6 Helpful Ways to Cope with Loneliness
CaringBridge Staff | 06.20.23
Surgeon General Vivek Murthy’s office recently released a report titled “Our Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation: The U.S. Surgeon General’s Advisory on the Healing Effects of Social Connection and Community,” after nearly half of U.S. adults reported experiencing measurable levels of loneliness.
If someone can go through their daily routines and still feel lonely, imagine if you were placed into a situation that isolated you from your routine and previous lifestyle – for example, becoming a caregiver for a loved one.
Many family caregivers (around 40-70%) experience symptoms of depression, two of which are isolation and loneliness. These feelings are commonly due to feeling isolated and withdrawn throughout the caregiving process.
Impact of Loneliness
Whether or not you are a family caregiver, loneliness can have a significant impact on your life. For some, it may take a toll on your physical health – by means of higher blood pressure due to stress or even physical pain. Some caregivers trying to cope with loneliness turn to food – a form of stress management – which can lead to weight gain.
Loneliness is unique to everyone. Everyone can feel it, but often experience it in different ways. Some may experience physical symptoms, while in others it can manifest by affecting their mental health.
Common symptoms of loneliness that affect mental health are withdrawal and depression. Caregivers that feel lonely often describe the impacts of loneliness taking their focus off of work, their families or responsibilities outside of their duty to care for a loved one.
How to Cope with Loneliness
There are many ways to help you cope with loneliness. We turned to our favorite experts, our CaringBridge community and their loved ones, to share their best tips.
1. Spend Time with Those Who Love You
Spending time with friends and loved ones can be incredibly healing. Quality time can mean more to someone coping with loneliness than you might realize.
“Please don’t be afraid to take your friends up on their offers to help you. The offers are sincere and they will feel good helping you.”
Christine G.S.
2. Spend Time with Your Community by Volunteering
On the days when you don’t feel like social interaction, but are feeling the pangs of loneliness – try and volunteer your time. One popular option is spending time at a local animal shelter. Giving back to people in your community can help you find more meaning in life, and as a result, can decrease feelings of loneliness.
3. Find a Support Group
Whether online or in person, support groups can be an incredible resource for coping with loneliness. There, you can connect with people that can relate to your situation and even form strong friendships.
“Join a support group. I’ve been in a group for over two years. It’s the best thing I ever did for myself. It’s helped me out a lot, and everyone in our group are terrific and wonderful people.”
Dee H.
“Support groups, even online ones. I didn’t do that for years and I wish I would have!! I’ve made such great friendships and the support from those in the same circumstances who truly understand is AWESOME.”
Maria E.
4. Start a CaringBridge Site
CaringBridge is a safe place for stories to be told. You can share your journey with your family and friends, as well as find resources that can help you cope with loneliness or other feelings you may experience throughout a caregiving role.
“Start a CaringBridge site! You would not believe, near and far, how many loving, supportive people are out there, eager to follow your health journey and give you tons of love and strength. You cannot feel lonely or isolated once you’ve started reading your “followers” comments and noticing how many are visiting your site regularly!”
Bobby X.
5. Look for External Resources
Having a supportive network of family, friends and community can be massively helpful when coping with loneliness. However, sometimes in order to cope with loneliness, it helps to have external resources available to you as well.
“In addition to a CaringBridge site, look for patient/caregiver resources related to the situation you’re facing: organizations such as the American Cancer Society, Alzheimer’s Association, March of Dimes, etc. can have great resources.”
Andra S.T.
Here’s a list of caregiver support groups that may be helpful.
6. Be Open to Kindness from Others
Whether you’re experiencing loneliness, or you’re helping a loved one cope with loneliness, kindness really can go a long way. Keep an open heart and accept love from those around you.
“Everyone deserves to feel compassion from others!”
Sharon L.
You Don’t Have to Be Lonely
Feeling lonely is temporary – it’s not a permanent state. Reaching out to your family and friends for support when you need it or spending time with your community are all ways to cope with loneliness in a healthy way.
Have you ever experienced loneliness? We would love to hear your tips for coping with loneliness that you found successful. Please share your tips and ideas below.
Yes, these are all good suggestions IF you have friends & family. Most people who are lonely DON’T have these resources. I even tried to volunteer at a local animal shelter and they’re not accepting volunteers at this time due to covid. If I didn’t have counseling once a week, I wouldn’t have any face-to-face contact. I’ve struggled with depression for YEARS and loneliness just makes it way worse.
My only friend IRL moved to another state the day my father passed. I dont have any other friends other than those online. THEY have always been there for me and it helps but when they have to go back to their lives, that leaves me alone again to my own thoughts which deepen that loneliness. Im a super sensitive person that cares about everyone else. This loneliness is unbearable and it started with caregiving. My family pretty much shut me out because if they had me to look after my mom, they didnt have to deal with either of us. That is a pretty messed up way to treat anyone. I cared for her for thirteen years and it only got worse as the years went on. We lost her in September, just weeks ago and the feelings of loneliness only got worse. Who do i reach out to now?
There isn’t anyone to reach out to, friends or otherwise. No one wants to be around a schizophrenic. They hear Schizo and run for the door. I don’t get to go to work, or drive, so I can’t go places to try and talk to people. The boredom, tedium, endless and onging days of gray. No one wants what I have, I’m just not good enough. I wasn’t born with the right brain.
These are all good, until your alone again, what then? Lol.
nobody care for me. my dad hathed so much.
Hi, this is a great idea. In case someone wants to to start a table game group, I am open, I am 53 y/ o christian woman. I love table games and we can give company and pray for each other. Also, in case someone wants to learn Spanish, I tutor. I have education and experience. I can teach your children and adults and help with homework and tutoring. O lost my job and I can help on many ways. I am level 2 certified to work with children and elderly. I also have training on many topics and Counseling and Case Management experience, among other things. I can do errands, take you to appointments and give you companionship.
Excellent suggestions. We have have been the recipients of Christian love the last few weeks and will be in the weeks to come.
If I had loved ones friends and family to do these with …then I wouldn’t be lonely
Don’t agree with reach people should reach out to their family – families are often the reason why people are lonely because family don’t bother with them nor do they want to know anything about them or have time for them