I'm glad you have Nathan and Ashley there to help, and that things are able to get fixed when needed. Family is such a blessing, especially in hard times. Sending big hugs your way!

Hey there, beautiful soul! I know these times feel like a whirlwind of emotions, but let me remind you: you're handling this with grace and strength beyond measure. Remember:
~ Asking for help, especially when you're used to being the rock for others, can feel like a seismic shift. But remember, it's not weakness—it's an opportunity for growth and connection.
~ Every time you reach out for assistance, you're not just receiving help; you're giving others the chance to shine with their unique talents and gifts. It's a beautiful exchange that strengthens bonds and builds resilience.
~ And those moments when it feels like you're drenched in icy water? They're signs of growth, my dear friend. Embrace them, for they're proof that you're navigating uncharted territories and expanding your comfort zone.
~ You're not alone in this journey. Lean on the love and support surrounding you, and know that every step forward, no matter how small, is a triumph.

Keep shining, keep growing, and keep asking for help when you need it. You're doing AMAZING! Much love being sent along with a big old hug.

I keep saying I can learn hard things. i had no idea how much my husband just did.

Joanne, your posts are so genuine, so real. It must be so different to be in this new season, with so many day to day "opportunities for a solution" coming right at you. Thank you for your honesty when things are challenging. Glad to hear your crew is on deck when needed. Sorry to hear about the cold water. 💧 Yipes!! Hugs and love, Jocelyn

Thanks for sharing. I love reading your posts. I understand many of your feelings. When I lost my husband 10 years ago, I had three teenagers and two older children. God is the first reason for living and my children come second. The first years were really hard, as the teens entered adult life. Now, they help me with a lot of things. I’m so thankful for family.

Like you Joanne I never lived on my own. I married at a young age and started a family. As I read your words I think about all my husband does and takes care of around the house, or our cars, etc. I am so glad you have Ashley and Nathan near by to help you. The poem you wrote is beautiful, just like you. I pray for you often. It must be difficult to see memories of Dan throughout your home yet comforting at the same time. We love you.

I replaced the fluorescent lights in the kitchen when they burned out the other day. Needed my daughter's help to get the cover off. They were done before John even got home from work. I've felt a little resentful that I have to do the driving lately as he's on medication but glad he's still with us and it's just little hiccup in his health. Reading your posts helps me appreciate that he's still with us- could've lost him several times in the past but he's still got some things to do before he's called home.

“I'm learning I have more inside me than I think I do...” More of the unexpected discoveries in this season….we are becoming even more into ourselves.

PS Dan is so proud of you 😌

Your poem is beautiful! I am so proud of you and all your growth. ❤️

I say often, but don't always walk out, that we will only rise to our level of preparedness. I don't always walk in that as a married person where it is appropriate to be like that in some areas; to lean on a partner.

So, this is a difficult and uncomfortable season that I think you are handling fantastically... finding the times you handle things and the times you request help. No guilt or shame for either of those things! I know I would be the same way, even though I lived on my own for over 10 years before I got married!

Please do keep sharing with us. I love hearing from you.