Dear Doug, Kathryn and Isabel,
There is no doubt in my mind that Soren is with all of you on his birthday today. May you find peace in the cherished memories of your wonderful son.
My thoughts will always be with you. My prayers will never leave you.
Saying a few extra words today to the community of hummingbirds that come swooping right up me daily as I sit on my deck. It's as if we know each other. Thinking with a turned up smile of Soren and his gentle, keenly observant and spirited light.
And sending my love. xo
Doug: I have been waiting for the "appropriate, meaningful" words to share with you during this period of inexpressible grief. Of course, as you know from counseling grieving families, sometimes there simply are no appropriate words. But here is something I know. You left a wonderful, lasting impact on me from the few years we worked together in the early 80's. I remember your beautiful laugh, your commitment to doing good work, your refreshing relationships with colleagues, and the joy I experienced though all my interactions with you. So, how does all of this inform me? If my life was influenced in such positive ways through two or so years of working with you nearly 40 years ago, how much more was the quality of Soren's life influenced by you as his dad. While I didn't witness it, there is no doubt in my mind that Soren was blessed by having a great father. And you were clearly blessed by having him as your son. I will continue to pray that God grant you and your family a level of peace that passes understanding as you continue to grieve. Right now, at this moment, I wish I could hug you.
Happy Earth Birthday, Soren, I rejoice in your life while you were with us on this planet. I enjoyed you! And I still feel a bit of you around here sometimes. Your horizons are so expanded now, in your new form. We'll follow soon and you can show us around! Send your earth family a few kisses, they do so miss your presence.
My heart is wide open for you, still raw and pained at your loss. I will carry with me for his birthday today that photo of chubby-toddler-Soren with his party hat askew planting a big fat cake-kiss on mom...summer baby, man of the hour, knowing he was so loved.