Bethany’s Story

Site created on July 2, 2020

On June 19th we found out that the lump in my breast was not from changes due to pregnancy like we had hoped but a 2.2cm cancerous tumor. Over the next week we would find out that I would need to undergo 2 rounds of chemo (1st AC chemo 4 treatments over 12 weeks, 2nd Taxol Chemo 4 treatments over 8 weeks), then a lumpectomy surgery and finally 3.5 weeks of radiation 5 days a week. My due date for baby Harris falls at towards the end of my 1st round of chemo. 

Since hearing the results I have had all the emotions...my 1st concern, as you can imagine, is how this would effect our baby as, when diagnosed, I was 26 weeks pregnant. I have been assured by many doctors (and my own internet searches) that the chemo they are doing will not effect the baby at all. They have been treating pregnant women (in 2nd and 3rd trimesters) for over 20 years and there has been no negative side effects on the babies. They would normally do the lumpectomy 1st but they do not want to do surgery while I am pregnant and the cancer is aggressive enough that they don't want to wait and do nothing. 

I was aware of 2 big things after I was assured Baby Harris would be ok, 1st that I would not be able to breastfeed and 2nd I would loose all of my hair. The not being able to breastfeed has been the hardest thing for me...as many of you know both Braya and baby Harris are here after a  long battle with infertility, many transfers, a miscarriage, and donor eggs. I am so privileged to be able to carry these children and the bond that I had from breastfeeding Braya, to be able to feed her from my body even though she was not of my egg was life giving to me.  I know intellectually fed is best - however they get fed - my heart just needs to catch up.Loosing all of my hair is something that I am also still trying to wrap my head around...not having to shave my legs for awhile does not sound so bad but having no hair on my head and loosing my eyelashes and eyebrows is something else. 
I am extremely grateful that my OB caught this lump when she did and that we have insurance and live in a place where I can get the best care. I am beyond thankful for my friends and family who are loving us and supporting us through this season of life. 
While this journey will be difficult and I would not choose to do it, we are also in a time of joy as we prepare to welcome our son into the world. Braya is excited to become a big sister and is preparing to teach him all about the solar system.  She is obsessed with with this right now and has already taught me so much! Did you know there were 5 dwarf planets and a  Kuiper Belt? If not just ask Braya, she will tell you all their names and something unique about each one along with all of the regular 8 planets. :) 
I will be updating this site as I'm able or anything interesting to report :)


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Journal entry by Bethany Harris

Last Monday I went in for my 20th and final radiation treatment and banged a gong! Since I was diagnosed on June 19th I have had chemotherapy, a baby, more chemotherapy, a lumpectomy, and radiation all during this strange world of a pandemic.  To say this has been a busy and crazy season of life is somewhat of an understatement.  Cancer has consumed so much of my time, energy, and brain. I am so thankful to be able to start the process of getting some semblance of life back to "normal" (what ever that is with an infant, a four year old, and a pandemic). 

Radiation was the most difficult for me out of this whole process. Going in daily was not only time consuming but exhausting. It was also uncomfortable, cold, and not fun to be manhandled and laid out half naked on a table every day.  They told me the 2 weeks after radiation would be the most painful and they were right. It is so interesting - my breast often feels like it is either getting punched or pinched from the inside. The skin is red and painful.

Looking back on these last 8 months I am extremely thankful. Had I not been pregnant at this exact time I would never had been at the doctors and my OB would not have insisted I go in to get checked. There is no way to tell how long it would have been before I was diagnosed and what the repercussions of a late diagnosis would have been. I am so grateful and privileged to have insurance and have been able to get amazing medical care at a top hospital.   I am beyond grateful and humbled at the amount of love and support you all have shown me and my family.  The cards, the gifs of blankets, lotions, comfy socks, a sweatshirt, activity books, dinners, childcare, the Facebook messages...the list goes on...the support has been overwhelming. I cannot express the gratitude and love I feel for you all. 

What comes next:

  • I will start seeing a doctor in Northwestern's Survivor department. From what I understand this doctor will monitor me and have me get checked to make sure I stay cancer free.
  •  I will have to take a pill for the next number of years - a hormone blocker - this will help reduce my chances of recurrence. This pill has a number of unpleasant side effects for some - I am hoping/praying I don't get most of them.   
  • My hair will continue to grow back :) 
  • I will get mammograms and PET Scans to make sure cancer does not come back
  • I will forever be thankful for the love and care I have received 

Family update:

Anthony continues his entrepreneurial passion and now is doing 4 start-ups along side his regular job. He and Braya have been following the Mars mission and love doing experiments together.

Braya has just turned 4 and is in her 1st year of preschool (she goes 1/2 day) - she is reading at a kindergarten level and loves imaginative play.

Micah is 5 months old and has an infectious laugh and smile. He is such a happy baby and loves watching his older sister play. 

I am figuring out what days to day life looks like without constant doctors appointments and treatments. We are still working on our house and cannot wait to start hosting again once this pandemic is over.

Thank you all for your amazing love and support and  for walking this journey with me.  ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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