"Mountain Man and His Lady. " That's what Roger and I have become to be known as , and with good reason. I call him my Mountain Man. He was tall, dark and handsome! An Outdoorsman. Strong and Smart and had a gentle hand and heart toward me and my children. When he asked me to marry him, I immediately said YES! and we began planning to grow old together. On February 9th, 2017 Roger went in for a CT scan to find the location of the kidney stone that was causing him such pain. During that CT scan, they found the kidney stone, but also Stage 4 Colon Cancer that had metastasized to his lymph nodes, "many" is what our family Doctor told us, I later realized "many" really meant too many to count. . Roger 's updated medical diagnosis is Metastatic Colon Cancer. It has most recently metastasized to his 3 areas in his spine and 2 more in his hip. Because of the location of the tumors in his spine, Roger is no longer able to work. He cannot lift anything over 5-10 pounds, due to the weakened areas in his spine, as it could result in a fracture or possible paralysis. These limitations are difficult adjustments for my hardworking and dedicated husband. He will say it was easier for him to deal with the fact that he has cancer, than to be told he had to quit his job and not be able to work ever again. One is the physical aspect, the other is the mental aspect, and then there is the "provide for my family" struggle . Currently, Roger receives 3 "heavy hitter" chemo drugs, 5 hours at the clinic and then 46 hours continuous by port, every other week. It takes a big toll on him.
Mountain Man is still strong in his spirits and his faith. He often will say" I do not know if God will choose to heal me on this side of heaven or not, but I just want to encourage someone else going through something hard and let them know there is a way to get through it., " I just want to make someone some one smile everyday" and that shouldn't be hard, He has made me smile everyday for the last 21 years.
Though our diagnosis is tough, and I do say "ours" because from the day we said " I do, in sickness and in health, till death do us part" when either of us suffers, the other suffers too. I am heartbroken about the inevitable , but confident and encouraged by the God who brought us together, will carry us both through.. Our God remains FAITHFUL, He is STILL on THE THRONE, AND He is STILL GOOD! No matter the outcome .. Healing or Returning Home ... EITHER way, Roger wins.