all and changes that have been brought about in your lives this past year. You speak of meltdowns in your last entry and as I think of the meltdowns that you talk about, remember the "Footprints" poem. When you are at your lowest God is always there to carry you through. One day at a time, He loves and cares for each one of you good days and bad days. Praying that God will continue to bring you encouragement as you travel through each day.
Dawn <vandenberg@mchsi.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Sunday, October 10, 2004 1:47 PM CDT
Sending you lots of good wishes and love through the blowing leaves and the changing of the season.
Tom loved you all very much and was oh so proud of all of you. Driving between HTI sites we had lots of time to talk of family. We would have had some good discussions on the Presidential debates this year.
Take care and think good thoughts.
Carolyn
Carolyn Bomstad-Bah <ckbah@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Friday, October 1, 2004 1:39 PM CDT
Hey Kern family. I just thought I'd stop in and let you know I'm still thinking about you. I hope everything is getting better. Connor you're going to have to tell me when your hockey games are so I can come watch you. Us hockey people need to stick together. Alexa I hope you have fun in dance this year. I will be at your recital in the spring. My sister thinks you are just the funniest girl. Kenzie, you're the most amazing swimmer ever. You're amazingly fast too! And Kenzie... if you ever leave me again and don't tell me where you are going... oh you will be in trouble. Just kidding. Call me if you guys need anything at all! Even if you just need someone to babysit your cat. I hope all is well.
Jesse Madson <maddy414@hotmail.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Wednesday, September 29, 2004 7:49 AM CDT
Mrs. Kern.
As a 30 year old, 22 year user of smokeless tobacco, and as a married father of 2 boys ages 4 and 3, I wanted to send my sincerest sympathy and prayers for you and your family.
I found out about your family through Quitsmokeless.org, as of today I have been tobacco free for 64 days and I wanted you to know that I really hope things are getting better for you and your family.
There are many people you will never meet that are silently supporting your entire family everyday! And, without knowing it, your family is silently supporting many others as well!
I hope in time your family finds peace and things become easier for you all.
Sincerely,
Rob Stogdill
Michigan
Robert Stogdill <rob@rokayfloral.com>
South Lyon, MI USA - Wednesday, September 22, 2004 3:06 PM CDT
Mrs. Kern
Just wanted you to know that I think about you and your family everyday. With school starting, I am sure you are all very busy. Keep smiling, but remember that's it's okay to cry, too! As time passes, don't forget that you are still in everyone's prayers! Even though I didn't know Tom, I think about him everytime I hear Tim McGraw's song, Live Like You Are Dying. I think it's a song that everyone should live by and listen to. Thinking of you often!
Michelle Walter <twinshelly2003@hotmail.com>
Buffalo Lake, MN - Tuesday, September 14, 2004 9:07 PM CDT
Hi Jenny,
I am thinking of you often because I care so much about you. I know the hussle and bussle of the new school year makes you all ready busy schedule even busier. I am glad to hear that you will be having some terrfic help after school with the kids.. I am looking forward to being with you at Mackenzie's swim meets!!
Let me know if you have some time to be together sometime.
I love you lots and would enjoy being with you.
Mary Getzke
.
Mary Getzke
mary getzke <maryg@hutchtel.net>
hutchinson, mn usa - Wednesday, August 25, 2004 1:08 PM CDT
Dear Jenny and Family,
I was so shocked and heartbroken to hear of Kerny's courageous battle and passing. At Gustavus you could not find anyone with a bigger smile, better sense of humor or larger zest for life. He will truly be missed by all of us that knew him. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.
Lisa Carlson Bonko <lbonko@earthlink.net>
North St. Paul, MN USA - Friday, July 30, 2004 4:03 PM CDT
Dear Jenny and kids,
I write to you, just hearing of Tom’s death (we were on vacation when the news came). I wanted to let you know that you and your family will be in my church’s prayers this weekend. I am a pastor in Rancho Cucamonga, CA. I used to play football with Tom (way back when). Tom was an upperclassman and I was one of the few 87 grad underclassman that played offensive line. I have fond memories of him looking out for us “young punks” and always being encouraging and supportive.
As a father of three, I cannot imagine the void Tom leaves. I can only respond in the way I know best, prayer. Your and your family will be prayed for this Sunday by 200+ people you do not know over 2000 miles away. May God use those prayers to lift your spirits, give you strength, and bolster your courage to take each day, “one day at a time.” If there is anything else we can do, let me know.
God’s Peace,
Pastor Tim Robertson
GAC class of 1987
Tim Robertson <timr@crossandcrownchurch.com>
Rancho Cucamonga, CA USA - Friday, July 30, 2004 10:41 AM CDT
To Jenny, Tom's children, family and friends of Tom Kern. You all are in our family's thoughts and prayers. Remember death does not end a relationship. May you be able to call on the spirit of Tom when you need him now and throughout your lives. HE is a great guy. The Lord's blessings to you all.
Brian, Heidie, Taylor, Logan, Noah and Sawyer Hays <brian.hays@co.dakota.mn.us>
Hastings, MN - Friday, July 30, 2004 10:19 AM CDT
Kern Family:
You do not know me, but I was made aware of your loss through quitsmokeless.org. First, I would like to send my sincere condolences. Your family will be in our thoughts and prayers.
The reason I wanted to write was to let you know how much the events in your life the last few months have helped some of the members of quitsmokeless.org. As you may know, QS is an on-line support group for people who are quitting, or have quit, smokeless tobacco use. Your loss was a tragic event, but it has at least helped some of our members quit, or stay quit during the hard times. I know this is of little condolence to you, but at least it is something postive.
Your husband/father sounds like a great man, and I know he will be deeply missed. You will continue to be in our thoughts and prayers, and thank you for sharing your story with others...it has been a great source of strength and resolve.
Sincerely,
Doug
Doug
Orlando, FL - Tuesday, July 20, 2004 10:52 AM CDT
Jenny & Family~
I was watching the news for a story and it told what had happened at the church. I am truely sorry and hope who did that will step up and give it back. You will be in my prayers. I had 3 friends die over the last year and half. Two of them were best friends killed in an automobile accident and the other was killed on his snowmobile. It hurts alot to lose someone so close. But yet know you have so many people that will love and be there for you. God bless you all.... P.S. i was reading some other entries and noticed they know tom or you or the kids umm.i didnt but i wanted to tell you God Bless and will be donating money, Thats why i came on the web was to find the address. So again God Bless you all
Amber <Dopey04@hotmail.com>
Norwood Young America, mn USA - Monday, July 12, 2004 11:04 PM CDT
Jenny and family,
I was so sad to hear about what happened at the benefit. I just could not believe someone could actually do something so horrible. I pray that something good can come of this and that God could be working on that persons heart to come forward. You are an amazing person Jenny and I know everything will work out. We are continually praying for you guys and are here for you like so many are. God is so good and I know you all will pull through this. Lots of love, Jennifer Johnson
P.S. Tori, when can you come play again??
jennifer johnson <john1234@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, mn - Monday, July 12, 2004 10:33 PM CDT
Kern Family, my second family lately! :o)
I just got an e-mail, well acually a forward. I usually never open forwards but today I was bored and I opened one. It was about how important friends are. At the end of the forward it said:
If God brings you to it,
He will bring you through it.
I'm sure someone has already said this to you guys, but just in case i'm saying it to you also. These next days, weeks, months, even years are going to be so difficult, but God made this happen for a reason which we do not know, but he will help you through this. You guys know I'm always either home doing nothing, or not at home but still doing nothing. So if you guys need anything you know how to get ahold of me. It is sad to know its been a month already, but Tom is always there watching and saying his little comments he always did! and remember "Keep the damn cat downstairs" Don't worry I'll keep saying that one...i'm allergic to it!! Love you all!
Ashlee Hanke <ashlee_ann05@hotmail.com>
- Monday, July 12, 2004 3:13 PM CDT
Jenny and Tom Kern family,
I am so sorry that I just found out about this tragic loss. I played linebacker alongiside "Fig" in high school. We had a great time on that football team! We lived together in the same neighborhood and were good friends. As you know, Tom was a great guy. I have not seen him for years but I am sure he was a great husband and father. I experienced the unexpected loss of my father 1 year ago to a heart attack. I can offer these words of encouragement. Time will help a lot. Praying helps. Keeping busy helped me from reaching lows. There will always be some lows, and you may not see them coming. Encouragment from those that have experienced a loss has helped me the most. I always thought of Tom as a big Teddy Bear. He was tough and competitive as a bear on the football field yet gentle and always friendly off the field.
Our Prayers are with you.
Steve, Kelly, Chase, Amber, Elsa Anderson
Steve Anderson <steven.anderson@pioneer.com>
Des Moines, IA - Friday, July 9, 2004 2:54 PM CDT
Jenny and Family,
You all are in my thoughts often and I would like to offer my prayers and support through this difficult time. My son Michael is on Conner's baseball team, my son Reid is in Alexa's class, and my husband and I both work at HTI. I too lost my father at a young age and the gathering of stories is a wonderful idea. When my father passed away his peers wrote a similiar collection, it is a possession I treasure. As I have grown it has helped not only to remember him as my father, but also to see him as a man. Take Care and God Bless.
Michelle McGraw <michelle.mcgraw@hti.htch.com>
Dassel, MN USA - Wednesday, July 7, 2004 9:03 AM CDT
Hey Jenny and kids, life on the farm is waiting for you! When can you come? Today I was driving to a garden I am working on and for some reason you, the kids and the memories of Tom's Funeral bubbled to the surface. Out of know where grief just blind sided me--I wept the entire length of hwy 169. This whole tragic experience of the cancer and loss of Tom stuns us. I tried calling to see if you guys want to come up for the weekend over the 4th, just to get away--the line was busy. The offer is open when you all have some free time. Our baby goat still drinks from a bottle. We have horses to ride. We have a river to fish or raft down. We have industrial strenghth bug spray. We have a puppy that is a sweet terror and a kitten who only wishes to be held 24-7. We miss you and send thoughts of strength and love to all. Come to our quiet land soon! P.s. What are the dates for the play? P.s.s. I am amazed at the great outpouring of love and support represented via caringbridge. Amazing!! I must go and tuck in my sweet babies and squeeze the hub. Jenny, the love you and Tom have, the family support represented, the greate spirituality and faith you wear so elequently makes Scott and I want to be better parents, spouses, and friends. Tom's death makes us want to be better. At the funeral you said to me that you hoped something good had to come from this "just not right" experience--well it has. Not only have several men given up chewing, but people are raising the expectations on how they wish to live. That is an incredibly powerful and rare thing. Rarely, have I witnessed one event motivate such outpouring of goodness and love. Come to us when you can. We love you all! Beth, Scott, Sarah, Sam and Matt.
Beth and Scott Fritz <sbfritz@sherbtel.net>
Princeton, Mn U.S.A. - Friday, July 2, 2004 10:19 PM CDT
Jenny and kids,
I’m so sorry to hear about Tom. I haven’t seen Kerny for quite a few years but the memories of the good times we shared at Gustavus are still vivid in my mind. Living in Uhler, football, Reds, Spring break, and of course, countless hours of playing cards (often when we should have been studying). I’ll never forget his smile, his laugh, or his inability to drive an RV. But most of all, I’ll never forget how he made everyone around him feel so comfortable and welcome. He always had a smile on his face and something good to say. He will be missed.
On July 9th my wife Nora is participating in the American Cancer Society relay for life in Rochester. Her team will be walking all night to raise money for cancer research. The relay route is lit with luminarias to guide the walkers and one of them will have Tom's name on it and will be lit in his memory.
Tom Bjork <bjorks@att.net>
Rochester, MN 55901 - Friday, July 2, 2004 8:11 PM CDT
Jennifer and Family,
Unfortunately my wife and I were out of town when Tom passed away so we could not attend the services for him. Tom was one of the few people who always seemed to have a smile on his face and I never saw get upset. He was a great football player, card player and just a great friend.
It has been a long time since I have been in touch but I want you and the kids to know that I feel very lucky to have known Tom and my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Todd Krough
Plymouth, MN - Thursday, July 1, 2004 10:26 AM CDT
Jenny & Kids,
I just heard the news about Tom. My prayers go out to you and the kids. I played football with Tom and Tom lived on the same floor as I did my freshman year. Tom always made me laugh and I'll always recall playing games of buck with Tom. Even though I haven't seen Tom since college I'm going to miss him.
Scott Robinson <scott_robinson@whayne.com>
Louisville, KY USA - Tuesday, June 29, 2004 4:06 PM CDT
Jenny & Kids,
I just heard the news about Tom. My prayers go out to you and the kids. I played football with Tom and Tom lived on the same floor as I did my freshman year. Tom always made me laugh and I'll always recall playing games of buck with Tom. Even though I haven't seen Tom since college I'm going to miss him.
Scott Robinson <scott_robinson@whayne.com>
Louisville, KY USA - Tuesday, June 29, 2004 4:06 PM CDT
Jenny and children,
I am so sorry to hear this news. Tom was a great friend and teammate and just a fun guy to be around! Having spent those four years with Tom at GAC are wonderful memories.
Jeff Braun <jbraun@juno.com>
Huntington Woods, MI USA - Monday, June 28, 2004 11:16 AM CDT
Kenzie, I'm sorry to hear about your dad and everything. Stay tough, but don't forget to remember him, he'll always be with you, through everything. If you EVER need anything at all, don't hesitate to give me a call. You're in my prayers and thoughts on an hourly basis. On the bright side though, you have to come see my puppy again soon. She misses you. And you get to watch me attempt to be a star swimmer in the fall.
Jesse <maddy414@hotmail.com>
Hutchinson, MN - Friday, June 25, 2004 11:13 PM CDT
Please know that so many of us that you don't know and have never met are feeling the pain and sadness of Tom's death. I played high school football with "Fig" and lived nearby. Because he was older and had his drivers license first, Tom gave many of us who lived by him rides to two-a-day practices in his family's blue Nova. Hard to believe we thought that was a "hot" car. Tom was one of the captains of the team and a true leader. It is an unusual person who can inspire and encourage people in the every day things of life. Tom was one of those people. He had the ability to be a good friend and a great leader at the same time. One minute he would be laughing with you, the next he would be kicking your butt because you missed an assignment. There was always a crowd of people around Tom wherever he was. Usually, they were laughing and having a great time. Sad thing is, despite all his leadership capabilities and other great qualities, Tom had the ugliest jump shot any man has ever possessed. I have never seen a guy take the ball that far back behind his head and still make a basket. Despite Tom's jump shot, the Lincoln Comets rocked in 7th and 8th grade. Tom was a good man, even when he was just starting to become one "back in the day." That is probably why so many of us have shed tears as we have read the pages of this internet journal and come to grips with his death. I know that God will comfort and protect your family as you seek Him and trust in his promises. May God make His face to shine upon you.
John Elliott <johnelliott@allamericanpublishing.com>
Boise, ID USA - Friday, June 25, 2004 4:10 PM CDT
TO ALL FAMILIES AND FRIENDS OF TOM AND HIS FAMILY,
Wow, what an impact this website has been to MANY people. It certainly proves that the world still IS a caring and loving place.
We just wanted to let all of you be aware that there will be a benefit for Tom's family soon.
