14 Life-Changing Tips to Relieve Caregiver Stress

It’s a fact: caring for another person is stressful. Even though caregiving is one of the most rewarding and selfless acts of kindness a family member can provide, its challenges equal its gifts. In this article, we cover the symptoms and root causes of caregiver stress and offer insightful tips from current caregivers on how to relieve the tension.

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What Exactly is Caregiver Stress?

Caregiver stress is the physical and emotional strain that results from providing continuous care for another person. When this stress is prolonged, it can cause serious physical and mental health problems for those providing the care.

Caregiver stress may be the precursor to the more severe caregiver burnout, though many of the symptoms overlap.

Symptoms of Caregiver Stress

As a family caregiver, it’s important to keep an eye out for any negative physical or emotional symptoms you experience, as these can lead to long-term damage. Physical signs that you might be experiencing caregiver stress include:

  • Frequent headaches or body aches
  • Always feeling tired
  • Sleeping too much or too little
  • Rapid weight gain or weight loss
  • Abusing alcohol, recreational drugs, or prescription medications

Emotional signs of caregiver stress include:

  • Moodiness – easily angered or irritated
  • Persistent sadness or hopelessness
  • Lack of interest in previously enjoyed activities
  • Feelings of loneliness or isolation from other people

It’s known that the long-term effects of stress can be detrimental to health. Long-term symptoms can include:

  • Serious mental health issues such as anxiety and depression
  • Weakened immune system
  • Digestive issues
  • Alcoholism or drug addiction
  • Increased risk for chronic diseases
  • Short-term memory loss and issues paying attention

If you or a loved one are exhibiting signs of caregiver stress, it’s important that you first talk to your doctor about ways to ease your symptoms. There are medications, holistic remedies, therapies and more that are designed to help.

Causes of Caregiver Stress

Common causes of stress include: financial strain, relationship role changes and lack of rest for the caregiver.

The financial aspect of caring for your loved one can be one of the most troubling for caregivers. The average annual cost of caregiving-related expenses is $6,954 out-of-pocket or nearly 20% of a household’s average annual income. Caregivers often spend less money on leisure activities as a result with nearly half reporting a decrease in going out to eat or taking vacations due to the costs of caregiving.

Another cause of stress is the emotional impact that comes from a reversal of caregiving roles. If caring for a parent or an older sibling it can be quite disorienting to start taking responsibility for someone who was previously responsible for you.

Finally, many caregivers neglect to give themselves the additional rest necessary for good health, since their primary focus is often on their loved one. Providing frequent support for another human is essentially doubling the work our bodies are designed to do. We all have a finite amount of energy – both mental and physical – and when we refrain from taking regular breaks, we run on fumes and aren’t giving our own bodies what we need.

Remember: giving your own body and mind the care they need is one of the most important components of being a good caregiver.

Top Tips for Managing Caregiver Stress

The feelings of tension you may feel as a caregiver can frustrate and exhaust you. Fortunately, there are plenty of helpful techniques you can use to manage your stress. We took to social media and got feedback from real caregivers on how they manage the pressure. Here are our favorite tips from fellow caregivers and thought leaders on how to deal with caregiver stress:

1. Complete Small Tasks to Regain Control

When dealing with another person’s fluctuating health, it’s totally normal to feel overwhelmed and out of control. If this describes you, try this caregiver’s simple, helpful tip:

“Doing laundry was soothing for me. If I was feeling overwhelmed, I’d tell myself that I could do that one thing. It was helpful to make order out of chaos. I’d feel as though I had control over something, and I felt great satisfaction out of seeing neatly folded piles of laundry before I threw myself back into the fray.”

2. Eat Right

What we put into our bodies is what we get out of them. Proper nutrition is crucial self-care that can be left to the wayside when under a lot of stress. However, stressful times are when your body needs healthy fuel the most. Avoid skipping meals, snacks or overindulging in alcohol. Instead, set aside regular times each day to enjoy a balanced breakfast, lunch, snack and dinner. For more ideas, check out this list of stress-relieving foods which include tea, salmon and (yay!) dark chocolate.

3. Get Enough Sleep

When your mind is racing around a track with a million things to do on it, it’s only natural that your sleep may suffer. But you can’t avoid it: your body and brain unquestionably need time to recharge. Amazing things happen when you sleep, like muscle relaxation, tissue growth and repair and energy restoration. How well you sleep affects nearly every aspect of what happens in your waking hours, so make sure to get those quality ZZZs. Aim for 7-9 hours each night, preferably at consistent times.

