Today was a big day for Tory. He was breathing enough on his own to be taken off of the ventilator this morning. The tube was taken out. He did great. They also put a feeding tub down his nose for nutrition and pain meds. He was disoriented and in a lot of pain, but it was under control by about 2 this afternoon. He hadn’t tried to speak yet, but would follow commands. I rubbed his feet today, and played music and sang to him. <div>I had requested that there be no visitors for these procedures were scary and uncertain. I mostly didn’t want any of the kids to come again until we knew more and could properly prepare them. </div><div>This afternoon I was met with an officer who handed me emergency guardianship papers that his mother had signed by a judge. Tory and I had been having issues within our marriage prior to his accident. That being said, I am still his wife. We live in the same residence, own and run a business together. Neither of us has done any legal separation of any kind. So how this is possible while he has a spouse is beyond me. I have nothing but Tory’s best interest at heart. The financial strain that will be a result, will no doubt be my responsibility. I am not allowed to see him or receive any information on his condition or progress. I am beyond devastated and pray that he is able to speak very soon and express his wishes. And no matter what they are, I will honor them. Just please keep sending all the healing energy you have to Tory, and maybe a smidge to me for my sanity. I’m struggling to hold on. Also for my kids. Shylo was 4 when we met, and is now 13. Charity was 7.  They don’t remember him not being part of their lives, and are having a very hard time understanding why someone they call Grandma, would do something so cruel to us. My heart is so broken right now. </div><div>I have been constantly reassuring Tory that I was there, and that I would make sure he had the best care. And he was still so disoriented this afternoon, that I’m not sure what he understood. I had to say goodbye while an officer waited to escort me out. I told Tory that I had to leave for a bit, and would be back as soon as I can. And I know he can feel my presence, no matter the distance. Thank you to all who have our best interests at heart.      Jess </div>

Tory Moch

Update: April 30, 2021 – by Jessica Moch