I am so sorry Doug, my deepest condolences for you, I haven't met you in the real world but feel I walked the journey with you along the way virtually within the brainie community and I'm heartbroken for you both and all your loved ones.

Doug I’m so very sorry for your losing Ryan. I know your heart is broken. Proper processing is on your time schedule. It can take years. I recall how excited Ryan was when he told me of your upcoming nuptials! I expressed my joy for him as well. Unfortunately that was the last we actually communicated verbally. I understood his need to eventually distance himself from me. But It was his truth and I respected that and never pushed it. I felt I grieved his loss when I knew the issue wasn’t going to be resolved. It was as hard for me at that time but certainly not equivalent to what I’m certain you are going through now. It was still saddening yet somewhat relieving when he actually passed. I’m so glad that his Father called to let me know.

Lights are on tonight. I didn’t know Ryan well, but I do know he was a light in the lives of many people ❤️

Doug I am so sorry for your loss. Ryan was a ring bearer in my wedding in 1979. Just know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Love, Patti Larsen

Ryan, we have been so proud of the man you have become! One in a million, so caring, considerate, compassionate, loving. We were with you in the hospital when you were born. spent summers with you in SD when we could. You may have helped pick eggs on the Toupal farm. I came to visit you in Boston in October 2006, what a fun time, you had fresh flowers on the dresser in your bedroom that you turned over to me for the week. We were on every mode of transportation including the "duck". we walked and walked seeing as much of Boston in that length of time. we loved going to cemeteries where family members, ancestors were in SD. You arranged for much of the family to connect at a ski resort near Deadwood SD for my Birthday, again, LOTS of fun... I will miss your texts, calls and face timing. Such a special Grandson, man, friend. i will LOVE YOU FOREVER and miss you sweet Ryan.

Doug, you don’t know me but I was one of Ryan’s supporters while he was at MassMutual. We had some good times in those days, and I will never forget his sweet smile. I know you are hurting right now, but know that friends and family are here for your support and comfort. Please know you are in my prayers now,; as I prayed for Ryan every night while he fought “ the battle”. May he Rest in Peace now.

Oh Ry-Ry, I am sorry I didn’t get to say goodbye. Our paths separated 20 years ago but you were such an integral part of my life in college. We had so much fun working out (remember going to the gym and doing “reps” and I didn’t know what a “rep” was?), watching Thursday night TV, spending money we didn’t have and eating red vines (the calories were not THAT many - and no fat so it’s diet). I still remember your need to have the house decorated just so, your love of holidays and your crazy dance moves to Return of the Mac. I am happy you were so loved at the end. I’m sorry, Doug, I never met you but you and Ry seemed to live a charmed life! Until we meet again…

I am so sorry for you loss, Doug! You both have a place in my heart forever. My deepest condolences. Thank you for all the love and support you gave to Ryan throughout all the chapters of your life together.

I am sorry for your loss. There are no words to truly express how sorry I am. Thinking of you and Ryan and hoping you find your way through.

My heart goes out to you Doug ❤️ So very sorry for your loss 🙏