Mary’s Story

Site created on August 18, 2021

It was an ordinary Tuesday morning until a moment of poor coordination or inattention changed my life. In just seconds a new twist to life. Unexpected and unwelcome. 

It happened descending the stairs. It happened while changing directions on the landing partway down the stairway. While coming around the corner to descend the last three stairs, I tripped and couldn’t prevent a flying fall onto the flagstone floor. The contact broke 5 pelvic bones and fractured the sacrum. 1 disc shows a compression fracture, and 2 discs appear to have slipped. 

The predicted recovery period for fractured pelvis usually follows a course including a difficult first 3 months. During the 3–6-month period there are gains in mobility along with less pain walking with walker and cane. Finally, the 6 month to one year period can include decreasing and sometimes even vanishing pain, and it usually includes changing from walking with a walker, to a cane and sometimes discarding the cane. The pain also decreases and may even vanish. 

The earliest hours and days of the injury now seem like a blur. I recall much pain and the sedating numbing effects of pain medication including narcotics. The body mind seemed to be a blob of unruly pain of all varieties and intensities. Bracing against the pain was instinctual but not helpful. All that tension just like the second arrows the Buddha described. Knowing that it doesn’t help to brace against the pain, did not stop the body instinct from reacting with avoidance. “Avoid the PAIN” has been a primary instinct. Fearing the pain, automatic. Remembering to relax and investigate the sensation is work and cultivated. And, worthwhile. 

I welcome the voice of others on this Caring Bridge site. I have discovered and rediscovered over these 3 weeks of body trauma, that the voice of others helps. Kind and wise words penetrate the habits of pushing against, as well as all the urges to get away, to escape the pain. The voice of the other can immediately give warmth and ease to my heart mind. The center of my chest and belly relaxand warm. The whole body then relaxes with these gifts of caring and kind words. The touch of the other is not distant. It is immediate and intimate regardless of geographic distance. 

So, I invite your words, and the wise and kind words you might find caring or inspirational as you meet the welcome and unwelcome aspects of life. I will gladly accept your kindness and the energy of giving. I’m learning to receive more deeply in this healing phase of life. Please touch in from time to time. It’s a long road to recovery.  

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Journal entry by Mary S Burns

The body always wants to heal

At least that’s what I recall Ajahn Sucitto saying on retreat in March 2020.

This phrase, “the body always wants to heal.”  has been bubbling up and repeating like a mantra in these recent weeks.

Right now,  I am experiencing healing.  The healing is evident.  This statement seems so very true and inspiring. I can feel the many many ways the body seems inclined to move back into greater harmony.  Changes are evident day by day.  My heartmind is lighter, brighter.  

The diminishment of pain is noticeable.  Mobility is improving.  Without the sludge of narcotics for pain, there is a brightness of mind more often.  It consistently gives me confidence to notice that physical vedana and mental vedana can be different. The body can be full of discomfort and the mental stream can be quite pleasant.  Usually, the investigation of unpleasant feelings/sensation gives rise to a delighted interest. The nature of the sensations and then the various forms of reactivity to the discomfort can invite investigation and energy to grow together in the flow of continuity of mindfulness.  

This is one of those times when meditation practice and real life experience are practically entwined and mutually beneficial.  The greater the mindfulness the less the physical pain.  From the other side, the less the mindfulness, the greater the reactive distress around the physical pain. 

It is quite amazing to feel the protection of continuity of mindfulness, especially continuity of mindfulness during movement.  And, whenever mindfulness and investigation come together, energy is likely to emerge.  This creates conditions for a protective kind of pleasure to emerge.  The pleasure seems to emerge with the gladness and awe at the synergistic power of the factors of awakening.  

It’s a much more interesting journey this week.  I am gladdened

 

And, finally, for today, it is consistenly joyful and helpful to read the comments you offer here- thank you so much

 

Mary

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