Here is the information about the upcoming event:
TOM KERN BENEFIT
Date: Wednesday, July 7th
Time: 4:00 p.m. - 7:30 p.m.
Place: Faith Lutheran Church
335 Main St. S.
Hutchinson, MN 55350
This will be a Spaghetti Supper, Silent Auction and Quilt Raffle.
*If you cannot attend but would like to send a monetary donation, send it to Faith Lutheran Church, and also
add ATTENTION: Tom Kern Benefit.
Keep the faith AND the comments coming. We all love to see such great support!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Jodi Drew <drews@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Thursday, June 24, 2004 9:57 PM CDT
Jenny and kids,
I have a zillion memories of my old buddy Merg,I will continue with more later but I think of him every day now and just wanted you guys to know some of the great things we did and the times we had together,his nicknames were as follows..sigmond, that is the precursor to Fig and the reason I called him that was because of this TV show called Sigmund and the sea monster and for whatever reason I called him Sigmond.And then it turned to Siggy and then by 6th grade and into the summer of 1975 right before we started 7th grade football it became Fig.That name stuck.
He had the name Fig on the front of his football helmut and coach Goofy Miller(yes the coach had a nickname too)
was one of the first of Mergs coaches to spot his incredible drive.He had Fig written in black magic marker right between his eyes on all his helmets thru high school. When I saw his helmet coming I knew Just like anyone else on our teams that The Commander was comin'
and I best be ready to take a heavy pounding because good buddy's or not he not only set an example of excellence he was my very own example of how to be tough . I was always so proud that he was my big buddy. We would go back to southview after practices and play for days on end and those are great memories of mine.So his nickname got around to Merg in like 10th or 11th grade that was from this friend of my brother Rick and it seemed like it just fit on the big ol' Mergsy.Armin and I mostly were enamored with that one for him.Then at GAC those guys called him Kerny that was OK but naturally us guys from Mankato had cooler names for him.As we started to go to the BWCA I think Spido started Calling him the Commander and then that turned into the Kommandant which most certainly was a result of our appreciation for the TV show Hogans Heroes
which Merg and I would watch after school almost everyday
in 4th,5th,6th,and as often as we could after that.He did the greatest Major Hochsteder impression!...More later the kids are going to bed.
Chris Frost <dukemach1@yahoo.com>
Savage, MN America - Wednesday, June 23, 2004 11:09 PM CDT
Jenny and kids,
I have a zillion memories of my old buddy Merg,I will continue with more later but I think of him every day now and just wanted you guys to know some of the great things we did and the times we had together,his nicknames were as follows..sigmond, that is the precursor to Fig and the reason I called him that was because of this TV show called Sigmund and the sea monster and for whatever reason I called him Sigmond.And then it turned to Siggy and then by 6th grade and into the summer of 1975 right before we started 7th grade football it became Fig.That name stuck.
He had the name Fig on the front of his football helmut and coach Goofy Miller(yes the coach had a nickname too)
was one of the first of Mergs coaches to spot his incredible drive.He had Fig written in black magic marker right between his eyes on all his helmets thru high school. When I saw his helmet coming I knew Just like anyone else on our teams that The Commander was comin'
and I best be ready to take a heavy pounding because good buddy's or not he not only set an example of excellence he was my very own example of how to be tough . I was always so proud that he was my big buddy. We would go back to southview after practices and play for days on end and those are great memories of mine.So his nickname got around to Merg in like 10th or 11th grade that was from this friend of my brother Rick and it seemed like it just fit on the big ol' Mergsy.Armin and I mostly were enamored with that one for him.Then at GAC those guys called him Kerny that was OK but naturally us guys from Mankato had cooler names for him.As we started to go to the BWCA I think Spido started Calling him the Commander and then that turned into the Kommandant which most certainly was a result of our appreciation for the TV show Hogans Heroes
which Merg and I would watch after school almost everyday
in 4th,5th,6th,and as often as we could after that.He did the greatest Major Hochsteder impression!...More later the kids are going to bed.
Chris Frost <dukemach1@yahoo.com>
Savage, MN America - Wednesday, June 23, 2004 11:06 PM CDT
We know that you don't know us that good, but we just wanted to send our deepest sympathies to your family. Tom was a great guy and was a good guy to see at work. He was always fun and full of fun times. Jesse thinks that Kenzie is an amazing girl for being able to handle all of this. Just remember that Tom will always be there with you, helping you through everything. If you guys need anything at all, don't hesitate to call us, someone is always home, and we may become better friends. If Kenzie ever wants anything, she can always call Jesse if Ashlee isn't home, she knows where our house is. You're in our prayers.
Madson Family <maddy@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN - Wednesday, June 23, 2004 12:39 AM CDT
Jenny,
When I heard of your Tom's passing, I wrote a little verse in his honor.
With Shoulders so broad and a big barrel chest
You were given to us as one o God's best
A firm square jaw, filling out a strong chin
And a twinkle in your eyes each time you grin.
A sly sense of humor and very quick wit
The shoes that you filled - no one else could fit.
You were raised with love as a brother and son
And became a husband to Jenny, whose heart you had won.
A better father could not be found in real life or story
For your adoring children Mackenzie, Alexa, Connor and Torrey
Your are greatly missed by each family and friend
It will be forever, before our hearts mend.
Love Aunt Libby
June 12, 2004
Libby Markey <lmarkey@rhin.com>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Wednesday, June 23, 2004 9:30 AM CDT
To Tom's Family -
It took my breath away to get the note about Tom's death, when I wasn't even aware he had been ill. Tom and I were Materials Supervisor counterparts a few years back.
I worked with Tom when he had responsibilities at both the HUT & PLY sites and started the first Asian inventory warehouse. Like many of us, Tom always had too much work in front of him, yet you never would have known it. He alway had a smile on his face and found humor in life's situations. He was awesome to work with would always take the time to listen, talk, and share a bit about the people he loved so much - his family. I was pregnant at the same time as Jenny & Tom were pregnant with their youngest child, so kids and family were a favorite topic...he sure loved you guys!
I hope these thoughts offer you some peace...
God brought you to this, he will see you though it.
We were all truely blessed to have had time with Tom, and you are especially blessed to have had him as a husband and Dad. Take comfort in the contributions to this website as testiment of his gifts and purpose in life.
Although God's plan for the future is unknown to us, know that you are right where you need to be.
Teresa Ritzinger <Teresa_J_Ritzinger@hti.htch.com>
Eau Claire, WI USA - Tuesday, June 22, 2004 11:01 AM CDT
Jenny & family,
Though I didn't know Tom very well . . . I do remember when you and Mary were visiting us relatives in Indianapolis. Mary was telling me of how Tom would tickle you and get you laughing. The look you had of when you were talking of Tom . . . I knew that you two were to marry (yes, way back then). I can't begin to imagine the pain, loss, anger, and fear that all of you may be going through. All of you are in our prayers! God Bless!
Michelle Harrison <m_dharrison@yahoo.com>
Atlanta, IN USA - Tuesday, June 22, 2004 10:24 AM CDT
Jenny and Kern Family,
There is not a day that has gone by that I have not thought of Tom since we found out that he was in the hospital. I had the privledge of knowing and calling Tom a friend for 36 years. I have so many great memories of our southview days, high school, the college years, boundry waters trips, weddings, etc, etc. I did not have the strength to share any of these great memories at the funeral, I could not get the words out. But, I would love to share them with you and the kids in the future. Brenda and I give you and the whole Kern family our deepest sympathy. You and the kids are in our thoughts and prayers.
God bless you,
Todd, Brenda, Courtney, and Nathan Schull
Todd Schull <tsschull@kcc.com>
Lakeville, MN - Tuesday, June 22, 2004 9:03 AM CDT
God bless to Jenny and the kids and this wonderful family who did such a great job supporting Tommy through all this - and for a wonderful memorial service. After knowing Tom for nearly 30 years, all the fun and laughs, canoe and hunting trips and visits with his family I know that Tommy would be proud of us all, as we were proud of him for his courage.
I also know Tommy would be asking us all to take care of our health, to hug our family and to take some time out to appreciate what life is really all about - the people you love.
I'm in process of typing up some fond memories of the guy and plan to forward those to his family someday soon. I'll also encourage the people who feel strongly about the man, to respond to the trust fund noted above.
Lastly, I ask for God's blessing on Jenny and these kids. I ask that they be granted strength both now and in the future. I ask that they have the courage to seek out a helping hand when it'd be helpful. I ask that those who can help - to do so.
God bless Tommy Kern.
Steve (Spido) Peterson
Mankato, MN USA - Monday, June 21, 2004 6:55 PM CDT
Jenny and Family,
I would like to offer my sincere sympathy for the loss that you and your family have experienced.
I was Tom's high school football coach at Mankato West . I will remember him as an athlete who was a strong competitor on the field, always showing leadership qualities, but possibly more important, conducted himself on and off the field in a manner that always represented the Scarlets in a positive way. He would never have thought of doing anything that would embarass the team or his school.
I am confident that Tom was a fine husband and father. Knowing him as I did, he could not have been any other way.
We do not alway understand God's ways. Some things cannot be explained, except through faith. It is my prayer that, the God who has taken Tom to be with him,
will give you and your family the strength to go on. I'm confident that he will.
Best Wishes,
Don Larsen
Don Larsen <dlarsen1@hickorytech.net>
Mankato, MN USA - Monday, June 21, 2004 5:21 PM CDT
Jenny & Kids,
You continue to be in our thoughts and prayers. Please know that you can lean on family & friends during the difficult days ahead.
Karp <mkarpin2@wm.com>
Mesa, AZ - Monday, June 21, 2004 4:04 PM CDT
Dear Kern Family:
I was surprised and sad to hear about Tom. While I actually new him very little (he was a friend of friends)he seemed like a nice guy and I know that he will be missed greatly by all that had the privilege to know him.
Our family's thoughts and prayers go out to you and yours with the hope of comfort and peace on your journey.
Sincerely,
Scott
Scott Dingman <scott.dingman@lpl.com>
Richmond, VA USA - Monday, June 21, 2004 8:07 AM CDT
Dearest Jenny, Mackenzie, Alexa, Conner, and Torey, although we could not be physcially present at the funeral we were thinking of you all day long, and today, too. To read your updates on this website and those who write in as we do, binds us together in one great love-hug. Our granddaughter, Christian, has written and sent, on her own volition, a touching letter to you. I couldn't be prouder that she cared to reach out to her "far-away cousins." I hope somehow you can come to Grandma R's birthday party. If God wills, it will be. Our love and prayers will always be with you, no matter what. Love in Christ Jesus.
Molly and Bill Halter <christian@cboss.com>
- Sunday, June 20, 2004 8:02 PM CDT
Dear Kern Family,
You have asked for any stories about Tom from our past. One comes to my mind when I think of Tom.
At the end of Football practice at GAC., we would sometimes have to run what we called "10 Perfect Plays" where we would have to execute 10 plays in a row with out any mistakes. We would run a variety of passing or running plays with all of us getting off on the right count and executing the play and then sprinting 10 yards down the field. It didn't matter if you had already run 9 perfect plays, if you screwed up on the 10th play you had to start all over again. There were usually three different squads and we would compete to see which squad would finish first.
Well our squad had completed 8 perfect plays when the Eric Lande, the quarterback, decided have the snap count be 2 on the next play. Now, I couldn't tell you if Tom or I had more trouble remembering the snap count that year. I was playing Center and he was playing Tackle. Too often one of us would jump too soon when a later snap count was called. Anyways, when I heard the snap count was on 2, I slapped Kerny on the shoulder and repeated to him that the count was on 2. He turned his head, looked at me through the side of his eyes and said,"Why don't you just take care of yourself Hammer. Your not perfect." He was right so everyone just shut up.
Well we got in our formation at the line of scrimmage and wouldn't you know it on Hut1 Kerny jumps. Well we got in the formation again and ran the play correctly. But, jogging back to the huddle there may have been a few smiles and a few groans but nobody said a word.
Matt Hammerlund <MWH8185@AOL.com>
Minnetrista, MN - Sunday, June 20, 2004 9:39 AM CDT
Dear Jenny and Kids,
We think of you today as you are missing your husband and dad. We are praying for you, and know God will bring His healing to you all. with love, The Swansons
Scott and Debby Swanson <sswanson5@mn.rr.com>
Edina, Mn USA - Sunday, June 20, 2004 9:14 AM CDT
Dear Jenny: Thank you for taking the time to speak with me on Wednesday. I know you had a thousand things to do. I wish I could be there with you, but I promise I'll come soon. Hang in there, I don't know why this has happened to you-but try to keep your faith-God is merciful, just hard to understand. I love you, my friend.
Annie
Oak Brook, IL USA - Friday, June 18, 2004 9:59 PM CDT
Jenny and Family,
Tom was always so good to me. Although I did not seem him in the past couple years, his smile, good nature and laughter is not something I will forget. We are all better people because of your husband and father. A very, very special man. I look forward to playing cards with him again, in a better place, someday. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Eric Henderson <Eric.Henderson@Tetrapak.com>
Minneapolis, MN USA - Friday, June 18, 2004 9:48 PM CDT
Dear Jenny and Family,
We are so sorry to hear about Tom. We are friends of Tom's brother Bob out in California. Bob being the wonderful person he is, I'm sure Tom was no different.
We will continue to keep your family in our thoughts and prayers.May God bless you and hold you close through this very difficult time.
Our deepest sympathy,
Troy,Christine,Emily,Garrett,Sydney&Nicollette Hill
Christine Hill <z71emily @yahoo.com>
Fountain Valley, Ca USA - Friday, June 18, 2004 6:09 PM CDT
As I heard the news of Tom's death it left an instant void in my heart. As many others have stated, the first image I had was of Tom's smiling face and remembering his strong presence on the Gustavus Football Field. Tom instantly welcomed me as a transfer student, and football player, at Gustavus. He'd knock you down and then encourage you to go on. He was a man I admired.
It's times like this that I wish I was closer to my Minnesota home. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. With my deepest sympathy! Lou
Greg Luhman <gregluhman@hotmail.com>
Sheridan, WY USA - Thursday, June 17, 2004 11:25 PM CDT
Jenny and kids,
I can't get enough of the entries people have written to you. It is so heartwarming to see how many people Tom has touched in his short life. If we could all be so lucky in our lifetimes to have made such an impact on as many people as Tom has. And to think....your children all have a huge piece of him to use to carry on that love. Jenny, not a minute goes by that I haven't thought of you and the kids. The pain is so raw for you and I can't even begin to understand what you are going through. You are all surrounded by SO many people who love you so much and care so much. Reach out and lean on others anyway you need to. You don't always have to be that pillar of strength that you have been....you need to grieve and let others be strong for you. Just know that I want to be there in ANY way I can. Eric reminds us everyday that Tom is in heaven and that we will see him again. I believe he is Eric's angel watching over him.
Love, Greg, Lori, Jack, Eric and Nick
Lori Haffley <ghaffley@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Thursday, June 17, 2004 7:53 PM CDT
Dear Jenny and family,
Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you at this most difficult time. I wish I could be there to give you a hug and hold your hand. It was quite a shock to have Kathy call today and share the news since I wasn't even aware that Tom had been ill. As Kathy said, we were all just together in September and everything seemed so normal. How quickly life can take a turn. It is unbelievable. I really don't know how I could be of help but if I can please don't hesitate to write or call.
