Sharon & Terry’s Story

Site created on October 19, 2021

Welcome to the Troll and the Pillar's CaringBridge site. We're using this to keep everyone updated as Terry and Sharon recover from their car accident on Sunday, October 17th.

As of Saturday, November 6th, Sharon is totally kicking butt with in-patient rehab at Carle (room 3315). She was discharged into rehab Thursday evening, 10/28 and gets to come home Monday, November 8th! Quite a bit shorter time in rehab than we were imagining/fearing. It has been exhausting - early on, she couldn't even swing her own legs back up on the bed when her sessions were done. She has progressed to doing squats and lunges with her PT now, as of a few days ago! Her ribs are starting to feel better, too; she can take deep breaths easily now. Although her recovery is quite difficult and intense and exhausting, it continues to be so gratifying and relieving and hopeful to see how she is regaining strength and stamina.

Terry came home from the hospital Tuesday, Oct. 19th and continues to recover well with just a back brace for L2 fracture. Although he'd been  physically and mentally exhausted from the ordeal and worry about Sharon for quite some time, he seems to be just about back to normal. He's enjoying time with the girls - when they're not working or at the hospital - and continuing to tolerate his daughters' "meddling,"  😂 He's not too sore anymore other than his sternum continues to be very painful with coughing or sneezing. His mobility is largely back to normal, other than he still isn't supposed to bend or lift to much, and he's gone on walks for the last four days in a row.

Daughters (trollettes) Mary and Sarah have been here since Oct. 17th/18th and Mary will stay in Champaign indefinitely; Mary can work remotely and be here most of the time for as many months as needed, with possibly some brief return trips to Colorado when things are much more stable and other family can be with Terry and Sharon for a few days. Sarah may go back to California on Saturday, Nov. 13.

How they got here
Terry and Sharon were driving home from church, going west on Springfield ~30 mph, and had a head-on collision with a speeding eastbound SUV. The SUV had already hit an eastbound car it was trying to improperly pass in the turn lane and it continued over into the westbound lane, slamming into the front of Sharon and Terry's Honda Fit. Ambulances brought them immediately to Carle Hospital in Urbana. No one else was hurt. The other driver was ticketed.

Sharon's injuries
 - Trauma to abdomen, including perforated bowel, intestinal tears, and blood clot, which were successfully repaired via emergency abdominal surgery on Sunday Oct. 17th
 - 4 fractured vertebrae (T12-L3; significant damage to L1); successful surgery to fuse her spine from T11 through L3 was done Wed, Oct. 20th
 - 4 fractured ribs, left side
 - Fractured left elbow; splint will be enough for it to heal on its own
 - Bruising and cuts on left arm and both legs

Terry's injuries
 - Fractured lumbar vertebra (L2); treated with back brace, no surgery necessary
 - Fractured sternum; will heal on its own
 - Superficial injuries to his face: bruised eye and two 2-inch, perfectly parallel gashes on forehead, all well healed now

Mary arrived from Colorado after midnight Sunday Oct. 17 and Sarah from California Monday afternoon Oct. 18th. (Thank you, Melanie, for the ride from STL and Jeannie for the ride from Willard!)

Sharon and Terry's dear friend and incredible patient advocate, Lisa, joined them at the hospital a few hours after they arrived and coordinated all communication with Mary, Sarah and the trauma team until Mary arrived.

Dietary notes: Terry and Sarah have celiac disease and are gluten-free / wheat-free.
No other food restrictions.
(THANK YOU to all who are already bringing or otherwise providing delicious food! It is an **unbelievable** help to have good food on hand and not have to think about groceries and cooking right now.)

Your prayers, thoughts, and love mean so much to them and to us. 
Love,
Mary & Sarah

P.S. The sunflowers are a recent photo we found on Mom's phone.

Newest Update

Journal entry by Mary Harkness

Greetings to all dear family and friends who are following and supporting and caring for us! Everything is going wonderfully, under the circumstances, Sarah and I have just been a little overwhelmed with keeping all the balls in the air and we're not yet in the habit of anticipating needs far enough ahead to ask for a little help, lol! Sorry to have such a gap in the journal updates.

Sharon has been recovering wonderfully in rehab and totally kicking ass on her physical and occupational therapy and gets to come home this Monday!!!!! She has progressed to even doing some squats and lunges in her PT over the last few days! Mary has gotten to spend a fair bit of time in the hospital with her, observing PT and OT, getting trained for helping out with bathing etc. at home, and so on. (We will also be hiring some regular help, don't worry!) It’s been nice to be able to just be there for her, and to be able to see her incredible progress. She has graduated to be allowed to move independently in her room, no bed alarms! (Mary has figured out how to turn off all the stinkin’ alarms anyway. 🤣) Sharon got to go outside and walk around the coffee shop at the hospital on Friday morning – always AMAZING to finally get outside when you’ve been trapped in the hospital prison for a while. She still needs to use the wheelchair quite a bit of the time, but is getting stronger every day. We’ve also been bringing her food from home (that others have made!), keeping her flowers fresh and bright, and bringing a stack of get well cards every day. It’s so lovely to see all the well wishes – including “may you never have frogs fall out of your underpants.” 🤣

Terry is also doing wonderfully – he is in a good mood and generally relaxed these days. For the last four days in a row, he has gone on progressively longer walks around the neighborhood, of his own accord, even with the morning chill we’ve been having. He is back to his normal daily patterns, for the most part, other than not being able to go out on little jaunts to the bookstore or library yet. Family friend and mechanic has threatened to take him to the World of Powersports over in Decatur to look at off-road vehicles and other such toys. 🤣 Sarah has got us binge watching Ted Lasso and keeping Dad up till 10 o’clock at night!!! He is loving it.

Sarah’s work has been insane, and in spite of that she is totally kicking ass on all the insurance (medical and auto) paperwork and phone calls, as well as countless other details (driver’s license renewals, vehicle tab renewals, various bills, etc. etc. etc.) She’s also bringing us into the modern world, learning to take advantage of things like Uber and Instacart. 🤣

In spite of the unfortunate circumstances, it has truly been a gift to have the four of us together, taking care of each other and appreciating each other and laughing so much together, AND be so surrounded and supported by this network of Sharon and Terry’s friends that Sarah and I are finally getting to know better. We are so heart-grateful and appreciative for our extended families AND for all of Sharon and Terry’s friends near and far. ❤️❤️❤️

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