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10 Tips to Prevent Caregiver Role Strain

There’s no way around it. Caregiving is one of the most rewarding responsibilities and a true act of love and devotion to a loved one. But it is also one of the most challenging and stressful responsibilities a family member or friend can take on. In this article, we cover the symptoms and causes of caregiver role strain, as well as 10 insightful tips to help you manage and overcome it. 

What is caregiver role strain? 

Symptoms

Causes

Tips for caregivers

Caregiver resources

What is Caregiver Role Strain?

A caregiver is a person who steps up to take care of a family member, friend or paying client when they are ill, elderly, disabled, or otherwise unable to take care of themselves. For most caregivers, it is a core value to be there for a loved one when they need you. While there are few responsibilities more rewarding than being a caregiver, it can also be very overwhelming. 

Caregiver role strain is when the caregiver feels they may not be able to perform their job adequately because of financial burdens, increased responsibility, a change in family life, or a role change. The feeling is completely normal, and a common reaction to a really stressful situation. 

Caregiver role strain may be the precursor to caregiver stress, and the more severe caregiver burnout, though many of the symptoms overlap.

Symptoms

Caregiver role strain can manifest both physically and emotionally, and the symptoms may vary from person to person. As a caregiver, it’s very important to keep an eye on these symptoms to avoid long-term more serious effects. 

Physical Signs of Caregiver Role Strain

  • Insomnia or not enough sleep
  • Too much sleep
  • Chronic tiredness and exhaustion
  • Change in appetite
  • Crying easily and often
  • Low or no sex drive
  • Gaining or losing weight
  • Having frequent headaches, bodily pain
  • Abusing drugs or alcohol to cope

Mental and Emotional Signs of Caregiver Role StrainClaire Schwab with friend.

  • Becoming easily Irritable or angry
  • Social withdrawal
  • Loss of interest in hobbies
  • Loss of interest in sex
  • Feeling worthless or guilty
  • Trouble concentrating 
  • Moodiness
  • Feeling overwhelmed or constantly worried

An example of caregiver role strain could be worrying about how to afford your loved one’s care or feeling grief over suddenly having to take care of a parent who once took care of you.

A lot of the physical and emotional symptoms of caregiver role strain are similar to depression, anxiety, or other mental health disorders. If you or a loved one is experiencing caregiver role strain symptoms, it’s important that you talk to your doctor about ways to ease your symptoms. There are medications, holistic remedies, therapies, and more that are designed to help.

Causes of Caregiver Role Strain

Caregiver role strain is a normal reaction to being under a lot of stress and pressure from taking responsibility for someone you love. Common causes of caregiver strain include financial burdens, increased responsibility, a change in family life, or a role change. 

The financial stressors of caregiving are extremely common. Caregiving-related expenses cost a family on average $6,954 out-of-pocket, a year. That’s 20% of a household’s average annual income. With these added expenses, most caregivers report that they spend less money on their own leisure activities or vacations, further increasing the risk of caregiver role strain. 

The increased responsibility at home can also cause role strain, especially if the caregiver is working a full-time job outside of the home. Nearly 60% of caregivers have a job outside the home. While it is such an important responsibility, caregiving is often added to other roles that the caregiver also plays in the family. 

A change in family life or role change is also a common cause. It can be disorienting, sad, or stressful to be in a situation where you are caring for an older sibling, or parent, that used to take care of you. 

Additional Risk-Factors

In addition to the common causes of caregiver role strain, here are some additional factors that may put you more at risk. These include: 

  • Being female
  • Living with the person you are caring for
  • Social isolation
  • Preexisting mental health issues like depression
  • Financial difficulties
  • Lack of choice in being a caregiver

10 Tips for Managing Caregiver Role Strain

The good news is, there are a lot of ways to manage caregiver role strain. Because when you are able to manage these symptoms, not only can you show up for your loved one, but you can show up for yourself. You matter, too. 

1. Stay Organized

Between appointments, trips to the store, making dinner, going into work – life can get away from you pretty fast.

Start each day with a to-do list, or block out time in your calendar to get the top priorities done. That way you will feel like you have some direction and control. Be flexible, and don’t sweat if you have to adjust each day. 

Keeping a calendar, budget, grocery list, and book of different passcodes (there are so many “patient portals” to log in to these days!) will help you regain a little sanity in your everyday life.

2. Focus on What You Are Able to Provide

You don’t have all the answers, and sometimes there are limits to what you can do to help. Set realistic goals for yourself. This is not to say don’t be optimistic or hopeful! But find the things you know you can provide.

For instance, you may be able to offer a warm meal each night, an afternoon walk or helping them get dressed in the morning. On the other hand, ask for help for the things you know you can’t provide, such as injections, physical therapy, or lifting them into bed.

