Jill and Bill,
I've been thinking of you and all that you have gone through and the grief that you have. It's such an emptiness for you and your loved ones. Donating your milk is a selfless act of love and I know those families appreciate what you are doing for them, something they can't do themselves. Your babies knew nothing but love in their short lives here on earth. I hope that you can focus on that to help you through your days. Sending our love and hoping that you find comfort in the hope that you will be reunited in heaven one day with those precious babies of yours.
I have said it before and I will say it again. It isn’t easy but I am so very proud of you for everything you are doing. And even more proud for being so open, honest, and sharing your pain and hurt with us. You have no idea how what you are doing is not only helping yourself but also helping someone you might not even know. Unfortunately, what you & Bill experienced does have more commonly than most people know. Sadly, in the past, most have not been as open to share their hurt and pain so they think they are alone. Like those of us that experience fertility issues or have miscarriages.
And it is ok to be sad. You are going to have those days. You just experienced something extremely painful and traumatic. But I promise you the days will get fewer and fewer. But, there will be things that trigger you. For me today, it was a movie. I love you and I am here you!
I'm really proud of you for pumping and donating. In a real way, Will and Sofia's legacy of love lives on in another baby's chance for a future. Its not a comfort to you though, and losing them especially after such a struggle to conceive just isn't fair.
On Nov 30 I miscarried our baby, at 10 weeks. It was scary, painful, and heartbreaking. It was still an embryo, not a baby quite yet, but it was close. I had contractions for 4-5 hours. Knew what was going on and had known for about a week when I started to bleed slowly, but was in denial. We were completely powerless to do anything to stop it. Its such a crushing, heartbreaking, helplessness. And suddenly, I feel as though I've joined an exclusive club that comes with real street cred for grief. I never dreamed I'd have this in common with others, and my heart hurts all the more for your loss because it was so much worse for you. I couldn't even talk about it for a while, and I still haven't said anything in public, and I probably won't. It's a sad club.
I'm so grateful for the love of my husband. He came home just when it got really painful, and he was here with me when it happened. He helped me bury it. I wasn't alone. And neither are you.
All I've got is a heart full of sympathy, and virtual hugs. Hang in there Jill and Bill.
I've been thinking of you and all that you have gone through and the grief that you have. It's such an emptiness for you and your loved ones. Donating your milk is a selfless act of love and I know those families appreciate what you are doing for them, something they can't do themselves. Your babies knew nothing but love in their short lives here on earth. I hope that you can focus on that to help you through your days. Sending our love and hoping that you find comfort in the hope that you will be reunited in heaven one day with those precious babies of yours.