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May
5
2021

May 4, 2021

Some more accomplishments. Changes:

Durable Power of Attorney, which, thanks to our lawyer, includes my Medical Directive; Checking and Savings accounts; Financial accounts; Insurance claims started.

Now, if those pesky 2020 taxes would just solve themselves ...

Off to Kansas City in the morning. Supposed to be today, leave around 4:30 except I slept but 3 hours last night and decided I was too much of a risk to be driving at highway speeds. I won't get to see some good friends this trip, which is a bummer though.

Lunch with Murray friends, dinner/overnight with my oldest brother Marty in Topeka, then Denver and my youngest son Josh on Friday. While there I will start planning the Denver celebration which will be in August I think, depending on the venue.

Happy Star Wars day to you!

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May
3
2021

May 2, 2021

There is something that is strangely upsetting and soothing when the funeral home calls and tells you, "Mary Jo's death certificates are in." That happened last week. Final. Yes, and yet a small part of me still holds on "It's all a dream. Wake Up!"

Today is 2 weeks. My mind was filled of all the things I wanted to do for Jo and places to visit: a hot air balloon ride, planned for this spring; going to Eureka Springs, Arkansas to stay in a B&B; going to Door County, WI finally this fall; maybe returning to Rochester, MN to visit Mayo as art lovers and not as a patient; life celebrations at Spiva and in Denver when Jo could see all of her friends one last time ... and on and on. I mostly was very disappointed in myself.

And, yesterday, I realized that I've become one of the 2 ugliest words in the English language; I am a widower.

OK, enough of that.

Do something special for your Mom this coming week, even if she's left you. And make plans to celebrate Red Nose Day – May 27th this year – it's a great cause, helping children living in poverty. Walgreen's is where participate.

Good Night.

D

May
2
2021

April 30, 2021

Good Evening,

Today really should be April Fool's Day: April 31st!

Yes, I know, it's May 1st. Until I moved to Joplin, I thought the first of May was just the day the Soviets, who couldn't grow food for their people, showed off their latest means of killing people, in an annual, big parade.

When we moved to Joplin, 21 years ago, as April progressed, Jo got more excited. The day before, she found or bought 2  baskets and 'fixed them up'. She told me that we had to get up early the next morning and she would explain why.

Early the 1st of May, we drove first to her mother's house, she sneaked up to the front porch, placed a basket there, rang the doorbell and ran back to the car. "Go!" That was her explanation, a demonstration We then did the same for sister-in-law Suzanne.

She/we did that several more years. I know now it's a big deal, dying out. I enjoyed it.

No weapons, just baskets of fun.

And now, just another reason to miss her.

Good Night.

April
25
2021

April 24, 2021

Bumpy week. So much to do, especially keeping my wheels from spinning.

I think Jo's obituary was representative. Thanks so much to good friends Lori Marble and Marta Churchwell. And, Sharon at the Globe's Special Services desk  was very helpful – she had not done a 5 photo obituary before. (She's lucky I was able to limit it to 5!)

Also, Marta's column in Sunday's Joplin Globe ETC section was excellent, made me cry – which is a good!

An odd thing, at least to me, was catching myself using the pronoun "We" – that also 'wells me up,' which I guess is appropriate.

Take care of each other. Do your paperwork! Get outside and breathe, a lot.

Don

April
22
2021

April 22, 2021

Hello,

Great night last night: 2 hours of sleep, only awake 2 hours, and then, 3.5 hours. Total the most I've had in 93 days.

Some very nice sympathy cards arrived today. I'm surprised that they're damp ... now. Thank you.

Mary Jo's obituary is at the newspaper, to be published this Saturday. My thanks to Marta Churchwell, Lori Marble, Katherine Norris and Matthew Ayers for your assistance. I think it's pretty nifty piece for an even niftier indivdual!

Happy Sirpa's Birthday and Earth Day!

D

April
21
2021

April 21, 2021

I have not slept well since Jo's stroke, 90+ days ago. Last night, I woke around 2AM with this song from 1967 stuck on replay in my head. Means a lot right now. I've changed the lyrics slightly,:

THE BEAU BRUMMELS

"Just A Little"

Ron Elliot / Robert Durand

You can't stay, yes I know
I know why, hate to go
But goodbye, love was sweet
Our hearts will ever meet

So, I cry just a little cause I love you so
And I die just a little cause you have to go

            … away

Can't you see, how I feel
When I say love's unreal
So goodbye, it's been sweet
Even though, incomplete

Yes, I cry just a little cause I love you so
And I die just a little cause you have to go

            … away

Every night, I still hear
Oh! your sighs, very clear
Now that's gone, gone away
‘Cause I once heard you say:

Yes, I cry just a little cause I love you so
And I die just a little cause I have to go away
And I cry just a little cause I love you so
And I die just a little cause I have to go away

Now I –

Cry just a little
I cry just a little
I cry just a little now
I cry just a little   

Yes I cry    🤧

April
20
2021

April 20, 2021

2425 S Mina, Joplin

The care they gave Mary Jo was amazing, both professional and personal. Please consider Solace House for a donation and referrals, or perhaps become a volunteer. 

Thank you to Sandy Hughes, the founder, to Bonita Bond, the director and the wonderful volunteer friends. All treated Jo so kindly, as though she was family:

Holly, Maddie, Evan, Carolyn, Evelyn, Laura, Valerie, Dan, Sherri, Teresa, Mikaela, Susan, Melissa, Cortnee, Kelley, Rachel, and Marilyn. 19 caring volunteers for Jo in just 5 days! 

Thank you all so much!

                                          https://www.solacehouseoftheozarks.com/

April
20
2021

April 20, 2021

Hello,

First a HUGE apology. I did not notice/look at the Well Wishes portion of Caring Bridge until today. I deeply apologize.

Second, the Tributes are greatly appreciated and will "power" (as they say) many other Caring Bridge sites. No more are necessary though. 

Thank you!