I am Wayne Link but using my x-wifes account. I am going to send you 2 posts because the responses deal with different subjects. You have actually have nothing to feel bad about concerning details of Jays health. In fact, when we get details we can pray and help more specifically. Everyone needs to be respectful because the posts you share is a form of therapy for you. 22 years ago I went through the same thing with my dear first wifo I know what you are dealing with.
I will post later on a more reflective topic. Dear Jay was so fortunate to have had you by his side. Grace church is mourning with you and your family
Mary, I am so sorry you’re dealing with this on top of grieving and, I can only imagine, comforting/making sure your boys are okay. I share Ann’s sentiment, I never, ever felt anything negative or disrespectful from your posts. In fact, I felt you kept everyone updated gracefully and respectfully. Keep doing what you’re doing and remember how many you have supporting you all.
Mary, no one gets instructions on to deal with the tragedy that you have been dealing with. You have handled this better than anyone I've seen navigate these waters before. That is a tall order in the setting of complicated medical conditions, life and death decisions and overwhelming grief. I am not surprised by your strength or loving care. You showed early emergence of these qualities 30 years ago when we roomed together. You were a nurturer already by then.
From someone who did not know Jay well at all, please know that the primary things that I gleaned by reading your journal entries from afar is that you love your husband and his family, and that he was a wonderful husband, father, son and friend. I did not read criticism of him in your words, only love. I miss you and wish I lived nearer to you during this trying time. Love, Annie
I will post later on a more reflective topic. Dear Jay was so fortunate to have had you by his side. Grace church is mourning with you and your family