Susan (Luhman) Michael <smichael4@mac.com>
Durham, CT USA - Thursday, June 17, 2004 6:19 PM CDT
Jenny and Family
We were so saddened to learn of your tremendous loss. We will always remember Tom for his quick wit, his competitive spirit, strong convictions and his uncanny ability to make you feel so very comfortable in his presence. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you.
Scott and Jean Fransen
Scott Fransen <scott@citylitesusa.com>
Chanhassen, MN USA - Thursday, June 17, 2004 4:30 PM CDT
Hi Jenny,
I could not believe the terrible news that I just heard. So sorry for your loss. Renee and I will keep you and your family in our prayers. Please call or email if you need to talk. Sorry I couldn't have been there. Tom
Tom and Renee Rich <tom.r@ogilvie.k12.mn.us>
Ogilvie, MN Kanabec - Thursday, June 17, 2004 3:28 PM CDT
I am so sorry to hear about your family's loss. I have only known this family a few years through being fellow swimmers together, and you have all made an impact on my life. Your family is so sweet, kind, caring, fun, and dedicated to helping others. It has been a great opportunity to swim with Kenzie over the years, coach with Jenny, and just getting to know your family. This loss has caused a lot of people in this community grief, and I must say that you are not alone! You are surrounded by friends and family that love you all and will do anything for you if you ask. You are a strong family and will all get through this with your strong faith. Tom is in a better place now, and he is watching over you all. He will always be with you burrowed deep inside your hearts. Stay strong and remember the good times! You are all so very special and I am here for you if you need anything. God bless you all.
Sabrina Howard <beanershark@hotmail.com>
Hutchinson , MN USA - Thursday, June 17, 2004 3:06 PM CDT
Dear Jenny and the gang,
I couldn't believe the news when Anne called me yesterday. Wasn't it just yesterday that we were all at Gustavus dedicating the Pine Tree for Sue? The world has lost a couple of wonderful Gusties!! Tom was a great guy. (Except that he use to tease me at GAC over all the mail I got-we shared a PO Box!) I could always tell when I saw him looking at you, how very much he loved you and how proud he was of all of his kids. I can't begin to know or understand your pain and fear right now, but please know that you are in my heart and prayers. If there is anything that I can do, just let me know. Even though I won't be at the service tomorrow, I will be thinking of you all and praying for God's comfort. Stay strong Jenny. Take care of yourself first and let those around you help. I am here if you need anything. Please call! I love you lots!
Kathy Kerns Schroeder <kjschroeder3@comcast.net>
Lakewood, CO USA - Thursday, June 17, 2004 2:16 PM CDT
Jenny and Family,
We are saddened every time we look out our kitchen window....our "TV" to your vibrant family's life. May all the love and support you are getting ease the pain of your loss. Don't forget you have a nearby neighbor who is happy to help.
Tom and Lauri Ginkel <tginkel@mchsi.com>
- Thursday, June 17, 2004 9:25 AM CDT
Jenny and family,
So very sorry for the loss of Tom. As I remember Tom, I see a smiling face, full of strength and determination. May you be continually swarmed with God's presence at this time.
Dave
Dave Spiegler <djspieg@hotmail.com>
Chicago, IL US - Thursday, June 17, 2004 0:52 AM CDT
Jenny and family,
So very sorry for the loss of Tom. As I remember Tom, I see a smiling face, full of strength and determination. May you be continually swarmed with God's presence at this time.
Dave
Dave Spiegler <djspieg@hotmail.com>
Chicago, IL US - Thursday, June 17, 2004 0:52 AM CDT
Dear Kern family,
I have just learned of Tom's death and read through all the messages in this guestbook. I too am from the Southview gang and have great memories of those days with Tom, John and Bobby. I also remember Tom's love of sports in high school, he was a guy that we were all proud to cheer on. It's hard to believe he is gone; Jenny, my heart aches for you. Grief is painful and lonely. Jenny take care of yourself first, let those close to you help you. Talk often of Tom, we all will, he has created wonderful memories for many people from all phases of his life.
Prayers to all of the Kern family!
Meg Touhey Schulz <p.paulschulz@comcast.net>
Osseo, MN - Wednesday, June 16, 2004 6:41 PM CDT
Jenny and family,
I just heard of your loss and want you to know we are praying for you. My parents and one brother and his family live in Hutch and I've meant to stop to say hello for years. Tom was an inspiration as a competitor but most of all as a husband and father. We too have been blessed with four children. I know God will take care of all of you. It's evident from all the entries that you have a great family and many, many friends who care about you. Keep the faith. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Kevin Max <kevin.c.max@aexp.com>
Delano, Mn USA - Wednesday, June 16, 2004 1:35 PM CDT
Jenny and Family,
It was just this fall that I can recall the time Tom and I spent watching a Gustie football game with Connor. There was no sign of cancer, just the good-natured Kernie talking about life, Gustavus, and his wife and children.
The Gustavus Community lost a friend. The Gustavus Community lost a great Gustie. I enjoyed the time spent with Tom and Jenny at Gustavus; football, REDS,and the time spent laughing with friends.
May God Bless you as you deal with the loss of Tom.
Jim Isaak <jisaak@gustavus.edu>
St. Peter, MN - Wednesday, June 16, 2004 8:58 AM CDT
To ALL READERS:
I realize that this is for Jenny and kids to read, however, I can't think of a better way to contact so many of the families' friends all in one fell swoop. Because I find myself coming back to this sight repeatedly, reading and rereading comments, I supposed others would do the same. My purpose is to let you all know when the birthdays of my sister Jenny and her kids are. The first year without husband and dad will be difficult no matter what, but your well wishes on their birthdays would certainly feel good. Jenny's is June 22; Mackenzie's May 6; Alexa's November 6; Connor's November 9; Tori's August 7. It's been wonderful to read the loving words from so many people.
Mary <fpatch@tds.net>
Monticello, Mn - Tuesday, June 15, 2004 10:24 PM CDT
Dear Jenny and Children,
You may want ot read this someday, but I must write this today. I knew your Dad as an assistant football coach at Gustavus during the 1983-84 season. Your Dad played on the offensive line and I coached another position, so my contact with your Dad was mostly by observing him indirectly. He was a proud person. A strong competitor with many close friends on the team, and he loved your mother. Your Dad wanted a family that emulated his own fine upbring in Mankato. He had that with you and now that is his legacy.
Steve Byrne <sbyrne1@isd77.k12.mn.us>
Mankato, Mn Blue Earth - Tuesday, June 15, 2004 7:58 PM CDT
Jenny, i have no comprehension of the pain and fear that you must be feeling right now, but i do know how much your family it here for you, and will continue to be here for you no matter what your days will bring you. i also know what it feels like to HAVE to be strong, to make it through, for the kids, for yourself, and i know what it is like when you finally allow yourself to feel again and you think that you can never ever go on, but you alway have the strength of the Lord and you always have the love of your family. take your time, let your friends and family be your crutch and know that we are always praying for you!
love always, Mollie Marie <icannot givemyemailaddress@sorry.com>
- Tuesday, June 15, 2004 6:41 PM CDT
My thoughts and prayers are with your entire family! May you feel God's loving arms holding each one of you during this difficult time.
Keep the Faith!
Anne Broderius
Hector, MN - Tuesday, June 15, 2004 4:33 PM CDT
Jenny and family,
I cannot imagine your sense of loss. You are all in my heart and prayers. After reading the various entries from many dear friends and family members, there is one thing that is for certain... I REALLY wish I had known Tom better. I really missed out on knowing one great person, didn't I? Cherish your memories.
Brenda Rasmussen <brras@en-tel.net>
Willmar, MN - Tuesday, June 15, 2004 4:15 PM CDT
Dear Kern family I am very sorry for your loss. I am including a poem that someone sent to me when I lost a loved one. I hope for the best for you and may God be with you during this difficult time.
"I wish for You..."
Comfort on difficult days, Smiles when sadness intrudes, Rainbows to follow the clouds, Laughter to kiss your lips, Sunsets to warm your heart.
Gentle hugs when spirits sag, Friendships to brighten your being, Beauty for your eyes to see, Confidence for when you doubt, Faith so that you can believe.
Courage to know yourself, Patience to accept the truth, And love to complete life.
God Bless You!
I asked the Lord to bless you, As I prayed for you today, To guide you and protect you, As you go along your way... His love is always with you, His promises are true.
No matter what the tribulation, You know He will see us through, So when the road you're traveling on, Seems difficult at best, Give your problems to the Lord, And God will do the rest. Author Unknown
Kathy & Paul Viestenz <Kathleen.Viestenz@hti.htch.com>
Hutchinson, MN - Tuesday, June 15, 2004 2:17 PM CDT
The family of Tom Kern,
I had the privilege of getting to know Tom through my brother Scott, who roomed with Tom at Gustavus. Tom was one of the nicest, funniest, most full-of-life people that one could meet. He had the unique quality of making people around him feel special, and better off for having known him. As you continue to mourn Tom's death, may you be comforted with the knowlege we have as people of faith that God loves Tom, Christ died for him, and he is now in heaven with God for all eternity. Thank God for the power of the resurrection. May God bless the memory of Tom Kern.
Pastor Dan Croonquist
Mamrelund Lutheran Church, Pennock
Dan Croonquist <croon@charter.net>
Pennock, MN - Tuesday, June 15, 2004 12:06 AM CDT
Jenny and Family,
I was so sorry to hear about Tom. We knew each other from our first year at GAC and I always enjoyed catching up with him at alumni get-togethers. While we did not talk often, it was clear that he knew what was important in life, as he was always sure to give me the latest update on his family. Our thoughts and prayers will be with you during this difficult time.
Jim & Peg Hicks <jhicks2@mn.rr.com>
Hopkins, Mn USA - Tuesday, June 15, 2004 12:02 AM CDT
Although we only saw each other occasionally, seeing Tom was always like meeting up with an old close friend. I am saddened that we will not meet again. Jenny and family, our prayers and deepest sympathy go out to you.
Peace,
The Quist's -- Mike, Kara, Marshall & Eli
Mike <mquist@mn.rr.com>
Minnetonka, MN - Tuesday, June 15, 2004 11:34 AM CDT
Jenny and kids,
We want you to know that you continue to be in our thoughts and prayers. Tom will be greatly missed by all the people he touched with his laughs, smiles and conversations. We are here if you need anything. If Connor needs some "guy time", let us know, we're full of it.
Love, The Martin's
Greg, Kristi, Zach, Hunter and Jackson
Kristi <kristim@hutch.k12.mn.us>
Dassel, MN USA - Tuesday, June 15, 2004 9:45 AM CDT
Dear Kern Family,
I'm am so sorry for your loss. I feel a loss too, although I'm certain it is incredibly small compared to yours. I haven't seen Tom much since we played football and graduated from Gustavus, only now and again at Alumni affairs. But he was always one of my class-mates that I when I thought of when I think of G.A.C. His smiling face was in my thoughts. I wish we had gotten together more. It seems like yesterday when the offenseive line was up in the old field house watching game films and trading barbs and putdowns and telling jokes. I can't think of Gustavus Football and not think of Kerny. One minute he would be cracking jokes about Day, Rodning, Dahl, Johnson, Fritz, or myself and the next he would be knocking us on our butts. Everybody enjoyed being on the team more because Tom was on the field. I remember thinking more than once that I was glad I wasn't playing tackle and having to stop the defensive rush from the outside the way Kerny was. But he just took it in stride and kept it light, while telling the rest of us to do our jobs and get off on the right count. How many times did we miss a play, going on 2nd count while running 10 perfect plays? There was a great personality in Tom. I will miss him. I will miss his barbs and jokes. Heaven must have needed a man who could get a job done while seeing the humour in life. Jenny, my sympathy and prayers go out to you and the kids. Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help.
Matt Hammerlund <MWH8185@AOL.com>
Minnetrista, MN - Tuesday, June 15, 2004 9:35 AM CDT
Dear Jenny, Mackenzie, Alexa, Connor & Tori,
I am so sorry about your great loss. Jenny, I can not image your hurt. I would like to share a poem from the time I lost my father. "God took the strength of a mountain the majesty of a tree. The warmth of a summer sun, the calm of a quiet sea. The generous soul of nature, the comforting arm of night. The wisdom of the ages, the power of the eagles flight. Then God combined these qualities, there was nothing more to add. His masterpeice was now complete, he lovingly called it, Dad." May wonderful memories of your husband and dad help ease your pain during this difficult time. Peace be with you. Doreen Nelson and family
Doreen Nelson <sdnelson@hcctel.net>
Hector, MN USA - Tuesday, June 15, 2004 8:01 AM CDT
The world is a lesser place today without the smiling face of Tom. I will always remember with fondness our Gustie days and especially the enjoyable football days! Our thoughts and prayers are with you, Jenny and family. May God's love continue to shine very brightly upon you!!
Jeni & Bill Belvedere <wbelvedere@bh-cpas.com>
Edina, MN USA - Tuesday, June 15, 2004 7:31 AM CDT
Dear Kern Family,
I knew Tom from Mankato West High School. Wendy Blethen passed along the news and your website. I am so sorry for your loss. I remember Tom as a big guy with a big heart. He was a great athlete and a friend to everyone. He will be sorely missed. Your family is in our prayers.
God Bless You,
Lynne Kaufman (Germundson)
Lynne Kaufman <kaufmanrl@aol.com>
Chanhassen, MN - Tuesday, June 15, 2004 7:08 AM CDT
Dear Kern Family
I am so sorry to hear of Tom's passing. I've known Tom since Kindergarten. The old Southview Gang used to play Kick the Can, Flashlight Tag and many others during the summer as we were growing up. He will sadly missed.
Ruth Nordby <ran51363@aol.com>
Mankato, mn usa - Monday, June 14, 2004 9:49 PM CDT
Dear Tori,
You, and your mom, and Mackenzie, and Alexa, and Connor are in my thoughts and prayers.
Mrs. Fitzloff
Deb Fitzloff <sdfitz@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Monday, June 14, 2004 9:48 PM CDT
Jenny & kids,
We are very saddened to hear of Tom's passing. Connor - Ryan feels very sad that you lost your dad and he is thinking about you. May God be with your whole family as you go through this very difficult time.
Roger, Laurie, Ryan, & Trevor Wersal <laurie.wersal@hti.htch.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Monday, June 14, 2004 8:39 PM CDT
Jenny, Mackenzie, Alexa, Connor & Tori,
We have not been around to help, but please know that you have been in our thoughts and prayers. Tom is in a better place and will always watch over all of you. Tom was such an outstanding man, always the first one to say hi to us and make us feel comortable at the swim meets, when Janae starting swimming. Tom's legacy will live on in the kids. At times like this we don't understand God's plan in life. I know you have a strong Faith in God and that is what will get you through this. Please know that we are only a phone call away. We will keep in touch. God's Blessings to all of you.
Love, Mark, Mary Madson & Janae Piehl
Mark, Mary Madson, & Janae Piehl <madisha@hutchtel.net>
Huthcinson, Mn United States - Monday, June 14, 2004 8:39 PM CDT
Spontaneous, gut- busting laughter was automatic once "Fig" Kern had entered my space. Thanks for those little pure moments Tommy. May your spirit live on in all the Kerns and God bless you in your new journey.
