John 14:27 “Peace I leave with you. My peace I give to you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Your heart must not be troubled or fearful."
Hello to our Friends & Family, to all who know & love my mom, Pat Jones. It's with a very heavy heart that I, and my Aunt Joyce (best sister ever) share this story with you now. Back in October of last year, Joyce moved back to Colorado to live with her sister. They had planned this for sometime, talking of trips they could make, days going to Blackhawk for a little Lady Luck, and enjoying the opportunity to "shop till you drop" and do some fine dining, a treasured Defoe tradition. Shortly after Joyce got here, mom had started not feeling well and, as she would tell us, just felt tired and "off." She called me one day from the store and told me it was time to see the doctor, she just didn't feel right.
We visited with her doctor and got testing done. She was repeating herself regularly and forgetting things quickly. After her MRI, it was determined that she had had a stroke at some time in the previous 4-6 weeks. The stroke was not the typical stroke, this one affected her lower brain which affects her temperature controls and her short term memory. She began to live into that diagnosis and dealt with it as she does everything else in life.....head on!
The weeks have gone by, the holidays passed and by the beginning of January, she was feeling poorly, not sleeping well, and began to get sick. On January 14th I had her taken to the hospital by the paramedics because she had been sick and her blood pressure had risen; I didn't want to take a chance that it would trigger another stroke. After several hours, a chest xray, a scan of her stomach, a bag of hydration and in the wee hours of the morning, I got her home safely into bed because all symptoms subsided and the tests came back normal.
She was restless and still didn't feel well over the weekend, and that following Tuesday, January 19th, I had her transported to Littleton Adventist Hospital again because she was sick and not able to get out of bed. The wonderful staff at LAH jumped into action since she was brought in again and took a deeper dive into testing so that they could get to the core of her illness. There was a Covid-19 test, x-rays, CT's, blood tests and MRI's. No Covid, no stomach issues, but tragically, a brain tumor was found. A biopsy of that tumor was done on the 21st and we have since learned that it is a grade 4, high grade glioblastoma, in other words, a fast spreading tumor. We have worked closely with the excellent staff at LAH, as well as Rocky Mountain Cancer Center, and it has been determined that the tumor is inoperable because of it's placement in the brain and she has gotten weaker and weaker each day to be able to withstand radiation & chemo and tests have shown that her body would not likely benefit from treatment at this point.
Joyce and I visit her every, single day. Only one of us can visit each day due to Covid. She's had decent days and some not so good. She is confused , but still knows us, it's just that sometimes her brain cannot put together all the details and a lot of her short term memory is sketchy, and even gone. But lately we have had very pleasant visits with her, but we can see she is tired, she is weary and her body is weakening. She is having difficulties swallowing and conversations are scattered, but we know her well enough to know what she is saying and we enjoy every single solitary moment we have with her. She still has her sense of humor when politics comes on the tv and makes appropriate gestures to show her thoughts on the world, bless her heart!!!
In keeping with what my mother's wishes have always been, we are moving her into a wonderful hospice tomorrow to be taken care of in the style and with the love she has earned and so deserves. This decision has not been easy or without tears, but is being made with love for this beautiful woman. Her other wish was for us to take care of her precious JoJo & Roxy, and we have showered them with love and kept them happy and tell them about our visits with her daily.
We will continue to visit her daily, and we are able to visit more often and for longer periods. We welcome your cards, blessings & warm wishes which we will share with her everyday. You may send them to her & Joyce’s home at 6607 Jackson Lane, Highlands Ranch CO 80130.
We love each and everyone of you for your love, your compassion and support as we travel this journey with this glorious, beautiful lady, my mom, Pat Jones.