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October
5
2019

October 05, 2019

Andrew passed away peacefully early this morning while holding my hand.  We were listening to Willie Nelson while it was still dark outside, and he was covered in his mother’s quilt.  Mr. Chow stood watch outside the room.  I am heartbroken but comforted that he was peaceful and surrounded by love and beauty.  

The kids and I watched a family movie with Andrew last night.  They told him how much they loved him before they went to bed.  We had baths and a good bedtime.  I called the hospice nurse around 5AM when I noticed his breathing was labored.  She came and assured me that he was comfortable and then he passed on about 30 minutes after she left.

I told the kids about Andrew’s passing after soccer.  They are resilient and seem okay, all things considered.  We are going to take some time to be together by ourselves this weekend.

Andrew died on the exact midpoint between my birthday and Cutlar’s birthday.  I feel certain that he chose this date so as to bookend a sad day with two happy days.  He also would never want to stand in the way of a good time.

We will have a celebration of life (and what a life!) for Andrew in the coming weeks.  It will not be next week because I need a minute and want to properly celebrate Cutlar’s birthday on October 13.  It will perhaps be the following week, but I need to figure out the logistics first.

Thank you all for your love and support. 💗


 

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  • Mark Gnadt : I didn’t know Andrew as well as most of you, but I was always in awe of him since the first time we met at his house in Carrboro decades ago. Very sad to hear this news, and my love to all he left behind.
    10/19/19
  • Emily Avetta : Stewart, I am so very sorry to hear of Andrews passing. I will always remember his smile, optimism and happy go lucky attitude. I remember the two of you falling in love and the amazing connection that you had. I have the best of memories of you together. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending love to you. Emily
    10/13/19
  • Susan Harrington : Saddened by this news but know he is at peace. The legacy he left will surely be a pathway for Cutlar and Alexander to follow. You are all in my prayers....
    10/11/19
  • Laurie Pryor : I can only imagine the antics on the other side now that Andrew has joined the party. He was such a fun, positive, energetic and creative person. I'm honored to have known him. I didn't realize the end was near and I wish I had left him a fond farewell message. Maybe the Jampire homing device transcends this lifetime and we will all meet again someday :) Stewart, your strength and presence through all this has been amazing. I'm so sorry for your loss. Wishing you, the kids and your families a time of healing and renewal. I'll be with all of you in spirit on the 16th. <3
    10/10/19
  • Julia Greenwood : Andrew and Stewart were our landlords for the past 4 years of the sweetest home! Ben was the first one to meet Andrew at the house expressing our interest in renting it. We were young, a dating couple, with a dog. Normally, a landlord would question this living situation, but Andrew did not. He saw similarity in us that he had with Stewart and knew we were right for the home, and he was correct. I met Andrew on moving day. I will never forget him falling off the stoop because he was just so excited! He was way more excited about us moving in than we were, which over the years we could understand why. The home they owned for sure became our home. Andrew and Stewart trusted us in their home in a way that is hard to explain. They are the definition of real, good people and I think they can see that in so many other people. They wanted for us what they had for each other and I will always keep that close to my heart. I would love seeing Andrew out at places like Calico Room just by himself because he wanted to listen to a few songs live for the night. His excitement for life and his smile will never be forgotten. Ben and I feel lucky to have met him.
    10/9/19
  • Stu Rigot : Andrew had an internal light (some would say fire) that few people are blessed with. Whether it was organizing a festival, a party or just a get together among friends, Andrew had a gift for bringing people together, both new friends and old. Many of my fond memories of undergrad involved something Andrew had planned, and I’m thankful to have shared in the many circles of great people he brought together. Thoughts and prayers to you and the fam.
    10/9/19
  • Shannon Lee : Andrew was an amazingly brilliant person and had such passion. He was so many wonderful things and had countless positive attributes. The thing I will remember the most about Andrew was his love for his family. He was always beaming anytime his wife or children came up in conversation. He was an extremely proud husband and father. He will be dearly missed by so many. My deepest condolences go out to his family.