Greg Mueller <g.mueller@verizon.net>
Bowling Green , OH USA - Monday, June 14, 2004 7:48 PM CDT
Jenny and family,
I have sat here quite a while trying to think of what to say and there just are no words. I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that many people have you in their thoughts and prayers. And now I have to go. I need to kiss and hug my husband and kids.
Peggy Iverson <s.p.iverson@tds.net>
Willmar, MN - Monday, June 14, 2004 6:39 PM CDT
Jenny,McKenzie,Alexa,Connor and Tori,
We know that your love, faith, laughter, hugs, family and friends WILL get you through this. Jenny-you are a strong and mighty mother, friend, wife, daughter........for that you are admired!!!!!!!!!!!!! McKenzie- You will continue to grow and become as strong as your mother, for you are already much of her strength! Alexa-Keep on dancing and singing.........you will always be watched and heard! Connor- Keep on smiling with those BIG dimples, freckles and soft heart that you have always had.....they will ALL take you places! Tori-You can call Riley whenever you need to, and he will be there........he always loves to play. AND to all of you..............KEEP THAT CAT DOWNSTAIRS!!!!!!!!!!!!!-as your dad would say.
Keep your faith, love, hugs, giggles, laughter, memories, stories,family and friends near to you at all times!!!!! They are all gifts that are absolutely free, and yet so PRICELESS!!!!!!!!!! Also remember, his life has not ended completely.........he's just temporarily gone!!!!
We love you guys,
Mrs. Drew and Crew
Jodi drew <drews@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Monday, June 14, 2004 6:19 PM CDT
Dear Jenny,
As I sit here and read all of these wonderful heartfelt thoughts and prayers for you and the children I begin to cry all over again at the terrible loss of Tom. He will be missed by so many, but missed most by you and the kids. I am so grateful at times like these that are so painful that Christ is there and knows exactly what we need. I lift you up before him my friend. May you feel his mighty hand holding you now as you face each day (each hour)with a strength that only He can give.
Our Love,
Stacy, Kurt, Kelsey & BJ Ploeger
Stacy Ploeger <sploeger@iw.net>
Pipestone, MN USA - Monday, June 14, 2004 5:01 PM CDT
Dear Jenny and Family,
We are so sad to here of Tom's passing, the world is a lesser place without him. I know we haven't seen each other in quite a while, but Tom represented all that was good and fun in our world and we are all better people for having known him. You and all your family will be and have been in our prayers. If there is anything you need, do not hesitate to call, it is obvious your support network is very large, and we will all be here for you and yours.
Our Love and Sympathy is with you,
The Marks Family
Tom, Julie, Logan, Luke & Anna Marks
Mendota Heights, MN USA - Monday, June 14, 2004 3:49 PM CDT
Kern Family,
My prayers go out to you. Tom had one of those personalities you will always remember. I played softball with him in Hutch for several years and will remember him as someone who could entertain the whole softball team as we relaxed in the parking lot after the games. Tom made the post-game the most fun part of the night. He will be missed. Sincerely,
Don Wilde <don.wilde@riponathletic.com>
Berlin, WI US - Monday, June 14, 2004 3:37 PM CDT
Jenny and Family
I was shocked and saddened to hear about Tom. Eric had kept me very well informed of his illness and treatments. I think that it is so neat that the group of guys from High School are still so closely bonded and that they were able to spend time with Tom these last few months. And then, to see you Jenny, at the Science Museum after all of these years. You have all been in my thoughts and prayers and will continue to be. Tom was a great guy and will be greatly missed.
Darolyn (Scott) Kunz <dkunz@unitedprairiebank.com>
Waseca , MN - Monday, June 14, 2004 2:54 PM CDT
Jenny and Family,
We are so saddened by the news of Tom's passing. Please accept our deepest condolences. Tom will long be remembered as a great teammate and a wonderful man. Our thoughts and prayers are with you in this difficult time.
Rick, Stacey, Colby and Maddie Straka
Rick and Stacey Straka <rickstraka@hotmail.com>
Mankato, MN 56001 - Monday, June 14, 2004 12:54 AM CDT
Jenny and kids
I first got to know him when I hired him at Schwartz Mfg. I really am not even sure why I hired him. He did'nt have a clue what he was doing!! Maybe it was because he had such a possitive attitude. I did't think he would make it but, the compeditor he was, he turned out to do a very good job. We had a lot of good times during those years. He will be missed on the sidelines of the football games (sometimes I thought we would have to hold him back when he wanted to go out and show some of those young punks how to play) and in the stands at the wrestling meets.
He was a strong willed person and maybe thats what keep him going as long as he did.
Jenny, you are in our prayers and if we can do anything for you and the kids, just give us a call.
Kids, your dad, even though he is gone physically, will be watching over you. He still will be there to help you through this now and in the future.
Mike and LuAnn Schiller
Hutchinson, Mn - Monday, June 14, 2004 12:46 AM CDT
Dear Jenny, kids & extended family: My deepest and sincerest sympathies for the tragic loss of your husband, father, son, and brother. I didn't know Tom personally but worked indirectly with him at HTI. A number of my coworkers shared their experiences working with Tom and after reading all the wonderful memories published on this website, I feel that I've come to know Tom for the awesome person that he truly was. Although I can't begin to fathom your pain and sorrow, I do know of God's powerful Love to comfort your wounded hearts, strengthen your courage, and deepen your faith to fully and completely trust in His ways; accepting this new direction in life that He has set before all of you. Matthew 11: 28-30 has always provided great comfort for me knowing that God yearns for us to seek Him and cast all our sorrows and worries on Him, that He is with us, blesses, and keeps us all the days of our lives! May His Word continue to richly bless and guide you all until you (we all) meet Tom again in our heavenly home!
Carol Schauer <cschauer@hti.htch.com>
Eau Claire, WI - Monday, June 14, 2004 12:29 AM CDT
Kern Family-
It is hard to muster a smile, let alone a laugh, on a day like this. I shall miss the friend that I knew as "Fig". My deepest sympathies.
Michael Meyer <michael@spearenvelope.com>
St. Louis Park, MN - Monday, June 14, 2004 11:59 AM CDT
Jennifer, Uncle Dave again, I keep finding myself reading all the entries and as I do I think back to some of the times I had the privilege of being around the Tomster. I remember how eager he was to fill in for one of our missing teammates for a company softball league I played on one summer when you and your family were visiting Indianapolis or the time at one of the Francis reunions at your parents house in Buffalo when he and I were paired against Bill Halter and Larry Lofgren in horseshoes and how much Tom and I tortured Bill with EXACT measurements in how the shoes lay. Molly still reminds me of that and how funny it was. I've always considered Tom "one of us" and always looked forward to seeing him whenever our paths would cross. Just reading all of the entries here tells me Tom has touched a lot of lives and always left a positive impact on everyone. We won't be able to be with you in body this coming week but will be in spirit. Our best to you and your family. We love you very much!
Uncle Dave
Dave Robertson <daverobertson@prodigy.net>
Indianapolis, In USA - Monday, June 14, 2004 11:53 AM CDT
Dear Kern Families,
Our hearts are heavy with the news of Tom's passing. He was a great man from a great family. Bob and Vi, our thoughts and prayers are with you and Jenny and the kids. The last several years our infrequent visits with Tom and Jenny were dominated by conversation of their four kids and our four kids, as we had that in common. The pain and confusion the kids must feel rips at our hearts. Hopefully the kids will understand that dad is now free from pain and under the watch of a greater power (and that he is still there for them). Peace to all of you from our family.
Todd and Cindy Biewen, Carter, Britt, Mitchell, and Adam <tjb1@msn.com>
Golden Valley, MN - Monday, June 14, 2004 11:14 AM CDT
Jenny, thank you for updating the website. Our hearts are breaking. We will see you later this week. Constant prayers are coming to you and the kids from our family.
Katherine Karpinsky <katherineaz@aol.com>
Mesa, AZ - Monday, June 14, 2004 10:59 AM CDT
Hi Jenny,
We have been praying from a distance since we heard the news about Tom last winter. And we will keep that Christmas picture we have of your family taped to our kitchen cupboard and continue to pray for you all. Tom was a funny guy and thoughts of him always brings a smile!
We saw a beautiful rainbow on Saturday - it had to be Tom's rainbow! God Bless you and your family. We will light a luminary for Tom at the Relay for Life in July! And please let us know if there is anything that we can do to help. Love, The Rodnings - Mark, Sheila, Ashley, Brian and Bill
Sheila Rodning <mrodning@prtel.com>
Fergus Falls, mn usa - Monday, June 14, 2004 10:52 AM CDT
Dear Jenny and family,
I was so sad to hear about Tom's passing. Tom left a great impact when he spoke to my Teen Issues class on the dangers of chewing tobacco. I had tears that day but not as many as I do today. I hope his message continues to be shared. My heart goes out to you and your family, he was quite a guy. I just wanted to let you know that you are continually in my thoughts and prayers.
Dori Duesterhoeft <duest@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Monday, June 14, 2004 10:12 AM CDT
Dear Jenny and family
Tom was a man that touched my heart back in 1985 when Jeanne and I met you two sitting in a hot tub in New Ulm havig a good time with other AAL sales representatives. That was the start of a great friendship. Our AAL days together were identical. Hated the cold calling but loved the get togethers! The memories I have of Tom will be with me forever. He was truly a wonderful man. He is now in a place we all want to be, with our Lord and Savior!
Jenny, we are only a phone call away!
Karl & Jeanne Baldry
Karl Baldry <kjbaldry@hotmail.com>
Hutchinson, MN - Monday, June 14, 2004 9:46 AM CDT
Dear Jenny and family,
My deepest sympathy to each of you. I will continue to think of all of you and pray for you. It is a new path you have to walk but God will be with you for every step.
A friend in Christ, Joy
Joy Berg <cjoyodel@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN - Monday, June 14, 2004 8:41 AM CDT
JennyLou, BigMac, Alexa, Connor, & Tori, I Love You. I still can't believe it? Sharon & I cry out in sorrow with you. We cannot begin to know of your loss. Charlottle perhaps said it best. As a family of Faith we know Tom is better off, he is with God. Yet, even we struggle, yes, wrestle, with the concept, the fact, and have no answers. We can only continue to Pray, and Love, and Trust, and support you and your beautiful children, knowing God will provide. It's still a bum rap, it's crap. But God will sustain you. We Love You Guys tremendously.
Unc.Drew, Sharon, Alyse, Calvin, & Grace
Andrew Robertson <ARIC74@aol.com>
Naperville, IL - Monday, June 14, 2004 8:37 AM CDT
Jenny,
My heart is broken for you. Tom's sickness and death brings a sadness that is beyond my experiences. Yet when I think of Tom touching my life, it only brings great laughter. He was hilarious. Jesus will be laughing and has brought much humor to heaven. I know Tom will live in the hearts of anyone who knew him. Everytime they think of him, they will smile because that what he did - he left a happy footprint with everyone! Jenny, we are here for you - anytime - anything - anywhere! We love you! Deb
Deb Day <debra.day@anoka.k12.mn.us>
Andover, MN 55304 - Monday, June 14, 2004 8:36 AM CDT
Kern Family,
You're in my thoughts and prayers. The "Commander" was very special, he will be missed.
Beeps
Ben Mondloch <Ben.Mondloch@gale.com>
Ann Arbor, MI USA - Monday, June 14, 2004 7:43 AM CDT
Jenny, MacKenzie, Alexa, Connor , & Tori
Words cannot express the pain and sadness we feel for you and your family at the loss of Tom. We love you and are praying for you at this difficult time. It's hard, but I know we can all take comfort in knowing that Tom, at this very moment, has a new body and is dancing on the streets of gold in Heaven with his infectious personality and smile waiting for our reunion.
I will miss Tom greatly. Everytime we got together we talked of the great memories from our "Gustie" football days. Those days are like gold to me now! What a great guy Tom was and I was lucky to have his friendship. My heart aches to think I'll never have another chance to stop by the house and enjoy his company.
Jenny, our family will help in whatever way necessary. We love you!
Mark & Jennifer Johnson Family <john1234@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Monday, June 14, 2004 1:27 AM CDT
Dear Jenny, Mackenzie, Alexa, Connor and Tori,
Please know that you are all in our thoughts and prayers at this most difficult time. We hope you continue to feel God's love and comfort during this trying time, as well as the love and support from your family and friends. We're just a call away if or when you need anything. May God Bless You All.
Craig, Kathy, Nick and Caitlyn Snitker <snitker@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Sunday, June 13, 2004 10:46 PM CDT
Dear Jenny and family,
We are so sad to get the news about Tom. What a wonderful guy. We are heart-broken for you and pray for
God's peace and comfort for you all. "And my God will meet all your needs according to His glorious riches in
Christ Jesus" Phil. 4:19 Love, The Swansons
Scott and Debby Swanson <sswanson5@mn.rr.com>
Edina, Mn USA - Sunday, June 13, 2004 10:33 PM CDT
Jenny and Family,
We are so sorry for the great loss of Tom. May God bless and comfort each one of you.
Today while remembering Tom at church, I whispered to Roseanne that I have never laughed so hard in my life as when with Tom. I can remember tears streaming down my face and my sides absolutely aching as Tom would share one of his many wonderful stories. Tom has greatly blessed and enriched my life through laughter and friendship. I am so fortunate to have had the opportunity to spend time with him.
Throughout the day I find my self reflecting on Tom and singing the song:
"Shalom my friend, Shalom my friend
Shalom, Shalom
I'll see you again
I'll see you again
Shalom, Shalom"
I do look forward to the time that we will ALL be able to laugh again with Tom.
Joe, Roseanne, Justin, Alyssa, & Jordan Heser <jfheser@aol.com>
Ames, IA - Sunday, June 13, 2004 10:27 PM CDT
Jenny and Kids,
I am very sad to hear about your loss of Tom. You are in the thoughts and prayers of Morgan and myself. May God be with you and your family in this time of need.
Brad Dobberstein and Morgan <dobs@hcctel.net>
Buffalo Lake, Mn USA - Sunday, June 13, 2004 10:00 PM CDT
Jenny, Mackenzie, Alexa, Connor and Tori
Our hearts are heavy and sad and although words can not begin to ease the sorrow of your loss, please know you are in the prayers of many who care. At this time we pray that the Lord will bring comfort to you and your family with His peace and encourage you with His presence today, tomorrow and everyday after. Jenny, we have many good memories with swim meets with the kids where Tom's incredible sense of humor and his infectious smile will not be forgotten. Remember we too are here for you and the kids.
Dave and Dawn VandenBerg <vandenberg@mchsi.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Sunday, June 13, 2004 9:42 PM CDT
Dear Tori,
I was so sad to hear the news that your dad died. I can only image how sad you must feel right now. Remember that it is OK to feel sad, lonely, and angry. Sometimes it might help to be alone to think, to cry, to remember, and to smile about the memories. Other times it might help to talk to someone. There are many of us who are willing to listen when you need to talk.
You are a sweet, wonderful girl! Your dad went to heaven feeling so proud that he had you for a daughter and your family as his family.
