Patrick Roy

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Patricks health has been in a steady decline starting with bad knees in June of 2016.  He was constantly in pain throughout the summertime when mom was being treated for COPD.  In August, mom passed away, and Patricks health was still involving a lot of pain in his knees and shoulders.  In November, we moved Patrick into Dads house to take care of him.  Dad is battling early stages of Alzheimers now.  Having Patrick move into the home with dad was the best thing ever for both of them.  Patrick has always been very patient and caring for our parents.  In November, Thanksgiving time, I (jeff) came down to work on Patricks house to get it ready to rent.  This would help both Patrick and dad emotionally to be together.  We were able to get Patrick's house rented so that took a lot of pressure off of him.  Patricks knees were really painful and his mobility was very limited in November and December.  January 1st, Patrick went to the ER about his shoulder.  Xrays of his left shoulder found a "lump" out of the upper arm about 6 cm.  Patrick went home but was back at the ER in severe pain of the left shoulder.  MRI was then performed and  the lump turned out to be a tumor, 13 cm long, and it caused Patricks clavical (collar bone) to crack under pressure.  Patrick was sent home while the doctors tried to figure out what was going on in his shoulder.  January 13/14, Patrick was then given a MRI body scan over his left arm of shoulder to hip.  This is when the doctors found multiple tumor growths in his body.  Patrick has tumors on all vital organs, bones, spine, ribs, blood, lymph nodes and colon.  The tumors were growing and spreading throughout his entire body aggressively.  Patrick was admitted into the Sunrise Hospital for more testing.  Patrick called me to inform me of the situation and asked if I could come be with him and to look after dad.  I left the next day to come for a visit to see what was going on.  When I laid my eyes upon Patrick in the hospital bed, I was shocked.  He was is so much pain.  He was absolutely miserable and hurting.  There was nothing I could do but offer comfort and support.  The doctors, his primary care and oncologist, came by to visit.  Brutal truth's came out.  Patrick's cancer is everywhere.  The doctor's have given Patrick 3 -6 months to live.  I could not believe this and I refused to believe this.  They hadn't even done the biopsy of his tumors to have such opinions.  A biopsy was performed a few days later on a lymph node in his leg.  5 days later the results was cancer of the colon.  The doctors then ordered a colonoscopy for Patrick.  (Patrick has never had one done before and he is 54 yrs old).
The colonoscopy found large tumors in his colon, some were creating minor blockage.  Doctors have recommended Patrick for a colostomy bag (bodily waste empty into a pouch outside of his body).   Patrick would need a cardiologist to examine him to make sure this procedure wouldn't kill him.   On Monday, January 30, Patricks kidneys were infected and not functioning properly.  Cardiologist can not recommend any examination until his kidneys and blood counts are better.  The Gastro -Interologist is not comfortable on operating on Patrick unless he is 100% better.  Patrick has jaundice coloring of the skin (yellowing).  Patrick is retaining a lot of fluid in his body.  He is still in a lot of pain.
Today, we learned that there is nothing left for the doctors to do for Patrick.  Patrick will be discharged into a "in-patient" hospice facility.  Patrick will be needing 24 hour care with heavier pain medications that he cant receive at home.  Our goal has always been to bring Patrick home to family.  We have been busy making preparations for his return.  I still hope he may come home.  But we are looking at facilitys on Thursday, Feb 2.  Patrick is the best brother, friend and most importantly, human being I had ever known.  He has always cared about others.  Patrick has had to battle his own demons alone for most of his life.  He moved from Fremont to Henderson in 2007 to be able to take care of our parents when needed.  2016 was a miserable year for the Roy Ohana.  Jeff has aortic valve replacement in Feb, Patrick's best friend, Butch, dies of cancer in June/July, Mom passes away in August,  Dad has hernia operation in December, Jeff has a Pulmonary Embolism in December!  Brutal....thank god that year ended.  Patrick and I both joked about this!  2017 was going to be our year to live large and maybe Patrick and dad would go on a trip to hawaii to relax....I would go also !!  Well that story was short lived to say the least.
Patrick is in a real battle that he can not win.  But, he will have the comfort and knowledge to go out on his own terms.  Patrick knows what is happening to him and expects to die.  We are providing everything he wants or needs at this time.  Patrick would love to hear from all of his family and friends.  Patrick cannot handle phone calls at this time but would enjoy receiving texts messages from you.  I have set up this webpage to allow everyone to offer any positive vibes for Patrick.  Stories, tall tales, keep it all PG for sure.  If you have any photos you would like to share, I will post them onto the website unless you know how to do it.  It is also important to reach out to Dad.  He is taking this very hard as we all are.  Please keep Patrick in your prayers everyday.  I would change places in a heartbeat for him right now to keep him here with Dad.  May God empower us with strength and compassion to look over us and guide us through this difficult journey.  May he welcome Patrick with the angles above and to bring Patrick and Kate together once again.  Amen.