    10/9/19
  • Kelsey Lucas : Even in the hospital, Andrew continued to touch lives. I know I personally felt moved and inspired by his love of his family, music and the selfless desire to bring a laugh or smile to others, regardless of how he was feeling. I feel so privileged and grateful to have met him and his amazing (and strong!) family. Praying for you all.
    10/9/19
  • Andrea Heppe : Thoughts and prayers have been with your family and will continue! I worked for Andrew back when it was the very first days of merging TGK. He was such a bright force, and I have several fond memories from those days. Condolences to you and your beautiful children!
    10/9/19
  • Macon Thomason : I’m so sorry. I just saw this and am devastated by the news. Please know that my heart is with you during this terrible time. He was a truly wonderful guy and he will forever be in my happy memories. Andrew and I met at LOCK’N the very first year and shared a love for music and laughter that will always stay with me. My sincere condolences to Andrew’s friends and family. Rest In Peace my brother Andrew, Macon
    10/8/19
  • Missy Betz : Oh Stewart, I can't tell you how sorry I am to hear about Andrew's passing. Sending so much love to you guys! Those Shelton Street memories...I think about you guys every time I pass by there.
    10/8/19
  • Norbou Buchler : I knew Andrew as an affable friend during my time at UNC Chapel Hill. I can picture him now with his long blonde ponytail and easy smile. He worked at Breadman's for a time, serving up breakfast and, I can imagine, making everyone laugh. He loved to regale in live music concerts and his easy going demeanor was truly a gem. He did care about friends and community and it is heartening to learn about all that he has accomplished and that he has raised a wonderful family and found the love of his life. I am so sorry to hear this news. I will treasure my memories of Andrew forever.
    10/8/19
  • Megan Sharkey Carrigan : Oh Stewart, I am so so sorry about this and heartbroken. Andrew was such a force and a connection between so many people. I was lucky to have him as a friend in college and was always so happy to see him succeed. I will be thinking about you and your family.
    10/8/19
  • Josh Smith : Love, light and peace to the whole family. Andrew will be missed by so many...because he made such a point of making great memories wherever he went. From the moment I met him back in ‘96 to the last time we got to hang out up in the balcony at DPAC - so many good times! We know Andrew’s at peace now, and I hope you all will find peace in your own time. Look forward to big hugs soon!
    10/7/19
  • David Starman : Andrew leaves behind an incredible legacy of good times, great stories and deep connections with people that few can achieve. He was already a legend when he arrived in Chapel Hill and we met in the mid 90's and continued to build and build on it through each phase in life. So thoroughly himself. So very many ideas. Most good. :-) What a guy. All the best to you Stewart.
    10/7/19
  • Mike Lardieri : I'm so sorry to hear this very sad news. Andrew was great person filled with life, enthusiasm and intelligence . He made a big impact on those that met him and on the Wilmington community. Rest well my friend. Sending thoughts and prayers to Andrew's family.
    10/7/19
  • Rebecca Knight : Sending love and light to you all.
    10/7/19
  • Michael Honeycutt : I’m so sorry!!! My thoughts and prayers are with you, kids and family!!!
    10/7/19
  • Tain Collins : I'm so sorry Stewart. I never met anyone like Andrew. He was loving, present and had such willingness and energy to give. Love to you and the family.
    10/7/19
  • Jennifer Watkins : Andrew and I were classmates in the UNCW MBA program. Andrew was such a wonderful, amazing human being,. He was intelligent, thoughtful, articulate, and kind. He treated everyone with respect and kindness, regardless of race or gender. He left an impression on veryone who met him. The world has lost a great man!
    10/7/19
  • Robin Salter : I met Andrew through work, but we quickly became friends. I imagine that's true for almost anyone that ever worked with him. My deepest condolences to your family. Peace be with you and God bless his joyful soul!