I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Mrs. Schantzen
Sue Schantzen
Hutchinson , MN McLeod - Sunday, June 13, 2004 9:27 PM CDT
Dear Jenny, MacKenzie, Alexis, Conner and Tori,
I am so sorry that Tom, your husband and father, has died so early in life. It is so hard to realize when someone dies that they are really gone. And in some ways they are never gone. I am glad for you all that you had your Dad for as long as you did. It's never long enough, but he has made indelible marks on your lives which you will continue to discover throughout your lives. These will be strengths and gifts to be discovered as you live and as you love one another. Jenny, your Tom is with you always. He will be with you to lean on and to make decisions, as you go through these next few years. He will also tell you to go on with your life when it is time to go on. I found myself 'talking' to Bob for years, asking his opinion and his guidance as I raised Rick and Theresa. I was also mad as heck that he died on me. I yelled at the sky, 'How dare you die and leave me'!!! I missed him terribly, terribly, terribly and love him to this day. So live your grief and know that all the turns it takes are okay and that the anger and the longing are both normal. I love you.
Aunt Charlotte
aunt charlotte helen robertson <cwgrbird@aol.com,croberts@hhcorp.org>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Sunday, June 13, 2004 8:29 PM CDT
Jenny & Kids - We are SO sorry that Tom is gone. You have been and continue to be in our prayers. Please let me know if there is anything that we can do to help. Kathy & Ian, Mackenzie & Jacob McDonald
Kathy McDonald <ikmmcdon@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Sunday, June 13, 2004 7:53 PM CDT
Jenny and Family,
We are so sorry to hear the news and PLEASE know that our arms surround YOU ALL at this time and always. Jenny, we
want to continue to help you and support you in any way that we can! So many memories of the good old GUSTIE days and ones we will cherish forever!
LOVE YOU!
Steve and Beth Harstad <ggustie1@att.net>
Eden Prairie, MN USA - Sunday, June 13, 2004 7:51 PM CDT
Jenny, Kathy and I were gone for the weekend and checked our voicemail today to find that Tom had past away. Tom is with God now. You and the kids are in our prayers.
We love you very much.
Uncle Dave
Dave Robertson <daverobertson@prodigy.net>
Indianapolis, In USA - Sunday, June 13, 2004 7:09 PM CDT
Jenny (&Kids) ~ We are truly truly sorry for your loss! This must seem sO surreal ~ having to deal with everything your going through right now?! We are deeply sorry for the pain and emotions you are all having to deal with. As you already know, we thought VERY fondly of Tom. We are blessed to have him in our hearts and prayers and our treasured memories!
We are here for anything. Really. Anything. We'll see you soon.
God Beat the Cancer! Thank you God!
The Lantz Family
Mark Lantz <markandkarlyn@earthlink.net >
Chanhassen, MN USA - Sunday, June 13, 2004 7:02 PM CDT
Jenny and family,
I was so saddened by the news of Tom's passing! My heart aches for you all! I only wish there were words enough to heal the hurt and mend the loss you are going to feel for a very long time! I just want you to know that my prayers will continue to go out to you! If you need anything I'd like to help! Mom and dad also send their thoughts and prayers!
Janet Doelger , Alison and Lucas, Al and Irene Polman <doelgerf@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN McLeod - Sunday, June 13, 2004 6:55 PM CDT
Jenny, We are so sorry for your loss. Tom was a wonderful person and he will be missed greatly. We continue to pray for you and your family every day. May God's love surround you and help you through this difficult time. God Bless.
Jody Weis <cjweis@birdislandmn.com>
Bird Island, MN USA - Sunday, June 13, 2004 3:56 PM CDT
Dear Jenny, Mackenzie, Alexa, Connor, and Tori,
We are deeply saddened at the news of Tom's passing and cannot imagine the pain and shock you and your family must be feeling. We wish we were there to give you a big hug. We know Tom will always be with you in your hearts and he will always be near. We also know that we serve a great God who loves us and feels our hurts. We pray that He will give you the strength you need for each day.
The Witters: Leon, Cathy, Noelle, Adam, Dani, Brett and Cole <lccwitter@mchsi.com>
Hector, MN - Sunday, June 13, 2004 3:52 PM CDT
We just found out that Tom was sick last night when we came home from vacation and Gail Waldner had left a message on our voice mail. Please accept our condolances and we will keep you in our thoughts and prayers. We are so sorry! Tom was a heck of a guy and and a great competitor on the football field. We will miss him!
Laine and Beth Sletta <laine.sletta@co.brown.mn.us>
New Ulm, MN US - Sunday, June 13, 2004 3:26 PM CDT
Dear Jenny and gang!
Sometimes words can't be found to express how exactly we feel. My heart is heavy as I think of your pain right now. Tom will always be sitting on each of your shoulders; Jenny, when life seems to be too much, he will be gently guiding you along; McKenzie - he will whisper who is and is not good enough for you :); Alexa - he will always be reminding you to "know it off!", and he will be in the front row cheering you along during all your performances; Connor - he's going to make that fast pitch just a little bit faster; and Tori - the smiley face stickers on the calendar every day are there to help brighten the day! As time heals, don't think you have to do this alone. If you need us...tomorrow, next week, or next year, we are just across the street. He was a great man, and he was so very proud of all of you!
Love, The Gelschus crew
Jon & Laurie Gelschus <gelschus@mchsi.com>
Hutchinson, MN McLeod - Sunday, June 13, 2004 2:32 PM CDT
Dear Jenny, Mackenzie, Alexa, Connor and Tori
Our thoughts, prayers and tears are with all of you now. We do not know the pain you must be feeling but do thank God for the support and love you feel. Tom was a great man with a true "love" for life. I'll choose to remember the fun all of the swim parents had after swim sections this past Oct., at the "Hole In 1" in Morris. You have our prayer support and offer for help in any way.
Brian, Bev, Bridgett and Bea Bonte
Bev Bonte <bbonte57@hotmail.com>
Hutchinson, MN - Sunday, June 13, 2004 2:24 PM CDT
Kerns, I just wanted you to know that Michelle and I thinking of you. Tom was one of the first friends we made here. I will miss him greatly.
Rory Fairbanks <roryf@hutch.k12.mn.us>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Sunday, June 13, 2004 2:05 PM CDT
Tom is "home free" experiencing the ultimate healing. But those who remain are now the ones in pain. However, we do not mourn as those who have no hope. Take a look at Romans 13:15. This is my prayer for you all.
Carol B.
Hutch, - Sunday, June 13, 2004 12:44 AM CDT
Jenny & Family,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. You continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.
Becky Edwards <jbedewards@hcctel.net>
Hector, MN USA - Sunday, June 13, 2004 10:43 AM CDT
Jenny and family,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. You continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.
Becky Edwards
Hector, MN USA - Sunday, June 13, 2004 10:40 AM CDT
We are saddened to hear of Tom's passing. Even though I (Karla) didn't know Tom very well, Bruce has some fond memories of his childhood growing up with all the cousins. In times like this it seems that it would be appropriate to slow down and take the time to keep in touch with all the people who have been important in our lives. Why don't we do this? :(
We wish you well and please know that you have all been in our prayers and will continue to be.
Bruce & Karla Blakesley <bblake@myclearwave.net>
Amboy, MN USA - Sunday, June 13, 2004 10:30 AM CDT
Jenny and kids: I knew Tom through HTI as did my husband. I remember when he and Pete Jensen were trying to put the big "garage sale" together I asked him, "Which of you is Sandford and which of you is the son?" Without hesitation he put his pen in his mouth like a cigar and said, "I'm Sandford!" I never saw Tom when he didn't have a positive thing to say to me. When I went back to work after a battle with cancer, he told me, "We never know what God has in store for us, it's so important to be ready." While Tom has gone home to the Lord, and of course we all would rather have him here with us, we know he is free of pain and is singing with the angels today! What a legacy of hope and joy he has left his family! While you must be sad and grieving, I pray a day will dawn when you can rejoice and celebrate the time that was here on earth. We will keep you in our prayers.
Sheryl Woodworth <woodwor11@mchsi.com>
Hutchinson, MN - Sunday, June 13, 2004 9:36 AM CDT
Jenny & family, We are so sorry and saddened that Tom is gone. The knight in shining armor came for Tom and took him home, no more pain. You are in my prayers, my thoughts and my heart breaks for you.
Joel, Paula, Tessa & Tim Schlueter
- Sunday, June 13, 2004 8:50 AM CDT
Dear Kerns - We continue to lift your family up in prayer. "For God all things are possible." Mark 10:27
Love, Paul and Ann Gesme
Paul Gesme <gez@uslink.net>
Deephaven, MN USA - Sunday, June 13, 2004 8:49 AM CDT
Tom you will be missed greatly. Jenny, Kenzie, Alexa, Connor and Tori. Our deepest sympathies are with you. No words can express the greif you are feeling. Your faith will keep you strong and know that God and Tom will be walking with each of you every step.
Craig, DeeDee, Kelci and Taylor Reiner <dmr@hutchtel.net>
Huchinson, MN USA - Sunday, June 13, 2004 8:46 AM CDT
Dear Tom and Family,
My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Jill Jacobson <Jill.Jacobson@hti.htch.com>
Hutchinson, MN - Sunday, June 13, 2004 7:55 AM CDT
Tom, Jenny, and family, My prayers have focussed on you during this entire ordeal. God be with you.
Wayne Gilman <wgilman@isd2135.k12.mn.us>
Mapleton, MN - Sunday, June 13, 2004 4:24 AM CDT
Tom, we will miss you greatly. Jenny and family, our hearts are heavy with grief for losing him, but yet just thinking about Tom and his incredible personality makes us smile. Take care and God bless.
Kirk & Ann Kosel <kirk_kosel@yahoo.com>
- Sunday, June 13, 2004 2:07 AM CDT
Dear Tom, Jenny and the Gang!!! It saddens our hearts so to hear the latest news..its scarcely too much to take it all in....we just cannot imagine how terribly difficult it is for all of you....although we know there is so much power in prayer, it is sometimes difficult for us to sit back when we wish we could do so much more for you...we will continue to trust in Gods power and in his miracles and we will try to be patient to wait on Gods timing instead of our own. Please know that we love you , pray for you , hurt for you and are willing to help in any way you need to ease your days...let us know if we may bring in a meal for you all at the hospital or if any of your children have needs that we can meet...we are there for them..just let us know. You are in our prays and in our hearts EVERY day. We reflect on memories that we have of your family with smiles on our faces and we carry your burdens in our hearts and in our prayers. Paul told us today that he remembered Tom from Baseball last year as the one guy who would seem to always notice when he needed improvement and he was always so encouraging to Paul...He really liked playing baseball that summer after the one practice that Tom 'took the time' for him!!! He made a difference even in the little things.......and for Paul that was a HUGE thing! We will continue to pray for healing for all of you!!! Love and unending support from our family to yours, John,Kathy,Kelsey,Paul and Bailey Sanken
John and Kathy Sanken and children <ksanken@hotmail.com>
Litchfield , mn meeker - Saturday, June 12, 2004 10:38 PM CDT
Dear Mrs. Kern~
Since you were my teacher about 10 years ago, I could probably call you by your name but it just doesn't seem right. I'm so sorry to hear about your husband and the hard times that your family is facing right now. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. I found a poem that I think says what everyone wants to let you and your family know.
We cannot ease your aching heart,
Nor take your pain away;
But let us stay and take your hand
And walk with you today!
We'll listen when you need to talk;
We'll wipe away your tears.
We'll share your worries when they come;
We'll help you face your fears.
We're here and we will stand by you,
Each hill you have to climb;
So take our hand, let's face the world,
Live one day at a time.
You're not alone, for we're still here,
We'll go that extra mile;
And when your grief is easier,
We'll help you learn to smile!
Melissa Walter <missw24@hotmail.com>
Buffalo Lake, MN - Saturday, June 12, 2004 9:57 PM CDT
Dear Jenny, Tom & kids,
We have no words to express to you how very sorry we are that the news you received from the doctors is so devastating. You are all in our hearts and in our prayers. Psalm 139 tells us that God is with us through every situation, in every trial - protecting us, loving us, guiding us. He knows and loves completely.
Ralph & Geri Johnson <grjohn@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN - Saturday, June 12, 2004 8:10 PM CDT
Dear Jenny and family
Our hearts go out to you -- we, too, join the many asking our Lord to heal Tom and to care for all of you. Karen and Lowell
Karen and Lowell Kirgiss <kirgissl@hotmail.com>
Garfield, AR USA - Saturday, June 12, 2004 4:58 PM CDT
Jenny and kids, Now must be an incredibly difficult time, but I wanted you to know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Erin Endres <endr0033@d.umn.edu>
- Saturday, June 12, 2004 3:52 PM CDT
Jenny,
So sorry to hear about Tom. Jim told me of his illness and this website and I just wanted you to know that your entire family is in our prayers. Don't give up hope.
Henry Endres
Henry Endres <hpedels@lakes.com>
LeSueur, MN USA - Saturday, June 12, 2004 3:39 PM CDT
Hi Jenny, This was the verse on my Calendar devotional for the day. . . "You hear, O Lord, the desire of the afflicted; you encourage them, and you listen to their cry" Psalms 10:17, NIV Remembering you and your family today in my prayers.
Patti K.
- Saturday, June 12, 2004 1:54 PM CDT
Jenny, Tom, and family
Our family continues to keep you in our prayers. We hope for a miracle and who knows?
Keep the faith,
Melanie & Carl Rudeen and family
Melanie Rudeen
Hector, MN US - Saturday, June 12, 2004 12:09 AM CDT
I work in the same department as Tom, and I just wanted to let you know that we have decorated a bag for a candle light walk for cancer for Tom ... My kids do not know him but they each decorated a side for him.. They have said a prayer each night for hime to get better... I pray for you and your family to answer each and every prayer ....
Luann Lang
Cosmos, MN USA - Saturday, June 12, 2004 11:24 AM CDT
Dear Kerns,
Our family is holding yours in our prayers.
Love and peace,
Kristy Peterson Bjerk, Gustavus class of '86 <kbjerk@msn.com>
Stillwater, MN 55082 - Saturday, June 12, 2004 1:03 AM CDT
Dear Tom and Jenny,
I came home from my "busy" day and sat right down to my computer, wondering...hoping... praying...
YOU are strong, loving, and devoted people. I'm sorry for the roller coaster you (and your kids) are riding. I'll keep praying for a miracle.
With continuous hope and prayers,
Brenda Rasmussen <brras@en-tel.net>
Willmar, MN - Friday, June 11, 2004 11:33 PM CDT
Dear Tom, Jenny and family,
We're thinking of you all and hope you feel the support of all of us who care about you, Tom. You're in our prayers.
Love, Steve and Janie Warner
Steve Warner <sjwarns@aol.com>
Chanhassen, MN USA - Friday, June 11, 2004 9:43 PM CDT
Dear Jenny, Tom, and kids,
I am so moved by your strength to keep this site updated, and know that you are relying upon our Lord to sustain you. The lives being touched by all of you is far reaching, and many of those lives will be changed in an unexplainable way. I have shared your story with some, and feel strongly that one individual has given up chewing tobacco because of Tom's situation. We will continue to pray for a miracle for Tom, which only our God can provide, while at the same time believe that other lives may be spared because of your willingness to share and put the truth out there. Continue to believe and feel God's love and the prayers of His people. May He bless you all during this difficult time, and carry your burdens, just as the Footprint poem describes. Much love, many prayers, and all of God's blessings to each of you!
