As part of our Caregivers Up Close series, we asked wives, husbands, parents and dear friends doing double-duty as family caregivers to talk about the struggles—and gifts—of caregiving.
Hoping that what they have been through might help other families, caregivers who have turned to CaringBridge over the years shared these inspirational quotes and words of wisdom:
Top 5 Quotes from Caregivers
- “You can stress about things out of your control, or you can turn them over to God. When you release things because there is nothing you can do, you turn them over to someone who has a bigger plan and a bigger control than you.”—Amy Amundson of New Prague, MN, who was plunged into caregiving after her son, Kevin, attempted suicide in response to undiagnosed depression.
- “Like airplane passengers, let’s not forget to put on our own oxygen masks first … we are no good to our loved ones if we collapse under the strain.”—Peter Bailey of St. Paul, MN, who was the primary caregiver for his wife, Tanya, during treatment for squamous cell carcinoma of the tonsil, lymph and base of her tongue.
- “When you visit someone’s CaringBridge website, send Well Wishes. That’s huge. It cheers you on … you see that people are there with you, through the heartache.” —Molly Sturgis of Chaska, MN, a mom of two and the primary caregiver for her toddler son, Telly, through chemo, radiation and a bone marrow transplant for acute myeloid leukemia, said,
- “I had friends saying, ‘Oh, I really wanted to call to see how you were doing, but I didn’t want to bother you.’ I thought, ‘Call me. Tell me a funny story. My day was horrible, but if you make me laugh, it gives me a little break.'”—Meritxell Mondejar Pont, a Minneapolis resident and Barcelona native, who lost her husband, Spiro, to glioblastoma multiforme, the worst kind of brain cancer, at age 35.
- “You have got to quit pretending it’s going to all change tomorrow morning, and learn how to be where you are, how you are, right now. I don’t deal with that as well as I ought to, but the best way I can think of to keep patience in the middle of everything is a sense of humor and some spiritual stuff. That’s what makes the biggest difference.”—Bud Hart of Alexandria, VA, a primary caregiver for his adult son, Mike, living for five years with an undiagnosed, and debilitating, autoimmune disease.
Add Your Own Quote
If you are a family caregiver, or the person on whom support is focused, add a helpful quote in the Comment section below. You might also be interested in reading 7 Things You Should Never Say to Caregivers or Patients.