    10/7/19
  • Tanner Clayton : Stewart, we felt so sad when we heard the news. Nicole and I sat on the couch for awhile afterward, cried, and talked about the wonderful unique qualities that Andrew exemplifies. We love you and are sending many waves of hugs and love your way.
    10/7/19
  • Pat Hedrick : Ed and I are holding you in our hearts, mind,s, and prayers. I was with a loved one when he died. I felt so blessed that he passed that way. I can only imagine how much more important that is when it is your spouse. Andrew passes knowing he was loved. You don't want to hear this, but you have been just a stalwart, a foundation, oxygen,and unconditional love to Andrew and the kids . If this had to happen, that has made all the difference regarding HOW it happened. I don't want to die, but when I do, I hope someone is holding my hand that I adore. I hope I am cared for and surrounded by love. Andrew knows that his children will live with wonderful love and support and that you are so loved and supported. My prayer is for peace...that God comfort your hearts and minds and allow you all to feel Andrew's love forever. I am just asking God to give you whatever you need at this time......Much love, Pat
    10/7/19
  • Dail Ballard : I am so sorry that Andrew is no longer amongst us. Every time I ever saw him, I took away an excitement and passion for life rarely have I seen in anyone else. He is going to be missed in this community and well beyond. Thank you for sharing this journey and your amazing love story of family.
    10/7/19
  • Michelle crittenden : I am holding you and your sweet family in my prayers. Sending you love and strength❤️
    10/7/19
  • Annie Anthony : I'm so very sorry to hear about Andrew's passing, but I am so glad that he was able to spend time at home before he left. Thank you for all the love you've given him over these years. I know he will be your angel and he will be watching over you from here on out. If I can help in any way please let me know. Blessings, Annie Anthony
    10/7/19
  • Mitchell Moehring : Sending love and prayers your way. Hang in there. So glad to hear it was peaceful and that he was comfortable. I am so grateful to have known Andrew, what an awesome Tar Heel.
    10/7/19
  • Jennifer Mackethan : We are here to help in any way...pick up for Boy Scouts, etc. Lots of love coming your way, I know. The Mackethans
    10/7/19
  • Brian Kromke : Our family is praying for yours Stewart.
    10/7/19
  • Jacqueline Chase : Oh Stewart, my heart breaks for you and your children. I know there is little comfort anyone can truly offer you at this time. Please know, - with the long road of longing ahead - you are never alone in your grief. One of my favorite memories is the time we cruised to Raleigh to watch Die Antwoord live (a group too strange for most, but not Andrew of course). I will always admire his appreciation for good fun and music. Andrew remains an unforgettable mentor and friend to me. 💔
    10/7/19
  • Michelle Pojasek : Stewart, so sorry to hear this news. Thinking of you and the family - praying for peace and comfort for you during this time. I learned so much working for Andrew at TG! My career wouldn't be the same without him <3
    10/7/19
  • Hughes Waren : You and your family have been so strong for each other. Your love for Andrew showed and was he was fortunate to have your care and support. I know you are so sad about the physical loss of him and I hope you find peace that he is now resting easy. There are so many great Andrew memories he will live on for a long time. Thoughts and Prayers to you from the Waren family.
    10/7/19
  • Jeff Allegood : So sorry for your loss. Please let us know if there is anything we can do for you or the kids. RIP to the King of Hotdog Leg Pictures
    10/7/19
  • Warren McMurry : 😢 So sad to read this. Thinking of you and your family.
    10/7/19
  • David Poisson : Stewart, we're thinking of you. We're here for you. Our hearts are aching for you and your family. We love you, David
    10/7/19
  • leah rosen : Andrew, What an amazing guy. First, let me thank you for my fake ID in high school....😂😂😂😂 thank you for the laughter, the warmth, the “come along it will be fun” Inclusiveness that you spread to all of those that crossed your path. Reconnecting with you briefly in NC was a JOY. May you Rest In Peace and May your gorgeous family find strength and peace in the days ahead. -leah
    10/6/19
  • Stewart Pittman : So sorry to hear this, Andrew was a great guy, I am glad I got to know him, sending love and prayers for all of you...
