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March
31
2020

March 31, 2020

So many of you have asked about the funeral etc.  Unfortunately the church only allows immediate family b/c of the virus.  So the 5 of us will be attending and mom feels that dad would have liked it to be a small service anyway.  Because it's Lent the church doesn't even allow flowers.  In addition, we are super aware of mom's age and she's not been sleeping great so we want to limit our interactions with people outside of our little group until this virus has passed.  I hope you all understand. Dad will be cremated after the funeral and mom will keep his ashes here until she decides to take them to the cemetery in Orlando.  These are strange times for sure.  But please know that our family has felt the love, prayers, and food (from our kind neighbors) coming from all over and we can't thank you all enough!!  Virtual hugs from all of us!!  Stay safe and God Bless you all!!

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March
29
2020

March 29, 2020

We wanted to let all our friends and family that Dad passed at 5:01pm peacefully with Mom, Brian, Cooper and me.  He with with God and his parents and sisters.  We are incedibly sad but also happy that he is free of pain and in heaven. 

March
29
2020

March 29, 2020

Mom is watching mass next to dad’s bedside right now.  Only real change is dad’s breathing is more shallow then yesterday. The nurse is coming again today sometime soon.  Dad doesn’t seem to be in pain which is good.  I’ll keep you posted as we continue through this gut wrenching process.  Thank you all for your prayers and support! 

March
28
2020

March 28, 2020

Our days are running together here at mom and dad’s home; just realized it is Saturday.  Dad is taking breaths that seem somewhat labored but the nurse said this was normal...doesn’t make it any easier to hear it though.  We are giving him morphine and lorazapam every 4 hours.  The nurse on Friday upped the Lorazapam as he was grimacing when it was time for the next dose.  This morning at the 8am medicine time I noticed his left hand is swollen.  Again, this is a sign we are getting to the end.  This is hard to type and I know it will be sad to read, but I want to keep family and loved ones up to date.   Mom is holding up but I can see that it’s taking a toll. Love to all! 

March
26
2020

March 25, 2020

Quick update; last night we all were in the bedroom with Dad.  He seemed aware at times and did ask for us by name a few times.  He has asked "what is going on and what am I supposed to do" quite often.  Mom slept right next to him all night and I could hear her talking to him. This morning we gave him the same dosage of morphine and lorazepam around 7:45am.  We are all back in the bedroom along with Cooper!  Cooper has put his chin down on dad's hand a few times.  He knows something is wrong.  Animals are so awesome! We found out that the Hospice we are using used to provide 24/7 care at this stage but stopped.  So we are weighing our options b/c if this does go on for a week we will all need time to sleep, especially mom.  He isn't in pain that we can see which is good.  We are talking about times from the past in a low voices.  The nurse will be here soon to check him.  Love you all!  Thank you for your love and support.

March
25
2020

March 25, 2020

Hi all, the nurse just told us it's a matter of hours or maybe a day or two.  Morphine will be started and other meds are discontinued.  Please pray for him to be pain free as he passes on to heaven! Thank you all very much for the love, the prayers and the support.  

March
23
2020

March 23, 2020

The Hospice nurse came today and we shared our concerns about dad sleeping a lot, not wanting to eat and needing both Brian and I to help him get to and from the bed/chair/commode.  After she examined him she let us know that he is entering the Transition phase, which is the last phase.  We should expect him to sleep most of the time, eat very little, and once bed bound we will have to adjust how he uses the bathroom.  The nurse was very good about talking to him directly and giving him the choices he will have once he can't get out of the bed.  He didn't want a catheter yet, but I have a feeling that's where we are headed.  We asked how long we have with him and she said probably a couple of weeks.  We know he doesn't want to live like he's living (which is just existing).  We will do our best to let him know that when he is ready to go to heaven he should go. It goes without saying that this is a very very sad time for all of us.  Thank you so much for the love and prayers!  

March
21
2020

March 21, 2020

Hi all, not much to report here. Dad is sleeping a lot during the day and sleeping at night for the most part.  He’s still interested in westerns and the news.   He still likes the chocolate malts that I make.  Our neighbors continue to feed us which is so very helpful to all of us! Especially now with this virus and we are all trying to limit our trips to the grocery store.  Brian continues to be “the strong man” as one CNA called him. He is so very gentle and patient with dad!  Thank you all for your cards, emails, and prayers.  Love to all and be safe out there!