If you’ve never been stressed, you’re a rare human being indeed. Caregivers, with all you do, know this well. So in this post, I’ll help you define what stress is, learn how to identify it in your life, and give you a few suggestions to manage it.
I’ll start by sharing two insights:
- If you don’t identify the problem, you can’t find a solution.
- While most people easily recognize the bigger negative stressors in their lives, they may overlook both positive events that lead to stress, and the more common “mundane” chronic stressors.
Stress is defined in the dictionary as “the reaction to a stimulus that disrupts or interferes with a person’s normal physiological equilibrium; any physical, mental, or emotional apprehension or unease”.
Basically, stress is anything that triggers your flight or fight response — your natural reaction to either escape the situation or stand fast and deal with it. It’s your ability to resolve stress-inducing challenges that determines your health in relation to stress management. If your body is constantly confronting unresolved challenges, you will begin to suffer from the effects to both your emotional and physical well-being.
Some Examples of Stress Triggers
- Any negative apprehensions you have about the day to come. Do you wake up dreading your work day, rush hour, anything else? Do you engage in negative self-talk? If so, you’re courting stress.
- Social interactions that can be positive or negative.
- Daily hassles such as what to wear and eat, how to deal with your kids, co-workers, boss, family and/or friends, and your lifestyle choices.
- Life events. Even “good” events like births and weddings can be stressors.
- False expectations. Expecting everything to happen instantly and be wonderful creates a big gap between expectation and reality. When reality doesn’t match up with your expectations, the only outcome is disappointment — and stress.
Journaling can Help You Manage Stress
Tips to get you started:
- Start to record all the stressors you encounter throughout each day.
- At the end of each week, go back and identify any patterns for the stressors you noticed.
- Note how they made you feel (angry, happy, guilty, etc.), whether there was any resolution (did you actually confront and deal with it or simply let it go?), and how you managed each stressful stimulus (did you cope by eating, drinking, sleeping, exercising or “other”?).
- Finally, summarize your observations in a journal entry.
Sometimes the best way to learn about journaling for stress relief is to dive right in and start a site.
Join the Conversation
If you’ve tried journaling to combat stress, we’d love to hear about your experience. Why did it work for you, or why didn’t it work? What else did you try? Please share your experiences and observations by leaving a comment below.
This is the second post in a series by stress and workplace conflict expert, Gregory Jones. His first post is titled “Three New Ways to Think About Stress.”