4. Exercise

If you are physically capable, getting your body moving and your blood pumping is an almost guaranteed way to relieve tension. Physical activity pumps up your “feel-good” endorphins and refocuses your mind on your body’s movements, releasing stress and improving your mood. Physically, exercise helps maintain a healthy weight and can even regulate your sleep cycle by making it easier to fall (and stay) asleep.

Virtually any physical activity works: walking, jogging, gardening, housecleaning, biking, swimming or anything else that gets you moving. Find time, even if it means asking someone else to provide care while you take a break.

5. Try Meditation

Meditation creates a sense of calm, peace and balance that benefits both mind and body, and it encourages the use of breathing to get through stress. You’ll focus your attention on the sensations you experience, squeezing out anxious thoughts. The best part? You can meditate almost anywhere, from a doctor’s office to a bus ride.

6. Do a Little Coloring (Really!)

Think coloring books are just for kids? Think again. Adult coloring books have become an increasingly popular way to decrease stress through mindfulness, the act of focusing on being in the present moment. Added bonus: they’re super portable!

7. Have a Healthy Dose of Laughter

Did you know that laughter lightens your emotional load and actually causes physical changes in your body? Laughter enhances your oxygen intake, relieves mental stress and soothes physical tension. Try switching up the nightly news with a favorite comedian’s stand-up or a classic rom-com or call your funniest friend. And speaking of friends…

8. Get Social

Spending quality time with friends and family has long been a stress relief tactic used across many cultures and time periods. When you spend time with your social circle, you experience better mental health, a stronger immune system and can even lower your risk of dementia!  

If you don’t have much time to meet up out of the house, or your friends and family are long-distance, don’t worry: video chatting and phone calls can provide many of the same positive effects as face-to-face socializing.

9. Start Journaling

Putting your thoughts and feelings into written words can be a good release for pent-up emotions. Writing often provides perspective that thinking, or even talking, cannot always give. In addition to venting out your worries, journaling is also a good place to list out all the positives in your life that you’re grateful for.

P.S. If you’re looking for a place to start, every CaringBridge site comes complete with a ready-to-use Journal feature. Our online journal allows you to choose from a variety of privacy options, whether you choose to publicly share your health journey or keep a totally private diary. It’s free and easy to use. 

Don’t go through your health journey alone.

You can stay connected to friends and family, plan and coordinate meals, and experience love from any distance.

All of this is ready for you when you start your personal CaringBridge site, which is completely free of charge, ad-free, private and secure. Don’t spend another minute alone!

10. Get a Pet

Therapy animals are around for a reason. Our favorite furry friends provide many stress-relieving benefits when they cuddle us, learn a new trick or simply just look adorable. Whether you prefer a dog, cat, parakeet or fish, owning and loving a pet can be enormously beneficial. And if you’re thinking that you can’t take care of yet another thing, not to fear: these low-maintenance pets might change your mind.

11. Just Say ‘No’

Yep, you read that right. You are more than allowed to turn requests down if you feel that you’re getting overwhelmed with responsibilities and places you just have to be. When you say ‘no’ to adding another “to-do” on your list, you’re opening up an opportunity to have very important time for yourself. You are a priority, too!

12. Reclaim Your Identity

Spending time on your passions will help remind you that you are more than a caregiver. Try to take time at least once a day to engage in an activity that makes you feel most like yourself outside of your caregiving role. It can feel like you don’t even have time to wash your face at the end of a long day, much less take 30 minutes to yourself. But there are opportunities to carve out you-time every single day. If you leave for work, use your lunch hour to go outside and read a book or magazine. If you stay home, take time to play your favorite music or make dinnertime exciting by cooking a fun, new recipe. It’s the little things that make us who we are and it’s important not to forget about them.

13. Prioritize Your Own Medical Needs

Caregivers still have regular checkups and dentist appointments, just like anyone else. It can be easy to get so caught up in the medical treatment of your loved one that you forget that you actually share some of the same needs. Take note of any appointments you’ve missed or may need in the next few months, and if necessary, start enlisting help so that you can make your appointments without a hitch.

Also, don’t forget about therapy. It might not be for everyone, but therapy is a tool that’s definitely worth considering. Many therapists specialize in the managing and relieving of stress through means such as Progressive Relaxation Training, mindfulness-based techniques and more. To find out about the different types of therapy and which one might be right for you, talk to your doctor about your symptoms and discuss getting a referral.

