Tricia’s Story

Site created on November 20, 2019

Mama suffered an ischemic stroke the weekend of November 16th. While we often think of stroke as a singular event with immediate warning signs (FAST), for many including Tricia, doctors believe the stroke had a slow onset over the last several weeks culminating in the severe event beginning Friday Nov 16th.

Her daughter Kym received a call from Paramedics informing her they were rushing her to the hospital to begin immediate and critical care.  For the next week, she was hospitalized at Providence in Everett, WA where she diligently worked with occupational, physical and speech therapists.

Each of her therapists remarked at her will and dedication  to push through the exercises which is a testament to her strength and spunk, both of which are needed right now.  This dedication reminded Tricia of something one of her daughters used to say to her own mom Ola during Ola's time in Alaska..."Come on gramma, you can do it, put a little power to it!"  Now we've  just changed it from gramma to mama.

Of course each day is different and presents itself with challenges as recovery from a stroke is intense.  Some of the challenges for Tricia include the paralysis of her right side which was her dominate side as well as her speech.   The doctors described her stroke as not significant in size but very significant in placement as it is deep in her brain where motor control exists.  That said, she is diligently working to rebuild strength in her left hand which allows her to brush her hair, feed herself, hold books, talk on the phone and more.  The same applies to her speech as she works to reconnect words and the associated objects.  The autonomy this provides will be the key to improvement with the end goal being a recovery allowing an independent life or as close to as possible.  

Now that Tricia has been discharged from the hospital, she will continue to work on her various therapies at Mother Joseph Center in Olympia. 

For those of you that are concerned about whether Tricia is still "in there", please know that she is still rolling her eyes, loves her Diet Coke, wonders how the Seahawks are doing and sings her heart out at every chance.  This is a testament to who she is as a mom, wife, sister, gramma and friend.  She loves fiercely and we will love her back every step of the way.  This is now a ultra-marathon, not a sprint and we all will need to remember that. 

It’s also important to share an update about Clint, her husband. We are thankful for Clint’s daughter Juli who has become Clint’s angel. Taking him into her home he’s now resting, re- establishing a routine, and chatting with Tricia each day. Though they’re miles apart, a weekly visit and a daily FaceTime makes all the world of difference.

To everyone who has called, sent flowers, prayed, clapped your hands, beat a drum, lit incense or sent a positive thought, please know she feels you, hears you and knows that we are all cheering her own.  We will read and share with her messages left through the “Well Wishes” section of Caring Bridge. Please do not hesitate to post on here.

We, her children, will continue to update this site with weekly if not daily journal entries so that everyone has the latest and greatest. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts.

Love,
The Fyfe Kids

Newest Update

Journal entry by Kym Van Duren

Hello All,

I write this post, perhaps one of the last for this site.

It's been just over a month since we celebrated our wonderful mom during her magnificent 75th birthday and 1st birthday in Heaven.  On a day that was supposed to bring clouds and a lot of rain, we instead were greeted with warmth, sunshine and even a bald eagle soaring above us.  

Family and friends gathered from near and far to lay her to rest with Jack, her Hubbin'.  Together we sang her favorite songs with members of the Anchorage Concert Chorus, shared stories of love, perseverance and kindness.  Our day ended at The Musk Ox Farm, a place we felt recognized her love and passion for the beautiful state of Alaska, her true home.  Everything about the day was perfect and I believe we did our mom justice.  
 
This post also culminates nearly seven months of our lives continuing to move forward without her.  Sometimes it feels like yesterday and other days she feels nearly out of reach.  Birthdays have been celebrated, milestones reached, joy found in the everyday moments.  As the Irish have said "Those we love don't go away, they walk beside us every day, unseen, unheard, but always near, still loved, still missed and very dear".

With that, I wanted to share that I finally took the time to gather the wonderful photos, program from both her service in February and celebration of life in July as well as the video we watched that captures her vibrancy and all that she lived for; her family and friends.  If you're interested in downloading anything, please follow the link below to my google drive.

KYM'S GOOGLE DRIVE

There will never be enough words to thank everyone who has been part of this journey.  Thank you to those that were with us in the immediate aftermath of her stroke, those that flew at a moments notice, visited, who gathered in person and from afar for her mass and celebration of life, those that sent cards, flowers, texts and calls.  

Mom really wanted each of us to be happy, so let's do her proud.  A quote that sums up how I hope to live and carry her memory, "Be the things you loved most about the people who are gone". 

Love,
Kym (#3)
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