In Him,
Shelly Julius <domeng00@hotmail.com>
Hutchinson, MN - Friday, June 11, 2004 7:22 PM CDT
Tom, Jenny, Kenzie K, Alexa, Connor, Tori
I know you guys have heard sorry for what has happend so much lately, and we too are sorry what you guys as a family are going through right now. Just know that you guys will continueously be in our prayers and we are thinking of you day and night. If you guys need anything at all, kenzie knows our number and ashlee's cellphone number. God is making this happen for a reason, everything he does is a blessing in disguise! much Love: Mark, Julie, Angela, Amanda, Amy, and Ashlee Hanke
The Hanke Family <ashlee_ann05@hotmail.com>
- Friday, June 11, 2004 5:30 PM CDT
Dear Jenny,
We are friends of Tom from Gustavus. Our hearts are heavy at your latest news. Please know that we are praying for you and your family.
Jim and Sheryl Bjork
Jim and Sheryl Bjork <sherylbjork@aol.com>
Chaska, MN USA - Friday, June 11, 2004 4:03 PM CDT
Jenny - please know that you, Tom and the children are all in our prayers - daily. Stay stronge and know that God is with you always. Love always, Marti & Tom
Marti Marshall <marshall.marti.s03@flsenate.gov>
Ridge Manor, Fl USA - Friday, June 11, 2004 2:32 PM CDT
Tom and Jenny - I just recently heard the news about Tom's illness and the news today about his condition is heartbreaking. We have not stayed in touch since our days at Gustavus, but I think of both of you with such fondness. I am praying for you and your family at this most difficult of times.
Colleen Davenport <cport63@earthlink.net>
Edina, MN - Friday, June 11, 2004 12:52 AM CDT
Dear Jenny and Family, please know that our prayers and thoughts are with you every day since we learned of Tom's illness. May God continue to hold you, Tom, and the kids in His arms.
Dale and Mary Hitchcock <hitchdale@yahoo.com>
Green Bay, WI USA - Friday, June 11, 2004 12:33 AM CDT
Dear Jenny and family,
I just heard of Tom's recent condition and was shocked and sorrowful at what I just read. Words cannot express how terrible we feel. We too hope and pray for a miracle. Tom is a wonderful young man who has much to offer.
May God bless you all during this most difficult time and may it somewhat comfort you to know that we are all praying for your family and a miracle for Tom.
God Bless,
Joe, Kim, Ashley and Andy McPherson
Joe McPherson <joseph.mcpherson@hti.htch.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Friday, June 11, 2004 12:24 AM CDT
Jenny, Tom, and family,
After I read your recent entry, I read the Footprints poem again. I think about you each time I read it. I also found a quote from Ronald Reagan... We are never defeated unless we give up on God. It also made me think of you.
Brenda Rasmussen <brras@en-tel.net>
Willmar, MN - Friday, June 11, 2004 11:45 AM CDT
To all of you friends and family, I send my prayers. As I have family and others go through this. To know that GOD is there for all of us is what holds us all together. GOD bless all and may HE warm all your hearts.
Derek Lewis <dlewis@rgcglass.com>
Anahiem, Ca USA - Friday, June 11, 2004 11:42 AM CDT
Jenny, Tom, Makenzie, Alexa, Connor and Tori,
Joseph Addison said,"The grand essentials to happiness in this life are soemthing to do, something to love, and something to hope for." May you find both strength and peace at this difficult time in doing what you need to do for one another, in loving one another, and in hoping for strength and healing. Our love and prayers go out to you.
Dave, Kim, Hannah, Bekah and Ethan <dave.conrad@newcenturycharter.com>
Hutchinson, MN McLeod - Friday, June 11, 2004 11:38 AM CDT
Tom, Jenny, McKenzie, Alexa, Connor, and Tori
I am saddened by the latest news about Tom but I have seen your tremendous faith in God and I know he can truly work miracles. Your whole family is in our thoughts and prayers as you continue to go through these difficult times .Jenny if you need help with anything please call me .I would love to spend some time with the kids and give you a break.
Love, Sue,Les,Lance And Kyle Severin
Sue Severin <Les@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Friday, June 11, 2004 10:24 AM CDT
Tom & Jenny- You are doing God's work without realizing it. Your family has been a model of faith, hope, and love that is inspiring to the rest of mankind. When all else fails (and it always does sooner or later) we have to trust in God's love and care for us. As the laborer in the vineyard said, "Why should he get a full day's wages when he didn't have to bear the heat of the day?" God loves you Tom and you'll receive that full day's wages even if you get to leave our vineyard early. We hope and pray that God gives the whole family the strength to keep loving and trusting during this very difficult time.
John & Renee McRaith <jmcraith@ci.hutchinson.mn.us>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Friday, June 11, 2004 9:50 AM CDT
To the Kern Family:
My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time. God Bless.
Twyla G. Waller <twyla_waller@hti.htch.com>
Stewart, MN USA - Friday, June 11, 2004 9:18 AM CDT
May God give Tom's family the strength to deal with this situation.
Mak
Hutchinson, MN USA - Friday, June 11, 2004 9:16 AM CDT
Dearest Tom, Jenny, Mackenzie, Alexia, Conner and Tori,
We don't want to believe this nightmare. Our hearts are so saddened..all this rainy weather...it feels like even the heavens are grieving for us as we all witness Tom's struggle with this nasty illness. Jenny, my friend, I have watched you do such a terrfic job of juggling all Tom's care, medical decisions, supporting your children, and continuing daily life. I know you are beyond exhaustion yet continue out of love and devotion to Tom. You have been so busy attending to everyone elses needs..remember I am here to take care of you. Let me know when you want to spend some time together for just Jenny.
Jenny, please tell Tom he has made this world a better place for all of us. Mike and I have always admired what a terrific father he is to Mackenzie, Alexia, Conner and Tori. Tom is such a people person and has the ability to put anyone at ease and help them to believe in themselves. When we think of Tom we think of the words.. devoted,determined,and lots fun. Our family knows there is never a dull moment when you are in the company of the Kern family. It shows how much you and Tom have given and touched people around you through the many messages on this website. May you feel the love of God, family and friends at this time.
Lots of Love.. your family friends..the Getzkes
Mike, Mary, Gratia, Ted and Joel <getzke@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Friday, June 11, 2004 8:05 AM CDT
Tom and Family,
I am praying for you. I have found that the three "F"s in life have never failed me. May your "Faith", your "Family" and your "Friends" comfort you.
Daris Fraser <darisfraser@yahoo.com>
Hutchinson, MN U.S. - Friday, June 11, 2004 6:49 AM CDT
Tom,Jenny,Mackenzie,Alexa,Connor & Tori,
I am so sorry to hear of the recent news. You are so strong Jenny,keep the faith. God is still in the business of miracles,so keep believing and trusting for one. I pray you & the kids continue to find comfort in the arms of a loving God. I am not that far away Jenny, please let me know if you need anything.
Dan & Karen Stuber <karen.stuber@hti.htch.com>
Hutchinson, mn - Friday, June 11, 2004 6:27 AM CDT
Tom, Jenny, & family:
I'm sorry to hear & read the news. You are in my thoughts & prayers. May the Lord keep your family safe in his arms, & keep your strength & faith strong. Our God is an awesome God! Take Care & May The Lord Bless You All!!
Sherry Knaak <sherbear2681@hotmail.com>
Hutchinson, MN 55350 - Friday, June 11, 2004 0:37 AM CDT
Dear Jenny,
I just got an email from Donna with the latest and this e-link. I'm so sorry that the news has not been good. There are so many praying for your family. We love you and look for God's Best! Psalm 42. Patti
Patti Kaminsky <kaminsky@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN 55350 - Thursday, June 10, 2004 11:06 PM CDT
Tom, Jenny and kids - you are all in our thoughts and prayers. If the kids need to talk to someone I would be glad to chat with them. Losing my dad when I was 16 was very tough and it may help them to talk to someone who has walked in their shoes. You are constantly on our minds.
Jamie, Lisa (Frisell), Ryan, Brady and Carter Newpower <mrmrsnewps@msn.com>
Cottage Grove, MN USA - Thursday, June 10, 2004 10:44 PM CDT
Jenny, Tom and Family,
Our days are spent praying for YOU ALL and we love and embrace YOU ALL! We are thinking about YOU and will continue to help and appreciate Chuck and Deb Day communicating things we can do to HELP!!! Jennifer, YOU are amazing!
Steve and Beth Harstad <ggustie1@att.net>
Eden Prairie, MN USA - Thursday, June 10, 2004 10:42 PM CDT
Jenny, Tom and family
May God bless you and keep you in his comforting arms at this difficult time. Wherever 2 or more are praying in Gods name, know that he is with you.
Gods Blessings
Dean, Connie, Liz, Garrett and Hannah Stromseth
The Stromseth Family <dms@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, Mn USA - Thursday, June 10, 2004 10:32 PM CDT
Tom, Jenny and Family, We continue to pray for a miracle for you and your family. We pray that you might feel Gods loving arms around you all and that you might draw your strength from Him.
Dave and Dawn VandenBerg <vandenberg@mchsi.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Thursday, June 10, 2004 10:29 PM CDT
Tom, Jenny and Family;
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all during these difficult times. Through the strength of God, miracles can and do happen!
Our Love and Prayers;
The Pedersons: JJ, Jennifer, Amanda, Rebecca, Kai and McKenna <JPederson63@yahoo.com>
St. Bonifacius, Mn USA - Thursday, June 10, 2004 10:12 PM CDT
Dear Tom, Jenny, McKenzie, Connor, Alexa and Tori
We are praying for all of you at this difficult time in your lives. Know that so many want to help in any way possible and for now will continue to pray for the clear sense of God's presence.
Love from :Brian, Bev, Bridgett and Bea bonte
Bev Bonte <bbonte57@hotmail.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Thursday, June 10, 2004 9:37 PM CDT
DEAR KERN FAMILY,
PLEASE KNOW THAT YOU ARE IN OUR THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS.
WE HAVE ASKED MANY PEOPLE TO PRAY FOR YOU. WE SERVE A MIGHTY GOD THAT OFTEN SHOWS HIS POWER BY ALLOWING A MIRACLE. WHEN YOU LOOK BEHIND YOU IN THE SAND YOU WILL SEE ALL 12 OF YOUR FOOTPRINTS DISAPPEAR BECAUSE JESUS WILL BE CARRYING ALL SIX OF YOU THROUGH THIS STORM.
WE LOVE YOU AND WE COMMAND THAT CANCER TO LEAVE TOM'S BODY IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST.
LOVE ,THE FROST'S
LISA,CHRIS,MATT,KAYLA,AMANDA
LISA FROST <DUKEMACH1@YAHOO.COM>
SAVAGE, MN USA - Thursday, June 10, 2004 9:32 PM CDT
Tom, Jenny and family; All of you will be in our thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. Remember that God is always there for us even if we think that he is not. We will keep hoping for the Knight in Shining Armor!
Jim, Barb, Dalton and Tyler Thies <jbthies@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN McLeod - Thursday, June 10, 2004 9:15 PM CDT
Jenny, I found the following reference PSALM 56:8 "Thou tellest my wanderings:put thou my tears into thy bottle:are they not in thy book?" [KJV]
I hold you before the Lord. The song that comes to me is called "Home Free." It is a song which always makes me cry but which reminds us that God always heals, either here or the ultimate healing when we'll be 'home free.' I hope and pray that the miracle of healing will happen here, but know God will carry you through these days, however he chooses to answer our prayers.
Carol Beaver <carolb@hutchtel.net>
- Thursday, June 10, 2004 6:28 PM CDT
Jenny & Family: We all feel so helpless but draw upon the strength of the Lord. We love you and pray for you. Jenny, George, Joe, Toya and Sterling
Jenny Brown <justwireinc@ameritech.net>
Fairland, IN USA - Thursday, June 10, 2004 6:00 PM CDT
Tom, Jenny & Family--
Recently learned of the challenges you all are facing. Please remember that where there is courage and life, there is still hope. May God's hands hold you, comfort you and give you peace.
Michael Meyer <michael@spearenvelope.com>
St. Louis Park, MN - Thursday, June 10, 2004 5:20 PM CDT
Tom, Jenny, MacKenzie, Alexa, Connor and Torrey,
It is sooo good to spend time with your family and your extended Markve family (Luke, Louise, Ben, Sarah, Mary & Fred and kids, John & Shelley and kids (and with brother Steve in spirit) this week, and to know you have much love and support all around you. I know from Louise & Luke that the extended Kern family is and has been there for you in every way possible, too! Know that your legions of Robertson and Francis relatives are uplifting you in prayer every moment of every day. We love you dearly and pray for the return of complete health and wholeness for Tom as well as perfect peace and comfort and the return of joy for all of you even though these hours are filled with darkness and despair. We believe in and are praying for miracles.
Aunt Rosemary and Grandma Helen Robertson (and cousin Steve) <rarobertson51@msn.com>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Thursday, June 10, 2004 4:59 PM CDT
Oh Jenny?! Our hearts feel so heavy for you and the kids! This is not good news today. Mark is so thankful that he visited on Tuesday. It was extremely hard for him to see Tom so sick!
By your last entry, it is obvious that your faith is very strong! We are certain that God WILL save the day and has already been comforting Tom during his journey. We know that TOM is going to a better place and will have peace. However, we pray mostly for you and the kids.
These are some Scripture Lessons that were so comforting when a friend of mine died this Spring:
Isaih 26:3 Perfect Peace
Isaiah 40:31 Eagles' Wings
Numbers 6:24-26 Face Shining on You
Psalm 139 God Always Near
Psalm 56:9-11 Trust God
Psalm 91:11-14 Angels Carry
John 3:16
You are all in our hearts and on our minds! May God give you the strength to comfort your children. And may he give each of you the time you need to say goodbye to Tom.
Huge Hugs and Heavy Hearts ~ Mark,Karlyn,Logan&Lauren Lantz
Karlyn Lantz <markandkarlyn@earthlink.net >
Chanhassen, MN USA - Thursday, June 10, 2004 4:18 PM CDT
Jenny and family,
I have been thinking of you daily and praying for you.
May the Peace of God be with all of you.
A friend in Christ, Joy
Joy Berg <cjoyodel@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN Mcleod - Thursday, June 10, 2004 3:22 PM CDT
Dear Tom, Jenny and kids:
You are in our prayers! Miracles happen every day!
Pedersons: Joel, Jennifer, Amanda, Rebecca, Kai and McKenna <jennifer_pederson@yahoo.com>
Saint Boni, MN - Thursday, June 10, 2004 3:20 PM CDT
Tom, Jenny, and family,
We are praying for miracles, hope, and strength for your family.
Kent & Jenny Langfield <kjcb@comcast.net>
Lakewood, CO - Thursday, June 10, 2004 3:03 PM CDT
Jenny, I pray for Tom, you and the kids. Please know that everyone here in Indy loves all of you.