    10/6/19
  • Jessie Syracuse McGee : I’m so glad to have known Andrew and hope with all my heart I can make it to his end of life celebration. He made the world better in so many ways and will be sorely missed.
    10/6/19
  • Graham Sharp : Andrew was like no one else i’ve ever known and lived with a full heart and clear eyes. He brought joy to everyone he met. Wishing you strength Stewart, your grace through this impossible ordeal is an inspiration.
    10/6/19
  • Adeline Soldin : Stewart, we are so very sorry to hear of Andrew's passing. What an amazing person he was! And, how lucky he was to have you in his life and by his side until the very end. We are thinking of you and the kids, and are celebrating Andrew's life in our hearts. He will certainly never be forgotten!
    10/6/19
  • Darcie Hansen : I’m so sorry. I can’t believe how strong and gracious you have been through all of this. I will miss Andrew so much. I’m thinking of you and the kids, and the rest of the family.
    10/6/19
  • Catherine Wyatt : Words seem so inadequate when life is this tough. We will continue to lift you and those precious children in love and hope for a brighter tomorrow. Andrew would absolutely want this for you. Our love is with you, Stewart, Russell and Catherine
    10/6/19
  • Onur Tuncer : Stewart - we have never met but I am an old college friend of Amdrew’s. We saw each other most recently in Manhattan, around 4 years ago when he was looking to develop new business opportunities up here. I am so very sorry for your loss. May Andrew Rest In Peace, and may you and your children have the strength to suffer his loss. Onur
    10/6/19
  • Kathleen Glancy : May the light of God be with you and heal your broken heart. Take all the time you need and more. We love you, Kathleen and Mike
    10/6/19
  • Keitha Eddins : Praying you find peace and comfort in knowing you were by his side through it all!
    10/6/19
  • Matthew Smith : Sending you much love, Stewart! So sorry for your loss!
    10/6/19
  • Hilary Bradley : I’m so sorry for your loss. Meeting Andrew was a large reason I joined T/G 7 years ago. He was so vibrant, smart and charismatic! I fee so lucky to have known him and worked for/with him. Prayers for comfort for you and your family ❤️
    10/6/19
  • Anne Tassier : We are so sorry. You will get through this with the help of your strong family and circle of friends. Gary and Anne
    10/6/19
  • Diana Glass : Sending our love❤️
    10/6/19
  • Kenn Bowers : My heart is broken for you and the kids, Stewart. I pray that Christ will wrap you all in His comfort and love. Love, hugs and many prayers. Kenn
    10/6/19
  • Kim Steffan : May God's peace and strength be with you and your family.
    10/6/19
  • Scott Wilson : Sorry for your loss. Andrew was such an amazing person and I feel lucky to have known him. Continuing to send love and prayers your way often!!
    10/6/19
  • Theresa Ivey : Sending you and your family lots of love and prayers.
    10/6/19
  • Stephanie Styers : Sending you and your family lots of love, Stewart. I am so sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing so openly with all of us. ♥️
    10/5/19
  • Linda Clinard : Our hearts ache for you. God be with you all. ❤️❤️
    10/5/19
  • Valerie Johnson : Stewart, we love you. Our hearts are breaking for your loss.
    10/5/19
  • Jared Liu : So sorry for your loss. Andrew was loved afar, and it's hard to believe he's gone. I clicked on each message with the hope of good news, and was always amazed by your strength and love. Thank for you for keeping us informed.
    10/5/19
  • Emily Hutson : Andrew was a great friend - funny, smart, kind. Stewart - you are a warrior. Sending so much love to you and your family.
    10/5/19
  • Anne Norris : Andrew did life on this earth so well! You and the children are so loved Stewart. God bless and comfort you all.
    10/5/19
  • Jen Beasley : I am so sorry for your loss Stewart. Sending many prayers of love and comfort for you and the boys. ❤️
    10/5/19
  • Sarah Farber : Thank God for good dogs like Mr. Chow, great kids like Alexander and Cutlar, gifted artists like Willie Nelson, and a love like yoursamd Andrew's. Sending you much love and keeping you in my prayers.
