December 23, 2020
Journal Entry by Mary Buchberger — December 23, 2020
Friends and Family,
It is with the heaviest of hearts that we write to inform you that Mary passed away this morning. She did not suffer and passed peacefully in her living room, surrounded by her children and husband – just as she wanted it. We can assure you that our last week with Mary was full of innumerable moments of significant depth and connection that we will cherish forever. Each day we would read the many messages posted to Caring Bridge and texted/emailed to Mary. She loved hearing them, and I can also assure you, they gave her strength in a time of need – in fact, after nearly every reading Mary would remark “thank you”, a sign of her gratefulness to the comment’s author. As a family, we repeat that sentiment now: thank you – your kindness and love for Mary is felt and appreciated.
The time was further highlighted by watching a YouTube documentary of Mary’s beloved Glenwood Springs, and a final zoom call with all eleven of her siblings. It was a special time. Mary made sure to communicate a final message to her family, which was simple yet profound: “I love you and support you.” We will forever feel the same way.
We are hurting. We have lost the focal point of our family. The days, weeks, months, and years ahead will be difficult as we deal with this irreplaceable loss. In the immediate future, we will grieve as a family. We will recount the many memories of Mary’s legacy with joy, and we will help each other through the sadness.
We also know, somehow, life will go on. As we are forced to re-engage the world and push forward with our individual lives we will do so with a renewed commitment to our personal callings – in Mary’s honor. Indeed, this time has reinforced to us just how much Mary’s legacy will continue in this world through her children and the traditions she has established with her family. She will never be forgotten, and we hope to continue to make her proud.
Equally, perhaps now more than ever, we look to the next life with a renewed intensity in anticipation of the day when we get to feast and fellowship with Mary again in all the ways that she loved. We look forward to the time when God will wipe away every tear from our eyes, and there will no longer be any death, mourning, crying, or pain, as these things have passed away. We look forward to the day we get to see Mary again.
Until that day we will carry her spirit with us. As the song goes, we know that when we find ourselves in times of trouble our Mother Mary will come to us – and in our hours of darkness she will be standing right in front of us, speaking her words of wisdom that comforted us so often throughout the course of our lives. And as hard as it may seem, we will try now to let it be, and to carry the good forward, as we know this is what Mary wants of us.
PS – More details to follow about memorial services. We are tentatively planning on having one in Cincinnati and one in Colorado, but deciding on the ideal time in the midst of COVID will be challenging. Please be patient with us as we try to workout the details.
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- Majid KamyabI'm so saddened to read this update. I'm also even more sad that I did not reach out in the past months to Mary as I intended. Please accept my condolences and know although Mary and I were long distance coworkers she was a very special women and impactful to me. Her strength and positive attitude is unmatched. May she RIP and God bless you all. Majid1/7/21
- Charlie MarkhamAnger first, "they" say, then grief. So here it is, "Damn it, why ?" I could go on. But my grief has also been building, no, say fear, of this day that I knew would come, but so dreaded. Now in tears I write to you Mary for the last time, knowing you will hear me. How strange, looking back, how we stayed connected by the thin strands of Christmas cards or sparce emails, yet always knowing that our friendship was there. Rest in Peace my friend, I will see you on the other side. Love, Charlie12/30/20
