What shocking news I stumbled upon just couple days ago in the most bizarre way. I had been mourning my father and had deactivated all my socials. During father's 49 days' funeral, in mid May, when I got wind of the heavy volcanic activities in Hawaii, I started getting increasingly worried about Laura's mother (Hello Lucy)--I couldn't remember which island she lived in. I went to the Fluttercat website and texted the number I found there. All these months I had been thinking Laura is very busy, but so was I, and I wasn't keeping in touch in friends...
Laura & I met during the heyday of SF psytrance parties in 2000, & although over the years I gradually lost touch with most people who I used to danc with, she & I kept in touch, and hung out. She stayed at our family house in 2011 in Kathmandu & we had some more adventures together. Over the years since then, she expressed her wish to revisit here; I cannot believe that that won't come to fruition.
I have enjoyed talking to her so much; the void made by her absence is so palpable--I cannot imagine what it must like for you, her family, to go through this devastating reality: that laura is not here, in her body, among us.
Thank you for arranging that most wonderful send-off with civet coffee, absinthe, durian, & much much more--I can imagine her smiling & enjoying the sight of it all--with the perfect end to that special day with Glowing Flying Lanterns!
With my best wishes to all of you, in loving memory of our sweet Laura,
July 14, 2018 (This can be read or passed around to the Gathering)
To Laura’s Family & David
Jett here…
Stuck in New York, getting use to this time with Laura transcending this place, making me think of the era we spent together, when we were all just getting our footing in this world, a bit more naïve and living in one of the best pockets of time one could ever be blessed to have encountered in any lifetime.
All of us searching.
Searching for something, anything, as long as there was magic inside of it. Even trying to make magic happen ourselves. That is how it felt when we were surfing those times together. Discovering our new families, discovering each other as well as our “selfs”.
I miss her and Buffy, I wish they could be here right now. I have so many things to ask them, but life is what happens to while you’re are busy doing other things. Now I can only look up and talk to the sky, talk to both of them and in that, look inward to find what might be the answers they might give me.
I too have been plagued with injuries and life’s difficulties being present at the most inappropriate time. I am not there with all of you celebrating Laura, Our Xenira, and it bothers me immensely.
I wanted to write you this note to express something as deep as I can possibly muster as I sit here trapped by life’s bullshit instead of being able to be where I want to be the most.
So as all of you are conjuring the wonderful times spent in this corner of time, with one of the great people of our lives, I just want all to know that all of my love, I send your way. It’s all yours.
I walk these lonely canyons of New York looking at people, through windows, not finding what I am looking for, just more of myself and that gets dull pretty quick and if I haven't figured that one out by now, then I really screwed this one up. But...
There was a time when everything just jumped into your lap and it was a happy time. It made you forget about life and made you get on with “living”. We lived our time together in that way.
I miss that the most. She was one of those people that made me forget all my worries and get on with “living”.
Hi David, Christopher at NC Theatre. We would love to do something for the memorial.
Please give me a call at NCT 919-831-6941, x 6941 when you get a second so we know how best to help.
Thoughts on a table to make dreamcatchers? I could bring a table and supplies.
Also, we have a spare room with a King bed if there are extra guests who need space (But we do have a very loud infant, so guests beware!) We live about 25 minutes from Thayer Drive.
Someone suggested a memory box. I love the idea of collecting memories for Laura. Laura did this very thing at her cousins funeral recently. It was very meaningful to have people share experiences with Laura. We will have cut paper where people can write something about Laura and leave here.
Or for those that want to bring something you’ve already typed up and printed, photos, or other things, we will collect them and make a scrape book of her life.
If you can’t make it to the memorial, please print and mail them to David. Rather receive something already printed for her scrape book. Send to David Adams 5324 Thayer Drive Raleigh, NC 27612.
Anything you want to include in her Memory Book.
BTW I know it was just an idea— but I didn’t like the Day of the Dead idea. Her death is more painful than can be expressed — and I am hoping it’s s celebration of her LIFE and not of her death.
Would y'all like a memory jar where people can write memories down and then all the collective memories can be in one place? Is that feasible? Might have to be a rather big jar :D ... I guess that's kinda like the board... brainstorming.
What about putting up a big swath of canvas that everyone can come and paint as they please? Can like tie it up in some trees or on something and have some paints for people to use? I have some I could definitely give, I'm sure other artsy friends as well?
Laura’s family, I would be happy to put a video together of pictures of her life growing to present and if the family would like that just send images to my email: dianesser@hotmail.com. You can tell me the music you would like, or I can provide the music for the backround:) If you like, I can email you a sample montage I did for a family:) Blessings to you all. Diane Esser (Mike Esser’s Mom:)
We are having Giada’s birthday party on July 14th in the afternoon from 2-4:30pm. Her Thayer Drive girl friends will be at the party. Is there any way we can have the Thayer Drive gathering later maybe around 5pm/5:30pm? - Gloria, Rusty and Giada Davis
My deepest sympathies to you.
What shocking news I stumbled upon just couple days ago in the most bizarre way. I had been mourning my father and had deactivated all my socials. During father's 49 days' funeral, in mid May, when I got wind of the heavy volcanic activities in Hawaii, I started getting increasingly worried about Laura's mother (Hello Lucy)--I couldn't remember which island she lived in. I went to the Fluttercat website and texted the number I found there. All these months I had been thinking Laura is very busy, but so was I, and I wasn't keeping in touch in friends...
Laura & I met during the heyday of SF psytrance parties in 2000, & although over the years I gradually lost touch with most people who I used to danc with, she & I kept in touch, and hung out. She stayed at our family house in 2011 in Kathmandu & we had some more adventures together. Over the years since then, she expressed her wish to revisit here; I cannot believe that that won't come to fruition.
I have enjoyed talking to her so much; the void made by her absence is so palpable--I cannot imagine what it must like for you, her family, to go through this devastating reality: that laura is not here, in her body, among us.
Thank you for arranging that most wonderful send-off with civet coffee, absinthe, durian, & much much more--I can imagine her smiling & enjoying the sight of it all--with the perfect end to that special day with Glowing Flying Lanterns!
With my best wishes to all of you, in loving memory of our sweet Laura,
Tsering Maya [Kathmandu, Nepal]