Melissa Winterman MelissaWinterWoman

First post: 5/7/2016 Latest post: 5/10/2016
Dear Friends & Family;

Ever wonder why I have become a bitter recluse? Other than the fact that I may, or may not be a far less a attractive version of a Boulder Opal, brain-wise, the following may be (a small part) of the reason.

[!!!WARNING!!! COVER ANY CHILDREN'S EYES IN THE ROOM , WHO HAVE YET TO BE JADED.  LET THEM TRESURE THAT, WHILE IT LASTS.  YOU HAVE BEEN FOREWARNED.  !!!WARNING!!!]

Daily [Work] To-Do List:

• Clean my room.
• Lay out my Mom’s clothes for the day, after checking the day’s weather report.
• Get mom’s breakfast. If I have time, make Michael breakfast. If I still have time, grab a fruit or a small yogurt.
• Check mom’s agenda book, then fix mine to match mom’s.
• Check messages on the home phone, mom’s phone and my phone, including texts.
• Wake mom, prior appointments. Since I have work, try to wake Michael.
• Leave for work.
• Catch the R.T.S. bus.
• Arrive at work.
• Depending on the time of day, clean the (whole) Fitting Room, or do a basic job (for me).
• As the day progresses, greet customers with a smile, help them, as much as possible, pick up after customers, organize clothing after zipping, buttoning and tying clothes, along with properly sizing them. Put away dresses and lingerie, if your area is not busy. Make sure the surrounding area is as clean as possible, when it isn’t busy, from the fitting room, all the way to luggage, beauty, luggage and lingerie.
• At the end of the night, pick up all items you find on the floor, dust everything, Swiffer the floor, sweep the floor, clean all of the mirrors, clean the surfaces and mop if you have a chance, between helping customers.
• Take the remaining clothes that have not been recovered, at put them in their proper places. Then put any other items you have found in the fitting room where they belong.
• Give the damages and fitting room keys to the manager.
• Clean store, until 9:45 PM, or when you leave.
• Leave for the bus.
• Catch the bus.
• Arrive home, to find a mess. Proceed to clean up after Michael. When done, make a snack for yourself.
• Put the dishes in the sink.
• Lie in bed, and hope that you actually get to sleep tonight for 2 hours. 2 hours would be heavenly. Knowing my luck, I won’t sleep more than 30 minutes.
• Wake up after 30 minutes.
• Give up on sleep after tossing and turning for the next two hours.
• Proceed to do Michael’s chores.
• At dawn, quietly take a 5 minute shower, dress, and go start breakfast for Mom.
• Start all over.

Daily [Off-Work ]To-Do List

• Clean my room.
• Lay out Mom’s clothes for the day, after checking the day’s weather report.
• Get mom’s breakfast. If I have time, make Michael breakfast. If I still have time, grab a fruit or a small yogurt.
• Check mom’s agenda book, then fix mine to match mom’s. Check messages on the home phone, mom’s phone and my phone, including texts.
• Wake mom, whether for appointments. If I have work, try to wake Michael.
• Leave for appointments.
• On the way to her appointment, pray she doesn’t get in an accident, and play backseat driver, while she reprimands you.
• Bring up hearing-aids, for the third time, today.
• Listen to doctors and ask questions, accordingly.
• After having at least the one appointment for the day (whether with an at-home nurse, at-home PT, at-home OT, her dentist, one of her many doctors, an unscheduled hospital visit, or something else,) proceed to next visit. That failing;
• Proceed to home, where mom can rest and relax, while I make her lunch, get something from the fridge or freezer that I made a while ago, or order something.
• Frustrated, mention hearing aids again, for the 15 time, today. Throat starting to hurt and head-ache has reached 50 percent capacity, while stress is at 70 percent.
• Bring up her requested food and drink that I either made or bought.
• Start on chores (laundry, vacuum, sweep, dust, dishes, etc.).
• Start on dinner, unless she wants me to order something.
• Text Michael to do something, in the vain hope that I will get some help in life.
• Realize, once again, that I am turning into a bitter hag far before my time.
• When Michael gets home, present him with his dinner, which h complain about.
• After he goes up, clean up after him
• Lie in bed, and hope that you actually get to sleep tonight for 2 hours. 2 hours would be heavenly. Knowing my luck, I won’t sleep more than 30 minutes.
• Wake up after 30 minutes.
• Give up on sleep after tossing and turning for the next two hours.
• Proceed to do Michael’s chores.
• At dawn, quietly take a 5 minute shower, dress, and go start breakfast for Mom.
• Start all over.




Don't worry, I glossed over at least 50% of my day-to-day activities.  Actually, that was an exaggeration.  I don't think that I even told you 25% of what I do.

Keep in mind, I have been taking care of my Mom, dad and younger brother, at least partially, since I was 20, though my mom claims I was at least 22.  *rolls eyes*

If I do end up having a Brain Tumor, which seems likely, I will just have to slow life, and enjoy the time that I have left.  Thank god for my ready-made bucket-list!




Peace,




Melissa Winter(wo)man

(medicated thought the yin-yang since 3rd grade)


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