Mary’s Story

Site created on January 10, 2019

The Psalmist wrote, "I believed therefore I am greatly afflicted." Why would King David write that he is afflicted because he believed? He didn't have to sugarcoat reality. Because he had such strong faith, he felt free to declare the truth of his situation. He was able to acknowledge his affliction. I will take his example and share the brokenness of my beloved husband's situation. 
This week Randy was diagnosed with Adenocarcinoma Cancer (a non-smoker lung cancer). At this time he is undergoing further tests. He has had an MRI of his brain to see if the cancer is in his brain. He will have a PET scan on Tuesday along with a biopsy of his lymph glands. There is a team of four doctors (and their amazing, caring staff) who will present him with what stage cancer he has and the course of treatment they will be recommending. Minimally they will be removing 1/2 of the left lung. If it is in more areas than his lung they will not be able to do surgery and the stage will be 3 or 4.
It is all a bit overwhelming at this moment in all the details and appointments. Yes, I feel like I am drowning in decisions, issues that must be taken care of, and what the future may hold. But, I have been held this week more times than I would have room in a post to list.
I am watching the amazing Man of God that I love so very much in the fight for his life. But, I am also reflecting on the additional writing of the Psalmist when he wrote, "Be at rest once more, O my soul, for the Lord has been good to you."I ask for prayer. Prayer for healing. Prayer for direction by his physicians. Prayer for our finances in how we will handle him being out of work potentially for a few months. Prayer that God would in His will spare Randy's life and give he and I more time to walk this life together. Thank you for reading this honest, un-sugarcoated reality and welcome to our CaringBridge website. We are using it to keep family and friends updated in one place. We appreciate your support and words of hope and encouragement. Thank you for visiting.

Newest Update

Journal entry by Mary Stanko

Please forgive my delay in updating on Randy. Fatigue has settled upon me and communicating is not my strength at times. Randy is home! No more chest tubes - though he continues to loose a great deal of drainage; and he is continuing to deal with pain. But he has been able to rest, take a real shower and ventured out just a little yesterday. The excursion was exhausting but refreshing to his spirit.

Now we wait once more. Wait upon the Lord to renew Randy’s strength. Wait upon the Lord for direction as Randy meets with the oncologist at the end of the month. Wait upon the Lord for what Randy’s next steps will be when it comes to his ministry and work with families. We just wait.....

Not a bad choice to make - this waiting. I have been reminded that it is in the waiting upon the Lord that I have found peace in the middle of this storm. Sometimes in the waiting it has just meant a nap but other times it has meant learning to lean in and trust Him for how this was going to potentially look and watching His hand move in our lives - performing miracle after miracle. Maybe the greatest miracle is just learning to wait.

I share this only to convey the real truth about Randy’s road to recovery from this thing called cancer; and to convey some of the heart truths that God has been showing me. Thank you again for your support and prayers for us during this time.
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