    10/5/19
  • Michelle Stellaccio : So so sorry to hear Stewart, but heartwarming to know you had a peaceful goodbye. Andrew will be missed. Our thoughts are with you and your family.
    10/5/19
  • John Nesbitt : I am truly sorry for your loss. It has been inspiring to behold how beautifully you and Andrew faced this together. Sending lots of love to Andrew's family and friends.
    10/5/19
  • Cynthia Little : I am so sorry for your loss. You are an amazing and strong woman and you will get through this hard time day by day. Take care of yourself and your precious children. Sending love and hugs....
    10/5/19
  • Gray Nunnelee : Much love to The Gray Family... you are the true example of family, love & joy♥️♥️♥️♥️
    10/5/19
  • Elizabeth Preyer : We are so sad Andrew is gone. We are praying for yall and we will see you at the celebration of life.
    10/5/19
  • Elizabeth Preyer : We are so sad Andrew is gone. We are praying for yall and we will see you at the celebration of life.
    10/5/19
  • Sarah Beth Deans : Love endures all and your beautiful family is such a testament to this truth. Praying without ceasing for you all during this time. Love, Sarah Beth, Lewis, Sam and Chandler
    10/5/19
  • Kim Shipley : Ted and I send you and Alexander and Cutlar our love and prayers. Such a wonderful life.
    10/5/19
  • Kim Shipley : Ted and I send you and Alexander and Cutlar our love and prayers. Such a wonderful life.
    10/5/19
  • Tina Poisson : Andrew was loved by all, especially by you and family. Thoughts, prayers and hugs to all. Love, Rock and Tina
    10/5/19
  • scott Hedrick : Stewart, our thoughts and prayers are with you and family. Catharine and Scott
    10/5/19
  • Jason Narciso : Sending you, the children and Andrew's parents love. He is one of my favorites and will be missed, especially around the office.
    10/5/19
  • Dora Ward : Bless you Stewart. You are here giving comfort to the rest of us. If only everyone could transition with such peace, love and beauty. Thank you!
    10/5/19
  • Cathy Kelly : Oh Stewart, I am so sorry! You have been so brave through all this. I pray the Lord will bless you and your children and give you strength and comfort.
    10/5/19
  • Stephen Bon : Prayers, love and hugs to you and the kids, Stewart. We are here....
    10/5/19
  • Nikki Ballard : Prayers, hugs, kisses and Love
    10/5/19
  • Susan Braxton : Sending love and hugs ❤️
    10/5/19
  • Vicky Robinson : I am so sorry. My heart aches for your family. You have remained in our thoughts and prayers and we continue to send you wishes of peace and comfort. Lots of love to you, Vicky & Scott
    10/5/19
  • Patricia Freeman : Sending hugs of support to everyone and will continue to include you in my prayers.
    10/5/19
  • Michael Piscitello : I’m so sorry Stewart. My thoughts are with you and your family. Peace, love and big hugs.
    10/5/19
  • Nicole Gauvey Clayton : Sending lots of love to you all 💙
    10/5/19
  • Brannon Walters : I’m sorry for the sad news. Your family have been in our prayers. I’m glad he was surrounded by such love. A very lucky man.
    10/5/19
  • Will Miller : I’m so sorry for your loss, Stewart. Andrew was extremely lucky to have you by his side, caring for him, just as we were lucky to have had him in our lives. Thinking of you and your family.
    10/5/19
  • Matt Letson : Our thoughts are with you and your family Stewart. I love Andrew and I’m gutted. But we are relieved to know he is no longer diminished by disease and has moved forward to a better place. I look forward to a time when I see him again on a different plane. And we’ll pick right up where we left off.