- nancy bergDear Buchbergers, It's been a week of shock and tears, and thoughts of, "I could've sent one more thought or prayer," and memories--personally and through our Hinsey family chat. Mary stayed strong for so long, giving us all a chance to enjoy her wisdom and humor a bit longer. The Glenwood Springs Sister's trip is a fond memory for all of us sisters--enjoying every quirk and the teasing we all dished out to each other. Mary's downturn was so sudden, and though not unexpected, completely unarming. It is never easy, and so as hard for me, I know 1000x harder for her small pride; Steve, David, Anna, and Jessie. Steve, Mary was so fortunate to have such an intelligent, compassionate partner. You were always willing to hang out with her crazy family in Colorado, or to travel to Europe and raise amazing kids. Please know that your Hinsey family is here for you in your grief as well. We have been so blessed that you were Mary's spouse and life partner. Jessie, you are so similar to your mom. I see this in your positivity, good energy, and strength. She was always so practical discussing what you were in to--either at school or work, but she always spoke with a subtle hint of pride that you were indeed an independent and successful woman in your own right. David, I initially saw your mom as very protective of you and your feelings when you were small. She then turned into a strong supporter of your independence and life choices. She talked about your successes in college, playing European basketball, and completing medical school. Though she was not a prideful person, she was proud of all you had done and the person you'd become. None more, though, than your choice for a spouse! Anna, dear Anna. She loved you like a daughter, and Mary felt your love and support as you accompanied her to her many doctor's appointments. I know she cared for you deeply and felt the pain of your struggles too. Thank you for being there for her and loving her as you did. I want to thank all the Pittman's for everything they did and the joyful times you shared together. Through all of our grief, we have great memories that last in our hearts forever. Mary was kind, generous, and very practical in her approach to life. I see her imprint on you all and through the comments of friends, family, and colleagues her on caring bridge site. Mary is already sorely missed and my heart is heavy and broken. I will never forget all she has done for me and the good times we had these last 3 years. Rest peacefully, my sister. Love you all.12/28/20
- Mukunda RajagopalaMary was one of the sweetest persons I have ever met. At work, she would listen to you and help you in the best possible manner. Whenever we talked, I could see that she adored her family. We will miss her. God bless her soul.12/28/20
- Randy MooreMary was one of the strongest individuals I have ever met. She never gave up and just pushed forward. I will never forget her smile and laughter. May she rest in Peace!!!12/24/20
- Gail SheaI am so sorry to hear that we have lost a wonderful friend who has a very special place in our hearts, now she is healthy walking or probably running the streets of heaven, our loss is surely heavens gain. My prayers are with the family,12/24/20
- Tim KinmanMy heart breaks for all of you for your loss. Mary was a wonderful colleague, a very proud mother, and exceptional person. And of course a wit and humor to make us smile. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.12/24/20
- Brenda JonesMay God give you peace in knowing you will see your precious Mary again in heaven. Stay strong in your faith and hold on to your memories. My love and prayers12/24/20
- Kathy BernardMy heart goes out to you, Jessie, David and Steve. Mary was a remarkable women, whose friendship I've cherished. She will be sorely missed by all that knew her, but I know we will see her again. May blessings come to you all, in your grief. Mary, rest in peace with our Lord.12/24/20
- Patti MillerRich and I are praying for you. Mary was a sweet woman with a great day sense of humor. She loved her family so much and I know you will feel her love always. She is in the loving arms of God.12/23/20
- Celia CarrollMary was always kind and pleasant to be around. You all were wonderful neighbors to us for 10 years. We loved watching our families play sports on the front lawn and grow up together...cherished memories forever. Our love to you all. The Carroll Family12/23/20
- Zahir CarringtonThinking of you all right now. My heart goes out to you all. Sending thoughts of love and strength to the family. 🙏🏾💕12/23/20
- sharon hinseyMary was truly an amazing person… wonderful, kind, smart and humble. My heart hurts deeply for all of you. Steve, Anna, Jessica, and David, you are each full of grace and courage… just like Mary. Thank you for being there with love and devotion for her and each other. Heaven got a special angel today. Love and prayers.12/23/20
- Angie Ravn-AagaardThinking of all of you at this sad time, and can only admire Mary for her courage, determination and dignity in her battle with this dreadful disease xx12/23/20
- Mary Ellen GreenOur thoughts and prayers for Mary Pat, and all her family! 🙏💕12/23/20
- Brenda JonesMy continued prayers for your family 🙏🙏🙏🙏12/23/20
- Michele HinseyWe will always have you in our thoughts and memories. Miss you! Billy12/23/20