14. Ask for (and Accept) Help

It’s ironic that the people who spend so much of their time and energy helping others often find it incredibly difficult to accept help themselves. Here’s what a couple caregivers said helped them with this:

“Being open to help. Recognizing I couldn’t do everything, and letting others share their gifts of time, meals and service to us. And finding the courage in myself to be specific in telling them what was needed.”

“Accepting help when it is offered! If you say no too many times, people will stop offering. Don’t feel guilty for taking some time for yourself. If you burn out, things will not be good for all involved!”

Some other ideas on this: Make a to-do list and recruit others to pitch in to help with meal planning, trips to the pharmacy, walking the dog, watering plants… everything that goes with your caregiver role. 

Taking Care of the Caregiver

Rosalynn Carter, prominent advocate of caregiving, famously stated that there are only four kinds of people in the world: Those who have been caregivers, those who are currently caregivers, those who will be caregivers, and those who will need caregivers. We hope these 14 tips not only help you manage the stress that comes along with supporting a loved one, but also serve as a reminder that you deserve the same amount of care that you give out every day.

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Take a Caregiver Stress Test

Taking a self-evaluation quiz can be yet another way to identify your level of stress. Try this free caregiver stress test to find out if your stress levels are normal, or if they’re becoming an issue.

Start a CaringBridge Site

CaringBridge is a nonprofit social network dedicated to helping family and friends communicate with and support loved ones during a health crisis through the use of free, personal websites. Could you or a loved one benefit from starting a CaringBridge site to keep family and friends informed and get the love, and support they need?

Don’t go through your health journey alone.

You can stay connected to friends and family, plan and coordinate meals, and experience love from any distance.

All of this is ready for you when you start your personal CaringBridge site, which is completely free of charge, ad-free, private and secure. Don’t spend another minute alone!

Please Share Your Favorite Stress-Relief Tips

We’d love to find out how you relieve stress. You can tell us (and CaringBridge users everywhere) about any tips and techniques you’ve used successfully and what advice you’d give to other caregivers. Comment with your ideas and stories below.

  • Kevin L. Sealy

    Does working in a job or career you enjoy reduce the risk of Alzheimer’s?

  • Lynn H

    Wow. I lived all of these and still do and feel many of them 7 months after my wife’s passing! Maybe I need to ash for help yet!!?? Great information!

  • Linda N.

    When I’m ready to pop my cork, I go sit on the porch and threaten to leave. I feel sleep deprived because I am awakened every 2 hours, all night

  • Christine

    Thank you so much for this encouraging information. I am an ER/ICU RN and my father has just had a heart attack and pneumonia and is back in the ER after less than 2 days in the nursing home. Feeling roll strain with being a nurse both at work and at home.

  • Kay Verdone

    I think I do a form of each of these suggestions. Altogether they work. Still sometimes it is overwhelming..My weak time is when we have Doctor appointments for my husband. that creates a surge of stress and emotion. any suggestions for dealing with this crisis point would be appreciated.

  • Donna Waguespack

    I found it helpful to read one Psalm a day, to look for one truth I could think about when the anxiety hit which it did, every day. If it was feelings of being alone in the situation I found plenty of verses that said I was not alone, God was with me and He knew what was happening and the stress it put on me. Replacing my anxious thoughts or panic with truth about a God set me free. I repeated this practice as many times during the day as was necessary. It was still hard but it helped.

  • Carol Mueller

    For seven years my husband, son and I lived with my mom at the age of 89 when the day after Christmas her health turned for the worse and I thought she was going to die, but God has a plan. We “oversaw” her life as she still has some mobility, some sight, some hearing and a whole lot of pride. Very stressful time as I was also dealing with my teenage son and the health problems he was having. Husband wasn’t working for two years out of that time and it was very stressful. Relied on only the Lord God. He is always faithful.
    In 2016 my mom out of the blue said she wanted to live with my sister in California. And in 3 months time she was there, but my sister is no “caregiver” type and did not want her lifestyle to change, so she put my mom in assisted living, which was decent and I had visited when she was there for 3 months. This year, she decided she wanted to come home to die. She is still doing pretty okay for 99 years. Her mobility, sight, hearing and dementia have gotten worse, but she is cared for by family now and the food is good. 🙂
    My sister sent me this website and I am very happy to have it and will make some good changes as my health was taking a toll, etc. I am 60 years old and have my own health issues that I have been dealing with for a few years.
    The dementia is what I am having the hardest time with. I’ve got to look for some help locally and in my church first. My son is not working and he has been a blessing to the max! He is forgetful with some things and has been using this ipod thing to write things down as I told him step by step what I do for my mom. Husband helps when he can.
    Got to take care of myself too!!

