Marie, you were a special friend to Herald and I get it with the downward dog. It WAS so Herald. I think we experienced so much in our weird childhoods that he didn't care what people thought; he was going to live totally authentically. I am glad you got to have dinner with Laura. She is a strong, resilient woman and laughter is the best antidote to grief, and Herald would want all of us laughing. :-) Hugs.