Dave
Dave Robertson <daverobertson@prodigy.net>
Indianapolis, In USA - Thursday, June 10, 2004 2:14 PM CDT
Tom, Jenny, and Family
We continue to pray and hope for a miracle.
Mike, Katherine, Michele, Nichole, & Kalley Karpinsky <mkarpin2@wm.com>
Mesa, AZ - Thursday, June 10, 2004 2:13 PM CDT
The Kern Family,
You have been and will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. If there are other ways that I can help, just let me know. May God continue to bless you with support from others, patience, and hope. Sue Schantzen
Sue Schantzen
Hutchinson, MN McLeod - Thursday, June 10, 2004 1:26 PM CDT
Jenny, Tom, and Family,
My prayers and thoughts are with your family during this difficult time. God Bless your family.
Barb Alsleben <alam9801@stcloudstate.edu>
Hutchinson, MN McLeod - Thursday, June 10, 2004 1:24 PM CDT
Jenny, Tom and family-- May the Mighty Lord in all his glory
help to heal all of you the best way he is able. We are all praying that Tom knows how special he is, how much everyone cares, and most importatly, that his pain is minimal. We send our heartfelt love and prayers to all of you.
Todd, Brenda, Courtney & Nathan Schull <brendaschull@aol.com>
Lakeville, MN - Thursday, June 10, 2004 12:53 AM CDT
Tom, Jenny and kids,
Praying through our tears for the miracle of strength, comfort, compassion, endurance, and healing. The Knight in Shining Armor brings all these and more, spiritually, mentally, physically, we are sure. How and when, Lord? In faith, hope, and love, we humbly ask for your grace.
Bill and Molly Halter <christian@cboss.com>
North Lima, Oh USA - Thursday, June 10, 2004 12:53 AM CDT
Jenny, it has always been your strength and optimism that has helped carry us through Tom's illness. As we join the hands of others we create a circle of love and friendship, a circle of prayers, a circle of strength, a circle of people who care about you. With God's love may you find this circle your strength to draw from. ALways in our prayers. Patti. Brian, Cassie , Ellen and Ryan Lenz
Patti, Brian. Cassie, Ellen, Ryan Lenz <lenz@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, Mn usa - Thursday, June 10, 2004 11:09 AM CDT
Jenny and Family,
My heart goes out to you!! Jacob and I will continue to pray every day for God to be there with you through you time of need. We send our love and support across the miles!! God bless all of you.
Becky and Jacob Thompson <satchmosue@yahoo.com>
Indianapolis, IN United States - Thursday, June 10, 2004 10:31 AM CDT
JennyLou,
Damn. So, do the Doc's give you, the spouse, anything for emotional pain? No, that's where all these notes of love & support come in. Jenny you have always been and continue to be a woman of strength. In praying for Tom and your children, I specifically pray for you. That you have a extremely close confidant so you can afford to break down with, now and later. We love you guys,
Drew, Sharon, Alyse, Calvin, and Grace
Andrew Robertson <ARIC74@aol.com>
Naperville, IL USA - Thursday, June 10, 2004 10:23 AM CDT
We stand on vigil for your Knight in Shining Armour. May Tom and your entire family find the peace, comfort and love you so richly deserve.
Samantha, Madeline, Anna, John, Gretchen and Tom Peterson
- Thursday, June 10, 2004 10:13 AM CDT
May the good Lord give you comfort during these difficult days and pray that the "Knight in Shining Armor" does appear.
Gary Lindmeier
N Mankato, MN USA - Thursday, June 10, 2004 10:07 AM CDT
Tom, Jenny and kids,
My heart is so heavy as I read about the news you received. If only I had words that would comfort you but I don't. Tears are streaming down my cheeks as they have so many times before. Eric asked me what was wrong so I read the news to him. He really feels a connection with Tom and prays so hard for him. Please know that we will do ANYTHING for you. We love you all and pray for healing in so many different ways for all of you.
Love, Greg, Lori, Jack, Eric and Nick
Greg and Lori Haffley <ghaffley@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Thursday, June 10, 2004 9:50 AM CDT
Tom, Jenny, & Family...
Just wanted to let you know that we are thinking about you and praying for you everyday!
Sarah Rath <sarah.rath@hti.htch.com>
- Thursday, June 10, 2004 9:35 AM CDT
I just received a call from Mark Lantz regarding Toms condition. I know my fellow O lineman will continue to battle just like we did on all those fall Saturday afternoons. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all and we will pray for a miracle!
Mark, Sheila, Ashley, Brian and Bill <Mark.Rodning.cun8@StateFarm.com>
Fergus Falls, MN - Thursday, June 10, 2004 9:24 AM CDT
I just received a call from Mark Lantz regarding Toms condition. I know my fellow O lineman will continue to battle just like we did on all those fall Saturday afternoons. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all and we will pray for a miracle!
Mark, Sheila, Ashley, Brian and Bill <Mark.Rodning.cun8@StateFarm.com>
Fergus Falls, MN - Thursday, June 10, 2004 9:24 AM CDT
Tom, Jenny, Mackenzie, Alexa, Connor & Tori,
There isn't a day that passes that I don't think about Tom and all of you. I miss my neighbor at work and I miss Tom's laugh, sense of humor and questions which helped to make the work day more enjoyable. I hope these words may provide some comfort during this time:
Happy moments, Praise God
Difficult moments, Seek God
Quiet moments, Worship God
Painful moments, Trust God
Every moment, Thank God
May each of you be comforted in knowing that there are family and friends who are there with all of you in thought and prayer.
Lou Ann Kottke
Hutchinson, - Thursday, June 10, 2004 9:18 AM CDT
Though we never know what direction or path our lives may take, He does. We must learn to trust His wisdom and allow His power, love and strength to guide us, fill us, and hold us up when we think we can no longer go on. May the thoughts and prayers of those who care for you and your family help to sustain you during this difficult time. Keep the faith - a miracle may be just a day away!
Sherry
- Thursday, June 10, 2004 8:48 AM CDT
Jenny, Tom, and family...
Praying with you and for you!!!!!!!!!!
Becky Edwards <jbdedwards@hcctel.net>
Hector, MN USA - Thursday, June 10, 2004 8:27 AM CDT
The Kern family, You're thought of with faith, hope and prayer.
Marcia Yetzer <Marcia.Yetzer@hti.htch.com>
Hutchinson, MN - Thursday, June 10, 2004 7:21 AM CDT
It breaks our heart to read the new you have. We keep praying for Tom and his family. Your faith is strong and God will always be there for you.
We are sending you our love and prayers
The Wegner Family
Dawn Wegner <dawn.wegner@hti.htch.com>
Hutchinson, MN Mcleod - Thursday, June 10, 2004 6:56 AM CDT
I work with Scott Weilage, as well as being close friends of he and Heidi and family. I have heard over the years about many of the fun and eventful trips, etc. -- great memories to be cherished by many. You are in my prayers. Keep the faith -- it does work miracles!!!
Kathy Langdon <kathyl@weilage.com>
Mankato, MN USA - Wednesday, June 9, 2004 1:34 PM CDT
Tom, Jenny & family
My prayer is for Tom to be restored to his vibrant physical, mental and emotional self. I pray for this every day. Love Libby
Libby Markey <lmarkey@rhin.com>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Wednesday, June 9, 2004 1:17 PM CDT
Dear Tom (Fig) Jenny and kids,
Please know that your recovery is in our prayers every day. Have faith.
Love,
Liz Frost and Family: Martin, Nicholas & Kathryn
and the Mankato-Southview neighbor's:
The Frost Family: Chuck, Kay, Chuck, Jr., Ann, Steve, Mark, Rick, Mary, Kathy, Jane & Duke
Elizabeth Frost Vaage <evaage01@amgen.com>
Savage, MN USA - Tuesday, June 8, 2004 9:46 PM CDT
Tom and Family; A hearty handshake, a booming laugh and a twinkle in your eye. Tom you are a friend to all and it's obvious from the love here that you've already touched many lives. Robin and I pray for your speedy recovery and return to the pool deck in Hutch.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Jim, Robin, Annie, Jen & Katie Friedlander
Jim Friedlander <jimf139@mchsi.com>
Deephaven, MN - Tuesday, June 8, 2004 7:14 PM CDT
Dear Jenny, Tom, and kids: You are in my thoughts everyday along with my prayers. You are blessed with each other and your faith will make you strong.
Mary Rasmussen <bamm@hutchtel.net>
Hector, MN - Tuesday, June 8, 2004 2:41 PM CDT
Tom, Jenny & Family
Just wanted to let you know that you are in my prayers. Prayers for healing and for peace for you all.
Beth Gray <bgrayduck@yahoo.com>
Winona, MN - Tuesday, June 8, 2004 1:20 PM CDT
Dear Tom, Jenny, Mackenzie, Alexa, Connor and Tori,
Our thoughts and prayers are with each of you daily! We are so sad for your family and the heartaches you are dealing with...but we also know our God is an awesome God and HE still reigns, and HE still performs miracles...and that is our prayer for you...that you would feel His presence every day...from His messangers He sends your way. If there is ANYTHING you EVER need, please don't hesitate to call...love you...Bill, Dede, Megan, Alex, Brian and Kevin
Dede Hard <dedehard@msn.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Tuesday, June 8, 2004 0:08 AM CDT
Happy Birthday Tom! We are praying for a great birthday present in His healing powers. We love you!
Deb, Chuck, Mitch, Tony, Sam and Pete
Deb and Chuck <debra.day@anoka.k12.mn.us>
Andover, MN 55304 - Monday, June 7, 2004 10:27 PM CDT
Jenny and Tom, Know you are in our thoughts and prayers as you travel through this difficult time. May God's blessings bring you strength, comfort, and encouragement.
Ron, Lisa, and Lexie Kaenel <rkaenel@charter.net>
Willmar, MN - Monday, June 7, 2004 4:40 PM CDT
Tom, Jenny and kids,
Many of us cannot begin to understand the sadness, hurt and frustration you've been feeling these past seven months. But, please know that you are being thought of and prayed for by hundreds of people every single day. May God give you all an abundance of strength as you continue to endure this difficult trial.
To Tom: I've never seen you back down from a challenge. This one may be the toughest of your life, but I know you can beat it. Keep that Gusty spirit going! We are all behind you buddy!
Bernie, Janice and the kids <bpm57@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Monday, June 7, 2004 3:27 PM CDT
Tom, Jenny, Mackenzie, Alexa, Connor, and Tori
Tom..we are praying for you.
Jenny...what a pillar of strength you are. If, however, you "pillar" needs reinforcements to lean on, please know that we are here for you!
Mackenzie, Alexa, Connor, and Tori....know that there are lots and lots or kids and grown-ups that are here to talk to and be with and to listen any time you need it.
Know that all it takes is a shout, and we will be across the street. (We can even decipher mixed up messages :) )
May you gather strength from knowing the many prayers that are being uplifted for you!
Love, Jon, Laurie, Amy, Brad & Tami
Jon & Laurie Gelschus <gelschus@mchsi.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Monday, June 7, 2004 1:50 PM CDT
Happy Birthday Tom !
Wishing you a very speedy recovery and know that we are thinking about you and praying for you and your family every day.
Denise, Nicole & Ashley Haartad
Denise Haarstad <Denise.Haarstad@hti.htch.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Monday, June 7, 2004 1:11 PM CDT
Tom,Jenny and family,
As I read through the list of names here, the fact is that there is a list multitudes longer that just haven't signed in and are praying diligently for all of you.
I remember when I stopped and saw you after and during our own time of need and I could see the love in your heart and eyes,and empathy that you showed toward me,Jenny. God is listening...He has his plan and we get to wait and see what He will do ..(WE WANT A MIRACLE GOD!)
I pray that He lifts you high above all the hurt and hardship and grants you His healing touch.
One day, one minute,feels like pain that will never lift ..but God Sees the Big picture beyond today..and is ordering the universe to move at his breathed word on our behalf. God is Greater and I will be praying for you.
With love and prayers..Mary
Mary Schmalz <markers@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN - Monday, June 7, 2004 10:39 AM CDT
TK,JEN AND FAMILY: A GOOD 'O' LINEMAN ALWAYS DIGS DOWN DEEP AND GETS THE JOB DONE. I REMEMBER IT WAS ALMOST 20 YEARS AGO THAT I SET YOU UP WITH THIS OLDER WOMAN NAMED JENNIFER MARKVE, THAT YOU DIDNT THINK YOU HAD A CHANCE WITH!! DO I NEED TO SAY MORE IF YOU GOT THE JOB DONE THERE, AND HOW THAT TURNDED OUT. WE HAVE CONFIDENCE IN YOU THAT YOU WILL GET THIS THING WHIPPED ALSO. OUR THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU AND YOU FAMILY.
GOD BLESS: MARK KARLYN LOGAN AND LAUREN LANTZ
MARK LANTZ <markandkarlyn@earthlink.net >
CHANHASSEN, MN USA - Monday, June 7, 2004 9:47 AM CDT
JennyLou,
Our hearts are crying prayers of love for you, Tom, Mackenzie, Alexa, Connor, and Tori. All of the Robertson siblings met on June 4th and stated our love and support for your family as well as Louise.
For me personally, I cannot imagine the emotional pain you are struggling with during the quiet hours. The physical pain I endured through my illness seems pale to the gaunlet that Tom is running ever since that stupid infection causing his equalibrium to be affected. It's also hard to visualize Tom at 140 and nothing lbs?? That big kuncklehead is known for his barrel chest and hearty laugh. I can see him wrestling with the kids and chasing them in the pool. I pray the kids will always see him in this light.
Talking with Lousie and reading all of your journal entries, I am amazed at the continual pace of medical logistics you are enduring. The planning, the appointments, the tests, etc, etc, alone must wear you out? I am thankful to read and know of your community support your family is also blessed with.
Dear God, bless the Kern family. Hold Tom close in your hands. Keep Jenny & the kids always in your light. Amen.
I Love You, Unc.Drew
Andrew Robertson <ARIC74@aol.com>
Naperville, IL - Monday, June 7, 2004 9:39 AM CDT
Tom, Jenny, Mackenzie, Alexa, Tori & Connor: As you know our prayers are with you. Our family had a great time going to the movie with you last week and hope it was a fun break for you too. Let us know if you need another "night out" or if there is anything else we can do. Jon, Eileen, Kyle & Emma
Eileen Koeberl
Hector, MN Sibley - Monday, June 7, 2004 9:08 AM CDT
Tom, Jenny and family,
I'm not blessed with the gift of the right words but I did find a bible verse that helps me to try and understand what is happening. It's from Romans 8:35-37. "Can anything ever separate us from Christ's love? Does it mean he no longer loves us if we have trouble or calamity, or are persecuted, or are hungry or cold or in danger or theatened with death? NO, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us.
Keep fighting TK!
Karl Baldry <kjbaldry@hotmail.com>
- Monday, June 7, 2004 8:04 AM CDT
Tom and Jen,
God is bigger than cancer!!!!!! I love you all so much!!!!
Margy Johnson <margyj7@hotmail.com>
Mankato , MN Blue Earth - Monday, June 7, 2004 7:16 AM CDT
Tom and Jenny,
We think of you often and hope and pray for the Lord to move on your behalf. We pray that you will feel the hand of the Lord as you go through these hard times. God bless.
