Gabby’s Story

Site created on April 12, 2018

We have referred to Gabby as Super Gabby for a long time.  When she was little she was so much fun we referred to her as the 'port-a-party'.  Today she is a normal 15-year old who loves her friends, her camp counselors, and Snapchat and Instagram,  and works hard in school.  We started noticing she was getting a bit of belly a few months ago.  We didn't care too much, she's a great kid and that's what is important. We attributed it to her love of carbs, burritos, and chicken wings, but there was a lot more going on than we initially recognized.  The last few weeks her belly became more distended and she was losing her appetite regularly (not like her) and having a hard time keeping food down at times.  On Monday we took her to the doctor, who promptly sent us to the emergency room.  It's been a whirlwind since, but 3 days later we have a formal diagnosis of colon cancer.  Her belly was bloated because a mass was clogging things up.  We are a family that sticks together, has faith in the God of the Bible, and chooses optimism.  We've been through life threatening / changing stuff before and can testify to God's faithfulness and the futility of dwelling on worst case scenarios.  We really do trust God and take it day by day.  Sometimes hour by hour.  We are starting this site because we feel an obligation to keep those who love us updated, and doing that person by person (or even group by group) has proven challenging when our focus is on Gabby and the road ahead of us.  This site should help us keep friends and family (who are one and the same to us) updated without us stressing too much about it.  Since we first started this site, Gabby's pathology tests came back.  The prognosis is grim.  She has metastatic signet ring cell carcinoma.  We're going to need a miracle... good thing we believe in them and know the Guy who does them.  :)

Newest Update

Journal entry by Dave Cava

Ok here is the big TEAM GABBY GIVES update! It's been a challenge to get things up and running. When Gabby passed I had a few conversations that led us to believe it would be pretty easy to get things going. That didn't really turn out to be the case, partially because something fell through and partially because I had backlog of "life stuff" to address after Gabby passed (still do) and my level of focus has not been at all time high after the death of our daughter. The current zombie apocalypse isn't helping.

We recruited good friend Michelle Giarrusso Murphy to help us get things off the ground, and she has been a God-send already. She is a super competent person whose kids have gone to the same camp as Gabby for several years, and we are so excited to have her involved! She found, a 501c3 that hosts memorial funds for families, for us. Ultimately we hope to grow into our own 501c3, but that is an extensive process I was too distracted to undertake right now, and with government agencies slowing to a halt right now, the process would probably be completely hung up anyway. CharitySmith will host our site and handle all of the back end functions for us for the time being, including getting tax deductible receipts to all donors. For those of you wondering what was going on with checks you've written to TGG in the past 2+ months they should finally get deposited in the next week.

We live in very uncertain times, especially in NY. We don't even know for sure if summer camps will be able to open this summer. In reality, that may shut down some great camps with rich histories. They need our support more than ever - they have full time employees who exist to serve kids. Our hope is that life will return to normal sooner rather than later and Audra and I will be speaking at Camp Orchard Hill's Jr/Sr High School week July 19-25. Either way, we will continue to support COH, Camp Cherith, and other camps like them. A lot of Gabby's strength or joy was fostered at camp, and we want many other kids to have that experience. So anyway, it's pretty simple and humble but we are excited to unveil to you :) Please share if you like.

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