Fr. Don’s Story

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As many of you may know, Fr. Don's kidney cancer journey began in 2016.  Early this year, February 2022, Fr. Don learned the cancer had spread to his lungs.  Most recently he learned that the cancer had spread to his brain.  September 21st he had surgery to remove a brain tumor on the left side of his brain.  For the last 2 weeks Fr. Don has been at Marianjoy in Wheaton, IL (part of Northwestern Hospital) to work on regaining his strength and his to relearn some of his cognitive skills.   His brain needs to recreate neuro-pathways for his verbal skills and his right side activity.  


Today, I realized that Fr. Don's health journey will continue and perhap, so others may be able to stay updated with his recovery and his cancer journey, this might be the best way to communicate with everyone going forward.  As Fr. Don told me his life is an open book!  As many of you know, while he can be a private person, he also will explain, in great detail things going on in his life if you ask!   


Please feel free to send comments to him.  I will share this site with him so he can read your comments and well wishes moving forward.    
Maribeth Spittler

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Rev. Don E. McLaughlin


Fr. Don McLaughlin was born into eternal life Sunday, August 6, 2023 surrounded by his nephews and dear friends.  He was many things to many people - pastor, brother, minister, uncle, friend. He spent his youth playing “priest” and preparing for a future dedicated to caring for others. It was no surprise to his loved ones when he was ordained on October 10, 1981 by Bishop Joseph L. Imesch at the Cathedral of St. Raymond in Joliet, IL. He served as a priest and pastor for over 40 years and recently retired as pastor of Our Lady of Mercy, Aurora, IL. He was a beloved servant of the following parish communities in the Diocese of Joliet: St. Margaret Mary, Naperville as transitional deacon and priest (1981-1982); St. Alexander, Villa Park (1982-1985); St. Philip the Apostle, Addison (1985-1989); St. Water, Roselle (1989-1990); St. Charles Borromeo, Bensenville where he received his first pastorate (1993-2001); St. Michael, Wheaton where he led the rebuilding project after a fire destroyed the church in 2002 (2001-2012); St. Thomas the Apostle, Naperville (2012-2017); and most recently Our Lady of Mercy, Aurora (2017-2022). Upon retirement in 2022, Fr. Don hoped to travel to Sonoma, California, but his plans were waylaid by the illness that eventually took his life. Throughout the decline of his health, Don was grateful to the many friends, parishioners, and family members who visited with him, called, prayed for him, and sent well wishes, and he prayed for them in return. 


Aside from his pastoral duties, Fr. Don was volunteer chaplain for the Chicago Bears for the 1983-84 seasons and volunteer chaplain for the Wheaton Fire Department 2004-2012. He also served on various diocesan committees.


Those who knew Fr. Don witnessed his expansive love of wine, travel, and theater. Fr. Don appreciated the beauty in the world around us and the creativity of humanity. Fr. Don was funny, joyful, and generous. His impact is far reaching and he will be remembered for his passion, humor, and excellent homilies. 


We will always be reminded of what Fr. Don said following the fire that destroyed St. Michael Church, “We did not lose the Church. We lost the building where the Church gathers. We are the Church.” The Church mourns the loss of this shepherd who guided so many flocks during his prosperous years of ministry.  


Born February 16, 1952 and raised in Indianapolis, IN he is predeceased by his parents Thomas E. McLaughlin and Dorothy Birdwell; stepmother, Evelyn Calloway; stepmother, Sylvia Miller; Brother Thomas Joel McLaughlin. Survived by nephews Joel McLaughlin, Scott (Barb) McLaughlin; Daniel (Tayna) McLaughlin; niece Kathleen (Kevin) Walsh and many grandnieces and grandnephews and cousins.


A special word of thanks to the staff at St. Patrick’s Residence where Fr. Don lived, the Carmelite Sisters who’s care and love for him were unfailing, the nurses, doctors and staff at AccentCare Hospice, Naperville, IL and his oncology team at Northwestern Medicine Cancer Center, Warrenville, IL.  


Visitation Thursday, August 10, 2023, from 4 to 7:30 p.m. followed by a Vigil Service at 7:30 p.m. at Our Lady of Mercy Parish, 701 S. Eola Rd., Aurora, IL.  Additional Visitation from 9 a.m. to 10:45 a.m. Friday, August 11, 2023 followed by a Funeral Mass 11 a.m. at St. Michael Catholic Church 310 S. Wheaton Ave., Wheaton, IL 60187.  Services conclude at the St. Michael Cemetery, Wheaton. 

Info @https://www.pedersenryberg.com/obituaries/Don-Mclaughlin


In lieu of flowers please consider a donation to the Hesed House, 659 S. River Rd,  Aurora, IL 60506 https://www.hesedhouse.org or the Diocese of Joliet Catholic Education Foundation, 16555 Weber Rd., Crest Hill, IL 60403, https://schools.diojoliet.org
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