From Sarah McCarty, a close friend of Sonja's:
Hello friends,
I'm sending this in hopes of getting support for Sonja, Kajsa & baby Max. Kajsa is in Tallulah's girl scout troop and in 3rd grade at Oceanview.
Sonja just called me, in a few minutes they are turning off her longtime partners life support. She is absolutely devastated. As most of you know, Sonja had Max only 9 weeks ago. In addition to Chris getting sick, Max is currently recovering from surgery at Oakland Children's hospital.
Bit of the story- Tuesday night baby Max had surgery to correct some floppy tissue in the back of his throat. While at the hospital, Chris started to feel sick so went home. He called Sonja at 3am and told her he was really sick and wasn't making much sense. He was mumbling and eventually stopped talking. She assumed he fell asleep. She got worried because he did not answer the phone so left the baby at the hospital and went home. She found him on the floor, barely responsive. He went to the ER in the middle of the night, where he's been since. Sonja called me Wednesday afternoon crying, Chris had taken a turn for the worst and was on life support. He contracted a bacteria, they think is meningitis, but he is too weak to get a spinal tap to know for sure. He's been on life support since then at Kaiser Oakland, while the baby is recovering at Oakland Children's.
I've been helping out with the baby at the hospital, he is going to be discharged today to a home without his dad, a dad who was over the moon in love with him. With all of this devastation, there's more-Sonja is in danger of losing her housing at the village if she doesn't stay enrolled in her classes. As a full time student, she now is about to be a single mom of an 8 year old & 9 week old baby-and has the burden of life's financial realities to come home to. Today she had to give away Chris' two rescue dogs that were part of the family and has had zero sleep/shower/food.
It's just so shocking. Last night as I was holding Max, I could not stop thinking about a conversation I had with (a perfectly healthy) Chris just Monday night. He was telling me Max was finally starting to regularly smile and how he couldn't wait to see him hold the leash on walks with the dogs and roll around on the grass with them.
It's just so unfair. I love this family so much, words just cannot describe how difficult life is for Sonja right now and what a completely helpless feeling it is to watch unfold.
Please, please, please consider donating to help get Sonja through this difficult time. Simple things like food, gas, Kajsa's swimming/piano lessons, everyday things she is going to struggle to pay without Chris. For the time being, until she can figure things out, it would be great if you can help.
Her paypal is-
https://www.paypal.me/sonjadavison (
https://www.paypal.me/sonjadavison)
Give your families a big cuddle tonight. It's scary how quickly life can change.
Lots of love,
Sarah