  • Deanna Mckeon

    I so appreciate the resources to support the caregiver. The most difficult job I have. Share more how to cope with the pain of watching your loved one slip away.

  • Leonard Thompson

    I wake up every day with two “anchors “ :
    Today I will love her better than I have ever loved her.
    Today we will see God’s glory

  • Mercy

    Thanks for sharing this useful information. I have learnt a lot as a care giver.

  • Mary

    Asking God to hold my hand and reading.

  • Scott

    Thank you. This is an excellent resource and encouragement. Thank you for the post.

  • Lin

    I like the breathe in God, breathe out stress exercise Janet wrote for us last February.
    I also find folding origami is perfect….you can bring paper in your pocket, tucked in a sock, get it from the trash, use tea bag wrappers, etc etc and work out complicated folds for fun animals or flowers or puzzles. Great for waiting rooms, bedsides, anywhere. And, you can get amazing instructions on the internet if you want. Gives you a whole different and FUN focus, relieving stress.

  • sandra arnlund

    thank you for sharing.

  • Pam

    Thanks for Sharing this, my Mom is the caregiver for my step-Dad. I sent this page to her and I will continue to read articles that are posted, Thanks : ()

  • Lynn

    Excellent info. Thanks!

  • Doris Godwin

    Great advice. Now to do it

  • AC Riley

    This is a very wise, calm article. The suggestions are doable, and seem like they would be helpful.

  • Linda Goodman

    Every good site to read!!

  • Yolanda Millan

    Music ? Is great to release stress !! Dance to music ? ….I am an 8 yr cancer survivor .gratitude ??

  • Larry Wong

    Begin with love in the heart.
    Life is impermanent.
    What is the problem?
    Face it. Accept it. Deal with it. Let it go.
    All things will pass.
    Be grateful.
    Be thankful.
    Always look positively for the silver lining.
    I cried because I had no shoes until I met a man who had no feet.
    Always have love in the heart.

  • Marilyn

    This is the best caregiver suggestion list I have ever read! – Very helpful!


    prayer helps

  • Nicole Sautter

    Hi there. My name is Nicole and I started (well signed up for) this journal for my boyfriends father today. Although I would like to say good things about the article I just read I have to say it is severely unrealistic. Jerry the man I car for every day has a cancerous brain tumor located in the center-most part of the brain. He is on chemotherapy as well as an IV drip therapy to hopefully eliminate the cancer. He has a right side weakness, severe short term memory loss, among other things. Jerry cannot be left alone in the house. There is just no way he would be self sufficient enough. His wife works full time and needs to as she is the only one who has a full time job which 6 people rely off of. His oldest son and my boyfriend works the night answering 911 calls for 12 hours. The house also has the kids who are both in school and their grandmother who also really should not be left alone. I am a full time college student studying to become an elementary school teacher. As much as I would love to just “take time for myself” the only time I have is to go to class. I am put in a position of voluntarily never leaving Jerry’s side. There is no way I can just leave Jerry to “Get Social” or “Eat Right” I am simply looking for a way to cope with having no time, not trying to leave Jerry for my own benefit.

  • Bhavesh

    Thanks sir for sharing this article

  • Vicki L Martinez

    My advice is to delegate other tasks as you can. Ask others to help you with running some errands, friends need to know that you need help. Ask for help what’s the worst that could happen? They might say no.
    I also suggest respite care when possible. Most insurances will pay for this service. Friend of the one being cared for could also come for a visit while you have coffee with a friend.

  • Tay

    I recently eared about Caretaker’s Stress Syndrome. I have cared for my Dad most recently and thank God is well and caring for himself. More importantly I’m learning about stress and it can come from a daycare job, family relationship issues or someone experiencing a bout of depression. Regardless, its so important to take time for yourself. I mean, after all who is gonna step up to take care of you.

  • Janet

    Breathe in God, Blow out Stress. Breathe in God through your nose for the count of 10 then Blow out stress through pierced lips to the count of 10. Repeat at least 3 times whenever you feel stressed or feeling overwhelmed or unable to sleep.