Steve, Carol and Sara Lundeen
Dassel, MN US - Sunday, June 6, 2004 8:52 PM CDT
Hang in there, TK!!!
Scott Weilage <scottw@weilage.com>
Mankato, MN USA - Sunday, June 6, 2004 12:16 AM CDT
Dear Jenny, Tom and family,
You have been in our prayers and we will continue to lift you all up daily. God is huge and why this is continuing is beyond all of us. I know that He does require us to serve one another. There are many of us who will do what you need and please don't take the blessing of helping you away from all who love you. You have been a strength for many who have needed in the past and now it is your turn to receive all the love and support you deserve. There are some great ideas from those who have been where you are now. God will supply all your needs and the help to do it. Love,
sue m.
- Sunday, June 6, 2004 7:28 AM CDT
Dear Tom, Jenny and kids.
You are continually in our thoughts and prayers. If there's anything you need, don't hesitate to call. We love you all and know that God will be with you every step of the way.
Carla, Greg, Meghan and Kassie <cplowman@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Sunday, June 6, 2004 1:36 AM CDT
I am praying for your family. God's hands are very strong and eager to carry your burdens.
Gayla
- Saturday, June 5, 2004 11:36 PM CDT
Hi Tom and Jenny and Family,
You continue to be in our thoughts and prayers. Tommy, you are strong and can beat this challenge. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help out.
All our love,
Gail
Gail Gilman Waldner <waldn001@umn.edu>
New Ulm, MN USA - Saturday, June 5, 2004 8:51 PM CDT
Kerns, You guys are in our prays daily. Stay strong. Know that God will carry you through these hards times.
Andrea, Nate and Faith Barington <sage@hutchtel.net>
Dassel, MN USA - Saturday, June 5, 2004 6:35 PM CDT
Dear Tom, Jenny and family - You are on my thoughts and in my prayers often. Again, if there is anything I can do to help out, don't hesitate to call. I will keep updated thru this website. Love, Jana Rothstein
Jana Rothstein <ajroth@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Saturday, June 5, 2004 5:21 PM CDT
Dear Kern family - we are keeping you in our thoughts and prayers. With love, Paul, Ann, Charlie and Tommy Gesme
Ann Gesme <gez@uslink.net>
Deephaven, MN USA - Saturday, June 5, 2004 3:23 PM CDT
Tommy: Beth and I want you to know that our thoughts and prayers are with you, Jennifer and the kids.
It is important that you gather your strength and get well soon; as you know, I have very few friends as childish and sophomoric as myself and I will have no one to throw food at during the next Gustie golf outing if you don't get better soon. So gather your strength, know your friends love you dearly and we are with you to help in anyway possible. We are thinking of you, cheering for you and missing you--The Harstad's
Steve and Beth Harstad <ggustie1@att.net>
Eden Prairie, mn USA - Saturday, June 5, 2004 1:41 PM CDT
Tom, Jennifer, and Family -
We wanted to let you know that you are being lifted up in prayer daily. May you find strength and comfort in the hands of our awesome God. Blessings to you all.
Psalm 46
Jennifer and Jessica Johnson, Deb and Mark Rolf <jsjohnson@nwhealth.edu>
Glencoe, MN 55336 - Saturday, June 5, 2004 10:06 AM CDT
Tom, Jenny, McKenzie, Alexa, Connor, and Torrey,
You are in our thoughts and prayers every minute of the day. We love you. If there is anything we can do at any time of the day, please let us know.
Love, Chuck, Deb, Mitch, Tony, Sam and Peter
Chuck, Deb, Mitch, Tony, Sam and Peter <chuck.day@medtronic.com>
Andover, mn usa - Saturday, June 5, 2004 9:58 AM CDT
Dear Jenny, Tom and Family
We are keeping you in our prayers. If for anything you need someone to watch the kids or need a meal either at the hospital or at home let me know. Jeff Goldsmith told me that is one of the things that really helped was when people would pack a meal to eat at the hospital for the family. Please do not hesitate to call, I can take the girls to the pool or whatever, ok. Most of all we lift you and your family up in prayer and we will follow on here for any updates.
Love - Wendy, Howard, Chloe and Kiera Reinhard
The Reinhard Family <whopper@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Saturday, June 5, 2004 8:50 AM CDT
Tom, Jenny and family You all are heavy on my heart. I understand a little about these days as I lived through my dad having cancer when I was in my early teens. I don't think I knew about all that my mother did or all the pain my dad endured. However, I know that through it all God was faithful. You all are constantly in my prayers. Our God is able. I am trusting Him for all of you. Hopefully, some of our Bible Study group will meet Tuesday to pray.
Carol Beaver <ccmccb@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Saturday, June 5, 2004 8:28 AM CDT
I've prayed for you. May you know God's great love and compassion at this time.
Love,
Bev Krueger
Bev Krueger
Hutchinson , MN US - Saturday, June 5, 2004 7:17 AM CDT
Tom, Jenny and Kids
Your family is in our thoughts and prayers often. Praying that Tom's temp comes down and that he is able to go to Mayo for his scheduled appointments. Jenny and kids if we can help out with anything please let us know, don't hesitate.
Dawn and Dave VandenBerg <vandenberg@mchsi.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Friday, June 4, 2004 10:25 PM CDT
Tom, Jenny and family, you're all in our prayers and we hope for a speedy (non serious diagnosis) recovery. May God be with you throughout this process.
God Bless.
Troy & Angela Lundquist (Lunker)
Troy <lundquist99@comcast.net>
St Paul, MN USA - Friday, June 4, 2004 4:48 PM CDT
Tom,Jenny, and family,
You are constantly in our thoughts and prayers. Please let us know if we can be of any assistance.
Tom and Theresa Zrust <Tom.Zrust@wellsfargo.com>
Blaine, MN - Friday, June 4, 2004 4:42 PM CDT
Tom, Jenny and family,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
The Blake Family (Steve, Sharon, and Michelle)
Steve Blake <Blake@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN - Friday, June 4, 2004 3:29 PM CDT
Dear Tom, Jenny, and family;
I'm so sorry to hear about the recent set back. My thoughts and prayers are with you. If there is any person that can win the battle, it would be the commander. Please let me know if I can help in any way.
Todd (Armin) Schull <tschull@kcc.com>
Lakeville, MN - Friday, June 4, 2004 3:27 PM CDT
Tom and family-
You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Brian and Sandi Sportelli
Sandi Sportelli <sandi.sportelli@hti.htch.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Friday, June 4, 2004 3:09 PM CDT
Dear Tom & family:
I realize that you don't know me, but I'm Eric Melhorn's sister and I just wanted to let you know I have been thinking of you often. I finished my cancer treatments this past January and would like you to know that although there are difficult times, things will get better. I'm sure you're getting the best care possible and the wide circle of support you have will carry you through this.
Nancy Melhorn Hanson
Burnsville, MN USA - Friday, June 4, 2004 1:33 PM CDT
Dear Kern family,
My prayers are with all of you.
Troy <Troy.Drahos@hti.htch.com>
Hutchinson, MN - Friday, June 4, 2004 1:11 PM CDT
Dear Kern Family;
I work with Bob Kern in California. I've been and I will continue to keep you all in my prayers. May our Lord Jesus give some comfort in the very trying time.
Mike Tafoya <mtafoya@rgcglass.com>
Anaheim, ca orange - Friday, June 4, 2004 12:42 AM CDT
Tom, Jenny and family,
We're so sorry to hear of your recent struggles. We will continue to pray for the restoration of Tom's health
and for God's peace for all of you. "Those who live in the
shelter of the Most High, will find rest in the shadow of the Almighty. This I declare of the Lord; He alone is my
refuge, my place of safety. He is my God and I am trusting
Him." Psalm 91:1-2 Love, The Swansons Deb, Scott, Abby and Olivia
Olivia
Debby and Scott Swanson <sswanson5@mn.rr.com>
Edina, MN USA - Friday, June 4, 2004 11:45 AM CDT
Hey Tom & Jen,
I just wanted to wish you my best through this tough ordeal. The softball team has you in our prayers with every swing at the plate and every evening we spend together on Thursdays after softball.
I plan on stopping over tomorrow to hang that stairwell railing for you.
See you Saturday.
Keep the faith ! Pete
Tim Petersson <Tim.Peterson@hti.htch.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Friday, June 4, 2004 11:40 AM CDT
Dear Kern Family,
I will keep you in my prayers.
Karen Raske <Karen.Raske@hti.htch.com>
Cosmos, m USA - Friday, June 4, 2004 9:58 AM CDT
Dear Tom, Jenny, and kids,
Tracy, Amanda, Alicia, Ashley and I are thinking of you all. You are such a wonderful family, and we know that you will support each other as you work to overcome this terrible illness, but if you need anything please let us know.
Jerry Polzin <jerry.a.polzin@hti.htch.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Friday, June 4, 2004 8:47 AM CDT
Dear Jenny, Tom, MacKenzie, Alexis, Conner and Torrey:
It was nice to chat with MacKenzie today. What a lovely young lady she has grown into-I know you are proud of her. Sorry to hear about you latest set back-but keep thinking positive thoughts and praying! (And Tom, this is not what Adkins meant by low carb.diet) Will try to make it up for one of Conner's baseball games this summer. Love you all!! Annie
Ann Wasilowski <adamhr97@aol.com>
Oak Brook, IL USA - Thursday, June 3, 2004 10:08 PM CDT
Tom & Jenny,
So sorry to hear about everything that's happening. Have been thinking about your family & wish you well in the days to come. We hope the kids are doing well and hanging in there through all of this!
Roger, Laurie, Ryan, & Trevor Wersal <laurie.wersal@hti.htch.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Thursday, June 3, 2004 8:34 PM CDT
Tom,
You and you're family are in our prayers and thoughts.
May God bless you, and keep you. With His love all things
are possible. Keep the faith and know that you all are loved.
Brad, Sue Burch and the kids!
Hutchinson, mn usa - Thursday, June 3, 2004 2:19 PM CDT
Kerny, Jenny & family
We are praying for you and have added you to our prayer chain at church. May God continue to comfort you and surround you with his love.
Dan & Shelley Croonquist & family
Dan Croonquist <croon@charter.net>
Pennock, MN USA - Thursday, June 3, 2004 11:32 AM CDT
Sending prayers and lots of good thoughts to you and your family. You're one of God's good people so keep up the fight.
Carolyn Bah <ckbah@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Thursday, June 3, 2004 11:14 AM CDT
Tom(Coach), Jenny, and kids:
I was so surprised to hear of the recent news and you are all in our prayers. We wish we could see you coaching the baseball team again...Sam loved having you for a coach last season, he learned so much from you and you made the game fun...Thanks! He is doing great this season. We all wish you the best!
Cheri,Tony,Sam & Megan Ruppert
Tony & Cheri Ruppert <cruppert@hti.htch.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Thursday, June 3, 2004 10:07 AM CDT
HI KERNS!!! KEEP PRAYING FOR ONLY THE BEST OF HEALTH!
JENNY,PLEASE CALL US AND LET US KNOW WHAT YOU NEED...WE ARE HERE FOR YOU,TOM AND THE KIDS.
TAKE CARE,XOXOXOXOXOXJANET,PETE,&4GIRLSXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX
PETE&JANET CARLSON <health2u@hutchtel.net>
HUTCHINSON, MN USA - Thursday, June 3, 2004 9:37 AM CDT
I was the Supervisor at HTI Plymouth and Tom was my Manager before my position was outsourced. Tom just want you to know that I'm thinking about you and your family and hope you get better real soon.
Chuck Lukkason <chuckl@llewellyn.com>
Andover, MN - Thursday, June 3, 2004 7:41 AM CDT
Tom, Jenny, & Family -
I just got this update from Jeanne and was unaware (since I'm no longer at HTI). I hope & pray that you all can keep your spirits up and that Tom gets better. I'll be thinking of you! God Bless.
Traci Fenske <tfenske@mmm.com>
Hutchinson, MN - Thursday, June 3, 2004 7:36 AM CDT
Tom & Jenny
We think of you and your family often and keep praying for you daily. Hang in there and if there is anything you need give us a call
Love the Wegners
Dawn Wegner <dawn.wegner@hti.htch.com>
Hutchinson, MN Mcleod - Thursday, June 3, 2004 7:34 AM CDT
Hang in there Tom, this is a battle we all know you can win. Were all thinking about you.
Nate Baldry <natebaldry@hotmail.com>
Hutchinson, MN - Wednesday, June 2, 2004 4:40 PM CDT
TK & Jenny,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I have the privilege of knowing Tommy for 26 years, and if there was any person that could win this battle, it would be him. Please let me know if I can be of any help.
Eric, Jessi & Kaylee Melhorn
Eric Melhorn <emelhorn@rosevillelutheran.org>
- Wednesday, June 2, 2004 2:53 PM CDT
Tom and Jenny and Family,
Our thoughts and prayers continue to be with you. We hope you find comfort and strength knowing that so many people are praying for you. We look forward to Tom's health being restored! Take care.
Scott and Cara Croonquist and Family <scroonqu@ties.k12.mn.us>
New Hope, MN USA - Wednesday, June 2, 2004 9:16 AM CDT
TK & Jenny, you are in our thoughts and prayers each day. Keep the faith and you will win the battle.
Karp <mkarpin2@wm.com>
Mesa, AZ - Tuesday, June 1, 2004 6:45 PM CDT
Tom and family - We are so very sorry that you are going thru what you are. Stay focused on success and positive thinking. You are in our prayers.
Morgen Pederson & family
Storden, MN - Tuesday, June 1, 2004 5:53 PM CDT
Hi Tom & Jenny,
It's great to have the update. I realize it can be draining to repeat to each person the journey you have traveled so far. The journey has been difficult and we know it is not over. Thankfully, you don't walk it alone. We are praying for strength and peace that can only come from Jesus Christ. Continue to read the promise found in Matthew 11:28-30.
Kurt & family
Kurt Ploeger & family <kploeger@iw.net>
Pipestone, MN USA - Tuesday, June 1, 2004 1:44 PM CDT
Tom, Jenny & Family,
May you all be held closely in the arms of the Great Physician. "And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 4:7). Praying for you and sending a hug.
Boni Schanil <bonis@faithlc.com>
Hector, MN USA - Tuesday, June 1, 2004 9:54 AM CDT
Tom, Jenny, and family,
Prayers are pouring out to God for your comfort, encouragement and peace! There are so many people who care about and love you!
Bless you all,
Marsha
Marsha Hantge <Marshah@faithlc.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Tuesday, June 1, 2004 8:38 AM CDT
Tom and Jenny and family,
We are praying for you. Keep your positive attitudes and you'll do great! Keep looking for miracles! Please remember we're here to help with anything you need!
Pat and Joy May <joym@mchsi.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Monday, May 31, 2004 10:42 AM CDT
Tom and Jenny. We think and pray for you often. We will submit your family into our Bible Study prayer requests. We meet weekly on Tuesday nights. If there is anything in particular that you would like to be addressed for prayer at any time please let us know!!! We will continue to check your website to keep updated! Love to your family from ours, John, Kathy, Kelsey, Paul and Bailey Sanken
John and Kathy Sanken and children
Litchfield , mn - Monday, May 31, 2004 9:59 AM CDT
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