3. Build a Caregiver Support Team

They say it takes a village to raise a child, and caregiving is no different. It’s easy to feel like everything is up to you when it’s just you and your loved one in the home. But you are not alone. 

Form a care team! Find ways to loop in other family or friends. It will take some of the strain and responsibility off you, and it can help them know they still have a place in their loved one’s life. 

Tip: Our free CaringBridge online health journal allows you to update everyone at once, so all your loved ones are on the same page. Our on-site Planner helps you coordinate tasks like bringing meals, rides to doctor appointments, or taking care of pets, which can help take some of the strain off of you.

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4. Seek Respite Care

Consider adding to your support team to get you and your loved one the help you need. If you’re financially able, there are a few respite care options available.

A home healthcare aide comes in to provide medical assistance, companionship, or both. There are different adult care centers or programs for care during the day. Some nursing or care facilities offer short term stays so that you can take the vacation you need, knowing your loved one is in good hands. 

5. Apply For a Leave From Your Out-of-Home Job

Caregiver role strain can be much more intense when you are balancing caregiving with childcare, and a full-time job. If you are an employee covered under the federal Family and Medical Leave Act, you might be able to take up to 12 weeks of unpaid leave a year to care for your relative. Contact your human resource office for options. 

6. Find Caregiving Teachers and Support Groups

Caregiving is an old practice, dating back to the beginning of human history. There are many great caregivers that have gone before you and will come after you.

There are a number of resources available to make you feel more connected and involved in the caregiving community. Consider joining a support group or reading a great book about caregiving to help you feel less alone, and learn how to take care of yourself and your loved one the best way you can.

“I joined a support group for dementia caregivers that met in the evening once a month. That was so helpful, because I learned we had similar stories, each being unique, but offering each other encouragement knowing we were not alone, and even at times offered suggestions on how to deal with tough circumstances that may have come up during the month. I also attended an annual caregiver seminar workshop held once a year. That, too, was very helpful.”

Betty A.

7. Reach Out to Your Spiritual or Faith Community

Having a strong spiritual life, or believe in a higher power, or God is often a balm. Many caregivers find it helpful to set aside time to pray or meditate, engage with their faith community by attending worship services, or draw strength from a high power. 

“It takes a power stronger than us to get us through the tough times.”

Margret C.

“I cared for my parents for 11 years. My Mom spent the last 5 in a nursing home. She had Alzheimer’s, diabetes, congestive heart failure and cracked vertebrae. My Dad or I couldn’t lift her. My Dad went to see her 2 times every day until he died. I went every day after work and on weekends. My saving grace was my husband and kids. And by the grace of God I made it through it all. They say God doesn’t give you more than you can handle. At times you have to wonder.”

Phebe P.

8. Take Care of Your Own Health

When someone else’s health is in more immediate need than your own, it’s easy to prioritize theirs over yours. But your physical and mental health is more important than ever when someone else is counting on you. 

Take time every day, even if it’s only 15 minutes, to go on a walk or exercise. Make sure you are able to get 7-9 hours of sleep each night and are fueling your body with good foods. You may be going to the doctor frequently for your care recipient, but don’t forget to make time for your own appointments. 

9.Make Time For Yourself

It may start to feel like you are living for someone else. It’s important for your mental well-being to recognize your identity outside of caregiving.

Find a way to make time for your own hobbies, like reading, knitting, painting, practicing an instrument, going to concerts, going wine tasting, or listening to music. For more ideas on how to improve your well-being, check out these 25 self-care tips for caregivers.

10. Get Out of The House

Lastly, take the time to get out of the house. Head outside and smell the fresh air. Have phone calls with friends and family. If you can, get out once a week for a meal or happy hour, or join a virtual meetup with friends. Stay connected to the people in your life that offer non-judgmental emotional support. 

“My husband had early-onset FTD dementia and died at 65 from a sudden heart attack. However, prior to that, I worked full time and cared for him as well. When he was unable to be left home alone, I was able to place him into an adult daycare. My daughter would pick him up and take care of him at closing until I was off work. With the help of my children, who cared for my husband as needed, I was able to meet with friends for dinner following work as my short R&R.”

Betty A.

Taking Care of the Caregiver

It was Nancy Kriseman, author of The Mindful Caregiver: Finding Ease in the Caregiving Journey, who wrote, “My caregiver mantra is to remember: The only control you have is over the changes you choose to make.” It’s easy to feel out of control when you’re responsible for your loved one’s health and well-being. 

But there is a lot you can do to honor and thank yourself for all the selfless work you are doing. Deep breaths. 

“It’s not an easy thing, but love prevails.”

Nancy P.

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