    10/5/19
  • Jeff Uzzle : Stewart, Jeff and I are beyond heartbroken. We are so very sorry. I will miss many things about Andrew but most of all our friendship and of course his amazing sense of humor. Know that we love you and the children and anything you need We are here for you.💙💙💙
    10/5/19
  • Sue Williams : Dear Stewart sending all our love to you and your precious family❤️
    10/5/19
  • william mellon : God speed, my friend. Bless you and the children, Stew. Tonight I'll be a Tarheel fan in Andrew’s honor.
    10/5/19
  • Anne Williams : Thinking of you all constantly and praying for peace. Andrew led a full life and will be missed by so many. Sending our love 🙏🏼
    10/5/19
  • Kate Woodbury : He will be missed. Sending you all the love and wishing you all of the peace as you grieve and celebrate Andrew all at once. ❤️
    10/5/19
  • Katherine Kopp : Sending love and prayers for comfort and healing to all of you. Katherine and Vince
    10/5/19
  • Wendy Buckland : Sending you so much love Stewart - you have been incredibly courageous through this journey. May Andrew Rest In Peace and may you find peace as well. ❤️
    10/5/19
  • Shanda Lewis : Our hearts are broken for you all. Alex and I send our love and prayers for strength.
    10/5/19
  • Jennifer Huntley : I am so sorry. Sending lots of love to you and the kids and all who love Andrew so deeply. You guys really seem to know how to soak up the best life has to offer making such special moments out of ever situation. Praying for your broken heart and thankful for your ability to find some comfort. ❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️
    10/5/19
  • Alison Domnas : Thinking of you and the kids, Stewart. Thank you for sharing this sad and beautiful post. He was lucky to be so loved.
    10/5/19
  • Annemarie Pantazis : What a peaceful scene of love and serenity. I’m so sorry Stewart. 💕
    10/5/19
  • Matt M : So sorry to hear Stewart. Good to hear he passed in peace with his loved ones around him.
    10/5/19
  • Effie Glover : I'm so sorry to hear this news. I'm so happy that you were able to be with him. I'm sending my love to you APG and Cutlar, love you all so much.
    10/5/19
  • Jessica Whitney : Sending love. Rest In Peace, Andrew.
    10/5/19
  • Elizabeth Murchison : Sending you lots of love ❤️
    10/5/19
  • Peter R : Andrew was such a great person. We are very sorry for your and the children's loss. Peter & Sandy
    10/5/19
  • Sylvia Gray : As goofy as his ideas sometimes seemed, Andrew always had a solid plan in the end. The best was loving you, Stewart. ❤️Added bonus, APG and ECG. And good ole’ Chow. ❤️ From Tom too!
    10/5/19
  • Lee Ann Adams : Sending you love and peace, Stewart. It's so very sad but I'm glad you were able to be by his side in his final moments holding his hand, what a gift for him and you both. He was a great guy and will be dearly missed.
    10/5/19
  • Heather Thompson : Stewart I am so sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. 💕
    10/5/19
  • corinne nicholson : Sending prayers for strength and peace to all of you! With love always, Corinne and John
    10/5/19
  • Neal Petrosky : I’m so sorry Stewart. I’m happy to hear he was comfortable and surrounded by love.
    10/5/19
  • Catie Cunningham : My heart is broken for you and the kids! Sending prayers and peace! Grateful you were there with Andrew at home. Love you!!!
    10/5/19
  • Judy Tayloe : I am so sorry, Stewart. Andrew lived life largely. He will be missed greatly. Judy
    10/5/19
  • Happy Clark : Sending love, prayers and peace to you all. 🙏😘
    10/5/19
  • Kaylie O : Stewart, my heart absolutely breaks for you and your family. To know Andrew, was to love Andrew. We're thinking about you and wishing you all peace and comfort. Love, the O'Connor family
    10/5/19
  • jtodd turner : Rest in peace, friend.
    10/5/19
  • Pam Mills : Christian texted me this morning, such a dear friend. My love to you and your family. I love what you are doing, Andrew would be so proud. My prayers are with your family always. Pam Mills (Chris' mom)
    10/5/19