  • Suzanne Lauridsen

    Ty for the information. I’m in desperate need of a support group before I end up in the hospital. All the tips for me time were helpful. Funny but I don’t know what I enjoy anymore. I’ll try anything. Ty.

  • Mary

    Great article sadly at the end of each day caring for my dad with alzheimers i was drained , i could not wait to rest , not wnough hours in a day tocare for myself, i paid for it after his passing , would not trade the time for anything but time for me not to be had

  • Phyllis Lively

    I recently became a caregiver for my husband who has developed mouth cancer. I have an extended group of friends who are all ready to do anything. I’m like most “I can’t think of anything, except praying”… was my answer until one of my friends said, “why not ask for food gift cards”. Never thinking this way, it makes sense to me. While my husband is receiving radiation and chemo, I can run and grab a quick sandwich or take out meal. As he is on a feeding tube, I hate eating or cooking in front of him, just seems cruel. This gives me a short break and keep feeding my body to take care of him.

  • Jane Olson

    Not to be negative but I took care of parents for 10 years. Also worked full time and took care of our 2 children. So there was no time for exercise, meditation, support groups , etc. We had a little help come in here or there but couldn’t afford much help. My only sibling lived states away.
    I survived!

  • Alma Pesiri

    One of the most difficult issues I have may sound silly – but, here goes. When family or friends ask if there’s any way they can help, I’m often at a loss. Short of giving them keys to my house, and a list of chores, it just seems easier to do most myself. I know, I’m lucky to have help. But people need to help on their time schedule, which often takes up twice as much time for me. Does this make any sense? Ideas?

  • m

    Great article! Thanks for everything you offer.

  • C

    I have an adult son with schizophrenia, an adult daughter with an intellectual disability, and my husband has developed a life threatening illness so I have begun caring for him as well. I work full time to support this family. I am trying to get better at asking for help from friends and other family.

  • Mary C.

    This article was very interesting and helpful. My husband and I are care givers to our adult son that has struggled with mental illness for 15 years. With the right doctors and medication he is living as good a life as he could possibly achieve. it is a constant struggle for him but he strives to accomplish something each day. We are in our mid to upper 70’s and it is a concern that he will have loved ones around to help him in life. We have a loving family that will step in. His older brother took him on vacation for a week and we discovered how badly we needed the rest. He, his wife and children took him in for 10 days while we took a trip to visit our daughter in WA. It was a relief not to worry about him.
    We are learning to take time for our selves and others are helping us out. We are learning to take a break.

  • Carol ann

    Watching sermons on Utube.

  • Chris Kuntz

    I would grab my old “boom box”, comforting music CD (not dance music!), bubble bath (liquid, the salts take too long), vanilla scented candle, plastic head pillow for the tub. and robe/slippers. Off I’d go for a nice warm soak, door closed to leave the mess aside for a while, lights off and candle lit. My husband & teenage kids knew to leave me alone at this point. I was caring for my dying maternal grandmother at her home with Hospice. While her daughter, my mom, was in ICU for emergency bowel surgery. I would check to see that each was stable and that other family members were in attendance before I headed home for a little “my time”. It was necessary for me to be “sane” to manage all of that.

  • Marion Soch

    We watch the birds every day, fill their bird feeders. Watch for the wild turkeys coming into the yard, laughing at them how they run down the hill to get their feed and jump into the trees to get berries from the branches. We watch the news together and discuss the articles presented. I don’t stress out if the housework doesn’t get done..it will sometime! Same with the dishes, as my priority is taking time out to sit with my husband and exchange thoughts with each other, sometimes of days gone by or days to come. I take time to have a small garden of veggies, as I like the exercise it gives and I know what kind of food I am eating. We travel the highways in the Northwoods where we live and never cease at the amazement of God’s wonders of creation, the beautiful scenery and wild animals living among us. I believe just looking out of the window and realize just what is all out there, is in itself stress-relieving . I am a caregiver for my husband.

  • Madeleine

    Walking in nature, daily! Or even just going outside to photograph something new in your own yard, looking at the stars or moon and night sky each night before going to bed. It connects you with the entire universe and puts things in perspective. And fresh air is nice too.

  • With appreciation, Pat

    Hi, I just heard about this wonderful site. I want to say I hadn’t left my house since June. Just got a used treadmill so I can get some indoor exercise. My husband has been here at home in hospice since 3-17-17