The Portland Headlight in Portland, ME, 2015.

Shelley Hardeman

First post: Dec 15, 2017 Latest post: Feb 18, 2019
Every story has a beginning and an end.  So here is how my story begins.

I coulda, shoulda, woulda:  I could have called the doctor to move up my yearly appointment, I should have had my mammo a couple months early when I felt something, but it wouldn't have changed the outcome.  December 6, 2017 is the day that changed my and my family’s life forever.  After having a mammogram, ultrasound and biopsy, I get the news I didn’t expect to hear …I was diagnosed with breast cancer.  The calls we had to make to my son and daughter, Mom & Dad, sister, brother/sister-in-law were so hard.  Some friends and coworkers from Landmark Bank and Westminster College were told early on.  The first day or so was such a blur.  That it wasn’t just a cyst; that I was now the one in eight women to be diagnosed with this terrible disease.  I have since had an MRI and PET scan which states that I have invasive lobular carcinoma on the right side, stage 3, tumor is 7 cm and in 5 lymph nodes.  The positive news is that it hasn’t spread anywhere else!  If they can squeeze me in to get a cardio echo early this week I will get my port on 12/20 and begin chemo on 12/21.  I will have a chemo drug of AC every two weeks for 4 treatments followed by a T drug of weekly treatments for 12 weeks (for you breast cancer survivors, you will know what that means).  I’m still learning all these medical terms.  After that there will be surgery, hormone therapy and radiation.  It will be a long road, but we will get through this and I will beat this!!

I decided to post this on Facebook to avoid the awkwardness of possibly seeing you at the store in the coming weeks and I look different.  To all of my coworkers who I talk to on the phone everyday…how could I just say this during our conversation?  Or why I’m gone from work because usually I’m never sick?  I figured if people knew, then there would that much more positive thoughts, prayers, and good vibes to help get me through this.  I will need my family’s and friends’ strength to help get me through the bad days.  To help keep me laughing on days when I don’t feel like being silly and goofy like I normally am.  From here on out this CaringBridge site will be the location for updates and I will keep my Facebook posts positive and upbeat. 

I appreciate your love, prayers, positive thoughts more than you’ll know!  Together, we are going to get through this and kick cancer's butt!!


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